1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: All right. Steve. Democratic presidential nominee Joe Biden was our 2 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 1: special guest last hour again outstanding job interview with him. 3 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:15,760 Speaker 1: The plan he's laid out with Kamala Kamala Harris for 4 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,439 Speaker 1: you know, black people, all of that. I mean, I 5 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: just find the plan to be something that I haven't 6 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 1: heard come from a presidential candidate. Bottom line forty one 7 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 1: days to vote, too close. All right, time now for 8 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, 9 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey 10 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could 11 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: be reading your letter live on the air, just like 12 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Bugle 13 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We got it for you. 14 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 1: Here it is letter, Thank you, nephew. Subject. I am 15 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: trying to get away from my wife. Dear Stephen Shirley. 16 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: I am a fifty one year old male who is 17 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:05,119 Speaker 1: currently going through a divorce. I was married for twenty 18 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: eight years, and we have both committed adultery and done 19 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 1: things in our marriage that I'm not proud of. She 20 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: has degraded me and humiliated me as a man for years. 21 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 1: We have two teenagers, and initially they both asked to 22 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: the judge to live with me, and they stopped talking 23 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: to their mom. It's a rollercoaster lately, and I never 24 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: know what kind of foolishness my wife will come up with. 25 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: She calls me often to beg me for sex and 26 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: tells me it will fix our marriage. The very next 27 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:38,119 Speaker 1: day she comes by and throws eggs at my car. 28 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: I have tried to date, but she's always lurking. And 29 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:45,759 Speaker 1: she stopped my last girlfriend's social media page and left 30 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: nasty comments. She took pictures of me and another girl 31 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: and posted them on her Facebook page and called me 32 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 1: a cheater. Our mutual friends know we're legally separated and 33 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 1: getting a divorce, so they try not to engage her 34 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 1: in conversation about me and all of this craziness. My 35 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: seventeen year old daughter has started to feel sorry for 36 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: her mother, and she stopped talking to her again and 37 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,640 Speaker 1: allowing her to poison her mind against me. This marriage 38 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: has been broken for years, and she has walked out 39 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: on me and our kids on numerous occasions, so I 40 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: can't believe my daughter can even entertain her. I am 41 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,359 Speaker 1: trying to get away from my wife, and my daughter 42 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: is pulling her back in. How can I get her 43 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:32,919 Speaker 1: to see that her mom is unfit so she will 44 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 1: stop being fooled by her. Please advise, listen, that's not 45 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,919 Speaker 1: your fight, okay, and what you should be concerned with 46 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 1: right now at all? Your daughter will eventually see. I 47 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: mean young people always do you know. It takes some 48 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: life experience. Of course, keep in mind that no matter 49 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: what you say about your wife right now, whatever you 50 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: and your wife are going through, that's still her mother, Okay. 51 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: You gotta remember that, and she loves her mother period. 52 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: I'd say, don't talk against your mother to the children. 53 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,080 Speaker 1: Don't do that. You have two daughters, Please don't do 54 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: that because that won't turn out in your favor. I 55 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: don't think that'll just make them get closer to the 56 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 1: mom like she's doing already. She's starting to feel sorry 57 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: for and I don't think they need any help from you. Dad. 58 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 1: If your wife is as bad as you say she is, 59 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: then concentrate on the divorce in your new life. You know, 60 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: once you're free moving forward. It's not surprising at all. 61 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: I don't think that your daughter is conflicted and feeling 62 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: differently about her mom. I just think divorce is so 63 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:42,320 Speaker 1: hard on families and especially the kids. Your daughter's herhole 64 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:45,720 Speaker 1: world has changed, so I'm sure she's just as hurt 65 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: and confused as you are, and more so so. Just 66 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 1: be her dad and not that person who's talking badly 67 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 1: about her mom or anything like that. Don't do that. 68 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 1: You have way more important things to do. I would 69 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: really like to hear your wife's side of the story 70 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: and why she cheated. You said you guys both cheated 71 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 1: on each other. So you know, you left a few 72 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: things out of this letter, but we get it. You're 73 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: sick and tired and you want out. Okay, but seems 74 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 1: like your daughter's pulling in, So concentrate on getting this 75 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: divorce since that's what you want to do. Steve, Oh, 76 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:24,600 Speaker 1: this letter has a lot in it. Fifty one year 77 00:04:24,640 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: old dude going through divorce, been married for twenty eight 78 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: years now. Then he says, we've both committed adultery and 79 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:41,480 Speaker 1: done things in our marriage that I'm not proud of. Well, okay, 80 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:43,600 Speaker 1: let's just get to this line right here. Okay, you 81 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 1: both committed adultery. But then I think what you're saying 82 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: is that you've done something in you all's marriage that 83 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: I'm not proud of. Then you turn around and say 84 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:58,599 Speaker 1: she's degraded me and humiliated me as a man for years, 85 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 1: and and why is that? See? I always try to 86 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: look at both sides. Now, what it seems to me 87 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 1: like is that you've done a lot man over these 88 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: twenty eight years, stuff you's not proud of. Now you 89 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:22,839 Speaker 1: want to talk about accentuate the part where she's humiliated 90 00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:26,839 Speaker 1: you as a man. Y'all got these two teenagers, now 91 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 1: you say this, this is a smart piece of letter 92 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 1: up on a point out. Initially they both asked the 93 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: judge to live with me and they stopped talking to 94 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 1: their mom. That's what you wanted out of this letter. 95 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:42,719 Speaker 1: But this roller coaster lately, and you don't never know 96 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: what kind of foolishness your wife gonna come up with. See, wife, 97 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:52,839 Speaker 1: wife gonna come up with? See that's another part in 98 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: the letter. We gotta situate my wife. He said it. 99 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: She calls me often to beg me for sex and 100 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,479 Speaker 1: tells me it will fix our marriage. Then the very 101 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 1: next day she come back and throw eggs at my car. 102 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: I've tried to date, but she's always lurking, and she 103 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:14,039 Speaker 1: stopped my last girlfriend social media page and left nasty 104 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:18,119 Speaker 1: comment your last girlfriend you try to date? Hello, Hello, 105 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: y'all been secreted man? And where you stay? She's driving 106 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 1: by the old edge? What what? Dog? It's a lot 107 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 1: in this letter, man, it's a lot to unpack in 108 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: this letter that you're saying and not saying. That's right, 109 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: and so now I have some questions for you when 110 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: I come back to brother. All right, Steve, we'll have 111 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:43,840 Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up in twenty three 112 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Subject of today's letter, I am 113 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: trying to get away from my wife. We'll get back 114 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve, 115 00:06:57,240 --> 00:07:00,280 Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject I am 116 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: trying to get away from my wife. Well, if you are, dog, 117 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: that's a lot of people. So there's a lot of 118 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: people perked up doing this letter reading right here because 119 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: the subject alone, I'm trying to get away from my 120 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: wife after this COVID and quarantine. I can't tell you 121 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: how many people could. Now you're talking about how both 122 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: y'all and committed adultery done things in your marriage. You're 123 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 1: not proud of. She didn't degraded you and humiliated you 124 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: as a man, but you did something to her. You 125 00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: committed adultry, and you've done some things you're not proud of. 126 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: Y'all got two teenage daughters. Now, initially they both asked 127 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 1: the judge to live with me, and they stopped talking 128 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: to their mom. But it's a roller coaster. You don't 129 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: ever know what capit of foolishness my wife will come 130 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: up with. See here your whole problem, dog, y'all still heavy, 131 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: and this little separation you got, you're obviously y'all not 132 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 1: separated far enough. She calls me often, begged me for sex, 133 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: to tell me to fix our man. Very next day 134 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 1: she comes by and throw eggs at my car. Now 135 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 1: you didn't say you don't have sex with her? No, 136 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: thank you. See see that ain't what you're saying. Then 137 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 1: you put out, Now she want to come by and 138 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: throw eggs at the car. House. You ain't telling us everything. 139 00:08:14,960 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: See I'm telling you it's a lot missing in this. 140 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: I have tried to date, but you still married. I 141 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: have tried to date, but she's always lurking. And she 142 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: stalked my last girlfriend social media page. The left nastic 143 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 1: comments because y'all old y'all ass don't know how social 144 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: media works. Now your last girlfriend you trying to date 145 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: and you still married. Boy, she took pictures of me 146 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 1: and another girl and posted them on Facebook page and 147 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:49,680 Speaker 1: called me a cheatah bro. If you're still married and 148 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:53,319 Speaker 1: she see you with somebody and you just called her 149 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: your wife when she posted picture, it is that of 150 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 1: a cheatah dog, because technically you're still married, and she 151 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:06,439 Speaker 1: knows that. Now your mutual friends know you're legally separated 152 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 1: and getting a divorce, so they try not to engage 153 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: her in conversation. How long you've been separated? Dog? Because 154 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: you didn't had one girlfriend and you keep trying to 155 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:18,439 Speaker 1: date and it ain't working, and she steady coming back 156 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 1: now and all is crazy. That's my seventeen year old 157 00:09:21,240 --> 00:09:23,560 Speaker 1: daughter just started to feel sorry for a mother, and 158 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: she's talking to her again and allowing her to poison 159 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: her mind against me. First of all, she crazy, she 160 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 1: shouldn't be talking against you, But it's her mother, Like 161 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 1: Shirley say, it's her mother. That's a bond that you 162 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 1: shouldn't really want to see broken. This marriage has been 163 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: broken for years and she's walked out on me and 164 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: our kids on numerous occasion, so I can't believe my 165 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: daughter can even entertain her it's her mother. What the 166 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: hell are you not getting about this? Man? I am 167 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: trying to get away from my wife, dog Lee, You 168 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 1: can get away from the kid's cap Dog. You ain't 169 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: trying that damn hard. You want to stay round the corner, 170 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 1: run your life, dog, get the divorce, and my daughter 171 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 1: is pulling her back in. Wait a minute, your daughter 172 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 1: is pulling your wife back in. Bro, You're blaming everybody 173 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: for this but yourself. How can I get her to 174 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: see that her mom is unfit? So when she will 175 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: stop being fooled by her? Shirley's absolutely right. Man, you 176 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: gotta stop bad Stop bad mouthing this woman to your 177 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: daughter because that only allows her to bad mouth are 178 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: you to the daughter? Also? So y'all in a bad 179 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:40,959 Speaker 1: mouthing contest. Both of y'all wrong for that. You're adults. 180 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: You act childish, You're throwing eggs and stuff. You're screwing, 181 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: you're staying around the corner. You want your baby to 182 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:50,679 Speaker 1: be on your side. Quit talking to your mama. Who 183 00:10:50,760 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 1: the hell go to their child wants them to quit 184 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:58,160 Speaker 1: talking to their mother. Man, come on, bro, bro, this 185 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: letter got so much wrong with it all. You all 186 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 1: seem like in this letter he really want is for 187 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:08,920 Speaker 1: his daughter to quit talking yeah to her mother. Yeah, 188 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 1: that's her only fix. He ain't looking for nothing else. 189 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 1: How can I get her to see that her mom 190 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:18,560 Speaker 1: is unfit? Dog? You want these daughters to grow up 191 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:24,079 Speaker 1: with somebody you're calling unfit? That's crazy. That don't make 192 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 1: no sense. Dog. You can't do for them what their 193 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: mother can. Now, she might not be a fit wife, 194 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: but that don't make her unfit mother. But the things 195 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:38,439 Speaker 1: y'all did to each other could be the reason that 196 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: calls her to lead. Both of y'all you said you 197 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: committed adultery, and both of y'all she might have left, 198 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 1: took commit adultery because you had committed. Doug, we don't know. 199 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: I don't like no more. I don't wife side. Yeah, 200 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 1: damn this right, I'm trying to talk to a dude. 201 00:11:57,800 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: They ain't even on the phone. All these lives and 202 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: stuff that they got, got no tempadence, I know, and it. 203 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 1: Oh yeah they are we get that part. You're right 204 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 1: they are? Yeah, yeah, He says the marriage has been 205 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:15,560 Speaker 1: broken for years, Steve. She walked out on him and 206 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: the kids numerous times. And he's I guess mad at 207 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: the daughter because the daughter still wants to have, you know, 208 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:25,760 Speaker 1: communication with the with the wife, with her mother, and 209 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:31,599 Speaker 1: why not. It's like you said, Shirley, it's her mother. Yeah, 210 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:35,120 Speaker 1: You're gonna have moments like this, That's what it's bough. 211 00:12:35,240 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 1: It's her mother, man. You know, look, I'd have been 212 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: through a divorce before. You can't bad mouthed the woman publicly. 213 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 1: You can't do that to each other. You know. However, 214 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: I feel it's still their mother, right, That's true, and 215 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:56,280 Speaker 1: I gotta let that happen. Yep. All right, Well we're 216 00:12:56,320 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: gonna move on. Um get the divorce. Listen postal comments 217 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,319 Speaker 1: on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on Instagram 218 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 1: and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand 219 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: coming up at forty six minutes after the hour. We'll 220 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: have Junior Sports Talk right after this. 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