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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is a John your og

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Speaker 1: Okay Storytime podcast. Oh and we got some great stories

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Speaker 1: coming up. Before that, we have a quick two minute

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Speaker 1: break from the sponsors that keep the show a lot.

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Speaker 2: My boss shared confidential information with me in it unknowingly

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Speaker 2: spread out.

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Speaker 3: Who leaked it?

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Speaker 2: So this happened today and I really need to get

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Speaker 2: it all out because I am honestly anxious about going

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Speaker 2: into work tomorrow. I twenties female, have a bad history

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Speaker 2: with my coworker, who I will call Jess's thirties female.

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Speaker 2: Jess has always been unprofessional and erratic. Everybody knows this

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Speaker 2: about her. She also does not like me for reasons

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Speaker 2: I genuinely do not understand. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 2: I am Savannah, I'm Sophia, I'm Curly, and we are

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Speaker 2: here to give good advice. Goofly, But obviously we don't

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Speaker 2: have all the answers. We just know what we would

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Speaker 2: do in this situation, but we would love to know

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Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments. As Peace says,

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Speaker 2: our manager has been trying to put an end to

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Speaker 2: gossip and drama since she started with the business about

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Speaker 2: six months ago. I thought I had a decent relationship

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Speaker 2: with my boss, forties female, but lately things have felt strained. Yesterday,

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Speaker 2: I had a meeting with my boss regarding a change

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Speaker 2: at work. This change would affect another coworker, Sarah. During

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Speaker 2: the meeting, my boss specifically asked me not to discuss

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Speaker 2: the change with anyone. Yet I did not say anything

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Speaker 2: at all to anybody. You would just have to believe me,

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Speaker 2: which is why I am so nervous about this entire situation. Today,

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Speaker 2: my boss called me into her office and aggressively accused

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Speaker 2: me of telling Jess about the change. Apparently, Jess then

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Speaker 2: told Sarah about it, and Sarah was extremely upset. Jess

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Speaker 2: also told my boss that I was the one who

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Speaker 2: told her this information. Whoa spreading lies about you?

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Speaker 4: What dreading lies about you?

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Speaker 2: Like I said? My boss was aggressive and continued accusing

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Speaker 2: me even after I denied it. I refused to take

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Speaker 2: responsibility for something I did not do. I am terrified

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Speaker 2: of the fallout from this, especially because it is something

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Speaker 2: I had no part in. I do not know how

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Speaker 2: Jess found out about the change and frankly, I do

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Speaker 2: not care. I do not want to be involved in

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Speaker 2: any of this. This kind of thing has been happening

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Speaker 2: for months now. I just want to go to work,

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Speaker 2: do my job, and come home. What do I do now?

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Speaker 2: And there's comments, I'd go for the truth and show

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Speaker 2: respect and calmness while talking, even though people won't believe it.

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Speaker 2: OPI responds, I'm mostly concerned about potentially being written up

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Speaker 2: over the situation. Rod fifty seven says, sounds like you

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Speaker 2: work with a bunch of kids, including your boss. Opie responds,

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Speaker 2: that's certainly how it feels. I am job hunting and

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Speaker 2: have some promising leads, but I want to preserve this

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Speaker 2: in the meantime because I work for a great international company.

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Speaker 2: Thirteen says, I'm sorry that you're in an uncomfortable situation.

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Speaker 2: I know you told me about admin change and confidence,

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Speaker 2: and I did not say anything to anyone, including Jess.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why she would lie, but I have

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Speaker 2: behaved with integrity here. Maybe you say otherwise or stay

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Speaker 2: something incorrect rather than lie. Lie is a bit of

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Speaker 2: an aggressive accusation. OPI responds, I told boss yesterday. I

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Speaker 2: don't know how Jess found out, but I did not

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Speaker 2: says I know this probably isn't helpful, but why did

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Speaker 2: the employee that it affects I don't understand that part

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Speaker 4: I was thinking that too.

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Speaker 2: All you can do is be honest and stand your ground, really,

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Speaker 2: OPI responds, boss told me about change because I requested

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Speaker 2: Natalie twenty seven twenty seven says, it's my guess that

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Speaker 2: someone was listening at the door when your boss told

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Speaker 2: saved my life, said, or maybe they were guessing. The

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Speaker 4: Getting blamed for it.

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Speaker 2: I cannot stand that type of person. I have worked

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Speaker 2: OPI responds. Both of these would be very likely Jess

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Speaker 3: Okay, then yeah, I would just say, hey, like, is

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Speaker 3: there any chance that she just heard overheard this? Because

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Speaker 3: I did not tell her.

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Speaker 2: It's the fact that she was sitting on the floor.

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Speaker 2: That's what really gets. Why is she sitting on the floor.

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Speaker 2: Don't they have chairs in this office?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: No, she's sitting on the floor.

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Speaker 4: In the hallway.

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Speaker 3: Yeah some floor time.

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Speaker 2: It's completely changed. Okay, you're right, you're right, Sorry for

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Speaker 5: We had a couple of days in my last job

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Speaker 2: And that's nice, good for you, it is. It gets

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Speaker 2: all the blood flowing. But there were two closed doors

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Speaker 2: between us, so I'm not sure. Oh there's an update.

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Speaker 2: Oh boy, should we just go Let's go into it.

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Speaker 2: I need to know how she found out, what's gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: I think OP just needs to tell boss I didn't

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Speaker 4: You don't have moo.

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Speaker 2: Weeks later, Oh, my original post got more attention than

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Speaker 2: get serious about finding a new job. I took a

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Speaker 2: job or no job. Luckily, the day after I got

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Speaker 2: I'm really excited to work in a new department and

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Speaker 2: I'll be working at a nonprofit.

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Speaker 3: Okay, seems like the quitting seems like that way the

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Speaker 3: boss did, Dad listen, I don't like nonprofits?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 3: Oh, that's what the BOS was for.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I've worked with a bunch of different nonprofits and

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Speaker 2: I have just never liked them.

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Speaker 3: It's just like, I feel like you should say, like

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Speaker 2: I don't like working at a nonprofit. It's really hard

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Speaker 2: for my other job. I gave my two week notice.

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Speaker 2: I very professionally and unemotionally told our HR rep what

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Speaker 2: I have two days left and then I have a

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Speaker 2: fourteen day gap between employment. WHOA Also turns out the

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Speaker 2: company wide surveys went out today. I'm going to really

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Speaker 4: It goes to my.

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Speaker 2: Boss's boss's boss, boss's bosses, a lot of that's a

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Speaker 3: If you gave a really yeah, they're like this boss

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Speaker 3: was really terrible about handling a situation where someone accuses

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Speaker 2: The thing is, she doesn't have to go out. She

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Speaker 2: just just bored. You're just a bored donut.

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Speaker 3: Get over yourself.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, you're so cute. I can't you anyway? Top

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Speaker 2: comments Jixi one says in the US, if you give

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Speaker 2: two weeks notice and they tell you to leave earlier,

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Speaker 2: then they have to legally pay you for two weeks.

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Speaker 4: Make sure you get your money.

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Speaker 2: Opie says, I'm an at will hourly employee, so I

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Speaker 2: don't think I qualify Annett Exyz.

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Speaker 3: If you are at a place where you're on salary

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Speaker 3: and you give your two weeks and they say we

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Speaker 3: don't want you to work those two weeks, then yeah,

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Speaker 3: they have to pay you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yes you do.

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Speaker 2: What did HR say about them cutting off your hours?

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Speaker 2: You told them right, Opie says, what would I even say?

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Speaker 2: I understood, I could be wrong. A two week notice

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Speaker 2: is notification of immediate resignation, but the two weeks is

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was.

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Speaker 4: Insane one of them.

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Speaker 2: I heard about it. There is a way where if

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Speaker 5: You're not getting that no matter how long they ask

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Speaker 5: you to work or not work. That could be state

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Speaker 5: sure if you quit and they're like, you can just leave.

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Speaker 5: Actually they don't owe you anything.

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Speaker 2: Hmmm interesting, too many aunts comments. You can get unemployment

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Speaker 2: for those two weeks, but that's about it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: OK, that's true, that's what you can do, but that

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Speaker 2: also takes five years.

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Speaker 4: Opie response.

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Speaker 2: I am financially stable enough to not need assistance at

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Speaker 2: this time, but thank you for letting me know my options.

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Speaker 2: Extra catchup. Thanks, responds. You might consider going for it anyway.

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Speaker 2: You never know what emergency may come up and wipe

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Speaker 2: your savings. You already pay into this assistance every paycheck

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Speaker 2: you have ever worked. If you do not end up

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Speaker 2: needing it by the time your next job begins and

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Speaker 2: you receive your first paycheck, you can donate it if

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Speaker 2: you like, but do consider that this is assistance you

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Speaker 2: currently have paid in for and are entitled to take.

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Speaker 2: It only hurts when you don't do it. Opi responds, Okay,

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Speaker 2: so I did a little research and for my state,

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Speaker 2: it says that I qualify if I quit and my

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Speaker 2: hours are reduced by more than twenty five percent. They

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Speaker 2: have I just don't want to have to work the

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Speaker 2: last two weeks out, so I'm not sure if I

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Speaker 2: should mention this to HR in hopes that they will

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Speaker 2: simply schedule me again.

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Speaker 2: If it were me, I would tell HR anyway so

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Speaker 2: they know what kind of manager they have. Did she

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Speaker 2: change the schedule or just not schedule you the normal hours?

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Speaker 2: Not sure if it matters at the company, but is

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Speaker 2: curious if you'd be willing to work new shifts that

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Speaker 2: would obviously be awkward and it would get you more money,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think, well, yeah, it's just like it sucks. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: He is in his sixties. I'll call him Rick. He's

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia and I'm Savannah, I'm Carly, and we're.

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Speaker 3: Here to give good advice. Goofy, but we don't have

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Speaker 3: Rick retained nothing. Not a good start. Rick and I

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Speaker 3: Enthusiasm but I do not share his interests. When he

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Speaker 3: Talking money like that made me feel extremely uncomfortable. He

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Speaker 5: Yeah, people are just weird with money talk.

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Speaker 4: That's I don't know that one's like really weird. No,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know that one. That one's not even

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Speaker 4: That's like buying someone.

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Speaker 5: A coffee, right, not even that's less than a god,

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Speaker 2: Oh Pete, what, I feel like you're just kind of

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Speaker 4: Yeah, why are you? I agree? I'm confused.

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Speaker 3: Because then maybe I would decline be that's so weird? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: From my point of view, his behavior feels borderline possessive

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Speaker 3: He is very adamant about being a gentleman while simultaneously

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Speaker 3: That, it seems like you've done a lot for him

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Seems like he's just doing what Rick always does.

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Speaker 3: He's just doing classic Rick moves, being an old man

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Speaker 4: Update.

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Speaker 3: He failed the sink or swim test this game is

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Speaker 3: and it does not look good. I would have updated sooner,

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Speaker 3: do things wrong, the issues come back to us and

443
00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:25,399
Speaker 3: double the workload. When I returned from my weekend, he

444
00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:29,200
Speaker 3: insisted I take a treat. I declined. He was clearly hurt,

445
00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:31,119
Speaker 3: but there was no time to address it because we

446
00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:34,000
Speaker 3: immediately got slammed. It was so busy that I did

447
00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:36,520
Speaker 3: not even take a lunch break. I probably could have

448
00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:39,160
Speaker 3: if I trusted him enough to leave him alone, or

449
00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:41,320
Speaker 3: he could have gotten you lunch, I guess, but you

450
00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:42,360
Speaker 3: wouldn't have accepted it.

451
00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:45,720
Speaker 2: I would have immediately accepted if anyone is buying me lunch.

452
00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:49,199
Speaker 3: I love free lunch, as long as he's not being weird.

453
00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:51,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, as long as he doesn't like ass he's like

454
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Speaker 2: a date and he's like, I want to go on

455
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Speaker 2: a date with you.

456
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Speaker 3: He's free lunch, that's weird. At one point I had

457
00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:58,040
Speaker 3: to politely push Rick to the side because he was

458
00:19:58,040 --> 00:19:59,680
Speaker 3: physically in the way I was doing.

459
00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:03,159
Speaker 2: SI not politely pushing him. I thought she was literally

460
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Speaker 2: like politely push him to the side just to like

461
00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,080
Speaker 2: talk to him. If she meant he no, he was

462
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Speaker 2: actually away.

463
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Speaker 3: Get out of my way, Rick, Rick, you're just gonna

464
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Speaker 3: have to move.

465
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Speaker 2: I don't want to break you, but you gotta just

466
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Speaker 2: go a little bit to the Nope, that's left a

467
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Speaker 2: little bit, Okay, you know what.

468
00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:18,639
Speaker 4: I'll just.

469
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Speaker 7: Around.

470
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Speaker 3: I was doing six times the work while he was

471
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Speaker 3: stuck on one task. During a brief loll I could

472
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Speaker 3: swear he saw tears in his eyes. He stared off

473
00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:30,800
Speaker 3: into space and kept asking himself how he was going

474
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,119
Speaker 3: to do this, saying he did not think he could.

475
00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,520
Speaker 3: I was grateful that we were too busy to talk

476
00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:37,800
Speaker 3: about anything personal for the rest of the shift. I

477
00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:40,399
Speaker 3: got my steps in refuse the treat and avoided an

478
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Speaker 3: awkward conversation. The next day was calmer. He asked me

479
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Speaker 3: if I thought he should look for another job, or

480
00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:48,160
Speaker 3: if it was worth staying. I was honest with him.

481
00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:50,399
Speaker 3: I told him that this did not seem like a

482
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Speaker 3: good fit, that it was fast paced and nuanced, and

483
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,320
Speaker 3: that he struggled to keep up. I said the job

484
00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:57,080
Speaker 3: was not worth the stress, and that there had to

485
00:20:57,119 --> 00:20:59,480
Speaker 3: be something out there better suited him. He thanked me

486
00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:02,520
Speaker 3: for my honor. Then he immediately said he hates jobs

487
00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:05,199
Speaker 3: urging and we'll probably stay. After that, he offered me

488
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Speaker 3: a treat.

489
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Speaker 2: Oh see's like, thank you for your honesty.

490
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Speaker 3: Would you like you have to like, it's just like

491
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Speaker 3: poor Rick doesn't know.

492
00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 4: He's like I did.

493
00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,240
Speaker 2: I don't have any money, but I can offer you.

494
00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:21,119
Speaker 4: Such you a little like mint.

495
00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:23,879
Speaker 2: I can give you sweet treats.

496
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 3: I emailed my manager about not being able to take

497
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,960
Speaker 3: a lunch and explain that I could not rely on Rick.

498
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,119
Speaker 3: I do not know if anything will come of it.

499
00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,959
Speaker 2: Honestly, just think that Rick's just old and he doesn't

500
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 2: really like I worked with like a very old person honestly,

501
00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 2: probably around seventy and like he couldn't get around. He

502
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:42,960
Speaker 2: was not good at his job, but they just kept

503
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,800
Speaker 2: him there because he literally was ere though. Yeah, he

504
00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:51,400
Speaker 2: was like, well, my brother's passed. My you know, parents

505
00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:53,639
Speaker 2: are passed. I really don't have anyone with my wife,

506
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:56,040
Speaker 2: and all she does is yell at me. It's my

507
00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 2: life's just miserable, and I'm here making money. I'm like,

508
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,760
Speaker 2: are you all right? But this was Bob, Yeah, like

509
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:04,959
Speaker 2: you're right, Like he's great, but like to have around

510
00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 2: just for like laughs, but like, boy.

511
00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 4: You can't really do this job.

512
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:13,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, which that's the issue here, which I don't know.

513
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 3: It feels like, oh, he's kind of making the whole

514
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,639
Speaker 3: treats thing a bigger issue when the real issue is

515
00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:19,880
Speaker 3: just that Rick can't do his job.

516
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think the issues they're trying to like reach

517
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:27,159
Speaker 2: for something else to be mad about. Yeah, but then

518
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 2: not actually like like because they don't want to just say, oh,

519
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:32,520
Speaker 2: it's just this. No, he does more annoying stuff. I

520
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:36,360
Speaker 2: swear guys. Yeah, it's like that's not really annoyed, that's

521
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 2: actually very sweet.

522
00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

523
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 3: I also spoke with another coworker. He works with Rick

524
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 3: on the day I am not there and works with

525
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 3: me on the day Rick is not there. He agrees

526
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 3: that Rick is a headache, ignores boundaries, and acts childish.

527
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:51,440
Speaker 3: Rick for the record calls it childlike, which is still strange.

528
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 3: This coworker has also raised concerns with his superior because

529
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:58,280
Speaker 3: we are short staffed, Rick will be scheduled to work alone.

530
00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,360
Speaker 3: This is the ultimate sink or sweat situation. I did

531
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 3: what I could to help him learn and made others

532
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 3: aware of his struggles. I believe he will fail and

533
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,199
Speaker 3: I take no joy in that. Rick asked if I

534
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 3: would come in on my day off to help him.

535
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:13,199
Speaker 3: The audacity is overwhelming.

536
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:14,479
Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story.

537
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 2: My coworker ruined a work party because of a hear

538
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 2: me out cake which you put on the gig trigger

539
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 2: warning workplace intimidation. I twenty three Mail have been working

540
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Speaker 2: a corporate office job for almost a year now as

541
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Speaker 2: part of their software development team. The work itself has

542
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 2: been fined, but anyone who has worked a developer role

543
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:37,000
Speaker 2: in a corporate setting can imagine that office life is

544
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:40,639
Speaker 2: pretty bland and unremarkable with the people typically drawn to

545
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Speaker 2: this line of work. It also does not help that

546
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Speaker 2: I am the youngest member on our team by a

547
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Speaker 2: wide margin. By the way, this comes from Klundi and

548
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Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

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Speaker 2: the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. I am Savannah, I'm Sophia,

550
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:57,159
Speaker 2: I'm Carly, and we are here to give you some

551
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 2: good advice goof Lee, But obviously we don't have all

552
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,400
Speaker 2: the answer. We would only tell you what we would

553
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 2: do in this situation, but we would love to know

554
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments. As op says,

555
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,119
Speaker 2: With all that in mind, you can imagine my excitement

556
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 2: when several weeks ago, a few other members of our

557
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:15,119
Speaker 2: team and I started collaborating on a new project with

558
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Speaker 2: members of our company's marketing and communications division. This was

559
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 2: a welcome change of pace because the marketing and communications

560
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 2: team is made up of younger and livelier employees compared

561
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Speaker 2: to who I was already working with. While I was

562
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 2: still the youngest employee on this project, at least I

563
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:34,760
Speaker 2: was now working with people one to three years older

564
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:38,639
Speaker 2: than me instead of ten to thirty years yikes. Almost immediately,

565
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 2: I started having more fun at work once this project

566
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,760
Speaker 2: began thanks to my new co workers. Within a week,

567
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Speaker 2: members of the marketing team had adopted me into their

568
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 2: click and got me involved in their group activities such

569
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Speaker 2: as board games during lunch, after hours, drinks in karaoke,

570
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:55,640
Speaker 2: and whatever random trips or parties someone planned for the weekend.

571
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 2: For the first time since getting this job, I was

572
00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 2: actually looking forward to showing up for work because of

573
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Speaker 2: these people. However, I was not the only person they

574
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 2: extended this invitation to. Tagging along for most of these

575
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:11,400
Speaker 2: activities was another member of the development team. My older coworker,

576
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Speaker 2: Mitch thirty five. Mail, I will cut to the chase here.

577
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 2: Mitch is a really awkward guy. Ah, classic Mitch.

578
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 3: Ah, Mitch.

579
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Speaker 2: I used to think I was fairly awkward, but working

580
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:26,399
Speaker 2: alongside Mitch made me realize that the awkward guy rabbit

581
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 2: hole goes much deeper than I originally thought. Unless we

582
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 2: were talking about our assignments, Mitch could never quite read

583
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,400
Speaker 2: the room, which made casual conversation with him difficult.

584
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:36,640
Speaker 3: Oh no, cough.

585
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 2: Still, I never got the impression that he was a

586
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 2: bad person, and it seemed like our new coworkers thought

587
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 2: the same when he tagged along for group activities. It

588
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:47,880
Speaker 2: was not like everything automatically became worse. Most of the time,

589
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 2: his presence just led to a few uncomfortable moments here

590
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,399
Speaker 2: and there. This brings us to what happened last week.

591
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 2: Oh for Mitch, our hybrid team hit the halfway mark

592
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 2: for the project we were working on, much faster than

593
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 2: and originally anticipated. To celebrate, one of our managers suggested

594
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 2: we get some cake and hold a small office party.

595
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 2: My co workers on the marketing team jumped on this

596
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 2: and wanted to record a hear me out cake TikTok

597
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:17,160
Speaker 2: video where everyone takes turn sticking fictional characters on top

598
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 2: of a cake while saying hear me Out. The girls

599
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 2: on the marketing team were always recording tiktoks in the office,

600
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:25,120
Speaker 2: so no one really objected to this idea or thought

601
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,680
Speaker 2: it was out of the ordinary. The next day we

602
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 2: all got our work done early and the party started.

603
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 2: We printed out our hear me out selections and tape

604
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,399
Speaker 2: them to the ends of sticks. Just as planned, we

605
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 2: started recording the TikTok before actually eating the cake. The

606
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:42,919
Speaker 2: first round went by with no issues, and there were

607
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:43,440
Speaker 2: some cake.

608
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 3: There's some cake on the cake.

609
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 2: There's some pretty funny picks. Off the top of my head.

610
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 2: I remember the candlestick from Beauty and the Beast, Poe

611
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 2: from Kung Fu, Panda, Haites from Hercules, Gloria from Madagascar,

612
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 2: Mister Clean, and the McDonald's arches You'll.

613
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Speaker 3: Be honest and be honest, Gloria from Madagascar, and what

614
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 3: was the second one, Poe from Kung Fu Panda Okay, okay,

615
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,439
Speaker 3: I I don't know. I feel like those ones that

616
00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 3: those ones aren't hear me out enough.

617
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 5: I've heard of the McDonald's arches on multiple at this point.

618
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, that one's not even really I think that's hilarious.

619
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 2: The McDonald's arches. Oh, hear me out. You hear me out, Sweet.

620
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 3: James, See you gotta be more original. Hear me out

621
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:29,879
Speaker 3: the O'Reilly's just the parts, just the jingle.

622
00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 4: Hear me out. Merlin from the Old Guy.

623
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, the wizard that I dressed up for last year

624
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:40,719
Speaker 2: for Halloween. But to Bermuda, Merlin from Sword and the Stone,

625
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 2: I see it. Hear me the f owl. I'm sure

626
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:49,159
Speaker 2: the problem occurred during the second round, misplaced the picture

627
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 2: of Eileen twenty six, female from the marketing team.

628
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I knew it was coming. She's like, yeah, guys, guys,

629
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Speaker 3: I know Aileen's ugly.

630
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 4: I know she's freaking worse. But hear me out. No,

631
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 4: I'm scared of Mitch.

632
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 2: This was accompanied by a comment along the lines of

633
00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 2: here's somebody I want to add to my body caut Oh.

634
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, that's an HR. That's HR complaint.

635
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 4: Oh that's an immediate HR situation.

636
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 2: The room went completely silent and everyone just stared at Mitch.

637
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 2: After he said that, people immediately started placing themselves between

638
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 2: Mitch and Eileen, and.

639
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 4: The recording stopped.

640
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 3: Yeah fairen oh no.

641
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 2: I was pretty shocked by everything that was happening. I

642
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 2: remember some of the girls taking Eileen to the bathroom

643
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 2: while the rest of us confronted Mitch. At first, Mitch

644
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 2: tried to double down, saying he thought it would be

645
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 2: funny for the TikTok and that this reaction was an

646
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 2: honest misunderstanding. Another coworker and I immediately called BS on

647
00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,560
Speaker 2: that excuse. Mitch was very clearly trying to make a

648
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 2: move on because during the months we had all been

649
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 2: hanging out together he had a habit of creepily hovering

650
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 2: around her. Very quickly, a lot of Mitch's behavior within

651
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 2: the group was recontextualized, and as everyone confronted him, I

652
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 2: lost any remaining respect or sympathy I may have had

653
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:17,719
Speaker 2: for him. Eventually, Mitch seemed to realize he was not

654
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 2: going to win by doubling down. He shrank into himself

655
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 2: and started apologizing repeatedly in an attempt to avoid punishment. Luckily,

656
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 2: our company has a very strict zero tolerance intimidation policy.

657
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 2: Some of the managers pulled Mitch aside and instructed the

658
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 2: rest of us to try to enjoy the cake before

659
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 2: heading home early for the weekend. This week, Mitch has

660
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 2: not come into office. He was told to work from

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Speaker 2: home while management figured out what to do with him.

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Speaker 2: HR representatives have been coming around collecting stories and asking

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Speaker 2: for our thoughts on Mitch as a co worker. I

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00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 2: have since learned that Mitch has had done a lot

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Speaker 2: more than just be awkward in the past.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, yeah, I feel like it's going

667
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 3: to come out that he's been like really creepy to people.

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Speaker 4: H Okay, now I know. You know.

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Speaker 2: At first I felt really bad because I was like,

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Speaker 2: he's just so socially awkward. He can't help it. But

671
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 2: also that's not inappropriate. You have to like say something. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And now it's just like, Nope, this guy's just creep

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Speaker 2: oh h. At first, I was worried he would face

674
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 2: a little to no repercussions because of his long employment

675
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 2: history and productivity. As the week has gone on, though,

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Speaker 2: it seems increasingly likely that Mitch.

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Speaker 3: Will be let go.

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00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 2: Think thank god, Yeah, everything else about this week has

679
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 2: kind of sucked. I'm sitting at my desk on Friday

680
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 2: typing this and I am back to not really liking

681
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 2: this job. All the friends I made on the marketing

682
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 2: team understandably have a very different vibe in the office,

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Speaker 2: and we no longer hang out like we used to all.

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Speaker 2: Eileen in particular, has chosen to work from home by request.

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Speaker 3: There it sucks for her.

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Speaker 2: Based on her messages in our group chat, she seems

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00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 2: to be doing pretty well. Unfortunately, it looks like following

688
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 2: this incident, our managers will be swapping out all of

689
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Speaker 2: the marketing team members on this project for new ones

690
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Speaker 2: in the coming weeks. So thanks for that, Mitch. I

691
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 2: am helping everything returns to some sense of normalcy soon

692
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Speaker 2: and that no one ever has to do with Mitch again.

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00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 2: I'm going to keep trying to stay friends with my

694
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Speaker 2: coworkers through all of this, but I understand that it

695
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 2: probably will not work out in the long run. But yeah,

696
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 2: that is about it. And we got some comments. Comment

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Speaker 2: one says they hear me out. Cake trend, a new

698
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 2: TikTok trend is allowing people to share their kookies. Crow

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00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 2: oh blah blah blah. That's for people who don't know

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Speaker 2: what it is, which we have explained it now. I'm

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Speaker 2: so sorry for you. This ruin the vibe and your

702
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 2: connection plus the nice the nice work opportunity. I couldn't

703
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 2: help myself from laughing a little bit because it sounds

704
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 2: like something David Brent from the office would do and

705
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 2: spoiling the vibe for everybody, but for you and Eileen.

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Speaker 2: This sucksprowning face. I really really hope another opportunity will come.

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Speaker 2: Maybe when time has passed, you can suggest another TikTok

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Speaker 2: trend to do that is more safe, or just don't

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Speaker 2: do anything.

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Speaker 3: Maybe we just don't do it. Yeah, I'm just annoying them.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just you don't really need TikTok trend's just like,

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Speaker 2: just just be happy without Yeah. Comment two says, why

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Speaker 2: would you need to talk about any sort of crush

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00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 2: at work? There so many ways this could easily become

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Speaker 2: inappropriate and unprofessional as seen in your story. This is

716
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 2: a silly thing people do when socializing, but at work.

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 2: Secondly for the people saying that Mitch was just a poor,

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Speaker 2: innocent guy. Shooting a shot a work party surrounded by

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Speaker 2: others is not the place to shoot your shot. Dating

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Speaker 2: coworkers is tricky. A lot of companies even banned co

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Speaker 2: workers from dating and coworkers who date often have to

723
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 2: keep the relationship a secret. Mitch should have found private

724
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Speaker 2: time away from a work party and co workers to

725
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 2: ask Eileen out. Doing it publicly makes things extremely awkward,

726
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Speaker 2: especially if they did wind up going on a couple

727
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 2: dates then breaking up. Everyone would know about a situation

728
00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 2: that could have easily been handled privately.

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Speaker 7: Uh.

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Speaker 2: Another relevant update, Do we have anything.

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Speaker 4: Else we wanna say?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 3: It seems like HR is handling everything. I'm sorry that

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Speaker 3: this happened, especially Eileen. Yeah, she seems like a good Yeah, Eileen.

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Speaker 3: I don't know anything about her, but I'm sorry Eileen.

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Speaker 2: I know Eileen just gets put in the middle, like, oh,

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Speaker 2: take her to the bathroom. Go yeah O added in

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Speaker 2: the comments, Hey everybody, I read some of the comments

739
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Speaker 2: and realized there was one very important detail I left

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Speaker 2: out of the original post. While the hear me out

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00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 2: trend is about sharing fictional crushes, Mitch interpreted as characters

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Speaker 2: you want to have spicy sleep with.

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Speaker 3: That is partially I mean like it kind of it

744
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Speaker 3: kind of is, but you also just don't. It doesn't

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Speaker 3: really matter what he interpreted it as. He shouldn't have

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Speaker 3: done real people. It's the issue here. Yeah, you did

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Speaker 3: a person that he works with. That was the issue.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was the issue. Thought the trend wasn't the issue.

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Speaker 2: It was the outcome of the tread of how people

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Speaker 2: responded was the issue.

751
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 3: I Mitch was the issue.

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00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 2: Mitch really is and was the issue. When he placed

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Speaker 2: the picture of Eileen on the cake, it was accompanied

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Speaker 2: by a pretty nasty comment where he essentially said, here's

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Speaker 2: somebody I want to add to my body count. To

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Speaker 2: my understanding, this behavior lines up with other things he

757
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 2: had said behind closed doors, which is why this incident

758
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Speaker 2: was taken so seriously and punished under spicy related intimidation policies.

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Speaker 2: I apologize for leaving this information out Originally, that was

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Speaker 2: my mistake. And that's the end.

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend gave the wrong gift to his mother, so

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Speaker 2: I took it back.

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Speaker 8: You know what, I give a gift to your mom.

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Speaker 2: I twenty two female make really cool vases as a hobby.

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Speaker 2: These can take weeks to complete.

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Speaker 4: You take two weeks to complete a vase.

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Speaker 6: Weeks from my life, I can't get back reading that

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Speaker 6: sentence and are always made.

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Speaker 4: With the gift e in mind.

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Speaker 2: My mom, fifty female, and I have always been into

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Speaker 2: nature together. We hike, we own animals, we eat outside

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Speaker 2: if we can. I guess being into nature sounds weird. Oh,

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Speaker 2: and your ship show kreaky.

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Speaker 4: They get Oh, they look at me. I'm the only

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Speaker 4: person ever to like nature.

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Speaker 2: We just like being outside. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 4: Claus, I'm the grn sh I'm Angie.

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Speaker 2: And we are here to give you good advice goofully.

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Speaker 2: But obviously we don't have all the answers. We would

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Speaker 2: only tell you what we would do in this situation.

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Speaker 2: But we would love to know what you would do.

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Speaker 4: I don't I don't want to know what you would do.

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Speaker 2: Well, we would like to, we would we like So

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Speaker 2: I made my mom a Siamese cat urn. It looks

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Speaker 2: like a vase, but the top is the cat's ears.

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Speaker 2: It is super cute and I love the way it

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Speaker 2: turned out. No one passed away or anything. It was

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Speaker 2: just the style of the piece I had finished it

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Speaker 2: and taken it to my apartment, wrapped it up, and

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Speaker 2: been so excited about it. Well, my boyfriend's twenty two

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Speaker 2: male mother forty female came over and he didn't get

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Speaker 2: her a Christmas last Birthday present. She loves cats, so

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Speaker 2: he just gave her the piece I made, which she loved.

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend does not live with me. He has his

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Speaker 2: own apartment near his school. His mother came over before

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00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 2: we went over for dinner to see my new kitten.

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Speaker 2: She was in tears over how nice the present was,

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Speaker 2: and I ruined it. Oh no, I told her that

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Speaker 2: the presence must have gotten mixed up that was made

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Speaker 2: for my mother. She got a bit upset, gave it back.

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00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 2: Then my boyfriend went out to dinner with her. He

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Speaker 2: said it would be best if I didn't come.

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Speaker 4: WHOA, he's a little butt hed, isn't he.

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Speaker 6: I'd never get buttered if someone stole the presence that

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Speaker 6: I stole back, because I'd respect game. Game respects game.

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Speaker 4: You steal from me, I steal from you. It's an

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Speaker 4: ongoing cycle of thief. An ongoing cycle of thief.

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Speaker 3: You mean of theft?

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Speaker 4: No I a thief?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Oh god?

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Speaker 2: I guess she cried the whole way, and he didn't

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Speaker 2: have a present for her, so he looked like a

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Speaker 2: bad son. Well, yeah, it sounds like a you problem.

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Speaker 4: Why didn't he have a present? I don't know. Then

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Speaker 4: you just steal your girlfriends.

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Speaker 6: Just steal another present. You've already done it once. It

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Speaker 6: can't be that hard.

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Speaker 2: I have trouble seeing where I am at fault. I

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Speaker 2: understand that the nice thing would have been to remake

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Speaker 2: a gift or let her just have it.

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Speaker 4: However, it was.

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Speaker 2: One of my best pieces, and I always give my

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Speaker 2: mother art I made. She loves it. She shows it

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Speaker 2: off to everyone. It is something she takes great bride in.

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00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 2: She has one from every Christmas and I never miss

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Speaker 2: a year. She even shows off the crappy lumps I

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Speaker 2: made as a kid. Oh, crappy lumps, grinch.

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Speaker 4: I mean, what, what? What? What is it? What is

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Speaker 4: your issue with this? Do you want to have a

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Speaker 4: problem with the phone? I don't know what you're talking

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Speaker 4: about it. I feel like you have a problem with everything.

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Speaker 4: You gotta complain to get comfortable. What's your biggest complaint?

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Speaker 6: My biggest complaint is that the air smells like farts.

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00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 4: Well, I wonder who did that.

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Speaker 6: Well, maybe you should have a purifier because you knew

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Speaker 6: I was coming and I only eat onion, So yeah,

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Speaker 6: sue me.

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Speaker 4: I've heard a bit.

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Speaker 6: I live in a cave so I don't have to

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Speaker 6: deal with the smell of my own farts.

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Speaker 4: Okay, there's a draft. Sure. Shit.

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend wants to talk talk tomorrow. I am not

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Speaker 2: sure if he's going to break up with me. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: wants to yell at me for it. Was I a knocklead.

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Speaker 2: Boyfriend seems to think I was. I love this guy

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Speaker 2: very much, and I really love his mom. She is

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Speaker 2: super sweet and kind and never really gets nice things.

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Speaker 2: I still don't think it is my job to cover

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Speaker 2: for his lack of foresight. Her birthday comes every year

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00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:50,399
Speaker 2: on the same day. It's not like it surprised him.

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Speaker 2: I got her card and a book, which I thought

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Speaker 2: was nice. She thanked me for them later over text,

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Speaker 2: but she seemed really sad about the cat base. I

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Speaker 2: guess she was hoping I either made her something or

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00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 2: my boyfriend actually got her something she really liked. She

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Speaker 2: loves cats, and he has never gotten her anything cat themed.

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Speaker 2: It is always some cooking supplies or an apron okay,

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Speaker 2: which means he sucks.

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Speaker 4: A great Does she have like twenty five aprons every year?

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Speaker 2: I know, like you really one apron. I feel like

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Speaker 2: one apron would last you your entire tea.

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Speaker 4: If you have friends, I only need one.

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Speaker 2: But in your friend fiction, there's plenty.

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Speaker 4: Is my friend fiction, no one's wearing aprons or clothes,

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Speaker 4: So I am just not sure what to think.

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Speaker 2: Does anyone have an idea what to do in the situations?

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Speaker 4: Anna breakup? Break up with your boyfriend? I think they

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00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:48,399
Speaker 4: should break up because I'm bored. That's not break up

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Speaker 4: with your boyfriend because.

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Speaker 8: I I want to leave him.

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Speaker 4: I a present.

879
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Speaker 2: I don't think you need to break up per se

880
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 2: before your boy boyfriend and no to jail to frame your.

881
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 4: Boyfriend because I'm bored.

882
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:08,240
Speaker 2: Well, we got an update.

883
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 4: Okay.

884
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 2: A few people advised that I should have just let

885
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 2: his mom have the gift. This is not something I

886
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:17,360
Speaker 2: was comfortable doing. I don't make art to sell. I

887
00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 2: make art to give to people who I love very much.

888
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:21,759
Speaker 2: Me too, I get it. So each pieza has a

889
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 2: lot of love in it.

890
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:29,240
Speaker 6: My now ex boyfriend ex boyfriend, he's gone.

891
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 4: Buy Wow, grinted, you really predicted that yeah, because I'm psychic.

892
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 2: Showed up around four pm and wanted to talk at me.

893
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 2: He just told me he was disappointed and that he

894
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 2: had taken a lot of sweet talking to make his

895
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 2: mother understand what happened. He told her I mixed up

896
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 2: the packages, but that I had one for her that

897
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 2: I just needed to get. I told him I didn't

898
00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:51,479
Speaker 2: have anything for her, and then I was not going

899
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,399
Speaker 2: to be helping him out. He could go buy one

900
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 2: for her and pass it off his handmaid, but I

901
00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 2: was not covering for him. I told him I felt

902
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 2: that his behavior was cruel to me, the effort I

903
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:03,640
Speaker 2: put into my art and my mom, his mom, just everyone.

904
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 2: He told me that he expected better. He would not apologize.

905
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 2: He just kept getting angrier and angrier. He ended up

906
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 2: grabbing a piece I made earlier this year. I was

907
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 2: really proud of. It was a mermaid on a rock.

908
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 2: He said he would give this to her and that

909
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 2: I could find a new boyfriend. I told him if

910
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 2: he left.

911
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 4: With it, I would call the police.

912
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 2: We weren't screaming, but we were both really angry. He

913
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 2: slammed it back down on my table. He told me

914
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 2: that he never wanted to see me again, and I

915
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 2: should call him when I grow the f up.

916
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:38,920
Speaker 4: I'm sure was dating a minor? Is that your crime?

917
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,240
Speaker 6: That's your crime, the only crime I say no, no,

918
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 6: no to.

919
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 2: I don't like when men get very very immature, like

920
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 2: they get like really hot headed real quick, and then

921
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 2: just say things in the moment andy be like, oh,

922
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 2: maybe I shouldn't have But it's like, why don't you

923
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 2: just take a second to breathe and be like, this

924
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:58,839
Speaker 2: isn't really that big of a deal. Let me just

925
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 2: like think through it. Understand, Like I understand emotions get

926
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 2: in the way and whatnot. But like, for the most part,

927
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 2: I like to think through things before I say it.

928
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 8: Whatever, Cranch, Oh you're giving real advice. Now, what do

929
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 8: you have a degree in sociology? Yep, I guess so, yeah,

930
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 8: a degree in stupid town population one, sorry population.

931
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 6: To your mom and you.

932
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, town, we got an update, so let's get going.

933
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 2: I told him we were over, that he was no

934
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,919
Speaker 2: longer my boyfriend and I wanted nothing to do with him.

935
00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:44,320
Speaker 2: I said he could take the clay back if he wanted,

936
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:47,360
Speaker 2: but I had already returned his Xbox to the store.

937
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:51,359
Speaker 2: Whoa He told me to keep the effine clay, and

938
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 2: he wouldn't have apologized if he knew I wasn't giving

939
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 2: him the present.

940
00:42:56,080 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 4: That's so. Oh, you have apologize if he wasn't getting the.

941
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:07,760
Speaker 2: Xbox, yeah, he said, He said, Oh, well, I wouldn't

942
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 2: have apologized if, like I knew, this guy makes.

943
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 4: Me look like a saint.

944
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 2: And you're dating, well, not anymore.

945
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 6: Oh that's good. You can date me, but not I

946
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 6: don't actually want you. It seems strange.

947
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,760
Speaker 2: He called me a liar and said I had ruined

948
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 2: his holiday whatever. According to the dribble coming out of

949
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 2: his mouth, his mom was really hurt and had left

950
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 2: town early.

951
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 4: She left town.

952
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 6: I guess she left town because she didn't get a caturn.

953
00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 2: Yes, actually that's exactly.

954
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 6: If I left town every time I didn't get a caturn,

955
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 6: I'd never come home.

956
00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 4: But that's just me. That's just me.

957
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 2: He thought giving her a piece and shifting the blame

958
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 2: to me for aginning would make it better. I told

959
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 2: him to just leave. So now I am single, with

960
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:10,280
Speaker 2: a lot of clay and a lightly cracked Mermaid statue.

961
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:13,720
Speaker 2: I'm not sure how to feel about this, but Dobby

962
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,760
Speaker 2: is free. That's the end of the story, I refuse

963
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 2: to give my daughter's stuff to my sister and it

964
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:20,360
Speaker 2: made her furious.

965
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 7: Just give her the stuff.

966
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:25,359
Speaker 2: Come on, I'm thirty three and my husband and I

967
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 2: have two kids, eight male and seven female. We didn't

968
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 2: plan on having them back to back, but it happened. Oh,

969
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 2: my husband got a vasectomy and we're.

970
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:36,320
Speaker 7: Set snip snoop.

971
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:38,280
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from.

972
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 2: Internal Soup nine zero six, And if you want to

973
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 2: submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

974
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 2: story Time Separated And I am Savannah Claus.

975
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 7: I'm Riley Elf. Oh, I'm vincent.

976
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 2: I'm still new here, and we are here to give

977
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 2: you some good advice. Gorufully, but we don't have all

978
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:56,439
Speaker 2: the answers. We would only tell you what we would

979
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 2: do in this situation, but we would love to know

980
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 2: what you would do, he says. When I was pregnant

981
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 2: with our son, we were living in a rented two

982
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:07,720
Speaker 2: bedroom house and decorated the nursery with olive in wood tones.

983
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 2: That sounds so pretty. We kept it the same when

984
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 2: we had her daughter and just made room for the baby.

985
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 2: When our son was six and our daughter was five,

986
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 2: my husband got a big promotion at work that allowed

987
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 2: us to look for and buy a four bedroom forever home.

988
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 2: Since it was permanent, we thought it'd be fun to

989
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 2: give the kids themed rooms. We asked them each what

990
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 2: they wanted. Our son picked dinosaurs. My husband likes to

991
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:32,920
Speaker 2: joke that we have a mini Ross on our hands,

992
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 2: so we did a wilderness theme. My daughter picked Aurora,

993
00:45:37,320 --> 00:45:39,479
Speaker 2: so we did a fairy tale theme. We went all

994
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 2: out since these would be their bedrooms until they were teens,

995
00:45:42,480 --> 00:45:44,839
Speaker 2: and we gave the nursery furniture away since we were

996
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 2: done having kids. We asked her families first, but none

997
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,400
Speaker 2: of them were planning kids at the time, so it

998
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 2: went to friends. Presently, My sister is twenty one weeks

999
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 2: pregnant with a baby girl, their first all. She was

1000
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 2: over at our place and said she was leaning towards

1001
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 2: something like my daughter's room for the nursery, but nursery

1002
00:46:01,080 --> 00:46:03,920
Speaker 2: stuff is expensive. I told her she should go with

1003
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 2: neutral tones since it'll be used a lot as they

1004
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:10,839
Speaker 2: want a big family. She was like, nah, I want

1005
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 2: themed ones for each baby like you did with my kids' names.

1006
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:15,240
Speaker 7: Oh.

1007
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,759
Speaker 2: I raised my eyebrows because that's going to be expensive

1008
00:46:17,800 --> 00:46:20,319
Speaker 2: but not died, because who am I to talk when

1009
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 2: I kind of did the same. We continued chatting for

1010
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 2: a while, and she grabbed my laptop and started going

1011
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 2: through the website I used and complained again, so I

1012
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 2: suggested that she puts some of the reasonably priced stuff

1013
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 2: on her baby shower list. She gave a non committal

1014
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 2: hum and then said that I could give her some

1015
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 2: stuff as well. I was confused because I thought she

1016
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 2: meant the old nursery and I reminded her that we

1017
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 2: gave it away. She shook her head and told me

1018
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 2: she meant stuff from our daughter's room. I asked her

1019
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 2: what she meant, because she's using that room. It's not

1020
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 2: like she doesn't live in it. She waved her hand

1021
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 2: and said it wasn't a big deal and that we

1022
00:46:54,120 --> 00:46:55,400
Speaker 2: could part with a few things.

1023
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:56,680
Speaker 7: Dude, I don't get it.

1024
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 2: I feel bad, like I like, while I feel bad

1025
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 2: for OP because it's like I get that, you know,

1026
00:47:02,480 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 2: they're family, and you know, family always expects like you

1027
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 2: just provide for each other and are always there for

1028
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:11,439
Speaker 2: each other and whatnot. But then like the child lives

1029
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 2: in that room, so they are using all of this

1030
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 2: stuff in the room. I'm guessing. So I don't understand

1031
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 2: why you would ask for Oh I need that from

1032
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:20,280
Speaker 2: my daughter.

1033
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 9: But the kids now are like teenagers, and I thought

1034
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:25,240
Speaker 9: they already gave all the nursery stuff away.

1035
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 4: Yeah they did, that's why.

1036
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 2: Well, that's why she's like, I want the stuff.

1037
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 4: That you have now.

1038
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 2: I don't know why, because because like that, I don't know.

1039
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 2: I feel like a newborn wouldn't need the stuff like

1040
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:36,959
Speaker 2: an eight year.

1041
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 7: Old that's entitled.

1042
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 5: Ye.

1043
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's kind of icky.

1044
00:47:42,120 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 2: Literally taking furniture from a child, that's crazy. I asked

1045
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 2: her what she thought we could part with, and she

1046
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:50,240
Speaker 2: casually said, stuff like the drapes, a lamp, the mirror,

1047
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 2: et cetera. Stop what taking the whole room from this child? What? Well,

1048
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 2: you don't need drapes and this mirror she doesn't even

1049
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:01,360
Speaker 2: want to look at herself.

1050
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 7: She probably should.

1051
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 2: This slamp she doesn't need light.

1052
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:06,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, your child doesn't need privacy?

1053
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 7: Ud? What a in?

1054
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 2: I asked her, sarcastically if she wanted the sheets as well,

1055
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 2: or maybe the clothes our daughter's back. She just glared

1056
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 2: and told me I could tone down my greed and

1057
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,640
Speaker 2: help out with this. I told her a flat no,

1058
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 2: it's unreasonable that she is even asking because she and

1059
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 2: her husband are well off just like us. It's not

1060
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 2: like she's struggling and I'm refusing to help. She told

1061
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:31,720
Speaker 2: me it was different because they want a big family,

1062
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 2: so they need to save more. I told her, if

1063
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:36,160
Speaker 2: that's the case, then they can save by using the

1064
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:39,440
Speaker 2: same nursery for every baby. She just glared again, called

1065
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:42,279
Speaker 2: me a greedy witch, and left. She's not replying to

1066
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 2: my texts, and my mom called to ask me what

1067
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 2: happened because she called her to complain about me without

1068
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 2: specifying anything.

1069
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 7: Oh God, just complaining. I don't understand calling people just

1070
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 7: to complain.

1071
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,399
Speaker 2: My mom was just as bewildered as I was when

1072
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 2: I told her. My husband thinks I'm in the right,

1073
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 2: and I do too. I'm just confused and maybe there's

1074
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:02,160
Speaker 2: something we're not seeing.

1075
00:49:02,560 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 4: Edit.

1076
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,720
Speaker 2: Thank you everyone for your opinions and advice. After talking

1077
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 2: about it with my husband and my mom, I'm going

1078
00:49:08,080 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 2: to give my sister a couple of days to cool

1079
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:11,360
Speaker 2: off before I try to reach out to her again

1080
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 2: and hopefully have a conversation. You may find this naive,

1081
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:17,440
Speaker 2: but all three of us agree that this isn't like her.

1082
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:18,440
Speaker 4: Maybe she and.

1083
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 2: Her husband are going through a rough financial patch, or

1084
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 2: maybe he pulled the plug on multiple theme nurseries. Whatever

1085
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 2: it is, I'm not ready to go scorched earth and

1086
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 2: cut my sister off after one bizarre, entitled demand.

1087
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 7: That's usually what people read it.

1088
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 9: Do I'll get rid of her, just just go to

1089
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 9: contact forever.

1090
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's yeah, it's a little thing.

1091
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 7: You guys can bounce back typical sibling rivalry.

1092
00:49:41,520 --> 00:49:43,600
Speaker 2: She's still my sister, the one I grew up with,

1093
00:49:43,640 --> 00:49:45,919
Speaker 2: the one who held me down when I was going

1094
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 2: through stuff and kept me grounded. The one who let

1095
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 2: me nearly break her hand from squeezing too hard when

1096
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:53,440
Speaker 2: I was in labor until my husband got there. All

1097
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:56,280
Speaker 2: of that doesn't just go away. Oh there's an update.

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00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 9: Sounds like you're just giving her reasonable advice. Hey, you're

1099
00:49:59,560 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 9: gonna have kids. They're gonna be in one room in

1100
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:05,840
Speaker 9: and out for you know, two years max. It doesn't

1101
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 9: make sense to have a single nursery room dedicated for

1102
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 9: each kid unless you're like those Severance people. It's like

1103
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:15,520
Speaker 9: it's traumatizing.

1104
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 2: For a kid, inyan and outy, a kid.

1105
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:19,959
Speaker 9: To uh change beds, you know how they're like weird

1106
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 9: about that, like a child must stay in the same bed.

1107
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 2: Oh oh my god.

1108
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1109
00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, people are like that. Now they're like, oh, like

1110
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:30,640
Speaker 2: switching out beds, you know, like it's not gonna be.

1111
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 4: Like good for them.

1112
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,080
Speaker 2: They need to stay like that. I know, like a

1113
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 2: person who is like that who was like, oh no, no,

1114
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 2: they need like the bed that they're going to be in,

1115
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:42,360
Speaker 2: like for the rest of their lives.

1116
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,319
Speaker 7: What I thought you're supposed to have a new bed

1117
00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:45,280
Speaker 7: every eight years.

1118
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, they like want I don't know. It's something something

1119
00:50:49,239 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 2: probably with like gentle parenting or something.

1120
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1121
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:57,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't I don't agree with gentle parenting.

1122
00:50:57,920 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 4: If you do it, cool, I hope it works for you.

1123
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 2: Never ever were what.

1124
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 7: We're gonna say, Vincent.

1125
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 2: I think they might be more like the room that

1126
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 2: they're in, Like they should be in that one room.

1127
00:51:07,800 --> 00:51:10,479
Speaker 7: Yeah, that makes sense, like staying in one room until

1128
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:11,160
Speaker 7: you leave. I don't know.

1129
00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 9: It sounds like you're trying to be reasonable and your

1130
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:16,440
Speaker 9: sister wants a nice time and if she needs to

1131
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:20,520
Speaker 9: express herself creatively, hush money, think differently than put up

1132
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:22,319
Speaker 9: a different poster of Frege kid. That's in there for

1133
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 9: that three years. You get diet poster for a little

1134
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 9: spiry one. Yeah, you know, you get a cat.

1135
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 2: Get a cat.

1136
00:51:29,120 --> 00:51:31,360
Speaker 4: The update almost eight months later.

1137
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:34,000
Speaker 2: My sister gave birth a few months back to an

1138
00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:38,760
Speaker 2: adorable baby girl. They're both healthy as can be and thriving, thankfully.

1139
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 2: She wasn't having pre natal psychosis like some people were suggesting,

1140
00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:46,480
Speaker 2: but she and her husband were having financial problems my

1141
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 2: mom and I weren't aware of. Her mother in law

1142
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 2: had been having a lot of health issues and her bills.

1143
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 4: Were racking up.

1144
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:55,759
Speaker 2: My sister and her husband had stepped in and were

1145
00:51:55,760 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 2: supporting her, which they could easily afford to do, but

1146
00:51:58,160 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 2: they had to cut back a bit on their lifestyle.

1147
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 2: I didn't reach out for a while after my unanswered

1148
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:06,800
Speaker 2: calls and text but Mom kept being on her case,

1149
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 2: and eventually she reached out and apologized and asked to

1150
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 2: come over. She apologized again in person and told me

1151
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 2: what had been going on with her husband, her mother

1152
00:52:15,520 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 2: in law, his brothers, and their lack of chipping in

1153
00:52:18,239 --> 00:52:21,759
Speaker 2: toward their mother's care. Her outburst was out of frustration

1154
00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:24,120
Speaker 2: with everything going on, and she knows it wasn't fair

1155
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 2: to aim it at me. She was stressing because her

1156
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 2: husband had also been putting off nursery talk, and it's

1157
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:32,240
Speaker 2: the first baby, and she wanted the best.

1158
00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 4: Of the best for her.

1159
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 7: Oh got it, I see, I get I get it.

1160
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:39,839
Speaker 7: First baby struggles. I've seen some parents that get very like.

1161
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: Oh for sure, yeah, and then like after like a while,

1162
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:44,400
Speaker 2: they're like, oh god, this is exhausting.

1163
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 7: But with the third kid, they're like, whatever happen me.

1164
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:49,959
Speaker 4: And that's how that here. I am.

1165
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 2: I'm the third, the third, I'm the.

1166
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:53,160
Speaker 4: Third of four.

1167
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 7: We're Sitdney at second.

1168
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 4: She's more, she's for it. She's Everyone thinks she's older

1169
00:52:58,080 --> 00:52:58,319
Speaker 4: than me.

1170
00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's what they do with my brother. Take Yeah,

1171
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:01,880
Speaker 7: I always think he's older than me.

1172
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's not. She is a year younger than me.

1173
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 2: There's an update. Unfortunately, it's been thing after thing for her.

1174
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 2: A month after she and her husband welcome their little girl,

1175
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 2: her mother in law passed away.

1176
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,640
Speaker 4: Oh wow. And a month after.

1177
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 2: That, our own mom had a health scare. Ay, thankfully

1178
00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 2: she's okay now, although it brought my sister and me closer.

1179
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 4: Well, that's good.

1180
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 2: So my sister and I are okay. My daughter's stuff

1181
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:30,360
Speaker 2: is firmly hers and will always be unless she decides

1182
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:33,479
Speaker 2: she's outgrown it and gives it away to whoever she wants. Yes,

1183
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 2: just like bib right. Sorry if this is all over

1184
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 2: the place, I'm just typing this out as it comes

1185
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:40,800
Speaker 2: to mind since it's been months.

1186
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 4: That's the end of that story. Here's johny og host here.

1187
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but he's a

1188
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 1: quick three minute break of ass form more sponsors.

1189
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 2: My boyfriend won't let me go on a friend's trip

1190
00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:53,880
Speaker 2: because he thinks I'll cheat. Ooh, boyfriend in security is showing.

1191
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:57,600
Speaker 2: I female twenty seven, have been with my boyfriend, Richard

1192
00:53:58,120 --> 00:54:02,560
Speaker 2: male thirty nine for five years. We lived together, we

1193
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 2: both work, we hardly ever argue, and we have a

1194
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:08,240
Speaker 2: nice quiet life. By the way, this comes from most

1195
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 2: Stable twenty eight fifty three, And if you want to

1196
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 2: submit your stories, you can go to the Okay storytime subreddit.

1197
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 2: I am Savannah, I'm Carly, and we are here to

1198
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:20,879
Speaker 2: give you some good advice. Goofully, But obviously we don't

1199
00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:22,520
Speaker 2: have all the answers. We would just say what we

1200
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 2: would do in this situation, but we would love to

1201
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:28,600
Speaker 2: know what you would do in the comments. As Opie says,

1202
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 2: when I was in university, I had a group of friends,

1203
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 2: both male and female, that I used to do a

1204
00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:36,880
Speaker 2: lot of activities with. We would go hiking, snowboarding, and

1205
00:54:36,960 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 2: traveling together. There was nothing romantic going on. After graduation,

1206
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:42,880
Speaker 2: a few of them moved away and I met Richard,

1207
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:45,360
Speaker 2: so we stopped hanging out. Recently, I got an email

1208
00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:47,040
Speaker 2: from one of my friends from that group who is

1209
00:54:47,160 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 2: organizing a reunion. I have been invited to join them

1210
00:54:50,080 --> 00:54:54,799
Speaker 2: on a trip to Whistler. We will be snowboarding, dining, sightseeing,

1211
00:54:54,960 --> 00:54:58,280
Speaker 2: and visiting Vancouver since they are renting a car. Richard

1212
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:01,880
Speaker 2: hates these people, so I knew he would say no

1213
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 2: if I asked him to join. I asked anyway, and

1214
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:08,359
Speaker 2: as expected, he declined. I told him no worries since

1215
00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:10,719
Speaker 2: I anticipated his response, and I figured I would just

1216
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:13,359
Speaker 2: go home. However, he got upset and said, you are

1217
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:16,840
Speaker 2: not in college anymore and your partying days are over.

1218
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:19,759
Speaker 2: You are not going on a f trip with a

1219
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 2: bunch of wasted frat boys. I showed him the email

1220
00:55:23,719 --> 00:55:26,800
Speaker 2: with the itinerary, but he rolled his eyes and said,

1221
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 2: you are all going to end up cheating.

1222
00:55:29,000 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 4: Who are you kidding.

1223
00:55:30,600 --> 00:55:32,800
Speaker 2: Then he asked if the guys were married and whether

1224
00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 2: their wives were coming. I told him I did not

1225
00:55:35,800 --> 00:55:39,520
Speaker 2: really know and that it did not matter. He responded,

1226
00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:41,919
Speaker 2: you are not going, and that is the end of it.

1227
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 4: I feel so sad.

1228
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:45,879
Speaker 2: I do not want to email my friends and say

1229
00:55:45,880 --> 00:55:48,400
Speaker 2: I cannot come, But I also do not want to

1230
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:51,319
Speaker 2: make my boyfriend uncomfortable. Am I an a hole for

1231
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 2: really wanting to go on this trip? Here's some comments.

1232
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:57,680
Speaker 2: He's your boyfriend, not your master. He does not get

1233
00:55:57,719 --> 00:56:00,680
Speaker 2: to dictate where you go or what you do. Implying

1234
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 2: that you plan to cheat on him is incredibly disrespectful. Yeah,

1235
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:07,640
Speaker 2: unless you've cheated on him before. He has no reason

1236
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:10,400
Speaker 2: to insult your morals like this. I wouldn't stay with

1237
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:12,719
Speaker 2: someone who spoke to me like this or attempted to

1238
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 2: control me like this. You aren't wrong, and it's time

1239
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 2: to plan your exit from this relationship. Ohp He says,

1240
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 2: I have never ever given him any reason to think

1241
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 2: like this. I have never cheated on him ever.

1242
00:56:24,280 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 4: A few questions.

1243
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 2: One, will you be the only female at the reunion?

1244
00:56:29,120 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 2: If not, how many females?

1245
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:31,000
Speaker 4: Two?

1246
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:34,719
Speaker 2: Is there anyone in the friend group you have any

1247
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 2: history with relationship slash hookup three. He called it an

1248
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:43,360
Speaker 2: f trip. Have your past trips been just having fun

1249
00:56:43,440 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 2: and casual hookups? Everyone in the comments will be quick

1250
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:50,480
Speaker 2: to call him controlling or insecure, but most won't even

1251
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:53,920
Speaker 2: stop to ask for context and get the full picture.

1252
00:56:54,400 --> 00:56:57,400
Speaker 2: I'm sure that dude whose wife cheated on him with

1253
00:56:57,520 --> 00:57:01,319
Speaker 2: her patience would have been called trolling an insecure if

1254
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 2: he didn't want his wife to go on that trip.

1255
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:08,160
Speaker 2: Opie responds, no, three girls, four guys, if everyone shows.

1256
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 2: I did invite him to join us, but he said no.

1257
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:14,759
Speaker 2: That's why I said, then I'll go alone. Update seventeen

1258
00:57:14,920 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 2: hours later, not even a full day. Uh oh, strap in.

1259
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 2: I keep getting asked the same questions over and over

1260
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:27,320
Speaker 2: in dms or commons, So instead of repeating myself, here

1261
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 2: you go, no, you can't come on the trip instead

1262
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:32,720
Speaker 2: of my boyfriend. Please stop dming.

1263
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 4: Me about it.

1264
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 2: If you keep asking, I will blog you. Why hasn't

1265
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 2: he proposed yet because he will do it when he's ready.

1266
00:57:38,320 --> 00:57:40,600
Speaker 2: Right now, he's focused on buying a bigger place. Do

1267
00:57:40,880 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 2: I work or does he pay for my expenses? I

1268
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:46,920
Speaker 2: work and we split house expenses fifty to fifty, I

1269
00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 2: pay half of his current mortgage. No, he is not

1270
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 2: my ATM, and I am paying for the trip myself.

1271
00:57:53,960 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 2: Why does he hate my group of friends? He thinks

1272
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 2: they're dumb and annoying. He came out for drinks with

1273
00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:01,640
Speaker 2: us once when we first met, and said afterwards that

1274
00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:05,120
Speaker 2: he couldn't stand them. They're very chatty and extroverted, while

1275
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 2: he is quiet, introverted and hates loud noises. Are other

1276
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:11,080
Speaker 2: people bringing their spouses? I asked the organizer, and she

1277
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 2: can earned that everyone is except one girl and two

1278
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 2: single guys. Is my boyfriend invited?

1279
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 4: Of course?

1280
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:20,160
Speaker 2: But he said hard pass because three days with these

1281
00:58:20,200 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 2: annoying people would be torture for him. He told me,

1282
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:26,480
Speaker 2: you're better than these loud idiots. You've matured. Why are

1283
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 2: you still hanging out with them? First of all, you

1284
00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 2: met them five years ago, so they might like obviously,

1285
00:58:32,000 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 2: people don't change that much, but maybe in the five years,

1286
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:36,840
Speaker 2: like you know, might have done some growing up.

1287
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 5: You're like, they were really immature in their early twenties.

1288
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:42,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, really immature in college?

1289
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:43,919
Speaker 4: All right?

1290
00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:48,120
Speaker 2: I told you that. I think that's just a fact. Yeah,

1291
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:51,720
Speaker 2: Like okay, I texted him, saying I wanted to talk,

1292
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:54,920
Speaker 2: and he said, if it's about the trip, there's nothing

1293
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:58,680
Speaker 2: to talk about. I replied, no, it's about us, and

1294
00:58:58,720 --> 00:59:02,320
Speaker 2: he never responded. He hasn't spoke to me since our argument.

1295
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:07,120
Speaker 2: Does my boyfriend have some infidelity trauma? I have no idea.

1296
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 2: He had a long term ex before me, who is

1297
00:59:09,720 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 2: now happily married. They broke up because she met someone else.

1298
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 2: I'm not sure if it was an affair or if

1299
00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:16,600
Speaker 2: she simply ended things with him to be with the

1300
00:59:16,640 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 2: new guy. That's all I know. Why am I low

1301
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:24,280
Speaker 2: contact Elsie with my family? I'm Elsie with my parents

1302
00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:26,200
Speaker 2: because my dad never stands up for me when my

1303
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 2: mom is being awful to me. One example was at

1304
00:59:28,720 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 2: their anniversary dinner when my mom made a toast in

1305
00:59:31,080 --> 00:59:33,160
Speaker 2: front of everyone about how they were blessed to have

1306
00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:36,240
Speaker 2: a wonderful son my brother, and then pushed their luck

1307
00:59:36,280 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 2: by having me. She said we should have stopped while

1308
00:59:39,280 --> 00:59:42,440
Speaker 2: we were ahead. When I confronted my dad, he dismissed

1309
00:59:42,440 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 2: it as a joke. Later, my mom doubled down, saying,

1310
00:59:45,280 --> 00:59:49,680
Speaker 2: the truth hurts. You've been and underachieving disappointment.

1311
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:50,920
Speaker 4: Your whole life. All right? Well, now I hate her.

1312
00:59:50,960 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 3: Now I understand, and that's why we went in low contact.

1313
00:59:53,560 --> 00:59:56,640
Speaker 2: Surprised we didn't go no content. Yeah, I'll talk to

1314
00:59:56,720 --> 00:59:59,160
Speaker 2: him later today. At this point, I more hurt that

1315
00:59:59,240 --> 01:00:01,760
Speaker 2: he assumed I would cheat. It's not even about the

1316
01:00:01,800 --> 01:00:05,280
Speaker 2: trip anymore. And there are some comments I'm curious to

1317
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 2: know who does the cooking and chores. Glad you have

1318
01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:11,960
Speaker 2: your own money. Your boyfriend is showing you very bad

1319
01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:15,880
Speaker 2: character to question your integrity. Op response. He loves cooking

1320
01:00:15,920 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 2: and does it all the time. I have OCD, so

1321
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:21,200
Speaker 2: I do all the cleaning, grocery shopping, and other stuff

1322
01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:25,120
Speaker 2: we do together. They also responded, you pay half his mortgage,

1323
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:28,240
Speaker 2: so he's using you, and what he said about your friends,

1324
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:32,360
Speaker 2: he's a major knucklehead. Dump him and go on the trip.

1325
01:00:32,480 --> 01:00:35,200
Speaker 2: Op response, it's actually much cheaper than what my rent

1326
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 2: used to be when I was living alone. They also responded, Okay,

1327
01:00:39,640 --> 01:00:41,400
Speaker 2: will he ever put your name on the deed for

1328
01:00:41,480 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 2: the place you're paying for? Op responds no, because he

1329
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 2: paid the down payment, so it's his house that I

1330
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:49,480
Speaker 2: moved in. They respond, but you're paying half the mortgage.

1331
01:00:49,960 --> 01:00:53,080
Speaker 2: Do you have a landlord's last tenancy agreement? If not,

1332
01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:55,760
Speaker 2: you are paying for his assets. He's using you as

1333
01:00:55,800 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 2: an atm OP responds, No, I do not have any

1334
01:00:59,240 --> 01:01:01,240
Speaker 2: written contract, formal agreement.

1335
01:01:01,400 --> 01:01:03,800
Speaker 4: Only update two. Here we go.

1336
01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 2: Richard and I talked last night. He broke up with me.

1337
01:01:07,800 --> 01:01:10,320
Speaker 2: I told him I was hurt that he assumed I'd

1338
01:01:10,400 --> 01:01:12,920
Speaker 2: cheat on him. He said he was disappointed that I

1339
01:01:12,960 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 2: didn't respect his boundaries and chose the trip instead. Then

1340
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 2: he hit me with I thought you were a mature,

1341
01:01:18,760 --> 01:01:22,240
Speaker 2: smart woman, but you are still a silly, immature little girl.

1342
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:25,680
Speaker 2: Oh and apparently I'm not wife material.

1343
01:01:26,320 --> 01:01:27,360
Speaker 3: Stay broken up.

1344
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, he sounds awful, and he's now that he's been

1345
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 5: like called out and you've actually done something that he

1346
01:01:32,880 --> 01:01:34,920
Speaker 5: really doesn't like. And he thinks that he can like

1347
01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:39,040
Speaker 5: finally control or whatever. He's spiraling, throwing anything he can.

1348
01:01:38,920 --> 01:01:40,680
Speaker 3: Out there, like yeah, terrible.

1349
01:01:40,880 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, he thinks that he won. And honestly, you won

1350
01:01:43,760 --> 01:01:45,959
Speaker 2: out of this. You won by not having to date

1351
01:01:46,000 --> 01:01:49,320
Speaker 2: this man. Yeah, you won by him letting you go

1352
01:01:49,320 --> 01:01:52,600
Speaker 2: go snowboard. He did go snowboarding with your friends, and

1353
01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:54,600
Speaker 2: then you could talk about how all of this happened

1354
01:01:54,600 --> 01:01:57,000
Speaker 2: in your friends one hundred percent will agree that you

1355
01:01:57,040 --> 01:02:00,720
Speaker 2: did the right thing. So you know, it's a loss

1356
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:02,800
Speaker 2: for him, really, not for you. You get to go hang

1357
01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:04,800
Speaker 2: out with your friends while he gets to sit there alone.

1358
01:02:05,720 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 4: Oh no, darn, he did it to himself.

1359
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 7: What do you do?

1360
01:02:08,760 --> 01:02:10,800
Speaker 3: Unfortunately, you probably gonna have to fight a place to live.

1361
01:02:11,040 --> 01:02:15,640
Speaker 2: That's yeah, that's the tricky part. I'm sure this update

1362
01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:17,080
Speaker 2: will tell us a little bit about that.

1363
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:17,440
Speaker 4: Here.

1364
01:02:17,800 --> 01:02:19,760
Speaker 2: He also said he wanted me out of his place

1365
01:02:19,960 --> 01:02:23,800
Speaker 2: a sap, and even threw in a snarky comment technically

1366
01:02:23,880 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 2: your name isn't on the deed. You're just a house guest.

1367
01:02:27,240 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 2: I would punt you out right now. I was like, wow,

1368
01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:35,080
Speaker 2: after five years, you're really kicking me out in a snowstorm.

1369
01:02:35,640 --> 01:02:39,240
Speaker 2: We had over thirty centimeters of snow yesterday. Luckily, my

1370
01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:41,480
Speaker 2: grandma is letting me stay with her until I find

1371
01:02:41,480 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 2: a new place. And when my mom finds out, oh

1372
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:47,280
Speaker 2: she's going to love this more material to make fun

1373
01:02:47,360 --> 01:02:51,160
Speaker 2: of me. Aw And yeah, no trip for me. I

1374
01:02:51,200 --> 01:02:55,160
Speaker 2: have packing an apartment hunting to do instead. Oh oh,

1375
01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:59,040
Speaker 2: pey what No, there's a comment and they said, why

1376
01:02:59,080 --> 01:03:01,920
Speaker 2: are you embarrassed because you got rid of a harmful

1377
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:05,520
Speaker 2: ex op responds because after five years my boyfriend threw

1378
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:08,320
Speaker 2: me out like a piece of trash that my mother

1379
01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 2: will say I was right. You aren't capable of holding

1380
01:03:11,200 --> 01:03:14,680
Speaker 2: onto a relationship. You are unlovable, You are just impossible

1381
01:03:15,040 --> 01:03:16,280
Speaker 3: And that's the end of this story.