WEBVTT - My Distant Sister Took My Mister 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:15.080 and The Black Effect, And just. 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:16.160 Like that, we be back on the ad. 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:18.480 Welcome back to you get another carefully reckless episode with 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:18.800 your girl. 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:19.520 Just hilarious. 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:21.400 So I'm not in the studio up at our Hearts. 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:24.880 So my girl Taylor is not with me today. Y'all know, 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:27.000 she pregnants here, so HI just don't feel like reading 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:29.560 or whatever. She's pregnant with my little son or whatever, 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:31.000 so she she's not gonna read. 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.960 We have a voice note, y'all, we got one. We 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:34.640 got one. 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:36.760 Y'all ready know what that means that I ain't gotta 0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:39.680 read because y'all, y'all sweab bitch don't be reading good. 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:41.480 It's just that y'all don't know how to write good. 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:44.000 So I'm glad we got a voice note. We're gonna 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:45.760 get straight in because what I'll be doing I'll be 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:46.440 fixing mess. 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:49.800 So here we go'll, Hey, girl, I'm going through some 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:54.080 stuff and I need your advice. So I have this 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:58.840 friend since childhood. We were inseparable and we call us 0:00:58.840 --> 0:01:02.960 off sisters, going to school together since middle school. 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:04.280 I dated this. 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:07.000 Boy back in high school because we all went to 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:09.480 the same high school and she know this. So I 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:12.400 did him back in high school and whatever. Now we're 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:16.000 grown and got no feelings for him. She live in 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:19.640 a new city, so I barely see her. So the 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:22.319 man I dated right in high school, he lived in 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:27.160 our city, and they started talking to each other. I guess, 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:29.520 you know, they hit it off. I didn't think nothing 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:32.720 of it, you know, because you know, I'm grown now. 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:36.000 So then they started dating. They started going out. 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.840 More, and I started feeling a way I'm not gonna lie. 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:42.119 I started feeling a way because I felt her and betrayed, Like, damn, 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:46.360 she really dated. She's really dated my ex tinks, and 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:49.000 I ain't like that. So then I fell off. 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:51.280 I like to stop talking to her. 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:54.160 I distanced myself from her because it really hurt me, 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:56.000 Like I was feeling some type of way I'm not 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:59.960 gonna lie. And then we went like a couple of years. 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:03.200 We're grown now, and we bumped into each other at 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:05.080 a friend's event. It was her baby shower and my 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:08.200 other friend, and we saw each other there and we 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.360 kind of talked about it, and I told her how 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:12.880 I really felt like, hey, I'm not gonna lie. I 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:15.240 felt a way that you even dated him and started 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:17.600 to talking to him because you know, him and I 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:19.560 had a theme even though it was a high school thing, 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:22.200 like we don't do that come on with friends, like 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:24.919 you know, we spoke about it. She apologized and said 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:27.720 she ain't really need to hurt my feelings like that, 0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:30.600 and I, you know, I forgave her because we can't 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:31.880 hold you, no no grudges. 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:34.480 I missed her a lot. I'm not gonna lie because like. 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:37.160 We were inseparable when we were young, like we were 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:40.720 to piece in the pond, and I missed her a lot. 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:44.160 And yeah, and then she really apologized. 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:45.800 I know she meant it from deep. 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.240 Down because she saw the look at my face and 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:49.920 she was like, man, I didn't need to do that. 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:50.800 I didn't need to hurt. 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:53.800 Your feelings or nothing like that. And I won't do 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:56.640 that again. And I want to know how I should 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:58.720 go about it. And that's why I'm asking for a 0:02:58.800 --> 0:02:59.560 vice right now. 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:04.640 HM. So you know what this reminds me of. 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:07.040 This reminds me of the episode of Love and Hip 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:10.480 Hop Atlanta, one of the more previous seasons. It's this 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:14.120 rapper on Their name is Amy Luciani and then you know, 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:18.280 you got a little scrappy third baby mama, that's what 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:20.160 he called it. But she said, don't call him baby mama. 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:22.400 Don't call her baby mama because she's his ex wife. 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:26.880 So his ex wife, Bam. Right now, that reminds me 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:31.760 of that situation. So Bam and Scrappy are no longer together, 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:33.919 they're no longer married, they are divorced, and actually they're 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:34.360 at odds. 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:36.720 They're beefing like a motherfucker every day online, every day, 0:03:36.720 --> 0:03:37.160 every day. 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:42.920 But besides that, she started dating this is well after 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:47.360 they got divorced, and she had bought the guy on 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:47.760 the show. 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:49.400 You know, he was just on the show. 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:52.520 And Amy Luciani, who was another cast member on Love 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:57.119 and Hip Hop Atlanta, dated the same guy about fifteen 0:03:57.200 --> 0:03:59.560 years ago right now. 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.160 To Amy's point, Amy felt. 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.040 Like, yo, me and Bammy, like we're friends, Like you 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:07.000 should have told me that she was dealing with this nigga, 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:08.680 you feel me. I don't care how long it was 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:10.760 I was dating this nigga, but you should have told 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:13.480 me that you were dating somebody that I once dated 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:17.479 or whatever. You know, she felt a little betrayed by it. Bam, 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:21.160 on the other hand, is like, first of all, this 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.640 was fifteen fucking years ago. And this guy said that, 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:27.239 y'all never dated. Like when people say date, some people 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:32.480 mean relationship and then to some people just talking. We 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:36.359 were just conversating exclusively or you know, not exclusively, but 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:37.840 we it was the thing. We were a thing. We 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:40.400 were messing around. And then other people just feel like, 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:41.960 if you fuck somebody, we're dating. 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:42.760 Now. 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:46.920 The guy told Bam, I never dated Amy. We were 0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:49.880 never in a relationship. We was fucking. We fucked a 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:52.159 few times, and that was it. She was like, my 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:55.200 little yeah, yeah, Yadam Yansky, that's just what that was. 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:57.920 A Yadam Yansky is somebody that you fuck. All right, 0:04:57.960 --> 0:04:59.560 now that's the Baltimore version, you know what I mean. 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:04.120 It's just a Yadam Yansky. Say it with me, Yadam Yansky, 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:08.159 y'all two one, look, y'all say it too? One two three, Am, Yet, 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:15.520 y'all say it too, one two three, Yadam Yansky, No mine, 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:16.200 go go ahead. 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:21.240 So it's other people in here, y'all. So anyway, now 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:24.760 you feel like I get it. I get it. This 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:25.840 was in high school. Now. 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:30.000 The only thing the only difference between your story, right, 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:34.160 and Love and Hip Hop Atlanta is nobody on Love 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:35.480 and Hip Hop Atlanta are real friends. 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:36.240 I don't give a fuck. 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.440 I don't know why Mona still got them saying that, 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:41.120 still acting like niggas knew each other before the show. 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:43.719 And when I say like know each other, I mean like, 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:46.120 you can't call somebody a friend unless you know their 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:46.640 mother name. 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:49.400 You can't call somebody a friend unless you confided in 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:49.960 them before. 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:52.040 You can't call them a motherfucker a friend unless you 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.720 don't cry to them, unless you told them some shit before. 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:57.360 Don't nobody else know unless you feel like you can 0:05:57.360 --> 0:06:01.360 confide in them. Like people throw that word around very 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:07.400 very loosely, and you know reality TV that happens a lot. 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.040 A lot of that goes on. So I totally get 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:14.520 it now in your case, right, this is your friend, 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:17.279 childhood friend, right, so I know this, this hurts you. 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:18.679 Hmm. 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:22.800 I understand the both of y'all. I understand the both 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.279 of y'all. Y'all are now grown, you know what I mean? 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:28.480 In high school you dated the guy, she dated the guy. 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:31.240 When y'all grew up and got grown technically in high school, 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:34.320 you probably feel like, yeah, we wasn't like adults, but 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.640 we were grown enough, Like we're just a couple of 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.919 years away from being legal. Motherfucker, and you dated the 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:44.520 guy that I was dating. I totally understand how that 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.320 makes you feel. And I think that's great that you 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:50.000 actually talk to her at yall other friend's baby shower. 0:06:50.560 --> 0:06:53.599 This is the thing, though, This is the thing. It 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:56.719 if you're gonna blame one person, you blame both. You 0:06:56.720 --> 0:07:02.520 know that, yes, she's been your friend high school, but 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:05.520 this motherfucker also was your boyfriend in high school, so 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:08.160 you know you could have hit him too, Like god, 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:08.960 damn my friend. 0:07:09.120 --> 0:07:10.360 You know what I mean, like this what we're doing. 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:12.000 I mean, I don't know what type of terms y'all 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:13.720 left on, whether it was bad or good or whatever, 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:16.600 you know what I mean. But if if you are 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:19.320 still cool with him, or if everything was still cordial, 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:21.720 if it wasn't really a bad like breakup or whatever, 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:23.720 you could have been like damn, you really you really 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:25.920 dated my friend, you know? And then I know if 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.800 it's probably in your mind like you liked her this 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:31.160 whole fucking time. Hold up, hold up, I know this 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.680 shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:36.840 of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. You 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:39.400 had to like her this whole time, basically, you know 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:41.520 what I'm saying. And then I'm kind of confused because 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:44.080 you asked me what you should go about I mean, 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:45.840 how you should go about it, But you already talked 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:47.520 to her about it. You get what I'm saying, Like, 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:52.000 you already talked to her about the situation. Is there 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:54.400 any further action that you would like to take? Would 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:56.000 you like to sit down and talk to the guy, 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:58.400 like are you in a relationship? Because honestly, if you 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:00.800 was my girl when you was complaining to me about 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:04.240 your friend, and you was complaining about your friend that 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:07.160 dated an ex boyfriend from high school, I would be 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:08.000 highly offended, Like. 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.120 God, damn, you still want this nigga? Like what's up? 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:12.760 You still fucking with him? Or is there anything that 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:14.840 you you know? It's still something there? Why you so 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:18.240 mad and shorty about a guy in high school? 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:20.320 You know what I mean? Now? If it were me, 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:24.840 I certainly would have an attitude. I Am not gonna 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:25.280 hold you. 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:29.480 I would certainly have a fucking attitude just because the 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:31.480 whole girl cold thing. If you was my best friend 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:34.280 in high school or before. I would never expect for 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:37.600 any of my friends to pick up leftovers, whether I listen, 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:40.640 whether I even I could tell you it's okay to 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:43.320 go ahead, because I remember another story where somebody had 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.840 also wrote me with this podcast right, and they asked 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:48.559 me to fix their mess and said that they had 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:53.319 a friend that wanted to deal with one of their exes. 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:56.280 And the person asked, yo, is. 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:59.079 It all good if I date Shorty because you know 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:02.079 you ain't together no more whatever, and the God told 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:04.439 him go ahead. He told his homeboy God. He gave 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:06.520 his homeboy to green like, go you can deal with 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:08.720 the shorty. Ain't nothing, and then he went to go 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:12.560 do it. That was pretty respectful. I don't know no 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.600 man in real life that's gonna that would do that. 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:17.480 So I mean, that was commendable on his And he 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:21.520 even came to ask is it cool if I, you know, 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:24.720 fuck with Shorty or whatever? And you'll say yeah, Now 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:29.080 the friend he gave the permission like. 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:30.520 Yeah, yeah, sure you can go ahead. You can go 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:31.000 ahead and do that. 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.839 I'm not doing that. I still wouldn't feel right doing it. 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:37.280 I'm not even about to ask nobody, you know how 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:39.200 much pussy it is in the world, Like why would 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:40.760 you come to me and ask me, can you deal 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:41.240 with my ex? 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:42.559 Even if I'm cool with it? 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.679 Like yo, God damn, Like it ain't nobody else out 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:49.280 here that you'd be looking at, like nothing, like not 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:52.839 a single person. It's so many people out here, you 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.160 know what I mean. Like even though the dating pool 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:56.760 is full of shitting piss, you know what I mean, 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.000 it's just still like so many other people. 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:01.960 It it's enough people for some people to be off limits, 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:02.760 you get what I'm saying. 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:05.880 So I'm just confused on what you want your friend 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:08.559 to do, you know what I mean? Or what further 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:10.800 action do you think you should take? Let me let 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:13.160 me listen again because if I'm missing something, I need 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:15.400 to know because you already answered your own question. You 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:18.320 know you already you approached her, she apologized if she 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:20.320 made you feel some type of way, maybe she and 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:23.280 then you didn't tell me the level of relationship that 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:24.880 you want a guy had because if your friend did 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:28.160 that and that was your girl, like your bottom bitch, 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:33.600 you know, your dog right, your ride or die, maybe 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:36.040 she wouldn't have did that if you all were that 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:36.920 serious in high school. 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:37.400 So let's just say. 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:39.880 Let's just say, I'm gonna listen one more time, y'all, y'all, y'all. 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:41.720 Hopefully y'all catch it. If I didn't hold up. 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:45.480 Hey, girl, I'm going through some stuff and I need 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:51.280 your advice. So I have this friend since childhood. We 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:55.520 were inseparable, and we call ourself sisters, going to school 0:10:55.520 --> 0:11:00.560 together since middle school. I dated this boy in high 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:01.839 school because we all went to. 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:03.600 The same high school. And she knows this. 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:06.600 So I did it him back in high school and whatever. 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:10.040 Now we're grown and ain't got no feelings for him. 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:17.960 Okay, boom, it would the fuck? How the fuck you? Girl? 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:19.560 I want to put you in a goddamn for it 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:22.280 now saying first of all this you said join this 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:23.160 girl was like sisters. 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:24.040 Now I totally do get it. 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:25.760 If y'all like sisters, like bitch, I don't give if 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:27.400 you kiss the nigg on the lips, I'm not fucking 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:29.480 with them after its like that's it, Like I don't care. 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:33.000 But you said you have no feelings for the guy, right, 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:33.920 okay cool? 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:36.920 And you and you and. 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:42.840 This girl are sisters. I think the apology should have sufficed. 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:45.880 Maybe I'm missing something so we're just gonna listen again, y'all. 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:47.440 Hold up, hold up, let's running back. 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:51.839 New City so I barely see her. So the man 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:54.800 I dated right in high school, he lived in our city, 0:11:55.800 --> 0:11:59.360 and they started talking to each other. I guess you know, 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:01.920 they hit it all off. I ain't think nothing of it, 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:05.640 you know, because you know I'm grown now. So then. 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:11.599 Right, so if you've grown now, what the hell you 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:15.760 worried about, Thelma? God damn all right, let's let's continue, 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:18.240 because I'm trying to see if I'm missing something, y'all. 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:21.280 I just got to see if I'm missing something. 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:24.640 Going out more, and I started feeling a way I'm 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:26.520 not gonna lie. I started feeling a way because I 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:29.480 felt her and betrayed, Like, damn, she really dated she's 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:33.480 really dated my ex tinks, and I didn't like that. 0:12:34.040 --> 0:12:35.320 So then I fell off. 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:37.679 I like to stop talking to her. 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:40.520 I distanced myself from her because it really hurt me. 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:42.360 Like I was feeling some type of way I'm not 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:46.079 gonna lie, and then we went like a couple of 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:46.600 years later. 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:48.440 Okay, wait a minute, wait a minute, I think what's 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:49.880 going I think I know what's going on. So it's 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:53.200 not even about the guide to you. It's about what 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:56.520 your friend did and what your friend did only that 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:58.600 is what it's about. Because I'm like, yo, for you 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:00.640 not to have no feelings for this guy, because listen, 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:03.440 I know y'all just as confused as me over there. 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:07.520 Like she's kind of contradicting herself, isn't she? But that's 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:10.400 continue because maybe we both met, maybe we all missed something, 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:11.079 y'all hold. 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.040 On, oh now, And we bumped into each other at 0:13:14.040 --> 0:13:15.920 a friend's event. It was her baby shower and my 0:13:16.000 --> 0:13:19.040 other friend, and we saw each other there and we 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:21.160 kind of talked about it, and I told her how 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:23.680 I really felt, like, hey, I'm not gonna lie. I 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:26.120 felt a way that you even dated him and started 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.600 talking to him because you know, him and I had 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:30.400 a thing, even though it was a high school thing, 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:32.960 like we don't do that come on with friends, like 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:35.760 you know, we spoke about it. She apologized and said 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:38.559 she didn't really need to hurt my feelings like that, 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:41.400 and I, you know, I forgave it because we can't 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:42.680 hold you no no grudges. 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:45.360 I missed her a lie. I'm not gonna lie, because. 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.800 Like we were inseparable when we were young, like we 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:50.280 were to piece in the pond. 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:51.520 And we missed her a lot. 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:55.760 And yeah, and she really apologized. I know she meant 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:58.160 it from deep down because she's so look at my 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:00.959 face and she's like, mean to do that. I don't 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.400 need to hurt your feelings or nothing like that. And 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:06.079 I won't to do that again. And I want to 0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:08.160 know how I should go about it. 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:11.480 And that's why I'm asking for advice right now, right, 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:13.839 So what the hell are you asking advice for? If 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:15.959 you already you saw her at the baby shote. That's 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:18.000 why I said, I know I ain't that goddamn high. 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:20.040 I'm a little high. You know I'll be smoking my 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:21.840 little shit shit now, you know I ain't. You know 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:24.120 what I'm saying. Now the baby's out. You know I 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:27.120 popped out, boom did she go? You know? She had 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:28.640 our breast smoke for the day so I can smoke 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:30.120 my blaky or whatever. And I already did. 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:33.520 But I know I'm not fucking crazy. I know I'm 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:37.000 not crazy. You answered your own question. Now we got 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:39.240 a commercial, and if you click off this podcast, I 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:40.520 swear I'm gonna beat your ass. 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:44.640 Listen, you already talk to the girl. 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:49.800 Now you must have just taken her apology there just 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:51.480 because it wasn't a time and the place for you 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:54.600 all to really get down and dirty into the depths 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:55.640 of the whole situation. 0:14:55.960 --> 0:14:57.120 I think you had more. 0:14:57.040 --> 0:15:01.040 To get off of your chest with her because she apologized, bab. 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:02.840 Now are her and a guy still dating? 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:04.240 Because I got some questions for you and you need 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:06.440 to come back and update me because I got I 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:07.560 got some questions for you. 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:08.320 You get what I'm saying. 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:11.040 And it's also women's muff too, So I want you 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:12.960 with your friend to meny y'all relationship. 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:14.240 You said y'all were sisters. 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:18.520 Like y'all, y'all are close, although y'all haven't seen each 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:20.440 other in a long time because now y'all live in 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:23.000 different cities and a guy lives in her city and such, 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.280 you know such and such or whatever whatever. But I 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:29.400 think what y'all got is bigger and better than this 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:33.320 little ad situation. And I just really feel like, Yo, 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:36.240 you can get past this shit. Get whatever you got 0:15:36.280 --> 0:15:37.840 to get off your chest though, because I'm not trying 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.480 to invalidate your feelings. I'm not trying to shit on 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:43.600 your feelings and say that you know your feelings aren't valid. 0:15:43.640 --> 0:15:46.360 They are, you know, especially if you yeah, this is 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.120 your sister and it's like, god, damn, I know that 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:49.520 was my guy from my high school. It was just 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.800 still I think since you got I think you got 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:54.400 some other shit to say that you want to say 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:55.600 that you didn't get to say at the baby shop 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:56.920 because it wasn't the right place all the time. 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:58.480 She apologized to you because she did. 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:01.920 She really, sincerely, genuinely did not mean to hurt your 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:04.280 feelings and probably thought that she wouldn't even have gave 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:07.520 a fuck because it was so long ago. Oh, she 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:10.000 probably didn't think that y'all would be talking like that again. 0:16:10.040 --> 0:16:12.000 And now she living in another city and a nigga 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:15.640 living in another city, and who knows, girl, you know what, 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:17.680 because now my wheels are turning, and I'm thinking that 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:20.360 the guy probably you know how it be when people 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:23.920 talk and you're out of the equation totally because you're 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:27.120 living in another city. The guy could have told her 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:30.320 I really wanted you in high school. I really wanted you, 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:33.040 you know what I mean, Like I mean, I took well, 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:34.600 I'm gonna just say it ain't Thelma, And let's just 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:37.400 see a friend named Louise. Louise, I wanted you, like 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:39.840 I really wanted you to be my little bitch, you 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:42.920 know what I'm saying, in high school, but it ended 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:46.560 up being theoma, you know what I mean. Like I mean, Thalma, 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:48.640 she was cool, but you really wasn't checking for me, 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:52.480 So I took Thalma over you. But I really wanted you, 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:54.600 you know what I mean, and probably talked her into 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:56.800 dealing with you. And you hadn't talked to her in 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:58.480 a while, you know, because you're back in your city 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:04.480 doing your thing with some possibly you know, and the 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:06.560 fact that y'all kind of fell off with communication although 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:08.960 she's still your friend, your sister, you know, and everything 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:12.400 that made it easier for her to date the nigga too. 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:15.000 You gotta also think about that that made it easier, 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:17.200 you know what I'm saying. So that's just something else 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:18.720 for me to throw out there. But it's sound like 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:20.520 you still got some more shit to get off your chest. 0:17:20.520 --> 0:17:22.440 And I think that's an area that I just threw 0:17:22.480 --> 0:17:25.520 out to you just now. That's probably what you've been thinking, 0:17:26.040 --> 0:17:28.159 you know, because ain't no way you med at that. 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:31.199 She apologized, and you know what I'm saying, I just 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:33.240 feel like it's something. It's either something you ain't telling 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:36.040 me or you just really didn't handshit out like you 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:38.160 really really wanted to at that event. 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.199 Either way, I commend her. I ain't gonna hold you. 0:17:42.240 --> 0:17:44.520 I do commend her because a lot of people are 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:49.080 not able to take accountability for their actions, and her 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:52.600 being your friend, she actually did that. She didn't want to. 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:54.119 You said, she's saying, look on your face, and it 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:55.600