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Speaker 1: because I'm talking back to day. Y'all be having a
Speaker 1: lot of timid men up here, man, So I just
Speaker 1: came shot. See, y'all are extremely intimidating, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I mean, y'all are intimidating to me, but
Speaker 1: I can see how to to everybody else. You know,
Speaker 1: y'all control just the entire atmosphere of conversation and all that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's our ship. But I'm the guests though, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I'm the guest, so it's my job
Speaker 1: to come in and show out because y'all be on
Speaker 1: here every week. So because I'm only on here one time.
Speaker 1: It's up to me to show out. Okay, y'all listen,
Speaker 1: we got mr. I said what I said. Come yes,
Speaker 1: I said what I said. You know, y'all listen, My
Speaker 1: d be flooded when I cut the comments off some
Speaker 1: women's emailsc mex. Give me some women's dams I opened,
Speaker 1: and others I just don't open because I know that
Speaker 1: pisses them off. Even more if they write a whole
Speaker 1: long paragraphing and I don't open it, oh my god,
Speaker 1: they hate it. But I always open yours, Tammy, I
Speaker 1: always open because it is I gotta know you like
Speaker 1: I don't. If I know that, you know, you're gonna congratulate,
Speaker 1: and this is just my like my overall mindset. If
Speaker 1: I know somebody is gonna congratulate me when I do
Speaker 1: well the same way they're gonna talk ship to me.
Speaker 1: If I sunk up, then I don't have a problem
Speaker 1: having any type of back and forth conversation with somebody debate.
Speaker 1: But if I know that you only come on my
Speaker 1: post only working with me because you know, you know,
Speaker 1: because you don't like what I what I said, and
Speaker 1: know all that hell, no, you said what I said
Speaker 1: all day Sometimes I debate, leave the comments on. Sometimes
Speaker 1: I'll come on, what did you do? My birthday was Thursday,
Speaker 1: so I didn't really thank you. Thank you. I turned
Speaker 1: forty one years thank you. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I tried. I try to, you know, drink my water
Speaker 1: and you know, keep talking females out my life on Beijing, Beijing,
Speaker 1: I had that thing look painted on. I just every
Speaker 1: now and I just do a little touch up with
Speaker 1: some real black you know what I'm saying. The most
Speaker 1: ustling you know me for years. I definitely was Yes,
Speaker 1: she hasn't been at I think it really has. Yeah. No,
Speaker 1: but um uh So my birthday was Thursday and I
Speaker 1: was on daddy duties so I didn't do much of anything.
Speaker 1: And then um, Friday, I had excuse me. Saturday, I
Speaker 1: had a full day DJ. I did music business consultations. Um,
Speaker 1: I did a baby shower that turned into a proposal.
Speaker 1: Shout out to my homie Trade Montana. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. He from the map, you probably know him,
Speaker 1: but um, he proposed this girl. Then I had to
Speaker 1: go dj at um at Superstars and then from there
Speaker 1: hopped on the road head to Atlanta for the Ugly
Speaker 1: Money Music something. I was on a panel there and
Speaker 1: I judged the showcase and uh um, I forgot the
Speaker 1: name of the guy. But he's for South Carolina. He's
Speaker 1: for South Carolina. He want a record deal and he
Speaker 1: wanna he wanted meeting with Boosey and a meeting with
Speaker 1: money bag. Yo. Yeah, yeah, well you had a full weekend.
Speaker 1: I had a very full weekend. So on the weekends,
Speaker 1: I don't have my my son, like, I gotta pack
Speaker 1: it all in like so I'd be gone going doing whatever,
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of ships patrol as he either yeah
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Either what else you got
Speaker 1: going on? You want to tell anything? Or business? So
Speaker 1: look look look I know right, so so check it out. UM.
Speaker 1: I teach a music business class where I teach uh artists, DJs, producers,
Speaker 1: singer songwriters, people who are aspiring music industry executives about
Speaker 1: the business all right, genuinely the business. We touch a
Speaker 1: little bit on marketing and promoting, but we really talk
Speaker 1: about how to how to make yourself a legal business.
Speaker 1: I teach them about copyrights, trademarks, publishing, um, how to
Speaker 1: set up a business plan to be successful when it
Speaker 1: comes to music, how to conduct yourself when it comes
Speaker 1: to just business in general. I have a whole business
Speaker 1: ethics portion of the class. But it's a two day course.
Speaker 1: I teach you here in Charlotte is in person. We're
Speaker 1: not doing virtual because, UM, it's a very intense course.
Speaker 1: You gotta be here where. I have people flying from California, Houston, Miami, Jacksonville,
Speaker 1: and I had people flying from New York all to
Speaker 1: take the class. UM. But it's a two day course.
Speaker 1: It's an eight hour, eight hour day course. I do
Speaker 1: it once a month here in Charlotte. It's called the
Speaker 1: Foundation of Music. You can sign up for that. UM.
Speaker 1: On top of that, I have over twenty two years
Speaker 1: of experience in the music industry. I've helped break artists
Speaker 1: like Young Dolves, Applies, Um, the Baby bank Roll Fresh.
Speaker 1: We can take it back even further. I was working
Speaker 1: with Jeezy and Boys in the Hood. This is back
Speaker 1: before Jeez really blew Like, I can really take it back, UM.
Speaker 1: And I do music business consultation, So I have twenty
Speaker 1: two years in the business. We can sit down, we
Speaker 1: can help you come up with a game plan on
Speaker 1: how to be successful. On top of that, I do
Speaker 1: a music review show every Monday and Friday on Instagram
Speaker 1: and Facebook Live called The Reverb. Why not only tell
Speaker 1: artists whether I like your music or not, but I
Speaker 1: give you ways how to push it. And that's every
Speaker 1: Monday and fridaysh No, sometimes it'd be real trash, sometimes
Speaker 1: be horrible. Um. And then on top of that, I
Speaker 1: still do CD and DVD duplication. I know a lot
Speaker 1: of people say, oh, man, CDs and DVDs and sort
Speaker 1: of played out. I don't even know where to play that.
Speaker 1: But CDs and DVDs have become more of uh merchandise
Speaker 1: than actual medium to listen to music. People buy them,
Speaker 1: they excire me, people make them, they sign them, and
Speaker 1: they sell them for hundreds of dollars. Limited edition CDs
Speaker 1: of my album, limited edition DVDs, and my videos. So
Speaker 1: I still do CD and DVD duplication. I still do mixtapes.
Speaker 1: I have uh, I have a playlist on Apple Music,
Speaker 1: Title and Spotify. All right, and all you gotta do
Speaker 1: is hit the link in my bio on any of
Speaker 1: my platforms and take you straight to all of the
Speaker 1: stuff that I do. And um, I ain't the deal
Speaker 1: with the hornets not too long ago. NBA's first ever
Speaker 1: music industry night. Um. We do it twice per season
Speaker 1: here in Charlotte. It's an amazing event. I fly in
Speaker 1: all these record executives and all these people who um
Speaker 1: can help independent artist, DJs, producers, singer songwriters, whatever, get
Speaker 1: their music in the right hands, learned about the music industry. Um.
Speaker 1: And we're done for this particular season. You know, we're
Speaker 1: about to go into the playoffs. But next season we're
Speaker 1: working on that now. Uh. Not only do you get
Speaker 1: a chance to come in and sit down, we have
Speaker 1: a music conference portion we teach you about the music
Speaker 1: industry and what the music industry is looking for, but
Speaker 1: then on top of that, you get a chance to
Speaker 1: perform on the court, center court with the Hornets, play
Speaker 1: at with Michael Jordan be at you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: would the metal ball be at? And you really really
Speaker 1: get the path. I'll be there to need anything, I'll
Speaker 1: be I'll be there. Come on next season. I got
Speaker 1: tickets for both of y'all, alright, and I got sweet
Speaker 1: tickets for y'all to watch the game. All right. Then,
Speaker 1: look I'm ready, and I could go on and on.
Speaker 1: You know, I do so much. This nigger is one
Speaker 1: of the biggest forever. Now when I used to put
Speaker 1: Gucci on the show you wants to Willie Dee's at
Speaker 1: the good checks the haircuts in the barber as well.
Speaker 1: Let's get into a stupid internet news. So what happened
Speaker 1: this week? The man that passed away uh in d C.
Speaker 1: And he had a funeral at the club standing up
Speaker 1: you know, I'm standing up in Yeah. Look, I feel
Speaker 1: like I saw a lot of people who were against it.
Speaker 1: I was all for it. Look if I die and
Speaker 1: I'm and I'm a rapper or I'm an entertainer, you know,
Speaker 1: and I want the last thing people remember, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: of me to be me on stage, piping up, performing,
Speaker 1: you know, the same way I live, then that's then
Speaker 1: that's how I'm gonna die. That's how I want them
Speaker 1: to remember me. So, you know, I saw people saying like, well,
Speaker 1: that's creepy and or that's disrespectful. But look, yeah, they
Speaker 1: ripped the club out. The only people it was packed.
Speaker 1: The only people were there who were his fans. You know.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like it was open to the general public. Yeah,
Speaker 1: people love it, and that's what they chose just because
Speaker 1: you saw it on the internet. I don't follow the
Speaker 1: page that posted it, you exactly, because I feel like
Speaker 1: that's some religions people do that. Yeah, I wouldn't. I
Speaker 1: want to do some research, and I found that there
Speaker 1: was a culture. I can't even tell you who it was,
Speaker 1: but they dig up their loved ones annuinely annually to
Speaker 1: celebrate and warn the loss of these people, and they
Speaker 1: changed their clothes and then being taking pictures with their corpses. Yeah,
Speaker 1: now that's something that's a bit much for me, what
Speaker 1: I'm saying for me. But when I died, put me
Speaker 1: in the club man put my turn typlest that I
Speaker 1: got a prerecord and mix some of make you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, play that thing, and because it's better
Speaker 1: than just having everybody just come to my way to
Speaker 1: come to my funeral, to see me in the casket crying,
Speaker 1: doing all the action. Church where you ain't never being
Speaker 1: like not maybe not you, but you know, people don't
Speaker 1: go to church their life, so to put them in
Speaker 1: the churches, it's like, yeah, that's the church the exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: some people go to the club every weekend. Don't never
Speaker 1: see a church. I ain't seen the church. It was
Speaker 1: appropriate for his lifestyle. We'll say that, all right. It
Speaker 1: is a little creepy, though, you know, just to have
Speaker 1: is a dead guy right there in the club. I mean,
Speaker 1: there's a dead guy in the church. I go to
Speaker 1: the church from somebody who's risen from the dead, but
Speaker 1: when I have funerality, he's dead. Dead in theres more
Speaker 1: like where the dead person should be, you know, like
Speaker 1: Nick's get killing the club though. I mean, yeah, I
Speaker 1: see quite a minute dead bodies in the club. I
Speaker 1: don't think that was where by the club you die
Speaker 1: by the club? What it is. I don't even know
Speaker 1: how he died. I never hit even he got shot.
Speaker 1: He's a rapper, you got shot. Unfortunately, it seems to
Speaker 1: be the trend for a lot of black men. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: you know when heart disease, because heart disease is number
Speaker 1: one killer over getting shot. Fortunately, But you can still
Speaker 1: superside your meal anytime, you like. What else you got going?
Speaker 1: On the podcast The Pivot, they had the guy on
Speaker 1: talking about Russell Wilson is like a lame and I
Speaker 1: don't listen to stuff like that. I genuinely stay away
Speaker 1: from stuff like that. He said he's a square. I mean,
Speaker 1: Russell Wilson is a square. But then at the same time,
Speaker 1: you know what's wrong with being a square? Not everybody
Speaker 1: gonna be a street nil, not everybody gonna be a hustler.
Speaker 1: He's also an athlete. Let's let's a top tier athlete.
Speaker 1: Let's remind folks who Russell Wilson really is. They're outside
Speaker 1: of being a square. Like, he's a top tier athlete,
Speaker 1: he's a super Bowl champion. I just don't like the
Speaker 1: negative connotation that comes with square. Um, we're talking about pedestal.
Speaker 1: The comments that were made by Channing Chowder is it chowder?
Speaker 1: Channing Chowder on the Pivot podcast ask Uh, he said that, Um,
Speaker 1: the only reason why Sierra is what Russell Wilson is
Speaker 1: because of the check and other guys on the show
Speaker 1: was basically saying, well, when you have this much toxicity
Speaker 1: in your life, you want someone better, Right. I see
Speaker 1: it as she matured and and I would definitely sort
Speaker 1: of be against their situation if Sierra hadn't adjusted and
Speaker 1: adapted to his lifestyle. She's totally adjusted style. Actually, like
Speaker 1: they've created this lifestyle that we see right now. They
Speaker 1: created that together. I don't feel like he had this
Speaker 1: lifestyle going and Sierra jumped into it. His lifestyle was
Speaker 1: pretty calm period. Her lifestyle was the one that was
Speaker 1: a little bit, you know, she was dealing with and that.
Speaker 1: But but before before Future, she was with Wow and
Speaker 1: well everybody else in the music We know how music industry.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm just saying that she was with other
Speaker 1: people in the industry, but she was in the industry herself.
Speaker 1: Let's not make it seem like she jumped from rapper
Speaker 1: to rapper to whoever. She has a successful career in
Speaker 1: the entertainment industry itself, so she was in the entertainment industry.
Speaker 1: So we just know how the lifestyle is in the
Speaker 1: entertainment industry. So she slowed that all the way down
Speaker 1: and became a mother. I don't even think Sierra was
Speaker 1: ever like Sierra was. Yeah, she was never just out
Speaker 1: of here when last year I don't even remember. I
Speaker 1: genuinely don't remember, but I know she exactly, she exactly.
Speaker 1: She slowed her life down to fit motherhood and to
Speaker 1: fit wife fihood, and she slowed her life down. So
Speaker 1: I feel like that's why I'm all for because what
Speaker 1: happens is you have these women who come into these
Speaker 1: these men's lives that have everything all together and then
Speaker 1: they just completely funk it all up because they don't
Speaker 1: want to slow down to fit motherhood or wife fihood
Speaker 1: can sh up. I don't want to say, I don't
Speaker 1: want to say anybody's name, but I run into them
Speaker 1: all the time, just personally, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: They look at my lifestyle and they think it's one
Speaker 1: way because I am a DJ I do be Nicholas,
Speaker 1: But six seven days out of the week, you know,
Speaker 1: it's actually pretty slow, and it's not it's too slow
Speaker 1: for them, and then they just completely well, I'm to
Speaker 1: the point now I don't even play with the bullshit.
Speaker 1: But at one point in time, Yeah, they used to
Speaker 1: have me out in the club, and they used to
Speaker 1: have me out doing all types of crazy stuff all
Speaker 1: time and night. And they have to pay babysitters and
Speaker 1: I would get in, they have to wake up, take
Speaker 1: the kids, school, fixed breakfast, all this other stuff. So no,
Speaker 1: I know, from my personal experience, I'm not gonna put
Speaker 1: nobody out there like that, but I have dated women
Speaker 1: who literally club like four or five days out of
Speaker 1: the week. How old were these women thirty four thirty five.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, thirty three year olds four
Speaker 1: days a week. They live in is building in the
Speaker 1: one yes and adjacent to Mirror beard In Park right
Speaker 1: across the like two blocks tow you're talking about me. No, No,
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about you. I'm not talking about You're
Speaker 1: just saying these women are very are in close proximity
Speaker 1: to where we are right now. So I'm just so
Speaker 1: I'm just saying I like that. I'm not talking about you.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, yeah, she's just go out every Sunday.
Speaker 1: So that's one day we didn't go out Sunday. Did
Speaker 1: good in the house. But I mean, but my thing
Speaker 1: is like, you know, you don't have any kids. You
Speaker 1: say you don't have a man, so you can you
Speaker 1: can do that right exactly? Why why I live a
Speaker 1: wife e motherly lifestyle when you're not a wife war mother?
Speaker 1: You know, I completely women to staying in the house.
Speaker 1: I want somebody stay in the house. And I got
Speaker 1: these picnicians who'll be sitting in the house thinking they're
Speaker 1: gonna choose them because they being girl. If you don't
Speaker 1: go have some fun. What I'm just saying is the
Speaker 1: guy in the houses? Where is he going out? Now? Outside?
Speaker 1: But if he outside and he wants you in the house,
Speaker 1: then that's a red flag right there. Hell know. And
Speaker 1: now if he's taking you with him, if he like
Speaker 1: we outside together, then that's totally different. You know. If
Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, I don't feel comfortable with you going
Speaker 1: out unless you're with me. We're a couple, that's fine.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of couples that party together, they
Speaker 1: don't typically go out unless they're going together. Bte me
Speaker 1: out and he was already out with a bit. What
Speaker 1: was his relationship like with the young lady? Was she
Speaker 1: just a friend? No, he's trying to date both of us. Oh,
Speaker 1: he's trying to date both of Yeah, and he's that's
Speaker 1: comeback material. That's material. Yeah, that's that's come bad. But look,
Speaker 1: before we finish up this segment, um so now here
Speaker 1: put in words and Gina Pickett Smith Mount this week supposedly,
Speaker 1: so allegedly somebody close to them said that she said
Speaker 1: that she wished, wishes that will Smith hadn't smacked Chris Rock.
Speaker 1: And the only reason why we believe that is because
Speaker 1: she hasn't supported her husband in any way shape or
Speaker 1: form saying anything at all, not even not even the
Speaker 1: slightest not even the slightest support. Even Jaden said, that's
Speaker 1: how we do. Even his son just said that's how
Speaker 1: we do. He didn't come out and say anything crazy.
Speaker 1: He just said that how we She could have just
Speaker 1: said I love my husband fun with anybody else thinks
Speaker 1: what if he asked her, just don't say nothing. I mean,
Speaker 1: at the same time, when when when when we are speculating,
Speaker 1: But I just know from my personal experiences, I would
Speaker 1: want you to put something out there when you have
Speaker 1: so much speculation. He did. He apologized that he didn't
Speaker 1: say nothing. There's nothing enough to say. Ya let me
Speaker 1: they want like you gotta you gotta stop the speculation
Speaker 1: from happening in some way, shape or form, because that's
Speaker 1: what happens when you're in the public eye and your
Speaker 1: image means pretty much everything. Stop the speculation. Because he
Speaker 1: went up I feel like he went up there to
Speaker 1: defend her honor, and because he has just been pushed
Speaker 1: and bullied and and just straight slandered and joked about
Speaker 1: because she basically don't really put out there that she
Speaker 1: loves him. She's even said she don't even know what
Speaker 1: the funk love is her words, how to love exactly.
Speaker 1: So my thing is nothing, don't get married if you
Speaker 1: don't know what love is. That that is fair. Why
Speaker 1: do you want to why you want to that? Here's
Speaker 1: what I see now if I know, because last week
Speaker 1: we spoke about the whole slap attack and I feel
Speaker 1: like it's all a sigh up. But anyway, if it
Speaker 1: were a real situation, Um, you know, Jada Pickett was
Speaker 1: at the top of her game when her and Will Smith,
Speaker 1: both both of them, because I think they got married
Speaker 1: in ninety seven, so they were both at the top
Speaker 1: of their the het did their careers at the time,
Speaker 1: new Fresh actors, actresses, actress. And she got pregnant. She
Speaker 1: was three months pregnant. That's that's two years after dating
Speaker 1: from what I read. And she got pregnant. She was
Speaker 1: three months pregnant when she got when they got married,
Speaker 1: she said she never even wanted kids or to be married.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, So I'm just saying, so, you know,
Speaker 1: you got people on the internet saying, oh, she's like
Speaker 1: she has a resentment towards Will Smith. Always different people,
Speaker 1: different things. People to speculating this. They want to know
Speaker 1: she's taking all the shy narcisses. She did a ballhead
Speaker 1: bit like all this. Will takes the shot. I have
Speaker 1: said this over and over and over again. Will takes
Speaker 1: the most shots. Jada took her the shot. I'm saying. Look,
Speaker 1: I'm saying, I'm saying they now they both take shots,
Speaker 1: and let me not let me clear that up. Jada
Speaker 1: definitely takes shots, but I feel like Will takes the
Speaker 1: run of it because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: he's looked at its being the same. She's looked at
Speaker 1: as being the pimp. Okay, But if it was a
Speaker 1: woman getting played, nobody would look at it like the
Speaker 1: woman played. It would be since dropped that nigga get
Speaker 1: rid of. If you put a woman in the same
Speaker 1: position as Will Smith, oh my god, I feel like
Speaker 1: she would have been. They're both in the same position
Speaker 1: because we already know that they are in an open
Speaker 1: marriage and what already said, there's never been any infidelity
Speaker 1: in his marriage, so he doesn't consider what she did cheating.
Speaker 1: All Jada did was with a nigga who had some
Speaker 1: ship the truth about who she is. But at the
Speaker 1: end of it, but didn't have everybody okay and that
Speaker 1: and that's still her phone, and that still her phone.
Speaker 1: But who who has came and put Will on blast?
Speaker 1: Any of his mistresses aside that? But but listen, that's
Speaker 1: the point of an open marriage. Though she went out
Speaker 1: here and she meant she messed with somebody who she
Speaker 1: knew had mental health issues. She mess with somebody who
Speaker 1: was substantially younger and she knew was immature, was in
Speaker 1: a vulnerable position. If Will would have went out here
Speaker 1: and with one of these Instagram models who we know
Speaker 1: was gonna put him on black, I'm just saying, if
Speaker 1: he messed with one that we knew was gonna put
Speaker 1: him on blast, we wouldn't have the same sympathy. Nigga,
Speaker 1: you knew that little girl was all about Clouden was
Speaker 1: gonna put you on blast. So that's the thing that's
Speaker 1: the difference. Will has been extremely calculated and extremely careful,
Speaker 1: and Jada is sloppy. She that makes her a bad person.
Speaker 1: That makes her bad, We're not a bad person. That
Speaker 1: makes that makes her extremely bad as far as her desciences.
Speaker 1: She too all over that ship too, over that ship.
Speaker 1: We got a new song too. He has another dish
Speaker 1: track he got that's too this, this is your side,
Speaker 1: Get dis me twice. Come on, tell me. You're looking
Speaker 1: at me like you want to agree, but you don't
Speaker 1: want to agree because it's your marriage like that that
Speaker 1: it's a slippery slope that came on though like this,
Speaker 1: accidents happened. This was on purpose. She was out and
Speaker 1: about with this man he's supposed to do, not make
Speaker 1: this is the only part, like only career he got
Speaker 1: right now. This is like he had a career before
Speaker 1: he was dope, but he got with her, he fell off.
Speaker 1: But listen, putting out a song right now, it might
Speaker 1: be the best thing for his career. Ain't nobody talking
Speaker 1: about him exactly? Because she sucked him up until Will
Speaker 1: sucked him up. August I've seen it was a multi
Speaker 1: platinum singer before Ja, but nobody talking about August. I've
Speaker 1: seen the r Tony Rock. I mean, Tony Rock has
Speaker 1: a little fan base, you know, but on the national level.
Speaker 1: You're right, right, so this would be the best top
Speaker 1: of the this something. But but I don't need niggas
Speaker 1: blowing up at the expense of my marriage though you
Speaker 1: know what I'm doing that But is he supposed to
Speaker 1: care about that? Yeah? I don't. But that was because
Speaker 1: of my wife's dumb an entanglement exactly, Okay, it was
Speaker 1: an entanglement. And I feel like, and if Will Smith
Speaker 1: has gotten past it, at what point does the public Okay,
Speaker 1: when when do we get past it? And why are
Speaker 1: we using? No, we have not, because what men are
Speaker 1: doing is using that red table talk to justify why
Speaker 1: Will why Will Smith should not defend his wife, as
Speaker 1: if she's not somebody worth defending. That's what I'm seeing.
Speaker 1: What we were we were not We're not debating on
Speaker 1: whether or not he should defend his wife or not.
Speaker 1: Um eight percent of the men that I know of,
Speaker 1: we're in agreements with the slap. It was when he
Speaker 1: did it and where he did it, So me personally,
Speaker 1: I understand and I would have probably slapped Chris Rock,
Speaker 1: but not but not on stage. Literally it was he
Speaker 1: I would have waited on that nigga backstage he presented
Speaker 1: the ward it was it was what forty seconds, fifty seconds?
Speaker 1: He could have waited for seconds out and waiting on
Speaker 1: that nigga backstage, and I would have pressed him and said, look,
Speaker 1: the next time you go out here on this next
Speaker 1: segment or whatever. If we got to go back here
Speaker 1: and talk to the producers. We're gonna talk to producer,
Speaker 1: get you back on that stage, but you're gonna apologize
Speaker 1: to my wife or it's gonna be smoked right now.
Speaker 1: And if you would have said anything that was like, oh,
Speaker 1: it was just a joke, and I would have slapped
Speaker 1: the ship out of him. You're gonna you're gonna go
Speaker 1: out here. You're gonna apologize to my wife. You're gonna
Speaker 1: do that on this next segment. We're not gonna wait
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Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk about male vulnerability this week, right,
Speaker 1: So me and Tara was trying to think about who
Speaker 1: we could bring on the show to talk about it. Right,
Speaker 1: So we got this fool up in here. Yeah, j Chuck,
Speaker 1: how y'all doing? How everybody doing? I'm doing great. We're
Speaker 1: about to have a great show tonight. Let's go. If
Speaker 1: you don't cry, then we know you're not in capable
Speaker 1: of being vulnerable with us today. I mean, why I
Speaker 1: gotta cry? Why can't just look sad? Why? Why are
Speaker 1: the tears the confirmation to cry? Y'all think women love
Speaker 1: y'all less we cry too? So no, I don't think that.
Speaker 1: I don't want no woman to cry over me. I
Speaker 1: want you to be happy, because that's the only way
Speaker 1: I'm gonna leave. My mark is if every nigger that
Speaker 1: you come in contact with after me, you like, he
Speaker 1: makes me smile like chuck, maybe smile like I don't
Speaker 1: even want to be here. I don't going back. Boys stop?
Speaker 1: Why if she feels that way, why would she leaving anyway?
Speaker 1: Why she doing? Some people just aren't compatible sometimes or
Speaker 1: sometimes it's just the wrong timing. You know, timing can
Speaker 1: also be an issue, right, So my question is do
Speaker 1: men men want women? Oh? A statement? How I feel
Speaker 1: men want women to desire them, but then they want
Speaker 1: the acceptance from other men. Is what I'm what I'm
Speaker 1: what I how I feel? Do you understand what I'm
Speaker 1: saying about that? Um? Not? Really? I sort of get it, Um,
Speaker 1: you mean acceptance? Azing. I want the homies to think
Speaker 1: I'm cool, but I want my girl to think that
Speaker 1: I am you know, a god? Yes? And then what
Speaker 1: I as far as vulnerability, is it me? You can't
Speaker 1: be vulnerable with me as a female woman? Yes? Any woman?
Speaker 1: Is it your woman that you can't be vulnerable with?
Speaker 1: Or is it your homeboys that you can't be vulnerable with?
Speaker 1: Is it me or the homeboys? Um, I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: honest with you. It really just depends on the situation.
Speaker 1: Because there's certain things I don't tell my homies that
Speaker 1: I'll tell my girl. Are certain things I won't tell
Speaker 1: my girl that I'll tell my homies. There's certain things
Speaker 1: I tell my mama I won't tell neither one on.
Speaker 1: So let's just say it is a a financial issue.
Speaker 1: A financial issue I probably won't tell my girl unless
Speaker 1: it gets out of hand. I know that's not right,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna try to clean it up before I
Speaker 1: even give her any type of idea that I have
Speaker 1: a financial issue because your money is equated with your pride. No,
Speaker 1: Because and this and this is just me coming from
Speaker 1: a two parent household. You know, I grew up with
Speaker 1: both of my parents in the house. My dad was
Speaker 1: in the military, my mom was a teacher. Um, I
Speaker 1: never saw my dad's sweat. And I feel like, um
Speaker 1: that that that played a huge part in just our
Speaker 1: overall family structure. Now my mom knew about something something
Speaker 1: she didn't and I feel like, um, the man is
Speaker 1: supposed to literally be you know, and we say this
Speaker 1: all the time. The man is the head, you know,
Speaker 1: the woman is the neck or the woman is the backbone.
Speaker 1: When I'm in when I'm in the head, and I
Speaker 1: know everything, and my family is depending upon how I
Speaker 1: handle things and how I show emotion, and you know
Speaker 1: how I lead, You're never supposed to see me sweat.
Speaker 1: So if there's a financial issue, UM, my wife would
Speaker 1: probably be one of the last people to know, you know, um,
Speaker 1: our house going into foreclosure. No no, no no, BYOK, by
Speaker 1: the time to get the forecloser, it's too late. I
Speaker 1: don't already don't talk to her by the time to
Speaker 1: get that far, you know what I'm saying. But by
Speaker 1: the time you get that far, you should have already
Speaker 1: done saying something because she's living in there too. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. No, no, no no, no, no no, No,
Speaker 1: some sometimes, but women I listen, I've dated women who
Speaker 1: literally have had the repo man at their house about
Speaker 1: the about to take the car up on the record,
Speaker 1: and it's like, hey, baby, look at even my mom.
Speaker 1: There have been times she hasn't been able to pay
Speaker 1: taxes on the house and they literally came and put
Speaker 1: an auction sign in front of the house, and that was, hey, son,
Speaker 1: how are you? You know what? I'm like, Hey, mom,
Speaker 1: how are you okay? So I'm in a little bit
Speaker 1: of a fine and I always have to tell my mom, like, look,
Speaker 1: do not wait until the last minute. She's like, well,
Speaker 1: I know you've got kids. I know you got this,
Speaker 1: and you got that, and you got life your own.
Speaker 1: I don't want to put anything extra on it. But
Speaker 1: I'm like, see, when the taxes were eight hunted, that
Speaker 1: wouldn't have been a problem. Now the taxes are eight
Speaker 1: hundred and now, like you know, I'm I'm feeling I'm
Speaker 1: feeling a little you know, yeah, you know, now you
Speaker 1: hurt in my pockets and now we gotta call my
Speaker 1: other siblings and all that other stuff. When it was
Speaker 1: eight hunted, now I would have just shelled that out
Speaker 1: on my own. You know what I'm saying, But I
Speaker 1: pick and choose. I definitely they can't be vulnerable with
Speaker 1: women because they would throw it in your face. Okay,
Speaker 1: so let's talk about that. Okay, let's talk about that. Okay.
Speaker 1: So how I feel about that is it's not a
Speaker 1: man or a woman thing when it comes to somebody
Speaker 1: throwing your your your quality in your face. I have
Speaker 1: personally never been in a relationship, a serious relationship with
Speaker 1: a man who didn't throw some ship in my face
Speaker 1: in the midst of an argument. And I'm gonn type
Speaker 1: of person. I don't gotta win an argument. I still
Speaker 1: want you to love me later. It's not gonna say
Speaker 1: your worship to win an argument, but men oftentimes do
Speaker 1: so if I say yeah, so if I say, oh, men,
Speaker 1: you can't be vulnerable man because they're gonna throw in
Speaker 1: your face, that's just not true because I feel like
Speaker 1: that's a mean person thing. That's not a man or
Speaker 1: woman thing. That's because that's not exclusive. That's a mean
Speaker 1: person things said, it's not exclusive to a certain gender.
Speaker 1: But I do feel like for the most part, because
Speaker 1: women date up and men tend to you know, um,
Speaker 1: women with black women would love to date up necessarily,
Speaker 1: So we'll we'll get to that because most most women
Speaker 1: of all races, most women are gonna say all date
Speaker 1: up or try Okay, they tried to date and are
Speaker 1: not allowed to date that. No, no, that's not true.
Speaker 1: That is so not true. We'll get there. But anyway, um,
Speaker 1: most most women date up. So their power doesn't come
Speaker 1: from money, status, cloud or whatever. Their power comes from.
Speaker 1: How I'm gonna use these words? And I've had women
Speaker 1: say that to me a lot, Like the only thing
Speaker 1: I can do is use words because everything else, you know,
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna phase you. You know, you got money,
Speaker 1: you got holes if you want holes, you got cars,
Speaker 1: You've got all these material things. You've got a great career.
Speaker 1: So if I ever wanted to bring you to my level,
Speaker 1: I gotta use words in order to make it happen.
Speaker 1: And for the most part, if anybody want to use words,
Speaker 1: how do they hurt you? They hurt you by taking something.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it isn't the truth, but they'll tell a situation
Speaker 1: that you were vulnerable, and and they may twist it.
Speaker 1: They may not. They you may have just been so
Speaker 1: vulnerable that it really is them telling the truth. But
Speaker 1: they'll use that to sort of bring you, quote unquote
Speaker 1: back down to reality. And in my personal experiences and
Speaker 1: the experience of all of my homies who've told me that,
Speaker 1: and sometimes it's necessary, I ain't gonna lie. Sometimes it is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't do it personally, I'm not. I don't think
Speaker 1: it's ever necessary. If somebody, if you come at me crazy,
Speaker 1: I'm going to, like my words really hurt. So when
Speaker 1: I feel like it, sometimes it's okay to remind people
Speaker 1: of the truth because you know sometimes so there's a
Speaker 1: difference between and as you start to tell my exdus,
Speaker 1: there's a difference between me reminding you of the truth
Speaker 1: and me using something against you. I'll give you I'll
Speaker 1: give you an example. I'll give you a prime example.
Speaker 1: So I was in a situation where I told a
Speaker 1: female I didn't want to have any more kids at
Speaker 1: a web lot period. I did not want to do
Speaker 1: the co parenting. Didn't want to do that. This week yours,
Speaker 1: this week is mine. And I've been a single I've
Speaker 1: been a single father. Not let me not say single,
Speaker 1: but I was parenting alone because single means you just
Speaker 1: don't have a spouse. Um, there's a lot of people
Speaker 1: get child support, they have split custody, but they're single.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I had my son full time by myself
Speaker 1: for fourteen years, um and I just had because I
Speaker 1: didn't come from that. I just feel like that's not
Speaker 1: the environment that's suitable for raising a child, even the
Speaker 1: co parents and stuff like oh, this is mine, this
Speaker 1: is yours, my dad bought me this, my mama bought
Speaker 1: me this. I'm going with my mama for this time
Speaker 1: of the year. You with your daddy for that. I didn't.
Speaker 1: I don't like that because I didn't go through it,
Speaker 1: and I see the difference. So I told no more
Speaker 1: kids out of wet lock, not at all, you know
Speaker 1: in the first thing where you got two already, so
Speaker 1: that means I want a third. You know what. You've
Speaker 1: got a vulnerability though, Yeah, because I because I gave
Speaker 1: her all of the reasons why. I didn't just say
Speaker 1: and I went deeper. I'm not even telling you all
Speaker 1: all of the all of the reasons why, but I
Speaker 1: really went deep as to why they gotta be marriage
Speaker 1: and we and we gotta be happily. Man, it doesn't correct, correct,
Speaker 1: But why I needed to be married and why I
Speaker 1: wanted to be happily married before I took that step.
Speaker 1: I went deeper into that and she you know children. Um.
Speaker 1: At forty one, I would definitely say I feel like, Um,
Speaker 1: the window is closed and the only reason why the
Speaker 1: window hold up. The only reason why the window is
Speaker 1: closing is because my oldest is off at college. My
Speaker 1: youngest is thirteen. Um, I'm starting over with an infant,
Speaker 1: like you should have caught me whenever I doesn't have
Speaker 1: kids yet if you fall in love with a woman,
Speaker 1: who does it? So so that was like my last situation,
Speaker 1: Like she didn't have kids, I had kids. Um, and
Speaker 1: that was like our demise. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And and to be honest with you, like she still
Speaker 1: cannot understand why I don't want to have She's like,
Speaker 1: if you love me, you would do it. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know and she and I'm like, I do love you,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to do because I used to
Speaker 1: talk to exactly I didn't want the kids have nothing
Speaker 1: to do with the marriage. Because I used to date
Speaker 1: this guy who was so adamant about novel. He had
Speaker 1: two other kids. He had a boy and a girl
Speaker 1: he was raising in the house with him. He was
Speaker 1: so adamant about not wanting kids. A couple of years later,
Speaker 1: you're married to the white bitch with two more kids.
Speaker 1: I don't confused. It's different because it's different. It's different
Speaker 1: if you're coming into somebody already got kids versus and
Speaker 1: did you want me to start over? He started over
Speaker 1: this he had two kids with two kids, wasn't but
Speaker 1: but around your age, same ship, like, so, so my
Speaker 1: thing is what you wanted to do for a person. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: no with me. I'm not trying to with her. You
Speaker 1: loved her, Yeah, no, I definitely love We still we
Speaker 1: needed more time. Like you know, there's certain boxes that
Speaker 1: I check off and and I said this earlier men
Speaker 1: seeing black and white, women seeing color, she thought, just
Speaker 1: like you, if you love me and we've been together
Speaker 1: and we've sort of seen how you know, we we
Speaker 1: sort of meshed well and all that stuff stuff, why not?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, there's still there are still hard facts
Speaker 1: that like I haven't seen how well you manage money.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I need to see this.
Speaker 1: I need see how well you manage money? You know,
Speaker 1: I need to see um. And because she didn't have kids.
Speaker 1: It was sort of hard for me to sort of
Speaker 1: see like how she would react in certain parenting situations
Speaker 1: like kids kids. No, No, I didn't ask her that
Speaker 1: I was. I was looking. I was just looking, like
Speaker 1: I was looking at certain things that she did the
Speaker 1: thought process. No, kids loved her. She loved the kids too.
Speaker 1: But it's different with an infant, like you're not gonna
Speaker 1: look look, you were correct, but there's certain motherly qualities
Speaker 1: that you look for before these are adults. Your kids
Speaker 1: are grown so exactly, you know exactly. It's hard to see.
Speaker 1: It's definitely different, but it's hard to see and certain
Speaker 1: things take more time to see. Yes, well, because because
Speaker 1: she because she wanted because she wanted me, because she
Speaker 1: wanted to because she wanted me to commit to the
Speaker 1: child before the marriage. Yes, she was not the one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because why would you? Okay, So that wasn't that was
Speaker 1: a non negotiable for her. It was she it was,
Speaker 1: And that's fine. I totally. I still talked her on
Speaker 1: a regular basis. She's an amazing woman. Hopefully. No, she
Speaker 1: doesn't have a kid yet. She need to stop talking
Speaker 1: to you. Stop talking. No, we do not fun, We
Speaker 1: do not sunk around you know, no, we we would
Speaker 1: we have just come to the conclusion. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no she listen, she's not one of them, like
Speaker 1: I have had some of them now, but she not
Speaker 1: one of them. She like boundary. Yeah, she definitely set
Speaker 1: about Yes. Plus, I wouldn't even do that to her
Speaker 1: anway because she's such a good person, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. She's she's a very very amazing woman. But
Speaker 1: that's a huge situation right there. So what do you want?
Speaker 1: Maybe would you date a woman who already has kids?
Speaker 1: We get no, no, no no. I definitely dated a
Speaker 1: woman who asked that, would you marry a woman who
Speaker 1: already asked? What are you saying? You wouldn't be vulnerable
Speaker 1: with your woman about finances? What would you be vulnerable? Um? Um,
Speaker 1: maybe intimacy. I would be vulnerable with a woman of
Speaker 1: intimacy because that directly involves her. So like what, babe,
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to you. It doesn't smell
Speaker 1: like how I would like. But that's about her, though,
Speaker 1: But it's about me because I can't be intimate. Listen,
Speaker 1: my my my nose is my nose controls everything about me. Literally,
Speaker 1: my nose controls everything my mind does to my mind
Speaker 1: is my mind is SECONDLF not making her vulnerable about
Speaker 1: herself or just even with me. Let's say, as a man,
Speaker 1: sometimes you hit a certain age or a certain health
Speaker 1: issues where you know it just don't work like he
Speaker 1: used to. I would be intimate. I'm excue me. I
Speaker 1: would be vulnerable with her about that particular type of intimacy.
Speaker 1: M you know, like, babe, there's there's a there's a problem.
Speaker 1: You know, maybe I need to pop a pill, a
Speaker 1: little blue pill. Maybe you know. No, I don't. I
Speaker 1: ain't hit that point yet, but when I get there,
Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna gonna gonna chew him up. I ain't
Speaker 1: get there yet, but it ain't it look ain't no
Speaker 1: shame in my game. I feel like you start losing
Speaker 1: a lot of your manpower whenever you know your dick
Speaker 1: ain't ain't great. You know what I'm saying, a lot
Speaker 1: of control comes from having good dick. If you don't
Speaker 1: have good did you lose a lot of power like
Speaker 1: money can't even make up for they do be angry,
Speaker 1: then that looks That's how I'll be knowing when niggas
Speaker 1: it's just straight fun up in the game. You know what,
Speaker 1: maybe super angry all the time not getting no person
Speaker 1: or he ain't getting no money. Is he either one
Speaker 1: of the two? Both but both? Oh my god, yes,
Speaker 1: we need one of them. They had this conversation about
Speaker 1: being votable. We needed a nigger with some uh some
Speaker 1: bad child head traumas. Yeah, I mean I really that
Speaker 1: little thing a childhood traumas, you know, because me and
Speaker 1: me talk about this all the time. And you may
Speaker 1: not have any bad childhood traumas, but there's a lot
Speaker 1: of niggas out here with some ship and I feel
Speaker 1: like they be wanting a girlfriend or a wife just
Speaker 1: so they can unpack. No, no, no, you're right. And
Speaker 1: the minute that woman doesn't respond in a way that
Speaker 1: that man think he should think thinks she should and
Speaker 1: then now you shut down and you don't want to
Speaker 1: be vote on both. I'm not your therapist. You're you're correct,
Speaker 1: but I do feel like, um, a lot of that
Speaker 1: comes with and I hate to say this, I always
Speaker 1: bring this up. I bring it up all the time.
Speaker 1: I don't come from a broken home, So we were
Speaker 1: totally different than a lot of these people who grew
Speaker 1: up and I'm broken home. Men, You're right, we are
Speaker 1: totally different. Me and my brothers were totally different from
Speaker 1: a lot of men who grew up in broken homes
Speaker 1: because they do have a lot of them childhood traumas.
Speaker 1: They do feel like, um, you know, they only see
Speaker 1: a woman in like a motherly role. They don't see
Speaker 1: a woman and a wife or or sexual object. They
Speaker 1: don't see a woman in a wife e role. So
Speaker 1: they don't even know how to take it. So they
Speaker 1: know that they've always been able to talk to their mom.
Speaker 1: They've always been coddled, and their mom is always the
Speaker 1: whole baby. Come talk to me, Mom is gonna make
Speaker 1: it better. So that's all they see a woman, So
Speaker 1: that's what they want. I mean, what's wrong with that?
Speaker 1: Is there something wrong with like? I like you could
Speaker 1: be affectionate. I love a woman who's affectionate, But you're
Speaker 1: not about the mommy me. I got a mommy. My
Speaker 1: mommy still be like come here, baby, come here and
Speaker 1: talk to you. Just something we need to talk about.
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, I'm not my woman like no, I
Speaker 1: need you to be my wife. I need your baby.
Speaker 1: We're gonna get through this, We're gonna make this ship, poper,
Speaker 1: what's what's the difference? Like like like you said, um,
Speaker 1: you know, come here baby and talk to me and
Speaker 1: tell me what happened and tell me you know, like, no,
Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't get beat up on the playground. No, no, baby,
Speaker 1: I didn't get beat up on the playground to day
Speaker 1: the bully. The bully didn't tease me today about my hair.
Speaker 1: So if you had a rum that you don't want
Speaker 1: your woman to be like, come here and tell me
Speaker 1: what happened, baby, Yeah, come here and tell me what happened.
Speaker 1: But don't play your hand on my shoulder and tell me.
Speaker 1: Tell me what happened today? No, why No, I don't
Speaker 1: want I don't want a man that has that requirement. Exactly.
Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship like that before and it
Speaker 1: was because of mommy issues. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You don't even think I love you unless I'm cussing
Speaker 1: your ass out like your mama would. Exactly. I don't
Speaker 1: want no type of relationship. Exactly. I feel the same
Speaker 1: what you don't want a relationship I do. I'm very affectionate.
Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying. That's it's the difference exactly what,
Speaker 1: So how does it? How do you approach when you
Speaker 1: know your man has had a bad day? How do
Speaker 1: you approach it? You don't say, come here, baby. First
Speaker 1: of all, my man has to be inviting of that,
Speaker 1: that type of love exactly, because some men have a
Speaker 1: bad day and they come in and they want to
Speaker 1: make your day bad. They don't even they're not even
Speaker 1: like the energy, not even inviting us me being some day,
Speaker 1: I'll talk about it when I read it, before I
Speaker 1: shift it. Yeah, no, no, you can't shift it. That's
Speaker 1: the problem. You try to shift it, and it's gonna
Speaker 1: go left. I'm telling you that right now. Don't shift it.
Speaker 1: Don't don't shift and let him seriously, let him open
Speaker 1: up when he's ready. If you, because I know how
Speaker 1: I am, you start trying to shift it, you start
Speaker 1: trying to force me to talk about it, it's gonna
Speaker 1: irritate the shift out of it. I will open up
Speaker 1: about it whenever I'm ready. So if you had a
Speaker 1: bad day, all right, So if my nigger has a
Speaker 1: bad day, don't try to make his day better. I
Speaker 1: didn't say don't try to make it better. I did
Speaker 1: not say that because a lot of times exist. Don't
Speaker 1: treat it like it don't exist. You can ask, you
Speaker 1: can say, hey, baby, what's wrong you're giving me, you know,
Speaker 1: a vibe that things didn't go well today. And if
Speaker 1: he chooses to talk about it, then let him talk
Speaker 1: about it. But if he says, babe, can we talk
Speaker 1: about it later, Yes, talk about it later. Usually not
Speaker 1: even a response either. It's just something like you may
Speaker 1: not even get a response. Yeah, you may not get
Speaker 1: a response. You may get attitude, or he may be
Speaker 1: like everything it's good. You can tell okay, I know
Speaker 1: that it's not all good. But because he said that,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let it live. And then and then you
Speaker 1: go into you can you may be able to rub
Speaker 1: rub it out of his feet, You may be able
Speaker 1: to rub it out of his back. He may eventually
Speaker 1: start talking about it. There's just different ways I know
Speaker 1: with me, like a foot rub, a BackRub. I'm open
Speaker 1: all the way up last. But that's the thing I
Speaker 1: have to I have to be inviting up it sometimes.
Speaker 1: I just I just had such a bad day. I
Speaker 1: don't even want you to touch me, and just let
Speaker 1: me come in the house. I'm gonna take a shower,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna lay down. You know, sometimes I may not
Speaker 1: even eat. You may be like, oh, I got food
Speaker 1: ready for you. Thank you putting in the microwave for me.
Speaker 1: You don't eat, you know, but I'm gonna eat it.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm gonna eat that mother, But I may
Speaker 1: not want to eat it now, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna come in, I'm gonna take a shower, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna lay down, and that may be the end of
Speaker 1: my day and I'll talk to you about it in
Speaker 1: the morning. You know, you wake me up with some
Speaker 1: head or whatever. You know, there's things that you can
Speaker 1: do to to to ease the situation. But forcing me
Speaker 1: to talk about what's wrong, you're not gonna tell me.
Speaker 1: So you're not gonna tell me. So you're over here
Speaker 1: without it, you're not gonna tell I'm talking about I'm
Speaker 1: just trying to figure out what's the difference between the
Speaker 1: mommy energy you said, and Karen. The mommy energy is
Speaker 1: more so um coddling, and the wife the energy is
Speaker 1: more so concerned concerning babies. Everything, Okay, is there something
Speaker 1: we need to talk about? Is everything good? Calling is like,
Speaker 1: oh babe, what's wrong? You know, like don't baby talk me.
Speaker 1: I'm a forty year old man. I'm a thirty year
Speaker 1: old man. Don't baby talk me. So you your mam
Speaker 1: wall be baby talking to you sometimes. Yeah, and you
Speaker 1: like that from her. I didn't say I liked it,
Speaker 1: but I expected from my mom because I'm my mama baby.
Speaker 1: I'm literally my mom's baby. I'm the youngest child. I certainly.
Speaker 1: I mean when your mom, you expect that all this
Speaker 1: is my baby. Oh my god, my baby. I love
Speaker 1: to see you, like when I come home from my wife.
Speaker 1: I don't want my wife. Oh my god, baby, i'd
Speaker 1: let us see you. Why w they come here? Boom?
Speaker 1: Oh want god? Yeah? But see, I'm giving the what's up?
Speaker 1: You need to talk about something? How you feeling everything? Okay?
Speaker 1: And if you don't respond in a way that's gonna
Speaker 1: make me maybe you want to make your day. Okay.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sunk with you. I'm just go on.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be quiet, too quiet, yeah, because sometimes that's
Speaker 1: all I need. Sometimes a woman's energy is all I need.
Speaker 1: Right now, all I need you to do is sit
Speaker 1: next to me, let me know that you're here, let
Speaker 1: me know that when I get ready to talk, you
Speaker 1: will be receptive, like you just being next to me
Speaker 1: sometimes is enough, you know, like, show me you are there.
Speaker 1: We don't have to talk. You can fix my plate,
Speaker 1: bring it to me. I can eat it. We can
Speaker 1: watch TV and they'll not be a word between us.
Speaker 1: But I know you are there and you've already asked
Speaker 1: me what was wrong. I told you I didn't want
Speaker 1: to talk about it, and you're still here next to me,
Speaker 1: letting me know when you're ready. I'm ready. Sometimes let's
Speaker 1: change the att No, let's change a little bit. Since
Speaker 1: you like a heal of nigger, right, A lot of
Speaker 1: women out here not dealing with he with men are
Speaker 1: not dealing with I feel like I was never I
Speaker 1: feel like I was never damaged, right, But but I
Speaker 1: do understand that dynamics. So we we always want to
Speaker 1: because my talking market target market for the show is
Speaker 1: generally women in like twenties, early thirties. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying that so he can live we can talk
Speaker 1: about ship and they can live vi curiously through us,
Speaker 1: so they don't have to go through the ship themselves. Right,
Speaker 1: So you run into all these different men who got
Speaker 1: the MoMA issues, who has a daddy issue, and this
Speaker 1: then the third and it can be vulnerable, vulnerable with you.
Speaker 1: You're not a therapist. You're not even equipped to help
Speaker 1: this man handle his childhood traumas and all this ship
Speaker 1: You might even have your own exactly. I was just
Speaker 1: about to say a lot of women have their own,
Speaker 1: Like I usually when I date that that age group,
Speaker 1: I always run into childhood traumas in but I feel
Speaker 1: like more more more so we're our community is black community, right,
Speaker 1: So I feel like more more mostly black women are
Speaker 1: more inclined to go seek therapy because there's things a
Speaker 1: lot of us Black men typically don't. Yeah, black men
Speaker 1: typically don't. So now, if you're in a relationship with
Speaker 1: a woman, isn't me that you can't be vulnerable with?
Speaker 1: Because men always say they don't they don't have anybody
Speaker 1: to talk to about their is You have plenty people
Speaker 1: to talk to. What you're doing is you're choosing not
Speaker 1: to talk to people. So if you're thinking it's the
Speaker 1: woman that you can't be vulnerable with, are you showing
Speaker 1: up as your best self to these men and not
Speaker 1: showing up as your best self to this woman? Do
Speaker 1: you see what I'm saying? I see what you're getting at.
Speaker 1: But see me, I have a group of men, and
Speaker 1: that's what I want to get. I can talk to
Speaker 1: anything about So Terry little t I can talk to
Speaker 1: him about anything. We should has a different but a
Speaker 1: lot of people need friends. A lot of people talk
Speaker 1: to Terry about it. Yeah, because he's not just see
Speaker 1: I feel like because he goes through a lot of
Speaker 1: the same thing I go through and that and trust me,
Speaker 1: I do pick and choose. I do have certain friends.
Speaker 1: I tell certain things about um. But because I have
Speaker 1: a group of friends that are like me, I didn't
Speaker 1: try to be anybody. I wasn't. Never tried to be anybody.
Speaker 1: I wasn't. A lot of people have a lot of
Speaker 1: friends that they're trying to put on for, and a
Speaker 1: lot of my friends I don't have to put on
Speaker 1: for because we've all been through the same thing. Like
Speaker 1: I don't mind picking up the phone and calling him
Speaker 1: and saying like, boy, I don't know all the way up.
Speaker 1: He'd be like, damn, what happened. I'm hurting, man, I'm hurt. Look,
Speaker 1: it depends on what I'm talking it really depends. That's
Speaker 1: that's the hardest part. So when I was going through
Speaker 1: my custody case with my youngest son. I had a
Speaker 1: good friend of mine, um who after I felt like
Speaker 1: I had lost my custody case because I went in
Speaker 1: there wanting like joint custody and I came out with
Speaker 1: like two days a week every other weekend. But it
Speaker 1: was better than what I was getting. I was getting zero,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But I felt like I
Speaker 1: had lost. And I picked up the phone and I
Speaker 1: called him. I said, damn, bro, like I just got
Speaker 1: my ass handed to me in court, like like like
Speaker 1: my lawyer said, we're not gonna go in here and
Speaker 1: sling mud and my baby mama lawyer was like were slinging.
Speaker 1: Everything got this big and like it was like and
Speaker 1: they came out the victors. They came out on top.
Speaker 1: Even the judge announced her decision. Like they were like
Speaker 1: clapping and laughing and you know, and I'm sitting here like, man,
Speaker 1: what the fun? Just like how did it? Like yeah,
Speaker 1: like what just happened? Like like how did this? How
Speaker 1: did this? So I picked up the phone and called him,
Speaker 1: and I was like, you wouldn't believe what just happened.
Speaker 1: And I had already been talking to him about the
Speaker 1: situation because he had baby mama, drama, trouble with his kids,
Speaker 1: and all that other situations they worked there is out
Speaker 1: without court, but with mine I had I sort of
Speaker 1: had to go to court and m and I started
Speaker 1: crying on the phone own you know what I'm I
Speaker 1: started crying on the phone, and he was like, man,
Speaker 1: don't worry about it, bro, Everything gonna be all right,
Speaker 1: Like I promise you, like you're a good person, You're
Speaker 1: a good dad, Like all this ship is gonna come
Speaker 1: full circle, like as your child gets older, like she's
Speaker 1: gonna lean on you more, especially because my youngest special needs.
Speaker 1: He has autism. So he was like, trust me, like
Speaker 1: she's gonna need you more, She's gonna lean on you more.
Speaker 1: Like it was just an unfortunate situation where how y'all
Speaker 1: ended and she may just be a tad bit bitter,
Speaker 1: you know, but as things get better, y'all both move
Speaker 1: on all this other person exactly, like it'll loosen up.
Speaker 1: And here we are. Things have definitely loosened up. Me
Speaker 1: and my baby Mama text each other, cracking jokes and
Speaker 1: all that ship all the time. So you know, but
Speaker 1: there was there was a really, really rough patch, but
Speaker 1: he was there for me. So all right. I feel
Speaker 1: like men are more capable of being vulnerable when it
Speaker 1: comes to their children talking about but when it comes
Speaker 1: to your relationships with women, do you feel like y'all
Speaker 1: can be vulnerable and cry talking about a woman to
Speaker 1: your niggas certain men, because I've had some of my
Speaker 1: niggas go to the same thing. Yeah, as soon as
Speaker 1: you stop talking to you, you never I had a
Speaker 1: conversation with a homeboy in my not too long ago,
Speaker 1: and we were both going through bad breakups. And I
Speaker 1: call that nigg I said, man, my nigga. I wasn't crying,
Speaker 1: but I said, my nigga, what you're doing? He was like,
Speaker 1: I'm sitting here chilling. I said, Man, I miss her.
Speaker 1: He said, man, boy, I know how you feelable. I
Speaker 1: missed mine too. Boy, what you want, what you want
Speaker 1: to do, We're gonna fold it. We're gonna stand strong.
Speaker 1: We're gonna call him. What I said, boy, I don't
Speaker 1: want to call He said, you call her. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: call mine. But if you don't call you, as I
Speaker 1: ain't call him mine. And we sat on the phone
Speaker 1: for like an hour, just man, That's what I missed
Speaker 1: about it, man, But man, I don't want nobody to
Speaker 1: have that. But man, man, I can't deal with this
Speaker 1: and this, and we have these conversations. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And there have been times when you know,
Speaker 1: like a nigger maybe like bro, boy, you got you
Speaker 1: gotta boss the funk up now you on this. Don't
Speaker 1: acting like a little hole now you know she ain't
Speaker 1: the one. You know she got damn d A B C. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't do your homeboys be calling you both both
Speaker 1: both think so I don't. I don't, but so I'll
Speaker 1: tell you this. Women have called me more uh, the
Speaker 1: whole simp. Women don't use that term exactly the women,
Speaker 1: but women. Women have harsher words. Women have used harsher
Speaker 1: words than meeting my homeboys, like yeah, no, no no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I've had my homeboys, but like right now, you're simping,
Speaker 1: bro chill now you sim me. But I've never had
Speaker 1: my homeboys called me a bitch ass nigga, a fuck
Speaker 1: ass nigga, a whole ass nigger. I've had my women
Speaker 1: called me that though. All right, y'all, let's pay some
Speaker 1: bills real quick. We'll be right back. This's no really
Speaker 1: easy way to say this. But so look, Chuck, we
Speaker 1: have a series where we have the dumb bitch stories
Speaker 1: where we have asked our listeners to say and us, um,
Speaker 1: there are stories. We don't have a dumb bitch story
Speaker 1: this week, Nora simp series. So we're asking you for one.
Speaker 1: Tell us about SI. Series is for the men. Now,
Speaker 1: this is the time you felt like you got played
Speaker 1: by a woman, or if you're going through something right now,
Speaker 1: you want some advice on it, We want to talk
Speaker 1: about it. Well, Um, I do have a I do
Speaker 1: have a simple story, but I handed it like a geo,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I had it from high school.
Speaker 1: So I was dating a young lady, um and I
Speaker 1: probably should have known better. So I saw that she
Speaker 1: was out of town a lot. I saw that, you know,
Speaker 1: maybe that there may be a man involved. So you know,
Speaker 1: I just played the background until I saw her early
Speaker 1: one morning tweeting a bunch of you know, hurt uh
Speaker 1: making a bunch of hurt posts. You know y'all make
Speaker 1: them hurt women post. You know what I'm saying, subliminal messages,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm thing. So I just slid in
Speaker 1: the inbox. You know what I'm saying, got a number
Speaker 1: you know exactly hurt him anyway, let me go hurt
Speaker 1: her some more, definitely with you. I was trying to
Speaker 1: be captain save him, you know what I'm saying, Or
Speaker 1: trying to be captain save him. And and then she
Speaker 1: ended up calling me one day and saying she was pregnant. Well,
Speaker 1: she said she was late. She said she was late.
Speaker 1: She said she was late, and she said she took
Speaker 1: to pregnancy tests and both of them came back positive.
Speaker 1: And she did say I was the puppy. You know.
Speaker 1: She was like, you know, we did have unprotaked segs.
Speaker 1: I was like, MYNA put out game strong. No, She's like, yeah, no, yeah,
Speaker 1: So we ended up not as strong as you think exactly.
Speaker 1: But but in deep inside I knew it was strong.
Speaker 1: It's really strong. I'm telling you strong. So look, I'm
Speaker 1: telling you it's strong. Either my game has a better
Speaker 1: effective rate than condoms. No it doesn't, and I swear
Speaker 1: to it does. To use condoms. I don't know what's
Speaker 1: wrong with you, class. I don't trust you. I don't
Speaker 1: want to, but you clearly didn't trust her. I shouldn't have.
Speaker 1: I should not have correct. So we go down to
Speaker 1: the clinic. She she uh takes a real pregnancy test
Speaker 1: along with the ultrasound. She comes back, sits in the
Speaker 1: car with me, and she says, hey, it's not yours.
Speaker 1: I'm like nine weeks pregnant and like we had sex
Speaker 1: like four and a half weeks ago kind of sort of,
Speaker 1: so it's my exit. So I was like cool. You know,
Speaker 1: she was very she had no choice, you know, nigga
Speaker 1: like me, I'm super analytical. I was gonna add them
Speaker 1: dang up. You know what I'm saying, may not have
Speaker 1: been soon. But once we went to the doctor's office
Speaker 1: and we got the data conception, I was gonna be like,
Speaker 1: well that's way. You know what I'm saying. I give
Speaker 1: you a week or two, you know, give her take,
Speaker 1: but we're not about to do the whole month and
Speaker 1: a half off Like yeah baby, no, no, no, that's
Speaker 1: not mine. So that should have baby, you got super
Speaker 1: sperm because this baby is growing exactly. But see, I'm
Speaker 1: so active that I would have been there to hear
Speaker 1: the doctor say this stuff, so I would she would
Speaker 1: have been able to pull one over on you know.
Speaker 1: So just to make a long story, short, that should
Speaker 1: have been my qu to leave. But it wasn't. It
Speaker 1: was not that good, it really, it wasn't. I was
Speaker 1: just in like a different situation. I was coming out
Speaker 1: of a situation where I was just a tabit hurt.
Speaker 1: So she was just there and it felt good to
Speaker 1: have somebody like just drool over me and worship you exactly.
Speaker 1: But she was still drooling and worshiping over broke. So
Speaker 1: then she tells me, So, that was red flag number one.
Speaker 1: I should have left. This is the first time I'm
Speaker 1: telling y'all, the only person I've been this vulnerable with
Speaker 1: is Terry little te you know what I'm saying. So,
Speaker 1: so then she tells me probably about uh a week
Speaker 1: or so after she has the abortion. Oh yeah, because
Speaker 1: she told me straight up when she got in, she like,
Speaker 1: I'm not having this baby for this dude, like that
Speaker 1: she is not happening. She was like, my nigga, like,
Speaker 1: I'm already scheduled the abortion man told me this. I said,
Speaker 1: I'm scheduling this motherfuck. So she so that was red
Speaker 1: flag number one. She was just left it alone. Red
Speaker 1: flag number two. She says, oh hey, so, um, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going down to Miami. They have like this carnival thing,
Speaker 1: you know, I just want to let you know in
Speaker 1: advance that because I paid for the ticket so far
Speaker 1: in advance, like my ex is going and all of
Speaker 1: my friends were staying in the airbnb all together, you know,
Speaker 1: but just let you know he'll be there. I'll call
Speaker 1: you every day, I'll face time you, whatever I gotta do.
Speaker 1: I'm not even staying in the room with him, like
Speaker 1: I'm staying in the room with my friend. He's not
Speaker 1: even your baby. That didn't already, don't debt at it.
Speaker 1: And as she says, like and then just to be honest,
Speaker 1: it isn't like I can have sex anyway. I just
Speaker 1: had an abortion a week ago, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm saying here like William, I was still work, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, I'll still work. And then it's
Speaker 1: not even really so much as the the all of
Speaker 1: that is the fact that you still have an attachment
Speaker 1: to him, you know what I'm saying. But she was
Speaker 1: so helping on me not seeing anybody else, like it
Speaker 1: would have been different. And she was like, all right,
Speaker 1: well we're not a couple like you can do you
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do me and you know, we're just going
Speaker 1: days until we get to a point where we're ready
Speaker 1: to be committed. But it was like, I don't want
Speaker 1: another looking at you. Who is this girl? Like every
Speaker 1: day she on my social media? Who just liking pictures?
Speaker 1: And why is she blowing kisses? And why is she this?
Speaker 1: And why is she that? So it's like, damn, like,
Speaker 1: would you approve of me going on a trup with Max?
Speaker 1: Hell fucking no. And I'm like, well, I'm supposed to
Speaker 1: prove you're going to trip, but it's already paid for
Speaker 1: and you I know what. So I'm just like, all right, whatever.
Speaker 1: So she goes on the trip. I'm scrolling on Instagram
Speaker 1: and I and I see a picture of her and
Speaker 1: dude with matching I swear suits on on her time nine.
Speaker 1: She posted it, Oh she didn't give him, but look
Speaker 1: it was it was, it was, but it was. It
Speaker 1: was definitely like the caption was not heart at all.
Speaker 1: Caption was not hurt. Then it was another picture of
Speaker 1: them hugged up again. Caption definitely wasn't hurt. What is
Speaker 1: he saying? It was like, did you see her? Know that?
Speaker 1: That's me? What you see her? But now you see
Speaker 1: him anyway, She told me Bro had done took the phone.
Speaker 1: She was drunk. She drunk a lot. She drunk a lot,
Speaker 1: he had. They were drinking. She having her little carnival outfits.
Speaker 1: She couldn't you know, she had no pockets, so she
Speaker 1: gave the phone to him because he had pockets. And
Speaker 1: he funked around, and I guess still knew her past.
Speaker 1: She had checked. I don't know what now he was, y'all.
Speaker 1: He probably saw you pick and Bro went ham this night. Look,
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was bigger, but I know
Speaker 1: it was prettier, like my ship got an amazing two
Speaker 1: tone to it and smooth man right now. But I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, Look, I'm just saying, even if it wasn't bigger,
Speaker 1: he was jealous of just esthetically, you know, like god, damn,
Speaker 1: like this dick is beautiful. I'm about And she even
Speaker 1: she even said that, she was like, yoh, he did
Speaker 1: it to make you mad. So that was like red
Speaker 1: flag number two. You know, I should have just stopped
Speaker 1: it right then, but I didn't, and I ended up
Speaker 1: paying the price. I'm stopping the simple story right there.
Speaker 1: What was the ultimate price that you paid this. The
Speaker 1: ultimate price that I paid was and I gave up
Speaker 1: a lot of good women for her. He passed up
Speaker 1: some people for her. I passed up something good one.
Speaker 1: But you said the pussy wasn't all that? What happened?
Speaker 1: Like what kind of person was she? Like? How she tricking?
Speaker 1: Like that? Really all that? I mean? It was like
Speaker 1: it was good. I'm not about the downplayer, like you know,
Speaker 1: she has an Instagram, bitch. No, she wasn't. She was
Speaker 1: very young, she wasn't very youngest, but she had the nigs.
Speaker 1: Do you how do you know what I was? I
Speaker 1: was coming out of the situation. You're vulnerable. I was.
Speaker 1: I was vulnerable, you know what I'm saying. And I
Speaker 1: was like at that period right before you bass up,
Speaker 1: right when you're broken, right before you bass up, I
Speaker 1: was in that like that, That's where I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm at right now. It's hard, that's a hard stage,
Speaker 1: but you gotta be by yourself. Yeah, but she helped
Speaker 1: me get through it. Though she helped me get through No,
Speaker 1: she's blocked on everything and her she and then she
Speaker 1: had the nerve after all that, and I really want
Speaker 1: to put her on black. She said something like crazy
Speaker 1: about a chick that I was working with, and I
Speaker 1: really wanted to go and like, bit you to have
Speaker 1: me in the fucking abortion clinic for a bagby that
Speaker 1: ain't mine? You better don't don't ever say nothing crazy
Speaker 1: about mine? Like she was mad because the girl I said,
Speaker 1: I was about to buy the girl or something that
Speaker 1: she Oh who this big even like that, Like we
Speaker 1: are not even like that, Like don't come from mind
Speaker 1: called a dinosaur because you know she don't age me,
Speaker 1: she like forty something, you know what I'm saying. But
Speaker 1: she was talking about your girl. She was she was
Speaker 1: age shaming her, and like I really wanted to be
Speaker 1: like did she didn't have me a fucking abortion clinic
Speaker 1: for the don't she know who her baby daddy's? I
Speaker 1: hope you're not listening to this episode. I hope you
Speaker 1: goddamn it. You know what I'm saying. Oh, you know
Speaker 1: you don't you want who your baby daddy was? Does
Speaker 1: that really constitute being a whole? I think it burns.
Speaker 1: I just feel like because you had sex with two
Speaker 1: niggas without exactly cont people that close to where you
Speaker 1: didn't know who the daddy or your child was. So
Speaker 1: I feel like that it happens. Sometimes it happens. Who
Speaker 1: oh is that somebody posted to talk about I don't
Speaker 1: know what the gift was, hoping they're giving money to
Speaker 1: any woman who can say they didn't have sex and
Speaker 1: more thing to niggas this year, this year, in this March.
Speaker 1: You know, you may have a January February and then
Speaker 1: when a month without it and then boom boom boom hit.
Speaker 1: All of March was by yourself. That April you just
Speaker 1: you know, nice logical thinking man, the April look. I
Speaker 1: have very look, I am very logical. I am extremely
Speaker 1: practical and logical. I genuinely do not expect women to
Speaker 1: sit back and just be, you know, celibate, even though
Speaker 1: y'all be lying, So are you single? Now? Yeah? Something single? Now?
Speaker 1: What the ladies were to find you? She I'm not
Speaker 1: about to do that because I do got somebody who
Speaker 1: don't play about you know that? But but but I
Speaker 1: I'm definitely saying she can not play about you because
Speaker 1: you're single. But because we we're in that situation where
Speaker 1: we're dating and we're getting to know each other. I
Speaker 1: mean we pretty much you know, know each other, but
Speaker 1: we're still we're still making sure that exclusively what kind
Speaker 1: of sort of are But the niggas no listen, no listen, no,
Speaker 1: we we have we have come to the conclusion that
Speaker 1: there has to be more boxes checked than we just
Speaker 1: like each other. So tell the ladies where to find
Speaker 1: you then not limits? Then are you off limits or no? Currently?
Speaker 1: I am, but I don't know what's gonna happen by
Speaker 1: the time, y'all Thursday, But I don't know when they're
Speaker 1: gonna listen to. What if they listen to this next year? Now,
Speaker 1: everybody's gonna listen to the first day and come out.
Speaker 1: It don't matter. They're just gonna follow you on Instagram
Speaker 1: me follow me everywhere at dj chuck T on Instagram, Uh,
Speaker 1: at dj chuck T on Twitter, at dj chuck t
Speaker 1: on Facebook. Um, and uh that's why. Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for joining us. As always, y'all listen. If you
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