Speaker 1: Second date of date. When you date online, some people
Speaker 1: connect over shared interests or hobbies. Other people connect because
Speaker 1: they're both freaking hot. But one of our listeners, Thomas,
Speaker 1: says he connected with a woman online over their joint sadness.
Speaker 1: Oh something like that. Okay, let's talk to Thomas. Thomas.
Speaker 1: Did you meet her on tiermatch dot com or was
Speaker 1: it the Kleenex club? Which one was? That's cute, Well
Speaker 1: that could go. Yeah, I'm not getting paid by any
Speaker 1: of the services I use. I'm not gonna going to
Speaker 1: be free advertising. But we did meet online. Okay, what's
Speaker 1: the sadness you speak of? My friend? Well, you know
Speaker 1: how you can put like whether you're single or divorce.
Speaker 1: There's an option where you can put separated, and so
Speaker 1: I thought I would be honest since the divorces and
Speaker 1: finalized or anything, So I listed my status as separated. Okay,
Speaker 1: why wouldn't you normally do that? Well, I would normally
Speaker 1: tell the truth. That's what I do. But I think
Speaker 1: sometimes people don't want to scare somebody off, you know, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's I think it'd be a turn off, Like people
Speaker 1: are in the middle of something really messy, like you
Speaker 1: just don't want to even swipe on them. It's like
Speaker 1: on Facebook single and people sometimes put it's complicated. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're obviously involved with somebody, but some people think that's
Speaker 1: a turn on. They're like a disaster people you usually
Speaker 1: want to date. Che Well, I don't know. He says
Speaker 1: that he matched with somebody that was separated too. It
Speaker 1: sounds like, yes, her name is Celia and she also
Speaker 1: had separated on her profile. Okay, yeah, she had a
Speaker 1: very nice smile, that she had big curly hair. I'm
Speaker 1: a sucker, perfect didn't think that was coming, but awesome,
Speaker 1: that's good. The hair is also a very good feature.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's it's a good start though. I'm going
Speaker 1: to change the subject to a quick It's a good
Speaker 1: start that you guys are going through. I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't know how similar it is, but similar life experience.
Speaker 1: So you're coming in with with understanding and you probably
Speaker 1: don't feel like you have to explain a lot, right sure. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean that's kind of like prefaces into why I'm
Speaker 1: calling y'all. Um, we went on a date, and this
Speaker 1: is my first first date since the you know, well
Speaker 1: my TBX wife. Yeah, and um, she's not a couple
Speaker 1: of guys like coffee or something super casual and so
Speaker 1: we um, you know, we gotta bite to eat. Okay, wait,
Speaker 1: what were you feeling? Like? Slow down because this is
Speaker 1: the first date out of your marriage. Let me guess.
Speaker 1: Hold on, I'm a psychic. You were nervous? No, he
Speaker 1: could have been feeling excited the money tell us, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I went all out. You know, I got dressed to
Speaker 1: the nines like Jim Carrey and dumb at dumb our tuxedo.
Speaker 1: You know that doesn't sound nervous, no, of course, of course. Yeah.
Speaker 1: You never know. You've been out of the dating game
Speaker 1: for a minute. Maybe you just didn't read the room
Speaker 1: right anymore. Well, I mean I thought it was positive that,
Speaker 1: you know, I got a first date out of messaging
Speaker 1: someone over the internet. So I mean that was you know,
Speaker 1: my uh start. That was pretty cool. Yeah, I was good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Well how did it go when you showed up? Like?
Speaker 1: How was how was Celia? What was the vibe? You know,
Speaker 1: aside from the usual kind of laughs and jokes, a crack,
Speaker 1: the thing that we definitely bonded over. I would say
Speaker 1: like fifty percent of the date was our situation that
Speaker 1: led us to being separated on you know, both of
Speaker 1: us kind of talking about our personal life, you know.
Speaker 1: But that's good. That's good because normally, if you're on
Speaker 1: a date with someone who's just single, they won't relating.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't dare bring it up, you know, because you
Speaker 1: don't want to hear about it. But if you're both
Speaker 1: going through it, it's like, no, please, I need someone
Speaker 1: to talk to about that. I guess that is key.
Speaker 1: You both have it in common so you can bond
Speaker 1: over it. Yeah, is that is that how it went? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean there definitely wasn't a pity party for it
Speaker 1: was like bonding. Yeah. How many shots at tequila do
Speaker 1: you need in order to get through that? But it's
Speaker 1: only like, I know, maybe one two margarita maybe? Okay,
Speaker 1: that's good. So what I mean were you able to
Speaker 1: flirt too, though? Because if you're talking a lot about
Speaker 1: you know, your exes and things, I mean we didn't.
Speaker 1: I mean, no one stayed the night at anybody's house
Speaker 1: or anything like that. But like I said, I cracked
Speaker 1: some folks, you know, I got some genuine laughs. So
Speaker 1: I mean I count that out of flirting. Okay, why
Speaker 1: do you want to call her back. I mean, maybe
Speaker 1: this was just your practice date right before you you
Speaker 1: got a lot of i'm guessing time to make up
Speaker 1: for right now. Yeah, well yeah, why aren't you sleeping
Speaker 1: with everybody around town? Why are you sticking to one person?
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, why why heard like it's your
Speaker 1: first day. Well, the first date I thought went well,
Speaker 1: so I'm figuring that, you know, I might as well
Speaker 1: before I go a fish of the sea as it is,
Speaker 1: I might as well make sure this one's off the hook.
Speaker 1: Got to cut the line that was at differences and
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter the women we didn't go to that
Speaker 1: that's well, yeah, let's get back to the date. How
Speaker 1: did the night end? You know, like I said, no,
Speaker 1: we staved anybody's house. There was no making out or
Speaker 1: anything like that. Hug Yeah, yeah, yeah, there was a hug.
Speaker 1: But one thing that I think is kind of concern
Speaker 1: that I would say is she had mentioned that the
Speaker 1: reason of her separation was there was cheating involved, and
Speaker 1: I could see how she did not want to put
Speaker 1: out any kind of vulnerability, like, you know, to get
Speaker 1: herself her like like I'm trying to be a player,
Speaker 1: which I'm not, you know, like I'm not trying to be.
Speaker 1: My intention was to get over and go on a
Speaker 1: second date. And did you guys make any like future plans?
Speaker 1: I always think that's a good sign on a date. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well we didn't nail I mean we didn't nail down.
Speaker 1: It was like, hey, let's go miniature golfing, you know tomorrow.
Speaker 1: We didn't do anything like that. It was like a
Speaker 1: hug at the end of the night, and it was
Speaker 1: I was like, make sure you get home safe and
Speaker 1: then I'll see what you know. So, how was the hut?
Speaker 1: Was it like a quick hut, like a sense you along?
Speaker 1: She smelled your hair kind of like you don't have
Speaker 1: to answer that if you don't want you smell people's
Speaker 1: hair on the first day ever. Just it was just
Speaker 1: a nice hug, right, yes, it was just I think
Speaker 1: it was a very the standard end of the night.
Speaker 1: You didn't like, rub your hands up and down her back.
Speaker 1: Details need I think you're just gonna play a song.
Speaker 1: We'll come back. We'll call Celia for you and try
Speaker 1: and get your second date update. All right, thank you?
Speaker 1: All right? Hold on, okay, second stepping back on the
Speaker 1: dating scene after going through a failed marriage. Wow, that
Speaker 1: just say it like that. I'm just saying things are
Speaker 1: probably different than the first time around. This is not
Speaker 1: what you tell your friends if they ever call you.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to paint the scene like the people are older,
Speaker 1: the drinks hit you harder, and the hugs are standard. Nothing,
Speaker 1: nothing less, No one telling anybody's hair. Well, that's what
Speaker 1: happened with one of our listeners, Thomas, who's currently going
Speaker 1: through a separation himself, and so was his date, Celia.
Speaker 1: So naturally they talked a lot about their situations and
Speaker 1: they were very open and vulnerable with each other, which
Speaker 1: Thomas took as a good sign. But now Celia is
Speaker 1: not responding to him, which Thomas is taking as a
Speaker 1: bad sign. It's a good, good way to do it
Speaker 1: hasn't changed in that sense. Yeah, something's never Yeah, but Thomas,
Speaker 1: how you feeling? Man? You guys gave it quite the
Speaker 1: lead up. We can keep that music going the whole time. Help.
Speaker 1: Do you know what we never asked you is have
Speaker 1: you tried to get a hold of her? I d
Speaker 1: reached out to her, yes, but I did not receive
Speaker 1: any communication backs. And I mean, I'm calling up you
Speaker 1: guys because I feel like it went well, and so
Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out what what I do. Just
Speaker 1: just brace yourself here because you're new to dating and
Speaker 1: you may hear some things you don't want to hear.
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that you're good at it. Okay, And
Speaker 1: as Brooke would say, there's a whole city of people
Speaker 1: to sleep with. Actually exactly what I would condone. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so let's give Celia call. We'll see if she answers
Speaker 1: and what she has to say. Let's do here we go,
Speaker 1: Hello is it Celia? Yeah? Sorry, I was really excited there, Celia.
Speaker 1: I wasn't sure if you're going to answer. Hey, we're
Speaker 1: we're Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning from the radio.
Speaker 1: Hey cool, Now she's not answering a second to process.
Speaker 1: This is probably a lot, right, I don't Who is it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're so we're a morning radio show. We're called Brooke
Speaker 1: and Jeffrey in the Morning, and we're hoping that you'll
Speaker 1: be a part of a segment with us here called
Speaker 1: a second Date Update. Oh no, thank you. That's a no, no, no, no, Celia,
Speaker 1: it's not a bad thing. Yeah, we're actually calling on
Speaker 1: behalf of one of our listeners. Who you went out
Speaker 1: on a date with a very hot date. Sounded like
Speaker 1: his name's Thomas. Oh yeah, okay, Oh that didn't Oh
Speaker 1: that didn't sound good Thomas. I think it's clueless because
Speaker 1: that was not a good response about Thomas. I mean, Mike,
Speaker 1: we had a really nice dinner and I was hopeful,
Speaker 1: but we kind of got into a personal conversation about
Speaker 1: our situations, our separations, our marriages and that sort of thing.
Speaker 1: It was a big ray flag for me that kind
Speaker 1: of popped up. So are you saying just you guys
Speaker 1: discussing the marital situations was a red flag or something
Speaker 1: specifically about the conversation. Yeah, it was more. It was
Speaker 1: more specific. It was like I told him, like, basically,
Speaker 1: my situation ended because of cheating, and I was the cheater.
Speaker 1: I was unfaithful. Oh oh interesting. So he didn't share
Speaker 1: a lot of your your story at all. He just
Speaker 1: said that there was like that's why your marriage ended.
Speaker 1: He didn't. We just assumed that it was your ex
Speaker 1: But okay, that's fine. That well, for me, the red
Speaker 1: flag was like he acted really weird, like it was
Speaker 1: just normal and he was understanding and like trying to
Speaker 1: make excuses for me and I'm thinking this guy was
Speaker 1: kind of weak. What what do you mean he was
Speaker 1: making excuses for you, Like, oh, well, I guess he
Speaker 1: wasn't paying you attention, or you know, he wanted him
Speaker 1: to be mean to you instead, or you're like the
Speaker 1: first time. It's more like I just laid what I
Speaker 1: had out there on the table and his reaction was
Speaker 1: just a little too normal for me, Like, oh, I
Speaker 1: know him the real like, listen, I cheated and he
Speaker 1: was just like, oh, that's okay, okay, Well, maybe he
Speaker 1: cheated in his relationship too, I mean, or he's just
Speaker 1: awkward and doesn't know what to say that because he
Speaker 1: doesn't want to insult his date. He liked you, well, like,
Speaker 1: what did you want to hear from him? What would
Speaker 1: have been a good response in your mind? I wanted
Speaker 1: him to be disgusted by it, because I think it's
Speaker 1: really horrible what I did. Yeah, was like inside he
Speaker 1: felt that way, but he didn't want to say to
Speaker 1: you on a first date if you disgust me. Plus,
Speaker 1: relationships are like really complicated, and you know, sometimes it
Speaker 1: doesn't want to just saying Maybe he's just being an
Speaker 1: understanding person and trying to be empathetic to what you
Speaker 1: were going through. It sounds like maybe you should go
Speaker 1: out little You guys are both understanding, totally understand. Well,
Speaker 1: if you're playing the statistics, chances are she already has.
Speaker 1: So all I'm saying is like this guy, like he
Speaker 1: doesn't attack you for being really vulnerable and really honest,
Speaker 1: because that's probably a hard thing to share with you people.
Speaker 1: I would imagine you're not listening to me. I deserved it.
Speaker 1: Like he didn't even bust anything. Okay, I see what
Speaker 1: you're saying. Like he's siding with the person who cheated
Speaker 1: rather than siding with the person who got cheated off. Yeah,
Speaker 1: not even questioning it, like got you. Maybe maybe he
Speaker 1: could yell at you now, yeah, because this would be
Speaker 1: a great chance for him to lay into you because
Speaker 1: he's actually on the other line listening. Absolutely, I think
Speaker 1: I've had enough. No, no, no, no enough. You understand
Speaker 1: he's already there listening right now and wants to talk
Speaker 1: to you. Yeah. Yeah, all right, So let me get
Speaker 1: this straight. You wanted me to be like doctor phil
Speaker 1: or Steve Harvey or something. It just lace into you.
Speaker 1: How does that make sense on a first date? First
Speaker 1: of all, I didn't even know you were on the line. Secondly,
Speaker 1: I go for a reason, and I really don't even
Speaker 1: want to talk to you. Oh no, flying Is this
Speaker 1: the vibe you got Thomas when you guys were out?
Speaker 1: Nothing like this. This is like Medusa head. I don't
Speaker 1: know who this woman is. I'm just being honest with you.
Speaker 1: I feel like you could have at least questioned why
Speaker 1: I did it, Like I need someone to hold me
Speaker 1: accountable for all Right, you want some criticism? Are you
Speaker 1: got my nails? Dont my nails look good? Yeah? Your
Speaker 1: nails don't look good? Do's cost a lot? Don't talk
Speaker 1: those you didn't go there? Did you like? My nails
Speaker 1: looks amazing? Okay? I think he's just trying to give
Speaker 1: you what you want there, Celia. He's not reading what
Speaker 1: she wants very well though. I mean, I will give
Speaker 1: her back if I'm reading exactly what she wants. It
Speaker 1: sounds like you want to be punished next time. Bring
Speaker 1: an iron fist to the date and put the hammer down.
Speaker 1: This is why he practice dating more. Yeah, I have
Speaker 1: called the first person back a lot of people out
Speaker 1: till you find your right man. But he could sleep
Speaker 1: around with other people and cheat on Celia and then
Speaker 1: we could send them out on a second date. No,
Speaker 1: I don't think that's what she wants either. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I could ask Celia, would you be interested in that?
Speaker 1: Would you like to go out one more time? I'm
Speaker 1: good with him. I thought I made that clear. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you did, you did. You're very clear. It's just my
Speaker 1: job to ask. Yeah, okay. I don't know if Thomas
Speaker 1: is upset about that, though. Yeah. I'm sat about how
Speaker 1: this went, especially considering she's out of her mind. Oh
Speaker 1: now you're talking the way that she likes. Ye. Well,
Speaker 1: I really appreciate you guys having me on. But if
Speaker 1: I learned anything from this, it don't date anyone who
Speaker 1: says separated in a profiles. I guess Broke and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning Man. People have been saying forever that
Speaker 1: dating today is hard. Yeah. I think it's time after
Speaker 1: that call to start saying dating is impossible. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: even if you're trying to be understanding and see the
Speaker 1: other person's perspective give them the benefit of the doubt,
Speaker 1: that scene as a weakness. Yeah, and they don't like
Speaker 1: you for it. That's why this ended with no date
Speaker 1: at the end. Anybody out there who's single, including myself,
Speaker 1: let's just all give up. That's a winning at Kay,
Speaker 1: that's so sad. Okay, I just hate a dialone. It's mad.
Speaker 1: You will find your love. You don't have to base
Speaker 1: it up this lady. This lady was a little out there,
Speaker 1: and I think what it does say is that even
Speaker 1: if you were the cheater, therese are people who will
Speaker 1: forgive you. Yeah, that was really nice too, forgiving him.
Speaker 1: That was the problem either. I could see why she
Speaker 1: hated you thought sappy, but you know, yeppy, it wasn't sides,
Speaker 1: it wasn't. But no, look, we do want to help
Speaker 1: connect you if you still do believe in love out there,
Speaker 1: and if you do, you can always email the show.
Speaker 1: We'll call the person who wasn't calling you better