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Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio

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Speaker 1: and The Black Effect, And just.

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Speaker 2: Like that, we be back on the ad.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to you get another carefully reckless episode with

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Speaker 1: your girl.

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Speaker 2: Just hilarious.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not in the studio up at our Hearts.

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Speaker 1: So my girl Taylor is not with me today. Y'all know,

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Speaker 1: she pregnants here, so HI just don't feel like reading

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Speaker 1: or whatever. She's pregnant with my little son or whatever,

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Speaker 1: so she she's not gonna read.

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Speaker 2: We have a voice note, y'all, we got one. We

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Speaker 2: got one.

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Speaker 1: Y'all ready know what that means that I ain't gotta

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Speaker 1: read because y'all, y'all sweab bitch don't be reading good.

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Speaker 1: It's just that y'all don't know how to write good.

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Speaker 1: So I'm glad we got a voice note. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: get straight in because what I'll be doing I'll be

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Speaker 1: fixing mess.

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Speaker 3: So here we go'll, Hey, girl, I'm going through some

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Speaker 3: stuff and I need your advice. So I have this

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Speaker 3: friend since childhood. We were inseparable and we call us

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Speaker 3: off sisters, going to school together since middle school.

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Speaker 2: I dated this.

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Speaker 3: Boy back in high school because we all went to

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Speaker 3: the same high school and she know this. So I

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Speaker 3: did him back in high school and whatever. Now we're

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Speaker 3: grown and got no feelings for him. She live in

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Speaker 3: man I dated right in high school, he lived in

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Speaker 3: our city, and they started talking to each other. I guess,

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Speaker 3: you know, they hit it off. I didn't think nothing

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Speaker 3: of it, you know, because you know, I'm grown now.

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Speaker 3: So then they started dating. They started going out.

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Speaker 2: More, and I started feeling a way I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: I started feeling a way because I felt her and betrayed, Like, damn,

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Speaker 3: she really dated. She's really dated my ex tinks, and

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Speaker 3: I ain't like that. So then I fell off.

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Speaker 2: I like to stop talking to her.

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Speaker 3: I distanced myself from her because it really hurt me,

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Speaker 3: Like I was feeling some type of way I'm not

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Speaker 3: gonna lie. And then we went like a couple of years.

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Speaker 3: We're grown now, and we bumped into each other at

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Speaker 3: a friend's event. It was her baby shower and my

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Speaker 3: other friend, and we saw each other there and we

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Speaker 3: kind of talked about it, and I told her how

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Speaker 3: I really felt like, hey, I'm not gonna lie. I

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Speaker 3: to talking to him because you know, him and I

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Speaker 3: had a theme even though it was a high school thing,

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Speaker 3: like we don't do that come on with friends, like

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Speaker 3: you know, we spoke about it. She apologized and said

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Speaker 3: and I, you know, I forgave her because we can't

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Speaker 3: hold you, no no grudges.

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Speaker 2: I missed her a lot. I'm not gonna lie because like.

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Speaker 3: We were inseparable when we were young, like we were

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Speaker 3: to piece in the pond, and I missed her a lot.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, and then she really apologized.

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Speaker 2: I know she meant it from deep.

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Speaker 3: Down because she saw the look at my face and

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Speaker 3: she was like, man, I didn't need to do that.

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Speaker 2: I didn't need to hurt.

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Speaker 3: Your feelings or nothing like that. And I won't do

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Speaker 3: that again. And I want to know how I should

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Speaker 3: go about it. And that's why I'm asking for a

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Speaker 2: HM. So you know what this reminds me of.

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Speaker 1: This reminds me of the episode of Love and Hip

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Speaker 1: Hop Atlanta, one of the more previous seasons. It's this

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Speaker 1: rapper on Their name is Amy Luciani and then you know,

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Speaker 1: you got a little scrappy third baby mama, that's what

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Speaker 1: he called it. But she said, don't call him baby mama.

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Speaker 1: Don't call her baby mama because she's his ex wife.

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Speaker 1: So his ex wife, Bam. Right now, that reminds me

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Speaker 1: of that situation. So Bam and Scrappy are no longer together,

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Speaker 2: They're beefing like a motherfucker every day online, every day,

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Speaker 1: But besides that, she started dating this is well after

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Speaker 2: You know, he was just on the show.

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Speaker 1: And Amy Luciani, who was another cast member on Love

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Speaker 1: and Hip Hop Atlanta, dated the same guy about fifteen

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Speaker 2: To Amy's point, Amy felt.

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Speaker 1: Like, yo, me and Bammy, like we're friends, Like you

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Speaker 1: should have told me that she was dealing with this nigga,

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Speaker 1: I was dating this nigga, but you should have told

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Speaker 1: or whatever. You know, she felt a little betrayed by it. Bam,

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Speaker 1: on the other hand, is like, first of all, this

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Speaker 1: was fifteen fucking years ago. And this guy said that,

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Speaker 1: y'all never dated. Like when people say date, some people

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Speaker 1: mean relationship and then to some people just talking. We

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Speaker 1: we it was the thing. We were a thing. We

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Speaker 1: if you fuck somebody, we're dating.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: The guy told Bam, I never dated Amy. We were

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Speaker 1: never in a relationship. We was fucking. We fucked a

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Speaker 1: few times, and that was it. She was like, my

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Speaker 1: little yeah, yeah, Yadam Yansky, that's just what that was.

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Speaker 1: A Yadam Yansky is somebody that you fuck. All right,

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Speaker 1: now that's the Baltimore version, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: It's just a Yadam Yansky. Say it with me, Yadam Yansky,

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Speaker 1: y'all two one, look, y'all say it too? One two three, Am, Yet,

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Speaker 1: y'all say it too, one two three, Yadam Yansky, No mine,

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Speaker 2: So it's other people in here, y'all. So anyway, now

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Speaker 2: you feel like I get it. I get it. This

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Speaker 1: The only thing the only difference between your story, right,

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Speaker 1: and Love and Hip Hop Atlanta is nobody on Love

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Speaker 1: and Hip Hop Atlanta are real friends.

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Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why Mona still got them saying that,

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Speaker 1: And when I say like know each other, I mean like,

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Speaker 1: you can't call somebody a friend unless you know their

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Speaker 2: You can't call somebody a friend unless you confided in

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Speaker 1: You can't call them a motherfucker a friend unless you

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Speaker 1: don't cry to them, unless you told them some shit before.

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Speaker 1: Don't nobody else know unless you feel like you can

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Speaker 1: confide in them. Like people throw that word around very

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Speaker 1: A lot of that goes on. So I totally get

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Speaker 1: it now in your case, right, this is your friend,

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Speaker 1: childhood friend, right, so I know this, this hurts you.

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Speaker 1: I understand the both of y'all. I understand the both

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Speaker 1: of y'all. Y'all are now grown, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: In high school you dated the guy, she dated the guy.

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Speaker 1: When y'all grew up and got grown technically in high school,

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Speaker 1: guy that I was dating. I totally understand how that

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Speaker 1: actually talk to her at yall other friend's baby shower.

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Speaker 1: This is the thing, though, This is the thing. It

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Speaker 1: if you're gonna blame one person, you blame both. You

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Speaker 1: know that, yes, she's been your friend high school, but

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Speaker 1: you know you could have hit him too, Like god,

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Speaker 1: damn my friend.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean, like this what we're doing.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know what type of terms y'all

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Speaker 1: shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds

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Speaker 1: like are you in a relationship? Because honestly, if you

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Speaker 2: God, damn, you still want this nigga? Like what's up?

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Speaker 1: You still fucking with him? Or is there anything that

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Now? If it were me,

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Speaker 2: I certainly would have an attitude. I Am not gonna

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Speaker 1: I would certainly have a fucking attitude just because the

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Speaker 2: And the person asked, yo, is.

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Speaker 1: It all good if I date Shorty because you know

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Speaker 1: you ain't together no more whatever, and the God told

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Speaker 1: him go ahead. He told his homeboy God. He gave

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Speaker 1: the shorty. Ain't nothing, and then he went to go

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Speaker 1: do it. That was pretty respectful. I don't know no

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Speaker 1: So I mean, that was commendable on his And he

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Speaker 1: even came to ask is it cool if I, you know,

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Speaker 1: fuck with Shorty or whatever? And you'll say yeah, Now

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Speaker 1: the friend he gave the permission like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, sure you can go ahead. You can go

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Speaker 2: ahead and do that.

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Speaker 1: I'm not doing that. I still wouldn't feel right doing it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not even about to ask nobody, you know how

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Speaker 1: much pussy it is in the world, Like why would

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Speaker 1: you come to me and ask me, can you deal

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Speaker 1: with my ex?

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Speaker 2: Even if I'm cool with it?

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Speaker 1: Like yo, God damn, Like it ain't nobody else out

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Speaker 1: a single person. It's so many people out here, you

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Speaker 1: And that's why I'm asking for advice right now, right,

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Speaker 1: But I know I'm not fucking crazy. I know I'm

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Speaker 1: Now you must have just taken her apology there just

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Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: And it's also women's muff too, So I want you

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Speaker 1: Like y'all, y'all are close, although y'all haven't seen each

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Speaker 1: I got these questions for you. Have you talked to him?

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Speaker 1: Are y'all still cool like you and a guy? You

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Speaker 1: Are you in a relationship? M? And then just how

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Speaker 1: Like I said, I would never touch any of my friends'

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Speaker 1: But just because it's my girl cold, don't mean it's

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Speaker 1: got too many of them. That's how you stay up

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Speaker 1: and shit having too many motherfucking girls. When there's too

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Speaker 1: many girls, there's too many personalities and too it's too much,

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Speaker 1: and I don't fuck with it. And like I said,

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Speaker 1: a lot of girls don't be girling. How our girls

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Speaker 1: so shit, But my girls girl the right way. So

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Speaker 1: girl please, And just like that, we've come to the

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Speaker 1: end of yet another Catholt Reckless episode with your girl.

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Speaker 2: That's hilarious.

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Speaker 1: It is Women's month, guy, so make sure you check

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Speaker 1: on your friends. You at your friends, just go out

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Speaker 1: and go grab a cocktail and just get to know

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Speaker 1: each other. We are living in some rough ass times

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Speaker 1: because after Trump Trump and doing listen because Trump is busy.

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Speaker 2: Trump has been busy.

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Speaker 1: He done signed one hundred and thirty five thousand fucking

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Speaker 1: executive orders since he's been here. So all my Mexican listeners,

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Speaker 1: I love you guys, whether you're still here or hot

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Speaker 1: or back in Mexico wherever you're listening to me yet,

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Speaker 1: I love y'all, and stay the funk strong, and I

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Speaker 1: will see y'all next week. Peace Can't Fully Reckless is

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