WEBVTT - Doctor of Love 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:04.320 Hell I Suck at Dating with the Nongler and Jared 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:10.360 Haven I heart radio podcast. What is up everyone, and 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:13.720 welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:16.800 at Dating and Jared. I don't know if you know 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:19.119 this or not, but we might be getting a third 0:00:19.120 --> 0:00:23.479 co host. We what we might be getting a third 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:27.360 cost Who is this co host? This person sucks so 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:31.639 bad at dating that allegedly his ex girlfriend filed a 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:34.239 restraining order against him. And we don't we don't like 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:36.720 being We don't like middling an other people's business because listen, 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:39.319 we've got enough craft to talk about ourselves. But when 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:43.040 a headline like this comes across our our iPhones whatever, 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:46.960 we can't not talk about it, especially like taking sucky 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:51.560 dating to the next level here. Um. So, the day 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:57.320 was Friday, September eleven, and we saw TMZ people a 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:01.120 bunch of other news outlets reported that Cassie allegedly filed 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:04.959 for a restraining order against Colton. And we've talked about 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.160 them in the past because obviously Colton was a bachelor. 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:09.880 Cassie was his his final pick. That they did it 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:11.200 for about a year and a half, that they broke up. 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:15.640 I want to say like in January. Ah, start out 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:17.560 on good terms, but then it kind of seemed to 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:19.720 get a little rocky from there, and it's kind of 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:24.160 continued to snowball into what we just talked about with 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:30.000 this alleged reporting of of a of a restraining order. 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:34.360 So I mean we got to talk about it, right, Um, Yeah, 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:36.440 I mean we definitely talk about it. I mean, I 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:38.720 don't have too many thoughts about it. It's just like 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:44.320 the first thing I think of is it's just sad. Uh. 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:47.240 You just never want to see a situation come to this. 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:51.480 I've met Colton a handful of times. He's always been 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:54.760 very nice to me. Um. I've met Cassie a handful 0:01:54.760 --> 0:02:01.480 of times. She's very much a sweetheart. Um. It's just yeah, 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:04.880 I mean I've had friends before that, you know, they 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:07.440 just and I'm not saying this is the situation, because 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:09.200 I don't know the situation, but I've had friends in 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:11.919 the past that just take things too far, you know, 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:16.079 and they do stupid stuff because they feel like their 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:18.160 ex wants to get back with them or they're still 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:20.240 in love with them, and and they just need to 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:23.320 prove it, They need to prove their own worth, you know. 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:26.920 So they'll take them back. Um, is that what happened 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:30.840 between Colt and Cassie? I have zero idea. Um, But 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:34.320 now apparently there is a restraining order against him that 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.760 she filed. And it's not allegedly. I think it's pretty 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:39.680 much confirmed because it says according to court documents obtained 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:43.880 by TMZ. So, uh, let me ask you this. When 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:48.640 you when you hear restraining order, where does your brain go? Like? Why? Like, 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:50.639 do you think it was something physical that happened? Do 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:53.480 you think it was just two and much? Uh? Like 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:55.400 he was infringing on her personal space? Like what do 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:57.280 you think your mind? Where did your mind go when 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:59.080 you first hear the words restraining order? Well, I mean, 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.800 of course I have no idea what the hell is 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.400 going on between Cassie and Colton? And I'm not I'm 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:06.680 not asking about this specifically. I'm just saying and just 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:09.040 when you hear just say anywhere anywhere someone got a 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.760 restraining order person X gout or straining order against person, 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:14.560 why doesn't it's not goldon and Cassie, does your brain 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:17.000 immediately go somewhere Because a lot of people, I think 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:19.480 would immediately assume that person. Why I got the restraining 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.200 order because person X, you know what, became violent or 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.200 something like that. Obviously, there's a million different reasons why 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:26.480 there's a million different reasons why someone gets a restraining order. 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:28.440 I mean I've heard of, like I said, and people 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:30.680 like even friends in my past, Like I know someone 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.200 who had a trading order against something. It's because they 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.960 were convinced that they their X was still in love 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:39.480 with them and they just needed to you know, like 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.520 prove like how much they were in love with them 0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:44.640 and then they'd want them back. Does that make sense? 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:46.880 And so it came what did they do? Well, they 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:48.960 just would like show up, you know, show up at 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:51.880 their place or or give them gifts or put notes 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:55.800 on their cars or um you know, uh you know, 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:58.440 constantly call them. And it got to a point where, 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:02.120 you know, uh it was it was a guy friend 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:04.240 and and she was like, listen, I don't want to 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.040 get back together with you. It wasn't like it was 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.280 just overstepping his boundaries to a point where she was like, listen, 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.080 you're going to force me to If you can't stop 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:13.880 contacting me, I will get a restraining order. And then 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:15.880 he was like, well, I want to keep calling you 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:18.360 and I'm not sure if actually the restraining order, like 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:19.919 if there ever was one, or if there was just 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:23.000 a thread of one. But you know, I mean, is 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:26.800 that what happened with cassing colin no idea, um, but 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:31.840 you know from certain articles I've read about possibly uh, 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:36.279 you know, text messages he sent like being accusatory towards 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:41.560 Cassie that she was seeing her ex um and and 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:44.760 and they broke up after January because you said, do 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:46.400 you think they broke up in January? But they broke 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:48.280 up well after that because they were still together when 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:52.400 Colton had covid um because he was staying at her 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:55.400 parents house. I believe, so they must have broke up 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:57.520 like at some point either March or April, if I 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:01.320 remember correctly. But I'm mean, this is more of a 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.760 question for you, I guess when it pertains to this topic, 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:09.600 because you know you're you're dating someone who is friends 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:13.240 with Cassie and not to I don't want you know, 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:17.520 any conversations divulged, if there have even been any. But 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.880 I don't know what your thoughts are on this entire situation. 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:23.640 I mean, I don't I think that anyone that sees 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:27.720 this situation immediately empathizes or sympathizes with Cassie first and foremost. 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:31.479 I think the second I saw the headline, like even 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:33.479 my friends who don't even watch The Bachelor sent me 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.640 these headlines and I was like, yeah, that's crazy. Immediately 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:37.360 sent it to Kalen. I was like, this is crazy, 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:39.800 Like it's Cassie okay, and I haven't heard back from Mary. 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:42.360 I sent that like thirty minutes ago. Um, so yeah, 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:44.480 I mean, I hope, I hope that Cassie is okay. 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:46.560 I think that's kind of immediately everyone goes to where 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.599 it's like you because you mentioned earlier that you weren't 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:53.640 sure if your friend threatened or actually followed through with 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:56.680 the restraining order. I think there's a big difference between 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.000 talking about filing restraining order and then actually going through 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.279 with the process of filing it. Like that's that's like 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:04.800 pretty extremes, So there is. I think they're a harder percentage. 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.400 You're absolutely right. I think I think that all of 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:09.520 us are just trying to sympathize with Cassie. You hope 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:11.839 that everything's okay, Like, like you said, we don't know 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:14.840 the terms, like what's going on, what happened exactly. But 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:16.560 all we can really hope for is that Cassie, the 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:19.839 person that filed the restraining order, is okay. And like 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:24.040 there's so many different forms of I don't know, like 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:27.680 infringing on someone's personal space where it's like through any 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:29.760 different methods, like you said, too many phone calls, text 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:34.440 messages showing up randomly, leaving notes, leaving gifts. Um, so 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:36.320 we don't know exactly what it is. I doubt we 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:39.360 ever really know exactly what it is. But I think, yeah, 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:41.520 I think we all kind of agree that Cassie hopefully 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:48.000 is okay. No, yeah, I I wholeheartedly agree, uh definitely, Uh, 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:50.960 you know, just thinking about mostly Cassie. Yeah, of course, 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:53.160 I mean, you know, you hope Cassie is okay and 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:57.160 whatever the reason is that she filed for this restraining order, 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:03.599 hopefully she feels safe. And um, it's just sad. It's 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:06.000 it's really sad. Like I said to start the show, 0:07:06.040 --> 0:07:08.240 you never want to see a situation, have you know, 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:11.720 just snowball into something awful like this. And now here 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:14.640 we are where apparently, well not apparently, there is a 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:17.440 restraining order against Colton from Cassie. And again, I just 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:20.880 hope Cassie feels okay and feel safe, and um, I 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:23.200 just it's so crazy to me. It's like, how how 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:25.360 far does someone have to go for it did get 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:27.120 to that level? And I looked at me around. I've 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.200 been like the scorned ex boyfriend in the past where 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:31.320 I thought that I could win my ex back by 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:35.320 like sending her gifts and calling her. But eventually, like 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.200 I got the hint right and then granted I was 0:07:37.280 --> 0:07:39.480 very young at the time, So how far does it 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:40.920 have to go? How much further than that does it 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.000 have to go for something like this to happen? Just 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:46.239 it's crazy to think about. Maybe Cassie had a short 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:49.960 fuse with stuff and she I don't know, jumped the gun, 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:52.320 But like you said, there's there's no way of knowing 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:55.760 at the time. Now, yeah, you know, we're all just 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:58.240 kind of like thrown stuff against the wall and and 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:01.840 who knows us I I I see. I think that 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:03.920 we will find out more information as time goes on, 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.920 and you know, like Colton will have his camp speak 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:11.120 out and Cassie will have her camp speak out, you know, 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:14.920 for the pr reasons of it. Um So it's again 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:18.040 the word I keep going back to is sad. I 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:21.840 hope everyone is okay. I hope, like I said, Cassie 0:08:21.960 --> 0:08:25.080 is doing well. Um, And that's all I have to 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:30.440 really say about the situation. Yeah, Colton just continues to 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:36.080 be very unimpressive in my opinion. Well, yeah, we don't 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:39.679 know what the reasons are for the restraining order, but anytime, 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:44.760 you know, it's disappointing. Yes, of course, that's a word 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.600 that comes to mind as well. Uh, it just seems 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:49.520 like it's one thing after dine with him, but go 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:52.319 for the best. Like you said, we'll see sus hate 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:54.600 in your heart for a Colton. Huh, there's no Hey, 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:57.560 it's just it's like you said, it's disappointment. It's really 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:00.559 what it is. I mean, this is obviously very disappointing 0:09:00.600 --> 0:09:04.040 because you just like you said, how did it get 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.480 this far? You know, how did you get to the 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:11.520 point where there was a restraining order against him? So? Uh, sad, disappointing. 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:13.079 There's a lot of words that come to mind with 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:15.920 thinking about this. But again, most of all, I hope 0:09:15.920 --> 0:09:19.480 Cassie's doing okay, uh, and I hope everybody's doing okay 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:23.560 with with the situation, And that's really it. Yeah, But 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:27.080 that sad news aside, our new potential co host aside, 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:29.720 we do have a great episode for you guys today. Uh, 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:32.880 Jared's got some big news on the goalie front. We've 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:36.400 got Dr Viviana calling in and Dr Ian calling in 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:39.600 to share some of their COVID tips and tricks to 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:42.080 stay healthy with us as well. So stay tuned for that. 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:55.600 All right, welcome back to help I suck at dating. 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:57.800 We got Mark Easton. I think we have a full crew. 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:02.440 Danielle Becky, good guy. Everybody's in here today, which means 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:04.000 it's gonna be a great episode. We have a couple 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:06.400 of great guests coming up. We have Dr Vivian Coles, 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:10.000 we have Dr Ian Smith. Also, a new What a 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:13.760 Girl Wants is coming out this Thursday. It is hosted 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:17.960 by Kendall I almost said Kendall Jenner. Kendall Long are 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:20.439 very own Kendall Long, Who's been on this podcast many times. 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:24.200 She's very informative, sweet, knowledgeable. Uh, and I'm very curious 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:27.280 to get an update about her current dating life right now. 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:32.840 She's also co hosting with her sister Kylie. Her twin 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:37.120 sister Kylie, so as Danielle said, they were the original 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:40.079 Kylie and Kendall because I think they're older. So definitely 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.360 check that out comes out Thursday. What a Girl Wants, 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:45.720 because I know you're tired of hearing my voice, at 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:47.800 least probably not Deans because he's got a very sweet, 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:51.160 soothing voice. Actually, I would like to say that, you know, 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:55.080 before we were recording this, you and Mark and Easton 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:56.920 even we're talking a little bit about football and how 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:58.880 happy you are to have football back, and I just 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:04.080 gotta say, I like to uh announce to our suck 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:08.959 army well actually before you that you're playing for the Broncos. 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:12.480 Fun fun fact before we get into that, apparently the 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:16.400 first time you co hosted this show, it was with 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:19.520 Kendall as your co host, So it's like a returning 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:22.440 to your roots, which is always a fun thing. Anyway, 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:25.080 we're going back to as I was saying, football is back, 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:28.120 which is great, and uh not that our listeners really 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:31.079 care about that about us being happy for football is back, 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.480 but I wanted to let them know that I'm honored 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:37.920 because this season I finally get a play Fantasy football 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:42.920 with my very own Jared ha Ben and you've upgraded, 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:45.800 you finally made it into the league. Yeah. So I 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:48.160 don't know. I don't know what happened between last year 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:50.720 and this year, but somehow I didn't get the invite 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:53.959 last year, and somehow the invite was just miraculously extended 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:57.080 to me. Listen, blame Tanner. Tanner is the one who 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.200 sent out all the invites. He was the one who 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:02.720 organized this. I'm just throwing him under the bus. Blame Tanner. 0:12:03.040 --> 0:12:04.800 You want to You wanna know what's so funny is 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:06.839 the second guy has added me to the group chat. 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:08.840 You can go back and see all the old messages. 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:10.360 And I was just like bored or something, so I 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.360 like went back and I read like the genesis of 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:15.320 the group chat, and like the fourth message down was 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:17.160 like should be invite Dean? Should Dean be part of 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:19.080 the group? And like four people were like no, he's 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:21.199 never gonna pay any attention to fantasy, And I was 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:23.280 like what I would I promise? Like, well, just give 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.000 me a chance. By week four, you're done, bro, You're 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:28.920 not gonna be checking your lineup. You're gonna have like 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:32.160 Dalvin Cook down in the bench. It's just gonna be 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:34.040 a show. But it's gonna be a great show because 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:37.760 you're are such a wonderful addition to the Fantasy League. 0:12:37.800 --> 0:12:39.880 Oh yeah, thanks so much. Anyways, I just wanted I 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:42.240 just wanted to announce that I'm very I'm very honored 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:46.960 and graced to be part of the team, the league, 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.880 whatever you want to call it, but it will be fun. 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:51.520 We have a lot of Bachelor alone because we have 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:54.360 so Matt James is in the league. Who's the current Bachelor? 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:58.920 Jason Tartik, you Me, Tanner, Nick Wells? Who else is 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:01.040 in this freaking thing? Tyle or Tyler? See? I'm playing 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:03.600 Tyler see week one? Yeah, I'm playing Jason. And I 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.600 already got a touchdown out of David Johnson, so it's 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:09.000 looking pretty good over here. It's nice. Deshaun Watson sucked 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.400 for me last night, so that's not a good start. Yeah, 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:13.079 not the best. But anyways, what else is going on 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:15.680 in your life? Man? Nothing much? So we got a 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.599 text from one of our producers earlier today that we 0:13:18.840 --> 0:13:21.440 wanted to get our take on this Texas Tech story. 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.280 Did you hear about this Texas tech girl post snapchat 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:29.680 at crowded day party? Quote? Yes, I have COVID, So 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:32.840 apparently this girl was at some sort of Texas Tech party, 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:34.760 and I don't know if she was joking or not. 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:36.800 I don't know if she was serious, but she said 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:44.160 that she has COVID, uh, which is quite insane. I mean, 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:47.480 I know we're a dating podcast, but especially in today's world, 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:50.640 I can't believe somebody would have the balls to go 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:55.439 to a party knowingly having COVID and possibly spreading it 0:13:55.760 --> 0:14:00.560 or joking about it. And uh, she got Did she 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.760 get expelled? She If she hasn't yet, she definitely will. 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:06.400 My take on this is this is just my take. Obviously, 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:08.520 I based off of no information. I bet you she 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:12.040 was joking, but she should be expelled for even just 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:14.360 joking about it like that. And I made a comment 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:17.160 in that group text too that I'm so grateful that 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.240 I'm not in college during this time, because if I 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:22.000 was eighteen years old and drunk out of college party 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:25.000 with Snapchat, I feel like I could see myself doing 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:27.440 something just so stupid like this, you know what I mean. 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:30.160 And this girl, because what happened, it was like Northeastern 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:33.320 or something, eleven kids got suspelled, expelled from that school 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:35.760 because they were like all hanging out. Well, we don't 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:38.760 know if they got expelled yet we know that they 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:41.240 got dismissed for the rest of this semester. So if 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:44.720 you guys haven't heard so, up in Northeastern UM, there 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.440 was eleven kids that got together in a hotel room. 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:51.320 Uh you know, none of which had COVID, but you 0:14:51.320 --> 0:14:55.440 know you can't group together in college right now. So anyway, 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:57.120 they broke the rules and they just got together a 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:59.440 leave room in a hotel room. They got caught and 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:02.320 then the rule has since dismissed them for the rest 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:04.720 of the semester and we don't know if they'll be 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.560 invited back or not after this year. Plus their tuition 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:11.600 of thirty six thousand dollars will not be refunded. Dude, 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:14.040 that's so crazy to me. I would lose it. I mean, granted, yes, 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.960 they broke their rules, but again, they're freaking their children there. 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:21.600 Eighteen nineteen will not children, I guess. But there when 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:25.240 I remember how I act that age, it's like, I think, 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:27.280 I don't know, I don't know different times. I know. 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:29.720 I don't want this to be a political podcast either, 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:33.920 but like it's definitely Uh, it's just so polarizing right 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:36.560 now where it feels like you have to choose one 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:39.680 side or the other, which I find ridiculous. Um. I 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:42.000 think that a lot of things in life, just like 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.760 we talked about on the podcast many times, within the 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:47.040 dating world, it's it's in the gray area and so 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:49.400 many different aspects of life. It's not black and white. 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:52.600 And I think that's a good example, man, like you 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:55.920 know this, like the the the example of the Texas 0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:58.200 tech girl going to a party and joking that she 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:00.280 has COVID. This is not funny and she should be 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:02.600 punished for it. How severe should the punishment B Well, 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:05.280 that's something we can talk about. But the Northeastern ones, again, 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:06.960 they broke the rules. They should be punished for it. 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:08.760 But the idea of dismissing him for the rest of 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:11.200 the semester and then not refunding their thirty seven thousand 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:16.480 dollars is Uh, that's insanity. But so we just wanted 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:18.800 to talk about that for a second. And um, like 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:20.560 we said, we have two great guests coming up, and 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:23.560 then I also have some new dating Uh we can 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:27.200 call terms trends whatever you'd like. UM, so we can 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:31.280 probably do that in the third segment, I would imagine, UM, 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:33.200 But I've also I've also got some questions to ask 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.000 about you and Ashley later on too. You want to 0:16:36.000 --> 0:16:38.200 ask those now, you want to ask them later on? Well, 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:40.000 I guess it was basically just one question. I saw 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:42.520 Ashley posted something on her Instagram that she's off the pill. 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.400 She is off the pill, which is uh terrifying, and 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:51.720 we haven't talked about that. So what does that mean exactly? Uh, 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:56.240 it means that, uh we've quote unquote pulled the goalie. 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.280 Uh that's what my brother in law. That's what my 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:03.040 brother in law tell my dad at my wedding, which 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:04.760 was quite funny. He was he had a couple of 0:17:04.800 --> 0:17:06.960 beers in him and then uh, you know, my my 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.439 sister and her trying and him were trying to get pregnant. 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.040 And he went up to my dad and was like, 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:16.720 just let you know, we pulled the goalie. My dad 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:18.840 was like, I don't know what that means, and uh 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:21.760 so it was a good moment. Um. But yeah, actually 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:26.760 is she's She's been very open about uh that aspect 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:30.840 of her life. She's off the pill. Um and uh, 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:32.320 you know, we always said that we were gonna start 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:37.359 trying later in and that hasn't really changed. You know, 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:39.680 both her and I want to be parents. And and 0:17:39.760 --> 0:17:42.879 she's going to be thirty two in March, and you 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:46.720 know you're gonna be thirty three in March. Sorry, she 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:49.720 just yelled from the other room. Holy yeah, we gotta 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.480 get going, uh because we want to have multiple kids. 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:55.639 Knock on wood, if everything works out, everybody's healthy, you know, 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:58.960 I mean, you can never plan for things. But and 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:01.280 uh so yeah, I think we're gonna start trying, which 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:06.280 is crazy because I don't know if anybody, like for 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:08.600 me personally, of course, I don't feel ready to be 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:10.520 a parent. It's like, oh my god, I'm a I'm 0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:12.639 a child, I'm a mess. I can barely take care 0:18:12.640 --> 0:18:14.560 of myself. I can't take care of another human being. 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:17.920 But I you know, everybody had talked to uh and 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:20.000 and and Mark and you know, obviously Chime and if 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:22.800 he wants, But like, you're never fully ready to be 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:26.440 a parent. I mean maybe Mark felt differently when when 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:29.360 they were about to have kids, and he was just like, oh, yeah, 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:30.880 I'm ready to be a dad. But like for me, 0:18:31.359 --> 0:18:33.760 it's just like so crazy the idea of like me 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:38.080 having a child and my parents being grandparents. Um, it's exciting, 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:40.719 but nerve wracking. It's funny everybody thinks of me, it's 0:18:40.720 --> 0:18:43.600 such a dad now, Like I'm so dad, just through 0:18:43.640 --> 0:18:46.320 and through dad. But no, you're terrified. And I always 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:48.640 tell people, if you're gonna wait till you're ready, you'll 0:18:48.680 --> 0:18:50.840 never be ready. You just kind of jump into the 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:55.199 deep end of the pool. Yeah yeah, I mean, so 0:18:55.240 --> 0:18:57.400 that's kind of what we're doing right now, where it's like, Okay, 0:18:57.600 --> 0:19:02.120 you're you're gonna stop taking your ill and then if 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:07.239 we fool around, you could get pregnant. It's just like 0:19:07.320 --> 0:19:10.920 it's crazy to like have those conversations and it's fun though, 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:14.560 it's great, it's super exciting. I've always wanted to be 0:19:14.600 --> 0:19:17.000 a father. I feel like a little bit of a 0:19:17.080 --> 0:19:20.720 dad to our dog, lowest Um, and that's been a 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:23.400 pleasurable experience. Obviously, having a dog and having a kid 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:28.240 are very different, but you gotta start somewhere, I guess, right, 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.439 baby steps, Well, Jared, I want to talk to you 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:33.280 more about this, maybe not today, but I want to 0:19:33.320 --> 0:19:37.000 be constantly updated on the baby talk and work that's 0:19:37.000 --> 0:19:39.680 been going on over there. But before we before we 0:19:39.840 --> 0:19:42.479 um bring our next guests, because we we do have 0:19:42.520 --> 0:19:44.280 her in the waiting room, and we're about to bring 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:45.639 her in. We're gonna take one quick break and then 0:19:45.680 --> 0:19:47.360 we'll jump right back into it, so we'll be it back. 0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:00.800 Welcome back to help. I suck at dating. Maybe we 0:20:00.800 --> 0:20:02.920 should retell it to we suck a dating scene. It's 0:20:02.960 --> 0:20:06.120 too cohost fun. Anyway, that's a conversation for a different day. 0:20:06.119 --> 0:20:08.320 We have a great guest that we teased earlier. She's 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:11.280 on the line right now. You know her from Married 0:20:11.359 --> 0:20:14.639 at First Sight, New Orleans, which airs Wednesday nights at 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:19.080 eight pm on Lifetime. It is Dr Vivian Coles. Doctor, 0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:22.879 thank you so much for joining us. Thanks. I'll just 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:26.879 correct you this once, but it's Viviana. It's not just 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:30.960 tell me be call me whatever, but just say I'm 0:20:30.960 --> 0:20:33.400 so sorry. No, it's spelled that way too. I am 0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:38.360 terrible with names. I'm so sorry, Dr Viviana. What did 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:41.560 I say? Vivian Vivian. I get that a lot. I 0:20:41.600 --> 0:20:45.119