WEBVTT - I Choose...The Power of Saying "No" with Sherri Shepherd

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hi. Everyone,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to the I Choose Me Podcast. This podcast is

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<v Speaker 1>all about the choices we make and where they lead us.

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<v Speaker 1>I have such a good guest today, but before we

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<v Speaker 1>get into that, I have an exciting announcement you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I am hosting our very first I Choose Me Live

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<v Speaker 1>women's empowerment event right here in Los Angeles on Saturday,

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<v Speaker 1>January eleventh, and I want you to come. The whole

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<v Speaker 1>I Choose Me movement started as three little words in

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<v Speaker 1>a script on Beverly Hills, Nana two and to oh.

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<v Speaker 1>It has now evolved into something so much more than that.

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<v Speaker 1>It is a message that I feel so passionate about

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<v Speaker 1>and it needs to continue to be amplified. The One

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<v Speaker 1>Day Lady Party will be focused on self care and

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<v Speaker 1>self love. We're going to have a great panel, powerful women,

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<v Speaker 1>lunch cocktails. It is going to be amazing. So start

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<v Speaker 1>the new year off right by choosing yourself. Or you

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<v Speaker 1>can make it a fun getaway trip to beautiful California

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<v Speaker 1>with your friends. I don't know, whatever it takes, just

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<v Speaker 1>get here. I can't wait to see you. All tickets

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<v Speaker 1>are on sale now, and all of the info will

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<v Speaker 1>be in our show notes. I hope you come. My

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<v Speaker 1>guest today is a comedian and actress, a best selling author,

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<v Speaker 1>and the host of her own Emmy nominated and NAACP

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<v Speaker 1>Image Award winning talk show. She's also the co host

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<v Speaker 1>of the hilarious podcast Too Fuddy Mamas. Please welcome Sherry

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<v Speaker 1>Sheppard to the podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello.

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<v Speaker 1>I just loved being on your show recently. It was

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<v Speaker 1>such a fun, positive experience. Oh and your gorgeous makeup lady.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember her name, Nanni. Yes, she let me

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<v Speaker 1>hold her beautiful little baby dog.

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<v Speaker 2>Ah.

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<v Speaker 1>It made me so happy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll tell her that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And we are Q fifty sisters, which is so cool.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm really really glad that we get to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to Dan go a little deep.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely, this is fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you're basically the poster child for the age

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<v Speaker 1>of possibility. I mean you've you've had some time to

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<v Speaker 1>adjust now to this big, you know, next chapter in

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<v Speaker 1>your life, turning fifty. Yeah, but go back. What was

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<v Speaker 1>it like as you entered into your fifties?

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<v Speaker 2>Horrible? I want I tell you, I'm fifty, I'm fifty seven,

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<v Speaker 2>and when I turned fifty. I Jinny, I thought my

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<v Speaker 2>life was over. I thought it was downhill. I just

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<v Speaker 2>had all of this doom and gloom about what it

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<v Speaker 2>was going to be like. And I said to my assistant,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want anybody to call me. Don't give me

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<v Speaker 2>the phone. I don't want gifts. I'm going to save

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<v Speaker 2>my room and cry. And if you even bother me,

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<v Speaker 2>you're fired, Like Larry, That's how bad it was. And

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<v Speaker 2>a friend, a dear friend of mine, what he sent

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<v Speaker 2>me changed my life. He went to, you know when

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<v Speaker 2>you can like send your photos to like snapfish, not

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<v Speaker 2>the cheating website, but it was, you know, you download

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<v Speaker 2>your photos and you can make a photo book. He

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<v Speaker 2>had asked me probably six months prior. He said, Cherry,

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<v Speaker 2>if you were to have a party, who would you invite? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>who were your top ten friends you'd invite? So I

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<v Speaker 2>told them. He went to all of those friends and

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<v Speaker 2>he said, I'm doing a birthday book for Sherry. Can

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<v Speaker 2>you write a story of what she means to you

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<v Speaker 2>and send me a picture? And he created this wonderful

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<v Speaker 2>book about turning fifty and Jenny, when I opened the

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<v Speaker 2>book and I saw everybody had a story about what

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<v Speaker 2>I meant to them. I couldn't stop crying, and immediately

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<v Speaker 2>my paradigm shifted about being fifty because I thought, this

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<v Speaker 2>is the sum total of who I am. I made

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<v Speaker 2>such a difference in these folks' lives, and if I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't around, it would be a real big loss to them.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what they're saying in these letters. And I just

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<v Speaker 2>after that, I looked at fifty different. I said, this

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<v Speaker 2>is it literally was age of possibilities. This is like

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<v Speaker 2>life is short. Take the bull by the horns, try

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<v Speaker 2>some stuff you've never tried before. Go for it.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this book idea. I'm gonna do that. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure that just made you feel so seen and

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<v Speaker 1>so like everything that you've done so far in this

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<v Speaker 1>life of yours has had such a beautiful impact on

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<v Speaker 1>not just people everywhere, but really important people to you personally.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, that's a book that I've done for people in

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<v Speaker 2>my life, and I can see how much it means

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<v Speaker 2>to them, you know, because you can sit down when

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<v Speaker 2>you're feeling down and go through this book of the

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<v Speaker 2>people and what an impact you know you've made. So Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and relationships are important to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so much has happened to you since you turned fifty,

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<v Speaker 1>like so many great things. Well, I mean, you have

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<v Speaker 1>your very own talk show.

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<v Speaker 2>Now a talk show, it's more acting has come in.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm writing a children's book which has been so much

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<v Speaker 2>fun for me.

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<v Speaker 1>What's it about.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called The Sunshine Queens, and it's really all of

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<v Speaker 2>my stories that I go through with my girlfriends and

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<v Speaker 2>how they lift me up and how we're so close,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're putting it into a format four an eight

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<v Speaker 2>year old about confidence, about self esteem, what happens when

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<v Speaker 2>you fall, how do you get back up? And it's

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<v Speaker 2>really all of my stories with my girlfriends, and we're

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<v Speaker 2>putting that in a book with four girls who just

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<v Speaker 2>have these great adventures together. And they're called the Sunshine

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<v Speaker 2>Queens because they all love to smile.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is gonna be good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very excited about it. I mean from the from

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<v Speaker 2>the beginning to picking the characters and what their hair

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<v Speaker 2>looks like. And you know, I said, oh, I gotta

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<v Speaker 2>one's got to have braces because my girlfriend has a

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<v Speaker 2>visile line that she's always losing her visil line. So

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<v Speaker 2>you got to get somebody braces. We gotta you know,

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<v Speaker 2>there's me. You gotta make me. It's a character based

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<v Speaker 2>on me. So I gotta be a little chubby little

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, a cute little smile.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, it's like a world of creativity for you.

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<v Speaker 2>I love the creativity. I love the sketches and the stories.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm very excited about this book.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm excited to see it because we need more

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<v Speaker 1>messaging like that for the youngest of the young. We

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<v Speaker 1>got to start giving them all this positive stuff that

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<v Speaker 1>we have learned.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely just pay you need. You know, having girlfriends is

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<v Speaker 2>a big deal. I believe we can't move forward without

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<v Speaker 2>women being undergirding us and encourage and those friends, those

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<v Speaker 2>deep friendships. This life is like, this is hard going

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<v Speaker 2>through life.

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't have anybody it is You're so right,

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<v Speaker 1>do you like? How many really close, tight girlfriends do

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<v Speaker 1>you have?

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<v Speaker 2>Not many? You know? I probably five.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good. That's a good number.

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<v Speaker 2>Probably five girlfriends that I have that are just I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so we've been really really close. And then now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>bringing in new people because sometimes you need younger people

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<v Speaker 2>to keep you young, you know. And I'll meet people

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<v Speaker 2>on the show like it's just yourself and I'm like, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>they're so cool, so so cool.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, and then you didn't even know, Like, and

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<v Speaker 1>everybody has something to offer, like something that they can

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<v Speaker 1>bring into your life that you didn't even see coming.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's not wild absolutely, And that's the thing. If

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<v Speaker 2>you're open to it, somebody can bring something in your

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<v Speaker 2>life that is so wonderful, something that you never thought.

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<v Speaker 2>You can get something from every body, you's got to

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<v Speaker 2>be open to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's the key is being open, staying open, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's very vulnerable. That's a feeling of you know, that's

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<v Speaker 1>very scary feeling for a lot of people.

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<v Speaker 2>It is because you have to open up and you

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<v Speaker 2>have to you have to be willing to be hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>Which nobody who wants to be hurt. Who wants to

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<v Speaker 2>go into something knowing that you could be hurt. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think that if you've being if you're willing to

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<v Speaker 2>open yourself up, that's when you get the maximum from it.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, I agree. I'm curious. You seem so grounded

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<v Speaker 1>and so confident and so in your body. I love

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<v Speaker 1>that about you. I always have. Have you ever dealt

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<v Speaker 1>with imposter syndrome?

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<v Speaker 2>You know? I I haven't dealt with it lately. Now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really embracing who I am and knowing my place

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<v Speaker 2>in this world and what I bring is pretty unique.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, even up until a few years ago, always

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<v Speaker 2>feeling like they're going to find out who I am

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<v Speaker 2>is not who I portray, and then when they find out,

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<v Speaker 2>they're not gonna want me. That took a lot to

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<v Speaker 2>get over. That took a lot to get over. It's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of you know, me prayer, knowing that God,

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<v Speaker 2>God has ordained this in my life, that it's divinely ordered.

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<v Speaker 2>It's you know, he gave me a skill set. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I think I had a full blown panic attack before

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<v Speaker 2>I started the first day of my show.

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<v Speaker 1>I can imagine express a lot of pressure.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a full blown panic attack. And I said,

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<v Speaker 2>because we were supposed to you know, everybody who does

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the only talk show host who does a monologue.

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<v Speaker 2>Ellen used to do it, but nobody else does it.

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<v Speaker 2>And they wanted me to do a monologue. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, we didn't have a comedy writer. Every

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<v Speaker 2>talk show host, Jimmy ca Ellen, they all had like

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<v Speaker 2>they all have like twelve comedy writers who they give

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<v Speaker 2>them jokes. They feed them NonStop jokes. So for the

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<v Speaker 2>first season it was me. Season and a half, it

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<v Speaker 2>was me coming up with all of my material, and

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<v Speaker 2>I panicked because I said, what am I supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>talk about? Like I don't like, how do I come out?

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<v Speaker 2>Do I come out and go this is a monologue.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing comedy. What do I say? And like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't breathe. My heart was beating, and something said,

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<v Speaker 2>a voice within said, talk about what Oprah told you,

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<v Speaker 2>the advice that Oprah gave you, Because I had talked

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<v Speaker 2>to Oprah that weekend for an hour and she gave

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<v Speaker 2>me advice. And I said, I can't talk about Oprah.

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<v Speaker 2>That was like sacred, that's private, and that voice said, no,

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<v Speaker 2>there's some very funny stuff that Oprah gave you. The

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<v Speaker 2>way you look at it, it's funny. And so I

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<v Speaker 2>asked Oprah, is there some things that I can talk about?

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<v Speaker 2>And she said, absolutely, do what you want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>And I came out and I started talking about how

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<v Speaker 2>nervous I was in my conversation with Oprah and it

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<v Speaker 2>was really funny. Oprah was like, oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know do I say I don't like that, do I?

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<v Speaker 2>And so I started realizing, you know what this talk

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<v Speaker 2>show was, It was a blessing. And I have to

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<v Speaker 2>walk into what has already been written for me, what

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<v Speaker 2>has already been prepared for me that place, walk in

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<v Speaker 2>it and be confident. Sherry. You know who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>You know you have the experience. You've been given the

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<v Speaker 2>gift to make people laugh. Lean into it, and right

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<v Speaker 2>before the door opens when they say welcome, Sherry Shepherd.

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<v Speaker 2>Some days I feel like, oh, I don't have any jokes.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not funny. And my prayer is I always pray

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<v Speaker 2>for the audience. I pray that God will make them

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<v Speaker 2>feel better than when they came. And I also pray

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<v Speaker 2>for my live audience and the audience that's watching me. God,

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<v Speaker 2>show them that side of you that is laughter, Show

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<v Speaker 2>them that side of you that is you laugh straight

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<v Speaker 2>from your belly, that side of laughter and that side

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<v Speaker 2>of light, and show them you through me. And I

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<v Speaker 2>ask for fresh mercy and fresh grace and fresh jokes.

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<v Speaker 2>And the door opens up, and I'll just walk out

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<v Speaker 2>and I go, this is what was given to me,

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<v Speaker 2>And if it was given to me, then He's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>give me everything to see it through.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right, because that's what they say. You're never given

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<v Speaker 1>something you can't handle.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, And I sit in that chair, I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>about it anymore, sitting in that chair, and jokes just

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<v Speaker 2>come to me. Funny just comes to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's because you're just funny. I mean, jeez, speaking

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<v Speaker 1>of funny. Everything that you do, all the things that

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing, and you still make time to go out

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<v Speaker 1>there and do comedy shows. Why is it important for

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<v Speaker 1>you to keep flexing that muscle? And what is it

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<v Speaker 1>that you love about getting out there on stage and

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<v Speaker 1>making people laugh.

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<v Speaker 2>I love stand up comedy so much. That's my first love.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I started doing before I became an actress.

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<v Speaker 2>I was a legal secretary and I took the other

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<v Speaker 2>secretaries with me to the world famous comedy store and

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<v Speaker 2>I got bit by the bug at that comedy club.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you go by the comedy store right now,

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<v Speaker 2>it's on Sunset near Lo Sienega. And if you look

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<v Speaker 2>above the main room, all the way to the right,

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<v Speaker 2>above the main room door, my name is the third

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<v Speaker 2>from the top, Sherry Shepherd. When they painted my name,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh my gosh, so you can see

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<v Speaker 2>my name is one of the original comics there, not

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<v Speaker 2>the original because they had a lot of comics before me.

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<v Speaker 1>You started in like nineteen ninety.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like probably about eighty nine, and I auditioned twenty

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<v Speaker 2>three times for Mitzy Shore at the Comedy Store. She

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<v Speaker 2>made me a regular. What do you talk about? What's

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<v Speaker 2>your name? Yeah, And I've been a regular there, and

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<v Speaker 2>I became a regular at the laugh Factory, and a

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<v Speaker 2>regular at the Improv and a regular at Ice House

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<v Speaker 2>in Pasadena. So you know, that is my first love.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I'm on stage, That's kind of what the talk

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<v Speaker 2>show reminds me of. I'm by myself, there's nobody else,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm sharing stuff that I know that the audience

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<v Speaker 2>is gone through too. There's somebody in that audience that

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<v Speaker 2>has children. There's somebody in that audience that has a

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<v Speaker 2>teenage boy who doesn't want you to come into their bedroom,

0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:40.800
<v Speaker 2>and their bedroom smells like somebody came in and died.

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<v Speaker 2>There's five dead people in your son's room. There's somebody

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<v Speaker 2>whose son used X way too much. You know. There's

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<v Speaker 2>somebody in that audience who's been single and they're trying

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<v Speaker 2>to date and they're going through it, and I love

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<v Speaker 2>telling those stories. And that's what I get to do

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<v Speaker 2>on my talk show, an extension of what I do

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<v Speaker 2>on stage. So I do stand up even still because

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<v Speaker 2>it's so much fun to go on stage and know

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<v Speaker 2>that I can make somebody feel better with the story

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, because everybody can relate to you. You're a very relatable,

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<v Speaker 1>real person.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>You can reach so many people. What do you do

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<v Speaker 1>to prioritize yourself, like your self care?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still working on that, Jenny. I have to say,

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<v Speaker 2>because this is a unique situation. When I was co

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<v Speaker 2>hosting on the View, if I didn't feel good, there

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<v Speaker 2>were four other women who could hold down the fort

0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:43.840
<v Speaker 2>and they could put a guest host in that place

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<v Speaker 2>of me, and I could stay home. I didn't have

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<v Speaker 2>to go visit affiliates. Barbara Walters did that. I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, if I couldn't go and see a play

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<v Speaker 2>that you were doing on Broadway, there was somebody else

0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:58.760
<v Speaker 2>could fill in and go see that play or read

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<v Speaker 2>that book. You have a talk show and it's just you.

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<v Speaker 2>I have to do all of that myself, and I

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<v Speaker 2>can't call in sick because if I call him sick.

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<v Speaker 2>There's two hundred people here that don't work, that don't

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<v Speaker 2>get paid. If I call in sick, they have to

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<v Speaker 2>show a rerun, and reruns don't do as well as

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<v Speaker 2>the original programming. So you know, there's nobody that I

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<v Speaker 2>can put in to take my place. So it's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot more responsibility and it doesn't stop after I say,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you know, come back tomorrow. Then if there

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<v Speaker 2>is somebody that dropped out, they call me. If they're

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<v Speaker 2>looking for a booking, can you call that person shry

0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:42.640
<v Speaker 2>if they have to do a you know, change up something.

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<v Speaker 2>They call me for every aspect of the show. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm always on my cell phone to come up with

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<v Speaker 2>my hot topics. I'm always on the cell phone looking

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<v Speaker 2>for interesting items. Zoe Kravitz and Channing Tatum broke up.

0:16:58.080 --> 0:17:00.480
<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, that means Lenny krab It is not

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<v Speaker 2>taking me to the wedding. I send that to my

0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:05.480
<v Speaker 2>team and got we gotta I want to talk about this,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yet, it's a lot of work. It's the Sherry Show.

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<v Speaker 2>Come on, It's the Sherry Show. It's like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>so it never stops. Plus I got my stand up

0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:18.760
<v Speaker 2>that I'm doing. I'm writing the children's book. Oh did

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<v Speaker 2>I say I have a nineteen year old son?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, what about the Yeah, the mom roll, the

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<v Speaker 1>biggest royal ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Mom. You know, I'm starting to let my son take

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<v Speaker 2>the train by himself. My son is on the spectrum,

0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:32.840
<v Speaker 2>the autism spectrum, so I'm letting him take the train

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<v Speaker 2>by himself. So it's me in between photo shoots or

0:17:36.000 --> 0:17:37.840
<v Speaker 2>you know, doing a zoom looking at my thing, going

0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:40.600
<v Speaker 2>him going, mom, I'm here where I'm supposed to be.

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<v Speaker 2>I just got off the train. So a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so much to juggle.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a lot to juggle. Jeffrey's older now, so I

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<v Speaker 2>can do a lot more because he's older. But I

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<v Speaker 2>used to take him to the comedy clubs with me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be in there with him on my hip. I

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<v Speaker 2>would take him to the clubs and go go in

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<v Speaker 2>the back room. So you don't have to hear Mommy

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<v Speaker 2>say a curse word. But you know now I have

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<v Speaker 2>to say intentionally on the weekends, we go and grab

0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:10.680
<v Speaker 2>something to eat. On a Sunday morning, he and I Intentionally,

0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:15.520
<v Speaker 2>I go, I'm going to go and get a massage. Intentionally,

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<v Speaker 2>I say, you know, you have to be intentional about things. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I asked, somebody, can you take Jeffrey to a Knixt

0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:25.960
<v Speaker 2>game so I can have time to just go to

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<v Speaker 2>the movie theater and sit there by myself munch and

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<v Speaker 2>my popcorn, And that's what I love doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Those are all really great things to take care of yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>But you mentioned something about saying no. I remember you

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<v Speaker 1>talking about the power of saying no before and it

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<v Speaker 1>being such a stress reliever. So tell us about the

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<v Speaker 1>power of no, because it has been a difficult thing

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<v Speaker 1>for me to learn over the years too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, because I would get stressed out because I

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<v Speaker 2>say yes all the time because I had this thing

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<v Speaker 2>of you know, I wanted people to like me. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to be would be mad at me, so

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<v Speaker 2>I'll say yes, And what that was doing was putting

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of stress on me. And then I would

0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:10.800
<v Speaker 2>resent that I said yes, but you can't. It's easier,

0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:13.840
<v Speaker 2>my pastor said one time, it's easier to change a

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<v Speaker 2>no into a yes, but it's hard to change it

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<v Speaker 2>yes into a no. And then I was like, ah,

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<v Speaker 2>now I got to do it, and I tell this

0:19:20.960 --> 0:19:23.840
<v Speaker 2>person yes, and it was getting stressful and I said Cheer.

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<v Speaker 2>You gotta put up boundaries because a lot of times

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<v Speaker 2>when you say no, the person will figure out how

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<v Speaker 2>to get it done. We keep thinking, oh, the world's

0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:34.320
<v Speaker 2>gonna fall apart if we don't say yes, but literally,

0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:38.720
<v Speaker 2>the world keeps moving, and so does your frustration. And

0:19:38.760 --> 0:19:41.959
<v Speaker 2>when you say yes too much, you get sick. It

0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:44.399
<v Speaker 2>even says when the plane, if something happens to the plane,

0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:47.840
<v Speaker 2>pull that oxygen mask down and take care of yourself first,

0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:50.879
<v Speaker 2>because if you're not full, you can't take care of anybody.

0:19:51.320 --> 0:19:54.360
<v Speaker 2>And I had to start saying no. I started out

0:19:54.359 --> 0:19:57.480
<v Speaker 2>going no, I'm sorry, No, you know I had to

0:19:57.520 --> 0:19:59.600
<v Speaker 2>do this, and I'd run down everything why I couldn't

0:19:59.640 --> 0:20:05.199
<v Speaker 2>say yes Now, Jenny, especially at this age, I'm like, Nah, Nope,

0:20:05.680 --> 0:20:08.520
<v Speaker 2>you can't do it. It don't work for me. I

0:20:08.560 --> 0:20:10.439
<v Speaker 2>know I could loan it to you. I know I

0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:12.360
<v Speaker 2>got the money to loan it to it. No, you're

0:20:12.400 --> 0:20:15.040
<v Speaker 2>not getting it. I have turned into that untie.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. Yeah, because it sounds scary to say

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<v Speaker 1>no to people.

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<v Speaker 2>I tell young ladies to stand in front of the

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<v Speaker 2>mirror and practice saying no. Practice five ways to say no.

0:20:27.680 --> 0:20:31.040
<v Speaker 2>No that doesn't work for me. No, but maybe somebody

0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:35.399
<v Speaker 2>else can do that. No, maybe at a different time. No,

0:20:35.640 --> 0:20:39.160
<v Speaker 2>maybe we can go out next week. No, just practice it.

0:20:39.160 --> 0:20:41.160
<v Speaker 2>It's got it. You got to just start speaking it

0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:45.680
<v Speaker 2>and saying it. Everything goes where the energy flows is

0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:49.600
<v Speaker 2>where it goes. So and I've practiced saying no. Now

0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm at the point where I go, no, can you

0:20:52.760 --> 0:20:56.000
<v Speaker 2>do this on No? No? No? No am my off day? No.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm gonna try this this technique. I think we

0:20:58.000 --> 0:21:00.200
<v Speaker 1>should all try this. Let's try all try to say

0:21:00.400 --> 0:21:02.960
<v Speaker 1>no to ourselves in five different ways. In the mirror.

0:21:03.240 --> 0:21:07.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm telling you no now, I say no, Nuka n it. However,

0:21:07.760 --> 0:21:10.840
<v Speaker 2>I'll say it every night. No. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>Saying no is the ultimate ews me moment.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's it. And you gotta let go of

0:21:17.240 --> 0:21:21.720
<v Speaker 2>people thinking you're selfish or you don't care. But it's

0:21:21.760 --> 0:21:25.560
<v Speaker 2>just like to preserve my sanity and my mental health.

0:21:25.840 --> 0:21:30.080
<v Speaker 2>I can't take all of that on, and I refuse

0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:32.800
<v Speaker 2>to do it now. Life is too short. I can't

0:21:32.840 --> 0:21:36.160
<v Speaker 2>remember half the stuff I say yes to, So if

0:21:36.200 --> 0:21:38.440
<v Speaker 2>I say no, then I can always go back and

0:21:38.480 --> 0:21:41.960
<v Speaker 2>go you know what, Maybe we can't, but I'll stop

0:21:42.040 --> 0:21:44.240
<v Speaker 2>myself from doing that. Too, I'll let my no be no.

0:21:51.320 --> 0:21:55.120
<v Speaker 1>You made an incredible I choose me moment. I think

0:21:55.160 --> 0:21:56.959
<v Speaker 1>it was like over a year ago and you decided

0:21:57.040 --> 0:22:01.879
<v Speaker 1>to get your breast reduction that you shared about that.

0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:05.160
<v Speaker 1>It was so powerful because I think so many women

0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:08.400
<v Speaker 1>would probably be really afraid to have that done.

0:22:09.880 --> 0:22:12.199
<v Speaker 2>I did it. I've always said, you know, this is

0:22:12.200 --> 0:22:14.679
<v Speaker 2>what God gave me, So if he gave it to me,

0:22:14.720 --> 0:22:19.520
<v Speaker 2>why would I cut them? But what happened was it

0:22:19.560 --> 0:22:23.679
<v Speaker 2>started affecting my body, like they were so heavy, Like

0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:26.520
<v Speaker 2>I came out of the womb. Every woman in my life,

0:22:26.600 --> 0:22:29.200
<v Speaker 2>we all came out of the womb as a forty

0:22:29.200 --> 0:22:32.920
<v Speaker 2>two double D that runs in my family. I don't

0:22:32.960 --> 0:22:36.080
<v Speaker 2>have hips in a butt. I got boobs. And what

0:22:36.160 --> 0:22:40.800
<v Speaker 2>was happening was as I got older, they were so heavy,

0:22:41.240 --> 0:22:44.240
<v Speaker 2>and I would find myself interviewing people like leaning over

0:22:44.359 --> 0:22:48.399
<v Speaker 2>because it was so heavy. I tore a part of

0:22:48.440 --> 0:22:51.520
<v Speaker 2>my rotator cuff, and my chiropractice said, you probably want

0:22:51.560 --> 0:22:54.440
<v Speaker 2>to think about a breast reduction because you're carrying all

0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:58.160
<v Speaker 2>of that and it's affecting your rotator cuff. And then

0:22:58.240 --> 0:23:00.760
<v Speaker 2>I was getting grooves in my shoulders from my bra

0:23:02.320 --> 0:23:04.760
<v Speaker 2>They were starting, you know, when I was in my thirties,

0:23:04.800 --> 0:23:07.520
<v Speaker 2>my twenties having these big boobs. Oh, they were sitting

0:23:07.560 --> 0:23:09.480
<v Speaker 2>up front of my chin. After a while, they started

0:23:09.520 --> 0:23:11.359
<v Speaker 2>looking like I was going to church. I call them

0:23:11.400 --> 0:23:15.080
<v Speaker 2>church lady booth. It was sitting on my knees and

0:23:15.119 --> 0:23:17.399
<v Speaker 2>it was just like I could you know everything. It

0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:20.639
<v Speaker 2>just took too long to find something to wear. I

0:23:20.680 --> 0:23:22.920
<v Speaker 2>think somebody made a joke at a comedy club because

0:23:22.960 --> 0:23:25.080
<v Speaker 2>they knew me, and they said, Sherry's boobs are so big.

0:23:25.200 --> 0:23:27.400
<v Speaker 2>She's got like a credit card slide, like you could

0:23:27.400 --> 0:23:31.160
<v Speaker 2>slide a credit card all the way through. And I'm

0:23:31.160 --> 0:23:33.840
<v Speaker 2>a comic, I can take a lot. I laughed, but

0:23:34.640 --> 0:23:38.200
<v Speaker 2>I said, I'm just tired. I think that. I asked

0:23:38.200 --> 0:23:41.240
<v Speaker 2>a lot of other people who got breast reductions, and

0:23:42.520 --> 0:23:45.080
<v Speaker 2>I said, I think my little girl's my best friends.

0:23:45.119 --> 0:23:47.800
<v Speaker 2>They've always been my best friends. It's time to say bye.

0:23:48.760 --> 0:23:51.679
<v Speaker 2>And I did a lot of research and I found

0:23:53.000 --> 0:23:57.280
<v Speaker 2>my lady doctor. She was like amazing and she answered

0:23:57.280 --> 0:24:00.560
<v Speaker 2>all my questions. And when I went under, I just said,

0:24:00.960 --> 0:24:03.439
<v Speaker 2>when I go under, you bring me back because I

0:24:03.480 --> 0:24:05.240
<v Speaker 2>have a son. Because I think, you know, as we

0:24:05.280 --> 0:24:08.639
<v Speaker 2>get older, going under scares a heck out of us,

0:24:08.720 --> 0:24:10.440
<v Speaker 2>cause I don't know if my heart is gonna skip

0:24:10.480 --> 0:24:12.919
<v Speaker 2>an extra beat or And I just said to her,

0:24:12.920 --> 0:24:14.320
<v Speaker 2>I looked her in our eyes and I said, I

0:24:14.359 --> 0:24:17.440
<v Speaker 2>am a mother and I have a child, and when

0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:19.760
<v Speaker 2>I go under, I need you to bring me back.

0:24:20.080 --> 0:24:23.000
<v Speaker 2>And she was like, okay, Sherry, I do three thousand

0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:25.159
<v Speaker 2>of these where you think you're going. I was like,

0:24:25.200 --> 0:24:28.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I'm just saying I don't need to

0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:32.680
<v Speaker 2>be nobody named Peter, Paul, John or Luke. What I'm saying. No.

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<v Speaker 2>So they did reduce them, and it just feels so

0:24:36.680 --> 0:24:41.240
<v Speaker 2>much better, like it's lightness. I wish I had done

0:24:41.240 --> 0:24:44.760
<v Speaker 2>it years ago. I tell people that it's so great. Girl.

0:24:45.200 --> 0:24:48.440
<v Speaker 2>My areola is it's like a quarter. Used to be

0:24:48.480 --> 0:24:50.919
<v Speaker 2>like a big used to like a big pancake. Now

0:24:50.960 --> 0:24:53.600
<v Speaker 2>it's like a little quarter. It's nice.

0:24:53.760 --> 0:24:55.520
<v Speaker 1>I got that's quarter size.

0:24:55.600 --> 0:24:59.200
<v Speaker 2>Good for you, nice quarter size. And she says, you

0:24:59.280 --> 0:25:01.479
<v Speaker 2>know you'll have a look little scar. And I said, look,

0:25:01.520 --> 0:25:03.639
<v Speaker 2>if a man can't take a scar at this age,

0:25:03.760 --> 0:25:05.040
<v Speaker 2>I don't need them. I'm fine.

0:25:05.160 --> 0:25:06.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh h, that's good.

0:25:06.720 --> 0:25:07.560
<v Speaker 2>I like you.

0:25:07.560 --> 0:25:09.240
<v Speaker 1>You love your scars. That's good.

0:25:09.320 --> 0:25:11.320
<v Speaker 2>I love them. These cars made a lot.

0:25:11.400 --> 0:25:13.600
<v Speaker 1>I think by you sharing all this and talking about

0:25:13.600 --> 0:25:15.880
<v Speaker 1>it on your show and everything like there's I think

0:25:15.920 --> 0:25:17.760
<v Speaker 1>it helps so many people. I know, when I talked

0:25:17.760 --> 0:25:21.160
<v Speaker 1>about like when I got my hips replaced and I

0:25:21.200 --> 0:25:25.000
<v Speaker 1>shared that story, so many people just came out of

0:25:25.000 --> 0:25:28.320
<v Speaker 1>nowhere and wanted to talk about their problems with their

0:25:28.400 --> 0:25:31.400
<v Speaker 1>hips and how fearful they were of getting a surgery.

0:25:31.560 --> 0:25:34.040
<v Speaker 1>So I think just you know, talking about it is

0:25:34.080 --> 0:25:34.840
<v Speaker 1>so powerful.

0:25:35.400 --> 0:25:39.399
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely, of taking the fear out of it, you know,

0:25:39.560 --> 0:25:43.479
<v Speaker 2>of having it done. And I think that's It's just

0:25:44.000 --> 0:25:45.840
<v Speaker 2>you have a lot of women who've had to have

0:25:45.920 --> 0:25:48.919
<v Speaker 2>that done and they feel a little shame at talking

0:25:48.920 --> 0:25:52.040
<v Speaker 2>about it. But it's something so natural. We all it's

0:25:52.080 --> 0:25:54.200
<v Speaker 2>a circle of life that we go through. Things happen,

0:25:54.720 --> 0:25:57.200
<v Speaker 2>and it's just like, you know, our bodies have done

0:25:57.280 --> 0:25:59.840
<v Speaker 2>so much for us, but sometimes we got to help

0:25:59.840 --> 0:26:04.440
<v Speaker 2>them out, yep, to even be better, to live more

0:26:04.520 --> 0:26:07.840
<v Speaker 2>to you know, I talk about having diabetes all the time.

0:26:08.600 --> 0:26:10.520
<v Speaker 2>Some people say it's not really sexy. Well, I'm not

0:26:10.520 --> 0:26:11.880
<v Speaker 2>trying to be sexy. I'm trying to live.

0:26:13.600 --> 0:26:15.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, my priorities are a little different, things a.

0:26:15.800 --> 0:26:18.680
<v Speaker 2>Little different, you know. Yeah, I'm not going. My goal

0:26:18.760 --> 0:26:20.960
<v Speaker 2>is not to fit into a bikini, but my goal

0:26:21.080 --> 0:26:22.640
<v Speaker 2>is lived to be able to go to the beach

0:26:22.680 --> 0:26:23.800
<v Speaker 2>and be healthy.

0:26:25.080 --> 0:26:27.520
<v Speaker 1>Feel comfortable. Because you work out like a fiend. I've

0:26:27.560 --> 0:26:31.000
<v Speaker 1>seen you. We both work out. I've seen your workouts

0:26:31.080 --> 0:26:34.000
<v Speaker 1>online and you just are such a hard worker. What

0:26:34.119 --> 0:26:35.960
<v Speaker 1>time do you get up to go to the gym.

0:26:36.560 --> 0:26:38.359
<v Speaker 2>I get up at four forty five in the morning.

0:26:39.359 --> 0:26:40.720
<v Speaker 2>I have to be at the gym. My gym is

0:26:40.760 --> 0:26:42.960
<v Speaker 2>thirty minutes away, so I have to be there at

0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:45.960
<v Speaker 2>six in the morning, and it takes me thirty minutes

0:26:46.000 --> 0:26:48.040
<v Speaker 2>to get there. So I'm there six from six to seven,

0:26:48.080 --> 0:26:50.119
<v Speaker 2>and then I go straight to work and I literally

0:26:50.200 --> 0:26:53.520
<v Speaker 2>genmy My goal was, I said, I want working out

0:26:53.520 --> 0:26:56.240
<v Speaker 2>to be like breathing, like I want to. I want

0:26:56.320 --> 0:26:59.440
<v Speaker 2>to if I miss a class, I want to like

0:26:59.520 --> 0:27:02.480
<v Speaker 2>be your to go. And I had to so I

0:27:02.480 --> 0:27:04.600
<v Speaker 2>had to change the language. So I would go to

0:27:04.640 --> 0:27:07.320
<v Speaker 2>the gym and make these videos about oh I hate going,

0:27:07.359 --> 0:27:09.600
<v Speaker 2>but I went and I said, I got to stop that,

0:27:09.880 --> 0:27:14.040
<v Speaker 2>So I started changing my language going. I love getting

0:27:14.080 --> 0:27:17.399
<v Speaker 2>the chance to take care of me and thank you

0:27:17.480 --> 0:27:20.760
<v Speaker 2>Lord that you're giving me this opportunity for another chance

0:27:20.800 --> 0:27:23.639
<v Speaker 2>at life and health. And I love how I'm gonna

0:27:23.680 --> 0:27:27.320
<v Speaker 2>feel after I'm lifting these weights she wants me to

0:27:27.320 --> 0:27:30.840
<v Speaker 2>do fifteen. I love that my body is just like

0:27:31.600 --> 0:27:34.280
<v Speaker 2>taking to this. I kept saying, I love going to

0:27:34.320 --> 0:27:36.520
<v Speaker 2>the gym, even when I didn't feel like it.

0:27:36.640 --> 0:27:39.359
<v Speaker 1>This is so good, this is so good. So changing

0:27:39.880 --> 0:27:43.280
<v Speaker 1>the dialogue, changing how you speak to certain things, make sure.

0:27:43.240 --> 0:27:47.000
<v Speaker 2>Changing how you speak to certain things, and it has worked.

0:27:47.200 --> 0:27:49.320
<v Speaker 2>I do love going to the gym. Now that's hard,

0:27:49.920 --> 0:27:51.800
<v Speaker 2>but I just keep going, Cherry, this is gonna be

0:27:51.800 --> 0:27:54.160
<v Speaker 2>some fun because your body is gonna thank you. You're

0:27:54.160 --> 0:27:56.639
<v Speaker 2>gonna feel confident, you're gonna be so when I would

0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:59.280
<v Speaker 2>go and do the show, I feel so good because

0:27:59.320 --> 0:28:01.120
<v Speaker 2>I even felt like I would say to myself, your

0:28:01.119 --> 0:28:04.720
<v Speaker 2>body is like leaner. My stomach still look the same.

0:28:04.760 --> 0:28:06.679
<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay, but it looked leaner.

0:28:07.280 --> 0:28:10.560
<v Speaker 1>But you feel strong from within though I feel strong.

0:28:12.280 --> 0:28:15.879
<v Speaker 1>That's so good, that's so inspirational. Four forty five. Jeez,

0:28:15.880 --> 0:28:19.600
<v Speaker 1>I get up at six am to be there at

0:28:19.640 --> 0:28:23.160
<v Speaker 1>seven and my gym is thirty minutes away too. We're nuts.

0:28:23.160 --> 0:28:25.200
<v Speaker 1>Why don't we just go to like the local gym

0:28:25.440 --> 0:28:26.040
<v Speaker 1>down the street.

0:28:26.920 --> 0:28:28.679
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I think by showing you know. And

0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:31.800
<v Speaker 2>sometimes I take the train to my gym. I think

0:28:32.560 --> 0:28:35.560
<v Speaker 2>that it requires me to show up. If it was close,

0:28:36.160 --> 0:28:39.000
<v Speaker 2>I could give them an excuse, Oh something happened, ba

0:28:39.080 --> 0:28:42.960
<v Speaker 2>ba boh. But this, it shows thirty minutes away shows

0:28:43.000 --> 0:28:47.960
<v Speaker 2>your commitment. You're committed to going because you gotta go far.

0:28:48.560 --> 0:28:50.760
<v Speaker 2>It takes. If I take a ob back, it takes

0:28:50.760 --> 0:28:53.320
<v Speaker 2>me forty five minutes to get home, and I fall asleep.

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:56.120
<v Speaker 2>If I'm not working, I go to sleep in the uber.

0:28:56.200 --> 0:28:59.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm so tired. But I think it helps me keep

0:28:59.680 --> 0:29:03.000
<v Speaker 2>my amitment. And I go to a woman she's Moroccan

0:29:03.080 --> 0:29:05.360
<v Speaker 2>and she don't play, and she let me know my

0:29:05.400 --> 0:29:08.960
<v Speaker 2>time is valuable, so call in more than three times.

0:29:08.960 --> 0:29:11.200
<v Speaker 2>And you got to find another trainer that keeps me

0:29:11.240 --> 0:29:11.960
<v Speaker 2>on my feet too.

0:29:12.520 --> 0:29:14.120
<v Speaker 1>That's good. Yeah, she's not taking.

0:29:14.160 --> 0:29:15.680
<v Speaker 2>But I get up so early because I like to

0:29:15.680 --> 0:29:18.160
<v Speaker 2>get it out of the weight. Like if I got

0:29:18.200 --> 0:29:20.520
<v Speaker 2>to go at three o'clock with hair a wig on

0:29:20.640 --> 0:29:23.120
<v Speaker 2>and makeup on and lashes, I'm not going to do it.

0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:25.040
<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, it has to be the first thing

0:29:25.040 --> 0:29:25.560
<v Speaker 1>for me to It.

0:29:25.560 --> 0:29:28.720
<v Speaker 2>Has to be first thing. But you feel I tell

0:29:28.760 --> 0:29:32.600
<v Speaker 2>people you've never you don't feel bad going after you

0:29:32.680 --> 0:29:35.320
<v Speaker 2>leave that gym. You don't feel bad that you win, No,

0:29:36.120 --> 0:29:38.560
<v Speaker 2>and know that the end result is you feel It

0:29:38.600 --> 0:29:42.959
<v Speaker 2>feels so good and being in this season lifting weights

0:29:43.200 --> 0:29:45.480
<v Speaker 2>is really really important for our bodies. I think a

0:29:45.480 --> 0:29:48.440
<v Speaker 2>lot of women don't understand our bones break down as

0:29:48.480 --> 0:29:51.800
<v Speaker 2>we get older, we start slouching. That's when you know,

0:29:51.960 --> 0:29:53.840
<v Speaker 2>when you fall and you break your hip, or you

0:29:53.880 --> 0:29:56.600
<v Speaker 2>fall and you break your wrist. You sprain your wrist

0:29:56.640 --> 0:29:59.080
<v Speaker 2>trying to catch your with like, we have to now

0:29:59.160 --> 0:30:05.440
<v Speaker 2>lift weights to keep our balance. So many benefits from listening,

0:30:05.480 --> 0:30:06.920
<v Speaker 2>from going to the gym period.

0:30:07.240 --> 0:30:11.760
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, anything moving your body moving anyway, it's good.

0:30:11.880 --> 0:30:16.360
<v Speaker 1>Like we can all be like Sherry and give ourselves

0:30:16.400 --> 0:30:19.000
<v Speaker 1>that appointment first thing in the morning. I think that's

0:30:19.400 --> 0:30:20.200
<v Speaker 1>that's gonna help a lot.

0:30:20.360 --> 0:30:23.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Walking, I love walking, Jenny. I walked four miles

0:30:23.240 --> 0:30:26.000
<v Speaker 2>the other day. My butt cheek froze up. That left

0:30:26.000 --> 0:30:27.360
<v Speaker 2>butt cheek was frozen.

0:30:27.480 --> 0:30:29.440
<v Speaker 1>Wait were you flexing as you were walking?

0:30:29.600 --> 0:30:31.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what I was doing. I usually do

0:30:31.840 --> 0:30:34.280
<v Speaker 2>two miles. I can do one of two miles, but

0:30:34.360 --> 0:30:35.720
<v Speaker 2>I did four because I was like, well, let me

0:30:35.720 --> 0:30:37.320
<v Speaker 2>see if I could go a little further. Let me

0:30:37.320 --> 0:30:38.920
<v Speaker 2>see if I go a little further. And my butt

0:30:38.960 --> 0:30:41.840
<v Speaker 2>cheek was like, no, go home. But I did it.

0:30:42.200 --> 0:30:45.240
<v Speaker 2>I did it. I was so happy. I love walking

0:30:45.280 --> 0:30:47.640
<v Speaker 2>by myself. I used to take Jeffrey with me when

0:30:47.640 --> 0:30:49.960
<v Speaker 2>I walk, but he complained so much, how long we

0:30:50.000 --> 0:30:53.680
<v Speaker 2>gotta walk when we're gonna be done. It takes all

0:30:53.680 --> 0:30:56.160
<v Speaker 2>the fun out of it. So I walked by myself

0:30:56.520 --> 0:30:58.720
<v Speaker 2>with only I walked with one ear butt in so

0:30:58.760 --> 0:31:00.640
<v Speaker 2>I can hear everything else is going on on and

0:31:00.680 --> 0:31:04.840
<v Speaker 2>I just walk, and I my creative stuff comes. I

0:31:04.880 --> 0:31:09.480
<v Speaker 2>get to think about things. I love walking. Yeah, that

0:31:09.600 --> 0:31:11.960
<v Speaker 2>four miles almost took me out. That four miles.

0:31:12.480 --> 0:31:12.920
<v Speaker 1>Whoo.

0:31:13.040 --> 0:31:13.640
<v Speaker 2>It's a good thing.

0:31:13.720 --> 0:31:15.040
<v Speaker 1>You listen to your butt cheek.

0:31:15.440 --> 0:31:17.640
<v Speaker 2>I listened to my I always listen to my butt cheeks.

0:31:17.680 --> 0:31:19.920
<v Speaker 2>They would never let me lead me astray.

0:31:21.120 --> 0:31:22.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh. When I was on your show, we

0:31:22.760 --> 0:31:26.880
<v Speaker 1>talked about communicating with our exes, and you made me

0:31:26.960 --> 0:31:28.400
<v Speaker 1>laugh because.

0:31:29.600 --> 0:31:31.640
<v Speaker 2>You've got a great relationship with yours.

0:31:31.880 --> 0:31:37.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean it took a while, it took a good minute. Girl,

0:31:38.240 --> 0:31:40.160
<v Speaker 1>But what what what's going on with you at this

0:31:40.280 --> 0:31:44.160
<v Speaker 1>point in your life? Like, are you open to dating.

0:31:44.200 --> 0:31:46.040
<v Speaker 1>Are you dating? Are you going to find him husband?

0:31:46.600 --> 0:31:47.640
<v Speaker 1>Are you put on your own?

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:53.120
<v Speaker 2>That's the best option I am right now. My wish

0:31:53.400 --> 0:31:56.600
<v Speaker 2>is that Jeffrey Zaid and I could have a good relationship.

0:31:56.720 --> 0:31:59.680
<v Speaker 2>At the at the moment, it's not there. We communicate

0:31:59.720 --> 0:32:03.640
<v Speaker 2>by which is kind of hard to do, but that's

0:32:03.680 --> 0:32:07.440
<v Speaker 2>the way it works, you know. So I would love

0:32:07.520 --> 0:32:10.840
<v Speaker 2>like you are squad goals for me. With that said,

0:32:10.880 --> 0:32:14.040
<v Speaker 2>like with dating, at this I'm very open to marriage.

0:32:14.120 --> 0:32:18.480
<v Speaker 2>I think marriage is an amazing and amazing thing, and

0:32:19.320 --> 0:32:21.360
<v Speaker 2>you know, it's nice to know you can depend on

0:32:21.760 --> 0:32:26.160
<v Speaker 2>your mate. But I've gone through two very public marriages

0:32:26.200 --> 0:32:31.400
<v Speaker 2>and two very public divorces, and I have for me

0:32:32.120 --> 0:32:37.400
<v Speaker 2>and nobody else. I lost everything in my first marriage

0:32:37.440 --> 0:32:39.520
<v Speaker 2>because I did not have a pre nup And when

0:32:39.560 --> 0:32:43.600
<v Speaker 2>I say everything I was doing, the view broke, like

0:32:43.680 --> 0:32:47.440
<v Speaker 2>all my money was going to pay expenses for living

0:32:47.440 --> 0:32:50.360
<v Speaker 2>in New York and going to my attorneys. I hosted

0:32:50.400 --> 0:32:53.080
<v Speaker 2>a show called The Newlywag Game, and every check they

0:32:53.080 --> 0:32:57.200
<v Speaker 2>gave me was going to attorneys. So it was awful.

0:32:57.240 --> 0:33:01.760
<v Speaker 2>And then the second marriage, it just it costs so

0:33:01.920 --> 0:33:03.960
<v Speaker 2>much money, even though we had a prenup. That was

0:33:03.960 --> 0:33:06.400
<v Speaker 2>a great thing, but it cost so much money and

0:33:06.440 --> 0:33:10.920
<v Speaker 2>I lost everything again, and so having to build up,

0:33:11.880 --> 0:33:16.280
<v Speaker 2>you know, my money, my finances again, to take care

0:33:16.280 --> 0:33:20.680
<v Speaker 2>of a child who has special needs that's therapy every week,

0:33:20.760 --> 0:33:24.760
<v Speaker 2>that's a you know, that's a psychologist, that's he goes

0:33:24.760 --> 0:33:28.760
<v Speaker 2>to a you know, a special school. That's money, and

0:33:30.240 --> 0:33:33.400
<v Speaker 2>to have to build that up again. I just the

0:33:34.000 --> 0:33:37.600
<v Speaker 2>marriage is just not something that I'm seeking right now,

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:41.720
<v Speaker 2>but I'm open to it. So nobody's came to float

0:33:41.880 --> 0:33:45.760
<v Speaker 2>float on my boat. So right now, I like being single.

0:33:45.880 --> 0:33:49.520
<v Speaker 2>I like being single and dating. I like being single

0:33:49.680 --> 0:33:51.880
<v Speaker 2>because I had to learn to date. Jenny, I would

0:33:51.960 --> 0:33:54.400
<v Speaker 2>date and get married. Yeah, so I had to work

0:33:54.440 --> 0:33:58.240
<v Speaker 2>with a dating coach and she said, you need to

0:33:58.400 --> 0:34:02.040
<v Speaker 2>date more than one man. And I went clutch my pearls.

0:34:02.400 --> 0:34:04.680
<v Speaker 2>I can't date more than one man. I came up

0:34:04.720 --> 0:34:08.360
<v Speaker 2>in a religion you dated to get married, and she said, no, Sherry,

0:34:08.680 --> 0:34:10.279
<v Speaker 2>you need to learn how to date, to just go

0:34:10.320 --> 0:34:12.719
<v Speaker 2>on a date and have conversation. You need to learn

0:34:12.719 --> 0:34:14.640
<v Speaker 2>how to date, to just go and have a nice time.

0:34:15.000 --> 0:34:16.839
<v Speaker 2>You need to learn how to date so that if

0:34:16.880 --> 0:34:21.480
<v Speaker 2>you get ghosted by one, you're not putting all your

0:34:21.560 --> 0:34:26.000
<v Speaker 2>eggs in that one basket and love with the first

0:34:26.040 --> 0:34:29.360
<v Speaker 2>one who gives you some affection. You need to be

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:31.520
<v Speaker 2>able to go have a good time and say I

0:34:31.560 --> 0:34:34.759
<v Speaker 2>got another date on Thursday. So all your eggs aren't

0:34:34.760 --> 0:34:38.040
<v Speaker 2>in that one basket. You need to just date and

0:34:38.560 --> 0:34:40.840
<v Speaker 2>to figure out what you like, who you like, the

0:34:40.960 --> 0:34:46.040
<v Speaker 2>treatment you want. And that's what I started doing, so Jenny.

0:34:46.040 --> 0:34:49.120
<v Speaker 2>One day, whenever I would go to town, a different town

0:34:49.160 --> 0:34:52.120
<v Speaker 2>to do stand up, I'd set up a date and

0:34:52.280 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 2>I went at lane time. I had three dates at

0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:56.560
<v Speaker 2>a breakfast date, a lunch date, and a dinner date.

0:34:56.719 --> 0:34:59.400
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, you're such a good student. By the way.

0:35:00.160 --> 0:35:02.200
<v Speaker 2>I went out Now, I was full because everybody took

0:35:02.239 --> 0:35:05.959
<v Speaker 2>me to a restaurant. But it was very interesting because

0:35:05.960 --> 0:35:08.239
<v Speaker 2>the first one he was a sheriff. I met him

0:35:08.239 --> 0:35:11.560
<v Speaker 2>on Instagram. Okay, he was a sheriff. He sent me

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:13.640
<v Speaker 2>a DM he said, I'm a I'm a sheriff. Here's

0:35:13.880 --> 0:35:16.560
<v Speaker 2>pictures of me at the at the you know station.

0:35:17.440 --> 0:35:19.680
<v Speaker 2>Can I take you out? I said, Okay, you're not

0:35:19.719 --> 0:35:22.719
<v Speaker 2>a You're not a stalker or nothing, right? He said no.

0:35:22.800 --> 0:35:25.960
<v Speaker 2>But we we met in a public place. We went out.

0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:31.719
<v Speaker 2>He was very very much the the man's man, so

0:35:31.880 --> 0:35:35.399
<v Speaker 2>he was really jarring to him. So many people came

0:35:35.480 --> 0:35:38.680
<v Speaker 2>up and wanted to autograph or wanted a picture. You know.

0:35:38.840 --> 0:35:41.400
<v Speaker 2>He had made reservations at a restaurant for breakfast, but

0:35:41.480 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 2>it wasn't open. So there was another restaurant, and he says, oh,

0:35:44.680 --> 0:35:48.200
<v Speaker 2>that's not open. But I happened to know Candy Burris

0:35:48.480 --> 0:35:51.560
<v Speaker 2>who owned She owned the restaurant, and I'm like, I

0:35:51.560 --> 0:35:54.000
<v Speaker 2>don't want to like, I don't want them to think

0:35:54.000 --> 0:35:56.880
<v Speaker 2>that I'm usurping or but I texted her and I

0:35:56.920 --> 0:35:59.000
<v Speaker 2>was like, I'm outside. So he's like, we got to

0:35:59.000 --> 0:36:01.160
<v Speaker 2>go somewhere else because this is not open. And they

0:36:01.200 --> 0:36:02.960
<v Speaker 2>came and they they opened it up for us. That

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:06.400
<v Speaker 2>was a little bit much for him. Yeah, then he

0:36:06.480 --> 0:36:10.480
<v Speaker 2>you know, he smoked cigars. He was gorgeous. But I

0:36:10.520 --> 0:36:12.319
<v Speaker 2>was like, you know what, this is not working. So

0:36:12.360 --> 0:36:14.399
<v Speaker 2>but I got a lunch date and the lunch day

0:36:14.560 --> 0:36:18.960
<v Speaker 2>was amazing, so much fun. He took me roller skating,

0:36:18.960 --> 0:36:22.000
<v Speaker 2>which I love, so he was very thoughtful. We went

0:36:22.200 --> 0:36:25.400
<v Speaker 2>roller skating and had a great time and he showed

0:36:25.400 --> 0:36:28.759
<v Speaker 2>me some moves he taught roller skating. Then I was like, well,

0:36:28.760 --> 0:36:30.799
<v Speaker 2>that was good, but I have a dinner day tonight.

0:36:31.440 --> 0:36:33.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh oh my god.

0:36:33.560 --> 0:36:35.680
<v Speaker 2>All this was all on one day and the dinner

0:36:35.760 --> 0:36:37.719
<v Speaker 2>did I want up? Girl? He was gorgeous. He had

0:36:37.760 --> 0:36:41.040
<v Speaker 2>his own business and he built roofs. It was a

0:36:41.120 --> 0:36:45.239
<v Speaker 2>siding business. He built decks and muscles and whoa. He

0:36:45.480 --> 0:36:48.840
<v Speaker 2>was gorgeous. But he was used to being the gorgeous

0:36:48.880 --> 0:36:51.680
<v Speaker 2>one and getting all the attention, so he didn't like it.

0:36:52.640 --> 0:36:54.560
<v Speaker 2>And I thought that was great. We had a good time.

0:36:54.600 --> 0:37:00.160
<v Speaker 2>He ghosted me, but it was fine when I got ghosted.

0:37:00.239 --> 0:37:02.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because you got to learn what works and what

0:37:02.560 --> 0:37:03.080
<v Speaker 1>doesn't work.

0:37:03.160 --> 0:37:05.200
<v Speaker 2>What works. But I have three dates and I was like,

0:37:05.239 --> 0:37:08.560
<v Speaker 2>it's okay because I'm going to North Carolina and my

0:37:08.600 --> 0:37:10.360
<v Speaker 2>friends set up a date with somebody else.

0:37:11.280 --> 0:37:14.000
<v Speaker 1>This is I love this, Sherry. This is so good.

0:37:14.480 --> 0:37:17.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because before I would date and I'd be you know,

0:37:17.280 --> 0:37:18.759
<v Speaker 2>you day, you have such a great time, and then

0:37:18.760 --> 0:37:21.200
<v Speaker 2>you go home and you're doing curly cues. You know,

0:37:21.520 --> 0:37:25.120
<v Speaker 2>you're writing your name with his last name, you know,

0:37:25.760 --> 0:37:28.920
<v Speaker 2>mister and missus, and I'd be like in love now

0:37:28.920 --> 0:37:32.920
<v Speaker 2>I want to get married, and it's like yeah, So

0:37:33.040 --> 0:37:37.480
<v Speaker 2>it was really great dating to see what I liked,

0:37:37.480 --> 0:37:40.080
<v Speaker 2>and what kind of treatment I liked. I don't want

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:43.200
<v Speaker 2>anybody who smoked cigars, and I'm not settling that sheriff

0:37:43.239 --> 0:37:45.840
<v Speaker 2>smoked cigars. We got into his car and I felt

0:37:45.840 --> 0:37:48.600
<v Speaker 2>like cancer was coming. That's a bad joke. I shouldn't.

0:37:48.640 --> 0:37:50.359
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to offend anybody. But I was like,

0:37:50.640 --> 0:37:52.480
<v Speaker 2>he smoked so much.

0:37:52.760 --> 0:37:53.440
<v Speaker 1>It just smell.

0:37:53.920 --> 0:37:58.360
<v Speaker 2>It just smells so bad. And I was like, I can't,

0:37:58.560 --> 0:38:01.040
<v Speaker 2>I can't do this, and he was, I hope he's

0:38:01.080 --> 0:38:03.239
<v Speaker 2>not gonna. I'm not saying I don't want anybody not

0:38:03.320 --> 0:38:11.440
<v Speaker 2>to watch your podcast, Jenny, but he was mudery. So

0:38:11.560 --> 0:38:14.480
<v Speaker 2>dating is, you know, So for me, I like, I

0:38:14.680 --> 0:38:17.879
<v Speaker 2>like dating. I like if there's somebody that I date

0:38:17.960 --> 0:38:19.840
<v Speaker 2>a few times, I like it, and I like and

0:38:19.880 --> 0:38:22.359
<v Speaker 2>I like not sharing it. I know as a talk

0:38:22.400 --> 0:38:25.080
<v Speaker 2>show host, I share a lot. But there's some things

0:38:25.200 --> 0:38:28.040
<v Speaker 2>I have learned in the season of my life. You

0:38:28.080 --> 0:38:32.000
<v Speaker 2>have to keep something as special, something that's so special

0:38:32.040 --> 0:38:35.160
<v Speaker 2>that everybody's not in your Sometimes I think we overshare

0:38:35.320 --> 0:38:39.080
<v Speaker 2>so much on social media, and then when it goes south,

0:38:39.160 --> 0:38:41.919
<v Speaker 2>you're scrubbing off the pictures that you had with them.

0:38:42.320 --> 0:38:46.800
<v Speaker 2>You're asking everybody to respect your privacy, but you've opened

0:38:46.800 --> 0:38:50.479
<v Speaker 2>the door. And I like that I get to date

0:38:50.640 --> 0:38:54.879
<v Speaker 2>because they didn't ask for the fame I did. So

0:38:54.920 --> 0:38:56.600
<v Speaker 2>it's really nice to be able to go out and

0:38:56.719 --> 0:39:00.279
<v Speaker 2>just have a really good time and I don't have

0:39:00.280 --> 0:39:02.520
<v Speaker 2>to talk about it now, talk about the dates that

0:39:02.560 --> 0:39:04.840
<v Speaker 2>I go on. That there really crazy. But I like

0:39:04.960 --> 0:39:06.680
<v Speaker 2>being able to just state and have a good time.

0:39:06.719 --> 0:39:09.200
<v Speaker 2>And if there's somebody I meet, hell maybe I'll talk

0:39:09.239 --> 0:39:09.719
<v Speaker 2>about them.

0:39:10.160 --> 0:39:12.160
<v Speaker 1>If I like him, see what happens.

0:39:12.640 --> 0:39:13.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:39:13.239 --> 0:39:17.280
<v Speaker 1>I always tell my daughters, we'll see. Just think to yourself,

0:39:17.320 --> 0:39:18.200
<v Speaker 1>we'll see.

0:39:18.360 --> 0:39:21.879
<v Speaker 2>We'll see. That's good. I like that. That's really such

0:39:21.920 --> 0:39:24.440
<v Speaker 2>a great phrase. We'll see, we'll see.

0:39:24.800 --> 0:39:27.960
<v Speaker 1>Okay. I like to ask everybody this Sherry Shepherd, before

0:39:27.960 --> 0:39:30.160
<v Speaker 1>I let you go, what was your last?

0:39:30.239 --> 0:39:34.800
<v Speaker 2>I choose me, moment, my last, I choose me, moment,

0:39:35.080 --> 0:39:41.239
<v Speaker 2>my last, my last, I choose me. Oh, it's so

0:39:41.400 --> 0:39:44.640
<v Speaker 2>much where I say, I choose me. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah,

0:39:44.680 --> 0:39:50.399
<v Speaker 2>yeah yeah. I went to a private island. Somebody gave

0:39:50.440 --> 0:39:54.200
<v Speaker 2>me their private island to go and just rest. And

0:39:54.320 --> 0:39:57.360
<v Speaker 2>it was a person that I was seeing and he

0:39:57.480 --> 0:39:59.640
<v Speaker 2>wanted it to go. He wanted to be like, you know,

0:40:00.600 --> 0:40:02.440
<v Speaker 2>we can go and we have a great time and

0:40:02.480 --> 0:40:04.200
<v Speaker 2>we can do this. And I said, you know what,

0:40:04.600 --> 0:40:07.960
<v Speaker 2>I want to invite my friends because I don't want

0:40:07.960 --> 0:40:09.640
<v Speaker 2>to I don't want to be in a romantic thing.

0:40:09.880 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 2>I want to go to this island, be able to laugh, giggle,

0:40:15.080 --> 0:40:16.719
<v Speaker 2>not have to feel like, Oh, I don't want to

0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:18.520
<v Speaker 2>make you feel like you're not included. I don't want

0:40:18.520 --> 0:40:20.520
<v Speaker 2>to make you feel like you know, I'm being I

0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:22.040
<v Speaker 2>want to be, you know, because I took some of

0:40:22.080 --> 0:40:24.560
<v Speaker 2>my glam team and I'm bossy with them because it

0:40:24.560 --> 0:40:25.000
<v Speaker 2>worked for me.

0:40:25.040 --> 0:40:26.240
<v Speaker 1>It's free to be yourself.

0:40:26.520 --> 0:40:30.120
<v Speaker 2>I just want to be myself. And these feelings were

0:40:30.239 --> 0:40:33.000
<v Speaker 2>very hurt, and I said, I just I want to

0:40:33.040 --> 0:40:36.280
<v Speaker 2>do a romantic thing. This somebody offered me this private

0:40:36.320 --> 0:40:39.320
<v Speaker 2>island for seven days, and I wanted to be about

0:40:39.480 --> 0:40:42.960
<v Speaker 2>me and the people are brought and I want to

0:40:42.960 --> 0:40:45.200
<v Speaker 2>be silly and I want to be and I want

0:40:45.239 --> 0:40:46.839
<v Speaker 2>to be able to go back to my hotel room

0:40:46.920 --> 0:40:50.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm not well, the villa that was on the island,

0:40:50.440 --> 0:40:53.120
<v Speaker 2>and go to sleep. Yes, I don't want to have

0:40:53.200 --> 0:40:56.400
<v Speaker 2>to worry about, you know, is he having a good time?

0:40:57.040 --> 0:40:58.840
<v Speaker 2>You know? Are you having a Is there anything I

0:40:58.840 --> 0:41:00.719
<v Speaker 2>could do to make you happy. I don't want none

0:41:00.760 --> 0:41:02.920
<v Speaker 2>of that. And I chose me and I don't And

0:41:04.280 --> 0:41:07.200
<v Speaker 2>you know, I was like, and I don't care. I

0:41:07.280 --> 0:41:08.880
<v Speaker 2>want to go and have a good time. And it

0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:12.480
<v Speaker 2>felt great and I had a blast with my friends.

0:41:12.680 --> 0:41:15.080
<v Speaker 1>Oh, I think that might be one of the best

0:41:15.080 --> 0:41:17.560
<v Speaker 1>I choose me moments I've ever heard of private island

0:41:17.680 --> 0:41:18.360
<v Speaker 1>by yourself.

0:41:18.560 --> 0:41:21.520
<v Speaker 2>It was a private island and we and had I

0:41:21.560 --> 0:41:24.640
<v Speaker 2>taken him, everybody would have had a great time with him.

0:41:25.200 --> 0:41:28.040
<v Speaker 2>But what would have been missing is all of the stories,

0:41:28.040 --> 0:41:31.239
<v Speaker 2>Like we really talked about our hopes and our dreams,

0:41:31.320 --> 0:41:34.640
<v Speaker 2>and you know, we stayed up. I one of my

0:41:34.880 --> 0:41:39.440
<v Speaker 2>dearest friends of twenty two years, Like, I went and

0:41:39.480 --> 0:41:41.920
<v Speaker 2>we got in the same bed and we talked and

0:41:41.960 --> 0:41:45.319
<v Speaker 2>giggled like we were schoolgirls. I wouldn't have been able

0:41:45.320 --> 0:41:45.719
<v Speaker 2>to do that.

0:41:46.680 --> 0:41:48.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you just need those trips.

0:41:49.200 --> 0:41:51.920
<v Speaker 2>You need those trips. I got to bond with my

0:41:52.160 --> 0:41:53.560
<v Speaker 2>sister friends.

0:41:54.120 --> 0:41:57.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh. I love that for you. I love it. I

0:41:57.640 --> 0:41:59.400
<v Speaker 1>just love talking to you. I could talk to you forever.

0:41:59.480 --> 0:42:01.600
<v Speaker 1>And I want to hear about some of those dates

0:42:01.640 --> 0:42:04.160
<v Speaker 1>going wrong, because those are good.

0:42:04.840 --> 0:42:06.879
<v Speaker 2>You're laughing. I need to write a book. I've had

0:42:06.880 --> 0:42:09.680
<v Speaker 2>some do then I have. Yeah, it's been some. It's

0:42:09.680 --> 0:42:13.360
<v Speaker 2>been some funny ones. It's been some like okay, this

0:42:13.360 --> 0:42:15.359
<v Speaker 2>this is not gonna work all right? Oh you didn't

0:42:15.400 --> 0:42:17.319
<v Speaker 2>tell me there was a Oh there's a you got

0:42:17.320 --> 0:42:18.840
<v Speaker 2>a girlfriend. Didn't know that.

0:42:19.840 --> 0:42:22.480
<v Speaker 1>Little detail you left that little one?

0:42:22.520 --> 0:42:24.360
<v Speaker 2>Now? Oh Hi, who are you? You know?

0:42:26.080 --> 0:42:28.439
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, so much fun talking to you, Cherm.

0:42:28.480 --> 0:42:30.400
<v Speaker 1>I'll let you go. I know you're a busy, busy lady.

0:42:30.480 --> 0:42:32.480
<v Speaker 1>And thank you for spending some time with us.

0:42:32.880 --> 0:42:35.320
<v Speaker 2>Jinny, thank you so much. So when I come to

0:42:35.480 --> 0:42:37.440
<v Speaker 2>when I come to La, we've got to hang out.

0:42:37.880 --> 0:42:42.360
<v Speaker 2>I love you you too, girl. Bye bye bye.

0:42:45.040 --> 0:42:46.640
<v Speaker 1>Jerry is so funny.

0:42:46.960 --> 0:42:47.160
<v Speaker 2>Oh.

0:42:47.560 --> 0:42:50.440
<v Speaker 1>I love when I get to connect with her. She's

0:42:50.480 --> 0:42:54.640
<v Speaker 1>such an inspirational woman. I love what she said about

0:42:54.719 --> 0:42:59.319
<v Speaker 1>saying no. That word is so powerful, and I know,

0:43:00.120 --> 0:43:03.080
<v Speaker 1>after walking away from this conversation, what she said is

0:43:03.160 --> 0:43:06.560
<v Speaker 1>going to stick with me and hopefully empower me to

0:43:06.640 --> 0:43:10.840
<v Speaker 1>say no more. This week, as I choose myself, speaking

0:43:10.920 --> 0:43:14.440
<v Speaker 1>of choosing ourselves, as we continue to do that each week,

0:43:14.520 --> 0:43:18.520
<v Speaker 1>I want to challenge you to making a different first

0:43:18.719 --> 0:43:22.560
<v Speaker 1>choice in your morning. Cherry said she chooses to get

0:43:22.600 --> 0:43:25.800
<v Speaker 1>up at four forty five every morning and drive thirty

0:43:25.800 --> 0:43:28.000
<v Speaker 1>minutes to the gym. I know a lot of us

0:43:28.400 --> 0:43:31.840
<v Speaker 1>struggle with looking at our phones as soon as we

0:43:31.880 --> 0:43:34.200
<v Speaker 1>open our eyes, but we can do better than that.

0:43:34.960 --> 0:43:39.279
<v Speaker 1>So this week, make a better choice and choose yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe start with I don't know, letting the sunshine hit

0:43:44.120 --> 0:43:48.480
<v Speaker 1>your face, or drink a big glass of cold water,

0:43:49.000 --> 0:43:51.680
<v Speaker 1>or maybe go on a morning walk with your dog.

0:43:52.160 --> 0:43:56.960
<v Speaker 1>Take those first few moments or even hour of your

0:43:57.000 --> 0:44:01.520
<v Speaker 1>morning to choose yourself. You are worse. Thanks for listening

0:44:01.560 --> 0:44:04.080
<v Speaker 1>to I Choose Me and don't forget. Tickets are on

0:44:04.160 --> 0:44:07.920
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<v Speaker 1>You can check out all the information along with our

0:44:10.600 --> 0:44:15.000
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0:44:15.440 --> 0:44:18.719
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0:44:18.920 --> 0:44:21.160
<v Speaker 1>right here next week. I hope you choose to be

0:44:21.239 --> 0:44:21.600
<v Speaker 1>here too,