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All thanks to the 11 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 2: Live Nation. 12 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: Is Stay or Go. 13 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:36,959 Speaker 2: The The reason I think modeling has got to work 14 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 2: is because I see this in my nieces, And I 15 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 2: think the reason this is more pronounced to me is 16 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:43,720 Speaker 2: because I don't see them every day, you know, maybe 17 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 2: once a week or whatever. But like the stuff they 18 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,520 Speaker 2: pick up on is incredible. Like it's so I feel 19 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:52,199 Speaker 2: like that's that's how you got to do it when 20 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 2: they're not talking to you, is you just got to 21 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 2: model the behavior that you want because like. 22 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 1: Where did you come up with that? Like how did 23 00:00:57,880 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: you notice say that? 24 00:00:59,720 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 3: Man? 25 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 2: Like, no, it's crazy. It's like a little psychology experiment. 26 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: Hilsa. 27 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 2: Good morning, Hi, good morning him, welcome to say her go. 28 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 2: So you need some advice. This is about your boyfriend, 29 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:16,360 Speaker 2: and sadly last year you guys broke up out of nowhere, 30 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 2: like really truly. You know, we have people on the 31 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:20,319 Speaker 2: show all the time, all waiting by the phone and 32 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 2: like the self awareness is lacking. But you're like, one 33 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: day everything's fine, the next day he's breaking up with you. 34 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 1: That's how it. 35 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 4: Happened, literally, like it came out of left field. 36 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 2: I did not expect this, okay, And what was his 37 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 2: reasoning for breaking up with you? 38 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 4: Basically he told me that he wasn't in love with 39 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:43,040 Speaker 4: me anymore and then he just cut off all communication. 40 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 2: Hmm okay, So so oh wow, all right, so you 41 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 2: guys are together and then he comes to you and 42 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 2: see the out of love with you anymore. 43 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 1: Bye. 44 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 2: So you're upset about this and you have to move on, 45 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 2: and I assume you did that. 46 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:02,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, obviously I was devastated, but I had to pick 47 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 4: myself up and get my life together. So you know, 48 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 4: I started to move on, but like a few months ago, 49 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 4: he reached back out to me and he's like, oh babe, 50 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 4: I want to win you back, and I'll do whatever 51 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 4: it takes. 52 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 1: Yes, tails so old as time, Alyssa. 53 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:24,239 Speaker 2: The grass was in fact not greener elsewhere, right right? 54 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 4: So initially, like I told him, I wasn't sure that 55 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 4: I could do that, But you know, he's been trying 56 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 4: really hard and he seems to have changed. But like, 57 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:36,639 Speaker 4: so you know, slowly I've been letting heck in. 58 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 2: Wow, okay, so you're gonna take it back? So after 59 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 2: all this, you you you hear what he's saying. You 60 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 2: believe that he in fact maybe learned his lesson, or 61 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 2: at least you're willing to let him show you that. 62 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 2: So you you have slowly let him back in. So 63 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 2: where what do you need to know from us? 64 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:54,239 Speaker 5: Well? 65 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 4: You know, I he says he wants to be together, 66 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 4: he wants to get married, the whole thing. But like 67 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 4: my problem is like I'm having a hard time trusting 68 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 4: him and that like he won't just out of the 69 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 4: blue break up with me again. I think, yeah, yeah, 70 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 4: Like I just I just need advice as to like 71 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:16,240 Speaker 4: am I dumb to get back with him? It's not 72 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 4: like he cheated or he didn't he said he wasn't 73 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 4: with anybody in between, like us being separated so like, 74 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 4: but I still feel betrayed by him, and I just like, 75 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 4: I don't know if I can get over it. 76 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 2: Okay, I'd love to know what people have to say 77 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,239 Speaker 2: five five five one three five in our little group 78 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 2: therapy thing here, What is his justification? Like when he 79 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 2: comes back to you and says, I screwed up? Did 80 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 2: he get scared? Did do you think he thought maybe 81 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 2: he likes someone else better? I mean, does he is? 82 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 2: Did he explain to you why he was so abrupt? 83 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 2: Because I'm with you, like if someone's if I'm if 84 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 2: I'm invested in someone and they that abruptly can walk 85 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 2: away and then they come back and say, nah my bad, 86 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 2: then I'm probably always going to be you know, unless 87 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 2: you can justify why you did that in some way, 88 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 2: I'm probably always going to wonder when that she was 89 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 2: gonna drop, the next she's gonna drop, Like, what's the 90 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 2: next time you're gonna come to me and be like, eh, 91 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 2: I'm out again? 92 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 6: Right? 93 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 4: And like he didn't actually give me a definitive answer. 94 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: You gotta go? Why exactly you gotta go? You gotta go? 95 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:19,720 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I mean, this isn't you know, I'm not 96 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 2: currently licensed as a therapist. We're working on getting it back, 97 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,919 Speaker 2: but I you gotta go because if this dude didn't 98 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 2: have a very good reason why he was able to 99 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 2: discard you like that in that way, if he can't, 100 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 2: I got scared. I had a tragedy happen in my life. 101 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:37,359 Speaker 1: You know. 102 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 2: For example, I'll give you an example from my life. 103 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 2: Like I was dating a girl a few years ago, 104 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 2: and she was lovely and didn't do anything wrong. There 105 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,479 Speaker 2: were some things about it that were a little mysterious 106 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 2: to me, things that didn't really add up. And it 107 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 2: was moving at a pace that was a little abnormal 108 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 2: for me. I mean, we were talking shed live somewhere else. 109 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 2: There was talking about her moving across the country. And 110 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 2: this is not my talk, this was her talk. I'm 111 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 2: gonna move there, I'm gonna to live with you. We're 112 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 2: going to you know, do this and that. And I 113 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 2: liked her a lot, so I got it. Around that 114 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 2: same time, I lost two very close people to me. 115 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 2: I lost one of my closest friends and I lost 116 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:13,840 Speaker 2: someone else very very suddenly, and I just I retreated, 117 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:16,119 Speaker 2: Like I just it was too much, it was moving, 118 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 2: it too fast, of a pace. People in my life 119 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 2: that I cared about were just disappearing, you know, they died, 120 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 2: It wasn't any wrongdoing of their own, and I was 121 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 2: just overwhelmed and I just had to pull away at 122 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 2: that moment. Months later, I went back and explained all that, 123 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 2: and sadly this person was no longer interested, and that's 124 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 2: fine and fair, but I also felt, while I could 125 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:40,800 Speaker 2: have handled it better, I felt very justified. And this 126 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:44,599 Speaker 2: was like, this was two months old, and it was 127 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 2: moving at a very quick pace, and I felt abandoned 128 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 2: by a lot of people, and I just couldn't imagine 129 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:52,839 Speaker 2: putting putting my heart into something else only for someone 130 00:05:52,839 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 2: else to disappoint me or leave me, you know kind 131 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,719 Speaker 2: of thing. But for this that that woman was not 132 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,120 Speaker 2: willing to hear that that wasn't good enough for her, 133 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 2: and she moved on. And that's I completely understand that. 134 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 2: I also felt justified, not necessarily in a way I 135 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 2: handled it, but in the way that I was feeling. 136 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 2: But this dude has no explanation. He's just he just 137 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 2: left you hanging, and he's like, yeah, I don't know, 138 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,719 Speaker 2: I want you back now, that's not good enough. 139 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, you're right, I mean, it's it's hard because I 140 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 4: do love him, like I really fell in love with him, 141 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:26,280 Speaker 4: but I don't know that I could spend a lifetime 142 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:30,359 Speaker 4: just absolutely in the back of my mind worrying that, Okay, 143 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 4: today's going to be the day that he just is 144 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:33,840 Speaker 4: like tired of. 145 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 2: Me, you know, and knowing that he's able to be 146 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 2: that cold and calculated and not explain why. I mean, 147 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 2: what's going on? Is it a you thing? Is it 148 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 2: a him thing? It's probably a hymn thing? What is it? 149 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:45,040 Speaker 2: What happened? 150 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: Why? 151 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:46,839 Speaker 2: How are you going to work on it? How are 152 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:47,920 Speaker 2: you going to get better? Are you going to go 153 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 2: to therapy? Is this some kind of an abandonment thing? 154 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 2: What is it? And if he's not, if he has 155 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 2: no explanation, how do you trust this person? 156 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 4: You're right, You're absolutely. I mean that's not what I 157 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 4: wanted to hear, but it's what I need to see here. 158 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:06,160 Speaker 2: Let me get some phone calls on this. Listen, maybe 159 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 2: someone else will have a different perspective. But I appreciate 160 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 2: you a good luck, have a good day. 161 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 4: Thank you. 162 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 1: I don't know much. 163 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 2: I mean, I've been talking a bunch of but what 164 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 2: do you guys think. I mean, what does your gut 165 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 2: tell you? Is anyone in here of the mindset that 166 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 2: you can take this guy back with good conscience? 167 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 7: I wouldn't because she's already established what she feels. And 168 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 7: I think you should trust your gut feeling on most things. 169 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 7: You know, like you're trying to trick yourself into believing 170 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 7: something else, or that he's a different person. But he's 171 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 7: shown you who he is, and if you feel that way, 172 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 7: you should take that and leave. 173 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 8: I feel like she'll always wonder, though, And I think 174 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 8: that's the hard part, is like, or it would be 175 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 8: really difficult to walk away from someone that you loved 176 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 8: and wanted to be with. 177 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 1: And I wouldn't want that. 178 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 8: I would maybe try again, and if I got hurt, 179 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 8: it would be on me, so I didn't have to wonder. 180 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 2: I think it would be hard to give yourself to 181 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,840 Speaker 2: that the way that you once did with no explanation, right, 182 00:07:56,880 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 2: you know, again, if this guy can show grandma something, 183 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 2: if this guy wants right up with something, man, Grandma, 184 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 2: I missed my grandma, you know, because when I think 185 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 2: of you, I think of my nana, right, And I 186 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 2: was missing her a lot. 187 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 1: But you know, I'm over it. 188 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 2: Now give me something this very much and someone texted 189 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 2: this it very much gives to me that he thought 190 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 2: there was something better, went and realized there wasn't exactly 191 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 2: and then now he now, oh my bad because he 192 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 2: doesn't have an explanation, and that one's not going to work. 193 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: If he went to her and said, no, I there 194 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 2: was a shining new object that I was going to 195 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 2: chase after and now I decided I don't want that anymore. 196 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: That's not going to help his cause. 197 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 2: But he doesn't seem to have any other story, so 198 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like maybe if he wants 199 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 2: to get vulnerable and sit down and really like bear 200 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 2: his soul something. 201 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:45,440 Speaker 1: Right, make up dog dog, I miss my childhood dog. 202 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 2: You know we're whiteboarding here. We're going to need to 203 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 2: improve the story a little bit, but you know we'll 204 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 2: get there. Marabelle, Hi, good morning. 205 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 9: I are you? 206 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 3: Good morning? 207 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 5: I'm one of your thirteen listeners here. 208 00:08:56,840 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 1: Well, thank you. So what you hear this story? You 209 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 1: hear this woman? She was a guy. 210 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 2: He suddenly they were in love, she thought. He suddenly 211 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:07,200 Speaker 2: says I'm out no communication, and then he reappears, I'm sorry, 212 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 2: I'm gonna make it all right now makes sense. 213 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,680 Speaker 1: We don't know why. It's still no explanation. What do 214 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: you think? 215 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:16,440 Speaker 3: Absolutely, do not get back together with him. 216 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 5: He obviously show you his true colors. 217 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 3: It took you a while to pick yourself back up, 218 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:23,559 Speaker 3: and it is very hard to come back from when 219 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:27,800 Speaker 3: you're broken in a relationship. He obviously went no contact, 220 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 3: no communication, He could care less if you were okay, 221 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 3: and then all of a sudden he loves you again. Yeah, 222 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:36,079 Speaker 3: I don't think so. I think that you honestly, you 223 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 3: gotta follow your gut feeling. 224 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 5: Don't do this again. 225 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:41,200 Speaker 3: You do not want to fall back in that hole 226 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 3: where you're gonna have to pick yourself up again, especially 227 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:47,040 Speaker 3: if he's trying to get married with you. You cannot trust 228 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 3: a person who cannot go with you through sick and 229 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 3: thin and file through their struggles as supposed to just 230 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 3: running away from you every single time he feels like 231 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 3: he's there's something better on the other side. 232 00:09:57,480 --> 00:09:58,080 Speaker 1: It's very. 233 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 2: It is very much giving that his his whatever, whatever 234 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 2: his agenda is, is more important than yours. It's not 235 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:08,320 Speaker 2: an equal thing. And he's not willing to admit that 236 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 2: he fully that he made a mistake. And why that's 237 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:12,840 Speaker 2: the thing. Maybe he's saying he made a mistake, but 238 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 2: why help me understand why you were able to do 239 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 2: I think. 240 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 3: There was someone out there. There was he was probably 241 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 3: you know, going be for someone else, and that person 242 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 3: probably kicked him to the curve, and all of a sudden. 243 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 5: Now he wants to come back. I think that's what happened. 244 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:29,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's giving that. Thank you, Maraville, have a good day. 245 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 9: M M, have a good one. 246 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 1: It is giving that. 247 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 2: Uh hattag hot girls summer and somebody said, yeah, yeah, 248 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 2: get out there girl. 249 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:42,480 Speaker 1: Hey Rosie, Hey, hi Rosie. What do you think I 250 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:43,679 Speaker 1: think she should head out? 251 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:46,920 Speaker 5: No, like, do not stick for that. He broke up 252 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 5: with you, He hurt you out of nowhere, and like 253 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:51,680 Speaker 5: just wants to get back to you. I'm a feeling 254 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 5: that he shown somebody and then that's why he decided 255 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:57,719 Speaker 5: to break up with her, that didn't work out and 256 00:10:57,800 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 5: announced he wants to come back. I don't think that's cool. 257 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 5: I got it okay, And then for you to earn 258 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 5: that trust again and just to be okay with that, 259 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:09,439 Speaker 5: and I don't think that's going to end up working 260 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 5: out because she's going to comfortably have the doubt and 261 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 5: then trust issues. 262 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think you're right. I think you're right. 263 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 2: Thank you, Rosen. Have a good day. 264 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, glad you call it. Thank you for listening. Hi, 265 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: I'm ALEI good morning. 266 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 6: Oh that's done. 267 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 2: Hey great, thanks for callin, Thanks for listening. What are 268 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:26,319 Speaker 2: you think is going on here? Or what would you do? 269 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 6: I think it's like that thing you know, where you 270 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:31,679 Speaker 6: get in a relationship and it's like your exes all 271 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 6: have that like sixth sense that you know you're happy 272 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 6: or whatnot. So she absolutely needs to run hide. Just 273 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:42,680 Speaker 6: don't put yourself through it again, especially you know, I 274 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 6: agree with everything that's since said, Like I just can't 275 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 6: reason out like if he's not going to at least 276 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 6: give her some sort of conversation to get like an 277 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:52,800 Speaker 6: insight to his mind, like just like where his mind 278 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 6: was at when he broke it off. Like there has 279 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:57,160 Speaker 6: to be something. It can't just be I got bored. 280 00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:58,439 Speaker 6: And if it is that, then. 281 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 5: Like the horrible right him. 282 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 2: My guess is the real story is just is just 283 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 2: not justifiable. My guess is it is about another person 284 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 2: or something that he did swung and missed and failed 285 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 2: or whatever or thought the grass was greener, because if 286 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:15,360 Speaker 2: if it were something more emotional and the guy was 287 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:16,960 Speaker 2: willing to be vulnerable, then I think, you know, there's 288 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:19,079 Speaker 2: a chance, there's a chance somebody could hear you and 289 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:21,320 Speaker 2: realized that you were weak and made a mistake. But 290 00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:23,840 Speaker 2: the fact that there's no explanation. Either he's a narcissist 291 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 2: and doesn't care about you. It just expects that you'll 292 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 2: take him however he is, or somehow his problem was yours. 293 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 2: And again she didn't say any of that, so I 294 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 2: don't know if that's true, but it definitely is giving. 295 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 2: I don't have a good story for you. I just 296 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 2: I just want you back, and that's not good enough 297 00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 2: for me. 298 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 6: I love you, guys. 299 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:49,840 Speaker 1: Thank you, Emily, have a good day. Glad you called Jackie. Hi, Jackie, Hi, 300 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 301 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:51,520 Speaker 9: I love you guys. I'm so nervous. 302 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 2: I don't be nervous, love you too. But you get 303 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 2: the final say in this, this actually happened to you. 304 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 2: And then the dude came back, and then what happened. 305 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:02,679 Speaker 9: Yeah, so we broke up suddenly a few weeks into 306 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 9: the pandemic, who had made everything a lot worse. It 307 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 9: was super sudden. We got back together a year later, 308 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:10,000 Speaker 9: and he was like, I'm so sorry. I regret everything. 309 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 9: You know, I want to be better, but I never 310 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,200 Speaker 9: truly like learned to trust him fully again. I was, 311 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:18,760 Speaker 9: and I told him as much. When we broke up again, 312 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 9: I was like, I've been waiting for the other shoe 313 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 9: to drop for the last year, and I just it 314 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 9: was never the same, and so I just I think 315 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:30,079 Speaker 9: she's always going to be waiting for something to happen, 316 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:32,840 Speaker 9: and she's always going to be like ticktoeing around this guy, 317 00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:36,200 Speaker 9: especially if he hasn't given her like a true reason 318 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:38,840 Speaker 9: for having broken up in the first place. So like 319 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 9: it sucks, and I understand, like I totally understand where 320 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,560 Speaker 9: she is where she is right now, but I just 321 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 9: for me, it was too much to get. 322 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 2: Over, okay, And I'm sorry you mentioned this to go eventually, 323 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 2: you just you called it like. 324 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 9: We can't do this, yeah, basically because I was just 325 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 9: like it had just gotten to the point where I 326 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 9: was like, all right, we're going to see each other 327 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:01,000 Speaker 9: like once a week, and I would sudden, okay with that, 328 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:03,440 Speaker 9: and then I wasn't okay with that. It was just 329 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 9: once a week. So when I thought about why, you know, 330 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 9: we went from like I need to see you every 331 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:11,040 Speaker 9: day to just once a week. It was kind of 332 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 9: like something changed, and it just I always thought about 333 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 9: what he said while we broke up. Yeah, it was 334 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 9: just always in the back of my head. 335 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:23,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, makes makes sense. Thank you, Jackie. Have a good day.