Speaker 1: Second date, up date.
Speaker 2: Sometimes in the dating world you realize the ideal person
Speaker 2: that you have built up in your mind. Yeah, isn't
Speaker 2: necessarily the ideal person for you in real life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, rip that right out of Brooks wedding vows.
Speaker 3: To her husband.
Speaker 1: But that could be the case for our listener, Rob today.
Speaker 4: Rude.
Speaker 1: Well, you said him who says he met.
Speaker 2: A different type of woman than the one he would
Speaker 2: normally go for, and he described her in the email
Speaker 2: as someone who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, is one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: Vegan, and must be in bed.
Speaker 2: Every night by eight forty five pm.
Speaker 3: Rob, discipline, woman.
Speaker 2: How did you let this party animal slip through your fingers?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. I just found it endearing. I
Speaker 4: thought she was kind of wholesome and not really the
Speaker 4: type of girl that I normally go for.
Speaker 6: But it's interesting because it could be wholesome or it
Speaker 6: could be that she's done all those things so.
Speaker 3: Much that she can't do them anymore.
Speaker 1: You know, on the party life. Okay, well, what's her name?
Speaker 7: I think it's Maggie.
Speaker 1: All right, how did you meet her?
Speaker 4: We met online? But I just thought her pictures were
Speaker 4: so natural. She was very naturally beautiful. The pictures weren't photoshopped,
Speaker 4: and she wasn't out at the club. It's kind of
Speaker 4: pictures of her hanging out with her friends, and I
Speaker 4: just thought it was nice.
Speaker 3: It was such a good photoshop. You didn't notice. Can
Speaker 3: I ask, are you any of the things she is like?
Speaker 7: Dry?
Speaker 3: You know, no smoking, vegan?
Speaker 7: No, not at all?
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, yeah, I definitely drink and I definitely eat
Speaker 4: a lot of meat.
Speaker 2: So it could be in opposite subtract sort of situation
Speaker 2: where you like mesh together over time, Bacon.
Speaker 3: I mean, it could be the reason she's not calling
Speaker 3: him back.
Speaker 1: Well, what did you guys do when you guys went out?
Speaker 4: Well, it's weird on two dates back to back over
Speaker 4: a weekend.
Speaker 2: Well that makes sense because she has to be in
Speaker 2: bed by eight forty five, so that's not very much
Speaker 2: the first one.
Speaker 3: Wait, how did that work?
Speaker 4: Well, so she wasn't like to drink, so we got
Speaker 4: ramen and then we got ice cream.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, took the vegan to ice cream.
Speaker 4: Well I learned that they actually have vegan ice cream.
Speaker 1: Oh cool, so you checked it.
Speaker 7: To me.
Speaker 1: But for her that's great.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like coconut milk ice cream. Sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it actually tasted pretty good, I mean a
Speaker 4: spoon nice.
Speaker 6: Because she was probably impressed that you like put some
Speaker 6: effort in to find a place that could fit her.
Speaker 1: So how did date number one end?
Speaker 4: So there was no kiss at the end, but it
Speaker 4: was like a long hug. And then she actually suggested
Speaker 4: that we go out again the next day.
Speaker 6: Oh wow, okayugah, no kidding.
Speaker 3: So what did you do the next day?
Speaker 4: So the next day, I was like, you get to
Speaker 4: pick where we want to go. So we went to
Speaker 4: a vegan restaurant.
Speaker 3: Cool, okay, oh my god.
Speaker 6: I'm not vegan, but one of my favorite places to
Speaker 6: eat is a vegan restaurant in my neighborhood.
Speaker 2: Is scary, Like, I'm a foodie and even someone going
Speaker 2: going to a vegan restaurant, it's kind of intimidated. Well
Speaker 2: maybe it's like the ice cream shop where they have
Speaker 2: the one vegan option for people one plate for the
Speaker 2: media have.
Speaker 1: A really bloody how was it?
Speaker 4: Yeah, well they had a bunch of like cauliflower stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's popular.
Speaker 7: I mean it was okay, I didn't mind it.
Speaker 1: Okay, they have like.
Speaker 3: How is the connection between you two.
Speaker 4: I mean after that date, we definitely kissed.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, your first two dates sounds like they went great.
Speaker 2: So what's happened since then?
Speaker 4: Well, so then after the date, she starts texting me
Speaker 4: and it's a lot of texts and like it's text
Speaker 4: like I can't wait to see you. There's a lot
Speaker 4: of love gifts and uh memes out love and she
Speaker 4: was really accentuating the love aspect of everything, and uh,
Speaker 4: you know, it was a little bit much.
Speaker 3: I don't get why he's on with us if it
Speaker 3: was freaking.
Speaker 1: You out, calling you back.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Well what happened was she sent me a Spotify song.
Speaker 4: It's a song by Starship called we Built.
Speaker 7: This Thing Together. I don't know if you guys know
Speaker 7: that song.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we built this string together.
Speaker 2: Nothing's gonna stop us.
Speaker 1: That's a good song. Everyone.
Speaker 6: She trying to like force a couple song already.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, like what have we built?
Speaker 4: We were on two dates?
Speaker 1: Did you say that to her?
Speaker 4: Well, I said, oh, that's a nice song. I'm not
Speaker 4: really into the song though, it's I'm not really a
Speaker 4: big fan of it. And that totally changed things for her.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just slammed her taste in music.
Speaker 3: No, she was trying to convey up.
Speaker 6: And it's like when I used to make mixed CDs
Speaker 6: and like put in secret songs for different dudes I
Speaker 6: like and be like, yeah, I know that.
Speaker 2: One hit, You're right, yeah, and we'd be like, dude,
Speaker 2: once she gets a song for I prove yes.
Speaker 1: So I'm hoping it.
Speaker 6: You basically turned her down by not liking the good honestly,
Speaker 6: maybe she needed together, but.
Speaker 1: You said that changed things between you two.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I mean I wasn't trying to put her down. It
Speaker 4: was just a little confused by it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, so what do you want our help with?
Speaker 3: Do you want another date or do you not?
Speaker 4: So we had two really great dates together and the
Speaker 4: only thing that was weird was when we were apart.
Speaker 1: Okay. I've been in situations where like.
Speaker 3: Maybe we can who you want to live together, Let's.
Speaker 2: Twenty four hours a day with you from now and
Speaker 2: so forever so you both die.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I just want to see where she's at, and I
Speaker 4: hope I didn't offend her, and I just want you
Speaker 4: to check for me.
Speaker 3: I see, I see it. Yeah.
Speaker 6: Maybe if she knows how you feel, she can lay
Speaker 6: off the love gifts and the songs.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 4: Don't know how to tell her that politely. If she
Speaker 4: is that kind of person, I don't necessarily want to
Speaker 4: change her, you know.
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll let Brook tell her to cut that crap out.
Speaker 2: We'll do the second update right after this.
Speaker 1: Hold on second date update.
Speaker 2: Man, we're back to the nineteen eighties again.
Speaker 3: Is this the song?
Speaker 1: The Decade of Love?
Speaker 2: Sixteen Candles, Dirty Dancing, Wow, Ghost, all the best love movies? Okay,
Speaker 2: I can honestly say that we built this thing together.
Speaker 1: Nothing lasts forever. Nothing was gonna stop us. Now that's
Speaker 1: a song.
Speaker 2: Unless Maggie doesn't answer the phone, then that would kind
Speaker 2: of stop us and we'd be screwed.
Speaker 3: Are you all forgetting it's a song that she sent
Speaker 3: to him?
Speaker 7: Yes?
Speaker 2: This is This is the song from the nineteen eighties
Speaker 2: that kind of soured the relationship after Rob went on
Speaker 2: back to back dates with both of which went great,
Speaker 2: but this Spotify song ruined it because Rob said I'm
Speaker 2: not really a fan.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean it's pretty cheesy.
Speaker 2: But Brooke had a good point. He was trying to say,
Speaker 2: I don't really like this song. Maybe Maggie took it
Speaker 2: as he doesn't like my love.
Speaker 1: He's rejecting our relationship.
Speaker 3: That's how I would take it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, but that's not the case.
Speaker 2: So that's why Rob has reached out to us, hoping
Speaker 2: we can respark this, get this going again. Maybe do
Speaker 2: a little ghost love scene situation, right Rob, that's right.
Speaker 6: Pottery class you no alcohol, very vegan, you know, would
Speaker 6: be perfect.
Speaker 2: That's what we should offer to send them to if
Speaker 2: we can get her on the phone.
Speaker 1: I like it, Shirtless though.
Speaker 3: Are you wanting to apologize to her for your response?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I mean the way you put it, I guess I
Speaker 4: kind of see it like I was being a little rude.
Speaker 7: So yeah, I would like to apologize. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Cool, Well, we don't know for sure if she took
Speaker 2: it that way. That's just Brook's opinion, and you know
Speaker 2: how valuable that is.
Speaker 1: So you throw a dig in there.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, we don't know. Yeah, let's let's find
Speaker 2: out once and for all. I'm going to call it
Speaker 2: right now here we go.
Speaker 7: Hello, Hi?
Speaker 1: Is this Maggie?
Speaker 5: Yes? This is she? Who is this?
Speaker 1: We got you? Uh?
Speaker 3: Sorry?
Speaker 2: I mean I'm happy that you answered, is what I
Speaker 2: meant to say. Because we're a radio show. We're called
Speaker 2: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning, and we've been dying
Speaker 2: to talk to you.
Speaker 5: Okay for what I mean, why what's going on?
Speaker 2: Because we're doing a segment here called a Second Date Update,
Speaker 2: and it's where we try and help out our listeners
Speaker 2: if they've kind of stalled out in their dating life
Speaker 2: with somebody.
Speaker 1: We're trying to help somebody named Rob.
Speaker 5: Oh yes, Rob, Okay, I see?
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Rod said you had two great dates together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, back to back dates and one weekend.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: He actually told us that he felt really good about it.
Speaker 1: How did you feel?
Speaker 5: I felt really good about it too. I felt like
Speaker 5: we had this instant connection and potential to really go somewhere.
Speaker 5: I was really really excited to keep things going with him.
Speaker 3: It's so sweet.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 6: Was there something that made that change? Because it does
Speaker 6: sound like you're talking in past tense.
Speaker 5: Well, I mean, I'm the type of person who wants
Speaker 5: a guy who's going to be my prince charming and
Speaker 5: come in and ride in on the horse and professes
Speaker 5: love to me and just go all out and then
Speaker 5: we ride off into the sunset together.
Speaker 4: You know, you had.
Speaker 1: Grand romantic gestures that's what you like. Yes, exactly, that's
Speaker 1: totally fair.
Speaker 2: It could be a lot though, for some guys to
Speaker 2: process that after just one weekend hanging out out, you know,
Speaker 2: and not a.
Speaker 3: Lot of guys are romantic at all.
Speaker 5: Well they should be, and I made that very clear
Speaker 5: on my profile.
Speaker 3: Oh really, wait, it's on your profile? What'd you say
Speaker 3: on your profile?
Speaker 5: I want someone who's sweet. So if you're wanting to
Speaker 5: court me, I want you to send me messages and
Speaker 5: let me know that you appreciate me, because that's my
Speaker 5: My love language is affirmation's words of affirmation. So I
Speaker 5: love giving those out and I want that back in return.
Speaker 2: Got it?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 2: And you feel like Rob was not fulfilling those needs
Speaker 2: for you.
Speaker 5: Correct especially came down to where you know, I sent
Speaker 5: him what I thought was our first like love song
Speaker 5: or potential first dance, and I just envisioned us already there.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 3: Does that be a lot for anyone?
Speaker 2: So we did hear about that text and the song
Speaker 2: being sent to him. Honestly, here is what I worry
Speaker 2: about for you, Maggie. Along the way in your life,
Speaker 2: you've come up with this idea for a fairy tale romance.
Speaker 1: In your mind.
Speaker 3: Okay, right now, I see.
Speaker 2: It's totally okay to have these ideals in your head,
Speaker 2: but you have to be able to adjust to other people,
Speaker 2: because no one is going to match up perfectly with
Speaker 2: everything that you've said.
Speaker 3: It's already adjusting. I mean, she was already going out
Speaker 3: with somebody who wasn't a vegan. She was already going
Speaker 3: out with somebody that drinks when she doesn't.
Speaker 1: But she said the problem was he didn't like one song.
Speaker 6: No, she said, the problem was he wasn't romantic Jack.
Speaker 1: But the thing is, that's the conversation.
Speaker 2: You have to go off of the two great dates
Speaker 2: that you guys had together. That is not easy to
Speaker 2: do in the modern dating world. We never hear about that.
Speaker 2: That's special and that's something that you should actually hold
Speaker 2: on to, not that he didn't like a song that
Speaker 2: you texted him one time.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: I can see. I mean it was just my favorite
Speaker 5: song and I just were getting along world.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can hear it. And then I think Jeff's play.
Speaker 2: It's too easy for people to just ghost right now
Speaker 2: on these dating apps over one dumb little thing, and
Speaker 2: then it gets awkward between you two. You have to
Speaker 2: remember two great first dates, hold on to that, cherish
Speaker 2: that and work on it.
Speaker 1: Like you have to talk to each other about that thing.
Speaker 3: Why did you drink this morning?
Speaker 5: Brook?
Speaker 1: I don't need your love hate right now.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to build a love tower. And that's why
Speaker 2: I know. That's why I need to tell you, Maggie.
Speaker 2: Rob is on the phone right now. You like a
Speaker 2: grand romantic gesture.
Speaker 1: Here it is. He is waiting to talk to.
Speaker 7: Hey, Hey, Maggie, how you doing?
Speaker 3: Hi? Rob?
Speaker 5: I'm good. How are you.
Speaker 7: Good?
Speaker 4: You know, I just I wanted to apologize for blowing
Speaker 4: off your song. I didn't realize that it.
Speaker 7: Meant so much to you.
Speaker 4: But you know, I hear what you're saying about being
Speaker 4: more romantic. It's you know, we've only been on two dates,
Speaker 4: so maybe I need a little bit of a build
Speaker 4: up my time a little bit.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: Rob is a little bit more of a slow burner,
Speaker 2: but he's willing to burn a little bit faster for you.
Speaker 5: Well, I mean, I do appreciate that, and I felt
Speaker 5: like I was very transparent on my profile. I can't
Speaker 5: change who I am, and I do want someone who's
Speaker 5: going to be more forthcoming and romantic, so you know
Speaker 5: you can still.
Speaker 3: I got to say, Maggie real quick, just so you know.
Speaker 6: When he was on the phone with only us, he
Speaker 6: specifically said, I don't want to change.
Speaker 3: Who she is.
Speaker 5: Oh oh that's sweet.
Speaker 2: So you hear that she doesn't have to change, Rob,
Speaker 2: that is so sweet.
Speaker 3: I just wanted.
Speaker 2: Actually, she's just looking for some you know, more affirmations
Speaker 2: that the connection is there. Here's an opportunity for you
Speaker 2: to say that to her right now on the radio
Speaker 2: on the grand stage.
Speaker 3: Are we going to have a romantic.
Speaker 4: Well, I don't want to lie.
Speaker 7: Is The other thing is, I don't know if I love.
Speaker 1: You yet, but but.
Speaker 4: I can see that I can see that in our future.
Speaker 4: Definitely we're get.
Speaker 1: If he put his heart out on the floor for you.
Speaker 6: That's almost like a thank you after someone drops I
Speaker 6: love you for the first time.
Speaker 1: He's trying, though, come.
Speaker 5: On, okay, Rob, I know you might not be inherently romantic,
Speaker 5: but I would appreciate if you could try a little more.
Speaker 2: Brook's been saying that same thing to her husband for
Speaker 2: the last ten years.
Speaker 6: I think every woman has said it in any relationship
Speaker 6: you've ever been proba.
Speaker 5: If you could send me kind of a love song.
Speaker 5: What would it be?
Speaker 4: It would be that song Maggie by Rod Stewart.
Speaker 3: Wake Up.
Speaker 1: That's just her name, right, Yeah, I think that's after Maggie.
Speaker 6: Leaves him one night standing super romantic.
Speaker 7: I'm trying.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 6: What's amazing is he's not scared away right now? Is Honestly,
Speaker 6: I don't know if you're gonna find that.
Speaker 2: We'd like to offer to send you guys out one
Speaker 2: more time and we would pay for it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, let's do it. That'd be great.
Speaker 2: It's true what they say, you can build this love together.
Speaker 1: Some things do last forever.
Speaker 2: Nothing's gonna stop us now except we're running out of
Speaker 2: time to do the second date updates, so we got
Speaker 2: to stop it.
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: The word of the day is compromise. Say it with me,
Speaker 2: like compromise.
Speaker 3: Like still like you came across as like love doctor during.
Speaker 6: You did it was just a side of you that
Speaker 6: we don't get to see very often.
Speaker 3: Yeah, routin for them this time and I like that.
Speaker 1: Do I know all the answers to unlock the true
Speaker 1: meaning of love?
Speaker 2: Yes, that's not And I keep those to myself for
Speaker 2: personal selfish.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we didn't have any more second date. Jeff
Speaker 3: just gave everyone the answer.
Speaker 2: I do feel like modern dating has made it way
Speaker 2: too easy to completely write people off for saying one
Speaker 2: wrong thing, not replying back to a text fashion. It's
Speaker 2: literally me like yeah, like three girls I go to
Speaker 2: this last week because I'm just saying, give someone a chance,
Speaker 2: especially if you have that rare in person connection that's
Speaker 2: worth holding on to at least one more day.
Speaker 1: Compromise.
Speaker 2: No speaking of giving people a chance, give our second date,
Speaker 2: podc hast a chance wherever you get yours at broken
Speaker 2: Jeffrey and have a blessed day.
Speaker 3: There's a therapist.
Speaker 2: Guy, Fine, have a fine day whatever, we don't care,
Speaker 2: needs tail or something.
Speaker 3: And Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.