Speaker 1: The best bits of the week with Morgan. It's Listener
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Speaker 2: We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your questions.
Speaker 1: What's up everybody?
Speaker 3: We are here for listener Q and A.
Speaker 1: Abby is with me this weekend. You're alive over there, Abbey.
Speaker 4: I am. Do I look alive?
Speaker 1: Are you warm?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I have warmed up. I was so cold, but yeah.
Speaker 3: Studio well shout outs to start.
Speaker 1: Laurie wanted to say she loves us both, and then
Speaker 1: we also got another one that said no question, just
Speaker 1: wanted to say loving the new podcast. So that's cool too.
Speaker 4: I love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, some good little shout outs to start.
Speaker 1: Okay, we're diving in. I like to say that a lot,
Speaker 1: and I realize I'm trying to take that back, so
Speaker 1: we are. Don't ask me.
Speaker 3: I find filler words because I get nervous.
Speaker 4: I've never noticed it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do it on.
Speaker 1: The just on the podcast when I'm recording by myself,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to not that and say the word like
Speaker 1: and uh, that's hard. Words are hard. They just need
Speaker 1: to go silent. So if you sure me, just is okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I don't know though, has a double
Speaker 1: date be planned. Love you girls here work. It talked
Speaker 1: about a little bit on part one.
Speaker 4: It's been talked about, it's been talked about. You know,
Speaker 4: we have been really busy. I will say our schedules,
Speaker 4: and then on the weekends we just I don't know, Yeah.
Speaker 1: We're chilling.
Speaker 4: I just when I'm done, like here for the weekend,
Speaker 4: I just kind of go off of my own world.
Speaker 3: I'm the same way.
Speaker 4: And like I said, I'm not good at initiating with
Speaker 4: people because I just kind of get caught up at
Speaker 4: home and I don't really want to get out. I
Speaker 4: don't know if that that sounds bad, but probably just
Speaker 4: come tired and so.
Speaker 3: No, I think understandably.
Speaker 1: So Abby and I have incredibly busy stuff going on
Speaker 1: right now, so it's been a little difficult to even
Speaker 1: have personal lives, I know, outside of work.
Speaker 4: But we have it planned now. We have what we're
Speaker 4: gonna do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I always have to choose the date. The date.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're gonna go to dueling pianos, Well, buy you
Speaker 4: keys in Laney Wilson's.
Speaker 1: Bar, and we're gonna make sure our songs get played. Yes,
Speaker 1: just the date, and we do extensively talk about calendar.
Speaker 3: Where is it?
Speaker 1: We will?
Speaker 3: We will?
Speaker 1: We need to do that before you leave.
Speaker 3: Yeah, are you writing? And he love songs? Now that
Speaker 3: you've got a great guy.
Speaker 1: This is from Leah in Pennsylvania, who loves us both.
Speaker 4: Honestly, I haven't really written any Nope, he hasn't inspired any.
Speaker 4: He has inspired him. I guess I'm just waiting for
Speaker 4: this next one to come out that's more sassy, that
Speaker 4: is anti love. So I'm in that head space. I'm
Speaker 4: trying to do one thing at a time because I
Speaker 4: get overwhelmed easily, and I'm trying to work on the
Speaker 4: balance that we were talking about and the other one,
Speaker 4: like balance, because right now it's like I focus on
Speaker 4: Bobby Bone Show and then the podcast stuff and then
Speaker 4: I forget that. It's like, oh, I need to focus
Speaker 4: on me too, and so I kind of put that
Speaker 4: on the back burner, which is not good. I'm still
Speaker 4: playing guitar. I'm practicing that.
Speaker 1: But writing I think you're doing the guitar like a week.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. So my boyfriend started playing now and
Speaker 4: he's almost better than me, and I'm actually annoyed.
Speaker 1: Are you for real? Yes?
Speaker 4: Like he picks it up, so fast, like my brain
Speaker 4: just won't pick it up. And I've said that from
Speaker 4: the very beginning. That's why I haven't like played guitar
Speaker 4: because I get frustrated and he's actually like better and.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, he's just your permanent guitar player.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 4: It's what I was thinking, Like, you don't have to
Speaker 4: pay him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I give you a case every night exactly, this
Speaker 1: is what you get.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 4: So when when we're together, he's always picks up a guitar,
Speaker 4: He's like, okay, let's play, let's play. And I'm like, okay, fine,
Speaker 4: Like he's good at fingerpicking. I'm like it's so hard
Speaker 4: and he came out of nowhere. Yes, yes, I'm actually
Speaker 4: I'm really annoying. He's very competitive and so am I,
Speaker 4: and so he wants to be better than me.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh day, so you got this is
Speaker 1: also going on right now? Yeah, a lot of things
Speaker 1: happening in Atty's brain. Yeah.
Speaker 4: So no writing, no, but that's next. That's my next song.
Speaker 4: I'll do a love song.
Speaker 1: I love song.
Speaker 3: Maybe he can write it with you with his guitar skills.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 3: Laurie from Massachusetts.
Speaker 1: She was to know. Do you have any more shows
Speaker 1: planned for this year?
Speaker 4: Nope, none planned, They're none planned.
Speaker 3: Just in her basement while boyfriend's playing guitar. Yeah, she's practicing.
Speaker 1: My gosh, dang it. What is a song title?
Speaker 4: Either?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 4: No for a material?
Speaker 3: Boy for a material?
Speaker 4: Huh? I sing in the car a lot and the showers.
Speaker 3: Because that's my singer, isn't that?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm working lay because I'm a singer.
Speaker 4: Yep, that's me.
Speaker 1: What helped you in your single phase while everyone around
Speaker 1: you was in a relationship love y'all and she would
Speaker 1: like no name or he would like no name. Uh,
Speaker 1: I'm not sure where it came from.
Speaker 4: So I feel like I've lived my whole life being
Speaker 4: that girl, you know. And like when I go home
Speaker 4: every year to Kansas, everybody was married, All my friends
Speaker 4: are married, and then I'd be the only one there
Speaker 4: with no plus one, you know, And so they're asking
Speaker 4: how to deal with that?
Speaker 1: Yeah, like what how during the single phase when everybody
Speaker 1: else was in love?
Speaker 4: I would say, just like embracing the single and seeing
Speaker 4: all the good parts of it, you know, like you're
Speaker 4: not tied down to anybody, You can do whatever you want.
Speaker 4: You can like go out of town, you can go
Speaker 4: out with your friends. You don't have to ask anybody,
Speaker 4: you don't have to check with anybody else. So I
Speaker 4: think I did that a lot, and like focused on
Speaker 4: I had a lot of time more to just focus
Speaker 4: on me because I was home alone or whatever, and
Speaker 4: what I want to do and what I want to accomplish.
Speaker 4: And when you're dating someone, you're just kind of like,
Speaker 4: oh wow, you kind of forget some of that. I
Speaker 4: feel like, because you just want to spend time together
Speaker 4: and watch.
Speaker 1: Movies, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think embrace being single in that season of your life,
Speaker 4: because it will come, but just embrace what you have
Speaker 4: right now.
Speaker 1: It's really good advice. I the same thing happened to me.
Speaker 1: I was I learned to embrace it and take it in.
Speaker 1: But I'll also say very genuinely that there were days
Speaker 1: where I was so sad and so alone and I
Speaker 1: was like, this is never gonna happen for me. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna find this, and I would almost be a
Speaker 1: little bit pessimistic when I'm normally a pretty optimistic, hopeful person.
Speaker 1: I'm like, there's no way this is just not gonna happen.
Speaker 1: So I think as you embrace because that's the best
Speaker 1: thing that you can possibly do for yourself, and take
Speaker 1: yourself out on dates and go try and learn some
Speaker 1: new things. Because to Happy's point, once you do date someone,
Speaker 1: all that's gonna be gone. The autonomy and getting to
Speaker 1: do everything that you want when you want to do
Speaker 1: it at that time on your own schedule is gone.
Speaker 1: You do have to start considering somebody else. And so
Speaker 1: I think doing all the things that you want to
Speaker 1: do for yourself is something to focus on and it
Speaker 1: allows you to kind of come out of that focusing
Speaker 1: on everybody else, but at the same time embracing that
Speaker 1: there's gonna be really crappy days. There are going to
Speaker 1: be days you're gonna be sad in days where it's
Speaker 1: gonna frustrating, and you just have to let it ride,
Speaker 1: like literally let those emotions ride and face them instead
Speaker 1: of running away from them because it's only going to
Speaker 1: make your experience and all of that worse.
Speaker 4: But also not like drowning them, because I used to
Speaker 4: do that and like kind of throw pity parties for
Speaker 4: myself sometimes and like you know, I'd be like, oh
Speaker 4: my gosh, I would pray and I'd be like why
Speaker 4: why can't I have someone like that? Like why when
Speaker 4: is it going to be my turn to find somebody
Speaker 4: good for me?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 4: And I would just get so mad and like be
Speaker 4: crying and stuff. And it's like you can do that,
Speaker 4: but don't do that for like weeks at a time,
Speaker 4: you know, Like how you can have your moment, have
Speaker 4: your day where you're just like, Okay, this is my
Speaker 4: day to feel this way, but just try not to
Speaker 4: get caught up in it. Try to just like you know,
Speaker 4: go go to the gym or do something that you
Speaker 4: know is good for you, like good for your.
Speaker 1: Soul, like find a counterbalance to that.
Speaker 3: So, say you had that day because.
Speaker 1: It's gonna come out of nowhere and you're just gonna
Speaker 1: be in it, or you're gonna get invited to eighty
Speaker 1: weddings and you have to go by yourself. You're gonna
Speaker 1: have that day, and once you have it, be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm in this right now. Tomorrow morning, I'm waking up,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take myself to breakfast, just me myself, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to breakfast. And there's a very empowering
Speaker 1: feeling about that when you start taking care of yourself,
Speaker 1: so it helps lift those feelings naturally. And also I
Speaker 1: learned speaking of like that the new podcast that I dropped,
Speaker 1: I learned through one of the guests that's coming on,
Speaker 1: you can train your brain to get over things. And
Speaker 1: the only way to do that is by like learning
Speaker 1: something new and treating your brain like it's a muscle
Speaker 1: that you're trying to exercise. And so if you're really sad,
Speaker 1: and you keep being really sad and you get stuck
Speaker 1: in it, like Abby, pick yourself up. Say I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go teach myself to play pickleball today. I mean I
Speaker 1: want to. It's gonna suck to start, but then your
Speaker 1: brain's gonna naturally start to shift and say, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna pick up new things. This is what's gonna happen.
Speaker 1: It's like a.
Speaker 3: Pattern, a pattern of behavior.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, because yeah, that used to happen to
Speaker 4: me all the time, because when I'd go to concerts,
Speaker 4: I would always notice the couple's holding hands, always notice
Speaker 4: that that was the one thing. And it's like, why
Speaker 4: am I noticing in this? Probably because I was thinking
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 4: It's like when you think of a yellow car. You
Speaker 4: start seeing a yellow car like on the road. Yeah,
Speaker 4: because you're thinking about it. And I was like, just
Speaker 4: stop like thinking about that, you know, just realize that
Speaker 4: it's not your time now.
Speaker 1: I don't know, We're not trying to say down another
Speaker 1: path in your brain and say, Okay, nope, I'm going
Speaker 1: to focus on the singer in this moment, like for
Speaker 1: Abby with the concert, I'm gonna focus on the artist,
Speaker 1: or I'm going to focus.
Speaker 3: On how many red boots there are. Anything.
Speaker 1: It could be the stupidest thing, but if it helps
Speaker 1: you get through it, then it helps you get through it, right,
Speaker 1: So find your coping skills and lean into them.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's great. That is weird. I used
Speaker 4: to think that all the time and be like, why
Speaker 4: are they couples here? There's all couples, And I'm like, Abby,
Speaker 4: just stop thinking about it.
Speaker 1: Just oh.
Speaker 3: I would go to weddings and be so depressed.
Speaker 1: Afterwards, I would put on my smile and be a
Speaker 1: great you know, guests or part of the wedding party,
Speaker 1: but watching people interact because I was the last one
Speaker 1: in so many cases, I just was like, Okay, here
Speaker 1: we go.
Speaker 3: Smile because there's love in the room.
Speaker 1: And everybody's so happy, but I am miserable and this
Speaker 1: sucks for me. Yeah, you know, I like, it's not fun,
Speaker 1: it's it. And there's never gonna be someone who can
Speaker 1: say this is how you're gonna get through it, because
Speaker 1: it really just genuinely you gotta feel all the things
Speaker 1: that you're feeling and be sad sometimes and be happy
Speaker 1: sometimes and go through it. But I do think Abby's
Speaker 1: point is great of like really embracing that time in
Speaker 1: your life because it doesn't come back. No, you know,
Speaker 1: I hope that tomorrow you'll meet the person that you're
Speaker 1: gonna spend the rest of your life with. But until tomorrow,
Speaker 1: you better live it up because when that person comes
Speaker 1: and you're like, dang, I should have lived up my
Speaker 1: single life a little bit more, you know. Yeah, there's
Speaker 1: always regrets somewhere. So you're totally right spot on. All right,
Speaker 1: We're gonna take a quick break, will be right back.
Speaker 1: I think this came from Sadie, But my can eater
Speaker 1: like stick correct people's names. What are some of your
Speaker 1: favorite places in Nashville like to eat? I didn't even
Speaker 1: prepare you for this. I know you didn't, or I'll
Speaker 1: just like look at my email and I'll think of something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do anything, activities, bars, I think the list could go on.
Speaker 4: Okay, Broadway, I love going to the stage. That's one
Speaker 4: of my favorites because they play more like nineties country music.
Speaker 4: I love that. Let's see and then I've already mentioned
Speaker 4: this before, but Lanny Wilson's Bar in the Dueling Pianos
Speaker 4: super good, so good. I love the diner for food.
Speaker 4: Downtown has the best like late night food.
Speaker 3: I don't think I've eaten there. For the late night foods.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, you have to go. They have like
Speaker 4: a full menu and it is delicious. I get the
Speaker 4: pretzel It's like these pretzel sticks, like a big pretzel
Speaker 4: and you dip it in beer cheese.
Speaker 3: I love a pretzel cheese delicious.
Speaker 4: And then the chicken strips and fries so good. We
Speaker 4: uhould go there after, but no fry butts if you know.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I've been doing that, like and he
Speaker 4: hasn't noticed. I didn't tell them either. I still haven't
Speaker 4: told him. Huh. I think I like distract him.
Speaker 1: I need you to like report back, like I need
Speaker 1: you to actually ask him if he's noticed.
Speaker 3: And he just ignores it and he loves you no
Speaker 3: matter what, because that's.
Speaker 1: Probably what it is.
Speaker 3: It's because like I'll ask, I'll be like, you didn't
Speaker 3: figure that out? He's like, yeah, no, I did for sure,
Speaker 3: like right away.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: People, if you don't know, like I leave the ends
Speaker 4: of my fries, I still do it. What the part
Speaker 4: I bite down on? I pick the end I don't
Speaker 4: want to bite down on, like a crispy end or something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let you leave it, which is why I dubbed
Speaker 1: them fry butts, and Abby will always have a plate
Speaker 1: if she gets fries of fry butts at the end.
Speaker 1: That's funny that he hasn't said anything I know.
Speaker 4: Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, Okay, let's see. In Midtown I love
Speaker 4: Hopsmith Tavern. I love eating there.
Speaker 3: Oh good brunch too.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, it's fun there. They do have a really
Speaker 4: good brunch. And then I like in twelve South area,
Speaker 4: I love this store I love going to and has
Speaker 4: good gifts. It's called like serendipitous. Oh yeah, yeah, it's
Speaker 4: kind of by yes, is.
Speaker 1: Sara, Well that's the word. I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: called serendipity here I'll look at up while you're talking
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 4: Okay. Yeah, it's on twelve South area, which is really
Speaker 4: cool to walk around. I also love at Least barbecue.
Speaker 4: It is so delicious. It's my favorite barbecue place. But
Speaker 4: that whole area is just a street with like shops
Speaker 4: and restaurants. Yeah, and that's my favorite place to get serendipity. Okay,
Speaker 4: they have like jewelry and cute clothes.
Speaker 1: And have you gone to Fonda over there? It's the
Speaker 1: new Mexican restaurant. No, it's really good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with you. I love that whole area.
Speaker 4: Too, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: Yeah. But fondas a good little Mexican spot over there,
Speaker 1: Except that's the one that lunchboxs ond me I gave
Speaker 1: a bad review of.
Speaker 3: So whatever, what in the world?
Speaker 1: Well he went, He's like it's horrible, And I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: you're you want to talk about foody.
Speaker 3: Lunchbox is the foody of all foody is. And he's
Speaker 3: so he's like a critic is he foody?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh, I'm like simple, I'm like that great guacamole.
Speaker 1: I'm also like he hated the guacamole. I was like, well,
Speaker 1: that's your fault because you ate three pounds. I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure you're gonna hate guacamoy forever, right.
Speaker 4: I was like that, Yeah, that was your problem or
Speaker 4: your fault for ordering that crazy.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Okay, any others you want to add
Speaker 3: to your list?
Speaker 4: I don't think so. That whole area you really can't
Speaker 4: miss with that. I like Frothy Monkey for coffee.
Speaker 1: It is really a good breakfast too.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah they do. Oh my gosh. One of my
Speaker 4: favorite places, okay, it's on Charlotte Avenue. It's called Weird
Speaker 4: Stuff Cool Things, and they have all these like awesome
Speaker 4: like there's a Nashville sign with lights on it. That's
Speaker 4: where I got it, and it's in my house. But
Speaker 4: it's just it's kind of like a fancy thrift store.
Speaker 4: I'm like hiding found and I haven't gone, gou you
Speaker 4: need to go. And then the coffee place right next
Speaker 4: to it is Headquarters Coffee, Best Coffee.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 4: It's like a cute. It's literally a hole in the wall.
Speaker 4: I love but it's so great local.
Speaker 1: Have you got into the street car taps right next
Speaker 1: to that in that same area, because they have a.
Speaker 3: Loaf of bread and butter.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. What it's also just really good. They good
Speaker 1: food and drinks and stuff on Charlotte. I've never heard
Speaker 1: of that right in that same little area.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. Yeah, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: The next time you go thrifting and you get your
Speaker 1: just pop over and gets a food.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm gonna do that.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that.
Speaker 4: I love that. Thanks.
Speaker 1: Is your neighbor's dog still messing up your yard? No?
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, so awkward.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 4: I put that note on his door. It was really nice.
Speaker 4: It's just like, hey, could you please pick up your
Speaker 4: dog's pooh? If this isn't you just ignore this. And
Speaker 4: I was walking down the street and I saw him
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh shoot, this is awkward. He's
Speaker 4: with the dog too, and I was like, oh no,
Speaker 4: and he's like, are you abby?
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, hey, yeah, he wrote your name
Speaker 3: on the note.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, Because I just was like, you're not gonna, yeah,
Speaker 4: I put what I lived in. It's gonna be passive aggressive,
Speaker 4: and you're it's not going to get handled right if
Speaker 4: I just put this note, because he's not going to
Speaker 4: know whose house it was. And then he's two doors down,
Speaker 4: so like I was like, to avoid any future awkwardness,
Speaker 4: I'll just put my name and I was like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, there's future awkwardness.
Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, I'm Abby, and yes I did
Speaker 4: put the note on your door. And he's like, I'm
Speaker 4: so sorry, Like my roommate had been letting him out.
Speaker 4: He kind of blamed the roommate. I was like, I
Speaker 4: don't know, but anyway, roommate, do you know there is
Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, I don't think you can fully
Speaker 4: blaming the roommate for like one hundred percent of this,
Speaker 4: but anyway, he was like, my roommate's been letting him
Speaker 4: out and he didn't he didn't know he was going
Speaker 4: in your yard. And I was like, oh, no, totally fine,
Speaker 4: you're good. And the next day he picked all of
Speaker 4: it up. He like, I'm like, I seriously think it
Speaker 4: would have been like two grocery bags full of pooh
Speaker 4: oh my god. It was a lot. I mean, it
Speaker 4: was every step. If it was like one or two,
Speaker 4: I wouldn't have cared literally every step.
Speaker 1: There could be some roommate involvement there, but he also
Speaker 1: probably was just like nobody's gonna.
Speaker 3: Care, you know, but if you have a big drunk.
Speaker 1: It's a lot like its ritt me.
Speaker 3: He's like ten tiny like they.
Speaker 4: Pile up, okay, because I have a tiny yard, so
Speaker 4: it's like there's there's not much room and I always
Speaker 4: take my trash and I was just walking on it
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh my god, this needs is stop.
Speaker 1: So yeah, he has it stopped completely.
Speaker 4: Then yeah, they take him out on a leash. It's
Speaker 4: really awkward. I see him all the time and I'm
Speaker 4: so awkward. I'm just like, hey, you probably secretly hate me.
Speaker 1: Well, but you know what, at least you figured it
Speaker 1: out and at least the person was nice, and I
Speaker 1: would be like, you know, even if he like took me,
Speaker 1: he probably took the awkwardness out of it by blaming
Speaker 1: it on the roommate, right, and at least he's now
Speaker 1: doing it.
Speaker 4: No, I have no shit. Yeah, like we handled it great.
Speaker 4: It went awesome.
Speaker 1: I've lost some very nice adults me too. Great interactions.
Speaker 4: I mean it works when you're nice, you just ask
Speaker 4: something to it. I think it works.
Speaker 1: So it's true it was good.
Speaker 3: It could have gone worse. You could end up having
Speaker 3: like poop on your doorsteps.
Speaker 4: So exactly. Well, the things that, like Lunchbox is telling
Speaker 4: me to do I don't even know what he was
Speaker 4: saying to do, but I'm glad I didn't do whatever
Speaker 4: he wanted me to do.
Speaker 1: That's true. What is your most rewarding thing about being
Speaker 1: on the radio, Ronnie of Maryland.
Speaker 4: I would say I even had someone call me today
Speaker 4: and they're just like me doing the half marathon, like
Speaker 4: my story of saying it like inspired her to do
Speaker 4: like a marathon. I think stuff like that when they
Speaker 4: say you inspired them. I love getting messages like that,
Speaker 4: like me starting guitar, Like they're like, oh, you know,
Speaker 4: I just tried something I never thought I would ever
Speaker 4: be able to do. So I think I think that
Speaker 4: would be it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the connectivity, yes with people.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like knowing that you can do anything. I guess
Speaker 4: you think you can't, like I didn't have you did
Speaker 4: any Yeah, like I didn't. I just didn't ever think
Speaker 4: i'd be able to play guitar or you know, record
Speaker 4: a song, like I didn't think I would do that.
Speaker 4: I wasn't good enough being in Nashville. Everybody's so good
Speaker 4: that I just I wasn't good enough. But that doesn't matter.
Speaker 4: You don't have to be the best, to do what
Speaker 4: you want to do, and like reach growing because of radio.
Speaker 4: Look at me, Wow, so proud.
Speaker 1: That was not sarcastic that I was serious. I'm proud
Speaker 1: of you. You are growing. I'm pretty sure you would
Speaker 1: have came on Best Bits three years ago and we're
Speaker 1: like a lot more timid and not as confident in
Speaker 1: any of that. Look at you now, Yeah, I would have.
Speaker 4: Been like, I don't know, I'm bad at everything.
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding, but not anymore not bad. If you
Speaker 1: could live anywhere besides Nashville, where would you live? This
Speaker 1: is one of our last questions. Haley in Wisconsin.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I think I would say like Denver
Speaker 4: or somewhere in Colorado. I think it's so pretty there.
Speaker 4: I love Mountain so much. But I also love the beach.
Speaker 4: So this is very hard because I honestly do think
Speaker 4: of this beach.
Speaker 1: Girl.
Speaker 4: You think I am. Yeah, I know that's the thing,
Speaker 4: but I don't really want to live in California. And
Speaker 4: I like the West Coast beaches. They're so pretty.
Speaker 1: They are so pretty, but so are Florida beaches.
Speaker 4: I don't know. I think about this all the time.
Speaker 4: So this is a great question, because.
Speaker 1: I don't think all the time. It does not have
Speaker 1: an answer for you.
Speaker 4: I don't I wonder this. I'm like, wait, maybe I
Speaker 4: could split up, like, you know, do Colorado for five
Speaker 4: years retirement.
Speaker 1: You know, like where you live one year half of
Speaker 1: the year, and then you move down to Florida for
Speaker 1: the other half.
Speaker 4: That's what I'm gonna do. That's exactly what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 4: So I will do Colorado early. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, so Colorado half the year, Florida the other half.
Speaker 4: Love it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Abby's retiring really.
Speaker 1: In the beach. All right, we're wrapping up here. Abby,
Speaker 1: thank you for coming on, answering our listener questions, hanging
Speaker 1: out with me for a little bit.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's been fun. On more of my dms or
Speaker 4: I had one of my DM's.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, what is it?
Speaker 4: Do you want to answer that?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Give it to me.
Speaker 4: Okay, Oh, let's see.
Speaker 1: If you're okay. I should have had right away right
Speaker 1: now you're not. It's fine. I kind of threw it
Speaker 1: out there.
Speaker 4: Oh here we go. Okay. So Lil Lily in North
Speaker 4: Carolina said, I'm thirty two and having a hard time dating.
Speaker 4: I'm just so tired and done with people. How do
Speaker 4: you suggest getting over dating dating burnout? And also how
Speaker 4: involved on dating apps? Like were you before you were
Speaker 4: in your relationship? Hmmm, that's a tough one dating burnout.
Speaker 4: Oh I remember that so much. That's why I limited
Speaker 4: mind to an hour per date and just do like
Speaker 4: a coffee date. Don't make it this whole grand thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, and I think you should allow the burnout
Speaker 1: to exist, Like if you're done with dating for a while,
Speaker 1: be done with dating for a while. There is no
Speaker 1: requirement of you to go on a date every single
Speaker 1: nat or every single week, like, do.
Speaker 3: It as your mood flows.
Speaker 1: Because if you go on dates when you are miserable
Speaker 1: and you're tired of this and you're tired of saying
Speaker 1: this is my favorite color, this is where I'm fun
Speaker 1: and you're just bored of it, you're you're not even
Speaker 1: gonna give a chance to the person you're on a
Speaker 1: day with. M So, if you're burnt out, take a break,
Speaker 1: like genuinely take a break and just hang out for.
Speaker 3: A few days or a few weeks or whatever it
Speaker 3: is you need.
Speaker 1: And then when you jump back in, I think Abby
Speaker 1: has your best advice is like don't go so hard
Speaker 1: if you are going hard, like keep it short, keep
Speaker 1: it sweet and simple.
Speaker 3: Like people do all.
Speaker 1: These elaborate big first dates, and they never make sense,
Speaker 1: especially in the dating age today, because you're probably not
Speaker 1: gonna go on a second day with them, probably like
Speaker 1: the chances are less to go on a second date
Speaker 1: at this point. So I think Abby's advice is great
Speaker 1: if you're experiencing burnout with the dates and then taking
Speaker 1: your breaks where you need them. For me, for meeting
Speaker 1: a man in uniform, I had just actually gotten off
Speaker 1: the apps for a while because I had had my
Speaker 1: burnout face and was tired of them. Got back on,
Speaker 1: but actually I had I think I've talked about this
Speaker 1: a little bit where I really revamped my hinge to
Speaker 1: be very intentional. I realized that I was given off
Speaker 1: too fun like let's hang out vibes, where I wanted
Speaker 1: to be giving off I want to date and marry somebody.
Speaker 1: Actually it's what I want to do, and so I
Speaker 1: revamped my whole hinge to be very just more serious, engaged.
Speaker 1: Was still some flirty, like, still my personalities in it,
Speaker 1: but it was really intentional of what I was putting
Speaker 1: on there versus it being just like, oh a throwaway, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm on the dating apps, this is how I might
Speaker 1: meet somebody. I was really intentional about it, and then
Speaker 1: a few days later we matched. So I credit that
Speaker 1: to that specifically because of just the way that my
Speaker 1: situation changed, I think in a way in my headspace
Speaker 1: of where I was at, I think that's what happened
Speaker 1: in mind.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that is the key. Yeah, like putting
Speaker 4: exactly what you're looking for, because then you're not going
Speaker 4: to have all these the ones that you're tired of.
Speaker 4: They're not going to be coming at you. They're gonna
Speaker 4: actually be probably decent or have similar goals or relationship
Speaker 4: goals or whatever. If you just have like not looking
Speaker 4: for a hookup, you know, Like I think I put that.
Speaker 4: I was so tired of it. I was just like,
Speaker 4: not looking for hookup. Now, I'm not like, so I
Speaker 4: stop asking me. I was really irritated, and I was
Speaker 4: just like, that's what I did. I made it very clear.
Speaker 4: So those guys and SIP left and you're not even
Speaker 4: gonna come across them.
Speaker 1: So and even just putting in your little relationship part
Speaker 1: where it's like, what are you looking for by saying
Speaker 1: I literally said I was looking for my partner and
Speaker 1: people would still come on our thing and I was looking.
Speaker 3: For fun, and I was like, where did these signals
Speaker 3: get crossed?
Speaker 1: So not even just doing that is enough, Like you
Speaker 1: have to be so intentional with your prompts and everything.
Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, there's a way to be
Speaker 1: overly serious. If you're like I need this, this and
Speaker 1: this and this is all I want. Yeah, that's going
Speaker 1: to be a turn off. I just mean be like, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm looking for somebody who really loves his dog and
Speaker 1: he likes to eat. Dude. I just specifically what you're
Speaker 1: looking for, and I think that will help in narrowing
Speaker 1: down who you're going on dates with and then hopefully
Speaker 1: in turn, also avoid some of that burnout because you're
Speaker 1: just going on dates with the wrong people. Right, it
Speaker 1: is a numbers game. Though. Dating is a numbers game.
Speaker 1: There's no doubt about that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, looking back, I didn't even try. I really did
Speaker 4: not try. I was so over it, Like I just
Speaker 4: be like, hey, that was like my opening line. I
Speaker 4: was just like, I'm not even gonna get creative anymore.
Speaker 1: But you don't deserve my creativity.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. But then it worked because he
Speaker 4: was like, do you want to go out with me?
Speaker 4: Or will you go out with me this Friday? Like
Speaker 4: what are you doing? And he made a plan, and
Speaker 4: I'm like, that's how it works. That's how they get you.
Speaker 4: They make a plan. And I was like, okay, make
Speaker 4: it plan.
Speaker 1: But also I don't know about for yours, but for ours,
Speaker 1: we maybe exchanged like two or three messages back and
Speaker 1: it was like we were already going out.
Speaker 4: Huh.
Speaker 3: I didn't like messaging all that.
Speaker 1: There were so many pin pals, so many pinpals on
Speaker 1: the dating mapp who were like they just wanted to
Speaker 1: sit there and chat with you, and I'm like, I,
Speaker 1: if we're meeting, let's do let's.
Speaker 4: Not don't waste time.
Speaker 1: So if you run into those, maybe just don't, like,
Speaker 1: don't engage with him and try and find one who's
Speaker 1: really genuinely intentional about meeting you. On the other side too,
Speaker 1: hmm yep, because the burnout also comes and just sending
Speaker 1: on the messages and having endless empty conversations for no reason.
Speaker 4: Right, That's what it was like. You would just open
Speaker 4: up your app and I'm like, oh, my gosh, another
Speaker 4: how are you today? Like, no, let's just let's go.
Speaker 3: Let's just say favorite color is blue.
Speaker 1: I am the youngest of four, I'm a vegetarian. It's like,
Speaker 1: do I have to tell you all this anymore?
Speaker 3: I'll something original and then be like, let's go on
Speaker 3: a date.
Speaker 4: Cool exactly.
Speaker 1: That's great And that's literally what man in uniform did
Speaker 1: and it sounds like that's what yours is. Did your
Speaker 1: have a nickname? Is he still?
Speaker 4: She said cheese head?
Speaker 1: Okay, that's what cheesehead did too, So yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: do that.
Speaker 4: Do that.
Speaker 1: That's all we got.
Speaker 3: We're getting out of here.
Speaker 4: Tell me where they can find you on Instagram at
Speaker 4: Abbey Lee Anderson, on x at Singing Abbey.
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Speaker 3: That is all peace, goodbye everybody.
Speaker 1: Hie.
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