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Speaker 1: Happy Birthday. I celebrated in part by meeting up with

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Speaker 2: Very cute. It's a tradition that's really important to us.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, this comes from Raisino nineteen eighty

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Speaker 1: A couple of weeks ago, my girlfriend twenty three female

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Speaker 1: I said that would be great, but it probably couldn't

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Speaker 1: Part of her reason for having on that day was

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Speaker 2: It made the day easier for her to handle. She

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Speaker 1: When I told all of this to my girlfriend, though,

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Speaker 1: you're a grown man who could make his own plan.

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Speaker 2: Oh, but he's trying to These are his plans.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, these these are the plan you want him to

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Speaker 1: No, I think my feelings must have shown on my

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Speaker 2: But I wasn't having it. No, sorry, Bob.

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Speaker 1: I told her that there was no need to throw

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Speaker 2: Oh we're really We're really thrown down over here.

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Speaker 1: What I ended up doing was having the brunch as

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Speaker 2: Entirely when it had clearly mattered to her.

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Speaker 1: She and I have hung out both before and after

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Speaker 2: We have to take a clippity pause. Riley, you need

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Speaker 3: Hello.

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Speaker 2: We are gonna make this happen.

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Speaker 4: Guys, guys, I'm so sorry. This is all me.

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Speaker 1: We are gonna make it happen and clapping Funny Bunny says,

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Speaker 1: Anthony in a second here, Nicole Hayden says, I'm birthday

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Speaker 4: We are there.

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Speaker 2: We are hard at work making that happen.

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Speaker 1: Just Casana says, in a healthy relationship, it never hurts

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Speaker 2: It's called communication.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, oh he's not he's not in yet. Okay, wait,

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Speaker 4: you don't hear me. Uh Sam, We're gonna meet you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, shut up, but he'll be back. Stam in coming

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Speaker 1: stream says Kimberly. Fine, he is literally on the way.

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Speaker 2: Uh, that would be kind of a lot, honestly, Bill

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Speaker 2: Conkling says, Riley, where are the nipples?

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Speaker 4: I'm getting there, I promise Sam. If you can't turn

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I think I think I'm a little bit

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Speaker 2: get ready. Freddy mis Romy is commenting, Pepper's already in preparation.

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Speaker 1: We got it, so Frank Means eighty two says that's

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Speaker 1: We agreed that with the plans the way they were,

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Speaker 2: So basically what Opie is saying is that we still

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Speaker 2: The breakdown of the day was brunch in the morning.

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Speaker 2: The next day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's jam so brunch, work, family, cookout, party,

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Speaker 1: This is how we're gonna find out.

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Speaker 1: And from the second she arrives until the second she leaves,

441
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:09,159
Speaker 1: I've always figured that's his choice in his business, so

442
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 1: I've never said anything about it. But since she's been

443
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,959
Speaker 1: staying with us, it's really been bothering me. And guys,

444
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 1: you know this comes from the user I proved a

445
00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 1: point from the Okay storytime stutbredit, let's freaking go. Send

446
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 1: me your stories there by the way.

447
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 2: That's where I read them. He carried her, He carried her.

448
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:30,720
Speaker 1: Things like a pack mule, runs around every morning, trying

449
00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 1: to get her the breakfast that she wants, making reservations

450
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: at restaurants that he hates because she likes it, and

451
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 1: gives her free use of his credit cards to buy

452
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 1: anything she wants.

453
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 5: Dude Matt is daddy though.

454
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 1: Dude Matt, No, Matt is is step bro and stand

455
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 1: step daddy.

456
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 5: Dude one and the same kind of sick.

457
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 2: All of them get stuck in the in the washing

458
00:23:56,640 --> 00:24:02,399
Speaker 2: machine the same, Am I right? So there's other things, Uh,

459
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,919
Speaker 2: there's other things, but these are the type of things.

460
00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:05,760
Speaker 2: I feel so.

461
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 1: Awkward when he's fawning over her like that. I've spoken

462
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,240
Speaker 1: to him about how he acts around her, and excuses

463
00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 1: are what am I supposed to do?

464
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:14,399
Speaker 4: That's how she is.

465
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 2: She puts on her high heels and.

466
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 1: Steps on my chest and says, hey, buy me dinner.

467
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:25,639
Speaker 2: At the place you hate because I love it. I

468
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 2: don't believe him.

469
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 1: I know, I don't believe that he could not notice

470
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:35,000
Speaker 1: the way that she acts is inconsiderate. So I tried

471
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: an experiment. I started acting like her real quick, do

472
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 1: the experiment or not? Or trick him or not trick

473
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:46,199
Speaker 1: him or not?

474
00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 5: Like wait, the what kind of experiment?

475
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:54,040
Speaker 3: So basically like the experiment of I'm going to act

476
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 3: like her and see what actually happens.

477
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:59,359
Speaker 1: Because it's kind of you know, one could argue it's like, oh, you're,

478
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:04,679
Speaker 1: you know, so coercing him into you know, you're not coercing,

479
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:06,200
Speaker 1: but like, you know what I'm trying to say.

480
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 3: I mean, it's it's it's orange peel test on stair.

481
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 1: Here go, it's orange peel test. Yeah, So why are

482
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 1: you putting someone through a test? Just sit down and

483
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,280
Speaker 1: communicate directly instead of playing these games, Like why are

484
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:16,880
Speaker 1: you playing games?

485
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 3: Right?

486
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 2: I'm curious to see.

487
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,879
Speaker 3: Yeah. But then if we don't play games, then we

488
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:22,640
Speaker 3: don't have sick Reddit stories.

489
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 2: If you don't play games, then you can't win them.

490
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 2: It's but Opie continues. I started acting like her last week.

491
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 2: The last issue was here. I said, I wanted some

492
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,439
Speaker 2: fresh fruit for breakfast. Dude, that is literally exactly. That

493
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,400
Speaker 2: is an orange peel.

494
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 5: Test it's orange peel.

495
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. When Matt didn't say anything, I asked if he

496
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:49,720
Speaker 1: would go get some, which he did when we went

497
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,120
Speaker 1: out for lunch. I didn't even offer to pay. When

498
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,199
Speaker 1: we went to run Errand's after lunch, I made him

499
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 1: drive thirty minutes to the next town over so we

500
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 1: could go to a particular shopping center and I took

501
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 1: longer than usual choosing products.

502
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 2: I also made him drive home.

503
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,400
Speaker 1: Dude, Wow, I could see he was a bit annoyed

504
00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 1: by me, but he didn't say anything.

505
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 5: Later, I suggested we ordered to take out anything for

506
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 5: the hose.

507
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 2: Dude, Matt is whipped. He's whipped, dude that he is.

508
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 2: He is.

509
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 3: But honestly, everyone needs a Daddy Matt in their life.

510
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 2: You know, honestly everyone needs a Stepdaddy Matt.

511
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,680
Speaker 3: Step Daddy Matt, step daddy step on that Daddy Matt.

512
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 2: Oh, whoa, I mean that's kind of what literally, what's

513
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 2: happening right now?

514
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 3: It is exactly what's happened.

515
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:37,960
Speaker 2: Dude.

516
00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:43,439
Speaker 1: That water comes through way too clear, is picking it

517
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:44,679
Speaker 1: up way.

518
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 5: It's like a I'm gonna put this in the what.

519
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go. I mean, I'm not I'm not

520
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 2: saying I don't like him. Oh uh, switch it around.

521
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 2: Here we go, Here we go. We're getting there, so

522
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 2: Opie says.

523
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:09,719
Speaker 1: Later, I suggested we ordered takeout instead of cooking, and

524
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 1: when he said okay, I asked her.

525
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,920
Speaker 2: Order on his app spiracy theory.

526
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: Clara got home after we ate and Matt spent most

527
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: of the evening enjoying playing some video games with her

528
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 1: because he was clearly upset with me by this time.

529
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: After she went to bed, Matt confronted me, asking if

530
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 1: I was okay because I had been acting odd all day.

531
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 1: He said, I've been treating him like he works for me,

532
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: which he didn't appreciate, but if I was stressed or upset,

533
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 1: that we should talk through it.

534
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,400
Speaker 2: I told him that I had spent one day treating him.

535
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 1: Exactly how his sister does and he hated it, so

536
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 1: he can't say he doesn't notice how she is. Matt

537
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,120
Speaker 1: got mad and said that this was an insane thing

538
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 1: to do, and he noticed because that's not my personality.

539
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 1: He called me childish and said that I'd wasted a

540
00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:02,400
Speaker 1: day for nothing. I had been It's been a few

541
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 1: days and things have been awkward. Matt has been spending

542
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 1: evenings gaming or with friends and has been cold to me.

543
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: I don't think I did anything that bad, but my

544
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 1: girlfriend say testing him like that was stupid when Matt

545
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: was treating Clara like a baby really doesn't affect me,

546
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 1: so I should just ignore it. Now I feel bad

547
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 1: and edit. Clara is also twenty six years old. A

548
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:29,159
Speaker 1: lot of people asked, and op is twenty seven. The

549
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 1: boyfriend's twenty six are all the same age. There's some

550
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: relevant comments. Let's take a break here because I want

551
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 1: to get some hot what takes from our hot web

552
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 1: boy Sammy d.

553
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 5: I have you know what you know? Where this is

554
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 5: all coming from from?

555
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 3: Ope? I think is a jealousy that the sister is

556
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 3: being treated like a princess, and maybe she isn't. And

557
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 3: I think that she like she doesn't want Matt to

558
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 3: spend as much time spending time on his sister.

559
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 1: Could you also say at the same token that she's like, hey,

560
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 1: I don't when he's spending time with her like that.

561
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 2: But also I don't want to see you like you're

562
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 2: really you really.

563
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 1: Are being run ragged and having to spend your own

564
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: money and all of this stuff like it's not a

565
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: good way that she's treating you.

566
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think, I mean, I think he's.

567
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,600
Speaker 3: The more mature thing to do would have been to

568
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 3: bring it up to him and been like, like not

569
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 3: do a test, to just say like, hey, like, do

570
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 3: you notice how she treats you? I feel like she

571
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 3: treats she like wants to be treated like a princess,

572
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 3: and it feels like she's taking advantage of you instead

573
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 3: of basically taking advantage of him. To prove that he's

574
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 3: being taken advantage of.

575
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:51,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I do think. Okay, Yeah, I've spoken to

576
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 1: him about how he acts around her, and his excuse

577
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 1: is always what am I supposed to do?

578
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 2: That's how she is. So she has brought.

579
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:01,560
Speaker 5: It up to has brought it up to him.

580
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: In some degree. I honestly think it's kind of a

581
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 1: hard thing to tell over over a story.

582
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 2: But because I agree absolutely like.

583
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 3: Joe, what degree has she brought it out like it?

584
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:16,719
Speaker 3: Did she bring it up in like a joking way

585
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 3: or was it a serious conversation?

586
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, judging by his response, which is, again,

587
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: what am I supposed to do? That's how she is,

588
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 1: it sounds like it's probably pretty pretty serious.

589
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 2: Probably, yeah, but uh, I.

590
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 1: Think you have to go pretty hard in the paint

591
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 1: through conversation and communication to try and help him understand

592
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 1: the port before you ever even consider I think maybe

593
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: Opie jumped to this way too fast.

594
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and basically her her thought process is

595
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 3: like what she's doing is making you tired, and you're

596
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 3: showing up less in your other relationships.

597
00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 1: She I think she's basically like, hey, she's treating you

598
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: like a doormat. I don't think that she should treat

599
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: you this way, and why are you allowing her this way?

600
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 2: That's her piece.

601
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 3: I think I feel like it's none of her business

602
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 3: unless she feels like it's affecting his other relationships because

603
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 3: he's being like walked on. But if it doesn't affect

604
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 3: his other relationships, like if he wants to, if he

605
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 3: wants to be a doormat for her, then like I

606
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 3: think it's his prerogative.

607
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 2: Totally let him get stepped all over, let the let's

608
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 2: let's rub the dirt off on him.

609
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 4: Uh.

610
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: But uh, the one thing I will and I don't,

611
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: I don't agree with how she did this test, but

612
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: I could see that where she's she's seeing that she

613
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 1: can see the distress on him and seeing that it's

614
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 1: you know what it's I could you could almost liken

615
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 1: it too. It's almost like your part works at a

616
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 1: like extremely like has a terrible workplace, a terrible boss,

617
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 1: and they're like going through all the strife when maybe

618
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 1: they could have options to go elsewhere, and you're kind

619
00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: of in this tricky spot of like, yeah, you know,

620
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you know it's it's

621
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 1: your life, but you don't want to see them suffer.

622
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think there's a little bit of

623
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 2: a tricky area there.

624
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess. But like like if we were to

625
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 3: if we were to extend that that like boss analogy,

626
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 3: it would be like, hey, I actually got you another

627
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 3: job and then gave him this job that is equally

628
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 3: terrible and see of like why are you working this

629
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 3: terrible job? See? I feel like it's basically doubling on

630
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 3: the thing that she dislikes to prove a point that

631
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 3: doesn't actually I think go anywhere. So it's unsuccessful.

632
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 2: So me, yeah, disagree with him doing that, but don't

633
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 2: do the test. Is where we standing?

634
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, yeah, I mean it seems like she can

635
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 3: tell that it's hurting him, so if it actually is

636
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 3: hurting him, probably worth another conversation. I don't know if

637
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 3: the test actually does anything except build between him and her.

638
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 1: Good point, but we have some relevant comments. This thing

639
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 1: ain't over so affectionate Low forty two seven says, not

640
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 1: the ahole, and I think you're underreacting, honestly, WHOA the

641
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 1: exact opposite take that we just had.

642
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 2: She is his age.

643
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 1: Their parents dated for five years and broke up, so

644
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 1: she's basically an ex stepsister.

645
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 2: It's so funny. Oh my god, dude, I've never even

646
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 2: thought about that before.

647
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: What happens when yeah, the the the they divorced, the

648
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: divorce people of the divorce after that?

649
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 3: To me, you no, I guess I was thinking of

650
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 3: a brother and sister, but they're not related, and they're

651
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 3: not even like related by marriage anymore, so they're kind

652
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 3: of like free agents, right.

653
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 2: Oh goodness, oh yeah, oh goodness. Give us those eyes

654
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 2: he gave us a few days ago. There he is soab.

655
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 1: So to me, it sounds more of an old family

656
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 1: friend dynamic than a sibling dynamic. This reads like the

657
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:10,879
Speaker 1: two of you were in denial your boyfriend wants his stepsister,

658
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 1: like I promise you this, His behavior is the whipped.

659
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:16,959
Speaker 1: I have a huge crush on a girl I haven't

660
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 1: slept with yet, and I don't know if I will

661
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 1: be able to, but god do I want to. I've

662
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,720
Speaker 1: seen this play out in close friendships so many times.

663
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 1: Only time I've ever seen a man act like this.

664
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: And I've known so many men who have these little

665
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:35,879
Speaker 1: sisters that they spoil, Oh God, little sisters. None act

666
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 1: even close to this. I used to have a friend

667
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:40,840
Speaker 1: who had a relationship like you're describing, but with his

668
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 1: biological cousin. Everyone thought it was a little strange, but

669
00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 1: was like their cousins, it has to be innocent.

670
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 3: Oh dear, no, no, already seen that before he have.

671
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,760
Speaker 1: He even had a few different girlfriends over the years,

672
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 1: but would still treat the cousin extra special. Anyways, some

673
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 1: of his friends took to his phone to look something

674
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 1: up and he had a bunch of cousin corn in.

675
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 2: His browser history.

676
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 3: Oh my, like like pictures of his cousin or like

677
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 3: just that was the category that he was looking at.

678
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 1: The search term he was searching his cousin porn. And

679
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,240
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about the vegetable ladies and gentlemen.

680
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 3: Wow. I mean like also with the whole cousin thing,

681
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 3: like can't you just like like I mean, they're actors, Like,

682
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 3: can't you just like imagine anyone any any actresses in

683
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:52,839
Speaker 3: the cousin dynamic? Like why do you have to go

684
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 3: search for that specifically? I guess it's Sam steps.

685
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 2: What do you mean actors stuff?

686
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:06,839
Speaker 3: I mean, like like I just I don't get like

687
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 3: searching for that term directly. I guess there's a whole

688
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 3: storyline in those videos, right, Okay, all right, now I

689
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:15,759
Speaker 3: get right, I'll get it. Okay, I get it.

690
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:16,479
Speaker 4: Terms.

691
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:20,840
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm coming to it's just weird.

692
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 2: Oh sorry, Okay, now I understand what you're saying. Yeah,

693
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 2: why does that exist?

694
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 1: But anyways, so, uh, by the way, you guys can

695
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Speaker 1: join us live on YouTube every WEEKNY of three pm

696
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Speaker 1: PSC so or profile already my god, but let's finish

697
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Speaker 1: this out. So uh final comment from Op closing us out.

698
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Speaker 1: They call each other steps as siblings. His half brothers

699
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: call her their sister. I say stepsister because that's what

700
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 1: he says. Even his best friends call her little siss Okay, So,

701
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 1: to clarify that everyone else calls her sister like in

702
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: the family except him.

703
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:01,760
Speaker 2: He calls her steps sister, not sister.

704
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 3: So it's like, if I call her stepsister, I'm in

705
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 3: the clear.

706
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:10,240
Speaker 2: To hook up with her. Then I can say her yeah,

707
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 2: then he can help her out of a watching machine.

708
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 5: Oh dastardly.

709
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 2: I don't know.

710
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm jumping to it. Being a spicy

711
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 1: sleep thing is a cheap shot. I wouldn't even know

712
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:24,880
Speaker 1: how to bring that up to him because it's so

713
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 1: gross if I am wrong, And the question of this

714
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 1: episode is what behavior is a red flag from your partner?

715
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 1: I mean this one again. I think it is a

716
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 1: little hard to read through the context, but I mean

717
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:50,239
Speaker 1: I could see myself being in this scenario where imagine imagine.

718
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 2: Riley.

719
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 1: We have Riley literally like running out every day and

720
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, you know, let me get you this thing.

721
00:37:57,840 --> 00:37:59,480
Speaker 2: Here's my credit card, go buy whatever you want.

722
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:03,799
Speaker 1: I imagine I would at least sit Riley down and

723
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:07,800
Speaker 1: be like, hey, Riley, I know you love your stepsis

724
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 1: a lot, but uh listen, bro, you don't have to

725
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 1: do all of these things, you.

726
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 3: Know, would do you really think you would sit him

727
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 3: down because I like, for this is not like a

728
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 3: stepsis situation, but like if you were buying a bunch

729
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 3: of stuff for your sister, I don't know if I

730
00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 3: would necessarily question it.

731
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:37,399
Speaker 1: It's if what Opie is saying is true about him,

732
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:42,800
Speaker 1: like you know, canceling plans with friends, eating eating out

733
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: at restaurants that he doesn't like, doing all of these things.

734
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 2: Like I think that there is a threshold.

735
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:53,279
Speaker 3: My sister is vegetarian, and like she'll make me eat

736
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 3: out at restaurants that I don't like.

737
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Speaker 5: But you know, all the time.

738
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 1: But like there's I feel like there is a certain

739
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 1: threshold and you kind of have to like see it

740
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 1: to where like even for a girlfriend, like like when

741
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 1: when we've seen people where it's like, okay, girlfriends literally

742
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,799
Speaker 1: absorb their entire lives and they have like you know,

743
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 1: nothing for themselves anymore and then become a shit like this.

744
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 5: Have you said have you talked to those friends and

745
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 5: said something you.

746
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: Know, Actually, I'm actually trying to think if I've directly

747
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 1: had a close even close ish friend that has.

748
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:33,279
Speaker 3: I feel like it it's generally like pretty hard to

749
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 3: critique someone's relationship because what you see in public is

750
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:42,240
Speaker 3: like the tip of the iceberg, and you really don't

751
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 3: know what someone's relationship dynamic is and like closed doors,

752
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:52,400
Speaker 3: and so I feel like you can make wrong assumptions

753
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 3: pretty easily and basically damaged the friendship by commenting on

754
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 3: a relationship that you don't fully understand. It's just not

755
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 3: that you should never say anything, but I feel like

756
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 3: it's very uh treacherous territory that.

757
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 2: Is totally fair. The closest example of I can think of.

758
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 1: Is I had I've have had very very close friends

759
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 1: who had like like work situations or like things that

760
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 1: they were working on with with other people, and I've

761
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: like very lightly uh to like medium light said like, hey,

762
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 1: do you think this is the best thing for you

763
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 1: having having you know, not absolutely not all the context,

764
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 1: but a decent amount of context. And I was like,

765
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 1: they might be you know, doing a lot, and you know,

766
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:41,320
Speaker 1: you go out on a limb, you don't.

767
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 2: Know all the context. But yeah, I think it could

768
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 2: sometimes reach a point. But I think you make a

769
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 2: very good point of like you really don't ever know

770
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 2: the full context and generally should like not basically don't

771
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 2: come in with the mindset of trying to control like

772
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 2: what they're doing or dictate their life.

773
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Speaker 3: Yeah, them, but if they ask, I feel, you know,

774
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 3: if someone asks for advice, you can give it.

775
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 5: But like unsolicited relationship advice, unless you have a relationship

776
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:11,399
Speaker 5: advice podcast, I think it's usually a bad form.

777
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 2: That's true if you have a relationship a viz podcast

778
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 2: give it out.

779
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 3: Constantly, constantly for eight hours a day in hot tubs,

780
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 3: wet and wild edition.

781
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 2: With eight hundred people watching you live.

782
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:26,359
Speaker 3: Are there eight hundred people?

783
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 2: Are you seriously sorry?

784
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 1: There's not eight hundred people right now, there's six hundred,

785
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 1: six hundred something we generally have. We haven't hit eight

786
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 1: hundred before as we have, but yeah, maybe around six fifty.

787
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: But that's that's it on that story. Wow, Yeah, that's it.

788
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:46,799
Speaker 5: That's where it ends.

789
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 2: It's freaking over, dude.

790
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 5: I think it's a little bit of a red flag

791
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 5: for the girlfriend.

792
00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 2: That she's doing, but not like, huh, that she's like

793
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 2: intervening like this.

794
00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I think like it's a red flag on

795
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:02,359
Speaker 3: the on the boyfriend's case a little bit.

796
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,879
Speaker 5: But it feels like we don't.

797
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 3: Have enough information to say how deep the ick goes way?

798
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 3: What does I can't see Chat, What does Chad says,

799
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 3: Chat saying, does that Chad saying crucify him?

800
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 2: Chat is saying.

801
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 1: Jezebel says, when it's infringing on your relationship, you absolutely

802
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 1: get to speak up. That's I think another fantastic qualify.

803
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 3: Yes, agreed, but it doesn't based on the story, it

804
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 3: doesn't seem like that's what she's saying.

805
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 2: Is it not not? I don't think very explicitly so

806
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:40,280
Speaker 2: I would probably say it could.

807
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:42,320
Speaker 5: But I agree with Jezebel.

808
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,880
Speaker 3: I agree. I completely agree with Jezebel. And that was

809
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 3: what another comment said. It was like, hey, if it's

810
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 3: infringing on your relationship or his other relationships, like say something.

811
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 3: But if it's not impairing anything else and it's not

812
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 3: affecting you, like, it's not really your place to police

813
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:03,879
Speaker 3: how someone to racks with another person. Yes, if it's

814
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 3: not like, if it's not cheating or whatever.

815
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:09,439
Speaker 2: Guys comment about the story, not Sam in the hot tub,

816
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 2: it's just.

817
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 3: The hot tub.

818
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 2: So many people, it's absolutely flooded.

819
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 3: Flooded dude comment section getting as wet and wild as

820
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Speaker 3: I am. Okay, okay, meet me where I'm at comments, But.

821
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Speaker 2: I you know that that's that's that's, that's all there

822
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: was in the story.

823
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:34,720
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think I think, I think I agree,

824
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:40,439
Speaker 1: unless unless it infringes on the relationship directly or they

825
00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 1: ask that those are that those are when it's clear cut, yes,

826
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:46,720
Speaker 1: you have permission to share your pick.

827
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Speaker 5: Sick should I read a story?

828
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Speaker 2: Dude, let's let's do it.

829
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 1: Let me let me let me hit these donuts real

830
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Speaker 1: quick while you while you look that up. I Caro,

831
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Speaker 1: thanks for the five bucks on the dono link. I

832
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Speaker 1: love y'all, even if y'all shirts on. We got you,

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Speaker 1: Christi Lou, Christy Lou who thanks for the five gifted

834
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Speaker 1: member chefs. We love to see it and Suspicious Thoughts

835
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Speaker 1: eleven celibrating four months in membership.

836
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Speaker 2: Love you guys. I gotta get get off early to

837
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:21,960
Speaker 2: see Deadpool and Wolverine. Suspicious thoughts have fun. We should

838
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:25,080
Speaker 2: see that, guys. I don't know. Oh that's the movie together?

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Speaker 4: R Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I thought it was too No, No,

840
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Speaker 4: they like did a movie together.

841
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, apparently it's pretty good.

842
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 4: I wanna should episode one because he'll be able to

843
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Speaker 4: record it. I'll need like maybe two minutes to get

844
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Speaker 4: you situated.

845
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Speaker 3: Let's try it out. Let's let's try a recording.

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Speaker 4: A little b answering. You're amongst yourself?

847
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:46,760
Speaker 2: Oh this situation.

848
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Speaker 5: Has anyone seen Wolverine? Deadpool?

849
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Speaker 3: Is it good?

850
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Speaker 5: I would love to, because I Sophia.

851
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 3: And I watched the first Deadpool yesterday or the day before.

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Speaker 2: Nice.

853
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 3: We actually we didn't, Sophia says, we didn't fit ship.

854
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 3: Have you seen any of them?

855
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:06,080
Speaker 2: I have? I think I think I've seen all of them?

856
00:45:06,320 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 2: Is there?

857
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 3: Because there's Deadpool, there's Deadpool two, and then there's like

858
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 3: a Deadpool Christmas.

859
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: I might not have seen the Christmas one, but I

860
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Speaker 1: remember the one with what's her name beats uh Beats,

861
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Speaker 1: Jazzie Beats or whatever.

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Speaker 2: She's she's uh in the in the group, the little

863
00:45:25,280 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 2: group he puts together. She's she's the woman in the

864
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Speaker 2: group the big.

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Speaker 5: Right, because he assembles like a squad of people.

866
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Speaker 2: Her real name is Jazzi beats like it's a producer name.

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Speaker 3: Beats.

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Speaker 2: Yeah her, that's her. That's her real name. I believe

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Speaker 2: her government given.

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Speaker 3: Her government name. Yeah, did she her given name or

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00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:52,800
Speaker 3: her government name? Because she could have changed it government,

872
00:45:53,080 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 3: so she changed it to that name. Yeah, that's pretty bad.

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00:45:58,120 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 3: Would you ever change your name.

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00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:04,720
Speaker 1: I would have to have if I had a nickname

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00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 1: that people use all the time, totally, but I don't

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00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 1: have that.

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00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:14,520
Speaker 5: So yeah, yeah, I I don't think I would.

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Speaker 3: I don't think I would ever change my name.

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00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe, if we get to a million subs, I'll

880
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:20,399
Speaker 1: legally change my name to Ja Man.

881
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 3: Dude, someone please screen grab that and and hold him

882
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 3: to it legit a million subs.

883
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:34,799
Speaker 2: I might. I might be down for that challenge, you.

884
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 3: Are if we if we hit a million subs, John

885
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 3: will change legally change his name to J Man.

886
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 4: I would?

887
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:43,959
Speaker 3: I would, man, goes deep, I would.

888
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 1: I would rather legally change my name to j Man

889
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 1: than like shave honestly shave my hair or my.

890
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:51,320
Speaker 2: Beard, be honest with you.

891
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:51,720
Speaker 3: Really?

892
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:52,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so.

893
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:55,200
Speaker 5: You know you have to announce it in like a newspaper, right.

894
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 2: That's good? I better, dude, that's freaking new.

895
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:02,399
Speaker 5: I want public I want some publicity.

896
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, let's make it. Let's make a PR run

897
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:05,960
Speaker 2: out of this.

898
00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:11,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, Well, we'll tell the PR team John change

899
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 3: his name to jam legitimately.

900
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:17,800
Speaker 1: Story And it would be so funny to go on

901
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,800
Speaker 1: all these press styles and be like so you changed

902
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 1: your name legal name to ja because think about what

903
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:22,319
Speaker 1: was it?

904
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 2: What was those names they had back in the day.

905
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: It was like someone legally changed the name to Batman,

906
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,239
Speaker 1: Wolverine or you know something like that.

907
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, I so like random, Well, I feel

908
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 3: like you would your your name would be need to

909
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:39,719
Speaker 3: be crazier and like, you're right, maybe maybe a little inappropriate.

910
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 1: Guys, Can we get can we get some suggestions for

911
00:47:42,120 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: names I should change my name to. When we hit

912
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:47,439
Speaker 1: a million bubs, we could take the best one and run.

913
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 1: I'm down to put that on put put that on

914
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 1: the table. I don't know if I'm ready to commit

915
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,920
Speaker 1: this second, but I'm absolutely ready to put on the

916
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: table pigeon night.

917
00:47:57,640 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 5: If he gets it, if he gets enough love, then

918
00:47:59,480 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 5: he'll do it.

919
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, Uh Johnny d Man, I care who

920
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: says we need some real crazy guys like super super cratty.

921
00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:15,760
Speaker 5: Maybe Johnny Walker.

922
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 3: That's that's that's.

923
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 1: Like like something like uh, Bartholomew butt plug or something.

924
00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 3: Like yeah, that's closer.

925
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're getting warmer. Oh my god. Yeah Jemima Oh

926
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 1: yeah about that first name.

927
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 5: And Jemima second name. The rapper.

928
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:44,319
Speaker 2: Oh they said Jemima the Third. Actually, I think we're good.

929
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 3: That's great.

930
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:51,360
Speaker 5: Brother brother uncle aunt, Jemima Max Power brother on Jemima

931
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 5: pard On.

932
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:55,680
Speaker 2: Uh, I just came of that, Sammy boy.

933
00:48:55,680 --> 00:48:56,240
Speaker 4: Are you ready?

934
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 3: Yeah? I'm ready. Which episode?

935
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,919
Speaker 4: It's a six sixty three S three.

936
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 3: Six sixty three S three Harry load.

937
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:10,840
Speaker 2: Something. I just keep talking about butt plugs.

938
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:14,800
Speaker 3: Harry, big butt plug? All right, six sixty three S

939
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 3: three All right, I'm here for it.

940
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:20,399
Speaker 4: Let's go fire this bad boy, go for it.

941
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 3: My boyfriend is friends with a racist. I told him

942
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:27,440
Speaker 3: he has to cut it off or I'm leaving.

943
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 4: Wait wait S one.

944
00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:31,799
Speaker 3: Is oh? S one?

945
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:33,400
Speaker 4: I'm so sorry?

946
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 3: S three? Oh wait wait read so three S one?

947
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:40,320
Speaker 4: Wait wait, oh shoot, I didn't show up. Sorry sleepless

948
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 4: one second sleep. I need to refresh this. Yep, you

949
00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:47,480
Speaker 4: had a biggest one one?

950
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 2: Oh do we just a lot?

951
00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, whoa empress Sleepless Nights? Uh one hundred

952
00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 1: and fifty dollars on the Dono link for the nips?

953
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, for the nips.

954
00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:04,399
Speaker 2: Let's why don't we read these things?

955
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:05,839
Speaker 3: Yeah?

956
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 4: That was an hour ago. I'm so sorry. I forgot

957
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 4: to refresh. Let's thank you. Oh my gosh, Yes, let's

958
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:13,280
Speaker 4: read these donuts real quick before Sam gets an Asian persuasion.

959
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:15,359
Speaker 4: Thanks for the five bucks. Let's get to the hot

960
00:50:15,360 --> 00:50:18,120
Speaker 4: tub stream so John can go back in time to

961
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 4: when he was young.

962
00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 1: Thanks than persuasion for looking out for me. Ash, you

963
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:24,400
Speaker 1: gotta catch him. Thanks for the five bucks. I have

964
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:26,320
Speaker 1: to go to bed now. But if Riley and you

965
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 1: guys want to react to photos to a little producer Riley,

966
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 1: please could you let me know on the discord that

967
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 1: I sent to Riley? He will be so excited to

968
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:35,480
Speaker 1: see it and it will make his day. Have a

969
00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:37,320
Speaker 1: great rest of the stream. Yeah, maybe we could do

970
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:39,399
Speaker 1: that and someone could clip it and send it to Ash.

971
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 1: Got to catch him. Uh wait uh labor Labia not

972
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:48,120
Speaker 1: Labia Layla, Oh God, Leila.

973
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:51,360
Speaker 2: And benone Na. Thanks to the five memberships, and also

974
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 2: apologies for totally disgracing your great, great name. Tiffany Bellabya.

975
00:50:58,080 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 2: Thanks for the ten bucks on Dona lag Intertwined Realms

976
00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 2: with ten more gifted memberships, Sat turnus in the chut

977
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 2: drop them.

978
00:51:07,560 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 1: Nicky Ferrell, thanks for to ten bucks. Oh yeah, sorry,

979
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 1: we already read that. You know anything else?

980
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:16,760
Speaker 2: These Elaine the Main Pains.

981
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:18,920
Speaker 1: Thanks for the two bucks. I left and came back

982
00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:20,839
Speaker 1: to Sam in the hot tub. What did I miss?

983
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 4: You missed the best windspill ever.

984
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 2: Tiffany Velvet. Thanks for the two bucks. Read sleep this

985
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:29,800
Speaker 2: night's don't know Please. By the way, shout out Tiffany

986
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 2: Velvet for doing that. We were able to get all

987
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 2: of the missed donuts because of Tiffany Velvet. You rock.

988
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 2: Thank you for that.

989
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:38,880
Speaker 1: Stone Cold Jackal, thanks for the five gifted memberships and

990
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:41,279
Speaker 1: welcome to the member Dono gang. I think it's your

991
00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:44,880
Speaker 1: first donut member. Let's let's freaking go. And then, bunny Cake,

992
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 1: thanks for the five bucks.

993
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:49,279
Speaker 2: I legally changed my full name, first, middle and last

994
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 2: name for my fortieth birthday. It's not expensive, but you

995
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 2: have to change all your docs, so is tedious. Bunny Cakes?

996
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 1: Could you please or actually you don't need to tell

997
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 1: us in doxt your name, but if you are very

998
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:02,920
Speaker 1: very comfortable with it, what did you change it to

999
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:04,960
Speaker 1: or if it was something fun was it?

1000
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 2: Bunny Cakes? I don't know.

1001
00:52:06,040 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 1: I'm curious if you're working sure, but that's all. Thanks

1002
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 1: for the donos. Oh sorry, Crystal Beans, Uh, what will

1003
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:15,319
Speaker 1: it take for John to join Sam in the hot tub.

1004
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 1: Blow Listen, guys, it won't take much because I would

1005
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 1: love to join him. But maybe another day where the

1006
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 1: stream is streams, streams running down.

1007
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:27,640
Speaker 3: What are we at right now? How many more minutes

1008
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:27,880
Speaker 3: we have?

1009
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:29,439
Speaker 2: Six less than six?

1010
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:34,399
Speaker 3: Six? All right, I can blast this and sick. All right,

1011
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:40,520
Speaker 3: we ready, let's do it? Okay, my Oh crap, Riley,

1012
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 3: your phone has one percent left?

1013
00:52:44,280 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 2: Hold on going down.

1014
00:52:47,520 --> 00:52:48,600
Speaker 4: He's on his but I can.

1015
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 3: Just I can just start.

1016
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:56,240
Speaker 5: My husband shared a hotel room with another woman. And oh, actually,

1017
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 5: maybe I should wait for John so he can.

1018
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,440
Speaker 4: Alright react to charge it.

1019
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 5: Oops, that's okay, six.

1020
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 4: Six, Riley should add extra six. This is a very

1021
00:53:10,600 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 4: long story, so don't you worry.

1022
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:15,280
Speaker 3: Six sixty three s one.

1023
00:53:19,640 --> 00:53:22,319
Speaker 4: And then could you bring my phone ups here?

1024
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:27,760
Speaker 3: Riley is asking to bring his phone upstairs?

1025
00:53:29,960 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 5: Oh child, Riley read me some of the chat.

1026
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 4: Oh l o l his face was so funny. One

1027
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:43,200
Speaker 4: better go fast, lol. It's the curse stream, that's the curse.

1028
00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1029
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 5: We started with what did Anthony?

1030
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 4: Well, what did you guys think of Anthony? Besides the

1031
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:50,560
Speaker 4: meaty thighs?

1032
00:53:51,640 --> 00:53:54,279
Speaker 3: Besides don't we have more time?

1033
00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 4: Because Sleepless. Yeah, so Sleepless donated an hour ago. Then

1034
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:00,839
Speaker 4: that's how we got it. Helped us. It's more time now.

1035
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 4: It just this thing that I have will update myself,

1036
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 4: so I have to update it. So and I was

1037
00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 4: getting crazy trying to get Sam in the hot tub

1038
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 4: for you ladies and men. So that's why we missed it.

1039
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:17,040
Speaker 5: Thanks Johnny Bahami. All right, John's running out.

1040
00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:19,560
Speaker 3: It is also great that I'm in the hot tub

1041
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:21,840
Speaker 3: because it is good for my ankle.

1042
00:54:22,600 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 5: Oh that is all black and blue.

1043
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 4: Oh, Bunny Cakes just donated two dollars. I changed my

1044
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:30,280
Speaker 4: first name to Bunny no way.

1045
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 5: Actually, that's sick.

1046
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:34,560
Speaker 4: That's the person that legally changed their first, middle, and

1047
00:54:34,640 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 4: last name.

1048
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 5: That's so cool. What why why did you do that?

1049
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:41,320
Speaker 5: I'm curious? Let us know.

1050
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:44,480
Speaker 4: Bunny Anthony is a nice narrator voice.

1051
00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:49,239
Speaker 3: He does and he can do really good impressions. His

1052
00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:50,840
Speaker 3: impression game is top notch.

1053
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 2: Have hot people, that's true, that's true. I'm only sad

1054
00:54:57,600 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 2: that I that I look so much less hot sitting

1055
00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 2: next to him. That was an actual thought I had

1056
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,279
Speaker 2: of my day day.

1057
00:55:05,960 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 3: He's so cute.

1058
00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:10,359
Speaker 5: All right, we ready, let's do it, ye all right?

1059
00:55:11,040 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 3: My husband shared a hotel room with another woman and

1060
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:18,880
Speaker 3: thought I'd be fine with it. My thirty six female

1061
00:55:19,520 --> 00:55:23,279
Speaker 3: husband forty two male is currently in Las Vegas for

1062
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:27,280
Speaker 3: a national bowling tournament. He is there with his mom

1063
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 3: and her friend Slash Folks from the bowling league. He

1064
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 3: is an avid bowler, bawls in a Tuesday night league,

1065
00:55:34,200 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 3: often in state tournaments and sometimes in national tournaments. Typically

1066
00:55:38,120 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 3: I go with and sometimes bull myself, but this year

1067
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 3: we decided I would not go but stay home with

1068
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 3: our three boys, ages four eight ten, due to heat

1069
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:50,400
Speaker 3: and smoke in Vegas in July. By the way, this

1070
00:55:50,480 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 3: comes from Valuable Channel five to two on the Okay Storytime.

1071
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:57,319
Speaker 3: So I've read it. So. My husband and I have

1072
00:55:57,360 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 3: been married for eleven years. This is his second marriage.

1073
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:02,960
Speaker 3: What happened with the first one? BOYO, his first marriage

1074
00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 3: failed because he walked in on his wife cheating on

1075
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:09,000
Speaker 3: him with another man. Okay, I'm sad that I asked

1076
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 3: that question so soon. I have never once thought that

1077
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 3: he would ever be intimate with another woman while he

1078
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:17,680
Speaker 3: was with me.

1079
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:22,560
Speaker 5: He's just not the type, or so you thought. So

1080
00:56:22,719 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 5: on this trip.

1081
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 3: Typically when he goes on a trip without me, at

1082
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 3: least one year given my job. In time off requirements,

1083
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:32,040
Speaker 3: he stays in a hotel room with his mom or

1084
00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:36,400
Speaker 3: our boys. Three nights ago, I was on FaceTime with

1085
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:39,520
Speaker 3: him while he was in his hotel room. It was

1086
00:56:39,560 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 3: really nice and he was talking about the possibility of

1087
00:56:42,719 --> 00:56:45,880
Speaker 3: taking a nap for lack of sleep. I asked if

1088
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:49,160
Speaker 3: he had his room to himself, because that would have

1089
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:53,320
Speaker 3: been awesome, and he said, oh, no, blank, I'm gonna

1090
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:57,160
Speaker 3: all say, Sharon is sharing with me. I asked him,

1091
00:56:57,760 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 3: who is Sharon? And he's something I don't remember aside

1092
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:06,640
Speaker 3: from she. I said, wait what? And then he went

1093
00:57:06,680 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 3: on to explain that he was supposed to share the

1094
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:12,839
Speaker 3: room with his mom's boyfriend, but plans changed and now

1095
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 3: he's sharing the room with another woman on the trip.

1096
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:22,840
Speaker 3: Is is that? Is that whack? Sharing with Sharon?

1097
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, especially because he didn't tell her upfront, Right, he.

1098
00:57:28,160 --> 00:57:29,120
Speaker 3: Didn't tell her anything?

1099
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1100
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:33,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, But he is being upfront now, So maybe he,

1101
00:57:33,520 --> 00:57:35,520
Speaker 3: like literally didn't think it would be an issue.

1102
00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:37,960
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe that doesn't excuse him, but he's just.

1103
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 5: An idiot, yeah or not?

1104
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:42,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, at least it wasn't like she found out He

1105
00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:49,440
Speaker 3: freely gave the information, but it's still weird. So he

1106
00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 3: told me that I played corn hole with her last month.

1107
00:57:52,640 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 3: How to get together. I reminded him who I had

1108
00:57:55,320 --> 00:57:58,400
Speaker 3: played cornhole with him and a girl, but no one

1109
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:00,920
Speaker 3: with a name. He was giving me, I have no

1110
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 3: idea who this woman is, at which point he got

1111
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 3: very confused.

1112
00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:07,440
Speaker 5: He did not understand why.

1113
00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 3: I was so upset or frustrated, so I dropped it

1114
00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:11,560
Speaker 3: because I did not want to deter him from his

1115
00:58:11,720 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 3: time and his bowling. Yes, the bowling competition is more

1116
00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:16,800
Speaker 3: important than your.

1117
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 5: Marriage, of course, of guards.

1118
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 3: I know I should have asked how he would have

1119
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:25,840
Speaker 3: felt if the roles were reversed, but I didn't, partly

1120
00:58:25,880 --> 00:58:28,240
Speaker 3: because I didn't want to fight. We hardly ever fight

1121
00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 3: while the kids were up, and partly because I didn't

1122
00:58:30,760 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 3: want to hear him chalk it up to my imagination.

1123
00:58:33,800 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 3: I have hardly slept since that night, and my dreams

1124
00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 3: have been chock full of worst case scenarios, and still

1125
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 3: I have not really brought it up again. There have

1126
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 3: been a few occasions in which he had talked about

1127
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:48,920
Speaker 3: taking naps and how lame he is in Vegas. I

1128
00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:52,280
Speaker 3: mentioned a few times, sort of sarcastically, as a side

1129
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:55,160
Speaker 3: that he would be having more fun if he was

1130
00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:58,160
Speaker 3: sharing a room with me, or if I was there

1131
00:58:58,240 --> 00:58:59,920
Speaker 3: instead of his present company.

1132
00:58:59,680 --> 00:59:02,960
Speaker 5: But he brushed it all aside. So here we are.

1133
00:59:03,280 --> 00:59:07,920
Speaker 3: He has spent the last three nights, three nights in

1134
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 3: a hotel room with a woman that is not me

1135
00:59:11,480 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 3: or his mother.

1136
00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:15,880
Speaker 5: So am I the A hole for being upset?

1137
00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:19,480
Speaker 3: There is an update three days later and some relevant comments,

1138
00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 3: But John is OP the a hole for being upset?

1139
00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:27,160
Speaker 2: I do not think OP is the a hole for

1140
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:28,040
Speaker 2: being upset?

1141
00:59:28,080 --> 00:59:30,760
Speaker 1: I think even and you know, we always say like, hey,

1142
00:59:31,080 --> 00:59:34,200
Speaker 1: look you if people have a certain agreement within their

1143
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:37,240
Speaker 1: relationship whatever, fine, so hey, maybe some couples are like,

1144
00:59:37,640 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 1: have an agreement in communication that something like that is okay.

1145
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:45,640
Speaker 1: I think generally, very broadly speaking, sometimes crazy things happen.

1146
00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:49,560
Speaker 1: A crazy thing like Chris tinfoil hat donating one hundred

1147
00:59:49,600 --> 00:59:55,480
Speaker 1: and forty seven dollars and sixty nine cents sixty nine cents?

1148
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 3: Have we here a full addition?

1149
00:59:58,280 --> 00:59:58,760
Speaker 2: Have we hit it?

1150
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:00,080
Speaker 4: Riley? Oh yeah, we hit it.

1151
01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 2: That's right by over two dollars. Even, gang and another.

1152
01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:10,640
Speaker 3: Thirty thirty minutes minutes got more hot upstream for you all, that's.

1153
01:00:10,320 --> 01:00:13,439
Speaker 1: In the freaking chat. Uh shout out to Christen foil Hat,

1154
01:00:13,440 --> 01:00:16,640
Speaker 1: big shout up. But to answer Sam's question, Yeah, I

1155
01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 1: think she has every right to upset and that generally speaking,

1156
01:00:20,080 --> 01:00:23,760
Speaker 1: you shouldn't sleep in a hotel room with a person

1157
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 1: of the sex you are attracted to with you know,

1158
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:32,840
Speaker 1: at the barest of minimums you reach out, ask.

1159
01:00:32,720 --> 01:00:34,720
Speaker 5: And get out talking to your partner before.

1160
01:00:34,960 --> 01:00:37,080
Speaker 1: Yes, you have to get you, get your tell, get

1161
01:00:37,200 --> 01:00:42,920
Speaker 1: confirmation that that is one aokay before doing that.

1162
01:00:44,120 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, and this is something that hope he did not do.

1163
01:00:47,600 --> 01:00:49,840
Speaker 3: But we got some roleving comments in an update, so

1164
01:00:50,680 --> 01:00:53,880
Speaker 3: comments winter Front one four three one says he should

1165
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:57,120
Speaker 3: have spoken to you first, not told you, call him

1166
01:00:57,160 --> 01:00:59,720
Speaker 3: and tell him how you feel. So you're not accusing him.

1167
01:00:59,720 --> 01:01:01,760
Speaker 3: It just hurts and honestly felt weird that he didn't

1168
01:01:01,800 --> 01:01:04,920
Speaker 3: mention sharing a room with another woman. Hey, I have

1169
01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:07,200
Speaker 3: to share room with x y Z because x y

1170
01:01:07,320 --> 01:01:10,600
Speaker 3: Z happened. And now for the update. And that's also

1171
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:14,120
Speaker 3: what John said. So I took some advice and grew

1172
01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:17,560
Speaker 3: a backbone quote unquote, I texted him a little while

1173
01:01:17,640 --> 01:01:20,240
Speaker 3: ago instead of waiting until he got home. He and

1174
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:22,640
Speaker 3: our boys are leaving for another trip tomorrow morning. I

1175
01:01:22,680 --> 01:01:25,280
Speaker 3: could not get off the time from work, so I

1176
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:28,160
Speaker 3: wanted to make sure we had the conversation fully before

1177
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 3: he left. Again, before I give the updates, I wanted

1178
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 3: to make a couple of things clear. I do trust

1179
01:01:34,960 --> 01:01:37,400
Speaker 3: my husband. He has never shown he would be the

1180
01:01:37,480 --> 01:01:39,960
Speaker 3: kind of person to cheat, and that is not what

1181
01:01:40,080 --> 01:01:43,320
Speaker 3: truly concerned me, even though I did have some pretty

1182
01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:48,080
Speaker 3: unpleasant dreams, and as we've seen previous stories, if you

1183
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:50,439
Speaker 3: cheat in your dreams, you cheat in real life.

1184
01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:50,959
Speaker 2: It's real.

1185
01:01:51,120 --> 01:01:53,640
Speaker 3: My issue was that he is not upfront and honest

1186
01:01:53,640 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 3: with me. If I had done the same thing, he

1187
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:58,960
Speaker 3: would have lost his mind. Understandably. This is why I

1188
01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:02,960
Speaker 3: started the original. He's just at the type why do

1189
01:02:03,440 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 3: why we do generally have great communication. The issue here

1190
01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 3: is that I like to have this kind of conversation

1191
01:02:09,240 --> 01:02:11,920
Speaker 3: face to face rather than over the phone. It's just

1192
01:02:11,960 --> 01:02:13,760
Speaker 3: not something I like to hash out while we are

1193
01:02:13,760 --> 01:02:17,000
Speaker 3: not in the same space. Obviously, in this situation, I

1194
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:21,560
Speaker 3: should have made the exception and now have done so well.

1195
01:02:21,880 --> 01:02:24,680
Speaker 3: Now we have the update. I texted him today to

1196
01:02:24,680 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 3: tell him that this situation has been bothering me for

1197
01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 3: the last three days. I had questions and we needed

1198
01:02:30,240 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 3: to have this conversation. She had questions and she needs answers.

1199
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:38,000
Speaker 3: I asked who the woman was, how old she was,

1200
01:02:38,560 --> 01:02:41,200
Speaker 3: and why he didn't tell me about the situation before

1201
01:02:41,240 --> 01:02:42,640
Speaker 3: I found out by accident.

1202
01:02:44,120 --> 01:02:44,920
Speaker 5: This is what he said.

1203
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:48,000
Speaker 3: There was a mix up with the rooms, something about

1204
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:51,760
Speaker 3: someone not going somewhere, so people were shuffled. He was

1205
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 3: paired with a woman about my age. He said he

1206
01:02:54,280 --> 01:02:56,520
Speaker 3: didn't think it would be a big deal and didn't

1207
01:02:56,520 --> 01:02:59,040
Speaker 3: want to inconvenience anyone else on the trip. He also

1208
01:02:59,080 --> 01:03:01,240
Speaker 3: said he did not want to upset me, which is

1209
01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:05,080
Speaker 3: why he didn't right out tell me about it. That's

1210
01:03:05,120 --> 01:03:07,680
Speaker 3: like rule number one of a marriage is not I

1211
01:03:07,720 --> 01:03:10,400
Speaker 3: feel like like that's not the right framing. It's not

1212
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:12,680
Speaker 3: he didn't want to upset her. He didn't want to

1213
01:03:12,720 --> 01:03:16,040
Speaker 3: face the consequences for doing something that would upset her,

1214
01:03:16,080 --> 01:03:21,720
Speaker 3: which is different. Yeah, he did tell me that I

1215
01:03:21,840 --> 01:03:25,200
Speaker 3: never had anything to worry about, and he made sure

1216
01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:29,240
Speaker 3: they weren't in the room alone together from except when

1217
01:03:29,240 --> 01:03:31,760
Speaker 3: they were sleeping. I know, I know, but I really

1218
01:03:31,800 --> 01:03:34,439
Speaker 3: do believe him on this. I was honest with him

1219
01:03:34,480 --> 01:03:36,440
Speaker 3: and told him that if the roles were reversed. Out

1220
01:03:36,440 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 3: of respect to him, I would have called him right

1221
01:03:38,760 --> 01:03:40,920
Speaker 3: away to make sure he was okay with it. I

1222
01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:44,320
Speaker 3: told him that while I trust him implicitly, I should

1223
01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:47,200
Speaker 3: not have found out the way I did, and he

1224
01:03:47,240 --> 01:03:50,240
Speaker 3: should not have blown off my concern. Also, I just

1225
01:03:50,280 --> 01:03:52,960
Speaker 3: looked ahead. There is another update after this, but we'll

1226
01:03:52,960 --> 01:03:55,240
Speaker 3: get to that a second. I told him that the

1227
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:59,560
Speaker 3: lack of upfront communication felt suspicious, regardless of intention or

1228
01:03:59,600 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 3: what acts actually happened. As for not upsetting me, I

1229
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 3: told him I would have understood and not been upset

1230
01:04:05,160 --> 01:04:07,240
Speaker 3: if he had just been honest, which is like literally

1231
01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 3: something we say all the time on the show, like,

1232
01:04:09,640 --> 01:04:13,880
Speaker 3: if you're honest and upfront as soon as possible, there's

1233
01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:15,040
Speaker 3: less to worry about.

1234
01:04:15,240 --> 01:04:18,760
Speaker 5: And the longer you take before being honest, the worse

1235
01:04:19,200 --> 01:04:19,760
Speaker 5: it gets.

1236
01:04:21,160 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 1: Keeps the foundation of trust really strong because they'll know

1237
01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:27,280
Speaker 1: if anything ever goes wrong. I can trust that they

1238
01:04:27,320 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 1: will come and tell me everything immediately.

1239
01:04:31,000 --> 01:04:33,080
Speaker 3: And John, I know we have a couple seconds of delay,

1240
01:04:33,200 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 3: but what our relationships built on trust, there we go good.

1241
01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:41,040
Speaker 4: I was good.

1242
01:04:41,680 --> 01:04:42,600
Speaker 5: I told him that.

1243
01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:45,920
Speaker 3: The lack of uprocommunication fell suspicious regardless of intention, or

1244
01:04:45,960 --> 01:04:47,840
Speaker 3: what actually happened. As for not upsetting me, I told

1245
01:04:47,920 --> 01:04:50,600
Speaker 3: him I would. If he had been honest, I wouldn't

1246
01:04:50,600 --> 01:04:53,920
Speaker 3: have been upset. He has apologized profusely. I told him

1247
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:56,720
Speaker 3: next time to just communicate. He is adamant their will

1248
01:04:56,760 --> 01:04:59,280
Speaker 3: will not be a next time to call me naive

1249
01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:01,640
Speaker 3: if you want, but I am dropping it at this point.

1250
01:05:01,720 --> 01:05:03,560
Speaker 3: He will be home this evening and I intend on

1251
01:05:03,640 --> 01:05:05,640
Speaker 3: having a nice evening with him before I don't see

1252
01:05:05,640 --> 01:05:08,640
Speaker 3: you again for another two weeks. Thank you for the advice.

1253
01:05:08,720 --> 01:05:10,560
Speaker 3: I cried it out when I found out her age,

1254
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:13,480
Speaker 3: but getting this off my chest has been very relieved.

1255
01:05:13,520 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 3: And again there's an update. Husband is coming home tonight

1256
01:05:16,240 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 3: and we will talk. I'm hoping it's eighty two.

1257
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:21,680
Speaker 5: Year old grandma wanky face.

1258
01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:23,760
Speaker 3: I don't know what that means. What does that mean?

1259
01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:27,440
Speaker 2: That means, hey, little Shenny, Grandma's got a little more

1260
01:05:27,560 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 2: surprised for you.

1261
01:05:28,840 --> 01:05:29,520
Speaker 4: That means no.

1262
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:32,040
Speaker 5: Tense, no dentures.

1263
01:05:32,200 --> 01:05:35,400
Speaker 2: Maybe I'm gonna talk two of my dentures right on

1264
01:05:35,600 --> 01:05:37,400
Speaker 2: out of here, if you know what I mean.

1265
01:05:37,520 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 3: Baby cakes, Oh, do have an up day. So let's

1266
01:05:42,720 --> 01:05:45,240
Speaker 3: let's slide on over to this one. So I am

1267
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:47,640
Speaker 3: not handling this as well as I thought I was.

1268
01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:50,360
Speaker 3: I had decided to let it go. I know he

1269
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:53,040
Speaker 3: wasn't doing anything with this other woman. You can disagree

1270
01:05:53,120 --> 01:05:55,560
Speaker 3: and call me crazy if you'd like, but I do

1271
01:05:55,760 --> 01:06:00,520
Speaker 3: know that. However, as much as I have tried, I

1272
01:06:01,200 --> 01:06:03,720
Speaker 3: can't get past the fact that he made the decision

1273
01:06:03,760 --> 01:06:06,600
Speaker 3: to do something he knew I wouldn't be okay with

1274
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:09,480
Speaker 3: and not tell me about it. It all feels just

1275
01:06:09,520 --> 01:06:12,440
Speaker 3: so messed up. I've talked to a few co workers.

1276
01:06:12,680 --> 01:06:15,000
Speaker 3: I don't have really any friends that aren't friends of

1277
01:06:15,040 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 3: his that I talk to on a regular basis, And

1278
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:19,320
Speaker 3: there's no way I will talk to my family because

1279
01:06:19,320 --> 01:06:23,160
Speaker 3: that is a crapstorm I can handle right now, and

1280
01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:25,920
Speaker 3: they are all shocked and more angry for me than

1281
01:06:25,960 --> 01:06:28,520
Speaker 3: I have let myself to be. Most of them know

1282
01:06:28,640 --> 01:06:30,600
Speaker 3: him and the kind of person he is and what

1283
01:06:30,840 --> 01:06:32,840
Speaker 3: ended his first marriage. He used to work at the

1284
01:06:32,840 --> 01:06:35,840
Speaker 3: same company. We had less than twenty four hours together

1285
01:06:35,920 --> 01:06:37,840
Speaker 3: before he, his mom, and all three of my children

1286
01:06:37,920 --> 01:06:40,000
Speaker 3: took their trip to the other side of the United States.

1287
01:06:40,840 --> 01:06:43,240
Speaker 3: I have been sitting in my fields and will continue

1288
01:06:43,280 --> 01:06:45,640
Speaker 3: to do so until they get back, almost another week

1289
01:06:45,640 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 3: from now. I was on the phone with them this

1290
01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:49,840
Speaker 3: evening before they went to bed, and one of the

1291
01:06:49,840 --> 01:06:52,840
Speaker 3: first things my husband's son was, I'm sharing a bed

1292
01:06:53,280 --> 01:06:54,360
Speaker 3: with a redhead tonight.

1293
01:06:57,400 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 2: Huh, your wife better and I.

1294
01:07:00,320 --> 01:07:04,880
Speaker 3: Almost came unglued before I realized he was talking about

1295
01:07:05,000 --> 01:07:08,320
Speaker 3: one of our boys. We have three sons.

1296
01:07:09,400 --> 01:07:10,400
Speaker 2: Oh.

1297
01:07:10,440 --> 01:07:13,080
Speaker 3: After a long pause, I said, you'd better be talking

1298
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:15,800
Speaker 3: about blank, and I was so angry. I don't understand

1299
01:07:15,840 --> 01:07:18,200
Speaker 3: how he didn't pick up on that. Not the best

1300
01:07:18,280 --> 01:07:19,920
Speaker 3: joke to lay down, Suy. Sure.

1301
01:07:21,400 --> 01:07:25,800
Speaker 2: So many levels of things are wrong here, oh so bad.

1302
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:29,520
Speaker 3: Every conversation we had has been short and to the

1303
01:07:29,520 --> 01:07:31,840
Speaker 3: point because I'm really just not interested in talking to him.

1304
01:07:32,160 --> 01:07:34,520
Speaker 3: I've been calling my oldest son and talking with my

1305
01:07:34,560 --> 01:07:37,520
Speaker 3: boys instead. His mom hasn't really said much to me,

1306
01:07:37,560 --> 01:07:39,960
Speaker 3: which makes me think he has said something to her,

1307
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:42,440
Speaker 3: which is fine, of course I really don't care about that.

1308
01:07:43,160 --> 01:07:45,680
Speaker 3: Bottom line is I just don't know what to do.

1309
01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:48,280
Speaker 3: It is midnight at home. I tried to go bed

1310
01:07:48,320 --> 01:07:51,560
Speaker 3: two hours ago and just couldn't stop sobbing, so.

1311
01:07:51,480 --> 01:07:52,600
Speaker 5: I got up and let it go.

1312
01:07:52,880 --> 01:07:57,800
Speaker 3: Also, really quick, if your partner made a joke like

1313
01:07:57,920 --> 01:08:01,439
Speaker 3: that after everything had just happened, and what would you do?

1314
01:08:01,920 --> 01:08:06,240
Speaker 3: I have put your answers in the comments below. It

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01:08:06,320 --> 01:08:08,480
Speaker 3: felt good to get it out, but I know I

1316
01:08:08,600 --> 01:08:11,720
Speaker 3: need to talk to someone, she said, so I just

1317
01:08:11,760 --> 01:08:13,920
Speaker 3: got up and let it go. I have support lines

1318
01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:16,240
Speaker 3: through work I can call, but I won't tonight. Far

1319
01:08:16,280 --> 01:08:18,280
Speaker 3: too many drinks and I don't want to bring that

1320
01:08:18,479 --> 01:08:22,599
Speaker 3: into it as well. But I will call tomorrow. I

1321
01:08:22,680 --> 01:08:25,040
Speaker 3: know I should be upset and angry and not let

1322
01:08:25,040 --> 01:08:27,520
Speaker 3: it go, but I'm afraid when I do talk to professional,

1323
01:08:27,880 --> 01:08:30,439
Speaker 3: they'll say I'm blowing it out of proportion. I will

1324
01:08:30,439 --> 01:08:32,799
Speaker 3: still call, but I need to get my head straight first.

1325
01:08:33,160 --> 01:08:36,760
Speaker 3: He is bicycling for seven days. What is all this like?

1326
01:08:37,200 --> 01:08:40,000
Speaker 3: Bicycling and bowling all over the country? Man has gone

1327
01:08:40,080 --> 01:08:45,000
Speaker 3: more than he's there with his wife. He's bicycling for

1328
01:08:45,120 --> 01:08:47,840
Speaker 3: seven days, over four hundred miles. So as much as

1329
01:08:47,840 --> 01:08:49,479
Speaker 3: I want to tear him a new one right now,

1330
01:08:49,560 --> 01:08:53,479
Speaker 3: especially after his completely insensitive and clueless joke this evening,

1331
01:08:53,840 --> 01:08:57,759
Speaker 3: I have not because I want him home safe and sound.

1332
01:08:58,320 --> 01:09:00,320
Speaker 3: And there is a little bit more to this story.

1333
01:09:01,080 --> 01:09:03,679
Speaker 3: I'll hit some relevant comments before we get to the end,

1334
01:09:03,800 --> 01:09:07,240
Speaker 3: but illustrator Slow sixteen fourteen says that joke is horrendous.

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01:09:07,280 --> 01:09:09,080
Speaker 5: He has no respect for you at all, Hope.

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01:09:09,080 --> 01:09:11,280
Speaker 3: He responds, it sure does feel that way right now

1337
01:09:11,720 --> 01:09:14,519
Speaker 3: and turbulent. EBB says, damn making a joke like that

1338
01:09:15,000 --> 01:09:18,559
Speaker 3: soon after is not good. Someone else says, so gross.

1339
01:09:18,600 --> 01:09:20,479
Speaker 3: It feels like the joke was to downplay what he

1340
01:09:20,520 --> 01:09:26,320
Speaker 3: did with the coworker. It's insensitive, manipulative, and downright disrespectful.

1341
01:09:26,680 --> 01:09:32,160
Speaker 3: Definitely disrespectful and just potentially as disrespectful as not joining

1342
01:09:32,200 --> 01:09:36,519
Speaker 3: our live stream every weekday at three pm on YouTube.

1343
01:09:36,720 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 3: But John, before we finish this story out, what do

1344
01:09:39,080 --> 01:09:41,519
Speaker 3: you think of the joke and how the husband is

1345
01:09:41,560 --> 01:09:45,080
Speaker 3: being has been handling this, and also how he's leaving

1346
01:09:45,160 --> 01:09:47,519
Speaker 3: again for another seven days in the midst of list

1347
01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:48,760
Speaker 3: turmoil in the relationship.

1348
01:09:49,080 --> 01:09:49,559
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1349
01:09:49,600 --> 01:09:52,080
Speaker 1: Actually that's another great call out. So yeah, I think

1350
01:09:52,640 --> 01:09:56,080
Speaker 1: terrible timing with a joke because you know, in that

1351
01:09:56,160 --> 01:09:59,240
Speaker 1: split second before you get the explanation of like, oh,

1352
01:09:59,439 --> 01:10:01,439
Speaker 1: you know, I'm talking about the kid or whatever, she

1353
01:10:01,640 --> 01:10:04,839
Speaker 1: is going to think, Oh my god, are you being serious?

1354
01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:05,280
Speaker 3: Is it her?

1355
01:10:05,400 --> 01:10:06,800
Speaker 2: Is it another woman? What's going on?

1356
01:10:06,880 --> 01:10:10,479
Speaker 1: Like you're basically you're gonna like read traumatizing her like

1357
01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:13,920
Speaker 1: low key high the same thing that just just.

1358
01:10:14,360 --> 01:10:18,439
Speaker 5: Happened, and it's like you've learned nothing.

1359
01:10:18,840 --> 01:10:22,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then like about the the kid, Dude, it's

1360
01:10:22,120 --> 01:10:26,040
Speaker 2: like that's another layer of what the f And then

1361
01:10:26,360 --> 01:10:29,960
Speaker 2: finally to your point, Yeah, it's like, dude, should you

1362
01:10:30,040 --> 01:10:33,840
Speaker 2: really be going on a four hundred bile biking trip

1363
01:10:33,920 --> 01:10:35,559
Speaker 2: at this very moment?

1364
01:10:35,640 --> 01:10:38,760
Speaker 1: Like maybe maybe your family is better than your than

1365
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:41,160
Speaker 1: your pr for distance biking.

1366
01:10:42,960 --> 01:10:43,479
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1367
01:10:43,760 --> 01:10:47,320
Speaker 3: Also, seventh day a seven day biking trip is hella excessive,

1368
01:10:47,560 --> 01:10:49,720
Speaker 3: although we.

1369
01:10:48,840 --> 01:10:51,960
Speaker 1: We do know someone whose dad is planning a three

1370
01:10:52,040 --> 01:10:54,559
Speaker 1: month biking trip across the coast of Africa.

1371
01:10:55,280 --> 01:10:58,719
Speaker 3: Uh, that is true. We do know someone who's.

1372
01:10:59,280 --> 01:11:00,000
Speaker 2: To say.

1373
01:11:01,920 --> 01:11:06,280
Speaker 3: Community, you know, every relationship has different rules and regulations,

1374
01:11:06,280 --> 01:11:08,920
Speaker 3: So maybe she's okay with that, but she's definitely not

1375
01:11:09,080 --> 01:11:12,040
Speaker 3: okay with him sharing a bed or a room with

1376
01:11:12,080 --> 01:11:12,720
Speaker 3: a coworker.

1377
01:11:12,840 --> 01:11:15,280
Speaker 2: There's different spokes on the great wheel of love and

1378
01:11:15,320 --> 01:11:16,400
Speaker 2: relationships and.

1379
01:11:16,640 --> 01:11:19,600
Speaker 3: Another thing that there are, John, But we do have

1380
01:11:19,600 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 3: a little bit more of the story before we close

1381
01:11:21,360 --> 01:11:24,920
Speaker 3: it out. So regardless of my feelings in this moment,

1382
01:11:24,920 --> 01:11:27,400
Speaker 3: the most important thing is that my child's and my

1383
01:11:27,520 --> 01:11:30,680
Speaker 3: children's dad comes home safe, so we can hash this

1384
01:11:30,800 --> 01:11:33,479
Speaker 3: out at least in the same city and not while

1385
01:11:33,520 --> 01:11:36,600
Speaker 3: he is a thousand miles away with his mom and

1386
01:11:36,720 --> 01:11:39,080
Speaker 3: my children. And this is all the answer the question

1387
01:11:39,600 --> 01:11:42,880
Speaker 3: when do you need to set boundaries in a relationship?

1388
01:11:45,240 --> 01:11:46,560
Speaker 3: That's where the story ends.

1389
01:11:47,160 --> 01:11:50,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think they need them some boundaries. Briley, what

1390
01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:51,599
Speaker 2: were you going to say earlier?

1391
01:11:51,600 --> 01:11:54,800
Speaker 4: Oh, I think it's weird every time he has a

1392
01:11:54,800 --> 01:11:58,120
Speaker 4: bowling thing coming up or a biking thing she puts

1393
01:11:58,120 --> 01:12:01,760
Speaker 4: it off. Is that a lack of self respect or

1394
01:12:01,880 --> 01:12:03,599
Speaker 4: I feel like that has something to do with her

1395
01:12:03,680 --> 01:12:05,680
Speaker 4: perspective of herself in the relationship.

1396
01:12:05,880 --> 01:12:06,040
Speaker 3: Uh.

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01:12:06,360 --> 01:12:10,480
Speaker 2: I mean, I think it could be like it's like, okay, it's.

1398
01:12:11,960 --> 01:12:15,000
Speaker 1: Okay, Hey, it's not a good he's packing to go whatever,

1399
01:12:15,040 --> 01:12:16,719
Speaker 1: it's not a good not a good time.

1400
01:12:16,920 --> 01:12:18,559
Speaker 2: But then it just ends up being a thing where

1401
01:12:18,560 --> 01:12:18,920
Speaker 2: it's like.

1402
01:12:19,080 --> 01:12:22,200
Speaker 1: Well, if he's literally he's bowling over here this week,

1403
01:12:22,240 --> 01:12:24,760
Speaker 1: if he's biking a thousand miles away over here, if

1404
01:12:24,760 --> 01:12:25,719
Speaker 1: he's hiking Mount.

1405
01:12:25,560 --> 01:12:28,639
Speaker 2: Kiliman Jarro over there, like then when.

1406
01:12:28,560 --> 01:12:31,040
Speaker 1: Does a when does a good time present itself and

1407
01:12:31,080 --> 01:12:33,840
Speaker 1: you just kind of have to do it about maybe

1408
01:12:33,840 --> 01:12:35,400
Speaker 1: she's just like, okay, let me not do it when

1409
01:12:35,439 --> 01:12:36,280
Speaker 1: he's packing or whatever.

1410
01:12:37,240 --> 01:12:40,479
Speaker 3: I'm a little on board with Riley here where I'm like, yeah,

1411
01:12:40,520 --> 01:12:43,000
Speaker 3: maybe maybe it is uh, And I think it's an

1412
01:12:43,040 --> 01:12:47,800
Speaker 3: indicator that she's putting what she needs below what he needs,

1413
01:12:47,800 --> 01:12:51,000
Speaker 3: Like she's he's getting to gallivant all like all around,

1414
01:12:51,080 --> 01:12:54,880
Speaker 3: and she's just trying to have a conversation to talk

1415
01:12:54,880 --> 01:13:00,280
Speaker 3: about something that upset her, and he obviously won not

1416
01:13:00,320 --> 01:13:02,240
Speaker 3: making the time for that conversation. But I don't think

1417
01:13:02,280 --> 01:13:06,280
Speaker 3: he's even acknowledging that that conversation needs to happen because

1418
01:13:06,439 --> 01:13:10,840
Speaker 3: he's constantly being diminutive to his wife in the form

1419
01:13:10,840 --> 01:13:13,840
Speaker 3: of this joke, and I think also in the form

1420
01:13:13,880 --> 01:13:18,559
Speaker 3: of maybe just not preemptively thinking about what she needs

1421
01:13:18,600 --> 01:13:21,320
Speaker 3: and what she not wants to feel respected in the relationship.

1422
01:13:21,640 --> 01:13:24,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you know how at first he he like

1423
01:13:24,479 --> 01:13:27,760
Speaker 1: very casually mentioned like, oh yeah, I'm sleeping in the

1424
01:13:27,760 --> 01:13:31,120
Speaker 1: same rooms as this woman. At first, it was like, Okay,

1425
01:13:31,160 --> 01:13:33,720
Speaker 1: maybe he like doesn't understand what he's what he's doing,

1426
01:13:33,720 --> 01:13:35,080
Speaker 1: but it's almost no, but he does.

1427
01:13:35,200 --> 01:13:36,400
Speaker 2: He did, he did.

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01:13:36,600 --> 01:13:40,800
Speaker 1: And it's also an indicator that he's not taking it seriously,

1429
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:41,559
Speaker 1: which he is not.

1430
01:13:41,800 --> 01:13:43,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, but she is, and he's.

1431
01:13:43,600 --> 01:13:45,880
Speaker 3: I think the biggest red flag, like we we kind

1432
01:13:45,880 --> 01:13:48,000
Speaker 3: of would have said, but like we were saying before,

1433
01:13:48,000 --> 01:13:50,840
Speaker 3: like oh, like maybe he didn't realize that it was bad,

1434
01:13:51,320 --> 01:13:54,680
Speaker 3: but he literally admitted to realizing that she would have

1435
01:13:54,720 --> 01:13:57,639
Speaker 3: been upset, but he was he didn't have the courage

1436
01:13:57,680 --> 01:13:58,400
Speaker 3: to tell her.

1437
01:13:58,600 --> 01:14:00,200
Speaker 2: Not taking it seriously at all.

1438
01:14:00,680 --> 01:14:04,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, Boosta Kena Yancey says, as I said before, he's

1439
01:14:04,960 --> 01:14:08,080
Speaker 1: trying to desensitize her so that when it escalates the

1440
01:14:08,200 --> 01:14:11,160
Speaker 1: more and more, she has no reaction and she becomes

1441
01:14:11,280 --> 01:14:16,160
Speaker 1: passive and just lets whatever happens happen. So basically like yeah,

1442
01:14:16,200 --> 01:14:18,920
Speaker 1: like let me keep downplaying it. So she starts to

1443
01:14:19,120 --> 01:14:22,439
Speaker 1: she's like gas lit into believing, oh, this actually isn't

1444
01:14:22,439 --> 01:14:24,280
Speaker 1: a serious thing, and he can get away with like

1445
01:14:24,840 --> 01:14:26,960
Speaker 1: more and more potentially. That's a that's an interesting thing.

1446
01:14:27,000 --> 01:14:30,599
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like building the reality distortion field basically around her,

1447
01:14:31,120 --> 01:14:32,639
Speaker 3: one one brick at a time.

1448
01:14:32,800 --> 01:14:36,879
Speaker 2: Dude, that's a Magneto level evil reality distortion.

1449
01:14:37,280 --> 01:14:40,799
Speaker 3: I know, I know, I Like I wonder with these people,

1450
01:14:40,880 --> 01:14:43,720
Speaker 3: like is this like a premeditated thought or is it

1451
01:14:43,880 --> 01:14:47,040
Speaker 3: just like is it like are they do you think

1452
01:14:47,080 --> 01:14:49,519
Speaker 3: he's thinking about it like that? Like in a systematic way,

1453
01:14:49,600 --> 01:14:52,679
Speaker 3: or is he just like he's just kind of live

1454
01:14:52,680 --> 01:14:53,240
Speaker 3: in life.

1455
01:14:53,400 --> 01:14:56,720
Speaker 1: I would just yeah, I'm I'm getting the sense that

1456
01:14:56,800 --> 01:15:02,080
Speaker 1: he's like, uh, oblivious and unintentional, meaning that he's he's

1457
01:15:02,120 --> 01:15:02,719
Speaker 1: not thoughtful.

1458
01:15:02,920 --> 01:15:05,160
Speaker 2: That's the word I'm working for. He's not thoughtful. How

1459
01:15:05,200 --> 01:15:07,480
Speaker 2: his wife feels, dude.

1460
01:15:07,800 --> 01:15:10,960
Speaker 4: These comments are like, why would he bring his wife

1461
01:15:11,080 --> 01:15:14,479
Speaker 4: and kids with him if he was gonna, uh cheat

1462
01:15:14,520 --> 01:15:16,080
Speaker 4: on on his wife?

1463
01:15:18,280 --> 01:15:20,880
Speaker 2: So that's why they're not They don't he doesn't bring

1464
01:15:20,920 --> 01:15:21,599
Speaker 2: them to the trips.

1465
01:15:23,400 --> 01:15:26,080
Speaker 3: Did he do well? He usually brings people to the trips,

1466
01:15:26,080 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 3: but he didn't, like, he didn't bring them on the

1467
01:15:28,280 --> 01:15:34,519
Speaker 3: trip this time, right, So this was like this this

1468
01:15:34,680 --> 01:15:37,880
Speaker 3: wasn't like this was the time that he didn't because

1469
01:15:37,880 --> 01:15:40,679
Speaker 3: he was instead of staying with his kids or his

1470
01:15:40,680 --> 01:15:43,320
Speaker 3: his mom or her, he was staying with this woman.

1471
01:15:45,280 --> 01:15:47,200
Speaker 5: I don't think he cheated. I just think he's like

1472
01:15:47,240 --> 01:15:48,040
Speaker 5: being insensitive.

1473
01:15:48,600 --> 01:15:51,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think he's insensitive and not thoughtful

1474
01:15:51,320 --> 01:15:55,240
Speaker 1: about his thoughts. That Jezebel says screams narcissism.

1475
01:15:56,840 --> 01:15:59,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I think there's definitely a little bit

1476
01:15:59,280 --> 01:16:02,839
Speaker 3: of that. I mean, it's narcissism the same thing as

1477
01:16:02,960 --> 01:16:06,080
Speaker 3: as like obliviousness.

1478
01:16:05,200 --> 01:16:10,640
Speaker 1: I think I think narcissism is the extreme version of obliviousness,

1479
01:16:10,640 --> 01:16:14,360
Speaker 1: because obliviousness is not taking the time to pay attention

1480
01:16:14,560 --> 01:16:16,000
Speaker 1: care to other people.

1481
01:16:16,080 --> 01:16:19,960
Speaker 3: Yeah feelings, Yeah yeah, no, agreed, agreed. Yeah. So like

1482
01:16:20,040 --> 01:16:23,639
Speaker 3: on the he's definitely on the spectrum of narcissism. How

1483
01:16:23,720 --> 01:16:26,200
Speaker 3: far he is on that on that spectrum, I think

1484
01:16:26,680 --> 01:16:28,800
Speaker 3: we would we would get with more stories, but he

1485
01:16:28,920 --> 01:16:33,120
Speaker 3: definitely he's definitely not like at the very least, he

1486
01:16:33,280 --> 01:16:37,439
Speaker 3: is not giving the attention his wife to his wife

1487
01:16:37,479 --> 01:16:40,120
Speaker 3: that she needs for the relationship to be successful.

1488
01:16:40,240 --> 01:16:44,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, agreed, John, You you want to get in there?

1489
01:16:44,280 --> 01:16:45,200
Speaker 4: You want to get in the hot tub?

1490
01:16:46,000 --> 01:16:47,200
Speaker 2: I mean I would love to.

1491
01:16:47,439 --> 01:16:48,360
Speaker 4: All right, let's do it.

1492
01:16:48,840 --> 01:16:52,639
Speaker 3: Can I borrow We don't have two mics that can

1493
01:16:52,680 --> 01:16:53,559
Speaker 3: be used right now?

1494
01:16:53,880 --> 01:16:54,960
Speaker 4: Oh that's right.

1495
01:16:55,160 --> 01:16:56,880
Speaker 2: If I did, AirPods have it?

1496
01:16:58,120 --> 01:16:58,760
Speaker 4: AirPods do?

1497
01:16:58,960 --> 01:17:01,120
Speaker 3: But wait they do.

1498
01:17:01,320 --> 01:17:05,240
Speaker 4: But you guys would have to be like, yeah.

1499
01:17:05,040 --> 01:17:06,599
Speaker 3: I don't know if it would I don't know if

1500
01:17:06,600 --> 01:17:07,120
Speaker 3: it would work.

1501
01:17:07,320 --> 01:17:13,160
Speaker 2: Good point, I will get hot and wet another day. Alas, alas,

1502
01:17:13,640 --> 01:17:15,760
Speaker 2: but guys, we still got some time left. Why don't

1503
01:17:15,760 --> 01:17:19,280
Speaker 2: we hit one more story? Do we have any don't

1504
01:17:19,280 --> 01:17:19,599
Speaker 2: knows to.

1505
01:17:19,520 --> 01:17:23,880
Speaker 4: Read just the christin full hat. Dude one again, Holy co.

1506
01:17:25,000 --> 01:17:28,240
Speaker 2: I left g's in the chat once again? More Sam

1507
01:17:28,439 --> 01:17:31,400
Speaker 2: timeh Sam time.

1508
01:17:32,600 --> 01:17:34,599
Speaker 5: Wait Sophia in there? Could she get me a drink?

1509
01:17:35,160 --> 01:17:37,360
Speaker 2: Nope, she's going. Where'd she go?

1510
01:17:37,760 --> 01:17:39,880
Speaker 4: She said, I have to hang out with someone left.

1511
01:17:40,680 --> 01:17:42,360
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, she's going with her friend.

1512
01:17:45,240 --> 01:17:46,040
Speaker 2: That's what happened.

1513
01:17:46,360 --> 01:17:47,040
Speaker 4: Told me that.

1514
01:17:47,520 --> 01:17:51,000
Speaker 2: Uh, Riley, do you first question? Is your phone charge?

1515
01:17:51,040 --> 01:17:51,240
Speaker 3: Now?

1516
01:17:51,520 --> 01:17:52,680
Speaker 4: It is charging on it?

1517
01:17:52,760 --> 01:17:53,559
Speaker 2: Could I borrow it?

1518
01:17:54,120 --> 01:17:55,439
Speaker 4: Let's read the S three one.

1519
01:17:55,920 --> 01:17:57,160
Speaker 2: Let's read the S three one.

1520
01:17:58,120 --> 01:18:00,240
Speaker 5: Is that where we're ending with.

1521
01:18:04,520 --> 01:18:06,240
Speaker 2: It? Happens? Are you coming up here?

1522
01:18:08,800 --> 01:18:12,960
Speaker 3: No? I wanted I wanted a drink, but maybe all

1523
01:18:13,920 --> 01:18:14,720
Speaker 3: maybe I'll get it.

1524
01:18:16,120 --> 01:18:19,879
Speaker 4: I can't show them, dude, you're you're junks everywhere.

1525
01:18:19,920 --> 01:18:29,000
Speaker 3: Bro. Action was did you did you? Did you? Did you?

1526
01:18:29,040 --> 01:18:30,200
Speaker 3: Did you shift it away from me?

1527
01:18:30,520 --> 01:18:32,040
Speaker 4: I took it away from you. Don't you worry?

1528
01:18:33,120 --> 01:18:39,479
Speaker 3: Okay, here you go. I should have gave all right

1529
01:18:39,479 --> 01:18:40,479
Speaker 3: it is John. Read the next one.

1530
01:18:40,760 --> 01:18:43,880
Speaker 2: Yep, me and Riley were getting it all set up there.

1531
01:18:44,120 --> 01:18:48,799
Speaker 2: What is it again? Uh oo yeah?

1532
01:18:49,200 --> 01:18:49,679
Speaker 5: Christian?

1533
01:18:52,280 --> 01:18:58,120
Speaker 2: Christian by the way, Christian walks in the background.

1534
01:18:59,680 --> 01:19:01,920
Speaker 5: Is that can you grab me a beer.

1535
01:19:04,000 --> 01:19:06,880
Speaker 4: Stream don't tell him?

1536
01:19:07,840 --> 01:19:12,720
Speaker 3: Yeah any yeah, thanks, baby cakes, you're in the dolphins.

1537
01:19:12,760 --> 01:19:15,679
Speaker 2: Head down with the black hoodie. He knew. Dude, why

1538
01:19:15,840 --> 01:19:17,880
Speaker 2: is it taking so long? Below these stories?

1539
01:19:18,000 --> 01:19:20,040
Speaker 3: There? It is? Gude. I noticed that too.

1540
01:19:20,840 --> 01:19:22,040
Speaker 5: Maybe it's like cloud strike.

1541
01:19:22,479 --> 01:19:25,439
Speaker 2: My phone also did that. But we got it. Here

1542
01:19:25,479 --> 01:19:27,240
Speaker 2: we go, Okay, are we ready?

1543
01:19:28,680 --> 01:19:31,120
Speaker 5: I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm redy.

1544
01:19:34,280 --> 01:19:40,800
Speaker 2: Here we go, I'm ready, baby, let's do it. Also,

1545
01:19:40,880 --> 01:19:43,320
Speaker 2: is there two tier the rs going? Here we go?

1546
01:19:44,560 --> 01:19:47,559
Speaker 1: My boyfriend's friends with the racist I told him he

1547
01:19:47,600 --> 01:19:51,080
Speaker 1: has to cut him off or I'm leaving. I twenty

1548
01:19:51,120 --> 01:19:55,280
Speaker 1: one female, I'm white. My boyfriend, Carter, twenty three male,

1549
01:19:55,439 --> 01:19:59,360
Speaker 1: is Latino. The friend in question is Jack twenty three male.

1550
01:19:59,680 --> 01:20:02,680
Speaker 1: Also wait, the three of us went to UH went

1551
01:20:02,720 --> 01:20:07,160
Speaker 1: through residential treatment centers therapy therapeutic boarding schools when we

1552
01:20:07,160 --> 01:20:07,759
Speaker 1: were teens.

1553
01:20:09,240 --> 01:20:11,680
Speaker 2: Carter and Jack went to one together and I was

1554
01:20:11,760 --> 01:20:13,000
Speaker 2: in a different location.

1555
01:20:13,920 --> 01:20:18,719
Speaker 1: For those who don't know, rtc slash TBS's are part

1556
01:20:18,800 --> 01:20:20,479
Speaker 1: of the troubled teen industry?

1557
01:20:20,520 --> 01:20:26,280
Speaker 2: Do rtcbss are someone? I have no idea, We have

1558
01:20:26,400 --> 01:20:27,520
Speaker 2: no idea.

1559
01:20:28,800 --> 01:20:29,640
Speaker 5: Chat let us know.

1560
01:20:29,960 --> 01:20:33,640
Speaker 1: But it's in the troubled teen industry. That is the

1561
01:20:33,680 --> 01:20:35,479
Speaker 1: one thing we know for sure.

1562
01:20:35,760 --> 01:20:40,599
Speaker 4: Uh, Rebellious Teenagers Center, Rebellious teenager center.

1563
01:20:40,640 --> 01:20:41,800
Speaker 2: Thank you there, I made that.

1564
01:20:43,560 --> 01:20:45,120
Speaker 5: Where all the coolest kids go.

1565
01:20:45,479 --> 01:20:48,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is stapples out there. Don't take a bit.

1566
01:20:49,920 --> 01:20:53,599
Speaker 1: Parents pay upwards of tens of thousands of dollars per

1567
01:20:53,880 --> 01:20:57,040
Speaker 1: month for these people to provide treatment for the kids.

1568
01:20:57,080 --> 01:20:59,559
Speaker 1: Tens of thousands of dollars per month and upwards.

1569
01:20:59,760 --> 01:21:05,320
Speaker 3: My god, oh my goodness, that's that is that's crazy.

1570
01:21:05,560 --> 01:21:05,960
Speaker 2: Wow.

1571
01:21:06,760 --> 01:21:09,320
Speaker 1: Usually between the ages of twelve to seventeen, if they're

1572
01:21:09,360 --> 01:21:13,679
Speaker 1: engaging in quote unquote delinquent behavior like substance abuse, alcohol use,

1573
01:21:14,439 --> 01:21:17,519
Speaker 1: affiliation with gang's, poor performance in school, acting out at home,

1574
01:21:17,800 --> 01:21:20,200
Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. By the way, this

1575
01:21:20,280 --> 01:21:24,000
Speaker 1: comes from plant Bender user plant Bender from the Okay

1576
01:21:24,000 --> 01:21:25,960
Speaker 1: story time some broad it send those stories and ladies

1577
01:21:25,960 --> 01:21:26,400
Speaker 1: and gentlemen.

1578
01:21:26,840 --> 01:21:30,439
Speaker 2: Now, due to state laws varying, most RTC's that is

1579
01:21:30,479 --> 01:21:32,760
Speaker 2: the Uh. That was a rebelteen center.

1580
01:21:34,240 --> 01:21:37,120
Speaker 4: Someone gave me the right thing. It was a residential

1581
01:21:37,160 --> 01:21:37,880
Speaker 4: treatment center.

1582
01:21:37,960 --> 01:21:38,280
Speaker 2: Thank you.

1583
01:21:38,760 --> 01:21:43,679
Speaker 1: Most residential treat Yeah, it's so much better. Most residential

1584
01:21:43,720 --> 01:21:48,080
Speaker 1: treat in the United States are in places like Utah

1585
01:21:48,120 --> 01:21:50,680
Speaker 1: and Idaho where there's a large Mormon and Latter day

1586
01:21:50,680 --> 01:21:55,200
Speaker 1: Saints population, or some other flavor of Christianity. Most staff

1587
01:21:55,200 --> 01:21:57,680
Speaker 1: and executives at these places typically follow one of these

1588
01:21:57,720 --> 01:22:00,280
Speaker 1: religions and often push their beliefs on to.

1589
01:22:00,200 --> 01:22:02,280
Speaker 2: The kids in these RTCs.

1590
01:22:02,600 --> 01:22:05,400
Speaker 1: Carter and Jack Are experienced a lot of trauma at

1591
01:22:05,400 --> 01:22:08,880
Speaker 1: their RTC. Carter was in particular traumatized by his therapist,

1592
01:22:09,040 --> 01:22:11,320
Speaker 1: who belittled him a lot during their sessions and would

1593
01:22:11,360 --> 01:22:13,160
Speaker 1: make fun of him and say stuff to the other

1594
01:22:13,200 --> 01:22:14,439
Speaker 1: staff members as well.

1595
01:22:16,200 --> 01:22:17,120
Speaker 3: You know what this is giving?

1596
01:22:17,400 --> 01:22:19,839
Speaker 5: What this has given conversion therapy vibes.

1597
01:22:20,080 --> 01:22:26,080
Speaker 1: Ah yes, dude, Ah, Like you're you're literally in charge

1598
01:22:26,120 --> 01:22:29,880
Speaker 1: of you know, quote unquote troubled youths, and you're out

1599
01:22:29,880 --> 01:22:32,479
Speaker 1: here making fun of of of the kid to the

1600
01:22:32,520 --> 01:22:33,280
Speaker 1: other staff.

1601
01:22:34,080 --> 01:22:37,000
Speaker 5: Go to jail, dude, what is yeah?

1602
01:22:36,800 --> 01:22:40,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like literally you're dealing with the most vulnerable youth

1603
01:22:40,200 --> 01:22:42,759
Speaker 3: and you're acting like a troubled youth yourself.

1604
01:22:43,000 --> 01:22:45,600
Speaker 2: Get fired suit and thrown in a clink for a

1605
01:22:45,600 --> 01:22:48,760
Speaker 2: little bit. You need to learn a lesson. He was

1606
01:22:48,800 --> 01:22:54,240
Speaker 2: shamed for showing emotions by his therapist and told that

1607
01:22:54,280 --> 01:22:56,080
Speaker 2: because he was in a place like that he would

1608
01:22:56,160 --> 01:22:57,879
Speaker 2: never amount to anything.

1609
01:22:58,760 --> 01:23:01,439
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what is the point of paying ten

1610
01:23:01,520 --> 01:23:05,479
Speaker 3: thousand dollars a month if you can't inspire change in

1611
01:23:05,560 --> 01:23:06,400
Speaker 3: these kids?

1612
01:23:06,600 --> 01:23:08,200
Speaker 2: Dude, I would do it. I would.

1613
01:23:08,240 --> 01:23:13,479
Speaker 1: I would class action lawsuit their boot booty cheeks so hard,

1614
01:23:14,280 --> 01:23:15,000
Speaker 1: so hard.

1615
01:23:15,160 --> 01:23:16,679
Speaker 5: I want to see that.

1616
01:23:16,800 --> 01:23:17,479
Speaker 3: I want to see that.

1617
01:23:18,720 --> 01:23:21,479
Speaker 2: There's only a fraction. This is only a fraction of

1618
01:23:21,479 --> 01:23:22,519
Speaker 2: what Carter went through.

1619
01:23:22,680 --> 01:23:25,439
Speaker 1: I don't exactly know what Jack's experience was, but I'm

1620
01:23:25,479 --> 01:23:29,360
Speaker 1: sure that it was just as bad as Carter's. Moving

1621
01:23:29,400 --> 01:23:31,320
Speaker 1: on to the issue at hand, Like the title says,

1622
01:23:31,760 --> 01:23:36,760
Speaker 1: Jack is very openly racist. The biggest example I could

1623
01:23:36,800 --> 01:23:40,360
Speaker 1: think of is during June teenth, Jack sent a text

1624
01:23:40,439 --> 01:23:46,400
Speaker 1: that said Happy Inward Independence Day. Only it wasn't censored

1625
01:23:46,439 --> 01:23:48,680
Speaker 1: and yes contained the hard R.

1626
01:23:49,840 --> 01:23:53,160
Speaker 5: This isn't the only time, Goodness.

1627
01:23:52,760 --> 01:23:55,240
Speaker 1: This isn't the only time I've heard him being openly

1628
01:23:55,320 --> 01:23:59,520
Speaker 1: racist either. He's made comments about pretty much any ethnicity

1629
01:23:59,600 --> 01:24:02,519
Speaker 1: you can think think of. He's probably made some form

1630
01:24:02,560 --> 01:24:06,479
Speaker 1: of condescending comment at best, or a horrible slur at worst.

1631
01:24:07,200 --> 01:24:07,679
Speaker 2: Is similar.

1632
01:24:07,720 --> 01:24:11,640
Speaker 3: I have a really quick question, John, Yes, so you

1633
01:24:11,720 --> 01:24:14,599
Speaker 3: know how like in the story they just said, there

1634
01:24:14,760 --> 01:24:17,240
Speaker 3: was like he used the N word with the hard R.

1635
01:24:19,760 --> 01:24:23,120
Speaker 3: How many like how much like what percentage less? Worse

1636
01:24:23,240 --> 01:24:23,479
Speaker 3: is it?

1637
01:24:23,600 --> 01:24:27,360
Speaker 2: If you don't use the it doesn't matter like the fact.

1638
01:24:27,200 --> 01:24:29,720
Speaker 3: Okay, because I feel like people are always like they

1639
01:24:29,840 --> 01:24:32,479
Speaker 3: use the hard R. Is it like like I feel

1640
01:24:32,479 --> 01:24:33,280
Speaker 3: like it's the same.

1641
01:24:33,439 --> 01:24:34,479
Speaker 2: Well, so here's like.

1642
01:24:37,120 --> 01:24:41,880
Speaker 1: Yes, and it's like there's someone uh saying that word

1643
01:24:42,040 --> 01:24:44,760
Speaker 1: in rapping to a song or something, and then there's

1644
01:24:44,800 --> 01:24:50,000
Speaker 1: this person who's taking a ration a celebration of the

1645
01:24:50,160 --> 01:24:54,240
Speaker 1: of the end of slavery, uh and then saying that

1646
01:24:55,000 --> 01:25:01,679
Speaker 1: over over that day like both just words words cannot

1647
01:25:02,040 --> 01:25:03,280
Speaker 1: words cannot describe.

1648
01:25:03,360 --> 01:25:06,680
Speaker 3: It is still because I guess like like saying it

1649
01:25:06,720 --> 01:25:10,759
Speaker 3: with the hard R is like adding an exclamation point

1650
01:25:10,800 --> 01:25:14,160
Speaker 3: of bigotry. Uh, and like you know this is my intention.

1651
01:25:16,680 --> 01:25:22,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah again I've either way people who are

1652
01:25:22,840 --> 01:25:25,800
Speaker 1: who are white, not not have who have not gone

1653
01:25:25,840 --> 01:25:31,479
Speaker 1: through that. That is never anyone's say to dictate anything

1654
01:25:31,560 --> 01:25:34,160
Speaker 1: to the use of that word that was used to

1655
01:25:34,200 --> 01:25:35,760
Speaker 1: defile and dehumanize.

1656
01:25:36,400 --> 01:25:41,160
Speaker 2: Uh. Yeah, people like It's.

1657
01:25:42,600 --> 01:25:44,800
Speaker 5: It's also like the combination too.

1658
01:25:44,920 --> 01:25:49,040
Speaker 3: It's like saying the word and then in juxtaposition with

1659
01:25:49,360 --> 01:25:53,360
Speaker 3: the Juneteenth thing, it's like making it's like dehumanizing and

1660
01:25:53,400 --> 01:25:57,240
Speaker 3: making a mockery of like something uh like a like

1661
01:25:56,920 --> 01:25:59,559
Speaker 3: a like a really powerful symbolic date.

1662
01:26:00,760 --> 01:26:05,400
Speaker 1: Yeah again literally literally the day that the last town

1663
01:26:06,200 --> 01:26:11,120
Speaker 1: heard that slavery was over. So to say it on that,

1664
01:26:11,240 --> 01:26:13,759
Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's already horrible and at a thousand

1665
01:26:13,920 --> 01:26:19,200
Speaker 1: X is the horrendousness of what it is. He has

1666
01:26:19,240 --> 01:26:22,719
Speaker 1: similar attitudes and viewed points towards queer people, homeless people,

1667
01:26:22,720 --> 01:26:24,360
Speaker 1: and neurodivergent people too.

1668
01:26:24,880 --> 01:26:28,400
Speaker 2: The real kickers, the worst truly.

1669
01:26:29,560 --> 01:26:32,120
Speaker 1: The real kicker, though, is he says nothing like this

1670
01:26:32,240 --> 01:26:36,080
Speaker 1: about white people, and his resparks towards and his and

1671
01:26:36,120 --> 01:26:39,719
Speaker 1: his remarks towards hispanicslast Latino people are very tame.

1672
01:26:40,200 --> 01:26:42,040
Speaker 2: I asked Carter why that is?

1673
01:26:42,160 --> 01:26:46,400
Speaker 1: According to him, Jack said a slur for Latinos are fine.

1674
01:26:46,840 --> 01:26:49,479
Speaker 1: It's the rest of them that need to go home.

1675
01:26:53,760 --> 01:26:56,520
Speaker 5: This man is and this is your friend.

1676
01:26:56,840 --> 01:27:00,200
Speaker 1: This is the friend who's friends with Opie's boyfriend, who

1677
01:27:00,280 --> 01:27:04,759
Speaker 1: is Latino himself, is saying this to to Opie's boyfriend,

1678
01:27:04,800 --> 01:27:05,920
Speaker 1: a Latino man.

1679
01:27:10,040 --> 01:27:15,440
Speaker 3: Dude, he sounds he sounds like the worst person, Like

1680
01:27:15,439 --> 01:27:18,759
Speaker 3: like any of the things that have been said would warrant,

1681
01:27:18,840 --> 01:27:23,920
Speaker 3: going no contact, everything in in conjunction feels like he

1682
01:27:23,960 --> 01:27:25,599
Speaker 3: needs to be reported, has.

1683
01:27:26,040 --> 01:27:31,960
Speaker 1: He has the infinity stones of absolute hatred and bigotry.

1684
01:27:32,000 --> 01:27:35,200
Speaker 3: It's like it's I feel like living in la you know,

1685
01:27:35,320 --> 01:27:39,400
Speaker 3: like I it's it that feels like a caricature of

1686
01:27:39,439 --> 01:27:43,840
Speaker 3: a human but it's it's it's just it's also like

1687
01:27:43,880 --> 01:27:48,559
Speaker 3: a a sad reminder that those kind of people really

1688
01:27:48,600 --> 01:27:49,360
Speaker 3: do exist.

1689
01:27:49,840 --> 01:27:57,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, yes, and and and also quickly it's like, uh,

1690
01:27:58,200 --> 01:28:00,680
Speaker 1: I can't remember what it was. Oh back to the

1691
01:28:00,720 --> 01:28:02,439
Speaker 1: title of like oh am I the a hole for

1692
01:28:02,960 --> 01:28:05,320
Speaker 1: time my boyfriend to cut them off and if they

1693
01:28:05,320 --> 01:28:07,880
Speaker 1: can't be friends together, and it's like, oh, well maybe

1694
01:28:07,920 --> 01:28:10,200
Speaker 1: we can, we can make them change or whatever, Like

1695
01:28:10,360 --> 01:28:16,240
Speaker 1: it is not the person's duty who is experiencing the

1696
01:28:16,320 --> 01:28:19,599
Speaker 1: racism and hatred and bigotry to solve the problem of

1697
01:28:19,640 --> 01:28:22,759
Speaker 1: his hatred in bigotry.

1698
01:28:22,200 --> 01:28:27,080
Speaker 3: And also like that kind of bigotry, like go, you know,

1699
01:28:27,600 --> 01:28:30,320
Speaker 3: it's one thing if someone's like, you know, making some

1700
01:28:30,439 --> 01:28:35,360
Speaker 3: microaggressions towards another another person, and like maybe that can

1701
01:28:35,400 --> 01:28:39,920
Speaker 3: be can be explored through a deep friendship. But this

1702
01:28:40,000 --> 01:28:42,760
Speaker 3: is just this is a whole new level, like it

1703
01:28:42,800 --> 01:28:47,080
Speaker 3: would take, you know, years and years and years to

1704
01:28:47,720 --> 01:28:51,880
Speaker 3: try to unravel that, and like intense therapy and that

1705
01:28:52,600 --> 01:28:56,120
Speaker 3: I don't I don't think. I think not many therapists

1706
01:28:56,120 --> 01:28:58,600
Speaker 3: are even equipped too to take that on.

1707
01:28:59,040 --> 01:29:02,200
Speaker 2: It's not Opie's friend's job, period, point blank, end of

1708
01:29:02,240 --> 01:29:06,120
Speaker 2: story exactly. I've never even met Jack in person, and

1709
01:29:06,160 --> 01:29:07,439
Speaker 2: I already don't like him.

1710
01:29:07,640 --> 01:29:10,320
Speaker 1: Gee, I wonder why, Hey, you know what us two?

1711
01:29:10,680 --> 01:29:13,040
Speaker 1: I've asked Carter why he's still friends with Jack if

1712
01:29:13,040 --> 01:29:16,519
Speaker 1: he's bigoted. Carter says he doesn't think Jack truly believes

1713
01:29:16,560 --> 01:29:19,839
Speaker 1: everything he says, and he doesn't agree with or believe

1714
01:29:20,040 --> 01:29:24,440
Speaker 1: what Jack says either, but he's still paying it. Besides,

1715
01:29:24,640 --> 01:29:26,640
Speaker 1: they've been going through hell together and they have a

1716
01:29:26,640 --> 01:29:29,719
Speaker 1: deep connection because of that. I can understand that last

1717
01:29:29,760 --> 01:29:32,320
Speaker 1: part to a degree because I went through some trauma

1718
01:29:32,600 --> 01:29:36,320
Speaker 1: at my own RTC two, and an experience like this

1719
01:29:36,400 --> 01:29:38,759
Speaker 1: isn't something that you just shake off. But it doesn't

1720
01:29:38,800 --> 01:29:41,640
Speaker 1: excuse the awful thing that Jack has said and continues

1721
01:29:41,680 --> 01:29:44,799
Speaker 1: to say. The truth is, I don't think this friendship

1722
01:29:44,840 --> 01:29:47,519
Speaker 1: is good for Carter. I've tried bringing this up in

1723
01:29:47,560 --> 01:29:50,639
Speaker 1: the past by being as neutral as possible, but Carter

1724
01:29:50,920 --> 01:29:54,280
Speaker 1: justifiably got defensive. I have trouble with tone.

1725
01:29:54,000 --> 01:29:56,639
Speaker 2: And he interpreted my concern for him as a negative

1726
01:29:56,760 --> 01:29:58,880
Speaker 2: judgment for him being friends with him.

1727
01:29:59,360 --> 01:30:01,120
Speaker 1: Carter has his guard up a lot of the time

1728
01:30:01,160 --> 01:30:03,680
Speaker 1: because of his time in the RTC. He also has

1729
01:30:03,720 --> 01:30:06,360
Speaker 1: trouble making and keeping friends, which he already doesn't have

1730
01:30:06,520 --> 01:30:09,040
Speaker 1: very many of, and I think this is another reason

1731
01:30:09,160 --> 01:30:11,559
Speaker 1: why he's attached to Jack. I don't want to say

1732
01:30:11,560 --> 01:30:13,760
Speaker 1: anything wrong with him make Carter feel like I'm not

1733
01:30:13,800 --> 01:30:16,040
Speaker 1: a safe person to talk to. He's made a lot

1734
01:30:16,080 --> 01:30:19,080
Speaker 1: of progress mentally and emotionally since he's left the RTC

1735
01:30:19,479 --> 01:30:21,240
Speaker 1: and since we began dating a year and.

1736
01:30:21,240 --> 01:30:21,840
Speaker 2: A half ago.

1737
01:30:22,240 --> 01:30:24,840
Speaker 1: The upside to all of this is that Jack lives

1738
01:30:24,880 --> 01:30:27,120
Speaker 1: on the opposite side of the country from us, there

1739
01:30:27,160 --> 01:30:30,360
Speaker 1: are chances of meeting in person are low. However, things

1740
01:30:30,360 --> 01:30:33,160
Speaker 1: are very serious between Carter and I. If one day

1741
01:30:33,200 --> 01:30:35,720
Speaker 1: down the line, we keep moving forward and decided to

1742
01:30:35,720 --> 01:30:39,240
Speaker 1: get married, I know he'll want Jack at the wedding.

1743
01:30:39,760 --> 01:30:44,000
Speaker 1: Carter said this himself already, but I do not want

1744
01:30:44,120 --> 01:30:50,200
Speaker 1: Jack anywhere near my family. We have some relevant comments,

1745
01:30:50,240 --> 01:30:53,000
Speaker 1: but actually let me read them real quick.

1746
01:30:53,000 --> 01:30:53,679
Speaker 2: They're super short.

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Speaker 1: Kalico graceventy two says, you can't make him not be

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01:30:57,400 --> 01:30:59,640
Speaker 1: friends with the racist person, but you can choose to

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01:30:59,680 --> 01:31:03,240
Speaker 1: not someone with racist friends. Louis seven oh six says,

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01:31:03,479 --> 01:31:06,439
Speaker 1: you can't pick his friends. I get your perspective about

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01:31:06,439 --> 01:31:09,000
Speaker 1: I get your perspective about racism, and I wouldn't be

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01:31:09,000 --> 01:31:12,400
Speaker 1: friends with anyone who is. However, your boyfriend gets to

1753
01:31:12,439 --> 01:31:17,719
Speaker 1: pick his friends. Maybe reconsider your relationship with boyfriends. Maybe

1754
01:31:17,760 --> 01:31:20,040
Speaker 1: you aren't really incompatible.

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01:31:21,040 --> 01:31:25,599
Speaker 3: I mean, it's a red flag for him to say

1756
01:31:25,960 --> 01:31:28,559
Speaker 3: that's not a deal breaker in a friendship, right, Like,

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01:31:28,880 --> 01:31:34,000
Speaker 3: I feel like that is a reflection of his values

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01:31:34,040 --> 01:31:37,400
Speaker 3: and his character. So if he is, if he is

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01:31:38,280 --> 01:31:41,600
Speaker 3: okay with having not just a little bit of a

1760
01:31:41,680 --> 01:31:47,080
Speaker 3: racist friend, like a blatantly racist and hateful friend, like

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01:31:48,080 --> 01:31:53,559
Speaker 3: I think that is I don't. I can't imagine that

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01:31:53,560 --> 01:31:57,920
Speaker 3: that isn't somewhat reflective of what he's willing to tolerate

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01:31:58,240 --> 01:32:00,280
Speaker 3: or what he's willing to act on him. Help.

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01:32:00,760 --> 01:32:04,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred one hundred percent. Yeah.

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01:32:05,080 --> 01:32:06,040
Speaker 3: The uh.

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01:32:07,520 --> 01:32:10,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, the fact that he's that he's basically uh.

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01:32:10,800 --> 01:32:15,080
Speaker 1: Down with that, but allowing him to stay friends with him. Uh,

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01:32:15,120 --> 01:32:18,040
Speaker 1: he's not only co signing but also it's like, Okay.

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01:32:17,840 --> 01:32:20,400
Speaker 2: What what of your own beliefs? What situations will will

1770
01:32:20,479 --> 01:32:21,840
Speaker 2: we get into?

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01:32:22,400 --> 01:32:26,120
Speaker 1: Where whatever beliefs that you you might have because you're

1772
01:32:26,680 --> 01:32:29,760
Speaker 1: not willing to basically let go of this of this

1773
01:32:29,880 --> 01:32:33,160
Speaker 1: friendship will happen and.

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01:32:33,120 --> 01:32:37,040
Speaker 3: Like, you know, to her point of like like he

1775
01:32:37,080 --> 01:32:42,040
Speaker 3: doesn't have many friends, like he's lonely, Like, yes, I

1776
01:32:42,200 --> 01:32:46,760
Speaker 3: understand that not having friends and feeling like you don't

1777
01:32:46,760 --> 01:32:49,320
Speaker 3: have friends is a really hard thing. And when it

1778
01:32:49,360 --> 01:32:54,599
Speaker 3: feels like someone supports and loves you, that can that

1779
01:32:54,600 --> 01:32:57,360
Speaker 3: that that's that is something you don't want to lose.

1780
01:32:58,240 --> 01:33:02,160
Speaker 3: But like this, this support and love that this guy

1781
01:33:02,200 --> 01:33:05,520
Speaker 3: feels like he's getting is from someone who's so hateful

1782
01:33:05,600 --> 01:33:08,840
Speaker 3: to so many other people, Like, I don't know if

1783
01:33:08,880 --> 01:33:11,360
Speaker 3: it's worth it, And maybe lean on the support and

1784
01:33:11,400 --> 01:33:14,320
Speaker 3: love you can get from your girlfriend. Will you find

1785
01:33:14,439 --> 01:33:20,040
Speaker 3: friends that actually align with your values? Maybe maybe it's

1786
01:33:20,040 --> 01:33:23,599
Speaker 3: a maybe it's like a product of him not having

1787
01:33:23,600 --> 01:33:26,840
Speaker 3: any friends, And then over time he'll find friends that

1788
01:33:28,360 --> 01:33:30,880
Speaker 3: align with his values and he'll realize like, oh, he

1789
01:33:30,920 --> 01:33:35,040
Speaker 3: doesn't have to compromise on what he values for his friendships.

1790
01:33:35,080 --> 01:33:37,879
Speaker 2: But the reality break.

1791
01:33:39,720 --> 01:33:41,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, exactly, Yeah, but.

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01:33:43,320 --> 01:33:44,000
Speaker 5: I don't know.

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01:33:44,040 --> 01:33:47,080
Speaker 3: It's either that there's two things, Either that he's super

1794
01:33:47,200 --> 01:33:49,720
Speaker 3: lonely and he's willing to take human connection anywhere he

1795
01:33:49,720 --> 01:33:54,200
Speaker 3: can get it, even from racist, or that secretly his

1796
01:33:55,080 --> 01:33:58,599
Speaker 3: that some of Jack's values are reflected in himself.

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01:33:58,880 --> 01:34:01,080
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, exactly Carter shares something.

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01:34:01,160 --> 01:34:03,519
Speaker 5: Either way, big problems that are hard to solve.

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01:34:03,880 --> 01:34:09,519
Speaker 2: I agree, So, uh, I don't want to give Carter

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01:34:09,560 --> 01:34:12,439
Speaker 2: an ultimatum. I know I can't force Carter to be

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01:34:12,600 --> 01:34:14,639
Speaker 2: friends or not be friends with someone, and the last

1802
01:34:14,680 --> 01:34:16,240
Speaker 2: thing I want to do is use guilt trips or

1803
01:34:16,280 --> 01:34:19,400
Speaker 2: some other form of manipulation. Plus sense, I don't know

1804
01:34:19,520 --> 01:34:22,160
Speaker 2: Jack personally. Everything I know about him is based on

1805
01:34:22,160 --> 01:34:24,639
Speaker 2: what Carter shared with me. That being said, I generally,

1806
01:34:24,960 --> 01:34:27,639
Speaker 2: I genuinely believe that Jack is not a good person

1807
01:34:27,680 --> 01:34:30,360
Speaker 2: for Carter to be friends with. He already knows I

1808
01:34:30,400 --> 01:34:32,360
Speaker 2: don't like Jack. But would I be the ahole if

1809
01:34:32,360 --> 01:34:34,879
Speaker 2: I told him bluntly, I don't want you to continue

1810
01:34:34,960 --> 01:34:39,960
Speaker 2: this friendship? My answer is a quick, clean, no, you would.

1811
01:34:40,040 --> 01:34:41,599
Speaker 3: You would would be the a whole? But I don't

1812
01:34:41,640 --> 01:34:42,480
Speaker 3: know if it's effective.

1813
01:34:42,800 --> 01:34:47,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you can't you you know, uh, you can't

1814
01:34:47,720 --> 01:34:51,240
Speaker 1: force him to you know, not be friends with with someone,

1815
01:34:51,360 --> 01:34:54,800
Speaker 1: but I think at least communicating it and breaking down

1816
01:34:54,800 --> 01:34:57,479
Speaker 1: and like letting him know why maybe he's in the

1817
01:34:57,479 --> 01:35:00,840
Speaker 1: reality distortion field and it's like, hey, let me like

1818
01:35:01,240 --> 01:35:05,160
Speaker 1: just level with you and just like this is this

1819
01:35:05,240 --> 01:35:08,759
Speaker 1: is why I think he's a terrible Uh.

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01:35:09,000 --> 01:35:11,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, let me lay out what like what I'm seeing

1821
01:35:11,840 --> 01:35:13,559
Speaker 3: so you could understand.

1822
01:35:13,880 --> 01:35:17,639
Speaker 1: And maybe maybe hopefully he after seeing an outside third

1823
01:35:17,640 --> 01:35:21,599
Speaker 1: party perspective, be like, oh, dang, you're like actually totally right,

1824
01:35:21,840 --> 01:35:24,800
Speaker 1: totally right. So I I a not only do I

1825
01:35:24,840 --> 01:35:27,639
Speaker 1: think that he's not the A hole, I do think

1826
01:35:28,920 --> 01:35:31,040
Speaker 1: that you know, given that you know Opie and the

1827
01:35:31,040 --> 01:35:33,439
Speaker 1: boyfriend obviously in a relationship, she wants to see what's

1828
01:35:33,520 --> 01:35:35,400
Speaker 1: best for him. Just sit down and say like, hey,

1829
01:35:35,479 --> 01:35:37,400
Speaker 1: I can't control your life or what you do, but

1830
01:35:37,479 --> 01:35:41,040
Speaker 1: I just want to share how I feel and why

1831
01:35:41,120 --> 01:35:44,200
Speaker 1: I feel that that Jack is not a good person

1832
01:35:44,240 --> 01:35:47,120
Speaker 1: to be in your life, and and like I don't

1833
01:35:47,120 --> 01:35:49,800
Speaker 1: want that hatred and bigotry around me.

1834
01:35:51,880 --> 01:35:52,840
Speaker 2: And us and my family.

1835
01:35:53,920 --> 01:35:56,479
Speaker 3: Yeah. I completely agree, I completely agree. But I would

1836
01:35:56,479 --> 01:35:57,840
Speaker 3: love to know what chat thinks of what you guys

1837
01:35:57,840 --> 01:35:59,960
Speaker 3: think of the comments, so so, so put it down,

1838
01:36:00,040 --> 01:36:02,000
Speaker 3: what would you do if you were the significant other

1839
01:36:02,360 --> 01:36:06,679
Speaker 3: who had a boyfriend with a blatantly racist friend Interested

1840
01:36:06,680 --> 01:36:07,160
Speaker 3: in what your.

1841
01:36:07,040 --> 01:36:09,839
Speaker 1: Takes are, Sarah Francis says, I don't think it's Opie's

1842
01:36:09,880 --> 01:36:10,960
Speaker 1: place tell him that.

1843
01:36:11,040 --> 01:36:14,200
Speaker 2: Actually so interesting, I thine from what we said.

1844
01:36:14,000 --> 01:36:18,439
Speaker 1: Earlier, Mike Drop says, uh, maybe he doesn't have any

1845
01:36:18,439 --> 01:36:22,200
Speaker 1: friends because any sensible person runs away from his company.

1846
01:36:22,680 --> 01:36:26,439
Speaker 2: So maybe maybe oh he is the one racist.

1847
01:36:26,760 --> 01:36:29,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe he is also bigoted and racist, and maybe

1848
01:36:30,320 --> 01:36:32,080
Speaker 1: oh oh p is maybe in a bit of a

1849
01:36:32,160 --> 01:36:33,639
Speaker 1: reality distortion field with.

1850
01:36:33,920 --> 01:36:36,240
Speaker 2: Being in the relationship with him. Possibly.

1851
01:36:37,200 --> 01:36:40,479
Speaker 1: Tatiana says she can't tell him to leave the friendship.

1852
01:36:40,520 --> 01:36:43,040
Speaker 1: She can tell him that she won't date someone who

1853
01:36:43,080 --> 01:36:47,080
Speaker 1: associates with racist That is absolutely true.

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01:36:47,720 --> 01:36:50,080
Speaker 3: I think the phrasing is important, and I think that

1855
01:36:50,080 --> 01:36:52,720
Speaker 3: that's the that's the phrasing to do. It's like, hey,

1856
01:36:53,040 --> 01:36:56,040
Speaker 3: like like, I'm not telling you to cut off this guy.

1857
01:36:56,600 --> 01:36:58,400
Speaker 3: But when I am saying, is I don't date people

1858
01:36:58,479 --> 01:37:00,479
Speaker 3: that are friends with people like that. Yeah, I think

1859
01:37:00,760 --> 01:37:03,479
Speaker 3: I think that that's a very subtle but important distinction.

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01:37:03,680 --> 01:37:05,479
Speaker 1: I can't I can't control what you do, and I'm

1861
01:37:05,520 --> 01:37:06,680
Speaker 1: not trying to control what you do.

1862
01:37:06,880 --> 01:37:09,160
Speaker 2: But here are my thoughts and here's my reasoning why.

1863
01:37:09,160 --> 01:37:11,080
Speaker 2: I want to make sure I'm communicating it so so

1864
01:37:11,160 --> 01:37:13,479
Speaker 2: you judges.

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01:37:13,600 --> 01:37:15,880
Speaker 1: Casana says, I dump that guy if he's going to

1866
01:37:15,920 --> 01:37:18,559
Speaker 1: continue to be around this guy. I think that's totally

1867
01:37:18,560 --> 01:37:20,639
Speaker 1: fair because it's a I think it is a very

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01:37:20,640 --> 01:37:23,360
Speaker 1: big reflection on Charrecter.

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01:37:24,360 --> 01:37:26,799
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01:37:26,840 --> 01:37:27,240
Speaker 3: yourself with.

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