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Speaker 1: second d Update. You know, dating is a lot like driving,
Speaker 1: especially if you're a dude, because you have to learn
Speaker 1: to pay attention to the signals. Right I got the
Speaker 1: end of a date. Think of it like you're at
Speaker 1: an intersection. Okay, if the girl gives you a red light,
Speaker 1: you know stop. But oftentimes they'll give you the green
Speaker 1: light signal to go in for a kiss or something
Speaker 1: like that. And a lot of dudes are texting and
Speaker 1: not paying attention and they don't pick up on the
Speaker 1: green light, and there's people honking at them like just
Speaker 1: go for it, go for it, And then before they
Speaker 1: know it, the light turns to red and they've missed
Speaker 1: their opportunity to get through the intersection. That happens to
Speaker 1: a lot of people. Hannah, who was on the phone
Speaker 1: today for a second date update, thinks that the guy
Speaker 1: she went out with didn't know how to read her
Speaker 1: signals correctly and didn't go for a kiss at the end.
Speaker 1: Of the night, Cannah, how are you okay? Little nervous?
Speaker 1: Little nervous? Don't so tell us a little bit about
Speaker 1: the guy you want to call today. I know you're
Speaker 1: in your email you said that you think he wasn't
Speaker 1: very good at picking up on your signals. But let's
Speaker 1: first find out about your date. How'd you meet him?
Speaker 1: His name's Eric. I met him at my church's young
Speaker 1: adult singles group. I've never been to a singles group
Speaker 1: for a church. Like, do you all get in a
Speaker 1: room and you pair up? Do you do speed dating?
Speaker 1: What happened? I don't know. At our church, they just
Speaker 1: have some music playing and like they're snacks and orders,
Speaker 1: and usually everyone sort of hangs out at first with
Speaker 1: the people they know, and then casually you sort of
Speaker 1: start talking to people. And by the way, church singles
Speaker 1: mixers where you meet the biggest freaks. Yeah, dude, I
Speaker 1: grew up in church camps my whole life. I never
Speaker 1: got more action than at church camps. It's a great
Speaker 1: place to meet people who are down to measure in. So,
Speaker 1: how did how did you meet Eric? Then? When you're
Speaker 1: at the singles mixer, Well, he's friends with one of
Speaker 1: my best friends. So he came over and started talking
Speaker 1: to me, and you know, I thought he was huge.
Speaker 1: He's kind of like goofy looking, but I like that,
Speaker 1: you know, he was sort of funny. You know, it's
Speaker 1: important to me too, So we just started talking. Did
Speaker 1: he seem nervous when you guys first met um, No,
Speaker 1: that night he seemed sort of comfortable. And me because
Speaker 1: my friend was there, you know that he knows really well.
Speaker 1: Now you called him goofy looking. Let me ask you
Speaker 1: a question about myself. If you were to say between
Speaker 1: you two, would you say that you're hotter than him? Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm definitely the hollo. I'm just wondering because normally girls
Speaker 1: who say that they tend to be hot girls who
Speaker 1: kind of date down because they like a guy's personality.
Speaker 1: So I'm just wondering if that's you. Well, I think
Speaker 1: he's cute, and that's what's really imported exactly. You know
Speaker 1: how many times I get that, like, no, you guys
Speaker 1: don't understand, like I think he's cute. For me, he's cute. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I do think he's good, But I would say that
Speaker 1: most people would say, you know, he's not traditionally handsome. Okay,
Speaker 1: So you guys obviously went out on a date after
Speaker 1: this thing, right or are you just calling him out? Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 1: would you guys do We went to go see this
Speaker 1: Christian church band and you know it was fun. Um,
Speaker 1: he wasn't as sort of outgoing as he was when
Speaker 1: I first met him. He was I don't know, maybe
Speaker 1: I would say almost a little bit borning, but a
Speaker 1: really good listener. Was there any like drinking involved at all?
Speaker 1: I don't know how. No. I mean I didn't drink anything,
Speaker 1: and maybe he did before, but since I didn't, I
Speaker 1: guess he didn't. You know, I don't know. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: guess what kind of Christian are you are? Alcohol is
Speaker 1: an absolute? Or do you have a couple of drinks? Oh?
Speaker 1: I can have a couple of drinks. I just didn't
Speaker 1: that night. I didn't know if you guys were loosening
Speaker 1: up or anything. Maybe we should have. Yeah, was there
Speaker 1: a special moment that you guys shared or you know,
Speaker 1: something that really stuck out about that evening? No, he
Speaker 1: was just a really good listener and it was nice.
Speaker 1: You know, it was nice. So why do you Okay,
Speaker 1: you doesn't sound like a rave review about your date
Speaker 1: so far? Why do you want to call him for
Speaker 1: a second date update? Because I think that there's potential there.
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe he's just kind of shy, and
Speaker 1: so maybe this was like the date where he's super
Speaker 1: shy and then he can kind of go back to
Speaker 1: the guy that I thought was a little more fun
Speaker 1: than I met with my friend. You know, I'd like
Speaker 1: to hang out with that guy again, right, So you
Speaker 1: want to hang out with the guy before. But in
Speaker 1: your email you said that he was not picking up
Speaker 1: on your signals that you were giving him at the
Speaker 1: end of the date. What do you mean by that?
Speaker 1: What happened was at the end of the night, he
Speaker 1: walked me to my door and sort of waited and
Speaker 1: nothing happened. So the night pretended you're got my keys?
Speaker 1: You know? Classic? Is that your go to move to
Speaker 1: let a guy know that you're kind of killing time
Speaker 1: so we can kiss you. I don't know, to be honest,
Speaker 1: I've never had to weight. But so he got him.
Speaker 1: But I guess he didn't get the clue because he
Speaker 1: just sort of was holding out my keys and then
Speaker 1: I just said, you know, maybe we should hang out again,
Speaker 1: and he was like sure, and then he left, So
Speaker 1: did he give you a a hug or anything. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he hied me, and then last week I sent him attacked.
Speaker 1: You sent him a text. Yeah. A couple of days later,
Speaker 1: I said, how's your week going, and then he replied
Speaker 1: it's okay. That's all he sent you. Yeah, did you
Speaker 1: say anything else after that? It's okay? Text like you
Speaker 1: try to hit him back. Yeah, it's the last thing
Speaker 1: I heard from him. Because then I thought like, hey,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, I'm working too hard here, you know,
Speaker 1: like I want to see him, but it sounds like
Speaker 1: to me like he maybe just like really unexperienced dating.
Speaker 1: If you guys were to go out again, would you
Speaker 1: be okay being the person who made the first move? No,
Speaker 1: I think you may have to do with this guy.
Speaker 1: I've been in that situation before, where it's been at
Speaker 1: the end of a date and I know deep down
Speaker 1: that I should kiss somebody and then I don't, and
Speaker 1: then after that I'm like, I don't even know if
Speaker 1: I want to go out with her again, because now
Speaker 1: I just, yeah, I believe my chance. So you know,
Speaker 1: maybe he's feeling like that. I hope it wasn't. Think
Speaker 1: facts I do like him, Okay, So when I get
Speaker 1: him on the phone the second date update. You want
Speaker 1: that to be the first thing that I say to him, like, hey,
Speaker 1: man up and make out with Hannah. All right, okay,
Speaker 1: well we'll play a song. Come back call him, get
Speaker 1: him on the phone, and get your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, yeah, okay, looking jubil in the morning dates.
Speaker 1: If you're just joining us for the second part of
Speaker 1: today's second date update. Hannah is on the phone with us.
Speaker 1: She wants to call a guy named Eric. They met
Speaker 1: at church and a young adults mixer, went out to
Speaker 1: a concert, and then after the concert there was an
Speaker 1: awkward moment where he dropped her off, walked her to
Speaker 1: her door, and she was putting out the signals that
Speaker 1: she wanted to kiss. Her signal was she dropped her
Speaker 1: keys in order to kill time in hopes that he
Speaker 1: would pick him up and then maybe kiss her instead,
Speaker 1: he picked him up and gave him to her and said,
Speaker 1: here's your keys. Have a good night. And she hasn't
Speaker 1: heard from him since, so we're about to get him
Speaker 1: on the phone. Hannah. I think the problem was that
Speaker 1: your signal to him was a little weak. I think
Speaker 1: next time, instead of dropping the keys, he just dropped
Speaker 1: the pants, no question, but there's no question. No, you're
Speaker 1: gonna try that out? Oh my god. I think I
Speaker 1: wish women would be a little more blunt like that,
Speaker 1: and then I would be like, oh, okay, cool, she
Speaker 1: wants to kiss. All right, I'm about to die the
Speaker 1: phone number and get him on the phone and see
Speaker 1: what the reason is that he's not calling you back. Okay, thanks,
Speaker 1: I'm excited. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Eric please?
Speaker 1: This is Eric. Hey Eric, how are you? This is
Speaker 1: Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning, the radio show.
Speaker 1: Really okay, all right, how are you doing? I'm fine? Okay.
Speaker 1: The reason that I'm calling you though, is we do
Speaker 1: a segment on our show called the Second Date Update.
Speaker 1: That's where if somebody goes out on a date with
Speaker 1: someone and then they feel like they're getting blown off
Speaker 1: after the date day, email us to call that person
Speaker 1: and ask them why you recently went out with a
Speaker 1: girl named Hannah who lives as our show. Oh, and
Speaker 1: Hannah is wondering why you haven't called her or texted
Speaker 1: her and asked her to go out again. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: did you like Hannah? Yeah? Hannah was fine. Okay, do
Speaker 1: you have a few minutes to tell us why you're
Speaker 1: not texting her back. Well, we haven't out for about
Speaker 1: three hours at a concert, and I guess I just
Speaker 1: didn't really know what to say. Um, like you didn't
Speaker 1: know what to say, like it was awkward for you
Speaker 1: to be on the date or you just for me.
Speaker 1: She was hard to have a conversational. Was she like
Speaker 1: intimidating or something, because she was real pretty No. No,
Speaker 1: she just said a few things where I said to myself,
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't think I could see myself
Speaker 1: having a relationship with this person. What type of things
Speaker 1: are we talking? She just had a lot of her
Speaker 1: facts wrong, her facts about what just like pretty basic stuff.
Speaker 1: Can you give me? Can you give me an example?
Speaker 1: I mean, she for one thing, at one point she
Speaker 1: said she thought Islam was a country. Okay, all right, okay,
Speaker 1: yep um. We also were talking about like crazy things
Speaker 1: that we've eaten at restaurants, and I said like, well
Speaker 1: this is pretty common, but I've had duck. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: she was like, m duck, Now would you consider that
Speaker 1: a meat or a fish? Really? She said, yeah, I
Speaker 1: get I kind of get what you're saying. Then, so
Speaker 1: you you don't necessarily feel like she's not as smart
Speaker 1: as you, but you feel like she might be kind
Speaker 1: of in airhead a little bit. Well, it's just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, there are different types of intelligence,
Speaker 1: you know, and I just feel like she lacks a
Speaker 1: sort of basic Is there any way that she could
Speaker 1: have just been playing it up and doing the you know,
Speaker 1: because some girls do the bimbo thing because they think
Speaker 1: guys think it's cute. Yeah, you could tell it was.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like she was planning these things. Like at
Speaker 1: one point we were talking about something and she goes,
Speaker 1: I think comedy is so funny. Yeah, yeah, it's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what comedy's job. I like that. You know, Eric,
Speaker 1: you and I are a lot different, because then I
Speaker 1: got out whether I've been like perfect, you're right on
Speaker 1: my level, but you think, yeah, comedy is comedy is
Speaker 1: a funny thing sometimes, so you just feel like she
Speaker 1: wasn't on your level. Then. Basically most of the date,
Speaker 1: I just was sitting there going like, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't want to be this guy who just spends the
Speaker 1: whole time correcting her because it just makes me seem
Speaker 1: like an arrogant kind of know it all, and if
Speaker 1: I had spent my time correcting her, then we our
Speaker 1: conversation would have gone almost nowhere because I would have
Speaker 1: had to do it like every minute more to So
Speaker 1: I just don't think we ever really need to talk again. Really,
Speaker 1: that's a shame, because she's actually on the phone and
Speaker 1: wants to talk to you. Are you serious? Yes, I am, so.
Speaker 1: I'm really confused. I mean, it sounds like you know
Speaker 1: that because I wasn't perfect or didn't know all of
Speaker 1: the same things that you do quite as well, like
Speaker 1: you are saying that I'm you did. Is that what
Speaker 1: I heard? I did not want to say that you
Speaker 1: are stupid. Yeah, you didn't actually say those words, but
Speaker 1: because I'm not stupid, it certainly was sounded like you
Speaker 1: were like, I don't think that you're stupid. Think No,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think you're stupid. I think that
Speaker 1: for the kinds of things that I usually like talk
Speaker 1: about and the issues that I you know, the things
Speaker 1: that I was kind of putting out there to see
Speaker 1: what you would say, it wasn't really working out. You know,
Speaker 1: I may not be as smart. You know, in certain
Speaker 1: areas that I'm pretty I have street smarts, and I
Speaker 1: think I'm pretty bright. I mean, Okay, for example, I
Speaker 1: was right, comedy is funny and tragedies are sad. She
Speaker 1: has a point, Eric, she was right, you're ruddy. You're
Speaker 1: not wrong about that. But I think, you know, I like,
Speaker 1: if you don't get why that's kind of a weird
Speaker 1: thing to say, then I think that is kind of
Speaker 1: the issue right here. It's true, you know it's true.
Speaker 1: It's it's true. But also, like, you know, we don't
Speaker 1: need to talk about how water is wet, you know,
Speaker 1: like maybe we do. Then she like, if you think that,
Speaker 1: then that's fine, but I am so not interested in
Speaker 1: talking about that. Wow, I think you're being kind of picky, Eric.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, she gets some facts wrong, and she
Speaker 1: doesn't really you know, maybe be books part, but she
Speaker 1: sounds like a delightful person. Can I just point out
Speaker 1: something I thought, like if you had fun with someone
Speaker 1: or you enjoy them, and like if the person was
Speaker 1: extremely attractive, that that was kind of you know, important too,
Speaker 1: And I was willing to make sort of I was
Speaker 1: gonna just sort of ignore that part. See that, Look, Eric,
Speaker 1: do you think that you can ignore her not being
Speaker 1: on your level intelligence? Wise. If Hannah ignores the fact
Speaker 1: that you're not on her level hot wise is what
Speaker 1: she's saying. I think, yeah, I picked up on that.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. I guess that us me to my
Speaker 1: next point. Then, would you guys like to go out
Speaker 1: on a second date? Eric? Would you like to go
Speaker 1: out with Hannah again? I will pay for it. She'll
Speaker 1: ignore the fact that you're not as good looking as
Speaker 1: she is. No, come on opposite, So you don't even
Speaker 1: want to go out with me again? I mean I
Speaker 1: kind of was being really nice to you, so, you know,
Speaker 1: just like everything you're saying about me, and sort of
Speaker 1: shocked that you don't want to try to make it
Speaker 1: up to me. You know, you weren't very nice. Well
Speaker 1: you know, I'm sorry, but okay, still like way a waiting.
Speaker 1: Now I see you, you know, one of the church events,
Speaker 1: and I see you and I go, oh, I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: there's a guyet that thinks I'm an idiot. Yeah, I guess,
Speaker 1: And then I'll be like, hey, there's a girl who
Speaker 1: thinks I'm ugly. It actually is a perfect second date update.
Speaker 1: It worked out for both of you, guys. Now we're
Speaker 1: all on the same page. That is amazing how that
Speaker 1: actually worked out for them like that. Texting at seven
Speaker 1: eighty five nine two says, I'll day she's right on
Speaker 1: my level. At least people know where they are right.
Speaker 1: It's true. I mean, I guess you can't blame him
Speaker 1: too much if you just didn't feel like they connected
Speaker 1: on the intelligence level, you know. I mean, if you
Speaker 1: go out with somebody you feel like they're not as
Speaker 1: smart as you, maybe you don't want to go out
Speaker 1: with them again. Personally, I think it's a great thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the first thing I look for. It's tired for jose
Speaker 1: to find though. True. Remember if you want a second
Speaker 1: date up, they don't have to do his email the
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