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Speaker 1: The best bits of the week with Morgan. It's Listener

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Speaker 1: Q and day time.

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Speaker 2: We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your questions.

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Speaker 1: What's up everybody?

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Speaker 3: We are here for listener Q and A.

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Speaker 1: Abby is with me this weekend. You're alive over there, Abbey.

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Speaker 4: I am. Do I look alive?

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Speaker 1: Are you warm?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I have warmed up. I was so cold, but yeah.

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Speaker 3: Studio well shout outs to start.

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Speaker 1: Laurie wanted to say she loves us both, and then

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Speaker 1: we also got another one that said no question, just

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Speaker 1: wanted to say loving the new podcast. So that's cool too.

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Speaker 4: I love that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, some good little shout outs to start.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're diving in. I like to say that a lot,

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Speaker 1: and I realize I'm trying to take that back, so

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Speaker 1: we are. Don't ask me.

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Speaker 3: I find filler words because I get nervous.

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Speaker 4: I've never noticed it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I do it on.

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Speaker 1: The just on the podcast when I'm recording by myself,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to not that and say the word like

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Speaker 1: and uh, that's hard. Words are hard. They just need

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Speaker 1: to go silent. So if you sure me, just is okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I don't know though, has a double

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Speaker 1: date be planned. Love you girls here work. It talked

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Speaker 1: about a little bit on part one.

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Speaker 4: It's been talked about, it's been talked about. You know,

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Speaker 4: we have been really busy. I will say our schedules,

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Speaker 4: and then on the weekends we just I don't know, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We're chilling.

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Speaker 4: I just when I'm done, like here for the weekend,

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Speaker 4: I just kind of go off of my own world.

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Speaker 3: I'm the same way.

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Speaker 4: And like I said, I'm not good at initiating with

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Speaker 4: people because I just kind of get caught up at

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Speaker 4: home and I don't really want to get out. I

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Speaker 4: don't know if that that sounds bad, but probably just

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Speaker 4: come tired and so.

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Speaker 3: No, I think understandably.

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Speaker 1: So Abby and I have incredibly busy stuff going on

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Speaker 1: right now, so it's been a little difficult to even

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Speaker 1: have personal lives, I know, outside of work.

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Speaker 4: But we have it planned now. We have what we're

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Speaker 4: gonna do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I always have to choose the date. The date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we're gonna go to dueling pianos, Well, buy you

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Speaker 4: keys in Laney Wilson's.

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Speaker 1: Bar, and we're gonna make sure our songs get played. Yes,

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Speaker 1: just the date, and we do extensively talk about calendar.

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Speaker 3: Where is it?

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Speaker 1: We will?

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Speaker 3: We will?

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Speaker 1: We need to do that before you leave.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, are you writing? And he love songs? Now that

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Speaker 3: you've got a great guy.

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Speaker 1: This is from Leah in Pennsylvania, who loves us both.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, I haven't really written any Nope, he hasn't inspired any.

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Speaker 4: He has inspired him. I guess I'm just waiting for

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Speaker 4: this next one to come out that's more sassy, that

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Speaker 4: is anti love. So I'm in that head space. I'm

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Speaker 4: trying to do one thing at a time because I

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Speaker 4: get overwhelmed easily, and I'm trying to work on the

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Speaker 4: balance that we were talking about and the other one,

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Speaker 4: like balance, because right now it's like I focus on

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Speaker 4: Bobby Bone Show and then the podcast stuff and then

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Speaker 4: I forget that. It's like, oh, I need to focus

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Speaker 4: on the back burner, which is not good. I'm still

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Speaker 4: playing guitar. I'm practicing that.

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Speaker 1: But writing I think you're doing the guitar like a week.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. So my boyfriend started playing now and

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Speaker 4: he's almost better than me, and I'm actually annoyed.

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Speaker 4: Like he picks it up, so fast, like my brain

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Speaker 4: the very beginning. That's why I haven't like played guitar

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Speaker 4: because I get frustrated and he's actually like better and.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, he's just your permanent guitar player.

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Speaker 4: It's what I was thinking, Like, you don't have to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I give you a case every night exactly, this

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Speaker 4: So when when we're together, he's always picks up a guitar,

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Speaker 4: He's like, okay, let's play, let's play. And I'm like, okay, fine,

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Speaker 4: Like he's good at fingerpicking. I'm like it's so hard

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Speaker 4: I'm really annoying. He's very competitive and so am I,

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh day, so you got this is

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Speaker 1: happening in Atty's brain. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So no writing, no, but that's next. That's my next song.

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Speaker 4: I'll do a love song.

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Speaker 1: I love song.

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Speaker 3: Maybe he can write it with you with his guitar skills.

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Speaker 3: Laurie from Massachusetts.

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Speaker 1: She was to know. Do you have any more shows

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Speaker 4: Nope, none planned, They're none planned.

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Speaker 3: Just in her basement while boyfriend's playing guitar. Yeah, she's practicing.

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Speaker 1: My gosh, dang it. What is a song title?

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Speaker 4: Huh? I sing in the car a lot and the showers.

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Speaker 3: Because that's my singer, isn't that?

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Speaker 1: What helped you in your single phase while everyone around

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Speaker 4: So I feel like I've lived my whole life being

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Speaker 4: I think embrace being single in that season of your life,

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Speaker 3: Pattern, a pattern of behavior.

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Speaker 1: I think this came from Sadie, But my can eater

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Speaker 4: Okay, Broadway, I love going to the stage. That's one

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Speaker 4: I love that. Let's see and then I've already mentioned

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Speaker 4: People, if you don't know, like I leave the ends

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Speaker 1: That's funny that he hasn't said anything I know.

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Speaker 4: Isn't that crazy?

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, Okay, let's see. In Midtown I love

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Speaker 3: Oh good brunch too.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, it's fun there. They do have a really

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Speaker 4: Okay. Yeah, it's on twelve South area, which is really

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Speaker 4: they have like jewelry and cute clothes.

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Speaker 1: And have you gone to Fonda over there? It's the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with you. I love that whole area.

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Speaker 1: Except that's the one that lunchboxs ond me I gave

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Speaker 3: Lunchbox is the foody of all foody is. And he's

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh, I'm like simple, I'm like that great guacamole.

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Speaker 1: I'm also like he hated the guacamole. I was like, well,

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Okay, any others you want to add

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Speaker 4: I don't think so. That whole area you really can't

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Speaker 4: miss with that. I like Frothy Monkey for coffee.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah they do. Oh my gosh. One of my

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Speaker 4: It's like a cute. It's literally a hole in the wall.

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Speaker 1: That's amazing. What it's also just really good. They good

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. Yeah, that's awesome.

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Speaker 1: The next time you go thrifting and you get your

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, so awkward.

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Speaker 4: I put that note on his door. It was really nice.

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Speaker 3: He's like ten tiny like they.

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Speaker 4: Then yeah, they take him out on a leash. It's

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Speaker 1: Well, but you know what, at least you figured it

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Speaker 4: No, I have no shit. Yeah, like we handled it great.

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Speaker 1: I've lost some very nice adults me too. Great interactions.

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Speaker 4: I mean it works when you're nice, you just ask

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Speaker 1: So it's true it was good.

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Speaker 3: It could have gone worse. You could end up having

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Speaker 4: So exactly. Well, the things that, like Lunchbox is telling

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Speaker 1: That's true. What is your most rewarding thing about being

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Speaker 4: I would say I even had someone call me today

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Speaker 4: my story of saying it like inspired her to do

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Speaker 4: like a marathon. I think stuff like that when they

442
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Speaker 4: say you inspired them. I love getting messages like that,

443
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Speaker 4: like me starting guitar, Like they're like, oh, you know,

444
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Speaker 4: I just tried something I never thought I would ever

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Speaker 4: be able to do. So I think I think that

446
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Speaker 4: would be it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the connectivity, yes with people.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like knowing that you can do anything. I guess

449
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Speaker 4: you think you can't, like I didn't have you did

450
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Speaker 4: any Yeah, like I didn't. I just didn't ever think

451
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Speaker 4: i'd be able to play guitar or you know, record

452
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Speaker 4: a song, like I didn't think I would do that.

453
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Speaker 4: I wasn't good enough being in Nashville. Everybody's so good

454
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Speaker 4: that I just I wasn't good enough. But that doesn't matter.

455
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Speaker 4: You don't have to be the best, to do what

456
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Speaker 4: you want to do, and like reach growing because of radio.

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Speaker 4: Look at me, Wow, so proud.

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Speaker 1: That was not sarcastic that I was serious. I'm proud

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Speaker 1: of you. You are growing. I'm pretty sure you would

460
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Speaker 1: have came on Best Bits three years ago and we're

461
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Speaker 1: like a lot more timid and not as confident in

462
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Speaker 1: any of that. Look at you now, Yeah, I would have.

463
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Speaker 4: Been like, I don't know, I'm bad at everything.

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Speaker 1: I'm just kidding, but not anymore not bad. If you

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Speaker 1: could live anywhere besides Nashville, where would you live? This

466
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Speaker 1: is one of our last questions. Haley in Wisconsin.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I think I would say like Denver

468
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Speaker 4: or somewhere in Colorado. I think it's so pretty there.

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Speaker 4: I love Mountain so much. But I also love the beach.

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Speaker 4: So this is very hard because I honestly do think

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Speaker 4: of this beach.

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Speaker 1: Girl.

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Speaker 4: You think I am. Yeah, I know that's the thing,

474
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Speaker 4: but I don't really want to live in California. And

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Speaker 4: I like the West Coast beaches. They're so pretty.

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Speaker 1: They are so pretty, but so are Florida beaches.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I think about this all the time.

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Speaker 4: So this is a great question, because.

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Speaker 1: I don't think all the time. It does not have

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Speaker 1: an answer for you.

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Speaker 4: I don't I wonder this. I'm like, wait, maybe I

482
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Speaker 4: could split up, like, you know, do Colorado for five

483
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Speaker 4: years retirement.

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Speaker 1: You know, like where you live one year half of

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Speaker 1: the year, and then you move down to Florida for

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Speaker 1: the other half.

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Speaker 4: That's what I'm gonna do. That's exactly what I'm gonna do.

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Speaker 4: So I will do Colorado early. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so Colorado half the year, Florida the other half.

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Speaker 4: Love it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Abby's retiring really.

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Speaker 1: In the beach. All right, we're wrapping up here. Abby,

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming on, answering our listener questions, hanging

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Speaker 1: out with me for a little bit.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's been fun. On more of my dms or

496
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Speaker 4: I had one of my DM's.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, what is it?

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Speaker 4: Do you want to answer that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Give it to me.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Oh, let's see.

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Speaker 1: If you're okay. I should have had right away right

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Speaker 1: now you're not. It's fine. I kind of threw it

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Speaker 1: out there.

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Speaker 4: Oh here we go. Okay. So Lil Lily in North

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Speaker 4: Carolina said, I'm thirty two and having a hard time dating.

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Speaker 4: I'm just so tired and done with people. How do

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Speaker 4: you suggest getting over dating dating burnout? And also how

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Speaker 4: involved on dating apps? Like were you before you were

509
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Speaker 4: in your relationship? Hmmm, that's a tough one dating burnout.

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Speaker 4: Oh I remember that so much. That's why I limited

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Speaker 4: mind to an hour per date and just do like

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Speaker 4: a coffee date. Don't make it this whole grand thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, and I think you should allow the burnout

514
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Speaker 1: to exist, Like if you're done with dating for a while,

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Speaker 1: be done with dating for a while. There is no

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Speaker 1: requirement of you to go on a date every single

517
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Speaker 1: nat or every single week, like, do.

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Speaker 3: It as your mood flows.

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Speaker 1: Because if you go on dates when you are miserable

520
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Speaker 1: and you're tired of this and you're tired of saying

521
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Speaker 1: this is my favorite color, this is where I'm fun

522
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Speaker 1: and you're just bored of it, you're you're not even

523
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Speaker 1: gonna give a chance to the person you're on a

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Speaker 1: day with. M So, if you're burnt out, take a break,

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Speaker 1: like genuinely take a break and just hang out for.

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Speaker 3: A few days or a few weeks or whatever it

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Speaker 3: is you need.

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Speaker 1: And then when you jump back in, I think Abby

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Speaker 1: has your best advice is like don't go so hard

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Speaker 1: if you are going hard, like keep it short, keep

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Speaker 1: it sweet and simple.

532
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Speaker 3: Like people do all.

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Speaker 1: These elaborate big first dates, and they never make sense,

534
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Speaker 1: especially in the dating age today, because you're probably not

535
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Speaker 1: gonna go on a second day with them, probably like

536
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Speaker 1: the chances are less to go on a second date

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Speaker 1: at this point. So I think Abby's advice is great

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Speaker 1: if you're experiencing burnout with the dates and then taking

539
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Speaker 1: your breaks where you need them. For me, for meeting

540
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Speaker 1: a man in uniform, I had just actually gotten off

541
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Speaker 1: the apps for a while because I had had my

542
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Speaker 1: burnout face and was tired of them. Got back on,

543
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Speaker 1: but actually I had I think I've talked about this

544
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Speaker 1: a little bit where I really revamped my hinge to

545
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Speaker 1: be very intentional. I realized that I was given off

546
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Speaker 1: too fun like let's hang out vibes, where I wanted

547
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Speaker 1: to be giving off I want to date and marry somebody.

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Speaker 1: Actually it's what I want to do, and so I

549
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Speaker 1: revamped my whole hinge to be very just more serious, engaged.

550
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Speaker 1: Was still some flirty, like, still my personalities in it,

551
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Speaker 1: but it was really intentional of what I was putting

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Speaker 1: on there versus it being just like, oh a throwaway, Okay,

553
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Speaker 1: I'm on the dating apps, this is how I might

554
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Speaker 1: meet somebody. I was really intentional about it, and then

555
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Speaker 1: a few days later we matched. So I credit that

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Speaker 1: to that specifically because of just the way that my

557
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Speaker 1: situation changed, I think in a way in my headspace

558
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Speaker 1: of where I was at, I think that's what happened

559
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Speaker 1: in mind.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that is the key. Yeah, like putting

561
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Speaker 4: exactly what you're looking for, because then you're not going

562
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Speaker 4: to have all these the ones that you're tired of.

563
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 4: They're not going to be coming at you. They're gonna

564
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Speaker 4: actually be probably decent or have similar goals or relationship

565
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Speaker 4: goals or whatever. If you just have like not looking

566
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Speaker 4: for a hookup, you know, Like I think I put that.

567
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Speaker 4: I was so tired of it. I was just like,

568
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Speaker 4: not looking for hookup. Now, I'm not like, so I

569
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Speaker 4: stop asking me. I was really irritated, and I was

570
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Speaker 4: just like, that's what I did. I made it very clear.

571
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Speaker 4: So those guys and SIP left and you're not even

572
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Speaker 4: gonna come across them.

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Speaker 1: So and even just putting in your little relationship part

574
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Speaker 1: where it's like, what are you looking for by saying

575
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Speaker 1: I literally said I was looking for my partner and

576
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Speaker 1: people would still come on our thing and I was looking.

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Speaker 3: For fun, and I was like, where did these signals

578
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Speaker 3: get crossed?

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Speaker 1: So not even just doing that is enough, Like you

580
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Speaker 1: have to be so intentional with your prompts and everything.

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Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, there's a way to be

582
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Speaker 1: overly serious. If you're like I need this, this and

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Speaker 1: this and this is all I want. Yeah, that's going

584
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Speaker 1: to be a turn off. I just mean be like, hey,

585
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Speaker 1: I'm looking for somebody who really loves his dog and

586
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Speaker 1: he likes to eat. Dude. I just specifically what you're

587
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Speaker 1: looking for, and I think that will help in narrowing

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Speaker 1: down who you're going on dates with and then hopefully

589
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Speaker 1: in turn, also avoid some of that burnout because you're

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Speaker 1: just going on dates with the wrong people. Right, it

591
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Speaker 1: is a numbers game. Though. Dating is a numbers game.

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Speaker 1: There's no doubt about that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, looking back, I didn't even try. I really did

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Speaker 4: not try. I was so over it, Like I just

595
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Speaker 4: be like, hey, that was like my opening line. I

596
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Speaker 4: was just like, I'm not even gonna get creative anymore.

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Speaker 1: But you don't deserve my creativity.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. But then it worked because he

599
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 4: was like, do you want to go out with me?

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Speaker 4: Or will you go out with me this Friday? Like

601
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Speaker 4: what are you doing? And he made a plan, and

602
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Speaker 4: I'm like, that's how it works. That's how they get you.

603
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 4: They make a plan. And I was like, okay, make

604
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Speaker 4: it plan.

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Speaker 1: But also I don't know about for yours, but for ours,

606
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Speaker 1: we maybe exchanged like two or three messages back and

607
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Speaker 1: it was like we were already going out.

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Speaker 4: Huh.

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Speaker 3: I didn't like messaging all that.

610
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Speaker 1: There were so many pin pals, so many pinpals on

611
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Speaker 1: the dating mapp who were like they just wanted to

612
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Speaker 1: sit there and chat with you, and I'm like, I,

613
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Speaker 1: if we're meeting, let's do let's.

614
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Speaker 4: Not don't waste time.

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Speaker 1: So if you run into those, maybe just don't, like,

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Speaker 1: don't engage with him and try and find one who's

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Speaker 1: really genuinely intentional about meeting you. On the other side too,

618
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Speaker 1: hmm yep, because the burnout also comes and just sending

619
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Speaker 1: on the messages and having endless empty conversations for no reason.

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Speaker 4: Right, That's what it was like. You would just open

621
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Speaker 4: up your app and I'm like, oh, my gosh, another

622
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:24,479
Speaker 4: how are you today? Like, no, let's just let's go.

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Speaker 3: Let's just say favorite color is blue.

624
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Speaker 1: I am the youngest of four, I'm a vegetarian. It's like,

625
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Speaker 1: do I have to tell you all this anymore?

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Speaker 3: I'll something original and then be like, let's go on

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Speaker 3: a date.

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Speaker 4: Cool exactly.

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Speaker 1: That's great And that's literally what man in uniform did

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Speaker 1: and it sounds like that's what yours is. Did your

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Speaker 1: have a nickname? Is he still?

632
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Speaker 4: She said cheese head?

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's what cheesehead did too, So yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: do that.

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Speaker 4: Do that.

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Speaker 1: That's all we got.

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Speaker 3: We're getting out of here.

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Speaker 4: Tell me where they can find you on Instagram at

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Speaker 4: Abbey Lee Anderson, on x at Singing Abbey.

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Speaker 1: All right, and I am at web Girl Morgan. Please

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Speaker 1: up there. All right.

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Speaker 3: That is all peace, goodbye everybody.

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Speaker 1: Hie.

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Speaker 2: That's the best bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks

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Speaker 2: for listening. Be sure to check out the other two

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