WEBVTT - The 12 Hour First Date 0:00:00.600 --> 0:00:06.200 From Hollywood. Thank you for listening to us on air 0:00:06.360 --> 0:00:11.760 with Ryan Seacrest. Mostly sunny, pretty great today. How are 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:17.400 we doing? We're doing good. Price spilled some red jelly 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:19.480 all over my white shirt today, So you know what. 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:22.880 I spilled coffee all over my favorite shirt the other day, 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:26.240 and I got so upset with myself. But yeah, my 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:29.880 own same. My own was a lot of coffee. But 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:33.199 I don't put the lid on because I like it. 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:34.879 But I don't like drinking the coffee out of that 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:38.080 lid with the whole because I think, a I'm gonna 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:41.199 burn myself or be the hole is too small for 0:00:41.240 --> 0:00:43.040 the amount of coffee I want to get in one sip. 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:46.600 So how did you spill it on you? Were you 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:49.640 in the car? I was in the car. Well that is, 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:53.040 as you're asking for it coffee in the car, I was. 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.480 I was basically praying to the gods, you know what, 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:58.160 might as well just mess up my favorite white shirt. Yeah, 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.640 let's see what you got. All has has like brass 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:04.160 buttons on. It was like my dressy, dressy white shirt. 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:05.520 What'd you do with it? Did you try to get 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:07.760 the stain out? It's still gone, But you know what, 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:09.880 every time I sent them to dry cleaners, it comes 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:13.399 back worse. I think it shrinks a little bit. Or yeah, 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:16.160 you're not supposed to dry clean. You're not supposed to 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:19.080 dry clean is supposed to not well, how do you 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:22.400 wash something that says dry clean only trying not to 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:24.120 get a dirty But the more you dry clean it 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:27.440 the worse. Again, you have to watch it. At some point. 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:30.120 Should I steam a lot of stuff? I don't know 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:34.720 if you've seen my close friends call me Stanley, But 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.280 isn't that what the dry cleaners do? Don't they steam it? 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:41.680 Or I think they do more things to it chemical Anyway, 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:48.760 it's like digress all right, Stanley steamer here, Yeah, I 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:53.680 saw you. I saw your wheels turning their Let me 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:57.040 grab Alley in l a Alie. Good morning, Hey, good morning. 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:59.240 How are you super good to your bride's maid for 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:03.720 your friend's wedding? Yeah? You know one of my best 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:07.640 tighest school girlfriends is getting married, um, and I'm so 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:10.119 excited and honored to be a part of her day. 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:14.560 She's always been this like really creative, unique soul um, 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:16.200 and so I knew that when it came time to 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:19.320 her big day, her fashion and the you know venue 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:22.000 and everything. We're gonna be a little avant garde to 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:24.120 say the least. Um, So I knew that about her 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:27.320 kind of going into it. Uh. But when we went 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:30.360 through the bride ma dress selection, you know, she has 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:33.120 a ton of you know, great friends that she's met 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:36.320 in college and through you know, um work and stuff 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:40.400 like that, and they're all gorgeous. She picked a great 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:46.440 style for them, but not really for me. Um. The 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:49.840 dress is really sheer in a lot of places. I 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:53.720 don't want it to be sheer. It's low cut. Um, 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:56.320 you know, it just has not It's not my style. 0:02:56.480 --> 0:03:00.000 I can see how it's her style, but I feel really, truthfully, 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.120 just like really uncomfortable with it. And I don't know. 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:05.800 All the other girls in the text chain seemed to 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:09.760 be okay with it, yeah, but I just feel a 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:13.600 little left out. So I just need some advice on it. Well, Assistanly, 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:17.320 what do you think. I think she's got a she's 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:20.679 got a point. You know, she's a comfortable. It is 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:22.640 a bummer that she didn't take into consideration all of 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:24.639 your guys taste a little bit, because when I did 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:27.560 my bridesmaid's dresses, they were essentially all the same, but 0:03:27.600 --> 0:03:30.720 you could alter them completely different to each girl. So 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:32.720 if one girl wanted to have her shoulders covered, she 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:35.160 could do that with the dress. If one girl wanted 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.320 to be strapless, you could have it to be strapless. 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:40.240 But essentially it was the same dress. So I think 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:42.000 you just have to be honest with her and tell 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:45.080 her I don't I don't feel comfortable wearing this all night. 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:47.360 And I know that I'm not trying to cause problems 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:49.880 or anything, but is there a way that I could 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:52.720 have an alternate dress? Is there a solution? Is there 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:54.800 a solution to me not being uncomfortable? And I got 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:56.440 to stand up there in front of all those people. 0:03:56.880 --> 0:03:59.000 I love you, And if she's a good friend, she say, 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.520 of course, we'll figure something up. I think so too, 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:04.480 And I totally understand because if I was uncomfortable in address, 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:07.160 I didn't. I wouldn't want my boobs all hanging out 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:09.240 and like feeling it's like, you know, you're in front 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.320 of all these people, Like she needs to take that 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:13.520 into consideration, and she's a really good student, Ali, I 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:16.000 do believe. Look, you're her bridesmaid. You guys are close. 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:17.880 You can have a close conversation like this, I think 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:20.200 she's going to be more than willing to want to 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:23.560 find a solution that's comfortable for you. Um, so go, 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:28.000 get go, get that conversation done, and happy marriage to her. Yeah, 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:31.480 sooner the better. Yeah, thank you guys so much. I 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:35.000 really really appreciate it. I'll definitely have this conversation with her. Okay, great. 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:38.440 I mean, listen, we are the station for expert marriage 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:40.520 advice and wedding advice. I mean, how did you become that? 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:43.760 I don't know, considering you're the only one that's married 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:48.440 and coll is the not FM. Oh, the not FM. 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:55.080 I just got it, likely am. Let's get to your 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:58.960 morning hack and your quote of the day. This was 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:01.800 posted in a Facebook group and went viral. The kids 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:04.040 were home from school a few hours before the parents 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:06.200 got home from work. The parents left them a note 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:09.640 that said quote, unload the dishwasher and take a pick. 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:13.080 Then walk the dog and take a pick. 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Fans 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.200 who get their COVID nineteen vaccines at the Los Angeles 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:10.120 Convention Center during the Super Bowl Experience will get free 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:13.760 tickets to the interactive football theme park. The NFL Experience 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:16.440 will be open to the public again from Thursday to Saturday. 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:19.119 Tickets are being sold for forty dollars, but kids twelve 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:26.120 and under are free. On air with Ryan Seacrest Bridget 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:28.320 and Buena Park Bridget, thank you for calling this morning. 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:31.600 How you doing good? How are you doing well? Thanks? 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:33.680 So tell me about your husband and what we can 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:36.920 do for you. Um, I just wanted to add I 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.520 was listening. UM. I actually just caught the very end 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:41.000 of it, but I was listening in and I wanted 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:44.720 to ask my husband. He's eight years older than me, UM, 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:47.040 and I met him through my sister who They've been 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:51.080 friends for a very long time, UM and only friends 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:54.760 nothing ever more between that. UM. But the relationship that 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:58.840 they have is different obviously UM because they were friends 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:03.320 before me and my husband each other, before we started dating. UM, 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:05.640 and so like at times UM and my sister was 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:08.080 also my best friend. So we're very close to three 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:12.120 must hang out. She's married also, UM, but usually it 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:15.480 ends up just being the three of us for two reasons. UM. 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:17.640 So at times, like after we hang out with my husband, 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:20.160 he's very like heartfelt, he's always been the feelings and 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.920 he'll send out like a nice text message so you know, 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.000 I'm sisters, you know, just being a great time. I'm 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:28.360 so happy, you know, blah blah blah. And sometimes I'm like, 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:30.760 what are you doing? Like it's weird, like that's my sister, 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:33.600 but I'm like, it's also a really good friend. At 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:36.160 the same time, wait, were they so they knew each 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:40.000 other before you knew your husband? Did they ever have 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:45.520 anything romantic? It was always platonic? No, No, always platonic. Always. Well, 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:47.040 I mean I think you knew what you were getting 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:50.840 yourself into, right, because if they never had anything romantic, 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.600 then you probably shouldn't worry. But at the same time, 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:57.040 your sister introduced you to him your friend, which kind 0:08:57.040 --> 0:08:58.600 of is a good thing because at least you know 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:04.079 he's not a killer. Oh, I absolutely in all good 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:08.200 relationship and so like, like I have anything to worry about. Interesting, 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:11.560 sometimes you know, it gets in your head. Relationship, Yeah, 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:14.199 you can always still a little like insubstance, because sometimes 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:16.800 I'm just like, if she was just a parl who 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:20.120 wasn't my sister and I didn't really understand and have 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:22.880 that relationship with her, also, I think it would be 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:26.360 I understand, No, I get. I mean, all this stuff 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:27.960 gets in your head. And of course now us telling 0:09:27.960 --> 0:09:30.679 all these stories doesn't help some people too, because now 0:09:30.720 --> 0:09:32.520 that's going to be in your head as you're going 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:35.560 in or going out of wherever you're going into. Uh well, Bridget, 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:37.520 thank you for calling from Wayne Park. Youve a good morning. 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:42.199 Thank you, Okay, bye, Dear Ryan insist near Our first 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:44.640 date lasted twelve hours. It was honestly one of the 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:47.839 best days I've ever had. But it's been a while 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:50.560 since I heard from him, so I reached out and 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:55.120 he doesn't seem to be interested. Rosie says, I just 0:09:55.360 --> 0:09:58.760 don't get it, So let me get Rosie on the 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:03.160 line here, Rosie, and thank you for coming on. I'm 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:06.320 just so curious. How can it go so well, the 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.880 best twelve hours in a long time for you? It 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:13.760 goes so well, And then it apparently didn't go so 0:10:13.800 --> 0:10:18.839 well for him, Zach. What happened? I don't know honestly, 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.560 Like it was such an amazing date, um, like you said, 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:27.080 we are together for twelve hours, um, and then he like, 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:30.000 goot to me. I haven't heard from him at all, 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:34.920 and I have no idea why. So everything seemed to 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:39.959 fall into place from your view. Yeah, yes, like we 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:43.240 spent so much time together. We did lunch, and then 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:45.880 we went on a hike, and then we got dinner, 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:49.480 and then we went to a movie. Like we felt 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:52.240 like we totally connected. I know, it was like a 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:55.839 marathon of dating. It really was the longest date in 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:58.640 my life. But it was like but it was a 0:10:58.679 --> 0:11:01.040 good one. Yeah, Like it felt really comfortable and it 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:04.960 felt totally like normal, like right at the time when 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:07.240 it was happening, and again, like I felt like we 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:13.480 totally connected. What is our problem? Right? We go we 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:17.040 give good date like that was good date giving and 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:22.240 we take up twelve hours of your life and then 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:26.240 we just disappear or we don't respond, we don't engage, 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:31.480 Like what's wrong with some of us to know? No, 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:36.760 I'm I I would love to know too. So I'm 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.559 gonna put you on hold. We're gonna come back and 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:41.559 call Zack for second date update and see we can 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:44.199 find out. Okay, hang on, I heard from Zach. We 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.080 got him on the line. It's a second date update. 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:48.640 So get this. I mean, I really like what programs 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:52.440 Zach put together. You put together a great date, hike, 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:57.120 a lunch, some other stuff. Twelve hours, day goes twelve hours. 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.440 It just kept rolling and going and everybod he seemed 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:02.600 to be having a good time. Or you can't go 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:06.360 twelve hours if you're not Intuition has to be great. 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:08.760 There needs to be chemistry, there needs to be connection. 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:11.160 So it sounds like all of that was great. But 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:15.400 so here's situation. So Rosie goes out with him. One 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.600 of the best days she's ever had, she says. But 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:23.240 now she reaches out and he doesn't seem interested. But 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:24.959 why I'm just saying that, Well, I'm gonna talk to 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:28.599 him here. But it's like, if you're not interested, you 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.199 don't keep going to other things during the day. You 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:32.640 don't go to the next event and the next thing, 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:34.520 and the next thing and the next thing. You kind 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:37.720 of seamlessly get out of it. Right. Maybe he was 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:42.319 interested at the time and then changed his mind. Well 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:44.920 let me it's Rosie. Be very quiet. We're gonna talk 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:49.320 to Zach here. Okay, sEH, we can find out. Ok Hey, Zach, 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:52.600 how are you? Buddy? Hey, I'm already. How's it going. 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:55.280 It's going. We're just happy that you've decided to come 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.199 on with us. I want to get to the chase 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:59.560 scene here fast. So did you go out with the 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:08.199 woman named Rosie recently? Yeah? Why no? No, it was great. 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:11.199 We had this like crazy marathon first day. It was 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:15.360 totally awesome. But then, um, kind of unexpected, she just 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:20.280 totally blew me off. She blew you off after spending 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.800 twelve hours on a date with you. Yeah, I know, 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:27.080 I was like, you know, what's the deal? We had 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:30.080 a great time, and it just became one excuse after 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:33.080 another until I kind of I don't know, I honestly 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:35.840 I just gave up, which sucked because I was really 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:40.640 into her. Really, So you did reach out to her, 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:44.800 and she seemed to not be interested. Yes, I reached 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:48.600 out to her over and over and she always yeah, 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:54.280 it was weird, that's what I thought. I mean, she 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:57.199 was always polite in the way she she had an excuse. 0:13:57.240 --> 0:13:58.840 But I was just like, you know, this is a 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:00.959 little fishy that she keep coming up with, like new 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:03.719 reasons why she can't go out on a second date. Well, 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:06.959 let me bring Rosie in right now. She's on the line. Rosie, 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:13.040 Is this the truth? Wow? It kind of is. But 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:16.760 it's because and Zach knew this that I was going 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:19.920 to visit my nephew, so I was quarantining so I 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:23.320 didn't get sick, and then after the visit I ended 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:28.120 up getting sick and getting COVID. So what, it's truthful, 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:32.440 but it's for her reason. I mean, it seems like, 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:37.400 hold on, you told me he didn't reach out to you. Yeah, 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:41.200 you lied to us kind of Well, honestly, after I 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:44.840 told him I was quarantining and then I got COVID, 0:14:45.160 --> 0:14:48.480 I didn't hear from him at all, So I can't 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:55.080 really but that what happened. I just okay, honestly, Like 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:58.560 when it came to the excuses, I was just like, Okay, 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:02.880 it's cool. She's obvious seeing other guys, and then like 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:06.560 after her supposed which I mean, I believe her, but 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:10.760 after her she had COVID, she came back and was like, hey, 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:12.480 I'm ready to go out, which kind of made me 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:15.160 think she'd like run out of options. It was circling 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:19.560 back to me. So I don't know I feeling about it. 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:23.320 You know, Zack, you went on a twelve hour day. 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:26.440 Clearly you had a great time. First date twelve hours. 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:32.000 Let's forget this misunderstanding and creating our own narratives, and 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:36.440 let's start now by making plans for date number two. Zach, 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:42.560 I want to hear you ask her out. Hey, Rosie, look, 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:47.480 I had a really good time. I'm sorry I made assumptions. Um, 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:50.680 I totally understand. It's been, you know, a crazy time. 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:54.800 So would you want to go out a second time? 0:15:56.480 --> 0:16:00.400 I would love to do that. Yes, Okay? Cool? Cool? 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:02.680 And what what are you guys gonna do? Twelve hours 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:07.479 was the first day? What now? Yeah? Yeah? Twenty four hours? Yeah, 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:09.400 I mean maybe we'll have to like cut right to 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:16.960 a weekend away or something. It'll be great. Well, let 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:20.520 let us let you go and enjoy your budding romance. 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:24.680 Thank you for talking with us. Rosie and Zach, thank you. 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:29.000 Love is in the air and a weekend get away 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:37.360 too air with Ryan Seacres Jess because I'm like, hey, Jess, 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:41.000 how are you? Hey? Ryan good? How are you super good? 0:16:41.080 --> 0:16:42.920 So tell me what's going on? This is it's something 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:46.920 about your parents here. Yeah. So my parents were married 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:51.720 for forty four years. UM, and then I decided to 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:55.280 file for divorce, which in the split, my dad works 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:58.800 in the area where we live. UM. So we offered 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:01.640 to have him move in with us until he could 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:04.200 get on his feet. And my conversation with him in 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:07.159 the beginning was always you know, you could stay with 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:09.600 us until the divorce was final. Well, because of COVID 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:13.119 and they didn't have any children to determine custody, this 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:19.480 turned into literally a two year divorce, just drawn out. UM. 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.800 So he moved in with us October seventh, so two 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:25.840 years ago, UM, and the divorce was final the end 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:29.080 of July of this year. UM, and I just feel 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:32.119 like the time has come. He's definitely got very comfortable 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:34.800 with living with us in our basement. UM. But it's 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:37.199 led to things like my kids not being able to 0:17:38.000 --> 0:17:40.520 host parties because where they would would be in the 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:44.480 basement area where all the TV area is and whatnot. Yeah, 0:17:44.520 --> 0:17:47.840 and so and then just like my my mental capacity 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:50.679 on my marriage after two years, I just don't know 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:54.560 how to go about to begin to tell him it's 0:17:54.840 --> 0:17:58.040 time for him to get on is. I mean, he's 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.320 got a good job, he can totally afford. It's just 0:18:00.880 --> 0:18:02.760 the comfort that I think he's come to know with 0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:04.920 my family. So I just don't know how to begin 0:18:04.960 --> 0:18:07.399 this conversation. Well, it's not an easy you need to 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:10.080 just and again this is onexpert advice, but you need 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:13.480 to tell yourself this is not going to be easy, 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:15.800 but it needs to be addressed. And my guess is 0:18:15.840 --> 0:18:20.520 he knows it's coming, I would think. So, my guess 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.600 is he knows it's coming. First of all, I just 0:18:22.680 --> 0:18:24.680 going back for a second. You would think you got 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.359 there at forty four years, Like I'm like thinking, you 0:18:27.400 --> 0:18:32.359 know twenty you think, okay, we're good. Now, it's come 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.160 back to that for the next couple of shows. But yeah, 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:38.120 let's definitely come back come back to that for tomorrow 0:18:38.119 --> 0:18:40.640 and this week. But you you said that he two years, 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:45.000 I mean you gave him two years of accommodations and 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:49.480 two years of it sounds like great helpful love and 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:52.000 calmness and a place to be around family. So that's great. 0:18:52.000 --> 0:18:53.920 So you did that. I mean, that's a long time. 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:57.399 And now I think if it were me, I think 0:18:57.800 --> 0:19:01.800 the conversation is something like this. And I often loads 0:19:01.880 --> 0:19:04.200 saying these thoughts on the air because I know people 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:06.560 are going to cringe or judge what I'm gonna say, 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:09.719 because I don't know what I'm gonna say. But I 0:19:09.720 --> 0:19:14.080 think I would say, dad, Um, I love you. I'm 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:17.240 so happy we have been able to have this time together. 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:20.080 But I need to talk to you about the next 0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:23.159 phase of everything. You know, it was whatever whatever you 0:19:23.200 --> 0:19:24.800 want to say about the two years, but now we 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:27.840 should focus on the next phase. And I think what's 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:30.560 healthy for everybody here and for both of us is 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:32.919 and then however you want to say, you know that 0:19:33.040 --> 0:19:37.600 next step. And and what I'm seeing is like he's 0:19:37.600 --> 0:19:41.000 there's a complacency here, right, He's settled into the comfort 0:19:41.000 --> 0:19:42.199 of it, and he probably doesn't want to have to 0:19:42.200 --> 0:19:45.119 face going out and doing this, but you have to 0:19:45.160 --> 0:19:48.040 be probably doesn't want to be alone, but you have 0:19:48.119 --> 0:19:52.320 to address what's healthy for you your family and for him, 0:19:52.400 --> 0:19:55.080 and that is this next phase and this next step. 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:57.320 And Dad, what does that look like to you? Let 0:19:57.359 --> 0:19:59.440 him talk to you about it, and here's how it 0:19:59.480 --> 0:20:01.760 looks to me. Here's how it looks to me. And 0:20:01.760 --> 0:20:04.040 maybe you're on the same page, or maybe he needs 0:20:04.040 --> 0:20:05.480 to hear, or here's how it looks to you, and 0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:07.159 you hear how it looks to him. But get to 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:09.400 a place where you're aligned, and get to a place 0:20:09.400 --> 0:20:11.080 where you can make a plan. And I think you've 0:20:11.080 --> 0:20:14.920 got to install a timeline. I agree, because the timeline 0:20:14.960 --> 0:20:17.240 is definitely the thing that I mean, now that it's 0:20:17.280 --> 0:20:21.280 actually come, I haven't really I haven't really sat down 0:20:21.320 --> 0:20:23.160 with him and hit the time. I'm like, we've talked 0:20:23.200 --> 0:20:27.200 in general's about his plans, but nothing concrete or a timeline. 0:20:27.200 --> 0:20:29.440 So I think that's excellent advice as far as getting 0:20:29.440 --> 0:20:34.640 a timeline with him. Definitely thinks comfortable with with family 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:37.439 and you know, and the I think it's it's a 0:20:37.440 --> 0:20:39.240 little bit, you know, like you said, forty five years, 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:41.639 he's afraid to be alone and Dad, Hey, it's not 0:20:41.640 --> 0:20:43.560 like we're going anywhere. We're here. If you need us, 0:20:43.720 --> 0:20:45.840 you know, come over for dinner. Or call me. I'm 0:20:45.880 --> 0:20:47.159 here for you. I love you, but I need to 0:20:47.200 --> 0:20:49.560 do it's healthy, I know, for for me, my family, 0:20:49.600 --> 0:20:51.760 and I think for us. So let's look at how 0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:54.720 this looks. Let's put a deadline on it, and let's 0:20:54.760 --> 0:20:56.920 do this in a loving way. I really believe that's 0:20:56.920 --> 0:20:59.399 how And again I'm sorry, people who are good at 0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:02.760 this are thinking differently, but that's what I would do. Okay, 0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:04.600 I mean that's great. That's kind of where I felt 0:21:04.640 --> 0:21:06.199 I needed to go. I just didn't know how to 0:21:06.520 --> 0:21:11.040 approach it without sounding just like mean daughter. Get out. No, 0:21:11.160 --> 0:21:12.800 I start with I love you and I'm happy I've 0:21:12.800 --> 0:21:14.640 been able to be here for you. And let's talk 0:21:14.680 --> 0:21:17.720 about what this looks like going forward. Okay for sure? Yeah, 0:21:17.800 --> 0:21:19.520 I think that sounds great. Thank you so much and 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:21.760 love listening to you guys. Thank you so much. We 0:21:21.760 --> 0:21:24.360 appreciate you coming on. Take care. That's a tough one, 0:21:24.400 --> 0:21:27.680 and now we do. Let's address it later ten years, 0:21:27.680 --> 0:21:30.240 fifteen years, twenty years, my parents at fifty plus years. 0:21:31.520 --> 0:21:33.920 What can you not get past after forty five years, 0:21:35.680 --> 0:21:39.960 I don't know, haven't even started yet. So I'm really okay. 0:21:40.000 --> 0:21:43.160 So we got the big game. It's coming up on Sunday. 0:21:43.240 --> 0:21:47.760 They're saying the halftime show maybe the greatest of all time. 0:21:48.280 --> 0:21:51.040 They are, I think, spending more money than ever before. 0:21:52.400 --> 0:21:55.600 Friends who have seen the rehearsal say, you're gonna be 0:21:55.640 --> 0:22:02.040 blown away. And you've got so many different great artists 0:22:02.119 --> 0:22:08.360 coming together with some classic Southern California vibe with Dre, Snoop, 0:22:08.440 --> 0:22:12.119 everybody coming in there. Mary j No, it's gonna be 0:22:12.200 --> 0:22:17.199