WEBVTT - New Beginnings

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<v Speaker 1>In some of our podcasts that I've been recording, and

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<v Speaker 1>on some of our live Facebook feeds that I've been doing,

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<v Speaker 1>and in a lot of our calls and letters on

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<v Speaker 1>the radio, I've been touching upon the topic of recovery.

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<v Speaker 1>And one of the tools that I use every day

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<v Speaker 1>in my life and my own life are books, meditation

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<v Speaker 1>books and inspirational books that just every day give me

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<v Speaker 1>something to think about every day, give me a little

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<v Speaker 1>piece of wisdom. And I wanted to share a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of those thoughts with you today. One is by somebody

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<v Speaker 1>named Charlie Shed, and Charlie Shed said, patience is a

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<v Speaker 1>particular requirement. Without it, you can destroy in an hour

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<v Speaker 1>what might take you weeks to repair. For some of us,

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't even take an hour. It just takes two

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<v Speaker 1>or three minutes. Have you ever typed something out and

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<v Speaker 1>then hit send and then had to spend the next

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<v Speaker 1>few days or weeks trying to repair the damage. Here's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing. You can't repair that kind of damage because

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<v Speaker 1>once once a china cup is broken, you can glue

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<v Speaker 1>it back together, but it's never going to hold tea again.

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<v Speaker 1>Once you put a hole in the picasso and you

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<v Speaker 1>tear the fabric. You can try to put tape on

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<v Speaker 1>the back, you can try to put paint on the

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<v Speaker 1>chips that you tore off, but it's never going to

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<v Speaker 1>be whole again. So that's why patience is a particular

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<v Speaker 1>requirement in life. When you enjoy a moment to its fullest,

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<v Speaker 1>and you can learn to be patient with your thoughts,

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<v Speaker 1>that then governs your actions. It's something, sadly that's taken

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<v Speaker 1>me years to learn, because I am not a patient

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<v Speaker 1>person by nature, and I will say things off the cuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I will hit send without thinking it through, and I

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<v Speaker 1>will feel justified in it because I'm right. My producer, Janie,

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<v Speaker 1>on the other hand, is much more patient than me,

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<v Speaker 1>and she and I both agreed years ago it is

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<v Speaker 1>better to be effective than to prove you are right.

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<v Speaker 1>And so now when I'm feeling like hitting send, I

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<v Speaker 1>will call her and I'll say, please talk me through

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<v Speaker 1>this before I hit dear jerk, stop me, and we

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<v Speaker 1>talk it through. And a lot of times, once I

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<v Speaker 1>get that poison, that anger out of my system, I

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<v Speaker 1>can use reason before I hit send. Do you have

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<v Speaker 1>patience in your life or do you think you need

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<v Speaker 1>to have something? And you need to say it. You

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<v Speaker 1>need to say it now. Other people need to hear it,

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<v Speaker 1>and they need to act on it. That's not patience,

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<v Speaker 1>that's immaturity. I know I recognize that well because that

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<v Speaker 1>was me for so many years, and it still is me.

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<v Speaker 1>When I'm tired, when I'm hungry, angry, or lonely or tired,

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<v Speaker 1>halt hungry, angry, lonely or tired, That's when I know

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<v Speaker 1>I don't hit sin. That's when I know I shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>call somebody and give them a piece of my mind.

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<v Speaker 1>That's when I know maybe I should cancel a meeting

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm going to be ugly in that meeting. Patience

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<v Speaker 1>is a particular requirement. Do you have the patience it

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<v Speaker 1>requires to be a good husband, a good wife, a

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<v Speaker 1>good friend, a good employee, a good boss, a good leader,

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<v Speaker 1>a good follower? Do you have the patience it requires

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<v Speaker 1>to be a good and decent and kind human being?

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<v Speaker 1>Our world needs needs kindness right now. More than anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Our world needs kindness. There are people who have been very,

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<v Speaker 1>very wounded by cruel words spoken by impatient people, and

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<v Speaker 1>their response is to speak cruel words back, and the

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<v Speaker 1>same kind of ugly that hurt them, they feel justified

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<v Speaker 1>in hurting others with That's not patience, that's not kindness,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not love. That's not going to get us anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not it's not going to get us anywhere when

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<v Speaker 1>you reach out and love, when you put your need

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<v Speaker 1>to be right and to prove your right aside, when

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<v Speaker 1>you use patience before you respond or when you act,

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<v Speaker 1>everything changes. When your heart is motivated by kindness, everything changes.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's so hard to do when you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you've been attacked, when you feel you've been wronged, and

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<v Speaker 1>when you have been wronged, and I'm not saying when

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<v Speaker 1>you feel like it unjustified when you have been when

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<v Speaker 1>you have been wronged, when you have been attacked, when

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<v Speaker 1>somebody has hurt you, it is so hard to be

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<v Speaker 1>patient or kind. I think that's why God tells us

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<v Speaker 1>to turn the other cheek. That literally means when somebody

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<v Speaker 1>strikes you on one side of the face, to turn

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<v Speaker 1>the other cheek, not to strike back. And that's oh,

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<v Speaker 1>such a hard lesson for people like me. Yeah, forgiveness

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<v Speaker 1>does not come naturally to me, just like patience does

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<v Speaker 1>not come naturally to me. Neither does forgiveness I'm a fighter.

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<v Speaker 1>I was born that way, but I don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>stay that way because it's not going to help make

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<v Speaker 1>the world a better place. My job, my ultimate mission

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<v Speaker 1>that I feel God has called me to in this world,

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<v Speaker 1>is to make the world a better place by sharing

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<v Speaker 1>the reality of God's love with as many people as

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<v Speaker 1>I possibly can. And the way that I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>do that is one heart at a time. The way

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm going to do that is by learning to

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<v Speaker 1>be patient, learning to be kind, learning to turn the

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<v Speaker 1>other cheek, learning that people will know my faith not

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<v Speaker 1>by my words, but by my love. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>you to know my faith to say, hey, Delilah believes

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah because of my words. Saint Francis of

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<v Speaker 1>ASSISI I think it was said, go out and share

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<v Speaker 1>the gospel. And if you must use words, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to have to use words for you to know

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<v Speaker 1>my faith. I want you to know my faith by

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<v Speaker 1>my actions. I want my life to exemplify, to be

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<v Speaker 1>a model of patience and kindness and goodness and mercy,

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<v Speaker 1>not just to those who deserve it, but especially to

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<v Speaker 1>those who don't deserve it. I want my life to

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<v Speaker 1>be a model of God's love, of God's light in

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<v Speaker 1>a dark and dying world. I want my life, my words,

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<v Speaker 1>my actions, the way I conduct myself to be a

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<v Speaker 1>light in the darkness. And when I am impatient, when

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<v Speaker 1>I am feeling justified in being right or insisting on

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<v Speaker 1>my way, I'm not shining that light at all. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not shining that light, and I'm quenching that light

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<v Speaker 1>for others. I don't want to quench the light. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to blow out the candle of hope. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to fan the flames of hope until it's a

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<v Speaker 1>bright light on a hill for all to see. I

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<v Speaker 1>want my life, my actions, the way that I respond

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<v Speaker 1>to my kids, to your kids, to the neighbor kids,

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<v Speaker 1>The way that I treat my animals, the way that

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<v Speaker 1>I treat my dogs and my horses. I want that

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<v Speaker 1>to shine the light of God. The way that I

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<v Speaker 1>talk to you on the phone, the way that I

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<v Speaker 1>answer my email messages, the way that I work with

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<v Speaker 1>my employees, or the way that I am an employee

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<v Speaker 1>because I work for somebody. The way that I submit

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<v Speaker 1>my authority even if I disagree veheimately with what they're saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I want my life to shine the love of God.

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<v Speaker 1>So today I encourage you to practice patience, to develop patience,

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<v Speaker 1>to be a light in the darkness, to be especially kind,

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<v Speaker 1>To be kind to those who deserve it, to be

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<v Speaker 1>kind to strangers on the street, to be kind to yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>and to be kind to those who don't deserve it. Faith, hope,

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<v Speaker 1>and love. But the greatest of these is love. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you share your love with others in a tangible way?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you share your love? Do you share your faith

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<v Speaker 1>in a way that people see by your actions that

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<v Speaker 1>it's strong and true and real? Or do you just

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<v Speaker 1>use words. I hope the words that I speak on

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<v Speaker 1>the radio. I hope that the words that I speak

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<v Speaker 1>in these podcasts are on my Facebook live feeds are

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<v Speaker 1>backed up by my actions. If they're not, then they

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<v Speaker 1>mean nothing. If I'm not backing up my words with

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<v Speaker 1>my actions in the way I conduct my life, those

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<v Speaker 1>words mean nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing. They're just I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>a clanging symbol. There's a scripture that says, but you

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<v Speaker 1>can know all the words in the Bible, you can

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<v Speaker 1>have all the faith in the world. You can be

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<v Speaker 1>a holy man or a holy woman. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>have not love. You're just a clanging symbol. You're just

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<v Speaker 1>making noise. If you don't have love for strangers, for

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<v Speaker 1>your family, for your enemies, then nothing you say is

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<v Speaker 1>worth anything. If you have not love, your a clanging symbol.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be a clanging symbol. There's too

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<v Speaker 1>much noise in this world. There is too much noise,

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<v Speaker 1>ugly noise, screaming noise, violent noise, ugly vulgar words. People

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<v Speaker 1>behaving in such ugly vulgar ways, happy to offend others

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<v Speaker 1>because they're right. They're right, they have the right, they

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<v Speaker 1>get to They feel like they are justified to hurt

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<v Speaker 1>others and to behave in ways that are just disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>Show love, Have love, Demonstrate love by your actions, by

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<v Speaker 1>your words, by the way you conduct yourself, by the

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<v Speaker 1>way you treat others. Faith, hope, and love. But the

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<v Speaker 1>greatest of these is love. Thank you for sharing this

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<v Speaker 1>time on this podcast with me. I invite you to

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<v Speaker 1>go out and love boldly, to use patience and kindness

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<v Speaker 1>and all that you do and all your activities and

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<v Speaker 1>in all your relationships, and to love boldly. I also

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts with you tonight, and don't forget to join me

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