1 00:00:01,560 --> 00:00:09,480 Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hi. Everyone, 2 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: welcome to the I Choose Me Podcast. This podcast is 3 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,160 Speaker 1: all about the choices we make and where they lead us. 4 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 1: I have such a good guest today, but before we 5 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: get into that, I have an exciting announcement you guys. 6 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: I am hosting our very first I Choose Me Live 7 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:35,519 Speaker 1: women's empowerment event right here in Los Angeles on Saturday, 8 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 1: January eleventh, and I want you to come. The whole 9 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: I Choose Me movement started as three little words in 10 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: a script on Beverly Hills, Nana two and to oh. 11 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 1: It has now evolved into something so much more than that. 12 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: It is a message that I feel so passionate about 13 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:55,880 Speaker 1: and it needs to continue to be amplified. The One 14 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: Day Lady Party will be focused on self care and 15 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: self love. We're going to have a great panel, powerful women, 16 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: lunch cocktails. It is going to be amazing. So start 17 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: the new year off right by choosing yourself. Or you 18 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: can make it a fun getaway trip to beautiful California 19 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: with your friends. I don't know, whatever it takes, just 20 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: get here. I can't wait to see you. All tickets 21 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: are on sale now, and all of the info will 22 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: be in our show notes. I hope you come. My 23 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: guest today is a comedian and actress, a best selling author, 24 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: and the host of her own Emmy nominated and NAACP 25 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,039 Speaker 1: Image Award winning talk show. She's also the co host 26 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: of the hilarious podcast Too Fuddy Mamas. Please welcome Sherry 27 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: Sheppard to the podcast. 28 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 2: Hello. 29 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 1: I just loved being on your show recently. It was 30 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: such a fun, positive experience. Oh and your gorgeous makeup lady. 31 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,600 Speaker 1: I can't remember her name, Nanni. Yes, she let me 32 00:01:57,640 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: hold her beautiful little baby dog. 33 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 2: Ah. 34 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 1: It made me so happy. 35 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 2: I'll tell her that. Yeah. 36 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: And we are Q fifty sisters, which is so cool. 37 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 1: So I'm really really glad that we get to talk 38 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: to Dan go a little deep. 39 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, this is fun. 40 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: I mean you're basically the poster child for the age 41 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 1: of possibility. I mean you've you've had some time to 42 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 1: adjust now to this big, you know, next chapter in 43 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: your life, turning fifty. Yeah, but go back. What was 44 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: it like as you entered into your fifties? 45 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 2: Horrible? I want I tell you, I'm fifty, I'm fifty seven, 46 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 2: and when I turned fifty. I Jinny, I thought my 47 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 2: life was over. I thought it was downhill. I just 48 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 2: had all of this doom and gloom about what it 49 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 2: was going to be like. And I said to my assistant, 50 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 2: I don't want anybody to call me. Don't give me 51 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 2: the phone. I don't want gifts. I'm going to save 52 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 2: my room and cry. And if you even bother me, 53 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 2: you're fired, Like Larry, That's how bad it was. And 54 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 2: a friend, a dear friend of mine, what he sent 55 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 2: me changed my life. He went to, you know when 56 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 2: you can like send your photos to like snapfish, not 57 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 2: the cheating website, but it was, you know, you download 58 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 2: your photos and you can make a photo book. He 59 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 2: had asked me probably six months prior. He said, Cherry, 60 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 2: if you were to have a party, who would you invite? Like, 61 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 2: who were your top ten friends you'd invite? So I 62 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 2: told them. He went to all of those friends and 63 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 2: he said, I'm doing a birthday book for Sherry. Can 64 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 2: you write a story of what she means to you 65 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 2: and send me a picture? And he created this wonderful 66 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 2: book about turning fifty and Jenny, when I opened the 67 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 2: book and I saw everybody had a story about what 68 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 2: I meant to them. I couldn't stop crying, and immediately 69 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 2: my paradigm shifted about being fifty because I thought, this 70 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 2: is the sum total of who I am. I made 71 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 2: such a difference in these folks' lives, and if I 72 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 2: wasn't around, it would be a real big loss to them. 73 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 2: That's what they're saying in these letters. And I just 74 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 2: after that, I looked at fifty different. I said, this 75 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:20,920 Speaker 2: is it literally was age of possibilities. This is like 76 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 2: life is short. Take the bull by the horns, try 77 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 2: some stuff you've never tried before. Go for it. 78 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:32,800 Speaker 1: I love this book idea. I'm gonna do that. But yeah, 79 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:36,039 Speaker 1: I'm sure that just made you feel so seen and 80 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: so like everything that you've done so far in this 81 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: life of yours has had such a beautiful impact on 82 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 1: not just people everywhere, but really important people to you personally. 83 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 2: Absolutely, that's a book that I've done for people in 84 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,919 Speaker 2: my life, and I can see how much it means 85 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 2: to them, you know, because you can sit down when 86 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 2: you're feeling down and go through this book of the 87 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:03,160 Speaker 2: people and what an impact you know you've made. So Yeah, 88 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 2: and relationships are important to me. 89 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, so much has happened to you since you turned fifty, 90 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: like so many great things. Well, I mean, you have 91 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: your very own talk show. 92 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:19,720 Speaker 2: Now a talk show, it's more acting has come in. 93 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 2: I'm writing a children's book which has been so much 94 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 2: fun for me. 95 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:26,720 Speaker 1: What's it about. 96 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:31,400 Speaker 2: It's called The Sunshine Queens, and it's really all of 97 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 2: my stories that I go through with my girlfriends and 98 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 2: how they lift me up and how we're so close, 99 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 2: and we're putting it into a format four an eight 100 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 2: year old about confidence, about self esteem, what happens when 101 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 2: you fall, how do you get back up? And it's 102 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 2: really all of my stories with my girlfriends, and we're 103 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 2: putting that in a book with four girls who just 104 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 2: have these great adventures together. And they're called the Sunshine 105 00:05:57,960 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 2: Queens because they all love to smile. 106 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: Okay, this is gonna be good. 107 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 2: I'm very excited about it. I mean from the from 108 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 2: the beginning to picking the characters and what their hair 109 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:10,160 Speaker 2: looks like. And you know, I said, oh, I gotta 110 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 2: one's got to have braces because my girlfriend has a 111 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: visile line that she's always losing her visil line. So 112 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 2: you got to get somebody braces. We gotta you know, 113 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 2: there's me. You gotta make me. It's a character based 114 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 2: on me. So I gotta be a little chubby little 115 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 2: you know what, a cute little smile. 116 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:27,640 Speaker 1: Oh, it's like a world of creativity for you. 117 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 2: I love the creativity. I love the sketches and the stories. 118 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 2: So I'm very excited about this book. 119 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: Well, I'm excited to see it because we need more 120 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: messaging like that for the youngest of the young. We 121 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: got to start giving them all this positive stuff that 122 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:45,479 Speaker 1: we have learned. 123 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 2: Absolutely just pay you need. You know, having girlfriends is 124 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 2: a big deal. I believe we can't move forward without 125 00:06:56,320 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 2: women being undergirding us and encourage and those friends, those 126 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 2: deep friendships. This life is like, this is hard going 127 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 2: through life. 128 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: If you don't have anybody it is You're so right, 129 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 1: do you like? How many really close, tight girlfriends do 130 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: you have? 131 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 2: Not many? You know? I probably five. 132 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: That's good. That's a good number. 133 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 2: Probably five girlfriends that I have that are just I'm 134 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 2: so we've been really really close. And then now I'm 135 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 2: bringing in new people because sometimes you need younger people 136 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 2: to keep you young, you know. And I'll meet people 137 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 2: on the show like it's just yourself and I'm like, wow, 138 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 2: they're so cool, so so cool. 139 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:41,200 Speaker 1: I know, and then you didn't even know, Like, and 140 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: everybody has something to offer, like something that they can 141 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:47,880 Speaker 1: bring into your life that you didn't even see coming. 142 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 2: Like it's not wild absolutely, And that's the thing. If 143 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 2: you're open to it, somebody can bring something in your 144 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 2: life that is so wonderful, something that you never thought. 145 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 2: You can get something from every body, you's got to 146 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 2: be open to it. 147 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the key is being open, staying open, and 148 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 1: that's very vulnerable. That's a feeling of you know, that's 149 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: very scary feeling for a lot of people. 150 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 2: It is because you have to open up and you 151 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 2: have to you have to be willing to be hurt. 152 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 2: Which nobody who wants to be hurt. Who wants to 153 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,240 Speaker 2: go into something knowing that you could be hurt. But 154 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:23,920 Speaker 2: I think that if you've being if you're willing to 155 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 2: open yourself up, that's when you get the maximum from it. 156 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 1: I agree, I agree. I'm curious. You seem so grounded 157 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:38,200 Speaker 1: and so confident and so in your body. I love 158 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 1: that about you. I always have. Have you ever dealt 159 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 1: with imposter syndrome? 160 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:50,319 Speaker 2: You know? I I haven't dealt with it lately. Now 161 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 2: I'm really embracing who I am and knowing my place 162 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 2: in this world and what I bring is pretty unique. 163 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 2: But yeah, even up until a few years ago, always 164 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 2: feeling like they're going to find out who I am 165 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:09,200 Speaker 2: is not who I portray, and then when they find out, 166 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:13,200 Speaker 2: they're not gonna want me. That took a lot to 167 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 2: get over. That took a lot to get over. It's 168 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:20,239 Speaker 2: a lot of you know, me prayer, knowing that God, 169 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 2: God has ordained this in my life, that it's divinely ordered. 170 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:30,400 Speaker 2: It's you know, he gave me a skill set. I mean, 171 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 2: I think I had a full blown panic attack before 172 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 2: I started the first day of my show. 173 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,720 Speaker 1: I can imagine express a lot of pressure. 174 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:43,079 Speaker 2: I had a full blown panic attack. And I said, 175 00:09:43,120 --> 00:09:45,559 Speaker 2: because we were supposed to you know, everybody who does 176 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,320 Speaker 2: I'm the only talk show host who does a monologue. 177 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:51,680 Speaker 2: Ellen used to do it, but nobody else does it. 178 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 2: And they wanted me to do a monologue. And I'm like, 179 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, we didn't have a comedy writer. Every 180 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 2: talk show host, Jimmy ca Ellen, they all had like 181 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 2: they all have like twelve comedy writers who they give 182 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 2: them jokes. They feed them NonStop jokes. So for the 183 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 2: first season it was me. Season and a half, it 184 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:14,080 Speaker 2: was me coming up with all of my material, and 185 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:17,199 Speaker 2: I panicked because I said, what am I supposed to 186 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 2: talk about? Like I don't like, how do I come out? 187 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 2: Do I come out and go this is a monologue. 188 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 2: I'm doing comedy. What do I say? And like, well, 189 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 2: I couldn't breathe. My heart was beating, and something said, 190 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:36,079 Speaker 2: a voice within said, talk about what Oprah told you, 191 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 2: the advice that Oprah gave you, Because I had talked 192 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:41,959 Speaker 2: to Oprah that weekend for an hour and she gave 193 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 2: me advice. And I said, I can't talk about Oprah. 194 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:48,680 Speaker 2: That was like sacred, that's private, and that voice said, no, 195 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 2: there's some very funny stuff that Oprah gave you. The 196 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 2: way you look at it, it's funny. And so I 197 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,840 Speaker 2: asked Oprah, is there some things that I can talk about? 198 00:10:57,880 --> 00:10:59,800 Speaker 2: And she said, absolutely, do what you want to do. 199 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:04,080 Speaker 2: And I came out and I started talking about how 200 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 2: nervous I was in my conversation with Oprah and it 201 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 2: was really funny. Oprah was like, oh my god, I 202 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 2: didn't know do I say I don't like that, do I? 203 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:16,720 Speaker 2: And so I started realizing, you know what this talk 204 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:20,440 Speaker 2: show was, It was a blessing. And I have to 205 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 2: walk into what has already been written for me, what 206 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 2: has already been prepared for me that place, walk in 207 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 2: it and be confident. Sherry. You know who you are. 208 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 2: You know you have the experience. You've been given the 209 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 2: gift to make people laugh. Lean into it, and right 210 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 2: before the door opens when they say welcome, Sherry Shepherd. 211 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 2: Some days I feel like, oh, I don't have any jokes. 212 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 2: I'm not funny. And my prayer is I always pray 213 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 2: for the audience. I pray that God will make them 214 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 2: feel better than when they came. And I also pray 215 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 2: for my live audience and the audience that's watching me. God, 216 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 2: show them that side of you that is laughter, Show 217 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:07,080 Speaker 2: them that side of you that is you laugh straight 218 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 2: from your belly, that side of laughter and that side 219 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 2: of light, and show them you through me. And I 220 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 2: ask for fresh mercy and fresh grace and fresh jokes. 221 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 2: And the door opens up, and I'll just walk out 222 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 2: and I go, this is what was given to me, 223 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 2: And if it was given to me, then He's gonna 224 00:12:27,920 --> 00:12:30,319 Speaker 2: give me everything to see it through. 225 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: That's right, because that's what they say. You're never given 226 00:12:34,520 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: something you can't handle. 227 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,320 Speaker 2: Absolutely, And I sit in that chair, I don't think 228 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:41,840 Speaker 2: about it anymore, sitting in that chair, and jokes just 229 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 2: come to me. Funny just comes to me. 230 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:53,959 Speaker 1: Well, that's because you're just funny. I mean, jeez, speaking 231 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:56,320 Speaker 1: of funny. Everything that you do, all the things that 232 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 1: you're doing, and you still make time to go out 233 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: there and do comedy shows. Why is it important for 234 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 1: you to keep flexing that muscle? And what is it 235 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 1: that you love about getting out there on stage and 236 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:08,319 Speaker 1: making people laugh. 237 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 2: I love stand up comedy so much. That's my first love. 238 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 2: That's what I started doing before I became an actress. 239 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 2: I was a legal secretary and I took the other 240 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:22,359 Speaker 2: secretaries with me to the world famous comedy store and 241 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 2: I got bit by the bug at that comedy club. 242 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:28,400 Speaker 2: And if you go by the comedy store right now, 243 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 2: it's on Sunset near Lo Sienega. And if you look 244 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 2: above the main room, all the way to the right, 245 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 2: above the main room door, my name is the third 246 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:42,440 Speaker 2: from the top, Sherry Shepherd. When they painted my name, 247 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 2: I was like, oh my gosh, so you can see 248 00:13:45,520 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 2: my name is one of the original comics there, not 249 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 2: the original because they had a lot of comics before me. 250 00:13:50,440 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 1: You started in like nineteen ninety. 251 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:56,559 Speaker 2: Yeah, like probably about eighty nine, and I auditioned twenty 252 00:13:56,559 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 2: three times for Mitzy Shore at the Comedy Store. She 253 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,680 Speaker 2: made me a regular. What do you talk about? What's 254 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:09,680 Speaker 2: your name? Yeah, And I've been a regular there, and 255 00:14:09,679 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 2: I became a regular at the laugh Factory, and a 256 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:15,439 Speaker 2: regular at the Improv and a regular at Ice House 257 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 2: in Pasadena. So you know, that is my first love. 258 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 2: Because I'm on stage, That's kind of what the talk 259 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:25,600 Speaker 2: show reminds me of. I'm by myself, there's nobody else, 260 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 2: and I'm sharing stuff that I know that the audience 261 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 2: is gone through too. There's somebody in that audience that 262 00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 2: has children. There's somebody in that audience that has a 263 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 2: teenage boy who doesn't want you to come into their bedroom, 264 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:40,800 Speaker 2: and their bedroom smells like somebody came in and died. 265 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:44,080 Speaker 2: There's five dead people in your son's room. There's somebody 266 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:49,160 Speaker 2: whose son used X way too much. You know. There's 267 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:51,640 Speaker 2: somebody in that audience who's been single and they're trying 268 00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:54,600 Speaker 2: to date and they're going through it, and I love 269 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:57,400 Speaker 2: telling those stories. And that's what I get to do 270 00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 2: on my talk show, an extension of what I do 271 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 2: on stage. So I do stand up even still because 272 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 2: it's so much fun to go on stage and know 273 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 2: that I can make somebody feel better with the story 274 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 2: that I'm talking about. 275 00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:17,800 Speaker 1: Right, because everybody can relate to you. You're a very relatable, 276 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: real person. 277 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:20,320 Speaker 2: Thank you. 278 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: You can reach so many people. What do you do 279 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 1: to prioritize yourself, like your self care? 280 00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 2: I'm still working on that, Jenny. I have to say, 281 00:15:29,040 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 2: because this is a unique situation. When I was co 282 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 2: hosting on the View, if I didn't feel good, there 283 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 2: were four other women who could hold down the fort 284 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:43,840 Speaker 2: and they could put a guest host in that place 285 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:47,400 Speaker 2: of me, and I could stay home. I didn't have 286 00:15:47,480 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 2: to go visit affiliates. Barbara Walters did that. I didn't. 287 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,080 Speaker 2: You know, if I couldn't go and see a play 288 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:56,680 Speaker 2: that you were doing on Broadway, there was somebody else 289 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 2: could fill in and go see that play or read 290 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 2: that book. You have a talk show and it's just you. 291 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 2: I have to do all of that myself, and I 292 00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 2: can't call in sick because if I call him sick. 293 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 2: There's two hundred people here that don't work, that don't 294 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 2: get paid. If I call in sick, they have to 295 00:16:14,640 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 2: show a rerun, and reruns don't do as well as 296 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 2: the original programming. So you know, there's nobody that I 297 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 2: can put in to take my place. So it's a 298 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 2: lot more responsibility and it doesn't stop after I say, 299 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 2: you know, you know, come back tomorrow. Then if there 300 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 2: is somebody that dropped out, they call me. If they're 301 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:39,200 Speaker 2: looking for a booking, can you call that person shry 302 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 2: if they have to do a you know, change up something. 303 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 2: They call me for every aspect of the show. So 304 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:49,400 Speaker 2: I'm always on my cell phone to come up with 305 00:16:49,440 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 2: my hot topics. I'm always on the cell phone looking 306 00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:57,720 Speaker 2: for interesting items. Zoe Kravitz and Channing Tatum broke up. 307 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that means Lenny krab It is not 308 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:03,080 Speaker 2: taking me to the wedding. I send that to my 309 00:17:03,120 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 2: team and got we gotta I want to talk about this, 310 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:06,280 Speaker 2: you know. 311 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: Yet, it's a lot of work. It's the Sherry Show. 312 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:12,879 Speaker 2: Come on, It's the Sherry Show. It's like you know, 313 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:15,959 Speaker 2: so it never stops. Plus I got my stand up 314 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 2: that I'm doing. I'm writing the children's book. Oh did 315 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:20,280 Speaker 2: I say I have a nineteen year old son? 316 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 1: Oh wait, what about the Yeah, the mom roll, the 317 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 1: biggest royal ever. 318 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:27,800 Speaker 2: Mom. You know, I'm starting to let my son take 319 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 2: the train by himself. My son is on the spectrum, 320 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 2: the autism spectrum, so I'm letting him take the train 321 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:35,720 Speaker 2: by himself. So it's me in between photo shoots or 322 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 2: you know, doing a zoom looking at my thing, going 323 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:40,600 Speaker 2: him going, mom, I'm here where I'm supposed to be. 324 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:44,520 Speaker 2: I just got off the train. So a lot. 325 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: It's so much to juggle. 326 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 2: It's a lot to juggle. Jeffrey's older now, so I 327 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 2: can do a lot more because he's older. But I 328 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 2: used to take him to the comedy clubs with me. 329 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:55,680 Speaker 2: I'd be in there with him on my hip. I 330 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:57,280 Speaker 2: would take him to the clubs and go go in 331 00:17:57,280 --> 00:17:58,640 Speaker 2: the back room. So you don't have to hear Mommy 332 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 2: say a curse word. But you know now I have 333 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:05,639 Speaker 2: to say intentionally on the weekends, we go and grab 334 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:10,680 Speaker 2: something to eat. On a Sunday morning, he and I Intentionally, 335 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 2: I go, I'm going to go and get a massage. Intentionally, 336 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:20,159 Speaker 2: I say, you know, you have to be intentional about things. Yeah, 337 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:22,919 Speaker 2: I asked, somebody, can you take Jeffrey to a Knixt 338 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:25,960 Speaker 2: game so I can have time to just go to 339 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 2: the movie theater and sit there by myself munch and 340 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:32,359 Speaker 2: my popcorn, And that's what I love doing. 341 00:18:32,680 --> 00:18:35,400 Speaker 1: Those are all really great things to take care of yourself. 342 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 1: But you mentioned something about saying no. I remember you 343 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:42,760 Speaker 1: talking about the power of saying no before and it 344 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:46,920 Speaker 1: being such a stress reliever. So tell us about the 345 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:50,080 Speaker 1: power of no, because it has been a difficult thing 346 00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 1: for me to learn over the years too. 347 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, because I would get stressed out because I 348 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:57,200 Speaker 2: say yes all the time because I had this thing 349 00:18:57,280 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 2: of you know, I wanted people to like me. I 350 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:01,199 Speaker 2: don't want to be would be mad at me, so 351 00:19:01,280 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 2: I'll say yes, And what that was doing was putting 352 00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:07,240 Speaker 2: a lot of stress on me. And then I would 353 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:10,800 Speaker 2: resent that I said yes, but you can't. It's easier, 354 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:13,840 Speaker 2: my pastor said one time, it's easier to change a 355 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:16,199 Speaker 2: no into a yes, but it's hard to change it 356 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:19,120 Speaker 2: yes into a no. And then I was like, ah, 357 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:20,919 Speaker 2: now I got to do it, and I tell this 358 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:23,840 Speaker 2: person yes, and it was getting stressful and I said Cheer. 359 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 2: You gotta put up boundaries because a lot of times 360 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:28,040 Speaker 2: when you say no, the person will figure out how 361 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:30,840 Speaker 2: to get it done. We keep thinking, oh, the world's 362 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 2: gonna fall apart if we don't say yes, but literally, 363 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:38,720 Speaker 2: the world keeps moving, and so does your frustration. And 364 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,959 Speaker 2: when you say yes too much, you get sick. It 365 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:44,399 Speaker 2: even says when the plane, if something happens to the plane, 366 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:47,840 Speaker 2: pull that oxygen mask down and take care of yourself first, 367 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:50,879 Speaker 2: because if you're not full, you can't take care of anybody. 368 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:54,360 Speaker 2: And I had to start saying no. I started out 369 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:57,480 Speaker 2: going no, I'm sorry, No, you know I had to 370 00:19:57,520 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 2: do this, and I'd run down everything why I couldn't 371 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:05,199 Speaker 2: say yes Now, Jenny, especially at this age, I'm like, Nah, Nope, 372 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 2: you can't do it. It don't work for me. I 373 00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,439 Speaker 2: know I could loan it to you. I know I 374 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:12,360 Speaker 2: got the money to loan it to it. No, you're 375 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 2: not getting it. I have turned into that untie. 376 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:19,120 Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, because it sounds scary to say 377 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 1: no to people. 378 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 2: I tell young ladies to stand in front of the 379 00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:27,680 Speaker 2: mirror and practice saying no. Practice five ways to say no. 380 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 2: No that doesn't work for me. No, but maybe somebody 381 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:35,399 Speaker 2: else can do that. No, maybe at a different time. No, 382 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:39,160 Speaker 2: maybe we can go out next week. No, just practice it. 383 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:41,160 Speaker 2: It's got it. You got to just start speaking it 384 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:45,680 Speaker 2: and saying it. Everything goes where the energy flows is 385 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 2: where it goes. So and I've practiced saying no. Now 386 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:52,720 Speaker 2: I'm at the point where I go, no, can you 387 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 2: do this on No? No? No? No am my off day? No. 388 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 1: No, I'm gonna try this this technique. I think we 389 00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,200 Speaker 1: should all try this. Let's try all try to say 390 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,960 Speaker 1: no to ourselves in five different ways. In the mirror. 391 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 2: I'm telling you no now, I say no, Nuka n it. However, 392 00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:10,840 Speaker 2: I'll say it every night. No. Uh. 393 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,679 Speaker 1: Saying no is the ultimate ews me moment. 394 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 2: I think that's it. And you gotta let go of 395 00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:21,720 Speaker 2: people thinking you're selfish or you don't care. But it's 396 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 2: just like to preserve my sanity and my mental health. 397 00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 2: I can't take all of that on, and I refuse 398 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 2: to do it now. Life is too short. I can't 399 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,160 Speaker 2: remember half the stuff I say yes to, So if 400 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:38,440 Speaker 2: I say no, then I can always go back and 401 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:41,960 Speaker 2: go you know what, Maybe we can't, but I'll stop 402 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 2: myself from doing that. Too, I'll let my no be no. 403 00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:55,120 Speaker 1: You made an incredible I choose me moment. I think 404 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:56,959 Speaker 1: it was like over a year ago and you decided 405 00:21:57,040 --> 00:22:01,879 Speaker 1: to get your breast reduction that you shared about that. 406 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: It was so powerful because I think so many women 407 00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,400 Speaker 1: would probably be really afraid to have that done. 408 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:12,199 Speaker 2: I did it. I've always said, you know, this is 409 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,679 Speaker 2: what God gave me, So if he gave it to me, 410 00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:19,520 Speaker 2: why would I cut them? But what happened was it 411 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:23,679 Speaker 2: started affecting my body, like they were so heavy, Like 412 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,520 Speaker 2: I came out of the womb. Every woman in my life, 413 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,200 Speaker 2: we all came out of the womb as a forty 414 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:32,920 Speaker 2: two double D that runs in my family. I don't 415 00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 2: have hips in a butt. I got boobs. And what 416 00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 2: was happening was as I got older, they were so heavy, 417 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 2: and I would find myself interviewing people like leaning over 418 00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:48,399 Speaker 2: because it was so heavy. I tore a part of 419 00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 2: my rotator cuff, and my chiropractice said, you probably want 420 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 2: to think about a breast reduction because you're carrying all 421 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:58,160 Speaker 2: of that and it's affecting your rotator cuff. And then 422 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:00,760 Speaker 2: I was getting grooves in my shoulders from my bra 423 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:04,760 Speaker 2: They were starting, you know, when I was in my thirties, 424 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,520 Speaker 2: my twenties having these big boobs. Oh, they were sitting 425 00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,480 Speaker 2: up front of my chin. After a while, they started 426 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,359 Speaker 2: looking like I was going to church. I call them 427 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,080 Speaker 2: church lady booth. It was sitting on my knees and 428 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,399 Speaker 2: it was just like I could you know everything. It 429 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 2: just took too long to find something to wear. I 430 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:22,920 Speaker 2: think somebody made a joke at a comedy club because 431 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 2: they knew me, and they said, Sherry's boobs are so big. 432 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,400 Speaker 2: She's got like a credit card slide, like you could 433 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:31,160 Speaker 2: slide a credit card all the way through. And I'm 434 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,840 Speaker 2: a comic, I can take a lot. I laughed, but 435 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,200 Speaker 2: I said, I'm just tired. I think that. I asked 436 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 2: a lot of other people who got breast reductions, and 437 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 2: I said, I think my little girl's my best friends. 438 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,800 Speaker 2: They've always been my best friends. It's time to say bye. 439 00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:51,679 Speaker 2: And I did a lot of research and I found 440 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:57,280 Speaker 2: my lady doctor. She was like amazing and she answered 441 00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 2: all my questions. And when I went under, I just said, 442 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,439 Speaker 2: when I go under, you bring me back because I 443 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 2: have a son. Because I think, you know, as we 444 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:08,639 Speaker 2: get older, going under scares a heck out of us, 445 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,440 Speaker 2: cause I don't know if my heart is gonna skip 446 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,919 Speaker 2: an extra beat or And I just said to her, 447 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:14,320 Speaker 2: I looked her in our eyes and I said, I 448 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,440 Speaker 2: am a mother and I have a child, and when 449 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,760 Speaker 2: I go under, I need you to bring me back. 450 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 2: And she was like, okay, Sherry, I do three thousand 451 00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,159 Speaker 2: of these where you think you're going. I was like, 452 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,000 Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm just saying I don't need to 453 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:32,680 Speaker 2: be nobody named Peter, Paul, John or Luke. What I'm saying. No. 454 00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 2: So they did reduce them, and it just feels so 455 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 2: much better, like it's lightness. I wish I had done 456 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,760 Speaker 2: it years ago. I tell people that it's so great. Girl. 457 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,440 Speaker 2: My areola is it's like a quarter. Used to be 458 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:50,919 Speaker 2: like a big used to like a big pancake. Now 459 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,600 Speaker 2: it's like a little quarter. It's nice. 460 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:55,520 Speaker 1: I got that's quarter size. 461 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:59,200 Speaker 2: Good for you, nice quarter size. And she says, you 462 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,479 Speaker 2: know you'll have a look little scar. And I said, look, 463 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:03,639 Speaker 2: if a man can't take a scar at this age, 464 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 2: I don't need them. I'm fine. 465 00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:06,359 Speaker 1: Oh h, that's good. 466 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:07,560 Speaker 2: I like you. 467 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:09,240 Speaker 1: You love your scars. That's good. 468 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,320 Speaker 2: I love them. These cars made a lot. 469 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 1: I think by you sharing all this and talking about 470 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:15,880 Speaker 1: it on your show and everything like there's I think 471 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 1: it helps so many people. I know, when I talked 472 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:21,160 Speaker 1: about like when I got my hips replaced and I 473 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:25,000 Speaker 1: shared that story, so many people just came out of 474 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:28,320 Speaker 1: nowhere and wanted to talk about their problems with their 475 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:31,400 Speaker 1: hips and how fearful they were of getting a surgery. 476 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,040 Speaker 1: So I think just you know, talking about it is 477 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 1: so powerful. 478 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:39,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, of taking the fear out of it, you know, 479 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:43,479 Speaker 2: of having it done. And I think that's It's just 480 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:45,840 Speaker 2: you have a lot of women who've had to have 481 00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,919 Speaker 2: that done and they feel a little shame at talking 482 00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,040 Speaker 2: about it. But it's something so natural. We all it's 483 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,200 Speaker 2: a circle of life that we go through. Things happen, 484 00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,200 Speaker 2: and it's just like, you know, our bodies have done 485 00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 2: so much for us, but sometimes we got to help 486 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:04,440 Speaker 2: them out, yep, to even be better, to live more 487 00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,840 Speaker 2: to you know, I talk about having diabetes all the time. 488 00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:10,520 Speaker 2: Some people say it's not really sexy. Well, I'm not 489 00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:11,880 Speaker 2: trying to be sexy. I'm trying to live. 490 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, my priorities are a little different, things a. 491 00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,680 Speaker 2: Little different, you know. Yeah, I'm not going. My goal 492 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,960 Speaker 2: is not to fit into a bikini, but my goal 493 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,640 Speaker 2: is lived to be able to go to the beach 494 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 2: and be healthy. 495 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:27,520 Speaker 1: Feel comfortable. Because you work out like a fiend. I've 496 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 1: seen you. We both work out. I've seen your workouts 497 00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: online and you just are such a hard worker. What 498 00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 1: time do you get up to go to the gym. 499 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:38,359 Speaker 2: I get up at four forty five in the morning. 500 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:40,720 Speaker 2: I have to be at the gym. My gym is 501 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,960 Speaker 2: thirty minutes away, so I have to be there at 502 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,960 Speaker 2: six in the morning, and it takes me thirty minutes 503 00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:48,040 Speaker 2: to get there. So I'm there six from six to seven, 504 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:50,119 Speaker 2: and then I go straight to work and I literally 505 00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:53,520 Speaker 2: genmy My goal was, I said, I want working out 506 00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 2: to be like breathing, like I want to. I want 507 00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:59,440 Speaker 2: to if I miss a class, I want to like 508 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,480 Speaker 2: be your to go. And I had to so I 509 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 2: had to change the language. So I would go to 510 00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 2: the gym and make these videos about oh I hate going, 511 00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 2: but I went and I said, I got to stop that, 512 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 2: So I started changing my language going. I love getting 513 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,399 Speaker 2: the chance to take care of me and thank you 514 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,760 Speaker 2: Lord that you're giving me this opportunity for another chance 515 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,639 Speaker 2: at life and health. And I love how I'm gonna 516 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 2: feel after I'm lifting these weights she wants me to 517 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:30,840 Speaker 2: do fifteen. I love that my body is just like 518 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 2: taking to this. I kept saying, I love going to 519 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,520 Speaker 2: the gym, even when I didn't feel like it. 520 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,359 Speaker 1: This is so good, this is so good. So changing 521 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:43,280 Speaker 1: the dialogue, changing how you speak to certain things, make sure. 522 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 2: Changing how you speak to certain things, and it has worked. 523 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 2: I do love going to the gym. Now that's hard, 524 00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 2: but I just keep going, Cherry, this is gonna be 525 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,160 Speaker 2: some fun because your body is gonna thank you. You're 526 00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:56,639 Speaker 2: gonna feel confident, you're gonna be so when I would 527 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 2: go and do the show, I feel so good because 528 00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,120 Speaker 2: I even felt like I would say to myself, your 529 00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:04,720 Speaker 2: body is like leaner. My stomach still look the same. 530 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:06,679 Speaker 2: I was like, okay, but it looked leaner. 531 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:10,560 Speaker 1: But you feel strong from within though I feel strong. 532 00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,879 Speaker 1: That's so good, that's so inspirational. Four forty five. Jeez, 533 00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:19,600 Speaker 1: I get up at six am to be there at 534 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:23,160 Speaker 1: seven and my gym is thirty minutes away too. We're nuts. 535 00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,200 Speaker 1: Why don't we just go to like the local gym 536 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:26,040 Speaker 1: down the street. 537 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:28,679 Speaker 2: I don't know. I think by showing you know. And 538 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 2: sometimes I take the train to my gym. I think 539 00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,560 Speaker 2: that it requires me to show up. If it was close, 540 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 2: I could give them an excuse, Oh something happened, ba 541 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:42,960 Speaker 2: ba boh. But this, it shows thirty minutes away shows 542 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 2: your commitment. You're committed to going because you gotta go far. 543 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,760 Speaker 2: It takes. If I take a ob back, it takes 544 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,320 Speaker 2: me forty five minutes to get home, and I fall asleep. 545 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:56,120 Speaker 2: If I'm not working, I go to sleep in the uber. 546 00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:59,520 Speaker 2: I'm so tired. But I think it helps me keep 547 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,000 Speaker 2: my amitment. And I go to a woman she's Moroccan 548 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 2: and she don't play, and she let me know my 549 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:08,960 Speaker 2: time is valuable, so call in more than three times. 550 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:11,200 Speaker 2: And you got to find another trainer that keeps me 551 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:11,960 Speaker 2: on my feet too. 552 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: That's good. Yeah, she's not taking. 553 00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:15,680 Speaker 2: But I get up so early because I like to 554 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:18,160 Speaker 2: get it out of the weight. Like if I got 555 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:20,520 Speaker 2: to go at three o'clock with hair a wig on 556 00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:23,120 Speaker 2: and makeup on and lashes, I'm not going to do it. 557 00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 1: No, no, no, it has to be the first thing 558 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 1: for me to It. 559 00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 2: Has to be first thing. But you feel I tell 560 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 2: people you've never you don't feel bad going after you 561 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 2: leave that gym. You don't feel bad that you win, No, 562 00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,560 Speaker 2: and know that the end result is you feel It 563 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:42,959 Speaker 2: feels so good and being in this season lifting weights 564 00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,480 Speaker 2: is really really important for our bodies. I think a 565 00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:48,440 Speaker 2: lot of women don't understand our bones break down as 566 00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 2: we get older, we start slouching. That's when you know, 567 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 2: when you fall and you break your hip, or you 568 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,600 Speaker 2: fall and you break your wrist. You sprain your wrist 569 00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 2: trying to catch your with like, we have to now 570 00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 2: lift weights to keep our balance. So many benefits from listening, 571 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:06,920 Speaker 2: from going to the gym period. 572 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:11,760 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, anything moving your body moving anyway, it's good. 573 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 1: Like we can all be like Sherry and give ourselves 574 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: that appointment first thing in the morning. I think that's 575 00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:20,200 Speaker 1: that's gonna help a lot. 576 00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. Walking, I love walking, Jenny. I walked four miles 577 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:26,000 Speaker 2: the other day. My butt cheek froze up. That left 578 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:27,360 Speaker 2: butt cheek was frozen. 579 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 1: Wait were you flexing as you were walking? 580 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,760 Speaker 2: I don't know what I was doing. I usually do 581 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,280 Speaker 2: two miles. I can do one of two miles, but 582 00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:35,720 Speaker 2: I did four because I was like, well, let me 583 00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:37,320 Speaker 2: see if I could go a little further. Let me 584 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:38,920 Speaker 2: see if I go a little further. And my butt 585 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,840 Speaker 2: cheek was like, no, go home. But I did it. 586 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:45,240 Speaker 2: I did it. I was so happy. I love walking 587 00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,640 Speaker 2: by myself. I used to take Jeffrey with me when 588 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:49,960 Speaker 2: I walk, but he complained so much, how long we 589 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:53,680 Speaker 2: gotta walk when we're gonna be done. It takes all 590 00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,160 Speaker 2: the fun out of it. So I walked by myself 591 00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,720 Speaker 2: with only I walked with one ear butt in so 592 00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 2: I can hear everything else is going on on and 593 00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,840 Speaker 2: I just walk, and I my creative stuff comes. I 594 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:09,480 Speaker 2: get to think about things. I love walking. Yeah, that 595 00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 2: four miles almost took me out. That four miles. 596 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:12,920 Speaker 1: Whoo. 597 00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:13,640 Speaker 2: It's a good thing. 598 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:15,040 Speaker 1: You listen to your butt cheek. 599 00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 2: I listened to my I always listen to my butt cheeks. 600 00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,920 Speaker 2: They would never let me lead me astray. 601 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:22,680 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. When I was on your show, we 602 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:26,880 Speaker 1: talked about communicating with our exes, and you made me 603 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,400 Speaker 1: laugh because. 604 00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:31,640 Speaker 2: You've got a great relationship with yours. 605 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:37,400 Speaker 1: I mean it took a while, it took a good minute. Girl, 606 00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:40,160 Speaker 1: But what what what's going on with you at this 607 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:44,160 Speaker 1: point in your life? Like, are you open to dating. 608 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 1: Are you dating? Are you going to find him husband? 609 00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:47,640 Speaker 1: Are you put on your own? 610 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:53,120 Speaker 2: That's the best option I am right now. My wish 611 00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,600 Speaker 2: is that Jeffrey Zaid and I could have a good relationship. 612 00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,680 Speaker 2: At the at the moment, it's not there. We communicate 613 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:03,640 Speaker 2: by which is kind of hard to do, but that's 614 00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:07,440 Speaker 2: the way it works, you know. So I would love 615 00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:10,840 Speaker 2: like you are squad goals for me. With that said, 616 00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:14,040 Speaker 2: like with dating, at this I'm very open to marriage. 617 00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:18,480 Speaker 2: I think marriage is an amazing and amazing thing, and 618 00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 2: you know, it's nice to know you can depend on 619 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:26,160 Speaker 2: your mate. But I've gone through two very public marriages 620 00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:31,400 Speaker 2: and two very public divorces, and I have for me 621 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:37,400 Speaker 2: and nobody else. I lost everything in my first marriage 622 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:39,520 Speaker 2: because I did not have a pre nup And when 623 00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:43,600 Speaker 2: I say everything I was doing, the view broke, like 624 00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:47,440 Speaker 2: all my money was going to pay expenses for living 625 00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:50,360 Speaker 2: in New York and going to my attorneys. I hosted 626 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,080 Speaker 2: a show called The Newlywag Game, and every check they 627 00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:57,200 Speaker 2: gave me was going to attorneys. So it was awful. 628 00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 2: And then the second marriage, it just it costs so 629 00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:03,960 Speaker 2: much money, even though we had a prenup. That was 630 00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:06,400 Speaker 2: a great thing, but it cost so much money and 631 00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:10,920 Speaker 2: I lost everything again, and so having to build up, 632 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:16,280 Speaker 2: you know, my money, my finances again, to take care 633 00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 2: of a child who has special needs that's therapy every week, 634 00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:24,760 Speaker 2: that's a you know, that's a psychologist, that's he goes 635 00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:28,760 Speaker 2: to a you know, a special school. That's money, and 636 00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 2: to have to build that up again. I just the 637 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:37,600 Speaker 2: marriage is just not something that I'm seeking right now, 638 00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 2: but I'm open to it. So nobody's came to float 639 00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:45,760 Speaker 2: float on my boat. So right now, I like being single. 640 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:49,520 Speaker 2: I like being single and dating. I like being single 641 00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:51,880 Speaker 2: because I had to learn to date. Jenny, I would 642 00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:54,400 Speaker 2: date and get married. Yeah, so I had to work 643 00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:58,240 Speaker 2: with a dating coach and she said, you need to 644 00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:02,040 Speaker 2: date more than one man. And I went clutch my pearls. 645 00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:04,680 Speaker 2: I can't date more than one man. I came up 646 00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:08,360 Speaker 2: in a religion you dated to get married, and she said, no, Sherry, 647 00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,279 Speaker 2: you need to learn how to date, to just go 648 00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:12,719 Speaker 2: on a date and have conversation. You need to learn 649 00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:14,640 Speaker 2: how to date, to just go and have a nice time. 650 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,839 Speaker 2: You need to learn how to date so that if 651 00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:21,480 Speaker 2: you get ghosted by one, you're not putting all your 652 00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:26,000 Speaker 2: eggs in that one basket and love with the first 653 00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:29,360 Speaker 2: one who gives you some affection. You need to be 654 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 2: able to go have a good time and say I 655 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,759 Speaker 2: got another date on Thursday. So all your eggs aren't 656 00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:38,040 Speaker 2: in that one basket. You need to just date and 657 00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,840 Speaker 2: to figure out what you like, who you like, the 658 00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:46,040 Speaker 2: treatment you want. And that's what I started doing, so Jenny. 659 00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:49,120 Speaker 2: One day, whenever I would go to town, a different town 660 00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:52,120 Speaker 2: to do stand up, I'd set up a date and 661 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:54,600 Speaker 2: I went at lane time. I had three dates at 662 00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,560 Speaker 2: a breakfast date, a lunch date, and a dinner date. 663 00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,400 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're such a good student. By the way. 664 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,200 Speaker 2: I went out Now, I was full because everybody took 665 00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:05,959 Speaker 2: me to a restaurant. But it was very interesting because 666 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,239 Speaker 2: the first one he was a sheriff. I met him 667 00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:11,560 Speaker 2: on Instagram. Okay, he was a sheriff. He sent me 668 00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,640 Speaker 2: a DM he said, I'm a I'm a sheriff. Here's 669 00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 2: pictures of me at the at the you know station. 670 00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 2: Can I take you out? I said, Okay, you're not 671 00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,719 Speaker 2: a You're not a stalker or nothing, right? He said no. 672 00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,960 Speaker 2: But we we met in a public place. We went out. 673 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:31,719 Speaker 2: He was very very much the the man's man, so 674 00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:35,399 Speaker 2: he was really jarring to him. So many people came 675 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,680 Speaker 2: up and wanted to autograph or wanted a picture. You know. 676 00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:41,400 Speaker 2: He had made reservations at a restaurant for breakfast, but 677 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:44,640 Speaker 2: it wasn't open. So there was another restaurant, and he says, oh, 678 00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:48,200 Speaker 2: that's not open. But I happened to know Candy Burris 679 00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,560 Speaker 2: who owned She owned the restaurant, and I'm like, I 680 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:54,000 Speaker 2: don't want to like, I don't want them to think 681 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,880 Speaker 2: that I'm usurping or but I texted her and I 682 00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:59,000 Speaker 2: was like, I'm outside. So he's like, we got to 683 00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,160 Speaker 2: go somewhere else because this is not open. And they 684 00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:02,960 Speaker 2: came and they they opened it up for us. That 685 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,400 Speaker 2: was a little bit much for him. Yeah, then he 686 00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:10,480 Speaker 2: you know, he smoked cigars. He was gorgeous. But I 687 00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:12,319 Speaker 2: was like, you know what, this is not working. So 688 00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,399 Speaker 2: but I got a lunch date and the lunch day 689 00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:18,960 Speaker 2: was amazing, so much fun. He took me roller skating, 690 00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:22,000 Speaker 2: which I love, so he was very thoughtful. We went 691 00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:25,400 Speaker 2: roller skating and had a great time and he showed 692 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:28,759 Speaker 2: me some moves he taught roller skating. Then I was like, well, 693 00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,799 Speaker 2: that was good, but I have a dinner day tonight. 694 00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,359 Speaker 1: Oh oh my god. 695 00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:35,680 Speaker 2: All this was all on one day and the dinner 696 00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:37,719 Speaker 2: did I want up? Girl? He was gorgeous. He had 697 00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:41,040 Speaker 2: his own business and he built roofs. It was a 698 00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:45,239 Speaker 2: siding business. He built decks and muscles and whoa. He 699 00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:48,840 Speaker 2: was gorgeous. But he was used to being the gorgeous 700 00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,680 Speaker 2: one and getting all the attention, so he didn't like it. 701 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:54,560 Speaker 2: And I thought that was great. We had a good time. 702 00:36:54,600 --> 00:37:00,160 Speaker 2: He ghosted me, but it was fine when I got ghosted. 703 00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, because you got to learn what works and what 704 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:03,080 Speaker 1: doesn't work. 705 00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:05,200 Speaker 2: What works. But I have three dates and I was like, 706 00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:08,560 Speaker 2: it's okay because I'm going to North Carolina and my 707 00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:10,360 Speaker 2: friends set up a date with somebody else. 708 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:14,000 Speaker 1: This is I love this, Sherry. This is so good. 709 00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:17,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, because before I would date and I'd be you know, 710 00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:18,759 Speaker 2: you day, you have such a great time, and then 711 00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:21,200 Speaker 2: you go home and you're doing curly cues. You know, 712 00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:25,120 Speaker 2: you're writing your name with his last name, you know, 713 00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,920 Speaker 2: mister and missus, and I'd be like in love now 714 00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,920 Speaker 2: I want to get married, and it's like yeah, So 715 00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:37,480 Speaker 2: it was really great dating to see what I liked, 716 00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,080 Speaker 2: and what kind of treatment I liked. I don't want 717 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:43,200 Speaker 2: anybody who smoked cigars, and I'm not settling that sheriff 718 00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:45,840 Speaker 2: smoked cigars. We got into his car and I felt 719 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,600 Speaker 2: like cancer was coming. That's a bad joke. I shouldn't. 720 00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:50,359 Speaker 2: I don't want to offend anybody. But I was like, 721 00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,480 Speaker 2: he smoked so much. 722 00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:53,440 Speaker 1: It just smell. 723 00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:58,360 Speaker 2: It just smells so bad. And I was like, I can't, 724 00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:01,040 Speaker 2: I can't do this, and he was, I hope he's 725 00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,239 Speaker 2: not gonna. I'm not saying I don't want anybody not 726 00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:11,440 Speaker 2: to watch your podcast, Jenny, but he was mudery. So 727 00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:14,480 Speaker 2: dating is, you know, So for me, I like, I 728 00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:17,879 Speaker 2: like dating. I like if there's somebody that I date 729 00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:19,840 Speaker 2: a few times, I like it, and I like and 730 00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,359 Speaker 2: I like not sharing it. I know as a talk 731 00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,080 Speaker 2: show host, I share a lot. But there's some things 732 00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:28,040 Speaker 2: I have learned in the season of my life. You 733 00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:32,000 Speaker 2: have to keep something as special, something that's so special 734 00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:35,160 Speaker 2: that everybody's not in your Sometimes I think we overshare 735 00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:39,080 Speaker 2: so much on social media, and then when it goes south, 736 00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:41,919 Speaker 2: you're scrubbing off the pictures that you had with them. 737 00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:46,800 Speaker 2: You're asking everybody to respect your privacy, but you've opened 738 00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:50,479 Speaker 2: the door. And I like that I get to date 739 00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,879 Speaker 2: because they didn't ask for the fame I did. So 740 00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:56,600 Speaker 2: it's really nice to be able to go out and 741 00:38:56,719 --> 00:39:00,279 Speaker 2: just have a really good time and I don't have 742 00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,520 Speaker 2: to talk about it now, talk about the dates that 743 00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:04,840 Speaker 2: I go on. That there really crazy. But I like 744 00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:06,680 Speaker 2: being able to just state and have a good time. 745 00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,200 Speaker 2: And if there's somebody I meet, hell maybe I'll talk 746 00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:09,719 Speaker 2: about them. 747 00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,160 Speaker 1: If I like him, see what happens. 748 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:13,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 749 00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:17,280 Speaker 1: I always tell my daughters, we'll see. Just think to yourself, 750 00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:18,200 Speaker 1: we'll see. 751 00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,879 Speaker 2: We'll see. That's good. I like that. That's really such 752 00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,440 Speaker 2: a great phrase. We'll see, we'll see. 753 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:27,960 Speaker 1: Okay. I like to ask everybody this Sherry Shepherd, before 754 00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:30,160 Speaker 1: I let you go, what was your last? 755 00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:34,800 Speaker 2: I choose me, moment, my last, I choose me, moment, 756 00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:41,239 Speaker 2: my last, my last, I choose me. Oh, it's so 757 00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:44,640 Speaker 2: much where I say, I choose me. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, 758 00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:50,399 Speaker 2: yeah yeah. I went to a private island. Somebody gave 759 00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:54,200 Speaker 2: me their private island to go and just rest. And 760 00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:57,360 Speaker 2: it was a person that I was seeing and he 761 00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:59,640 Speaker 2: wanted it to go. He wanted to be like, you know, 762 00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:02,440 Speaker 2: we can go and we have a great time and 763 00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:04,200 Speaker 2: we can do this. And I said, you know what, 764 00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:07,960 Speaker 2: I want to invite my friends because I don't want 765 00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:09,640 Speaker 2: to I don't want to be in a romantic thing. 766 00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:14,680 Speaker 2: I want to go to this island, be able to laugh, giggle, 767 00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:16,719 Speaker 2: not have to feel like, Oh, I don't want to 768 00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:18,520 Speaker 2: make you feel like you're not included. I don't want 769 00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:20,520 Speaker 2: to make you feel like you know, I'm being I 770 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,040 Speaker 2: want to be, you know, because I took some of 771 00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,560 Speaker 2: my glam team and I'm bossy with them because it 772 00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:25,000 Speaker 2: worked for me. 773 00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:26,240 Speaker 1: It's free to be yourself. 774 00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:30,120 Speaker 2: I just want to be myself. And these feelings were 775 00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:33,000 Speaker 2: very hurt, and I said, I just I want to 776 00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:36,280 Speaker 2: do a romantic thing. This somebody offered me this private 777 00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:39,320 Speaker 2: island for seven days, and I wanted to be about 778 00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:42,960 Speaker 2: me and the people are brought and I want to 779 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,200 Speaker 2: be silly and I want to be and I want 780 00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:46,839 Speaker 2: to be able to go back to my hotel room 781 00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:50,160 Speaker 2: I'm not well, the villa that was on the island, 782 00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:53,120 Speaker 2: and go to sleep. Yes, I don't want to have 783 00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:56,400 Speaker 2: to worry about, you know, is he having a good time? 784 00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:58,840 Speaker 2: You know? Are you having a Is there anything I 785 00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:00,719 Speaker 2: could do to make you happy. I don't want none 786 00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:02,920 Speaker 2: of that. And I chose me and I don't And 787 00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:07,200 Speaker 2: you know, I was like, and I don't care. I 788 00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:08,880 Speaker 2: want to go and have a good time. And it 789 00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:12,480 Speaker 2: felt great and I had a blast with my friends. 790 00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:15,080 Speaker 1: Oh, I think that might be one of the best 791 00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,560 Speaker 1: I choose me moments I've ever heard of private island 792 00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:18,360 Speaker 1: by yourself. 793 00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,520 Speaker 2: It was a private island and we and had I 794 00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,640 Speaker 2: taken him, everybody would have had a great time with him. 795 00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:28,040 Speaker 2: But what would have been missing is all of the stories, 796 00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:31,239 Speaker 2: Like we really talked about our hopes and our dreams, 797 00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:34,640 Speaker 2: and you know, we stayed up. I one of my 798 00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:39,440 Speaker 2: dearest friends of twenty two years, Like, I went and 799 00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:41,920 Speaker 2: we got in the same bed and we talked and 800 00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:45,319 Speaker 2: giggled like we were schoolgirls. I wouldn't have been able 801 00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:45,719 Speaker 2: to do that. 802 00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:48,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, you just need those trips. 803 00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,920 Speaker 2: You need those trips. I got to bond with my 804 00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:53,560 Speaker 2: sister friends. 805 00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:57,480 Speaker 1: Oh. I love that for you. I love it. I 806 00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,400 Speaker 1: just love talking to you. I could talk to you forever. 807 00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:01,600 Speaker 1: And I want to hear about some of those dates 808 00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:04,160 Speaker 1: going wrong, because those are good. 809 00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:06,879 Speaker 2: You're laughing. I need to write a book. I've had 810 00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:09,680 Speaker 2: some do then I have. Yeah, it's been some. It's 811 00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:13,360 Speaker 2: been some funny ones. It's been some like okay, this 812 00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:15,359 Speaker 2: this is not gonna work all right? Oh you didn't 813 00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:17,319 Speaker 2: tell me there was a Oh there's a you got 814 00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:18,840 Speaker 2: a girlfriend. Didn't know that. 815 00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:22,480 Speaker 1: Little detail you left that little one? 816 00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:24,360 Speaker 2: Now? Oh Hi, who are you? You know? 817 00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:28,439 Speaker 1: Oh my god, so much fun talking to you, Cherm. 818 00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,400 Speaker 1: I'll let you go. I know you're a busy, busy lady. 819 00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:32,480 Speaker 1: And thank you for spending some time with us. 820 00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,320 Speaker 2: Jinny, thank you so much. So when I come to 821 00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:37,440 Speaker 2: when I come to La, we've got to hang out. 822 00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:42,360 Speaker 2: I love you you too, girl. Bye bye bye. 823 00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:46,640 Speaker 1: Jerry is so funny. 824 00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:47,160 Speaker 2: Oh. 825 00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:50,440 Speaker 1: I love when I get to connect with her. She's 826 00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:54,640 Speaker 1: such an inspirational woman. I love what she said about 827 00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:59,319 Speaker 1: saying no. That word is so powerful, and I know, 828 00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:03,080 Speaker 1: after walking away from this conversation, what she said is 829 00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:06,560 Speaker 1: going to stick with me and hopefully empower me to 830 00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:10,840 Speaker 1: say no more. This week, as I choose myself, speaking 831 00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:14,440 Speaker 1: of choosing ourselves, as we continue to do that each week, 832 00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:18,520 Speaker 1: I want to challenge you to making a different first 833 00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:22,560 Speaker 1: choice in your morning. Cherry said she chooses to get 834 00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:25,800 Speaker 1: up at four forty five every morning and drive thirty 835 00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,000 Speaker 1: minutes to the gym. I know a lot of us 836 00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:31,840 Speaker 1: struggle with looking at our phones as soon as we 837 00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:34,200 Speaker 1: open our eyes, but we can do better than that. 838 00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:39,279 Speaker 1: So this week, make a better choice and choose yourself. 839 00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:44,080 Speaker 1: Maybe start with I don't know, letting the sunshine hit 840 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:48,480 Speaker 1: your face, or drink a big glass of cold water, 841 00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,680 Speaker 1: or maybe go on a morning walk with your dog. 842 00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:56,960 Speaker 1: Take those first few moments or even hour of your 843 00:43:57,000 --> 00:44:01,520 Speaker 1: morning to choose yourself. You are worse. Thanks for listening 844 00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:04,080 Speaker 1: to I Choose Me and don't forget. Tickets are on 845 00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:07,920 Speaker 1: sale now for my live summon event happening on January eleventh. 846 00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:10,560 Speaker 1: You can check out all the information along with our 847 00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:15,000 Speaker 1: social links in our show notes, rate and review the podcast, 848 00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:18,719 Speaker 1: and use the hashtag I Choose Me. I will be 849 00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:21,160 Speaker 1: right here next week. I hope you choose to be 850 00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:21,600 Speaker 1: here too,