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Speaker 1: we got mr. I said what I said. Come yes,

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Speaker 1: But if I know that you only come on my

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Speaker 1: all day Sometimes I debate, leave the comments on. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: I'll come on, what did you do? My birthday was Thursday,

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Speaker 1: so I didn't really thank you. Thank you. I turned

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Speaker 1: I teach a music business class where I teach uh artists, DJs, producers,

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Speaker 1: She slowed her life down to fit motherhood and to

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Speaker 1: we're in agreements with the slap. It was when he

424
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Speaker 1: did it and where he did it, So me personally,

425
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:02,400
Speaker 1: I understand and I would have probably slapped Chris Rock,

426
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:07,399
Speaker 1: but not but not on stage. Literally it was he

427
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 1: I would have waited on that nigga backstage he presented

428
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 1: the ward it was it was what forty seconds, fifty seconds?

429
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 1: He could have waited for seconds out and waiting on

430
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 1: that nigga backstage, and I would have pressed him and said, look,

431
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 1: the next time you go out here on this next

432
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Speaker 1: segment or whatever. If we got to go back here

433
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:25,439
Speaker 1: and talk to the producers. We're gonna talk to producer,

434
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 1: get you back on that stage, but you're gonna apologize

435
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 1: to my wife or it's gonna be smoked right now.

436
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,160
Speaker 1: And if you would have said anything that was like, oh,

437
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 1: it was just a joke, and I would have slapped

438
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: the ship out of him. You're gonna you're gonna go

439
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: out here. You're gonna apologize to my wife. You're gonna

440
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 1: do that on this next segment. We're not gonna wait

441
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Speaker 1: two three segments. If we gotta, I'm Will Smith. We're

442
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:46,959
Speaker 1: gonna go talk to the producer. You're gonna go out here.

443
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: You're gonna apologize the minute we come back from this commercial. Well,

444
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: let's take a commercial break because we ain't talking no

445
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 1: more about Jada. Let's do it. We had to talk

446
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: about it just one more time, but we'll be right back, y'all.

447
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:08,439
Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk about male vulnerability this week, right,

448
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 1: So me and Tara was trying to think about who

449
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 1: we could bring on the show to talk about it. Right,

450
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 1: So we got this fool up in here. Yeah, j Chuck,

451
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,360
Speaker 1: how y'all doing? How everybody doing? I'm doing great. We're

452
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: about to have a great show tonight. Let's go. If

453
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: you don't cry, then we know you're not in capable

454
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 1: of being vulnerable with us today. I mean, why I

455
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 1: gotta cry? Why can't just look sad? Why? Why are

456
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 1: the tears the confirmation to cry? Y'all think women love

457
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: y'all less we cry too? So no, I don't think that.

458
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 1: I don't want no woman to cry over me. I

459
00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 1: want you to be happy, because that's the only way

460
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna leave. My mark is if every nigger that

461
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 1: you come in contact with after me, you like, he

462
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 1: makes me smile like chuck, maybe smile like I don't

463
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 1: even want to be here. I don't going back. Boys stop?

464
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 1: Why if she feels that way, why would she leaving anyway?

465
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 1: Why she doing? Some people just aren't compatible sometimes or

466
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:05,160
Speaker 1: sometimes it's just the wrong timing. You know, timing can

467
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 1: also be an issue, right, So my question is do

468
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 1: men men want women? Oh? A statement? How I feel

469
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 1: men want women to desire them, but then they want

470
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:21,640
Speaker 1: the acceptance from other men. Is what I'm what I'm

471
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,719
Speaker 1: what I how I feel? Do you understand what I'm

472
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 1: saying about that? Um? Not? Really? I sort of get it, Um,

473
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: you mean acceptance? Azing. I want the homies to think

474
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,640
Speaker 1: I'm cool, but I want my girl to think that

475
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:39,639
Speaker 1: I am you know, a god? Yes? And then what

476
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:45,400
Speaker 1: I as far as vulnerability, is it me? You can't

477
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:49,200
Speaker 1: be vulnerable with me as a female woman? Yes? Any woman?

478
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: Is it your woman that you can't be vulnerable with?

479
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,479
Speaker 1: Or is it your homeboys that you can't be vulnerable with?

480
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:59,399
Speaker 1: Is it me or the homeboys? Um, I'm gonna be

481
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:02,640
Speaker 1: honest with you. It really just depends on the situation.

482
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 1: Because there's certain things I don't tell my homies that

483
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 1: I'll tell my girl. Are certain things I won't tell

484
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,120
Speaker 1: my girl that I'll tell my homies. There's certain things

485
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 1: I tell my mama I won't tell neither one on.

486
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 1: So let's just say it is a a financial issue.

487
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 1: A financial issue I probably won't tell my girl unless

488
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 1: it gets out of hand. I know that's not right,

489
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,959
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna try to clean it up before I

490
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 1: even give her any type of idea that I have

491
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 1: a financial issue because your money is equated with your pride. No,

492
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 1: Because and this and this is just me coming from

493
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: a two parent household. You know, I grew up with

494
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 1: both of my parents in the house. My dad was

495
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 1: in the military, my mom was a teacher. Um, I

496
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: never saw my dad's sweat. And I feel like, um

497
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 1: that that that played a huge part in just our

498
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:58,879
Speaker 1: overall family structure. Now my mom knew about something something

499
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 1: she didn't and I feel like, um, the man is

500
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:05,439
Speaker 1: supposed to literally be you know, and we say this

501
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 1: all the time. The man is the head, you know,

502
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 1: the woman is the neck or the woman is the backbone.

503
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 1: When I'm in when I'm in the head, and I

504
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:15,239
Speaker 1: know everything, and my family is depending upon how I

505
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 1: handle things and how I show emotion, and you know

506
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,439
Speaker 1: how I lead, You're never supposed to see me sweat.

507
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 1: So if there's a financial issue, UM, my wife would

508
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 1: probably be one of the last people to know, you know, um,

509
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,680
Speaker 1: our house going into foreclosure. No no, no no, BYOK, by

510
00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 1: the time to get the forecloser, it's too late. I

511
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 1: don't already don't talk to her by the time to

512
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 1: get that far, you know what I'm saying. But by

513
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 1: the time you get that far, you should have already

514
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 1: done saying something because she's living in there too. You

515
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. No, no, no no, no, no no, No,

516
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 1: some sometimes, but women I listen, I've dated women who

517
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: literally have had the repo man at their house about

518
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: the about to take the car up on the record,

519
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 1: and it's like, hey, baby, look at even my mom.

520
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: There have been times she hasn't been able to pay

521
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 1: taxes on the house and they literally came and put

522
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: an auction sign in front of the house, and that was, hey, son,

523
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: how are you? You know what? I'm like, Hey, mom,

524
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 1: how are you okay? So I'm in a little bit

525
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 1: of a fine and I always have to tell my mom, like, look,

526
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 1: do not wait until the last minute. She's like, well,

527
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 1: I know you've got kids. I know you got this,

528
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: and you got that, and you got life your own.

529
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 1: I don't want to put anything extra on it. But

530
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, see, when the taxes were eight hunted, that

531
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: wouldn't have been a problem. Now the taxes are eight

532
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: hundred and now, like you know, I'm I'm feeling I'm

533
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 1: feeling a little you know, yeah, you know, now you

534
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 1: hurt in my pockets and now we gotta call my

535
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 1: other siblings and all that other stuff. When it was

536
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 1: eight hunted, now I would have just shelled that out

537
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 1: on my own. You know what I'm saying, But I

538
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: pick and choose. I definitely they can't be vulnerable with

539
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,479
Speaker 1: women because they would throw it in your face. Okay,

540
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 1: so let's talk about that. Okay, let's talk about that. Okay.

541
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: So how I feel about that is it's not a

542
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,959
Speaker 1: man or a woman thing when it comes to somebody

543
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 1: throwing your your your quality in your face. I have

544
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 1: personally never been in a relationship, a serious relationship with

545
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 1: a man who didn't throw some ship in my face

546
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 1: in the midst of an argument. And I'm gonn type

547
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: of person. I don't gotta win an argument. I still

548
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 1: want you to love me later. It's not gonna say

549
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: your worship to win an argument, but men oftentimes do

550
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: so if I say yeah, so if I say, oh, men,

551
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 1: you can't be vulnerable man because they're gonna throw in

552
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: your face, that's just not true because I feel like

553
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 1: that's a mean person thing. That's not a man or

554
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 1: woman thing. That's because that's not exclusive. That's a mean

555
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: person things said, it's not exclusive to a certain gender.

556
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 1: But I do feel like for the most part, because

557
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 1: women date up and men tend to you know, um,

558
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: women with black women would love to date up necessarily,

559
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: So we'll we'll get to that because most most women

560
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 1: of all races, most women are gonna say all date

561
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: up or try Okay, they tried to date and are

562
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 1: not allowed to date that. No, no, that's not true.

563
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 1: That is so not true. We'll get there. But anyway, um,

564
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 1: most most women date up. So their power doesn't come

565
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 1: from money, status, cloud or whatever. Their power comes from.

566
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,840
Speaker 1: How I'm gonna use these words? And I've had women

567
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 1: say that to me a lot, Like the only thing

568
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: I can do is use words because everything else, you know,

569
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna phase you. You know, you got money,

570
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 1: you got holes if you want holes, you got cars,

571
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 1: You've got all these material things. You've got a great career.

572
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: So if I ever wanted to bring you to my level,

573
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 1: I gotta use words in order to make it happen.

574
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: And for the most part, if anybody want to use words,

575
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: how do they hurt you? They hurt you by taking something.

576
00:31:57,120 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: Sometimes it isn't the truth, but they'll tell a situation

577
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 1: that you were vulnerable, and and they may twist it.

578
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:05,239
Speaker 1: They may not. They you may have just been so

579
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 1: vulnerable that it really is them telling the truth. But

580
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 1: they'll use that to sort of bring you, quote unquote

581
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 1: back down to reality. And in my personal experiences and

582
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 1: the experience of all of my homies who've told me that,

583
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: and sometimes it's necessary, I ain't gonna lie. Sometimes it is. Yeah,

584
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 1: I don't do it personally, I'm not. I don't think

585
00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: it's ever necessary. If somebody, if you come at me crazy,

586
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: I'm going to, like my words really hurt. So when

587
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 1: I feel like it, sometimes it's okay to remind people

588
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: of the truth because you know sometimes so there's a

589
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 1: difference between and as you start to tell my exdus,

590
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 1: there's a difference between me reminding you of the truth

591
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 1: and me using something against you. I'll give you I'll

592
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: give you an example. I'll give you a prime example.

593
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 1: So I was in a situation where I told a

594
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 1: female I didn't want to have any more kids at

595
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 1: a web lot period. I did not want to do

596
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 1: the co parenting. Didn't want to do that. This week yours,

597
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 1: this week is mine. And I've been a single I've

598
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 1: been a single father. Not let me not say single,

599
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 1: but I was parenting alone because single means you just

600
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 1: don't have a spouse. Um, there's a lot of people

601
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: get child support, they have split custody, but they're single.

602
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 1: So anyway, I had my son full time by myself

603
00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: for fourteen years, um and I just had because I

604
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 1: didn't come from that. I just feel like that's not

605
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 1: the environment that's suitable for raising a child, even the

606
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 1: co parents and stuff like oh, this is mine, this

607
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 1: is yours, my dad bought me this, my mama bought

608
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: me this. I'm going with my mama for this time

609
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: of the year. You with your daddy for that. I didn't.

610
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 1: I don't like that because I didn't go through it,

611
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,920
Speaker 1: and I see the difference. So I told no more

612
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 1: kids out of wet lock, not at all, you know

613
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 1: in the first thing where you got two already, so

614
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 1: that means I want a third. You know what. You've

615
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: got a vulnerability though, Yeah, because I because I gave

616
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 1: her all of the reasons why. I didn't just say

617
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 1: and I went deeper. I'm not even telling you all

618
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,759
Speaker 1: all of the all of the reasons why, but I

619
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:12,760
Speaker 1: really went deep as to why they gotta be marriage

620
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:18,840
Speaker 1: and we and we gotta be happily. Man, it doesn't correct, correct,

621
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 1: But why I needed to be married and why I

622
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,960
Speaker 1: wanted to be happily married before I took that step.

623
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 1: I went deeper into that and she you know children. Um.

624
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 1: At forty one, I would definitely say I feel like, Um,

625
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 1: the window is closed and the only reason why the

626
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 1: window hold up. The only reason why the window is

627
00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 1: closing is because my oldest is off at college. My

628
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 1: youngest is thirteen. Um, I'm starting over with an infant,

629
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: like you should have caught me whenever I doesn't have

630
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 1: kids yet if you fall in love with a woman,

631
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: who does it? So so that was like my last situation,

632
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 1: Like she didn't have kids, I had kids. Um, and

633
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 1: that was like our demise. You know what I'm saying.

634
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 1: And and to be honest with you, like she still

635
00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:11,360
Speaker 1: cannot understand why I don't want to have She's like,

636
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: if you love me, you would do it. And I'm like,

637
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:15,719
Speaker 1: you know and she and I'm like, I do love you,

638
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 1: and I don't want to do because I used to

639
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 1: talk to exactly I didn't want the kids have nothing

640
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:23,879
Speaker 1: to do with the marriage. Because I used to date

641
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 1: this guy who was so adamant about novel. He had

642
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: two other kids. He had a boy and a girl

643
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 1: he was raising in the house with him. He was

644
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 1: so adamant about not wanting kids. A couple of years later,

645
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:36,399
Speaker 1: you're married to the white bitch with two more kids.

646
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:40,280
Speaker 1: I don't confused. It's different because it's different. It's different

647
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 1: if you're coming into somebody already got kids versus and

648
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:45,879
Speaker 1: did you want me to start over? He started over

649
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 1: this he had two kids with two kids, wasn't but

650
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: but around your age, same ship, like, so, so my

651
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 1: thing is what you wanted to do for a person. No, no, no,

652
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 1: no with me. I'm not trying to with her. You

653
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: loved her, Yeah, no, I definitely love We still we

654
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 1: needed more time. Like you know, there's certain boxes that

655
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 1: I check off and and I said this earlier men

656
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 1: seeing black and white, women seeing color, she thought, just

657
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 1: like you, if you love me and we've been together

658
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 1: and we've sort of seen how you know, we we

659
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,399
Speaker 1: sort of meshed well and all that stuff stuff, why not?

660
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 1: And I'm like, there's still there are still hard facts

661
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:35,320
Speaker 1: that like I haven't seen how well you manage money.

662
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I need to see this.

663
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 1: I need see how well you manage money? You know,

664
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 1: I need to see um. And because she didn't have kids.

665
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:46,239
Speaker 1: It was sort of hard for me to sort of

666
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: see like how she would react in certain parenting situations

667
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 1: like kids kids. No, No, I didn't ask her that

668
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 1: I was. I was looking. I was just looking, like

669
00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:00,080
Speaker 1: I was looking at certain things that she did the

670
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: thought process. No, kids loved her. She loved the kids too.

671
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 1: But it's different with an infant, like you're not gonna

672
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: look look, you were correct, but there's certain motherly qualities

673
00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 1: that you look for before these are adults. Your kids

674
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 1: are grown so exactly, you know exactly. It's hard to see.

675
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 1: It's definitely different, but it's hard to see and certain

676
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 1: things take more time to see. Yes, well, because because

677
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:36,359
Speaker 1: she because she wanted because she wanted me, because she

678
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,799
Speaker 1: wanted to because she wanted me to commit to the

679
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: child before the marriage. Yes, she was not the one. Yeah,

680
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 1: because why would you? Okay, So that wasn't that was

681
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 1: a non negotiable for her. It was she it was,

682
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 1: And that's fine. I totally. I still talked her on

683
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: a regular basis. She's an amazing woman. Hopefully. No, she

684
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 1: doesn't have a kid yet. She need to stop talking

685
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: to you. Stop talking. No, we do not fun, We

686
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:06,400
Speaker 1: do not sunk around you know, no, we we would

687
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:12,440
Speaker 1: we have just come to the conclusion. No, no, no, no,

688
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 1: no no she listen, she's not one of them, like

689
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 1: I have had some of them now, but she not

690
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: one of them. She like boundary. Yeah, she definitely set

691
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: about Yes. Plus, I wouldn't even do that to her

692
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:29,800
Speaker 1: anway because she's such a good person, you know what

693
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying. She's she's a very very amazing woman. But

694
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:36,479
Speaker 1: that's a huge situation right there. So what do you want?

695
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 1: Maybe would you date a woman who already has kids?

696
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 1: We get no, no, no no. I definitely dated a

697
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: woman who asked that, would you marry a woman who

698
00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:48,800
Speaker 1: already asked? What are you saying? You wouldn't be vulnerable

699
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: with your woman about finances? What would you be vulnerable? Um? Um,

700
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:59,840
Speaker 1: maybe intimacy. I would be vulnerable with a woman of

701
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 1: intimacy because that directly involves her. So like what, babe,

702
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to you. It doesn't smell

703
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 1: like how I would like. But that's about her, though,

704
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:22,280
Speaker 1: But it's about me because I can't be intimate. Listen,

705
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 1: my my my nose is my nose controls everything about me. Literally,

706
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 1: my nose controls everything my mind does to my mind

707
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: is my mind is SECONDLF not making her vulnerable about

708
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:39,799
Speaker 1: herself or just even with me. Let's say, as a man,

709
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 1: sometimes you hit a certain age or a certain health

710
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 1: issues where you know it just don't work like he

711
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 1: used to. I would be intimate. I'm excue me. I

712
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 1: would be vulnerable with her about that particular type of intimacy.

713
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 1: M you know, like, babe, there's there's a there's a problem.

714
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: You know, maybe I need to pop a pill, a

715
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 1: little blue pill. Maybe you know. No, I don't. I

716
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: ain't hit that point yet, but when I get there,

717
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:12,439
Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna gonna gonna chew him up. I ain't

718
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 1: get there yet, but it ain't it look ain't no

719
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:17,400
Speaker 1: shame in my game. I feel like you start losing

720
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:20,439
Speaker 1: a lot of your manpower whenever you know your dick

721
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:23,399
Speaker 1: ain't ain't great. You know what I'm saying, a lot

722
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 1: of control comes from having good dick. If you don't

723
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:29,239
Speaker 1: have good did you lose a lot of power like

724
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:35,240
Speaker 1: money can't even make up for they do be angry,

725
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: then that looks That's how I'll be knowing when niggas

726
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:40,120
Speaker 1: it's just straight fun up in the game. You know what,

727
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:44,880
Speaker 1: maybe super angry all the time not getting no person

728
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 1: or he ain't getting no money. Is he either one

729
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 1: of the two? Both but both? Oh my god, yes,

730
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: we need one of them. They had this conversation about

731
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: being votable. We needed a nigger with some uh some

732
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: bad child head traumas. Yeah, I mean I really that

733
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 1: little thing a childhood traumas, you know, because me and

734
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 1: me talk about this all the time. And you may

735
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: not have any bad childhood traumas, but there's a lot

736
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 1: of niggas out here with some ship and I feel

737
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: like they be wanting a girlfriend or a wife just

738
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 1: so they can unpack. No, no, no, you're right. And

739
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:16,720
Speaker 1: the minute that woman doesn't respond in a way that

740
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 1: that man think he should think thinks she should and

741
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: then now you shut down and you don't want to

742
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: be vote on both. I'm not your therapist. You're you're correct,

743
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 1: but I do feel like, um, a lot of that

744
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 1: comes with and I hate to say this, I always

745
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 1: bring this up. I bring it up all the time.

746
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: I don't come from a broken home, So we were

747
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: totally different than a lot of these people who grew

748
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 1: up and I'm broken home. Men, You're right, we are

749
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: totally different. Me and my brothers were totally different from

750
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 1: a lot of men who grew up in broken homes

751
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:52,880
Speaker 1: because they do have a lot of them childhood traumas.

752
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 1: They do feel like, um, you know, they only see

753
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 1: a woman in like a motherly role. They don't see

754
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: a woman and a wife or or sexual object. They

755
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 1: don't see a woman in a wife e role. So

756
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 1: they don't even know how to take it. So they

757
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: know that they've always been able to talk to their mom.

758
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 1: They've always been coddled, and their mom is always the

759
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: whole baby. Come talk to me, Mom is gonna make

760
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 1: it better. So that's all they see a woman, So

761
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:24,040
Speaker 1: that's what they want. I mean, what's wrong with that?

762
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: Is there something wrong with like? I like you could

763
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:32,279
Speaker 1: be affectionate. I love a woman who's affectionate, But you're

764
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 1: not about the mommy me. I got a mommy. My

765
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 1: mommy still be like come here, baby, come here and

766
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:38,240
Speaker 1: talk to you. Just something we need to talk about.

767
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,400
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, I'm not my woman like no, I

768
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 1: need you to be my wife. I need your baby.

769
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: We're gonna get through this, We're gonna make this ship, poper,

770
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 1: what's what's the difference? Like like like you said, um,

771
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 1: you know, come here baby and talk to me and

772
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 1: tell me what happened and tell me you know, like, no,

773
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't get beat up on the playground. No, no, baby,

774
00:42:58,160 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: I didn't get beat up on the playground to day

775
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,879
Speaker 1: the bully. The bully didn't tease me today about my hair.

776
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: So if you had a rum that you don't want

777
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 1: your woman to be like, come here and tell me

778
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:08,720
Speaker 1: what happened, baby, Yeah, come here and tell me what happened.

779
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 1: But don't play your hand on my shoulder and tell me.

780
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 1: Tell me what happened today? No, why No, I don't

781
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 1: want I don't want a man that has that requirement. Exactly.

782
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship like that before and it

783
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 1: was because of mommy issues. You know what I'm saying.

784
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 1: You don't even think I love you unless I'm cussing

785
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 1: your ass out like your mama would. Exactly. I don't

786
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,799
Speaker 1: want no type of relationship. Exactly. I feel the same

787
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 1: what you don't want a relationship I do. I'm very affectionate.

788
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying. That's it's the difference exactly what,

789
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 1: So how does it? How do you approach when you

790
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 1: know your man has had a bad day? How do

791
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 1: you approach it? You don't say, come here, baby. First

792
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 1: of all, my man has to be inviting of that,

793
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 1: that type of love exactly, because some men have a

794
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: bad day and they come in and they want to

795
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 1: make your day bad. They don't even they're not even

796
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: like the energy, not even inviting us me being some day,

797
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: I'll talk about it when I read it, before I

798
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 1: shift it. Yeah, no, no, you can't shift it. That's

799
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 1: the problem. You try to shift it, and it's gonna

800
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 1: go left. I'm telling you that right now. Don't shift it.

801
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 1: Don't don't shift and let him seriously, let him open

802
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 1: up when he's ready. If you, because I know how

803
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 1: I am, you start trying to shift it, you start

804
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 1: trying to force me to talk about it, it's gonna

805
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 1: irritate the shift out of it. I will open up

806
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 1: about it whenever I'm ready. So if you had a

807
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 1: bad day, all right, So if my nigger has a

808
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 1: bad day, don't try to make his day better. I

809
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: didn't say don't try to make it better. I did

810
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:39,319
Speaker 1: not say that because a lot of times exist. Don't

811
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:41,840
Speaker 1: treat it like it don't exist. You can ask, you

812
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 1: can say, hey, baby, what's wrong you're giving me, you know,

813
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:47,879
Speaker 1: a vibe that things didn't go well today. And if

814
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 1: he chooses to talk about it, then let him talk

815
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 1: about it. But if he says, babe, can we talk

816
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: about it later, Yes, talk about it later. Usually not

817
00:44:57,160 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 1: even a response either. It's just something like you may

818
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 1: not even get a response. Yeah, you may not get

819
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 1: a response. You may get attitude, or he may be

820
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 1: like everything it's good. You can tell okay, I know

821
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 1: that it's not all good. But because he said that,

822
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:14,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let it live. And then and then you

823
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: go into you can you may be able to rub

824
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:20,240
Speaker 1: rub it out of his feet, You may be able

825
00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 1: to rub it out of his back. He may eventually

826
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: start talking about it. There's just different ways I know

827
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: with me, like a foot rub, a BackRub. I'm open

828
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 1: all the way up last. But that's the thing I

829
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 1: have to I have to be inviting up it sometimes.

830
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:35,800
Speaker 1: I just I just had such a bad day. I

831
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:37,279
Speaker 1: don't even want you to touch me, and just let

832
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:39,400
Speaker 1: me come in the house. I'm gonna take a shower,

833
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna lay down. You know, sometimes I may not

834
00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:44,080
Speaker 1: even eat. You may be like, oh, I got food

835
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 1: ready for you. Thank you putting in the microwave for me.

836
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 1: You don't eat, you know, but I'm gonna eat it.

837
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 1: That's what I'm gonna eat that mother, But I may

838
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 1: not want to eat it now, you know what I'm saying.

839
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna come in, I'm gonna take a shower, I'm

840
00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 1: gonna lay down, and that may be the end of

841
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:00,040
Speaker 1: my day and I'll talk to you about it in

842
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 1: the morning. You know, you wake me up with some

843
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:05,440
Speaker 1: head or whatever. You know, there's things that you can

844
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 1: do to to to ease the situation. But forcing me

845
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: to talk about what's wrong, you're not gonna tell me.

846
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 1: So you're not gonna tell me. So you're over here

847
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 1: without it, you're not gonna tell I'm talking about I'm

848
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 1: just trying to figure out what's the difference between the

849
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: mommy energy you said, and Karen. The mommy energy is

850
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: more so um coddling, and the wife the energy is

851
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 1: more so concerned concerning babies. Everything, Okay, is there something

852
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,319
Speaker 1: we need to talk about? Is everything good? Calling is like,

853
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: oh babe, what's wrong? You know, like don't baby talk me.

854
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 1: I'm a forty year old man. I'm a thirty year

855
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: old man. Don't baby talk me. So you your mam

856
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,759
Speaker 1: wall be baby talking to you sometimes. Yeah, and you

857
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 1: like that from her. I didn't say I liked it,

858
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 1: but I expected from my mom because I'm my mama baby.

859
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 1: I'm literally my mom's baby. I'm the youngest child. I certainly.

860
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 1: I mean when your mom, you expect that all this

861
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 1: is my baby. Oh my god, my baby. I love

862
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 1: to see you, like when I come home from my wife.

863
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 1: I don't want my wife. Oh my god, baby, i'd

864
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 1: let us see you. Why w they come here? Boom?

865
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: Oh want god? Yeah? But see, I'm giving the what's up?

866
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:21,720
Speaker 1: You need to talk about something? How you feeling everything? Okay?

867
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 1: And if you don't respond in a way that's gonna

868
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:27,280
Speaker 1: make me maybe you want to make your day. Okay.

869
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sunk with you. I'm just go on.

870
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be quiet, too quiet, yeah, because sometimes that's

871
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:36,399
Speaker 1: all I need. Sometimes a woman's energy is all I need.

872
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,520
Speaker 1: Right now, all I need you to do is sit

873
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: next to me, let me know that you're here, let

874
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: me know that when I get ready to talk, you

875
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:47,239
Speaker 1: will be receptive, like you just being next to me

876
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:50,759
Speaker 1: sometimes is enough, you know, like, show me you are there.

877
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 1: We don't have to talk. You can fix my plate,

878
00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 1: bring it to me. I can eat it. We can

879
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 1: watch TV and they'll not be a word between us.

880
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:01,720
Speaker 1: But I know you are there and you've already asked

881
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:03,399
Speaker 1: me what was wrong. I told you I didn't want

882
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:06,080
Speaker 1: to talk about it, and you're still here next to me,

883
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 1: letting me know when you're ready. I'm ready. Sometimes let's

884
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: change the att No, let's change a little bit. Since

885
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 1: you like a heal of nigger, right, A lot of

886
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: women out here not dealing with he with men are

887
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,440
Speaker 1: not dealing with I feel like I was never I

888
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: feel like I was never damaged, right, But but I

889
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 1: do understand that dynamics. So we we always want to

890
00:48:27,280 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 1: because my talking market target market for the show is

891
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:32,719
Speaker 1: generally women in like twenties, early thirties. You know what

892
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 1: I'm saying that so he can live we can talk

893
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 1: about ship and they can live vi curiously through us,

894
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:38,879
Speaker 1: so they don't have to go through the ship themselves. Right,

895
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:41,359
Speaker 1: So you run into all these different men who got

896
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 1: the MoMA issues, who has a daddy issue, and this

897
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:47,760
Speaker 1: then the third and it can be vulnerable, vulnerable with you.

898
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 1: You're not a therapist. You're not even equipped to help

899
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 1: this man handle his childhood traumas and all this ship

900
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 1: You might even have your own exactly. I was just

901
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 1: about to say a lot of women have their own,

902
00:48:57,560 --> 00:49:00,839
Speaker 1: Like I usually when I date that that age group,

903
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 1: I always run into childhood traumas in but I feel

904
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 1: like more more more so we're our community is black community, right,

905
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 1: So I feel like more more mostly black women are

906
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:13,799
Speaker 1: more inclined to go seek therapy because there's things a

907
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 1: lot of us Black men typically don't. Yeah, black men

908
00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:19,040
Speaker 1: typically don't. So now, if you're in a relationship with

909
00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 1: a woman, isn't me that you can't be vulnerable with?

910
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:23,920
Speaker 1: Because men always say they don't they don't have anybody

911
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: to talk to about their is You have plenty people

912
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: to talk to. What you're doing is you're choosing not

913
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 1: to talk to people. So if you're thinking it's the

914
00:49:31,040 --> 00:49:33,360
Speaker 1: woman that you can't be vulnerable with, are you showing

915
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:35,879
Speaker 1: up as your best self to these men and not

916
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 1: showing up as your best self to this woman? Do

917
00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:40,880
Speaker 1: you see what I'm saying? I see what you're getting at.

918
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 1: But see me, I have a group of men, and

919
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 1: that's what I want to get. I can talk to

920
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:50,840
Speaker 1: anything about So Terry little t I can talk to

921
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 1: him about anything. We should has a different but a

922
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: lot of people need friends. A lot of people talk

923
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: to Terry about it. Yeah, because he's not just see

924
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 1: I feel like because he goes through a lot of

925
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 1: the same thing I go through and that and trust me,

926
00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 1: I do pick and choose. I do have certain friends.

927
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 1: I tell certain things about um. But because I have

928
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 1: a group of friends that are like me, I didn't

929
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 1: try to be anybody. I wasn't. Never tried to be anybody.

930
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 1: I wasn't. A lot of people have a lot of

931
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 1: friends that they're trying to put on for, and a

932
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 1: lot of my friends I don't have to put on

933
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 1: for because we've all been through the same thing. Like

934
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:30,920
Speaker 1: I don't mind picking up the phone and calling him

935
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:34,839
Speaker 1: and saying like, boy, I don't know all the way up.

936
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:44,479
Speaker 1: He'd be like, damn, what happened. I'm hurting, man, I'm hurt. Look,

937
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: it depends on what I'm talking it really depends. That's

938
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 1: that's the hardest part. So when I was going through

939
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:54,759
Speaker 1: my custody case with my youngest son. I had a

940
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 1: good friend of mine, um who after I felt like

941
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 1: I had lost my custody case because I went in

942
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:03,320
Speaker 1: there wanting like joint custody and I came out with

943
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 1: like two days a week every other weekend. But it

944
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:07,240
Speaker 1: was better than what I was getting. I was getting zero,

945
00:51:07,760 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But I felt like I

946
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 1: had lost. And I picked up the phone and I

947
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:15,919
Speaker 1: called him. I said, damn, bro, like I just got

948
00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:18,960
Speaker 1: my ass handed to me in court, like like like

949
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 1: my lawyer said, we're not gonna go in here and

950
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:23,760
Speaker 1: sling mud and my baby mama lawyer was like were slinging.

951
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:27,400
Speaker 1: Everything got this big and like it was like and

952
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:29,839
Speaker 1: they came out the victors. They came out on top.

953
00:51:30,040 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 1: Even the judge announced her decision. Like they were like

954
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:35,799
Speaker 1: clapping and laughing and you know, and I'm sitting here like, man,

955
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:38,959
Speaker 1: what the fun? Just like how did it? Like yeah,

956
00:51:39,040 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 1: like what just happened? Like like how did this? How

957
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 1: did this? So I picked up the phone and called him,

958
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,400
Speaker 1: and I was like, you wouldn't believe what just happened.

959
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:48,320
Speaker 1: And I had already been talking to him about the

960
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:51,760
Speaker 1: situation because he had baby mama, drama, trouble with his kids,

961
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 1: and all that other situations they worked there is out

962
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 1: without court, but with mine I had I sort of

963
00:51:56,160 --> 00:51:59,280
Speaker 1: had to go to court and m and I started

964
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: crying on the phone own you know what I'm I

965
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:03,160
Speaker 1: started crying on the phone, and he was like, man,

966
00:52:03,200 --> 00:52:05,359
Speaker 1: don't worry about it, bro, Everything gonna be all right,

967
00:52:05,680 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: Like I promise you, like you're a good person, You're

968
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 1: a good dad, Like all this ship is gonna come

969
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 1: full circle, like as your child gets older, like she's

970
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:15,839
Speaker 1: gonna lean on you more, especially because my youngest special needs.

971
00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 1: He has autism. So he was like, trust me, like

972
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 1: she's gonna need you more, She's gonna lean on you more.

973
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 1: Like it was just an unfortunate situation where how y'all

974
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 1: ended and she may just be a tad bit bitter,

975
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,879
Speaker 1: you know, but as things get better, y'all both move

976
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 1: on all this other person exactly, like it'll loosen up.

977
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,960
Speaker 1: And here we are. Things have definitely loosened up. Me

978
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:42,319
Speaker 1: and my baby Mama text each other, cracking jokes and

979
00:52:42,360 --> 00:52:44,359
Speaker 1: all that ship all the time. So you know, but

980
00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: there was there was a really, really rough patch, but

981
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:50,719
Speaker 1: he was there for me. So all right. I feel

982
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:53,359
Speaker 1: like men are more capable of being vulnerable when it

983
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:55,879
Speaker 1: comes to their children talking about but when it comes

984
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:58,759
Speaker 1: to your relationships with women, do you feel like y'all

985
00:52:58,800 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 1: can be vulnerable and cry talking about a woman to

986
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 1: your niggas certain men, because I've had some of my

987
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 1: niggas go to the same thing. Yeah, as soon as

988
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 1: you stop talking to you, you never I had a

989
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:18,239
Speaker 1: conversation with a homeboy in my not too long ago,

990
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:21,279
Speaker 1: and we were both going through bad breakups. And I

991
00:53:21,360 --> 00:53:25,040
Speaker 1: call that nigg I said, man, my nigga. I wasn't crying,

992
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 1: but I said, my nigga, what you're doing? He was like,

993
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 1: I'm sitting here chilling. I said, Man, I miss her.

994
00:53:30,239 --> 00:53:32,400
Speaker 1: He said, man, boy, I know how you feelable. I

995
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:34,879
Speaker 1: missed mine too. Boy, what you want, what you want

996
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:36,720
Speaker 1: to do, We're gonna fold it. We're gonna stand strong.

997
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: We're gonna call him. What I said, boy, I don't

998
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:40,839
Speaker 1: want to call He said, you call her. I'm gonna

999
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 1: call mine. But if you don't call you, as I

1000
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: ain't call him mine. And we sat on the phone

1001
00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 1: for like an hour, just man, That's what I missed

1002
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:49,040
Speaker 1: about it, man, But man, I don't want nobody to

1003
00:53:49,120 --> 00:53:51,239
Speaker 1: have that. But man, man, I can't deal with this

1004
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 1: and this, and we have these conversations. You know what

1005
00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And there have been times when you know,

1006
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: like a nigger maybe like bro, boy, you got you

1007
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:00,200
Speaker 1: gotta boss the funk up now you on this. Don't

1008
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:02,439
Speaker 1: acting like a little hole now you know she ain't

1009
00:54:02,480 --> 00:54:04,919
Speaker 1: the one. You know she got damn d A B C. Yeah,

1010
00:54:05,080 --> 00:54:09,280
Speaker 1: you don't do your homeboys be calling you both both

1011
00:54:09,520 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 1: both think so I don't. I don't, but so I'll

1012
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 1: tell you this. Women have called me more uh, the

1013
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 1: whole simp. Women don't use that term exactly the women,

1014
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:26,080
Speaker 1: but women. Women have harsher words. Women have used harsher

1015
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:30,320
Speaker 1: words than meeting my homeboys, like yeah, no, no no, no, no.

1016
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:32,880
Speaker 1: I've had my homeboys, but like right now, you're simping,

1017
00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:35,319
Speaker 1: bro chill now you sim me. But I've never had

1018
00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 1: my homeboys called me a bitch ass nigga, a fuck

1019
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:41,240
Speaker 1: ass nigga, a whole ass nigger. I've had my women

1020
00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:43,360
Speaker 1: called me that though. All right, y'all, let's pay some

1021
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 1: bills real quick. We'll be right back. This's no really

1022
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 1: easy way to say this. But so look, Chuck, we

1023
00:54:55,920 --> 00:54:58,360
Speaker 1: have a series where we have the dumb bitch stories

1024
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:01,359
Speaker 1: where we have asked our listeners to say and us, um,

1025
00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:03,479
Speaker 1: there are stories. We don't have a dumb bitch story

1026
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:06,839
Speaker 1: this week, Nora simp series. So we're asking you for one.

1027
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:09,239
Speaker 1: Tell us about SI. Series is for the men. Now,

1028
00:55:09,320 --> 00:55:11,840
Speaker 1: this is the time you felt like you got played

1029
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:14,399
Speaker 1: by a woman, or if you're going through something right now,

1030
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 1: you want some advice on it, We want to talk

1031
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:20,360
Speaker 1: about it. Well, Um, I do have a I do

1032
00:55:20,440 --> 00:55:23,560
Speaker 1: have a simple story, but I handed it like a geo,

1033
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:27,319
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I had it from high school.

1034
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 1: So I was dating a young lady, um and I

1035
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 1: probably should have known better. So I saw that she

1036
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,839
Speaker 1: was out of town a lot. I saw that, you know,

1037
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 1: maybe that there may be a man involved. So you know,

1038
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 1: I just played the background until I saw her early

1039
00:55:47,600 --> 00:55:52,400
Speaker 1: one morning tweeting a bunch of you know, hurt uh

1040
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: making a bunch of hurt posts. You know y'all make

1041
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:59,360
Speaker 1: them hurt women post. You know what I'm saying, subliminal messages,

1042
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:01,440
Speaker 1: you know what I'm thing. So I just slid in

1043
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,840
Speaker 1: the inbox. You know what I'm saying, got a number

1044
00:56:04,800 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 1: you know exactly hurt him anyway, let me go hurt

1045
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:13,360
Speaker 1: her some more, definitely with you. I was trying to

1046
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:15,520
Speaker 1: be captain save him, you know what I'm saying, Or

1047
00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:18,319
Speaker 1: trying to be captain save him. And and then she

1048
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:23,200
Speaker 1: ended up calling me one day and saying she was pregnant. Well,

1049
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:25,359
Speaker 1: she said she was late. She said she was late.

1050
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 1: She said she was late, and she said she took

1051
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:32,800
Speaker 1: to pregnancy tests and both of them came back positive.

1052
00:56:33,920 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: And she did say I was the puppy. You know.

1053
00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 1: She was like, you know, we did have unprotaked segs.

1054
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 1: I was like, MYNA put out game strong. No, She's like, yeah, no, yeah,

1055
00:56:44,280 --> 00:56:46,800
Speaker 1: So we ended up not as strong as you think exactly.

1056
00:56:46,840 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: But but in deep inside I knew it was strong.

1057
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:53,600
Speaker 1: It's really strong. I'm telling you strong. So look, I'm

1058
00:56:53,640 --> 00:57:01,200
Speaker 1: telling you it's strong. Either my game has a better

1059
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 1: effective rate than condoms. No it doesn't, and I swear

1060
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 1: to it does. To use condoms. I don't know what's

1061
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:14,200
Speaker 1: wrong with you, class. I don't trust you. I don't

1062
00:57:14,239 --> 00:57:19,080
Speaker 1: want to, but you clearly didn't trust her. I shouldn't have.

1063
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 1: I should not have correct. So we go down to

1064
00:57:23,040 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 1: the clinic. She she uh takes a real pregnancy test

1065
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:30,280
Speaker 1: along with the ultrasound. She comes back, sits in the

1066
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:33,840
Speaker 1: car with me, and she says, hey, it's not yours.

1067
00:57:33,960 --> 00:57:37,480
Speaker 1: I'm like nine weeks pregnant and like we had sex

1068
00:57:37,560 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 1: like four and a half weeks ago kind of sort of,

1069
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 1: so it's my exit. So I was like cool. You know,

1070
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:47,200
Speaker 1: she was very she had no choice, you know, nigga

1071
00:57:47,240 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 1: like me, I'm super analytical. I was gonna add them

1072
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 1: dang up. You know what I'm saying, may not have

1073
00:57:52,640 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 1: been soon. But once we went to the doctor's office

1074
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 1: and we got the data conception, I was gonna be like,

1075
00:57:57,040 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: well that's way. You know what I'm saying. I give

1076
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 1: you a week or two, you know, give her take,

1077
00:58:03,200 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 1: but we're not about to do the whole month and

1078
00:58:04,840 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 1: a half off Like yeah baby, no, no, no, that's

1079
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 1: not mine. So that should have baby, you got super

1080
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:14,480
Speaker 1: sperm because this baby is growing exactly. But see, I'm

1081
00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 1: so active that I would have been there to hear

1082
00:58:16,640 --> 00:58:18,439
Speaker 1: the doctor say this stuff, so I would she would

1083
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:20,400
Speaker 1: have been able to pull one over on you know.

1084
00:58:20,800 --> 00:58:23,440
Speaker 1: So just to make a long story, short, that should

1085
00:58:23,440 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 1: have been my qu to leave. But it wasn't. It

1086
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:30,440
Speaker 1: was not that good, it really, it wasn't. I was

1087
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:33,520
Speaker 1: just in like a different situation. I was coming out

1088
00:58:33,520 --> 00:58:35,520
Speaker 1: of a situation where I was just a tabit hurt.

1089
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 1: So she was just there and it felt good to

1090
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:44,080
Speaker 1: have somebody like just drool over me and worship you exactly.

1091
00:58:44,120 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 1: But she was still drooling and worshiping over broke. So

1092
00:58:47,040 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 1: then she tells me, So, that was red flag number one.

1093
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:53,120
Speaker 1: I should have left. This is the first time I'm

1094
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:56,240
Speaker 1: telling y'all, the only person I've been this vulnerable with

1095
00:58:56,920 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 1: is Terry little te you know what I'm saying. So,

1096
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:04,919
Speaker 1: so then she tells me probably about uh a week

1097
00:59:05,040 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 1: or so after she has the abortion. Oh yeah, because

1098
00:59:08,240 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 1: she told me straight up when she got in, she like,

1099
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:11,800
Speaker 1: I'm not having this baby for this dude, like that

1100
00:59:11,880 --> 00:59:16,200
Speaker 1: she is not happening. She was like, my nigga, like,

1101
00:59:16,240 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 1: I'm already scheduled the abortion man told me this. I said,

1102
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:23,919
Speaker 1: I'm scheduling this motherfuck. So she so that was red

1103
00:59:23,920 --> 00:59:26,280
Speaker 1: flag number one. She was just left it alone. Red

1104
00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 1: flag number two. She says, oh hey, so, um, yeah,

1105
00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:33,320
Speaker 1: I'm going down to Miami. They have like this carnival thing,

1106
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:35,840
Speaker 1: you know, I just want to let you know in

1107
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:39,080
Speaker 1: advance that because I paid for the ticket so far

1108
00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:41,160
Speaker 1: in advance, like my ex is going and all of

1109
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:44,920
Speaker 1: my friends were staying in the airbnb all together, you know,

1110
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:47,040
Speaker 1: but just let you know he'll be there. I'll call

1111
00:59:47,080 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 1: you every day, I'll face time you, whatever I gotta do.

1112
00:59:49,920 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 1: I'm not even staying in the room with him, like

1113
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:57,560
Speaker 1: I'm staying in the room with my friend. He's not

1114
00:59:57,640 --> 00:59:59,560
Speaker 1: even your baby. That didn't already, don't debt at it.

1115
01:00:00,480 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 1: And as she says, like and then just to be honest,

1116
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:04,400
Speaker 1: it isn't like I can have sex anyway. I just

1117
01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:06,560
Speaker 1: had an abortion a week ago, you know what I'm saying.

1118
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:09,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying here like William, I was still work, you

1119
01:00:09,040 --> 01:00:11,040
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, I'll still work. And then it's

1120
01:00:11,080 --> 01:00:13,920
Speaker 1: not even really so much as the the all of

1121
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:15,600
Speaker 1: that is the fact that you still have an attachment

1122
01:00:15,640 --> 01:00:17,200
Speaker 1: to him, you know what I'm saying. But she was

1123
01:00:17,280 --> 01:00:20,040
Speaker 1: so helping on me not seeing anybody else, like it

1124
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:21,440
Speaker 1: would have been different. And she was like, all right,

1125
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:23,480
Speaker 1: well we're not a couple like you can do you

1126
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do me and you know, we're just going

1127
01:00:25,520 --> 01:00:27,160
Speaker 1: days until we get to a point where we're ready

1128
01:00:27,200 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 1: to be committed. But it was like, I don't want

1129
01:00:29,480 --> 01:00:31,720
Speaker 1: another looking at you. Who is this girl? Like every

1130
01:00:31,760 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 1: day she on my social media? Who just liking pictures?

1131
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:36,400
Speaker 1: And why is she blowing kisses? And why is she this?

1132
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 1: And why is she that? So it's like, damn, like,

1133
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,280
Speaker 1: would you approve of me going on a trup with Max?

1134
01:00:41,440 --> 01:00:43,760
Speaker 1: Hell fucking no. And I'm like, well, I'm supposed to

1135
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 1: prove you're going to trip, but it's already paid for

1136
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 1: and you I know what. So I'm just like, all right, whatever.

1137
01:00:49,720 --> 01:00:53,520
Speaker 1: So she goes on the trip. I'm scrolling on Instagram

1138
01:00:54,200 --> 01:00:57,840
Speaker 1: and I and I see a picture of her and

1139
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:02,600
Speaker 1: dude with matching I swear suits on on her time nine.

1140
01:01:02,640 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 1: She posted it, Oh she didn't give him, but look

1141
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:14,960
Speaker 1: it was it was, it was, but it was. It

1142
01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:18,520
Speaker 1: was definitely like the caption was not heart at all.

1143
01:01:19,240 --> 01:01:23,120
Speaker 1: Caption was not hurt. Then it was another picture of

1144
01:01:23,240 --> 01:01:28,120
Speaker 1: them hugged up again. Caption definitely wasn't hurt. What is

1145
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:31,520
Speaker 1: he saying? It was like, did you see her? Know that?

1146
01:01:31,520 --> 01:01:36,000
Speaker 1: That's me? What you see her? But now you see

1147
01:01:36,040 --> 01:01:39,600
Speaker 1: him anyway, She told me Bro had done took the phone.

1148
01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:42,520
Speaker 1: She was drunk. She drunk a lot. She drunk a lot,

1149
01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:47,160
Speaker 1: he had. They were drinking. She having her little carnival outfits.

1150
01:01:47,240 --> 01:01:50,080
Speaker 1: She couldn't you know, she had no pockets, so she

1151
01:01:50,120 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 1: gave the phone to him because he had pockets. And

1152
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:55,880
Speaker 1: he funked around, and I guess still knew her past.

1153
01:01:56,120 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 1: She had checked. I don't know what now he was, y'all.

1154
01:02:00,160 --> 01:02:08,080
Speaker 1: He probably saw you pick and Bro went ham this night. Look,

1155
01:02:08,280 --> 01:02:09,800
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was bigger, but I know

1156
01:02:09,880 --> 01:02:13,560
Speaker 1: it was prettier, like my ship got an amazing two

1157
01:02:13,640 --> 01:02:21,680
Speaker 1: tone to it and smooth man right now. But I'm

1158
01:02:21,760 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 1: just saying, Look, I'm just saying, even if it wasn't bigger,

1159
01:02:25,000 --> 01:02:28,680
Speaker 1: he was jealous of just esthetically, you know, like god, damn,

1160
01:02:28,840 --> 01:02:33,919
Speaker 1: like this dick is beautiful. I'm about And she even

1161
01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:35,600
Speaker 1: she even said that, she was like, yoh, he did

1162
01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:38,680
Speaker 1: it to make you mad. So that was like red

1163
01:02:38,760 --> 01:02:41,520
Speaker 1: flag number two. You know, I should have just stopped

1164
01:02:41,520 --> 01:02:44,840
Speaker 1: it right then, but I didn't, and I ended up

1165
01:02:44,840 --> 01:02:47,919
Speaker 1: paying the price. I'm stopping the simple story right there.

1166
01:02:48,080 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 1: What was the ultimate price that you paid this. The

1167
01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:54,800
Speaker 1: ultimate price that I paid was and I gave up

1168
01:02:54,840 --> 01:02:58,280
Speaker 1: a lot of good women for her. He passed up

1169
01:02:58,280 --> 01:03:00,680
Speaker 1: some people for her. I passed up something good one.

1170
01:03:00,960 --> 01:03:03,080
Speaker 1: But you said the pussy wasn't all that? What happened?

1171
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:05,480
Speaker 1: Like what kind of person was she? Like? How she tricking?

1172
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:07,640
Speaker 1: Like that? Really all that? I mean? It was like

1173
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:09,920
Speaker 1: it was good. I'm not about the downplayer, like you know,

1174
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:13,920
Speaker 1: she has an Instagram, bitch. No, she wasn't. She was

1175
01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: very young, she wasn't very youngest, but she had the nigs.

1176
01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:21,200
Speaker 1: Do you how do you know what I was? I

1177
01:03:21,240 --> 01:03:23,880
Speaker 1: was coming out of the situation. You're vulnerable. I was.

1178
01:03:24,240 --> 01:03:26,760
Speaker 1: I was vulnerable, you know what I'm saying. And I

1179
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 1: was like at that period right before you bass up,

1180
01:03:29,760 --> 01:03:31,680
Speaker 1: right when you're broken, right before you bass up, I

1181
01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:33,400
Speaker 1: was in that like that, That's where I feel like

1182
01:03:33,400 --> 01:03:36,400
Speaker 1: I'm at right now. It's hard, that's a hard stage,

1183
01:03:37,320 --> 01:03:39,919
Speaker 1: but you gotta be by yourself. Yeah, but she helped

1184
01:03:39,960 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 1: me get through it. Though she helped me get through No,

1185
01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:47,080
Speaker 1: she's blocked on everything and her she and then she

1186
01:03:47,160 --> 01:03:49,160
Speaker 1: had the nerve after all that, and I really want

1187
01:03:49,200 --> 01:03:51,440
Speaker 1: to put her on black. She said something like crazy

1188
01:03:51,720 --> 01:03:54,120
Speaker 1: about a chick that I was working with, and I

1189
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:56,280
Speaker 1: really wanted to go and like, bit you to have

1190
01:03:56,360 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 1: me in the fucking abortion clinic for a bagby that

1191
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:01,320
Speaker 1: ain't mine? You better don't don't ever say nothing crazy

1192
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:05,520
Speaker 1: about mine? Like she was mad because the girl I said,

1193
01:04:05,560 --> 01:04:07,040
Speaker 1: I was about to buy the girl or something that

1194
01:04:07,200 --> 01:04:14,760
Speaker 1: she Oh who this big even like that, Like we

1195
01:04:14,880 --> 01:04:18,080
Speaker 1: are not even like that, Like don't come from mind

1196
01:04:18,160 --> 01:04:20,480
Speaker 1: called a dinosaur because you know she don't age me,

1197
01:04:20,520 --> 01:04:22,440
Speaker 1: she like forty something, you know what I'm saying. But

1198
01:04:22,480 --> 01:04:26,400
Speaker 1: she was talking about your girl. She was she was

1199
01:04:26,480 --> 01:04:29,360
Speaker 1: age shaming her, and like I really wanted to be

1200
01:04:29,360 --> 01:04:31,840
Speaker 1: like did she didn't have me a fucking abortion clinic

1201
01:04:31,920 --> 01:04:38,640
Speaker 1: for the don't she know who her baby daddy's? I

1202
01:04:38,640 --> 01:04:41,920
Speaker 1: hope you're not listening to this episode. I hope you

1203
01:04:42,440 --> 01:04:46,200
Speaker 1: goddamn it. You know what I'm saying. Oh, you know

1204
01:04:46,440 --> 01:04:50,360
Speaker 1: you don't you want who your baby daddy was? Does

1205
01:04:50,400 --> 01:04:54,320
Speaker 1: that really constitute being a whole? I think it burns.

1206
01:04:54,560 --> 01:04:56,560
Speaker 1: I just feel like because you had sex with two

1207
01:04:56,640 --> 01:05:03,440
Speaker 1: niggas without exactly cont people that close to where you

1208
01:05:03,480 --> 01:05:06,080
Speaker 1: didn't know who the daddy or your child was. So

1209
01:05:06,240 --> 01:05:12,520
Speaker 1: I feel like that it happens. Sometimes it happens. Who

1210
01:05:12,640 --> 01:05:15,600
Speaker 1: oh is that somebody posted to talk about I don't

1211
01:05:15,600 --> 01:05:17,480
Speaker 1: know what the gift was, hoping they're giving money to

1212
01:05:17,760 --> 01:05:20,320
Speaker 1: any woman who can say they didn't have sex and

1213
01:05:20,400 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 1: more thing to niggas this year, this year, in this March.

1214
01:05:23,920 --> 01:05:27,720
Speaker 1: You know, you may have a January February and then

1215
01:05:27,800 --> 01:05:30,120
Speaker 1: when a month without it and then boom boom boom hit.

1216
01:05:30,200 --> 01:05:32,600
Speaker 1: All of March was by yourself. That April you just

1217
01:05:33,640 --> 01:05:37,960
Speaker 1: you know, nice logical thinking man, the April look. I

1218
01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:41,920
Speaker 1: have very look, I am very logical. I am extremely

1219
01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:46,760
Speaker 1: practical and logical. I genuinely do not expect women to

1220
01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:51,240
Speaker 1: sit back and just be, you know, celibate, even though

1221
01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 1: y'all be lying, So are you single? Now? Yeah? Something single? Now?

1222
01:05:56,320 --> 01:05:59,600
Speaker 1: What the ladies were to find you? She I'm not

1223
01:05:59,600 --> 01:06:01,480
Speaker 1: about to do that because I do got somebody who

1224
01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 1: don't play about you know that? But but but I

1225
01:06:08,680 --> 01:06:12,479
Speaker 1: I'm definitely saying she can not play about you because

1226
01:06:12,480 --> 01:06:17,680
Speaker 1: you're single. But because we we're in that situation where

1227
01:06:17,720 --> 01:06:20,640
Speaker 1: we're dating and we're getting to know each other. I

1228
01:06:20,680 --> 01:06:22,720
Speaker 1: mean we pretty much you know, know each other, but

1229
01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:29,920
Speaker 1: we're still we're still making sure that exclusively what kind

1230
01:06:29,960 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 1: of sort of are But the niggas no listen, no listen, no,

1231
01:06:35,240 --> 01:06:38,920
Speaker 1: we we have we have come to the conclusion that

1232
01:06:39,840 --> 01:06:42,320
Speaker 1: there has to be more boxes checked than we just

1233
01:06:42,400 --> 01:06:45,400
Speaker 1: like each other. So tell the ladies where to find

1234
01:06:45,440 --> 01:06:52,320
Speaker 1: you then not limits? Then are you off limits or no? Currently?

1235
01:06:52,360 --> 01:06:54,080
Speaker 1: I am, but I don't know what's gonna happen by

1236
01:06:54,080 --> 01:06:59,600
Speaker 1: the time, y'all Thursday, But I don't know when they're

1237
01:06:59,600 --> 01:07:02,120
Speaker 1: gonna listen to. What if they listen to this next year? Now,

1238
01:07:02,160 --> 01:07:04,120
Speaker 1: everybody's gonna listen to the first day and come out.

1239
01:07:04,200 --> 01:07:06,400
Speaker 1: It don't matter. They're just gonna follow you on Instagram

1240
01:07:07,880 --> 01:07:11,760
Speaker 1: me follow me everywhere at dj chuck T on Instagram, Uh,

1241
01:07:11,880 --> 01:07:15,160
Speaker 1: at dj chuck T on Twitter, at dj chuck t

1242
01:07:15,520 --> 01:07:20,160
Speaker 1: on Facebook. Um, and uh that's why. Thank you so

1243
01:07:20,240 --> 01:07:25,520
Speaker 1: much for joining us. As always, y'all listen. If you

1244
01:07:25,640 --> 01:07:28,840
Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday on your

1245
01:07:29,080 --> 01:07:32,280
Speaker 1: Heart radio, Apple wherever fun you get your podcast. Chat

1246
01:07:32,640 --> 01:07:35,560
Speaker 1: to your co host AJ Holiday two point oh. Follow

1247
01:07:35,600 --> 01:07:39,040
Speaker 1: me on Instagram, and y'all follow me on Instagram. It's

1248
01:07:39,080 --> 01:07:42,080
Speaker 1: official Tam bam. I love y'all as always, and remember

1249
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Speaker 1: to speak now, and never hold your piece deuces by