1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: Have you ever heard of reproductive justice? Yeah, that's like abortions, right. 2 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:09,879 Speaker 2: Well yeah, but there's so much more to it. 3 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: Dehmate Pico. Okay, I'm listening. 4 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 3: Senora, Senora, Senora, Senora, Senora. 5 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 1: S Hi, Senora. 6 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 2: Welcome to Senora sex Ed Senora Sex Said is not 7 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 2: your Mommy sex Talk. This show is la platica like 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:41,560 Speaker 2: you've never heard it before. With each episode, we're breaking 9 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 2: the stigma and silence around sex and sexuality in LATINX communities. 10 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: Latinas have been hyper sexualized in popular culture, but notoriously 11 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 1: denied sex education. This podcast is an intergenerational conversation between 12 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: Latinas from gen X to Gen Z, covering everything from 13 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: puberty and body image to representation in film, television, and music. 14 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 2: Just a reminder that in this show, a Senora is 15 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 2: a woman with a lot of life experiences and stories 16 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 2: to share. Maybe she's in her thirties, maybe she's in 17 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 2: her forties or fifties or older. Maybe she's trans, maybe 18 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 2: she sits. 19 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: We are your hosts and producers, Viosa and Mala. 20 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 2: You might recognize us from our flagship podcast, Lokatra Radio. 21 00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:31,919 Speaker 2: Since twenty sixteen, we've covered all kinds of topics, ranging 22 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 2: from politics, to mental health, current events, and of course sex. 23 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 2: We still have so much to learn, though, and we 24 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 2: hope you listen to each episode with the Senoras and 25 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:51,919 Speaker 2: Senoritas in Your Life, Chapter twenty eight, abortion is Healthcare. 26 00:01:56,720 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 2: In today's episode, we sit down with virgin She is 27 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 2: the daughter of Mexican parents who grew up in the 28 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 2: barrios of northeast Los Angeles. She is a mother, daughter, sister, 29 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 2: and wife who believes in the power of stories to 30 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 2: heal and to liberate. Virginia shares her experience accessing abortion 31 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 2: care at the age of seventeen and later at forty eight. 32 00:02:25,440 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 2: She also shares what sexual education looked like in the 33 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 2: nineteen seventies and how she got involved with California Latinas 34 00:02:34,720 --> 00:02:42,239 Speaker 2: for Reproductive Justice. Here's our interview with Virginia. 35 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 4: It's a wonderful. It's just an honor to be here 36 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:49,080 Speaker 4: and be able to talk about these important issues. Quite 37 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 4: often we don't share in public. 38 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: On Senora Sex said, we love to start by asking 39 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: what did conversations around sex and sexuality look like for 40 00:02:58,320 --> 00:02:59,119 Speaker 1: you growing up. 41 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 4: Well, I think it's important to note my birth year, 42 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:07,080 Speaker 4: So I was born in nineteen sixty two, which was 43 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 4: you know, pre Roe v. Wade. And I was born 44 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 4: to a mother who she wasn't conventional, but she did 45 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 4: have some values about sex and sex before marriage, and 46 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 4: she thought it was really taboo. So she wanted to 47 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 4: educate me about what sex was and menstruation. But I 48 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 4: think she wanted to she really emphasized that sex was 49 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 4: something that occurred in the marriage relationship, and so we 50 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 4: didn't really have conversations about relationships, or about passion, or 51 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 4: about sexuality, or about even pleasure. That I didn't learn until, 52 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 4: I would say, even way in my forties, because those 53 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 4: conversations just were taboo, and so I didn't really feel 54 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 4: comfort with my body until you know, I was or 55 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 4: I already had children, and I started to hang out 56 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 4: with young people who had a different perspective. So people 57 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 4: who were born more in the seventies and eighties had 58 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 4: a more open worldview and a more nuanced understanding about 59 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 4: their sexuality. So I learned a lot from them. 60 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 2: What were some of the things that you learned from them. 61 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 4: About masturbation, about self pleasure, about how it's possible to 62 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 4: self pleasure, which is something I didn't really grow up 63 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 4: learning about I thought that that had to come from 64 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:40,799 Speaker 4: the outside, from external, from another person, and not something 65 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 4: that I could do for myself. So that's what they 66 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 4: taught me. 67 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 1: Do you remember when you learned like about pleasure and masturbation. 68 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: Was there a specific person, a specific moment that comes 69 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: to mind? 70 00:04:54,720 --> 00:05:00,159 Speaker 4: Absolutely. I don't want to name this person, but I 71 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:04,280 Speaker 4: was in a reading group with a bunch of like 72 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 4: twenty something women. I was like the grandmother of the group, 73 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 4: and they had real open conversations about masturbation, about vibrators, 74 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 4: about self pleasure. And this was probably ten ten years ago, 75 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 4: and it had a huge impact on me after that. 76 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 2: Based on your experience growing up and the information your 77 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 2: mother gave you, and maybe any sex that you learned 78 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 2: in school or from friends, did you approach your first 79 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 2: sexual experience with an understanding that pleasure with something that 80 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:44,839 Speaker 2: you deserved and should receive. 81 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:50,040 Speaker 4: Not at all. No, I didn't really. I wasn't really 82 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 4: interested in sex until maybe in my early twenties. Although 83 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:59,159 Speaker 4: I did have my search sexual experience when I was seventeen, 84 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:03,480 Speaker 4: but it was be from peer pressure. It was because 85 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 4: everybody was having sex and I felt like I had to, 86 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 4: Like Mark, that box. But it's not like I was 87 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 4: having these you know, sensations that I wanted to or 88 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 4: or really a strong desire to. So I can't say 89 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:22,119 Speaker 4: that it was a pot I really cared about the person, 90 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 4: but I can't say that it was pleasurable. And that 91 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,359 Speaker 4: didn't come until I was a bit older and I 92 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:33,719 Speaker 4: started to learn a little bit more about asking for 93 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:38,480 Speaker 4: what I needed and what I wanted. So that came 94 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 4: with time and came with you know, each relationship and 95 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 4: each experience. But that that, I mean, I just can't 96 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 4: emphasize enough, you know, the self part of it, because 97 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 4: we don't think. We grow up thinking that it has 98 00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 4: to come from someone else has to give us something 99 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:59,160 Speaker 4: and we have to give them something, and we don't. 100 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 4: We don't learn that there are things we can do 101 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 4: for ourselves that are really important and worthy and valuable 102 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 4: and satisfying. 103 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: Can you just describe what you have here in front 104 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: of us, and like where it came from. 105 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 4: So my mother, she's a huge fan of Anne Landers, 106 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 4: and so she gave us I have two sisters, so 107 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 4: these were used by my oldest sister and me, and 108 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 4: then my younger sister. She gave advice about all sorts 109 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 4: of issues and problems people were having, and my mom 110 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 4: really looked to her because she was wise enough to 111 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 4: know she didn't want to replicate what her mother had 112 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 4: taught her, and so she looked to who was popular 113 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 4: at the time to give advice. And so she gave 114 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 4: me something called teenage Sex and ten Ways to Cool It. 115 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 4: And I just realized that she was preaching abstinence, you know, 116 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 4: and looking back at this, it was published in nineteen 117 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 4: sixty five, and looking back at it, I can see 118 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 4: that she was trying to teach me how to control 119 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 4: myself and how not to feel, you know, all my 120 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 4: emotions and all my desires. And my mother saved these booklets. 121 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 4: When I helped her clean out her garage. She we 122 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 4: came upon these, and I decided to keep them because 123 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 4: they're such a marker of a time period that honestly, 124 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 4: I thought had passed. But now I feel like, you know, 125 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:31,560 Speaker 4: people want to take us back to this period where 126 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:37,080 Speaker 4: we are, where our sexuality is repressed. 127 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 2: We hope you're enjoying this conversation. Stay tuned. There's more 128 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 2: to come. 129 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 1: And we're back. We hope you enjoyed the break and 130 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:52,959 Speaker 1: are ready to listen to the rest. 131 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:58,679 Speaker 2: So how did you get involved with working with c LRJ, 132 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 2: the California Latinus for Reproductive Justice and what does your 133 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 2: work look like now with them. 134 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 4: I got involved with the California Latinas for Reproductive Justice 135 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 4: when I was working on the documentary film No Mas Bevez. 136 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 4: We were looking for an organizational partner who could inform 137 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:20,719 Speaker 4: us about the topics we were addressing and perhaps use 138 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 4: the film for the work that they were doing to 139 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 4: promote bodily autonomy. We were also interested in looking at 140 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 4: because the film looks at the unwanted for sterilizations of 141 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,199 Speaker 4: Mexican women at the La County Hospital in the nineteen seventies, 142 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:38,679 Speaker 4: and we were looking to put this history, this tragic history, 143 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:42,439 Speaker 4: in the reproductive justice framework that cier l r J 144 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 4: advocates for. So the idea that you want to protect 145 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 4: women's right to terminate a pregnancy at the same time 146 00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 4: protect their right to have as many children as they 147 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:52,480 Speaker 4: want to and to have them in a safe and 148 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 4: healthy environment amazing. 149 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: And Nomas Bevez was a big deal when it came out, 150 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:03,560 Speaker 1: and I think it was very groundbreaking diving into that 151 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 1: history that unless you maybe like study Chicano Studies or 152 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: you're from La May. You may have never heard about 153 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: the sterilization program that took place here in California. What 154 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 1: was your role in the documentary and how did it 155 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 1: come to be. 156 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 4: I learned about that case even though I grew up 157 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 4: in La born and raised in Los Angeles. I learned 158 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 4: about the case when I was a graduate student and 159 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 4: I was working with doctor Vicki Deuis, who is a 160 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 4: Chicano historian, and she taught that history. So I wanted 161 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 4: to learn more about it because I was so appalled 162 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 4: and angered that the county hospital is two miles from 163 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 4: where I live, and I had not learned about all 164 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 4: the activism around this. I was definitely appalled about the 165 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 4: abuse and the violation, but also about not learning of 166 00:10:55,840 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 4: the heroism that the women who challenged the hospital engaged 167 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 4: in their heroism, their activism, their bravery, and then the 168 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,760 Speaker 4: chic got a feminists who were a part of it. 169 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:13,320 Speaker 4: Was really a dynamic history. But I wasn't satisfied with 170 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:15,959 Speaker 4: just writing about it. I was really wanted. I really 171 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:18,719 Speaker 4: wanted to bring this history to a wider public, and 172 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 4: just by luck, I live very close to the director 173 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 4: Rene Tajimapenya and just by luck, we both had two 174 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:31,719 Speaker 4: young babies we were taking care of, so we met 175 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 4: because of our kids and we would organize play dates 176 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 4: and then talk about our work and what we hope 177 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 4: to do once our kids were a little bit older. 178 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 4: So she said, this would make an amazing documentary, and 179 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 4: that's how I got involved in making the film. 180 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:49,080 Speaker 2: I love that that's such a great detail that it 181 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:53,440 Speaker 2: was like working mothers and how y'all connected in that way. 182 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 2: How does your personal story connect to CLRJ and your 183 00:11:58,080 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 2: role there. 184 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 4: One of the questions we asked whenever we get together 185 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 4: with our board members or with staff for our retreats 186 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:11,880 Speaker 4: is like, how did you come to RJ? What's your 187 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 4: understanding of RJ? And a lot of us come to 188 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 4: these issues not from a theoretical perspective, but actually from 189 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 4: experiencing something. And in my case, I learned about abortion 190 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:30,559 Speaker 4: in when my best friend from high school got pregnant 191 00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 4: and she definitely did not want to have children. She 192 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:39,080 Speaker 4: was only fifteen and her mother was very much a 193 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 4: fundamentalist Christian and she was so terrified that her mother 194 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 4: would just I don't know what she was afraid of. 195 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 4: Because it was really nice, but she didn't want to 196 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 4: hurt her mother, I guess, And so we had a 197 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 4: network of women who just helped us figure out how 198 00:12:56,480 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 4: she could get pregnant, I mean, how she could terminate 199 00:12:59,040 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 4: that pregnancy. We had a network of women who could 200 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 4: figure out where she could get the money, who would 201 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:08,000 Speaker 4: give her a ride, who would pick her up where 202 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:11,840 Speaker 4: she would go, and it was so beautiful and so easy, 203 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:16,000 Speaker 4: and it was just something that taught me about community 204 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:20,320 Speaker 4: and about how we don't always need our mothers to 205 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:24,840 Speaker 4: help us out in situations like that, and that there's 206 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 4: other people who are going to help us. And then 207 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 4: so that changed my perspective. I was probably anti abortion 208 00:13:32,920 --> 00:13:38,440 Speaker 4: before then because I believed that the rhetoric about murder 209 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 4: that is a person, and I had to educate myself 210 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,880 Speaker 4: and re educate myself about it. I had an abortion 211 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:47,720 Speaker 4: when I was seventeen, and then I had another abortion 212 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 4: when I was forty eight, So both times I just 213 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:53,600 Speaker 4: didn't want to have a child. 214 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:58,320 Speaker 1: And at the top of the interview, you described that 215 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:02,640 Speaker 1: your first sexual sperience as coming about because of peer pressure. 216 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 1: So I'm wondering, like the did you feel pressure to 217 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: have the abortion to keep it where they're outside influences 218 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: in that decision as well. 219 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:19,000 Speaker 4: You know, it's really interesting because we talked about our 220 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:23,960 Speaker 4: sexual experiences, but we never talked about controlling our like 221 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 4: finding a way to control to use birth control, finding 222 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:30,000 Speaker 4: birth control. Nobody was having that conversation. You know, we 223 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 4: were talking. They were talking about positions and where to 224 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 4: do it, and you know, all of these all of 225 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 4: this information, but not like how do you prevent a pregnancy? 226 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:41,120 Speaker 4: And so I got pregnant pretty quickly after the first 227 00:14:41,160 --> 00:14:46,880 Speaker 4: time I had sex, and I, I guess for the 228 00:14:46,920 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 4: same reasons my friend had an abortion. I was terrified 229 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 4: of my parents and what they would say, and I 230 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 4: didn't want to embarrass myself. I didn't want to embarrass them. 231 00:14:56,600 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 4: And I also did not want to be a mother. 232 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:01,760 Speaker 4: At that time, I was not headed to college. I 233 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,240 Speaker 4: had just graduated from high school. I didn't know what 234 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,960 Speaker 4: I was going to do with my life, and I 235 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 4: wasn't really in love with my boyfriend in that way 236 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 4: to make that kind of commitment like let's have a 237 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:17,240 Speaker 4: kid and it's I didn't feel that, and I didn't 238 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 4: feel pressure to have a baby. No, And I think 239 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:23,320 Speaker 4: my friend's experience taught me that you can go on 240 00:15:23,400 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 4: and have a happy life after an abortion. It's possible. 241 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:31,200 Speaker 2: I love that. I love that you said that. What 242 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 2: was your experience the same wherein you knew who to 243 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:38,200 Speaker 2: call and there was like a community and network of 244 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 2: women mobilizing. Did you also have that same experience. 245 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 4: Exact same experience, except I went with my boyfriend took me. 246 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:48,240 Speaker 4: He was driving, he had a car, so he went 247 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:51,560 Speaker 4: with me. But I did go to the same place 248 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 4: where we got public assistance, so I didn't have to, 249 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:56,880 Speaker 4: you know, get money from my parents or use my 250 00:15:56,880 --> 00:16:02,040 Speaker 4: health insurance. And I believe I went to the ex 251 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:05,560 Speaker 4: exact same clinic that she went to where she had hers. 252 00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 2: How was it similar or different in when you had 253 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 2: it later in life? 254 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:14,960 Speaker 4: Oh gosh, my doctor told me, she said, when we 255 00:16:14,960 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 4: were preparing when I found out I was pregnant, I 256 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:20,360 Speaker 4: knew right away I didn't want to keep it, and 257 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 4: my doctor said, okay, well you can go here, but 258 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 4: I just want you to know that there are probably 259 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 4: going to be protesters out in front. And that didn't 260 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 4: happen in the seventies. There were no protesters, There were 261 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 4: no people screaming at you. And this is you know, 262 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:39,560 Speaker 4: I had my abortion in Glendale, and that's not an 263 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 4: I mean, it's Glendale's kind of conservative, I guess, but 264 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 4: it's not. It's California. It's not a place where there 265 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 4: are a lot of anti abortion people. There's a lot 266 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 4: of people who are who advocate for the right to 267 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 4: terminate a pregnancy. And there were people yelling, and there 268 00:16:56,880 --> 00:17:02,440 Speaker 4: were people with large posters of fetuses, bloody fetuses, And 269 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 4: it was really a painful experience because my parents took me. 270 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 4: My husband was living, he was working in Oregon, he 271 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 4: was working in a different state, and I didn't really 272 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:16,520 Speaker 4: want to share it with a lot of people. I 273 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:20,640 Speaker 4: was a little embarrassed, you know, getting pregnant at forty eight, 274 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 4: knowing what I know, you know, being educated, knowing about 275 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:29,720 Speaker 4: birth control. I was a little embarrassed. And so my 276 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 4: parents took me, and they were very uncomfortable because they 277 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:37,480 Speaker 4: they don't know where they stand on the issue, because 278 00:17:37,520 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 4: of their Catholicism. And it wasn't a pleasant experience. It 279 00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:43,879 Speaker 4: wasn't like going to a place where someone's going to 280 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 4: take care of you and nurture you and hold your 281 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:51,199 Speaker 4: hand and comfort you. It was very clinical, and then 282 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 4: they they made an error. They didn't clean me out completely, 283 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:59,320 Speaker 4: so it was just a really bad experience. I honestly 284 00:17:59,320 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 4: had a better experien when I was seventeen than I 285 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:03,640 Speaker 4: did when I was forty eight. 286 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:07,880 Speaker 1: This is really fascinating. So both from personal experience, first 287 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:11,439 Speaker 1: person observation, and all the work that you've done in 288 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:15,719 Speaker 1: the space, do you think we've made progress in this area? 289 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 4: I feel like we are. Because of the anti movement, 290 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:28,480 Speaker 4: doctors are afraid to perform this service, and what I 291 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 4: learned with the film is that medical schools do not 292 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:37,520 Speaker 4: teach their students how to perform an abortion. They have 293 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 4: to ask for it or advocate it. It's not something 294 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:44,560 Speaker 4: that's on the curriculum, So you don't have enough people 295 00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:49,200 Speaker 4: actually providing the service, and there's so much stigma around 296 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:53,040 Speaker 4: it that it's almost I feel like I feel like 297 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 4: that abortion I had was kind of similar to a 298 00:18:56,359 --> 00:19:03,919 Speaker 4: back alley abortion because it was not in a very 299 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:07,919 Speaker 4: it was in a kind of a rundown facility. And 300 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:11,879 Speaker 4: even though I have really good insurance, I feel like 301 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:16,399 Speaker 4: we're not celebrating this as part of our reproductive health 302 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 4: or part of our If you have a vagina, part 303 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:22,280 Speaker 4: of the health for those people who have a vagina, 304 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:26,919 Speaker 4: it's not part of our It's not seen as something 305 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 4: that's just a part of who we are, like getting 306 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:31,439 Speaker 4: a mammogram. 307 00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 1: Do you think that some of the shame attached to 308 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:41,199 Speaker 1: abortion is coming from these external factors as opposed to 309 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:44,000 Speaker 1: like a true, genuine internal feeling. 310 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:47,160 Speaker 4: The shame that I had, or just. 311 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:50,919 Speaker 1: In general when people feel that about getting this procedure done. 312 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:53,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, because we don't have enough. I feel like we 313 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 4: don't have enough advocates. And I can understand why people 314 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:00,480 Speaker 4: have been killed for performing abortions. People are going to 315 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 4: jail now for performing abortions. So I can see how 316 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:09,199 Speaker 4: people or doctors, medical professionals are not out there advocating 317 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:12,919 Speaker 4: for this and publicizing that they do it. But we 318 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 4: really need that, We really need to destigmatize how we 319 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 4: see it, and we need to make it safe for 320 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:25,359 Speaker 4: people to have this service. I know that the film 321 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 4: in the film in the mas Babs, we feature the 322 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 4: whistle blowing doctor, doctor Bernard Rosenfeldt, who alerted the public 323 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:34,920 Speaker 4: to what was taking place at the La County Hospital. 324 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:37,880 Speaker 4: He's still I'm not sure if he can legally now, 325 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 4: but he was performing abortions when we were when we 326 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 4: interviewed him, So he's like one of the few doctors 327 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:48,200 Speaker 4: who was still doing that because it can be dangerous 328 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:50,400 Speaker 4: in some places, and now it's illegal. 329 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 2: My follow up question for you is about this decision 330 00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 2: that you made at forty eight, because there's I think 331 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,800 Speaker 2: this image that we have of who receives an abortion, 332 00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:05,520 Speaker 2: maybe a young girl, a teenager, but I think the 333 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:09,000 Speaker 2: statistic shows that it's also women who are already mothers. 334 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 2: And so I'm wondering how you came to that decision. 335 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:15,360 Speaker 2: And you said you told your parents, and so that's 336 00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:19,000 Speaker 2: very different from than your story when you were seventeen, right, 337 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,639 Speaker 2: So just wondering how you can reflect on that and 338 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:23,560 Speaker 2: how you look back on that experience now. 339 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 4: Well, being forty eight, I didn't think it was possible 340 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 4: to get pregnant, Honestly. I wasn't being very careful, and 341 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:37,120 Speaker 4: it's not like my husband was living he was living 342 00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,199 Speaker 4: part time in Oregon, so it's not like we were 343 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:42,960 Speaker 4: having a lot of sex, and so it was real 344 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:49,480 Speaker 4: shock to become pregnant. And then I was already having 345 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 4: pelvic floor issues from my second child, and then I 346 00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:57,159 Speaker 4: had a third child, so I was really worried if 347 00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 4: my body could handle it, Like, what's going to happen? 348 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 4: You know, I put on a lot of weight when 349 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,280 Speaker 4: I get pregnant, I put on fifty pounds. It's like, 350 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 4: what's going to happen to my pelvic floor? And also 351 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:11,920 Speaker 4: I had a fifteen year old and a twelve year 352 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 4: old and a seven year old at the time, and 353 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 4: those were really heavy years because I was, you know, 354 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,320 Speaker 4: kind of a single mom at points with my husband away. 355 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:28,159 Speaker 4: I just couldn't see myself having another child. And then 356 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:31,479 Speaker 4: I also thought, well, what if it's not viable, Like 357 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:34,639 Speaker 4: what if I lose it at four months or five months? 358 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,320 Speaker 4: I don't want to go through that experience. So there 359 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,200 Speaker 4: were so many reasons why it wasn't financial we could 360 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 4: have afforded to have another kid. It was because of 361 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,400 Speaker 4: my age, and because of my kids, and because of 362 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 4: my body. But also I think it's really important. I 363 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:55,639 Speaker 4: would really like for us to normalize not having to 364 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,879 Speaker 4: justify why we make that decision. This is a great conversation, 365 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:04,080 Speaker 4: so I'm really happy to share. But I feel like 366 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:07,200 Speaker 4: for some people it should just be enough that they 367 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:08,520 Speaker 4: just didn't want to have a kid. 368 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:13,199 Speaker 2: You know, oh, absolutely absolutely, And I think for us 369 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:16,119 Speaker 2: it is important to normalize that you can have an 370 00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:20,040 Speaker 2: abortion later in life, that it's not just the young 371 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,879 Speaker 2: teenager that maybe didn't know to use birth control, but 372 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 2: actually it can happen at any age, right, And I 373 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:29,320 Speaker 2: think that there's not enough stories of those diverse experiences. 374 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,479 Speaker 4: I don't know anyone who got pregnant fort that just 375 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:35,920 Speaker 4: seemed so it's good to talk about it, and it's 376 00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,040 Speaker 4: good to share that it is possible, so you should 377 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,240 Speaker 4: use your precautions if you don't want to be pregnant. 378 00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:47,240 Speaker 4: And in the waiting room where I had the abortion 379 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:52,240 Speaker 4: later in life, it was packed. There were probably would 380 00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:57,359 Speaker 4: say forty people in there from all ages, very young too. 381 00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 4: I thought I was going to be the oldest person, 382 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 4: and I wasn't. There were some people that were, well 383 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,000 Speaker 4: they might have been my age, and you know, looked 384 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 4: a little older. So I thought that was really interesting 385 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,200 Speaker 4: as well. It's such a needed service. 386 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:12,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I love the point that you make about 387 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 1: you know, we can give all these reasons for why 388 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,399 Speaker 1: we need this abortion, or we could just say I 389 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:21,639 Speaker 1: just don't want to. We don't need to justify and 390 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: in some ways isn't that very basic? I just don't 391 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 1: want to, Like the most important reason of all. Money 392 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:31,520 Speaker 1: can change, things can change in life, you can move 393 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 1: things around, But just not wanting to should be the 394 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 1: ultimate reason exactly. 395 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 4: I couldn't agree more. 396 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:39,639 Speaker 1: So. 397 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:43,359 Speaker 2: You talked about the stigma, right, and how that maybe 398 00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:47,080 Speaker 2: prevents people from seeking care. How did you feel supported 399 00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:52,960 Speaker 2: by maybe your community or your family, your parents when 400 00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 2: you decided to exercise your right to choose. 401 00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 4: Well, this was before I was hanging out with a 402 00:24:58,880 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 4: twenty something year. 403 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 2: Old Oh okay, bring us back there please. 404 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:10,119 Speaker 4: If I would have had those young people as friends, 405 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,679 Speaker 4: I think it would have been a different experience because 406 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 4: people my age were shocked that I was pregnant. So 407 00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 4: I told a couple of people and they didn't really 408 00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:28,920 Speaker 4: respond in the way that I would have appreciated because 409 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:34,040 Speaker 4: of their surprise and because of the I think they 410 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,240 Speaker 4: were thinking, Oh, I'm so glad that hasn't happened to me, 411 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 4: like that would be, you know. So that was kind 412 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 4: of the energy that I got, and so I didn't 413 00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:46,320 Speaker 4: really feel like I had the support that I really wanted. 414 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,679 Speaker 4: And I also didn't want to go very public with 415 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 4: it because I didn't have any close friends at that 416 00:25:55,480 --> 00:26:02,680 Speaker 4: time that I wanted to share with. And then later 417 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:06,280 Speaker 4: on a few years later, I learned about abortion doulas, 418 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:08,320 Speaker 4: and I thought, if I would have known about an 419 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,640 Speaker 4: abortion doula, I would have definitely asked for that kind 420 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 4: of support because I really needed that, like emotionally, spiritually. 421 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:19,560 Speaker 4: I had no doubt that I was making the right decision, 422 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 4: so I didn't don't have any regrets, but that kind 423 00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 4: of care that you need after such a procedure like that, 424 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:31,160 Speaker 4: and then to know that they didn't do it properly 425 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 4: and I had to go back again for a second one, 426 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:35,040 Speaker 4: it was it was very traumatic. 427 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,960 Speaker 1: I feel like there's this idea that when you have 428 00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,680 Speaker 1: when you give birth, you know you want your village 429 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: around you. And then there's sort of like two different 430 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,560 Speaker 1: schools of thought on abortion, like it either like devastates 431 00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,159 Speaker 1: you or like it doesn't bother you at all, But 432 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,040 Speaker 1: it seems like there's some in between also, right with 433 00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:58,959 Speaker 1: that procedure that you're speaking to that, well, No, in 434 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 1: that circumstance, there also was like a need for support. 435 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, because it's it's it's removing of of your body 436 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 4: tissue in a way, that is very clinical and very unemotional, 437 00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:21,480 Speaker 4: but it's it's it's connected to you, and when you 438 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 4: let go of that, it's I think it's it's hard 439 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 4: for it not to be emotional. Even when I was seventeen, 440 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:34,880 Speaker 4: I had emotional feelings, but I had my boyfriend and 441 00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:40,399 Speaker 4: I was young, and there were there were a lot 442 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:44,920 Speaker 4: of distractions after when I had my abortion. Later in life, 443 00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:47,359 Speaker 4: I had to go back and be a mother. I 444 00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,159 Speaker 4: had to cook, I had to take my kids to school. 445 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 4: I had a lot of obligations that didn't allow me 446 00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 4: to really sit with the feelings or to distract myself 447 00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:03,200 Speaker 4: with something fun and joyful. Not that my kids weren't joyful, 448 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 4: but those were hard years too, fifteen and twelve, those boys, 449 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 4: those were difficult years. There's a lot of tension in 450 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,919 Speaker 4: the house. So I don't remember it being a positive 451 00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 4: moment in my life. 452 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 1: And with both procedures at seventeen and at forty eight, 453 00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 1: your boyfriend at the time and your husband were they supportive. 454 00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 4: My boyfriend when I was seventeen, he you know, that's 455 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,679 Speaker 4: the first thing he said, you have to have an abortion, 456 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,239 Speaker 4: And that kind of made me think, well, I'm going 457 00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 4: to make this decision myself if I want to keep 458 00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 4: I mean, I knew in my mind I didn't want 459 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 4: to have a child, but I wanted it to be 460 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,880 Speaker 4: my decision. And then he was very supportive, taking me 461 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 4: and helping me afterwards and hanging out with me. And 462 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 4: then my husband was very supportive. He's like, what would 463 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 4: you like to do and let me decide, you know, 464 00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,320 Speaker 4: what we should do. And then but he wasn't. He 465 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 4: was not in Los Angeles at the time, so my 466 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 4: parents took me and and then he was just I 467 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:14,320 Speaker 4: don't know. When he came home, he was supportive, but 468 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:20,800 Speaker 4: it wasn't. It wasn't. It wasn't the kind of support 469 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 4: that I think I needed, like like from like I 470 00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,800 Speaker 4: would have received from from a mother who was understanding, 471 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 4: or a sister who I could talk to who had 472 00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:34,240 Speaker 4: was understanding in that way, or a friend. 473 00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:40,479 Speaker 1: And for those listening, you know, what sort of advice 474 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,560 Speaker 1: might you have for them, whether that's how to be 475 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:46,320 Speaker 1: supportive of someone else who's thinking about going through this 476 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,600 Speaker 1: procedure or those who they themselves might need to get 477 00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:51,400 Speaker 1: this procedure done. 478 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,360 Speaker 4: I would say, for sure, not to pity the individual, 479 00:29:56,440 --> 00:30:00,440 Speaker 4: also not to shame them, not to judge them for 480 00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:05,400 Speaker 4: what happened, or for getting pregnant, for having an unwanted pregnancy. 481 00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:14,120 Speaker 4: I think offering food, offering a walk, offering to drive them, 482 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,840 Speaker 4: offering to pick them up. I think those ways are 483 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:24,680 Speaker 4: really important. And just being a good listener, you know, 484 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 4: a good listener validating someone's experience without judging Thinca is 485 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:31,160 Speaker 4: the most important thing. 486 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:38,960 Speaker 2: After the break, we're joined by Laudajimenez, Executive director at 487 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 2: California Latinas for Reproductive Justice. She's led California Latinas for 488 00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:48,880 Speaker 2: Reproductive Justice since twenty eleven and brings to this work 489 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,440 Speaker 2: the passion and commitment of close to thirty years of 490 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 2: activism in the reproductive justice movement. 491 00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:06,160 Speaker 1: California Latinas for Reproductive Justice was founded by a group 492 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:10,480 Speaker 1: of Latinas who were advocates and attorneys involved in advocating 493 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:15,600 Speaker 1: for reproductive health and reproductive rights. At the time, the 494 00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:19,720 Speaker 1: mainstream reproductive rights movement was not taking Latinas into account. 495 00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:24,720 Speaker 1: Reproductive justice is a term that's used interchangeably with reproductive 496 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:29,320 Speaker 1: health and rights. But what does reproductive justice mean? What 497 00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 1: are its origins? Here's Lauda. 498 00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:35,400 Speaker 3: I think often when we talk about reproductive justice. People 499 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:39,600 Speaker 3: just think we have changed the term and it's interchangeable 500 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:44,800 Speaker 3: with reproductive rights or reproductive health. So reproductive justice is 501 00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:47,600 Speaker 3: a framework that was It was a term that was 502 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:51,040 Speaker 3: coined by twelve black women in nineteen ninety four, during 503 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,280 Speaker 3: the time that there was an attempt, the first attempt 504 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:57,240 Speaker 3: to do healthcare reform in the US under the Clintons, 505 00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:00,240 Speaker 3: and at that time they were just they had put 506 00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,720 Speaker 3: the term together, saying that it would be reproductive health 507 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:07,959 Speaker 3: and rights plus social justice equals reproductive justice. And what 508 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:10,840 Speaker 3: that meant was that many of the folks that I 509 00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,840 Speaker 3: learned from my elders, my teachers, had been involved in 510 00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,880 Speaker 3: what's known as second wave feminism underneath sort of mainstream 511 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:23,320 Speaker 3: white feminists organizing, and a lot of that was Equal 512 00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:27,600 Speaker 3: Rights Amendment, a lot of that was pro choice abortion 513 00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:32,640 Speaker 3: rights work. And what women of color at that time 514 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:37,560 Speaker 3: were saying was that we are supportive of abortion. Because 515 00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,040 Speaker 3: what they were hearing was, well, we don't really talk 516 00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:42,640 Speaker 3: to you all because you all don't like you Latinas 517 00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 3: don't support abortion rights. What was said back was that's 518 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 3: not true. We do actually support people being able to 519 00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,560 Speaker 3: make choices about their own bodies and reproduction. But we 520 00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:56,120 Speaker 3: also can't talk about abortion without talking about poverty, without 521 00:32:56,160 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 3: talking about environmental justice, without talking about incarceration, immigration law, 522 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:07,320 Speaker 3: the foster care system, and many many other intersecting frameworks. 523 00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:11,160 Speaker 3: And in fact, when the framework was really fleshed out 524 00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:15,760 Speaker 3: in the late nineties and early two thousands, the work 525 00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:20,400 Speaker 3: of the theory of intersectionality that was created by Kimberly Crenshaw, 526 00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:23,680 Speaker 3: who's a black legal scholar and other sort of black 527 00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 3: feminist thought was heavily injected into what is reproductive justice. 528 00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:32,600 Speaker 2: Reproductive justice is more than just access to abortion care. 529 00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:37,360 Speaker 2: Lauda explains the four tenants to reproductive justice. 530 00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:41,320 Speaker 3: That is, the right to not have children, which encompasses 531 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 3: the right to abortion, the right to contraception, making sure 532 00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 3: that there's sex ed in schools, comprehensive sexuality education in schools. 533 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,520 Speaker 3: Second tenant being the right to have children. So we 534 00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:58,400 Speaker 3: also need to recognize that for many people, many marginalized 535 00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,840 Speaker 3: or colonized people in this country, the right to have 536 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,520 Speaker 3: children has not always been free of interference by the 537 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:09,960 Speaker 3: state or any or systems right institutions that we live under. So, 538 00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:13,040 Speaker 3: for example, sterilization abuse was something that was happening to 539 00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:17,239 Speaker 3: many groups in this country. The third tenant is the 540 00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,760 Speaker 3: right to parent the children that we have in safe, 541 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:24,040 Speaker 3: violence free environments. And the fourth tenant is the right 542 00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:27,840 Speaker 3: to bodily autonomy and gender identity, So making sure that 543 00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:32,399 Speaker 3: we are being really clear that we have sovereignty over 544 00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:36,840 Speaker 3: our bodies and we also have the right to determine 545 00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:39,480 Speaker 3: and share with other people what our gender identity is 546 00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,440 Speaker 3: and expect that to be respected and supported. 547 00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:48,239 Speaker 1: The LATINX community is specifically targeted by misinformation and disinformation. 548 00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:52,560 Speaker 3: Specifically when we talk about crisis pregnancy centers, which are 549 00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:58,000 Speaker 3: fake reproductive health centers. A great we did. There was 550 00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:00,920 Speaker 3: a great legislative effort in California in the twenty I 551 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:05,879 Speaker 3: can't remember fifteen sixteen, and that was a Reproductive Fact Act. 552 00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:07,799 Speaker 3: It was led by our partners at Black Women for 553 00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:13,600 Speaker 3: Wellness and it basically was requiring pregnancy centers, these crisis 554 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:21,080 Speaker 3: pregnancy centers to have a signage that said we are 555 00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:25,800 Speaker 3: there is no medical stuff on the premises. It also 556 00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:29,160 Speaker 3: disallowed them from lying to their patients. So one of 557 00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:32,160 Speaker 3: the tactics that they use sometimes because they are run 558 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,440 Speaker 3: by the anti abortion forces and organizations, One of the 559 00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:39,440 Speaker 3: things they will do is they'll offer the free ultra 560 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,240 Speaker 3: sound and all that good stuff, and then they'll say, Stephanie, 561 00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:44,719 Speaker 3: your pregnancy is only six weeks, so you have some 562 00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:47,960 Speaker 3: time to think about what you're going to do. Or Stephanie, 563 00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,040 Speaker 3: your pregnancy is at sixteen weeks, so actually you know, 564 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:53,160 Speaker 3: there's there's no more options for you, or you know, 565 00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:54,080 Speaker 3: whatever they will lie. 566 00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:58,720 Speaker 2: The state of California ensures the legal right to an abortion, 567 00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 2: but this does not guarantee access to abortion care. 568 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:07,760 Speaker 3: You know, the leaders of the governor and the legislature 569 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:12,280 Speaker 3: likes to talk about California being a beacon for reproductive rights, 570 00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:14,759 Speaker 3: and to some degree, yes, and then I think it's 571 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:20,320 Speaker 3: important to also say, but also and also just because 572 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,960 Speaker 3: we have laws on the books that protect people's rights 573 00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:27,640 Speaker 3: to whatever medical care that they need, does not mean 574 00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:31,400 Speaker 3: they can actually access that care. And so this is 575 00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:36,239 Speaker 3: really important when we talk about Latina communities because we know, 576 00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,680 Speaker 3: for example that I think about a third of Latina 577 00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:42,680 Speaker 3: communities in California are living in remote or rural areas. 578 00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:48,120 Speaker 3: So we're aware that people in Central Valley, like we 579 00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:51,120 Speaker 3: knew from before, we work with our partners that access 580 00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:56,280 Speaker 3: reproductive justice that runs a hotline and a practical support program. 581 00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:58,880 Speaker 3: They would call us in LA and say, we've got 582 00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:02,279 Speaker 3: somebody coming in from Central Valley to LA. They need 583 00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,719 Speaker 3: to get to UCLA, they need to be there overnight, 584 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:07,399 Speaker 3: and they would be asking for people to come in 585 00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:09,200 Speaker 3: for support, so for people to pick them up from 586 00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,160 Speaker 3: the train station, take them to the clinic, maybe get 587 00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:13,759 Speaker 3: them food, maybe house them, maybe watch their children. You know, 588 00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:16,800 Speaker 3: there's all these different ways that you can practically support people, 589 00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,520 Speaker 3: but there are so many barriers that can be in 590 00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,359 Speaker 3: the way for people who are seeking that reproductive health 591 00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 3: care that they need. 592 00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,560 Speaker 1: Lauda emphasizes that when pregnant people do not have access 593 00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:32,000 Speaker 1: to safe abortion services, that the consequences can be deadly. 594 00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:36,439 Speaker 3: When people don't want to be pregnant, they will find 595 00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,719 Speaker 3: the way to not be pregnant, and so it's important 596 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,600 Speaker 3: for us to make sure that people have the options 597 00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:43,960 Speaker 3: that they that they need right and we're seeing this 598 00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,480 Speaker 3: unfortunately played out in other states right now, where even 599 00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:53,279 Speaker 3: it's not folks necessarily that are getting unsafe abortions, it's 600 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:56,680 Speaker 3: the people who are having, you know, the ectopic pregnancies 601 00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,920 Speaker 3: or other fetal anomalies that are actually dangerous to the 602 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:03,000 Speaker 3: pregnant person and their own lives are being put at risk. 603 00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:06,799 Speaker 3: The United States government has decided that, you know, that 604 00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:11,920 Speaker 3: is not as important as the potential of a fetus 605 00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:15,799 Speaker 3: becoming a child and being born. And that's that's the question. 606 00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:16,759 Speaker 3: We have to grapple with. 607 00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:21,080 Speaker 2: The statistics around abortions and who gets them may disrupt 608 00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:26,560 Speaker 2: any pre existing ideas you have of who actually gets abortions. 609 00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:29,279 Speaker 3: The majority of people who get abortions are people who 610 00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:34,319 Speaker 3: already have children, and I think, you know, we're kind 611 00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:37,440 Speaker 3: of what I think is important to know is like 612 00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:42,799 Speaker 3: Catholic women have abortions rates that are equal to other religions. 613 00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:47,960 Speaker 3: Latinas have abortions in rates that are comparable to other 614 00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:53,520 Speaker 3: ethnic groups. And so it's we have to really correct 615 00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:56,560 Speaker 3: our thinking about it, you know. And for the longest time, 616 00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,959 Speaker 3: the raid is basically fifty percent of all pregnancies around 617 00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:06,719 Speaker 3: planned or mistimed. Right, I have two children. One of 618 00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,759 Speaker 3: them was mistimed. I was married. I was married, I 619 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:14,879 Speaker 3: was over thirty, and you know, it was what happened, right, 620 00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,480 Speaker 3: I wanted to have another child and so we had one. 621 00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:22,200 Speaker 3: But if it had been another time, another situation, maybe 622 00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,520 Speaker 3: I wouldn't have. And that's just the reality of how 623 00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:29,080 Speaker 3: things work. And I think around this conversation, there's so 624 00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,359 Speaker 3: much that's not said too, which is that people don't 625 00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,520 Speaker 3: want to talk about people's sexual activity. They don't want to, 626 00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:36,839 Speaker 3: they don't want to really get to, you know, get 627 00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:39,279 Speaker 3: into that piece. And it's like, but that we have, 628 00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:40,319 Speaker 3: but we have to, like. 629 00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:46,560 Speaker 1: We have to talk about it. I learned so much 630 00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:50,000 Speaker 1: from our conversation with Virginia, and I think the greatest 631 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:54,719 Speaker 1: takeaway from her story is that women do not have 632 00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:59,840 Speaker 1: to justify why they get abortions. Whether you feel your 633 00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,839 Speaker 1: too young to have a baby, or you're too old 634 00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,719 Speaker 1: to have a baby, or you've already had a lot 635 00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,880 Speaker 1: of babies, or you just don't want to have a baby, 636 00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:12,360 Speaker 1: that any reason is truly a good reason to pursue 637 00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:14,640 Speaker 1: an abortion if you feel that you need that. It 638 00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:18,560 Speaker 1: is a medical service. It is medical care that is 639 00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,840 Speaker 1: a necessity, a life saving necessity for so many people. 640 00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:26,200 Speaker 1: And I really appreciated Virginia's take on that that not 641 00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:28,840 Speaker 1: wanting to have a baby is a good enough reason 642 00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:30,400 Speaker 1: to not have a baby. 643 00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:34,120 Speaker 2: What I learned from Lauda is the legacy and history 644 00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:39,320 Speaker 2: of reproductive justice, not only in California but across the country. 645 00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:42,799 Speaker 2: I also really enjoyed learning about the four tenants to 646 00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:47,480 Speaker 2: reproductive justice, which is the right not to have children, 647 00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:51,120 Speaker 2: the right to have children, the rights of parent children 648 00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:55,239 Speaker 2: in a safe and violent free community, and finally the 649 00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:59,560 Speaker 2: fourth tenant, the right to bodily autonomy and gender identity. 650 00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:03,239 Speaker 2: I think I think now more than ever, it's especially 651 00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:08,600 Speaker 2: important to think about reproductive justice in our local community 652 00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:12,880 Speaker 2: and also personally and how we enact that for ourselves 653 00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:18,480 Speaker 2: and for each others. 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