1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: M what's up? You guys are listening to a Velvet 2 00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: Edge podcast. I am here with Melody Godfred, who is 3 00:00:10,520 --> 00:00:14,800 Speaker 1: the founder of Fred and Far High. Melody. Hi, Kelly, 4 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: thank you so much for coming on today. I'm so 5 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,760 Speaker 1: excited to have you. I'm so excited to chat with you. 6 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: It's great to be here. I've actually been following you 7 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 1: for over a year now, which um, I've found you 8 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:30,639 Speaker 1: on Instagram because you started this company that just promotes 9 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: self love and it's kind of all based around the 10 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:37,240 Speaker 1: self love movement. Can you tell um the listeners a 11 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 1: little bit about Fred and Far Sure. So, Fred and 12 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: Far as a self love movement that's powered by the 13 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: self love Pinky Ring. And the story behind the ring 14 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: is in two thousand and fifteen, I had reached every 15 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: milestone that I had set out to accomplish. And you 16 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: know my early life. I went to school, I became 17 00:00:56,640 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: a lawyer, I had twins, which was amazing. I got married, 18 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: I had a home, and even though reaching every goal 19 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: I had set, I wasn't happy. And that was very 20 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: jarring for me because I had always thought, if I 21 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:14,399 Speaker 1: do everything I'm supposed to do, the pot of gold 22 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 1: at the end of the rainbows, happiness. And what I 23 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: realized is that in pursuit of all of those goals, 24 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,039 Speaker 1: I ended up losing sight of who I am, my 25 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: authentic self. I stopped taking care of myself because I 26 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: was constantly in service to others, whether they were clients 27 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 1: or my kids or friends, and I felt very lost. 28 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: So I needed a daily reminder to practice self love 29 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:42,959 Speaker 1: and self care, and jewelry was something that I always 30 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: used to commemorate milestones. So I thought, what if I 31 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: created a ring with the singular intention of being a 32 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: reminder of my commitment to myself, and I'll wear it 33 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: on a ring on a finger I've never worn a 34 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: ring on before, and every day it would be my 35 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: way of making sure that I was as important in 36 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:06,560 Speaker 1: my own life as everyone and everything else was. And 37 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:08,959 Speaker 1: that's really how it started. It started from a very 38 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: personal need, and when I saw that it worked for me, 39 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: I thought it might help other women as well. And 40 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: even though I had no experience and jewelry, I knew 41 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: that if I got this message out, I would be 42 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: able to help women. And that's where we got started 43 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: back in two thouts sixteen. I love that so much. 44 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:31,080 Speaker 1: I have to tell you. I was reading your bio 45 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 1: on fred and far dot com and when you said 46 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: the part about that your life you had hit all 47 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: of these milestones and you know, you were married, you 48 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: were successful, you had kids, which I think everyone thinks, 49 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:46,399 Speaker 1: just like you said, if I get these things, then 50 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: I will be happy. And I was reading that and 51 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 1: I started crying, so so it obviously really resonated with 52 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,640 Speaker 1: me today. But I feel like that is so true, 53 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,640 Speaker 1: especially in our society, because we're such a society of 54 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 1: doers right now, and just thinking if we reach these milestones, 55 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: we're going to find our happiness. And that has not 56 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: been true for my life either. So I really found fascinating. 57 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:11,679 Speaker 1: And I think it's there's a lot of pressure put 58 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: on women, especially to achieve certain labels in order to 59 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: qualify their worth. Even you know, even the process of 60 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:25,279 Speaker 1: getting married. You know, the man decides, the man proposes, 61 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:28,320 Speaker 1: the man puts a ring on you to signify that 62 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 1: you belong to him, um. And I think that that 63 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 1: puts a lot of pressure on women, either married women 64 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 1: who realize they're not completely fulfilled just because they achieved 65 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: the wife label, and then other women who either don't 66 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: want to get married or who haven't found the right 67 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: person yet, um, And so I really thought that by 68 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: using a ring we could kind of reclaim this idea 69 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: that are worth is tied up in this idea of belonging. 70 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: And if it's going to be tied up in that, 71 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: why not belong to ourselves? Right? And when you say 72 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: belong to yourself, like, can you talk a little more 73 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: about that, because like, what is your life? He said 74 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: you were giving a lot in your life before you 75 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: kind of had this epiphany. What did that look like? 76 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 1: So I come from a long line of women who 77 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 1: are queens of self sacrifice. If there was an opportunity 78 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: for me to martyr myself, um in in service to 79 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: someone else, I would do it. That could mean responding 80 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: to client emails at one o'clock in the morning because 81 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:35,599 Speaker 1: that's when they emailed me. That could mean not letting 82 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,279 Speaker 1: my husband be a father because I thought I could 83 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 1: do it better, and trying to do everything by myself. 84 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 1: That can mean not setting boundaries with friends who needed 85 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: almost like a therapy type relationship where my needs weren't 86 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: even part of the equation. I mean, in every aspect 87 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 1: of my life, if there is a way for me 88 00:04:57,080 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 1: to sacrifice myself to make someone else feel good. Um, 89 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it. And what's interesting now is being 90 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: the founder of this movement and being the person behind 91 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 1: the social media. I engage with women from all around 92 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: the world on a daily basis. They tell me their stories. 93 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: I follow every customer, everyone who I interact with on 94 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: social media. I follow them so I can give them support. 95 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 1: But I don't feel depleted anymore because I have boundaries, 96 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:27,799 Speaker 1: and because I make sure that in any given day, 97 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,679 Speaker 1: instead of just taking care of other people, I'm also 98 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:34,480 Speaker 1: taking care of myself. That means taking time away from 99 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:37,920 Speaker 1: my phone. That means making sure I'm drinking water. That 100 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: means taking a few minutes to journal, to clear my head, 101 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 1: or listen to music, which is something that ever since 102 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: I was a child, was the most therapeutic thing for me. 103 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 1: I have found the things that I need in order 104 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 1: to replenish my energy, and I think that exploratory period 105 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:58,120 Speaker 1: of figuring out what your needs actually are is the 106 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 1: most powerful piece of self love of because most women, 107 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: by the time you reach your mid twenties or thirties, 108 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: you're very disconnected from the question of what makes you happy, 109 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:14,240 Speaker 1: what are your needs because you're so busy just doing, doing, doing, 110 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: so creating that space to explore yourself and get to 111 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 1: know yourself and then build a lifestyle that supports your needs. 112 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 1: That's really the heart of what self love is all about. 113 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: I love that too, because I feel like, you know, 114 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:31,480 Speaker 1: a lot of times, I don't know if it's as 115 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: women or just as people in general, were put into 116 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: these boxes of what our lives should look like, and 117 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:39,920 Speaker 1: it puts you so out of touch, um, as far 118 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: as like what your journey should be, you know, like, 119 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 1: for for instance, my life looks a little different than 120 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 1: other people because I'm thirty six and I'm single, I'm 121 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: not married, And that has been a really this year, 122 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:53,280 Speaker 1: a really big thing for me to accept about myself 123 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 1: and my journey because it was so beat into my 124 00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:00,279 Speaker 1: head that I should be by now, you know, and 125 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: that just hasn't been the path that's worked out for me. Um. 126 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:06,839 Speaker 1: But yeah, so I think it's like, it's an interesting 127 00:07:06,880 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 1: thought to think about getting to know yourself, getting to 128 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 1: know what works for you, and actually finding your own 129 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: specific journey exactly. That's go ahead and go ahead, and 130 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: it's different for everyone, and I think that's the most 131 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 1: incredible thing is how unique each one of us are. 132 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 1: And what I always say is that you know, each 133 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: of us is one approximately eight billion. There is no 134 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 1: one else like us. And what a gift that is 135 00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: to be able to contribute to the world in a 136 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: way that no one else can. And so, you know, 137 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: finding power in that uniqueness I think is really special 138 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: as opposed to feeling left out or alienated because you 139 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: didn't follow the herd. Right, So when you started Fred 140 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: and Far you said it was kind of by accident, right. 141 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: You weren't setting out with the intention of starting a company, right, 142 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 1: there was no plan at the beginning to start a company. 143 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: I already had a company. Um. I have a resume 144 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: writing and career counseling company. So I was already busy 145 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 1: working on that and helping people in that way. Um. 146 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: But there was just something really transformative. In less than 147 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: a month of wearing the ring, I started doing things 148 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: for myself that I hadn't done in like five years. 149 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: What were you doing? So like simple things like, Wow, 150 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: I'm a really creative person. Why haven't I gone to 151 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 1: a concert or gone to an art museum or explored 152 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:37,080 Speaker 1: culture in any capacity since I went to law school 153 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: or I'm you know, I grew up playing the piano 154 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: for fifteen years. There wasn't a day that went by 155 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,440 Speaker 1: that I didn't play the piano. And then, you know, 156 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: in my house, I have a piano gathering dust. You know, 157 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:51,920 Speaker 1: little things, things that I knew would reconnect me to 158 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: the version of myself that existed before I thought that 159 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:58,320 Speaker 1: achieving was the most important thing in the world. Yeah, 160 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: I read on your website something about um it was 161 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 1: talking we were talking about who we are before we 162 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 1: gather all this dust, so like who we are as kids? 163 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 1: Can you talk about that a little bit? Absolutely? You know, 164 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 1: one of the most informative experiences of my life was 165 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 1: having twins, because when you have twins, you get to 166 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: experience two people born into exactly the same environment, and 167 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:25,560 Speaker 1: yet as you get to know them, you realize that 168 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: from birth they are absolutely who they are and regardless 169 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 1: of what we give them, the environment we create for them, 170 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: the nurture we give them. My daughters are night and day. 171 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: And that was really what opened my eyes to the 172 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: idea that we are born who we are. I mean, 173 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: we are fully formed, and what comes from that point 174 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:49,960 Speaker 1: forward is a lot of cultural conditioning, you know, the 175 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:54,560 Speaker 1: pain and trauma of being a teenager, all the responsibility 176 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 1: that comes as we go into adulthood, and all of 177 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:01,000 Speaker 1: these external things that happen end up as you, as 178 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: you mentioned, putting a layer of dust on that true self, 179 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: that essence, that authentic being that is born into the 180 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: world feeling perfectly whole in all of our you know, 181 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: good parts and bad parts, and whoever we are, we 182 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: accept it when we're born, and then we go through 183 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 1: this period of forgetting. And so I think what's really 184 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: incredible is as you get to know yourself, you get 185 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 1: to revisit those experiences that maybe added dust on around 186 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: your authentic self and heal yourself and reclaim yourself and 187 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: go back to that person you were when you were born. Um. 188 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:44,440 Speaker 1: And that journey is different for every person. But as 189 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:48,080 Speaker 1: I've noticed, you know, yesterday we started a self love 190 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:52,839 Speaker 1: challenge on our Instagram page and the first day of 191 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: the challenges about authenticity and rediscovering that authentic self, and 192 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: we asked women to take a picture their childhood and 193 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 1: use it as their home home screen on their phones 194 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: as a reminder of who they were before. And seeing 195 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:13,319 Speaker 1: these women's pictures and reading their stories. I've I've been 196 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 1: in tears for the past twenty four hours. Yeah, I 197 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:17,800 Speaker 1: mean I could cry right now when I think about 198 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,199 Speaker 1: you know that how a picture could just take you back, 199 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 1: says take you back before anything happened to you, and 200 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:32,720 Speaker 1: reclaiming that person and becoming that person again. Um, And 201 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 1: I think we can all do that. And my goal 202 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: with this movement is to give women the tools to 203 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:41,000 Speaker 1: do that because I know it's really easy and we 204 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 1: can get a lot of messaging, especially right now, that 205 00:11:43,640 --> 00:11:47,960 Speaker 1: says love yourself, take care of yourself. What I'm interested 206 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: is answering the question of how me too, because I 207 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: think that you know, I think a lot of times 208 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 1: people go I'm to do self care and it's like, oh, 209 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go get a massage, or it's like and 210 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:00,880 Speaker 1: those all can be ways to do it, but it 211 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:02,959 Speaker 1: doesn't have to cost a million dollars And there's like 212 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:06,079 Speaker 1: a deeper part of it to the authenticity piece being 213 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: a huge one. Well, that's why I wrote the book 214 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: The ABC's of Self Love, because I think that, as 215 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: you noted it, there is a lot of value and 216 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 1: practicing self care that involves like putting on a face 217 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: mask or taking a back. But I think the self 218 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 1: care that's going to heal you internally has more to 219 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:32,640 Speaker 1: do with evaluating your thoughts and experiences and deciding who 220 00:12:32,679 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: you want to be as you move forward. So in 221 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 1: the book we talk about things like choosing happy thoughts 222 00:12:38,679 --> 00:12:41,680 Speaker 1: because how you what happens to you is in a choice, 223 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: but how you think about it, how you perceive it, 224 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: how you internalize it, it's up to you. So giving 225 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 1: tools to open that door of hey, I get to 226 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: choose how I'm going to feel about something. I'm going 227 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 1: to choose how I'm going to think about something. I'm 228 00:12:57,400 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: going to set boundaries so that I attect myself. I'm 229 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:04,679 Speaker 1: going to question negativity when it surfaces. I'm going to 230 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:07,840 Speaker 1: know my narrative. I'm gonna know my story so that 231 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:10,320 Speaker 1: I can find power in it instead of feeling like 232 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 1: a victim. This is all, you know, self care that 233 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:17,199 Speaker 1: involves working on your inner self, and once you do that, 234 00:13:17,520 --> 00:13:20,560 Speaker 1: all the other self care becomes like the cherry on top, 235 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 1: right right right. I think the um the picture as 236 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: a child is such an interesting thing because I know 237 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 1: I've done that in therapy exercises before. But what a 238 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: lot of people don't talk about is and it's something 239 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: you've mentioned. I think it was either on your website 240 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 1: or maybe in the beginning of the book that I read. 241 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 1: But what happens throughout our life or all of those things, 242 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 1: we do internalize all of that. So if you're not 243 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:48,320 Speaker 1: addressing it, you're just reacting to it later, you know, 244 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 1: as an adult. And so a lot of times I 245 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 1: find I'll even find myself just operating out of fear 246 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: in certain situations or um, something that's just such an old, 247 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:02,280 Speaker 1: an old wound. I just haven't, you know, crossed that 248 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:05,959 Speaker 1: path or whatever healed from. And so the childhood picture 249 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 1: is interesting because, like you said, it's before the dust, 250 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:12,040 Speaker 1: and I've actually looked when you when I read about that, 251 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 1: I looked up a picture of myself and it made 252 00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:17,319 Speaker 1: me cry too. I don't know what that is, but yeah, 253 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 1: I mean like it's so um cathartic, like it's to 254 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 1: really deeply to see the innocence. Maybe I'm not sure exactly, 255 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:30,000 Speaker 1: I haven't really tapped into what that's about yet, but 256 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 1: it's really really inous. I think it's that pure self. Yeah, Um, 257 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: is there a reason that you've kind of angled Fred 258 00:14:38,600 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: and far towards women. Do you think like there's a 259 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,440 Speaker 1: particular deficit of self love and women or is it 260 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 1: just people in general? You know, it was it was 261 00:14:46,680 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: my own experience, and so I was really meeting my 262 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 1: own need, and so when I thought about expanding it, 263 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 1: I thought, you know, let's build this community for women 264 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:00,320 Speaker 1: who are all choosing themselves and choosing each other and 265 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 1: being part of a community. I you know, don't think 266 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 1: that men suffer as much of an identity loss as 267 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 1: they move forward in their lives because they're less likely 268 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:16,320 Speaker 1: to carry mental load. And that's scientific. Like when it 269 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:21,960 Speaker 1: comes to all the responsibilities of life that aren't clearly defined, 270 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: it's women who step in and fill the gap, and 271 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 1: especially women who are mothers. So in a household with 272 00:15:29,040 --> 00:15:33,200 Speaker 1: you know, kids, for example, even though the mother and 273 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 1: a father might both be working parents, it's the mother 274 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:40,080 Speaker 1: who's worrying about the birthday presents, who's worrying about scheduling 275 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:43,560 Speaker 1: the repair people, who's taking on all the little intricacies 276 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 1: that make life flow. And you don't have to be 277 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:49,440 Speaker 1: married to see that. Women do that. Women do it 278 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 1: in their friendships, they do it in their families, and 279 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:56,320 Speaker 1: that takes a huge toll if you're not practicing self 280 00:15:56,360 --> 00:16:00,800 Speaker 1: care and self awareness. Actually, the ring with the worst 281 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 1: I should say, the ring is beautiful. I just got 282 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: one and I love it. I've been wearing it every day. Um. 283 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 1: And it's a shape, it's like an inverted triangle. Right, Yes, 284 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: why is that the emblem? So that's the emblem on 285 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 1: the ring. It's also the symbol of our movements and 286 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 1: our logo. The inverted triangles an ancient symbol of the 287 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: divine feminine, and we wanted to use that energy because 288 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 1: it's within all women and it's up to us to 289 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:30,120 Speaker 1: tap into it. And if you want to know why 290 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 1: that's the symbol of the divine feminine, you just need 291 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 1: to look down. It's part of female anatomy. It's where 292 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 1: we get our power. And so, you know, a lot 293 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 1: of times women are shamed because they're simply because they're women, 294 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: and there's something really powerful about reclaiming that energy for yourself. 295 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:51,960 Speaker 1: And then yeah, and so we use the triangle. And 296 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 1: what's really interesting is women who have joined us have 297 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:58,040 Speaker 1: really taken it a step further and added you know, 298 00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: additional meaning to the ring. Um. For example, we've had 299 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 1: women share with us that the direction that they wear 300 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 1: the ring has meaning to them. So in a triangle, 301 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 1: you have three points. The singular point that I will 302 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 1: face in when they want to protect their energy and 303 00:17:15,400 --> 00:17:17,919 Speaker 1: they want to give their energy to themselves, and then 304 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:20,239 Speaker 1: they'll face it out when they want to give their 305 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 1: energy to the world, which I thought was really interesting. 306 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:26,800 Speaker 1: Minds down right now is I guess I'm taking all 307 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:30,240 Speaker 1: my energy in. Yeah, but that's what we need. I mean, 308 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 1: it's fun to have that, you know, flexibility and how 309 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 1: you wear it. We have other women who have who 310 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 1: wear two at once. So you know, one of our 311 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:42,600 Speaker 1: special stones that we do sometimes as a black spinnel, 312 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:45,000 Speaker 1: So they'll wear the black ring and the white ring 313 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:48,680 Speaker 1: together to symbolize embracing all parts of themselves, the lightness 314 00:17:48,720 --> 00:17:53,359 Speaker 1: and the dark, which is really beautiful. And so you know, 315 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,919 Speaker 1: we had another woman order a customer ring with a 316 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:58,960 Speaker 1: pink sapphire because she was a breast cancer survivor that 317 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,879 Speaker 1: she wanted that ink to symbolize her journey as a 318 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 1: cancer warrior. And so just seeing how women take the 319 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 1: ring and make it their own and make it a 320 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:12,919 Speaker 1: source of constant like a constant symbol and reminder and 321 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 1: source of power is extremely inspirational to me. Yeah, I 322 00:18:16,480 --> 00:18:19,479 Speaker 1: love all those ideas. It is so interesting when you 323 00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:22,879 Speaker 1: do something for yourself like this maybe is a gift 324 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 1: for yourself. Um there, it just feels so much more powerful. 325 00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:28,919 Speaker 1: I don't know. When I opened my box, I was 326 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:32,640 Speaker 1: like yes, like it just felt really good to put 327 00:18:32,680 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 1: on and do something for myself. Um, and just to 328 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:40,400 Speaker 1: have a reminder. Yeah, and think about this too. We 329 00:18:40,480 --> 00:18:44,879 Speaker 1: are a very very very small company, and so every ring, 330 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:49,119 Speaker 1: every order is packed with intention and love, like we 331 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,679 Speaker 1: look at your name, we think about you when we 332 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: put the ring in the box. We really try to 333 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:58,359 Speaker 1: infuse it with so much intention and love. And you know, 334 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:01,200 Speaker 1: I really think women feel that they received the packages. 335 00:19:01,400 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 1: It's different than when you just order something on Amazon 336 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:08,879 Speaker 1: or first the packaging in general, like the box, actual box, 337 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 1: the little notes you guys put in there. It says 338 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:13,840 Speaker 1: one of them says engagement ring is a commitment to another, 339 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:16,520 Speaker 1: and then our pinky ring is commitment to self. And 340 00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:18,760 Speaker 1: then you kind of make your own little pinky promise 341 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:21,920 Speaker 1: to yourself, which I mean, I'm going to keep these 342 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:26,440 Speaker 1: cards just as another reminder too. Um. Yeah, something else 343 00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 1: I loved that I read on your website. Is the 344 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:31,840 Speaker 1: whole process of like how these are made? Everything involves 345 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:37,120 Speaker 1: supporting other women, doesn't it. Yes, we you know, throughout 346 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: the history of the company, all of the people we've 347 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:44,399 Speaker 1: employed have been women, and that energy, I think really 348 00:19:44,560 --> 00:19:48,720 Speaker 1: has permeated every aspect of the brand, from the design 349 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: of the brand identity to the vibe on social media. 350 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:57,199 Speaker 1: We create tons of original content that speaks directly to 351 00:19:57,240 --> 00:20:01,120 Speaker 1: women because we are women and it's not a marketing 352 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 1: firm just coming up with self love slogans like I 353 00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:06,919 Speaker 1: tend to write most of the content and real time, 354 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 1: so whatever I happen to be feeling, I'll write something 355 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:13,480 Speaker 1: about it. And the most profound thing is that I 356 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:17,200 Speaker 1: will invariably always get a message or a comment or 357 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 1: DM that says, Wow, I needed that today, And I 358 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 1: feel like I'm tapped into this hive, this energy across 359 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 1: all the women who joined us, and when someone needs something, 360 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,960 Speaker 1: I feel it, and um that intuition that I have 361 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:37,359 Speaker 1: within myself and that other women have, like our intuition 362 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:40,040 Speaker 1: speaks to each other. And I think if we all 363 00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:43,000 Speaker 1: listen to that a little bit more, our culture as 364 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:45,640 Speaker 1: a whole would be very different. Yeah, I think that's 365 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 1: also can tappen too, like the trusting the universe to 366 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: put you to be and feel what you need to 367 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 1: feel and know that your journey is an important one. Yes, 368 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 1: I had no idea where this would lead me. You know, 369 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,600 Speaker 1: when I started this company, the first month or two 370 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,760 Speaker 1: we we had maybe like one order a month or 371 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:09,119 Speaker 1: one order a week. And when one person believed in 372 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:13,160 Speaker 1: us enough, one writer to write about it, it was unracked. 373 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:17,399 Speaker 1: And after that we had a hundred pieces of press 374 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 1: around the world in a matter of two to three weeks. 375 00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 1: And so, you know, it's amazing because as a small company, 376 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 1: you think, I have to hire pr people, I have 377 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,160 Speaker 1: to do this, I have to do that. But if 378 00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:34,200 Speaker 1: you have an authentic message and you share it, um, 379 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,879 Speaker 1: it will resonate. And I think that it's been really 380 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:41,280 Speaker 1: incredible seeing how people have responded, because when we started, 381 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:44,800 Speaker 1: there was no self love movement. No one was talking 382 00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 1: about self love UM. And as soon as we started, 383 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:53,399 Speaker 1: there was this huge shift and a very necessary change. 384 00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 1: And now self love and self care are phrases that 385 00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:58,639 Speaker 1: you hear almost every day and people are thinking about. 386 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:01,359 Speaker 1: So we're really proud to have been a part of 387 00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,960 Speaker 1: that at the beginning. I think you make a great 388 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 1: point when you say, um, that we're never taught self care, 389 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:10,680 Speaker 1: like we spend all this time in school learning all 390 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,760 Speaker 1: of these things that we actually never apply in our 391 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:17,400 Speaker 1: adult lives, and there's no class on how to take 392 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,960 Speaker 1: care of yourself or love yourself or anything like that. 393 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:23,160 Speaker 1: I guess it's a parent's responsibility. I don't know where 394 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:26,919 Speaker 1: is that supposed to come from. Nobody thinks about it, 395 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,520 Speaker 1: no one talks about it. I mean, it's astounding to 396 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:34,520 Speaker 1: me because I have three kids now, two of them 397 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,800 Speaker 1: are girls who are six and a half, and I 398 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:41,919 Speaker 1: see it starting to happen. I see them starting to 399 00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:45,959 Speaker 1: worry about how they're perceived by others, and so I 400 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,680 Speaker 1: constantly share this messaging with them and give them tools, 401 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 1: um to practice self care and self love. But I 402 00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:58,400 Speaker 1: don't think that's happening universally. And I know that had 403 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:02,040 Speaker 1: I been given that tool, it would have made my 404 00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:06,000 Speaker 1: teenage years and my college and everything after a lot 405 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,520 Speaker 1: easier because I had to learn it the hard way. 406 00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:11,439 Speaker 1: And then here we are in our thirties having to 407 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:16,880 Speaker 1: heal from everything that happened, and my goal with this movement, 408 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,879 Speaker 1: this ring, this book, the way I talked to my kids, 409 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:23,080 Speaker 1: the messaging I put out to the universe is I 410 00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 1: think women as girls should feel whole. They should go 411 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 1: into the world feeling like they don't need a partner 412 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:34,240 Speaker 1: to have worth. They don't need to sacrifice themselves to 413 00:23:34,359 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: have friendships, and they don't need to change to conform 414 00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 1: with what society expects of them in order to be successful. 415 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,400 Speaker 1: And instead, the more they can spend time in their 416 00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,800 Speaker 1: inner world, getting to know themselves and being confident about 417 00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 1: who that person is, the better able they'll be to 418 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:55,679 Speaker 1: make a positive impact on the world and be successful 419 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:59,399 Speaker 1: in their lives in the ways that really matter. Because 420 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,719 Speaker 1: you know, way you and I talked about, we reached 421 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 1: every milestone and happiness wasn't waiting for us, right um, 422 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,960 Speaker 1: And so the only guarantee you have is yourself. You're 423 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,960 Speaker 1: the only one who will be there throughout it all. 424 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,160 Speaker 1: So why not get to know that person and take 425 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,399 Speaker 1: care of her, right? I think it was such a 426 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,240 Speaker 1: such an interesting thing for me. Like, um, last year, 427 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: I had a really busy with busy year with work, 428 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:25,440 Speaker 1: and one of the consistent messages that I get from 429 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,639 Speaker 1: people as you're killing it. You're killing it. And I 430 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:33,920 Speaker 1: was so busy and so throwing myself into everyone else 431 00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 1: and everything else that I was like really because I 432 00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 1: felt terrible inside, truly, Like it's so interesting that you 433 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,479 Speaker 1: can look from the outside like you are just killing 434 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,800 Speaker 1: it and successful and all that stuff, but feel like shit. Really. 435 00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,080 Speaker 1: I mean, well, Fred and Farr has been a really 436 00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:56,320 Speaker 1: interesting um place to explore those feelings because it's a 437 00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 1: self love company, right, But in order for it to 438 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:04,960 Speaker 1: grow and succeed, I've compromised myself and my well being 439 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:10,320 Speaker 1: many many times. And you know, around we around the holidays, 440 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,159 Speaker 1: there was this one day where I was trying to 441 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:15,920 Speaker 1: do a promotion on the website and it wasn't working, 442 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 1: and people were sending me angry emails and I just 443 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,280 Speaker 1: went on Instagram Stories and I was bawling and I 444 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:24,399 Speaker 1: was like, Hey, I'm one person. I'm trying to do 445 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,960 Speaker 1: my best. I'm sorry the free gift didn't add to 446 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: cart the way he was supposed to, you know, like, 447 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 1: I'm just doing my best, And you know, I constantly 448 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,439 Speaker 1: have to remember that as much as I love this 449 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 1: business and I love the women of this tribe, if 450 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:43,439 Speaker 1: I'm sacrificing myself and not taking care of myself in 451 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:47,119 Speaker 1: order for it to exist. I'm not living my truth 452 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 1: and I'm not honoring the message that I'm sharing with 453 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:53,159 Speaker 1: the world. And um, In fact, it was funny. A 454 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,200 Speaker 1: few days ago a friend of mine who's a guy, 455 00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:58,440 Speaker 1: messaged me and goes, hey, you want to go to 456 00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:02,280 Speaker 1: a meditation class today? And my first thought was I 457 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:06,760 Speaker 1: don't have time to meditate. I have this right, But 458 00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,480 Speaker 1: it was like January three. I was like, okay, you know, 459 00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,360 Speaker 1: it's the beginning of the year. I should go. And 460 00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 1: after we went, he took me to coffee and he 461 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:16,919 Speaker 1: looked me in the eye and he said, I have 462 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:18,879 Speaker 1: to call you out on something. And I'm like, what 463 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:20,720 Speaker 1: is it. He's like, you're the head of a self 464 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:24,000 Speaker 1: love movement, but you haven't been taking care of yourself lately. 465 00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 1: You need to take care of yourself better. And I 466 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:32,000 Speaker 1: was like, wow, Like he really. First of all, again, 467 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,200 Speaker 1: I'm going to cry because I mean, how rare is 468 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,960 Speaker 1: it for someone to actually witness you in that way 469 00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:40,800 Speaker 1: and have the love to take you to a class 470 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:45,160 Speaker 1: and then gently tell you after that they're worried about you. Um, 471 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:46,919 Speaker 1: he did that for me, and it was like a 472 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:51,439 Speaker 1: reset because as an entrepreneur, and do you know in 473 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:55,480 Speaker 1: anybody who's working, it's really easy to burn out because 474 00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:57,520 Speaker 1: of all the things you think you have to do 475 00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 1: um and I what I hope is that through this movement, 476 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,199 Speaker 1: through the ring, through the book, through all the you 477 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,520 Speaker 1: know Fred and far does to try to make self 478 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:10,119 Speaker 1: love and self care actionable, that we make it a 479 00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:14,159 Speaker 1: little bit easier for women to remember themselves. How do 480 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 1: you have boundaries? Because I know as a small business 481 00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 1: center myself, it is it's really hard because you don't 482 00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:23,439 Speaker 1: always have the resources of other people helping, and so 483 00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,320 Speaker 1: you're doing a lot of it. And then you also 484 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,159 Speaker 1: have three kids and a husband, so what are you 485 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,840 Speaker 1: how are you drawing the line somewhere to take care 486 00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 1: of yourself in the midst of all that. I think 487 00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:36,000 Speaker 1: a lot of it has to do with having a 488 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:43,040 Speaker 1: very flexible relationship with the future. I've stopped requiring specific 489 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:48,080 Speaker 1: outcomes to happen in order to be happy. So as 490 00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:51,640 Speaker 1: a business owner like you, may set you know, key 491 00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,919 Speaker 1: performance indicators like okay, like we have to do this 492 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,240 Speaker 1: much in sales, or we have to grow our email 493 00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 1: list by this much, or Instagram posts have to get 494 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 1: this many likes or comments in order for us to 495 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:06,400 Speaker 1: be quote unquote successful. I've done away with all of that, 496 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,760 Speaker 1: um because what and what I have found is when 497 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:14,159 Speaker 1: I'm too specific about where I need to be in 498 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,800 Speaker 1: order to feel successful, I end up feeling like I'm 499 00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:20,520 Speaker 1: drowning because I just I simply have too much on 500 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:23,280 Speaker 1: my plate. In order to do that, I still set goals, 501 00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,800 Speaker 1: but they're more fluid, and they also have a lot 502 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:28,959 Speaker 1: more to do with how I'm feeling. If I'm feeling 503 00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:31,680 Speaker 1: good and productive and happy, and i feel like I'm 504 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:36,040 Speaker 1: making progress, then that's successful for me. I don't ever 505 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:40,840 Speaker 1: require perfection. It's all about the journey. Um. It's all 506 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 1: about the progress. And then with regard to balancing my 507 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:49,600 Speaker 1: kids and work and my relationship and myself, the more 508 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: I can schedule things the better. So I know, for example, 509 00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 1: that Mondays and Wednesdays I have full work days. I 510 00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,160 Speaker 1: know that Tuesdays and Thursdays I pick up my kids 511 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 1: from school so I could spend half a day with them. 512 00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,200 Speaker 1: I know that on the weekends I'm not gonna work 513 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:11,000 Speaker 1: no matter what. UM and and Friday's are my are 514 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,960 Speaker 1: my day where I have to get in a class, 515 00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,280 Speaker 1: I need to take a long walk, like whatever it 516 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,320 Speaker 1: is that I can get in. Um. I do that 517 00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 1: on Fridays. And I'm lucky because I work for myself 518 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: and I'm able to craft a flexible schedule. And I 519 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,280 Speaker 1: know that a lot of women don't have that flexibility. 520 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,240 Speaker 1: So that's a privilege I'm very aware of. But I 521 00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:34,080 Speaker 1: think everyone does have. You know, they always say, like, 522 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,360 Speaker 1: you have the same number of hours in a days, Beyonce, 523 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:40,160 Speaker 1: Like we all have four hours, and instead of scrolling 524 00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:43,360 Speaker 1: on Instagram for an hour, watching Netflix for an hour, like, 525 00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 1: what could you do for yourself that's actually gonna make 526 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:49,240 Speaker 1: you feel good instead of numb? Because we all spend 527 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,320 Speaker 1: a lot of time in our on our electronics. And 528 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,400 Speaker 1: what I have found is when I do things that 529 00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,920 Speaker 1: don't involve electronics, that's when I'm recharging my battery. Like 530 00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:01,200 Speaker 1: last night, I made cookie dough for my kids, and 531 00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,760 Speaker 1: there's something about putting my hands in the dough and 532 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:09,240 Speaker 1: touching something that's so tactile and so real that was 533 00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:12,640 Speaker 1: energizing for me. And I had forgotten what that felt 534 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,280 Speaker 1: like because it's been a while. I spend most of 535 00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:18,680 Speaker 1: my time on the computer on my cell phone. So 536 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 1: I think having those tactile I r L like in 537 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:26,320 Speaker 1: real life experiences are really powerful way to reconnect with 538 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:30,120 Speaker 1: yourself and reset your nervous system. Yeah. I think it was. 539 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 1: Actually I was about to quose something and then I 540 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,560 Speaker 1: was like, oh wait, I think it was in your book. Um, 541 00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:38,080 Speaker 1: but the thing about the repetitive movement like gardening or 542 00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,440 Speaker 1: what you're saying about the cookie dough, because I struggle 543 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:44,040 Speaker 1: with meditation and I've talked about this on the podcast 544 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,480 Speaker 1: a lot, but I'm getting a little better. I can 545 00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,560 Speaker 1: do up to ten minutes now, which is huge for me, 546 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 1: but at my brain just wants to go back to 547 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:55,360 Speaker 1: work or all the to do list. So doing something 548 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:59,240 Speaker 1: sometimes like like an act like that is really helpful 549 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:01,200 Speaker 1: in a good way for me to kind of get 550 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:05,120 Speaker 1: back in touch with what am I feeling, what it like, Hi, Kelly, 551 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 1: you know, instead of just like through the day. It's amazing. 552 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 1: Gardening is something that I would always make fun of 553 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:16,360 Speaker 1: my parents for doing, Like they spend their whole weekend's gardening, 554 00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 1: and for the longest time, I would just look at 555 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:20,720 Speaker 1: them and be like, really, like who wants to weed? 556 00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:25,440 Speaker 1: Like what are you doing? But um, like last month, 557 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:29,200 Speaker 1: I did a whole weekend project where I redid our 558 00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:33,520 Speaker 1: front lawn because it was looking horrible and I spent 559 00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,040 Speaker 1: two days with my hands in the dirt and it 560 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:40,640 Speaker 1: was electrifying. It's it's as though every cell in my 561 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:44,880 Speaker 1: body woke up. That is crazy, because I feel the 562 00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 1: same about gardening. Well, I'd kill every plant that I have, 563 00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:52,360 Speaker 1: so but at least they're giving me a little bit 564 00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:57,760 Speaker 1: of life in the prosper writing selfishly. You know. Let's 565 00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,240 Speaker 1: talk a little more about the book. Um, I did 566 00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,600 Speaker 1: start it yesterday and it's it's really it's a simple read, 567 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:06,800 Speaker 1: which I love to like, especially something at night or 568 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:09,920 Speaker 1: in the morning sometime, um, and you can pick up 569 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,640 Speaker 1: It's the A B C's of what is it called 570 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,640 Speaker 1: the A B C's of self love? Right, and so 571 00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:20,040 Speaker 1: each letter has a specific word to focus on, and 572 00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:23,160 Speaker 1: then you have these little activities after or like little 573 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:28,239 Speaker 1: action things to do that I love. Thank you so 574 00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:33,000 Speaker 1: like A is what this authenticity and abandon Yes, that's 575 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 1: all about connecting with your true self and getting rid 576 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:39,400 Speaker 1: of the dust that we talked about. Um be is 577 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 1: boundaries see is a play on like the four seas. 578 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,200 Speaker 1: So anyone who wants to buy a diamond, you hear 579 00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,200 Speaker 1: the four seas, the four seeds. So we have our 580 00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:53,480 Speaker 1: own four seas, which are clarity, commitment, creation, and community. 581 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 1: And it's all about kind of reflecting within and then 582 00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: building world around you that nourishes um what you feel 583 00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: you should be doing with your life. That clarity piece 584 00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:09,120 Speaker 1: um D is daily dream. This is something that was 585 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:12,360 Speaker 1: really powerful for me because I'm very practical. I live 586 00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 1: very much in the real world, and I realized I 587 00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,800 Speaker 1: wasn't spending any time dreaming, and so I set an 588 00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,840 Speaker 1: alarm on my phone, a calendar alert with one of 589 00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 1: my best friends, and every day at five o'clock we 590 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:28,160 Speaker 1: would have to spend fifteen minutes dreaming and text each 591 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:32,480 Speaker 1: other our dreams. Love that and having that like practical 592 00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:36,240 Speaker 1: application that doing peace where it's not just okay, here's 593 00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:38,760 Speaker 1: an idea, but actually having something you can do to 594 00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:42,400 Speaker 1: execute on it, I think is where where real self 595 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 1: love lives. And it's why I wanted to write this 596 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,800 Speaker 1: book because for the past three years I've been exploring 597 00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:52,400 Speaker 1: a lot of concepts and I thought, how amazing would 598 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,200 Speaker 1: it be to have all of that live in one 599 00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:58,760 Speaker 1: space and make it interactive so that women can pick 600 00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:00,960 Speaker 1: a letter a day or a letter a week or 601 00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:04,240 Speaker 1: whatever pace makes sense to them, learn a little bit 602 00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:07,760 Speaker 1: about the theme, and then do something in the moment 603 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,160 Speaker 1: that that will help them connect with the idea and 604 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,920 Speaker 1: really make it part of the fabric of their being. Right. 605 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,320 Speaker 1: I feel like it's a lot of times the difficult 606 00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,400 Speaker 1: part for people is like, Okay, I do want to 607 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,760 Speaker 1: do some things for myself or get to know myself, 608 00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,400 Speaker 1: and they just don't know how. So this is actually 609 00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:26,480 Speaker 1: a really good start to kind of have some activities 610 00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:29,560 Speaker 1: and go through a couple of practices to help do 611 00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:33,240 Speaker 1: that process. And you know, we're going through the books 612 00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,120 Speaker 1: we started yesterday, we're going through it on Instagram, a 613 00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:40,480 Speaker 1: letter a day. And I think seeing other people engage 614 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:44,600 Speaker 1: in the activities is really really powerful because you feel 615 00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,720 Speaker 1: like you're not alone. And I think a lot of women, 616 00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 1: even though we're surrounded by other people, we feel really 617 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:55,399 Speaker 1: lonely sometimes. And so knowing there's a place you can 618 00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:57,920 Speaker 1: go where there are other women who share your values 619 00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:01,440 Speaker 1: and who are also willing to be vulnerable um and 620 00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:05,759 Speaker 1: share themselves has been really powerful. I mean, you know 621 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:07,960 Speaker 1: a few weeks ago, I found out that a member 622 00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,319 Speaker 1: of our tribe was moving to Virginia Beach and it 623 00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:14,239 Speaker 1: was kind of an uncertain kind of move because she 624 00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,000 Speaker 1: didn't know anyone there. And I said, you know what, 625 00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,200 Speaker 1: let me see who from Fred and Far lives there 626 00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,799 Speaker 1: and let me connect you. And I did, and they're 627 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:24,759 Speaker 1: going to get together now. And so that's a positive 628 00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:27,560 Speaker 1: way that if I was gonna say that social media. 629 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:30,439 Speaker 1: You know, I feel like we have this false sense 630 00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,759 Speaker 1: of connection a lot of times with people because of 631 00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:34,960 Speaker 1: kind of the way our society works right now with 632 00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,600 Speaker 1: Instagram and all of that stuff. But it's based on 633 00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:41,280 Speaker 1: likes and just I don't know, thinking you know, someone's 634 00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 1: full story. But that's a really cool way to actually 635 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,400 Speaker 1: use the community and use it as a community and 636 00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:53,080 Speaker 1: for real connection. Yeah. Um, you know, Instagram has its 637 00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:57,000 Speaker 1: and all social media it has its pros and its cons. 638 00:35:57,040 --> 00:36:00,319 Speaker 1: And I think the sooner you can let go of 639 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:04,000 Speaker 1: the idea that you are defined by your following or 640 00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:08,760 Speaker 1: your engagement, the more free you will be to actually 641 00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:13,040 Speaker 1: have an authentic experience that other people will connect with 642 00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:15,960 Speaker 1: and want to be part of. You know, it's hard 643 00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:20,000 Speaker 1: because you know, Fred and Far all of our followers 644 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:23,560 Speaker 1: are real and that is a very rare thing in 645 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:29,399 Speaker 1: today's social media. And UM, I also don't use any 646 00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:33,840 Speaker 1: bots to go like or follow other accounts, and so, 647 00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 1: you know, we don't really grow. We kind of stay 648 00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:38,600 Speaker 1: in the same place because we lose people and we 649 00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:41,279 Speaker 1: gain people. And for a while that really bothered me 650 00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:44,080 Speaker 1: because I thought, hey, if we're not growing, like, what 651 00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:48,080 Speaker 1: does that mean company? But you know, it doesn't matter. 652 00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,920 Speaker 1: What matters is that the people that we do reach 653 00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:55,799 Speaker 1: are being positively impacted. And that's really why I'm here. 654 00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:58,600 Speaker 1: You know. Self love for me has been a lot 655 00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:02,279 Speaker 1: about learning what my story is and what my goal 656 00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 1: is as a human being on this planet. And it's 657 00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:10,160 Speaker 1: really to empower other people, men, women, children, whoever it 658 00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:13,200 Speaker 1: may be, by giving them the power to see themselves 659 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:17,279 Speaker 1: and find power and strength and who they are. And 660 00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:19,960 Speaker 1: as long as I feel like I'm doing that, whether 661 00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:23,719 Speaker 1: we have twenty four thousand followers or fifty, UM, I 662 00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:27,160 Speaker 1: know that that I'm making an impact. And so, you know, 663 00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,680 Speaker 1: I think there's a lot of pressure that's imposed on people. 664 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,600 Speaker 1: UM if you have an Instagram account, even if it's 665 00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,000 Speaker 1: a personal account, and you only have two hundred followers. 666 00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:39,879 Speaker 1: You still want to feel like people are liking you 667 00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,360 Speaker 1: and commenting and that you're doing a good job. And 668 00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:46,960 Speaker 1: I think that's an unnecessary layer of stress, given that 669 00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:50,080 Speaker 1: there's so much real stuff to be stressed out about 670 00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:55,200 Speaker 1: right now. Um yeah, I totally agree, and I think 671 00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,239 Speaker 1: there's positive and negatives. It's hard when you make a 672 00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,279 Speaker 1: business out of it. Like I find myself having a 673 00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:03,279 Speaker 1: really set boundaries with it because it really fuels my 674 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:06,839 Speaker 1: blog business now, and it can get very i can 675 00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:10,520 Speaker 1: get very disconnected from myself and just living in that 676 00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:13,760 Speaker 1: world and I'm like, wait, wait, wait, um, So, speaking 677 00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:15,440 Speaker 1: of the stuff that you guys are doing on Instagram, 678 00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:17,840 Speaker 1: you do have a lot of self care resources or 679 00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:21,360 Speaker 1: self love resources on your website and then on Instagram. 680 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:24,160 Speaker 1: And I'm going to put a blog together just to 681 00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:26,480 Speaker 1: let people know where to find your book. Is it 682 00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:31,120 Speaker 1: out yet? Okay? It's available on Amazon Amazon, Okay, Um, 683 00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:33,880 Speaker 1: if you search for Melody god Fred, it'll come right up. 684 00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,719 Speaker 1: It's The A. B. C's of Self Love. Um. It's 685 00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:40,279 Speaker 1: also available on our website at front and Far dot com. 686 00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,960 Speaker 1: And I'll land to that on Velvet Sedge dot com too, 687 00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:46,240 Speaker 1: And obviously if you guys wanted to check out the rings, 688 00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,080 Speaker 1: which I highly suggest even. I mean, if it's just 689 00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:50,560 Speaker 1: if it's a gift for you, if you and your 690 00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,160 Speaker 1: best you want to go in on it. Valentine's Day 691 00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,120 Speaker 1: is coming up, that would be a really great gift 692 00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,120 Speaker 1: for you. Um. But those are available on fred and 693 00:38:58,160 --> 00:38:59,640 Speaker 1: far dot com and like you said, there's a couple 694 00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:04,080 Speaker 1: different options of the kinds you can get. Correct. Yeah, 695 00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:06,840 Speaker 1: right now, I think we have the originals up and 696 00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:10,080 Speaker 1: then we are able to do custom orders with different stones, 697 00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:14,279 Speaker 1: and we'll be launching a new stone, fingers Crossed, in 698 00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,720 Speaker 1: the next week or so, so people should stay tuned. 699 00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:23,120 Speaker 1: It'll be a new stone we're offering for the first time. Nice. Okay, Yeah, 700 00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:28,680 Speaker 1: thank you, Just to say I really appreciate your platform 701 00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:32,680 Speaker 1: and that you're providing resources and taking the time to 702 00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:36,239 Speaker 1: shed light on us. So thank you so much, Kelly, No, 703 00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:38,000 Speaker 1: thank you. I was just about to thank you for 704 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,719 Speaker 1: doing this for me. It's it's January and it's Velvet's Edge. 705 00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:43,560 Speaker 1: I'm kind of putting some focus on self love. I 706 00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:47,040 Speaker 1: just try to do what I'm going through, as you know, 707 00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,959 Speaker 1: what I talked about on the blog and stuff, and um, 708 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,560 Speaker 1: after Christmas and the holidays. Man, I was just like, 709 00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,200 Speaker 1: I gotta take a step back from all this, like 710 00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:57,839 Speaker 1: you need to buy this, you need to get all 711 00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:01,680 Speaker 1: this like, although I just said go by the but 712 00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,840 Speaker 1: you know it's so funny. I struggle with that. I 713 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:10,160 Speaker 1: don't like selling hard. And if you look at our 714 00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:13,160 Speaker 1: social like there are barely any pictures of the ring 715 00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:16,640 Speaker 1: because I don't like pushing it. Um. I think it 716 00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:18,759 Speaker 1: finds women when they need it, and they buy it 717 00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:21,759 Speaker 1: when they're ready, and so I don't need to sell it. 718 00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:25,080 Speaker 1: But if there's one closing thought I could offer to 719 00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:28,839 Speaker 1: your listeners, it's that it's January. You're going to be 720 00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,640 Speaker 1: bombarded with a lot of New Year, New You, and 721 00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:34,759 Speaker 1: you're going to feel all this pressure to go on 722 00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:39,120 Speaker 1: a diet or change make a drastic change in your lifestyle. 723 00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:43,480 Speaker 1: And the truth of the matter is your mantra in 724 00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:47,600 Speaker 1: this year should be new Year true you. Forget about 725 00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:51,640 Speaker 1: a new version, just be yourself and devote times figuring 726 00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:55,480 Speaker 1: out who that is. Yes, new Year true you. I 727 00:40:55,560 --> 00:41:00,320 Speaker 1: might have to adopt that, please do Mine was go bigger, 728 00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:05,480 Speaker 1: go home, but maybe I'll try both. Yes, well, I 729 00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:08,400 Speaker 1: think going big there's no bigger thing than you can be, 730 00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,720 Speaker 1: than your authentic self. Hey that is see that works 731 00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:15,960 Speaker 1: a lot. Yes, it is so true. Melodie. Thank you 732 00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:17,880 Speaker 1: so much for doing this with me. It was so 733 00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:20,560 Speaker 1: good to actually get to talk to you. My pleasure 734 00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:23,239 Speaker 1: and you guys. Check out everything we talked about on 735 00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,640 Speaker 1: velvets edge dot com. I'll have that up as soon 736 00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:29,359 Speaker 1: as this podcast comes out. Thanks for listening. Thank you,