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Speaker 1: I'm charging my son rent even though he inherited the house.

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Speaker 1: My wife is furious, but I just love taking his money.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: This sounds pretty cut and dry. If it's his son's house,

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Speaker 2: it's his son's house, then like he shouldn't be having

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Speaker 2: to pay rent on it. So his presumed father.

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Speaker 1: You just don't know the value of a hard days

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Speaker 1: you gotta get some tough loving here, you know, tough love.

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Speaker 2: I would never pay rent for a home that I owned.

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Speaker 1: You would never pay rent for a home that you owned.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well you should pay rent to the owner. They

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Speaker 2: should be paying rent to him.

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Speaker 1: Well, uh, maybe you are gonna have wild children that

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Speaker 1: don't respect you. So let's get into it. My oldest son,

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Speaker 1: twenty four is not my wife's biological child and is

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Speaker 1: my child with my late wife.

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Speaker 2: What was she late for?

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Speaker 1: My late wife and I brought a three bedroom house

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Speaker 1: when we got married. When I remarried, my current wife

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Speaker 1: moved into this house with me, but I never put

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Speaker 1: her name on the deed. The house was only in

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Speaker 1: old one. I said no, that this house was something

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Speaker 1: my late wife and I purchased with the hope of

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Speaker 2: It's really nice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's thoughtful. Yeah, super thoughtful. I would make it

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Speaker 1: a rental property instead. That was one of the biggest

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Speaker 1: refuse to do so. I mean, it's his house.

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Speaker 2: It's his house, yeah.

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Speaker 1: And it's attached to the memory of his late wife.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Who knows where she is. They had this dream

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Speaker 2: keep it. Yeah, exactly, keep her memory live. She's dead,

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Speaker 2: the wife is, Yes, I thought she was just late.

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Speaker 2: Late to what.

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Speaker 1: Late to lead alive. That was a bad job, all right.

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Speaker 1: When my son graduated from college, I put his name

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Speaker 1: another fight, but I felt he was the appropriate inheritor

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Speaker 1: to his mother's share, which is true. I didn't share

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Speaker 1: any of the rental income with him, though, as I

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Speaker 1: was still paying all the taxes and insurance. At this point,

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Speaker 1: the mortgage is payoff. At this point, the mortgage is

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Speaker 1: But I imagine it's not the same amount as the

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Speaker 1: rent that he's getting from the person. I can be

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Speaker 1: I can guess. Yeah, so he's still pocketing money.

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Speaker 2: It's probably pocketing money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, even though he's paying, he is paying for it,

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Speaker 1: but he's pocketing money. Okay, so actually this we were

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Speaker 1: getting ahead of ourselves. I met over two thousand a

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Speaker 1: My son just got engaged and wants to move into

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Speaker 2: Which is good. I think that's a really fair. That's fair.

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Speaker 1: We agreed to this. But my wife is livid and

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Speaker 2: I think this new wife needs to go.

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Speaker 1: She needs to be late too.

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Speaker 2: What are you suggesting Sam's murder?

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Speaker 1: I suggested be downsize to a smaller house now that

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Speaker 1: same situation as before, owning two homes and getting rental

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Speaker 1: There is an update. We're gonna get into it. I

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Speaker 2: Far, I think Op is not the asshole. Like they're

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Speaker 2: besides being complain this is why I don't have a wife.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the only reason, the only reason, the only reason

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Speaker 1: She it feels like it's attached to his previous family

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Speaker 2: There's no more attachment to the X or the late wife.

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Speaker 1: it's his decision, his decision alone to make.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I feel like the op is has presented a

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Speaker 1: It feels like a really good solution. But let's get

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Speaker 1: to the update and see what we learned. So looking

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how is this whole memory.

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Speaker 3: Do do do do do do do do do do do.

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Speaker 3: Like doo doo doo do do do do do do.

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Speaker 2: I'm already you're not man.

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Speaker 3: Do do do do? Mm hmmmmm.

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Speaker 2: That was beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, fucking sad movie, eds, you can cut a

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Speaker 1: lot of that. Uh So, anyway, I took my son

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Speaker 1: and I did. That made me emotional, should be emotional?

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Speaker 1: Fuck damn, I said. I wanted to go ahead and

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Speaker 2: Fuck all right?

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Speaker 1: You know I was so, I was like tearing up

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Speaker 1: I can't believe you would do this usdus to me

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Speaker 1: Now we're getting the conversation with a current wife. Yic

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Speaker 1: So the conversation with my conversation with my wife was

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Speaker 2: She does have a point. She has a point, she

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Speaker 1: We kind of maybe we're bitches too, But I you know,

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Speaker 1: She asked what I would do if they broke up.

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Speaker 1: We argued for a while, but she eventually said she

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Speaker 1: in me. We've lived in our current house six and years.

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Speaker 1: It's a massive home that we don't really need anymore.

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Speaker 1: verge of moving out, I think we should downsize from

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Speaker 1: a six bedroom to a four bedroom. How loaded are

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Speaker 3: Oh my god?

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Speaker 2: And they only have three kids.

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Speaker 1: But I'm going to wait until she isn't mad anymore

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Speaker 1: to suggest this again. With the way the real estate

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Speaker 1: market has gone, we could rent out the individual rooms

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Speaker 1: in this house for close to three times what our

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Speaker 1: She may or may not go for this, it depends regardless.

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Speaker 1: We are in a fine financial situation. I feel good

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Speaker 2: That and setting up your child for success exactly exactly

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Speaker 1: Oh but can you tell me about what is this?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, what do you want to know?

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Speaker 1: Well, I want to know what you got up to

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Speaker 2: Well, you were with me, I was so for a

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Speaker 1: And it's packed. This is a whole sidewalk, it is

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Speaker 2: The street is closed down, there's people everywhere and way

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Speaker 2: And he's like being all weird. So we're like making

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Speaker 1: What do you do?

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Speaker 2: Do you zip it back up? I may have left

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Speaker 1: You know, I've heard reports, I've heard reports, and I've experienced. Well, James,

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Speaker 1: thanks for that sexy, sexy story. If you want fifty

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Speaker 1: Fifty Shades of Gay. Yeah, it probably already exists, right,

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Speaker 1: Well, thanks for coming on this episode, James, and thank

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Speaker 1: One kisses right to your nose and we'll see him

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Speaker 1: be nice. I just found out my real father is

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Speaker 1: like it kinda kind of such. Only does your dad

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Speaker 1: He doesn't want to function. This literally happened yesterday, or

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Speaker 2: Yes, never, it never ends.

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Speaker 1: Well no, no, it never does. When the results came back,

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Speaker 4: Real just like such, you literally think someone is your

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Speaker 1: Not, which thinking on it out makes sense as I

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Speaker 2: What's your using name?

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Speaker 1: Stock Man? What Stockman? Stock Man?

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Speaker 2: Stockman sixty?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, confusion acide. We had completely different haplo groups, which

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Speaker 2: It ain't good. He ain't your daddy.

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Speaker 1: Ain't your daddy? Now, growing up, I never had any

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Speaker 1: clue or reason to believe the man who raised me

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Speaker 4: Maybe just the emotional reaction, Yeah, emotion maybe like my

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Speaker 1: Damn, my whole life is a lie. Basically it's rough.

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Speaker 1: I'm imagine realizing your whole life is alive. Terrible, dude,

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Speaker 1: meters ain't wrong, bro, But after some pushing and prodding,

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Speaker 2: Is not In fact, the man who raised me.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 1: See, this is why you need public data Check. You

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Speaker 1: so you actually have the receipts exactly.

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Speaker 4: Like you can instantly look up to see people's real

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So if you think you're adopted, or you want to

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Speaker 1: data Check. Do it check public data check dot com

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Speaker 1: if you want to do some snoopin' my real father.

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Speaker 1: This is the reveal, the big reveal. Uh oh was

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Speaker 2: Yes, buzzle doctor, buzzleter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just that he was so famous and good

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Speaker 4: If he revealed his I didny, women would just be

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Speaker 2: Are you sure? I'm sure.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure my real father was a drifter, not out

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Speaker 2: Yikes.

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Speaker 1: My mother described him as a deeply lost person, but

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Speaker 2: Jesus insane.

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Speaker 1: He worked a variety of jobs in the oil industry

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Speaker 2: Oh god.

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Speaker 1: And this kind of saddens me because my entire life

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Speaker 1: I have been very into my heritage and chasing my

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Speaker 4: Man get like that. That sucks even harder. It's like

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Speaker 4: I never even thought about that. But it's like the

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Speaker 4: That's sad.

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Speaker 1: I imagine like like I imagine that the family maybe

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Speaker 1: Family of the Year. Yeah, so hey, you know, just

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Speaker 2: That's right, That's right.

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Speaker 1: And there's a little comment, Oh we're gonna read. My

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Speaker 1: told her, well, if he can't change his life, then

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Speaker 1: he can change mine.

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Speaker 2: Damn.

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Speaker 1: Stand up, Father of the frickin'.

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Speaker 4: Year, gonna make gonna gonna make me shed a thug

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Speaker 4: tear over here.

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Speaker 1: Back then, my mother was a bartender, and my dad,

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Speaker 1: who raised me, was in and out of jail constantly

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Speaker 1: for fighting, bar fights and such. After that, they moved

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Speaker 4: Wow, and wait was it the was it his like

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Speaker 1: The this was the real dad or like the dad

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Speaker 2: Act, right, It's pretty good. Hey, hey, hey, you use

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Speaker 2: use use it to change yourself.

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Speaker 3: I like it.

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Speaker 1: You you change your dad's your fought, you change your

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Speaker 1: dad's life. Hey, that's pretty good.

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Speaker 2: There we go. Gotta love it. M