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Speaker 2: Hey, welcome to another episode of The Black Guy Who

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Speaker 2: Tells Podcast. I'm your host Rod, joined us always by

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Speaker 2: my co host k and it is officially The Black

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Speaker 2: Guy Who Tips Day, September two, which is also our anniversary,

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Speaker 2: and what a perfect day to do feedback. You know,

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Speaker 2: you guys left a lot of comments and left a

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Speaker 2: lot of you know stuff that we should respond to.

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Speaker 2: You know, we got doing it for the grand which

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna try not to forget to do. We got,

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Speaker 2: of course, your comments on our website, your votes on

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Speaker 2: the polls for Spotify, for podcasters, I mean emails. We

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Speaker 2: got No, we didn't get any voicemails this week, but

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Speaker 2: that's fine. I do want to put up a quick

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Speaker 2: like just note to everybody if you're trying to get

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Speaker 2: tickets for the live show, I officially have two updates.

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Speaker 2: Number One, if you want virtual tickets, make sure you

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Speaker 2: buy them at least the day before the show. If

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Speaker 2: you try to buy the virtual tickets on the day

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Speaker 2: of the show, I believe they're not selling them the

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Speaker 2: day of, so get them today. Get them I think

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Speaker 2: until Friday and then basically on next Saturday, it's too late, okay,

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Speaker 2: So if you want to be there, you gotta make

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Speaker 2: your mind up. Now take a chance, all right. And

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Speaker 2: then the second thing is if you're in the Charlotte

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Speaker 2: area and you don't got money for a ticket or whatever.

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Speaker 3: You ain't got the fine, you ain't got the five.

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Speaker 4: It's cool.

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Speaker 2: There's a bunch of fans who bought tickets and they

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Speaker 2: have now sent me the pdf files with the tickets.

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Speaker 2: So if you want a ticket, email me, hit me

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Speaker 2: up on you know best, actually email me.

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Speaker 4: Email me is the best, the blackouts at gmail.

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Speaker 2: Email us let us know, Hey, I need X amount

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Speaker 2: of tickets. I'll send you the pdf files and those

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Speaker 2: tickets hopefully find a good home. So, you know, thank

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Speaker 2: you to everybody that did that. And like I said,

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Speaker 2: no shame, no nothing. If you just want to come through,

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Speaker 2: we're not you know, gonna be like you ain't got

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Speaker 2: twenty dollars not just let us know and we got you.

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Speaker 2: We want these tickets to find a good home. We

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Speaker 2: want as many people to be there in person as possible,

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Speaker 2: so you know, just just let those are your live

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Speaker 2: show show notes.

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Speaker 5: Yes, we want people to see us and we understand it.

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Speaker 5: Like I said, everybody ain't got the five, So thank

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Speaker 5: you to the fans.

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Speaker 3: It was like I can't go.

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Speaker 5: Well, I might not make it, but I want to,

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Speaker 5: you know, I want to support to allow the people

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Speaker 5: that ain't got the five to make it. So that's

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Speaker 5: one thing about our community. We have beautiful community. So

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Speaker 5: I thank you all for that. And one more announcement.

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Speaker 5: If you are buying virtual tickets internationally and you have

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Speaker 5: had issues, let us know so we can contact them

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Speaker 5: and they can get you the information that you need

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Speaker 5: so that you can watch this show virtually internationally. So

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Speaker 5: if you are like I tried to buy the tickets internationally,

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Speaker 5: I got a block or whatever it may be, let

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Speaker 5: us know so we can contact them. But please let

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Speaker 5: us know as soon as possible, because you know, the

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Speaker 5: closer it gets to the day before, we can't guarantee

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Speaker 5: that you know, they will get back to you in

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Speaker 5: order for you to get your tickets.

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Speaker 4: Yep, so they go.

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Speaker 2: Now let's talk about the people it took the time

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Speaker 2: So let's start first on the website with the first

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Speaker 2: episode of the week, which was episode twenty seven sixty

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Speaker 2: your pettiest reasons to stop talking to someone, which was

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Speaker 2: also the doing it for the ground. Appia says, I

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Speaker 2: new preclamcy attest. It's a farmer company named Thermo Fisher

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Speaker 3: And they said it averaged about six feet.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the researchers seem to be of Indian descent, a big,

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Speaker 2: big farmer.

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Speaker 4: When did you ever do a bad thing? Please know?

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Speaker 2: Examples things for those that don't know appyr works in

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Speaker 2: big farm yourself, but yeah, shout out to them. J

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Speaker 2: Full says, now that I think about it, I'm pretty petty.

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Speaker 2: I cut a woman off that I was dating because

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Speaker 2: she insisted on ordering one hundred dollar plus steak well

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Speaker 2: you do at fine diner restaurants. I was so embarrassed.

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Speaker 2: It's kind of petty, though, But I also would find

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Speaker 2: it to be whacked that that a person did that,

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Speaker 2: but also like, I don't know that I'd be like,

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Speaker 2: you're undateable, But yeah, I would be like, damn, this

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Speaker 2: person really wasted a steak, I think.

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Speaker 3: Right, waste the whole ass piece of meat. I'd be

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Speaker 3: like that more than anything.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think Also, would it be in a date

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Speaker 2: and you paying for it, like to meet the audacity

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Speaker 2: to order one hundred dollars steak and then cook all

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Speaker 2: the flavor out of it.

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Speaker 3: It's just right.

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Speaker 5: But that I understand endedess and that one hundred dollars, nigga,

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Speaker 3: The fuck is this?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely can relate, and people that eat well

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Speaker 4: And that's fine, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Just have you know, lower taste BUZDZ or something, that's fine.

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Speaker 2: I've also stopped dating multiple women because they couldn't dress.

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Speaker 2: she couldn't answer follow up questions about her stories, Like

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Speaker 2: if you're telling me about all the places you travel,

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Speaker 4: It gives me liar vibes.

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Speaker 2: I guess she was used to date niggas that don't

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Speaker 2: been lying, That's that's true. She could have also been

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Speaker 5: Yes they are, and they don't answer follow up questions

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Speaker 5: and they like, okay, bitch, as soon as you stop yaking,

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Speaker 4: Well on a date, I mean, even if it's not

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Speaker 4: can we fuck it? Can I talk?

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Speaker 2: I just want to talk. I'm here to talk at you,

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Speaker 2: not you talk to me. So maybe motherfuckers wasn't listening.

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Speaker 2: Maybe they was like, YadA YadA, YadA, shut up so

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Speaker 2: I can talk about my shit, and they heat, yeah,

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Speaker 2: stop talking to a check Because her mattresses on the floor,

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Speaker 2: piece of bread. I thought we were gonna get some

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Speaker 2: post brunch after the light until she opened the bedroom

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Speaker 2: Internally all shaking my head like that. Tracy Morgan noe me. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know her age and stuff, but

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Speaker 2: I feel like that's just when your mattresses on the floor,

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Speaker 2: it just means you down bad. You know, I'm surprised

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Speaker 2: she let you in the house to see that, But

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Speaker 2: then I guess if you've been living like that for

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Speaker 2: a while, it's the shock value.

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Speaker 4: Is gone for you. But I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 2: There was a period in our marriage we had the

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Speaker 2: and we didn't have to find have money to get

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Speaker 2: like introduce somebody to the bed, right, But I don't.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it just means you down bad, You're going

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Speaker 4: through some shit.

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Speaker 2: It's like when they do that, it's like when a

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Speaker 2: it grow because I was like, fuck, I'm worried about

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Speaker 2: twenty million other things, it's not my beer right now.

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Speaker 2: But if like somebody, if like it's a thing where

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Speaker 5: Why I advocate really really hard about people to get scammed.

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Speaker 2: For men, I usually cut them off for being homophobic

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Speaker 2: it's easy for us on the outside to like judge,

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Speaker 2: but I do not participate in your alibi or whatever

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Speaker 4: I don't like that. I don't do that. It's not

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Speaker 2: I don't want to be involved. And I honestly would

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Speaker 2: stop kicking it with you if I see that. Okay,

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Speaker 2: this is a person who doesn't respect me or my boundaries,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it don't work like that, and that's my thing.

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Speaker 5: You do what you're want to do, love for you

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Speaker 5: when it's a problem. I'm giving fuck. Just don't indirectly

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Speaker 2: I do cut off niggas. I do cut off niggas

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Speaker 2: for cheating in golf. That's unforgivable. We ain't playing for

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no.

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Speaker 5: And the thing is with the alcohol bottles, particularly wine,

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Speaker 2: Let's get into the comments on so no YouTube comments

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Speaker 3: Not shit id like to hit them stores? Was it college?

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Speaker 3: Him? B? What escalated for you to have to hit somebody?

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Speaker 4: Y'all?

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Speaker 2: I wonder if it could be like a fake wrestling

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Speaker 2: Raphael says I once was an ASP wrestler. All kids

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Speaker 2: Kid got beat before my turn one day and I

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Speaker 2: quit forever. Time for a comeback, Carrie says, who we

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Speaker 2: riding on food? You know I keeps mind on me.

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Speaker 2: Ty Floder says, the whole world and to be like

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Speaker 2: the Don't Be a Menace movie. James, do we have

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Speaker 4: Are you far? Real?

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Speaker 2: Says My family has them old school, heavy duty metal

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Speaker 5: Child dump dem old school folding chairs. People used to

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Speaker 5: right they will. They're like a one of them black

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Speaker 5: cash iron pans your parents give you them, bitch, just

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Speaker 5: gonna You're gonna be dead and gone and them chairs

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Speaker 2: The Locke nest Orgy.

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Speaker 4: We had five comments.

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Speaker 2: Appia says, I also do yoga, Karen and also the

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Speaker 4: I love it, but not a problematic amount.

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Speaker 5: And the thing is I enjoy doing yoga. I haven't

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Speaker 2: Justin says I Legit said the same thing about the

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Speaker 4: Tommy D said.

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Speaker 2: As a school custodian, I don't care who has a gun.

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Speaker 2: I know all the secret passages to escape that even

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Speaker 2: the principal don't know about. I'll be out like Andrew

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Speaker 2: Dufrains from Shawshank.

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Speaker 3: I know you would, because you should know you're custodian.

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Speaker 2: Our tic Chick says regarding the No Fat movement being coltish,

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Speaker 2: one thing I know about the co leaders is that

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Speaker 4: Whoever is making.

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Speaker 2: Money from that movement is also using it all the

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Speaker 2: trick off on somebody's sons, daughter's only fans. Yeah, that's funny,

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Speaker 2: Like the co leader, dude, always break the rules, So

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Speaker 2: somebody's jacking off constantly at the top of the pyramid

438
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Speaker 2: for sure. Eve E says that Bill Murray Callie's story

439
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Speaker 2: was odd to me. I don't believe they were an

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Speaker 2: actual couple, one because it's not that long since Kalisa's

441
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Speaker 2: husband passed away. And two it doesn't look like Bill

442
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Speaker 2: knows how to handle all that jelly. At the most,

443
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Speaker 2: they were probably just friends. Yeah, I just wonder. I

444
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Speaker 2: don't understand Hollywood in that whatever the logic is through

445
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Speaker 2: public relations that you need to have like a public

446
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Speaker 2: relations dating another celebrity story every once in a while,

447
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Speaker 2: And I'm sure that there's a science and a math

448
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Speaker 2: behind it, and people love it and people talk about it.

449
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Speaker 2: We're talking about it right now, But I don't know

450
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Speaker 2: what the value of us talking about it is, Like,

451
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Speaker 2: are we gonna go by Kalisa's next album? Are we

452
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Speaker 2: gonna watch Bill Murray's next movie? You know, but clearly

453
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Speaker 2: as a thing. But it's weird when it's so surface level.

454
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Speaker 2: We never even seen them together.

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Speaker 3: I haven't seen a photo of them, That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: It just just feels like he went to a Kali

457
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Speaker 2: concert one time. They didn't even get a picture together.

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Speaker 2: And then we were just supposed to be like, you know,

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Speaker 2: they're dating. Oh my god, what a crazy story. And

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Speaker 2: I don't know who it would serve or why I

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Speaker 2: would serve this.

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Speaker 3: So they're talking in two different audiences.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it just feels like something someone made up

464
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Speaker 2: because they're fucking with us. Like remember that time Coalise

465
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Speaker 2: was dating Bill Murray. You're like, nigga, what stop?

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Speaker 4: Stop lying?

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Speaker 5: But like and then they said, you know, it became

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Speaker 5: a thing and they was like, okay, we'll roll with

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Speaker 5: it for a few months, and then announced we not

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Speaker 5: together no more.

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Speaker 2: Right, let's see any more comments on this? Yeah, that's it.

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Speaker 2: And then on Instagram, I mean, on fuck YouTube, we

473
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Speaker 2: just had a heart emoji from the home I create

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Speaker 2: and the poe were Kalise and Bill Murray Ever dating

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Speaker 2: for real?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

477
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Speaker 4: Or no? I don't think I don't think so either.

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Speaker 2: Eighty percent of the audience agrees with us they were

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Speaker 2: never dating for real. Twenty percent say yes. And it's

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Speaker 2: even different even on Spotify it's twenty seven percent saying yes,

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Speaker 2: seventy three percent saying they don't think it is real.

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Speaker 2: So what do I fucking know. I guess y'all think

483
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Speaker 2: it's real. Some of y'all think it's real. Yeah, I

484
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Speaker 2: just can't even imagine. But I don't know neither of

485
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Speaker 2: these niggas. Maybe they was doing it the whole I mean,

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Speaker 2: the Q and A was get an artifacts back colonizers.

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Speaker 2: Raphael says, issue that I have to theft of artifacts

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Speaker 2: is that stolen items are gone forever unless the buyer

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Speaker 2: returns them. Governments and kingdoms and former colonies have been

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Speaker 2: securing returns recently. Theft is suspect. Oh so you're saying,

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Speaker 2: maybe they're I don't know. It's that stolen I was

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Speaker 2: gone forever unless the buyer returns.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Are you saying that they fake the theft so they

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Speaker 2: can keep the items from returning to the rightful owners.

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Speaker 2: And since the rightful owners have been asking for those items,

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Speaker 2: the museums like, oh no, they got stole. Sorry, I

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Speaker 2: don't know, that could be it. Carrie says kill Manger

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Speaker 2: was right. Disclaimer, he was only right about the taking

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Speaker 2: the artifacts back kill Mongre was tears the skies of

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Speaker 2: Black Revolutionary was very violent towards black women.

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Speaker 3: Agree.

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Speaker 2: Dorena says, while they are also being forced to give

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Speaker 2: back artifacts, give back all the gold that we're in

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Speaker 2: the building churches, look at you, Vatican, at Pope Francis

506
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Speaker 2: atentionon pickpocket. Chris Shakhan says, time to send in Brendan

507
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Speaker 2: Fraser to bring back those curse Mummy artifacts. Jay Domo says,

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Speaker 2: John Oliver did a piece on high museums. I really

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Speaker 2: showcases of theft. There are people who will never see

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Speaker 2: artifacts from their own culture. Soldier Boy voice research.

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Speaker 4: This is magnificent breeze.

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Speaker 2: If they don't drag that damn lake and call it

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Speaker 2: a day, I really hope they out here having an

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Speaker 2: orgy and not just wasting money to look at the water.

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Speaker 2: Jane says kil Manger was definitely right see Carrie's disclaimer.

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Speaker 2: Qui says, give them people that shit back. Broken Breezy

517
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Speaker 2: says sending emails isn't free either the inmates. I remember

518
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Speaker 2: having to buy stamps to email on both sides. Fifty

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Speaker 2: stamp inhumane. I didn't know that either emails. God damn,

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Speaker 2: that's that is fucking insane.

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Speaker 5: So basically they want to get people in there and

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Speaker 5: have no because they know if they communicating people odds

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Speaker 5: to them coming back, which is their profit, it's low,

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Speaker 5: so or decreases, you know, So they literally want to

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Speaker 5: have you in there and have you and make it

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Speaker 5: hard where nobody can contact you, where you fear hopelessness,

527
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Speaker 5: where you don't care, You lose connections, you don't know

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Speaker 5: what's happening in your family, Your family loses connections with you.

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Speaker 3: So then when you get out and.

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Speaker 5: You have a lower probability of having a support system,

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Speaker 5: or if you do, it's going to be a lot

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Speaker 5: smaller and a lot of times.

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Speaker 3: And I didn't even know this.

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Speaker 5: In some I think it's like twelve or thirteen states.

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Speaker 5: Let's say you get locked up, and let's say somebody

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Speaker 5: helps you get out and they found out that you

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Speaker 5: was wrongfully convicted in twelve states. By law, the state

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Speaker 5: does not have to pay you for the time that

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Speaker 5: you have been in jail. They say, fuck it. I

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Speaker 5: was like, word, but yeah, we have twelve I think

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Speaker 5: twelve or thirteen states. If I remember what the podcast

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Speaker 5: was saying, they were saying, like David was like a

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Speaker 5: sorry to this man, and they just let they'll let

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Speaker 5: you out, but you don't get no compensation for the

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Speaker 5: years that you have lost.

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Speaker 4: Back to the Q and A.

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Speaker 2: Kalisa is her own wavelength, and I don't enjoy the thought.

548
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Speaker 2: But she might have to be on top of that

549
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Speaker 2: man says BTA.

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Speaker 4: Sidney says, no, for real, give them back. What are

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Speaker 4: we doing here?

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Speaker 2: Ignatio says, when my got hit with the spear, the

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Speaker 2: first thing I thought was okoye and damnit if Rod

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Speaker 2: didn't go straight to Wakanda, the only thing missing was

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Speaker 2: e bombay e bombay Damn. I love y'all, thank you,

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Speaker 2: and I said, appreciate you. Let's see, we'll go to

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Speaker 2: the next one. But first all, I'm gonna play music

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Speaker 2: so I know where to put a commercial later on. Okay,

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Speaker 2: because you know, listen, it's all about the capitalism, all right.

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Speaker 2: This isn't a free to produce, this is a free

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Speaker 2: to consume. This is nothing's free. Okay, they're still charging

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Speaker 2: us rent. Okay, we got taxis on the office space.

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Speaker 2: It's a lot going on.

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Speaker 4: In here, so we got a charge. Okay, all right,

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Speaker 4: play the music. What's going on? Shout out to DJ Joffa,

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Speaker 4: you sent me like five or six new beats. Hey,

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Speaker 4: thank you. We'll appreciate it. We're always accepting beats. We

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Speaker 4: love playing them.

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Speaker 2: So the next episode was episode twenty seven sixty two.

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Speaker 2: Congratulations we got This is more of a talky episode,

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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 3: I was a little tired, and oh oh yeah.

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Speaker 5: While we're on it, we found the name of the

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Speaker 5: documentary that I forgot. It was on Netflix and it

575
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Speaker 5: was about makeup and it was I don't remember the

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Speaker 5: name of it, but it was a beautiful Uh, I don't,

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Speaker 5: I don't.

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Speaker 2: Here's a Here's why I'm laughing, because this is the

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Speaker 2: second time you've done this. This is a second and

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Speaker 2: so because okay, let me just say, we got a

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Speaker 2: review this week that was three stars. It said respect.

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Speaker 2: But it's becoming a hard listen. Too much correcting and

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Speaker 2: not knowing. It's from Pancho that chosen one or whatever,

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Speaker 2: probably an asshole. But this is what's wild. I know

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Speaker 2: that the correct thing has to come from me. The

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Speaker 2: not knowing typically comes from Karen. How the fuck am

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Speaker 2: I supposed to fix that? Karen constantly brings up stuff

588
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Speaker 2: and just relies on me to fix it.

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Speaker 4: Or finish it, and I'm fine with that. That's our dynamic.

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Speaker 2: I normally do the research, I normally do the articles

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Speaker 2: like I'm totally fine with that.

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Speaker 4: But also sometimes.

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Speaker 2: Karen will just say some wild shit that is not

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Speaker 2: verified as just a thing she might that might be

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Speaker 2: true or might not. She may have heard somewhere she

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Speaker 2: may not, and it is up to me live on

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Speaker 2: the fly to try to figure out if that shit

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Speaker 2: is true, to try to know.

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Speaker 4: Don't apologize.

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Speaker 2: I love it. The audience loves it. That Dick had doesn't.

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Speaker 2: But and I don't mind it. But it is part

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Speaker 2: of part, you know, part of the thing. The way

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Speaker 2: my brain works is we have a segment, I'm trying

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Speaker 2: to keep it on track. We're talking about a certain topic.

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Speaker 2: It's okay for us to go off topic, but at

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Speaker 2: some point I want to steer it back to where

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Speaker 2: we're at.

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Speaker 4: So we have, you know, consistency on the show.

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Speaker 2: And and I don't mind going down whatever rabbit hole.

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Speaker 4: I don't mind whatever.

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Speaker 2: If there's something where I'm like, I don't think that's

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Speaker 2: true or that's I'll try to bring it up during

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Speaker 2: the show. So because what this motherfucker doesn't know is

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Speaker 2: thousands of people listening to every episode, and when we

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Speaker 2: get something wrong or we don't address that we don't know,

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Speaker 2: we get a bunch of fucking feedback from people being like, hey,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, why didn't y'all know this? Ro how

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Speaker 2: come you didn't correct Karen when she said this? You know, like,

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Speaker 2: we get that. And then I was at the same time,

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Speaker 2: I'm trying not to be a dick and be annoying

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Speaker 2: and be correcting every fucking thing, like, well, Karen, come on.

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Speaker 4: You know that that, this is that and the other.

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Speaker 2: And so if Karen throws a curveball, like there was

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Speaker 2: a documentary, I can't tell you what it was about.

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Speaker 2: I can't tell you the name. I can't tell you

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Speaker 2: when we want, I can't tell you what we watched.

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Speaker 2: Now I'm the ass off of being like, okay, I'm

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Speaker 2: trying to help you out, but I okay. So we

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Speaker 2: don't know, and the only thing we can do is

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Speaker 2: make jokes about, hey, she don't know, and we.

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Speaker 4: Just move on.

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Speaker 5: That's part of the joke and the funnest, right, they

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Speaker 5: may not find an answer.

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Speaker 4: So I was just thinking about that.

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Speaker 2: That's what made me chuckle to myself is as you're

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Speaker 2: doing it again. Keep in mind she did not know.

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Speaker 2: We made a whole thing about how she didn't know,

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Speaker 2: made jokes and moved on. We found out what it

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Speaker 2: was after we got off the show. Karen did not

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Speaker 2: make a note even at this time, to be like,

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Speaker 2: let me write this down, let me put a note

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Speaker 2: to myself, because this time, when I bring it up,

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Speaker 2: I can have the answer and be like, hey, everybody,

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Speaker 2: the name of the documentary was blank, and here she

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Speaker 2: is again doing it And if I did for being like, okay,

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Speaker 2: the answer was broken and it was episode two about

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Speaker 2: makeup and it's on Netflix. Yes, is that too much

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Speaker 2: correcting for you? The chosen one?

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Speaker 4: If I'm supposed to.

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Speaker 3: Just sit here.

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Speaker 2: Also, I don't know how to tell y'all this, but

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Speaker 2: we've been married twenty one years now. Today's our twenty

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Speaker 2: first wedding Anniversari's a blackout tips day.

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Speaker 3: I love this.

655
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 4: Woman, Yeah, I let you do. I'm making everything.

656
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 2: Everything I do is to make sure that this woman

657
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 2: is a firm, that this woman is in power, that

658
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 2: this woman has autonomy, that this woman is my equal

659
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 2: in everything that we fucking do. And so uh, this

660
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 2: isn't your typical show thing. I don't know what kind

661
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 2: of adversarial relationships y'all have, what trauma y'all have experience

662
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 2: amongst the people that y'all deal with. But here, a

663
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,479
Speaker 2: correction is just a correction. It's not a you dumb,

664
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 2: you should feel.

665
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 3: Bad taking points. We are Italian.

666
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 5: Ain't nobody trying to embarrass people from you for not knowing?

667
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 5: Because there's some shit that Roger don't know sometimes, and

668
00:33:57,960 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 5: I act you know what I'm talking about.

669
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 2: We putting out a product into the world, and more

670
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 2: than just you was listening to it. And one thing

671
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 2: I'm never gonna do is sit up here and let

672
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 2: some shit be incorrect just because well Karen said it,

673
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,320
Speaker 2: and it'll be awkward to correct the shit. Let's just

674
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 2: get it over with and just do it it. Just

675
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 2: get the shit.

676
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,800
Speaker 4: Right the first like, let's just get it right now.

677
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 3: And if we don't know, also, we don't know.

678
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:23,759
Speaker 2: This is a very vague comment, so I don't even

679
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 2: know what you definitely necessarily mean. But even when we

680
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 2: don't know, sometimes we don't know. I remember we had

681
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 2: a person that wrote up about some shit like y'all

682
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:34,879
Speaker 2: didn't know this fact, and y'all need to do this

683
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 2: type of research. And I was like, man, suck my

684
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 2: fucking dick. I'm working hard every day giving you entertainment.

685
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 2: I'm not a professor in this. This is just my

686
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 2: This is human conversation. You're a witness scene. It might

687
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,800
Speaker 2: not cover out a fucking basis, nigga. If you don't

688
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 2: like that, go read the book, go look up the wiki,

689
00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 2: go do the research yourself, because we're not gonna have

690
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 2: every single second of multiple hours of unscripted conversation be

691
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 2: correct all the time.

692
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 4: Part of the feedback if you're not being a dick about.

693
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:09,800
Speaker 2: It, people right in all the time to be like, hey,

694
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 2: this is what the thing that y'all didn't know, and

695
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 2: it's like thank you, yes.

696
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 3: So this is my field and here's an additional information.

697
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 5: Like I said, we don't mind people are reaching out it,

698
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:20,239
Speaker 5: but hey, in case you didn't know, I got some

699
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 5: additional information. But you know, I'm an artist, and shout

700
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 5: out the everybody. Do I have an artist and I'm

701
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 5: sensitive about my shit. Just don't come to be all crazy.

702
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 5: That's when I get attitude.

703
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, this person's actually obviously a dick Anyway,

704
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 2: the documentary was broken. It's a series on Netflix. Episode

705
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 2: one is Makeup Mayhem. That's what we watched. It was

706
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 2: fifty eight minutes, so when Karen said short, I think

707
00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 2: she thought it was like twenty or thirty minutes, but

708
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:51,240
Speaker 2: I think she may have come in halfway through. Mystery

709
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 2: fucking solved, problem corrected, suck my dick, and happy anniversary

710
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:58,080
Speaker 2: to you, Karen.

711
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:05,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, you doo. And it was actually a really really

712
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 3: good job.

713
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 5: So for people that wear makeup, it is really eye opening,

714
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 5: particularly when you see because the part I came in

715
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 5: on was when they was talking about makeup trends and

716
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 5: how you have things online and how are some of

717
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 5: the makeup industries, like with the Kardashians and some of them,

718
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,760
Speaker 5: when they do shit online, they will purposely do limited

719
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,040
Speaker 5: releases and so everybody have it, and then all of

720
00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 5: a sudden you can't buy it, and then you got

721
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 5: people that it was like, well I want the shit

722
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 5: and it's sold out. So what they'll do is like

723
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 5: they'll start finding other places that has these quote unquote

724
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:45,280
Speaker 5: name bread makeups and they'd be actually sending them fake shit.

725
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:50,759
Speaker 5: And it went into the background of this fake shit

726
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 5: and was telling people, hey, if they sell this shit

727
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 5: for fifty and you know, you find it for ten,

728
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 5: you might need to be sure that this is what

729
00:36:58,040 --> 00:36:58,359
Speaker 5: it is.

730
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 3: And they were saying, how people.

731
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 5: Have gotten so much better with duplicating and foaming and rapping.

732
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,880
Speaker 5: Will unless you are a professional and you're like actually

733
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 5: testing the makeup, you do not know, and you a

734
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 5: lot of times you cannot tell the difference. But was

735
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 5: what had happened was that they interviewed some dermatologists, and

736
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 5: some dermatologists was saying they had an uptick and people

737
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 5: coming in with all types with their skin just being

738
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 5: fucked up and them and them having pink eye and

739
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 5: all types of shit. Their skin was just trashnacs and

740
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 5: what are you using on your face? And so they

741
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 5: started bringing this shit in they started testing it. And

742
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 5: the thing is when they started testing it, they was

743
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 5: finding out that this makeup.

744
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 3: Had shit that was hard before your skin.

745
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 5: It had feats in it, They had it, had urine

746
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 5: in it.

747
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 3: It just it had types of acid in it.

748
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 5: Ship that would it had a ship you put in

749
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,760
Speaker 5: the car, All types of shit in this fake makeup

750
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 5: that was tearing people's skin, the fucking pieces and so

751
00:37:57,760 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 5: I was listening, I was like, well, what, I don't

752
00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:01,359
Speaker 5: wear that but makeup. But I was like, well, bitch,

753
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 5: when I do, go, I'm gonna take my black ass

754
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 5: over to Safara and.

755
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 3: Go ahead and pay the up charge for the real shit.

756
00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 3: It's not worth it.

757
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,839
Speaker 5: And so it was just really education and opening up

758
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 5: my eyes to this market of makeup out there and

759
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:16,919
Speaker 5: things like that.

760
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 4: I just want try to know.

761
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:22,880
Speaker 2: When she brought this up the first time, she couldn't

762
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:25,879
Speaker 2: remember what it was about or anything. Now she got

763
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 2: the whole like she she could break it all down.

764
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 2: And and I honestly I felt bad after that show

765
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 2: because I was like, fuck, I couldn't remember. And if

766
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 2: I would have known at the time or corrected her,

767
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 2: as this asshole thinks, we would have got this at

768
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 2: the time because she just needed a spark to get

769
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 2: back to like oh yeah, that's right, it was about

770
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 2: makeup boom and you know, so anyway, but yeah, it's

771
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: also wild because they went to online stuff and they

772
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:58,240
Speaker 2: were like, even when you look at the big sellers

773
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 2: like Amazon and all that stuff, there's no impetus for

774
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 2: them to take this stuff down because all they really

775
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 2: do is take a cut off the sales, so they

776
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 2: don't house the illegal stuff, they don't ship the illegal stuff,

777
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,400
Speaker 2: and they don't receive the illegal stuff.

778
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 4: They just get a percentage of each sale.

779
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:19,839
Speaker 2: So if motherfuckers are buying fake Kardashian makeup, why would

780
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,800
Speaker 2: Amazon ever take that down? It's the easiest passive income

781
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 2: they have. And it's a I forget what the exact

782
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 2: number was market, but the mark, but the market of

783
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 2: all of the beauty brand sales is billions of dollars.

784
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 2: So I don't know how much this is of that billion,

785
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 2: but the point being it's it's definitely a lot of money.

786
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:43,359
Speaker 5: Yes, And it was just watching that documentary and they

787
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 5: were I didn't like I said, because I didn't know Dash.

788
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 5: You have people that are dedicated to actually finding these

789
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 5: places that make this fake makeup, and they actually are

790
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 5: in these countries trying to find out where it came from.

791
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:57,879
Speaker 2: Who made it, But it just don't matter because like

792
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 2: one is too big, Two they be getting tipped off,

793
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 2: and three even when they went and busted, like the

794
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 2: people at the swap meat or whatever, they was back

795
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 2: out there like the next day. It just don't matter.

796
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 2: But it was a great documentary I'm gonna finish that series.

797
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 2: Uh but back to the back to the comments on congratulations,

798
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 2: appyr Wright saying three comments.

799
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 4: Okay, see what she has something to say?

800
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 2: What you said about post natal depression? Is that what

801
00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:28,279
Speaker 2: it's called? Okay? I think here they call it postpartum,

802
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 2: but NATO sounds right too, so maybe it's maybe it's

803
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 2: a different term.

804
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:35,040
Speaker 5: I'm thinking right, because yeah, here we call it postpartum, but.

805
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 2: Post natal depression and anxiety is of course true. But

806
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:41,439
Speaker 2: there's more. I had very strong anxiety about after birth

807
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,160
Speaker 2: both bursts, and read about it a lot. I saw

808
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:48,360
Speaker 2: dangers for the babies everywhere, and it became very intrusive. Somehow,

809
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 2: it seems to be nature's way to keep the baby alive.

810
00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 2: I read that mothers who see all potential dangers used

811
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:56,120
Speaker 2: to have a better chance to keep the baby alive.

812
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 4: But it's awful.

813
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:59,000
Speaker 2: I remember in the parking lot of the hospital, I

814
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 2: was worried of a terrorist attack without any real reason.

815
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 2: I got a panic attack. When mister Apple had to

816
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 2: leave work for a few days. I was convinced that

817
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,919
Speaker 2: he would die from a terrorist attack. What didn't help

818
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 2: was that there was some kind of warning for the

819
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 2: city of Munching. At the time, I probably said that

820
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 2: name wrong, Munching maybe, and at.

821
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:18,800
Speaker 4: That time and he was there.

822
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 2: That time was very exhausting, and I remember being afraid

823
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 2: all day for the first three to four months. Of course,

824
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:26,799
Speaker 2: I was also afraid for the kid would just that

825
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 2: the kid would just stop breathing in the night, but

826
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,760
Speaker 2: the night was still the best time. At about ten pm,

827
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 2: I was glad the day was over with everyone alive. Yes,

828
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 2: I got therapy and medication and online form and books

829
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 2: helped a lot.

830
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:42,479
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's it's I've never been a parent, but being

831
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 5: a parent sounds very scary, particularly first time parents, because

832
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 5: there's so much that can go wrong, and you know,

833
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 5: particularly talking about inf and depth syndrome, you know, because

834
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 5: you know, that's why a lot of parents check on

835
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 5: their children, you know, sticking their fingerna they nose, be

836
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,439
Speaker 5: sure they still breathing, be sure they still there. Uh

837
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:05,880
Speaker 5: and and and it takes a lot on the people

838
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 5: in the household, but particularly the mother uh birth in

839
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:14,720
Speaker 5: person because this the child is attached to them. Uh

840
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 5: and so uh that's why a lot of people go

841
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:22,840
Speaker 5: through this whole world wind of emotions. And I wish

842
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 5: more people talked about it. I think, didn't you read

843
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:29,400
Speaker 5: what They just now are getting medication for this. Uh

844
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 5: but people have been having children forever and they're just

845
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 5: now getting to the point where they.

846
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:40,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, actually, I know what we talked about was preclamcy attest.

847
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 2: I don't know if we talked about postpartum depression like

848
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,320
Speaker 2: treatments and drugs on the show before.

849
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 4: Uh, So, I guess I don't know.

850
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 5: I was saying that I was listening to a podcast

851
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 5: and they was talking about that.

852
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not correcting you. I don't know. It's

853
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: okay me not to know everything. I don't know you

854
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 2: know more than me about yes, yes, and that could be.

855
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 2: I don't want to say it's not true. I just

856
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 2: don't know.

857
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, And so, like I said, I don't know if

858
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 3: it's on the market or not.

859
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 5: But I know they will talk about studies and research

860
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 5: and stuff for the first time actually be like, hey.

861
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 3: This is a thing women deal with this, let's address this.

862
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 5: You know, doctors are having to deal with too many

863
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 5: women sad and depressed, and their emotions are going everywhere.

864
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 3: Their wait is yo yoing.

865
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 5: You know a lot of times once the baby is born,

866
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 5: you have things like they call it mommy brain, but

867
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 5: you have this thing where you literally cannot remember that

868
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 5: is a thing, these things and particularly that's why when

869
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 5: a lot of people go with a lot of people

870
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 5: go back to work, it's very hard the first few

871
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 5: months for them to even remember the simplest of processes.

872
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,800
Speaker 5: And everybody think there's something wrong with you. But that's

873
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:54,839
Speaker 5: that's a real thing. And so you know, these are

874
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,360
Speaker 5: things that need to be addressed, but nobody really cares.

875
00:43:57,360 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 5: And everybody's just rushing people to get back to work

876
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 5: and rushing you to get back to things, and just.

877
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 3: Everybody wants you to get back to normal.

878
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:05,840
Speaker 4: Especially in America.

879
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:10,319
Speaker 5: Right well, well we're one of the only, if not

880
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 5: the only, one of the largest industrialized nation that doesn't

881
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 5: have a standard for when you have a baby, like

882
00:44:16,560 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 5: regardless of your job, where we're like, hey, if you

883
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 5: have a baby, you need to have this amount of

884
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 5: time off paid, like your employee should have to pay

885
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,560
Speaker 5: for you. We're the only country that doesn't have a standard.

886
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 5: You know, most people, if they do have a job.

887
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:32,439
Speaker 3: That's lucky enough.

888
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 5: What they can do is a lot of times you

889
00:44:35,320 --> 00:44:37,359
Speaker 5: have to do it through your job, and a lot

890
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 5: of times you get paid like fifty percent of your paid,

891
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 5: Like you don't even get paid one hundred percent. A

892
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 5: lot of times it's like sixty to maybe ninety days

893
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:48,240
Speaker 5: and then they like get your ass back to work.

894
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 4: After.

895
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 2: I also said, for me, the internet was extremely helpful

896
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 2: with my anxiety. I was able to find resources and

897
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:57,800
Speaker 2: help also find out that my feelings were relatively normal

898
00:44:58,040 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 2: and I wasn't the only one suffering from them these

899
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 2: feelings in the time before the Internet, I don't know

900
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 2: how mothers dealt with it. Yeah, I guess that's interesting

901
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 2: because I do think there's a sweet spot in the

902
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 2: Internet where I think there's a sweet spot before social

903
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 2: media really like became so big and where there was

904
00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 2: that there was a time where you were finding people,

905
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:29,800
Speaker 2: whether through message boards the beginning.

906
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 4: Of Facebook and Twitter and stuff, where people were.

907
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:36,279
Speaker 2: Finding like, oh, okay, these are experiences other people are

908
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:40,959
Speaker 2: having and it's okay to talk about them. And then yeah,

909
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:44,239
Speaker 2: just I think now when we talk about the Internet,

910
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 2: I'm really more talking about the very current four to

911
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:50,959
Speaker 2: five years now, Like when I talk about social media

912
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 2: and anxiety and stuff, I'm thinking these are things that

913
00:45:55,480 --> 00:46:00,040
Speaker 2: have been exacerbated by the people in charge thinking that

914
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:04,399
Speaker 2: being unregulated is the best way for the Internet to work.

915
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 4: And whether that be an Elon Musk or the dude.

916
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 2: Zuckerberg or Jack before Elon at Twitter, like you know,

917
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:17,280
Speaker 2: even Reddit was like that at first, and Serena Williams

918
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 2: and other people put pressure to reel it in. I

919
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 2: think once things got to the point where the white

920
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 2: dudes in charge were like, you know, free freedom of speeches,

921
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: us being able to harass people. And because I think

922
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 2: even the experience you're talking about with postpartum now is

923
00:46:33,360 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 2: extremely complicated because now there's I guarant this is without

924
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 2: me even looking it up. I guarantee you there's some

925
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 2: type of group out there who is saying like, oh no,

926
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:46,360
Speaker 2: that's because you're not drinking alkaline water, or that's because

927
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:49,400
Speaker 2: you don't eat the right foods, or you just need

928
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 2: like Jesus or some shit. Because because I feel like

929
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:58,359
Speaker 2: at the beginning there's a level of respect for expertise. Yes,

930
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 2: that happened on the Internet, that just doesn't happen anymore.

931
00:47:01,719 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 2: So I wonder if new moms, moms who just had

932
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:08,000
Speaker 2: their kids in the last year or so, I wonder

933
00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 2: what they're experiencing with the internet and if it's helping

934
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:15,400
Speaker 2: their anxiety or confounding their anxiety. I mean, think about

935
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 2: just during the pandemic, how many people were saying pregnant

936
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 2: women should not get vaccinated right while doctors were saying

937
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:24,279
Speaker 2: and experts were saying, yes you should. And it was

938
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 2: a legitimate, like fifty to fifty fight online between not

939
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 2: experts and experts. So I do wonder that to me,

940
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:34,960
Speaker 2: that would add to my anxiety. But I've never had

941
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:36,399
Speaker 2: a kid, so I don't know.

942
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:38,719
Speaker 5: Right, and it would be a whole lot to navigate

943
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 5: and to go through. And I could see moms going,

944
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 5: I'm not dealing with social media. I just talked to

945
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 5: my doctor. Don't give fuck about what y'all said online

946
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:50,719
Speaker 5: because it could be overwhelming, it could be too much.

947
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:53,759
Speaker 5: You can hear conflicting information, shit that's not based in science.

948
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:56,799
Speaker 2: I don't think it's a coincidence that vaccination rates have

949
00:47:56,920 --> 00:48:01,280
Speaker 2: gone down in people's kids as the Internet has gotten bigger,

950
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 2: because there's so much misinformation and people are able to

951
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:07,359
Speaker 2: be experts without being experts because no.

952
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:08,680
Speaker 4: One's vetting expertise.

953
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 2: If anything, we're going the opposite direction of vetting expertise, right,

954
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:16,320
Speaker 2: you can buy a blue check now it's I don't know.

955
00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:19,080
Speaker 2: That's so when I talk about the Internet, I'm really

956
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 2: more talking about that because I do think there's a

957
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 2: lot of helpful stuff. Man, our podcasts won't be possible

958
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 2: out the internet and social media. Some of my best

959
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 2: friends I know in life I've met because of social

960
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 2: media in that, but a lot of that is also

961
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 2: just people that I met in that sweet spot of

962
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 2: the Internet. Yeah, it was like, oh, you can actually

963
00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:41,959
Speaker 2: like make a you are a.

964
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 5: Friend person, and you know you you not trying to

965
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 5: sell a brand or make a phone or I mean,

966
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 5: not make a funk but a seller brand, or you're

967
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:53,879
Speaker 5: not fake, you're not pretending you're not you know, it's

968
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,399
Speaker 5: not a U online and you in real life, which

969
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,360
Speaker 5: for some people are two teparate things. I've seen it before,

970
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:01,720
Speaker 5: So it was just one of these things where, yes,

971
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 5: some people that I have really really close relationships with, I.

972
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 3: Literally met them online.

973
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:10,399
Speaker 5: And I'm thankful for that time, and I feel kind

974
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,759
Speaker 5: of bad for people that can of came on the

975
00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:16,400
Speaker 5: Internet after that time because they've always known this internet's

976
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 5: chaos that it is now versus the before times.

977
00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 2: It used to I think at the time there was

978
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:26,440
Speaker 2: a time when it wasn't as hard to decipher what

979
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 2: was people trying to be supportive and what was people

980
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:30,960
Speaker 2: being like, I.

981
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 4: Don't know, like what it is now kind of a chaos.

982
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 2: She also said, I I mean Tommy d says for

983
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,600
Speaker 2: the couple that fell off the wall, I think the

984
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: guy landed on the wall. Lady, she cushioned his file,

985
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 2: basically crushing her and that's why he only got a

986
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:50,560
Speaker 2: broken leg. Okay, Humpty dumpty, motherfucking wallfall detective, and shit,

987
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:54,040
Speaker 2: this nigga wallfall cside Tommy, don't let.

988
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 3: Me find out fall cs.

989
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 2: Okay, I didn't know you. I didn't know you was

990
00:49:58,640 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 2: getting down like that.

991
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 4: Okay.

992
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 5: Uh, we thank you for your for your service.

993
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 4: Right.

994
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 2: He was like he showed up to the crime scene

995
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 2: and seeing the bodies and was like, it looks like

996
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:17,760
Speaker 2: this couple must have fell off.

997
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:30,400
Speaker 5: Uh.

998
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 2: Even E says, I got the best news of my

999
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 2: life last week when I found out they're building a

1000
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:36,040
Speaker 2: Krispy Kreme down the street from me.

1001
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 3: Ah ship.

1002
00:50:37,800 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 2: Now finally she's finally talking some sense, maybe just to

1003
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 2: get her to put down Arby's.

1004
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:44,920
Speaker 4: They are few and far between up I.

1005
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:47,200
Speaker 3: Said they might be rap side of arby Who those.

1006
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:48,440
Speaker 4: I doubt it.

1007
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 2: There are few and far between up here, and nearly

1008
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:54,040
Speaker 2: I nearly wept with joy. I'm originally from n C,

1009
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:56,879
Speaker 2: so krispy Kreme holds a special place in my heart.

1010
00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 2: When the hot now light is on, I will make

1011
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 2: a utuah on a busy intersection just to get a

1012
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 2: donut we had before.

1013
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 4: Call me a coon.

1014
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 2: But if chrispy Kreme put out a statement that said

1015
00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:08,920
Speaker 2: all lives matter, I'm not giving them up. I love

1016
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 2: chrispy Kreme as much as I love Arby's. You have

1017
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 2: me to the last thing.

1018
00:51:14,840 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 3: Child I would say all lives matter.

1019
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 5: I'm would say, oh, donuts matter, and I'm a crunch

1020
00:51:19,280 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 5: that limit field and keep it trucking.

1021
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 4: Yup.

1022
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 2: We got comments on YouTube on this one. The Home

1023
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 2: I Create, says hard Emoji. Naomi says, I agree that

1024
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 2: the change to the NIAAA drinking guidelines will probably not

1025
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:35,919
Speaker 2: have a large impact on how Americans drinking the short term,

1026
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 2: nor on its own. I think it will have a

1027
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:41,400
Speaker 2: ripple effect on the guidelines on alcohol used from other agencies,

1028
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 2: including the USDA and the CDC. Additionally, since alcohol causes

1029
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 2: cancer and humans including female breast, colorectile esopholk, geo alarics, liver,

1030
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:57,879
Speaker 2: or inpharens, agencies like the National Cancer Institute and organizations

1031
00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 2: like the American Cancer Society may also look at how

1032
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 2: they message about alcohol used in.

1033
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:03,720
Speaker 4: Relation to cancer prevention.

1034
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 2: This may also change how healthcare providers talk with patients

1035
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:09,239
Speaker 2: about their alcohol use. My hope is that people have

1036
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:13,839
Speaker 2: scientifically sound information from reliable sources, and then folks can

1037
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:15,760
Speaker 2: decide how much alcohol they want to consume.

1038
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:21,240
Speaker 4: Thank you, Naomi. That was a very nice like correction.

1039
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:23,719
Speaker 2: Addition to what we were saying, because you know, my

1040
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,880
Speaker 2: mind was just thinking, like I don't even know that

1041
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 2: people know or care what the guidelines are now, but

1042
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:31,360
Speaker 2: you're right when you put it in the context of

1043
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 2: the industry and the guidelines of medical professionals, it'll trickle

1044
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:37,320
Speaker 2: down in the public.

1045
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 4: Will people do it? I don't know. That's not really up.

1046
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:41,560
Speaker 4: That's up to every individual.

1047
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:45,879
Speaker 2: But you're right saying two times a week, if your

1048
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:48,799
Speaker 2: doctor says it, and then the CDC says something about it,

1049
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 2: and the cancer prevention people say something, it's gonna leaking

1050
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 2: to your psyche at some point.

1051
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:56,439
Speaker 5: Yes, yes, well you'll be like okay, and it may

1052
00:52:56,480 --> 00:52:59,400
Speaker 5: take a while, but eventually that will quote unquote be

1053
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 5: the stand that you know, like you say, it will

1054
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:05,000
Speaker 5: make doctors look at it differently and ask more questions,

1055
00:53:05,040 --> 00:53:07,680
Speaker 5: you know, before when they might have said okay, that's

1056
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 5: not a thing, that might be oh okay, and things

1057
00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:12,800
Speaker 5: might start raising flags now that might not have before.

1058
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:15,719
Speaker 2: I always i'ma be weare I'm be real, even though

1059
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 2: I'm not a doctor. And I know this sounds like

1060
00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 2: hindsight speaking, but anytime I did get like a doctor

1061
00:53:22,239 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 2: exam or check up or whatever, I did find it

1062
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 2: weird when they would talk about how much.

1063
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 4: Do you drink? And you know, I don't drink that much.

1064
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:38,160
Speaker 2: I really like not even once a week really, But

1065
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:42,839
Speaker 2: it's always funny when they're like, how have you been

1066
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 2: drinking a lot?

1067
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:44,879
Speaker 4: Do you how much?

1068
00:53:44,920 --> 00:53:47,440
Speaker 2: How often would you say you drink and like they

1069
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 2: would start with like this amount of a week, or

1070
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:51,800
Speaker 2: do you drink this much a day? And I always

1071
00:53:51,800 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 2: be thinking my mind like no, nigga, that's a lot,

1072
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 2: like you know, and like do you have a drink

1073
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 2: a day?

1074
00:53:57,080 --> 00:53:59,160
Speaker 4: I'm like a drink a day. God damn, how the

1075
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 4: fucking folks have a drinking that I can't keep up

1076
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:01,359
Speaker 4: with that?

1077
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:03,120
Speaker 3: But I asked because.

1078
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 4: I know, But I just always thought it sounded like

1079
00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:05,839
Speaker 4: a lot.

1080
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 2: And now to here the guideline was like, you can

1081
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 2: have two drinks a day or whatever. It's like, well, oh, no,

1082
00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:14,040
Speaker 2: wonder they were asking it starting it to a day.

1083
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 2: I think they started two a week. It's gonna be

1084
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:18,480
Speaker 2: a lot more people being like, God, damn, do I

1085
00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:19,480
Speaker 2: have a problem.

1086
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:23,719
Speaker 3: Right, Let me question myself. Let me start drinking some

1087
00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 3: more water.

1088
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Speaker 2: Last week, last last, last time we had to check up,

1089
00:54:27,680 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 2: you were saying it was it was fine to drink

1090
00:54:29,160 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 2: to a day. I know you're just gonna switch up

1091
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 2: on me. Well, yeah, I guess I got a drinking problem.

1092
00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 2: I didn't even know. My mom says, oh no. Jason

1093
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 2: Whitlock jumped out of the boards chest for these donuts. Now,

1094
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 2: I have seen everything. Everybody got a line to cross

1095
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 2: Fox News show up with some donuts. It might be

1096
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:49,880
Speaker 2: over for blackout tips.

1097
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:50,359
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1098
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:54,399
Speaker 2: Chrispy Kreme started supporting the show. You know, I might

1099
00:54:54,480 --> 00:54:58,520
Speaker 2: sound like these motherfuckers talking about Arby's chair yes, but

1100
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 2: it don't matter. Chrisp Cream given ninety nine percent of

1101
00:55:01,560 --> 00:55:04,840
Speaker 2: their donations to straight straight to Mitch McConnell.

1102
00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 4: Okay, I don't care.

1103
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 3: Don't matter. I might have be hot now here I come.

1104
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:15,439
Speaker 4: The pole was do you drink more than two drinks

1105
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:15,839
Speaker 4: a week?

1106
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:20,239
Speaker 2: Twenty seven percent of the audience say yes, seventy three

1107
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 2: percent say no. I'm shocked that it's that low. I

1108
00:55:23,840 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 2: really thought it would be higher for a drink because

1109
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:30,800
Speaker 2: to me too, the doctor wasn't even two drinks. I

1110
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:33,759
Speaker 2: think I may have told the doctor two drinks a

1111
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:38,200
Speaker 2: week just because I was like, I gotta say something,

1112
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:42,520
Speaker 2: because it's it's really like less than one. But let's

1113
00:55:42,560 --> 00:55:45,560
Speaker 2: say let's say two a week, and they would be

1114
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:48,120
Speaker 2: looking at me like cool, nothing wrong that damn that's it.

1115
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 2: And so I think to but this pole resulte up.

1116
00:55:52,040 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 2: I would have thought it would have been like at

1117
00:55:54,239 --> 00:55:58,760
Speaker 2: least fifty to fifty because like, how many anyway? Forty

1118
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 2: two percent on Spotify, which is a lot higher forty

1119
00:56:01,680 --> 00:56:04,480
Speaker 2: eight percent, no, forty two percent yes. Now they do

1120
00:56:04,560 --> 00:56:08,040
Speaker 2: have money, so the Spotify people probably can drink at work.

1121
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:09,600
Speaker 4: They got them mad man jobs.

1122
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:12,920
Speaker 5: Come on, they daked by top shelf so they can function.

1123
00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:14,240
Speaker 4: Well. The mad Man jobs.

1124
00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 2: You drink, you have a liquor in like one of

1125
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 2: the drawers on your desk. You have like a little

1126
00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:21,719
Speaker 2: caddy with some ie, you know, like they got those

1127
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 2: fancy those corporate.

1128
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 4: You know, corner office niggas. They were like, oh, I'm gonna.

1129
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:29,680
Speaker 3: Need some scott Ice mods in the in the mini freeze.

1130
00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:30,239
Speaker 3: I get it.

1131
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:32,840
Speaker 2: I'm gonna need some Scotch to talk about this meeting

1132
00:56:33,440 --> 00:56:34,280
Speaker 2: the Belk account.

1133
00:56:35,280 --> 00:56:36,840
Speaker 4: Oh no, not the Belk account.

1134
00:56:37,040 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 3: You know.

1135
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:41,799
Speaker 2: Our apologies to rich Negro was a Q and a

1136
00:56:42,360 --> 00:56:46,919
Speaker 2: sorry rich Negro. Raphael says, congratulations my niggas. Now let

1137
00:56:46,960 --> 00:56:49,080
Speaker 2: me have a box of donuts and my two drinks

1138
00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:52,640
Speaker 2: for the week. Jane says, is rich Negro? Is rich

1139
00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:56,719
Speaker 2: Negro related to Rich Nuga? Hashtag the rich Niugas north

1140
00:56:56,719 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 2: of Richmond. That's hilarious. James Katie says, Karen's drunk teacher

1141
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 2: impression is taking me down.

1142
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:06,719
Speaker 4: It was good, real good, all right?

1143
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:09,320
Speaker 3: Georgian as well, that's I imagine she was sounding.

1144
00:57:09,719 --> 00:57:12,439
Speaker 4: The last episode was twenty seven sixty three.

1145
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 2: Fantastic Frankie. Well, we have Fantastic Frankie. On the show

1146
00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 2: for the first time ever.

1147
00:57:18,080 --> 00:57:18,640
Speaker 6: Was fun.

1148
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 2: Everybody seem to love fantastic Frankie. We got great comments.

1149
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:26,160
Speaker 2: Ramsey d Jinger says, five stars. I've not caught a

1150
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:28,040
Speaker 2: live show in a minute. Thank you all for blurting

1151
00:57:28,080 --> 00:57:30,840
Speaker 2: out this episode. Y'all's a little worried that there were

1152
00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 2: gonna be some people that turned it off because they

1153
00:57:32,440 --> 00:57:35,640
Speaker 2: were like, what the fuck, because we weren't. At some point,

1154
00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 2: I just gave up on even explaining shit to people

1155
00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 2: that don't know. It was just like bringing up anime

1156
00:57:40,800 --> 00:57:43,920
Speaker 2: and Avatar and all kinds of shite. It was like,

1157
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 2: if you know, you know, and if not, you just know.

1158
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 2: We're having fun. Wan Ganghi says Frankie appears to be

1159
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:51,280
Speaker 2: the nicest New Yorker while engaging with people who are

1160
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 2: on some straight up funck shit.

1161
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 4: Couldn't be me. I wish all the patrons are perseverance.

1162
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 4: Well yeah, well was funny?

1163
00:57:57,320 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 2: Is like if you look at her videos, what she

1164
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:03,040
Speaker 2: does claud back of people, she reads them down. You know,

1165
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:05,440
Speaker 2: It's like it's always funny to me, and I don't

1166
00:58:05,480 --> 00:58:08,520
Speaker 2: think I don't mean read them down and like the

1167
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 2: overly aggressive, like I'm gonna fuck you up. I just

1168
00:58:11,560 --> 00:58:15,080
Speaker 2: mean she says very funny shit in a very succinct

1169
00:58:15,120 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 2: way that summarizes why she disagrees with them and kind

1170
00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:22,680
Speaker 2: of pokes a little fun at them. And honestly, I

1171
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 2: know people say she's nice for New Yorker and stuff.

1172
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:29,280
Speaker 4: I think it's just for the circles that she runs in.

1173
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 2: She can't be like cutting too low on people, because

1174
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 2: if you cut too low on folks, you lose the people.

1175
00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:43,000
Speaker 4: On your side because of the side drawn.

1176
00:58:43,480 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 2: So like, wow, it would be perfectly acceptable for some

1177
00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:50,280
Speaker 2: type of influencers to be like, I'm a pike, pick

1178
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 2: on this person for being fat or eggly or dark

1179
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:57,240
Speaker 2: skin or some you know, some other some other superficial

1180
00:58:57,400 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 2: and it's gonna catch straight. Yeah, and it just hurt

1181
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:02,400
Speaker 2: her some of her fans feelings, and they'd be like,

1182
00:59:02,440 --> 00:59:03,880
Speaker 2: I thought you were on the side against us.

1183
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:06,920
Speaker 4: I thought you didn't like fat phobia and this, that

1184
00:59:06,960 --> 00:59:07,320
Speaker 4: and the other.

1185
00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:09,640
Speaker 2: So I get why it's a little bit harder, but

1186
00:59:09,640 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 2: it's also why I respect what she does. And it's

1187
00:59:12,200 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 2: also why I don't really knock the I'll never knocked

1188
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 2: Michelle Obama's When they go low, we go hot thing,

1189
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:22,160
Speaker 2: because our side is responsible for going high, and you

1190
00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:25,560
Speaker 2: can try to do semantics and change up the words

1191
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:28,000
Speaker 2: to make it seem like it's different, like, no, I

1192
00:59:28,120 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 2: just go low differently. No, you don't, because we know

1193
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:32,960
Speaker 2: what low looks like in our society, and the people

1194
00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:38,080
Speaker 2: that go low are typically the fucking scumbags, and so

1195
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:40,479
Speaker 2: I like that people don't go low on our side,

1196
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:42,200
Speaker 2: and I wish we would stop trying to act like

1197
00:59:42,240 --> 00:59:46,920
Speaker 2: we do, because you know, if your low is some

1198
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:50,640
Speaker 2: perfectly acceptable thing that everyone's gonna like agree, then it's

1199
00:59:50,640 --> 00:59:54,120
Speaker 2: not low. Tommy D says, why is Zelda not been

1200
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 2: the main man? It has been established that one of

1201
00:59:57,280 --> 00:59:59,440
Speaker 2: her versions does in d have hands. In the N

1202
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:02,560
Speaker 2: sixty four Akarina, at time, she Zelda.

1203
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 4: Is disguised as the h She is disguised as the

1204
01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 4: character shape Sheikh, a damn near Ninja.

1205
01:00:09,640 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 2: Through the most of the game, Sheikh is she She

1206
01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:15,520
Speaker 2: She presents as a guy, saving links bacon and giving

1207
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 2: him advice, playing a harp, then disappearing like Batman.

1208
01:00:18,720 --> 01:00:21,760
Speaker 4: They could easily be This could easily be a Zelda

1209
01:00:21,800 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 4: solo adventure game.

1210
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, Karen was one hundred percent right on this,

1211
01:00:26,920 --> 01:00:31,200
Speaker 2: and someone sent me an obscure game that was only

1212
01:00:31,240 --> 01:00:33,520
Speaker 2: released in like the UK and something else from a

1213
01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 2: long time ago that was like, oh, this was a Zelda,

1214
01:00:36,400 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 2: a game that kind of starts Zelda. And I'm like,

1215
01:00:39,520 --> 01:00:42,760
Speaker 2: I have never heard of this game. I'm talking about

1216
01:00:42,960 --> 01:00:48,040
Speaker 2: them spending that same big budget, same promotion, But just

1217
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 2: why why is it called Legend of Zelda. We don't

1218
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 2: even know what her legend is.

1219
01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:57,080
Speaker 5: Nago right, it's been legend of Zelda for twenty five years.

1220
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:58,800
Speaker 4: Like the legend is that she exists? What the fuck

1221
01:00:58,880 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 4: is this? He says. I'm not. I'm a lot like

1222
01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:02,640
Speaker 4: care whenever.

1223
01:01:02,680 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 2: I embraced my nerdiness when I was older, and now

1224
01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 2: I'm a full fledged nerd who loves comics.

1225
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 4: Anime, and superhero movies.

1226
01:01:08,760 --> 01:01:11,919
Speaker 2: I think I've become pretty knowledgeable about anime, especially One Piece,

1227
01:01:11,920 --> 01:01:14,920
Speaker 2: which is my absolute favorite. Being a woman who enjoys

1228
01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 2: these things, I've been nerd checked a few times by men.

1229
01:01:17,760 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 2: I remember being at a cookout of my cousin bought

1230
01:01:20,280 --> 01:01:23,280
Speaker 2: her new boyfriend who had two sons. I got to

1231
01:01:23,320 --> 01:01:25,120
Speaker 2: talking to the boys, who were probably around ten to

1232
01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:27,480
Speaker 2: twelve out anime because I was wearing a Demon Slayer

1233
01:01:27,520 --> 01:01:30,120
Speaker 2: T shirt. The conversation turned to one piece and I

1234
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:31,280
Speaker 2: was explaining the scene of them and.

1235
01:01:31,280 --> 01:01:31,960
Speaker 4: Their dusty ass.

1236
01:01:32,000 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 2: Daddy came over and told me I didn't know what

1237
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,200
Speaker 2: I was talking about, and proceeded to quiz me and

1238
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 2: mind you, I've been caught up to the anime and

1239
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:41,800
Speaker 2: the manga, watching tons of one piece content on YouTube,

1240
01:01:41,800 --> 01:01:44,600
Speaker 2: so I know my stuff and knew far more about

1241
01:01:44,640 --> 01:01:47,160
Speaker 2: it than he clearly did. After I embarrassed him in

1242
01:01:47,200 --> 01:01:49,479
Speaker 2: front of his boys, he told them it was time

1243
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:51,600
Speaker 2: to go. I notice it's not the young boys of

1244
01:01:51,720 --> 01:01:54,080
Speaker 2: nerd checked women, but grown ass men. It's se pathetic.

1245
01:01:54,400 --> 01:01:56,560
Speaker 2: Really enjoyed this episode in the nerdy chat.

1246
01:01:57,640 --> 01:02:01,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I'm saying, and it's one of those things

1247
01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:05,040
Speaker 5: that could be very, very frustrating, and like for me,

1248
01:02:06,320 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 5: I know me, I'm not even gonna engage, Like I

1249
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 5: do not like that. I do not enjoy that, you know,

1250
01:02:13,480 --> 01:02:16,920
Speaker 5: Like if I come and ask you, that's completely different.

1251
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:19,680
Speaker 5: But me, you know, just kind of talking. And on

1252
01:02:19,720 --> 01:02:21,720
Speaker 5: top of that, I don't mind you coming and correcting

1253
01:02:21,760 --> 01:02:24,360
Speaker 5: and things like that either, But know what the fuck

1254
01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:27,360
Speaker 5: you're talking about. Just don't be saying shit and you

1255
01:02:27,520 --> 01:02:29,520
Speaker 5: just don't know what you're talking about, just because you

1256
01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:31,680
Speaker 5: think you have the authority, and then you fuck around

1257
01:02:31,720 --> 01:02:33,440
Speaker 5: and find out that I know more than you, and

1258
01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:37,480
Speaker 5: your ego and pride is so fucking deflated that all

1259
01:02:37,520 --> 01:02:39,480
Speaker 5: of a sudden, I gotta I gotta deal with you

1260
01:02:39,560 --> 01:02:42,960
Speaker 5: acting like a motherfucking food like I'm threatening your goddamn manhood,

1261
01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:46,040
Speaker 5: no bitch, And there's nothing wrong with not knowing. Nobody

1262
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 5: knows everything. Even the nerdiest of nerds don't know everything

1263
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:54,560
Speaker 5: and all of everything nerd the like, there's some things

1264
01:02:54,640 --> 01:02:58,160
Speaker 5: that you just don't know because you might've read certain comics,

1265
01:02:58,160 --> 01:03:00,680
Speaker 5: certain runs, you might have just followed certain and you know,

1266
01:03:00,760 --> 01:03:02,960
Speaker 5: writers or whatever the case may be. You know what

1267
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:04,760
Speaker 5: you know, and you don't know what you don't know,

1268
01:03:04,800 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 5: and that's okay. But I think you know when it

1269
01:03:07,640 --> 01:03:09,680
Speaker 5: comes to that. Also, I think true not trying to

1270
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 5: be funny. For a lot of men, my personal opinion,

1271
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 5: this nerding space was a safe space for them not

1272
01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:15,720
Speaker 5: to deal with women.

1273
01:03:16,080 --> 01:03:18,640
Speaker 3: They go, I can go to this place. I can,

1274
01:03:19,120 --> 01:03:20,959
Speaker 3: you know, be an asshole. I can be a jerk.

1275
01:03:20,960 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 5: I caul quote unquote beat my chest and be a

1276
01:03:23,000 --> 01:03:25,320
Speaker 5: man and talk to the boys and not have to

1277
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:27,680
Speaker 5: worry about quote unquote no girls allowed. And then the

1278
01:03:27,760 --> 01:03:31,040
Speaker 5: women will start coming in and uh, you know, they

1279
01:03:31,040 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 5: start fucking losing their minds and acting stupid, and you

1280
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 5: know what's wrong, and I we gotta do look at

1281
01:03:36,520 --> 01:03:39,320
Speaker 5: you know, deal with you crying and fucking whining when

1282
01:03:39,320 --> 01:03:41,440
Speaker 5: all of a sudden women start coming in. But like, ay,

1283
01:03:41,800 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 5: don't say crippled a bitch and then write a fucked

1284
01:03:44,280 --> 01:03:47,040
Speaker 5: up storyline about characters and shit like that, and let

1285
01:03:47,080 --> 01:03:49,920
Speaker 5: women have agency, let them starr and shit. You know,

1286
01:03:50,320 --> 01:03:53,120
Speaker 5: let's open it up to LGBTQ, you know, cause these

1287
01:03:53,160 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 5: things actually exist.

1288
01:03:54,400 --> 01:03:55,960
Speaker 3: That's not all a good boys club.

1289
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:58,160
Speaker 5: But you know, for a lot of men, they feel

1290
01:03:58,160 --> 01:04:00,720
Speaker 5: like you're quote unquote stripping up of their child That's

1291
01:04:00,720 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 5: where a lot of this dims from. They feel like,

1292
01:04:02,720 --> 01:04:05,400
Speaker 5: oh my god, my childhood is not my childhood. Well

1293
01:04:05,800 --> 01:04:07,959
Speaker 5: I'm sorry if for the first time in your life

1294
01:04:07,960 --> 01:04:10,960
Speaker 5: you had to deal with somebody that has an opinion

1295
01:04:11,000 --> 01:04:12,240
Speaker 5: outside of yours.

1296
01:04:12,840 --> 01:04:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, And that was one of the things I was

1297
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:18,800
Speaker 2: trying to convey on the show, is like, actually, it'll

1298
01:04:18,840 --> 01:04:22,480
Speaker 2: be real equality where women don't feel the need to

1299
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 2: be experts to know what they're talking about, because a

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01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:28,840
Speaker 2: lot of these dudes just don't know what they're talking about,

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Speaker 2: and it's very easily deconstructed. I don't even like having

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Speaker 2: conversations about nerds stuff with most people because I find

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01:04:37,720 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 2: that it's there's a level of like emotional, I don't know,

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01:04:44,720 --> 01:04:47,400
Speaker 2: there's just a level of like you don't really you

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01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 2: haven't really thought about it, and there's a lack of

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01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 2: self awareness. Like, for example, that was I tweeted about

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01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:55,600
Speaker 2: how I'm enjoying AHSCA, you know, but I also was

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01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:59,160
Speaker 2: huge into all the Star Wars cartoon stuff, right, so

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Speaker 2: them all, yeah, so this is just like a continuation

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01:05:02,200 --> 01:05:06,360
Speaker 2: for me. And this person was like, yeah, but I

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01:05:06,400 --> 01:05:09,400
Speaker 2: don't like I don't like how Rosario is playing Ahsoka.

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01:05:09,440 --> 01:05:12,120
Speaker 2: I think they should have cast someone else because her

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01:05:12,240 --> 01:05:15,760
Speaker 2: playfulness and humor is not the same, And it was like,

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01:05:16,680 --> 01:05:20,400
Speaker 2: but if you watched all the other stuff, you watch

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01:05:20,480 --> 01:05:25,000
Speaker 2: her life turn to complete shit. She wasn't playful at

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01:05:25,040 --> 01:05:28,880
Speaker 2: the end of Rebels. She wasn't joking anymore. There was like,

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01:05:29,480 --> 01:05:33,120
Speaker 2: and it's not that there's no playfulness. There's still playful

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01:05:33,200 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 2: fun stuff happening in the Soca the whole time. When

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01:05:36,360 --> 01:05:40,040
Speaker 2: she was letting Sabine shoot at that ship and was

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01:05:40,120 --> 01:05:42,560
Speaker 2: using it as training, and you could clearly see she

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01:05:42,680 --> 01:05:47,000
Speaker 2: was having fun with it as well. But it's like,

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01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:49,280
Speaker 2: you know, you can make the same argument of Luke

1323
01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 2: losing his shit by the time we see him in

1324
01:05:52,160 --> 01:05:54,240
Speaker 2: the All Black or the time that we see him

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01:05:54,280 --> 01:05:57,160
Speaker 2: as an old man who's quit like this is part

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01:05:57,240 --> 01:05:58,920
Speaker 2: of the part and part so of the thing is

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01:05:59,280 --> 01:06:01,760
Speaker 2: you get introduce used to these characters when they're young

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01:06:01,840 --> 01:06:04,720
Speaker 2: and have hope and shit, and by the end the

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01:06:04,800 --> 01:06:07,360
Speaker 2: Wars taken out of hope out Anakin is another example.

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01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:11,000
Speaker 2: And so it was to me, the only thing I

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01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:13,000
Speaker 2: can say, and I'm not gonna say it to this

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01:06:13,000 --> 01:06:15,840
Speaker 2: person because I don't want to be inflammatory or overstate

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01:06:15,880 --> 01:06:18,200
Speaker 2: what they're say or argue with them, because people like

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01:06:18,240 --> 01:06:20,640
Speaker 2: this like to argue sometimes. But the only thing I

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01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:24,440
Speaker 2: can think of is Okay, So woman's not smiling enough

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01:06:24,480 --> 01:06:24,640
Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 4: And so now you can't.

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01:06:26,480 --> 01:06:30,760
Speaker 2: Watch it anymore because you expected to see playfulness and

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01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 2: a character that they've written the play the entire time,

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01:06:35,160 --> 01:06:39,440
Speaker 2: not just this newest series, the entire time they've written

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01:06:39,440 --> 01:06:42,280
Speaker 2: the playfulness kind of out of this character is shit.

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01:06:42,320 --> 01:06:43,320
Speaker 4: Ain't a game no more.

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01:06:43,800 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 2: And so it's that kind of thing where I don't

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01:06:45,880 --> 01:06:48,000
Speaker 2: want to call you misogynistic or whatever.

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01:06:48,120 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 4: Now Frankie might.

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01:06:49,400 --> 01:06:52,880
Speaker 2: Do that because you know, that's her lane, that's her content.

1347
01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:54,640
Speaker 2: She might just cut through the bullshit and be like,

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01:06:54,960 --> 01:06:58,840
Speaker 2: it's probably misogyny blah blah blah. For me, because I've

1349
01:06:58,880 --> 01:07:02,280
Speaker 2: opted out of like debates, I just eject like, I

1350
01:07:02,280 --> 01:07:03,840
Speaker 2: don't even want to talk about this shit with you.

1351
01:07:04,320 --> 01:07:05,160
Speaker 4: You're not fun.

1352
01:07:05,560 --> 01:07:07,440
Speaker 2: And a lot of times, like I said to me,

1353
01:07:08,200 --> 01:07:11,120
Speaker 2: I don't want to I'm not gonna insult this person.

1354
01:07:11,400 --> 01:07:14,040
Speaker 2: But the only thing I was thinking was, oh, so

1355
01:07:14,160 --> 01:07:17,280
Speaker 2: you don't really know Star Wars. You don't really know

1356
01:07:17,320 --> 01:07:20,160
Speaker 2: what you're talking about, because what you're saying to me

1357
01:07:20,680 --> 01:07:23,720
Speaker 2: is right there in the script of She is not

1358
01:07:24,200 --> 01:07:25,800
Speaker 2: like that anymore because.

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01:07:26,640 --> 01:07:28,280
Speaker 4: She was fucking framed for a murder.

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01:07:28,320 --> 01:07:31,600
Speaker 2: She didn't commit her fucking mentor turning the dark fucking Vader,

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01:07:31,600 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 2: and she tried to fight them to the death.

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01:07:33,680 --> 01:07:35,920
Speaker 4: Uh, you know, she she's.

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Speaker 2: She's watched every all the Jedi be killed, She's watched

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01:07:39,520 --> 01:07:42,720
Speaker 2: she survived all this, and you're like, she ain't show

1365
01:07:42,800 --> 01:07:44,960
Speaker 2: up ready to play games and be funny and make

1366
01:07:45,040 --> 01:07:48,760
Speaker 2: jokes like that's insane to me that that's your critique

1367
01:07:48,760 --> 01:07:51,800
Speaker 2: of the series, or that you know, you just don't

1368
01:07:51,840 --> 01:07:55,760
Speaker 2: like Rossario Dawson or something, maybe because you know, I'm

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01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:58,000
Speaker 2: not gonna get into the further I'm already nerding out enough.

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Speaker 4: That was enough, all right, Yeah.

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Speaker 5: And I understand it and test be told, this is

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01:08:03,560 --> 01:08:05,680
Speaker 5: one of the main reasons why we started to nerd

1373
01:08:05,720 --> 01:08:09,000
Speaker 5: our premium show, like like the real reason, because it's

1374
01:08:09,000 --> 01:08:12,400
Speaker 5: like we like nerd shit, we actually love nerd shit,

1375
01:08:13,520 --> 01:08:15,680
Speaker 5: but we don't want to argue, and we don't want

1376
01:08:15,680 --> 01:08:19,160
Speaker 5: to debate, you know, like we don't always agree on things,

1377
01:08:19,160 --> 01:08:21,559
Speaker 5: and there has been times where somebody says something, somebody

1378
01:08:21,600 --> 01:08:23,479
Speaker 5: says something else, but you know what, at the end

1379
01:08:23,560 --> 01:08:26,400
Speaker 5: of it, it don't get to the name calling or

1380
01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:28,080
Speaker 5: no fuck you you're the you know type of thing

1381
01:08:28,120 --> 01:08:30,559
Speaker 5: where it just goes to the extreme type of thing,

1382
01:08:31,040 --> 01:08:33,880
Speaker 5: like like we have civil conversations about shit we don't

1383
01:08:33,920 --> 01:08:37,760
Speaker 5: agree with. Be it somebody actually knows more, you know,

1384
01:08:37,840 --> 01:08:41,360
Speaker 5: sometimes it's personal preference, you know, like you know, it's

1385
01:08:41,400 --> 01:08:43,600
Speaker 5: a running joke and Roger keeps telling me this and

1386
01:08:43,640 --> 01:08:46,320
Speaker 5: maybe one day I'll listen I don't like first person

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01:08:46,360 --> 01:08:49,400
Speaker 5: shooter because the shit my mind just clicks off on

1388
01:08:49,520 --> 01:08:52,760
Speaker 5: first person Shooter. I can't wrap my mind around it.

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01:08:52,760 --> 01:08:56,760
Speaker 5: It to me when you play first person shooter, a

1390
01:08:56,760 --> 01:08:58,880
Speaker 5: lot of times they have the settings it's actually reversed

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01:08:58,880 --> 01:09:00,720
Speaker 5: of what it is in real life. My head up,

1392
01:09:00,760 --> 01:09:02,360
Speaker 5: and I'm too lazy to go in and change the

1393
01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:04,800
Speaker 5: change the settings to whatever it needs to be to.

1394
01:09:04,760 --> 01:09:05,600
Speaker 3: Make it make sense to me.

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01:09:05,800 --> 01:09:08,120
Speaker 5: So I've always opted out the first person shoot this

1396
01:09:08,200 --> 01:09:10,120
Speaker 5: type of thing. But you know that's that's just me.

1397
01:09:10,479 --> 01:09:13,559
Speaker 5: And I know Roderick, you know, he which which he does.

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01:09:13,600 --> 01:09:15,360
Speaker 5: He's like, well, you know, blah blah blah blah blah.

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Speaker 5: And I might find one one day that I love,

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01:09:18,040 --> 01:09:19,439
Speaker 5: But you know, I don't sit that online.

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01:09:19,479 --> 01:09:21,679
Speaker 3: Could you say that? On Lie with Sudden People who.

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01:09:21,520 --> 01:09:23,360
Speaker 5: Love these games act like I act like it's a

1403
01:09:23,400 --> 01:09:27,880
Speaker 5: fucking personal attack against them, when it's just my personal preference.

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01:09:27,520 --> 01:09:30,360
Speaker 3: On that on that genre games.

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01:09:31,040 --> 01:09:36,320
Speaker 2: All right, Even so, that was Eve Wan GANGI says, uh,

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01:09:36,439 --> 01:09:39,000
Speaker 2: oh wait, yeah uh and I'm sorry that happened to

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01:09:39,040 --> 01:09:41,960
Speaker 2: ev And yeah, dudes do that shit constantly. One of

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01:09:41,960 --> 01:09:47,120
Speaker 2: my favorite podcasts episodes. Uh and when I really began

1409
01:09:47,160 --> 01:09:50,640
Speaker 2: to adore this person. Man, I'm drawing a blank on

1410
01:09:50,680 --> 01:09:55,040
Speaker 2: the pot name of the podcast, but uh, Genesia from

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01:09:55,479 --> 01:09:58,080
Speaker 2: t with Queen and j was a guest on this

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01:09:58,200 --> 01:10:02,200
Speaker 2: podcast with this like black nerd dude that represented all

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01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:08,120
Speaker 2: the ills of just toxic black nerd dudes like y'all

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01:10:08,200 --> 01:10:12,639
Speaker 2: know what I'm talking about, just just whack as fuck.

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01:10:12,880 --> 01:10:17,759
Speaker 2: And she just like dressed him down and really broke

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01:10:18,080 --> 01:10:21,880
Speaker 2: like they like. That was how I became a fan

1417
01:10:21,960 --> 01:10:24,080
Speaker 2: of Tea with Quinn and Jay. Was me listening to that,

1418
01:10:24,160 --> 01:10:26,000
Speaker 2: and I said, I don't know who this person is,

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01:10:26,040 --> 01:10:29,880
Speaker 2: but I want to hear more things that they have

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01:10:29,920 --> 01:10:35,880
Speaker 2: to say, because I think too often in those spaces

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01:10:35,920 --> 01:10:39,800
Speaker 2: women shrink or there's like the men get all emotional

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01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:45,560
Speaker 2: and loud and shit on purpose and condescending and condescending,

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01:10:46,040 --> 01:10:49,639
Speaker 2: and then you know, it either makes people doubt themselves

1424
01:10:49,680 --> 01:10:51,760
Speaker 2: that they just quiet down just for the peace of it.

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01:10:52,400 --> 01:10:56,000
Speaker 2: And I love that she interrogated him and confronted him,

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01:10:56,400 --> 01:10:59,080
Speaker 2: and I just was like, yeah, this is great. I

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01:10:59,160 --> 01:11:01,840
Speaker 2: really wish I knew because it wasn't on Tea with

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01:11:01,920 --> 01:11:05,040
Speaker 2: Queen and Jay at the time, it was on another podcast,

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01:11:06,880 --> 01:11:10,840
Speaker 2: and she just killed it she killed, and I was like,

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01:11:11,080 --> 01:11:14,240
Speaker 2: that's the energy that I want people to have in

1431
01:11:14,280 --> 01:11:18,400
Speaker 2: that space. Because these I cannot emphasize enough, these men

1432
01:11:18,479 --> 01:11:22,240
Speaker 2: don't know anything more than you. Many many, many, many

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01:11:22,400 --> 01:11:26,400
Speaker 2: many times they know way less. I can't tell you

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01:11:26,439 --> 01:11:29,040
Speaker 2: how many of my friends only know Star Wars from

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01:11:29,040 --> 01:11:32,559
Speaker 2: the movies and have these very authoritarian texts, because men

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01:11:32,640 --> 01:11:35,599
Speaker 2: have authoritarian texts as we've been in power to have

1437
01:11:35,680 --> 01:11:38,320
Speaker 2: lots of confidence, but they just don't know what the

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01:11:38,320 --> 01:11:40,720
Speaker 2: fuck they're talking about. And the second I started talking

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01:11:40,720 --> 01:11:44,479
Speaker 2: about anything that's not from Star Wars in nineteen seventy eight,

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01:11:45,040 --> 01:11:47,559
Speaker 2: they odds glaze over because they're not ready for that.

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01:11:47,840 --> 01:11:51,240
Speaker 2: You know, anytime you start bringing up background shit, they

1442
01:11:51,320 --> 01:11:54,280
Speaker 2: don't like it. They just want their same movie over

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01:11:54,320 --> 01:11:57,240
Speaker 2: and over again, and it's just tiring to me. Wan

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01:11:57,320 --> 01:11:59,320
Speaker 2: Ganghi says, happy anniversary, y'all.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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01:12:02,200 --> 01:12:03,280
Speaker 4: Comments on YouTube.

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01:12:03,360 --> 01:12:05,920
Speaker 2: J Fud says, I'd be curious what would happen if

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Speaker 2: a bear got into some fittingail. I tried to make

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01:12:08,840 --> 01:12:11,160
Speaker 2: chat GPT write a movie about a bear getting addicted

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Speaker 2: to fittingail, but apparently that's against the rules. Uh d

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01:12:17,479 --> 01:12:22,800
Speaker 2: hat Troy says this was fun. Thank you uhuning me

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01:12:23,600 --> 01:12:30,639
Speaker 2: d TV, oh Una like Uno but uned media TV.

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01:12:30,880 --> 01:12:33,080
Speaker 2: There you go, says I'm from NYC. This is a

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01:12:33,160 --> 01:12:34,679
Speaker 2: nice as I know how to put it. It's real,

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01:12:35,000 --> 01:12:35,639
Speaker 2: and I don't.

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01:12:35,760 --> 01:12:36,080
Speaker 4: I don't.

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01:12:36,240 --> 01:12:40,719
Speaker 2: I do not want to swing my clip. That sounds

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01:12:40,760 --> 01:12:42,200
Speaker 2: like it could be painful.

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Speaker 5: Good show, guys, Thank you, thank you very very much.

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Speaker 5: And while we'll still quote unquote talking about that, the

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01:12:51,720 --> 01:12:56,200
Speaker 5: nerd and stuff, you know, I uh, people talking about

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01:12:56,280 --> 01:12:59,120
Speaker 5: arguing that things like that and debating about nerd and stuff,

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01:12:59,320 --> 01:13:02,519
Speaker 5: And the biggest reason why I don't want to go

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01:13:02,640 --> 01:13:06,439
Speaker 5: down those rabbit holes, you know, because it's one of

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01:13:06,439 --> 01:13:10,639
Speaker 5: those things to where I will eventually get mad, particularly

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01:13:10,640 --> 01:13:12,439
Speaker 5: if you don't know what you're talking about and you're

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01:13:12,439 --> 01:13:15,280
Speaker 5: wasting my time and you're checking me just to swing

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01:13:15,320 --> 01:13:17,120
Speaker 5: your dick all of a sudden, I'm gonna get very mad.

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01:13:17,160 --> 01:13:19,160
Speaker 5: I'm gonna get very upset, and I might get nasty

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01:13:19,200 --> 01:13:21,800
Speaker 5: with you. So before we go there, let's just disengage

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01:13:21,800 --> 01:13:25,840
Speaker 5: and disembark from this old conversation because I will get

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01:13:25,880 --> 01:13:28,120
Speaker 5: mad like I've had to happen before where I've been,

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01:13:28,240 --> 01:13:31,200
Speaker 5: you know, talking and saying things. But I just I

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01:13:31,200 --> 01:13:32,720
Speaker 5: I know I'm gonna talk of y'all. Y'all know I'm

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01:13:32,720 --> 01:13:34,479
Speaker 5: gonna talk of shit. Y'all listen to me talk five

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01:13:34,560 --> 01:13:35,080
Speaker 5: days a week.

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01:13:35,880 --> 01:13:38,280
Speaker 3: But one thing about me being a talker.

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01:13:38,400 --> 01:13:41,040
Speaker 5: Over the years, I have learned that your words are

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01:13:41,080 --> 01:13:44,519
Speaker 5: precious and don't waste them. So you know, I've been

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01:13:44,560 --> 01:13:47,240
Speaker 5: in conversations and on podcasts where I've said things and

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01:13:47,600 --> 01:13:52,680
Speaker 5: been very thoughtful about them and been very articulate and

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01:13:52,720 --> 01:13:57,760
Speaker 5: pick my words carefully to express myself so that what

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01:13:58,080 --> 01:14:03,640
Speaker 5: I have said being said, anybody logical thinking would analyze it.

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01:14:03,680 --> 01:14:06,120
Speaker 5: And you know, it's been times where I've had men

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01:14:06,640 --> 01:14:10,200
Speaker 5: YadA YadA, YadA past that and just you know, glades

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01:14:10,240 --> 01:14:12,000
Speaker 5: past it, and I had to stop them and I

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01:14:12,040 --> 01:14:14,000
Speaker 5: was like, oh, so you just forgot everything.

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01:14:14,080 --> 01:14:16,080
Speaker 3: I just said, Okay, I'm not talking to you anymore.

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01:14:16,120 --> 01:14:16,760
Speaker 3: Why are we're here?

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01:14:17,439 --> 01:14:19,679
Speaker 5: Like like, it just made me just get really ugly,

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01:14:19,720 --> 01:14:23,600
Speaker 5: and they had to admit that they purposely ignored me.

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01:14:23,720 --> 01:14:27,280
Speaker 5: I made them admit that because you are wasting my time.

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01:14:28,200 --> 01:14:30,320
Speaker 4: All right, Uh, let's.

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01:14:31,840 --> 01:14:35,600
Speaker 2: Worry all the polls, the polls, all right? Who you

1495
01:14:35,640 --> 01:14:38,280
Speaker 2: got marvel to DC? Okay, this is the reason I

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01:14:38,280 --> 01:14:41,120
Speaker 2: made this post because this is Frankie's big thing. She's

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01:14:41,479 --> 01:14:46,280
Speaker 2: a very deep prop pro DC person and she's fighting

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01:14:46,280 --> 01:14:48,920
Speaker 2: a good fight over there. But I feel like she's

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01:14:49,000 --> 01:14:52,080
Speaker 2: losing a good fight and she's she's pick Let's just say,

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Speaker 2: if it was a stock market, she's investing at the

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01:14:54,520 --> 01:14:55,040
Speaker 2: best time.

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01:14:55,160 --> 01:14:56,280
Speaker 4: Okay, it can only go up.

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01:14:57,640 --> 01:15:03,479
Speaker 2: Marvel ninety six percent of audience, four percent DC and

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01:15:03,880 --> 01:15:09,439
Speaker 2: on Spotify eighty eight percent twelve So most vast majority

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01:15:09,439 --> 01:15:12,760
Speaker 2: of people say Marvel better than DC. I think it's

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01:15:12,760 --> 01:15:17,280
Speaker 2: funny because you can see people trying to find a

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01:15:17,320 --> 01:15:21,680
Speaker 2: way to needle the Marvel fan thing, and to me

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01:15:21,760 --> 01:15:25,519
Speaker 2: they just sound so pressed the like because every time

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Speaker 2: you try to, like convince me the Flash is a

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01:15:27,800 --> 01:15:31,960
Speaker 2: good movie, but guard is it a Galaxy three? Or

1511
01:15:32,000 --> 01:15:34,880
Speaker 2: what a thrower? Love and Thunder whatever are terrible. I

1512
01:15:35,000 --> 01:15:37,840
Speaker 2: just can't help but be like, you're fucking insane. It's

1513
01:15:37,920 --> 01:15:41,320
Speaker 2: either both are terrible or one is terrible. There's no

1514
01:15:41,439 --> 01:15:46,040
Speaker 2: world where DC these DC movies are better. You just

1515
01:15:46,120 --> 01:15:49,360
Speaker 2: have a terrible taste in a lower bar that and

1516
01:15:49,640 --> 01:15:51,800
Speaker 2: that's I think that's the thing people don't want to admit,

1517
01:15:52,040 --> 01:15:55,439
Speaker 2: is I am great in any movie that's not Marvel.

1518
01:15:55,600 --> 01:15:58,479
Speaker 4: Just on a lower bar. Y'all thought Venom was good

1519
01:15:58,560 --> 01:16:01,840
Speaker 4: for real? No you didn't. You thought Venom was better

1520
01:16:01,840 --> 01:16:03,000
Speaker 4: than you thought it would be.

1521
01:16:03,640 --> 01:16:05,880
Speaker 2: And then you start saying shit like this is what

1522
01:16:05,920 --> 01:16:09,120
Speaker 2: Marvel need to do, knowing good, damn well that movie

1523
01:16:09,120 --> 01:16:11,400
Speaker 2: you couldn't see shitting that third act with that fight

1524
01:16:11,439 --> 01:16:14,080
Speaker 2: in the dark, and that the plot in the writing

1525
01:16:14,200 --> 01:16:14,759
Speaker 2: was terrible.

1526
01:16:14,800 --> 01:16:15,360
Speaker 4: You know that.

1527
01:16:15,600 --> 01:16:18,760
Speaker 2: But okay, cool, you gotta be different. Everybody gotta have

1528
01:16:18,840 --> 01:16:21,479
Speaker 2: a contrary opinion. And I think that's how you know

1529
01:16:21,560 --> 01:16:25,480
Speaker 2: Marvel's on top is because people are forming these contrary

1530
01:16:25,479 --> 01:16:28,280
Speaker 2: opinions because they don't think Marvel's gonna not be on top,

1531
01:16:28,360 --> 01:16:28,760
Speaker 2: so they.

1532
01:16:28,800 --> 01:16:31,880
Speaker 4: Like, we can talk shit about this one. It'll be fine.

1533
01:16:32,040 --> 01:16:35,320
Speaker 3: Yes, And and as somebody who.

1534
01:16:37,360 --> 01:16:41,960
Speaker 5: Most of my Marvel and DC consumption for me came

1535
01:16:42,000 --> 01:16:45,840
Speaker 5: through movies. It came through cartoon series, it came through

1536
01:16:45,920 --> 01:16:50,200
Speaker 5: you know, animation, It came through TV shows I didn't start,

1537
01:16:50,240 --> 01:16:53,400
Speaker 5: and some of them I have never read. Some people's

1538
01:16:53,520 --> 01:16:56,360
Speaker 5: whole runs, like everything I know about them, but everything

1539
01:16:56,400 --> 01:17:00,479
Speaker 5: I consumed about them has been strictly from to see

1540
01:17:00,560 --> 01:17:02,240
Speaker 5: W shows or the TVs and.

1541
01:17:02,160 --> 01:17:02,640
Speaker 3: Things like that.

1542
01:17:02,680 --> 01:17:05,680
Speaker 5: So I know for a fact that my knowledge on

1543
01:17:05,720 --> 01:17:09,680
Speaker 5: certain characters are very limited, and so for me, you know,

1544
01:17:09,760 --> 01:17:13,000
Speaker 5: when it comes to this debate, I won't bok. But

1545
01:17:13,080 --> 01:17:15,080
Speaker 5: like this, I am the people that everybody get mad

1546
01:17:15,080 --> 01:17:17,559
Speaker 5: at because I was like, can't everybody win? You know,

1547
01:17:17,680 --> 01:17:19,800
Speaker 5: I'm like, I just want shit to be good. Like

1548
01:17:20,080 --> 01:17:21,920
Speaker 5: I don't care who does it and how it gets

1549
01:17:21,920 --> 01:17:23,400
Speaker 5: out there. I just want them to be good.

1550
01:17:24,200 --> 01:17:26,280
Speaker 2: The Q and A give us a real Zelder game.

1551
01:17:26,920 --> 01:17:29,000
Speaker 2: Yes please, I feel says I'm not a gamer. I

1552
01:17:29,080 --> 01:17:31,920
Speaker 2: support anything that Karen wants. As for comic book for TIG,

1553
01:17:32,000 --> 01:17:34,880
Speaker 2: the day I see an article before that, such an

1554
01:17:34,960 --> 01:17:36,240
Speaker 2: article before Batman.

1555
01:17:36,000 --> 01:17:39,800
Speaker 3: Movie drops, I know that serious. I agree, right, I agree.

1556
01:17:39,479 --> 01:17:41,880
Speaker 2: Because like you didn't see any of that after the

1557
01:17:41,960 --> 01:17:45,880
Speaker 2: latest the Batman movie that dropped like earlier this year

1558
01:17:46,240 --> 01:17:47,439
Speaker 2: or was it last year?

1559
01:17:48,439 --> 01:17:49,320
Speaker 4: Must have been last year?

1560
01:17:49,400 --> 01:17:49,519
Speaker 5: Right?

1561
01:17:49,720 --> 01:17:53,360
Speaker 4: Was the Batman last year? The one with the new Dude?

1562
01:17:54,120 --> 01:17:55,679
Speaker 3: Yeah it was last year year before?

1563
01:17:55,720 --> 01:17:55,880
Speaker 6: Yeah?

1564
01:17:56,200 --> 01:17:59,320
Speaker 2: Okay, So so anyway, and where was all the comic

1565
01:17:59,320 --> 01:18:01,760
Speaker 2: book for teg there? Because that movie didn't make a

1566
01:18:01,760 --> 01:18:04,639
Speaker 2: billion dollars, No it did not. But Robert Pattinson is Batman.

1567
01:18:05,000 --> 01:18:07,240
Speaker 3: It's the forty fifth time that I told this story.

1568
01:18:07,520 --> 01:18:10,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, so that's interesting. Good, right, That's why I'm like that.

1569
01:18:10,640 --> 01:18:12,200
Speaker 5: I don't want hear no goddamn fatigued.

1570
01:18:12,880 --> 01:18:15,920
Speaker 4: Cannicoll says, but watch when the Marvels come out.

1571
01:18:16,080 --> 01:18:19,120
Speaker 3: Is it fatigue time? It's oh right, kiss my ass,

1572
01:18:19,360 --> 01:18:19,559
Speaker 3: you know.

1573
01:18:19,720 --> 01:18:22,920
Speaker 2: Oh it's a black person starring this, this new Captain America.

1574
01:18:22,960 --> 01:18:23,800
Speaker 4: It's fatigue time.

1575
01:18:23,840 --> 01:18:27,439
Speaker 2: It's always fatigued time when it's our shit, right, Cannicoll says, yes,

1576
01:18:27,520 --> 01:18:30,160
Speaker 2: Link can save the Kingdom Nord Zelda with thou Zelda's

1577
01:18:30,200 --> 01:18:33,120
Speaker 2: help in every iteration of the game.

1578
01:18:33,479 --> 01:18:34,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, why is that?

1579
01:18:35,400 --> 01:18:35,639
Speaker 3: Clear?

1580
01:18:35,720 --> 01:18:38,120
Speaker 2: Lane says it's crazy how Mario can be Mario, Sonic

1581
01:18:38,120 --> 01:18:40,040
Speaker 2: could be Zonda, but Zelda can't be Zelda.

1582
01:18:40,720 --> 01:18:43,679
Speaker 5: Right, it's Kyle Zelder. But we always playing Link. Tell

1583
01:18:43,720 --> 01:18:44,800
Speaker 5: me how that makes sense?

1584
01:18:45,120 --> 01:18:48,120
Speaker 2: Aaron says, not, y'all giving us an unofficial Nerd off episode,

1585
01:18:48,240 --> 01:18:52,040
Speaker 2: loved it. Chris says, I haven't played Nintendo in years,

1586
01:18:52,040 --> 01:18:54,080
Speaker 2: but I'm getting at twenty twenty four, getting a twenty

1587
01:18:54,120 --> 01:18:57,040
Speaker 2: twenty four switch when it comes out.

1588
01:18:56,439 --> 01:18:58,719
Speaker 5: Hey, they make it right, they might get my money again,

1589
01:18:58,800 --> 01:19:00,640
Speaker 5: depend on what it looked like, as you know, as

1590
01:19:00,720 --> 01:19:02,400
Speaker 5: much shit as I talk I love.

1591
01:19:02,320 --> 01:19:07,280
Speaker 2: It, Terry said. Carrie Says talked about this on Twitter.

1592
01:19:07,280 --> 01:19:09,280
Speaker 2: But the storyline with Zelda does the questions that the

1593
01:19:09,320 --> 01:19:10,280
Speaker 2: link could be flames.

1594
01:19:10,360 --> 01:19:14,639
Speaker 3: I agree, Yes, I would love to play that. Oh,

1595
01:19:14,760 --> 01:19:17,560
Speaker 3: Like I said, I have so many ideas.

1596
01:19:17,960 --> 01:19:20,840
Speaker 5: Like I said, you go back and like if you like, okay,

1597
01:19:21,120 --> 01:19:23,040
Speaker 5: you know, we don't want to just be Zelda. Let

1598
01:19:23,120 --> 01:19:24,800
Speaker 5: us go back and forth. Let us be able to

1599
01:19:25,360 --> 01:19:28,519
Speaker 5: pick one character play all the way through. Pick Zelda,

1600
01:19:28,840 --> 01:19:31,599
Speaker 5: pick Link, play all the way through. Like you could

1601
01:19:31,720 --> 01:19:34,760
Speaker 5: just have so many different things. Right, it's called the

1602
01:19:34,800 --> 01:19:37,639
Speaker 5: legend of Zelda. We still don't know what the legend

1603
01:19:37,720 --> 01:19:38,880
Speaker 5: is at the forty five years.

1604
01:19:38,960 --> 01:19:41,640
Speaker 2: That make it make sense, right? What makes her legendary?

1605
01:19:41,640 --> 01:19:43,440
Speaker 2: Other is the legend that she exists?

1606
01:19:43,760 --> 01:19:45,599
Speaker 3: Is a legend that Link always trying to get her.

1607
01:19:45,600 --> 01:19:48,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, Yeah, I don't even Yeah, I don't understand.

1608
01:19:48,960 --> 01:19:50,720
Speaker 2: You know, she don't get to do nothing but be

1609
01:19:50,960 --> 01:19:52,760
Speaker 2: the princes in the castle for the most part.

1610
01:19:52,960 --> 01:19:53,760
Speaker 3: That's it.

1611
01:19:53,760 --> 01:19:55,720
Speaker 2: It just seemed like we should get more than that,

1612
01:19:57,080 --> 01:20:04,000
Speaker 2: so I would like to see that. But uh yeah,

1613
01:20:05,000 --> 01:20:08,360
Speaker 2: that's it for that segment. Thank you everybody that wrote

1614
01:20:08,400 --> 01:20:14,640
Speaker 2: in and had something to say. We appreciate y'all. Uh,

1615
01:20:14,760 --> 01:20:16,880
Speaker 2: let's get to of course our knew a segment doing

1616
01:20:16,880 --> 01:20:18,200
Speaker 2: it for the ground.

1617
01:20:20,760 --> 01:20:27,639
Speaker 8: Good, the grammar good, the grandma good, the grandma.

1618
01:20:33,360 --> 01:20:36,160
Speaker 2: All right, let's talk about it, doing it for the

1619
01:20:36,200 --> 01:20:38,840
Speaker 2: gram The question this week was a.

1620
01:20:40,479 --> 01:20:41,400
Speaker 4: It was a picture.

1621
01:20:41,760 --> 01:20:44,880
Speaker 2: I just was going through my old pictures and I

1622
01:20:44,920 --> 01:20:48,680
Speaker 2: saw I had a picture of Derek Jackson with his

1623
01:20:49,240 --> 01:20:54,080
Speaker 2: uh at the time wife when she had the black Bereton. Yes,

1624
01:20:54,479 --> 01:20:57,400
Speaker 2: and he was explaining his infidelity and all this shit,

1625
01:20:58,120 --> 01:21:00,360
Speaker 2: and she, of course, they ended up getting voice.

1626
01:21:00,400 --> 01:21:04,200
Speaker 4: I believe it's strange. Yes, And I said, when did

1627
01:21:04,280 --> 01:21:06,040
Speaker 4: you know it was time to move on from your ex?

1628
01:21:06,160 --> 01:21:08,639
Speaker 4: I just thought it was funny. And so let's see

1629
01:21:08,640 --> 01:21:09,240
Speaker 4: what y'all had.

1630
01:21:09,120 --> 01:21:16,120
Speaker 2: To say, all right, Ariel says when we moved in together,

1631
01:21:16,720 --> 01:21:19,400
Speaker 2: and he claimed I was distracting him from his true calling.

1632
01:21:19,880 --> 01:21:21,639
Speaker 2: He still ain't working on said calling.

1633
01:21:24,640 --> 01:21:26,519
Speaker 4: Well, he getting around to it. You was messing up

1634
01:21:26,520 --> 01:21:27,400
Speaker 4: his vibe.

1635
01:21:27,479 --> 01:21:29,439
Speaker 3: That was a good choice, good choice to leave.

1636
01:21:29,560 --> 01:21:31,840
Speaker 2: He was trying to work and get his chokras a line,

1637
01:21:31,840 --> 01:21:33,400
Speaker 2: and you were all up in the house messing up

1638
01:21:33,439 --> 01:21:34,800
Speaker 2: the farm chois I'll see, I'll see.

1639
01:21:35,920 --> 01:21:36,040
Speaker 6: Uh.

1640
01:21:36,800 --> 01:21:38,639
Speaker 4: While I was deployed to the Middle East.

1641
01:21:38,680 --> 01:21:41,719
Speaker 2: My ex complained about there not being an Amazon delivery

1642
01:21:41,760 --> 01:21:44,439
Speaker 2: of toilet paper and they were running out. I said,

1643
01:21:44,439 --> 01:21:46,680
Speaker 2: go outside to the store two minutes away and get some.

1644
01:21:47,240 --> 01:21:49,760
Speaker 2: I moved out shortly after coming back from deployment.

1645
01:21:50,360 --> 01:21:53,760
Speaker 4: Right, go to the store. Right, why can't he don't

1646
01:21:53,800 --> 01:21:56,920
Speaker 4: got Amazon account? What the hell? I think?

1647
01:21:56,960 --> 01:21:59,120
Speaker 2: Pretty smart, says when I realized he felt like he

1648
01:21:59,200 --> 01:22:02,479
Speaker 2: deserved me and I deserved him when he got around to.

1649
01:22:02,479 --> 01:22:05,759
Speaker 3: It, M chat, I don't want to be no after thout.

1650
01:22:05,880 --> 01:22:09,000
Speaker 2: Come on, Falcus Stevens said, when I stopped caring about

1651
01:22:09,360 --> 01:22:12,160
Speaker 2: wanting to work on the relationship, That's definitely a sign,

1652
01:22:13,040 --> 01:22:15,680
Speaker 2: probably the only biggest sign, right right, you was like,

1653
01:22:15,760 --> 01:22:19,720
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm out O Joseph said. When she

1654
01:22:20,000 --> 01:22:22,720
Speaker 2: said she would meet up with me later in the

1655
01:22:22,760 --> 01:22:25,599
Speaker 2: week to discuss our relationship, that day came, she sent

1656
01:22:25,640 --> 01:22:27,320
Speaker 2: me a text saying her grandfather, who was in the

1657
01:22:27,320 --> 01:22:30,280
Speaker 2: hospital that passed away earlier that day, sherman Condolas is

1658
01:22:30,320 --> 01:22:32,200
Speaker 2: a course. Later that night, my friend invited me to

1659
01:22:32,240 --> 01:22:37,400
Speaker 2: soak her feet lo and behold while a cold check.

1660
01:22:37,479 --> 01:22:39,559
Speaker 2: While at coach check, I see her, her friend and

1661
01:22:39,640 --> 01:22:42,479
Speaker 2: a man she was holding his hands safe to say

1662
01:22:42,479 --> 01:22:43,519
Speaker 2: it was time to move on.

1663
01:22:44,360 --> 01:22:50,000
Speaker 5: Ooh yeah, yes, it's time to move on. And uh,

1664
01:22:50,320 --> 01:22:52,080
Speaker 5: they did not think they were gonna see you there

1665
01:22:52,600 --> 01:22:55,360
Speaker 5: now not you saw her walking in the rain. Come on,

1666
01:22:55,800 --> 01:22:58,000
Speaker 5: hold her hands, and you'll never be the same.

1667
01:22:59,240 --> 01:23:00,840
Speaker 2: You should have went to the check and got her

1668
01:23:00,880 --> 01:23:02,960
Speaker 2: coat and been like, don't touch that coat.

1669
01:23:02,360 --> 01:23:06,080
Speaker 3: About already it has.

1670
01:23:05,479 --> 01:23:05,760
Speaker 6: And I.

1671
01:23:07,600 --> 01:23:11,040
Speaker 4: Say, when he loved the church more than me.

1672
01:23:11,800 --> 01:23:14,920
Speaker 2: Wow, some people would say that's a good man, But

1673
01:23:15,160 --> 01:23:19,200
Speaker 2: I think anytime you love something more than me, it's

1674
01:23:19,240 --> 01:23:20,920
Speaker 2: time you have it.

1675
01:23:21,479 --> 01:23:23,960
Speaker 4: Unless it's like our kids or some shit. I don't know.

1676
01:23:24,880 --> 01:23:26,519
Speaker 2: You're not supposed to be loving stuff more than me.

1677
01:23:26,600 --> 01:23:28,120
Speaker 2: That's not the deal.

1678
01:23:27,439 --> 01:23:30,439
Speaker 3: That the part of the package.

1679
01:23:30,479 --> 01:23:32,840
Speaker 4: That what I saw there. There's never been a wedding

1680
01:23:32,920 --> 01:23:36,400
Speaker 4: vow with that party. I love you almost as.

1681
01:23:36,360 --> 01:23:38,720
Speaker 2: Much as the church, and I promised to cherish you

1682
01:23:39,000 --> 01:23:42,559
Speaker 2: except unless the church. You know, but then until church

1683
01:23:42,600 --> 01:23:46,000
Speaker 2: death or church doorge park, what comes first?

1684
01:23:46,200 --> 01:23:50,280
Speaker 4: DJ Job says, when we got divorced. Okay, this feels late.

1685
01:23:50,080 --> 01:23:53,280
Speaker 2: In the game, but I mean, I guess it's definitely

1686
01:23:53,320 --> 01:23:56,200
Speaker 2: it definitely is a landmark moment to be like, it's

1687
01:23:56,200 --> 01:23:58,280
Speaker 2: time to move on, but it feels like it's a

1688
01:23:58,360 --> 01:24:05,400
Speaker 2: lot of steps before the fort. Probably Harry's gun says

1689
01:24:05,560 --> 01:24:09,759
Speaker 2: the fucking picture, because Dereck Jackson, I'm dying the skinny

1690
01:24:09,920 --> 01:24:12,280
Speaker 2: trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.

1691
01:24:12,720 --> 01:24:16,960
Speaker 2: I found out my Polly Obama lied about the massive

1692
01:24:16,960 --> 01:24:21,040
Speaker 2: degree and laser engineering to me, the world, and his employer.

1693
01:24:21,240 --> 01:24:24,840
Speaker 2: But this nigga not only building extremely large and intricate machinery,

1694
01:24:24,880 --> 01:24:27,920
Speaker 2: but creating manuals as well as a senior leadership role

1695
01:24:28,000 --> 01:24:30,600
Speaker 2: confirmed in narcissty tendency with my therapist, and I was

1696
01:24:30,640 --> 01:24:33,719
Speaker 2: out literally a day later. My wife got the courage

1697
01:24:33,760 --> 01:24:37,320
Speaker 2: to talk to me magically. Polly didn't make a lick

1698
01:24:37,400 --> 01:24:39,200
Speaker 2: of sense at all of a sudden.

1699
01:24:39,080 --> 01:24:42,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll tell you what. I'll tell you what.

1700
01:24:42,520 --> 01:24:42,640
Speaker 8: Uh.

1701
01:24:43,800 --> 01:24:47,040
Speaker 2: It really only like, here's my only issue, because I'm

1702
01:24:47,320 --> 01:24:49,400
Speaker 2: I don't have any issues with other people's decisions to

1703
01:24:49,439 --> 01:24:52,800
Speaker 2: be polly open whatever. But I think the reason I

1704
01:24:52,840 --> 01:24:56,960
Speaker 2: can't see it for myself is mostly that I.

1705
01:24:56,920 --> 01:24:58,920
Speaker 4: Don't really like people.

1706
01:24:58,960 --> 01:25:04,000
Speaker 2: People are fucking wold, and they're variables, and it's hard

1707
01:25:04,080 --> 01:25:07,120
Speaker 2: enough for two variables to make it work. Shy, and

1708
01:25:07,720 --> 01:25:09,479
Speaker 2: I'm not, like I said, this is just for me,

1709
01:25:09,920 --> 01:25:12,960
Speaker 2: just my personal preface, right, but I think I would

1710
01:25:13,520 --> 01:25:17,360
Speaker 2: be like unfairly so one motherfucking fuck it up. I'm like,

1711
01:25:17,400 --> 01:25:19,960
Speaker 2: and that was we gave that a try. That's enough

1712
01:25:20,600 --> 01:25:23,479
Speaker 2: you right, Okay, So this nigga's a whole liar, all right?

1713
01:25:23,600 --> 01:25:24,559
Speaker 4: Cool? Uh?

1714
01:25:24,680 --> 01:25:27,479
Speaker 2: Queerness had been around all around me, but never felt

1715
01:25:27,479 --> 01:25:30,439
Speaker 2: available to me. I very quickly learned I love women's

1716
01:25:30,720 --> 01:25:33,559
Speaker 2: and suddenly men just felt like very difficult pay pigs

1717
01:25:33,560 --> 01:25:37,599
Speaker 2: that I could avoid altogether. Never look back, never looked back,

1718
01:25:37,840 --> 01:25:38,800
Speaker 2: never lost.

1719
01:25:38,680 --> 01:25:42,760
Speaker 3: That's up to say, never lost. Great choice, uh.

1720
01:25:43,200 --> 01:25:44,880
Speaker 4: And then a bunch of emotions. You gotta be on

1721
01:25:44,920 --> 01:25:47,679
Speaker 4: this on the on the Instagram to see these. It's

1722
01:25:47,720 --> 01:25:51,839
Speaker 4: like two shade em like shade like sun wearing shade

1723
01:25:51,920 --> 01:25:52,560
Speaker 4: or something.

1724
01:25:52,400 --> 01:25:57,960
Speaker 2: And rainbow motion hard emoji black hands up. Shanda says.

1725
01:25:58,000 --> 01:25:59,679
Speaker 2: When he made it very clear I was a backup

1726
01:26:00,200 --> 01:26:03,280
Speaker 2: for him only he only reached out for emotional support

1727
01:26:03,320 --> 01:26:06,680
Speaker 2: but never provided it. Hate that chat you don't get

1728
01:26:06,680 --> 01:26:08,920
Speaker 2: out of here, and hate that. I don't even like

1729
01:26:08,960 --> 01:26:13,519
Speaker 2: that in friends, So definitely not a mate. Beat Out

1730
01:26:13,560 --> 01:26:15,400
Speaker 2: Black says, I can't remember when, but I know it

1731
01:26:15,400 --> 01:26:17,679
Speaker 2: all started with a conversation with a therapist about making

1732
01:26:17,720 --> 01:26:20,440
Speaker 2: a distinction between relationships and the idea of a relationship.

1733
01:26:20,680 --> 01:26:22,599
Speaker 2: Turns out I was actually in love with the latter

1734
01:26:22,640 --> 01:26:23,400
Speaker 2: more than the former.

1735
01:26:23,960 --> 01:26:27,640
Speaker 5: Yes, so many people I will continue to say this.

1736
01:26:27,760 --> 01:26:29,520
Speaker 3: They need to be real with themselves.

1737
01:26:30,400 --> 01:26:33,040
Speaker 5: Ask yourself, are you in love with this person or

1738
01:26:33,080 --> 01:26:35,400
Speaker 5: you in love with the idea of being in love

1739
01:26:35,479 --> 01:26:37,360
Speaker 5: because a lot of people don't want to admit they

1740
01:26:37,360 --> 01:26:39,280
Speaker 5: don't want to be alone, they don't want to be

1741
01:26:39,320 --> 01:26:43,640
Speaker 5: by themselves, so they will jump from relationship to Some

1742
01:26:43,640 --> 01:26:46,120
Speaker 5: people from relationship with the relationship versus being real with

1743
01:26:46,160 --> 01:26:49,800
Speaker 5: yourself and act yourself. Why am I really here? Am

1744
01:26:49,880 --> 01:26:53,920
Speaker 5: I really here because it's fulfilling something in me? Or

1745
01:26:53,960 --> 01:26:54,920
Speaker 5: am I really.

1746
01:26:54,720 --> 01:26:55,400
Speaker 3: Here just to.

1747
01:26:57,240 --> 01:27:00,400
Speaker 5: Not deal with my own emotional bagga? Shit might need

1748
01:27:00,439 --> 01:27:02,280
Speaker 5: to go through that shit is scary and nobody really

1749
01:27:02,360 --> 01:27:05,040
Speaker 5: wants to do that. But you know, it's the truth

1750
01:27:05,040 --> 01:27:07,559
Speaker 5: for some people because every all of us, all all

1751
01:27:07,600 --> 01:27:10,600
Speaker 5: of us are not built the same, and some of

1752
01:27:10,680 --> 01:27:13,280
Speaker 5: us do things because we got unquote being told to

1753
01:27:13,280 --> 01:27:16,600
Speaker 5: do it, societal pressures or whatever it may be, and

1754
01:27:16,680 --> 01:27:18,800
Speaker 5: we're not being truthful with ourselves, which means we're not

1755
01:27:19,080 --> 01:27:24,080
Speaker 5: living our true happiness. That means being with somebody, leaving somebody,

1756
01:27:24,120 --> 01:27:25,120
Speaker 5: whatever the case may be.

1757
01:27:25,160 --> 01:27:26,559
Speaker 3: You're just not being truthful with yourself.

1758
01:27:27,439 --> 01:27:30,479
Speaker 2: Now, he did put a follow up comment, I may

1759
01:27:30,520 --> 01:27:33,640
Speaker 2: have misinterpreted the question, but by move on, I understood

1760
01:27:33,680 --> 01:27:36,880
Speaker 2: getting over them after they broke up with you, which is.

1761
01:27:36,800 --> 01:27:38,760
Speaker 4: Fine if you interpreted that what, it's fine.

1762
01:27:39,920 --> 01:27:42,800
Speaker 2: Amber Cherie says, when I stopped trying to wish him

1763
01:27:42,920 --> 01:27:45,960
Speaker 2: to be better and saw he was already a good person,

1764
01:27:46,000 --> 01:27:47,880
Speaker 2: but was not going to be my good person.

1765
01:27:48,280 --> 01:27:50,640
Speaker 4: Now I'm married heart emoji.

1766
01:27:50,520 --> 01:27:54,840
Speaker 5: Yeah something. Sometimes you might meet people and y'all ain't

1767
01:27:54,880 --> 01:27:57,519
Speaker 5: meant to be you go you go make somebody else happy.

1768
01:27:57,600 --> 01:27:58,400
Speaker 3: I'm not the one.

1769
01:27:58,680 --> 01:28:01,479
Speaker 2: Mike says when she moved back to her hometown, she

1770
01:28:01,560 --> 01:28:04,639
Speaker 2: knew long distance didn't work for us. Maybe I'm answering

1771
01:28:04,640 --> 01:28:05,479
Speaker 2: the question for her.

1772
01:28:05,760 --> 01:28:06,200
Speaker 8: Lol.

1773
01:28:10,080 --> 01:28:13,080
Speaker 2: Uh Tonia says, when he had a baby on me, oh,

1774
01:28:13,320 --> 01:28:16,040
Speaker 2: not not a break, not the baby, Oh lass child.

1775
01:28:16,560 --> 01:28:19,000
Speaker 4: That'll let you know when they have a baby on you.

1776
01:28:19,040 --> 01:28:21,080
Speaker 4: That's definitely put up a shut up time.

1777
01:28:22,360 --> 01:28:24,559
Speaker 2: Soul and Sustance says he was in the Air Force

1778
01:28:24,600 --> 01:28:27,240
Speaker 2: and deployed in Saudi Arabia less than a week before

1779
01:28:27,240 --> 01:28:29,160
Speaker 2: he was scheduled to come home, I found out that

1780
01:28:29,200 --> 01:28:30,960
Speaker 2: he was lying to me and hanging out with another

1781
01:28:31,080 --> 01:28:33,720
Speaker 2: chicken the last time he was on. I didn't care

1782
01:28:33,760 --> 01:28:35,920
Speaker 2: that he had female friends and wanted to that wanted

1783
01:28:35,960 --> 01:28:38,080
Speaker 2: to and wanted to see him, but he told me

1784
01:28:38,120 --> 01:28:41,880
Speaker 2: that he was bowling with the gods. That was unnecessary

1785
01:28:41,880 --> 01:28:44,320
Speaker 2: and stupid lie. When he called from the airport, I

1786
01:28:44,320 --> 01:28:46,320
Speaker 2: told him he didn't need to come see me and

1787
01:28:46,400 --> 01:28:49,280
Speaker 2: then lie ag in he would go directly to her house.

1788
01:28:50,200 --> 01:28:52,639
Speaker 4: Mmmm mmmm, that is sad.

1789
01:28:53,040 --> 01:28:54,559
Speaker 3: Don't waste it, don't waste my time.

1790
01:28:55,360 --> 01:28:57,400
Speaker 4: Uh Okay, now how Toy got two of these?

1791
01:28:57,479 --> 01:29:01,080
Speaker 2: Her second one is when he told me that being

1792
01:29:01,120 --> 01:29:03,360
Speaker 2: married was a distraction to his boxing career.

1793
01:29:03,760 --> 01:29:07,280
Speaker 4: He was a coke head and slow as fuck, a.

1794
01:29:10,720 --> 01:29:13,719
Speaker 3: Distraction from the pleasing Lay says. It took.

1795
01:29:13,960 --> 01:29:15,600
Speaker 2: It's taken me a lot of stream not to be

1796
01:29:15,640 --> 01:29:18,160
Speaker 2: petty and tagged them here, come on.

1797
01:29:18,120 --> 01:29:18,559
Speaker 3: Don't do that.

1798
01:29:19,160 --> 01:29:21,240
Speaker 4: But I caught them cheating.

1799
01:29:21,280 --> 01:29:23,519
Speaker 2: I really do believe they were remorseful, and I honestly

1800
01:29:23,600 --> 01:29:24,120
Speaker 2: understood it.

1801
01:29:24,160 --> 01:29:25,720
Speaker 4: Since it was a long dist relationship.

1802
01:29:26,000 --> 01:29:27,559
Speaker 2: It just made me zoom out to look at our

1803
01:29:27,600 --> 01:29:30,439
Speaker 2: overall compatibility and we were just no longer a good match.

1804
01:29:30,680 --> 01:29:32,800
Speaker 2: The love is still there and we're still friends with

1805
01:29:32,960 --> 01:29:35,800
Speaker 2: no chance of anything else. You're tagging it would have

1806
01:29:35,800 --> 01:29:38,040
Speaker 2: been petty after you wrote all that stuff at the

1807
01:29:38,120 --> 01:29:43,960
Speaker 2: end that seemed kind of empathetic. Just want to remind

1808
01:29:44,000 --> 01:29:46,519
Speaker 2: you fucked this up. Then she replied, Okay, I'm back

1809
01:29:46,520 --> 01:29:50,599
Speaker 2: with another. This guy started to give obsessed vibes. Oh shit,

1810
01:29:50,880 --> 01:29:52,360
Speaker 2: he was getting to the point where he was trying

1811
01:29:52,360 --> 01:29:54,000
Speaker 2: to be around me every waking moment.

1812
01:29:54,080 --> 01:29:56,519
Speaker 4: I eventually just left town to get away from him. Damn.

1813
01:29:56,800 --> 01:29:59,320
Speaker 2: When I returned years later, he somehow got winn and

1814
01:29:59,360 --> 01:30:02,479
Speaker 2: started calling relative's house looking for me, calling and showing

1815
01:30:02,560 --> 01:30:05,240
Speaker 2: up to my job, Baker. We had security and off

1816
01:30:05,320 --> 01:30:07,800
Speaker 2: duty officer there at all times. He even tried to

1817
01:30:07,800 --> 01:30:10,120
Speaker 2: make a scene there with his new woman right there.

1818
01:30:10,640 --> 01:30:12,519
Speaker 2: So not long after I got the hell out of

1819
01:30:12,560 --> 01:30:14,760
Speaker 2: town again. I was afraid to come back because of him,

1820
01:30:14,920 --> 01:30:17,320
Speaker 2: but my mom needed help. She passed a few months ago.

1821
01:30:17,680 --> 01:30:19,680
Speaker 2: I'm sorry here, sorry to hear that, baby. So I

1822
01:30:19,800 --> 01:30:21,840
Speaker 2: was holding my breath until I got word that he

1823
01:30:22,000 --> 01:30:23,160
Speaker 2: passed some years ago.

1824
01:30:23,680 --> 01:30:26,000
Speaker 4: I have no idea, but I hope he's at peace.

1825
01:30:27,080 --> 01:30:28,080
Speaker 4: So hey, he died too.

1826
01:30:29,000 --> 01:30:31,960
Speaker 5: That's probably why they may have felt safe, because they

1827
01:30:32,040 --> 01:30:35,160
Speaker 5: was like, okay, they're no longer alive, because this sounds

1828
01:30:35,200 --> 01:30:37,080
Speaker 5: like somebody that was actually keeping.

1829
01:30:36,880 --> 01:30:38,240
Speaker 3: Tabs or something like that.

1830
01:30:38,280 --> 01:30:41,560
Speaker 5: Like, no sense if I come visit my family and

1831
01:30:41,560 --> 01:30:43,320
Speaker 5: all of a sudden you showing up a couple bout

1832
01:30:43,400 --> 01:30:44,080
Speaker 5: something's wrong?

1833
01:30:44,200 --> 01:30:45,519
Speaker 3: How did you even know I was here?

1834
01:30:46,760 --> 01:30:50,559
Speaker 2: Alice says, when I realized his bo body odor was

1835
01:30:50,640 --> 01:30:51,960
Speaker 2: his norm, not the exception.

1836
01:30:52,400 --> 01:30:55,160
Speaker 4: Oh no, the natural deodor wasn't working in it.

1837
01:30:55,720 --> 01:30:58,519
Speaker 2: Oh no, I guess if you know you can't tell

1838
01:30:58,600 --> 01:31:00,559
Speaker 2: the person that they stink, you know.

1839
01:31:00,760 --> 01:31:02,519
Speaker 4: That that relationship isn't that serious?

1840
01:31:02,720 --> 01:31:05,960
Speaker 3: No, it is not. Did you look at them and say,

1841
01:31:06,000 --> 01:31:07,200
Speaker 3: put the AKO line back in that.

1842
01:31:07,280 --> 01:31:12,360
Speaker 2: De older, Miss Chrysopal says when he said he just

1843
01:31:12,680 --> 01:31:15,280
Speaker 2: like his best friend. After his best friend was found

1844
01:31:15,320 --> 01:31:17,960
Speaker 2: with self inflicted gunshot waning to the head and his

1845
01:31:18,080 --> 01:31:19,960
Speaker 2: truck got to being accused of killing the lady and

1846
01:31:20,000 --> 01:31:21,760
Speaker 2: dumping her body in the dumpster in the back of

1847
01:31:21,800 --> 01:31:27,479
Speaker 2: his bar. Jesus, that's gruesome, gorgeous, Goofball says, when the

1848
01:31:27,520 --> 01:31:32,559
Speaker 2: excuses weren't even reasonable anymore, When his apologies were too frequent, yeah,

1849
01:31:33,080 --> 01:31:35,519
Speaker 2: like stop fucking up.

1850
01:31:36,360 --> 01:31:37,479
Speaker 4: You know what I mean, I.

1851
01:31:37,479 --> 01:31:39,040
Speaker 5: Know why you got to be like you know what,

1852
01:31:39,120 --> 01:31:40,960
Speaker 5: You're gonna have to get your shit together.

1853
01:31:40,840 --> 01:31:43,599
Speaker 2: Like what the fuck man, stop fucking up, especially playing

1854
01:31:43,600 --> 01:31:44,120
Speaker 2: with my heart.

1855
01:31:44,280 --> 01:31:46,720
Speaker 5: Like right, you're gonna be like Morty supper, pack all

1856
01:31:46,760 --> 01:31:48,519
Speaker 5: your shit, pack it up, get your shit together, put

1857
01:31:48,600 --> 01:31:50,599
Speaker 5: in the bag, wrap it up, get it together right.

1858
01:31:51,640 --> 01:31:56,280
Speaker 2: Osupper says, when I realized he was incapable of emotional maturity,

1859
01:31:56,400 --> 01:31:58,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's a big one for a lot of dudes.

1860
01:31:59,400 --> 01:32:01,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, and they end up losing a lot of women

1861
01:32:01,760 --> 01:32:05,040
Speaker 5: because of that. Because for a lot of not all,

1862
01:32:05,080 --> 01:32:08,400
Speaker 5: but for a lot of women that maturity emotionally we're

1863
01:32:08,400 --> 01:32:10,280
Speaker 5: forced to do that, like we don't have an option,

1864
01:32:10,640 --> 01:32:12,519
Speaker 5: we don't have a choice, and a lot of it

1865
01:32:12,560 --> 01:32:15,040
Speaker 5: is built for survival, Like we have to be aware

1866
01:32:15,160 --> 01:32:18,600
Speaker 5: and alert to survive around I'm particularly straight women, to

1867
01:32:18,640 --> 01:32:22,000
Speaker 5: survive around men. We have to know your attitudes, your mood,

1868
01:32:22,040 --> 01:32:23,920
Speaker 5: twins and this and that, because it could mean life

1869
01:32:23,960 --> 01:32:26,120
Speaker 5: for death for us if you're in a foul mood

1870
01:32:26,120 --> 01:32:29,200
Speaker 5: and we're not aware, quote unquote acute or alert of

1871
01:32:29,320 --> 01:32:32,040
Speaker 5: how you are feeling emotionally, and once you get to

1872
01:32:32,080 --> 01:32:34,479
Speaker 5: a certain point, you're like, I'm not dealing with that bullshit.

1873
01:32:34,600 --> 01:32:37,120
Speaker 5: You need to grow up. I'm not going to be

1874
01:32:37,120 --> 01:32:40,439
Speaker 5: the one to build you up. You know, I'm not

1875
01:32:40,520 --> 01:32:44,519
Speaker 5: taking on that emotional labor. Go get therapy, therapists, do

1876
01:32:44,560 --> 01:32:45,960
Speaker 5: what you need to do, and if you're not willing

1877
01:32:45,960 --> 01:32:47,640
Speaker 5: to do that, I don't have to deal with that.

1878
01:32:47,920 --> 01:32:49,519
Speaker 5: And I think that's why a lot of men have

1879
01:32:49,560 --> 01:32:51,640
Speaker 5: a lot of pushback because before when women don't have

1880
01:32:51,760 --> 01:32:54,040
Speaker 5: rights and choices and shit like that, they could take

1881
01:32:54,080 --> 01:32:56,719
Speaker 5: your old christas because they didn't have an optional a choice.

1882
01:32:56,720 --> 01:32:58,679
Speaker 5: But now women got choices and rights and they don't

1883
01:32:58,920 --> 01:33:03,320
Speaker 5: have to deal with your half as emotionally stunned growth ass,

1884
01:33:03,360 --> 01:33:05,080
Speaker 5: and you don't know how to deal with women going,

1885
01:33:05,160 --> 01:33:07,639
Speaker 5: I'm not dealing with you being emotionally stunned.

1886
01:33:08,479 --> 01:33:11,280
Speaker 2: When I saw him regrets to a child in front

1887
01:33:11,280 --> 01:33:12,760
Speaker 2: of his parents, hughes turn off.

1888
01:33:13,240 --> 01:33:13,960
Speaker 4: That's for Newsy.

1889
01:33:14,160 --> 01:33:17,040
Speaker 2: I don't even know what that would look like. How

1890
01:33:17,040 --> 01:33:18,880
Speaker 2: do you regress to a child in front of your

1891
01:33:19,000 --> 01:33:19,479
Speaker 2: It's like.

1892
01:33:20,320 --> 01:33:21,479
Speaker 3: You just had to start looking.

1893
01:33:21,640 --> 01:33:23,160
Speaker 2: I don't even know what I just don't know what

1894
01:33:23,200 --> 01:33:26,080
Speaker 2: it looks like, like I need to know details.

1895
01:33:26,120 --> 01:33:29,960
Speaker 4: It's like like it's mama, like kissing his cheeks and stuff.

1896
01:33:30,120 --> 01:33:33,080
Speaker 4: Was I don't. I don't even know. I get that.

1897
01:33:33,080 --> 01:33:36,920
Speaker 4: That would weird me out. You know, every time you

1898
01:33:37,000 --> 01:33:40,200
Speaker 4: got to be an adult mucho, Mama says. When his

1899
01:33:40,320 --> 01:33:42,200
Speaker 4: seven year old wrote me a letter and told me

1900
01:33:42,240 --> 01:33:47,960
Speaker 4: I could do better, damn, damn the kid. The baby

1901
01:33:48,080 --> 01:33:51,519
Speaker 4: was like, girl, listen, okay.

1902
01:33:51,600 --> 01:33:54,280
Speaker 3: I hate to tell you. My daddy ain't shit.

1903
01:33:54,479 --> 01:33:57,400
Speaker 4: No all ride. It don't even got to be like this.

1904
01:33:58,200 --> 01:34:01,559
Speaker 5: I'm here by obligation and trust. First train, smoking up

1905
01:34:01,600 --> 01:34:02,360
Speaker 5: out of this bitch.

1906
01:34:02,400 --> 01:34:04,040
Speaker 4: I'll be seeing him when he not with you. When

1907
01:34:04,040 --> 01:34:05,000
Speaker 4: he driving me to school.

1908
01:34:05,040 --> 01:34:07,920
Speaker 5: Girl, muh, he be talking about you.

1909
01:34:06,880 --> 01:34:08,760
Speaker 3: You don't want to be here.

1910
01:34:09,000 --> 01:34:11,280
Speaker 4: I can't leave. You need to get out of here right.

1911
01:34:11,360 --> 01:34:12,400
Speaker 3: I don't have a chance.

1912
01:34:12,640 --> 01:34:15,479
Speaker 4: I got to stay. I'm seven, she said.

1913
01:34:15,520 --> 01:34:17,640
Speaker 2: I still had a letter fifteen years later when he

1914
01:34:17,720 --> 01:34:20,760
Speaker 2: cuts me out because I bought organic milk. Yes he

1915
01:34:20,840 --> 01:34:24,960
Speaker 2: drinks milk. He really stormed off, old ignorant ass. Damn,

1916
01:34:25,000 --> 01:34:27,760
Speaker 2: that's such a weird man. Be scary, Yes, they do,

1917
01:34:28,240 --> 01:34:31,120
Speaker 2: because I just don't. I've never been a I don't

1918
01:34:31,160 --> 01:34:33,679
Speaker 2: like tantrums, period. I just I don't like it.

1919
01:34:33,760 --> 01:34:34,120
Speaker 3: I don't.

1920
01:34:34,520 --> 01:34:37,760
Speaker 2: I know people think it's normal and reasonable and they

1921
01:34:37,800 --> 01:34:41,400
Speaker 2: have those allowances and their relationships and stuff, but for

1922
01:34:41,439 --> 01:34:44,880
Speaker 2: whatever reasons, in my life, those have always been huge

1923
01:34:44,880 --> 01:34:46,560
Speaker 2: red flags people that throw tantrums.

1924
01:34:47,320 --> 01:34:50,800
Speaker 3: And I don't.

1925
01:34:51,360 --> 01:34:54,479
Speaker 2: If someone throw a tantrum over organic milk, I'm sure

1926
01:34:54,520 --> 01:34:59,240
Speaker 2: they would think to themselves as I was leaving, it's

1927
01:34:59,320 --> 01:35:02,000
Speaker 2: just some milk. You really gonna you crying over spiel

1928
01:35:02,040 --> 01:35:05,400
Speaker 2: milk literally, And it's like, no, I don't want to

1929
01:35:05,439 --> 01:35:07,759
Speaker 2: be around a motherfucker that can lose it over the milk.

1930
01:35:07,880 --> 01:35:10,600
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, right, but real things are gonna happen to

1931
01:35:10,680 --> 01:35:13,320
Speaker 2: us in our life that are a lot more fucking

1932
01:35:13,360 --> 01:35:15,400
Speaker 2: important in milk, and I need a person that I

1933
01:35:15,439 --> 01:35:17,880
Speaker 2: know is gonna be able to get through that. If

1934
01:35:17,880 --> 01:35:20,120
Speaker 2: you flip out at milk, I know you're flipping out

1935
01:35:20,200 --> 01:35:22,880
Speaker 2: at the rent being laid. I know you're flipping out

1936
01:35:23,000 --> 01:35:27,760
Speaker 2: at actual stressful shit like the car breaking down, like nope.

1937
01:35:28,479 --> 01:35:30,960
Speaker 5: Right, you know it's one of those things where you

1938
01:35:31,080 --> 01:35:33,719
Speaker 5: know you're looking like oh word, and like I said,

1939
01:35:35,800 --> 01:35:38,760
Speaker 5: the yelling and the screaming and things like that, like

1940
01:35:38,880 --> 01:35:41,240
Speaker 5: I don't, I don't function willing that. And I don't

1941
01:35:41,280 --> 01:35:43,360
Speaker 5: deal well and with that, and a lot of people think,

1942
01:35:43,680 --> 01:35:45,880
Speaker 5: you know, the yelling and the screaming and the hollering

1943
01:35:45,880 --> 01:35:49,360
Speaker 5: atach other, it's normal. And I'll just be the eyeball

1944
01:35:49,960 --> 01:35:52,719
Speaker 5: because I'm like, bitch, talk to me nicely. I'm grown,

1945
01:35:52,800 --> 01:35:54,719
Speaker 5: I can hear you. You don't need to raise your voice.

1946
01:35:55,080 --> 01:35:58,600
Speaker 5: You know, we can talk through this like adults. You know,

1947
01:35:58,760 --> 01:36:03,080
Speaker 5: I'm not arguing with you. You know, why are we

1948
01:36:03,360 --> 01:36:06,120
Speaker 5: doing this? We're not teenagers, and you know. And it's

1949
01:36:06,120 --> 01:36:09,440
Speaker 5: one of those things where, going back to particular straight relationships,

1950
01:36:09,439 --> 01:36:11,759
Speaker 5: men think they own shit and run shit. You don't

1951
01:36:11,960 --> 01:36:15,000
Speaker 5: own your woman. I don't care if you're married, divorced, whatever.

1952
01:36:15,040 --> 01:36:15,960
Speaker 3: You don't own her.

1953
01:36:17,000 --> 01:36:19,040
Speaker 5: She can make her own choices and do her own

1954
01:36:19,080 --> 01:36:21,840
Speaker 5: things a time of you know, outside of you. So

1955
01:36:21,880 --> 01:36:25,360
Speaker 5: you don't actually own her. And so that's a very

1956
01:36:25,360 --> 01:36:27,720
Speaker 5: hard thing for men to justin. They just like, well,

1957
01:36:27,720 --> 01:36:29,080
Speaker 5: I can do whatever the fuck I want to if

1958
01:36:29,080 --> 01:36:30,760
Speaker 5: I feel like having at tenrent, you're supposed to deal

1959
01:36:30,760 --> 01:36:31,160
Speaker 5: with that, bitch.

1960
01:36:31,240 --> 01:36:32,360
Speaker 3: No, I don't got to deal with it.

1961
01:36:33,320 --> 01:36:36,080
Speaker 2: Always, Sean says, when I felt like she no longer

1962
01:36:36,120 --> 01:36:39,120
Speaker 2: respected me, I can see that, Faith says, laugh my

1963
01:36:39,160 --> 01:36:41,200
Speaker 2: ass off when he accused me of making eyes at

1964
01:36:41,200 --> 01:36:45,040
Speaker 2: an older white man from another at Olive Garden on

1965
01:36:45,160 --> 01:36:47,880
Speaker 2: vacation and proceeded to not speak to me for the

1966
01:36:47,880 --> 01:36:50,400
Speaker 2: rest of the night. I drank some tequila and I

1967
01:36:50,439 --> 01:36:52,800
Speaker 2: caught a flight home that night. Well, let me tell

1968
01:36:52,800 --> 01:36:56,160
Speaker 2: you this, faith, the fact that y'all was on vacation

1969
01:36:56,320 --> 01:36:59,160
Speaker 2: at Olive Garden, it was over for him for the

1970
01:36:59,160 --> 01:37:03,680
Speaker 2: whole time. It's no fucking way we're not. We're not

1971
01:37:04,080 --> 01:37:08,080
Speaker 2: going to chain restaurants on vacation. We left where we

1972
01:37:08,080 --> 01:37:10,920
Speaker 2: were at to do things we do that we can

1973
01:37:10,960 --> 01:37:12,840
Speaker 2: do that we can't do where we was at.

1974
01:37:12,920 --> 01:37:15,120
Speaker 5: Right now, that's that that right there? I was looking

1975
01:37:15,120 --> 01:37:17,439
Speaker 5: at like that right there is one of my pet peas.

1976
01:37:17,479 --> 01:37:20,519
Speaker 5: When I'm going somewhere. I was like, bitch, we could

1977
01:37:20,640 --> 01:37:21,960
Speaker 5: ate that the house. The fuck is.

1978
01:37:21,920 --> 01:37:24,120
Speaker 2: The only way I would deal with it is if

1979
01:37:24,200 --> 01:37:27,800
Speaker 2: like I mean obviously like emergency, like oh, just you know,

1980
01:37:27,920 --> 01:37:29,800
Speaker 2: all were driving here, we getting McDonalds or something.

1981
01:37:30,400 --> 01:37:33,639
Speaker 4: But if we're going to a fucking sit down restaurant

1982
01:37:33,720 --> 01:37:35,880
Speaker 4: or something. The only way I.

1983
01:37:35,880 --> 01:37:38,120
Speaker 2: Think I could deal with this is if you like, oh,

1984
01:37:38,280 --> 01:37:41,320
Speaker 2: it's McDonald's. In Korea, they got different food.

1985
01:37:41,080 --> 01:37:41,679
Speaker 3: That's different.

1986
01:37:41,920 --> 01:37:46,040
Speaker 4: But if it's just fucking the olive garden in Charleston, no.

1987
01:37:47,080 --> 01:37:50,120
Speaker 5: All these fresh food places out here we go, I

1988
01:37:50,160 --> 01:37:52,400
Speaker 5: would be making eyes of a white man, like, get

1989
01:37:52,400 --> 01:37:54,639
Speaker 5: me out of here, take me to a real place.

1990
01:37:55,520 --> 01:37:57,120
Speaker 4: What you doing after this white man?

1991
01:37:57,520 --> 01:38:00,240
Speaker 3: Right? You might be having more excitement in your wife

1992
01:38:00,320 --> 01:38:00,960
Speaker 3: than I am.

1993
01:38:01,400 --> 01:38:04,040
Speaker 2: When he called to wish me happy birthday and told

1994
01:38:04,040 --> 01:38:05,960
Speaker 2: me he got married a week after offering me a

1995
01:38:06,000 --> 01:38:11,280
Speaker 2: flight to come see him, Oh god, wait, wait what what?

1996
01:38:12,600 --> 01:38:14,160
Speaker 4: When did you know it's time to move on for

1997
01:38:14,200 --> 01:38:14,679
Speaker 4: your ex?

1998
01:38:15,080 --> 01:38:17,480
Speaker 2: So when he called me to wish me happy birthday

1999
01:38:18,240 --> 01:38:20,559
Speaker 2: and he told me he got married a week after

2000
01:38:20,600 --> 01:38:23,600
Speaker 2: offering me a flight to come see him, Yeah, that's

2001
01:38:23,640 --> 01:38:26,000
Speaker 2: when you knew, right. That's kind of late in the

2002
01:38:26,040 --> 01:38:27,920
Speaker 2: game to know, is all I'm saying. He seemed like

2003
01:38:27,960 --> 01:38:28,680
Speaker 2: he knew.

2004
01:38:29,000 --> 01:38:32,680
Speaker 3: Right, and he just didn't tell you. Yeah, so you

2005
01:38:32,840 --> 01:38:33,519
Speaker 3: out the loop.

2006
01:38:33,640 --> 01:38:37,360
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, that's trash, right, Slanger agent says, when I

2007
01:38:37,400 --> 01:38:42,160
Speaker 2: got the restraining order, oh no, oh, oh, oh my god.

2008
01:38:43,479 --> 01:38:45,680
Speaker 2: I mean I feel like you knew before there, but

2009
01:38:45,960 --> 01:38:49,639
Speaker 2: I hear you. Reg Dale said, wait, when I got

2010
01:38:49,640 --> 01:38:51,880
Speaker 2: the restrain order, I hope you mean when you went

2011
01:38:52,040 --> 01:38:54,880
Speaker 2: and literally fouled for the straight or I hope you

2012
01:38:54,920 --> 01:38:57,840
Speaker 2: don't mean when I received my restraining order from the

2013
01:38:57,880 --> 01:38:59,439
Speaker 2: other person saying stay away from me.

2014
01:39:00,120 --> 01:39:01,120
Speaker 3: When I got the restrainer.

2015
01:39:01,240 --> 01:39:03,800
Speaker 4: I know, I'm just saying it could mean two different things.

2016
01:39:03,800 --> 01:39:05,120
Speaker 3: Oh, that's true.

2017
01:39:05,280 --> 01:39:08,479
Speaker 2: You know when I got the restrainer. I'm assuming it's

2018
01:39:08,520 --> 01:39:10,960
Speaker 2: the first one and not not the last.

2019
01:39:11,000 --> 01:39:11,960
Speaker 3: I knew it was over.

2020
01:39:11,800 --> 01:39:13,960
Speaker 2: When they said you can't be within a thousand yards

2021
01:39:13,960 --> 01:39:16,880
Speaker 2: of this person. I said, Damn, I guess it's over.

2022
01:39:17,040 --> 01:39:22,639
Speaker 2: I guess I'm moving on. They give me the choice.

2023
01:39:23,280 --> 01:39:26,120
Speaker 2: There's a stock of reading heeds that didn't respond. Rag

2024
01:39:26,280 --> 01:39:28,560
Speaker 2: Dale says when his boy came over, looked at me

2025
01:39:28,640 --> 01:39:30,439
Speaker 2: and asked why I was putting up with his friend,

2026
01:39:30,720 --> 01:39:32,400
Speaker 2: and I said and said I need to get rid

2027
01:39:32,439 --> 01:39:34,600
Speaker 2: of him, it was a real wake up call that no,

2028
01:39:34,800 --> 01:39:36,719
Speaker 2: I didn't deserve how I was being treated.

2029
01:39:36,880 --> 01:39:39,640
Speaker 4: Wow, I guess he a real one. You know he

2030
01:39:39,720 --> 01:39:40,519
Speaker 4: knew some things.

2031
01:39:41,120 --> 01:39:44,360
Speaker 5: Yep, he wouldn't be like you. Too good of a

2032
01:39:44,360 --> 01:39:45,800
Speaker 5: person while you waste your time.

2033
01:39:46,280 --> 01:39:48,679
Speaker 2: Our lever says, when I realized that I couldn't see

2034
01:39:48,680 --> 01:39:51,400
Speaker 2: myself with her long term, but I knew she wanted

2035
01:39:51,439 --> 01:39:53,639
Speaker 2: that with me. I wasn't ready, and I don't think

2036
01:39:53,680 --> 01:39:55,360
Speaker 2: it was fair to her to keep going.

2037
01:39:55,920 --> 01:39:57,639
Speaker 3: Agreed, don't waste time.

2038
01:39:57,720 --> 01:40:01,080
Speaker 4: Well that is that is the man's like, you know,

2039
01:40:01,240 --> 01:40:04,080
Speaker 4: get out of jail free card. It's the you too

2040
01:40:04,120 --> 01:40:04,600
Speaker 4: good for me?

2041
01:40:04,920 --> 01:40:07,200
Speaker 3: Okay, Well then I be too good with somebody else.

2042
01:40:07,360 --> 01:40:11,000
Speaker 2: And Nully says when he took out took a out

2043
01:40:11,000 --> 01:40:13,680
Speaker 2: of state job, I communicated slowly decreased unless it was

2044
01:40:13,760 --> 01:40:17,439
Speaker 2: about sending him money. Yeah, I refuse to take care

2045
01:40:17,479 --> 01:40:19,880
Speaker 2: of a grown man. So that relationship ended, Okay, I

2046
01:40:20,720 --> 01:40:24,760
Speaker 2: hear you. Uh kk says he wouldn't take out the

2047
01:40:24,800 --> 01:40:27,759
Speaker 2: trash when I cooked for him. I shouldn't have to ask.

2048
01:40:27,880 --> 01:40:29,920
Speaker 2: I did, and I got so much pushback. He but

2049
01:40:29,960 --> 01:40:32,719
Speaker 2: grudgingly did it. I stopped cooking after that, and soon

2050
01:40:32,760 --> 01:40:35,760
Speaker 2: after that it was over. We weren't a good thing

2051
01:40:35,840 --> 01:40:37,800
Speaker 2: because he didn't want to do nothing right.

2052
01:40:38,360 --> 01:40:41,800
Speaker 5: Right you like, can you take out the trash? I

2053
01:40:41,840 --> 01:40:44,280
Speaker 5: gotta hear you huffing puff like you fucking tend.

2054
01:40:44,040 --> 01:40:45,599
Speaker 3: If you don't get out of here right.

2055
01:40:46,360 --> 01:40:49,160
Speaker 2: Ksar says, when I realized I was in love with

2056
01:40:49,200 --> 01:40:51,960
Speaker 2: my ex before her eight year relationship and couldn't stop

2057
01:40:51,960 --> 01:40:54,799
Speaker 2: comparing them. I guess I still needed time to process

2058
01:40:54,840 --> 01:40:57,519
Speaker 2: that break up. You know what they say, hurt people,

2059
01:40:57,600 --> 01:41:00,640
Speaker 2: hurt people. So sorry to that woman. To clarify, I

2060
01:41:00,760 --> 01:41:03,280
Speaker 2: was with my initial ex for eight years, happily back

2061
01:41:03,320 --> 01:41:06,360
Speaker 2: together since January twenty twenty two. It was only with

2062
01:41:06,439 --> 01:41:09,240
Speaker 2: the other chick around eight months. Yeah, it's still sells

2063
01:41:09,320 --> 01:41:11,600
Speaker 2: like the sad. That seemed like act too of a

2064
01:41:11,640 --> 01:41:12,360
Speaker 2: rom com.

2065
01:41:14,479 --> 01:41:15,800
Speaker 3: Yes, this is the second act.

2066
01:41:15,920 --> 01:41:18,599
Speaker 2: She happened to be the person that don't get the man,

2067
01:41:18,640 --> 01:41:21,839
Speaker 2: and I feel bad for that lady, uh dad versus

2068
01:41:21,880 --> 01:41:25,240
Speaker 2: these says after I requested a restrain in order against

2069
01:41:25,280 --> 01:41:27,120
Speaker 2: her to protect myself. But I knew of my soul

2070
01:41:27,160 --> 01:41:29,000
Speaker 2: when I failed for the voice, and she kind of

2071
01:41:29,000 --> 01:41:32,120
Speaker 2: with But we can still date each other though afterwards. Right,

2072
01:41:32,439 --> 01:41:34,160
Speaker 2: if I could go back in time, I would have

2073
01:41:34,160 --> 01:41:36,840
Speaker 2: purposely started drinking something at that moment, just so I

2074
01:41:36,840 --> 01:41:39,679
Speaker 2: could have had a perfect spit take all.

2075
01:41:39,560 --> 01:41:42,360
Speaker 4: In her face. Damn, sound very hateful, But I don't

2076
01:41:42,360 --> 01:41:44,280
Speaker 4: know what that woman did to you, he said.

2077
01:41:46,160 --> 01:41:48,880
Speaker 2: When I did his laundry and still it's all the

2078
01:41:48,920 --> 01:41:50,320
Speaker 2: shit stays in his underwear.

2079
01:41:50,439 --> 01:41:57,080
Speaker 4: Oh all right, that is gross, he says, I'm.

2080
01:41:56,920 --> 01:41:58,680
Speaker 3: Looking like we got plenty of tissue with him.

2081
01:41:58,720 --> 01:42:02,400
Speaker 2: I don't understand I was everybody else, like when I

2082
01:42:02,439 --> 01:42:04,599
Speaker 2: got the restraining order, when I found out the baby

2083
01:42:04,640 --> 01:42:05,040
Speaker 2: was in mine.

2084
01:42:05,120 --> 01:42:09,880
Speaker 4: She's like when I saw the ship stains okay to me.

2085
01:42:11,520 --> 01:42:14,840
Speaker 2: On the same level, right, Keep in mind that dude

2086
01:42:14,840 --> 01:42:16,240
Speaker 2: probably had those ship stances.

2087
01:42:15,960 --> 01:42:18,840
Speaker 4: Because he eat armies. Oh and so you was just

2088
01:42:18,920 --> 01:42:19,679
Speaker 4: it's kind of wild.

2089
01:42:20,080 --> 01:42:20,599
Speaker 3: He says.

2090
01:42:20,640 --> 01:42:23,519
Speaker 2: I was ready reading her for filth every other day.

2091
01:42:23,920 --> 01:42:27,439
Speaker 2: I think it got out of my system. Uh, I

2092
01:42:27,439 --> 01:42:29,360
Speaker 2: think I got it out of my system. I still

2093
01:42:29,360 --> 01:42:29,840
Speaker 2: see her.

2094
01:42:29,760 --> 01:42:33,240
Speaker 4: Mom flowers though. Yeah, fighting every day. It is terrible.

2095
01:42:33,320 --> 01:42:34,360
Speaker 4: I don't know how people do that.

2096
01:42:34,840 --> 01:42:37,120
Speaker 3: Either of My house needed to be my place of peace.

2097
01:42:37,640 --> 01:42:39,920
Speaker 2: And he says, when I thought of him in past,

2098
01:42:40,000 --> 01:42:43,000
Speaker 2: and there were no emotions tied to the thought both time,

2099
01:42:43,200 --> 01:42:45,719
Speaker 2: you know you at peace bow Tan and Baddie says,

2100
01:42:46,439 --> 01:42:48,560
Speaker 2: when I realized I was doing all the work to

2101
01:42:48,560 --> 01:42:50,880
Speaker 2: improve myself in our relationship on my own, I told

2102
01:42:50,920 --> 01:42:52,920
Speaker 2: him he had until the end of the year to

2103
01:42:53,000 --> 01:42:55,759
Speaker 2: find a therapist, to get established with a primary care physician,

2104
01:42:55,800 --> 01:42:58,040
Speaker 2: because I wasn't going to argue anymore. And I recognized

2105
01:42:58,040 --> 01:43:00,719
Speaker 2: he was taking in securities out on me. I even

2106
01:43:00,760 --> 01:43:04,240
Speaker 2: still work harder than he was willing by giving him

2107
01:43:04,280 --> 01:43:06,760
Speaker 2: a lot list of resources and offer to pay for

2108
01:43:06,800 --> 01:43:09,000
Speaker 2: the therapy. Then I took a step back and observed

2109
01:43:09,040 --> 01:43:10,080
Speaker 2: six months after.

2110
01:43:09,880 --> 01:43:12,519
Speaker 4: I asked if did do what?

2111
01:43:12,680 --> 01:43:14,600
Speaker 2: If he did what I asked, he got defensive, and

2112
01:43:14,640 --> 01:43:17,320
Speaker 2: I started making the exit plan. I just God, damn right,

2113
01:43:17,479 --> 01:43:21,320
Speaker 2: you gave him six months, so like, that's extremely reasonable.

2114
01:43:21,600 --> 01:43:23,920
Speaker 5: All right, You're like, you know what, you might be slow,

2115
01:43:23,960 --> 01:43:26,760
Speaker 5: you might be scared. You know, I wouldn to work

2116
01:43:26,800 --> 01:43:29,160
Speaker 5: at this if you are here are the resources? If

2117
01:43:29,160 --> 01:43:32,200
Speaker 5: they're like nah, You're like, you know what, you don't

2118
01:43:32,200 --> 01:43:33,760
Speaker 5: want to do the work? Why am I here?

2119
01:43:35,280 --> 01:43:38,720
Speaker 2: Leslie says when he reminded me of another toxic X,

2120
01:43:39,320 --> 01:43:41,000
Speaker 2: That's when I learned I should stay away.

2121
01:43:40,840 --> 01:43:45,360
Speaker 4: From older men. Ay, girl, I ain't gonna do this twice,

2122
01:43:45,800 --> 01:43:48,759
Speaker 4: you know, for who?

2123
01:43:49,040 --> 01:43:49,320
Speaker 3: For what?

2124
01:43:51,439 --> 01:43:53,480
Speaker 4: All right, let's see if there's.

2125
01:43:53,680 --> 01:43:57,360
Speaker 2: Any on I think sometimes people leave because it posts

2126
01:43:57,400 --> 01:44:01,120
Speaker 2: on our Facebook too. If we had any on here,

2127
01:44:01,160 --> 01:44:03,640
Speaker 2: and I think it's twelve comments, here we go, Oh,

2128
01:44:03,680 --> 01:44:04,439
Speaker 2: I'm sorry what now?

2129
01:44:04,520 --> 01:44:07,040
Speaker 5: I think I seen the same question on Twitter and

2130
01:44:07,080 --> 01:44:08,280
Speaker 5: it got one comment.

2131
01:44:08,720 --> 01:44:11,000
Speaker 4: I'm not I'm not chasing that. The one comment.

2132
01:44:12,360 --> 01:44:17,719
Speaker 2: So on Facebook after our last vacation together, says Wayne

2133
01:44:18,600 --> 01:44:23,040
Speaker 2: all Right, April says, when I was tired of seeing

2134
01:44:23,080 --> 01:44:25,680
Speaker 2: him breathe, God, damn.

2135
01:44:26,240 --> 01:44:29,920
Speaker 3: Shat, it's time to go. But are you still breathing? Yeah?

2136
01:44:30,000 --> 01:44:32,280
Speaker 2: I think that might be my exit. Plany if that's

2137
01:44:32,320 --> 01:44:36,479
Speaker 2: my respond you're still breathing? Will a motherfucker breathing? Get

2138
01:44:36,479 --> 01:44:41,080
Speaker 2: on your nerves, dog act your shit like when they

2139
01:44:41,200 --> 01:44:46,599
Speaker 2: motherfucking automatic body function is bothering you.

2140
01:44:46,600 --> 01:44:47,280
Speaker 3: You still here?

2141
01:44:47,680 --> 01:44:50,120
Speaker 1: Damn, You're still doing what is necessary for you to

2142
01:44:50,240 --> 01:44:55,400
Speaker 1: live and exists. How dare you in my face? Right

2143
01:44:55,400 --> 01:44:56,920
Speaker 1: in front of my salade. He's like, you know what,

2144
01:44:57,120 --> 01:44:59,639
Speaker 1: Let me pack my ship and leave with my salad.

2145
01:45:00,000 --> 01:45:04,160
Speaker 2: Asthen says, when I found Dick pics on his phone, Okay,

2146
01:45:04,200 --> 01:45:06,800
Speaker 2: this got very third act of a Tyler Perry movie.

2147
01:45:06,880 --> 01:45:08,920
Speaker 4: Yes, okay.

2148
01:45:09,880 --> 01:45:12,320
Speaker 2: Walter says she wanted to go back to India with

2149
01:45:12,400 --> 01:45:13,240
Speaker 2: her boyfriend.

2150
01:45:13,520 --> 01:45:16,120
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, time to move on. That's a good point.

2151
01:45:16,200 --> 01:45:18,679
Speaker 2: That's a big sign this time to move on, Honey

2152
01:45:18,720 --> 01:45:21,320
Speaker 2: says when he married his ex less than one month

2153
01:45:21,360 --> 01:45:23,479
Speaker 2: after we broke up and used my uber cau to

2154
01:45:23,520 --> 01:45:25,679
Speaker 2: take them to the airport in Vegas where he proposed

2155
01:45:25,680 --> 01:45:25,960
Speaker 2: to her.

2156
01:45:26,120 --> 01:45:37,120
Speaker 7: Oh no, absolutely, not the audacity. No no, not you

2157
01:45:37,200 --> 01:45:37,960
Speaker 7: getting a bill.

2158
01:45:40,439 --> 01:45:42,439
Speaker 3: I'm getting a bill for your right, bitch.

2159
01:45:42,880 --> 01:45:44,759
Speaker 2: I want to know how you put them pieces together,

2160
01:45:44,920 --> 01:45:46,880
Speaker 2: like you saw it on Instagram?

2161
01:45:47,000 --> 01:45:49,839
Speaker 4: Like, oh damn, he proposed wait at the Vegas airport?

2162
01:45:50,200 --> 01:45:53,439
Speaker 4: Hold on what day? Was that? That's what that motherfucking uber.

2163
01:45:53,360 --> 01:45:53,920
Speaker 3: Cheorge was for?

2164
01:45:54,880 --> 01:45:57,680
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Joy says, when he invited me to

2165
01:45:57,800 --> 01:46:02,800
Speaker 2: his wedding, is that a move or is that a

2166
01:46:02,840 --> 01:46:10,000
Speaker 2: genuine just level of not unawareness, Like is that a Hey,

2167
01:46:10,520 --> 01:46:12,080
Speaker 2: you're my ex, but we're friends.

2168
01:46:12,240 --> 01:46:12,800
Speaker 4: It's cool.

2169
01:46:12,960 --> 01:46:15,519
Speaker 2: We're not gonna get back together and come to my

2170
01:46:15,560 --> 01:46:16,920
Speaker 2: wedding because it's all good.

2171
01:46:17,040 --> 01:46:17,320
Speaker 4: It's not.

2172
01:46:17,360 --> 01:46:19,880
Speaker 2: I'm not even thinking to you as a as a

2173
01:46:19,960 --> 01:46:24,120
Speaker 2: romantic person anymore. We're just friends. Or is it like

2174
01:46:25,000 --> 01:46:27,720
Speaker 2: I'm gonna show you sitting an invite to her too?

2175
01:46:28,120 --> 01:46:29,200
Speaker 3: Gotcha bitch? Like?

2176
01:46:29,240 --> 01:46:29,920
Speaker 4: Which one is it?

2177
01:46:31,840 --> 01:46:32,400
Speaker 3: I don't know.

2178
01:46:32,880 --> 01:46:36,960
Speaker 2: Charle says, I don't remember exactly what happened because this

2179
01:46:37,080 --> 01:46:38,920
Speaker 2: is nearly twenty years ago, but it brought out to

2180
01:46:38,960 --> 01:46:40,479
Speaker 2: the fact she was more of a prude and I'm

2181
01:46:40,520 --> 01:46:44,680
Speaker 2: the opposite Sheen says, when he showed how much of

2182
01:46:44,720 --> 01:46:46,800
Speaker 2: a homophobe he was after I broke up with him,

2183
01:46:46,840 --> 01:46:47,639
Speaker 2: he hit it while.

2184
01:46:47,439 --> 01:46:48,080
Speaker 4: We were together.

2185
01:46:48,479 --> 01:46:50,720
Speaker 2: Oh that's the worst glad you got out of that

2186
01:46:50,760 --> 01:46:54,759
Speaker 2: shit me, dude, because like I always wonder when people

2187
01:46:54,840 --> 01:46:58,920
Speaker 2: hot shit like that, I always think, but life's gonna happen,

2188
01:46:59,120 --> 01:47:01,320
Speaker 2: It's gonna come out, Yes it will.

2189
01:47:01,400 --> 01:47:02,599
Speaker 4: What if one of your kids is gay?

2190
01:47:02,680 --> 01:47:04,800
Speaker 2: What if they introduced to a gay family member, a

2191
01:47:04,880 --> 01:47:08,400
Speaker 2: friend like you a homophobe? You can't hide that forever.

2192
01:47:09,200 --> 01:47:10,439
Speaker 2: Just say it and get it out the way. So

2193
01:47:10,520 --> 01:47:12,160
Speaker 2: we could break up or not day or I had

2194
01:47:12,160 --> 01:47:16,200
Speaker 2: to make a decision right, Nicole says, after our last anniversary,

2195
01:47:16,520 --> 01:47:18,679
Speaker 2: and then it took a whole year after the finally

2196
01:47:18,760 --> 01:47:25,120
Speaker 2: lead Uh spoke, Who's this? Brian says spokesman for Home Depot.

2197
01:47:25,200 --> 01:47:28,280
Speaker 2: I don't even know what this means. That's when you

2198
01:47:28,360 --> 01:47:30,400
Speaker 2: know it's time to move on, spokes for Home Depot.

2199
01:47:30,880 --> 01:47:30,960
Speaker 6: Uh.

2200
01:47:31,160 --> 01:47:32,200
Speaker 4: Teddy says.

2201
01:47:33,600 --> 01:47:36,000
Speaker 3: Her favorite you with Lose I don't understand.

2202
01:47:36,040 --> 01:47:37,679
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm taking my life back for that one.

2203
01:47:38,760 --> 01:47:43,320
Speaker 2: Teddy said her favorite song was You Make Me Wonder

2204
01:47:43,360 --> 01:47:46,120
Speaker 2: about Usher. I should have saw the size earlier.

2205
01:47:47,320 --> 01:47:52,600
Speaker 4: Oh no, oh no, it is a jam no.

2206
01:47:54,200 --> 01:47:56,000
Speaker 3: Right relationship.

2207
01:47:56,200 --> 01:47:59,240
Speaker 2: It's like she's like I was trying to tell you

2208
01:47:59,280 --> 01:48:02,439
Speaker 2: for years, Teddy, Okay, every.

2209
01:48:02,200 --> 01:48:04,800
Speaker 4: Time in the balance, every time we get in the car,

2210
01:48:04,920 --> 01:48:06,120
Speaker 4: what I do? I play that song?

2211
01:48:06,400 --> 01:48:08,360
Speaker 2: Every time we go in the house, I play that

2212
01:48:08,439 --> 01:48:12,480
Speaker 2: song We Make Love. I'm playing that song. Don't you understand?

2213
01:48:13,160 --> 01:48:14,280
Speaker 3: Don't you get the point?

2214
01:48:14,640 --> 01:48:17,040
Speaker 2: How many times I have a playlist that's just this

2215
01:48:17,200 --> 01:48:18,200
Speaker 2: song on repeat.

2216
01:48:18,479 --> 01:48:21,320
Speaker 3: I gotta play this at this and Joe, I mean,

2217
01:48:21,400 --> 01:48:22,080
Speaker 3: you didn't get.

2218
01:48:21,920 --> 01:48:25,200
Speaker 2: The point, Darren says, when the thrill is gone, like

2219
01:48:25,280 --> 01:48:29,000
Speaker 2: bb King said, I can see that. All right, that's

2220
01:48:29,040 --> 01:48:32,680
Speaker 2: it for doing it for the ground.

2221
01:48:32,680 --> 01:48:39,280
Speaker 8: The grammar are the grammar. The grammar.

2222
01:48:39,800 --> 01:48:47,080
Speaker 2: All right, let's talk about emails. This is the last

2223
01:48:47,160 --> 01:48:50,040
Speaker 2: thing we got, no voicemails this week, Kaven says, Hi,

2224
01:48:50,160 --> 01:48:53,400
Speaker 2: Robin Karen, this last Saturday podcast, I mentioned the study

2225
01:48:53,439 --> 01:48:55,880
Speaker 2: about a fourth of all adults being a strange.

2226
01:48:55,560 --> 01:48:56,200
Speaker 4: From their parents.

2227
01:48:56,520 --> 01:48:58,800
Speaker 2: I feel like it's one of those quiet communities, like

2228
01:48:58,880 --> 01:49:03,240
Speaker 2: silent majorities saying there that are oftentimes overlooked and favor

2229
01:49:03,320 --> 01:49:07,640
Speaker 2: the ability to pull all the family heart streams. Essentially,

2230
01:49:07,880 --> 01:49:10,679
Speaker 2: like the conversation that have been had about people trying

2231
01:49:10,680 --> 01:49:13,120
Speaker 2: to market to you by saying we're like a family.

2232
01:49:13,439 --> 01:49:15,240
Speaker 4: It's just one of those communities that can be over

2233
01:49:15,479 --> 01:49:16,800
Speaker 4: that can easily be overlooked.

2234
01:49:17,240 --> 01:49:20,080
Speaker 2: Also with the conversation around the Romani people and the

2235
01:49:20,160 --> 01:49:22,280
Speaker 2: N word. That's why I just generally try to remove

2236
01:49:22,760 --> 01:49:26,040
Speaker 2: language I believe to potentially be problematic for my usage.

2237
01:49:26,240 --> 01:49:28,519
Speaker 2: Maybe I just them taking a lazy route and getting

2238
01:49:28,600 --> 01:49:31,280
Speaker 2: rid of it before it can cause a problem.

2239
01:49:31,600 --> 01:49:34,080
Speaker 4: Anyway, thanks for the great podcast and being a positive

2240
01:49:34,120 --> 01:49:38,000
Speaker 4: influence in the community. Thank you. And uh yeah, I don't.

2241
01:49:38,360 --> 01:49:38,719
Speaker 4: I don't.

2242
01:49:39,360 --> 01:49:42,840
Speaker 2: I think the language thing for me is a black

2243
01:49:42,840 --> 01:49:46,240
Speaker 2: person in America, I'm a little bit sensitive to. And

2244
01:49:46,280 --> 01:49:49,880
Speaker 2: it's because I think there's a desire amongst a lot

2245
01:49:49,920 --> 01:49:53,360
Speaker 2: of people that see black people in this racial grief

2246
01:49:53,479 --> 01:49:56,840
Speaker 2: and this grievous hierarchy at the top, and they go, well,

2247
01:49:56,880 --> 01:49:59,560
Speaker 2: black people, this is how it works in the marginalized

2248
01:49:59,560 --> 01:50:00,519
Speaker 2: other margin last group.

2249
01:50:00,560 --> 01:50:07,040
Speaker 4: It's like Black people think that they got it the easiest, okay,

2250
01:50:07,080 --> 01:50:11,400
Speaker 4: because they hear there they get to have a platform

2251
01:50:11,439 --> 01:50:14,880
Speaker 4: for their grievances and as an Asian person, as a

2252
01:50:14,960 --> 01:50:18,200
Speaker 4: LATINIX person, as a whatever my group does it. And

2253
01:50:18,280 --> 01:50:19,840
Speaker 4: so then there becomes.

2254
01:50:19,479 --> 01:50:22,519
Speaker 2: This weird thing of like every group looking for their

2255
01:50:22,560 --> 01:50:25,479
Speaker 2: silver bullet, which is the N word, And so it

2256
01:50:25,560 --> 01:50:30,559
Speaker 2: becomes a this is the in word of blank, And

2257
01:50:30,800 --> 01:50:33,599
Speaker 2: all I'm saying is I'll always be a little bit

2258
01:50:34,120 --> 01:50:37,520
Speaker 2: hesitating cynical because there's nothing like the N word.

2259
01:50:37,360 --> 01:50:41,280
Speaker 4: Nope, for any group period. It's just the N word

2260
01:50:41,320 --> 01:50:46,640
Speaker 4: for us. It's the history of it is too fucking uh.

2261
01:50:46,920 --> 01:50:51,240
Speaker 2: It's too tied to what America is. It's too it

2262
01:50:51,320 --> 01:50:57,320
Speaker 2: is hundreds of years of slavery and then oppression and

2263
01:50:58,240 --> 01:51:02,000
Speaker 2: legal stuff. It's them taking our votes today, and so

2264
01:51:02,160 --> 01:51:04,880
Speaker 2: we're the The one thing that black people got out

2265
01:51:04,920 --> 01:51:08,200
Speaker 2: of all this is the ability for us to be like,

2266
01:51:08,400 --> 01:51:12,280
Speaker 2: ah ah, if you say the N word, we're considering

2267
01:51:12,320 --> 01:51:16,519
Speaker 2: this to be the big bad thing, right. And so

2268
01:51:16,560 --> 01:51:19,599
Speaker 2: sometimes people will come up with something and be like this,

2269
01:51:19,920 --> 01:51:22,040
Speaker 2: Like one thing people were trying to get going a

2270
01:51:22,040 --> 01:51:23,840
Speaker 2: few years ago, and I'm gonna have to kind of stopped.

2271
01:51:23,840 --> 01:51:26,760
Speaker 2: But people are saying, crazy, what's gonna be the in

2272
01:51:26,960 --> 01:51:29,879
Speaker 2: word for people that dealt with certain mental health issues?

2273
01:51:30,479 --> 01:51:35,960
Speaker 2: And it was like no, because nigger doesn't have multiple

2274
01:51:36,200 --> 01:51:40,920
Speaker 2: uses and meanings, right, So crazy you'd be like this

2275
01:51:41,000 --> 01:51:44,600
Speaker 2: party is crazy. I'm not gaslighting or talking about a

2276
01:51:44,600 --> 01:51:45,800
Speaker 2: person in mental health.

2277
01:51:45,640 --> 01:51:48,479
Speaker 3: Right, I'm having a time same. What is the.

2278
01:51:48,479 --> 01:51:51,880
Speaker 2: Desire to police that word so hard that now people

2279
01:51:51,920 --> 01:51:54,320
Speaker 2: can't use it every day vernacular that has nothing to

2280
01:51:54,360 --> 01:51:57,880
Speaker 2: do with mental health. That just feels like you're going,

2281
01:51:58,479 --> 01:52:00,960
Speaker 2: this is our n word. It's like, no, it's not,

2282
01:52:01,640 --> 01:52:05,719
Speaker 2: and that's okay. I still you know, there's a ways

2283
01:52:05,720 --> 01:52:09,360
Speaker 2: that there's other ways to talk about this within context

2284
01:52:09,360 --> 01:52:11,519
Speaker 2: and be like, well, don't say it this way and

2285
01:52:11,640 --> 01:52:14,200
Speaker 2: this turn, but just this idea of we're not saying

2286
01:52:14,200 --> 01:52:14,960
Speaker 2: this word no more.

2287
01:52:15,360 --> 01:52:16,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't fuck with it.

2288
01:52:16,439 --> 01:52:19,800
Speaker 2: But that being said, we were talking about Germany and

2289
01:52:19,840 --> 01:52:22,840
Speaker 2: the reminding people there and it could be like that

2290
01:52:22,920 --> 01:52:25,680
Speaker 2: in Germany. I'm not from there, right, I'll just have

2291
01:52:25,760 --> 01:52:27,720
Speaker 2: to take Appile's word from it. I'm not trying to

2292
01:52:27,760 --> 01:52:30,240
Speaker 2: rehash it. I don't want another fucking email about it.

2293
01:52:30,479 --> 01:52:33,439
Speaker 2: We don't need no more comments. If if you say,

2294
01:52:33,520 --> 01:52:35,840
Speaker 2: don't say whatever that because it wasn't even the word

2295
01:52:35,880 --> 01:52:38,320
Speaker 2: gypsy was some other word that we don't know because

2296
01:52:38,360 --> 01:52:39,479
Speaker 2: she didn't even put it into thing.

2297
01:52:39,920 --> 01:52:41,240
Speaker 4: I'm just taking y'all word for it.

2298
01:52:41,280 --> 01:52:42,960
Speaker 2: I don't know that I don't even know that word

2299
01:52:43,080 --> 01:52:45,360
Speaker 2: to say it or not say it, whatever it is

2300
01:52:45,400 --> 01:52:45,840
Speaker 2: in German.

2301
01:52:46,040 --> 01:52:48,360
Speaker 4: So I'm already cool with it. Just y'all got it.

2302
01:52:50,479 --> 01:52:50,919
Speaker 3: Agreed.

2303
01:52:51,400 --> 01:52:53,920
Speaker 5: You know, I one hundred percent agree with that, and

2304
01:52:54,280 --> 01:52:59,840
Speaker 5: you know, for me sometimes because we'd mean things, and

2305
01:53:00,080 --> 01:53:04,560
Speaker 5: language mean things, and slang mean things, and it's very frustrating,

2306
01:53:04,560 --> 01:53:07,880
Speaker 5: particularly when it comes to black slang and you know,

2307
01:53:08,400 --> 01:53:12,040
Speaker 5: just slang in general. Like you say, people want they're

2308
01:53:12,080 --> 01:53:14,799
Speaker 5: in words, so they'll just go and they'll and people

2309
01:53:14,840 --> 01:53:18,400
Speaker 5: be like, what you're saying. People don't even use it

2310
01:53:18,520 --> 01:53:21,479
Speaker 5: in that form that you're complaining about, So now I

2311
01:53:21,520 --> 01:53:24,160
Speaker 5: have to strip it out of my vocabulary. When I

2312
01:53:24,200 --> 01:53:26,400
Speaker 5: say it, I on't even mean those things.

2313
01:53:26,040 --> 01:53:27,639
Speaker 3: And it's one of those.

2314
01:53:27,520 --> 01:53:30,280
Speaker 5: Things where you know, people feel like, well, why are

2315
01:53:30,320 --> 01:53:34,080
Speaker 5: you giving this pushback because, like I said, words mean things,

2316
01:53:34,680 --> 01:53:37,760
Speaker 5: And it's one of those things where it's just mean

2317
01:53:38,320 --> 01:53:42,880
Speaker 5: sometimes because of the Internet, because of cloud, because you know,

2318
01:53:43,000 --> 01:53:45,360
Speaker 5: people feel like they have a voice that they never

2319
01:53:45,400 --> 01:53:49,120
Speaker 5: have before. These are all great things, but also I

2320
01:53:49,160 --> 01:53:51,160
Speaker 5: feel like for a lot of people that use it

2321
01:53:51,160 --> 01:53:53,639
Speaker 5: as from a bullying, they use it as form a power,

2322
01:53:53,800 --> 01:53:55,880
Speaker 5: They use it to form a shut shit down on

2323
01:53:55,920 --> 01:53:59,320
Speaker 5: the most ridiculous, in my opinion, mundane shit there. But

2324
01:53:59,439 --> 01:54:02,559
Speaker 5: like this, you would be more concerned about this versus voting.

2325
01:54:02,760 --> 01:54:05,800
Speaker 5: You'll be more concerned about this versus you know, the

2326
01:54:05,800 --> 01:54:08,200
Speaker 5: shit in Florida. It's like, if we're gonna focus that

2327
01:54:08,439 --> 01:54:11,960
Speaker 5: energy and anger on something, let's focus it on something that,

2328
01:54:12,000 --> 01:54:14,200
Speaker 5: at the end of the day is going to matter.

2329
01:54:14,479 --> 01:54:17,360
Speaker 5: Regardless of if I use crazy in the right term

2330
01:54:17,400 --> 01:54:19,360
Speaker 5: and all these other words in the right term or not.

2331
01:54:19,720 --> 01:54:22,080
Speaker 5: It's not gonna make me free. It's not gonna stop

2332
01:54:22,160 --> 01:54:24,679
Speaker 5: me from being black in America. It's not gonna stop

2333
01:54:24,720 --> 01:54:27,840
Speaker 5: the things that actually matter. So my thing is I

2334
01:54:27,960 --> 01:54:30,880
Speaker 5: understand the anger, and I understand changing of language, and

2335
01:54:30,920 --> 01:54:32,840
Speaker 5: I'm fluent and I evolve in those things.

2336
01:54:32,880 --> 01:54:34,960
Speaker 3: Don't get me wrong, because we're all growing and learning.

2337
01:54:35,200 --> 01:54:37,120
Speaker 5: But there is some shit where I'm like, oh, this

2338
01:54:37,160 --> 01:54:39,680
Speaker 5: shit is stupid and y'all just doing this because you

2339
01:54:39,880 --> 01:54:42,680
Speaker 5: can Other than that, what is the reasoning behind this?

2340
01:54:43,800 --> 01:54:47,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, So anyway, I'm a little sensitive about it, and

2341
01:54:47,520 --> 01:54:48,280
Speaker 4: I admit that.

2342
01:54:48,440 --> 01:54:51,080
Speaker 2: So but at the same time, I do try to

2343
01:54:51,160 --> 01:54:53,560
Speaker 2: get rid of shit before it's even an issue. But

2344
01:54:53,720 --> 01:54:57,200
Speaker 2: I think once I turn like forty I started thinking

2345
01:54:57,200 --> 01:54:59,480
Speaker 2: about the shit and being like, no, some of this

2346
01:55:00,400 --> 01:55:03,320
Speaker 2: is just y'all trying to dominate shit, right, And then

2347
01:55:03,400 --> 01:55:05,760
Speaker 2: the main thing, the main issue I have, and this

2348
01:55:05,920 --> 01:55:09,040
Speaker 2: is like the epiphany, I guess I call it epiphany.

2349
01:55:09,440 --> 01:55:11,640
Speaker 4: And this is like probably five ten years ago.

2350
01:55:12,520 --> 01:55:15,960
Speaker 2: People just are trying to remove the stigma from words,

2351
01:55:16,520 --> 01:55:19,839
Speaker 2: but the stigma is following the topic and the people.

2352
01:55:20,880 --> 01:55:23,160
Speaker 4: It doesn't matter what the fuck you call it. Nope,

2353
01:55:23,240 --> 01:55:25,200
Speaker 4: it's now just signaling to each other.

2354
01:55:25,400 --> 01:55:28,080
Speaker 2: I'm an evolved person that's on the right side of things,

2355
01:55:28,320 --> 01:55:30,120
Speaker 2: but I'm not actually gonna change anything.

2356
01:55:30,240 --> 01:55:32,320
Speaker 4: Nothing's gonna change by me changing the words.

2357
01:55:32,800 --> 01:55:36,120
Speaker 2: For example, people that make a big show out of

2358
01:55:36,120 --> 01:55:37,880
Speaker 2: saying houseless instead of homeless.

2359
01:55:39,160 --> 01:55:42,280
Speaker 4: It don't matter to the motherfucker on the street.

2360
01:55:42,400 --> 01:55:46,560
Speaker 2: It don't matter, Like thank you for the dignity of

2361
01:55:46,600 --> 01:55:50,240
Speaker 2: saying house instead of home. I'm still fucking without a

2362
01:55:50,240 --> 01:55:54,080
Speaker 2: place to live, you know. So it's like, but it makes.

2363
01:55:53,920 --> 01:55:55,680
Speaker 4: Liberal people feel better to be like, but.

2364
01:55:55,760 --> 01:55:58,080
Speaker 2: We're calling it this now, you know, And I think

2365
01:55:58,120 --> 01:56:00,560
Speaker 2: that's why, you know, And I started that the joke

2366
01:56:00,720 --> 01:56:04,640
Speaker 2: on the podcast a long time ago about black people

2367
01:56:05,040 --> 01:56:06,920
Speaker 2: trying to get the stigma off of the N word,

2368
01:56:07,520 --> 01:56:10,880
Speaker 2: and just how we keep changing every ten to twenty

2369
01:56:10,960 --> 01:56:14,760
Speaker 2: years because the stigma still builds up because at the

2370
01:56:14,880 --> 01:56:17,839
Speaker 2: end of the day, what we're after is something deeper

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01:56:17,880 --> 01:56:21,640
Speaker 2: than a word change. So yes, right, it was we said,

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01:56:21,920 --> 01:56:25,560
Speaker 2: don't call us nigger, call us negro, and then that

2373
01:56:25,600 --> 01:56:27,920
Speaker 2: shit got so ugly. We said, oh, call us color

2374
01:56:28,520 --> 01:56:33,160
Speaker 2: and then they say, oh, actually no, it's it's nigger, colored, negro,

2375
01:56:35,640 --> 01:56:38,720
Speaker 2: African American, black. And I don't know what the next

2376
01:56:38,720 --> 01:56:42,200
Speaker 2: thing will be, but it'll be something else because it's

2377
01:56:42,240 --> 01:56:45,640
Speaker 2: not the word. That's the problem is that eventually white

2378
01:56:45,640 --> 01:56:48,720
Speaker 2: people start saying it like this, like you know, it's

2379
01:56:48,880 --> 01:56:49,760
Speaker 2: uh walking down.

2380
01:56:49,600 --> 01:56:53,560
Speaker 4: The street and I've seen these a couple of black

2381
01:56:53,680 --> 01:56:54,840
Speaker 4: people and.

2382
01:56:55,000 --> 01:56:58,520
Speaker 2: Uh, you know, across the street, and you're like, yeah,

2383
01:56:58,520 --> 01:57:00,120
Speaker 2: it wouldn't matter if you said because you know, he

2384
01:57:00,160 --> 01:57:02,520
Speaker 2: was saying in nineteen twenty s walking down the street. See,

2385
01:57:02,560 --> 01:57:05,440
Speaker 2: and I'm saying, a couple of colored fellas and across

2386
01:57:05,480 --> 01:57:07,360
Speaker 2: the street, and I'm like, the problem is crossing the street.

2387
01:57:07,400 --> 01:57:08,680
Speaker 4: That's the right.

2388
01:57:08,800 --> 01:57:09,800
Speaker 3: So the problem's not that I.

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01:57:09,800 --> 01:57:12,160
Speaker 2: Don't even fuck you can say African American doesn't matter,

2390
01:57:12,800 --> 01:57:13,240
Speaker 2: all right, no.

2391
01:57:13,280 --> 01:57:16,600
Speaker 5: Matter what word you mean the definition will follow it,

2392
01:57:16,600 --> 01:57:18,560
Speaker 5: and so it's a systemic change.

2393
01:57:18,560 --> 01:57:19,600
Speaker 3: It needs to take place.

2394
01:57:20,080 --> 01:57:22,160
Speaker 5: Yes, where else needs to change and grow, and yes

2395
01:57:22,200 --> 01:57:26,080
Speaker 5: they need to evolve. But sometimes the problem is the foundation.

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01:57:27,480 --> 01:57:30,120
Speaker 4: A person wrote in I want to say you're a niece,

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01:57:30,440 --> 01:57:32,480
Speaker 4: You're a niece. I hope it is. I'm saying it right.

2398
01:57:32,880 --> 01:57:35,080
Speaker 2: Regarding the whites and the Netherlanders who were shooting arrows

2399
01:57:35,080 --> 01:57:37,680
Speaker 2: at some black use and riding Karen's responsors, you always

2400
01:57:37,680 --> 01:57:39,480
Speaker 2: have to support the black people. This reminds me of

2401
01:57:39,520 --> 01:57:42,040
Speaker 2: when my dad got rested so went to see my

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01:57:42,120 --> 01:57:44,480
Speaker 2: niece's high school volleyball game. My niece was the only

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01:57:44,480 --> 01:57:46,480
Speaker 2: black person on her team and the visiting team was

2404
01:57:46,520 --> 01:57:49,040
Speaker 2: all black. Because my dad was the only black person

2405
01:57:49,040 --> 01:57:51,000
Speaker 2: in the stands, he chaired any time anyone on the

2406
01:57:51,080 --> 01:57:53,800
Speaker 2: visiting team scored, and of course he stood up and

2407
01:57:53,880 --> 01:57:57,560
Speaker 2: yelled good job issue whenever my niece scored or what

2408
01:57:57,840 --> 01:58:01,040
Speaker 2: was anywhere near the ball. This cause came confusion all around.

2409
01:58:01,040 --> 01:58:03,600
Speaker 2: My niece's teammates and her were confused because why was

2410
01:58:03,640 --> 01:58:06,000
Speaker 2: he cheering on the visiting team, and the visiting team

2411
01:58:06,040 --> 01:58:08,040
Speaker 2: did not recognize him and didn't understand why he was

2412
01:58:08,120 --> 01:58:10,880
Speaker 2: cheering them on the all black visiting team of course.

2413
01:58:10,920 --> 01:58:12,640
Speaker 4: One I like that, of course.

2414
01:58:13,480 --> 01:58:17,280
Speaker 2: And when and when my embarrassing needs embarrassed niece asked

2415
01:58:17,320 --> 01:58:19,000
Speaker 2: him at the end of the game why he was

2416
01:58:19,040 --> 01:58:21,200
Speaker 2: cheering on the visiting team. He said, one, because they

2417
01:58:21,240 --> 01:58:24,320
Speaker 2: didn't have any support from the crowds since he assumed

2418
01:58:24,360 --> 01:58:26,800
Speaker 2: that their parents were at work. And two, you always

2419
01:58:26,840 --> 01:58:29,480
Speaker 2: support black people. Lesson learn from my nieces she travels

2420
01:58:29,520 --> 01:58:32,840
Speaker 2: through all white environments. Continue the wonderful podcast for oder

2421
01:58:32,920 --> 01:58:34,960
Speaker 2: care Chairs your niece, thank you.

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01:58:35,080 --> 01:58:39,680
Speaker 5: Yes, and child, I feel your daddy. I am kind

2423
01:58:39,680 --> 01:58:42,120
Speaker 5: of liked that too. I've never been in that situation,

2424
01:58:42,560 --> 01:58:45,280
Speaker 5: but yeah, I would probably cheer for both teams. That's

2425
01:58:45,320 --> 01:58:48,480
Speaker 5: like with my nieces to play basketball, it was confusion.

2426
01:58:48,920 --> 01:58:53,280
Speaker 5: I would literally be cheering for both teams because it's

2427
01:58:53,280 --> 01:58:56,600
Speaker 5: like I want everybody to win, you know, type of

2428
01:58:56,720 --> 01:59:00,320
Speaker 5: type of feeling. And for some people, they get caught

2429
01:59:00,400 --> 01:59:02,520
Speaker 5: up in this is my team, I should cheer for

2430
01:59:02,600 --> 01:59:04,160
Speaker 5: this team, fuck that other team. Like a lot of

2431
01:59:04,160 --> 01:59:06,680
Speaker 5: people really feel hard about that when it come to sports.

2432
01:59:06,960 --> 01:59:08,880
Speaker 5: And now I'm confused by some people going, well, I'm

2433
01:59:08,880 --> 01:59:12,440
Speaker 5: just chating for everybody black and you know, white people

2434
01:59:13,000 --> 01:59:16,120
Speaker 5: be like why I don't understand like that that's baffling

2435
01:59:16,200 --> 01:59:18,520
Speaker 5: to them.

2436
01:59:18,680 --> 01:59:22,120
Speaker 2: Schequita says, hello, endowsem me if you will while I

2437
01:59:22,200 --> 01:59:23,880
Speaker 2: trace back the history of me listening to your show.

2438
01:59:23,880 --> 01:59:25,920
Speaker 2: I discovered your show shortly after I lost my mom

2439
01:59:25,960 --> 01:59:28,560
Speaker 2: a few years back. I was really depressed and I

2440
01:59:28,600 --> 01:59:30,920
Speaker 2: didn't want to do anything but stay home. I didn't

2441
01:59:30,960 --> 01:59:31,440
Speaker 2: even cry.

2442
01:59:31,520 --> 01:59:32,360
Speaker 4: It was really bad.

2443
01:59:32,680 --> 01:59:34,880
Speaker 2: But I was listening to another comedy podcast and my

2444
01:59:34,880 --> 01:59:37,320
Speaker 2: friends started Two white men. I knew and I would

2445
01:59:37,360 --> 01:59:40,280
Speaker 2: always see a show under recommended for you, so I

2446
01:59:40,320 --> 01:59:41,640
Speaker 2: clicked on it, and no regrets.

2447
01:59:41,640 --> 01:59:42,760
Speaker 4: You and Careen really helped me.

2448
01:59:42,840 --> 01:59:44,760
Speaker 2: Your ability to bring a smile on my face even

2449
01:59:44,800 --> 01:59:47,440
Speaker 2: on the toughest days has been a gift beyond measure.

2450
01:59:47,480 --> 01:59:50,120
Speaker 2: I love the laughter you provide me provided me, but

2451
01:59:50,200 --> 01:59:52,720
Speaker 2: I also appreciate the shows that you talk about mental health.

2452
01:59:52,960 --> 01:59:55,440
Speaker 2: It was never really a topic of conversation in my home.

2453
01:59:55,920 --> 01:59:58,440
Speaker 2: If I was sad, I was told to get over it.

2454
01:59:58,520 --> 02:00:00,320
Speaker 2: If I cried, I was told the tough fen out,

2455
02:00:00,560 --> 02:00:02,960
Speaker 2: So I never really expressed my emotions. Hearing you it

2456
02:00:03,080 --> 02:00:05,760
Speaker 2: can be so open and honest and sometimes even emotional

2457
02:00:06,120 --> 02:00:09,400
Speaker 2: about everything really intrigued me. I've written in about three times,

2458
02:00:09,400 --> 02:00:12,280
Speaker 2: maybe four, but about thrones and other things.

2459
02:00:12,640 --> 02:00:14,000
Speaker 4: Why am I writing all this now?

2460
02:00:14,360 --> 02:00:16,120
Speaker 2: After years and years of listening to your show, I'm

2461
02:00:16,120 --> 02:00:18,160
Speaker 2: falling back into that dark place, and I just wanted

2462
02:00:18,160 --> 02:00:20,280
Speaker 2: to express my gratitude while I'm still able.

2463
02:00:20,760 --> 02:00:22,480
Speaker 4: I don't know what is going to happen to me,

2464
02:00:22,840 --> 02:00:24,040
Speaker 4: but I want to thank you both.

2465
02:00:24,200 --> 02:00:26,640
Speaker 2: I know I don't know you and will probably never

2466
02:00:26,680 --> 02:00:28,960
Speaker 2: meet you in person, but I'm proud of you both.

2467
02:00:29,160 --> 02:00:32,280
Speaker 2: You're living your best life and you just completely deserve it.

2468
02:00:32,560 --> 02:00:34,640
Speaker 2: I give you all your flowers with all the love

2469
02:00:34,680 --> 02:00:36,320
Speaker 2: of my heart. I wish you both thought of happiness

2470
02:00:36,360 --> 02:00:37,880
Speaker 2: in the world for the rest of your lives. Take

2471
02:00:37,920 --> 02:00:41,440
Speaker 2: care of Shaquita well. First of all, I'm sorry to

2472
02:00:41,480 --> 02:00:44,960
Speaker 2: hear you're going back into that dark place. You know,

2473
02:00:45,160 --> 02:00:49,080
Speaker 2: especially like depressive episodes can last a long time. If

2474
02:00:49,120 --> 02:00:53,640
Speaker 2: that's you know what we're calling this. Definitely hope you're

2475
02:00:53,720 --> 02:00:56,480
Speaker 2: in contact with therapists. I hope you're talking to your

2476
02:00:56,480 --> 02:00:59,920
Speaker 2: doctor about this, because we're just a podcast of strangers

2477
02:01:00,520 --> 02:01:02,600
Speaker 2: that you know. As much as we love to be

2478
02:01:02,680 --> 02:01:08,080
Speaker 2: a place that provides like outlet or entertainment, we love

2479
02:01:08,160 --> 02:01:11,680
Speaker 2: that that's our jam don't get me wrong, but we're

2480
02:01:11,720 --> 02:01:14,560
Speaker 2: not a substitute for any like actual people in your

2481
02:01:14,560 --> 02:01:17,240
Speaker 2: lives that can really help. And I hope you can

2482
02:01:17,280 --> 02:01:20,320
Speaker 2: communicate with some people in your life right now, because

2483
02:01:20,360 --> 02:01:23,240
Speaker 2: I do understand and recognize we're dealing with an epidemic

2484
02:01:23,240 --> 02:01:27,360
Speaker 2: of lonliness. People feel alone, people feel like there's no

2485
02:01:27,400 --> 02:01:30,080
Speaker 2: one to talk to. I'll see it in my people

2486
02:01:30,240 --> 02:01:34,200
Speaker 2: online all the time and stuff. But I think you

2487
02:01:34,240 --> 02:01:38,000
Speaker 2: know at least what it seems that you're talking about

2488
02:01:38,040 --> 02:01:42,080
Speaker 2: going through in this email. I really think it will

2489
02:01:42,120 --> 02:01:46,320
Speaker 2: probably be best to let some people, professional people know what

2490
02:01:46,360 --> 02:01:48,880
Speaker 2: you're going through to see if you can get help,

2491
02:01:48,960 --> 02:01:51,440
Speaker 2: because especially if you find that your family wasn't an

2492
02:01:51,440 --> 02:01:55,640
Speaker 2: affirming source of like being able to express your emotions,

2493
02:01:56,720 --> 02:01:58,560
Speaker 2: you need that you need somewhere to be able to

2494
02:01:58,560 --> 02:02:03,120
Speaker 2: share that you need and if you need medication or

2495
02:02:03,120 --> 02:02:06,240
Speaker 2: something like that, you need to be in contact with

2496
02:02:06,280 --> 02:02:09,000
Speaker 2: people that can provide that for you. So I'm, like

2497
02:02:09,040 --> 02:02:11,360
Speaker 2: I said, very sorry to hear this, but I really

2498
02:02:11,360 --> 02:02:13,400
Speaker 2: do hope that you know you reach out to some

2499
02:02:13,440 --> 02:02:16,800
Speaker 2: people that can actually, like help more than more than

2500
02:02:16,800 --> 02:02:18,880
Speaker 2: we can, and we hope that you're here for a long,

2501
02:02:18,920 --> 02:02:20,480
Speaker 2: long time. And that we're here for a long long

2502
02:02:20,480 --> 02:02:22,920
Speaker 2: time and you can listen to the show and one

2503
02:02:23,000 --> 02:02:25,120
Speaker 2: day you know, feel that same vibes that you was

2504
02:02:25,120 --> 02:02:28,240
Speaker 2: feeling at the time, because that's what we've aimed to please.

2505
02:02:28,360 --> 02:02:30,000
Speaker 2: We love to do it, and we're gonna be here

2506
02:02:30,000 --> 02:02:33,240
Speaker 2: talking about mental health and talking about life and all

2507
02:02:33,280 --> 02:02:34,920
Speaker 2: that stuff social media.

2508
02:02:35,040 --> 02:02:36,200
Speaker 4: We're gonna be here too.

2509
02:02:36,720 --> 02:02:40,560
Speaker 2: M last one, John Wright saying the strange sort of

2510
02:02:40,600 --> 02:02:42,440
Speaker 2: Good morning rider, Caaren. First off, just want to say

2511
02:02:42,440 --> 02:02:44,000
Speaker 2: how much I've been enjoying the doing it for the

2512
02:02:44,040 --> 02:02:47,240
Speaker 2: GRAMD segment. I'm not on Instagram, so I appreciate getting

2513
02:02:47,240 --> 02:02:49,360
Speaker 2: to listen along with all the fun and I love

2514
02:02:49,480 --> 02:02:51,560
Speaker 2: that when you're feeling a little extra militant and want

2515
02:02:51,600 --> 02:02:54,240
Speaker 2: to embrace the enter five percenter, you can call it

2516
02:02:54,840 --> 02:02:55,920
Speaker 2: for the gram Cracker.

2517
02:02:57,520 --> 02:02:58,400
Speaker 3: That's hilarious.

2518
02:03:00,040 --> 02:03:00,200
Speaker 5: Yeah.

2519
02:03:00,240 --> 02:03:02,080
Speaker 2: The only problem is we not doing it for the crackers,

2520
02:03:02,120 --> 02:03:04,760
Speaker 2: so it would never come up. Ah, we're just doing

2521
02:03:04,800 --> 02:03:07,960
Speaker 2: it for the ground black assumed and everything.

2522
02:03:08,040 --> 02:03:10,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, even though Graham crackers our brown and delicious, but

2523
02:03:10,360 --> 02:03:12,160
Speaker 5: we're not doing it for those crackers.

2524
02:03:12,800 --> 02:03:15,520
Speaker 2: On the topic of being a strange from family, I

2525
02:03:15,640 --> 02:03:17,640
Speaker 2: just wanted to chime in with a couple things another

2526
02:03:17,680 --> 02:03:20,320
Speaker 2: reason for possible upticks in people seven times of family

2527
02:03:20,760 --> 02:03:23,480
Speaker 2: COVID anti VAXX bullshit. I had a couple uncles and

2528
02:03:23,520 --> 02:03:26,040
Speaker 2: cousins who refuse to get vaccinated, and that pissed me

2529
02:03:26,080 --> 02:03:28,760
Speaker 2: off so much, especially after I had an immunal compromised

2530
02:03:28,800 --> 02:03:31,320
Speaker 2: mother in law at the time, that I had to

2531
02:03:31,360 --> 02:03:33,760
Speaker 2: ditch any contact with them. I know many people who,

2532
02:03:33,800 --> 02:03:36,480
Speaker 2: even if they don't completely several times, really pulled away

2533
02:03:36,680 --> 02:03:37,920
Speaker 2: from family and friends who.

2534
02:03:37,760 --> 02:03:40,000
Speaker 4: Are anti vaccine, right, that's true.

2535
02:03:40,200 --> 02:03:42,320
Speaker 2: The other thing is the fact that estrangement isn't really

2536
02:03:42,320 --> 02:03:44,720
Speaker 2: a big deal to some people. My family has just

2537
02:03:44,800 --> 02:03:46,880
Speaker 2: never been that close. I never had the best friend

2538
02:03:47,000 --> 02:03:50,280
Speaker 2: angle with my sister and or parents. Once I left

2539
02:03:50,320 --> 02:03:52,560
Speaker 2: home for college, I would only talk to them a

2540
02:03:52,600 --> 02:03:54,440
Speaker 2: couple times a year and see them every couple of years.

2541
02:03:54,480 --> 02:03:57,080
Speaker 2: So when my dad started pulling his COVID deniw bullshit,

2542
02:03:57,360 --> 02:03:59,160
Speaker 2: it was really easy for me to go from talking

2543
02:03:59,160 --> 02:04:01,920
Speaker 2: to him only half a dozen times a year and

2544
02:04:02,000 --> 02:04:04,280
Speaker 2: now only the birthdays of Christmas. Is I'm like ninety

2545
02:04:04,320 --> 02:04:06,600
Speaker 2: nine percent of strange for him, but not totally so.

2546
02:04:06,600 --> 02:04:08,920
Speaker 2: So my own decision to several times with my family

2547
02:04:09,040 --> 02:04:10,400
Speaker 2: really wasn't that difficult to make?

2548
02:04:10,800 --> 02:04:12,080
Speaker 4: That's true, all that's true.

2549
02:04:12,240 --> 02:04:14,480
Speaker 2: Also, I do think Trump is a huge part of

2550
02:04:14,520 --> 02:04:17,600
Speaker 2: this too, because Trump just pushed things to an extreme

2551
02:04:17,640 --> 02:04:21,160
Speaker 2: where you can't even the point of a lot of

2552
02:04:21,200 --> 02:04:24,959
Speaker 2: what Republicans and conservatives believe now is to not be cordial.

2553
02:04:25,680 --> 02:04:28,640
Speaker 4: Yes, it is to be adversarial. That is the point

2554
02:04:28,720 --> 02:04:29,040
Speaker 4: it is.

2555
02:04:29,840 --> 02:04:32,960
Speaker 2: They like, if you it's obstructionism, but in real life,

2556
02:04:33,000 --> 02:04:36,120
Speaker 2: if you look at what they are against, it's whatever

2557
02:04:36,480 --> 02:04:39,680
Speaker 2: liberal Democrat people say that for. Even if some of

2558
02:04:39,680 --> 02:04:41,600
Speaker 2: the stuff that you're for is stuff they used to

2559
02:04:41,600 --> 02:04:43,480
Speaker 2: say they were for, the second you say you're for it,

2560
02:04:43,760 --> 02:04:46,080
Speaker 2: they're like, I don't like that no more. And so

2561
02:04:46,560 --> 02:04:48,800
Speaker 2: how do you mend a bridge with somebody that's being

2562
02:04:48,920 --> 02:04:50,640
Speaker 2: adversarial on purpose?

2563
02:04:50,880 --> 02:04:51,400
Speaker 4: You don't.

2564
02:04:52,600 --> 02:04:54,200
Speaker 2: I also just wanted to say how much I enjoyed

2565
02:04:54,200 --> 02:04:56,240
Speaker 2: the episode of Fantastic Frankie. I'm not even that big

2566
02:04:56,240 --> 02:04:58,240
Speaker 2: of a comic superhero fan, but I still find a

2567
02:04:58,280 --> 02:05:00,000
Speaker 2: discussion discussion really great.

2568
02:05:00,440 --> 02:05:00,640
Speaker 4: Rod.

2569
02:05:00,680 --> 02:05:02,120
Speaker 2: I think you nailed it when you know that that

2570
02:05:02,120 --> 02:05:04,400
Speaker 2: white dudes only one to consume art that panters to

2571
02:05:04,440 --> 02:05:06,680
Speaker 2: them is an issue of privilege. I think it's also

2572
02:05:06,720 --> 02:05:10,000
Speaker 2: in security consuming art that centers black people, women LGBTQ

2573
02:05:10,120 --> 02:05:12,840
Speaker 2: people would challenge them in ways they aren't comfortable with

2574
02:05:12,920 --> 02:05:15,720
Speaker 2: and prove just how little they actually know about the world. Right,

2575
02:05:15,840 --> 02:05:18,080
Speaker 2: But I'm totally with you and that I love watching

2576
02:05:18,120 --> 02:05:21,400
Speaker 2: stuff that isn't for me, whether it's Atlanta pos K dramas, Barbie,

2577
02:05:21,480 --> 02:05:22,640
Speaker 2: or Beyonce concert.

2578
02:05:22,960 --> 02:05:24,160
Speaker 4: I love when stuff really.

2579
02:05:24,040 --> 02:05:26,680
Speaker 2: Feels authentic because the people making it are clearly doing

2580
02:05:26,720 --> 02:05:29,560
Speaker 2: it for their people. There's so much to learn from it.

2581
02:05:29,560 --> 02:05:32,320
Speaker 2: It broughtens my world, my own worldview, and it also

2582
02:05:32,600 --> 02:05:36,440
Speaker 2: just is cool to witness, Like when America Ferrara's rent

2583
02:05:36,960 --> 02:05:41,000
Speaker 2: in Barbie made every adult woman in the theater burst

2584
02:05:41,000 --> 02:05:43,600
Speaker 2: into applause. I felt really lucky to be there to

2585
02:05:43,640 --> 02:05:47,839
Speaker 2: witness and feel it. Likewise, at the Hollywood Bowl Jazz Festival,

2586
02:05:47,840 --> 02:05:50,240
Speaker 2: when our senior was making all kinds of jokes, clearly

2587
02:05:50,640 --> 02:05:53,200
Speaker 2: playing to the seventy eighty percent black audience, I started

2588
02:05:53,240 --> 02:05:55,160
Speaker 2: making an active effort to watch, for, even listen to,

2589
02:05:55,200 --> 02:05:57,920
Speaker 2: stuff that is beyond the typical white male gaze a

2590
02:05:57,960 --> 02:06:00,160
Speaker 2: few years ago, and I'm so glad I did. It

2591
02:06:00,200 --> 02:06:02,920
Speaker 2: expanded my thinking and showing me all kinds of joy

2592
02:06:03,000 --> 02:06:05,480
Speaker 2: that I would have never seen otherwise, And I gotta

2593
02:06:05,480 --> 02:06:07,720
Speaker 2: thank y'all in this podcast for nudging me alone.

2594
02:06:08,280 --> 02:06:08,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

2595
02:06:08,560 --> 02:06:11,320
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And I think when people hear that's coming from

2596
02:06:11,360 --> 02:06:14,320
Speaker 2: a white person, a white dude especially, there's this like

2597
02:06:14,400 --> 02:06:18,240
Speaker 2: weird voyeurism aspect where they're like, oh, see white people

2598
02:06:18,280 --> 02:06:22,360
Speaker 2: consuming our stuff, stay away from us. But honestly, I

2599
02:06:22,520 --> 02:06:25,960
Speaker 2: myself do this with other cultures and stuff, where it's

2600
02:06:26,040 --> 02:06:28,440
Speaker 2: podcasts I listen to where I'm like, this is a

2601
02:06:28,520 --> 02:06:32,600
Speaker 2: podcast made for and about indigenous people. I'm gonna listen

2602
02:06:32,680 --> 02:06:34,720
Speaker 2: to this because I don't know these issues. I don't

2603
02:06:34,760 --> 02:06:37,800
Speaker 2: necessarily know these references, but it's a way to learn

2604
02:06:38,000 --> 02:06:40,520
Speaker 2: and not be fucking ignorant. I listen to podcasts by

2605
02:06:40,520 --> 02:06:44,440
Speaker 2: trans people. I listen to podcasts by you know.

2606
02:06:44,520 --> 02:06:45,920
Speaker 4: Women, black women people.

2607
02:06:46,120 --> 02:06:49,880
Speaker 2: Like even when shit, even when I'm listening to something

2608
02:06:49,960 --> 02:06:53,000
Speaker 2: my white people, I'm learning, even if I'm not agreeing,

2609
02:06:53,080 --> 02:06:55,560
Speaker 2: I'm learning, like, oh, this is how people view this,

2610
02:06:55,560 --> 02:06:58,680
Speaker 2: this is why their view is different than mine. So yeah,

2611
02:06:58,960 --> 02:07:01,280
Speaker 2: I think that's a dope thing, and I hope people

2612
02:07:01,360 --> 02:07:02,320
Speaker 2: don't stop doing that.

2613
02:07:02,360 --> 02:07:04,560
Speaker 4: I think people should try to do.

2614
02:07:04,520 --> 02:07:08,400
Speaker 5: That right because what happens in that process is something

2615
02:07:08,440 --> 02:07:10,000
Speaker 5: that a lot of people try to run from. It's

2616
02:07:10,040 --> 02:07:15,680
Speaker 5: empathy if you understand the culture outside of yourself. If

2617
02:07:15,760 --> 02:07:19,160
Speaker 5: you understand that, all of a sudden, you'll start having

2618
02:07:19,360 --> 02:07:23,800
Speaker 5: compassion and understanding and empathy. When it's time to vote,

2619
02:07:23,880 --> 02:07:28,200
Speaker 5: you'll start considering things and people and how what you

2620
02:07:28,440 --> 02:07:31,520
Speaker 5: say and what you do and how you act impact them.

2621
02:07:32,040 --> 02:07:40,680
Speaker 5: When you know, even a within marginalized groups, there are privileges,

2622
02:07:40,760 --> 02:07:43,480
Speaker 5: and when you point this out, people want to play

2623
02:07:43,480 --> 02:07:46,640
Speaker 5: oppression Olympics, so they want to downplay their own oppression.

2624
02:07:47,720 --> 02:07:49,440
Speaker 5: And so it's just one of those things where no

2625
02:07:49,680 --> 02:07:52,080
Speaker 5: two could be t at the same time. I can

2626
02:07:52,160 --> 02:07:55,040
Speaker 5: be in a group that's oppressed and still learn about

2627
02:07:55,040 --> 02:07:56,960
Speaker 5: other oppressed groups. And I could be in a group

2628
02:07:57,000 --> 02:07:58,200
Speaker 5: that's not oppressed and.

2629
02:07:58,440 --> 02:07:59,520
Speaker 3: Learn about these.

2630
02:08:01,080 --> 02:08:06,680
Speaker 5: Oppressed groups without quote unquote asking or forcing them to

2631
02:08:06,720 --> 02:08:07,280
Speaker 5: do the labor.

2632
02:08:07,520 --> 02:08:08,400
Speaker 3: So when people put.

2633
02:08:08,320 --> 02:08:10,800
Speaker 5: Out a podcast, people put out books, when people do

2634
02:08:10,880 --> 02:08:14,880
Speaker 5: things online, these are alternative ways kind of for you

2635
02:08:15,000 --> 02:08:19,240
Speaker 5: to get this information without you coming in directly interacting

2636
02:08:19,280 --> 02:08:22,320
Speaker 5: with people. Because the thing is we're not a model lift.

2637
02:08:22,440 --> 02:08:24,480
Speaker 5: So if there are black people that go, sure, I'd

2638
02:08:24,480 --> 02:08:27,160
Speaker 5: be more than happy to help you. Then some black

2639
02:08:27,160 --> 02:08:29,880
Speaker 5: people that go not my problem, not my issue. Go

2640
02:08:29,920 --> 02:08:32,280
Speaker 5: figure it out on their own. I'm not your mule,

2641
02:08:32,520 --> 02:08:34,960
Speaker 5: however they feel about it, and both and people have

2642
02:08:35,040 --> 02:08:37,560
Speaker 5: the right to feel either way. So I know, sometimes

2643
02:08:37,560 --> 02:08:39,840
Speaker 5: to a corte unquot avoid that people will do like

2644
02:08:39,880 --> 02:08:42,240
Speaker 5: you're doing listening to the podcast, Like you'll find other

2645
02:08:42,280 --> 02:08:44,840
Speaker 5: avenues to get the information that you need so you

2646
02:08:44,920 --> 02:08:48,760
Speaker 5: don't feel intrusive, so it don't feel like you're doing

2647
02:08:48,800 --> 02:08:51,640
Speaker 5: these other things that quote unquote people accuse people are

2648
02:08:51,640 --> 02:08:53,840
Speaker 5: doing that people really do in real life all of

2649
02:08:53,880 --> 02:08:57,160
Speaker 5: the time. So I appreciate that, and I thank you.

2650
02:08:57,360 --> 02:08:59,200
Speaker 5: And like I said, we're just being us and that's

2651
02:08:59,240 --> 02:09:01,680
Speaker 5: the thing. We do stuff for black people and if

2652
02:09:01,720 --> 02:09:03,360
Speaker 5: white people want to be along for the ride, we

2653
02:09:03,360 --> 02:09:04,400
Speaker 5: won't have a problem with that.

2654
02:09:04,640 --> 02:09:06,480
Speaker 3: You're just not gonna be the center of everything we

2655
02:09:06,560 --> 02:09:07,080
Speaker 3: talk about.

2656
02:09:07,640 --> 02:09:10,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, like I said, I'll do it too, and uh, yeah,

2657
02:09:10,960 --> 02:09:14,160
Speaker 2: I think more people should kind of do that, you know,

2658
02:09:14,400 --> 02:09:17,520
Speaker 2: take on take on the responsibility. And yeah, I think,

2659
02:09:17,680 --> 02:09:19,840
Speaker 2: as Karen pointed out, it's a non intrusive way of

2660
02:09:19,880 --> 02:09:22,800
Speaker 2: doing it. Okay, gotta get back to lathering some beer

2661
02:09:22,840 --> 02:09:26,480
Speaker 2: on my skin for some bathing. What is wrong with

2662
02:09:26,560 --> 02:09:28,920
Speaker 2: us lo o L gonna watch one of the great

2663
02:09:29,000 --> 02:09:32,360
Speaker 2: HD YouTube videos of the Beyonce tour tonight, love hearing

2664
02:09:32,360 --> 02:09:34,560
Speaker 2: the joy it brought you both. I promise we won't

2665
02:09:34,600 --> 02:09:36,720
Speaker 2: raise our fist when the black Power signal goes up.

2666
02:09:37,200 --> 02:09:40,440
Speaker 4: Uh cheers to stay safe, John, Yeah, that's big.

2667
02:09:41,760 --> 02:09:42,400
Speaker 1: Don't do it.

2668
02:09:42,560 --> 02:09:43,720
Speaker 4: I don't want to be reading about it.

2669
02:09:43,760 --> 02:09:44,480
Speaker 3: Don't do it.

2670
02:09:45,040 --> 02:09:47,320
Speaker 4: We don't want to be reading about you later. Like people,

2671
02:09:47,360 --> 02:09:49,040
Speaker 4: the white people got jumped at to be honest, all.

2672
02:09:49,000 --> 02:09:51,280
Speaker 3: Right, and you be trending and ship they say stay

2673
02:09:51,280 --> 02:09:52,200
Speaker 3: off the ground.

2674
02:09:52,040 --> 02:09:55,240
Speaker 4: But mostly don't make no noise during the mute segment.

2675
02:09:55,360 --> 02:09:57,600
Speaker 4: That's that's right, that's even more important.

2676
02:09:58,360 --> 02:09:59,919
Speaker 3: People take that too seriously.

2677
02:10:00,320 --> 02:10:01,880
Speaker 4: All right, y'all. That said, we'll be back.

2678
02:10:02,080 --> 02:10:05,560
Speaker 2: I know Tuesday we have jail covid on have Black

2679
02:10:05,600 --> 02:10:09,760
Speaker 2: Faces out, yes, and he's here to promote it and

2680
02:10:09,880 --> 02:10:12,360
Speaker 2: talk about his new podcast and we can't wait to

2681
02:10:12,400 --> 02:10:13,000
Speaker 2: talk to him.

2682
02:10:14,000 --> 02:10:15,680
Speaker 4: So yeah, until then.

2683
02:10:16,240 --> 02:10:18,520
Speaker 3: I love you, I love you too.

2684
02:10:18,880 --> 02:10:23,240
Speaker 5: Love Happy branniversary, Happy anniversary, and can't wait to see

2685
02:10:23,320 --> 02:10:27,520
Speaker 5: y'all on Saturday for you for everybody's going to be

2686
02:10:27,600 --> 02:10:28,480
Speaker 5: virtual in person.

2687
02:10:28,520 --> 02:10:29,400
Speaker 3: I'm so excited.

2688
02:10:29,720 --> 02:10:30,960
Speaker 4: All right, Bye, everybody,