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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry letter, thanking if you subject.

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Speaker 1: I need him to go a little bit longer, Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. My husband is a great provider, and what

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Speaker 1: I love most about him is the way he loves

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Speaker 1: and we've been married for two months. I love him dearly,

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Speaker 1: We do the pregame stuff and it's wonderful. I hook

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Speaker 1: done way too soon. I have a problem with him

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Speaker 1: I'm disappointed every time and usually have to finish myself

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Speaker 1: I'm not pleased with him. I have a lot of

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Speaker 1: tricks to show him, and I want to blow his

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Speaker 1: mind each time like I used to when we first met.

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Speaker 1: I am sure it's one of the things that really

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Speaker 1: attracted him to me. I need your help on this one.

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Speaker 1: Should I just be happy that his pregame activities are

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Speaker 1: but I don't know where to start. What is a

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Speaker 1: normal time frame for sex? Because it could be that

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Speaker 1: I'm asking for way too much. Steve, that last question

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Speaker 1: You want more and he's giving you. I guess all

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Speaker 1: he has or all he thinks that you want. Fifteen minutes. Okay,

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Speaker 1: maybe that's all he has to give. Um, you know,

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Speaker 1: maybe you guys should cut down on the pregame activities

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Speaker 1: You know, you're just getting started and he's finishing up

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Speaker 1: after three years of dating. It seems like you guys

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Speaker 1: Because you don't talk. You don't say that you weren't

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Speaker 1: and now you guys are settling in. You're getting to

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Speaker 1: know each other. You got ills, you you realize that

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Speaker 1: you're going to be together till death do us part,

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Speaker 1: and you know, and all those things. So, um, you

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Speaker 1: guys have only been married for two months. Um, you

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Speaker 1: have to get settled in. You have to learn each other.

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Speaker 1: You have to learn how to talk to each other.

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Speaker 1: That means finding a way to tell him nicely that

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Speaker 1: that he's it's happening too fast. Okay, I almost said

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Speaker 1: You can teach him. I did. You can teach him,

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Speaker 1: I don't think so. That's we'd haven't done this. Now

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Speaker 1: He putting it in because it's fifteen minutes A hard

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Speaker 1: I uh, you've obviously spent. You need to count all

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping it is not about yo, got you want

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Speaker 1: do see this woman say shit, got a husband, great provider.

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Speaker 1: Love everything about him, especially the way he loves the lord.

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Speaker 1: Dated for three years, got married, being married two months.

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Speaker 1: I ain't living this manage without being satisfied. I ain't

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Speaker 1: no cheatah. I don't want to make it feel bad

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Speaker 1: Who we first? I'm sure that's one of the things

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Speaker 1: know where to start. What's a normal time frame for sex?

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Speaker 1: Surely said it ain't done, and it really ain't. But

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Speaker 1: because I could that I'm asking for too much, Steve,

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Speaker 1: might be too damn much. Well, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: don't know what you're in that doing. Now that that

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Speaker 1: asking too much? But here's what I do know. We

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Speaker 1: guess the final final moment is ten to fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: The problem is is that you do the early stuff,

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Speaker 1: hooked up. Now I understand that, But now here's the

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Speaker 1: problems you have. Number One, start on your own, yes,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, Yeah, you start on your own. Go ahead

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Speaker 1: and get those to wherever you need to be. Open

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Speaker 1: I'm good. Come on, Harry up, not her see that

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Speaker 1: that's her whistling now, yeah, because you know she don't

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Speaker 1: and that she working, she didn't work that it's about

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Speaker 1: now now ah, this is your alternative if you don't

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Speaker 1: want to do that. You tired of finishing off stuff

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Speaker 1: with yourself and he finishing. Here's a couple of other suggestions.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna just say these real quick. You can

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Speaker 1: old school. Do some old school crafts, make some mass trade. Yeah, Michaels, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: some little dolls and stuff. It's just stuff you can do. Hey,

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Speaker 1: other option, the third set. Have you ever thought, sweetie,

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Speaker 1: that you just really really good? Huh? Has that crossed

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Speaker 1: This boy? Right? Can't no man take it? Cause you

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Speaker 1: all that Dante Wilding people. Damn yeah, you just you

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