1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. List 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,399 Speaker 1: is how mentic and I heard radio podcast. Hi everyone, 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,680 Speaker 1: I'm woman bone and human know me from selling Sunset 4 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: and I'm made to marry Figeral. I'm also a project 5 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:19,479 Speaker 1: manager with the White Blood Estates and I'm happy to 6 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:24,439 Speaker 1: be the guests on Hope Men's Things, Um, and I'm 7 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: going to answer all your questions so to try to 8 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: help you to understand how Men's Things. So, but first 9 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,919 Speaker 1: this is the living question we remained, So let's get 10 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 1: into it. What are you known for? Tell us about yourself. 11 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: So I'm sure everyone knows me from selling Sunset especially 12 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:50,480 Speaker 1: it's um um um the literality TV show on Netflix 13 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 1: about release states where I'm a project manager and my 14 00:00:55,560 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: wife is a brace figeent and and that's it. So 15 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: that's my life. So a project manager constantly or we 16 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:09,039 Speaker 1: work a lot with your plan group and then um, 17 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: and that's about who are you in your personal life? So, uh, 18 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:19,120 Speaker 1: my personal life. So I moved like now about like 19 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:22,560 Speaker 1: six years ago um in de l A as a 20 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: chef and as a model and litly on like actually 21 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: like a couple of months after I actually stopped working 22 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: as a chef because that's like some issues with my 23 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: previous busses. And then that's when I start my journey 24 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 1: into that really states slash construction. Um. At first I 25 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:46,680 Speaker 1: have no idea, and then I started to enjoy it 26 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: after a couple of months and then end up by 27 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: um becoming a project manager and taking over the project. 28 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 1: And then um, the more I was doing it and 29 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 1: the more like that, so UM in that I became 30 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: my main focus right now and then hopefully uh, let alone, 31 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: we want to start flipping us is we've married, and 32 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: if possible, even have like a spinoff and own shoe. 33 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: So that's a project UM for the true show. So 34 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:30,079 Speaker 1: shows that I've been watching. Um, I have no idea. 35 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: Huh oh yeah, nachos. We did watch Selling Sunset and 36 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: what UM I like, Uh, it's not a shoe, but 37 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:52,960 Speaker 1: it's a movie actually and that came on not long ago. 38 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: It's a Dean former and also the one we've um 39 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 1: Jamie Foxx so I can't remember the name, but it's 40 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: a good one. UM. What is your favorite food? So, 41 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:12,079 Speaker 1: my favorite food is Italian food, So I'm a big 42 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: fan of pasta, pizza and meat also but yes, that's uh, 43 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: that's my favorite food. Definitely tell us about your career 44 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: so by Mica. Yeah, like I said previously, UM, I 45 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 1: was a chef almost um ten years and helped me 46 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: to travel all around the world. UM. And then um 47 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: clearly on UM, I was starting to get into modeling 48 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 1: when I was living in Australia and before I came here, 49 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 1: and then um, that's when um, I actually stop working 50 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: as a chef to become a project manager and then 51 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: get more into a construction and real estate and and 52 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: you also as a as working on tvrself. So uh, 53 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 1: that's about it. What is your biggest fear in life? 54 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: So my biggest fear in life, I wouldn't say that 55 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: it's feling because feeling, it's learning and that's what I 56 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:26,239 Speaker 1: think would become better. And you know, I learn, um 57 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:32,720 Speaker 1: how to do things better. But I just keep trying 58 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:38,279 Speaker 1: to get better at what we do as uh not 59 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: as fast as possible because this is a process. But 60 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:46,479 Speaker 1: I'm always I'm always worry uh that I don't make 61 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: it in time, and uh, you know, always I think 62 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:54,160 Speaker 1: I'm trying to push myself so much because I know 63 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: that how much I am capable of doing. And that's 64 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 1: what I think makes me uh worriobut like not being 65 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 1: able to to get to where I want to be 66 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: in uh in the time that I'm setting. Basically, what 67 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: is your biggest pective? Um? Seriously don't really know. I've 68 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: been asking that question not to don't go actually and 69 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 1: I couldn't say it. So I still need to figure out. 70 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: I don't know if I have one. I just need 71 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:29,919 Speaker 1: to figure to think about it. What makes you the 72 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: most happy? Uh? I would say my wife, happy wife, 73 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: happy life. Now that's too mean. Uh happy? Um, independent 74 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: many ways that I get happy. But I'm happy at 75 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: work when I you know, when I finished something and 76 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,080 Speaker 1: I'm proud of it. So um, But what makes me 77 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:57,359 Speaker 1: most happy? It's like, you know, enjoying your my life 78 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,839 Speaker 1: with my wife and you know, spending time to give 79 00:05:59,880 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: you most likely what is your ideal surturday morning? Uh? 80 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:11,560 Speaker 1: I would say my ideas Saturday the morning. It's actually 81 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: like to go to the gym on the morning, early morning. 82 00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: And then I would say after go and get breakfast 83 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 1: with my wife and then um and then maybe uh yeah, 84 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:27,159 Speaker 1: go run through my wife of something. Are you more 85 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: of an autlet of hamp chairs? Quarterback? I will say 86 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: more of an athlete. I just love sports and fitness 87 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 1: and stuff like that, so definitely more of an athlete. 88 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: So what kids you put motive? Um, I would say 89 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: it's my goals, um I Um, I'm lucky. I also 90 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:54,720 Speaker 1: have to say that I have like so many like 91 00:06:54,880 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 1: successful people around me that keeps me, you know, um 92 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: motivated and and you know, my goals keeps me motivated. 93 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: But to see that those people around me helps me 94 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: and gives me even more the ambitious and and and 95 00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: the will that you know I can't get it and 96 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: I will and it just like keeps me going, you know, 97 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: to get there. So that's the leven question with me, Romaine, 98 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: and um, we're gonna take a quick break and come back. 99 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: So welcome back to home and things, and um let's 100 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 1: get into with some life calls. Hi Ashley's Romaine, how 101 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 1: are you? Hi? I'm good, How are you good? Thank you? 102 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: So what's your question? All right? So I've recently moved 103 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 1: in with my boyfriend of a year and there are 104 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,559 Speaker 1: some things that I'm like having a hard time getting 105 00:07:57,640 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 1: used to. So like he says comments to me just 106 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: here and there, and like I know he doesn't intend 107 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 1: them to be disrespectful, but they are. I think it's 108 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: because like we aren't just like used to living to 109 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: being around with each other like seven you know, but 110 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: like I don't know, sometimes those comments make me worry 111 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 1: that I've made a huge mistake moving in with him, 112 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: and like I don't know, I question that is love 113 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: enough type of thing? You know? Yeah, well I would say, 114 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 1: I mean if I was you personally, I mean, I 115 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 1: guess the best um my advice would be too, like 116 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:38,960 Speaker 1: almost have a sit down with him, like you know, 117 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,760 Speaker 1: explain to to him or you feel because sometimes the 118 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:46,080 Speaker 1: only things is like I think in a couple, um 119 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 1: people don't understand or don't realize how much certain things 120 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:55,120 Speaker 1: affect each other. Which maybe for him it doesn't doesn't 121 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 1: take it seriously or doesn't see like who you know, 122 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 1: disrespectful it is you know for you and don't think 123 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,679 Speaker 1: he hurts you or anything like that and a and 124 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: just maybe the first step will be like to actually 125 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: sit down with him, have a talk and and make 126 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 1: him realize that actually it does bother you and that 127 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:17,079 Speaker 1: you you would like him to stop doing those comments 128 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: or like you know this type of things and then 129 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 1: you know, um, see if like things change, you know, 130 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: because at that point you know that you know it 131 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:29,480 Speaker 1: would be aware of it, and that you know, if 132 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:31,679 Speaker 1: he's still doing it, then obviously there won be a 133 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: different issues. Okay, so just like lay it all out 134 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: there and then see if those are his true colors 135 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 1: or just like mussations. I think almost like for me, 136 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: like the in relationship, you need to be able to 137 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 1: talk like you know anything you have, like when something 138 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:51,679 Speaker 1: when you know it's like when you love something, you 139 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: not let the person know, right. I feel like it 140 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: should be the same for everything. So if something bother 141 00:09:57,400 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 1: you or if you don't like something, just be open 142 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: and like just say the way it is. That way 143 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:06,640 Speaker 1: people knows about it, like you know, there's not like 144 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:08,680 Speaker 1: surprised like oh but you didn't tell me or anything 145 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 1: like that. So if that person is still doing it 146 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: even though you told him that you know, it does 147 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: actually bother you and it hurts you when you don't 148 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:21,400 Speaker 1: you don't like it, then obviously then that's an other issues. 149 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: But you know, at least people you know knows they 150 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 1: know right away. Okay, thank you, thank you so much. 151 00:10:30,840 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 1: I think that's a Yeah, that's great advice. I try 152 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 1: and I guess I guess we're sticking to it or 153 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: I'll be looking for a new place to with. I 154 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: hope it's just gonna be like, you know, babbing him. 155 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:46,440 Speaker 1: That didn't realize it, but that way, I mean, it's 156 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 1: the best way to you know, when you're open with 157 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: someone there, you need to be able to talk like 158 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: freely and and let the people know like all you 159 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,440 Speaker 1: feeling and good or bad. You know, it's not always 160 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 1: in a good way, but he's you know, everyone knows. Awesome. 161 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I appreciate it. You're welcome. Hey, 162 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: call to men. How are you hi? I'm okay, How 163 00:11:14,679 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 1: are you good? What's your question? I'm gonna try to 164 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 1: help you. Thank you. Um. So, I'm currently single, um, 165 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 1: but I have a friends with benefits man in my 166 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:33,080 Speaker 1: life right now. Um. Well, recently he's told me that 167 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:36,840 Speaker 1: he loved me. But I'm so confused if he loves 168 00:11:36,880 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: me as a friend or as a girlfriend. It's literally 169 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 1: I mean, I've heard a lot of the story, and 170 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,080 Speaker 1: you know, obviously we all have a past, but I 171 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:52,839 Speaker 1: think that's that's what happened most of the time. Uh, 172 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 1: Like friend foods benefits only war for so long it's 173 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:58,679 Speaker 1: really right when I actually people can keep it that 174 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 1: way because I feel like eventually someone starts feeling, start 175 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 1: having feeling for each other. So my guests will be 176 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:10,960 Speaker 1: that he actually likes you more than just a friendly 177 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:16,679 Speaker 1: benefits and that he actually I hope that, you know, 178 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: maybe something more could happen with you. Yeah, I'm just 179 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 1: not sure how I feel now because I'm not sure 180 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 1: if I have feelings for him, and I just don't 181 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: know how to bring it up to him. The only 182 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:33,079 Speaker 1: thing is like this is, um, it's gonna be you 183 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:36,199 Speaker 1: that's gonna have to figure it out, because I mean, 184 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:39,319 Speaker 1: you can obviously have a conversation with him and everything. 185 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,680 Speaker 1: But the problem is like usually it's often that in 186 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 1: those situations only one of the person start to a 187 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:50,680 Speaker 1: feeling and then I mean it does happen sometimes that 188 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:54,200 Speaker 1: you know, people get into of ship and everything. But um, 189 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 1: the problem is, like you gonna need to figure this 190 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 1: out because then you know that at that point it's 191 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: almost for him. Every single time you're gonna see him, 192 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 1: it's not going to be used a friend with benefits. 193 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:08,760 Speaker 1: It's gonna want more and more and more, you know 194 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:13,320 Speaker 1: what I mean. Yeah, that makes sense. Thank you, Thank 195 00:13:13,320 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: You're welcome. Hi, it's domain. How are you good? How 196 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 1: are you doing good? I'm good? Thank you. What's your question? Yeah? 197 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: So I just started dating a guy and I really 198 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: like him, but I see who he is friends with 199 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:35,600 Speaker 1: on Instagram and there are a lot of Instagram model 200 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: girls who he hangs out with. And it's mostly because 201 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:42,079 Speaker 1: his sisters are very pretty as well and hang out 202 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:44,720 Speaker 1: with that kind of crowd. And I hate to admit it, 203 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:47,560 Speaker 1: but it makes me feel insecure because I am not 204 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 1: that type and I don't portray myself that way on 205 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: social media. Is this is the thought that I should 206 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:54,800 Speaker 1: just like get out of my head because he was 207 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:59,320 Speaker 1: choosing to date me rather than them or I don't know, 208 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:03,400 Speaker 1: really strike me. Obviously there's some truth in it. Yes, 209 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 1: I think you should like also like be confident in 210 00:14:07,679 --> 00:14:11,840 Speaker 1: yourself because obviously he's setting you, not them, you know 211 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 1: what I mean. You know, if he didn't want to 212 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 1: date you, then obviously would I've got Jackie. So but 213 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 1: also what's important it's for him to make sure that 214 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 1: you respect you. So yes, you can hang up with 215 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:27,520 Speaker 1: like anyone he wants or models or Instagram with it 216 00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: or whatever. It is, but as long as he show 217 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: you respect and and you know it's important for him 218 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 1: to you know, show you that you don't need to 219 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: worry about it. Yes, you know he's getting you, but 220 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:40,840 Speaker 1: you know he needs to also you know, makes you 221 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 1: feel comfortable, and that that would be my best advice 222 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 1: from him to do to you. Okay, thank you very much, 223 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 1: of course I n in it. Men, who are you? 224 00:14:55,240 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 1: Hire you? I'm good? Thank you? How can I help you? Yeah? So, um, 225 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 1: I'm a newly wed a couple of months actually, thank you. Um. 226 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 1: But honestly, lately, I feel like my husband and I 227 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 1: that's what weird to say. But it's great, but very 228 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:26,360 Speaker 1: had any time together. So he just started a new job, 229 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: um as an engineer as well. Um, but it's taking 230 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 1: up a lot of his time, and um, you know 231 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 1: he's putting an extra hours. We both are actually because 232 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 1: we're trying to save to buy a house together. Um. 233 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: And so I know he's putting in the overtime for 234 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:49,080 Speaker 1: us and for that. UM, but I just feel like 235 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 1: he's spending too much time away from me, and so 236 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 1: I'm just like trying to figure out how I can 237 00:15:57,960 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 1: bring that up to him and how I can bring 238 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:03,800 Speaker 1: up that we need you know, more us time and 239 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: this new bag. I completely actually understand your situation because 240 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 1: but we we live in this situation. We've me and 241 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: my wife actually you know constantly, so we just walk 242 00:16:16,480 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: so much constantly, both of us that we don't see 243 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 1: it was that we barely see it to all like 244 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 1: every day like just literally like an hour or two, 245 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:27,840 Speaker 1: not even because I do baterly because we have super early, 246 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 1: are come home late and she's there because she has 247 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: clients overseas. So um, what I would bring it to 248 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 1: him is that you know, you're super grateful that you 249 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: know obviously is doing this for you guys, because it's 250 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:44,160 Speaker 1: amazing that he's trying to save you know, and work more. 251 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:49,520 Speaker 1: But what alsoy it needs to be careful is that 252 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:54,000 Speaker 1: you don't want to to do more something to take 253 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:57,200 Speaker 1: away from you know, your couple. So do more, like 254 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 1: you know, work more to do something you know as 255 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 1: a buying house, but take away or so from you 256 00:17:03,640 --> 00:17:07,679 Speaker 1: as you as a couple. So what personally we do 257 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: as we don't see each other that often, we're trying 258 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:14,000 Speaker 1: to take like every like every two or three weeks, 259 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:17,040 Speaker 1: like try to just take like the weekend like two 260 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:20,119 Speaker 1: days or like even sometimes we live on the Saturday 261 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:23,439 Speaker 1: morning and come back on Sunday night. Just like go 262 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:26,240 Speaker 1: and spend two day even sometimes you can just be 263 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 1: like an hour away or like an hour and like 264 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 1: super close from where you guys live around aware, but 265 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 1: you know, and just go spend the day like a 266 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: day and a half two days with him, and then 267 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: as he works the best, like it resets everything and 268 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 1: we just enjoyed and you enjoy so much more the 269 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 1: time even though it's short with that person, because it's 270 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 1: not that often that it happens, so you enjoy so 271 00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:50,080 Speaker 1: much more. And then that way, it keeps you go, 272 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:53,400 Speaker 1: guys going, because you know that you know you still 273 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 1: have those you still can make that little you know, 274 00:17:56,960 --> 00:18:01,280 Speaker 1: um that effort like to spend time with your partner 275 00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: because it's important to keep that in a relation ship, 276 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:08,400 Speaker 1: you know, right, and to like to continue to date 277 00:18:08,560 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: your husband exactly like yeah, and then if possible, Like 278 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:13,720 Speaker 1: I don't know how hard it is. It's we're always 279 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: trying to do we we do it sometimes, but it 280 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:18,800 Speaker 1: has but like maybe you know, try to do at 281 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:23,600 Speaker 1: least like try to try to say, like let's do 282 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:28,080 Speaker 1: like one day pay a week or you know, at 283 00:18:28,160 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 1: least we're going to date for one one day a 284 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:33,000 Speaker 1: week and then every three weeks, let's do like a weekend, 285 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:36,080 Speaker 1: you know, maybe do that type, like try to do 286 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 1: something like you know that one day a week, you know. 287 00:18:39,720 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 1: I think everyone can try to figure out like one 288 00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:44,960 Speaker 1: day a week to do just a date like for 289 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:47,239 Speaker 1: a couple of hours, and then once ever we like 290 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:49,240 Speaker 1: oh once a month, like you know what you do 291 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:52,840 Speaker 1: like a weekend somewhere for like two days. That way, 292 00:18:52,880 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 1: I think everyone can make this work, you know. And 293 00:18:56,680 --> 00:19:00,159 Speaker 1: and uh any died you know, since we're doing is 294 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:03,360 Speaker 1: my wife did help us a lot, so I'm sure 295 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:07,080 Speaker 1: we'd help you guys a lot. Yeah, okay, thank you, 296 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:11,400 Speaker 1: just carving out some time. Yeah, great, thank you so much. 297 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,439 Speaker 1: You're welcome. I hope it's gonna it's gonna work. He 298 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 1: works for us, so yeah, I hope finger cous but yeah, 299 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:23,119 Speaker 1: it's Romain. Who are you? I'm good? How are you? 300 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: I'm good? Thank you? Okay, So my question is a 301 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:31,159 Speaker 1: little backstory. Um So, I've been with my boyfriend for 302 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 1: about five months and we just had our first fight 303 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:38,479 Speaker 1: and it just kind of seems like our communicationous. Our 304 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:40,760 Speaker 1: communication style is kind of different when it comes to 305 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:43,680 Speaker 1: having tough conversations about our feelings, and it just seems 306 00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:47,160 Speaker 1: like we don't match up. And I'm struggling because any 307 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 1: time I do bring up my feelings, I feel I 308 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 1: just kind of feel dismissed. And we get along great otherwise, 309 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:56,360 Speaker 1: but in those moments, it just I just feel really 310 00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: discouraged and bumps me out, And I don't know what 311 00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:01,560 Speaker 1: to do because I feel like I'm for him, but 312 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:05,160 Speaker 1: just wish we can change are I don't know fighting style. 313 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:11,800 Speaker 1: Do you think there's a chance for change working exactly? What? Exactly? Uh, 314 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,879 Speaker 1: it's like the way when you bring up your feeling 315 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:17,480 Speaker 1: that he is writing bad to like back to it, 316 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 1: he just he like, like, so my our fight was 317 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 1: kind of seemed like he was flirting with a girl 318 00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:26,160 Speaker 1: at a bar, and like I totally owned that I 319 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: was cheated out of my last relationships, so I know 320 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 1: that like I have that that I have that resentment 321 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:34,560 Speaker 1: or of that fearum, but he just kind of brushed 322 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:35,880 Speaker 1: it up like it was nothing. I was just being 323 00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: friendly and like anytime I kind of bring up my feelings, 324 00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:41,239 Speaker 1: it's just he kind of it seems like he kind 325 00:20:41,280 --> 00:20:42,840 Speaker 1: of shuts down a little bit and doesn't really know 326 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,040 Speaker 1: how to deal with it, so he just kind of 327 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:48,400 Speaker 1: dismisses it. Yeah, well, after yes, it's good to talk 328 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,119 Speaker 1: about the past, but also you know, it's not because 329 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:52,879 Speaker 1: you've been honest about your past that he has to 330 00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 1: you know, put a stickare on you and seeing like, oh, 331 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 1: but you did that or whatever. So but what's important 332 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:04,720 Speaker 1: it's like, you know, whenever it's like you maybe explained 333 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 1: to him in a way that you know, you you're 334 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:12,239 Speaker 1: trying to let him know, but you're feeling before you know, 335 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:14,239 Speaker 1: it gets to a point that you get hurt. And 336 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:17,600 Speaker 1: then you know because obviously if that was this case 337 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:20,399 Speaker 1: and he was actually coming to you and then you know, 338 00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 1: trying to bring his feeling that you know, he actually 339 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:25,080 Speaker 1: didn't like the way you where with someone or whatever, 340 00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:29,679 Speaker 1: you know, uh, and actually didn't care and you know 341 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:33,679 Speaker 1: tell him like basically that nothing was happening. Uh, maybe 342 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 1: maybe trying to find a way to make him like 343 00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:42,720 Speaker 1: take be in your position and to h to have 344 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:45,879 Speaker 1: men understand that you know you would most likely would 345 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:47,920 Speaker 1: like you to you know, listen to him. And then 346 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,840 Speaker 1: if there's something that actually did bothn't him that you 347 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:54,159 Speaker 1: were doing that. I'm sure he would love you to 348 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 1: be here to listen and to hopefully, you know, be 349 00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:59,119 Speaker 1: able to change that. So it goes both when or 350 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 1: essentially it's not only one way. I feel like the 351 00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,840 Speaker 1: importent for a person that to be here and to listen, 352 00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 1: because otherwise if it only goes one way, then there's 353 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:10,879 Speaker 1: no point. It's not gonna go anywhere obviously, right, So 354 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:12,919 Speaker 1: maybe like the next time that there's something like this, 355 00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:17,160 Speaker 1: maybe approach it like maybe first could you imagine yourself 356 00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 1: in my position and like go that way with it? Yes, 357 00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:23,399 Speaker 1: but if I was you actually don't wait for the 358 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:27,400 Speaker 1: next time, because usually that's the poem. It's like I'm 359 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:30,160 Speaker 1: not saying, don't talk to about it like right now, 360 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:32,240 Speaker 1: right now because it might be a little fresh, but 361 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: don't wait for it to happen like maybe you start 362 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,640 Speaker 1: to bring it up a little bit before. So it's 363 00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:40,040 Speaker 1: one that about it because you know if you wait 364 00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:43,200 Speaker 1: for like the moment, it's gonna either beyond the differensive 365 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:45,520 Speaker 1: and then it's not gonna try to listen. I was 366 00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,400 Speaker 1: gonna say that you just think that because of this happened. 367 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:51,720 Speaker 1: But if we actually when nothing happened, and you said, 368 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:53,159 Speaker 1: like you know what I was thinking, like, you know, 369 00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:55,439 Speaker 1: just I would like to be able to express more 370 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,920 Speaker 1: my feeling and stuff like that, then you know, most 371 00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 1: likely it will be like more willing to listen at 372 00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,360 Speaker 1: that point because he knows nothing is happening, so it's 373 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:07,320 Speaker 1: not like you know, anything bad, and maybe it will 374 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:10,199 Speaker 1: be more you know, you know, willing to listen and 375 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:14,240 Speaker 1: then understand even better. Okay, yeah that makes sense. Yeah, 376 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:16,480 Speaker 1: so do it more like in a neutral time, not 377 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 1: necessarily when yeah, yeah, exactly, and people maybe you know, 378 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:24,399 Speaker 1: if you feel like and then yeah, I try to 379 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 1: bring those feeling actually at that point you know, like 380 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:29,720 Speaker 1: you know, you know it those was on me if 381 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 1: you know you do this or you do that, you know, 382 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:33,960 Speaker 1: and let me know and ask him also if these 383 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:37,840 Speaker 1: things that was on him. That way you can understand us. 384 00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 1: So at your point and you know, to understand you 385 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:44,240 Speaker 1: maybe a little bit better on you know, on the poll, 386 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:46,280 Speaker 1: on what you like, what you're gonna like, and then 387 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:50,400 Speaker 1: you know both ways. Okay, that makes sense. Thank you. 388 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:55,119 Speaker 1: I will take your advice. He's gonna help, all right. 389 00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:58,480 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, thank you. All right, So that's 390 00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,680 Speaker 1: it for our colors. We're gonna take a quick break 391 00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:12,840 Speaker 1: and come back. Okay, So welcome back to home and Springs. 392 00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:16,040 Speaker 1: Um and here is some qu and a with me. 393 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 1: So the first one, Romane, A lot of people knew 394 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,520 Speaker 1: you as a husband of Mary figure as fund sellings 395 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:27,679 Speaker 1: and said, how did you meet? So we made so 396 00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:31,879 Speaker 1: when I came to work in the U s she um, 397 00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,840 Speaker 1: she was when we're a friend of m the person 398 00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,159 Speaker 1: I was coming to work for. So we're talking for 399 00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 1: about like six months mores. And then when I moved 400 00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 1: to the US, then obviously she was starting to show 401 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:48,480 Speaker 1: me right, So obviously I got I was super attracted 402 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:52,679 Speaker 1: to her directly. Um. So actually that's the second question, 403 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 1: what attracted you to her? So there's many things like 404 00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:02,920 Speaker 1: she's um an accomplition, but she's like, um uh such 405 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: a hard worker, she's a smart um and super sweet 406 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 1: or so she's just such a big hug and I 407 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:11,960 Speaker 1: love the fact that you know she has those two 408 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 1: mud like you know, she can be like super funny 409 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:19,520 Speaker 1: and and uh, you know, a friend and everything. And 410 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: then on the other side, like when she has to work, 411 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:25,120 Speaker 1: like she's the most like focus and you know, determinated. 412 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:30,800 Speaker 1: So third question, who made the first move? Did you? 413 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:34,080 Speaker 1: Did you ask her out? So yes, actually did so 414 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 1: after a couple days actually working. I mean when I 415 00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:42,159 Speaker 1: met her, I did actually ask her out, so I 416 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 1: think it was like four days afterwards. And uh, and 417 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,760 Speaker 1: I didn't made the first move. I was grabbing your legs, 418 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,199 Speaker 1: I think, and grab her hand and then let on 419 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,800 Speaker 1: when we are we went out, actually kissed her for 420 00:25:56,840 --> 00:26:02,760 Speaker 1: the first time and the rest is history. Uh. The 421 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:06,760 Speaker 1: fourth one, what's the best part of being made into 422 00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:10,480 Speaker 1: a strong and accomplished woman? Um, the best part of it. 423 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:14,639 Speaker 1: I mean what I love is that I know that 424 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,439 Speaker 1: I can always scane on her. Um. We both like 425 00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 1: you know as um we both the color of each 426 00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:25,240 Speaker 1: other like, and we love that you know, we're such 427 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:29,320 Speaker 1: a hard worker, both of us, so uh we uh 428 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: we are admire this from from each other that you know, 429 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:38,120 Speaker 1: uh like working so much and being having so many 430 00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:41,640 Speaker 1: goals and stuff like that. So that's what I love 431 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:48,919 Speaker 1: the most about her, Like she's like such a care Okay. 432 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 1: The fifth one may as a life in l A 433 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 1: for many years before you moved where it had to 434 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 1: fit into our life at first, so um, well, obviously 435 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 1: when I moved with it, I didn't have any one, 436 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 1: so she was super nice and actually made me meet 437 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:12,560 Speaker 1: her friends and luckily for me, we got like we 438 00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:17,760 Speaker 1: clicked with every one of her friends actually, and Jason 439 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,920 Speaker 1: bread like became like two of my brother and then 440 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:22,840 Speaker 1: where the where we start training, we're like one of 441 00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,600 Speaker 1: the things. So I got lucky. But like, yeah, we 442 00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:30,320 Speaker 1: I love for a friend and so um fortunately for me, 443 00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,840 Speaker 1: now it wasn't that hard. After it's a lifestyle that 444 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:35,959 Speaker 1: you have to, you know, go for it. But you know, 445 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 1: when I moved here, um, I knew that's what I wanted. 446 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:43,119 Speaker 1: So no, actually for me, it didn't it wasn't that hard. 447 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: What is the one thing you and may love to 448 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:53,080 Speaker 1: do together? What we love to do together the most? 449 00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:57,439 Speaker 1: It's traveling, especially in Italy. That's a favorite country, I 450 00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:02,359 Speaker 1: mean the favorite places. We of love Italian food and 451 00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,679 Speaker 1: we just love Italian so the people or the food 452 00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:10,760 Speaker 1: and everything, so but not only Italy, we just love traveling. 453 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,240 Speaker 1: That's alf A waid. Things like discovered the world together 454 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:20,760 Speaker 1: in different countries and people's and that's off things um 455 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:26,040 Speaker 1: into some ding relations questions. Okay, so who is dealing 456 00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 1: different in friends than in the US. Um, that's a 457 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 1: good question. I don't know. I mean I feel like 458 00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:40,600 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's that different. I mean dating 459 00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:44,680 Speaker 1: is dating after each Yeah maybe the different culture it's 460 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,680 Speaker 1: a little bit different, you know, France and the US. 461 00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:51,200 Speaker 1: But after OTN and that it's like we're talking about 462 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,480 Speaker 1: the man and a woman no matter where it is 463 00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:58,400 Speaker 1: you know in the world that it's like you have 464 00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,880 Speaker 1: to adapt yourself to each other and then you know, 465 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:04,480 Speaker 1: make some sacrifice and then, uh, you know, if you 466 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 1: love the person and you want to make it walk. 467 00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:09,400 Speaker 1: I feel like, no matter where you are in the world, 468 00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,040 Speaker 1: you have to do it. So I don't know if 469 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 1: it's that much difference between friends and us. But yeah, okay, 470 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:24,240 Speaker 1: so as someone who is younger than your spouse, those 471 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:31,320 Speaker 1: age really matter in the restaurantship for us, not at all. Actually, UM, 472 00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 1: I mean I don't think so personally, and I don't 473 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,880 Speaker 1: think my wife hither. Um. I think she keeps like 474 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:42,760 Speaker 1: she always said, I'm I'm an old soul. And uh, 475 00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:45,200 Speaker 1: I just think that you know, if you love the person, 476 00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:51,640 Speaker 1: you treat the person right and everything. Um. As the idea, 477 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 1: it doesn't really matter, like you know, it's more, but 478 00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 1: like what you treat teach us her and the respect 479 00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:01,040 Speaker 1: and then you know how much you care and you 480 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: know the attention that you give tweature, that's what's matter 481 00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 1: for me. So no, it doesn't matter from me. So 482 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:14,320 Speaker 1: what's your best advice for an happy and healthy marriage? 483 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:21,800 Speaker 1: My best advice is too um. For us, what was 484 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:27,080 Speaker 1: is spend time together, open and be able to talk 485 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:34,400 Speaker 1: and um. Yeah, spending time together and then try to 486 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 1: do activity together like us for example, what we love 487 00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:41,280 Speaker 1: the most and we always reconnect so much more, it's 488 00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:45,440 Speaker 1: when we travel and spend time together. So I think 489 00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:51,320 Speaker 1: it's spending time together and m And obviously you know 490 00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:54,080 Speaker 1: when you love each other and do you know, keep 491 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:56,800 Speaker 1: showing that person that you love her or love him, 492 00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:00,760 Speaker 1: you know. And the last one, do you think it's 493 00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 1: important that a couple has separate interests or those everything together? Uh? No, 494 00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 1: I think it's good to have like separate interests. Um. 495 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:15,800 Speaker 1: I mean it's just because no matter how much you 496 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,280 Speaker 1: love the person, it's good to have like your little 497 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,040 Speaker 1: time and you know with your friends stuff like that, 498 00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:21,840 Speaker 1: Like you know, I love to go to the gym. 499 00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 1: She does like different like kind of exercise. But I 500 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,760 Speaker 1: love to have my time with my boys and then 501 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,280 Speaker 1: just go and you know, it's my it's my time. 502 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 1: And I think I think it's good for in its 503 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,640 Speaker 1: relstionship to have your whole little time you know sometimes 504 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 1: and then uh and then not everything you know, not 505 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 1: everyone can love. It's everything like all the same things. Sorry, 506 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:50,080 Speaker 1: so yeah, I know, I think you know. I mean, 507 00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 1: if you can obviously do a lot of things together, 508 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,840 Speaker 1: but it's good or so to have like some different player, 509 00:31:56,160 --> 00:32:01,040 Speaker 1: you know baself. All right, So thanks everybody. 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