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Speaker 1: I gotta tell you what's on the top of my

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Speaker 1: But we can't just be leaving dog poop on the

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Speaker 1: that's gonna ruin their day. Neither of these things, thankfully,

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Speaker 1: do our part. These are the things that matter to

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Speaker 1: me today. I'm talking to someone incredibly exciting. I cannot wait.

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Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be super fun. I know him,

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Speaker 1: I have to introduce you first, because this is huge

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Speaker 2: Let's see how you feel when it's over.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, we'll gauge at the end, all right,

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Speaker 1: but I right now feel it's huge. I feel it

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Speaker 1: will only be huger. Is that a word?

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Speaker 2: I think it is.

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Speaker 1: I made it up because people are making words up now.

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Speaker 2: Stuff.

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Speaker 2: Had to say, Well, the dictionary folks like western, like

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Speaker 1: They're like, no, we're taking cues from you to the public.

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Speaker 1: now is Emu winning weather man, broadcaster and journalist. You

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Speaker 1: I am, you love him from run Ins as well.

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Speaker 1: It's Al Broker. Hello, Hillah, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to get more than twice. Then it sounds

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Speaker 2: I'm like, how are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm good? Boom Okay, he believed did That's good acting

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Speaker 2: A lot of the best acting advice I ever got

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Speaker 1: You could also take it into life because it means

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Speaker 2: I would say? Thanks to? Thanks to my wife, Deborah

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Speaker 2: There are days there I think they regret.

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Speaker 1: That we should have let them go.

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Speaker 2: Would it have been that bad? No, because I always say,

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Speaker 1: Don't say this, don't say we're gonna just say thanks

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Speaker 1: Is that marriage? That is?

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Speaker 2: You know what marriage is? Tell me, actually marriage is

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Speaker 2: and I don't mean this as a negative. Marriage is work,

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Speaker 2: you know, but any relationship is work, you know someday

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Speaker 2: I mean your boyfriend, girlfriend, your kids. It's work, you know,

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Speaker 2: Well, I think it's look, I think it's it's like everything.

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Speaker 1: Just sometimes you want to kill them. That's true. It's true.

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Speaker 2: And and and anybody anybody who says differently that they

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Speaker 2: That's right, you're going to end up dead.

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Speaker 1: They're not fighting because one day it's all going to

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Speaker 2: And because it's and I don't know, in your relationship,

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Speaker 2: but it's never about the thing. It's about what came

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Speaker 1: Isn't it's crazy. We're all actually just children, yes, walking

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Speaker 2: Which sounds like a horror movie, it does.

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Speaker 1: Maybe all right, thank you for the idea. Maybe we

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I you know, I never gave it

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Speaker 2: of let's put it this way, the ladies weren't coming

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Speaker 1: Hey, okay, okay, little did they know what they were

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Speaker 2: And that's what I and okay, here's some here's some

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Speaker 1: Tell tell all, right, now.

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Speaker 2: but at the end of the day, odds are after

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Speaker 1: Those looks fade.

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Speaker 1: It looks fair.

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Speaker 2: Deborah, on the other hand, reversed, engineered it.

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Speaker 1: She had a vision.

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Speaker 2: She had a vision. I was three hundred and forty

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Speaker 1: Okay, so it ends up, it sure does. You can't.

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Speaker 1: You're so you advise them to have visions.

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Speaker 2: See the diamond.

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, go for the one, because let's face.

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Speaker 2: It, you ladies like to you look at us as

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually yes, to be honest, you have to go.

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Speaker 1: Do you like the bones? Do you like the bones?

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Speaker 1: Of the house. My real estate agent taught me that

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but some bones are better than others.

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Speaker 1: All right, yeah yeah, and.

439
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 2: You climbed to them. If you slipped, you were like

440
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:47,760
Speaker 2: a pachinko ball bing bang binging and you hit cement grassfhul.

441
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:52,640
Speaker 2: You went on the slides, it was stainless steel baking

442
00:21:52,680 --> 00:22:00,320
Speaker 2: in the sun. You know, the seesaw what sick he

443
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,840
Speaker 2: came up with that? So that your friend you're up

444
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:06,160
Speaker 2: at the top, they got off bad. Now you look

445
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 2: at this playground, so there is it's a safe space.

446
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 2: Learn the school of hard knocks.

447
00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 1: Yes, so you you're like, you let's make mistakes. Yeah,

448
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 1: I do think that's important, but some people, I do

449
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 1: think you learn more when you make the mistake yourself.

450
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:23,640
Speaker 1: I think more is to it resonates the lessons.

451
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:26,320
Speaker 2: My mom was was one of those that I'll never forget.

452
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: Deborah came to me once and she said, you need

453
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 2: to talk to your mother because well she's not letting

454
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,879
Speaker 2: the kids win at checkers. Oh no, you have that

455
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:40,680
Speaker 2: conversation because when we're kids, a game night on Friday,

456
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,719
Speaker 2: scrabble stuff like that. It was like we had there

457
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,439
Speaker 2: was a four four letter minimum and we had a

458
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:46,440
Speaker 2: three minute egg timer.

459
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 1: You know, so there was just Oh, your parents weren'tletting

460
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:49,640
Speaker 1: you guys win.

461
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no.

462
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:52,680
Speaker 1: It's like we're playing you're playing against adults.

463
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 2: Yes, and you want to play?

464
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Buttercup, I respect it. Were you close to

465
00:22:59,119 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 1: your dad?

466
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah I was, you know he was. He was

467
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 2: a New York City bus driver for most of my

468
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,719
Speaker 2: It was funny. I think everybody each child has a

469
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 2: different parent.

470
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:11,400
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I think depending on.

471
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 2: Where you fall. You know, my dad, my Al Roker Senior,

472
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,199
Speaker 2: was a bus driver. We were kind of like we

473
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:23,960
Speaker 2: were literally the Honeymooners, except with kids, because we lived

474
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:25,560
Speaker 2: in Brooklyn from and then we moved to Queen's We

475
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:26,359
Speaker 2: moving on up.

476
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,199
Speaker 1: Which one do you rep Brooklyn or Queens.

477
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 2: I think I spent most of my time in Queen Queens,

478
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 2: but I love Brooklyn so but you know, I still

479
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,919
Speaker 2: own the house we grew up. But you know, he

480
00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 2: was he was a bus driver. He was a blue cup.

481
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 2: By the time my baby brother came up, he had

482
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 2: moved into management at the MTA. But I always maintained

483
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 2: I had the more fun dead because I would get

484
00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 2: to go when I was off from school. I would

485
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:53,919
Speaker 2: ride the bus with him for eight hours. We'd go

486
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:57,119
Speaker 2: to the Goodies luncheonette. He would get an egg, cream

487
00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:00,200
Speaker 2: and sandwiches and buy comics, and I see the same

488
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 2: people who had gone home, had gone to work coming home.

489
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 2: It was it was the best. Whereas my brother only

490
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 2: knew this, this guy who worked in an office. Best

491
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,639
Speaker 2: best he got was to to be on a to

492
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 2: work the Xerox machine. I used to sit there with

493
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 2: this when bus drivers made change you know, the money

494
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 2: machines were going. I still have my dad's change maker.

495
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:24,160
Speaker 1: You do incredible. I mean, to get to go around

496
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: the city with him, there was some of your most

497
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 1: cherished memories. Yeah that sounds so special.

498
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you know he was up. He was

499
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:33,440
Speaker 2: based in Brooklyn, you know. So he was His route

500
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,880
Speaker 2: was on Flatbush Avenue, you know, and it was, yeah,

501
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 2: it was, it was, you know, it was I thought,

502
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 2: and Deva thinks I kind of gilded lily a bit,

503
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 2: and I probably do, but you know, it was it

504
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 2: was a good time, you know, and uh, you know,

505
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 2: And and so I learned a lot from him. He was.

506
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 2: His thing was I I had a bad report card

507
00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,159
Speaker 2: in high school and I thought he was going to

508
00:24:57,240 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 2: blow up when he gets home. I mean, this is

509
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 2: going to be ugly. And again he gets and you know,

510
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:04,680
Speaker 2: my mother gives him the report card and he looks

511
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 2: at it, and he looks at me and he says,

512
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:12,159
Speaker 2: if this is the best you can do, then I

513
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 2: guess there's not much I can say. Oh it isn't. Yeah,

514
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 2: I'm really disappointed.

515
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 1: And walk upstairs and how did that make you feel?

516
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 2: I felt like crap and got the grades up. And

517
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,440
Speaker 2: you know, because let's face, I think half the time,

518
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,440
Speaker 2: three quarters of things we do to please our parents

519
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 2: and press our parents to make them think they we've

520
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:37,719
Speaker 2: done a good job. So but but he he was

521
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 2: the two things I remember that he would always say.

522
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 2: He always ended every conversation with I love you. And

523
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:49,239
Speaker 2: he was a guy who would admit a mistake and

524
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,719
Speaker 2: say sorry, you know, and I try. I don't always

525
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 2: do it, but I try to remember.

526
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 1: That, Yeah, that is high eq, especially for a different time,

527
00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 1: because I feel like that's something people are just sort

528
00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 1: of figuring out now.

529
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 2: He was He was like this big hugger, you know. Yeah,

530
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 2: and I didn't and I just thought that was normal

531
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 2: until like I'd go to family gatherings and I see

532
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 2: my uncle champ or something. Oh hi uncle, Oh hey, hey.

533
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,439
Speaker 1: Okay, did your dad get a lot of warmth? Then

534
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 1: it sounds like such a warm individual.

535
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 2: Did you get a lot of Yeah, well, you know, yeah, listen,

536
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 2: it was the depression all that stuff, and but you know,

537
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 2: I think he grew up and he was My grandmother

538
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 2: was a single mom with the three kids. Uh my grandfather,

539
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 2: you know, had was mentally ill and so she was

540
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 2: really left to raise and had immigrated from the Bahamas

541
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 2: and uh, but you know, it was a it was

542
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: this house that we used to love to go to,

543
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 2: you know, and that was the era when families lived together. Yeah,

544
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 2: my my my aunt, my dad's sister lived with her

545
00:26:55,840 --> 00:27:00,160
Speaker 2: family with my grandmother. My mother's uh sisters lived with

546
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 2: her parents, you know, so, so it was great because

547
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 2: then you got you go over. There was always a

548
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 2: great meal. You'd always see your cousins. And let's face it,

549
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:10,920
Speaker 2: cousins are like the better version of siblings.

550
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I really, I really.

551
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 2: Because you don't get you got no emotional bag.

552
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we're not like we're not we're not tussling

553
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 1: over things day today. It's like I see you the

554
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 1: holidays or I see you on the weekends. It's yeah, cousins.

555
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 1: Cousins are fun. If you don't have cousins, man, you

556
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 1: gotta get a.

557
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 2: Cousin adopted, cousin adopted. Maybe we should start that.

558
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 1: We'll start that so.

559
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 2: You know those commercials to see from the dogs or whatever. Yes,

560
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 2: there are children, Yeah, don't cousins. We want you to

561
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,200
Speaker 2: donate for less than thirty cents a day, you can

562
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 2: donate a cousin to a cousinless child.

563
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 1: I think we should get that started. That's gonna go online,

564
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 1: I think, or someone's going to steal the idea. If

565
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: you don't activate quickly. You're a junior. Yes, how did

566
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,959
Speaker 1: it feel to be a junior? Did that feel like pressure?

567
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 1: Or pride.

568
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 2: I get pride. I was. My full name is Albert

569
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 2: Lincoln Roker Junior. The reason I've got Lincoln in my

570
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 2: name is that my dad was born on Lincoln's birthday,

571
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 2: so my mother, my grandmother named him. But you know,

572
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 2: I always thought it was kind of kind of fun.

573
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 2: You know, it's like kind of almost like a cheer

574
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 2: Albert Lincoln.

575
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: It's a good name. I'm like, that's the name.

576
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:23,679
Speaker 2: Then I tried when I was in high school, I

577
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,239
Speaker 2: tried to be cool. I said, I'm going to call

578
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 2: myself Link.

579
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 1: You know, how did that? It didn't catch on? How

580
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: many people did you get to call you link?

581
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 2: Nobody?

582
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: Nobody? Okay, it was just an idea.

583
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 2: Just kept trying link and then well what was he

584
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 2: talking about? And I went to a military school here

585
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 2: in Manhattan. Okay, so you had a name tag. It

586
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 2: was your last name. So for the longest time, people

587
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 2: just call me a roker.

588
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 1: Okay, do you prefer do you have a preferred nickname?

589
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 2: Just al Yeah? You know, because Albert, you know, only

590
00:28:55,640 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 2: only really my siblings and close childhood friends know my

591
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 2: full name. And now because yes, because my mother would back.

592
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 2: That was back in the day where your mother would

593
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 2: go out on the front stoop and.

594
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 1: Call, oh, yes, ow bad, And if.

595
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 2: You didn't quite hear, there was like this chain, you know,

596
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:19,680
Speaker 2: like somebody could heard your mother. I think your mom's

597
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 2: calling you.

598
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 1: Oh that's nice. Community exactly what it takes a villain.

599
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 2: But also the problem was back then, if one of

600
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 2: your neighbors saw you messing up, they had carte blanche to.

601
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: Give you a spanking. Did you get spankings from your neighbors?

602
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 2: A couple of swats on the behind?

603
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 1: Just a little? What were you doing? Do you remember

604
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 1: any recollection of what kind of trouble you used to.

605
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 2: Get I don't recall, but it was it was probably

606
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 2: I used to get in trouble. I would mimic people

607
00:29:56,240 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 2: and neighbors and things like that, and just you you

608
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 2: didn't do that, Yeah, I did. In Catholic school, I did.

609
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 2: I used to draw caricatures of the nuns and somewhere

610
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 2: appreciative and.

611
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: Sometimes not so much. Did you always know you wanted

612
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 1: to be a dad?

613
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 2: I don't know that. I I don't know that I

614
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 2: always wanted to be consciously, but I think I was

615
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 2: cut out to be I think you know, I mean

616
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 2: I enjoy it. I really do. I mean, I like

617
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 2: being a dad. My parents had three biological kids, three

618
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 2: adopted kids.

619
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 1: Uh.

620
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 2: Two of my kids are biological, and my oldest, Courteney,

621
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 2: is adopted. And at the end of the day, I

622
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 2: enjoy it. I mean, you know, there's especially now. I

623
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 2: mean because I look at my co anchors Savannah and

624
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:56,520
Speaker 2: Craig and Chanelle and Dylan, and and they've all got

625
00:30:56,600 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 2: these little kids and they have no lives.

626
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: This is what I mean.

627
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 2: I might have grown up and I just say I

628
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 2: did this, and then how do you have time?

629
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 1: That's what I mean. This is what I mean. It's

630
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 1: it's such it's such an endeavor and such a responsibility.

631
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 2: Right now you are I mean, you've got a dog. Yes,

632
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 2: you don't have children, and so on the one hand,

633
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 2: you don't have that emotional component. But on the other hand,

634
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 2: you have all the time in the world and plenty

635
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 2: of disposable income.

636
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's really nice. That's what I mean to go.

637
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 1: I would like to trade that for children. It's just

638
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: an interesting choice. And that's where I say it's a

639
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: little reckless. You gotta go, you gotta not overthink it,

640
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 1: and you gotta just go. I'm gonna dive, I'm gonna

641
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 1: do it. I've always wanted to have kids. I don't

642
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: know if there's ever like a right time.

643
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 2: There is no yeah, there's no right yeah.

644
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: Some of the people I know who are my peers

645
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 1: who have children are sort of like kind of got

646
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 1: my my husband and I got pregnant or I wasn't

647
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 1: planning in this timing, but here we are and love

648
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 1: my kids like I think.

649
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:06,959
Speaker 2: I think our parents had like when you're the youngest,

650
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 2: how old roughly, how old was your mom when she

651
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 2: got to bring it with you with the oldest with

652
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 2: the oldest?

653
00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: Quick math, quick math, let's say twenty two or twenty three?

654
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, so how old is your mom?

655
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 1: Now? My mom is? Oh ow math? Dang it? Okay,

656
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 1: Karen's hey, my mom is because I'm like that means

657
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 1: how old is my oldest sibling? Which literally don't know?

658
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:30,959
Speaker 1: But let's let's call I know he won't listen though,

659
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: It's okay, okay, it's okay. He will never hear this.

660
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 1: Maybe you will maybe somebody knows, yes, and then send

661
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 1: it to him. You know, your sister's how old you are?

662
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 1: But I would say she's in her Okay, hold am

663
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: I she's like sixty seven?

664
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 2: Okay, sixty seven. Yeah. But here, So here's the deal.

665
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 2: Our parents got married younger and had kids, bang those

666
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 2: kids out, and now their lives are their own.

667
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, you know it's a nice.

668
00:32:56,440 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 2: But now a lot of young men and women waiting

669
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 2: till their thirties, it's true forties to have their kids. Yeah,

670
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:09,959
Speaker 2: and now you're old parents, and so you're gonna run.

671
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 2: They're gonna run in and you can say, okay, you're

672
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 2: going to run into the case where there's like this

673
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 2: little kid and there people are like, is that her daughter?

674
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: Grad? You know?

675
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 2: And so like when I had when I had coordinate,

676
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 2: you know, oh your grand babies, I'm gonna check you

677
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 2: right into the pe in the grocery store. Oh she's

678
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 2: so Goodeah, I hold your granddaughter.

679
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: Don't do that. Yeah, you know. But here's the thing. This,

680
00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 1: my entire generation has seemingly just done everything later. We're

681
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: getting married later. Do you know what's going on in

682
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: my generation with dating?

683
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 2: I try not to.

684
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 1: Okay, good for you, I'm going to be honest.

685
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 2: I could care less.

686
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: Lucky you. It's a jungle out here, it's a jungle.

687
00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 1: I'm you know what I'm gonna report to you. It

688
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 1: is that to jungle out here.

689
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 2: My middle girl is getting married and I'm so thrilled. Yes,

690
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 2: but she's twenty seven. Okay, so she's you know, I.

691
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 1: Mean, there's a thing apparently like millennials kind of messed

692
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 1: something up in terms of partnership, is my understanding. I've

693
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: been loosely reading articles about this, loosely like big Skin

694
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: read the yeah, some light research and no, no, no,

695
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,400
Speaker 1: I don't my own research where I read the first

696
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 1: sentence of every paragraph and then say, I read the article,

697
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 1: and then gen z, they're back to dat. They're back

698
00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 1: to wanting to like. I don't know that they're dating

699
00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 1: because of social media, because I've done some college shows

700
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 1: and discovered by pulling the audience that they're not dating

701
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 1: the college I don't know, and I asked them, why

702
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 1: are we not dating? Do you want to be dating? Yes?

703
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:50,840
Speaker 1: Are you dating?

704
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 2: No?

705
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:53,360
Speaker 1: Why not? And then they all go fear of rejection.

706
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:54,880
Speaker 1: They're too scared, So then.

707
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 2: They're alone.

708
00:34:57,440 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 1: They're alone, all of them, all of them seemingly. Of course,

709
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 1: we can't make blanket statements.

710
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 2: That's that's yeah, almost as sad as that plant in

711
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 2: the corner. It's not real, you know, I don't know

712
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 2: that anybody's gonna think it is.

713
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: No, is it too green?

714
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 2: It's shoe something I have to get.

715
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna lay down the law about the

716
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 1: way that.

717
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 2: It's too perfect, that it's to a plant that looks

718
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 2: like you.

719
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:27,799
Speaker 1: Gotta get some burn, like a little sunny burn, a

720
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 1: little tripled leaves. These are very green. I hadn't looked.

721
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,479
Speaker 1: I'm boring you so much. You're checking out the planet.

722
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:34,800
Speaker 1: Here's the dam.

723
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:38,240
Speaker 2: I'm a New Yorker, so your head is a situational

724
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 2: awareness all times. Okay, I'm always looking.

725
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 1: Do you know what's behind you?

726
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 2: There's another plant?

727
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 1: Okay, there's another but on the wall, there's a shelf.

728
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:49,840
Speaker 2: There's a shelf exactly.

729
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:51,360
Speaker 1: Okay, but you do that already.

730
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I just.

731
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 1: You know. I'm from Bottimore. And I also like to

732
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: say that I keep my head on the swivel lot

733
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: of times, and I know what's going on around me.

734
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: I also say I'm hard to surprise, but I don't

735
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 1: know that that's actually true. In retroge, when I.

736
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 2: Look like you would be easy to surprise.

737
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 1: Come on, now, why would you say that about you?

738
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:10,360
Speaker 2: Just do?

739
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: Do? I? Just wait? Tell me? Try to articulate this

740
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 1: for me, because.

741
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 2: I think you're very focused here mm hmm, but like

742
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 2: you really had to think about that plant.

743
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: Because I hadn't even looked at the plant.

744
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 2: How many of these have you done?

745
00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 1: But this is I've never been in this studio.

746
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 2: So even more the reason.

747
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:36,840
Speaker 1: I should have been, like you give sound advice.

748
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 2: I feel like, again, that's how I've gotten seventy one.

749
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 1: Let's call you wise, I mean old, It's not bad.

750
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 1: What skills would you say that you gained from your

751
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 1: father you have tried to instill in your children, because

752
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 1: right now I'm like, I need to be paying more attention.

753
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,399
Speaker 1: I think I pay attention, but I don't, and you've

754
00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 1: done that for me today. So thank you.

755
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 2: Don't be afraid to make a mistake. Okay, that that

756
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:07,840
Speaker 2: that you're you know, it's you and well, on a

757
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:09,440
Speaker 2: more serious note, one of the things he told me

758
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 2: saying this that as I was, you know, going to

759
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 2: high school and college, that you are going to have

760
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 2: to work twice as hard and be twice as good

761
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 2: to get half as far and I've taken. And plus

762
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:25,320
Speaker 2: you know he was from the Bahamas, my mother was

763
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:25,880
Speaker 2: from Jamaica.

764
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 1: You know.

765
00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:29,000
Speaker 2: You know they're you know, working three jobs, you know,

766
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 2: And that's and that's what I tell you. You got to work.

767
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 2: That's not a guarantee, but it certainly is more of

768
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 2: a guarantee than if you don't.

769
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I think that's I've heard that advice.

770
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:45,359
Speaker 1: I think it rings so true. I can speak to that,

771
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 1: but I I think that's an important thing to instill

772
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 1: in your children, for them to know that that's the case.

773
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 2: You're not listen, You're not going to get everything right.

774
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 2: You're going to screw up. You're going to fail. Yeah,

775
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 2: you know, I said, yeah, listen, I do weather. That's

776
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 2: somewhat science based. I I uh, No great invention, no

777
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 2: great creation, no great anything advance has been made on

778
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 2: its first shot. That happens.

779
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, when they make a mistake, what does it look like?

780
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: Have they ever come to you and like, I really

781
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: screwed up here? And how have you navigated that? As

782
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:23,439
Speaker 1: a dad?

783
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 2: For it's like, well, what what did we do? What'd

784
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:28,240
Speaker 2: you do? Okay? How could what would you do differently?

785
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 2: What's what's the next thing you know, but you know

786
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:36,320
Speaker 2: by the same token you know you. It's one of

787
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 2: the things my dad used to say to me, goes, listen,

788
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 2: no matter what you've tried to get away with, no

789
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 2: matter what you how you thought you were going to

790
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 2: get over I tried. It didn't work for me, not going.

791
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 1: To work for you, you know.

792
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 2: And and then you as as you get older, you

793
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 2: do realize how smart your parents are.

794
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 1: They really do know stuff they know, they actually know,

795
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 1: and you think they don't get it that whole Like

796
00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:01,319
Speaker 1: Will Smith's parents don't understan. I just don't understand Song.

797
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 1: I think about a lot because I'm like, actually, they

798
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 1: know some stuff.

799
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 2: They are Every kid thinks that their parent has no

800
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 2: idea what you're there, they are thinking, they are feeling

801
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 2: we didn't come out fully formed.

802
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 1: They went through the same stuff, had those experiences, so

803
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 1: you know that.

804
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:25,879
Speaker 2: I think that's the uh to try to show some

805
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 2: sort of empathy and also but also, I'm not your friend.

806
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 1: Okay, this is something I've asked guests in the past.

807
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 1: Is it important for you to feel like your kid

808
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 1: or is it important for you to have your kids

809
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 1: feel like you are a friend to them?

810
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not your dad said, I'm not your friend,

811
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 2: I'm your father. Yeah, this is not a democracy. You know.

812
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:47,879
Speaker 1: Have you ever told them to do something and it's

813
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 1: like they might ask why, and you go because I said, so,

814
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 1: oh yeah.

815
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, defor's kind of a well give them an explanation. No.

816
00:39:55,520 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 2: First of all, that that erodes my authority. Just I

817
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:02,240
Speaker 2: want I want blind devotion.

818
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 1: It's a bit of a dictator ship exactly. Okay. I

819
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: you know, in my mind, as a person who doesn't

820
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: have children, I'm always like, I can't wait when I

821
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: have a kid to be like, talk to me, why

822
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: don't you want to do that thing?

823
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 2: No?

824
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,719
Speaker 1: No, And then I see some people whose parents did

825
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: do that to them, and I go, I don't know

826
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:27,800
Speaker 1: that that's the way either.

827
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. One of the things I every now and then

828
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:35,360
Speaker 2: I do violate my rule and I'll say something to

829
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 2: Courtney with with my granddaughter's guys, don't don't ask her

830
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:42,240
Speaker 2: what she wants. Tell her this is what you're eating.

831
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 2: Do you want this or do you want that?

832
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: No, there was none of that for you.

833
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:52,759
Speaker 2: And my kids and Courtney, Leila nor Nick were given.

834
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:56,720
Speaker 2: They ate what we ate. It was no making two.

835
00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 1: Three don't you like that? Yeah, that is fascinating because

836
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 1: I also it was I love your reactions to that.

837
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 1: What parents are doing that every night? Yeah, this isn't

838
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 1: a restaurant.

839
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:11,319
Speaker 2: And that's the see and that's why because I said so,

840
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 2: because it's easier. Yeah, Okay, As I said, I love

841
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: my children. I will lay down my life for my children.

842
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 2: But on the other hand, I want to make my

843
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:21,960
Speaker 2: life as easy as possible.

844
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:24,920
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, I love this. Now you're it's because

845
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 1: I said so for you, and that's kind of the

846
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: way you've navigated parenting in that regard. Now, is does

847
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: any part of you or did any part of you

848
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 1: worry that they might then have blind devotion to authority

849
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:36,879
Speaker 1: and not question authority or were you like.

850
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 2: Because eventually they grow up and they realize, oh he's

851
00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:44,840
Speaker 2: an idiot, you know. Uh and no. But but I

852
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 2: think like a puppy. Yeah, they need parameters, they need

853
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: a crate, they need to be trained, and then once

854
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 2: they know, then you can let them off the leash. Sure,

855
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 2: when they you know that they're not going to stick

856
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 2: a fork and they fair enough.

857
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:05,439
Speaker 1: But when I see when I when I'm like out

858
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: in public and my dog's being wild, and I'm like, stop. Sit.

859
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:14,439
Speaker 1: You can see people uncomfortable with you, you know, demonstrating

860
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: authority with the dogs.

861
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:17,720
Speaker 2: Well they're they're uncomfortable with it until the dog starts

862
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 2: to take a whizz on their shoes, you know. I mean,

863
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 2: there is nothing to me. Well, I shouldn't say nothing.

864
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:24,840
Speaker 2: I hate when people say, you know what the worst is.

865
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 2: I said, I can give you whatever you're going to

866
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 2: tell me. You can give you ten ten things worse. Yeah,

867
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 2: so stop, but when you're and listen, I've traveled with

868
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:35,840
Speaker 2: my kids when they were small. I want a parent

869
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 2: if I if some parent is with their kids and

870
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:42,239
Speaker 2: letting the kid run rough, shot, just go crazy, or

871
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:45,240
Speaker 2: they're on the plane and the kid is like being

872
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 2: obnoxious and the parent is making no effort effort to

873
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: control that child, then it's like you're a failure. That's

874
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 2: how you are a failure.

875
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:57,359
Speaker 1: Do you do have to make an attempt? I think

876
00:42:57,400 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's helpful to everyone see you attempt. Yeah,

877
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:04,240
Speaker 1: and then I think you deserve tons of empathy.

878
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 2: And and in fact, I was on a plane I

879
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 2: don't about six months ago, and the kid behind me

880
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 2: was kicking the seat and kept kicking the seat, and

881
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 2: finally I got it and I turned. I said, ma'am,

882
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 2: could you I said, I've traveled with my child. I

883
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 2: know it's tough, but could you make it at least

884
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 2: an effort to be so that he knows how to behave?

885
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:23,879
Speaker 1: What did she say to that?

886
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 2: I will not repeat it.

887
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: Oh? Oh, it wasn't positive. I'm like al Roker. I'd

888
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 1: be like al Roker.

889
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: It was. It was a little less than friendly.

890
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: It wasn't friendly.

891
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 2: It was not friendly, but it did begin with friendly.

892
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:38,240
Speaker 2: Oh again with the same letter.

893
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 1: Oh f you.

894
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:44,840
Speaker 2: And I said you, I said, and that's a lovely

895
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 2: example for your child.

896
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:50,640
Speaker 1: Oh. Everything all around the picture had been painted. How

897
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:51,319
Speaker 1: long was the flight?

898
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 2: I was going to Chicago.

899
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: Okay, so a couple of hours.

900
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:58,919
Speaker 2: But you know, listen, like the way baby's crying. Yeah,

901
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 2: I was like, it's okay, ear infection maybe something like that.

902
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:05,840
Speaker 1: You can't you can't make an effort. Yeah, yeah that is,

903
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 1: But that's interesting. I didn't think that story was going

904
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:12,319
Speaker 1: to go that way. I feel like, yeah, we'd hope

905
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 1: for the best. We only do we hope for the best, and.

906
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:18,440
Speaker 2: That's you know what that's that's that's a good slogan

907
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 2: for parenting.

908
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:22,360
Speaker 1: Yes, for the best. Are you generally an optimist?

909
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think I am. Yeah, I'm an optimist with

910
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 2: realistic tense.

911
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: So then maybe you're a realist.

912
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. But I do like to think the best of people.

913
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 2: I really do. Yeah, until proven otherwise.

914
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:39,319
Speaker 1: Such as on the plane, miss ma'am and the and

915
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: the little boy? Are you closer to so I'm not

916
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:46,959
Speaker 1: trying to find favorites, but are you closer to any

917
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 1: of your children right now than the other two? Because

918
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 1: I feel like it goes and you know, everyone gefferent parents.

919
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,840
Speaker 2: Our youngest is in college now and he's got you know,

920
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 2: he's got special needs. So he's home and he's just

921
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 2: a sweet boy, you know, he really is, and so

922
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 2: I just see more of him. Leela lives in Paris,

923
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 2: so you know, yeah, so.

924
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:12,760
Speaker 1: I have to connect with her. Yes, okay, sorry, suh.

925
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 2: And and Courtney and my son in law West and

926
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 2: the baby Sky live in in New Jersey about.

927
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 1: An hour away.

928
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 2: So you know, it's an ebb and flow. But emotionally,

929
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 2: you know, I really do think we're you know there,

930
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 2: it's it's pretty equal, you know, I mean, I may

931
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 2: see Courtney more only because I almost I almost, uh

932
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 2: every night FaceTime with Sky.

933
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 1: Sky. You don't need Courtney gives Sky the.

934
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 2: Phone once I knows how to actually FaceTime. It's when

935
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:48,359
Speaker 2: I go to pick her up.

936
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I.

937
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 2: Might even be able to circummend that by just going

938
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 2: to daycare and.

939
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: Get I feel bad for new parents because I sometimes

940
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 1: I have two nieces and what she's once The oldest

941
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 1: is four, and then her little sister is too, and

942
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: I'll call my brother and sister in law. But it's like,

943
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:10,399
Speaker 1: can I talk to the girls, how are you? You're good?

944
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: Can I talk to the girls? And then sometimes I

945
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 1: have to go, you know what that has to suck

946
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:16,720
Speaker 1: as a new parrot, to be like people are calling

947
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 1: my phone solely to talk to the child. So then

948
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 1: I but then exactly, but then I go out of

949
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 1: my way. Then I go, this phone call is for you.

950
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:30,359
Speaker 1: I'm calling now to talk to you. I am, I'm

951
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:33,839
Speaker 1: calling to talk to you. Yeah, And we're all kind

952
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 1: of just looking at each other and how are you

953
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:37,919
Speaker 1: and how are things? And the girls? Can I see

954
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 1: the girls?

955
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 2: I know I did call to talk to you, but

956
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 2: the girls were around I want to be upset.

957
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 1: It wouldn't be a bad thing. I know. I waited

958
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:48,800
Speaker 1: to call till I knew they were home from so exactly.

959
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, I guess it's obvious. It is obvious. Okay,

960
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: So now it's time for a segment called that's nice.

961
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:56,719
Speaker 1: But what about me?

962
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:57,240
Speaker 2: Okay?

963
00:46:57,320 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: We've talked about me a bit. Okay, but what about

964
00:46:59,520 --> 00:46:59,919
Speaker 1: me more?

965
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 2: Okay?

966
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 1: And this was actually the piece of advice. I wanted

967
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 1: to ask you how to know when you're ready to

968
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: have kids? And now I feel you. You have articulated

969
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 1: to me that I have a dog. I've practiced with that,

970
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: and you're never really ready. But if there is one

971
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 1: one sort of north star I can look to to go,

972
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 1: That's how I know I could maybe do this.

973
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 2: Breaks.

974
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,280
Speaker 1: So our roker is telling me to just go get pregnant.

975
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,800
Speaker 2: Well wait, that's essentially.

976
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: That's essentially what I'm hearing. Okay, Yeah, just get pregnant

977
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 1: and I'll be ready.

978
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:46,800
Speaker 2: How about him?

979
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 1: Just pick any any does anybody? If that's the case,

980
00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:50,920
Speaker 1: maybe after.

981
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 2: This well well let's back it up there, let's back

982
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:55,840
Speaker 2: it up. Do you want to be married first?

983
00:47:56,120 --> 00:47:56,879
Speaker 1: I'd like to be.

984
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:59,040
Speaker 2: Okay, are the prospects.

985
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 1: I'm in a relationship.

986
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 2: Okay, that's a prospect.

987
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 1: That's a prospect serious.

988
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 2: I would never then, have you talked about We've talked.

989
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,400
Speaker 1: About the things, all of them, children, all of it.

990
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:14,919
Speaker 2: Yes, he wants children. Yes, Okay, you.

991
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:15,879
Speaker 1: Think I should just do it?

992
00:48:18,160 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 2: Yeah?

993
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:20,240
Speaker 1: Would you officiate my wedding?

994
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 2: Absolutely? I'm actually registered in the state of New York.

995
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 1: Have you so many weddings? Have you officiated? Two?

996
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 2: Three? Three?

997
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:30,839
Speaker 1: Have you? Were you more nervous doing that than perhaps.

998
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 2: I got no skin in the game.

999
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:35,359
Speaker 1: Okay, you're supposed to act like you really care.

1000
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 2: I did because I got a free dinner. Wow, I

1001
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:40,439
Speaker 2: don't want them. I got a free trip.

1002
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:42,240
Speaker 1: Do you ever get nervous anymore?

1003
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:45,240
Speaker 2: Oh? I get I'm nervous right now. No, I am constantly.

1004
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna here's the deal. Tell me if I think,

1005
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 2: if you care about what you do, whether it's relationship, job, whatever,

1006
00:48:55,080 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 2: you're always nervous. You don't want to screw it up.

1007
00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.

1008
00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 2: If if you were doing this or whatever it is

1009
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 2: we do, and you're not nervous, it's probably time to go.

1010
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 1: Mmm. Okay that's good advice too, That's very good advice.

1011
00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 2: I don't know if it is.

1012
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:11,279
Speaker 1: I think it. I mean, that's your take.

1013
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 2: And plus the fact that if you've watched at any

1014
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 2: given moment, I could say something that could tank this career.

1015
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: That's so true in this day and age. Anything, and

1016
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 1: we're recording it'll live on.

1017
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 2: It. I feel badly in a way for the gen

1018
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 2: Z millennial type e because you you today listen most

1019
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 2: of us when we were in our early twenties, late teens,

1020
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 2: early twenties, we were dopes. You know, we did things,

1021
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 2: we said things. People grow, people change.

1022
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: And there's no real record of.

1023
00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:44,960
Speaker 2: It, and there's no record we got away with it.

1024
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:49,560
Speaker 2: And it's like now everything you say, there's a cop

1025
00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:50,319
Speaker 2: there's a copy of.

1026
00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: It's yea and someone you know what's always interesting that

1027
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:56,400
Speaker 1: someone's like sitting on it somewhere waiting for you to

1028
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 1: like say, there's an actor, right, and they've been having

1029
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,799
Speaker 1: this like slow build of a career, your normal trajectory,

1030
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:04,760
Speaker 1: but then they land this big blockbuster film and everyone's

1031
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:06,760
Speaker 1: in love with them, and then all of a sudden,

1032
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 1: this video clip from nineteen ninety two surfaces and you're like,

1033
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: who was sitting on this just waiting for you? To

1034
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,279
Speaker 1: get to the peak or what appears.

1035
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 2: To be a family member.

1036
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:21,239
Speaker 1: Oh where is the optimism out?

1037
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, hey listen, that's why. That's why when a

1038
00:50:26,200 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 2: business says we treat you like family, I run in

1039
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 2: the are.

1040
00:50:29,239 --> 00:50:31,320
Speaker 1: You're like, no, so you don't need that olive garden.

1041
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:35,320
Speaker 1: No okay, no unlimited bread with a stick. I was

1042
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 1: going to say, the breasticks in the Alfredo sauce out

1043
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:40,839
Speaker 1: the last time you've been you know what, I.

1044
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:42,280
Speaker 2: Have never been to an olive garden.

1045
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:43,640
Speaker 1: Oh that's crazy.

1046
00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 2: I've been to a Ponderosa.

1047
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 1: I've never been to a ponderosa.

1048
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 2: Who see, I don't even is Ponderosa still a thing.

1049
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:49,920
Speaker 2: I don't even know if they're.

1050
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 1: Still I've never even heard of Pondera College.

1051
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:56,640
Speaker 2: That was a big night out. Okay, I've been to

1052
00:50:56,680 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 2: a Love Me a red Lobster.

1053
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 1: The Cheddar come on, by the way. They they have

1054
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 1: a new CEO and I find him really funny. Oh

1055
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 1: you know they're not bringing back He said, we will

1056
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: not be bringing back unlimited in the strip and then

1057
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 1: they asked him why, and he said, because I can

1058
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:13,439
Speaker 1: do math.

1059
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 2: Because that took them down.

1060
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:18,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I respect it, can I respect it.

1061
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 2: And anytime anybody says unlimited something, it's like, how good

1062
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:23,960
Speaker 2: can that be? It is a business. Yes, it's like

1063
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 2: you if you see here's the words, you never really

1064
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 2: want to see all you can eat sushi.

1065
00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 1: That just made my stomach turn. That's I'm not well,

1066
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 1: you know.

1067
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 2: And then you just get that and follow up with

1068
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 2: one of those those roller hot dogs at the seven eleventh.

1069
00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't and those I like a hot

1070
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:45,359
Speaker 1: dog off the girl. Every time I'd see those, I'd

1071
00:51:45,400 --> 00:51:47,759
Speaker 1: be like, and they've just been sitting there, what's going on?

1072
00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:49,759
Speaker 1: But if you're hungry and then a pinch, I can

1073
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 1: see how that happens. I could see how it not

1074
00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:53,360
Speaker 1: never couldn't be?

1075
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:55,359
Speaker 2: Couldn't I take a.

1076
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:01,759
Speaker 1: Could it be? I guess I'll. My big takeaway from

1077
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:03,879
Speaker 1: our conversation is that I need to just go get

1078
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:04,960
Speaker 1: pregnant today.

1079
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:05,840
Speaker 2: Well I.

1080
00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 1: Going to tomorrow.

1081
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 2: You know, well they're still tonight, you know, wait for night.

1082
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:18,480
Speaker 2: No listen, I just think you know, it's if if

1083
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 2: you are in love, if you want to move, so

1084
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 2: let me so, what what's stopping you?

1085
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:27,720
Speaker 1: I just am a very reasonable person.

1086
00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:30,560
Speaker 2: I like, but you just said you got to be reckless.

1087
00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 1: You got to be which is a reasonable reckless, and

1088
00:52:34,600 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 1: it's a balance. Maybe you gotta be like reasonably reckless.

1089
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 1: Maybe that's the key.

1090
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 2: If you're already in love. Yeah, if you you know,

1091
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:44,280
Speaker 2: if he has a good job.

1092
00:52:44,200 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, you just do it.

1093
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 2: Yeah Nike, Yeah, okay, so you get free sneakers. Maybe

1094
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:52,000
Speaker 2: you'll get cute sneakers.

1095
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, I'll have that on.

1096
00:52:55,880 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 2: Suits. Come on, o kid. I could see the Instagram posts, but.

1097
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 1: You know what, this is the thing about it. People

1098
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:05,479
Speaker 1: are getting in relationships and having babies for the Instagram post,

1099
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:06,400
Speaker 1: and that troubles me.

1100
00:53:06,680 --> 00:53:10,240
Speaker 2: I wouldn't do that, but but I do think everything

1101
00:53:10,239 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 2: you've laid out here, I don't understand while if we

1102
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:16,080
Speaker 2: if we do this in a year from now, you're not.

1103
00:53:16,000 --> 00:53:18,439
Speaker 1: Where you officiate my wedding. I need you to care.

1104
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:21,760
Speaker 1: I have I you know, if you afficiate my wedding.

1105
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:23,959
Speaker 1: If you afficiate my wedding, I need you to care.

1106
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:26,400
Speaker 2: I absolutely care. I want to. I don't know what

1107
00:53:26,440 --> 00:53:29,480
Speaker 2: your your significant other looks like, but I know what

1108
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 2: you so it's you know what. In fact, and I'm

1109
00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:36,920
Speaker 2: again not knowing what he looks like, but I think, yes,

1110
00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 2: I think. I think babies of of an attractive person

1111
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 2: and somebody who's not that great looking are beautiful. Oh really,

1112
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 2: it's rare that you have two really beautiful people have

1113
00:53:48,480 --> 00:53:49,320
Speaker 2: beautiful children.

1114
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,839
Speaker 1: That's what I think. By the way, I think, too

1115
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:55,680
Speaker 1: stunning people always have a okay.

1116
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 2: Looking child exactly. That's why.

1117
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: That's why my kids look great, because Deborah, oh, you're

1118
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:02,360
Speaker 1: so humble.

1119
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,759
Speaker 2: You know what, I got a mirror. Okay, you know

1120
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:08,799
Speaker 2: it's not like, wait, oh, come get this.

1121
00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 1: No, wait, no, I have to ask because you said

1122
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 1: you if you're not nervous, that's a bad, bad sign

1123
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:19,040
Speaker 1: in your marriage of X number of years. Do you

1124
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 1: ever feel nervous that Deborah will leave you? This is

1125
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:23,440
Speaker 1: a question for me because I'm always like, how do

1126
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:26,480
Speaker 1: you know? It feels like anyone could go at any time? Obviously,

1127
00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 1: but does that ever like occur to you.

1128
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:32,920
Speaker 2: Because let's face it, any any anything can happen. I

1129
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 2: don't think it will. I mean, she's kind of stuck.

1130
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:37,800
Speaker 1: This is she stuck with you.

1131
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:41,600
Speaker 2: She stuck it out. She stuck it out, so you know,

1132
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:46,359
Speaker 2: so I think we're we're at that point where, you know,

1133
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:50,560
Speaker 2: like the other day, I mean, we just literally sitting around. Okay,

1134
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 2: here's this is when you know you've become your parents.

1135
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:59,200
Speaker 2: We're sitting at home. We had just finished watching Jeopardy

1136
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:03,480
Speaker 2: and we then queued up on the d v R Matlock,

1137
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 2: the new Matlock with Kathy Bates.

1138
00:55:06,040 --> 00:55:10,360
Speaker 1: It's really good. Kathy Bates is incredible misery. Have you

1139
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 1: seen it?

1140
00:55:11,040 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 2: Of course?

1141
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:11,880
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1142
00:55:11,880 --> 00:55:15,920
Speaker 2: Anyway, that's I still have nightmares. Yeah, this Matlock, the pilot.

1143
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:18,040
Speaker 2: The end of the pilot. You see there's a turn

1144
00:55:18,120 --> 00:55:20,640
Speaker 2: you never saw coming. Okay, it's great, Okay, but that's

1145
00:55:20,680 --> 00:55:23,480
Speaker 2: where we are now. You know, the idea that you know,

1146
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 2: we should be out partying and it's over.

1147
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:28,400
Speaker 1: One of the last times I saw you was at

1148
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:30,360
Speaker 1: a party in Paris.

1149
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:32,120
Speaker 2: Yeah that's right, but I was working.

1150
00:55:31,920 --> 00:55:33,759
Speaker 1: You were. I was working also, you were.

1151
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 2: Didn't we look good?

1152
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 1: We looked great, fantastic. Maybe we'll put a picture at

1153
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 1: the end. I have our selfies for That's.

1154
00:55:42,400 --> 00:55:44,920
Speaker 2: What I'm you know, listen, I just think that, uh,

1155
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 2: there's really no reason on God's green Earth that you

1156
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:49,879
Speaker 2: shouldn't be getting married and popping.

1157
00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:52,920
Speaker 1: Out Okay, one or two, maybe even three, you.

1158
00:55:52,880 --> 00:55:55,239
Speaker 2: Know, or maybe your luck out twins right off.

1159
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:56,799
Speaker 1: The back I don't. For me, that's not luck.

1160
00:55:57,719 --> 00:55:59,960
Speaker 2: I don't. I know several couples with twins that I've

1161
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:03,319
Speaker 2: I love each of my children. I would jump out

1162
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,040
Speaker 2: a window if any one of them was a twin.

1163
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:07,400
Speaker 1: Yes, if they arrived at the same time. Because I

1164
00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 1: keep hearing this thing about like so twins run it's

1165
00:56:09,800 --> 00:56:11,879
Speaker 1: sort of genetic or something. I don't know if that's

1166
00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 1: a myth, but we're gonna go with it that it

1167
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 1: like skips a generation. And then it's yeah, triplets. My

1168
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 1: grandmother had triplets. And can I tell you if I

1169
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:24,760
Speaker 1: had triplets, I'm saying this now, and if these future

1170
00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:27,319
Speaker 1: kids are triplets and they hear this, I stand by this.

1171
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: I don't want that. I really don't want that.

1172
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:34,760
Speaker 2: Well, you know we should. I have one children in kindergarten.

1173
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 1: Huh.

1174
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 2: You get what you're getting. You don't get upset.

1175
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:41,280
Speaker 1: Oh goodness, Okay, okay, out roker, you're officiating my wedding.

1176
00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:45,279
Speaker 1: If I give birth to triplets, I care.

1177
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 2: I'll be in the hospital. I'll be in the hospital.

1178
00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:48,680
Speaker 2: You don't have to come in there, but I'm not there.

1179
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:57,280
Speaker 3: With no hopefully, here we go, here we go, Hey,

1180
00:56:57,840 --> 00:56:59,600
Speaker 3: right over the pl co here we go.

1181
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, min not talk about nightmares. Talk about misery giving

1182
00:57:06,560 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 1: you nightmares? That would give me nightmares everything. Why is

1183
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 1: out broker delivering my baby? I thought we can offficiate

1184
00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:16,840
Speaker 1: my wedding, and now he's kicked the doctor out of

1185
00:57:16,880 --> 00:57:19,600
Speaker 1: the delivery room and he's catching my baby.

1186
00:57:19,760 --> 00:57:22,280
Speaker 2: He needs a batter and I'm glench you're the oil

1187
00:57:22,360 --> 00:57:27,000
Speaker 2: for the circumcision. Hey, but I only take tips.

1188
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna write that movie. That's a spooky movie. Okay,

1189
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:33,400
Speaker 1: Now it's not just about me. We help our listeners

1190
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 1: on this podcast too. Ol. I have a text from

1191
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:42,640
Speaker 1: a listener, Okay, I like that behind magic, I have

1192
00:57:42,680 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 1: a text from a listener okay, asking for advice. Oka

1193
00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 1: and okay. Here it is Hi from Baltimore City, Ago

1194
00:57:50,880 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 1: and guests shout out to Baltimore. Okay, here's my question

1195
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 1: for you guys. How much partying is okay after forty

1196
00:57:58,080 --> 00:58:00,280
Speaker 1: I have friends that are forty eight years old going

1197
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 1: to the strip club and getting drunk every weekend. I'm

1198
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:07,640
Speaker 1: forty and can barely have an occasional martini without regrets. Help.

1199
00:58:09,320 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 2: I think you need to get other friends.

1200
00:58:11,280 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: And it also sounds like it's one friend, because forty

1201
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 1: eight is a.

1202
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 2: Specific specific age.

1203
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:18,720
Speaker 1: That is, somebody in Baltimore City is shouting out their

1204
00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:20,800
Speaker 1: forty eight year old friend who is going to the

1205
00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 1: strip club and getting drunk every weekend.

1206
00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 2: Well, listen, I think I think they ought to just

1207
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:27,280
Speaker 2: leave that friend alone.

1208
00:58:27,440 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 1: Okay, it's more about that.

1209
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the friend. Because your life's okay, there's something

1210
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 2: wrong with this person. If there's a forty eight still

1211
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:37,160
Speaker 2: going out to the slip the strip club and getting

1212
00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:38,280
Speaker 2: drunk every weekend.

1213
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's almost like I feel like that person should

1214
00:58:41,520 --> 00:58:43,000
Speaker 1: have a child, right.

1215
00:58:42,880 --> 00:58:46,440
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, that person should have a child,

1216
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:47,560
Speaker 3: not even a dog.

1217
00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 2: No that person no, no, no, no, that person needs

1218
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 2: a twelve step person.

1219
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:55,880
Speaker 1: Fair enough, you know what. You're right, we'll start there,

1220
00:58:55,880 --> 00:59:00,440
Speaker 1: stepeah no, no, no, getting okay, no no, no, yes, okay.

1221
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:02,080
Speaker 2: In fact, that it disturbed me a little bit that

1222
00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 2: you thought that a person should get a job.

1223
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 1: Well, because I'm like, there, it feels like they need

1224
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 1: a different place to put this energy.

1225
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:11,880
Speaker 2: They have a lot of energy therapy. It's called rehab.

1226
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 1: You're so right. I don't know why. Well, it's because

1227
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:18,120
Speaker 1: of my new mind of reasoning about the rate.

1228
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 2: You haven't gotten to that into that mindset. Yes, once

1229
00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:23,240
Speaker 2: once you flip the switch that okay we're doing this,

1230
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:24,160
Speaker 2: Yeah you'll see.

1231
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:27,360
Speaker 1: Okay, it'll happen. We'll have you been after that start. Okay,

1232
00:59:27,400 --> 00:59:29,360
Speaker 1: we'll have you back. Because also the person says how

1233
00:59:29,480 --> 00:59:31,400
Speaker 1: much partying is okay after forty Then they go in

1234
00:59:31,440 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 1: to describe their own life and it sounds fine, and

1235
00:59:33,840 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 1: so it feels like you're asking about your friend.

1236
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 2: I don't think it's a friend. I think it's them.

1237
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:40,440
Speaker 1: You think it's them, and they're pretending asking for a friend,

1238
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:42,880
Speaker 1: but it's really they're the forty eight year old partying

1239
00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:46,000
Speaker 1: and going to strip clubs. I mean that sounds that

1240
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:48,680
Speaker 1: doesn't sound fun to me. And I'm not forty eight. No,

1241
00:59:48,840 --> 00:59:50,880
Speaker 1: I'm not forty and that doesn't sound fun to me.

1242
00:59:51,440 --> 00:59:56,520
Speaker 2: I never really went out partying. Yeah, I'm the fact

1243
00:59:56,560 --> 01:00:00,240
Speaker 2: of the matter is I am very much kind of

1244
01:00:00,240 --> 01:00:03,439
Speaker 2: a homebody. I the only reason I know anybody of

1245
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:07,360
Speaker 2: any significance is because of Deborah, because she likes going out.

1246
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:07,720
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1247
01:00:08,200 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 2: I if we were left to me, other than maybe

1248
01:00:11,600 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 2: having some other friends over, you know, two or three

1249
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:14,600
Speaker 2: other couples.

1250
01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:16,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't you need that balance.

1251
01:00:16,640 --> 01:00:19,640
Speaker 2: I don't like to go out, especially those black tie events.

1252
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:22,160
Speaker 2: Oh it's a lot, it's the worst.

1253
01:00:22,240 --> 01:00:27,479
Speaker 1: It's I can tell you, I got the worst things.

1254
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:30,040
Speaker 2: You'll be at a black tie event with a kid

1255
01:00:30,120 --> 01:00:30,760
Speaker 2: kicking your seat.

1256
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,360
Speaker 1: Yeh goodness. And then someone says, f you.

1257
01:00:33,600 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 2: The only the only possibly good thing about those, especially

1258
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 2: the cocktail out. If they've got pigs in a blanket.

1259
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 1: You like pigs in a blankets?

1260
01:00:44,160 --> 01:00:46,920
Speaker 2: Oh wow, you don't like a pig in a blanket.

1261
01:00:47,080 --> 01:00:50,040
Speaker 1: I don't like pigs in a blanket. No, I don't.

1262
01:00:50,440 --> 01:00:51,479
Speaker 1: I don't I want my pigs.

1263
01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:51,720
Speaker 2: I don't.

1264
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,040
Speaker 1: I want my pigs in a bun.

1265
01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:55,720
Speaker 2: I don't know that I can get you? Can I

1266
01:00:55,720 --> 01:00:56,440
Speaker 2: can get you married?

1267
01:00:57,120 --> 01:00:58,680
Speaker 1: But yeah, because my wedding is probably going to be

1268
01:00:58,720 --> 01:00:59,600
Speaker 1: black tie as well.

1269
01:01:00,240 --> 01:01:01,720
Speaker 2: But you could have pigs in a blanket.

1270
01:01:01,800 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 1: My boyfriend likes pigs in a blanket. Okay, so maybe

1271
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:09,280
Speaker 1: we can compromise. If the efficient and there and this is.

1272
01:01:09,360 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 2: Okay, here's the one of the secrets. Yeah, compromise, compromise

1273
01:01:14,320 --> 01:01:18,080
Speaker 2: you pigs in a blanket. You can have crab cakes? Yeah?

1274
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:21,919
Speaker 1: And how did you know I wanted crab cake from Baltimore? Wow, yeah,

1275
01:01:24,200 --> 01:01:26,560
Speaker 1: I have. I love crab cakes.

1276
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 2: That would be my last big as your head.

1277
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:31,360
Speaker 1: I know. And it's all crab meat, clump, crab me,

1278
01:01:31,480 --> 01:01:32,400
Speaker 1: no filler.

1279
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:33,000
Speaker 2: It's all crab me.

1280
01:01:33,160 --> 01:01:34,240
Speaker 1: That's how it's supposed to be.

1281
01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:37,919
Speaker 2: Like you could almost burrow in there and live.

1282
01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:40,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so good. You know what.

1283
01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 2: Another place I think it's closed now, but I used

1284
01:01:42,760 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 2: to live love Old O Bricky's Crab House.

1285
01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:46,920
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know if it's I don't know if

1286
01:01:46,960 --> 01:01:47,320
Speaker 1: it's great.

1287
01:01:47,400 --> 01:01:50,320
Speaker 2: You go there, especially in soft shell crab season Yeah,

1288
01:01:50,520 --> 01:01:54,160
Speaker 2: a piece of brown paper. They would dump a basket

1289
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:57,760
Speaker 2: of crabs that had been steamed. I yeah, an old

1290
01:01:57,800 --> 01:02:00,840
Speaker 2: bay seasoning, a ring of fire around your mouth. You

1291
01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:01,680
Speaker 2: had a wooden mallet.

1292
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:04,120
Speaker 1: You just want to use papers on the table there

1293
01:02:04,160 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 1: to clean up into the tablecloth. It's a dream I

1294
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:10,640
Speaker 1: do too. I love being from there. I remember getting

1295
01:02:10,760 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 1: crab My mom would buy crap on the side of

1296
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:14,640
Speaker 1: the road. The crabbers would have him and put them

1297
01:02:14,640 --> 01:02:17,280
Speaker 1: in a big brown bag for you. You take them home,

1298
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:18,920
Speaker 1: steam them in Old Bay Heaven.

1299
01:02:19,800 --> 01:02:22,680
Speaker 2: I always did for a moment feel bad for the crabs.

1300
01:02:22,440 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 1: Really well, you know, because then they are trying to cray.

1301
01:02:28,080 --> 01:02:30,360
Speaker 2: I mean you can't hear that, but.

1302
01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:35,760
Speaker 1: Scrambling, what do you say? We don't think about that.

1303
01:02:35,880 --> 01:02:38,440
Speaker 2: Okay, don't ruin, don't.

1304
01:02:38,240 --> 01:02:40,480
Speaker 1: Ruin my last meal. Well, you know what, when I

1305
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Speaker 1: have a crab cake, I like it because.

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Speaker 2: People ask that about the last meal.

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Speaker 1: It's silly, but I.

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Speaker 2: Know it's enjoying that. It's whatever you're getting. You know

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Speaker 2: you're not going to enjoy.

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Speaker 1: You might.

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Speaker 2: I don't think so.

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01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:56,480
Speaker 1: I might see. Food makes me inordinately.

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Speaker 2: I'm about to strap you in and for a thousand

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01:03:00,640 --> 01:03:05,880
Speaker 2: volts through you. But you enjoy that crab cake. It's good.

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01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:07,600
Speaker 2: Too bad.

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Speaker 1: My issue is that I would be like, that's fine,

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Speaker 1: I'm content. Give me a crab cake, lump crab meat,

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01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:18,560
Speaker 1: and I'd be like, zap me, zap me wherever I'm

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01:03:18,600 --> 01:03:21,320
Speaker 1: ready to go. Every time I have a good meal,

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01:03:21,360 --> 01:03:23,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, this could be it, this could be it.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, good food. You fork to me. It's actually strange.

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Speaker 2: But I never think, oh I can die.

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Speaker 1: Now I do? That's weird? Huh seek counsel? Should I?

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Speaker 2: Okay, you know, maybe we hold off on the kids.

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01:03:35,680 --> 01:03:36,840
Speaker 1: Okay, this is what I'm trying to tell you.

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Speaker 2: Check up. You'll check up from the neck up, see

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Speaker 2: what's happening.

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Speaker 1: I knew I could get you on my side. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's been pure joy talking to you.

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Speaker 2: It's over.

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01:03:48,560 --> 01:03:50,920
Speaker 1: Was it too soon? We could keep talking?

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Speaker 2: So much of when in my career has been too soon? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I love this. I love this. It was the perfect

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01:03:58,040 --> 01:04:00,240
Speaker 1: amount of time I could keep talking to you. I

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Speaker 1: have many I have so many other questions. A please

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Speaker 1: come back one day, okay, when you're pregnant, when I'm pregnant.

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Speaker 2: After I've officiated, after.

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Speaker 1: You've officiated the wedding, we will serve you pap. Yeah.

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01:04:12,360 --> 01:04:14,400
Speaker 1: I might then have to have a second officiant though

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Speaker 1: as well. Well, then you have to meet. Well, we'll

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01:04:17,440 --> 01:04:19,160
Speaker 1: have to talk offline. We'll plan this, will plan this.

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Speaker 2: This has been peer to boyfriend's.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I love that. You know that he will he will. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: everyone loves Albro. I'm trying to figure out about the

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Speaker 1: lady on the plane. Well, anyway, I've loved having you know.

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Speaker 2: It's funny because I've had a number of altercations encounters

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Speaker 2: on the plane, and it's always when Debra's not with me,

1348
01:04:37,360 --> 01:04:39,840
Speaker 2: and she says, you've got to stop traveling without me.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking, yeah, yeah, let's get Deborah on all these

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01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:47,680
Speaker 1: flights with you twenty twenty six. That's the mission, is

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Speaker 1: Deborah on the plane? All right? Thank you so much.

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01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:02,320
Speaker 1: Well that was my talk with the Al Roker. How

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01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:05,520
Speaker 1: fun is he? Goodness? You know, I didn't know. I

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01:05:05,880 --> 01:05:08,439
Speaker 1: didn't know the full scope of Al's personality. Now I've

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01:05:08,800 --> 01:05:11,240
Speaker 1: met him, we've hung out, we've seen each other in

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01:05:11,280 --> 01:05:13,480
Speaker 1: the wild. But I'm like, Al is a good time.

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Speaker 1: It's too bad he's a homebody. But I can relate

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Speaker 1: because I also like to be at home. And I

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Speaker 1: guess I'm supposed to go have a baby now, so

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Speaker 1: I have to go. But before I go, I should say,

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01:05:23,440 --> 01:05:27,320
Speaker 1: if you want advice, you should call the podcast hotline.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm calling it right now. It's five zero two.

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Speaker 1: Thanks dads. That's five zero two THHX. Dad's d A

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01:05:35,160 --> 01:05:38,280
Speaker 1: d S. I just think about how to spell Dad's wow,

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01:05:38,640 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 1: because I'm right now my mind is just on baby.

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01:05:41,920 --> 01:05:43,920
Speaker 1: I don't know that I'm going to go get pregnant tonight. Guys,

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Speaker 1: don't worry, it's not happening. But that was his advice

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Speaker 1: to me tonight. Tonight's the night anyway. If you want advice, call,

1369
01:05:52,040 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 1: leave a voicemail my guest, and I will give you advice.

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Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed and see you in the next one.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Dad. Is a production of Will Ferrell's Big Money

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Speaker 1: Players and iHeart Podcasts. I'm your host, Ago wodem Our

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Speaker 1: producer is Kevin Bartelt, and our executive producer is Matt

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Speaker 1: Appadaka