WEBVTT - The Cookout Ain't Dead 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:04.760 Traditions are changing because the culture has changed. 0:00:05.440 --> 0:00:09.840 Mmmm, dead ass, And the way I see it, I 0:00:09.920 --> 0:00:11.720 just don't be wanting mad people up in my house, 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:16.640 know how, because my social battery be depleted. Okay, invite 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:22.040 me somewhere that ass. Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devoured 0:00:22.120 --> 0:00:23.560 and we're the Ellis's. 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:26.680 You may know us from posting funny videos with our. 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:30.640 Voice and reading each other publicly as a form of therapy. 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:33.760 Wait, I make you need therapy most days. 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:34.599 Wow. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:37.360 Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married. 0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:40.280 Yes, sir, we are. We created this podcast to open 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:43.199 dialogue about some of Li's most taboo topics. 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:45.720 Things most folks don't want to talk about. 0:00:45.560 --> 0:00:47.840 Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:49.959 is a term that we say every day. So when 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:53.840 we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hundred 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:56.760 the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.520 Were about to take philos off to our whole new level. 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:03.720 Dead ass starts right now. 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:12.320 So story time, I'm gonna take y'all back to my childhood. 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:15.160 And when I say childhood, this is when I was 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:17.760 a teenager. It was barbecue and then huh, oh, you 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.800 you know because when you met us. Yes, it was 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.000 every weekend, every single weekend. 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.520 But I mean you could propose to me at a barbecue. 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:27.640 I did my brother's. 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:29.240 Was it Memorial Day? 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:31.520 It was his graduation. 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:33.520 Graduation barbie graduation barbecue. 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:35.679 But I take y'all back to when I was about 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:39.199 fifteen sixteen, and this was the time when we stopped 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:42.600 going to Tennessee because my brother and I were playing 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:45.520 sports heavy in Brooklyn. So when the summertimes now, we 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:49.320 were back home in Brooklyn, and every weekend in the summertime, 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.320 my dad would just be like, yo, going to get 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:55.960 some ribs, going to get some burgers, some sausages. Your 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:59.320 mother's making macaroni salad and potato salad. But y'all gonna 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.280 have to grilliz meat because it's hot out there, paused, 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:04.320 and I'm not standing out there. And we used to 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:09.520 be like bet and that became a routine every summer. Gavin, Kevin, 0:02:11.080 --> 0:02:14.960 me Brian, my cousin Devonne, my cousin Dorian, and my 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:17.240 cousin Portion when she used to come in from Connecticut. 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:21.400 We would all be in the backyard playing dominoes, playing spades. 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:26.280 Every single weekend, and it was just like something we 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:29.359 did to kind of keep us out the street, because realistically, 0:02:29.360 --> 0:02:31.239 back in those days, if you wasn't in the backyard 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:33.679 doing something, you was in the streets doing something you 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:36.040 wasn't supposed to. So my dad's whole thing was like, 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:38.640 I'd rather my kids be where I can see them, Yes, 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:41.280 And we would invite the whole block. We would invite 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:43.240 all our friends, whatever team I was a part of, 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:46.640 those teammates would be there, my brother's teammates would be there. 0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:48.799 And my sister was kind of young around this time. 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:50.600 She was ten years younger than me, so she was 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:52.200 like six or seven years old. She ain't really have 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:54.239 no friends like that that could come over and barbecue, 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:56.160 but her little friends from next door on the cole 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:57.960 and from down the block a leadah, they would come 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.799 in the backyard. And that's how we weild the community, 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:02.560 you know. It was just a safe space for all 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:03.680 the kids to come and just chill. 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:06.560 Shout out the scoop and mouth for feeding droves and 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:07.480 droves and droves. 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:09.839 I don't know how they did that. I really don't 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:10.120 know how. 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:10.919 I don't know either. 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:12.799 It was costcos every week too. 0:03:12.960 --> 0:03:15.880 Yeah, that's why your mom's so tired now shout out, 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:18.800 shout out to my because man, my girl will be tired. 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:21.080 And I understand because I feel like that's my future. 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:23.560 Yeah, yeah, that's gonna be our. 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:29.160 House karaoke time. So we were conflicted about like what 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:32.120 our karaoke song was going to be today, not really conflicted, 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:33.640 but I feel like we should do both because they 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:38.280 both made us think of family time, cookouts, traditions, events, 0:03:38.400 --> 0:03:43.960 gatherings as my island people would say a special all of. 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:45.360 Those things auspicious. 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:49.600 But but yeah, so do you want to go with 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:50.360 your was first? 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:51.960 What do you think I should go? Mom first? 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:57.680 I'm gonna go first. And I was just so excited, Ready, ready, 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:03.000 you can do it? Electric bookie woog wog. You can't 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:07.080 do it. It's electric bookie wiggy woogie, and I know it. 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:14.760 I don't even know the words, does anybody? I've got 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:28.160 to move? I thank you and I'll teach you the electrics. 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:39.240 Lie my mom electric slide champion, Okay. And it's just 0:04:39.279 --> 0:04:41.800 the way she does it with this little stush little 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:46.280 face and the two hands be going and the hit 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:49.279 and then it dropped forward and then pulled back on me. 0:04:49.560 --> 0:04:54.880 But my mom really I love it. But one thing, 0:04:54.960 --> 0:04:58.039 one thing, and any events we've had our moms definitely 0:04:58.080 --> 0:04:59.839 spearhead the electrics. 0:04:59.839 --> 0:04:59.880 Li. 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:02.000 I almost banded at our wedding, but I said, you 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:03.880 know what, I can't take that joy from our culture. 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:04.520 You can. 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:07.320 And then now I look very every excuse. 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:10.559 I'm over you electric slide on every song, I'm holding 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:13.080 on you, electric slide. 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:18.520 I'm gonna throw that shoulder and bring it back all 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:20.800 right now, And it's the kick and then the side. 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:23.880 You know, what's your song. We'll reminds your cookouts and 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:26.240 in all those things family events. 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:29.280 Well, it's cookouts, it's weddings. It's the end of every 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:31.800 black movie. Does anybody know what it this? 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:35.239 Mm hmmmm mmmmmmmm hmmm. 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:41.000 It's like what. 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:47.040 I can see you when you all hey, even when 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:51.000 you're talk it takes all men. 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:54.720 Hey, that is my jam yo. 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:56.320 That's a good one. 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:59.720 Oh, my goodness, my goodness. All right, before we go 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.159 into some more song and dance, because we definitely have 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:04.800 some other ones. I think on the on the island 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:06.159 side of things, what would be like the one that 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:09.440 we would do mostly that everybody gets on the dance floor. Oh, 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:19.120 Matt's favorite, Oh Pa, shout out to Matt. Matt shot 0:06:19.120 --> 0:06:21.320 one too many weddings. He said, I can never hear 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:23.719 that song again for the rest of my life, and 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:27.279 it would be too soon. He's either that or the 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:32.520 dollar line sent I sent Tencent Dolla. Hey speaking to Dallas. 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:34.320 Let's go pay some bills and we're gonna come back 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:37.240 and get into the meat of the show. Where are 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:39.880 the traditions going? Are they going? Are they saying, we 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:41.880 don't know, We're gonna talk about it. We'll be back, 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:53.599 all right. So we're back and we are talking about traditions, gatherings, cultural, 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:58.280 you know, get togethers. What's happening to those What kind 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:01.080 of sparked my interest in this conversation was seeing essence 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.760 posts about it because Memorial Day weekend typically tends to 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:08.480 be the kickoff for you know, cookout season, barbecue season, 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:11.000 lineman season, as we say in the Islands, you know, 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:16.000 get together is the weather's perfect. You know, everybody's looking 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:20.000 for somewhere to go, something to do outside. So yeah, 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:22.560 I remember those those days I coming into your family 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:24.800 and seeing that that was like a thing and it 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:29.400 wasn't like a formal everybody get together kind of planned event. 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:33.120 They kind of just happened and spiraled into these get 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:35.800 together that became a thing. What y'all doing, What y'all 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:38.320 doing is sod. Everybody being at home doing nothing? Come on, right? 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:41.960 And I love that your parents created, like, essentially, what 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:45.960 was a safe space for all of the local teenagers 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:48.120 and all of our friends and whatnot. And we would 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:50.040 be there till the wee hours of the morning and 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:51.880 the only stipulation was that we had to make sure 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:52.520 we cleaned up. 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:54.440 The sink. 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:59.600 Your father would thorough conniption, that was the case. And 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:01.560 then all so too after a while. It's just like, yo, 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:03.600 if you coming, don't come empty handed. Now, facts you 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.040 better bring in case of soda. 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.960 Something back of hot dogs, bring bring something. 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:11.480 Bring something. But it was the camaraderie, right, And it's 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:13.960 crazy because as you grow, I'm kind of wondering, is 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.840 it becoming a lost art form? Is it that we 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:19.600 are aging out of that age group where people get 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:23.480 together often because we now have responsibilities and kids and 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:26.600 our weekends are laden with sports and you know, there's 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:30.600 so many different factors, but not just factors when it 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:35.200 comes to just socialization, but there're economic factors absolutely, So 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:36.480 what's your take on in baby? 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:40.439 The first thing I've noticed is even amongst my friends, right, 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:43.600 I remember we were growing up, there was like, yo, 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:46.080 where the party at? You know where's where? You know 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:47.800 where the uncles at? You know what I'm saying, Like 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:50.360 who house we going to? And it's like, nigga, we 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:53.719 the uncles like they supposed to be looking to come 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:54.959 to our house, y'all be. 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.199 Fighting this shit a mug now, Like, don't be calling 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:59.440 me auntie. Y'all be calling me auntie in the comments. 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:03.079 I'm like that that's part of the problem though, That's 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:04.520 why I don't want to be an auntie. 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:06.840 But that's the problem. You're not embracing the fact that 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:10.280 you have a responsibility to the community to open up 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:12.280 your home so that the young people can come to 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.719 your house and learn how to be the next Auntie. 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.160 Too many aunties and uncles now are trying to act 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:19.640 like young kids and they're still out in the streets. 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:20.960 That's that's one aspect. 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:23.600 I mean, can we push push, Let's just push the decade, 0:09:23.679 --> 0:09:26.160 like maybe when I'm like in my fifties. 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:28.200 Really really reading your fifties. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.360 To be honest, our house is like, you're. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:34.400 Gonna have grandkids in your fifties, says who absolutely. Jackson 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:38.079 is thirteen. When you turn fifty, you'll be twenty three now, 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:40.400 so in your fifties, he's gonna have a child. You're 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:41.359 gonna be a grandmother. 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:42.640 I'm gonna be cute. 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:45.240 Yeah, you will be cute. You're gonna be a thick grandma. 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:47.320 You get a thick grandma, and you're gonna be in 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:50.600 the backyard making potato salad and macaroni salad. So these 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:52.720 kids can come in here because I don't want my 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:53.840 boys out in the street either. 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:54.520 No, I hear you. 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:56.439 I'd rather than be here, bro, I hear you. 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:57.880 That's why we have a kind of an open door 0:09:57.880 --> 0:09:59.960 policy with our boys and their friends. Now, I mean shit, 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:01.760 all of out say anybody to be here all the time. 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:03.840 But it is, it is part of that, like it 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:05.839 just and this is not you know, some of this 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:08.960 as jokes, but this is the reality. Right, socio economically, 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:12.400 things have changed for us as people. My parents got 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:15.800 married at twenty one twenty two, had their first child 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:19.040 at twenty two, right, and they were you know, set 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:22.120 in their lifestyle as being family people. They both worked, 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:25.080 but they had kids. Now people are having children later. 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.640 They're having children mid thirties, you know. So now that 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:30.440 they're having children mid thirties that time where my parents 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.839 were being the auntie and uncle when they were their 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:34.880 late children, our generation isn't doing that. 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:35.240 True. 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:39.319 And also social economically, you can't afford to have the 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:43.000 whole community in your backyard right now, like property property 0:10:43.080 --> 0:10:46.400 value has risen. I think even the cost of purchasing 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.760 a home or the amount of people own homes now 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:52.920 has dropped since when our parents. So not only do 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.080 the aunts and uncles not want to be aunt and uncles, 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:57.280 they don't own properties to have people come over to 0:10:57.360 --> 0:11:00.240 have cookouts at as high rate as we did back 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:01.840 in the eighties and nineties. That's just a fact. 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:04.960 And said that, yeah, for sure. Actually that's a perfect 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:07.000 segue to some facts and stats. So, like I said, 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:09.400 what sparked this idea for me today was looking at 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:12.240 a social media post from Essence magazine that ax users 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:15.000 what happened to the cookout and a ray of different 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:17.400 responses were given, and here are some of them that 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:20.320 I think are totally spot on. COVID Right, so some 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:23.520 people are still not fully back outside and recovered from 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:28.400 the effects of COVID. Food prices skyrocketing, clearly cutting family ties. 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:31.640 Our generations are like, you know what, I ain't really 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.400 want aunts to your uncle or grand so granda or 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:35.319 grand uncle whoever. 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:38.800 So, but I'll push back on that. Okay, those people 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.040 don't got to be invited to your barbecue anyway. That's 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:43.760 sure you not having a barbecue because you're cutting family ties. 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:46.640 There's not a reason to not have a barbecue your friends. 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:48.640 Right or are we having barbecues that just everyone is not, 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:51.400 you know, going to be invited to? Yes, that's possible. 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:55.559 Then there's also laziness, like he's got uber eats, you 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:58.880 got door dash. It's just like, do I really want 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:01.600 to go through the hassle of half to cook you know, 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:05.920 from scratch? What also to I'll add to that. Well, 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:09.000 I guess part of laziness. But another maybe bullet point 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:12.240 would be everybody got a different food allergy. This person 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.000 will eat that one, somebody vegan, somebody vegetarian. That's when 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:18.240 you say, you know what, bring what you eating, what 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:21.280 you drink? Let's pop look up in this bitch, because 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:24.240 I don't have time for you and your allergies, lack 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:31.000 of family values, our children's generation not having any cousins. Well, shoot, yeah, 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.760 we know what cut Well we have cousins on one side. 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:37.800 I don't mind. One user said, none of us know how. 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:41.760 To fade so but so this goes back to what 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:45.679 we've been talking about all season, perception versus reality. You 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:48.960 cannot listen to social media as to who is and 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:52.760 who isn't having barbecues because we still have family cookouts 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:56.280 and barbecues. We just had one for Mother's Day. I did, 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:58.320 you know what I'm saying, Like, we still do that. 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:01.120 And the truth of the matter is a lot of 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:04.400 people that are having these conversations on social media, they're 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:07.960 not the ones having family values. They're not the one 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:11.200 that's not having cookouts. But the people who are having 0:13:11.200 --> 0:13:14.640 cookouts aren't on social media cooking out right, you know 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.720 what I'm saying. So they're not even involved in the conversation. 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:18.880 Because when you you asked me about the conversation, I 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:21.320 was like, who not having cookouts? Because we still. 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:21.960 Because we still are. 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:25.080 Yeah, there's a perception and then there's a reality. 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:27.719 But I do think the reality is true, particularly when 0:13:27.720 --> 0:13:30.200 you brought up the property like, if you don't own 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.079 a place, then where are we having these cookouts? But 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:35.640 I mean also too, there's what public places like. You've 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:36.800 used to see cookouts at the. 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:38.480 Park, at the park, Aluly No pull. 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:40.840 A grill out, everybody to state their claim in the grass. 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:44.480 In Brooklyn, see I View Park Always every weekend, there 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:46.679 was a grill out there and there was families out there, 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:49.160 So even people who couldn't afford properties back then. And 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:51.120 when I say back then, I'm talking about ten years 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.760 ago when you and I were living in Brooklyn. I 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:57.480 worked at Pakplex. I had my sports performance program there. 0:13:57.920 --> 0:14:00.800 Dolo and I and Brian would be there and Saturday 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:02.599 and we'd be training the kids and we'd do a 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:05.679 leaf physique. But afterwards we'd leave there and we'd smell 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:08.520 the food because Ceview Park was filled with people having. 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:10.960 Codd Yeah, CV Park and Narcipier. When you come off 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:12.520 that belt park where you come around the bend, you 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:15.360 see everybody outside. But to your point, since the nineties, 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.480 the cost of living has more than double. So one 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:20.800 dollar in twenty twenty four is worth two dollars and 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:24.080 twelve cents back in nineteen ninety four, and since nineteen 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:28.040 ninety four. Hours worked have fallen into the private sector 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:30.840 and risen in the public sector, so the increase in 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:35.480 hours may stem from restrictions on hiring in the sector. Additionally, 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:38.640 the hours reported by self employed people have fallen over 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.480 forty two hours per week to thirty seven in the 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:47.800 latest data. Also, after decades of relative stability, the rate 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:51.640 of US home ownership began to search in the mid nineties, 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:55.400 rising from sixty four percent in nineteen ninety four to 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:58.720 a peak of sixty nine percent in two thousand four. 0:14:58.840 --> 0:15:01.400 See but that would make sense because remember ninety four 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:04.040 to two thousand and four was when we remember your 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:05.480 family bought a home in Canarsie. 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:07.880 My family bought a home in Canarsie in nineteen ninety three. 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:09.680 Yeah, my parents bought one in eighty seven. 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:11.760 So you see what I'm saying. That's what we grew 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:14.840 up in that culture where our families were buying homes 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:17.320 at a higher rate. So that's what we became used to, 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:18.680 and it was like new, Like we got a house, 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:19.640 let's have a barbecue. 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:21.640 And then the Census Bureau released is now the latest 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:24.480 quarterly report for Q one of twenty twenty four shows 0:15:24.480 --> 0:15:27.120 that The latest home ownership rate is sixty five zero 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.080 point six percent, which is the lowest has been in 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:32.080 two years, because who can afford anything now anyway. 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:36.720 Also, let's not discount the world came to a halt 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:37.880 in twenty twenty. 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:38.960 Because of covery happening. 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:41.520 There's still a lot of recovery that's only four years removed, 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:43.920 a lot of people lost jobs, a lot of people. 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.600 That's going to their savings depleted. Absolutely, there's so much 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:49.880 to recover from that that's not going to happen in uh. 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:52.800 You know, I think that's for the year, a decade 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.960 of recovery, considering the fact that you know, we weren't 0:15:57.440 --> 0:16:00.960 We weren't stable by any means in twenty twenty. We weren't. Remember, 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:03.600 we were also going through an election period. So anytime 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:05.720 you're going through an election and there's a change and 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:07.920 the powers that be, there's always a lot that goes 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:09.840 on with the housing markets. We saw that with Obama 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:13.080 in two thousand and eight, where we were struggling to 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:18.480 pay all our bills. So you figure election cycle twenty twenty, 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:23.280 pandemic happens. People were pretty much out of work until 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:24.280 twenty twenty two. 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:27.400 That's when things started to kind of mp back up. 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:29.680 So now we're only two years removed from that, so 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.520 people don't have the extra income to just say, hey, 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.720 come to my house. These barbecues are expensive. I know. 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:39.480 This is just me looking at the American Express. Bill 0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:42.760 Kadeen would go like, say we're having a barbecue. Kadean say, 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:44.840 I'm going to go to Target. First, go to go 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.720 to Target. That's going to be what five hundred dollars, right, 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:50.520 and that's not food. The five hundred dollars is to 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:52.720 make sure that there's toilet paper in all. 0:16:52.600 --> 0:16:56.480 Of that, just like a lot of cups for all 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.280 of those things. 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:02.000 Then it's we're going to go to there's no Costco 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:02.480 out here, but. 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:05.960 Yeah, there's there is so Costco Stamps Club, you. 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.560 Know, bulk shopping when you do the bulk shopping for. 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:10.879 The whole home stool exactly the hint of maybe a 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:14.440 public stor crogram random you know things, and maybe I'm 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:15.720 not the side of the tree. 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:17.920 So that's twenty five hundred dollars for a day. 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:19.960 That's a fact that it made costs for you to 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:21.560 have a barbecue, to have people over. 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:23.480 Well look at this here the retail costs of it. 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:26.040 Let's get down to the actual meat of the show. 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:27.920 Of course, the. 0:17:27.880 --> 0:17:31.960 Retail cost of the a pound of one ground beef 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:34.840 was one dollar and forty eight cents per pound back 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:36.840 in two thousand, I start back in nineteen ninety four. 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:40.400 Today it costs what a whopping five dollars and thirty 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:44.720 five since and that's not even organic beef. So good 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:46.639 thing you and I find out we're allergic to the 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:50.520 cow baby because yeah, passer by, passer by. So yeah, 0:17:50.520 --> 0:17:52.760 So many factors that are contributing to it from a 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:57.600 socio economics standpoint, But like you said, there's probably small 0:17:57.600 --> 0:18:00.600 pockets of people who are still doing absolutely know, these 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:01.679 cookouts and whatnot. 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:07.680 But there are also other factors. Divorce rates, marriage rates. 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:11.520 I'm not sure exactly what the divorce rate looks like 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:15.000 amongst Americans now, but I'm pretty sure or not even 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:17.520 the divorce rate, but the amount of Americans who are 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:20.920 married by the time they get to thirty has dropped. Okay, 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:24.360 So I saw something there. They said lack of family values. 0:18:24.440 --> 0:18:27.240 I think a lot more people don't lack family values. 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:30.720 They're just waiting. So now it's like, okay, we have 0:18:31.119 --> 0:18:32.920 a few friends, you know, and even when we look 0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:36.159 at our siblings, right, they're in their thirties now and 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:39.639 now starting to get serious about finding a mate to 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:42.520 settle down with and have a family, which also takes time. 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:45.480 So since people are doing things later, there are a 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:48.359 lot less children being had, there's a lot less people 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:51.239 getting married at this time. So whereas when people used 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:54.080 to get married late teens, early twenties, think about our grandparents. 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:57.360 Your grandparents got married late teens, mine got married late teens, 0:18:57.600 --> 0:19:01.400 parents got married early twenties, your parents early twenties. As 0:19:01.440 --> 0:19:06.000 those generations start to do things later, So now it's 0:19:06.040 --> 0:19:10.240 like late thirties forties. That's almost like two generations of 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:13.520 the previous generation. Because they did things teens to twenties, 0:19:13.800 --> 0:19:16.240 we're doing things thirties to forties. 0:19:16.280 --> 0:19:19.240 Everything's getting pushed everything decade essentially. 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:22.760 Almost two decades. Think about getting married eighteen nineteen, but 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:23.880 now you're getting married. 0:19:23.680 --> 0:19:26.600 Threety five compared to our grandparents parents. 0:19:26.280 --> 0:19:28.960 Getting married in twenty one, twenty two. Now that people 0:19:29.000 --> 0:19:30.600 getting married having kids in their forties. 0:19:30.640 --> 0:19:33.280 Now, also to the family members who we relied on, 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:36.720 being the cooks, the chief cooks, and bottle washers literally, 0:19:37.560 --> 0:19:39.960 those generations of people are now older. They're like they're 0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:42.719 the elders, you know, some are passing away, like we 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:45.439