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Speaker 5: Hey, sweeties, there is so much sigma centered around therapy

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Speaker 1: David and Tamblaman are here.

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Speaker 5: We're gonna take a dip dive into marriage, money, music,

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Speaker 5: and much more. David and Taylorman are one of gospel

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Speaker 5: music's most prominent power couples, with several musical and literary projects,

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Speaker 5: a stellar example of teamwork and managing marriage and business.

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Speaker 5: I'm really excited to talk to them about the keys

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Speaker 5: of cultivating and keeping a heavy marriage, the bounce between

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Speaker 5: working on screen and life off camera. But first, I'm

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Speaker 5: gonna spend some one on one time with a woman

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Speaker 5: of the hour to talk about her new album, Live, Breathe, Fight,

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Speaker 5: and much more. Tam, thank you so much for coming.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. First of all can we get into

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Speaker 1: how good you look?

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Speaker 3: What's this I'm trying I'm modeling after.

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Speaker 1: Get well, thank you, really good, thank you.

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Speaker 3: I'm just trying to stay healthy. You're trying to stay healthy,

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Speaker 3: and even with working on the new music, I'm just

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Speaker 1: That's beautiful when you.

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Speaker 3: Say looking at the body, but it's like mental. I'm

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Speaker 1: Body I see it.

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Speaker 5: going up and down, up and down. Yes's been one

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Speaker 1: Yes, oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: There's sometimes where I get on stage, I'm like.

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Speaker 3: That is he took the took it right out of

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Speaker 3: And that exactly because it's like, but once i get

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you said, it's not always good.

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Speaker 5: I have this challenge called that did you move to

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Speaker 5: The last few weeks, I feel like I haven't been

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Speaker 3: It's like you love people, but it's like you are

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Speaker 3: That's why I really stopped going to a major gym

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Speaker 3: This is no, you don't you look beautiful? You know,

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Speaker 5: I've noticed that you've really taken fashion to another level.

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Speaker 5: You have the Taileman collections.

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Speaker 3: like this. So this is the vein and the avenue

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Speaker 3: that I'm going to. But I'm into really heavily the shapewear,

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Speaker 3: You know, it ain't gonna take it out of right portion.

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Speaker 1: It's gonna hold you. That's what I love it.

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Speaker 3: And it's I wear it every day, And no joke, y'all,

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Speaker 3: I don't wear underwear. I just wear shapewear. Oh there

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Speaker 1: That's the secret.

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Speaker 3: it's been really really heavy and a lot of the

440
00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,359
Speaker 3: songs are just talking That's what I'm saying from the

441
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:20,439
Speaker 3: inside out, that I'm making sure that my mental space

442
00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 3: is good, that I'm keeping that I'm having peace of mind,

443
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,080
Speaker 3: so enough peace to just when I lay down to

444
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 3: night that I could rest, that I can rest in Him.

445
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:33,560
Speaker 3: And God has just really given us as a couple,

446
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:36,320
Speaker 3: even through the things, through the challenges that we were

447
00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 3: facing in the company with the family, just different things

448
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:43,840
Speaker 3: that I'm with you. I have not forsaken you. That

449
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:47,639
Speaker 3: you know everything that you're asking for, I'm here. And

450
00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 3: it's like soon as some things changed, it's like the

451
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:53,680
Speaker 3: largest start just stirring up, just different things with things

452
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 3: was just coming working if I behaved in our favor

453
00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:02,400
Speaker 3: for our good and I just I'm just so excited

454
00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:04,919
Speaker 3: about each of the songs. One song on there is

455
00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:08,800
Speaker 3: called Big Facts. But what happened is the Lord was like,

456
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 3: you have to examine yourself. Look in the mirror, take

457
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,879
Speaker 3: a look at yourself, face the facts about you because

458
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 3: a lot of times, a lot of us are trying

459
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:22,960
Speaker 3: to say to other people, Okay, well you need to

460
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 3: and you need to when a lot of times the

461
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,520
Speaker 3: work needs to begin with you. So the Lord let

462
00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:30,639
Speaker 3: me know in this album the process of it to

463
00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:33,200
Speaker 3: work on you and then I can do the work

464
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 3: around you. So you know, just listen, just hear what's

465
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,200
Speaker 3: being said. A lot of times it's not always to respond,

466
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,199
Speaker 3: but just take your time in what your response is

467
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 3: going to be, because a lot of times my response

468
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 3: is like what I did? You know, we just tend

469
00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:52,399
Speaker 3: to just go there. And the Lord has really given me,

470
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:55,399
Speaker 3: gave me a lot of peace, even though I was

471
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,480
Speaker 3: did a lot of weeping when I was recording it.

472
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:01,359
Speaker 3: I was crying just even talking the song through. Yeah,

473
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 3: and uh, you know, it's like, but I gotta but

474
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 3: I gotta finish, I gotta complete the work. So it's

475
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:11,480
Speaker 3: just yes, it's very therapeutic, so I think, you know,

476
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:14,239
Speaker 3: but a lot of the responses it's out now and

477
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,119
Speaker 3: a lot of the response that I got back as

478
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,879
Speaker 3: people saying these songs feel like affirmation and it's really

479
00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 3: helping me. It's on. One song is called Power, is

480
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 3: talking about the power of God that sometimes we forget

481
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,200
Speaker 3: that if we cast our cares on him, he got

482
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 3: out the power. Yes, he got He's in control, so

483
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 3: he's handling the things, all the things that you're trying

484
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 3: to do and to trust him. One song is Lord,

485
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:41,640
Speaker 3: I Trust You. So each title is it is hitting

486
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:44,879
Speaker 3: on issues and situations that a lot of us are

487
00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 3: dealing with absolutely So I came from a real place.

488
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 5: He did a real, real place talent. Thank you so much, guys.

489
00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 5: Up next we have joined us, David Man.

490
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 2: Yes see, that's why I become when we are, it's

491
00:23:58,080 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 2: like I'm not, I'm not, I'm either.

492
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 3: Miss That's so true that I'm okay with it.

493
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 6: I'm going with either way. I get to be next

494
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 6: to her, Yes, I love it.

495
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:11,439
Speaker 1: Thank you both for coming to join me. David.

496
00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 5: I know you and Tamla have a lot going on.

497
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 5: You actually help with her music, you help with everything.

498
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:17,560
Speaker 5: You actually wanted to text me and say, hey, we

499
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 5: need to get on keeping by the.

500
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: Sweetieh's strung this this man is everything.

501
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 2: What my initial text was, how proud and how happy

502
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 2: I am, Just like I'm just so happy because you know,

503
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 2: couldn't happen to a better person.

504
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:34,639
Speaker 6: So then I was like, you know, why don't we

505
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 6: just bring tam on? Like what, Yeah, she'll come. Yeah.

506
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 1: So thank you for absolutely no. I appreciate it.

507
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:46,719
Speaker 5: So I've known you both, I guess personally since twenty nineteen,

508
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 5: right before COVID hit, when Tyler was doing the Farewell

509
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:52,359
Speaker 5: tour and I was a costume designer for that.

510
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:54,119
Speaker 1: So that's and I really got to know you both.

511
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:55,679
Speaker 1: And actually it was.

512
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,880
Speaker 6: Before that you didn't say much. You'd just be sitting

513
00:24:57,920 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 6: there like this.

514
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 3: But you still when we still for it was still

515
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 3: when you do wardrobe.

516
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 1: Was still yeah, just laid back in the cut.

517
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:08,240
Speaker 6: That's what I like about you.

518
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 2: Just laid back in the cut and waited your turn,

519
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 2: waited like when your time came, you were like, let's rock.

520
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 5: But what I love about you both is that you

521
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 5: guys are exactly who you are on camera in real life,

522
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 5: because you know, sometimes you meet people and it's like, dang,

523
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 5: disappointed you wasn't.

524
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 1: Who I thought.

525
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 6: You mean?

526
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 1: Yes, oh Mygrantes.

527
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 6: Yeah, it happened to her big time. That was I

528
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:36,880
Speaker 6: won't say the name.

529
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 3: It was just I would.

530
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say.

531
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 2: With this one particular person, she grew up idolized.

532
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 1: Wow.

533
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:48,119
Speaker 2: And so this is when we were Kirk Franklin in

534
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 2: the family, We're doing our live recording. This particular person

535
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 2: is gonna be the special guest of our live recording.

536
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 1: We keep it prize got missed, and.

537
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 2: So she was like so hyped and geeked and it's like,

538
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 2: oh my god, I get to finally meet my oh

539
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:12,199
Speaker 2: my god, hey and it was like hey, and she

540
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:16,480
Speaker 2: was devastated. So I think that's why we treat people

541
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 2: like we treat you. Never know what a positive smile,

542
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 2: a hug he's gonna do for somebody, And so that's

543
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 2: why we're like we are.

544
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 1: Oh man, I love it.

545
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 5: So you too, like for me, y'all are epitome of

546
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 5: relationship goals. I just love y'all. I had you on

547
00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 5: my live show. We talked about relationships. You guys were

548
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 5: so transparent and funny was great. We had a ball, yes,

549
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 5: but I want to dive more into your relationship and

550
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 5: how you guys have with still the test of time,

551
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 5: with the ebbs and flows of relationships.

552
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: I know, I just as an older woman.

553
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 5: I talked to my parents and they're like, girl, yeah

554
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 5: we've been I'm like.

555
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 1: I thought it was perfect all the time.

556
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 5: No, yes, I want to know, like, what are some

557
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,360
Speaker 5: things you guys have gone through and how you made

558
00:26:58,400 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 5: it through those those things?

559
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:00,439
Speaker 3: You know?

560
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 2: I always tell people, Yeah, we're loving, we kind, we

561
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 2: love each other all that, but one thing we are

562
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 2: most is.

563
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 6: We're working progress.

564
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 2: Because we're working progress, we know that things are changing.

565
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 6: She's not the same woman. I'm married at twenty one,

566
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:15,679
Speaker 6: I'm not the same.

567
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 2: Man at twenty one. We were babies, and so we understand.

568
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 2: I understand she's not the same.

569
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 6: Yeah, we did. We grew up with each other.

570
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 2: We literally grew up with each other because there were

571
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 2: some times where we were.

572
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:37,119
Speaker 6: Like, you're not good, You're not a good person. And

573
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 6: so we grew up with each other.

574
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:42,439
Speaker 2: And you know, I realized at thirty five she was different,

575
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 2: forty five she's different. We're fifty eight. Now we're getting

576
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 2: to ride and the result we're now living the result of.

577
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 6: All of that.

578
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 2: And so, you know, how we survive in this industry

579
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:57,640
Speaker 2: is accountability.

580
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,440
Speaker 6: A lot of times people don't have account ability.

581
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 2: Simple accountability will take you a long way, you know,

582
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 2: because sometimes she'll check me.

583
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:09,520
Speaker 6: Like babe, and when I do hear what.

584
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 3: I say, say, man, my home, he was like you

585
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 3: you shouldn't have.

586
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 7: Then I was like, oh, even like now as we

587
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 7: go in our in our late fifties, and we we'll

588
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 7: have a different challenge now minopause, Yeah, and.

589
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 3: Put out streets.

590
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 1: Right.

591
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 6: We realized, like that's a thing.

592
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 2: You know, there are some couples out there that that

593
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 2: go yeah late in life, that you said, how is

594
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 2: somebody getting divorced thirty five forty years into their marriage?

595
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,720
Speaker 3: That has to be it. But I think what helped

596
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 3: us David when I start, you know, he could see

597
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 3: the start going through the change.

598
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 6: We start, what you noticed say it out your mouth.

599
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 3: He was like, damn you go. I was like, no,

600
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 3: I'm not, I'm not. But it's like he actually sit

601
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 3: and read up and research menopause. So he came back

602
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 3: and he understood it more. And I think that's what

603
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 3: happened with a lot of our friends that have divorced,

604
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 3: is the man didn't realize.

605
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:29,120
Speaker 6: What we think that we think they just want to

606
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 6: be that way. You just want to.

607
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 3: Act like it's such a crushing feeling, y'all. It's because

608
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 3: it's like you could be happy. Then all of a sudden,

609
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 3: it's like sadness or it's almost like not just the

610
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 3: heat that comes from it, but a sadness comes over

611
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 3: your body and it's like you're really not because I'm like,

612
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 3: I was just fine. I was on the bottom of

613
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 3: the floor.

614
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 6: You can be sitting.

615
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 2: Y'all, y'all, kissing and making love and then all of

616
00:29:58,120 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 2: a sudden she put.

617
00:29:58,800 --> 00:29:59,719
Speaker 6: A knife on you.

618
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 3: Now that's not.

619
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 6: No, I'm just kidding nobody, but.

620
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 3: It's it's just but it's something. It's it's a roller

621
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 3: coaster dealing with menopause. And the thing is is we

622
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 3: really don't talk about it a lot. My first lady

623
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 3: in my church, I was just with the print. I

624
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 3: was like, Lord, I gotta be before people, in front

625
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 3: of people. People are approaching me in some days.

626
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 6: You know.

627
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 3: Even my daughter she was like, oh Mama, if your

628
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 3: eyes could burn you set somebody one was. I was like,

629
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 3: I say, for real, She was like, yeah, telling your prey. Now,

630
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 3: Lord make me sweet because because it's like I don't

631
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 3: want it's like, you know, not even for those who

632
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 3: are watching today. It's like in case of a day,

633
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 3: come by and I don't greet you as nice. I

634
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 3: just want us to know as women. Just like when

635
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 3: you have you think having your monthly is rough, menopause

636
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 3: is say ten times worse than this.

637
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 8: I mean not that I agree, I'm just agreeing with you,

638
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 8: but but it is we can be rough, and all

639
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 8: of us deal with a different different ways.

640
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 1: I think it's there now, Like just so I'm like,

641
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: for the month but you have to.

642
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: Have somebody because it's a When she said I read

643
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 2: up and I literally read an entire book.

644
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 1: Oh wow, educated yourself menopause.

645
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 2: Yes, because I understood that. I thought it's it's a

646
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,720
Speaker 2: chemical imbalance. It is And I told her, and like

647
00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 2: I was telling her earlier today, I said, one of

648
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 2: the worst things you could tell a woman with menopause

649
00:31:57,720 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 2: is you got me.

650
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 3: My head ready radiator overheated.

651
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 6: Like nobody got got no menopause. You the one got menopause.

652
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 3: But my doctor told me.

653
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 7: I ain't in when your doctor ignorant and don't know

654
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 7: what she's talking about.

655
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 1: I see it. It's funny.

656
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 5: I'm I had forty two on Friday and thank you.

657
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 5: But around forty I started like sweating randomly, Like it

658
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 5: was just like I would get hot, and I carry

659
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 5: this fan with me everywhere, like because I get at

660
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 5: any moment, I can just like get hot and I

661
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 5: can get excited about something to get warm. And Tyler

662
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 5: makes fun of me because I always have that fan

663
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 5: and I'm always asking for ice.

664
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: Yea, I was like a bucket of ice from my

665
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 1: water to keep the ice cold, and a fan at

666
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: all on set, they.

667
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 3: Know they ain't got to have no ice. Water was like, yes,

668
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 3: I do. Yeah, but it's that's one thing. See, well

669
00:32:57,680 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 3: that's that helps me because I didn't know the other

670
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 3: people ice. But I'm asked for I Well, I you said, yes,

671
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 3: I just need a couple of ice. So that is

672
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 3: so true.

673
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 1: So I'm not alone.

674
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 6: We've definitely learned.

675
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: We've had to learn, especially in everything that comes with

676
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 2: this business, to make sure that we're solid, we're tight,

677
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 2: and just it's a lot of stuff coming. I mean,

678
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 2: you know, you knowing this game, you know, you have

679
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 2: guys always trying to you know, what.

680
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 6: You look while you look, try to get them.

681
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 2: Dms like saying, say especially when you made it know

682
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 2: that you know I'm yeah, I'm a Christian girl. They

683
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 2: play on that, Oh I'm looking for a night the

684
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 2: Christian girl that love the Lord you.

685
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 6: Look like.

686
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 2: And as Christians out here, you really got to be

687
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 2: ready for, you know, stuff that goes on.

688
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 6: She has prison ministries that be writing her.

689
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:57,959
Speaker 1: The prison prison boys. Oh my goodness, they love our shows.

690
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 1: That's all they watching. And I was at the Minnesota game.

691
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 5: I had to sing the anthem I'm walking across the

692
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 5: street and this guy had a mask on.

693
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: He goes Fatima and I was like, yeah, he goes man.

694
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:10,240
Speaker 1: I used to watch you every week in prison.

695
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 2: I was like, what, Yes, they talking about how they

696
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:20,839
Speaker 2: want to. I'm like, let me tell you, you ain't

697
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 2: going to It's good, you ain't gonna get none of it.

698
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm not.

699
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:27,360
Speaker 6: Supposed to sell this.

700
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 2: This is.

701
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 6: You better just keep particizing.

702
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: Yes, that's how you got so funny. You mentioned that

703
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:40,760
Speaker 1: we deal with a lot in this industry.

704
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:43,760
Speaker 5: I know for me as a Christian woman navigating the industry,

705
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 5: and I'm pretty new in this space, but I know

706
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 5: that there are deal breakers and boundaries that I have

707
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 5: as you guys have navigated it, what have been some

708
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 5: some some deal breakers and some boundaries that you set

709
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 5: for yourselves within the industry.

710
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 3: Well, like me because of especially with being in gospel

711
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 3: music and just trying to be an example. We're not perfect,

712
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 3: but you know some some things like have been presented

713
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 3: to us, like in the script, like what they want

714
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:15,240
Speaker 3: us to curse? And I was like, that's not that's

715
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 3: just not where I'm going. I can't say that for

716
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:18,680
Speaker 3: anyone else.

717
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 1: You don't cuss, you don't say no curse words that

718
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:23,319
Speaker 1: is so good.

719
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 3: Nigga is my cousin for years, how I have tried

720
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 3: to give He was like taming to tell me I

721
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 3: never cossed each other, y'all got I was like, no,

722
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 3: we don't talk to each other like that. But when

723
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 3: I was younger, between eighteen twenty, I had I had

724
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 3: it bad because you know, my mama was straight coaching.

725
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 2: Twenty because I didn't need because that was a deal break.

726
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 2: I don't reason I on cussings because I'm so holy

727
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 2: and all that.

728
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 6: My mama used to cuss a lot.

729
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 2: So I just never been a custoing like you will

730
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:10,080
Speaker 2: probably go be around the years and never hear me cuss.

731
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:10,800
Speaker 1: That's amazing.

732
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 2: But and so I didn't like ladies that just need

733
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 2: a lot of cussing.

734
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 3: But I was good at it. I know how to

735
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 3: put them together. Listen, and I mean put them together?

736
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:22,279
Speaker 1: Right?

737
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 6: Did you not? Did you know how to fight?

738
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 9: I didn't have to have brothers answer no, I didn't

739
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 9: have to fight.

740
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 6: You could say, but you can't fight.

741
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 3: But I but I didn't.

742
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: I just never was.

743
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 3: So I mean after that in our relationship now, I

744
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 3: mean I have said a couple of words when my

745
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 3: just talking to my kids saying they was like, Mama,

746
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 3: you don't know how just jokeingm.

747
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 1: I just don't like let me hear.

748
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 3: That's so sad for somebody that just won't you top.

749
00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 5: Period give me what. I was like, No, yeah, mine,

750
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 5: my boundary is nudity. Like that's one thing I just

751
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 5: won't There's certain body parts I'm not willing.

752
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:21,279
Speaker 3: Yeah everybody, Yeah, but I will cut, Yes, you will cut.

753
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: I will cut. I got a custom spirit I gotta

754
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 1: work on.

755
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 3: He's still working on. I'm still working.

756
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:28,319
Speaker 1: He's still working on that.

757
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:30,240
Speaker 6: Don't make me better than you because I don't cuss.

758
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 6: Let me tell you all. I will fight, but I

759
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 6: will in the face in the minute.

760
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 3: But I'm working to pray for him.

761
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 2: The Lord is working on me just because I don't

762
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 2: do that.

763
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 6: No, I don't have something again, Yes.

764
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:50,919
Speaker 5: Because we look, I feel like the Christian community will

765
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 5: judge you.

766
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 1: We make certain sins worse than others just because that's all.

767
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:58,400
Speaker 6: You ain't gonna go to jail for doing that. I

768
00:37:58,440 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 6: can go to jail for mine.

769
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 2: So right, So I've learned to just put these hands

770
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 2: on in my pocket and just be like this.

771
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 3: You know what all have to come ourself. It's like,

772
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 3: but you know when yes, that's my thing is. It's

773
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 3: like some people like I just can't stop on. Yes

774
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 3: you can because you really know. Sometimes certain places that

775
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:18,840
Speaker 3: you're you know it, don't.

776
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 1: Even don't even come Oh you're right.

777
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 3: But then there's certain places you step and you'd be.

778
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 9: Like, you know, you just I'll just come out easily,

779
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 9: you know, when it's like something that we all can

780
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 9: work on, but that.

781
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 6: I wouldn't slap somebody that's like six.

782
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 1: Five and three hundred pounds.

783
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 6: Like I somebody was five eleven. Man, No, I wouldn't.

784
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 1: Take your bat.

785
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 6: That's right, But it's good.

786
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 5: You know what I love about you too, that you

787
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,399
Speaker 5: guys can laugh and be serious. I've seen you both

788
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 5: working and focused, but I love how you guys can

789
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 5: laugh or there moments you said, sometimes he just do

790
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 5: too much to me, David.

791
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 3: It's hard for me to be mad at him. I

792
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:08,400
Speaker 3: can imagine because she'll tell you I do, and I

793
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:10,359
Speaker 3: just want to go just I don't get mad at

794
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 3: For the record, Yeah right, I don't get mad. Don't

795
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:17,360
Speaker 3: you You're lie? You straight up you straight up line

796
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 3: because you do. I've been telling me so you do

797
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 3: get mad at me. I know you get upset. You're

798
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 3: not mad, but maybe you get upset with me, because.

799
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:28,359
Speaker 6: When did you hear me get mad?

800
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 3: When did you see me get madoul? Because your eyes

801
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,879
Speaker 3: will get read and it's like you're kind of going

802
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 3: to like not saying I just do like this.

803
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:40,399
Speaker 6: I'm not saying to you nothing, but I don't never

804
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 6: be like.

805
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 3: You don't do that. But you're just going to the

806
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 3: com like, Okay, I'm just.

807
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 1: Correct yourself.

808
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 6: But that's upset speak.

809
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 3: Let me hear you say, you just like you be

810
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 3: doing me.

811
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:56,879
Speaker 7: Hear me here you said, yeah, never get mad.

812
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 3: But I do get upset with him, and I'm just like,

813
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 3: she can let me have it time.

814
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 6: When that when that mental pause kicked in. We riding

815
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:10,760
Speaker 6: in the car one time and we said.

816
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 3: I'm trying to come and tip.

817
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:12,399
Speaker 2: On my show.

818
00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 6: We're riding the car and you know, the whole yelling thing.

819
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 2: You're gonna yell at me. We can't talk. We're not

820
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 2: gonna communicate. It's just not the way we communicating.

821
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 6: Yeah, well, she going out.

822
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 2: If you're gonna yell at me, we're not talking, and

823
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 2: why are you yelling? She gave the dumbest excuse ever

824
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 2: known to men.

825
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 3: It was not dumb.

826
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:37,880
Speaker 6: It was there. She said, I'm yelling at you because

827
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:41,840
Speaker 6: I'm a soprano. She knew at the time that was

828
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 6: a dumb answer. She's gonna stop. You knew you can

829
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 6: just yell at I just go. Yeah.

830
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 3: I was at the top. I was at the top

831
00:40:56,640 --> 00:41:02,840
Speaker 3: of my brain because I I can get it louder.

832
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 3: So we have some good times. So you know, our journey,

833
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 3: we've had rough patches, but our journey, he's made me

834
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:17,359
Speaker 3: happier than he's made me sad. So it's really been

835
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 3: it's been a wonderful ride. You know, we are working progress.

836
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 3: But our job and our call is to we know,

837
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 3: is to hang tight, hang together, and to just show

838
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 3: other people that we can do this thing. We know

839
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 3: that's what we're called to do. And it's like that

840
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 3: is what we're working toward, to not be perfect, but

841
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 3: to just give encouragement that it can't happen and you

842
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:45,600
Speaker 3: can be happy in this thing.

843
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 2: And even when when those times come come how to

844
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,720
Speaker 2: recover because we've had to recover.

845
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 6: There's been some times when it's like, wow, this is shaky.

846
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 5: I want to talk about that because a lot of

847
00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 5: times I feel like we anetize and glamorized relationships.

848
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: Like yours, where we're like, oh my god, that's exactly.

849
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 5: What I want, but we don't know how to recover

850
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 5: when things get because it's gonna happen.

851
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: Can you like share a moment where you had to

852
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 1: really recover from something our our.

853
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 3: Want relationship that well, one point that we talk about

854
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 3: is one of our daughters. We didn't find out that

855
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:23,959
Speaker 3: she was ours till she was five years old.

856
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 1: Wow.

857
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 3: So when David, that was a really hard But we

858
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 3: had been married, but I knew of the girls.

859
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 6: Let me get because we shared this on the Breakfast Club.

860
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 2: Somebody say he cheated on her before we got married,

861
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 2: go back and only go to some party commitment.

862
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 3: Yes, so it is so funny, but that was really

863
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:52,040
Speaker 3: the hardest because our relationship we're blended family. We have

864
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 3: two together. He had two he said from a previous argument,

865
00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 3: and we raised my niece. So when he came and

866
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 3: told me, because they came and served in papers that

867
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 3: he had to go to court and all that kind

868
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 3: of stuff. So when he found out he told me,

869
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 3: and I was like, I don't know, because you know,

870
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 3: the first baby. We've been best friends. We started our friends.

871
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 3: I was there at the hospital with him when she

872
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 3: was born. I mean stayed the whole twenty one hours

873
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 3: with him.

874
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 6: Now mine, she wasn't my girlfriend. She was my friend

875
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 6: who was there just happened to be with men. People

876
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 6: got it so mixed up and just go. I told him,

877
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 6: go read the book Us against the World and you'll

878
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 6: get all of this.

879
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:40,719
Speaker 3: Story, each part. But the thing is is I I

880
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 3: loved him. I sit there as a friend. And then

881
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 3: once we got married and he, you know, came with

882
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 3: the news about the second daughter. I was like, I

883
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 3: don't know if I can do this, and you know,

884
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:57,200
Speaker 3: the mama was not the best. I'm just gonna be honest.

885
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 3: We wouldn't in like the best of friends, even though

886
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 3: I knew her. Even before he knew her.

887
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: I knew.

888
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 2: And it's because we were all we were all young

889
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 2: and figure out in.

890
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 3: The same neighborhoods. It's just it's just funny how life goes,

891
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:13,839
Speaker 3: how even you can be knowing the same people and

892
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 3: not even know that these that person was connected. Yes, absolutely,

893
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 3: so that's kind of how that happened. But it was

894
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 3: really rough for me. To accept her at the.

895
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:28,839
Speaker 2: Moment, and I felt, when you back up her deal

896
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 2: was when she got married, she said I want a

897
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 2: guy kids, and then because I didn't want to have

898
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,319
Speaker 2: to be dealing with that, yeah, and so here I

899
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 2: had one yes.

900
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,279
Speaker 6: And then she go to work and come back home

901
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 6: with another one from work.

902
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:51,320
Speaker 10: Come on, I got she already big and pot trained,

903
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 10: like what and.

904
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 2: Just that was a moment that our marriage was like

905
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 2: one of my biggest fears in life. One of my

906
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 2: biggest fears in life is losing my family. And so

907
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:08,799
Speaker 2: for her to say I'm not gonna be able to

908
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 2: do this, setting into like a tail spind of like, oh.

909
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 3: My god, he says, leave me. So and then he

910
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 3: sent me down and he started talking to me and

911
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 3: he was like, I just want you to know that

912
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 3: it's always He did the thing like this where he

913
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 3: separated and he was like, it's me and you, and

914
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:31,839
Speaker 3: then it's them, it's everybody else. So he said, I'll

915
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 3: never put you out there where you have to make

916
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 3: the decision, or I'm gonna make the decisions them over you.

917
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 3: He says, always gonna be us and then them.

918
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 6: Yeah, I love it so.

919
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 3: And by him reassuring me, just for those the listeners

920
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 3: and watchers. He reassured me that I was his number

921
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,479
Speaker 3: one and that has always gave me comfort, and he's

922
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 3: always done that. He's never showed me anything different. He's

923
00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 3: the same. Love has always been there, And if anything

924
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 3: went down with the girls and their moms, he was like,

925
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 3: you gotta talk to me, you need to It's like

926
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,319
Speaker 3: he was all we were involved in everything.

927
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 2: Just so people don't get it twisted, because I know

928
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 2: some people I read in the comments got to twist.

929
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 6: It's not that my daughters were you know, we were.

930
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 3: I was fine with the kids.

931
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 2: I know the order of this because my daughters and

932
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: they're gone in with their own families, and if we

933
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 2: haven't been a solid force and been a force that

934
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:33,880
Speaker 2: were together, then that thing would have broken up.

935
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,280
Speaker 6: And guess we would have been by themself, daddy.

936
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,720
Speaker 2: So I had to make sure we were solid before

937
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 2: we could even deal with those So yeah, so it

938
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:44,279
Speaker 2: wasn't that my daughters, you know, Oh he picked this,

939
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:47,759
Speaker 2: He picked over his. I just made sure I know

940
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 2: the divine order that God wanted. I made sure that

941
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 2: we were together then I.

942
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 3: Could and so that that's that's one of a great

943
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 3: hard part, a hard one for us. And even when

944
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 3: it came to if I can say this quickly, you

945
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 3: know we're moving. When it came to the parents, because

946
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 3: sometimes when a lady, when a girl marries a man

947
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:13,360
Speaker 3: and then he has his mom, sometimes with the mom,

948
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 3: she feels like you're taking a son. So he had

949
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 3: to even establish that in real life. And he stood

950
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 3: in the place she was like, look, you were the

951
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 3: first woman in my life. She's the last lady in

952
00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 3: my life. So it's like he has really made everybody

953
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 3: understand where our positioning is. Yes, without picking and choosing.

954
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:37,400
Speaker 5: What you're having to do it. Yeah, a lot of

955
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 5: times women can feel alone in that. Yeah, when a

956
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:42,279
Speaker 5: man doesn't step up and say, hey, she's my number

957
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 5: one and this is my priority.

958
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:46,400
Speaker 1: Everything else has a fall line and be there.

959
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:47,240
Speaker 3: To take care of you.

960
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:50,360
Speaker 2: This is that is something really with me and that

961
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 2: we have to we got to bridge that.

962
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 6: Gap, address addressed, to bridge the.

963
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 2: Gap and address it. It's not going anywhere. She's not

964
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 2: going anywhere. I mean, he's not going anywhere. So like

965
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 2: I like she said, I literally said, listen, both of y'all,

966
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 2: don't you say nothing to me about her.

967
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,840
Speaker 6: Don't you say nothing to me. She's the first woman

968
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:11,400
Speaker 6: that was in my life and this is going to

969
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:13,319
Speaker 6: be the last woman in my life. I'll have to

970
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:15,680
Speaker 6: figure this out now, fight it out.

971
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 2: No, No, And and they kind of like, wow, okay,

972
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:24,839
Speaker 2: let's figure this out.

973
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:28,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's one to lose you either. That's real.

974
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

975
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 1: I love that. Now.

976
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 5: You guys are together a lot, and I like my space.

977
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 5: So I want to know how do y'all find time

978
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 5: because you're all you're always together.

979
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 1: Do you need a long time or y'all just around

980
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:40,359
Speaker 1: each other?

981
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'll go get my nails, dumb or I'll

982
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:47,359
Speaker 3: just go sit, go shopping on something. But I do

983
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 3: I have to have it, he says he doesn't because

984
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 3: David is a homebody. Okay, but me, I'll take off her.

985
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 3: He was like, where you going. I'm going to do

986
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:58,160
Speaker 3: this and I'm going to do that. He said, I'll

987
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:01,879
Speaker 3: be here when you get back. So I do. I

988
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 3: do do the separation thing for a minute, to just

989
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:06,839
Speaker 3: go through my nails feet, you know.

990
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:11,399
Speaker 1: A lot, a lot sometimes he can't be, but you can.

991
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 6: Be a lot too.

992
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 3: I'm gone, but it's not. But it's to the degree

993
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 3: of not it's not overwhelming, but I just just want

994
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,240
Speaker 3: that time just for myself to gather my own thoughts.

995
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 3: Even sometimes I go maybe sitting to U two hours.

996
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:31,360
Speaker 3: It's just I just going there and I want it

997
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 3: dark and I just want.

998
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 1: It to be me.

999
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:36,760
Speaker 2: But we have to hear from each other every two hours.

1000
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:37,359
Speaker 1: Oh that's good.

1001
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:40,279
Speaker 6: Yeah, I have to know that you're good. Okay, you're good,

1002
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 6: all right? Do you think?

1003
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 3: And if I miss it, like, what's the problem?

1004
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:49,600
Speaker 6: Two hours? It's just to know that you're good, You're okay,

1005
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:50,279
Speaker 6: you all right?

1006
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 1: That's like that.

1007
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 5: I'm with that because I do feel like sometimes like

1008
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:55,960
Speaker 5: if I'm dating someone and they don't check on me,

1009
00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 5: it's like, at least just know that I'm okay, Like

1010
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:00,240
Speaker 5: if we haven't gotten the talk because we're busy.

1011
00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:01,719
Speaker 1: At the end of the in the beginning of the

1012
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 1: day and at the end.

1013
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 5: Of the day, at least, like make sure I'm good

1014
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:05,280
Speaker 5: because anything can happen.

1015
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 6: You just never know.

1016
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:10,400
Speaker 3: Each like every everywhere you know, depending on you know,

1017
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:12,799
Speaker 3: to make sure in case of something happened, I know

1018
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 3: where to start looking for you, or I know what

1019
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 3: she says she was gonna be, so she should be

1020
00:50:17,280 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 3: in this vicinity.

1021
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 6: Yes, Like for me, I don't.

1022
00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:24,520
Speaker 2: And I just recently started doing myself time when I

1023
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 2: went to therapy. That was one of the first things

1024
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 2: he said, one of the first things that you have to.

1025
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:29,120
Speaker 6: Learn to do.

1026
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 2: And when he said this, I was like, what, you

1027
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:33,640
Speaker 2: got to learn to be more selfish.

1028
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 6: And I was like, huh, I say selfish.

1029
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 2: I can't be selfish, and so you got to learn

1030
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 2: to be more selfish.

1031
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:41,399
Speaker 6: You've given yourself to.

1032
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 2: So many people you don't have anything else to give.

1033
00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:46,400
Speaker 2: And I was like, well, how am I going to

1034
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:49,279
Speaker 2: be selfish? And you know the weirdest thing. I went

1035
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 2: to a Chick fil A that day and I usually

1036
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:54,440
Speaker 2: get my food to go so I can go and

1037
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 2: I sit at the table and I call her like

1038
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 2: a little kid.

1039
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 6: I'm eating by myself.

1040
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 3: Growing up.

1041
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 6: And it's just and that's just I had to learn.

1042
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 2: We bought this place and I went out and spent

1043
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 2: the night by myself.

1044
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 6: That that's a big thing.

1045
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never stayed by myself, wow, And so it

1046
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 2: was a big thing for me to go out and

1047
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:18,720
Speaker 2: spend the night by myself.

1048
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:20,280
Speaker 6: And I was like, we bought a wrench.

1049
00:51:21,239 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 3: It's like it's getaway place.

1050
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 1: That's amazing.

1051
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 6: And I was like, Okay, that's enough. You need to come.

1052
00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:29,480
Speaker 6: Bring this warm flesh back by dad, bring me that

1053
00:51:30,200 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 6: I do it too long.

1054
00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so good.

1055
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 5: You touched on therapy and mental health is something I

1056
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 5: love to talk about.

1057
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:39,399
Speaker 1: I just started therapy I got.

1058
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 5: I started during COVID and it was I wasn't taking

1059
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 5: it serious because I didn't really trust the therapist, so

1060
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 5: I wasn't being honest with her.

1061
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 1: So I'm like, this isn't working.

1062
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 5: And then I tried it again and I started opening

1063
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 5: up and it really started helping.

1064
00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 3: Another therapy, it's a second, it was a different lake O.

1065
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:55,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, that really made me feel safe.

1066
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:57,319
Speaker 3: And I think that's what a lot of people we

1067
00:51:57,400 --> 00:52:01,760
Speaker 3: need to realize. You may not be comfortable with that person.

1068
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 3: After you get there, you don't have to stay. Yeah,

1069
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 3: you can. You can pick and choose where you want

1070
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 3: to go.

1071
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 1: And it's right, yeah without all the saying, but it is.

1072
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 5: It is very intimate because you're like tell them everything, right,

1073
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:14,799
Speaker 5: But like, at what point did you realize, you know,

1074
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:16,320
Speaker 5: I do need to go talk to somebody because a

1075
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:18,319
Speaker 5: lot of us, especially as we get older, we get

1076
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 5: more stuck in our ways. We don't feel like we

1077
00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:21,759
Speaker 5: need to talk to any more like you got it

1078
00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 5: figured out at one point where you guys like you

1079
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:25,320
Speaker 5: know what, I do need to talk to somebody.

1080
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:28,360
Speaker 2: I think for me, when I found myself after COVID,

1081
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 2: I had given so much of myself and mine wasn't

1082
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 2: the usual suspects. The reason I found myself use your

1083
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 2: usual suspects as finances and your marriages in trouble. We

1084
00:52:39,640 --> 00:52:42,399
Speaker 2: were in the strongest place that we been, but I'd

1085
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,960
Speaker 2: given so much. I make sure she was good, make

1086
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,040
Speaker 2: sure the kids are good, make sure my mom, make

1087
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:49,879
Speaker 2: sure everybody was around me was good. And I sit

1088
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:52,000
Speaker 2: and looked one, what.

1089
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 6: Have you done for you?

1090
00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:56,000
Speaker 2: And I you know, when you have to start like, well,

1091
00:52:56,680 --> 00:53:00,359
Speaker 2: you know, I bought a truck. It's just like nothing

1092
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:03,319
Speaker 2: for yourself. And so I went and sat and, like

1093
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 2: I say, he was just like, you have got to

1094
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,759
Speaker 2: take care of you. And I finally broke down and

1095
00:53:08,800 --> 00:53:12,840
Speaker 2: told her. I said, I think I'm depressed. You noticed

1096
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:15,720
Speaker 2: I'm sitting in my office and I couldn't even create.

1097
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:20,399
Speaker 2: Usually I'm creating something for something else and just putting you.

1098
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:23,600
Speaker 6: Know, And I couldn't in my brain. I was just blocked.

1099
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:26,799
Speaker 2: And I finally told her and it was just like,

1100
00:53:27,239 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 2: first of all, telling her was a big release, and it.

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00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:34,839
Speaker 3: Was just like me, I can imagine because I was like,

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00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 3: the reason why I say crushing guys is I didn't

1103
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:40,879
Speaker 3: notice it. I didn't see it. It's like I kept

1104
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 3: asking him, is he okay? And David's answers cool and good,

1105
00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:50,520
Speaker 3: So I'm like, you sure, Yeah, I'm good. So it's

1106
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:53,919
Speaker 3: like I said, I was asking you and you kept

1107
00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 3: telling me you were good. I said, why not just

1108
00:53:56,800 --> 00:53:57,520
Speaker 3: tell me then?

1109
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 6: But he was like, because that's the answer, superman. Give

1110
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 6: I'm good. I got the I'm good, leave my camp

1111
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:06,319
Speaker 6: alone and let me do what I do.

1112
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 2: You know.

1113
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 1: And uh.

1114
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:09,719
Speaker 3: And then I didn't see that that I didn't see

1115
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 3: through that he wasn't okay. So that made me really

1116
00:54:13,880 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 3: weep and really just I just started asking for forgiveness

1117
00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:22,440
Speaker 3: because I was like, I missed it, you know, I mean,

1118
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:26,360
Speaker 3: you know, God forbid, you just did something to yourself

1119
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:30,319
Speaker 3: and I didn't. I didn't see it. So my thing

1120
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:33,799
Speaker 3: is now, y'all, if somebody or you feel like they're

1121
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:36,880
Speaker 3: not in that place, just don't be afraid to just

1122
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:39,560
Speaker 3: go back and double check, go back and double check

1123
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 3: on that person because they really may need to get

1124
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:46,879
Speaker 3: that hug, or to just have you just sit there

1125
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 3: and just listen.

1126
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 6: You will be surprised.

1127
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:54,440
Speaker 2: What a hug just like a minute, will do we

1128
00:54:54,480 --> 00:54:54,879
Speaker 2: do that?

1129
00:54:58,600 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 6: It's just a hug.

1130
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:03,799
Speaker 2: And I told you I'm hugging you and making I'm

1131
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 2: hugging you with my heart. And once I started doing that,

1132
00:55:07,680 --> 00:55:11,880
Speaker 2: I'm just like, hey, yeah, I sit and I actually

1133
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:15,719
Speaker 2: hug and doing that. You will you will be surprised.

1134
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 3: It's like it's like if it's like the weight falls

1135
00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 3: off your body. It's like you can actually feel the

1136
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:23,640
Speaker 3: way it's not. You know how sometimes if you get

1137
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 3: a good cry out, it's like you feel ten pounds.

1138
00:55:27,320 --> 00:55:30,560
Speaker 3: Like it's a hug does the same thing. And sometimes

1139
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:33,520
Speaker 3: some people be like, I don't want one, but they really,

1140
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:34,800
Speaker 3: they really do. They do.

1141
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 1: They need it?

1142
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:36,719
Speaker 2: They need it.

1143
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:37,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1144
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,920
Speaker 5: My therapist tells me, she goes when you're getting a

1145
00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:42,320
Speaker 5: shower in the morning, She's like, take time to hug yourself.

1146
00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:45,799
Speaker 5: Oh that's yeah, yeah, because she's like a lot of

1147
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:48,840
Speaker 5: times we don't love on ourselves because we're so busy

1148
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:51,360
Speaker 5: loving on everyone else. So that's something I try to

1149
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 5: take a few minutes or not a minute, but like

1150
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 5: a few moments to really just sit in like I

1151
00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:59,920
Speaker 5: love you, I love you, yeah.

1152
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:02,239
Speaker 2: And it's just that's you know, once I realized and

1153
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:06,160
Speaker 2: just found a safe space and my therapist after that,

1154
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:08,480
Speaker 2: I pay you to talk to me like this.

1155
00:56:11,520 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 6: Why you got to talk to me like this? But

1156
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 6: you gotta have a therapist that's gonna be honest.

1157
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:20,799
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And you know, he was telling me, part of

1158
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:24,200
Speaker 2: your family's problem is you, and I was like, I

1159
00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:25,160
Speaker 2: ain't coming back.

1160
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:29,919
Speaker 5: I want to hear this, but he was right.

1161
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:33,880
Speaker 2: Part of the problem was with me is I'm a fixer.

1162
00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:35,920
Speaker 2: Sometimes she don't need me to.

1163
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 6: Fix, she just need me to listen.

1164
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:41,439
Speaker 2: But she has to be careful what she says out

1165
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:45,600
Speaker 2: of her mouth because the minute she says I'm gone.

1166
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:50,359
Speaker 3: I was mentioning something idea and not necessarily make it

1167
00:56:50,360 --> 00:57:00,400
Speaker 3: come to fruitions that I wanted what I meant, but

1168
00:57:00,520 --> 00:57:03,920
Speaker 3: I just but I thank God for him, and that's

1169
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:08,360
Speaker 3: I think. Also what really gripped my heart is because

1170
00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:15,319
Speaker 3: David notices I'm not gonna cry everything about me everything,

1171
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 3: and I miss it so much. I just I keep saying, Okay,

1172
00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 3: I'm gona pay attention. He can go shave and he'll

1173
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:24,920
Speaker 3: come back and say, you notice something like no.

1174
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 6: You mean to tell me you don't see that?

1175
00:57:33,960 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 3: Tell you messed up again. But he notices every I

1176
00:57:39,400 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 3: could change an eyebrow, like.

1177
00:57:42,680 --> 00:57:45,360
Speaker 6: He'd be like, oh, see why you drew that on it.

1178
00:57:45,440 --> 00:57:47,080
Speaker 6: You just got to put a swerve on it this time.

1179
00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 3: But he knows everything, and it's just because you know.

1180
00:57:56,440 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 3: But it's just it hurts my feeling that because I'm

1181
00:58:00,360 --> 00:58:04,959
Speaker 3: not as alert as him. But I'm like, I see doctor.

1182
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 3: Maybe it's just not my character, but I'm just trying

1183
00:58:09,360 --> 00:58:12,919
Speaker 3: to do I think when it comes to relationships, y'all,

1184
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:15,120
Speaker 3: we just need to always do better with each other.

1185
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 3: And I know that that's something that I'm working on.

1186
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:21,680
Speaker 3: Even with communicating. You know, He's always been the great

1187
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:25,440
Speaker 3: and over communicator and I haven't always been. But this

1188
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 3: last couple.

1189
00:58:26,280 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 6: Of years, boy, go look it upuations.

1190
00:58:37,560 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 3: I was like, I said, I am today, huh. But

1191
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:43,479
Speaker 3: I'm just trying. I want to And I told him,

1192
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 3: even when it comes to the artistry, and even when

1193
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 3: it comes to being his wife and his friend, I

1194
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:51,840
Speaker 3: just want to do better. I just want to be

1195
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 3: better as a you know, as a friend, as a

1196
00:58:54,080 --> 00:58:58,200
Speaker 3: mother aunt. I just I know we can't catch everything

1197
00:58:58,280 --> 00:59:00,800
Speaker 3: with everybody, but I just want to do better. That's

1198
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:03,320
Speaker 3: why when it comes to being sweet, help me to

1199
00:59:03,320 --> 00:59:06,320
Speaker 3: be good, Lord, and not just to be able to

1200
00:59:06,360 --> 00:59:10,120
Speaker 3: help somebody, you know, just whenever that time is, to

1201
00:59:10,360 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 3: be able to catch it.

1202
00:59:11,360 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that, guys. Thank you so much for

1203
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 1: coming to sit with me, sitting with us now for sure.

1204
00:59:18,200 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 6: I'm sorry she was so low question.

1205
00:59:20,320 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 5: I know the girl, Let you go. I know you

1206
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:25,840
Speaker 5: guys have some things coming up. Live breathe fighters out now.

1207
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 5: We also have Mala Man's Kitchen. Is there anything else

1208
00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:30,520
Speaker 5: we can talk about?

1209
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:34,080
Speaker 3: Kitchen is on YouTube a man TV channel, guys, and

1210
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:36,720
Speaker 3: you can go to tamblaman dot com for the actual

1211
00:59:36,760 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 3: the shape where and I'm also happy where you can

1212
00:59:39,280 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 3: get the CD there. So if you want a physical copy,

1213
00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:46,040
Speaker 3: tamblaman dot com go check us. Say, y'all, I promise

1214
00:59:46,080 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 3: you this album. I know you may love take me

1215
00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:51,720
Speaker 3: to the Key, but it's some stuff on here that

1216
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:54,800
Speaker 3: I promise you that'll be right there.

1217
00:59:55,440 --> 00:59:58,840
Speaker 2: Listen to the power of Jesus, Listen to the song.

1218
00:59:58,960 --> 01:00:00,440
Speaker 6: Power of Jesus gets me everything.

1219
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:04,600
Speaker 3: So it's called you deserve to win. Yeah, deserve to win.

1220
01:00:05,320 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 3: Quit fighting yourself and thinking that you're not good enough

1221
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:11,320
Speaker 3: and that you don't deserve it, because you deserve to

1222
01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 3: win if you put the time in. You don't put

1223
01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:16,479
Speaker 3: the work in. You deserve to have some good things.

1224
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 3: You deserve to have peace of mind and your heart,

1225
01:00:18,920 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 3: your spirit, and your body. So you deserve to win.

1226
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:24,000
Speaker 3: You deserve it.

1227
01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:28,760
Speaker 6: God bless you, less, thank you, Oh I love y'all.

1228
01:00:28,760 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.

1229
01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 5: David and Tamilan never disappointed when it comes to dropping gems.

1230
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:40,200
Speaker 5: One thing they broke down that really resonated was when

1231
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 5: they were talking about their relationship and when they were

1232
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:45,760
Speaker 5: having troubles. David put his fingers up and he said, tam,

1233
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:49,280
Speaker 5: when it comes to us, it's us and then everyone else.

1234
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:51,040
Speaker 1: And I think that it's so poignant in.

1235
01:00:51,000 --> 01:00:54,520
Speaker 5: Relationships that when you are together and it seems like

1236
01:00:54,560 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 5: everything is coming against you, you have to put the

1237
01:00:56,800 --> 01:01:04,200
Speaker 5: two of you first. Time flies when you're having fun,

1238
01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 5: and it certainly flew by today. Thank you guys so

1239
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:08,920
Speaker 5: much for being a part of such an important and

1240
01:01:09,080 --> 01:01:12,280
Speaker 5: encouraging conversation today. You can follow me on all social

1241
01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:15,040
Speaker 5: media platforms at love Chris Orinee, and you can follow

1242
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 5: our show at Keep It Positive, Sweetie. If you wanna

1243
01:01:17,880 --> 01:01:20,760
Speaker 5: write into our Positive Outcomes listener letter, you can send

1244
01:01:20,840 --> 01:01:24,320
Speaker 5: us an email to Keep It positivesweetye at gmail dot com.

1245
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:26,960
Speaker 1: In the meantime, in between time you know what to do.

1246
01:01:27,440 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 1: Keep it Positive, Sweeties, I'll see you next time.