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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the clo cheaf love officer

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. All right. Leah in New Jersey writes, I

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Speaker 1: was dating a guy that was separated but had not

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Speaker 1: gotten a divorce.

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Speaker 2: His wife accused me of being a homewrecker.

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Speaker 1: But when I met her husband, he had his own

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Speaker 1: apartment and he was honest about everything. She blames their

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Speaker 1: separation on me. Why do some women have misplaced anger

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Speaker 1: in these situations?

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Speaker 3: Well, you gotta blame somebody, And she figured, if you

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Speaker 3: want this dating you the one that calls it real,

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Speaker 3: that's an automatic.

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Speaker 4: Then how many times that didn't happen? That ain't nothing new?

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Why do women have displace a it's this place to you?

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Speaker 3: She thinks she'd nailed it.

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Speaker 4: Why you think it ain't you?

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Speaker 3: You know, but when you met him, you had his

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Speaker 3: apartment and that's probably true. But she gonna blame somebody

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Speaker 3: the moment. This is all the evidence she got. She

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Speaker 3: don't know as she don't know as her, She don't

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Speaker 3: knows him, so she don't found a reason. And it's you,

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Speaker 3: and it's really not you. It probably not even her.

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Speaker 3: It's probably just a shortcoming in him. Why do women

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Speaker 3: always try to find another reason other than they pick

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Speaker 3: choice of men.

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Speaker 4: That makes it the cause and effect. Sometimes you just

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Speaker 4: picked the wrong man. That's all. Ain't a big deal.

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Speaker 4: You can get it right, all right.

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Tandra in Phoenix, Tandra says, I've been

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Speaker 1: dating a man for eight months and I've only been

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Speaker 1: to his house once. He lives an hour away from me,

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Speaker 1: and he comes to visit me, or we meet up

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Speaker 1: in the middle. He facetimes me from his house. So

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Speaker 1: I don't think he lives with anyone. Is there a

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Speaker 1: reason he doesn't invite me to his home? What's up

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Speaker 1: with him?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? He got other things happening.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like what I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if it's a pedans in there. But

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Speaker 3: you're not coming on. You've been over there one time.

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Speaker 3: That was a close call. You can't come back over here.

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Speaker 3: That's all to it, y'all meeting halfway in all this here,

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Speaker 3: you don't never come out there, so you know, come on, now,

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Speaker 3: use your intuition. Whatever your intuition is telling you, that's

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Speaker 3: probably what it is.

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Speaker 4: So what part of the house is he in?

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Speaker 3: God, he is close to the balcony. Wherever he close

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Speaker 3: close to it the way he can step out any second.

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Speaker 4: So if you see movement in their kitchen or something.

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Speaker 3: Hell, now he ain't in no clothes, He ain't in

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Speaker 3: the den where it ain't no out.

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Speaker 4: No, he got he got to be able to step

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Speaker 4: out real quick. It's a strategic and I mean tell

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Speaker 4: him to take a tour.

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Speaker 3: Let him tell him. You want to see his apartment

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Speaker 3: on tour? Tell me the FaceTime you tour. Then you

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Speaker 3: see all this stuff in that crib in the corner, you.

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Speaker 5: Know, like that PhiX Now little swings it over there,

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Speaker 5: dividing in the you know, open defrigerator.

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Speaker 4: What is all that similar in that? All right?

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Speaker 2: Moving on to U Katina in Chicago.

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Speaker 1: Katina writes, my husband and I went to a graduation

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Speaker 1: party for his knie. One of his exes was at

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Speaker 1: the party, and I had a conflict with her recently

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Speaker 1: because she d MD my husband and he showed it

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Speaker 1: to me. She apologized after I called her out on it,

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Speaker 1: and my husband is upset because I didn't speak to her.

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Speaker 1: Do I have to be nice to her?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 3: Not really. I don't really know how you gonna be nice? No,

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Speaker 3: you ain't got it, you know you confronted her. She apologized,

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Speaker 3: Now he wants you to be nice. That's his that's

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Speaker 3: his world. You ain't gotta be in that. You didn't

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Speaker 3: pick her. He picked her. You didn't ex her, he

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Speaker 3: exed her. So now we access let's be exes.

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Speaker 2: I'm to your ex. You don't. You don't speak to

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Speaker 2: your ex?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 2: What what?

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Speaker 4: What are we talking about?

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's just a common court.

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Speaker 4: I wanted to be an ex so we could stop talking.

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Speaker 2: That was your goal.

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Speaker 3: That was one of the key key That was one

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Speaker 3: of the key developmental parts of this breakup. How can

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Speaker 3: I not talk to this person no more. I don't

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Speaker 3: got to hear this.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: I don't care what you think. That's fine. Whatever you think,

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Speaker 3: that's fine. What is we talking about?

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Speaker 4: Why? What are we talking about it?

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Speaker 2: It's not like you moved away. You still got to exist,

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Speaker 2: live in the same world. You might run in.

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Speaker 4: World, live in the world. You ain't finished stay over here, though.

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Speaker 4: I hope I do run into you.

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Speaker 2: And then what I must be pretty because I ain't.

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Speaker 6: Look, I'm not saying nothing.

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Speaker 3: If I encouraging, yeah, if I do see you, wow.

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Speaker 4: Okay, give me some places I could see and let

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Speaker 4: me tell.

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Speaker 1: You what I did well, like at the grocery store

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Speaker 1: in the problem, Huh, I lost my APPETI.

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Speaker 2: Starbus, never eat again, Starbucks.

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Speaker 4: I like, I like, I like.

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Speaker 3: I like a Dunky donut coffee. You know, sometime I

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Speaker 3: run it into him like that, you said, I running

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Speaker 3: in I got Oh you was talking about what the car.

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Speaker 4: On the freeway.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're moving on with these killers.

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Speaker 2: We're moving on all right.

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Speaker 1: Last one Steve, Marie and Grand Prairie says, I work

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Speaker 1: with the lady that smells like bacon grease every day.

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Speaker 1: It's in her wigs and her clothes and her work bag.

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Speaker 2: I am embarrassed for her, she says.

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Speaker 1: Marie says, I'm embarrassed for her because our coworkers call.

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Speaker 2: Her a grease ball.

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Speaker 1: There are only four blacks at our job, so I

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Speaker 1: don't like this at all. Should I get out of

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Speaker 1: my comfort zone and tell her that she smells that?

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know that's what Marie wants to know.

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Speaker 4: Oh, you could just bring eggs and toast.

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Speaker 2: Worker a meal.

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Speaker 4: Well, that way she would just smell like breakfast.

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Speaker 3: And I want to say baker. She loved bacon. She

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Speaker 3: had she and that cooking bacon, but you might have to.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if you all are close enough for that.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't sound like it. She just says, I work

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Speaker 2: with a lady. She's they're just both black women at

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Speaker 2: the same job.

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Speaker 3: You know, her wig smell like Greece, so maybe she

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Speaker 3: got a studio apartment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all that bothers me. How does your wigs

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Speaker 2: smell like Greek.

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Speaker 4: At least, you know, probably love it.

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Speaker 3: At least the quality of wig And the words of

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Speaker 3: Ricky Smiley he dated a girl wig was so country,

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Speaker 3: it was so crunchy that it felt like a easter basket.

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Speaker 4: Grass. I heard Ricky Smiley.

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Speaker 6: Say that, like easter basket grass.

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Speaker 4: I remember that.

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Speaker 2: Grass, green grass. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, thank you, Clo. That's all we have

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Speaker 1: for you today. You're listening Dave Harvey Morning Show