Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 1: Back with my wife, Lauren Zema, and it's wedding day.
Speaker 1: This is where we pick up. It is our wedding day,
Speaker 1: and it's time to head to the wedding site and
Speaker 1: get ready. I've just read your letter. Well, it was
Speaker 1: a card, a card, You're right, it was a card
Speaker 1: that I found.
Speaker 2: In my don You remember what it said? Or were
Speaker 2: you too?
Speaker 1: I kept it. I kept everything. I've kept all your
Speaker 1: I cape all of Lauren's notes, I mean virtually all
Speaker 1: the notes. Even she leaves these little silly post its
Speaker 1: around and I try to keep all I probably if
Speaker 1: most of them I keep over the five years.
Speaker 2: I keep all of yours too. Actually, I've never asked
Speaker 2: you this. Were you a note writer before me? Or
Speaker 2: is this something that because I love to leave people notes.
Speaker 2: I like to even like if my mom's in town,
Speaker 2: already here a note, slip it under a door in
Speaker 2: the morning or something.
Speaker 1: You're more of a note writer and leaver than I was.
Speaker 1: I am a letter writer. That's something that was. I
Speaker 1: mean not to plug it, but I wrote the book
Speaker 1: The Perfect Letter because it was based on my grandfather
Speaker 1: Alfred Salinger who kind of taught us the art of
Speaker 1: writing letters. And it was just impressed upon us at
Speaker 1: an early age. If you have to say something to somebody,
Speaker 1: write a letter, take the time to write something out,
Speaker 1: and it just meant the world to me. And so
Speaker 1: I've always written letters. My dad did that too. My
Speaker 1: dad wrote me letters. My brother wrote me letters growing up.
Speaker 1: I have them. My grandfather did. So They've just meant
Speaker 1: the world to me. And so I've tried to do
Speaker 1: that with my kids. For each big event and graduations,
Speaker 1: I write them long letters.
Speaker 2: You know what, You've influenced me in that way because
Speaker 2: I've become more of like a long note writer or
Speaker 2: maybe letter But I like the surprise element of it,
Speaker 2: like I like to.
Speaker 1: Well, I love finding your notes around.
Speaker 2: I hide them in places and I hit a few
Speaker 2: in your bag when you went to Pebble Beach out
Speaker 2: of the wedding week, and she.
Speaker 1: There was one of my dob kit. And what's funny
Speaker 1: is I usually will text her when I get them,
Speaker 1: and I feel dumb sometimes because it's three days later,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, son of a God.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: And so we we've left each other a lot of
Speaker 1: notes and a lot of letters that.
Speaker 2: We so do you. I'm not going to be offended. No, no,
Speaker 2: I do you remember anything in that note or was
Speaker 2: it too sort of.
Speaker 1: No that that day I have a day I remember
Speaker 1: vividly obviously your mom's letter, obviously about your dad and
Speaker 1: the cuff links, and then I read yours and I
Speaker 1: don't remember anything specific about it. Right now, I have it.
Speaker 1: I have all of them.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'll tell you. I'll give you that. So what
Speaker 2: I really wanted to convey with you it was a card,
Speaker 2: and now I can't remember the hypocrisy, what the you
Speaker 2: know what already came printed on the card, but it
Speaker 2: was something about time and love. And so the wedding
Speaker 2: gift that I gave to you was this watch. And
Speaker 2: Chris wore the watch. It's this blue watch, and I
Speaker 2: just love it because you know, he's got these blue
Speaker 2: eyes and blue just is this color. It makes it pop.
Speaker 2: But I wanted to surprise you with that watch because
Speaker 2: he I know you love watches. But b and this
Speaker 2: is what I wanted the card to convey is you
Speaker 2: are my forever for all time. And so I don't know,
Speaker 2: I've never I hate saying this because I've been married before,
Speaker 2: and I don't mean to demean my first marriage, but
Speaker 2: it's just that when you like, really, I think I
Speaker 2: really I would my younger self. She didn't mean to,
Speaker 2: but she didn't fully understand and fully grasp the foreverness
Speaker 2: of marriage. I think you're young and you're excited, and
Speaker 2: you you want to get it right, but you don't
Speaker 2: really get it.
Speaker 1: You've lived a little.
Speaker 2: Life, and then you suddenly and you've been through more
Speaker 2: struggle and you kind of understand that more. And that's
Speaker 2: why what I wanted to say to you in the
Speaker 2: card was I wanted the card to explain that the
Speaker 2: reason I gave you the watch was because my present
Speaker 2: in my future are.
Speaker 1: You in time? And it was no, And it was that.
Speaker 1: So I got back in that Omega, beautiful Omega box.
Speaker 1: They put them in these beautiful pine boxes, and so
Speaker 1: I was.
Speaker 2: Sitting there very heavy. My whole care Can I tell I?
Speaker 2: Can I light the moon and talk about my carry
Speaker 2: on suitcase for a minute, my carry on suitcase on
Speaker 2: the way to the wedding. Now, I will say I
Speaker 2: did encourage you to go to Bubble Beach, but it
Speaker 2: meant that Chris. He's got like his golf clubs and
Speaker 2: he's leaving days earlier. So I'm at home and I
Speaker 2: had to take a lot of wedding stuff. I had
Speaker 2: to take my dress. I had to take a few
Speaker 2: things of yours that I'm forgetting now.
Speaker 1: Mainly it was all the jewelry.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, so that was the carry on. So in
Speaker 2: my carry on and I checked my dress, which felt risky,
Speaker 2: but I knew. I'm like, if American loses it, I'm
Speaker 2: getting there on Thursday. They have till Saturday to get
Speaker 2: in the bag. I think I'm gonna be okay. And
Speaker 2: I didn't want to like carry my wedding dress through
Speaker 2: an airport, and that felt risky. That person, can you
Speaker 2: I've seen rides do it before. If anyone has a
Speaker 2: better way about what I should have done, please tell me.
Speaker 2: I literally folded my dress and I had one checked
Speaker 2: bag entirely for my dress. But I've seen people like
Speaker 2: hang their wedding dress and that little closet on the plane.
Speaker 2: I'm like, that feels yeah. You somebody spilling a pot
Speaker 2: of coffee on here.
Speaker 1: This is the patriarchy. Why do we have something called
Speaker 1: ship sticks? This is a company entirely devoted to shipping
Speaker 1: your golf clubs from point A to point B. So
Speaker 1: when I get there, it is there. And like at
Speaker 1: Pebble Beach, I didn't want to carry my clubs the
Speaker 1: rest of the week. I ship sticks them back home.
Speaker 2: You know what, I'm going to look it up. I
Speaker 2: bet there's something that is dress ship ship your wedding dress,
Speaker 2: Ship your wedding dress. I guess I could have that
Speaker 2: felt what's riskier? That felt riskier to me than the
Speaker 2: airline having the bag. Yeah. Rides dot com a complete
Speaker 2: guide to shipping a wedding dress. Okay, Well, should have
Speaker 2: Google said been a lot, some has been planned and
Speaker 2: some we had.
Speaker 1: We had, we had some pretty we had jewelry.
Speaker 2: Okay, So my carry on is so heavy because it's
Speaker 2: not one but two of these Omega boxes.
Speaker 1: That are probably about ten pounds each.
Speaker 2: Because I gifted you a watch and then you also
Speaker 2: you wore that on Friday night. On Saturday, you wore
Speaker 2: a different gorgeous Omega watch with in a nice little
Speaker 2: nod their signature rose gold color metal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they have a patent rose gold that only Omega.
Speaker 2: Watched Cia Gold.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's gorgeous.
Speaker 2: So you wore that watch. It was a loner from
Speaker 2: M Robinson, M Robinson Fine Jewelers here in Austin. Again,
Speaker 2: we wanted everything to be meaningful and M Robinson is
Speaker 2: our favorite local jeweler, although they also have everything online.
Speaker 2: A little shout out to them. We love them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they took it just they made us again. It's
Speaker 1: like Kinsmanshop where I got my suits, Like I love
Speaker 1: places that make you feel like family. You get there,
Speaker 1: you get some bubbly, you get a glass, that.
Speaker 2: Whole thing of like an older generation with say I
Speaker 2: got a guy. You gotta have a guy. You gotta
Speaker 2: have a doctor, a tailor, a jeweler anyway, So em
Speaker 2: Robinson Fine Jewelers is so wonderful here in Austin. And
Speaker 2: they loaned you this beautiful watch. So I've got two
Speaker 2: watches of my carry on. I also have like our
Speaker 2: rings in my carry on, both of our wedding bands, yes,
Speaker 2: which we both got both at M Robinson. They I
Speaker 2: have a I guess we can reveal it now. I
Speaker 2: have a custom designed by them. It's two rows of
Speaker 2: pave diamonds on this gorgeous fourteen carrot white gold. I
Speaker 2: think I could be wrong, and you have this beautiful
Speaker 2: gold band.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was not sure I was going to do gold,
Speaker 1: and I chose this. It's a little bit would you say,
Speaker 1: not rustic, but it's a little bit. I think it's
Speaker 1: moderssed distressed. It's a little stressed gold and.
Speaker 2: It's kind of a brushed gold with a more glossy yeah.
Speaker 1: So it has a texture to it. It is a beautiful
Speaker 1: texture to it. And one thing I can also tell
Speaker 1: you is inside what I had etched inside, which was
Speaker 1: something very important to me. My grandfather again, Alfred Salinger,
Speaker 1: who is one of the idols and uh you know,
Speaker 1: the patriarch of our family. His ring was a lover's knot,
Speaker 1: and as each child got married, we all had lovers
Speaker 1: not as our rings in honor of our grandfather. And
Speaker 1: so inside this ring I etched a lover's not, just
Speaker 1: as a nod to my grandfather, who means so much
Speaker 1: to me. God rest his soul.
Speaker 2: I don't know how they engraved it, but they.
Speaker 1: Didn't, I know they and they had to send it
Speaker 1: out to a special person who would engrave it who.
Speaker 1: I don't know how they do that. It makes no
Speaker 1: sense to me, but the the art is so it's
Speaker 1: spot on, it's perfect. And again it's something that only
Speaker 1: I will know about in you and we'll see. But
Speaker 1: it's just I just I mean, but it's like no
Speaker 1: one will see it. It's on my hand, but it's
Speaker 1: just it's something I the ring.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I well, now we can share. You didn't
Speaker 2: think you were gonna know be a gold guy, and
Speaker 2: I will say I kind of knew it on this one,
Speaker 2: and I had to let you come to the conclusion
Speaker 2: on your we went ring shopping. Chris kept saying he
Speaker 2: wasn't gonna pick gold, but I kept thinking, of my mind,
Speaker 2: Chris is such a classic guy. He needs a gold
Speaker 2: wedding ring. I think the problem is you were sort
Speaker 2: of picturing that very dated gold. You need it in
Speaker 2: a more modern gold. But you kept trying on these
Speaker 2: silver rings, and what was happening.
Speaker 1: I tried platinum, I tried graphite, I tried silver, I've tried,
Speaker 1: I tried everything. And I tried to be funky. I know,
Speaker 1: I'm not like a crazy funky hipster, so I knew
Speaker 1: that was kind of out. I wanted to be somewhat traditional.
Speaker 1: But and again, it's like a dress it's like a suit.
Speaker 1: It's like anything to me when I know, I know,
Speaker 1: it's like marrying you. When I know I know. And
Speaker 1: I put this ring on and I'm done. I'm not
Speaker 1: one that if I walk into a house or if
Speaker 1: I'm buying a car, as soon as I see it,
Speaker 1: I don't need to try fourteen more on. I'm good.
Speaker 1: I know my decision. I'm pretty firm believer in my gut.
Speaker 1: And so I slipped this on and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh damn, Like she's right. I love this gold ring
Speaker 1: so much. And everybody, because I had kind of made
Speaker 1: the announcement to the jewelers at a Robinson as well
Speaker 1: that I'm probably not going to get a gold so
Speaker 1: we'll just do those later. Let's let's try this stuff.
Speaker 1: And when I put the gold on, everybody laughed at
Speaker 1: me because I they could tell I was just looking
Speaker 1: at it and I didn't want to love it, and
Speaker 1: I did, and so I'm so happy and I new
Speaker 1: classic man, you, and so I was excited. But then
Speaker 1: I didn't you know, I didn't get a chance to
Speaker 1: see it again because you went and picked him money.
Speaker 2: Okay, So in my carry on two Omega watches. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I'll just go ahead and give the people the numbers,
Speaker 2: because that's what's part of the intensity of this is
Speaker 2: how much money I had in my carry on. Two
Speaker 2: Omega watches were well into the tens of thousands of
Speaker 2: dollars at this point.
Speaker 1: Yeah. The one I borrowed, I'll just say, because I
Speaker 1: did not purchase it, they loaned it to me for
Speaker 1: the wedding was a thirty seven thousand dollars watch, Okay, So.
Speaker 2: I didn't even realize it was that much. Wow, Okay,
Speaker 2: I was. I was olden onto this everybody. So probably
Speaker 2: we're we're over forty thousand dollars in watches. Add in
Speaker 2: our rings. That's taken us, you know, almost into fifty probably.
Speaker 2: Then I had in the carry on earrings. I borrowed
Speaker 2: earrings from m Robinson and Fine Jewelers that were these
Speaker 2: gorgeous drop diamond earrings, custom designs by them, and those
Speaker 2: were worth forty five thousand dollars. So I guess I'm
Speaker 2: not great at math.
Speaker 1: We're into the six figures were well, you said, over one.
Speaker 2: Hundred thousand dollars worth of jewelry in my carry on.
Speaker 2: And this wasn't like some red carpet situation where I
Speaker 2: had a security detail with me. I'm just di y bride.
Speaker 2: You had your mom, Donna, Well, Donna is a scary lady,
Speaker 2: chures to be. That's a good point. I should have
Speaker 2: felt safer. I did. I told her it was in there,
Speaker 2: and if I had to go to the bathroom, I
Speaker 2: either took the carry on with ears and Mom she was, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm not leaving it, like okay, I mean she was
Speaker 2: sitting on the carry on. Ye, So listen, and you know,
Speaker 2: I will say airports are pretty safe. It's telling people
Speaker 2: get their carry anstone all the time. But I had
Speaker 2: one hundred grand of stuff in my carry on. It
Speaker 2: was so heavy. So that was what I brought to NAPA,
Speaker 2: because you had to carry your golf clubspell.
Speaker 1: No, I didn't I ship sticks to book. I did
Speaker 1: not have them. I shipped them back because I didn't
Speaker 1: want to have them. So we have all this, and
Speaker 1: so we exchange our letters. I didn't want to give
Speaker 1: you mine until I wanted you to read it there,
Speaker 1: and I wasn't sure how to hide that or do it.
Speaker 1: So what I did is Josh and Taylor, our kids,
Speaker 1: rode with me to the wedding site, which we had
Speaker 1: at this at a private house there in Napa Valley,
Speaker 1: and you were getting ready there at the house, and
Speaker 1: so I had Taylor who came up and spent like
Speaker 1: the last hour or so with you. I said, hey,
Speaker 1: will you take this to LZ And so she brought
Speaker 1: you my letter so you didn't get it for you know,
Speaker 1: there's like two hours before game time is when you
Speaker 1: got my letter, which was wonderful and it was it
Speaker 1: was simple. It was just telling you how much I
Speaker 1: loved you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you'd put a lot. You'd put a
Speaker 2: lot into each letter up to that day. I actually
Speaker 2: that final day, I was glad you didn't like throw
Speaker 2: a ton at me in that one, because I all
Speaker 2: right in my makeup, boll.
Speaker 1: I waited. So what I did was I wrote you
Speaker 1: all those letters before I went to Pebble Beach, and
Speaker 1: I numbered them and gave you the date so you
Speaker 1: would open them on a specific day. And okay, I've
Speaker 1: never asked you this, honestly. Did you open them one
Speaker 1: at a time on each day or did you open
Speaker 1: them all at once? Okay? Because she wanted what she
Speaker 1: was instructed to do was wait and open the morning
Speaker 1: of each day.
Speaker 2: I wanted to experience it all like that. I wasn't
Speaker 2: like a little kid on Christmas morning opening every present
Speaker 2: I wanted to, I really wanted, and that was a
Speaker 2: big part of what we wanted to do in NAPA
Speaker 2: again time.
Speaker 1: Well, and I did pre write your letter on wedding
Speaker 1: day because I didn't want to write that days before.
Speaker 1: I wanted because I knew I was going to be emotional.
Speaker 1: I knew I would feel things and go through things
Speaker 1: with you and your family. So I wrote that the
Speaker 1: day before because I wanted to express us being a
Speaker 1: NAPA together and those feelings, and so I waited to
Speaker 1: handwrite that one.
Speaker 2: I've kept all of them, and I I do plan
Speaker 2: to reread them because again, you're kind of I mean,
Speaker 2: I teared up, but I was glad it wasn't a
Speaker 2: big long letter because hey, tip out there, think about
Speaker 2: when the bride's reading it. My makeup was fully done.
Speaker 2: If I'd really sobbed, it would have been bad. So hey,
Speaker 2: way to produce your.
Speaker 1: Wedding pal, and so we produced every set.
Speaker 2: I do want to go back to something really quick. Yes,
Speaker 2: I asked you if you felt nervous the day of
Speaker 2: you said no, you felt at peace. I was nervous
Speaker 2: for it to go well, not nervous about marrying you.
Speaker 2: And I actually had a really big realization And it's
Speaker 2: a piece of advice I wish I could give my
Speaker 2: younger self, and it's that I don't think cold feet
Speaker 2: is a real thing. I don't think cold feet is
Speaker 2: something that's normal, I mean, or something that should be ignored.
Speaker 2: Oh it's just cold feet. Yea cold feet is a
Speaker 2: red flag. And I don't think the day of your
Speaker 2: wedding you should be super stressed and feeling super anxious,
Speaker 2: like if you don't feel like I think what happens
Speaker 2: is people might be really stressed out and they think, oh,
Speaker 2: it's just the stress of a wedding. It's the roller
Speaker 2: coaster of emotion. It's all the planning. But the truth is,
Speaker 2: if you don't feel at peace that day, if you
Speaker 2: don't feel this is awesome, and if you don't feel
Speaker 2: like you know what, yeah, I have like the I
Speaker 2: think the entire wedding planning process, you should feel like, great,
Speaker 2: you're gonna throw a party, but I would marry this
Speaker 2: person in my living room.
Speaker 1: Rid you should the nerve should be in a good way,
Speaker 1: that you're nervous about the great things ahead and wanting
Speaker 1: things to go well, not nervous. Oh my god, am
Speaker 1: I about to make the biggest mistake of my life?
Speaker 2: And as much as as much well certainly not that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's what I mean. Like but people say, oh, it's
Speaker 2: just cold feet. Cold feet is a red flag, and
Speaker 2: I didn't. Of course, I didn't feel any of that,
Speaker 2: and I felt nervous, but like you know, it's also
Speaker 2: important to I think, and I'm I'm not I made
Speaker 2: this mistake before. You shouldn't get too wrapped up in
Speaker 2: the party. I felt so good about the people we
Speaker 2: had in Napa, the wine, the food, the beautiful setting.
Speaker 2: I thought we're good to go. And I kept saying
Speaker 2: I could spill red wine down my wedding dress right
Speaker 2: now and I wouldn't care. The irony of that is
Speaker 2: that we did spill some makeup on my wedding dress.
Speaker 1: But anyway, that story, Oh yeah, I know, I know.
Speaker 1: You told me it was like minutes before.
Speaker 2: You were so funny, and I didn't freak out. It
Speaker 2: wasn't upset, but it just almost felt like God said,
Speaker 2: you asked I were getting ready we are about to
Speaker 2: go and walk down the aisle and my sister goes,
Speaker 2: don't freak out, like what look down down the front
Speaker 2: of my wedding dress is I think foundation or concealer.
Speaker 2: I have no idea how it got there, no clue.
Speaker 2: Then it's the decision of do we try to wipe
Speaker 2: it off? If we do well, that make it worse. Right,
Speaker 2: And luckily my mom, thank you, Donna Zema had brought
Speaker 2: a little stain remover wipe because hey, I didn't have
Speaker 2: a wedding planner, and that is something I forgot. Wedding
Speaker 2: planner probably would have remembered.
Speaker 1: Rule number one, by the way, you should always have
Speaker 1: the stain remover.
Speaker 2: Yeah that was bad. That was my bad, but Donna
Speaker 2: just dabbed at it. We hit it with a blow
Speaker 2: dryer and it was a little bit there, but it
Speaker 2: was fine. And yeah, so I did spill something down
Speaker 2: in the front of my wedding dress, but I didn't care.
Speaker 2: I was just happy to marry you.
Speaker 1: You were so calm, so cool the whole week and
Speaker 1: leading up to it. It was so chill and so
Speaker 1: relaxed because we just it was fun. Everything about it
Speaker 1: was fun. And again I think it's where we are
Speaker 1: at our station in life. And what I mean by
Speaker 1: that is our age and our experience and knowing what
Speaker 1: to appreciate, knowing what to care about. It's not like
Speaker 1: you said earlier about demeaning and negating your earlier relationship.
Speaker 1: You're not and I'm not either. It's I was a
Speaker 1: different man. It's on me. I was a different human
Speaker 1: being then. Yeah, I was a kid, and so I
Speaker 1: just enjoyed it. I knew exactly what I wanted out
Speaker 1: of that day, which was spend some time with my kids,
Speaker 1: spend some time with my my friends, and of course
Speaker 1: my parents were there, and then before the hour before
Speaker 1: we got there are officiant, our good friend Mike Levitt,
Speaker 1: who is just a very dear friend of ours. If
Speaker 1: people are wondering who officiated or a wedding and why
Speaker 1: Mike Levitt is his name, he's now People Magazine famous,
Speaker 1: but he's not of this world. He's not an entertainment
Speaker 1: in finance. The reason he was the unknown financi year,
Speaker 1: he's not anymore.
Speaker 2: The reason we asked Mike to officiate is he is.
Speaker 2: He has the biggest heart. He is in his world.
Speaker 2: He's spoken at hundreds of events. He's funny, he's he's
Speaker 2: a big lover. He just and he nailed it. He
Speaker 2: I mean, he is our officiant cride several times.
Speaker 1: Yes and he so we asked him because aa he
Speaker 1: and his wife, Nadine, the opera singer, are incredibly good
Speaker 1: friends of mine. I met them post my divorce and
Speaker 1: they became very very close to me and really took
Speaker 1: me in and became counsel, friends, caretaker. It was many
Speaker 1: many different hats that they wore, and we've taken care
Speaker 1: of each other. And then they were the first people
Speaker 1: that Lauren met. She's there their yeah, the first friends
Speaker 1: that I introduced you to. And we ended up going
Speaker 1: to Cobbo with and.
Speaker 2: So and I think that I've said this before, but
Speaker 2: that helped me fall in love with you. Was it
Speaker 2: made me like you even more that when I started
Speaker 2: to meet your friends and see what kind of people
Speaker 2: you surrounded yourself with, and they're wonderful.
Speaker 1: And so that was a pretty easy choice for both
Speaker 1: of us. If we had said, Okay, who do you
Speaker 1: want to officiate on three one two three, we both
Speaker 1: would have said Mike Levitt that was a slam dunk.
Speaker 1: And so but I I knew that I wanted to
Speaker 1: spend the hour before with Mike, my dad, my brother,
Speaker 1: your brother, and my best man, my son. That's who
Speaker 1: I just We hung out down in the wine cellar.
Speaker 1: You know, we weren't drinking anything. We didn't do any
Speaker 1: shots or anything like that. It wasn't drink wine. We
Speaker 1: just chilled. We listened to a little music, had some
Speaker 1: country music on. Just very That's the way I like
Speaker 1: to be before a show as well. Just very chill,
Speaker 1: very calm.
Speaker 2: He has made the joke a few times that he
Speaker 2: produced our wedding, and he did. I didn't in a
Speaker 2: good way. I mean, listen, the guy's done a few weddings,
Speaker 2: put a few on TV. So he's there like we did.
Speaker 2: We did do a walk through of the venue, even
Speaker 2: though we didn't do a rehearsal. And he's there and
Speaker 2: he's like, okay, so the light at this time, let
Speaker 2: me see whose eyes it's going to be at He's like, okay, babe,
Speaker 2: you stand on this time we get married because I'm
Speaker 2: better at dealing with the sun in my eyes at
Speaker 2: this So we'll think about that, and Okay, where's Mike
Speaker 2: going to be and how why does this ile need
Speaker 2: to be for the I mean, really really helpful.
Speaker 1: I know this because here's the thing. I know. I'm
Speaker 1: a little aal retentive when it comes to that stuff.
Speaker 1: And I overproduced because I know what I wanted to
Speaker 1: look like and I know how it's it's going to
Speaker 1: look great, and if I don't do it and then
Speaker 1: it doesn't look great, I'm like, if I had just
Speaker 1: said something, if I had just so, it's really for
Speaker 1: me and my own neuroses if I just take care
Speaker 1: of it and produce it ahead of time. And so
Speaker 1: that's how I That's how I spent the hour leading
Speaker 1: up to and then our wonderful assistant who's worked for
Speaker 1: me for many years, Karen, came down and said, it's showtime.
Speaker 1: Lauren's ready, let's go.
Speaker 2: I need to tell you a little bit more about
Speaker 2: the hour before for me. Okay, So, well, first of all,
Speaker 2: I was nervous, But what would you guess I was
Speaker 2: most nervous about.
Speaker 1: Just your dress? I would think your dress.
Speaker 2: I was most nervous that you would think I looked beautiful.
Speaker 1: Really, yeah, there's no way you weren't going to look beautiful.
Speaker 2: Well, but you want that moment, you know, like we
Speaker 2: did decide not to do a first look. We wanted
Speaker 2: to be walked down the aisle.
Speaker 1: Oh, that was really important. That's a good note because
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people do that first look
Speaker 1: and our photographer asked us if we wanted to do that,
Speaker 1: and I wanted the first look to be in front
Speaker 1: of everybody at that moment walking down the aisle.
Speaker 2: That's why I was so nerd.
Speaker 1: That was important to me.
Speaker 2: So that's so much pressure, which I'm not upset about it,
Speaker 2: but I was so worried about Oh, I.
Speaker 1: Didn't know I put pressure on you in that. Huh.
Speaker 1: Thanks for letting me do that, because that was a
Speaker 1: me thing I wanted. I didn't want it first. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to cheat.
Speaker 2: Well I wanted it too, but it but when you
Speaker 2: think about it, like every here's what people want from
Speaker 2: the groom. They want to see that he's emotional. But
Speaker 2: how does the groom get emotional dependent on how the
Speaker 2: bride looks. So I was and maybe I'm over simplifying
Speaker 2: that and making it too much about the aesthetic. I
Speaker 2: guess you love me and you would have been emotional
Speaker 2: no matter what. But I wanted to be so beautiful
Speaker 2: for you, you know, and I was so look like
Speaker 2: I said, we shopped together all the time. Usually we
Speaker 2: talk about we're going to wear before an event, an
Speaker 2: event we're not Hailey Bieber and Justin Bieber, who apparently
Speaker 2: don't talk about she recently said what they were two events,
Speaker 2: but we coordinate. But you'd never seen the stress, and
Speaker 2: you didn't know how I was going to do my hair.
Speaker 2: And I was very worried about how I was going
Speaker 2: to do my makeup that day and how it would
Speaker 2: look and how it would be me but elevated and special.
Speaker 2: So that was the most nervous, nerve wracking thing.
Speaker 1: Can I and I just want to cut to the chase.
Speaker 1: Can I talk about when I saw you? So it's
Speaker 1: game time and we did a small it was small ceremony. Again,
Speaker 1: there's like forty something people there, and we did do
Speaker 1: a little bit of a you know, a procession where
Speaker 1: we walked in and I, you know, Mike walked in
Speaker 1: first and took his place. I walked in second, and
Speaker 1: I tried to slow myself down. It went so fast
Speaker 1: I was I was halfway down the aisle and it
Speaker 1: was a very short aisle, but you know. I still
Speaker 1: just was like, oh crap, stop man, look at your friends,
Speaker 1: look at everybody. So I tried to take it in.
Speaker 1: And it's funny because I'm really good at that in
Speaker 1: television hosting, and I know to slow the world down.
Speaker 1: When I'm hosting, I have control over that. I lost control.
Speaker 1: I lost control of time, and I don't lose control
Speaker 1: of time when I'm hosting. I have complete.
Speaker 2: Control of time. Ever, at any moment in life. Sometimes
Speaker 2: I wish he would lose control of time.
Speaker 1: And I blame my job, because my entire job since
Speaker 1: I was in college was TV, getting in, getting out
Speaker 1: on time, commercial breaks, hitting yeah, ins and outs, and
Speaker 1: so I've always it's just been beat into me. And
Speaker 1: so I can feel. I can feel ten seconds, thirty seconds,
Speaker 1: forty five seconds, or a minute in my head. I
Speaker 1: can talk for exactly that amount of time and stop,
Speaker 1: and it's a beautiful gift that directors love. But I
Speaker 1: lost control of time. I just I couldn't control it,
Speaker 1: and I wanted to slow everything down and I couldn't.
Speaker 1: For the first time of my life. And I got
Speaker 1: to the front and I saw your mom, and I
Speaker 1: saw my kids, I saw my dad, my mom, and
Speaker 1: I lost it. You weren't there yet. I start bawling.
Speaker 2: I didn't know you.
Speaker 1: Cry. Yeah, I didn't even get to the wedding. I
Speaker 1: didn't get to the wedding. And I start crying. I
Speaker 1: luckily I have a kerchief in my pocket, and I
Speaker 1: start dabbing my tears and I'm like, and I'm just
Speaker 1: thinking to myself. I was really scared about my vows
Speaker 1: getting through the valves, and I thought to myself, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm dead. I didn't even see you, and I'm losing it.
Speaker 1: There's no way I'm going to make it through this.
Speaker 1: So then everybody starts scattering, so I know it's time,
Speaker 1: and the pianist starts playing in the piano. And the
Speaker 1: door was open, and it was opened in a way
Speaker 1: where it reflected back up where you were standing. So
Speaker 1: for three seconds I saw you walk across the reflection
Speaker 1: of the door. That was my first glimpse of you,
Speaker 1: and I didn't expect it because it was just a reflection.
Speaker 1: I didn't know it was coming, and it took my
Speaker 1: breath away. I saw this glimpse of this strapless dress
Speaker 1: and then she was gone. And so it was the
Speaker 1: most beautiful romantic. If I was a movie producer, this
Speaker 1: is what I would have produced this moment. Feel free
Speaker 1: to use this in a rom com if you want.
Speaker 1: But I saw this three second glimpse of you, and
Speaker 1: then you disappeared for another minute because you were getting ready,
Speaker 1: and then you came around the corner and you walked
Speaker 1: down this It was probably it's probably about thirty yards
Speaker 1: of a walk into this private house where we held
Speaker 1: the ceremony, and so I just got this really long
Speaker 1: glimpse of you and your brother, your brother John walked
Speaker 1: you down the aisle, and I just I couldn't could
Speaker 1: I couldn't breathe, and I couldn't fully see you though
Speaker 1: I could kind of see the dress, but you're still
Speaker 1: pretty far away, but I saw your hair was kind
Speaker 1: of up, and your veil, and it was just a
Speaker 1: very simple, clean neck, no jewelry, because you have a
Speaker 1: beautiful neck and a beautiful face, and so it accentuated
Speaker 1: your beautiful face and your jaw and your angles, and
Speaker 1: you just you looked radiant. You were glowing, and I
Speaker 1: looked like you weren't even walking. It looked like you
Speaker 1: were just floating towards me. And you stopped at the
Speaker 1: top of the eye. When you came in, your brother
Speaker 1: took his seat and you stopped for a second, and
Speaker 1: that's when I could really see you, because at this
Speaker 1: point you're about fifty feet away from me, and you
Speaker 1: started walking down the aisle and I I was bawling.
Speaker 1: I lost it. I couldn't take it. You were just
Speaker 1: such a vision, and you looked at me. We started crying.
Speaker 1: You were I think if I could speak for you,
Speaker 1: and then you take over. I think you also tried
Speaker 1: to slow it down and couldn't.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's so funny sometimes we It's like you'll say
Speaker 2: something I was just about to say, which I don't
Speaker 2: know if that means we're meant for each other. We're
Speaker 2: just starting to turn into the same person, as married
Speaker 2: people say happens. But I so, my brother walked me
Speaker 2: halfway down the aisle and then he went and sat,
Speaker 2: and I wanted to walk the next half myself, in
Speaker 2: part because I'm an independent person and in part because
Speaker 2: I just really a huge part of it was I
Speaker 2: really wanted this moment just for me and you, and
Speaker 2: I tried to take a moment and take it in
Speaker 2: and I did, And yet it's still.
Speaker 1: What's funny is you don't remember doing it. You go,
Speaker 1: I wish I had slowed down, And then I go, babe,
Speaker 1: you did, and you saw the video later and you go, oh,
Speaker 1: that's right, I did stop. You didn't even remember at
Speaker 1: the time. You did not remember you stopped.
Speaker 2: Now I remember pausing because I remember stopping taking a breath,
Speaker 2: and yet I still it feels I mean, I was
Speaker 2: stone cold, sober walking on the aisle, and it almost
Speaker 2: feels like you're drunk or something. Yeah, Like, I can't remember.
Speaker 2: This wasn't long ago, so I can't remember whose faces
Speaker 2: I saw as I walked down the aisle. I was trying,
Speaker 2: and you're trying to kind of glance at your friends
Speaker 2: and family, but I was also I did want to
Speaker 2: just hone in on you. I was trying to just
Speaker 2: connect with you and have this moment for you and I,
Speaker 2: this moment we'd produced and build up to so much.
Speaker 2: And the moment was perfect. I mean I was tearing up.
Speaker 2: You looked so handsome, The light was beautiful. It had
Speaker 2: been a bit of a cloudy morning, and I do
Speaker 2: think my dad was smiling down on us and making
Speaker 2: sure our day was perfect. Because the clouds sort of
Speaker 2: parted and the sun was like.
Speaker 1: I call them Jesus clouds. I don't know if anyone
Speaker 1: else calls them that. You know, when you have those
Speaker 1: kind of religious paintings and you get the rays, the
Speaker 1: beautiful rays of light, the pinks, and yeah, I call
Speaker 1: them the Jesus clouds that kind of hit the horizon
Speaker 1: and that's what was that broke and started shining through
Speaker 1: as we started the ceremony at this house and again
Speaker 1: I just felt like, your Dad is shining down on us,
Speaker 1: and I was I had the benefit, and we'll get
Speaker 1: to the Austin wedding. We manufactured and produced the Austin
Speaker 1: wedding completely different, but this was very traditional, and I
Speaker 1: like the benefit of being able to stand there and
Speaker 1: I get to watch it all unfold. I get to
Speaker 1: see you walk in, I get to see everybody's faces.
Speaker 1: I'm staring at my kids, I'm staring at your mom
Speaker 1: and everybody just it was so emotional for everybody. And
Speaker 1: again it was just the two of us standing up
Speaker 1: there with our efficiant Mike, the kids, and our groomsmen
Speaker 1: and bridesmaids were sitting in the front row of family,
Speaker 1: and so we just wanted a very simple, elegant look
Speaker 1: to the wedding, and there wasn't a lot of pomp
Speaker 1: and circumstance. That was it.
Speaker 2: So I'm there, You're there standing in front of me. Yeah,
Speaker 2: what was at that point? Were you nervous?
Speaker 1: You know? And she didn't do the veil over the face.
Speaker 1: It was clean, you know, she didn't have to lift
Speaker 1: the veil. And I remember I kind of kissed you
Speaker 1: on the cheek and said I love you, and we
Speaker 1: were both kind of shaking, and.
Speaker 2: I was so happy. Yeah, I was so overjoyed. I
Speaker 2: if I thought I felt at peace before we got married,
Speaker 2: standing there looking at you, I just felt so calm.
Speaker 2: That really was when I felt like, okay, now I
Speaker 2: can take this in.
Speaker 1: Well. I always find comfort in your eyes anyway. Like
Speaker 1: I look at you, and when I look at you,
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, we're good. I know we'll always get
Speaker 1: through everything together. We've already been through some trials and
Speaker 1: tribulations in our life, and so I'm like, when I
Speaker 1: look at you, I'm like, we're good. Yeah, And so
Speaker 1: I just felt I again, I was just trying to
Speaker 1: slow the world down. Mike was about to start speaking
Speaker 1: and he did, and he did a beautiful job.
Speaker 2: You're right. It was that we were together. That was
Speaker 2: when I felt, I'm like, okay, now we're in this together.
Speaker 2: Now we're not.
Speaker 1: But I wanted to look at you because it was
Speaker 1: about us. Wanted to connect with you, but I also
Speaker 1: wanted to look around, like I wanted to look at
Speaker 1: our friends. I wanted to, you know, look at our
Speaker 1: parents and family, and so that was it was interesting.
Speaker 1: I was just racing through my head and I didn't
Speaker 1: have those thoughts. Oddly, in my first wedding. It wasn't
Speaker 1: like that. I don't remember that. I guess I was
Speaker 1: just so young and scared to death, you know, the
Speaker 1: world coming at me so fast. Everything was so perfect
Speaker 1: in this moment, I just wanted to connect with you,
Speaker 1: and I just I stared at you. So the vows
Speaker 1: the most anticipated, dare I say, the most dramatic moment
Speaker 1: of our wedding, and it's something that you and I
Speaker 1: were scared to death to do, which was right our vows.
Speaker 1: Why we were so intimidated by doing this for each.
Speaker 2: Other, It's funny we both were. I think it was
Speaker 2: the hardest thing of the whole wedding.
Speaker 1: For sure, because I just didn't want to let you do.
Speaker 2: That's the thing. Yeah, I didn't want to disappoint you.
Speaker 2: I didn't want them to be uneven from each other. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but like I had all the Yeah, I didn't want to.
Speaker 1: We didn't discuss what we were going to write. We
Speaker 1: didn't discuss The only thing we kind of mentioned when
Speaker 1: it was all said and done was about how long
Speaker 1: are yours? And we kind of discussed the link because
Speaker 1: we wanted to be somewhat even. But we didn't say
Speaker 1: what we were going to do, what we were going
Speaker 1: to say. And you went first. You gave your vows first.
Speaker 1: I told myself, please hear this, don't just listen like
Speaker 1: hear this, like try and hear the words. And I
Speaker 1: failed miserably. Yeah, Like, I mean, I heard what you said,
Speaker 1: but you know, I I but I just I agree.
Speaker 2: I think it's the blur thing again. I honestly, we
Speaker 2: should send each other our vows and read them.
Speaker 1: Oh we're going to And that's again what made Austin
Speaker 1: so spectacularly special.
Speaker 2: I can't recommend getting married twice. Yes, even if you listen,
Speaker 2: do it on a low budget, just do it because
Speaker 2: it's like you you get a rehearsal and then you
Speaker 2: get a show and you've covered it all.
Speaker 1: But so you're you're doing your vows, you start crying.
Speaker 2: I think I made the joke during the vows that
Speaker 2: audio I didn't that audio. Can we fix it in post?
Speaker 2: Because my voice was shaky and I was crying, and
Speaker 2: I was worried that you wouldn't be able to understand me,
Speaker 2: or that the people in the back wouldn't be able
Speaker 2: to hear me, because I wanted everyone to feel a
Speaker 2: part of it. But yeah, I was crying because I
Speaker 2: don't even know if I can put a reason why
Speaker 2: you cry. I think you're crying because of the culmination
Speaker 2: of the emotion.
Speaker 1: Why do you think I cried? Well? When I was
Speaker 1: going through my vows, I knew I had I read
Speaker 1: mine two dozen times because I tried to and and
Speaker 1: I don't mean this in a bad way. I was
Speaker 1: trying to desensitize myself to certain parts of it. I
Speaker 1: wanted to get through it because I wanted to deliver
Speaker 1: it for you in the right way again, Host Guy,
Speaker 1: I wanted to deliver it.
Speaker 2: Desensitize himself.
Speaker 1: That's a word. It's such a negative connotation, but that's
Speaker 1: what I want. I was trying.
Speaker 2: I wanted you to cry.
Speaker 1: I know, well there was that was inevitable, but there
Speaker 1: were parts of it. I knew I was going to
Speaker 1: choke on and I knew where that was. Of course
Speaker 1: it was family, but I didn't even make it there,
Speaker 1: like I had to pause. I don't even I'm scared
Speaker 1: to even listen back because we videotaped it. I'm scared
Speaker 1: to listen back because I feel like I was a
Speaker 1: cat being strangled. I couldn't get words out. I had
Speaker 1: to stop for me.
Speaker 2: I didn't think you sounded that way at all, and
Speaker 2: you did do your thing. You kind of paused and
Speaker 2: kept going back into your deep host voice and like projecting,
Speaker 2: I think, to get yourself out of that. But listen
Speaker 2: to the vows.
Speaker 1: It's my fail safe, it's my defense mechanism. I can
Speaker 1: always go back into that voice and bury it here
Speaker 1: in my chest so I can get through it. But
Speaker 1: I didn't.
Speaker 2: I was ready for coming up up next the vowels
Speaker 2: after the break. The vows were wonderful. I loved yours.
Speaker 2: I don't think either of us disappointed the other.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I knew that the main issue for me was
Speaker 1: I got to your family, and there was where I
Speaker 1: talk about one of the things I love about you
Speaker 1: is that you love your family and friends as fiercely
Speaker 1: as I do. And it's something that means the world
Speaker 1: to me. Family and friends and being protective of them,
Speaker 1: being loyal. And when I got to your mom, I
Speaker 1: asked for her blessing to marry you. And how I
Speaker 1: would have loved to have reached out to your dad
Speaker 1: and I would have loved to have Oh god, I
Speaker 1: would have loved to have had a relationship with your
Speaker 1: dad and been able to talk to him about you.
Speaker 1: And here's stories about when you were a silly little girl,
Speaker 1: and you know, just things that you get a chance
Speaker 1: to do. And I lament the fact that I will
Speaker 1: not have that. And so that's what I knew I
Speaker 1: wasn't going to get through as I just didn't.
Speaker 2: Again, and you're the first person I've ever dated, maybe
Speaker 2: who's ever said that, but most importantly, who I've ever known,
Speaker 2: has meant that. Yeah, like I've said, oh I wish
Speaker 2: my dad could obviously wish your dad could meet the
Speaker 2: people you're dating, And of course I feel that way
Speaker 2: with you, but you're the first person where I know
Speaker 2: that you really mean them.
Speaker 1: And I told everybody that I was wearing your dad's
Speaker 1: cuff links.
Speaker 2: And my mom did say you didn't have to wear them.
Speaker 2: She didn't know if you had a plan, and I
Speaker 2: know you actually planned. Were your grandfather's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it worked out. Again, just the beauty of
Speaker 1: things coming together. I had some very special cuff links
Speaker 1: that were my grandfather's. There's an S on them for Salinger,
Speaker 1: and I've had these. I wear them at special events,
Speaker 1: and of course this was going to be meaningful. I
Speaker 1: wanted my grandfather to be there, so I was going
Speaker 1: to wear his cuf links. And then I got your
Speaker 1: dad's cuff links, and I immediately thought this is perfect.
Speaker 1: So I wore your dad's cuf links instead, and I
Speaker 1: gave my grandfather's cup links to my son, Joshua. So
Speaker 1: my best man, Joshi got to wear the cuff links
Speaker 1: and I got to put him. I had your brother
Speaker 1: before the wedding. I called him over and John put
Speaker 1: my cuff links on so and he knew. I said,
Speaker 1: do you know who these cuff links belonged to? He said, oh,
Speaker 1: these are my dads. I've seen these a million Timess
Speaker 1: and I love that he knew right away. And then
Speaker 1: I put my grandfather's cup links it's his great grandfather,
Speaker 1: his CUF links on Joshua. So it was just perfect.
Speaker 1: And so in the vows, I talked about wearing his
Speaker 1: CUF links and what it meant to me, and that
Speaker 1: was just, you know, all of it just and I
Speaker 1: talked about my kids and you being a part of
Speaker 1: our family and all of that. I didn't make it
Speaker 1: through any of that stuff.
Speaker 2: Well, I think, you know, as nervous as we were,
Speaker 2: we both hit on the same themes right on family,
Speaker 2: on making each other's family our own, on why our
Speaker 2: relationship works, on our partnership, on the joy of it,
Speaker 2: on you know, just the blessing that it is to
Speaker 2: be together. And so A, I don't you know, A,
Speaker 2: we probably need to read them again, but B, I
Speaker 2: think you know, some of that stuff well we'll keep
Speaker 2: for ourselves. But it was so it was perfect.
Speaker 1: Well, my beauty of Austin is we got to do
Speaker 1: it again. Yeah, that was That was the beauty of
Speaker 1: it is that then we got to kind of really
Speaker 1: take it in. I think better when we did it
Speaker 1: in Austin because we had kind of yes, yeah, not
Speaker 1: that we made it through again, but because we didn't.
Speaker 2: But so Napa, we set our vows. Mike was an incredible, efficient,
Speaker 2: funny and he included the audience and and I really
Speaker 2: maybe everybody says this, but people did come up to
Speaker 2: us and they were like, God, we were crying. So
Speaker 2: it was Napa was a much. Napa was very emotional.
Speaker 2: I mean, it was all of our best friends. We
Speaker 2: were all crying. And luckily after that we got to
Speaker 2: go straight to the incredible Roy Estate and have a
Speaker 2: beautiful wine filled dinner that had lots of laughs and
Speaker 2: lots of fun.
Speaker 1: So Roy Vineyard, which is where we held the celebration
Speaker 1: and the dinner after was it's something that's it's a
Speaker 1: place that's been special to me. Catherine Reynolds. I've been
Speaker 1: friends with the prior owners who I met and actually
Speaker 1: we used I think we did Roy on the show,
Speaker 1: and that's that's kind of was how he was arin. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Ari season and we met them and you film something there, Yes,
Speaker 1: we did. Yeah, we filmed it Roy, but that house
Speaker 1: burned down and the fires.
Speaker 2: Of twenty seventeen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so they've rebuilt this beautiful tasting room. It
Speaker 1: is magnificent, and it has this huge cathedral architecture and
Speaker 1: this beautiful window I don't know, maybe sixty foot window
Speaker 1: that looks out over the valley and over their vineyards,
Speaker 1: and it's it's a place where you and I when
Speaker 1: we went to just visit Catherine, a friend of ours,
Speaker 1: and have some wine. One day, we both left and
Speaker 1: we're like, this, this is the place. We need to
Speaker 1: come back here and have our celebration.
Speaker 2: It was about a year ago because it was harvest
Speaker 2: time and napole last year. They said, we've just finished
Speaker 2: rebuilding after everything burned down in the horrible fires. It's
Speaker 2: taken years. Come see the new place. We went and
Speaker 2: it was, you know, we I like a little gut feeling.
Speaker 2: We didn't know where we were going to get married
Speaker 2: at this point, and we didn't know where we were
Speaker 2: going to even by that, I mean even what city.
Speaker 2: And we kind of both looked at each other and said,
Speaker 2: this feels like a place or we should celebrate.
Speaker 1: It seemed ridiculous that we hadn't thought of it already.
Speaker 1: It just how that's how right it fell.
Speaker 2: As we were leaving roy that day a year ago,
Speaker 2: a rainbow came into the sky, and then we really thought, Okay,
Speaker 2: this is it.
Speaker 1: Do you believe in signs for sure? Yes, karma signs,
Speaker 1: the energy.
Speaker 2: This is something we should have discussed before getting I know,
Speaker 2: I fully believe. I mean I've never asked you that
Speaker 2: we're married. Yikes, still things to learn about each other.
Speaker 1: I'm a big believer in that. And so yeah, we
Speaker 1: walked out and again if I told you, you know,
Speaker 1: we have the picture, maybe we'll even post it because
Speaker 1: it was so perfect and ridiculous the way it arched
Speaker 1: over the exit as we were walking out. I mean
Speaker 1: it was you'd be like, this is dumb, this doesn't happen,
Speaker 1: this is Hollywood, but it was. It was that perfect,
Speaker 1: and we were like, this is it where we were
Speaker 1: And so that's we had a little like an hour
Speaker 1: or so of kind of we have some caviar.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I again I sound like a brat,
Speaker 2: but I it was our wedding weekend and I had
Speaker 2: caviar every day. I was so happy.
Speaker 1: Well, the chef, so the chef at.
Speaker 2: Roy, chef Tom Stafford, incredible chef Tom.
Speaker 1: We got to give him a shout out and he
Speaker 1: has a little Chicago tie. I think he worked at
Speaker 1: Alenea in Chicago, Cruit and he was so brilliant, and
Speaker 1: so we we had about an hour because we were
Speaker 1: taking some pictures as well, getting all the family photos
Speaker 1: doing all that. We had this amazing.
Speaker 2: We took some pictures at Roy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we took some pictures at Roy, went into the
Speaker 1: vineyard and if you've been online on our Instagram, you've
Speaker 1: seen kind of the hero shots of us in front
Speaker 1: of the tasting room. And again, their wines are spectacular.
Speaker 1: Chef Tom is incredible and he meticulously went through with
Speaker 1: us because we wanted this to not necessarily be a
Speaker 1: huge party. We wanted a wonderful coursed out wine tasting dinner, wines.
Speaker 2: Paired with incredible foods for the forty people we had.
Speaker 2: I do think a struggle at a wedding is the
Speaker 2: bigger the group, and it's just hard to feed a
Speaker 2: lot of people. It's hard for the food to be
Speaker 2: really good, and we wanted some really good food and wow,
Speaker 2: did Chef Tom deliver.
Speaker 1: It's one of the best meals I've ever had in
Speaker 1: my life.
Speaker 2: I never had a meal like this before. Was fun.
Speaker 2: The first few courses were plaited. We had a Barodica
Speaker 2: prace salad. We had a short red bravioli with a
Speaker 2: marscapone cheese. I don't think I'll ever forget this many.
Speaker 2: I love the food so much. And then the next
Speaker 2: part was really fun. It was like self serve it
Speaker 2: they have a hearth, they're an open fire, wood burning
Speaker 2: oven kind of and he made these incredible Texas little
Speaker 2: Texas nod Wagoo steaks, grilled vegetables, salmon, quail. I mean,
Speaker 2: if you had a dietary restriction, Chef Tom was looking
Speaker 2: out for you that night. And so then that was
Speaker 2: self serve and people kept going up for more and
Speaker 2: more meat. I've never seen.
Speaker 1: The Texas wagu was next level.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Just the quail, oh man, I'm in every every course
Speaker 1: had a wine with it as well, and.
Speaker 2: Of rose, incredible wines. So the food was amazing. After
Speaker 2: our little cocktail hour where we had the caveat and
Speaker 2: a little Haimon, a little champagne, we took some pictures,
Speaker 2: we sat down for dinner and at the beginning of
Speaker 2: dinner we did some toasts from our moms, which we
Speaker 2: were we weren't sure if they were going to be
Speaker 2: more roast and more toasts, but I think the moms
Speaker 2: kept it emotionally complementary. Both of them married wouldn't be
Speaker 2: where we are today without a little criticism from our
Speaker 2: wonderful mothers.
Speaker 1: They were perfec well. The thing is, I will brag
Speaker 1: on them both. They are both brilliant women. They are
Speaker 1: both such well spoken, thoughtful women, both so strong and independent.
Speaker 1: They obviously did a great job raising you, and I
Speaker 1: will give my mom kudos for being an amazing mom
Speaker 1: with me. And so to it. They parted. They each
Speaker 1: imparted wisdom in very different ways. They both had some
Speaker 1: life lessons that they dropped.
Speaker 2: They were both very complimentary of us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they were. It was beautiful.
Speaker 2: It's nice to get a compliment from mom.
Speaker 1: It is.
Speaker 2: It comes around once in a blue moon, on a
Speaker 2: wedding maybe.
Speaker 1: And then the kids got up. Josh and Taylor came
Speaker 1: in and then rushed it and they killed it.
Speaker 2: I gotta say, we didn't know about Josh, and he
Speaker 2: will say this. He actually said it in his speech, Taylor,
Speaker 2: your daughter, Taylor has done theater. She's used to being
Speaker 2: on stage. Little more. Josh. He opened by saying, I'm
Speaker 2: not a big public speaker, but oh my gosh, I
Speaker 2: was so overwhelmed with he was so confident and natural and.
Speaker 1: He landed some jokes.
Speaker 2: Oh he crushed it.
Speaker 1: But Taylor got up and she spoke as well, and
Speaker 1: she was funny and thoughtful. And you know, parents, can
Speaker 1: I talk to you for a second, So you know
Speaker 1: how you feel like every day you're screwing up your
Speaker 1: kids and you're ruining their life. That is childhood, right,
Speaker 1: I mean every day we're like this is going to
Speaker 1: cost offs and therapy because you feel like you're messing
Speaker 1: them up. Then there's these moments that your kids show
Speaker 1: up and they speak or they do something and you think, wow,
Speaker 1: maybe I didn't screw them up so bad, Like maybe
Speaker 1: maybe they're gonna be okay. They're great human beings. But
Speaker 1: they know we all as parents have those feelings of man,
Speaker 1: you know, am I just screwing them up? But that
Speaker 1: they the way they arrived in that moment just blew
Speaker 1: me away. And it was beautiful and so Josh Taylor,
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how much I love you. I
Speaker 1: can't tell you how proud I am of you. But
Speaker 1: we did. We we buried the lead because before we
Speaker 1: went in to sit for dinner and the speeches. We
Speaker 1: all gathered for our first dance, and my daughter, Taylor
Speaker 1: is a beautiful singer, songwriter, performer. It's not what she's
Speaker 1: majoring in. She's not a music major, but she was
Speaker 1: pretty proficient as a pianist and guitarist and as a
Speaker 1: singer as a child and took voice lessons and all that.
Speaker 1: Then she still just loves it, and we asked her
Speaker 1: to sing, and we asked her to sing a specific song.
Speaker 1: It's a song that was really popular. It still is,
Speaker 1: but it's beyond we started dating, yeah, but really when
Speaker 1: we started dating, it's beyond by Leon Bridges. And I've
Speaker 1: was fortunate enough to know Leon Bridges. I know Leon.
Speaker 1: He's from Fort Worth, Texas, and we did some charitable
Speaker 1: stuff together and so huge fan of his. And that
Speaker 1: song is obviously probably the wedding song of the decade.
Speaker 1: But Taylor sang it for us, and.
Speaker 2: I think it was supposed to be our first dance,
Speaker 2: but we really didn't even dance because we just wanted
Speaker 2: to watch Tay the whole time, and so we were
Speaker 2: kind of standing there and swaying, and everybody gathered around
Speaker 2: and again. A song set the mood we'd been in
Speaker 2: the cocktail hour, and then Taylor was the perfect way
Speaker 2: to kind of, you know, get everybody together a little bit.
Speaker 2: And she had been practicing, which meant so much much,
Speaker 2: and she was just perfect.
Speaker 1: You know, it's funny. And so there's the lyrics to
Speaker 1: the song, and I swear I know the lyrics to
Speaker 1: this song by heart. But there was a line in
Speaker 1: there that Grandma would have loved you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she changed that. Taylor changed that.
Speaker 1: It's in the lyrics. Oh it is, it's in I
Speaker 1: thought so too.
Speaker 2: I thought she changed.
Speaker 1: I did too. So I spoke about my grandmother, who,
Speaker 1: God rest her soul, lived in ninety nine and a
Speaker 1: half and was just this spectacular, beautiful Jewish grandmother, and
Speaker 1: it was the matriarch of our family. So much wisdom,
Speaker 1: so much beauty. The way Taylor hit that line, I
Speaker 1: thought she changed it too. I was like, I've never
Speaker 1: heard that before. I went and looked up the lyrics
Speaker 1: to beyond it's in there.
Speaker 2: You know what shout out today knows how to deliver
Speaker 2: a line from her dad.
Speaker 1: And so yes, she did so. But that then I
Speaker 1: lost it again. You're right, we didn't really dance as
Speaker 1: much as we just stared at our daughter in this
Speaker 1: beautiful and again, when I tell you, the picture that
Speaker 1: God painted behind her was glorious. The sun was coming out.
Speaker 1: It was magic, the.
Speaker 2: Type of sky that cameras are never going to capture.
Speaker 2: How it really looked to the human eye.
Speaker 1: It was so because the clouds painted it perfect, gave
Speaker 1: it the depth of field, and just it was magnificent.
Speaker 1: And Taylor just just everybody was speechless. And she was
Speaker 1: performing with this this young woman who.
Speaker 2: Yeah, shout out to Ellie James, this musician who came
Speaker 2: and thank you for keeping our secrets. She was the only,
Speaker 2: you know, sort of outside the person there. And she
Speaker 2: played the piano. As you walked in for the ceremony,
Speaker 2: she played one by You two, a song that you
Speaker 2: know you love you too, and I just.
Speaker 1: Thought it and the lyrics are amazing perfect.
Speaker 2: So that was a piano version. Then I walked down
Speaker 2: the aisle and she played on the piano leve En Rose.
Speaker 2: Now I wanted to walk down to that song for
Speaker 2: many reasons. One when you again, when you and I
Speaker 2: were dating, the movie A Star Is Born was big,
Speaker 2: and I was obsessed with it on Roses and Rose
Speaker 2: the Bachelor Recap show. I did, I like, spoofed it
Speaker 2: a lot. I sang shallow. I was totally into the
Speaker 2: Lady Gaga version of Love on Rose from that movie
Speaker 2: with her and Bradley Cooper. And then the one of
Speaker 2: the ways I really knew I liked you was that
Speaker 2: for Halloween Lash that year, you hadn't even seen the
Speaker 2: movie yet, and I said, hey, I really want to
Speaker 2: be Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga's characters from A Star
Speaker 2: is Born, and he said.
Speaker 1: Cool, got it.
Speaker 2: I'll look up a poster and you came up with
Speaker 2: a costume that day, and I thought, you know, this
Speaker 2: guy cares, this guy wants to make me happy. It
Speaker 2: was a really early sign we'd on evenen dating a
Speaker 2: few months.
Speaker 1: Effort efforts, but in the effort.
Speaker 2: I mean, gosh, I could go on about how women
Speaker 2: women are just like I just want to find a
Speaker 2: guy who can like talk to people. But anyway, so
Speaker 2: that song was meaningful for that reason, and also when
Speaker 2: I really looked up the lyrics, well, and I'll give
Speaker 2: a little shout out to look Levey on Rose Rose.
Speaker 2: Obviously there's some ties Roses in your life and line
Speaker 2: and our life and what brought us together shout out
Speaker 2: to Roses. But the lyrics are about how when you
Speaker 2: find true love you see life in rose like through
Speaker 2: rose colored glasses, life is in pink. And that is
Speaker 2: really how I feel. I really I did. I'll reveal
Speaker 2: I did say this in the vows. I said, I
Speaker 2: never knew life could be like this, and I don't
Speaker 2: want to live it any other way. And I really
Speaker 2: feel that way, and that really is what that song
Speaker 2: means to me. So so I'm really grateful to be
Speaker 2: your wife. And I walked down to that song. And
Speaker 2: then after you and I got married, Ellie, as we
Speaker 2: turned around and walked out to go take pictures, she
Speaker 2: played Beautiful Day by you two, and it was.
Speaker 1: Beautiful that was in it, and then Taylor saying beyond
Speaker 1: and then yeah, the line I know that Grandma would
Speaker 1: have loved her. And I could not believe that I
Speaker 1: heard that line for the first time in there. I
Speaker 1: don't know how I missed it, and it was just perfect.
Speaker 1: And I went and looked at the lie and maybe it.
Speaker 2: Was meaningful that you heard it for the first time.
Speaker 1: It is not until that moment because I had talked
Speaker 1: about my grandmother and my vows as well, and so
Speaker 1: I really thought Taylor had added it, and I gave sorry,
Speaker 1: Leon Bridges, I gave that credit to my daughter. But
Speaker 1: it was it was perfectly.
Speaker 2: Meaningful because I loved your grandmother so much.
Speaker 1: Yes, and that, and I talked about and honestly, without
Speaker 1: even knowing that that was in the song, I had
Speaker 1: talked about how I wish my grandma had known you.
Speaker 1: I wish you guys had met because she would have
Speaker 1: loved you. And I can't believe.
Speaker 2: I can't believe that's in the song. I thought she
Speaker 2: added it too. I have to say my little sister
Speaker 2: spoke Christina. Oh yes, yes, she was wonderful. She is
Speaker 2: a powerhouse executive and she delivers every time. She's solid
Speaker 2: and she was. She loves you so much. She gosh,
Speaker 2: she did everything for me. I didn't have a wedding planner,
Speaker 2: but I had a little sister. She remembered to go.
Speaker 2: She was the ultimate maide of honor. You know how
Speaker 2: people are like, oh what can I help with whatever?
Speaker 2: Just like do because that day as a brider a groom,
Speaker 2: I think you're frazzled like she was, like I got
Speaker 2: your dress. Don't worry like I picked up this. No,
Speaker 2: I got that out of the bridle. Sweet. She was
Speaker 2: just remembering things that day and kind of full.
Speaker 1: In those situations you do not have to ask no,
Speaker 1: they just they are two steps ahead of you because
Speaker 1: you know your brain is frazzled, and so it's nice
Speaker 1: when people are around you. That's like, I got you.
Speaker 2: She was making sure. That's the ultimate sacrifice, right. She
Speaker 2: was putting my happiness above her own that day and
Speaker 2: making sure I had fun, and that probably meant she
Speaker 2: was a little.
Speaker 1: More soubers does your brother, because as you were about
Speaker 1: to walk down the aisle, you realized it was funny,
Speaker 1: I don't have my bouquet.
Speaker 2: Oops, I forgot the bouquet.
Speaker 1: Okay, John, your brother has to sprint up the flight
Speaker 1: is I.
Speaker 2: Mean, we were running a little late because I gotten
Speaker 2: the makeup down the front of my dress. Not very late,
Speaker 2: but a few we had to get the makeup out.
Speaker 2: So I'm a little I'm starting. I'm a little bit like, Okay,
Speaker 2: we're fine, We're on.
Speaker 1: Time, but you know, we're feeling it.
Speaker 2: I walked down and a massive shout out to my
Speaker 2: wonderful makeup artist and hairstylist. If you are in Austin
Speaker 2: or Denver, use Lola Beauty. This is the company, Lola Beauty.
Speaker 2: I've just found them. I just got connected with Lauren Parker,
Speaker 2: the owner, who is here in Austin, and this is
Speaker 2: another fath thing. She's doing my hair and makeup. And
Speaker 2: she tells me, you know, I don't mean to sound weird,
Speaker 2: but I dmd you like three years ago, asking to
Speaker 2: do your hair and makeup if you were ever in
Speaker 2: Denver or Austin, because I loved Roses and Rose I
Speaker 2: watched your show. I'm like stop. She's like sorry, I
Speaker 2: was scared to tell you. I don't know if that'd
Speaker 2: be weird. I said no, it feels even more like
Speaker 2: faith that you're here. And she made me feel more
Speaker 2: beautiful than I've ever felt. So Lauren is amazing. I
Speaker 2: can vouch for her whole company because she works with
Speaker 2: and trains and evalue. It's everybody who is a makeup
Speaker 2: or hair artist for her. So she's incredible.
Speaker 1: So Lola Beauty, I only become a friend of ours now. Yes,
Speaker 1: she's now a part of her life, whether she likes
Speaker 1: it or not.
Speaker 2: I told her your family now, yes, And so I
Speaker 2: bring her up because another thing I maybe forgot without
Speaker 2: my wedding planner. As I'm like going to walk down,
Speaker 2: she goes, well, who's helping you? I got ready in
Speaker 2: this house with this little guest house up these stairs.
Speaker 2: She's like, well, who's helping you down the stairs in
Speaker 2: your dress? Because my mom and sister were gone they
Speaker 2: had to be in for the ceremony. I said, you know, Lauren,
Speaker 2: I guess you are. You're family, and nowt thank you.
Speaker 2: She did it all. So she helped carry me carry
Speaker 2: my dress down these steps. But then we're carrying my
Speaker 2: dress down, my brother comes out. He's going to meet
Speaker 2: me to walk me down the aisle. We're about to go.
Speaker 2: He's like, okay, he got the text it's time to
Speaker 2: go from your wonderful assistant Karen. He's like, okay, we
Speaker 2: got to go. And I said, John, I was carrying
Speaker 2: my dress. I didn't carry a bouquet down here. And
Speaker 2: my little brother runs and I said, god, you're in dress, shoes,
Speaker 2: don't fall. Runs up the stairs, finds my bouquet. We
Speaker 2: forgot to dry it off. It had been in water.
Speaker 2: It's sopping wet. Each rise it off on his brand
Speaker 2: new suit from you, my sweet little drawn, and just
Speaker 2: a few minutes late we walked down the aisle. I
Speaker 2: did find out later I also asked him to hold
Speaker 2: my phone, but his suit was so well fitt he
Speaker 2: said he couldn't keep two phones in the pockets, so
Speaker 2: he threw his own phone into the bushes outside and
Speaker 2: went back and got it later. This is why you
Speaker 2: have a small, intimate wedding with just your best family
Speaker 2: and friends, because when you forget crap, they're not mad
Speaker 2: at you. And also they don't do any weird crap.
Speaker 2: We should talk about that. In Austin, the bigger the
Speaker 2: party gets as fun as it was. People do some
Speaker 2: weird crap. You can rely on your friends and family
Speaker 2: to not get well, maybe not all maybe not extended family.
Speaker 2: Your close family and friends are gonna not be weird anyway.
Speaker 1: So we wrap up with an amazing dessert, and we
Speaker 1: wrap up with more incredible wines. And it was again,
Speaker 1: this was so small and intimate. It was so easy
Speaker 1: to walk around. Everybody kind of did got up and
Speaker 1: walked around and.
Speaker 2: Visibly we were just at two tables.
Speaker 1: Yeah I was, you know, it was too big you know.
Speaker 2: It was outside on this beautiful patio at Roy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, downstairs, and it was two kind of farm tables
Speaker 1: that ran the linkage, twenty people at each.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we were We didn't really have florals. It was candles.
Speaker 2: We had a lot of wine glasses per plates. So
Speaker 2: we had amazing florals at Austin.
Speaker 1: No, no, because it was four, four or five wine
Speaker 1: glasses in front of everybody.
Speaker 2: Because I think we were outside, and you know, I
Speaker 2: don't love when people. I wanted the setting to speak
Speaker 2: for itself. If you get the chance to go to
Speaker 2: nap but try to go to Roy. It's beautiful. The
Speaker 2: outeror patios gorgeous.
Speaker 1: The views are gorgeous, bringing sand to the beach. If
Speaker 1: you're adding flowers to Harvest and Napa Valley, you're not
Speaker 1: going to touch those colors.
Speaker 2: So we had a gorgeous dinner and laughed and cried
Speaker 2: and it was everything I wanted it to be. We've
Speaker 2: got to have the entire weekend. We got to have
Speaker 2: that quality time with the people we love the most.
Speaker 2: And that's why I wanted to do this small wedding
Speaker 2: followed by a big celebration in Austin because I wanted
Speaker 2: that time. Now that being said, yes we party.
Speaker 1: We did because we so we all jumped in the
Speaker 1: shuttle and we all rode back together. By the way,
Speaker 1: it was like, we didn't do that. Let's leave and
Speaker 1: there's the car and we ride off into the sunset alone.
Speaker 1: We wanted to be with these people. And that's one
Speaker 1: thing I think we've learned in our just experience in life.
Speaker 1: Everything in weddings, a lot of it is made to
Speaker 1: separate you from the people you love, and the experience
Speaker 1: is so different. You're not a part of the cocktails,
Speaker 1: you're not a part you know, you're by yourself so much.
Speaker 1: And R and I were like, no, no, let's you know,
Speaker 1: not screw all the traditions. But some of them were like, no, no,
Speaker 1: we want to be a part of these.
Speaker 2: Well, I didn't want to spend a million hours taking
Speaker 2: a million different pictures, although you do got to make
Speaker 2: sure to dick some. But it's that balance. You want
Speaker 2: time for each other and to connect and to take
Speaker 2: it in, but you also want to be with the
Speaker 2: people you love because it's a special moment where everybody
Speaker 2: you love has made the time taking it out of
Speaker 2: their schedules and I'm grateful to be together in one place.
Speaker 1: And so we all did. We all hopped in a shuttle.
Speaker 1: We got in the bus and we went back to
Speaker 1: the Archer Hotel. And again one of the main reasons
Speaker 1: we chose the Archer, other than it's this quaint, beautiful
Speaker 1: little hotel with amazing rooms, the rooftop. I think it
Speaker 1: is the only rooftop bar in all of downtown Napa.
Speaker 2: And it was time for my dream to come true
Speaker 2: rooftop dance party.
Speaker 1: And we danced our asses off. We had late night food.
Speaker 1: I eat my theory about a wedding and so same
Speaker 1: as Elsie, you cannot have enough food. Just always have
Speaker 1: food for people to nibble on. So we got there
Speaker 1: and they had flatbreads, we had doughnut holes with I
Speaker 1: think it was raspberry.
Speaker 2: French fries, sandwiches, sliders, and again an open bar because
Speaker 2: I think at this point we're pretty wind out.
Speaker 1: Some people still drink some wine, but at this point
Speaker 1: it was time for maybe a cocktail, maybe even some hydration,
Speaker 1: but it was time to maybe have a tequila and
Speaker 1: just settled.
Speaker 2: Apologize to anyone who sees our reception photos in Napa
Speaker 2: or Austin I am so sweaty in these pictures. I
Speaker 2: have no regrets. I was dancing so hard and I
Speaker 2: was oh, because I'm like, this is what I game for, Like, yes,
Speaker 2: I came to marry you, Yes I love you. But
Speaker 2: when do you get to dance then? Like when you're
Speaker 2: at a wedding and you're with all your favorite people.
Speaker 2: And we got to pick the songs. We got to
Speaker 2: pick our eighties and nineties bangers. I did not want
Speaker 2: to hear the shuffle slide. I did not want to
Speaker 2: hear do you remember. No, it was like eighties and nineties.
Speaker 2: I sound like a radio station eighties, nineties and today.
Speaker 2: But it was all bangers and shout out to the
Speaker 2: brother in law, Andrew. This is how diy and intimate.
Speaker 2: The wedding was. My brother in law Andrew made the
Speaker 2: dance party playlist director of Vibe. And I was in
Speaker 2: a dress by Olivia Botega that I love. This dress.
Speaker 2: It's called them in Roe Dress. You can get it.
Speaker 2: It's available and they, by the way, Olivia botake it
Speaker 2: for free. Custom does custom measurements and you send them
Speaker 2: and they do it a custom fit for you. This
Speaker 2: dress was so fun, sparkly twirling. Really, I went from
Speaker 2: an a line like, well, I guess I haven't talked
Speaker 2: about picking the dress, so the dress I chose, I
Speaker 2: didn't try on money. I saw someone the other day
Speaker 2: say they tried on one hundred and fifty wedding dress.
Speaker 1: That's just that's crazy.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, baby, you're never going to get that
Speaker 2: time back. But to each their own, I tried on
Speaker 2: maybe ten to twelve. At a certain point, I think
Speaker 2: you start to get like they all look like white dresses,
Speaker 2: and it starts to run together. But my gauge was
Speaker 2: I just kept going back. I kept comparing everyone to
Speaker 2: this one in my mind, and it's the fit that
Speaker 2: I think works best for me after getting to wear
Speaker 2: a lot of amazing dresses on red carpet c et
Speaker 2: strapless and it gave me a nice waist and then
Speaker 2: it was a little flowy, and I loved it, and
Speaker 2: I did. I couldn't believe it. I did not. You
Speaker 2: didn't think you were gonna cry, or you well, I
Speaker 2: guess you were trying not to cry. I didn't want
Speaker 2: or think I was going to cry in the wedding dress.
Speaker 2: Try it. I'm like, no, this, I'm not gonna. I'm
Speaker 2: I'm a chill bride. And I did tear up when
Speaker 2: I put that dress on it because I could instantly see.
Speaker 1: You told me that. I remember you called me and
Speaker 1: I said, had to go, you go. I tried one
Speaker 1: on and.
Speaker 2: I cried, yeah, because I could suddenly it was weird.
Speaker 2: I tried it not and I could see walking down
Speaker 2: the aisle in it to you, and that was all
Speaker 2: I can that's the dream. So you changed in then
Speaker 2: I wanted this other dress to kind of be similar
Speaker 2: but different, like strapless, has a waste, a little flowy,
Speaker 2: but like sparkling fun, almost like Cinderella went to the ball,
Speaker 2: but then she she changed and so it was Towrillian fun.
Speaker 2: But with all that sparkle, it wasn't I don't want
Speaker 2: to throw shade. Get this stress. This is not shade.
Speaker 2: I want to be clear. I love this dress. Get
Speaker 2: this dress. It wasn't the world's most breathable fabric. And
Speaker 2: I am a sweaty person. I am the We've talked
Speaker 2: about this in interviews. When you and I used to
Speaker 2: do interviews, I'd get nervous because you don't sweat and
Speaker 2: I do. And the lights hit you for the interview,
Speaker 2: I'm a sweaty babe, and I was dancing so hard.
Speaker 2: I was doing so much good cardio and so anyway,
Speaker 2: I'm really sweaty in all the pictures.
Speaker 1: And we tore it up. It was a great night,
Speaker 1: and it got kind of intimate because the rooftop shuts
Speaker 1: down around on ten or ten thirty anyway, so we
Speaker 1: had the place to ourselves. We took over the entire rooftop,
Speaker 1: had it very private, very intimate, and it was just
Speaker 1: it was just wonderful because it was just our people.
Speaker 2: The kids were dancing, of those our families, our friends.
Speaker 2: If you see in some of the pictures Harry Potter
Speaker 2: esque glasses. Yes, my sortie sister surprised me. They all
Speaker 2: showed up to the rooftop dance party in her Potter glasses.
Speaker 2: Also another reveal, Harry Potter made it into the vows.
Speaker 2: I mentioned Harry Potter and the vows. I actually think
Speaker 2: our fici by the way, and you did so do
Speaker 2: I need to real it isn't too much, so.
Speaker 1: Do you you do? You?
Speaker 2: You know what's going to be funny. Also, is now
Speaker 2: that people know that we got married, if they saw
Speaker 2: it on Instagram, I did throw a Harry Potter Halloween party.
Speaker 2: And yes, I did throw a Halloween party at my
Speaker 2: home the week before the wedding in Austin, the week
Speaker 2: after our wedding, and two weeks after our wedding in Napa.
Speaker 2: Why did I do that? I don't know. I love
Speaker 2: a festivity anyway, I'm tired but happy and so yeah, fun,
Speaker 2: fun dance party. You babe, you dance.
Speaker 1: I love to dance. I am of the age and
Speaker 1: the era where dancing was cool, like I wish still
Speaker 1: in the footloose era, like where you know, going to
Speaker 1: school in the you know eighties and you know nineties,
Speaker 1: And we danced. When we went to dances, we danced.
Speaker 1: We loved it. And so I still love to dance.
Speaker 1: Not saying I'm good at it. I'm not, but I
Speaker 1: still love it and I will go at it hard
Speaker 1: and enjoy it. And so we danced our asses off,
Speaker 1: had a blast, and then it was time to shut
Speaker 1: it all down again. They said it's over, y'all, need
Speaker 1: to go home. No one wanted the night to end,
Speaker 1: and I guess I don't know. When it was twelve
Speaker 1: thirty one o'clock in the morning, we all kind of
Speaker 1: started making our way back to our rooms, which was
Speaker 1: somewhat eventful.
Speaker 2: I was pretty tipsy at one point. You know, when
Speaker 2: you're the bride, you're like forgetting to I mean, I
Speaker 2: ate the meal. I loved it. I probably could have
Speaker 2: eaten more food physically, but I.
Speaker 1: Was chatting, and every bride and groom probably has that
Speaker 1: same thing. I wish i'd enjoyed the food.
Speaker 2: Oh, I enjoyed it. I just should have eaten more.
Speaker 1: I that is why I love nap as. I truly
Speaker 1: truly enjoyed every bite, and it was spectatorical.
Speaker 2: I was tipsy, and we are about to at back
Speaker 2: to hotel room, and I think we should end this
Speaker 2: podcast on this story. Yes, we're heading back and two
Speaker 2: floors down, we are down the hall from your dear friend,
Speaker 2: and you and I are like being I think, just
Speaker 2: kind of loud. As we're heading back.
Speaker 1: To Project the Innocent, we'll call him Chip.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I had tried to grab some French fries and
Speaker 2: a fried chicken sandwichess. We walked out, but at some
Speaker 2: point the meat had fallen out of the sandwich. The
Speaker 2: chicken was gone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's just holding two pieces of bread and a thing.
Speaker 2: I didn't really realize that. So we're laughing. You're laughing
Speaker 2: at me loudly because you're like, babe, where's the meat?
Speaker 2: You're just eating bread.
Speaker 1: Well, you had given up halfway to our room down
Speaker 1: the hall. You had decided your feet hurt and you
Speaker 1: gave up and you sat down on the floor in
Speaker 1: the hall and said go on without me. I can't
Speaker 1: make it. She's folks, she's not dramatic or theatrical at all.
Speaker 1: So here we are. It's one o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1: She's holding two pieces of bread with lettuce in it,
Speaker 1: and she's like, where's the meat in here? And now
Speaker 1: we're being kind of loud again. It's one in the morning.
Speaker 2: So your friendship open a person.
Speaker 1: No, we don't know who this is. A door opened,
Speaker 1: so I'm like, oh my god, we've just woken somebody up.
Speaker 1: We're gonna get yelled at. I feel terrible. The door
Speaker 1: flies open and a gentleman walks out in his underwear.
Speaker 1: In his underwear, it turns out it's my best friend Chip.
Speaker 2: He had come out to see what the ruckus was.
Speaker 2: I love how comfortable he felt at the Archer Hotel.
Speaker 2: If it was his own home.
Speaker 1: I don't know what his plan was. I don't know
Speaker 1: if he had a plan at all, why he what
Speaker 1: was he going to accomplish if it wasn't us, because
Speaker 1: he didn't know, he couldn't see us through the people.
Speaker 1: He didn't know who was out in the hall.
Speaker 2: I love his confidence.
Speaker 1: He just walked down his underwear to like confront whatever
Speaker 1: was going on.
Speaker 2: So we're already laughing because chips come out in his underwear.
Speaker 2: And I should reveal that I did have people where
Speaker 2: I had sort of themes aesthetics for each night. Yes,
Speaker 2: Friday night in Napa was I called it Hampton's chic.
Speaker 2: I wanted everybody in Cream's blues. They were actually Malakoya
Speaker 2: and the aesthetic. I like to have a thing to
Speaker 2: dress for. I don't know if everybody did, but I
Speaker 2: liked to have a thing to dress work. So I
Speaker 2: told them that on our website, I said, dress like
Speaker 2: you are the TikTok trend of coastal grandmother. Dress as
Speaker 2: if you are in a Nancy Meers movie. Dress as
Speaker 2: if you were Gwyneth Paltrow in courts elevated neutrals with
Speaker 2: pops of blue. Saturday Night, I said it's harvest in
Speaker 2: nappa dress in the fall colors Ron's is and greens
Speaker 2: and fall. Chip was so on theme that on Saturday
Speaker 2: night he wore boxers with pumpkin pie pieces on them in.
Speaker 1: A pattern pumpkin pie underwear.
Speaker 2: So this man is not only in this hotel all
Speaker 2: the way in his underwear, but his underwear are covered
Speaker 2: in it is a pattern of pumpkin pie and harvest.
Speaker 1: We get Lauren to her feet, but then we realize
Speaker 1: as we start walking away, Chip has locked himself out
Speaker 1: of his room. He's standing in the hall in his underwear.
Speaker 1: We're walking after a room and he realizes, oh crap,
Speaker 1: the door had closed, because where are you going to
Speaker 1: put the key? You have no pockets. He walked out again.
Speaker 1: Zero plan from this man, and he's standing there in
Speaker 1: the hallway and we start to leave him.
Speaker 2: And you say, well, you were gonna leave your best friend.
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess you're thinking, it's my wedding night.
Speaker 1: Every man for himself, it's my wedding night. I'm getting
Speaker 1: my girl to the room. And you can use your
Speaker 1: imagination why.
Speaker 2: Your own peril bezz friend locked out of his room
Speaker 2: because his wife was asleep locked out of his room
Speaker 2: in the hallway in his underwear.
Speaker 1: You know why he's my best friend. He understood, he said,
Speaker 1: you go, you go, buddy, it's your wedding night. I
Speaker 1: am not going to slow your role as I'm standing
Speaker 1: here in my pumpkin pie underwear. And that is how
Speaker 1: our wedding night ended. Well that's not how it ended,
Speaker 1: but okay, that's how we got to the room that
Speaker 1: was NAPA.
Speaker 2: NAPA was beautiful and perfect the only other thing and
Speaker 2: we don't even need to get into it because everybody
Speaker 2: was kind of hung over and exhausted in the best way.
Speaker 2: We did a little morning after brunch at the Archer Hotel. Well,
Speaker 2: I love the debrief the morning after. It's so fun
Speaker 2: to relive everything. And you know what, it's been really
Speaker 2: fun to relive NAPA on this podcast.
Speaker 1: But it's only everything we ever wanted. It was everything
Speaker 1: I ever dreamed of, everything you and I ever dreamed
Speaker 1: of everything. Again, I use this word a lot. Everything
Speaker 1: was so intentional between us. We had planned it to
Speaker 1: a tea produced it, if you will, being the TV
Speaker 1: people we are, and it came off beautifully.
Speaker 2: I couldn't feel more grateful, blessed, not just yeah, I
Speaker 2: had the perfect wedding, but that I got to marry you, well,
Speaker 2: you know, the beauty.
Speaker 1: I think of that wedding had a lot to do with. Yes,
Speaker 1: we're in Napa and the wine and the food and
Speaker 1: the people and all that. But we talk about this
Speaker 1: a lot seasons of life, and we are in a
Speaker 1: blessed season in our life where everybody's healthy, which is huge,
Speaker 1: everybody's happy, everybody's good. And when you were in this
Speaker 1: a season, the season's this will not last. Bad things
Speaker 1: and shame things are going to change. That's inevitable. Life
Speaker 1: is inevitable. It comes at you. So to embrace all
Speaker 1: of this happening, our wedding and our marriage coming together
Speaker 1: in a great season that was beautiful and it was
Speaker 1: not lost on us, and it made us even more
Speaker 1: emotional to respect that and enjoy it because it's fleeting
Speaker 1: and it won't always be that way, so we will
Speaker 1: always have that memory.
Speaker 2: I feel so lucky. We got everything we wanted, and
Speaker 2: I feel luckiest to have you. And the thing is,
Speaker 2: as much as we've loved to reliving this, it's only
Speaker 2: just begun because we haven't even gotten to Austin and
Speaker 2: Austin was a lot more spicy, yes, a lot more ragy,
Speaker 2: and a lot more dramatic, so we will get into
Speaker 2: it all. Wedding number two.
Speaker 1: You won't believe who stood side by side at our
Speaker 1: party at the house. Oh we'll save that for the
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