WEBVTT - Ep 64 "Call On Tyrone"

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<v Speaker 1>Talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion

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<v Speaker 1>who talks back? What's up y'all girl A j thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for tuning there for a new episode that we

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<v Speaker 1>talked back out. Hey, y'alls, tim Bam, I'm miss y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I love y'all. How y'all doing? And look, we got

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<v Speaker 1>a special guest on we talked Back. We got DJ

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<v Speaker 1>and this thing. I just came to take over for

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<v Speaker 1>the day. This is my podcast for the day. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>get beside yourself. Shout out there, we talked Back podcast

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm talking back to day. Y'all be having a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of timid men up here, man, So I just

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<v Speaker 1>came shot. See, y'all are extremely intimidating, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. I mean, y'all are intimidating to me, but

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<v Speaker 1>I can see how to to everybody else. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all control just the entire atmosphere of conversation and all that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's our ship. But I'm the guests though, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. I'm the guest, so it's my job

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<v Speaker 1>to come in and show out because y'all be on

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<v Speaker 1>here every week. So because I'm only on here one time.

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<v Speaker 1>It's up to me to show out. Okay, y'all listen,

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<v Speaker 1>we got mr. I said what I said. Come yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I said what I said. You know, y'all listen, My

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<v Speaker 1>d be flooded when I cut the comments off some

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<v Speaker 1>women's emailsc mex. Give me some women's dams I opened,

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<v Speaker 1>and others I just don't open because I know that

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<v Speaker 1>pisses them off. Even more if they write a whole

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<v Speaker 1>long paragraphing and I don't open it, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>they hate it. But I always open yours, Tammy, I

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<v Speaker 1>always open because it is I gotta know you like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. If I know that, you know, you're gonna congratulate,

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<v Speaker 1>and this is just my like my overall mindset. If

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<v Speaker 1>I know somebody is gonna congratulate me when I do

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<v Speaker 1>well the same way they're gonna talk ship to me.

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<v Speaker 1>If I sunk up, then I don't have a problem

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<v Speaker 1>having any type of back and forth conversation with somebody debate.

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<v Speaker 1>But if I know that you only come on my

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<v Speaker 1>post only working with me because you know, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because you don't like what I what I said, and

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<v Speaker 1>know all that hell, no, you said what I said

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<v Speaker 1>all day Sometimes I debate, leave the comments on. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I'll come on, what did you do? My birthday was Thursday,

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<v Speaker 1>so I didn't really thank you. Thank you. I turned

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<v Speaker 1>forty one years thank you. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I tried. I try to, you know, drink my water

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, keep talking females out my life on Beijing, Beijing,

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<v Speaker 1>I had that thing look painted on. I just every

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<v Speaker 1>now and I just do a little touch up with

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<v Speaker 1>some real black you know what I'm saying. The most

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<v Speaker 1>ustling you know me for years. I definitely was Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>she hasn't been at I think it really has. Yeah. No,

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<v Speaker 1>but um uh So my birthday was Thursday and I

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<v Speaker 1>was on daddy duties so I didn't do much of anything.

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<v Speaker 1>And then um, Friday, I had excuse me. Saturday, I

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<v Speaker 1>had a full day DJ. I did music business consultations. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I did a baby shower that turned into a proposal.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out to my homie Trade Montana. You know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. He from the map, you probably know him,

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<v Speaker 1>but um, he proposed this girl. Then I had to

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<v Speaker 1>go dj at um at Superstars and then from there

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<v Speaker 1>hopped on the road head to Atlanta for the Ugly

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<v Speaker 1>Money Music something. I was on a panel there and

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<v Speaker 1>I judged the showcase and uh um, I forgot the

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<v Speaker 1>name of the guy. But he's for South Carolina. He's

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<v Speaker 1>for South Carolina. He want a record deal and he

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<v Speaker 1>wanna he wanted meeting with Boosey and a meeting with

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<v Speaker 1>money bag. Yo. Yeah, yeah, well you had a full weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a very full weekend. So on the weekends,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have my my son, like, I gotta pack

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<v Speaker 1>it all in like so I'd be gone going doing whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>a whole bunch of ships patrol as he either yeah

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. Either what else you got

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<v Speaker 1>going on? You want to tell anything? Or business? So

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<v Speaker 1>look look look I know right, so so check it out. UM.

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<v Speaker 1>I teach a music business class where I teach uh artists, DJs, producers,

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<v Speaker 1>singer songwriters, people who are aspiring music industry executives about

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<v Speaker 1>the business all right, genuinely the business. We touch a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit on marketing and promoting, but we really talk

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<v Speaker 1>about how to how to make yourself a legal business.

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<v Speaker 1>I teach them about copyrights, trademarks, publishing, um, how to

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<v Speaker 1>set up a business plan to be successful when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to music, how to conduct yourself when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to just business in general. I have a whole business

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<v Speaker 1>ethics portion of the class. But it's a two day course.

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<v Speaker 1>I teach you here in Charlotte is in person. We're

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<v Speaker 1>not doing virtual because, UM, it's a very intense course.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta be here where. I have people flying from California, Houston, Miami, Jacksonville,

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<v Speaker 1>and I had people flying from New York all to

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<v Speaker 1>take the class. UM. But it's a two day course.

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<v Speaker 1>It's an eight hour, eight hour day course. I do

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<v Speaker 1>it once a month here in Charlotte. It's called the

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<v Speaker 1>Foundation of Music. You can sign up for that. UM.

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<v Speaker 1>On top of that, I have over twenty two years

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<v Speaker 1>of experience in the music industry. I've helped break artists

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<v Speaker 1>like Young Dolves, Applies, Um, the Baby bank Roll Fresh.

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<v Speaker 1>We can take it back even further. I was working

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<v Speaker 1>with Jeezy and Boys in the Hood. This is back

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<v Speaker 1>before Jeez really blew Like, I can really take it back, UM.

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<v Speaker 1>And I do music business consultation, So I have twenty

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<v Speaker 1>two years in the business. We can sit down, we

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<v Speaker 1>can help you come up with a game plan on

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<v Speaker 1>how to be successful. On top of that, I do

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<v Speaker 1>a music review show every Monday and Friday on Instagram

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<v Speaker 1>and Facebook Live called The Reverb. Why not only tell

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<v Speaker 1>artists whether I like your music or not, but I

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<v Speaker 1>give you ways how to push it. And that's every

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<v Speaker 1>Monday and fridaysh No, sometimes it'd be real trash, sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>be horrible. Um. And then on top of that, I

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<v Speaker 1>still do CD and DVD duplication. I know a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people say, oh, man, CDs and DVDs and sort

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<v Speaker 1>of played out. I don't even know where to play that.

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<v Speaker 1>But CDs and DVDs have become more of uh merchandise

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<v Speaker 1>than actual medium to listen to music. People buy them,

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<v Speaker 1>they excire me, people make them, they sign them, and

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<v Speaker 1>they sell them for hundreds of dollars. Limited edition CDs

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<v Speaker 1>of my album, limited edition DVDs, and my videos. So

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<v Speaker 1>I still do CD and DVD duplication. I still do mixtapes.

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<v Speaker 1>I have uh, I have a playlist on Apple Music,

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<v Speaker 1>Title and Spotify. All right, and all you gotta do

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<v Speaker 1>is hit the link in my bio on any of

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<v Speaker 1>my platforms and take you straight to all of the

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that I do. And um, I ain't the deal

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<v Speaker 1>with the hornets not too long ago. NBA's first ever

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<v Speaker 1>music industry night. Um. We do it twice per season

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<v Speaker 1>here in Charlotte. It's an amazing event. I fly in

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<v Speaker 1>all these record executives and all these people who um

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<v Speaker 1>can help independent artist, DJs, producers, singer songwriters, whatever, get

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<v Speaker 1>their music in the right hands, learned about the music industry. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're done for this particular season. You know, we're

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<v Speaker 1>about to go into the playoffs. But next season we're

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<v Speaker 1>working on that now. Uh. Not only do you get

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<v Speaker 1>a chance to come in and sit down, we have

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<v Speaker 1>a music conference portion we teach you about the music

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<v Speaker 1>industry and what the music industry is looking for, but

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<v Speaker 1>then on top of that, you get a chance to

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<v Speaker 1>perform on the court, center court with the Hornets, play

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<v Speaker 1>at with Michael Jordan be at you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>would the metal ball be at? And you really really

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<v Speaker 1>get the path. I'll be there to need anything, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be I'll be there. Come on next season. I got

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<v Speaker 1>tickets for both of y'all, alright, and I got sweet

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<v Speaker 1>tickets for y'all to watch the game. All right. Then,

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<v Speaker 1>look I'm ready, and I could go on and on.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I do so much. This nigger is one

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<v Speaker 1>of the biggest forever. Now when I used to put

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<v Speaker 1>Gucci on the show you wants to Willie Dee's at

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<v Speaker 1>the good checks the haircuts in the barber as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get into a stupid internet news. So what happened

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<v Speaker 1>this week? The man that passed away uh in d C.

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<v Speaker 1>And he had a funeral at the club standing up

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm standing up in Yeah. Look, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I saw a lot of people who were against it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was all for it. Look if I die and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm and I'm a rapper or I'm an entertainer, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want the last thing people remember, uh, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>of me to be me on stage, piping up, performing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the same way I live, then that's then

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<v Speaker 1>that's how I'm gonna die. That's how I want them

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<v Speaker 1>to remember me. So, you know, I saw people saying like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's creepy and or that's disrespectful. But look, yeah, they

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<v Speaker 1>ripped the club out. The only people it was packed.

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<v Speaker 1>The only people were there who were his fans. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't like it was open to the general public. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>people love it, and that's what they chose just because

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<v Speaker 1>you saw it on the internet. I don't follow the

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<v Speaker 1>page that posted it, you exactly, because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>that's some religions people do that. Yeah, I wouldn't. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to do some research, and I found that there

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<v Speaker 1>was a culture. I can't even tell you who it was,

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<v Speaker 1>but they dig up their loved ones annuinely annually to

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<v Speaker 1>celebrate and warn the loss of these people, and they

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<v Speaker 1>changed their clothes and then being taking pictures with their corpses. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>now that's something that's a bit much for me, what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying for me. But when I died, put me

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<v Speaker 1>in the club man put my turn typlest that I

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<v Speaker 1>got a prerecord and mix some of make you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, play that thing, and because it's better

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<v Speaker 1>than just having everybody just come to my way to

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<v Speaker 1>come to my funeral, to see me in the casket crying,

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<v Speaker 1>doing all the action. Church where you ain't never being

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<v Speaker 1>like not maybe not you, but you know, people don't

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<v Speaker 1>go to church their life, so to put them in

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<v Speaker 1>the churches, it's like, yeah, that's the church the exactly. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>some people go to the club every weekend. Don't never

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<v Speaker 1>see a church. I ain't seen the church. It was

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<v Speaker 1>appropriate for his lifestyle. We'll say that, all right. It

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<v Speaker 1>is a little creepy, though, you know, just to have

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<v Speaker 1>is a dead guy right there in the club. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a dead guy in the church. I go to

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<v Speaker 1>the church from somebody who's risen from the dead, but

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<v Speaker 1>when I have funerality, he's dead. Dead in theres more

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<v Speaker 1>like where the dead person should be, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>Nick's get killing the club though. I mean, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>see quite a minute dead bodies in the club. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think that was where by the club you die

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<v Speaker 1>by the club? What it is. I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>how he died. I never hit even he got shot.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a rapper, you got shot. Unfortunately, it seems to

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<v Speaker 1>be the trend for a lot of black men. I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>you know when heart disease, because heart disease is number

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<v Speaker 1>one killer over getting shot. Fortunately, But you can still

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<v Speaker 1>superside your meal anytime, you like. What else you got going?

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<v Speaker 1>On the podcast The Pivot, they had the guy on

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<v Speaker 1>talking about Russell Wilson is like a lame and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't listen to stuff like that. I genuinely stay away

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<v Speaker 1>from stuff like that. He said he's a square. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>Russell Wilson is a square. But then at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what's wrong with being a square? Not everybody

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be a street nil, not everybody gonna be a hustler.

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<v Speaker 1>He's also an athlete. Let's let's a top tier athlete.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's remind folks who Russell Wilson really is. They're outside

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<v Speaker 1>of being a square. Like, he's a top tier athlete,

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<v Speaker 1>he's a super Bowl champion. I just don't like the

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<v Speaker 1>negative connotation that comes with square. Um, we're talking about pedestal.

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<v Speaker 1>The comments that were made by Channing Chowder is it chowder?

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<v Speaker 1>Channing Chowder on the Pivot podcast ask Uh, he said that, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>the only reason why Sierra is what Russell Wilson is

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<v Speaker 1>because of the check and other guys on the show

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<v Speaker 1>was basically saying, well, when you have this much toxicity

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<v Speaker 1>in your life, you want someone better, Right. I see

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<v Speaker 1>it as she matured and and I would definitely sort

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<v Speaker 1>of be against their situation if Sierra hadn't adjusted and

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<v Speaker 1>adapted to his lifestyle. She's totally adjusted style. Actually, like

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<v Speaker 1>they've created this lifestyle that we see right now. They

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<v Speaker 1>created that together. I don't feel like he had this

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<v Speaker 1>lifestyle going and Sierra jumped into it. His lifestyle was

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<v Speaker 1>pretty calm period. Her lifestyle was the one that was

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit, you know, she was dealing with and that.

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<v Speaker 1>But but before before Future, she was with Wow and

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<v Speaker 1>well everybody else in the music We know how music industry.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm just saying that she was with other

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<v Speaker 1>people in the industry, but she was in the industry herself.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's not make it seem like she jumped from rapper

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<v Speaker 1>to rapper to whoever. She has a successful career in

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<v Speaker 1>the entertainment industry itself, so she was in the entertainment industry.

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<v Speaker 1>So we just know how the lifestyle is in the

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<v Speaker 1>entertainment industry. So she slowed that all the way down

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<v Speaker 1>and became a mother. I don't even think Sierra was

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<v Speaker 1>ever like Sierra was. Yeah, she was never just out

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<v Speaker 1>of here when last year I don't even remember. I

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<v Speaker 1>genuinely don't remember, but I know she exactly, she exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>She slowed her life down to fit motherhood and to

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<v Speaker 1>fit wife fihood, and she slowed her life down. So

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's why I'm all for because what

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<v Speaker 1>happens is you have these women who come into these

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<v Speaker 1>these men's lives that have everything all together and then

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<v Speaker 1>they just completely funk it all up because they don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to slow down to fit motherhood or wife fihood

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<v Speaker 1>can sh up. I don't want to say, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to say anybody's name, but I run into them

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<v Speaker 1>all the time, just personally, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>They look at my lifestyle and they think it's one

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<v Speaker 1>way because I am a DJ I do be Nicholas,

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<v Speaker 1>But six seven days out of the week, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's actually pretty slow, and it's not it's too slow

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<v Speaker 1>for them, and then they just completely well, I'm to

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<v Speaker 1>the point now I don't even play with the bullshit.

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<v Speaker 1>But at one point in time, Yeah, they used to

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<v Speaker 1>have me out in the club, and they used to

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<v Speaker 1>have me out doing all types of crazy stuff all

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<v Speaker 1>time and night. And they have to pay babysitters and

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<v Speaker 1>I would get in, they have to wake up, take

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<v Speaker 1>the kids, school, fixed breakfast, all this other stuff. So no,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, from my personal experience, I'm not gonna put

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<v Speaker 1>nobody out there like that, but I have dated women

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<v Speaker 1>who literally club like four or five days out of

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<v Speaker 1>the week. How old were these women thirty four thirty five.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, thirty three year olds four

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<v Speaker 1>days a week. They live in is building in the

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<v Speaker 1>one yes and adjacent to Mirror beard In Park right

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<v Speaker 1>across the like two blocks tow you're talking about me. No, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking about you. I'm not talking about You're

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<v Speaker 1>just saying these women are very are in close proximity

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<v Speaker 1>to where we are right now. So I'm just so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying I like that. I'm not talking about you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, yeah, she's just go out every Sunday.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's one day we didn't go out Sunday. Did

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<v Speaker 1>good in the house. But I mean, but my thing

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<v Speaker 1>is like, you know, you don't have any kids. You

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<v Speaker 1>say you don't have a man, so you can you

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<v Speaker 1>can do that right exactly? Why why I live a

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<v Speaker 1>wife e motherly lifestyle when you're not a wife war mother?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I completely women to staying in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>I want somebody stay in the house. And I got

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<v Speaker 1>these picnicians who'll be sitting in the house thinking they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna choose them because they being girl. If you don't

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<v Speaker 1>go have some fun. What I'm just saying is the

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<v Speaker 1>guy in the houses? Where is he going out? Now? Outside?

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<v Speaker 1>But if he outside and he wants you in the house,

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<v Speaker 1>then that's a red flag right there. Hell know. And

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<v Speaker 1>now if he's taking you with him, if he like

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<v Speaker 1>we outside together, then that's totally different. You know. If

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, yeah, I don't feel comfortable with you going

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<v Speaker 1>out unless you're with me. We're a couple, that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of couples that party together, they

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<v Speaker 1>don't typically go out unless they're going together. Bte me

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<v Speaker 1>out and he was already out with a bit. What

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<v Speaker 1>was his relationship like with the young lady? Was she

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<v Speaker 1>just a friend? No, he's trying to date both of us. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>he's trying to date both of Yeah, and he's that's

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<v Speaker 1>comeback material. That's material. Yeah, that's that's come bad. But look,

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<v Speaker 1>before we finish up this segment, um so now here

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<v Speaker 1>put in words and Gina Pickett Smith Mount this week supposedly,

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<v Speaker 1>so allegedly somebody close to them said that she said

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<v Speaker 1>that she wished, wishes that will Smith hadn't smacked Chris Rock.

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<v Speaker 1>And the only reason why we believe that is because

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<v Speaker 1>she hasn't supported her husband in any way shape or

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<v Speaker 1>form saying anything at all, not even not even the

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<v Speaker 1>slightest not even the slightest support. Even Jaden said, that's

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<v Speaker 1>how we do. Even his son just said that's how

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<v Speaker 1>we do. He didn't come out and say anything crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>He just said that how we She could have just

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<v Speaker 1>said I love my husband fun with anybody else thinks

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<v Speaker 1>what if he asked her, just don't say nothing. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time, when when when when we are speculating,

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<v Speaker 1>But I just know from my personal experiences, I would

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<v Speaker 1>want you to put something out there when you have

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<v Speaker 1>so much speculation. He did. He apologized that he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>say nothing. There's nothing enough to say. Ya let me

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<v Speaker 1>they want like you gotta you gotta stop the speculation

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<v Speaker 1>from happening in some way, shape or form, because that's

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<v Speaker 1>what happens when you're in the public eye and your

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<v Speaker 1>image means pretty much everything. Stop the speculation. Because he

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<v Speaker 1>went up I feel like he went up there to

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<v Speaker 1>defend her honor, and because he has just been pushed

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<v Speaker 1>and bullied and and just straight slandered and joked about

0:18:31.040 --> 0:18:34.359
<v Speaker 1>because she basically don't really put out there that she

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<v Speaker 1>loves him. She's even said she don't even know what

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<v Speaker 1>the funk love is her words, how to love exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>So my thing is nothing, don't get married if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what love is. That that is fair. Why

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<v Speaker 1>do you want to why you want to that? Here's

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<v Speaker 1>what I see now if I know, because last week

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<v Speaker 1>we spoke about the whole slap attack and I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like it's all a sigh up. But anyway, if it

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<v Speaker 1>were a real situation, Um, you know, Jada Pickett was

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<v Speaker 1>at the top of her game when her and Will Smith,

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<v Speaker 1>both both of them, because I think they got married

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<v Speaker 1>in ninety seven, so they were both at the top

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<v Speaker 1>of their the het did their careers at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>new Fresh actors, actresses, actress. And she got pregnant. She

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<v Speaker 1>was three months pregnant. That's that's two years after dating

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<v Speaker 1>from what I read. And she got pregnant. She was

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<v Speaker 1>three months pregnant when she got when they got married,

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<v Speaker 1>she said she never even wanted kids or to be married.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, So I'm just saying, so, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you got people on the internet saying, oh, she's like

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<v Speaker 1>she has a resentment towards Will Smith. Always different people,

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<v Speaker 1>different things. People to speculating this. They want to know

0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:53.359
<v Speaker 1>she's taking all the shy narcisses. She did a ballhead

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<v Speaker 1>bit like all this. Will takes the shot. I have

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<v Speaker 1>said this over and over and over again. Will takes

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<v Speaker 1>the most shots. Jada took her the shot. I'm saying. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, I'm saying they now they both take shots,

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<v Speaker 1>and let me not let me clear that up. Jada

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<v Speaker 1>definitely takes shots, but I feel like Will takes the

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<v Speaker 1>run of it because at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>he's looked at its being the same. She's looked at

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<v Speaker 1>as being the pimp. Okay, But if it was a

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<v Speaker 1>woman getting played, nobody would look at it like the

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<v Speaker 1>woman played. It would be since dropped that nigga get

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<v Speaker 1>rid of. If you put a woman in the same

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<v Speaker 1>position as Will Smith, oh my god, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>she would have been. They're both in the same position

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<v Speaker 1>because we already know that they are in an open

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<v Speaker 1>marriage and what already said, there's never been any infidelity

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<v Speaker 1>in his marriage, so he doesn't consider what she did cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>All Jada did was with a nigga who had some

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<v Speaker 1>ship the truth about who she is. But at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of it, but didn't have everybody okay and that

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<v Speaker 1>and that's still her phone, and that still her phone.

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<v Speaker 1>But who who has came and put Will on blast?

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<v Speaker 1>Any of his mistresses aside that? But but listen, that's

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<v Speaker 1>the point of an open marriage. Though she went out

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<v Speaker 1>here and she meant she messed with somebody who she

0:21:12.840 --> 0:21:16.880
<v Speaker 1>knew had mental health issues. She mess with somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>was substantially younger and she knew was immature, was in

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<v Speaker 1>a vulnerable position. If Will would have went out here

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<v Speaker 1>and with one of these Instagram models who we know

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<v Speaker 1>was gonna put him on black, I'm just saying, if

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<v Speaker 1>he messed with one that we knew was gonna put

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<v Speaker 1>him on blast, we wouldn't have the same sympathy. Nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>you knew that little girl was all about Clouden was

0:21:36.040 --> 0:21:39.280
<v Speaker 1>gonna put you on blast. So that's the thing that's

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<v Speaker 1>the difference. Will has been extremely calculated and extremely careful,

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<v Speaker 1>and Jada is sloppy. She that makes her a bad person.

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<v Speaker 1>That makes her bad, We're not a bad person. That

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<v Speaker 1>makes that makes her extremely bad as far as her desciences.

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<v Speaker 1>She too all over that ship too, over that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>We got a new song too. He has another dish

0:22:01.720 --> 0:22:05.320
<v Speaker 1>track he got that's too this, this is your side,

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<v Speaker 1>Get dis me twice. Come on, tell me. You're looking

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<v Speaker 1>at me like you want to agree, but you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to agree because it's your marriage like that that

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<v Speaker 1>it's a slippery slope that came on though like this,

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<v Speaker 1>accidents happened. This was on purpose. She was out and

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<v Speaker 1>about with this man he's supposed to do, not make

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<v Speaker 1>this is the only part, like only career he got

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<v Speaker 1>right now. This is like he had a career before

0:22:32.040 --> 0:22:36.200
<v Speaker 1>he was dope, but he got with her, he fell off.

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<v Speaker 1>But listen, putting out a song right now, it might

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<v Speaker 1>be the best thing for his career. Ain't nobody talking

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<v Speaker 1>about him exactly? Because she sucked him up until Will

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<v Speaker 1>sucked him up. August I've seen it was a multi

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<v Speaker 1>platinum singer before Ja, but nobody talking about August. I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen the r Tony Rock. I mean, Tony Rock has

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<v Speaker 1>a little fan base, you know, but on the national level.

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<v Speaker 1>You're right, right, so this would be the best top

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<v Speaker 1>of the this something. But but I don't need niggas

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<v Speaker 1>blowing up at the expense of my marriage though you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm doing that But is he supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>care about that? Yeah? I don't. But that was because

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<v Speaker 1>of my wife's dumb an entanglement exactly, Okay, it was

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<v Speaker 1>an entanglement. And I feel like, and if Will Smith

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<v Speaker 1>has gotten past it, at what point does the public Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>when when do we get past it? And why are

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<v Speaker 1>we using? No, we have not, because what men are

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<v Speaker 1>doing is using that red table talk to justify why

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<v Speaker 1>Will why Will Smith should not defend his wife, as

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<v Speaker 1>if she's not somebody worth defending. That's what I'm seeing.

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<v Speaker 1>What we were we were not We're not debating on

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<v Speaker 1>whether or not he should defend his wife or not.

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<v Speaker 1>Um eight percent of the men that I know of,

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<v Speaker 1>we're in agreements with the slap. It was when he

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<v Speaker 1>did it and where he did it, So me personally,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand and I would have probably slapped Chris Rock,

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<v Speaker 1>but not but not on stage. Literally it was he

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<v Speaker 1>I would have waited on that nigga backstage he presented

0:24:10.320 --> 0:24:13.080
<v Speaker 1>the ward it was it was what forty seconds, fifty seconds?

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<v Speaker 1>He could have waited for seconds out and waiting on

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<v Speaker 1>that nigga backstage, and I would have pressed him and said, look,

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<v Speaker 1>the next time you go out here on this next

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<v Speaker 1>segment or whatever. If we got to go back here

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<v Speaker 1>and talk to the producers. We're gonna talk to producer,

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<v Speaker 1>get you back on that stage, but you're gonna apologize

0:24:27.800 --> 0:24:30.560
<v Speaker 1>to my wife or it's gonna be smoked right now.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you would have said anything that was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it was just a joke, and I would have slapped

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<v Speaker 1>the ship out of him. You're gonna you're gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>out here. You're gonna apologize to my wife. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do that on this next segment. We're not gonna wait

0:24:42.760 --> 0:24:45.400
<v Speaker 1>two three segments. If we gotta, I'm Will Smith. We're

0:24:45.400 --> 0:24:46.959
<v Speaker 1>gonna go talk to the producer. You're gonna go out here.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna apologize the minute we come back from this commercial. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a commercial break because we ain't talking no

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<v Speaker 1>more about Jada. Let's do it. We had to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it just one more time, but we'll be right back, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to talk about male vulnerability this week, right,

0:25:08.480 --> 0:25:10.080
<v Speaker 1>So me and Tara was trying to think about who

0:25:10.080 --> 0:25:12.080
<v Speaker 1>we could bring on the show to talk about it. Right,

0:25:12.280 --> 0:25:15.440
<v Speaker 1>So we got this fool up in here. Yeah, j Chuck,

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<v Speaker 1>how y'all doing? How everybody doing? I'm doing great. We're

0:25:18.359 --> 0:25:21.320
<v Speaker 1>about to have a great show tonight. Let's go. If

0:25:21.359 --> 0:25:23.800
<v Speaker 1>you don't cry, then we know you're not in capable

0:25:23.840 --> 0:25:26.200
<v Speaker 1>of being vulnerable with us today. I mean, why I

0:25:26.280 --> 0:25:30.280
<v Speaker 1>gotta cry? Why can't just look sad? Why? Why are

0:25:30.280 --> 0:25:34.040
<v Speaker 1>the tears the confirmation to cry? Y'all think women love

0:25:34.160 --> 0:25:37.000
<v Speaker 1>y'all less we cry too? So no, I don't think that.

0:25:37.440 --> 0:25:39.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't want no woman to cry over me. I

0:25:39.359 --> 0:25:41.520
<v Speaker 1>want you to be happy, because that's the only way

0:25:41.560 --> 0:25:44.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna leave. My mark is if every nigger that

0:25:44.160 --> 0:25:47.320
<v Speaker 1>you come in contact with after me, you like, he

0:25:47.560 --> 0:25:51.160
<v Speaker 1>makes me smile like chuck, maybe smile like I don't

0:25:51.200 --> 0:25:55.359
<v Speaker 1>even want to be here. I don't going back. Boys stop?

0:25:56.840 --> 0:25:59.159
<v Speaker 1>Why if she feels that way, why would she leaving anyway?

0:25:59.200 --> 0:26:02.280
<v Speaker 1>Why she doing? Some people just aren't compatible sometimes or

0:26:02.359 --> 0:26:05.160
<v Speaker 1>sometimes it's just the wrong timing. You know, timing can

0:26:05.200 --> 0:26:08.399
<v Speaker 1>also be an issue, right, So my question is do

0:26:08.520 --> 0:26:13.359
<v Speaker 1>men men want women? Oh? A statement? How I feel

0:26:13.880 --> 0:26:17.680
<v Speaker 1>men want women to desire them, but then they want

0:26:17.680 --> 0:26:21.640
<v Speaker 1>the acceptance from other men. Is what I'm what I'm

0:26:21.720 --> 0:26:23.719
<v Speaker 1>what I how I feel? Do you understand what I'm

0:26:23.760 --> 0:26:28.800
<v Speaker 1>saying about that? Um? Not? Really? I sort of get it, Um,

0:26:28.920 --> 0:26:31.240
<v Speaker 1>you mean acceptance? Azing. I want the homies to think

0:26:31.240 --> 0:26:34.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm cool, but I want my girl to think that

0:26:34.760 --> 0:26:39.639
<v Speaker 1>I am you know, a god? Yes? And then what

0:26:39.720 --> 0:26:45.400
<v Speaker 1>I as far as vulnerability, is it me? You can't

0:26:45.400 --> 0:26:49.200
<v Speaker 1>be vulnerable with me as a female woman? Yes? Any woman?

0:26:49.359 --> 0:26:51.960
<v Speaker 1>Is it your woman that you can't be vulnerable with?

0:26:53.240 --> 0:26:56.479
<v Speaker 1>Or is it your homeboys that you can't be vulnerable with?

0:26:56.880 --> 0:26:59.399
<v Speaker 1>Is it me or the homeboys? Um, I'm gonna be

0:26:59.480 --> 0:27:02.640
<v Speaker 1>honest with you. It really just depends on the situation.

0:27:02.720 --> 0:27:05.439
<v Speaker 1>Because there's certain things I don't tell my homies that

0:27:05.440 --> 0:27:08.080
<v Speaker 1>I'll tell my girl. Are certain things I won't tell

0:27:08.119 --> 0:27:10.120
<v Speaker 1>my girl that I'll tell my homies. There's certain things

0:27:10.119 --> 0:27:12.040
<v Speaker 1>I tell my mama I won't tell neither one on.

0:27:13.359 --> 0:27:19.000
<v Speaker 1>So let's just say it is a a financial issue.

0:27:19.920 --> 0:27:25.640
<v Speaker 1>A financial issue I probably won't tell my girl unless

0:27:25.640 --> 0:27:27.400
<v Speaker 1>it gets out of hand. I know that's not right,

0:27:28.119 --> 0:27:30.959
<v Speaker 1>but I'm gonna try to clean it up before I

0:27:31.040 --> 0:27:34.280
<v Speaker 1>even give her any type of idea that I have

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:38.720
<v Speaker 1>a financial issue because your money is equated with your pride. No,

0:27:39.280 --> 0:27:41.560
<v Speaker 1>Because and this and this is just me coming from

0:27:41.600 --> 0:27:43.600
<v Speaker 1>a two parent household. You know, I grew up with

0:27:43.640 --> 0:27:45.560
<v Speaker 1>both of my parents in the house. My dad was

0:27:45.560 --> 0:27:48.720
<v Speaker 1>in the military, my mom was a teacher. Um, I

0:27:48.800 --> 0:27:53.480
<v Speaker 1>never saw my dad's sweat. And I feel like, um

0:27:53.560 --> 0:27:55.840
<v Speaker 1>that that that played a huge part in just our

0:27:55.960 --> 0:27:58.879
<v Speaker 1>overall family structure. Now my mom knew about something something

0:27:58.960 --> 0:28:01.920
<v Speaker 1>she didn't and I feel like, um, the man is

0:28:01.960 --> 0:28:05.439
<v Speaker 1>supposed to literally be you know, and we say this

0:28:05.520 --> 0:28:07.639
<v Speaker 1>all the time. The man is the head, you know,

0:28:07.720 --> 0:28:09.680
<v Speaker 1>the woman is the neck or the woman is the backbone.

0:28:10.000 --> 0:28:11.439
<v Speaker 1>When I'm in when I'm in the head, and I

0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:15.239
<v Speaker 1>know everything, and my family is depending upon how I

0:28:15.280 --> 0:28:18.520
<v Speaker 1>handle things and how I show emotion, and you know

0:28:18.560 --> 0:28:21.439
<v Speaker 1>how I lead, You're never supposed to see me sweat.

0:28:21.800 --> 0:28:25.560
<v Speaker 1>So if there's a financial issue, UM, my wife would

0:28:25.560 --> 0:28:29.760
<v Speaker 1>probably be one of the last people to know, you know, um,

0:28:29.880 --> 0:28:33.680
<v Speaker 1>our house going into foreclosure. No no, no no, BYOK, by

0:28:33.680 --> 0:28:35.760
<v Speaker 1>the time to get the forecloser, it's too late. I

0:28:35.760 --> 0:28:38.120
<v Speaker 1>don't already don't talk to her by the time to

0:28:38.240 --> 0:28:41.000
<v Speaker 1>get that far, you know what I'm saying. But by

0:28:41.040 --> 0:28:42.840
<v Speaker 1>the time you get that far, you should have already

0:28:42.880 --> 0:28:45.120
<v Speaker 1>done saying something because she's living in there too. You

0:28:45.160 --> 0:28:48.640
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. No, no, no no, no, no no, No,

0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:54.480
<v Speaker 1>some sometimes, but women I listen, I've dated women who

0:28:54.600 --> 0:28:59.680
<v Speaker 1>literally have had the repo man at their house about

0:28:59.680 --> 0:29:03.320
<v Speaker 1>the about to take the car up on the record,

0:29:03.480 --> 0:29:10.560
<v Speaker 1>and it's like, hey, baby, look at even my mom.

0:29:10.600 --> 0:29:12.920
<v Speaker 1>There have been times she hasn't been able to pay

0:29:12.920 --> 0:29:15.600
<v Speaker 1>taxes on the house and they literally came and put

0:29:15.600 --> 0:29:18.520
<v Speaker 1>an auction sign in front of the house, and that was, hey, son,

0:29:18.920 --> 0:29:21.160
<v Speaker 1>how are you? You know what? I'm like, Hey, mom,

0:29:21.200 --> 0:29:22.840
<v Speaker 1>how are you okay? So I'm in a little bit

0:29:22.840 --> 0:29:25.560
<v Speaker 1>of a fine and I always have to tell my mom, like, look,

0:29:25.680 --> 0:29:27.720
<v Speaker 1>do not wait until the last minute. She's like, well,

0:29:27.760 --> 0:29:29.360
<v Speaker 1>I know you've got kids. I know you got this,

0:29:29.440 --> 0:29:30.920
<v Speaker 1>and you got that, and you got life your own.

0:29:30.920 --> 0:29:32.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to put anything extra on it. But

0:29:32.640 --> 0:29:35.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, see, when the taxes were eight hunted, that

0:29:35.440 --> 0:29:37.720
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have been a problem. Now the taxes are eight

0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:42.080
<v Speaker 1>hundred and now, like you know, I'm I'm feeling I'm

0:29:42.120 --> 0:29:45.360
<v Speaker 1>feeling a little you know, yeah, you know, now you

0:29:45.480 --> 0:29:47.120
<v Speaker 1>hurt in my pockets and now we gotta call my

0:29:47.160 --> 0:29:49.080
<v Speaker 1>other siblings and all that other stuff. When it was

0:29:49.120 --> 0:29:51.120
<v Speaker 1>eight hunted, now I would have just shelled that out

0:29:51.160 --> 0:29:53.360
<v Speaker 1>on my own. You know what I'm saying, But I

0:29:53.400 --> 0:29:57.640
<v Speaker 1>pick and choose. I definitely they can't be vulnerable with

0:29:57.680 --> 0:30:00.479
<v Speaker 1>women because they would throw it in your face. Okay,

0:30:00.520 --> 0:30:05.800
<v Speaker 1>so let's talk about that. Okay, let's talk about that. Okay.

0:30:05.840 --> 0:30:08.360
<v Speaker 1>So how I feel about that is it's not a

0:30:08.400 --> 0:30:10.959
<v Speaker 1>man or a woman thing when it comes to somebody

0:30:11.000 --> 0:30:13.560
<v Speaker 1>throwing your your your quality in your face. I have

0:30:13.800 --> 0:30:16.880
<v Speaker 1>personally never been in a relationship, a serious relationship with

0:30:17.000 --> 0:30:19.640
<v Speaker 1>a man who didn't throw some ship in my face

0:30:19.680 --> 0:30:21.080
<v Speaker 1>in the midst of an argument. And I'm gonn type

0:30:21.080 --> 0:30:22.720
<v Speaker 1>of person. I don't gotta win an argument. I still

0:30:22.760 --> 0:30:24.560
<v Speaker 1>want you to love me later. It's not gonna say

0:30:24.560 --> 0:30:28.080
<v Speaker 1>your worship to win an argument, but men oftentimes do

0:30:28.240 --> 0:30:32.280
<v Speaker 1>so if I say yeah, so if I say, oh, men,

0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:34.520
<v Speaker 1>you can't be vulnerable man because they're gonna throw in

0:30:34.560 --> 0:30:36.600
<v Speaker 1>your face, that's just not true because I feel like

0:30:36.680 --> 0:30:38.920
<v Speaker 1>that's a mean person thing. That's not a man or

0:30:39.000 --> 0:30:42.560
<v Speaker 1>woman thing. That's because that's not exclusive. That's a mean

0:30:42.680 --> 0:30:46.520
<v Speaker 1>person things said, it's not exclusive to a certain gender.

0:30:46.560 --> 0:30:49.400
<v Speaker 1>But I do feel like for the most part, because

0:30:49.520 --> 0:30:54.720
<v Speaker 1>women date up and men tend to you know, um,

0:30:54.920 --> 0:30:58.480
<v Speaker 1>women with black women would love to date up necessarily,

0:30:58.880 --> 0:31:02.320
<v Speaker 1>So we'll we'll get to that because most most women

0:31:02.560 --> 0:31:06.600
<v Speaker 1>of all races, most women are gonna say all date

0:31:06.680 --> 0:31:09.880
<v Speaker 1>up or try Okay, they tried to date and are

0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:11.920
<v Speaker 1>not allowed to date that. No, no, that's not true.

0:31:12.160 --> 0:31:14.800
<v Speaker 1>That is so not true. We'll get there. But anyway, um,

0:31:15.680 --> 0:31:21.880
<v Speaker 1>most most women date up. So their power doesn't come

0:31:21.960 --> 0:31:27.000
<v Speaker 1>from money, status, cloud or whatever. Their power comes from.

0:31:27.080 --> 0:31:29.840
<v Speaker 1>How I'm gonna use these words? And I've had women

0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:32.720
<v Speaker 1>say that to me a lot, Like the only thing

0:31:32.760 --> 0:31:36.760
<v Speaker 1>I can do is use words because everything else, you know,

0:31:36.760 --> 0:31:39.400
<v Speaker 1>I ain't gonna phase you. You know, you got money,

0:31:39.680 --> 0:31:42.600
<v Speaker 1>you got holes if you want holes, you got cars,

0:31:42.640 --> 0:31:44.800
<v Speaker 1>You've got all these material things. You've got a great career.

0:31:45.200 --> 0:31:48.320
<v Speaker 1>So if I ever wanted to bring you to my level,

0:31:49.200 --> 0:31:51.680
<v Speaker 1>I gotta use words in order to make it happen.

0:31:51.880 --> 0:31:53.840
<v Speaker 1>And for the most part, if anybody want to use words,

0:31:53.840 --> 0:31:56.760
<v Speaker 1>how do they hurt you? They hurt you by taking something.

0:31:57.120 --> 0:32:00.880
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it isn't the truth, but they'll tell a situation

0:32:00.920 --> 0:32:03.600
<v Speaker 1>that you were vulnerable, and and they may twist it.

0:32:03.640 --> 0:32:05.239
<v Speaker 1>They may not. They you may have just been so

0:32:05.320 --> 0:32:07.920
<v Speaker 1>vulnerable that it really is them telling the truth. But

0:32:07.960 --> 0:32:10.560
<v Speaker 1>they'll use that to sort of bring you, quote unquote

0:32:10.560 --> 0:32:14.440
<v Speaker 1>back down to reality. And in my personal experiences and

0:32:14.480 --> 0:32:16.600
<v Speaker 1>the experience of all of my homies who've told me that,

0:32:17.080 --> 0:32:22.640
<v Speaker 1>and sometimes it's necessary, I ain't gonna lie. Sometimes it is. Yeah,

0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:25.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't do it personally, I'm not. I don't think

0:32:25.720 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 1>it's ever necessary. If somebody, if you come at me crazy,

0:32:28.880 --> 0:32:31.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to, like my words really hurt. So when

0:32:31.960 --> 0:32:35.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel like it, sometimes it's okay to remind people

0:32:35.040 --> 0:32:38.000
<v Speaker 1>of the truth because you know sometimes so there's a

0:32:38.000 --> 0:32:40.480
<v Speaker 1>difference between and as you start to tell my exdus,

0:32:40.640 --> 0:32:43.400
<v Speaker 1>there's a difference between me reminding you of the truth

0:32:43.720 --> 0:32:51.080
<v Speaker 1>and me using something against you. I'll give you I'll

0:32:51.080 --> 0:32:53.520
<v Speaker 1>give you an example. I'll give you a prime example.

0:32:54.080 --> 0:32:56.280
<v Speaker 1>So I was in a situation where I told a

0:32:56.360 --> 0:32:59.600
<v Speaker 1>female I didn't want to have any more kids at

0:32:59.600 --> 0:33:02.160
<v Speaker 1>a web lot period. I did not want to do

0:33:02.840 --> 0:33:05.600
<v Speaker 1>the co parenting. Didn't want to do that. This week yours,

0:33:05.640 --> 0:33:08.000
<v Speaker 1>this week is mine. And I've been a single I've

0:33:08.000 --> 0:33:10.080
<v Speaker 1>been a single father. Not let me not say single,

0:33:10.080 --> 0:33:13.400
<v Speaker 1>but I was parenting alone because single means you just

0:33:13.400 --> 0:33:15.920
<v Speaker 1>don't have a spouse. Um, there's a lot of people

0:33:15.920 --> 0:33:18.640
<v Speaker 1>get child support, they have split custody, but they're single.

0:33:18.920 --> 0:33:21.680
<v Speaker 1>So anyway, I had my son full time by myself

0:33:22.000 --> 0:33:25.840
<v Speaker 1>for fourteen years, um and I just had because I

0:33:25.840 --> 0:33:28.360
<v Speaker 1>didn't come from that. I just feel like that's not

0:33:28.480 --> 0:33:31.160
<v Speaker 1>the environment that's suitable for raising a child, even the

0:33:31.200 --> 0:33:33.440
<v Speaker 1>co parents and stuff like oh, this is mine, this

0:33:33.560 --> 0:33:35.960
<v Speaker 1>is yours, my dad bought me this, my mama bought

0:33:35.960 --> 0:33:37.880
<v Speaker 1>me this. I'm going with my mama for this time

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:39.480
<v Speaker 1>of the year. You with your daddy for that. I didn't.

0:33:39.520 --> 0:33:41.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't like that because I didn't go through it,

0:33:41.400 --> 0:33:43.920
<v Speaker 1>and I see the difference. So I told no more

0:33:43.960 --> 0:33:46.560
<v Speaker 1>kids out of wet lock, not at all, you know

0:33:46.640 --> 0:33:51.320
<v Speaker 1>in the first thing where you got two already, so

0:33:51.440 --> 0:33:57.920
<v Speaker 1>that means I want a third. You know what. You've

0:33:57.960 --> 0:34:01.440
<v Speaker 1>got a vulnerability though, Yeah, because I because I gave

0:34:01.440 --> 0:34:04.560
<v Speaker 1>her all of the reasons why. I didn't just say

0:34:04.680 --> 0:34:06.480
<v Speaker 1>and I went deeper. I'm not even telling you all

0:34:06.560 --> 0:34:08.759
<v Speaker 1>all of the all of the reasons why, but I

0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:12.760
<v Speaker 1>really went deep as to why they gotta be marriage

0:34:12.880 --> 0:34:18.840
<v Speaker 1>and we and we gotta be happily. Man, it doesn't correct, correct,

0:34:18.840 --> 0:34:20.640
<v Speaker 1>But why I needed to be married and why I

0:34:20.680 --> 0:34:22.960
<v Speaker 1>wanted to be happily married before I took that step.

0:34:22.960 --> 0:34:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I went deeper into that and she you know children. Um.

0:34:30.080 --> 0:34:34.920
<v Speaker 1>At forty one, I would definitely say I feel like, Um,

0:34:35.640 --> 0:34:39.000
<v Speaker 1>the window is closed and the only reason why the

0:34:39.000 --> 0:34:40.920
<v Speaker 1>window hold up. The only reason why the window is

0:34:40.920 --> 0:34:43.880
<v Speaker 1>closing is because my oldest is off at college. My

0:34:44.000 --> 0:34:49.520
<v Speaker 1>youngest is thirteen. Um, I'm starting over with an infant,

0:34:50.040 --> 0:34:52.920
<v Speaker 1>like you should have caught me whenever I doesn't have

0:34:53.000 --> 0:34:55.279
<v Speaker 1>kids yet if you fall in love with a woman,

0:34:55.320 --> 0:34:57.880
<v Speaker 1>who does it? So so that was like my last situation,

0:34:57.960 --> 0:35:01.319
<v Speaker 1>Like she didn't have kids, I had kids. Um, and

0:35:01.360 --> 0:35:03.920
<v Speaker 1>that was like our demise. You know what I'm saying.

0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:07.600
<v Speaker 1>And and to be honest with you, like she still

0:35:07.719 --> 0:35:11.360
<v Speaker 1>cannot understand why I don't want to have She's like,

0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:13.239
<v Speaker 1>if you love me, you would do it. And I'm like,

0:35:13.680 --> 0:35:15.719
<v Speaker 1>you know and she and I'm like, I do love you,

0:35:15.800 --> 0:35:19.040
<v Speaker 1>and I don't want to do because I used to

0:35:19.040 --> 0:35:21.920
<v Speaker 1>talk to exactly I didn't want the kids have nothing

0:35:21.920 --> 0:35:23.879
<v Speaker 1>to do with the marriage. Because I used to date

0:35:23.920 --> 0:35:26.640
<v Speaker 1>this guy who was so adamant about novel. He had

0:35:26.640 --> 0:35:28.040
<v Speaker 1>two other kids. He had a boy and a girl

0:35:28.719 --> 0:35:30.880
<v Speaker 1>he was raising in the house with him. He was

0:35:30.920 --> 0:35:34.200
<v Speaker 1>so adamant about not wanting kids. A couple of years later,

0:35:34.239 --> 0:35:36.399
<v Speaker 1>you're married to the white bitch with two more kids.

0:35:36.440 --> 0:35:40.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't confused. It's different because it's different. It's different

0:35:40.320 --> 0:35:43.200
<v Speaker 1>if you're coming into somebody already got kids versus and

0:35:43.239 --> 0:35:45.879
<v Speaker 1>did you want me to start over? He started over

0:35:45.920 --> 0:35:50.960
<v Speaker 1>this he had two kids with two kids, wasn't but

0:35:50.360 --> 0:35:58.640
<v Speaker 1>but around your age, same ship, like, so, so my

0:35:58.719 --> 0:36:01.480
<v Speaker 1>thing is what you wanted to do for a person. No, no, no,

0:36:01.280 --> 0:36:03.920
<v Speaker 1>no with me. I'm not trying to with her. You

0:36:04.840 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 1>loved her, Yeah, no, I definitely love We still we

0:36:09.360 --> 0:36:13.000
<v Speaker 1>needed more time. Like you know, there's certain boxes that

0:36:13.120 --> 0:36:16.080
<v Speaker 1>I check off and and I said this earlier men

0:36:16.560 --> 0:36:19.480
<v Speaker 1>seeing black and white, women seeing color, she thought, just

0:36:19.560 --> 0:36:22.000
<v Speaker 1>like you, if you love me and we've been together

0:36:22.040 --> 0:36:24.799
<v Speaker 1>and we've sort of seen how you know, we we

0:36:24.920 --> 0:36:27.399
<v Speaker 1>sort of meshed well and all that stuff stuff, why not?

0:36:27.880 --> 0:36:32.040
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, there's still there are still hard facts

0:36:32.040 --> 0:36:35.320
<v Speaker 1>that like I haven't seen how well you manage money.

0:36:35.800 --> 0:36:37.279
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. I need to see this.

0:36:37.800 --> 0:36:40.600
<v Speaker 1>I need see how well you manage money? You know,

0:36:40.760 --> 0:36:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I need to see um. And because she didn't have kids.

0:36:44.960 --> 0:36:46.239
<v Speaker 1>It was sort of hard for me to sort of

0:36:46.280 --> 0:36:50.520
<v Speaker 1>see like how she would react in certain parenting situations

0:36:51.160 --> 0:36:54.840
<v Speaker 1>like kids kids. No, No, I didn't ask her that

0:36:54.880 --> 0:36:57.120
<v Speaker 1>I was. I was looking. I was just looking, like

0:36:57.160 --> 0:37:00.080
<v Speaker 1>I was looking at certain things that she did the

0:37:00.120 --> 0:37:04.080
<v Speaker 1>thought process. No, kids loved her. She loved the kids too.

0:37:04.080 --> 0:37:07.520
<v Speaker 1>But it's different with an infant, like you're not gonna

0:37:09.280 --> 0:37:13.080
<v Speaker 1>look look, you were correct, but there's certain motherly qualities

0:37:13.120 --> 0:37:18.000
<v Speaker 1>that you look for before these are adults. Your kids

0:37:18.000 --> 0:37:23.279
<v Speaker 1>are grown so exactly, you know exactly. It's hard to see.

0:37:23.680 --> 0:37:27.000
<v Speaker 1>It's definitely different, but it's hard to see and certain

0:37:27.040 --> 0:37:32.200
<v Speaker 1>things take more time to see. Yes, well, because because

0:37:32.200 --> 0:37:36.359
<v Speaker 1>she because she wanted because she wanted me, because she

0:37:36.400 --> 0:37:39.799
<v Speaker 1>wanted to because she wanted me to commit to the

0:37:39.920 --> 0:37:44.600
<v Speaker 1>child before the marriage. Yes, she was not the one. Yeah,

0:37:44.640 --> 0:37:46.719
<v Speaker 1>because why would you? Okay, So that wasn't that was

0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:50.040
<v Speaker 1>a non negotiable for her. It was she it was,

0:37:50.320 --> 0:37:53.400
<v Speaker 1>And that's fine. I totally. I still talked her on

0:37:53.400 --> 0:37:58.200
<v Speaker 1>a regular basis. She's an amazing woman. Hopefully. No, she

0:37:58.239 --> 0:38:00.279
<v Speaker 1>doesn't have a kid yet. She need to stop talking

0:38:00.320 --> 0:38:03.120
<v Speaker 1>to you. Stop talking. No, we do not fun, We

0:38:03.200 --> 0:38:06.400
<v Speaker 1>do not sunk around you know, no, we we would

0:38:06.680 --> 0:38:12.440
<v Speaker 1>we have just come to the conclusion. No, no, no, no,

0:38:12.840 --> 0:38:15.640
<v Speaker 1>no no she listen, she's not one of them, like

0:38:15.680 --> 0:38:18.000
<v Speaker 1>I have had some of them now, but she not

0:38:18.080 --> 0:38:23.120
<v Speaker 1>one of them. She like boundary. Yeah, she definitely set

0:38:23.200 --> 0:38:27.600
<v Speaker 1>about Yes. Plus, I wouldn't even do that to her

0:38:27.600 --> 0:38:29.800
<v Speaker 1>anway because she's such a good person, you know what

0:38:29.840 --> 0:38:33.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. She's she's a very very amazing woman. But

0:38:33.200 --> 0:38:36.479
<v Speaker 1>that's a huge situation right there. So what do you want?

0:38:36.520 --> 0:38:38.720
<v Speaker 1>Maybe would you date a woman who already has kids?

0:38:39.040 --> 0:38:42.799
<v Speaker 1>We get no, no, no no. I definitely dated a

0:38:42.800 --> 0:38:45.640
<v Speaker 1>woman who asked that, would you marry a woman who

0:38:45.640 --> 0:38:48.800
<v Speaker 1>already asked? What are you saying? You wouldn't be vulnerable

0:38:48.840 --> 0:38:56.200
<v Speaker 1>with your woman about finances? What would you be vulnerable? Um? Um,

0:38:56.440 --> 0:38:59.840
<v Speaker 1>maybe intimacy. I would be vulnerable with a woman of

0:39:00.120 --> 0:39:06.200
<v Speaker 1>intimacy because that directly involves her. So like what, babe,

0:39:06.640 --> 0:39:12.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to talk to you. It doesn't smell

0:39:12.120 --> 0:39:17.200
<v Speaker 1>like how I would like. But that's about her, though,

0:39:17.920 --> 0:39:22.280
<v Speaker 1>But it's about me because I can't be intimate. Listen,

0:39:22.360 --> 0:39:29.000
<v Speaker 1>my my my nose is my nose controls everything about me. Literally,

0:39:29.080 --> 0:39:32.920
<v Speaker 1>my nose controls everything my mind does to my mind

0:39:33.040 --> 0:39:37.080
<v Speaker 1>is my mind is SECONDLF not making her vulnerable about

0:39:37.080 --> 0:39:39.799
<v Speaker 1>herself or just even with me. Let's say, as a man,

0:39:40.280 --> 0:39:44.160
<v Speaker 1>sometimes you hit a certain age or a certain health

0:39:44.200 --> 0:39:46.920
<v Speaker 1>issues where you know it just don't work like he

0:39:47.080 --> 0:39:49.440
<v Speaker 1>used to. I would be intimate. I'm excue me. I

0:39:49.480 --> 0:39:53.080
<v Speaker 1>would be vulnerable with her about that particular type of intimacy.

0:39:53.440 --> 0:39:59.080
<v Speaker 1>M you know, like, babe, there's there's a there's a problem.

0:39:59.360 --> 0:40:02.120
<v Speaker 1>You know, maybe I need to pop a pill, a

0:40:02.120 --> 0:40:06.440
<v Speaker 1>little blue pill. Maybe you know. No, I don't. I

0:40:06.440 --> 0:40:08.799
<v Speaker 1>ain't hit that point yet, but when I get there,

0:40:08.800 --> 0:40:12.439
<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely gonna gonna gonna chew him up. I ain't

0:40:12.480 --> 0:40:14.480
<v Speaker 1>get there yet, but it ain't it look ain't no

0:40:14.520 --> 0:40:17.400
<v Speaker 1>shame in my game. I feel like you start losing

0:40:17.440 --> 0:40:20.439
<v Speaker 1>a lot of your manpower whenever you know your dick

0:40:20.480 --> 0:40:23.399
<v Speaker 1>ain't ain't great. You know what I'm saying, a lot

0:40:23.440 --> 0:40:26.359
<v Speaker 1>of control comes from having good dick. If you don't

0:40:26.440 --> 0:40:29.239
<v Speaker 1>have good did you lose a lot of power like

0:40:29.320 --> 0:40:35.240
<v Speaker 1>money can't even make up for they do be angry,

0:40:35.560 --> 0:40:38.000
<v Speaker 1>then that looks That's how I'll be knowing when niggas

0:40:38.040 --> 0:40:40.120
<v Speaker 1>it's just straight fun up in the game. You know what,

0:40:40.200 --> 0:40:44.880
<v Speaker 1>maybe super angry all the time not getting no person

0:40:45.239 --> 0:40:47.120
<v Speaker 1>or he ain't getting no money. Is he either one

0:40:47.160 --> 0:40:50.600
<v Speaker 1>of the two? Both but both? Oh my god, yes,

0:40:50.680 --> 0:40:52.960
<v Speaker 1>we need one of them. They had this conversation about

0:40:52.960 --> 0:40:56.000
<v Speaker 1>being votable. We needed a nigger with some uh some

0:40:56.160 --> 0:40:59.440
<v Speaker 1>bad child head traumas. Yeah, I mean I really that

0:40:59.560 --> 0:41:01.759
<v Speaker 1>little thing a childhood traumas, you know, because me and

0:41:01.960 --> 0:41:04.480
<v Speaker 1>me talk about this all the time. And you may

0:41:04.520 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 1>not have any bad childhood traumas, but there's a lot

0:41:06.719 --> 0:41:08.400
<v Speaker 1>of niggas out here with some ship and I feel

0:41:08.400 --> 0:41:10.480
<v Speaker 1>like they be wanting a girlfriend or a wife just

0:41:10.520 --> 0:41:13.600
<v Speaker 1>so they can unpack. No, no, no, you're right. And

0:41:13.600 --> 0:41:16.720
<v Speaker 1>the minute that woman doesn't respond in a way that

0:41:16.719 --> 0:41:20.759
<v Speaker 1>that man think he should think thinks she should and

0:41:20.760 --> 0:41:22.319
<v Speaker 1>then now you shut down and you don't want to

0:41:22.320 --> 0:41:25.560
<v Speaker 1>be vote on both. I'm not your therapist. You're you're correct,

0:41:25.600 --> 0:41:28.600
<v Speaker 1>but I do feel like, um, a lot of that

0:41:28.680 --> 0:41:33.360
<v Speaker 1>comes with and I hate to say this, I always

0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:35.000
<v Speaker 1>bring this up. I bring it up all the time.

0:41:35.360 --> 0:41:38.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't come from a broken home, So we were

0:41:38.400 --> 0:41:42.040
<v Speaker 1>totally different than a lot of these people who grew

0:41:42.120 --> 0:41:45.480
<v Speaker 1>up and I'm broken home. Men, You're right, we are

0:41:45.560 --> 0:41:48.040
<v Speaker 1>totally different. Me and my brothers were totally different from

0:41:48.040 --> 0:41:50.120
<v Speaker 1>a lot of men who grew up in broken homes

0:41:50.440 --> 0:41:52.880
<v Speaker 1>because they do have a lot of them childhood traumas.

0:41:53.440 --> 0:41:57.520
<v Speaker 1>They do feel like, um, you know, they only see

0:41:57.560 --> 0:42:00.200
<v Speaker 1>a woman in like a motherly role. They don't see

0:42:00.239 --> 0:42:03.440
<v Speaker 1>a woman and a wife or or sexual object. They

0:42:03.440 --> 0:42:06.279
<v Speaker 1>don't see a woman in a wife e role. So

0:42:06.320 --> 0:42:10.040
<v Speaker 1>they don't even know how to take it. So they

0:42:10.080 --> 0:42:12.080
<v Speaker 1>know that they've always been able to talk to their mom.

0:42:12.080 --> 0:42:14.960
<v Speaker 1>They've always been coddled, and their mom is always the

0:42:14.920 --> 0:42:17.000
<v Speaker 1>whole baby. Come talk to me, Mom is gonna make

0:42:17.040 --> 0:42:19.400
<v Speaker 1>it better. So that's all they see a woman, So

0:42:19.480 --> 0:42:24.040
<v Speaker 1>that's what they want. I mean, what's wrong with that?

0:42:24.200 --> 0:42:29.480
<v Speaker 1>Is there something wrong with like? I like you could

0:42:29.480 --> 0:42:32.279
<v Speaker 1>be affectionate. I love a woman who's affectionate, But you're

0:42:32.280 --> 0:42:34.160
<v Speaker 1>not about the mommy me. I got a mommy. My

0:42:34.200 --> 0:42:36.560
<v Speaker 1>mommy still be like come here, baby, come here and

0:42:36.600 --> 0:42:38.240
<v Speaker 1>talk to you. Just something we need to talk about.

0:42:38.400 --> 0:42:40.400
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, no, I'm not my woman like no, I

0:42:40.440 --> 0:42:42.000
<v Speaker 1>need you to be my wife. I need your baby.

0:42:42.000 --> 0:42:44.560
<v Speaker 1>We're gonna get through this, We're gonna make this ship, poper,

0:42:46.000 --> 0:42:49.360
<v Speaker 1>what's what's the difference? Like like like you said, um,

0:42:49.400 --> 0:42:51.759
<v Speaker 1>you know, come here baby and talk to me and

0:42:51.800 --> 0:42:54.279
<v Speaker 1>tell me what happened and tell me you know, like, no,

0:42:54.400 --> 0:42:58.160
<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I didn't get beat up on the playground. No, no, baby,

0:42:58.160 --> 0:42:59.799
<v Speaker 1>I didn't get beat up on the playground to day

0:43:00.360 --> 0:43:02.879
<v Speaker 1>the bully. The bully didn't tease me today about my hair.

0:43:03.080 --> 0:43:04.640
<v Speaker 1>So if you had a rum that you don't want

0:43:04.680 --> 0:43:06.279
<v Speaker 1>your woman to be like, come here and tell me

0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:08.720
<v Speaker 1>what happened, baby, Yeah, come here and tell me what happened.

0:43:08.760 --> 0:43:11.000
<v Speaker 1>But don't play your hand on my shoulder and tell me.

0:43:11.160 --> 0:43:16.080
<v Speaker 1>Tell me what happened today? No, why No, I don't

0:43:16.080 --> 0:43:18.920
<v Speaker 1>want I don't want a man that has that requirement. Exactly.

0:43:19.080 --> 0:43:21.560
<v Speaker 1>I've been in a relationship like that before and it

0:43:21.719 --> 0:43:24.600
<v Speaker 1>was because of mommy issues. You know what I'm saying.

0:43:24.600 --> 0:43:26.480
<v Speaker 1>You don't even think I love you unless I'm cussing

0:43:26.480 --> 0:43:29.120
<v Speaker 1>your ass out like your mama would. Exactly. I don't

0:43:29.120 --> 0:43:31.799
<v Speaker 1>want no type of relationship. Exactly. I feel the same

0:43:31.840 --> 0:43:35.120
<v Speaker 1>what you don't want a relationship I do. I'm very affectionate.

0:43:35.160 --> 0:43:38.640
<v Speaker 1>That's not what I'm saying. That's it's the difference exactly what,

0:43:39.320 --> 0:43:41.400
<v Speaker 1>So how does it? How do you approach when you

0:43:41.440 --> 0:43:43.120
<v Speaker 1>know your man has had a bad day? How do

0:43:43.160 --> 0:43:45.560
<v Speaker 1>you approach it? You don't say, come here, baby. First

0:43:45.560 --> 0:43:47.760
<v Speaker 1>of all, my man has to be inviting of that,

0:43:47.760 --> 0:43:50.440
<v Speaker 1>that type of love exactly, because some men have a

0:43:50.480 --> 0:43:52.120
<v Speaker 1>bad day and they come in and they want to

0:43:52.120 --> 0:43:54.200
<v Speaker 1>make your day bad. They don't even they're not even

0:43:54.239 --> 0:43:57.759
<v Speaker 1>like the energy, not even inviting us me being some day,

0:43:57.880 --> 0:44:01.160
<v Speaker 1>I'll talk about it when I read it, before I

0:44:02.440 --> 0:44:05.080
<v Speaker 1>shift it. Yeah, no, no, you can't shift it. That's

0:44:05.120 --> 0:44:07.560
<v Speaker 1>the problem. You try to shift it, and it's gonna

0:44:07.560 --> 0:44:10.640
<v Speaker 1>go left. I'm telling you that right now. Don't shift it.

0:44:11.360 --> 0:44:16.040
<v Speaker 1>Don't don't shift and let him seriously, let him open

0:44:16.120 --> 0:44:18.279
<v Speaker 1>up when he's ready. If you, because I know how

0:44:18.320 --> 0:44:20.640
<v Speaker 1>I am, you start trying to shift it, you start

0:44:20.640 --> 0:44:22.600
<v Speaker 1>trying to force me to talk about it, it's gonna

0:44:22.640 --> 0:44:25.239
<v Speaker 1>irritate the shift out of it. I will open up

0:44:25.239 --> 0:44:28.520
<v Speaker 1>about it whenever I'm ready. So if you had a

0:44:28.520 --> 0:44:30.960
<v Speaker 1>bad day, all right, So if my nigger has a

0:44:31.000 --> 0:44:33.440
<v Speaker 1>bad day, don't try to make his day better. I

0:44:33.480 --> 0:44:35.480
<v Speaker 1>didn't say don't try to make it better. I did

0:44:35.480 --> 0:44:39.319
<v Speaker 1>not say that because a lot of times exist. Don't

0:44:39.360 --> 0:44:41.840
<v Speaker 1>treat it like it don't exist. You can ask, you

0:44:41.840 --> 0:44:44.480
<v Speaker 1>can say, hey, baby, what's wrong you're giving me, you know,

0:44:44.520 --> 0:44:47.879
<v Speaker 1>a vibe that things didn't go well today. And if

0:44:47.880 --> 0:44:51.480
<v Speaker 1>he chooses to talk about it, then let him talk

0:44:51.520 --> 0:44:54.080
<v Speaker 1>about it. But if he says, babe, can we talk

0:44:54.120 --> 0:44:57.120
<v Speaker 1>about it later, Yes, talk about it later. Usually not

0:44:57.160 --> 0:45:00.200
<v Speaker 1>even a response either. It's just something like you may

0:45:00.239 --> 0:45:01.960
<v Speaker 1>not even get a response. Yeah, you may not get

0:45:02.000 --> 0:45:04.080
<v Speaker 1>a response. You may get attitude, or he may be

0:45:04.120 --> 0:45:08.560
<v Speaker 1>like everything it's good. You can tell okay, I know

0:45:08.920 --> 0:45:11.680
<v Speaker 1>that it's not all good. But because he said that,

0:45:12.320 --> 0:45:14.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna let it live. And then and then you

0:45:15.040 --> 0:45:18.120
<v Speaker 1>go into you can you may be able to rub

0:45:18.239 --> 0:45:20.240
<v Speaker 1>rub it out of his feet, You may be able

0:45:20.280 --> 0:45:23.000
<v Speaker 1>to rub it out of his back. He may eventually

0:45:23.000 --> 0:45:25.319
<v Speaker 1>start talking about it. There's just different ways I know

0:45:25.400 --> 0:45:28.799
<v Speaker 1>with me, like a foot rub, a BackRub. I'm open

0:45:28.840 --> 0:45:31.960
<v Speaker 1>all the way up last. But that's the thing I

0:45:32.040 --> 0:45:33.960
<v Speaker 1>have to I have to be inviting up it sometimes.

0:45:34.000 --> 0:45:35.800
<v Speaker 1>I just I just had such a bad day. I

0:45:35.840 --> 0:45:37.279
<v Speaker 1>don't even want you to touch me, and just let

0:45:37.280 --> 0:45:39.400
<v Speaker 1>me come in the house. I'm gonna take a shower,

0:45:39.440 --> 0:45:42.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna lay down. You know, sometimes I may not

0:45:42.360 --> 0:45:44.080
<v Speaker 1>even eat. You may be like, oh, I got food

0:45:44.120 --> 0:45:46.360
<v Speaker 1>ready for you. Thank you putting in the microwave for me.

0:45:47.800 --> 0:45:49.960
<v Speaker 1>You don't eat, you know, but I'm gonna eat it.

0:45:50.280 --> 0:45:52.200
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm gonna eat that mother, But I may

0:45:52.239 --> 0:45:54.239
<v Speaker 1>not want to eat it now, you know what I'm saying.

0:45:54.239 --> 0:45:55.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna come in, I'm gonna take a shower, I'm

0:45:55.960 --> 0:45:58.120
<v Speaker 1>gonna lay down, and that may be the end of

0:45:58.120 --> 0:46:00.040
<v Speaker 1>my day and I'll talk to you about it in

0:46:00.080 --> 0:46:02.160
<v Speaker 1>the morning. You know, you wake me up with some

0:46:02.280 --> 0:46:05.440
<v Speaker 1>head or whatever. You know, there's things that you can

0:46:05.480 --> 0:46:09.640
<v Speaker 1>do to to to ease the situation. But forcing me

0:46:09.680 --> 0:46:12.160
<v Speaker 1>to talk about what's wrong, you're not gonna tell me.

0:46:12.320 --> 0:46:14.440
<v Speaker 1>So you're not gonna tell me. So you're over here

0:46:14.480 --> 0:46:17.239
<v Speaker 1>without it, you're not gonna tell I'm talking about I'm

0:46:17.280 --> 0:46:19.680
<v Speaker 1>just trying to figure out what's the difference between the

0:46:19.800 --> 0:46:25.600
<v Speaker 1>mommy energy you said, and Karen. The mommy energy is

0:46:25.800 --> 0:46:32.480
<v Speaker 1>more so um coddling, and the wife the energy is

0:46:32.520 --> 0:46:36.719
<v Speaker 1>more so concerned concerning babies. Everything, Okay, is there something

0:46:36.719 --> 0:46:39.319
<v Speaker 1>we need to talk about? Is everything good? Calling is like,

0:46:39.600 --> 0:46:43.480
<v Speaker 1>oh babe, what's wrong? You know, like don't baby talk me.

0:46:43.560 --> 0:46:46.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm a forty year old man. I'm a thirty year

0:46:46.160 --> 0:46:49.160
<v Speaker 1>old man. Don't baby talk me. So you your mam

0:46:49.160 --> 0:46:51.759
<v Speaker 1>wall be baby talking to you sometimes. Yeah, and you

0:46:51.880 --> 0:46:54.040
<v Speaker 1>like that from her. I didn't say I liked it,

0:46:54.400 --> 0:46:57.920
<v Speaker 1>but I expected from my mom because I'm my mama baby.

0:46:58.640 --> 0:47:01.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm literally my mom's baby. I'm the youngest child. I certainly.

0:47:01.800 --> 0:47:04.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean when your mom, you expect that all this

0:47:04.160 --> 0:47:06.319
<v Speaker 1>is my baby. Oh my god, my baby. I love

0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:08.520
<v Speaker 1>to see you, like when I come home from my wife.

0:47:08.840 --> 0:47:10.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't want my wife. Oh my god, baby, i'd

0:47:11.000 --> 0:47:13.040
<v Speaker 1>let us see you. Why w they come here? Boom?

0:47:13.200 --> 0:47:19.520
<v Speaker 1>Oh want god? Yeah? But see, I'm giving the what's up?

0:47:19.560 --> 0:47:21.720
<v Speaker 1>You need to talk about something? How you feeling everything? Okay?

0:47:21.800 --> 0:47:23.920
<v Speaker 1>And if you don't respond in a way that's gonna

0:47:23.960 --> 0:47:27.280
<v Speaker 1>make me maybe you want to make your day. Okay.

0:47:27.360 --> 0:47:29.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna sunk with you. I'm just go on.

0:47:29.160 --> 0:47:33.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be quiet, too quiet, yeah, because sometimes that's

0:47:33.160 --> 0:47:36.399
<v Speaker 1>all I need. Sometimes a woman's energy is all I need.

0:47:36.600 --> 0:47:38.520
<v Speaker 1>Right now, all I need you to do is sit

0:47:38.640 --> 0:47:41.640
<v Speaker 1>next to me, let me know that you're here, let

0:47:41.640 --> 0:47:43.560
<v Speaker 1>me know that when I get ready to talk, you

0:47:43.600 --> 0:47:47.239
<v Speaker 1>will be receptive, like you just being next to me

0:47:47.360 --> 0:47:50.759
<v Speaker 1>sometimes is enough, you know, like, show me you are there.

0:47:51.160 --> 0:47:53.680
<v Speaker 1>We don't have to talk. You can fix my plate,

0:47:53.719 --> 0:47:55.200
<v Speaker 1>bring it to me. I can eat it. We can

0:47:55.239 --> 0:47:58.160
<v Speaker 1>watch TV and they'll not be a word between us.

0:47:59.080 --> 0:48:01.720
<v Speaker 1>But I know you are there and you've already asked

0:48:01.719 --> 0:48:03.399
<v Speaker 1>me what was wrong. I told you I didn't want

0:48:03.400 --> 0:48:06.080
<v Speaker 1>to talk about it, and you're still here next to me,

0:48:06.400 --> 0:48:10.799
<v Speaker 1>letting me know when you're ready. I'm ready. Sometimes let's

0:48:10.840 --> 0:48:14.520
<v Speaker 1>change the att No, let's change a little bit. Since

0:48:14.520 --> 0:48:17.080
<v Speaker 1>you like a heal of nigger, right, A lot of

0:48:17.120 --> 0:48:19.600
<v Speaker 1>women out here not dealing with he with men are

0:48:19.600 --> 0:48:21.440
<v Speaker 1>not dealing with I feel like I was never I

0:48:21.440 --> 0:48:23.520
<v Speaker 1>feel like I was never damaged, right, But but I

0:48:23.560 --> 0:48:27.200
<v Speaker 1>do understand that dynamics. So we we always want to

0:48:27.280 --> 0:48:30.160
<v Speaker 1>because my talking market target market for the show is

0:48:30.200 --> 0:48:32.719
<v Speaker 1>generally women in like twenties, early thirties. You know what

0:48:32.800 --> 0:48:34.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying that so he can live we can talk

0:48:34.800 --> 0:48:36.920
<v Speaker 1>about ship and they can live vi curiously through us,

0:48:36.920 --> 0:48:38.879
<v Speaker 1>so they don't have to go through the ship themselves. Right,

0:48:39.239 --> 0:48:41.359
<v Speaker 1>So you run into all these different men who got

0:48:41.360 --> 0:48:44.120
<v Speaker 1>the MoMA issues, who has a daddy issue, and this

0:48:44.280 --> 0:48:47.760
<v Speaker 1>then the third and it can be vulnerable, vulnerable with you.

0:48:47.760 --> 0:48:50.000
<v Speaker 1>You're not a therapist. You're not even equipped to help

0:48:50.080 --> 0:48:52.440
<v Speaker 1>this man handle his childhood traumas and all this ship

0:48:53.440 --> 0:48:55.759
<v Speaker 1>You might even have your own exactly. I was just

0:48:55.760 --> 0:48:57.480
<v Speaker 1>about to say a lot of women have their own,

0:48:57.560 --> 0:49:00.839
<v Speaker 1>Like I usually when I date that that age group,

0:49:01.080 --> 0:49:05.200
<v Speaker 1>I always run into childhood traumas in but I feel

0:49:05.200 --> 0:49:08.480
<v Speaker 1>like more more more so we're our community is black community, right,

0:49:08.520 --> 0:49:10.680
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like more more mostly black women are

0:49:10.680 --> 0:49:13.799
<v Speaker 1>more inclined to go seek therapy because there's things a

0:49:13.800 --> 0:49:16.920
<v Speaker 1>lot of us Black men typically don't. Yeah, black men

0:49:16.960 --> 0:49:19.040
<v Speaker 1>typically don't. So now, if you're in a relationship with

0:49:19.040 --> 0:49:21.640
<v Speaker 1>a woman, isn't me that you can't be vulnerable with?

0:49:21.680 --> 0:49:23.920
<v Speaker 1>Because men always say they don't they don't have anybody

0:49:23.960 --> 0:49:26.640
<v Speaker 1>to talk to about their is You have plenty people

0:49:26.640 --> 0:49:28.520
<v Speaker 1>to talk to. What you're doing is you're choosing not

0:49:28.560 --> 0:49:31.000
<v Speaker 1>to talk to people. So if you're thinking it's the

0:49:31.040 --> 0:49:33.360
<v Speaker 1>woman that you can't be vulnerable with, are you showing

0:49:33.440 --> 0:49:35.879
<v Speaker 1>up as your best self to these men and not

0:49:35.920 --> 0:49:39.040
<v Speaker 1>showing up as your best self to this woman? Do

0:49:39.080 --> 0:49:40.880
<v Speaker 1>you see what I'm saying? I see what you're getting at.

0:49:40.880 --> 0:49:44.840
<v Speaker 1>But see me, I have a group of men, and

0:49:44.880 --> 0:49:46.840
<v Speaker 1>that's what I want to get. I can talk to

0:49:47.160 --> 0:49:50.840
<v Speaker 1>anything about So Terry little t I can talk to

0:49:50.920 --> 0:49:56.120
<v Speaker 1>him about anything. We should has a different but a

0:49:56.120 --> 0:49:59.040
<v Speaker 1>lot of people need friends. A lot of people talk

0:49:59.120 --> 0:50:02.120
<v Speaker 1>to Terry about it. Yeah, because he's not just see

0:50:02.560 --> 0:50:05.520
<v Speaker 1>I feel like because he goes through a lot of

0:50:05.520 --> 0:50:07.759
<v Speaker 1>the same thing I go through and that and trust me,

0:50:07.800 --> 0:50:09.960
<v Speaker 1>I do pick and choose. I do have certain friends.

0:50:10.000 --> 0:50:13.080
<v Speaker 1>I tell certain things about um. But because I have

0:50:13.880 --> 0:50:16.560
<v Speaker 1>a group of friends that are like me, I didn't

0:50:16.600 --> 0:50:19.560
<v Speaker 1>try to be anybody. I wasn't. Never tried to be anybody.

0:50:19.560 --> 0:50:21.319
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't. A lot of people have a lot of

0:50:21.360 --> 0:50:24.279
<v Speaker 1>friends that they're trying to put on for, and a

0:50:24.320 --> 0:50:25.960
<v Speaker 1>lot of my friends I don't have to put on

0:50:26.000 --> 0:50:28.520
<v Speaker 1>for because we've all been through the same thing. Like

0:50:28.880 --> 0:50:30.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't mind picking up the phone and calling him

0:50:30.960 --> 0:50:34.839
<v Speaker 1>and saying like, boy, I don't know all the way up.

0:50:36.440 --> 0:50:44.479
<v Speaker 1>He'd be like, damn, what happened. I'm hurting, man, I'm hurt. Look,

0:50:45.000 --> 0:50:49.680
<v Speaker 1>it depends on what I'm talking it really depends. That's

0:50:49.719 --> 0:50:52.239
<v Speaker 1>that's the hardest part. So when I was going through

0:50:52.320 --> 0:50:54.759
<v Speaker 1>my custody case with my youngest son. I had a

0:50:54.800 --> 0:50:58.319
<v Speaker 1>good friend of mine, um who after I felt like

0:50:58.360 --> 0:51:00.600
<v Speaker 1>I had lost my custody case because I went in

0:51:00.640 --> 0:51:03.320
<v Speaker 1>there wanting like joint custody and I came out with

0:51:03.400 --> 0:51:05.560
<v Speaker 1>like two days a week every other weekend. But it

0:51:05.600 --> 0:51:07.240
<v Speaker 1>was better than what I was getting. I was getting zero,

0:51:07.760 --> 0:51:10.560
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. But I felt like I

0:51:10.600 --> 0:51:12.440
<v Speaker 1>had lost. And I picked up the phone and I

0:51:12.480 --> 0:51:15.919
<v Speaker 1>called him. I said, damn, bro, like I just got

0:51:15.920 --> 0:51:18.960
<v Speaker 1>my ass handed to me in court, like like like

0:51:19.040 --> 0:51:20.840
<v Speaker 1>my lawyer said, we're not gonna go in here and

0:51:20.840 --> 0:51:23.760
<v Speaker 1>sling mud and my baby mama lawyer was like were slinging.

0:51:23.880 --> 0:51:27.400
<v Speaker 1>Everything got this big and like it was like and

0:51:27.480 --> 0:51:29.839
<v Speaker 1>they came out the victors. They came out on top.

0:51:30.040 --> 0:51:32.239
<v Speaker 1>Even the judge announced her decision. Like they were like

0:51:32.320 --> 0:51:35.799
<v Speaker 1>clapping and laughing and you know, and I'm sitting here like, man,

0:51:35.880 --> 0:51:38.959
<v Speaker 1>what the fun? Just like how did it? Like yeah,

0:51:39.040 --> 0:51:41.799
<v Speaker 1>like what just happened? Like like how did this? How

0:51:41.840 --> 0:51:43.839
<v Speaker 1>did this? So I picked up the phone and called him,

0:51:43.840 --> 0:51:46.400
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, you wouldn't believe what just happened.

0:51:46.600 --> 0:51:48.320
<v Speaker 1>And I had already been talking to him about the

0:51:48.400 --> 0:51:51.760
<v Speaker 1>situation because he had baby mama, drama, trouble with his kids,

0:51:51.760 --> 0:51:54.040
<v Speaker 1>and all that other situations they worked there is out

0:51:54.040 --> 0:51:56.120
<v Speaker 1>without court, but with mine I had I sort of

0:51:56.160 --> 0:51:59.280
<v Speaker 1>had to go to court and m and I started

0:51:59.280 --> 0:52:01.640
<v Speaker 1>crying on the phone own you know what I'm I

0:52:01.640 --> 0:52:03.160
<v Speaker 1>started crying on the phone, and he was like, man,

0:52:03.200 --> 0:52:05.359
<v Speaker 1>don't worry about it, bro, Everything gonna be all right,

0:52:05.680 --> 0:52:07.680
<v Speaker 1>Like I promise you, like you're a good person, You're

0:52:07.680 --> 0:52:09.880
<v Speaker 1>a good dad, Like all this ship is gonna come

0:52:09.920 --> 0:52:12.920
<v Speaker 1>full circle, like as your child gets older, like she's

0:52:12.920 --> 0:52:15.839
<v Speaker 1>gonna lean on you more, especially because my youngest special needs.

0:52:15.880 --> 0:52:18.000
<v Speaker 1>He has autism. So he was like, trust me, like

0:52:18.080 --> 0:52:21.000
<v Speaker 1>she's gonna need you more, She's gonna lean on you more.

0:52:21.480 --> 0:52:25.160
<v Speaker 1>Like it was just an unfortunate situation where how y'all

0:52:25.280 --> 0:52:27.560
<v Speaker 1>ended and she may just be a tad bit bitter,

0:52:28.040 --> 0:52:30.879
<v Speaker 1>you know, but as things get better, y'all both move

0:52:31.000 --> 0:52:36.920
<v Speaker 1>on all this other person exactly, like it'll loosen up.

0:52:37.080 --> 0:52:39.960
<v Speaker 1>And here we are. Things have definitely loosened up. Me

0:52:40.000 --> 0:52:42.319
<v Speaker 1>and my baby Mama text each other, cracking jokes and

0:52:42.360 --> 0:52:44.359
<v Speaker 1>all that ship all the time. So you know, but

0:52:44.480 --> 0:52:47.000
<v Speaker 1>there was there was a really, really rough patch, but

0:52:47.360 --> 0:52:50.719
<v Speaker 1>he was there for me. So all right. I feel

0:52:50.760 --> 0:52:53.359
<v Speaker 1>like men are more capable of being vulnerable when it

0:52:53.360 --> 0:52:55.879
<v Speaker 1>comes to their children talking about but when it comes

0:52:55.880 --> 0:52:58.759
<v Speaker 1>to your relationships with women, do you feel like y'all

0:52:58.800 --> 0:53:01.120
<v Speaker 1>can be vulnerable and cry talking about a woman to

0:53:01.200 --> 0:53:05.680
<v Speaker 1>your niggas certain men, because I've had some of my

0:53:05.760 --> 0:53:09.319
<v Speaker 1>niggas go to the same thing. Yeah, as soon as

0:53:09.320 --> 0:53:15.680
<v Speaker 1>you stop talking to you, you never I had a

0:53:15.760 --> 0:53:18.239
<v Speaker 1>conversation with a homeboy in my not too long ago,

0:53:18.560 --> 0:53:21.279
<v Speaker 1>and we were both going through bad breakups. And I

0:53:21.360 --> 0:53:25.040
<v Speaker 1>call that nigg I said, man, my nigga. I wasn't crying,

0:53:25.239 --> 0:53:27.080
<v Speaker 1>but I said, my nigga, what you're doing? He was like,

0:53:27.320 --> 0:53:29.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm sitting here chilling. I said, Man, I miss her.

0:53:30.239 --> 0:53:32.400
<v Speaker 1>He said, man, boy, I know how you feelable. I

0:53:32.480 --> 0:53:34.879
<v Speaker 1>missed mine too. Boy, what you want, what you want

0:53:34.880 --> 0:53:36.720
<v Speaker 1>to do, We're gonna fold it. We're gonna stand strong.

0:53:36.760 --> 0:53:38.640
<v Speaker 1>We're gonna call him. What I said, boy, I don't

0:53:38.640 --> 0:53:40.839
<v Speaker 1>want to call He said, you call her. I'm gonna

0:53:40.840 --> 0:53:42.400
<v Speaker 1>call mine. But if you don't call you, as I

0:53:42.440 --> 0:53:44.560
<v Speaker 1>ain't call him mine. And we sat on the phone

0:53:44.600 --> 0:53:47.200
<v Speaker 1>for like an hour, just man, That's what I missed

0:53:47.200 --> 0:53:49.040
<v Speaker 1>about it, man, But man, I don't want nobody to

0:53:49.120 --> 0:53:51.239
<v Speaker 1>have that. But man, man, I can't deal with this

0:53:51.280 --> 0:53:54.080
<v Speaker 1>and this, and we have these conversations. You know what

0:53:54.080 --> 0:53:56.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. And there have been times when you know,

0:53:56.360 --> 0:53:58.160
<v Speaker 1>like a nigger maybe like bro, boy, you got you

0:53:58.200 --> 0:54:00.200
<v Speaker 1>gotta boss the funk up now you on this. Don't

0:54:00.200 --> 0:54:02.439
<v Speaker 1>acting like a little hole now you know she ain't

0:54:02.480 --> 0:54:04.919
<v Speaker 1>the one. You know she got damn d A B C. Yeah,

0:54:05.080 --> 0:54:09.280
<v Speaker 1>you don't do your homeboys be calling you both both

0:54:09.520 --> 0:54:12.600
<v Speaker 1>both think so I don't. I don't, but so I'll

0:54:12.640 --> 0:54:17.600
<v Speaker 1>tell you this. Women have called me more uh, the

0:54:17.680 --> 0:54:21.680
<v Speaker 1>whole simp. Women don't use that term exactly the women,

0:54:22.080 --> 0:54:26.080
<v Speaker 1>but women. Women have harsher words. Women have used harsher

0:54:26.120 --> 0:54:30.320
<v Speaker 1>words than meeting my homeboys, like yeah, no, no no, no, no.

0:54:30.960 --> 0:54:32.880
<v Speaker 1>I've had my homeboys, but like right now, you're simping,

0:54:32.920 --> 0:54:35.319
<v Speaker 1>bro chill now you sim me. But I've never had

0:54:35.360 --> 0:54:38.120
<v Speaker 1>my homeboys called me a bitch ass nigga, a fuck

0:54:38.200 --> 0:54:41.240
<v Speaker 1>ass nigga, a whole ass nigger. I've had my women

0:54:41.280 --> 0:54:43.360
<v Speaker 1>called me that though. All right, y'all, let's pay some

0:54:43.360 --> 0:54:47.239
<v Speaker 1>bills real quick. We'll be right back. This's no really

0:54:47.320 --> 0:54:55.840
<v Speaker 1>easy way to say this. But so look, Chuck, we

0:54:55.920 --> 0:54:58.360
<v Speaker 1>have a series where we have the dumb bitch stories

0:54:58.360 --> 0:55:01.359
<v Speaker 1>where we have asked our listeners to say and us, um,

0:55:01.400 --> 0:55:03.479
<v Speaker 1>there are stories. We don't have a dumb bitch story

0:55:03.520 --> 0:55:06.839
<v Speaker 1>this week, Nora simp series. So we're asking you for one.

0:55:07.239 --> 0:55:09.239
<v Speaker 1>Tell us about SI. Series is for the men. Now,

0:55:09.320 --> 0:55:11.840
<v Speaker 1>this is the time you felt like you got played

0:55:11.840 --> 0:55:14.399
<v Speaker 1>by a woman, or if you're going through something right now,

0:55:14.440 --> 0:55:16.680
<v Speaker 1>you want some advice on it, We want to talk

0:55:16.719 --> 0:55:20.360
<v Speaker 1>about it. Well, Um, I do have a I do

0:55:20.440 --> 0:55:23.560
<v Speaker 1>have a simple story, but I handed it like a geo,

0:55:24.120 --> 0:55:27.319
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. I had it from high school.

0:55:30.160 --> 0:55:34.239
<v Speaker 1>So I was dating a young lady, um and I

0:55:34.320 --> 0:55:37.160
<v Speaker 1>probably should have known better. So I saw that she

0:55:37.280 --> 0:55:39.839
<v Speaker 1>was out of town a lot. I saw that, you know,

0:55:40.160 --> 0:55:43.680
<v Speaker 1>maybe that there may be a man involved. So you know,

0:55:43.719 --> 0:55:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I just played the background until I saw her early

0:55:47.600 --> 0:55:52.400
<v Speaker 1>one morning tweeting a bunch of you know, hurt uh

0:55:53.000 --> 0:55:55.040
<v Speaker 1>making a bunch of hurt posts. You know y'all make

0:55:55.120 --> 0:55:59.360
<v Speaker 1>them hurt women post. You know what I'm saying, subliminal messages,

0:55:59.600 --> 0:56:01.440
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm thing. So I just slid in

0:56:01.480 --> 0:56:03.840
<v Speaker 1>the inbox. You know what I'm saying, got a number

0:56:04.800 --> 0:56:09.680
<v Speaker 1>you know exactly hurt him anyway, let me go hurt

0:56:09.680 --> 0:56:13.360
<v Speaker 1>her some more, definitely with you. I was trying to

0:56:13.400 --> 0:56:15.520
<v Speaker 1>be captain save him, you know what I'm saying, Or

0:56:15.560 --> 0:56:18.319
<v Speaker 1>trying to be captain save him. And and then she

0:56:18.520 --> 0:56:23.200
<v Speaker 1>ended up calling me one day and saying she was pregnant. Well,

0:56:23.239 --> 0:56:25.359
<v Speaker 1>she said she was late. She said she was late.

0:56:25.880 --> 0:56:29.160
<v Speaker 1>She said she was late, and she said she took

0:56:29.200 --> 0:56:32.800
<v Speaker 1>to pregnancy tests and both of them came back positive.

0:56:33.920 --> 0:56:36.279
<v Speaker 1>And she did say I was the puppy. You know.

0:56:36.440 --> 0:56:38.800
<v Speaker 1>She was like, you know, we did have unprotaked segs.

0:56:39.040 --> 0:56:42.799
<v Speaker 1>I was like, MYNA put out game strong. No, She's like, yeah, no, yeah,

0:56:44.280 --> 0:56:46.800
<v Speaker 1>So we ended up not as strong as you think exactly.

0:56:46.840 --> 0:56:49.440
<v Speaker 1>But but in deep inside I knew it was strong.

0:56:49.520 --> 0:56:53.600
<v Speaker 1>It's really strong. I'm telling you strong. So look, I'm

0:56:53.640 --> 0:57:01.200
<v Speaker 1>telling you it's strong. Either my game has a better

0:57:01.239 --> 0:57:04.520
<v Speaker 1>effective rate than condoms. No it doesn't, and I swear

0:57:04.520 --> 0:57:10.200
<v Speaker 1>to it does. To use condoms. I don't know what's

0:57:10.200 --> 0:57:14.200
<v Speaker 1>wrong with you, class. I don't trust you. I don't

0:57:14.239 --> 0:57:19.080
<v Speaker 1>want to, but you clearly didn't trust her. I shouldn't have.

0:57:19.280 --> 0:57:22.960
<v Speaker 1>I should not have correct. So we go down to

0:57:23.040 --> 0:57:26.840
<v Speaker 1>the clinic. She she uh takes a real pregnancy test

0:57:27.280 --> 0:57:30.280
<v Speaker 1>along with the ultrasound. She comes back, sits in the

0:57:30.360 --> 0:57:33.840
<v Speaker 1>car with me, and she says, hey, it's not yours.

0:57:33.960 --> 0:57:37.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm like nine weeks pregnant and like we had sex

0:57:37.560 --> 0:57:40.200
<v Speaker 1>like four and a half weeks ago kind of sort of,

0:57:40.240 --> 0:57:43.960
<v Speaker 1>so it's my exit. So I was like cool. You know,

0:57:44.280 --> 0:57:47.200
<v Speaker 1>she was very she had no choice, you know, nigga

0:57:47.240 --> 0:57:50.040
<v Speaker 1>like me, I'm super analytical. I was gonna add them

0:57:50.160 --> 0:57:52.560
<v Speaker 1>dang up. You know what I'm saying, may not have

0:57:52.640 --> 0:57:55.040
<v Speaker 1>been soon. But once we went to the doctor's office

0:57:55.040 --> 0:57:57.040
<v Speaker 1>and we got the data conception, I was gonna be like,

0:57:57.040 --> 0:58:00.600
<v Speaker 1>well that's way. You know what I'm saying. I give

0:58:00.640 --> 0:58:03.000
<v Speaker 1>you a week or two, you know, give her take,

0:58:03.200 --> 0:58:04.800
<v Speaker 1>but we're not about to do the whole month and

0:58:04.840 --> 0:58:07.000
<v Speaker 1>a half off Like yeah baby, no, no, no, that's

0:58:07.000 --> 0:58:10.280
<v Speaker 1>not mine. So that should have baby, you got super

0:58:10.320 --> 0:58:14.480
<v Speaker 1>sperm because this baby is growing exactly. But see, I'm

0:58:14.520 --> 0:58:16.600
<v Speaker 1>so active that I would have been there to hear

0:58:16.640 --> 0:58:18.439
<v Speaker 1>the doctor say this stuff, so I would she would

0:58:18.480 --> 0:58:20.400
<v Speaker 1>have been able to pull one over on you know.

0:58:20.800 --> 0:58:23.440
<v Speaker 1>So just to make a long story, short, that should

0:58:23.440 --> 0:58:26.360
<v Speaker 1>have been my qu to leave. But it wasn't. It

0:58:26.480 --> 0:58:30.440
<v Speaker 1>was not that good, it really, it wasn't. I was

0:58:30.520 --> 0:58:33.520
<v Speaker 1>just in like a different situation. I was coming out

0:58:33.520 --> 0:58:35.520
<v Speaker 1>of a situation where I was just a tabit hurt.

0:58:35.840 --> 0:58:38.640
<v Speaker 1>So she was just there and it felt good to

0:58:38.840 --> 0:58:44.080
<v Speaker 1>have somebody like just drool over me and worship you exactly.

0:58:44.120 --> 0:58:47.000
<v Speaker 1>But she was still drooling and worshiping over broke. So

0:58:47.040 --> 0:58:50.200
<v Speaker 1>then she tells me, So, that was red flag number one.

0:58:50.280 --> 0:58:53.120
<v Speaker 1>I should have left. This is the first time I'm

0:58:53.160 --> 0:58:56.240
<v Speaker 1>telling y'all, the only person I've been this vulnerable with

0:58:56.920 --> 0:59:00.280
<v Speaker 1>is Terry little te you know what I'm saying. So,

0:59:00.280 --> 0:59:04.919
<v Speaker 1>so then she tells me probably about uh a week

0:59:05.040 --> 0:59:08.240
<v Speaker 1>or so after she has the abortion. Oh yeah, because

0:59:08.240 --> 0:59:09.760
<v Speaker 1>she told me straight up when she got in, she like,

0:59:09.800 --> 0:59:11.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm not having this baby for this dude, like that

0:59:11.880 --> 0:59:16.200
<v Speaker 1>she is not happening. She was like, my nigga, like,

0:59:16.240 --> 0:59:19.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm already scheduled the abortion man told me this. I said,

0:59:20.160 --> 0:59:23.919
<v Speaker 1>I'm scheduling this motherfuck. So she so that was red

0:59:23.920 --> 0:59:26.280
<v Speaker 1>flag number one. She was just left it alone. Red

0:59:26.320 --> 0:59:30.200
<v Speaker 1>flag number two. She says, oh hey, so, um, yeah,

0:59:30.320 --> 0:59:33.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm going down to Miami. They have like this carnival thing,

0:59:34.840 --> 0:59:35.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, I just want to let you know in

0:59:35.920 --> 0:59:39.080
<v Speaker 1>advance that because I paid for the ticket so far

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<v Speaker 1>in advance, like my ex is going and all of

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<v Speaker 1>my friends were staying in the airbnb all together, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>but just let you know he'll be there. I'll call

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<v Speaker 1>you every day, I'll face time you, whatever I gotta do.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not even staying in the room with him, like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm staying in the room with my friend. He's not

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<v Speaker 1>even your baby. That didn't already, don't debt at it.

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<v Speaker 1>And as she says, like and then just to be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>it isn't like I can have sex anyway. I just

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<v Speaker 1>had an abortion a week ago, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying here like William, I was still work, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, I'll still work. And then it's

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<v Speaker 1>not even really so much as the the all of

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<v Speaker 1>that is the fact that you still have an attachment

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<v Speaker 1>to him, you know what I'm saying. But she was

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<v Speaker 1>so helping on me not seeing anybody else, like it

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<v Speaker 1>would have been different. And she was like, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>well we're not a couple like you can do you

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do me and you know, we're just going

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<v Speaker 1>days until we get to a point where we're ready

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<v Speaker 1>to be committed. But it was like, I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>another looking at you. Who is this girl? Like every

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<v Speaker 1>day she on my social media? Who just liking pictures?

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<v Speaker 1>And why is she blowing kisses? And why is she this?

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<v Speaker 1>And why is she that? So it's like, damn, like,

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<v Speaker 1>would you approve of me going on a trup with Max?

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<v Speaker 1>Hell fucking no. And I'm like, well, I'm supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>prove you're going to trip, but it's already paid for

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<v Speaker 1>and you I know what. So I'm just like, all right, whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>So she goes on the trip. I'm scrolling on Instagram

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<v Speaker 1>and I and I see a picture of her and

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<v Speaker 1>dude with matching I swear suits on on her time nine.

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<v Speaker 1>She posted it, Oh she didn't give him, but look

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<v Speaker 1>it was it was, it was, but it was. It

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<v Speaker 1>was definitely like the caption was not heart at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Caption was not hurt. Then it was another picture of

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<v Speaker 1>them hugged up again. Caption definitely wasn't hurt. What is

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<v Speaker 1>he saying? It was like, did you see her? Know that?

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<v Speaker 1>That's me? What you see her? But now you see

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<v Speaker 1>him anyway, She told me Bro had done took the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>She was drunk. She drunk a lot. She drunk a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>he had. They were drinking. She having her little carnival outfits.

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<v Speaker 1>She couldn't you know, she had no pockets, so she

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<v Speaker 1>gave the phone to him because he had pockets. And

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<v Speaker 1>he funked around, and I guess still knew her past.

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<v Speaker 1>She had checked. I don't know what now he was, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>He probably saw you pick and Bro went ham this night. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it was bigger, but I know

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<v Speaker 1>it was prettier, like my ship got an amazing two

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<v Speaker 1>tone to it and smooth man right now. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just saying, Look, I'm just saying, even if it wasn't bigger,

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<v Speaker 1>he was jealous of just esthetically, you know, like god, damn,

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<v Speaker 1>like this dick is beautiful. I'm about And she even

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<v Speaker 1>she even said that, she was like, yoh, he did

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<v Speaker 1>it to make you mad. So that was like red

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<v Speaker 1>flag number two. You know, I should have just stopped

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<v Speaker 1>it right then, but I didn't, and I ended up

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<v Speaker 1>paying the price. I'm stopping the simple story right there.

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<v Speaker 1>What was the ultimate price that you paid this. The

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<v Speaker 1>ultimate price that I paid was and I gave up

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of good women for her. He passed up

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<v Speaker 1>some people for her. I passed up something good one.

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<v Speaker 1>But you said the pussy wasn't all that? What happened?

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<v Speaker 1>Like what kind of person was she? Like? How she tricking?

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<v Speaker 1>Like that? Really all that? I mean? It was like

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<v Speaker 1>it was good. I'm not about the downplayer, like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she has an Instagram, bitch. No, she wasn't. She was

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<v Speaker 1>very young, she wasn't very youngest, but she had the nigs.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you how do you know what I was? I

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<v Speaker 1>was coming out of the situation. You're vulnerable. I was.

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<v Speaker 1>I was vulnerable, you know what I'm saying. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like at that period right before you bass up,

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<v Speaker 1>right when you're broken, right before you bass up, I

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<v Speaker 1>was in that like that, That's where I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at right now. It's hard, that's a hard stage,

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<v Speaker 1>but you gotta be by yourself. Yeah, but she helped

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<v Speaker 1>me get through it. Though she helped me get through No,

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<v Speaker 1>she's blocked on everything and her she and then she

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<v Speaker 1>had the nerve after all that, and I really want

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<v Speaker 1>to put her on black. She said something like crazy

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<v Speaker 1>about a chick that I was working with, and I

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<v Speaker 1>really wanted to go and like, bit you to have

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<v Speaker 1>me in the fucking abortion clinic for a bagby that

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<v Speaker 1>ain't mine? You better don't don't ever say nothing crazy

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<v Speaker 1>about mine? Like she was mad because the girl I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I was about to buy the girl or something that

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<v Speaker 1>she Oh who this big even like that, Like we

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<v Speaker 1>are not even like that, Like don't come from mind

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<v Speaker 1>called a dinosaur because you know she don't age me,

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<v Speaker 1>she like forty something, you know what I'm saying. But

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<v Speaker 1>she was talking about your girl. She was she was

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<v Speaker 1>age shaming her, and like I really wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>like did she didn't have me a fucking abortion clinic

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<v Speaker 1>for the don't she know who her baby daddy's? I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you're not listening to this episode. I hope you

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<v Speaker 1>goddamn it. You know what I'm saying. Oh, you know

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<v Speaker 1>you don't you want who your baby daddy was? Does

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<v Speaker 1>that really constitute being a whole? I think it burns.

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<v Speaker 1>I just feel like because you had sex with two

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<v Speaker 1>niggas without exactly cont people that close to where you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know who the daddy or your child was. So

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that it happens. Sometimes it happens. Who

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<v Speaker 1>oh is that somebody posted to talk about I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what the gift was, hoping they're giving money to

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<v Speaker 1>any woman who can say they didn't have sex and

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<v Speaker 1>more thing to niggas this year, this year, in this March.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you may have a January February and then

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<v Speaker 1>when a month without it and then boom boom boom hit.

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<v Speaker 1>All of March was by yourself. That April you just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, nice logical thinking man, the April look. I

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<v Speaker 1>have very look, I am very logical. I am extremely

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<v Speaker 1>practical and logical. I genuinely do not expect women to

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<v Speaker 1>sit back and just be, you know, celibate, even though

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<v Speaker 1>y'all be lying, So are you single? Now? Yeah? Something single? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>What the ladies were to find you? She I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>about to do that because I do got somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>don't play about you know that? But but but I

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<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely saying she can not play about you because

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<v Speaker 1>you're single. But because we we're in that situation where

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<v Speaker 1>we're dating and we're getting to know each other. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean we pretty much you know, know each other, but

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<v Speaker 1>we're still we're still making sure that exclusively what kind

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<v Speaker 1>of sort of are But the niggas no listen, no listen, no,

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<v Speaker 1>we we have we have come to the conclusion that

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<v Speaker 1>there has to be more boxes checked than we just

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<v Speaker 1>like each other. So tell the ladies where to find

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<v Speaker 1>you then not limits? Then are you off limits or no? Currently?

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<v Speaker 1>I am, but I don't know what's gonna happen by

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<v Speaker 1>the time, y'all Thursday, But I don't know when they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna listen to. What if they listen to this next year? Now,

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<v Speaker 1>everybody's gonna listen to the first day and come out.

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<v Speaker 1>It don't matter. They're just gonna follow you on Instagram

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<v Speaker 1>me follow me everywhere at dj chuck T on Instagram, Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>at dj chuck T on Twitter, at dj chuck t

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<v Speaker 1>on Facebook. Um, and uh that's why. Thank you so

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<v Speaker 1>much for joining us. As always, y'all listen. If you

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