1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,240 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for staying with my parents 2 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: and refusing to come home unless it is in the 3 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: condition I left it in before my in law's visited. 4 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:10,640 Speaker 1: This is okop where we read the craziest stories on 5 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 1: the internet. I'm Sam and John. 6 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 2: What do you think we have a house that has 7 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 2: been ruined by Opie's parents question mark or unnamed? 8 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:23,279 Speaker 1: I think Opie's in laws. Opie's in laws have ruined it, 9 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 1: and Opie is staying at their parents right. 10 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 2: So wow, See that's a tough one to make, the 11 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,479 Speaker 2: stand against your in laws. That's like not home turf. 12 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 2: But you know what, I dang it if I don't 13 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:36,240 Speaker 2: respect it. Yeah, dang it if I don't clean the place. 14 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: But there's only one way to really find out Bill 15 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:42,560 Speaker 1: that is so this comes from a depth entrepreneur of 16 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: forty four and they say, my husband cannot control his family, 17 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 1: or at least he refuses to nice when his parents 18 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 1: visit and give us shit for forcing our kids to 19 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 1: do chores. He gives in and how slowly becomes a 20 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: mess that I have been left to clean up. When 21 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: his siblings visit, we are expected to clean up after them. 22 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: I never agree to this, so now I leave, I 23 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:04,039 Speaker 1: lock my office up and go to my parents' house. 24 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:06,680 Speaker 1: I meet up with his family at restaurants or other 25 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:09,479 Speaker 1: public places. His parents have learned now that when they visit, 26 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: they have to clean up after the kids or get 27 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 1: them or my husband to do it. They tried saying 28 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: that I was abusive for refusing to do housework while 29 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: they visited. 30 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 3: It's a little bit of a stretch. You're abusing me 31 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 3: by not cleaning up my bus. 32 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,479 Speaker 1: So I posted a picture of my home before they came, 33 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:27,039 Speaker 1: and one I took during their last visit. 34 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:27,479 Speaker 4: Smart. 35 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: I asked them why the house was so messy and dirty, 36 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: and did they have anything to do with it. They 37 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: said it wasn't their mess. I replied that the house 38 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: was clean before they shut up. 39 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 4: Excuse me. 40 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,759 Speaker 1: Once they started getting dogpiled for messing up my house, 41 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 1: they threw the kids under the bus. They said my 42 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,240 Speaker 1: kids were uncontrollable and it. 43 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:43,960 Speaker 4: Was their mess. 44 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,320 Speaker 1: I pointed out that there was no mess until they came, 45 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: so obviously my kids were able to clean up after 46 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: themselves when there weren't people telling them not to. My 47 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: husband's siblings have canceled plans to visit because they know 48 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: I won't be there to clean up after them or cook, 49 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,280 Speaker 1: so they will have to cook or spend money on 50 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: takeout and restaurants. Great outcome in my opinion. My husband 51 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 1: says I'm being unfair putting all the work of cleaning 52 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 1: up on him. I said he has two children to 53 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 1: help him, as well as adult guess who should be 54 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 1: able to not make a mess. I also told him 55 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: he could just pay for a cleaning service out of 56 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: his discretionary funds if he wanted to let his family 57 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 1: run rampant and not clean up after them. He says 58 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: I was being mean by not contributing and making him 59 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:24,799 Speaker 1: spend his money. 60 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 4: Oo. 61 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: I asked him how much he normally spends on cleaning 62 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: the house. The answer is nothing, since the four of 63 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:32,079 Speaker 1: us keep the house clean and tidy when we are 64 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: on our own. 65 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 3: So am I the a hole? Everyone put your answers 66 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 3: to the comments. 67 00:02:36,200 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 1: Do you think, Op, he's the a hole by leaving 68 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:40,639 Speaker 1: and making everyone else I guess clean up after themselves. 69 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 3: But John, what do you think? 70 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 2: Ab absolutely not listen. If you if you make the mess, 71 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:48,679 Speaker 2: you gotta clean it. Yeah, thou who's spelt it? Smelt it? 72 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 2: Smelt it smelt it like that something like that. I 73 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 2: also need to throw up a red flag because correct 74 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 2: me if I'm wrong. The husband was like, oh, you're 75 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 2: gonna make me spend my money to clean up everything 76 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 2: and my time and my time. It's like, dude, like, 77 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 2: first off, have some accountability with your family members. 78 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 1: And it feels very similar to last story, where like 79 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 1: husband's just being like not allowing any responsibility to fall 80 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: on the parents exactly, you know, like and also exactly 81 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: why why are his parents saying that the kids. 82 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 4: Shouldn't clean what? What is this? 83 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: What is who else is going to do it? Because 84 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 1: you aren't doing it, the kids aren't doing it. It 85 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:28,800 Speaker 1: all falls on the husband. I guess gonna be yes. 86 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 2: Like, what, What's what's going on here? This makes absolutely 87 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 2: no sense whatsoever? Please try to make it make sense 88 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 2: for us. Put your hands in the comments. 89 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: I think so. I guess like the I think like, 90 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: what do you think op's the a hole? 91 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 3: Absolutely not? 92 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 1: I think so too. Also, it's not like she just 93 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: like did this after once. It was like it was 94 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: multiple multiple times. She's like, finally, I'm just gonna remove 95 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 1: myself from the situation exactly. Honestly, go ahead, do. 96 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 2: You think if this goes on for much longer it 97 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 2: would be a cause of divorce because it's. 98 00:03:56,880 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 3: Like snowball, I mean, and it seems. 99 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 2: I think, yes, if it goes out of control like 100 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 2: it did in the first story. 101 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 3: But it's not constant, so only every once in a while. 102 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not constant. 103 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 2: But like I guess, when I think snowball, I'm thinking 104 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 2: it's compounding. So like, all right, first it's like these 105 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 2: dinners and stuff. Then it's influencing the kids not doing 106 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 2: their chores. 107 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: Like then it's having the kids about crack boom. Does 108 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 1: it stop? 109 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 3: When? Does it stop? Never? Never? 110 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: I don't think it would the gateway drug cleaning, the 111 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: gateway drug heroin. These kids, I mean, I don't think 112 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: because it's not constant that they're staying over. I don't 113 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 1: think it's gonna snowball that much. It could be a 114 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: point of contention the marriage, for sure could be. But 115 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:41,040 Speaker 1: let us know what you think. Put your answer to 116 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: the comments below. If you love us, make sure to subscribe. 117 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,679 Speaker 2: We Love you and see it to borrow. 118 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time 119 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 3: for Okop. 120 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 1: Relash fiance leaves me because I have cancer. Fine, I'll 121 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: leave you destitute by doing the on think about lot. 122 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 1: I mean pretty pretty fair, pretty fair sponse. I think 123 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:10,279 Speaker 1: if you leave someone because they have cancer, I say 124 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: leave them. 125 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:15,279 Speaker 3: My brain was buffering. 126 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 1: You know how they say like, you know, like cut 127 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 1: toxic people out of your life, cut cancer out of 128 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 1: your life, cut cancero as people. 129 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:26,160 Speaker 4: That's what they mean, right. 130 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 2: My man's taking taking euphemisms a little too serious. 131 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 3: What is mean. 132 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: Is its hitting support cancer? Well, I support fucking cancer over. 133 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 3: Sam. 134 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:46,719 Speaker 1: Is pro cancer cancer, fight for the right to grow. 135 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:53,599 Speaker 1: That was all right. This has been four years ago, 136 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 1: so the sting is gone and my revenge has been had. 137 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 3: Sorry. 138 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:00,440 Speaker 1: If this isn't the right form for revenge is always 139 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: the right forum for then correct. We dated for four 140 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:06,760 Speaker 1: years and had what I thought was a great relationship. 141 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: We were both well established professionals. All right, I get it. 142 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:14,799 Speaker 1: You make money. Who both owned homes in the same neighborhood. Okay, 143 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:17,799 Speaker 1: we get it. You have money and both had daughters 144 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: in the home. Okay, we did it. Her daughter was 145 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: eleven and mine was sixteen. 146 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 4: When we met. 147 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: We had actually planned to get married, build a house 148 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 1: and raised the two together. 149 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 3: Sounds ideal like, opee. 150 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:30,839 Speaker 2: Nothing, nothing's going to go nothing's going to go wrong. 151 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 1: We planned the house build because she had recently been 152 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: diagnosed with a neurological disease and that would eventually put 153 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 1: her in a wheelchair, and we needed something eighty a friendly. 154 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: Damn that's a wrench aw Okay, so she she she 155 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:49,280 Speaker 1: used the one that's going through some medical problems. During 156 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 1: the planning stages, I began doing landscape and construction projects 157 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: on her home to increase the resale value. All in, 158 00:06:56,200 --> 00:07:00,600 Speaker 1: I invested around thirty thousand dollars into the home, running everything. 159 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:04,119 Speaker 1: Are running everything through my side construction business for tax 160 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: permitting and resale purposes. 161 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:07,799 Speaker 2: That sounds like a like a lot. 162 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:11,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, Oh, he's like putting in time, he's putting 163 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: in money. He's really trying to help out. 164 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 4: It seems real. 165 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: We had a contract for payment that would be made 166 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: upon the sale of the home. I produced invoices for 167 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: each and every project, but never pushed for payment because 168 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 1: of the prior agreement. 169 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's seems a little I'll be interested to see 170 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 2: how that unfold. 171 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 3: Well, it's like it's his wife. 172 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 4: He thinks it's gonna be fine, right. 173 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, But also I could see how, like I mean, 174 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 2: he's doing, he deserves to be paid. Like also like 175 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 2: charging charging your wife, I could see how things might get. 176 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 4: A little messy, a little messy. 177 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 1: Fast forward six months, we're looking at properties to develop 178 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 1: and finalizing drawings in the home when I began feeling ill. 179 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 1: I couldn't eat, constantly vomiting and passing blood. 180 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 4: Oh damn geez. 181 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: I noticed that my abdomen looked swollen, which was odd 182 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: because we were both very eaters and were in the 183 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: gym every day. So man's fit, man's rich, man's married. 184 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 1: Seems like you live in a life except for now, Yeah, 185 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 1: for now, he's living life. So I went to the 186 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: doctor and began having tests done. During this time, she 187 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:17,560 Speaker 1: began having small cognitive issues and the stress of her 188 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 1: current position was exacerbating her condition. So she took a 189 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 1: twenty thousand dollars per annum cut and pay, along with 190 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: a lesser position inside the company, I imagine, to like 191 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: deal with all the things she was going on. After 192 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: a month or so of different tests and a biopsy, 193 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:34,480 Speaker 1: it came back that I had a golf ball sized 194 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 1: tumor in my stomach. Oh, my God, and would need 195 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: to begin chemotherapy immediately. I began chemo and radiation treatments, 196 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 1: which made me expectedly so extremely ill. She was spending 197 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 1: time helping around my place on the weekends and staying 198 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:51,559 Speaker 1: over more to the point where they were both at 199 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: my home more than theirs. At this point, I suggested 200 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: that we go ahead and put one of our houses 201 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: on the market and move in together until the new 202 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: house was built. Such a rough situation because both of 203 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: them are having like major health issueriod, I mean, like, 204 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:06,839 Speaker 1: what are the odds that like right at the same time, 205 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:11,079 Speaker 1: like horrendous health issues. Yeah, I have great supplemental insurance 206 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: as well as a long term illness plan, so using 207 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: that coupled with the sale of one of our houses 208 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: would push us through comfortably and help ease the financial 209 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 1: stress on her. Okay, smart, okay, op he is like 210 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 1: playing it out on a shit. Shortly after this discussion, 211 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: she became extremely distant. Her daughter wasn't coming down and 212 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: hanging out with mine anymore. She had excuses for not 213 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 1: getting together. She quit driving me to treatments and stop 214 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 1: staying over. She then dropped a bomb, a sentence that 215 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:44,080 Speaker 1: will forever be burned into my psyche. Oh wow, I 216 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: love you, but I can't see myself taking care of 217 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:49,560 Speaker 1: someone this sick in the long term. And I don't 218 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,840 Speaker 1: think we should see each other any longer. Wow, especially 219 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: after like he cared for her that. 220 00:09:55,480 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, like the instant hypocrisy is crazy. 221 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:06,640 Speaker 4: Yeah. Wow, it broke me. 222 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 3: She said this in a text. Wow, not even face 223 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:11,680 Speaker 3: to face. 224 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 2: That has to be face to face conversation. 225 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 3: It broke me. 226 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 1: This is the first woman that I had ever opened 227 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: up to and planned a life with since my wife 228 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: died when my children were one in three. 229 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:21,839 Speaker 4: Oh. 230 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: However, I try to be mature about it. I forced 231 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:27,200 Speaker 1: myself to understand a position and to accept what I 232 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: couldn't change. Stoic, I calmly the next day gathered all 233 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 1: of her things, packed them neatly, loaded them in my truck, 234 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 1: and took them to her house to leave on the 235 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: back porch while she was at work in order to 236 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 1: avoid any awkward exchanges. Walking around the back and under 237 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: the porch cover, and saw her in her back living 238 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,080 Speaker 1: room on the couch having sex with a man that 239 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: she had introduced to me as a lifelong friend. Brow 240 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: what is happening yo? I had dinner and drinks with 241 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:00,640 Speaker 1: this man and his girlfriend. We had gone on vacation 242 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: with them as well. 243 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 3: Oh god. 244 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: I never spoke at the incident with her and simply 245 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:08,439 Speaker 1: sent her a text later explaining that I would leave 246 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 1: her things on my side porch to pick up at 247 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: her convenience. I discovered eight or nine months later from 248 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 1: his now ex girlfriend that they had broken up due 249 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:18,080 Speaker 1: to him confessing that he had been sleeping with my 250 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,480 Speaker 1: significant other dating back to the time we were finishing 251 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:23,320 Speaker 1: drawings on the new home. 252 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 3: So this has been happening for a while. 253 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 4: Oh my god. 254 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 1: No, peopro Now, I'm pissed, so revenged, let's go. At 255 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,720 Speaker 1: this point, I had finished chemo and radiation for the 256 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:38,320 Speaker 1: time being and was feeling a bit healthier. 257 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 4: Okay, oh, he's got to his feet. 258 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:42,480 Speaker 1: I was going through some much neglected paperwork when I 259 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 1: ran across the file that contained the thirty two thousand, 260 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 1: six hundred and eighty dollars in unpaid long overdue invoices, 261 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,720 Speaker 1: which were promptly sent to my attorney to begin line 262 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 1: proceedings on the home. It turns out that I couldn't 263 00:11:57,240 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 1: have done this a moment too soon. Because she was 264 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: set to put her house on the market. 265 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:02,480 Speaker 4: Oh wow. 266 00:12:02,559 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 1: Coupled with interest over the course of what was then 267 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:09,319 Speaker 1: nineteen months over due. The invoices were hefty that, along 268 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: with the agreement of settling them when the house was 269 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:14,200 Speaker 1: sold in the attorney fees left her with roughly ten 270 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:17,200 Speaker 1: thousand dollars after the sale of the home and settling 271 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:18,080 Speaker 1: her current mortals. 272 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:21,199 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, she sold her whole house and only 273 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:23,440 Speaker 2: got ten dollars. 274 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 4: Geez. 275 00:12:24,679 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: She promptly had to back out of the purchase of 276 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,439 Speaker 1: another home and moved in with her oldest daughter, sister 277 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 1: in law, and two grandchildren. She also had to leave 278 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:35,319 Speaker 1: her job and begin receiving disability, so her life is fricked. 279 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:37,559 Speaker 4: Wow. 280 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: I ran into her a little over a year ago, 281 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 1: and she looked like she had aged twenty years and 282 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: was in a wheelchair. We had talked about. We chatted 283 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:48,360 Speaker 1: cordially but briefly, and I excused myself and went on 284 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: with my day. A few days later, her younger daughter 285 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: called me and spoke of my running into her mom 286 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 1: and could we hang out sometime. I gave a vague answer, 287 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:59,200 Speaker 1: thanked her for calling again, and went on with my day. 288 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:03,320 Speaker 1: Then the X then called me a week or so 289 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: later and began apologizing for leaving me, as she did 290 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: again cordial but short. I thanked her for calling and 291 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: hung up. She began texting, and this went on for 292 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:13,840 Speaker 1: several weeks, until one she asked if I could ever 293 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 1: see her rekindling what we had to which I replied, 294 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: I can't see myself taking care of someone so sick 295 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:22,480 Speaker 1: in the long term. Remember the box on your back porch. 296 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 1: Did you think that lifelong friend brought that over to 297 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:32,120 Speaker 1: you from my house? Good luck to you, goodbye? Oh 298 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:34,439 Speaker 1: Mike freakin' droped doggy. 299 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 2: Bro. This is like, it's like a freaking ten year callback. Wow, dude, 300 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 2: this guy, this, this is this is revenge. This is 301 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 2: one of the best pro avengers of all time. Wow, 302 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:51,440 Speaker 2: for sure, dude. I feel so bad for him, though, 303 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:53,199 Speaker 2: I mean, at least he's better. Though, at least he's 304 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 2: like feeling good. 305 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 3: I'm glad that he became. 306 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:57,760 Speaker 2: That's like the best thing of this whole story, I 307 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:02,239 Speaker 2: feel like, but like, god, damn, that's some revenge goodness.