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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is a John your og

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Speaker 2: My sister in law insulted my wife, so I taught

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Speaker 2: her a lesson. You asold my wife get throwaway because

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Speaker 2: my wife and her sister have my man. My wife

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Speaker 2: Ava female twenty eight and I male thirty just had

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Speaker 2: our first set of kids, a pair of twin boys.

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Speaker 2: We had met and dated through college and after graduation

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Speaker 2: got married in a simple ceremony. My wife is a

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Speaker 2: nurse and I'm an engineer. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 2: from user significant Fudge forty one thirty seven and if

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Speaker 2: r slash Okay story Time suburb it. My wife is

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Speaker 2: the quiet type, especially in large social gatherings, and very petite.

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Speaker 2: I think that will be important later. Honestly, I'm not

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Speaker 2: much different, and that's how we hit it off because

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Speaker 2: our friend groups dragged us to a party we didn't

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Speaker 2: really want to be at. That said one on one

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Speaker 2: with a patient. She is very, very warm and all smiles.

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Speaker 2: We tried for over a year to get pregnant. My

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Speaker 2: swimmers were not day in her job, so we were

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Speaker 2: thrilled to become parents, and finding out it was twins

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Speaker 2: was even better. My wife's sister, female twenty five, on

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Speaker 2: the other hand, is a piece of work. She relies

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Speaker 2: on guys to fund her lifestyle and jumps from guy

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Speaker 2: to guy or scams them online. If I had proof

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Speaker 2: She has no education past high school. She's trying to

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Speaker 2: She's constantly trying to make it rich quick and still

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Speaker 2: lives with their parents. No hate on this part, it's

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Speaker 2: just showing how financially irresponsible she is. She buys designer

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Speaker 2: everything and eats out all the time. We waited until

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Speaker 2: the boys were a few weeks before we let anyone

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Speaker 2: come over. My wife had to recover and she just

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Speaker 2: wanted to bond with our boys uninterrupted, and I do

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Speaker 2: anything for her. I had to beat my mom back

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Speaker 2: or the stick, not literally, but it was worth the piece.

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Speaker 2: I wanted only one set of family at a time

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Speaker 2: so we didn't get overwhelmed, and suggested her parents come first.

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Speaker 2: Her parents brought her sister. Now, up to this point,

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Speaker 2: her sister had been super interested in the pregnancy and

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Speaker 2: helped throw the baby shower. You drop off my wife

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Speaker 2: snacks and things. If she mentioned a craving. Overall, it

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Speaker 2: seemed like a turning point for them because before the

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Speaker 2: pregnancy their relationship had been strained childhood competition, fighting over

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Speaker 2: who dated first, et cetera. I went to the kitchen

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Speaker 2: to make lunch while they sat and chatted, Her sister

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Speaker 2: came in to help. I thought. She set up plates

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Speaker 2: and things and started asking about the labor the last

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Speaker 2: couple of weeks all that jazz, I thought she was

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Speaker 2: just trying to let me vent or find more ways

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Speaker 2: to be helpful. But I told her everything was going

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Speaker 2: pretty smoothly. She made the comment that's too bad, she's ruined.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: She got ripped from her v to were a that

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Speaker 2: won't be a pleasure to look at. I'm sorry, what sister?

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Speaker 2: So she just bitter.

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Speaker 4: Sisters, you're a baby and you're gonna comment on her,

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Speaker 4: Why don't you mind your.

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Speaker 2: Business like congratulations. It's a shame that her body is

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Speaker 2: ruined forever and she's disgusting, and you're married.

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Speaker 3: Your personality is gonna be like.

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Speaker 2: Why are you? Are you like this? It is true

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Speaker 2: that there was some tearing, but considering her size and

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Speaker 2: I just look and asked why she would say something

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Speaker 2: so disrespectful about her sister. She told me it's just

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Speaker 2: there would be a total turn off. She then leaned

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Speaker 2: only really wanted her as a mother because of the

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Speaker 4: Oh lord, and now she's starting with them. No, I

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Speaker 2: She's out of the house. If i'm husband, Hey, you're

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Speaker 2: no longer welcome here. You have to leave, actually exactly immediately.

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Speaker 2: I'm not entertaining this. Bye, not entertaining this for five seconds.

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Speaker 2: It's absurd. And then she went on about how much

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Speaker 2: I told her, in no uncertain terms that she wasn't

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Speaker 2: my wife's level. I told her that being a swindler

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Speaker 2: It's actually sad to watch because everyone knows she can

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Speaker 2: she puts herself too, but she chooses the disappearing acts

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Speaker 2: who would pay for her photos instead. I told her

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Speaker 2: my wife worked until eight months while pregnant with twins,

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Speaker 2: how she does volunteer work for the animal shelter, how

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Speaker 2: she still fusses over me even though we now have

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Speaker 2: the boys, and how just amazing I really think she is.

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Speaker 2: I told her she could never even scratch at the

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Speaker 2: level of my wife, so to take her weirdness out

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Speaker 2: of my house, and I just walked her out. Thank you,

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Op, for God's sakes, thank you. So many

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Speaker 2: stories we hear, We're like, oh, you don't get.

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Speaker 4: You just consulted your wife out of there.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy you said that, because now you have to

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Speaker 2: say it outside, say it to the wind. I pulled

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Speaker 2: the parents aside and explained what happened, and then sent

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Speaker 2: me not her. They stormed out for disrespecting their younger

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Speaker 4: And then I would say, okay, well she disrespected my

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Speaker 2: And now suddenly all of the behavior makes perfect sense. Yes,

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Speaker 2: because her parents have failed her. After showing my wife,

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Speaker 2: she thought I was a little harsh and shutting her down,

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Speaker 2: up for her. My sister in law and her parents

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Speaker 2: are demanding an apology, but I'm not going to am

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Speaker 2: I the AhR. No.

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Speaker 4: No, you're standing up for your wife, defending your wife,

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Speaker 2: Wife, defending, defending your wife, immediately, defending your wife, immediately.

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Speaker 2: That's what we should all do. Defend your wife, defend

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Speaker 2: your wife. Comment one, I apologize that sister in law

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Speaker 2: is a lazy, selfish, money hungry man eating trullop who

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Speaker 2: just gave birth. Opie said yes, her propositioning Opie is

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Speaker 2: as f I suggest making a small clip of that

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Speaker 2: get an apology. Number two, I have a cousin who's

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Speaker 2: and to get bitter and jealous of anyone who's doing

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Speaker 2: It's pretty horrendous. Honestly, I tell Opie not to apologize.

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Speaker 2: She deserves exactly what she's got. Honestly, I'd have nothing

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Speaker 2: Any sister that could try it on with her sister's

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Speaker 2: husband isn't worth having a relationship with. I'm konfuzzled, kurfuffled, bamboozled.

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Speaker 2: Your in laws are mad at you for what shutting

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Speaker 4: It's complicated and it still makes no sense.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just you're not the a hole, all right.

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Speaker 2: We're just gonna leave it at the bilootzy I did

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Speaker 2: not expect this kind of response. I've tried to keep

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Speaker 2: immediate fallout. I want to thank everyone who took the

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Speaker 2: time to respond and give me great ideas for how

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Speaker 2: support made me feel like I did something right. A

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Speaker 2: a few reoccurring questions in my DMS and comments. Yes,

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Speaker 2: my wife does animal shelter work. I am very allergic

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Speaker 2: I've suggested birds or rabbits, but she says there's special

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Speaker 2: I did not mean to slute shame my sister in law,

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Speaker 2: she plays with guys. She'll scam older man out of

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Speaker 2: doesn't usually creep on my Reddit, but she listens to

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Speaker 2: If you think wanting space to heal and bond is

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Speaker 2: I were blocked from my sister in law social media,

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Speaker 2: I assumed it was her parents still bugging about the apology,

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Speaker 2: So this is gonna be a long one. Apologies for that.

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Speaker 2: Everything happened over the span of five months. I twenty

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Speaker 2: So making the trip was a lot of money, which

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Speaker 2: One day she started crying, but for once, not while

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Speaker 2: but do not talk about my partner because you don't

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Speaker 6: So she's ungrateful.

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Speaker 2: It really sounds like someone was completely unprepared to move

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Speaker 6: Like you see that coming. You know what that is?

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Speaker 6: It's reality?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, uh oh, you need to have more than

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Speaker 2: she would transfer me her half of the rent every week.

438
00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:29,840
Speaker 2: And I would then send the money to the owner. However,

439
00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:32,880
Speaker 2: because I wasn't constantly reminding her, she would often forget

440
00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:35,439
Speaker 2: until three weeks later, when I had no choice but

441
00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:37,600
Speaker 2: to ask. But as you can imagine, because it was

442
00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:40,760
Speaker 2: now three weeks worth of rent, Lily's response was, Oh, sorry,

443
00:18:40,760 --> 00:18:42,600
Speaker 2: I don't have that much money. I'll give you half

444
00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:44,719
Speaker 2: this week and the other half later on. And this

445
00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:48,600
Speaker 2: became a pattern with her. OPI that's kind of on you, dude,

446
00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:51,919
Speaker 2: one hundred percent. I have no empathy for you, being like,

447
00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:53,960
Speaker 2: I don't want to tell her she needs to pay me.

448
00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:57,720
Speaker 7: Bro, rent is a very important thing unless if you

449
00:18:57,800 --> 00:18:59,280
Speaker 7: know you can cover it, and you know you get

450
00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:02,240
Speaker 7: your money back. It doesn't happen consistently, that's fine, But

451
00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:04,679
Speaker 7: this is going to be happening. I don't know consistently.

452
00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:06,720
Speaker 7: It already has. Yeah, it's kind of your fault. Is

453
00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:09,159
Speaker 7: it right that she is like, oops, I forgot.

454
00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:10,399
Speaker 2: Of course not, we're not.

455
00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:11,119
Speaker 3: Yeah.

456
00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:14,920
Speaker 2: The realistic solution to that to just not ask her

457
00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:16,960
Speaker 2: or remind her or be on top of her about

458
00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:18,000
Speaker 2: re touchy subject.

459
00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:20,560
Speaker 6: I don't want to have confrontation and like it's fine,

460
00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:21,160
Speaker 6: it's fine, it's fine.

461
00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:21,440
Speaker 5: It's fine.

462
00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:23,000
Speaker 6: It's not fine. None of us is fine.

463
00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:25,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would be immediately looking for a new roommate

464
00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:28,040
Speaker 2: situation because you and Lily, I know you guys have

465
00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:30,240
Speaker 2: this history. But it's like, this is not gonna work.

466
00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:31,000
Speaker 2: I can't pay rent.

467
00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:34,160
Speaker 6: It's I think it's time for conversation. You know what.

468
00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:35,720
Speaker 6: I think we pack our bags and we just go

469
00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:36,160
Speaker 6: back home.

470
00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:38,680
Speaker 7: Yeah, it could be this is that might that conversation

471
00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:40,480
Speaker 7: might need to come up because this is not going

472
00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:41,119
Speaker 7: so it's not going to.

473
00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:41,800
Speaker 3: Work long term.

474
00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:43,760
Speaker 2: So when I came home, she would be like, aren't

475
00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:46,600
Speaker 2: you hungry, Let's go for some KFC. And then as

476
00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:48,399
Speaker 2: we were in line, she would suddenly stay on her

477
00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,080
Speaker 2: phone in the back, pretending to be busy when it

478
00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:52,440
Speaker 2: was our turn to order and pay. So I would

479
00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:54,440
Speaker 2: order and pay, and then she would proceed to ask

480
00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:56,679
Speaker 2: what did you get us? This happens several times, and

481
00:19:56,720 --> 00:19:58,600
Speaker 2: not once did she pay for me or send me

482
00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:00,800
Speaker 2: any money. When we did this with friend ordering a

483
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:02,840
Speaker 2: big shared combo and it was time to send the

484
00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:04,920
Speaker 2: person who paid the money, it was expected for me

485
00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:07,920
Speaker 2: to cover her part. People thought about us as one

486
00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,400
Speaker 2: individual though. I think this is what I told myself

487
00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,320
Speaker 2: to deal with the situation, as I was too embarrassed

488
00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:14,520
Speaker 2: to let others deal with her. Now, some random stuff

489
00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:16,800
Speaker 2: that happened in no particular order, but little by little

490
00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:19,080
Speaker 2: added to my patients collapsing. I would leave the house

491
00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:20,960
Speaker 2: at seven am to go to class, and on days

492
00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:22,479
Speaker 2: that I didn't have work, I would come back at

493
00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:25,119
Speaker 2: two pm. She would still be sleeping. Her classes started

494
00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,320
Speaker 2: at one pm. She would still usually leave the house

495
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 2: around three pm and come back at five pm, even

496
00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:31,440
Speaker 2: though her class is finished at six pm. So yeah,

497
00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:33,920
Speaker 2: every Friday I would text her three times eight am

498
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 2: when I left the house, one pm when I was

499
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:37,160
Speaker 2: on my way back to work, and at six pm

500
00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:39,040
Speaker 2: when I was on my break. I'd say, hey, please

501
00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:40,520
Speaker 2: don't forget to send me the money for rent. She

502
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,560
Speaker 2: would often do it by the next day, even though

503
00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,200
Speaker 2: we were supposed to pay it first thing in the morning.

504
00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 2: On Fridays, it was impossible to have a conversation with her,

505
00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:49,679
Speaker 2: and she was always on the phone with her boyfriend.

506
00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:52,840
Speaker 2: This was confirmed by our housemate, as even watching a

507
00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 2: movie together was not possible. She made a list of

508
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:59,160
Speaker 2: quote unquote room rules in a very passive aggressive way.

509
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:01,119
Speaker 2: One day, she got a board marker and wrote a

510
00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,280
Speaker 2: bunch of rules on the closets mirror. I got back

511
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:05,440
Speaker 2: from work to at least five rules written all over

512
00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 2: my mirror without prior discussion. These were all things that

513
00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:10,040
Speaker 2: made sense, and since I was used to living alone,

514
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:11,959
Speaker 2: I was not aware that they were bothering her. They

515
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:14,120
Speaker 2: were simple things like, don't leave the shoes around, put

516
00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 2: them inside the closet after you take them off, don't

517
00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 2: leave random items on the nightstand, use the drawers to

518
00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:21,320
Speaker 2: put said items in. Blah blah blah blah blah. And

519
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,439
Speaker 2: if I gotta be honest, if she said that to me,

520
00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 2: I'd cross out every single one and write over it,

521
00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:32,320
Speaker 2: pay me my money, That's what I would write.

522
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,480
Speaker 6: But I would also follow those rules.

523
00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:38,920
Speaker 2: Sure, but like, you're not even paying rent, you don't

524
00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:41,159
Speaker 2: have a leg to stand on in terms of telling

525
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:44,360
Speaker 2: me what I need to be doing. Do you need

526
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:46,439
Speaker 2: to pay me the money you owe me?

527
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, if she was paying rent, that would make sense,

528
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:49,920
Speaker 7: But she's not paying any proportions.

529
00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 6: So in this case, she's not really your roommate.

530
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:56,120
Speaker 2: She's just a rude person writing you passive aggressive.

531
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:56,600
Speaker 3: Notes in a mirror.

532
00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 2: She did get a job well paying and at ten

533
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:03,960
Speaker 2: minute walk from our house, with many hours available perfect well.

534
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 2: On her first day, she lied and said she had

535
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 2: to leave early due to a school assignment. And at

536
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,879
Speaker 2: that point she had already dropped out of her English

537
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 2: class because and I quote, she felt annoyed because a

538
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:17,159
Speaker 2: customer looked at her weirdly. She did nails, so it

539
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,439
Speaker 2: was a nail salon. She then proceeded to ignore the

540
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 2: text messages from the owner asking if she could work

541
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 2: an extra day for three days straight after that, she

542
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:26,600
Speaker 2: showed up late and then was surprised they fired her.

543
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:31,120
Speaker 2: So she also had a past of being disrespectful. One

544
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:34,360
Speaker 2: time she full on had spicy sleep with her boyfriend

545
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 2: under the blankets while the three of us were watching

546
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 2: a movie in my room.

547
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 6: That's foul. That's foul.

548
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,400
Speaker 2: Another time when we fell asleep in my bed. I

549
00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:46,000
Speaker 2: only found out months later when she told me while

550
00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:49,119
Speaker 2: she was wasted. We had a really good relationship with David,

551
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:52,160
Speaker 2: our housemate, and I didn't want to worry about walking

552
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 2: in on them doing stuff in the living room or

553
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:56,919
Speaker 2: under a blanket while watching a movie. So I literally

554
00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:58,560
Speaker 2: said to her, if you want to hook up with

555
00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 2: Rando's go for it. If you want to cheat on

556
00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:05,159
Speaker 2: your boyfriend, you go, girl, But just not with David Lee's.

557
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 2: She would always make me feel crazy for even thinking

558
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:09,919
Speaker 2: that she would do something like that. And this is

559
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 2: important to remember again, David is the housemate in the

560
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:14,920
Speaker 2: place that they're living right now. Three weeks after coming

561
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 2: to Australia, she met a guy. He was tall, single, ish,

562
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:19,880
Speaker 2: that's a whole different story on it, and seemed very

563
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:22,680
Speaker 2: interested in her. She was still together with her boyfriend

564
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 2: at the time, saying I love you over the phone,

565
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 2: then hanging up claiming she was going to take an

566
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:29,720
Speaker 2: app only to call the new guy, Sam forty two

567
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:31,880
Speaker 2: male to pick her up. I will admit I also

568
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 2: enabled her to start seeing this man, saying stuff like

569
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 2: enjoy your life, enjoy your youth. You were also super

570
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:38,879
Speaker 2: broke at the time, and the guy had money to

571
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 2: spare and he didn't have any hobbies, so he would

572
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:44,400
Speaker 2: take her out to fancy restaurants. She started staying over

573
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 2: at Sam's more and more each week, to the point

574
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:48,639
Speaker 2: that David and I would only see her once or

575
00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 2: twice a week when she dropped by to wash her

576
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 2: clothes and or pick up new ones.

577
00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 7: I don't like that you condone her on cheating. You

578
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 7: literally said go cheat. I would have been like, hey,

579
00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:01,440
Speaker 7: before you do that, what about your hmm boyfriend?

580
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like when you go enjoy your youth, that's

581
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 2: not like be adulterist. That's like, hey, so if you're

582
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,760
Speaker 2: feeling like you want to go explore with this other guy,

583
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 2: break up with your boyfriend. Let him know that you

584
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 2: have feelings you want to explore and that you guys

585
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 2: just need to move on. Well that's fine, that's the

586
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:18,000
Speaker 2: healthy thing to do.

587
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 6: If you broke up with your boyfriend.

588
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 7: Great, but guess what again, her personality is talking to

589
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 7: her boyfriend all the time.

590
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:29,159
Speaker 2: Even David randomly said to me, man, we live so

591
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 2: comfortably and hassle free when it's just the two of us.

592
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 2: Huh So, yeah, it wasn't just me. At this point,

593
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,880
Speaker 2: she was working doing nails at Sam's house, getting clients

594
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,679
Speaker 2: through Facebook groups, but she still hadn't paid me a

595
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 2: single cent to help with my credit card debt. A

596
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 2: couple months into being with Sam, she decides to break

597
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 2: up with her boyfriend, not because of Sam, but because

598
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 2: they had been doing long distance for four months or

599
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:52,199
Speaker 2: so and it wasn't working.

600
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:53,120
Speaker 6: I wonder why.

601
00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna need you to read that one more time,

602
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 2: chief and get back to me.

603
00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:58,200
Speaker 6: Yeah.

604
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 2: One random day, after I came back from work, David

605
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 2: was feeling really down. He asked me to go out

606
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 2: for a drink. I had the next day off, so

607
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,160
Speaker 2: I agreed, as I would have worried if he left

608
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 2: alone in the state he was in. It was a

609
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: good night. We drank, we danced, and chatted with strangers. Overall,

610
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 2: it was a good time. We were having our last

611
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 2: little drinki poo and talking about random stuff when he

612
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:19,600
Speaker 2: confessed that he now felt grossed out that he and

613
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 2: Lily had kissed twice before, shocked as she was like

614
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:24,360
Speaker 2: family to him.

615
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 6: Now, Oh, don't say that.

616
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 2: I was like, excuse me, what do you mean. He

617
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:32,480
Speaker 2: then confessed that they had made out twice a couple

618
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 2: months ago, but Lily told him not to say anything

619
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 2: to me. At that point. I wasn't even mad about

620
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 2: the kiss. Had they told me when it happened, I

621
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 2: would have been like, I mean whatever, buy me a

622
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 2: drink and moved on. However, it was the gas lighting

623
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 2: from Lily that made me feel crazy. Fact that it

624
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 2: was the only thing I had ever asked of her,

625
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 2: and she couldn't even do that for me. Plus I

626
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 2: had already been dealing with everything I listed before for

627
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 2: five months. I knew I wanted out out of the

628
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 2: situation and out of Lily's life, but I didn't have

629
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 2: the heart to just leave her, because if she ever

630
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:01,879
Speaker 2: knew anything, I would have wanted to help her. So

631
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 2: in my head, and this is where I may be

632
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 2: the a hole as I could have just been trying

633
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 2: to justify my actions, I reached the conclusion that I

634
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 2: couldn't leave her. However, I could do something so she

635
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 2: would leave me on her own accord. What are you doing? Guys?

636
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:18,679
Speaker 2: This is a perfect example of how how not to

637
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,400
Speaker 2: interact with somebody that you need to have a whole

638
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:22,399
Speaker 2: doing talk with you.

639
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 6: You're doing all the things that you should be doing.

640
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 6: You're like, I could communicate with her, but I'm not

641
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 6: going to. I could leave her, I'm not going to.

642
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, Instead, I'm gonna like make like a weird scheme

643
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 2: to get her to leave me. I took my phone

644
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 2: and called my cousin. They were already broken up, my

645
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,400
Speaker 2: cousin and Lily, but they still talked on the phone

646
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 2: every single day, and as far as I knew, they

647
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 2: still promised to get back together in the future. And

648
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:51,400
Speaker 2: I told him everything. Uh ah, oh my god. It's

649
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 2: like a black hole just formed in the center of

650
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 2: my chest.

651
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 6: What runs in this family?

652
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 2: What is going on? Remember that time you called me

653
00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:01,159
Speaker 2: and asked me if Lily was okay, but she was

654
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 2: feeling sick and her phone was off. I said I

655
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,160
Speaker 2: was working and wasn't home. Well that was a lie.

656
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,480
Speaker 2: She went to the beach with Sam, turned her phone

657
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Speaker 2: off and I was home watching a movie with David.

658
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 2: Remember on her birthday she sent you a picture but

659
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 2: neither David nor I were in it, despite living with her.

660
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:16,359
Speaker 2: Well that's because that was Sam's house. This is your

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00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 2: way getting back at Lily.

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Speaker 5: Bro.

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00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 6: You're just you're justice toxic as everybody else.

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Speaker 7: You're everyone suck Now everyone in this stories because now

665
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 7: you're bringing down You should have done this a long

666
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 7: time ago. But you know what, what in Australia, I

667
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 7: guess I don't know. This is insane to me.

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00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 2: Sam's even in the picture that she sent you, wearing

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00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 2: matching coats that he got her for her birthday. He

670
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 2: was broken.

671
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 7: Congratulations you made him feel terrible when you should have

672
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 7: told them a long time ago.

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Speaker 2: I texted him in the morning to see how he

674
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,639
Speaker 2: was doing, but to my surprise, he had deleted me

675
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 2: from Facebook and then followed me on Instagram. Meanwhile, Lily

676
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 2: had blocked me from everything.

677
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 7: Congratulations, you did the stupidest thing possible.

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00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,400
Speaker 2: Well there, Yeah, that was your goal, wasn't it.

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00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 6: You know she would have done that a long time ago.

680
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 6: Go oh, I would feel bad.

681
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 2: She probably would have blocked you if you were just like,

682
00:27:57,760 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 2: I need you to give me the money you owe

683
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 2: me or be gone by next week.

684
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Speaker 7: I mean I would have done the you know, give

685
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 7: me the money or I'm gonna tell my cousin your boyfriend.

686
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Speaker 6: Holy crap about Sam.

687
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 2: She came to the house two days later saying she

688
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 2: was moving out and was there to collect her things,

689
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 2: and that was the last day we spoke. The end

690
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Speaker 2: of June twenty twenty three. I didn't hear from her

691
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,920
Speaker 2: until September of this year, when my dad passed away.

692
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 2: It was a simple short message, I am back in

693
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Speaker 2: my country as I came to spend my dad's last

694
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 2: days with him and help my family. As far as

695
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 2: I know, she is still in Australia. I don't know

696
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 2: how or where. Oh and she and my cousins still

697
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 2: talk every day. I know this from my aunt. And

698
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Speaker 2: by the way, you can listen to full episodes with

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Speaker 2: ever told. Fifty one days and counting and counting, we

703
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 2: have another little bit of story left here. Honestly, I

704
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:59,479
Speaker 2: think we're on the same page here right. If Op

705
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 2: would have just commune shat Lily down and said, I'm

706
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Speaker 2: going to tell you some stuff, this isn't really a discussion.

707
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 2: I'm telling you.

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Speaker 3: These this is crazy.

709
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 2: This is not a debate. This is the reality of

710
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 2: the situation. If you can't pay me rent, if you

711
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 2: can't do this, if you can't give me the money

712
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 2: that you owe me, we're gonna have to not be roommates.

713
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 2: They're gonna have to figure something out out.

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Speaker 7: I just met you through the story, and y'all are crazy,

715
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 7: So just stop talking like that's crazy, To stop talking

716
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 7: to each other, that's crazy. The fact that your cousin

717
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 7: is still talking to Lily after you told them the

718
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Speaker 7: truth is even.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, poor cousin aid I feel so bad because but yeah,

720
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Speaker 2: you you are. You know, Lily is the catalyst for

721
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 2: all of this negativity. But like you fueled it, my goy.

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Speaker 7: You you know it was You's like, oh, there's a

723
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 7: fire over there, let me throw some gasoline over there.

724
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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, that's fine.

725
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 2: You threw napalm on it, dude. Yeah, anyway, let's finish

726
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 2: this story. I'm aware that it seemed like I could

727
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 2: have handled things in a better way. Maybe I could have. No,

728
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 2: that's definitely you could have. However, it was not really

729
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 2: possible to tell her anything at the time, as she

730
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 2: would get defensive and retaliate right away.

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Speaker 7: Oh so you're scared of Lily. Why are you scared

732
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Speaker 7: of Lily? What did she hold over your head? She

733
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Speaker 7: held nothing over you.

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Speaker 2: My life in Australia took an upgrade after that. I

735
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Speaker 2: found a better place to live, got along amazingly with

736
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Speaker 2: my new roommate, to the point that we still talk

737
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 2: even six months after I came back to my country.

738
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Speaker 2: I got a full time job, so my money issues disappeared.

739
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Speaker 2: I met new amazing people. Over All, my time in Australia,

740
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Speaker 2: despite the rocky start, was amazing and I'm glad I

741
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Speaker 2: did what I did. And that is the end of ours.

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Speaker 6: A fair story, frustrating story.

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Speaker 8: by the way. She also seemed to have a competitive streak.

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Speaker 8: Whenever I complimented my mom and sister's green spaghetti, she

767
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Speaker 8: would always say that she makes it really good. She

768
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Speaker 8: constantly tried to prove she was a better spoiler. She wasn't.

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Speaker 8: Her food always liked flavor. Moving on, she helped my

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Speaker 8: husband apply for jobs, and he got hired right away

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Speaker 8: at a meat market near the house so he could

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Speaker 8: walk to work every day. She would tell him that

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Speaker 8: when he got his first paycheck, he should buy me

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Speaker 8: things I needed, like feminine products and other essentials. But

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Speaker 8: when he got paid, she suddenly told him to save it.

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Speaker 8: That didn't bother me too much because I had taken

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Speaker 8: some femina products from my grandma's house either with my

778
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 8: grandma before moving in with my in laws. However, that

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Speaker 8: same night, my mother in law called my husband into

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Speaker 8: her room. When he came back, he told me that

781
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Speaker 8: she had asked him to buy her something. I reminded

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Speaker 8: him that she had just told him to save his money,

783
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Speaker 8: so that's what he needed to do. He told his

784
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,200
Speaker 8: mom he would save it and that was that. I

785
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 8: also noticed that she would constantly ask my husband to

786
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 8: buy her things at the store. One time, he only

787
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 8: had thirty bucks on his card and he wanted to

788
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Speaker 8: buy ingredients to make green spaghetti because he had been

789
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Speaker 8: craving it, but she wanted him to buy a sixty

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Speaker 8: count carton of eggs, which would cost fourteen bucks at time.

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Speaker 8: He explained to her that he really wanted to make

792
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Speaker 8: the green spaghetti. She got mad and said, fine, but

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Speaker 8: you were not going to get from my milk, so

794
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 8: we had to buy her own milk. Another important detail,

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Speaker 8: my husband was receiving SSI at the time due to

796
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Speaker 8: his ADHD and autism. When he was under age, his

797
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 8: mom had control of the money, but when he turned eighteen,

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Speaker 8: he was finally able to receive it himself. That's when

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Speaker 8: he was informed that he owed six thousand dollars. Technically,

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00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:18,600
Speaker 8: his mom owed it, but they were going to deduct

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Speaker 8: around ninety from his monthly paychecks. This is important because

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Speaker 8: my husband has been telling his mom that he needed

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Speaker 8: to get his yearly shot after turning eighteen, but she

804
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 8: always brushed it off, saying it's not an important right now. However,

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Speaker 8: when SSI wanted him to go to an appointment to

806
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Speaker 8: continue receiving benefits, she gladly took him. How is a

807
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 8: yearly shot to protect his health not important? But securing

808
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 8: SSI payments is She even told me to convince him

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Speaker 8: to put her as the payee of his SSI so

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Speaker 8: she could receive the money. I just replied with, I'll

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Speaker 8: tell him. Of course I did tell him, but I

812
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 8: also explained why that was a terrible idea. If she

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00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 8: got control of the money, he wouldn't have any say

814
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 8: in how it was spent. Fast forward to my birthday.

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Speaker 8: My husband was working, so I walked to his job

816
00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 8: to bring him lunch. He told me that since it

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Speaker 8: was my birthday, he wanted to take me to the

818
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Speaker 8: restaurant next door. We went, ordered food and sat down.

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Speaker 8: While we were eating, his mom called him. I couldn't

820
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 8: hear what she was saying, but after he hung up,

821
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Speaker 8: he told me she was mad that he was spending money.

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00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 8: He reassured her that he could work extra hours. I

823
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 8: thought that was really rude. He just wanted to do

824
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 8: something sweet for my birthday, but she got upset over it.

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Speaker 8: Here's the thing, though, my sister in law and I

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00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 8: share the same birth month. My birthday is on the

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Speaker 8: twenty third and hers is on the twenty sixth. Best

828
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Speaker 8: forward to her birthday, my mother in law takes us

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Speaker 8: to the exact same restaurant. That's not weird since it's

830
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Speaker 8: a popular spot. But what annoyed me was that she

831
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Speaker 8: told my husband to buy food for me, himself, and

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00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 8: one of his other sisters, not the birthday girl. I

833
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 8: was frustrated because apparently it was okay for him to

834
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,319
Speaker 8: spend money for her birthday, but she got mad when

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Speaker 8: he spent money on mine. On top of that, my

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Speaker 8: birthday dinner was actually our first official date. We had

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Speaker 8: gotten together so fast that we never I had the

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Speaker 8: whole time I noticed she basically wanted hughes him for

840
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Speaker 8: his money. I called her out on how she was

841
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 8: acting and pointed out the pattern I had noticed. She

842
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 8: responded by calling me crazy and saying I should be

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Speaker 8: sent to a mental hospital. After that argument, we moved

844
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Speaker 8: in with my grandma A few weeks later, my husband

845
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Speaker 8: started talking to his aunt, his mom's stepsister. She mentioned

846
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Speaker 8: that his mom was a bad person, in her exact words,

847
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Speaker 8: a narcissistic person, toxic and crazy lady. Then she told

848
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Speaker 8: us something that shocked me. His mom had sold her

849
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Speaker 8: sister's car and told everyone it was stolen.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, hey, look at the mom. It's the common

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Speaker 2: denominator again.

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Speaker 8: The police were called and when they found the man

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Speaker 8: driving the car, he admitted that my mother in law

854
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 8: had sold it to him. And the craziest part, she

855
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 8: sold the car because she wanted to get life posuction.

856
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 8: My husband's aunt warned us to stay away from her

857
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 8: because she only cares about money and uses people to

858
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 8: get it. Let me know if you want a part too.

859
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 8: Because we ended up moving back in with them a

860
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 8: second time, I learned my lesson the first time, but

861
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:05,800
Speaker 8: my husband and sister would go back because they promised

862
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 8: to help him get a job, and of course, even

863
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 8: more drama unfolded. We got an update. We moved back

864
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 8: in on October of twenty twenty four and my husband

865
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:15,399
Speaker 8: got through job they told him they would help him get.

866
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:17,879
Speaker 8: While we were there, everything felt normal again. They weren't

867
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Speaker 8: mean to me at all. I found out though through

868
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Speaker 8: my sister in law, the one I thought was nice

869
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Speaker 8: and he mom hates me. She told me that her

870
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Speaker 8: mom said she doesn't like me for her son. My

871
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 8: sister in law also told me that my mother in

872
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 8: law said I supposedly had surgery because I look skinnier.

873
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 8: I was one hundred and fifty pounds when I got

874
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 8: with my husband, but after everything I went through with

875
00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:38,360
Speaker 8: his mom, I wouldn't eat much, and also when I

876
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 8: go outside, I developed a vitamin D deficiency. Where a

877
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 8: normal level is thirty through one hundred, mine was at

878
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 8: nine and I had to take five hundred milligrams of

879
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 8: vitamin D for a couple of months, one pill every week.

880
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 8: Because of that, I lost a lot of weight in

881
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 8: just a few months. In one month, I even lost

882
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 8: seventeen pounds and now I weigh one hundred and twenty

883
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 8: six pounds. When my sister in law told me what

884
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,399
Speaker 8: my mother in law said, I explained that I only

885
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 8: ate two miay and some days only e once. I

886
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 8: am healthier now and I don't let people get to me.

887
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 8: She also told me that the first time we left,

888
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 8: when my husband gave them back the phone they got

889
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 8: for him. He paid for it, but it was on

890
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 8: their plan. My other sister in law, the one just

891
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 8: like her mom, took screenshots of mine and my husband's

892
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 8: messages and sent them to my mother in law. My

893
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 8: husband had asked for help in resetting the phone because

894
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 8: he didn't know how to do it himself. But to

895
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 8: be honest, I don't know if what she told me

896
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 8: is true because she says things that are hard to believe.

897
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 8: My husband has told me she lies a lot. One time,

898
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 8: when I was hanging out with her, she showed me

899
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 8: a picture of one of my husband's ex girlfriends and

900
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 8: said she's really pretty. I didn't say anything to her,

901
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:43,720
Speaker 8: but I told my husband that He said she wouldn't

902
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 8: be coming into our room again. Throughout the days, it

903
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 8: was the same thing. My mother in law would ask

904
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 8: my husband to buy her things, and when he asked her,

905
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 8: she would say, you have money. He even gave them

906
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 8: one hundred and fifty dollars for their car insurance. But

907
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:58,319
Speaker 8: I'm sure they had money because my mother in law

908
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:00,319
Speaker 8: makes two thousand dollars a month and her has been

909
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:02,480
Speaker 8: made six thousand dollars a month. One time, we were

910
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,319
Speaker 8: all at the mall and she told him, if you

911
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 8: buy me and your sister are perfume from simfora I'll

912
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:09,760
Speaker 8: buy you a Lego set. My husband got them perfumes,

913
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,400
Speaker 8: which cost seventy five dollars and when he said, okay,

914
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,360
Speaker 8: now you buy me a Lego set, she said, I

915
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 8: said for Christmas. When Christmas came, she didn't get it

916
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 8: for him. Also, my mother in law wanted me to

917
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 8: apply for food stamps. I told her I called and

918
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:26,359
Speaker 8: they said the whole household income effects eligibility, even if

919
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:28,839
Speaker 8: it's just for me and my husband. Since they make

920
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 8: too much money, we wouldn't qualify. She told me to

921
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 8: use my grandma's address instead. I told her that it's illegal,

922
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 8: and she said she would show me how to do

923
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 8: it when she got home. She said she was at

924
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 8: work at the time. I explained that I wasn't going

925
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 8: to do that, and she said okay. I told my

926
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 8: husband's aunt what mother in law said about using grandma's address,

927
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 8: and she told me my mother in law is used

928
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 8: to committing fraud to get money. She warned me not

929
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,319
Speaker 8: to do it. I explained that I would never do it.

930
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 8: I still have the screenshots of those messages. Before we

931
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 8: even moved back for the second time. My mother in

932
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,760
Speaker 8: law got cheated on for the fifth or six times.

933
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 8: Oh turns out she keeps staying with her husband even

934
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 8: though he cheats. My husband's aunt said that my mother

935
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 8: in law lets me cheat on her as long as

936
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 8: they make good money. She even let her ex husband,

937
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 8: my husband's dad, cheat on her until he walked in

938
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 8: on her with another man in bed, which is when

939
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 8: they separated. I know that's none of my business, but

940
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 8: here's the thing. While we were there, they kept telling

941
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 8: my husband that he has no how do I say this? Basically,

942
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 8: that he's not a man. They would say it jokingly,

943
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 8: but it still made me mad, and it bothered my husband.

944
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 8: How is a man who cheats on his wife going

945
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 8: to tell another man that he's not a man. My

946
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,799
Speaker 8: mother in law would also say that she wears the

947
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 8: pants in the relationship, even though it's clear that she doesn't.

948
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 8: We noticed they mostly bought food for themselves. Meanwhile, we

949
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 8: had to buy food for everyone. They had food they

950
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:53,720
Speaker 8: didn't want to share, but we had to share everything

951
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 8: we bought. I didn't mind sharing, but it wasn't fair.

952
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:59,279
Speaker 8: Fast forward, my husband had a problem with a guy

953
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 8: at work and had to quit. My mother in law

954
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 8: and father in law told us that if he didn't

955
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 8: get another job, then he would have to leave. They

956
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 8: told us to choose. We decided to leave because we

957
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 8: already saw that mother in law had it changed at all.

958
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 8: She was just being nice to get my husband's money. Honestly,

959
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,239
Speaker 8: feel like she didn't want us to save up and

960
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,800
Speaker 8: move out, so she kept asking for money. We decided

961
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 8: to leave. I called my mom and she came to

962
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 8: help us take our things to her house. The first

963
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 8: trip was fine. When we got back to get the

964
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 8: rest of our stuff. While we were driving back, my

965
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 8: husband got a text from his sister, the mean one,

966
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:34,319
Speaker 8: saying that he had to bring back the puppy he

967
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:36,360
Speaker 8: was buying from his mom. They had agreed to a

968
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:38,600
Speaker 8: monthly payment of one hundred bucks for three months. She

969
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 8: said if he didn't return the dog, they wouldn't give

970
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 8: us the rest of our things. My husband called the

971
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 8: cops and we waited outside the house. Mother in law

972
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 8: was at work the whole time. His stepdad was laughing

973
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 8: at him and waving a bill in a sand saying

974
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 8: he had to pay for it. Okay, My mean sister

975
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 8: in law was on the phone telling people or her

976
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 8: friends that we were causing a scene again. When the

977
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 8: cops arrived, they told my husband that's since we technically

978
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 8: still lived there, he could come back another day, jump

979
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:05,840
Speaker 8: the fence, break the windows and get our stuff, but

980
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 8: that would be legal and they wouldn't arrest them. They

981
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,359
Speaker 8: said the dog situation wasn't the problem and that they

982
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 8: couldn't do anything about him. They told my husband's stepdad

983
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 8: that they the comps couldn't make him pay the bill

984
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 8: because it had nothing to do with him. Now, I

985
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:21,400
Speaker 8: want to mention that when we started living there, it

986
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:24,720
Speaker 8: was October twenty something, and my husband paid the bills

987
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 8: in advance, even though they weren't his responsibility yet he

988
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:29,399
Speaker 8: did it just to be nice. But in the end

989
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:31,359
Speaker 8: we still had to give the dog back, even though

990
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 8: my husband had already paid two hundred dollars for it. Also,

991
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 8: my husband told me they took our stuff to their

992
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 8: room and then put it back in hours when we

993
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 8: were going to take it out of the house. By

994
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 8: the way, we won't take you out unless you go

995
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,720
Speaker 8: to your favorite podcast platform search up Okay, story Time

996
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 8: and boom. We will have stories as crazy as this one,

997
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 8: just like this, exactly like that, and we won't take

998
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 8: you out. We're going to read the rest of the story.

999
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 8: While we were taking our things, his stepdad told me

1000
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 8: that my husband had to pay the bills. I told

1001
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 8: him that since my husband had already paid for the

1002
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 8: bills that wasn't his responsibility when we first got there,

1003
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,359
Speaker 8: he shouldn't have to pay now and should call it.

1004
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 8: Even his stepdad said no, no one told him to.

1005
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 8: I told him, well, he's not going to pay, and

1006
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 8: he responded off on a way to make him pay.

1007
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 8: We left and never looked back. Yes, my husband's aunt

1008
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 8: was mad at us for going back in the first

1009
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 8: time cause she had warned us that my mother in

1010
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 8: law is self absorbed person, toxic and crazy. And that

1011
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 8: is the end of that crazy story. Yikes, dude, people

1012
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 8: people these days.

1013
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:30,719
Speaker 2: But sometimes you really do. You just got to be like,

1014
00:42:30,840 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 2: I'm cut my losses, we're leaving, we're moving, we're shaking, leaving,

1015
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:38,319
Speaker 2: moving training and it's over. Hey's John Oghist. We're gonna

1016
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 2: get back to the stories, but a quick three minute

1017
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 2: break of ads from our sponsors.

1018
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:45,840
Speaker 1: I'm betting my sister in law for my future running

1019
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 1: up because she disrespected me.

1020
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 2: Oh the in laws and their joys.

1021
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 1: So I want to make something clear from the starts.

1022
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:56,799
Speaker 1: I'm not even engaged yet, so nothing I'm saying right

1023
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,239
Speaker 1: now is satten down. So there's a very real chance

1024
00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 1: something could change when we do. But right now this

1025
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 1: is how I feel, and I have been told I'm

1026
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 1: being an a hole. By the way, this comes from

1027
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:07,800
Speaker 1: young girl call O three And if you want to

1028
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:10,160
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1029
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 5: So I read it.

1030
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 1: My partner, twenty two male and I twenty two female,

1031
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:15,759
Speaker 1: have been talking about getting married. We've been together for

1032
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 1: almost four years and he keeps teasing about how he's

1033
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: got this huge plan.

1034
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:20,320
Speaker 5: We have been.

1035
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 1: Planning it kind of to the point where I know

1036
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 1: where I want to get my dress from, the color scheme,

1037
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 1: and generally what I want from the day for the

1038
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: most part, is going to be a very non traditional

1039
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,480
Speaker 1: wedding from what both of us have agreed, not very big,

1040
00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: some traditional things, but we'd rather spend more money on

1041
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:37,240
Speaker 1: the honeymoon than the wedding. Anyways, my one big request

1042
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 1: with our list of family and friends coming is I

1043
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:43,320
Speaker 1: don't want to invite anyone who doesn't support us or who.

1044
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 5: Has caused us any kind of trouble slash trauma.

1045
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 1: Throughout a relationship. Yeah, ban all the drama people. You

1046
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 1: want your wedding to be a freaking five their.

1047
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 2: Dude, why would you want anyone who's like a drama

1048
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 2: source in your life out of celebration of your.

1049
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 1: Relationship unless you want your wedding to be remembered for

1050
00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 1: that drama. Yes, which is you know sometimes something fun.

1051
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 2: That would be a bold move to be, like I

1052
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:07,399
Speaker 2: want my way to yea full of drama. Also shout

1053
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 2: out Dragon Princess and Nevill Hogbottom, I love you.

1054
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 1: My mother isn't invited due to being no contact, and

1055
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:14,799
Speaker 1: there's a few others who are kind of in a

1056
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: hot list for maybe not being invited because they may

1057
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 1: cause drama.

1058
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 5: So income sister in law, she's twenty six, we'll call

1059
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:21,280
Speaker 5: her Sarah.

1060
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 1: Sarah's always been rude to me from the very beginning.

1061
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 1: She made it clear she didn't like me. For a

1062
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 1: long time, I thought I was being crazy crazy style

1063
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: for thinking so because I grew up being told I

1064
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: was over dramatic, so I never really brought up that

1065
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 1: I felt that way. To anyone, because I thought it

1066
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 1: was just because she kind of has an aggressive personality,

1067
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:42,840
Speaker 1: rose a nurse and waitless professionally. But after dinner with

1068
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:45,560
Speaker 1: my parents' family and our second year together, went back

1069
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: to his dad's house. I was talking about getting one

1070
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: of those low income bag credit card loans because even now,

1071
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 1: the only way I'd be able to afford a car

1072
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:55,239
Speaker 1: anytime soon is I don't have family members who can

1073
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 1: help out with it. Well, my partner's dad, respectfully, knightfully

1074
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 1: try to tell me that was a bad idea. She

1075
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 1: full on freaked out on me, yelling about how I

1076
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 1: can't do such a stupid thing, and I'd ruin my

1077
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:08,800
Speaker 1: partner's life more than I already have, and how dare

1078
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:11,080
Speaker 1: I think about bringing him down into my debt with

1079
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 1: me again? We had only been dating two years and

1080
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 1: even now have no plans to join our bank accounts

1081
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:15,720
Speaker 1: when we got married.

1082
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 3: That's weird. That's a weird reason.

1083
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 5: Sisters being weird. That's a little weird.

1084
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:20,760
Speaker 3: It's quite a strange response.

1085
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 1: My man had my back and got really mad at

1086
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 1: her and told her to stop being a jerk, which, yeah,

1087
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 1: that's that's all.

1088
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 5: That's a jerky thing to do.

1089
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 1: Later, Sarah texted both of us separately, her trying to

1090
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 1: make an excuse about her behavior to me and to him,

1091
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 1: saying she doesn't know me, that's why she's hesitant about me.

1092
00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 1: Almost four years in and she still hasn't made an

1093
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:40,879
Speaker 1: attempt to get to know me. And while she did

1094
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 1: kind of stop being straight up about not liking me,

1095
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 1: it was only in front of him she acted nice.

1096
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,800
Speaker 1: She'd wait till he left the table, sometimes grilled me

1097
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: about my life decisions and talk down to me, and

1098
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:53,800
Speaker 1: just continue to be mean for literally no reason.

1099
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 3: That's a classic Dio move right there.

1100
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 1: Now, for context, my partner and I moved out together

1101
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 1: in late twenty twenty one, and we had a sketchy

1102
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:03,919
Speaker 1: situation with our first roommates and ended up finding our

1103
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 1: own place just for us. When that happen, I also

1104
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:09,399
Speaker 1: lost my job as an assistant manager. And the job

1105
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 1: market in Alberta is a crap show, to say the least.

1106
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 1: So while I've been working every job I can get,

1107
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,920
Speaker 1: none of them have lasted for one reason or another.

1108
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:19,359
Speaker 1: None however, because I'm a bad worker, and I can

1109
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:21,839
Speaker 1: say got confidently because I was the only one who

1110
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 1: showed up, stayed late, came.

1111
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 5: Early for every job. No matter what state I.

1112
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:28,760
Speaker 1: Was in mentally physically, I always showed up into my best.

1113
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: But to Sarah, she sees that as me being a

1114
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,320
Speaker 1: deadbeat girlfriend, despiting not knowing any of the story or

1115
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 1: seeing any of the bajillion resumes I said out on

1116
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 1: the daily. She just wants to be you. I don't know,

1117
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 1: that's weird.

1118
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:43,279
Speaker 5: I feel like she's trying to steal you.

1119
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 2: It's kind of strange.

1120
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: Anyways, Now I understand that she's worried about her brother,

1121
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,720
Speaker 1: but she didn't like me even before we moved out together,

1122
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: and lately she's gotten balls yer again about baking it

1123
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: known she does not like me. Fast forward to Christmas.

1124
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: My partner and his mom went on our trip to

1125
00:46:57,719 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 1: visit her because she lives out of province, and he

1126
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 1: comes back to tell me she full on told him

1127
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 1: she doesn't like me, but didn't give him a reason

1128
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 1: as to why she doesn't like.

1129
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, the reason would be because she's a full on

1130
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 2: sirce lanister dude, Oh you I mean grody makes where

1131
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 2: complexes come from? Where it's like you don't even know

1132
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 2: your your your brother's partner or your sibling's partner. And

1133
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,239
Speaker 2: then it's like they're like the scum of the earth

1134
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 2: and they're the worst and they don't deserve them and

1135
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 2: they can't have them.

1136
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, he could just also be like an

1137
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 1: attention thing. She thinks like she's gonna get less attention

1138
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:31,760
Speaker 1: from her brother because the brother's in a relationship.

1139
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 2: But you guys aren't twelve. You guys are like adults.

1140
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 2: Of course you're gonna get less attention for some adults

1141
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 2: are still as a white family, Like that's where he's.

1142
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 5: Going to still act like they're twelve.

1143
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: Then the other night, we had a late Christmas dinner

1144
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: because she was in town, and at the table while

1145
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 1: I was having a conversation with him and his cousin

1146
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:49,400
Speaker 1: about something, she apparently made a passive aggressive comment.

1147
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 5: I didn't hear it because I was talking to his

1148
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 5: cousin when she said it, and.

1149
00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 1: My man lipped out on her, ooh there we go, man, go,

1150
00:47:56,640 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 1: let's go, let's go. We love a man who flips that.

1151
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 1: He walked away from the table, and I looked at

1152
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: his cousin utterly confused, only to look over at his

1153
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:08,799
Speaker 1: sister and to see her back was fully facing me,

1154
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 1: so I got up and went to ask what the

1155
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 1: heckle just happened. The conversation was about something we lost.

1156
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:17,239
Speaker 1: My man did a whole and apparently she said, well,

1157
00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 1: maybe since you're home all day, you could look for it,

1158
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:22,240
Speaker 1: since he's busy all day in school.

1159
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 3: Oh what Wait? What what just happened? What was that?

1160
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 1: Basically they lost something and she was like, maybe since

1161
00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:31,239
Speaker 1: your home all day, you could look for it, since

1162
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:32,240
Speaker 1: he's busy all day with school.

1163
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 5: So like saying like, you should go look for it.

1164
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 1: And I thought it was fairly innocent when he told me,

1165
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 1: compared to some of the other things she said to me.

1166
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: But he said it was her tone that made it

1167
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:42,279
Speaker 1: something she didn't need to say. So back to the

1168
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: whole wedding invite list. Longer story short, I don't want

1169
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:48,360
Speaker 1: to invite her cause she sucks. I have been working

1170
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: a lot on my boundaries and again I don't want

1171
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:54,400
Speaker 1: anyone there who will cause drama or hasn't supported us

1172
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: in the past. Slash ben a doge douche canoe in

1173
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 1: any sense. But I fear when I brought that up,

1174
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 1: my partner wasn't exactly thrilled and thinks I'm being a

1175
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 1: bit harsh since we could be a good on good

1176
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:08,880
Speaker 1: terms when we get married. My problem is I'm not

1177
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 1: interested in reaching out because I didn't do anything to

1178
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 1: her to warrant such bizarre behavior, and she's too egotistical

1179
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:18,359
Speaker 1: to apologize or even realize she's been a jerk our

1180
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 1: whole relationship.

1181
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 5: So am I the a hole?

1182
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:23,360
Speaker 1: Were not wanting her at our wedding? There are some comments,

1183
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: there are some updates. What do we think to her?

1184
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 2: First of all, she's not so oblivious that she doesn't

1185
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 2: realize she's been being an a hole. She knows exactly

1186
00:49:30,080 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 2: what she's been doing.

1187
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 5: She's doing it on purpose.

1188
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:36,800
Speaker 2: She's been actively consciously choosing to be this way to you. Yeah,

1189
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 2: that is, and it is more than evident by the

1190
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:42,800
Speaker 2: way that she switches up whenever certain people are around

1191
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 2: versus when she's alone with you. You do not need

1192
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 2: this creature at your wedding.

1193
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 1: This is ugg says, protect your peace. Your wedding should

1194
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: be your most peaceful, joyous moment. And to have a

1195
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: sister that's like a dummy to just corrupt that.

1196
00:49:57,560 --> 00:49:59,799
Speaker 2: No, why would you even why would the sister even

1197
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 2: want want to go to the wedding. You don't like me,

1198
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 2: you don't like me, why do you want to be here?

1199
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:06,760
Speaker 1: But comment one, I think it's crazy to be planning

1200
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:08,720
Speaker 1: this far out. You don't even have a ring. Lots

1201
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 1: can happen in a couple of years, and it sounds

1202
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 1: like you might be that far out.

1203
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:14,400
Speaker 5: That's true, it is Wait, there's no engagement nothing.

1204
00:50:14,480 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, oh well then yeah, I said that I

1205
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:20,240
Speaker 1: wouldn't want her there either, But you have to accept

1206
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:22,319
Speaker 1: that it will be a big source of controversy in

1207
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 1: his family coming to girl. You're only twenty two, not

1208
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:27,799
Speaker 1: even engaged. This is currently a non issue. When the

1209
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:29,959
Speaker 1: time does come and you actually start planning your wedding

1210
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 1: after getting engaged, remember that this is his wedding too.

1211
00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 1: If he wants his sister there, she's going to be there.

1212
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 1: In four years of being together and her not liking you,

1213
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 1: you have just stayed away from her, or have you

1214
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 1: made attempts to be offend a befriender or even sat

1215
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 1: her down yourself and asked her why she does not

1216
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 1: like you. I will say not the a hole, but

1217
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 1: only because it's not even a real situation. Because you're

1218
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,040
Speaker 1: not engaged, but based on the fact that you're coming

1219
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 1: to Reddit, ask if you're an a hole over a

1220
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:55,759
Speaker 1: situation that you have essentially made up. I agree with

1221
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:59,160
Speaker 1: whomever has told you told you you're dramatic. Hell, maybe

1222
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:02,279
Speaker 1: Sarah doesn't like thank you because you're dramatic and comment three,

1223
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,719
Speaker 1: not the a hole. Talk to your fiance. They're not

1224
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:07,279
Speaker 1: even engaged though, so it's not your fiance. Whether he's

1225
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 1: fully on board with not inviting a sister. This is

1226
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 1: one situation where I feel comfortable saying he's already showing support,

1227
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:15,760
Speaker 1: so you can afford to give a little more leeway.

1228
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 1: Consider a compromise like a family sit down, especially after

1229
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:22,239
Speaker 1: your engagement. Yeah, if it's once you get engaged, then

1230
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:24,440
Speaker 1: it's a thing, right. Use this time to address your

1231
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,760
Speaker 1: feelings and expectations and make sure that you and hubs

1232
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:30,479
Speaker 1: display a united front and make sure Cis is there

1233
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 1: and maybe subject to no invitation due to bad behavior.

1234
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:36,400
Speaker 1: While you may not want to give her another chance,

1235
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 1: it might help foster peace for his sake. Set boundaries

1236
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 1: together on how much more he's willing to tolerate from her,

1237
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 1: ideally none, since he already recognizes her behavior is unacceptable.

1238
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 1: Your desire to protect your boundaries and avoid drama is

1239
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:52,319
Speaker 1: completely valid. It's your wedding and it's important that you

1240
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:55,240
Speaker 1: both you and your fiance feel comfortable with the guest lists.

1241
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:58,279
Speaker 1: You're already showing great communication and approaching this together as

1242
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:00,879
Speaker 1: a team will strengthen your relationship more. I sit down

1243
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:04,640
Speaker 1: might not fix everything, but it could bring clarity or

1244
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 1: closure whether she's invited her or not. And there's a

1245
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 1: little update. So someone in the comments asked how my

1246
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: partners we will call him Tom now parents are with

1247
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 1: Sarah Slash, my relationship with them to Tom's parents are

1248
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 1: pretty nice people. They're divorced and with other partners now,

1249
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 1: but I would say I have a decent relationship with

1250
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:25,439
Speaker 1: both of them. Me and Tom's dad had a really

1251
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 1: long conversation about life on Christmas. That kind of thing

1252
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,919
Speaker 1: settled my doubts about him possibly not liking me, because

1253
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:32,960
Speaker 1: he had a lot of really positive and very fatherly

1254
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,319
Speaker 1: things to say, sort of stop making me doubt. I

1255
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 1: struggle with feeling as though I'm not liked pretty often,

1256
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:40,960
Speaker 1: so that's part of why I feel crazy when it

1257
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:42,360
Speaker 1: comes to Sarah and his mom and I have a

1258
00:52:42,360 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 1: good relationship as well. She's kind of offered in a

1259
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:47,200
Speaker 1: way to fill in for my own mom, even though

1260
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 1: she doesn't know much of why my mom and I

1261
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:52,319
Speaker 1: are aren't on good terms. But Sarah has always been

1262
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:55,400
Speaker 1: the prize child, so Tom has always come second in

1263
00:52:55,440 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 1: the house. Has kind of been his whole life where

1264
00:52:57,280 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 1: he's been stuck in Sarah's world. Is honest constantly been

1265
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:03,239
Speaker 1: stuck in that shadowt The unfortunate part is I know

1266
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 1: Tom's mother has a strained relationship with Sarah because Sarah also.

1267
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 5: Just bullies her and Tom's father.

1268
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 1: Over the divorce and just random other things, and they

1269
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:13,480
Speaker 1: kind of cater to make her feel better when she's around.

1270
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 1: There's plans with her, everyone's expected to when she's around,

1271
00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:19,720
Speaker 1: or there's plans with her, everyone's expected to drop whatever

1272
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 1: they are doing, no matter what, and make sure to

1273
00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 1: see her. Tom's mom and dad kind of just let

1274
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 1: her be a bully and take the hits. And unfortunately

1275
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:29,359
Speaker 1: it's not really something I can bring up with them,

1276
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:31,759
Speaker 1: and I know it's not my place, so essentially he's

1277
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:33,520
Speaker 1: the only one who has a problem with me on

1278
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:36,280
Speaker 1: his side of the family. Also, I'd like to address

1279
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: the comments that they are kind of mean. I do

1280
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:39,680
Speaker 1: understand that this is kind of a weird question to

1281
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 1: be asking, and I did try to be transparent at

1282
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:45,600
Speaker 1: the beginning that I know that I'm not trying to

1283
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: create any drama out of it, and that's why I

1284
00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 1: came here to ask. By the way, if you don't

1285
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 1: want to create any drama with us, you should be

1286
00:53:51,800 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 1: listening to our podcasts all the time twenty four to

1287
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 1: seven by looking up Okay, story Time wherever you get

1288
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:59,359
Speaker 1: your podcasts, Spotify, Apple podcast, Google podcasts, wherever you gets.

1289
00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:00,760
Speaker 2: I want no drama.

1290
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:01,239
Speaker 3: It does.

1291
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 1: There's another relevant update, and I'll get straight into it,

1292
00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 1: because both of us are actively talking about what we

1293
00:54:07,320 --> 00:54:09,759
Speaker 1: want from our wedding, and right now as it sits

1294
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:12,040
Speaker 1: with both of us, we are ready to marry the other.

1295
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 1: It's not to say it'll be next month that he

1296
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 1: pops the question, but regardless when we do it, it

1297
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 1: isn't really what I was asking for advice on. As

1298
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 1: we sit both we want to be married by twenty

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Speaker 1: four that's the timeline we have for each other. And

1300
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Speaker 1: I do understand that all this is hypothetical and anything

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00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 1: can happen, but we have both been through it in

1302
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:31,080
Speaker 1: the last four years as a couple, we still both

1303
00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 1: know we are each other's person.

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Speaker 5: Please stop being rude.

1305
00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 1: I know it's a silly thing to be questioning right now,

1306
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,319
Speaker 1: but I wouldn't have asked if I didn't think it

1307
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 1: was worth asking.

1308
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Speaker 5: And that is where that story ends.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I guess it pays to be thorough, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And to be fair, it does seem like they're

1311
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Speaker 1: like at the point where, yes, he hasn't popped the question,

1312
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Speaker 1: but they're actively planning the.

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Speaker 5: Wedding, so it's like getting to them. It's getting to

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Speaker 5: that point. But that is where that story ends.