1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington, 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 2: Well, Hello, Hello, Hello, hello everybody, and welcome to another 4 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:25,920 Speaker 2: episode of Call It What It Is. 5 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:29,479 Speaker 1: I'm so excited to talk to this guest today. I've 6 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 1: touched many things. I've seen her live, I've seen her 7 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:34,880 Speaker 1: show and she makes me a laugh. 8 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 2: I feel like, for me, she was one of the 9 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 2: first like modern comedians. 10 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 1: Yeah that I the were female that I knew knew of. 11 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, which is crazy to. 12 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 2: Say we need more, but like, I just feel like 13 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 2: it was like the name that I knew the most 14 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 2: back in the day. 15 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 4: She's a famous comedian, she was very famous. Whitney Cummings. 16 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:56,959 Speaker 5: Okay, let's bring her in. 17 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 2: My god, Ahi, yay, it's annoying the glasses, No, not annoying. 18 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:05,040 Speaker 1: Don't worry mine on so you can be annoyed by 19 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: my reflection. 20 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, please no, as long as it isn't. 21 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 5: No, Yeah, Joss, you wear yours too? 22 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 6: Ohther are great frames. 23 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 1: Thanks. I had twenty twenty vision my whole life. I 24 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 1: had to my two parents. My two genetic parents were 25 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: like blind as bats. They got childhood glasses, and I 26 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: was like. 27 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 3: I got this. 28 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 4: I'm twenty twenty. 29 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,039 Speaker 1: And then two years ago I had a kid like 30 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 1: put something in front of my face, but like real close, 31 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 1: like real close, and I did that thing where I 32 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: pushed my head away, like I can't see that so close, 33 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:38,400 Speaker 1: And I thought, I'm old. 34 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 6: Here's the thing, Jessica, I love getting older. I don't 35 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 6: want to see things. I don't want to see the news. 36 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 6: I don't want to be old. 37 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 3: I love God a focus. 38 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 6: I'm like, good, I don't have to do that. Great. Yeah, 39 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 6: it's freedom. 40 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 3: Whitney, you have a one year old? 41 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 6: I do? 42 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 3: Did he just turn one? As he Sagittarius? 43 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 6: Just turn out? My God. I of all the things 44 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:04,559 Speaker 6: I have done in my life, I have worked so hard, 45 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 6: my greatest accomplishment is having a Sage baby. 46 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 3: I'm a Sage baby. 47 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 6: By the way, I have never had you're having a 48 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 6: Sage baby. I've never heard. No, I've never heard anyone 49 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,240 Speaker 6: say like, you're having a Taurus baby, Like, what is 50 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:18,600 Speaker 6: it with sage babies. 51 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 5: I first off, he's going to be amazing, obviously. 52 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 3: I know. I. 53 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 2: Actually he's gonna be really blunt. We're known for being 54 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 2: really blunt. He's gonna love to travel. But I was 55 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 2: a good kid. I think we're gonna I think sages 56 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,080 Speaker 2: are good, solid, like grounded kids. 57 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 6: Do you believe in astrology? Like for real? 58 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 2: I did not used to, but I do now I do. 59 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 2: The more people I meet and I'm like, what are you? 60 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 2: And now I see like the similarities in all the signs. 61 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 6: So yeah. I also feel like though when someone finds 62 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 6: out their sign, they do lean into that more. I'm like, 63 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 6: you know what I'm saying, they get more of a sage. 64 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:57,639 Speaker 4: It's a confirmation bias. 65 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,800 Speaker 6: Yes, you of course are going to make it sounds smart. 66 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 6: I'm kind of fascinated by like that astrology. If it's 67 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 6: the stars and the gravity wherever, fine, But I actually 68 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:09,960 Speaker 6: think that there also could be another explanation, which is like, 69 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 6: are like the proximity of our birthdays to other holidays, 70 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 6: Like because when you're young, your birthday is the biggest deal, 71 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:19,119 Speaker 6: you know, and the proximity to another holiday, like people 72 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 6: are like virgos, Like virgos are like they're all about 73 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 6: work and they're all about being organized. It's like, well, 74 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 6: my birthday was the first day of. 75 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: School, Like, so you're back to school, back to school. 76 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 6: So Virgos, you know what I mean. So it's like 77 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:32,800 Speaker 6: and then Capricorn's like, you know, they're like, you know, 78 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 6: don't want a lot, they're insecure, they this and this, 79 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 6: but they come right after holiday year. No one's giving 80 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 6: them presents. Yeah, on January fifth. 81 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 4: This is a theory. 82 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 6: It's kind of interesting. I don't know. That's kind of 83 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 6: like to me, something that makes it work a little more, 84 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 6: and like, you know, anyway, I believe it. 85 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 2: I explain my leoness. I know, I was thinking, I 86 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 2: have a son who's Leo. Well you're you're you're in 87 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 2: summer vacation mode, so no wonder your loving life. 88 00:03:57,200 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 6: That's it, and no one comes to your party. They're 89 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 6: like your birthday party. Kids aren't in town. Everyone's out 90 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 6: of town, so you have to work extra hard and 91 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 6: like perform. Like from what I understand, Leos are like performers, like. 92 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, charismatic, great with you know. 93 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 6: And I'm not saying I don't know what happened, you know, 94 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 6: but yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe something like that. 95 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: So let me ask you a question, just a hypothetical question. 96 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: So if I invite you to my birthday dinner on 97 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:23,679 Speaker 1: August ninth, and you came to my birthday diner. 98 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 4: Actually showing the date out so she gets to you 99 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 4: a gift. 100 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: Go on, I'm just saying that if she came to 101 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:31,600 Speaker 1: my birthday in August ninth, mm hmm, because we became 102 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 1: a really good friends between now in August ninth, because 103 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 1: that's when you'd be invited to my birthday dinner. And 104 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 1: let's just say that there was a tradition of going 105 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 1: around the table and each person had to say what 106 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: they loved about me the most. 107 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 4: Would that be weird to you? Or feel right on? 108 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:47,720 Speaker 6: Are you the one initiating it? Or does something? 109 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 3: Yes, yes she is. Why does this matter? 110 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 6: If a Lee show was like, let's go around everyone 111 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 6: and say what we love about Jesa. But if you 112 00:04:57,120 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 6: were like, hey, guys, guys, guys, let's all go around 113 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 6: and say what you love about it, that'd be a 114 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 6: little trick. 115 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: Great, Well, now I have a new I have a 116 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: new strategy for this year. 117 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 6: Here's the thing. Okay, I like a better do you 118 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,919 Speaker 6: do that every year? I think the better way to 119 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 6: do it so that people aren't, you know, full of 120 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 6: shit is I'd have them write it down. 121 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 3: You have to come with a written note, no, you 122 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 3: like piece. 123 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:23,600 Speaker 6: Of the paper and they write it down and then 124 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 6: or whatever. 125 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 4: All of this makes Camilla question her friendship with me. 126 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 4: I can't when I explained. 127 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: What I like out of a birthday and I actually 128 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 1: don't expect anything. 129 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 2: No, no, no, hang on, let me just explain to Whitney. 130 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 2: She used to send people a gift registry list. 131 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 5: For her own birthday. 132 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 6: That's sick. 133 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 1: By the way, bud Way, thank you, thank you, I 134 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:47,679 Speaker 1: mean thank you, but like, no, thank you next. 135 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:50,160 Speaker 6: And I shouldn't be like this. I don't think i'd care. Now. 136 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 6: I got a friend of mine deb won't say her 137 00:05:52,839 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 6: last name for her wedding registry. I got her a 138 00:05:56,120 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 6: couple of things, and then friends of mine we all 139 00:05:57,600 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 6: were like, oh, let's all get her the plates and 140 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 6: the forks and you know, to together. Yeah. And then 141 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:02,720 Speaker 6: I go to her house for dinner party and like, 142 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 6: I kind of expect like the plants to be you 143 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 6: know what I mean. You kind of want to see 144 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 6: your gift in action, you know. And I remember being like, 145 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,279 Speaker 6: where are those plates? And she goes, oh, I returned 146 00:06:11,279 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 6: them off for a mattress. Oh she should be able 147 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 6: to do you just be able to do whatever you want. 148 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 6: But it was just kind of like, I like someone 149 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 6: just telling me what they want. I appreciate that, I 150 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 6: don't want to it gets you something you already. 151 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 3: Have or like fucking dish dub. 152 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 6: Also, sometimes when people give you presents that you didn't 153 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,919 Speaker 6: specifically request, it can be very insulting, like I. 154 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 3: Agree, you know, it'll be like what kind of I'm interested? 155 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 4: What kind of birthday? 156 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 6: Mom? 157 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 5: Do you think you're going to be? 158 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,600 Speaker 2: So he's getting bigger, are you going to do like 159 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 2: the Kardashian like the balloons, with the you know, with 160 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 2: the circus and the bask What. 161 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:48,720 Speaker 4: Are you feeling is going to be your birthday mom? 162 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:49,119 Speaker 1: Vibe? 163 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 3: Is that what they do? 164 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 6: Oh? 165 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 3: People here in La Yeah, of course no. 166 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:56,600 Speaker 1: They go straight to the event planner and they make 167 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 1: sure that they have a bang in first, second, third, 168 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:00,479 Speaker 1: all the. 169 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 4: Way on up. 170 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 2: But who's it for? 171 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 6: It for the attendees? Is it for the gram? 172 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: Is it really for the kid that's unknowns? 173 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't know. 174 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 4: I think it's probably Cayse. 175 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 6: Specific right the photos to show the kid later? 176 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah yeah. I had one real banger and 177 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: it was Eve's fifth. 178 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 4: How banging was it so, like I said, I was. 179 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 1: Just reaching into the recesses of the memo. 180 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 4: So when you say, like was it for the kid? 181 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 6: Was it for you? 182 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: I wasn't big on Instagram and I don't. I'm not 183 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 1: big on Instagram for like super super personal stuff. I mean, 184 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 1: I think that there's a whole world to share, but 185 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:41,200 Speaker 1: I don't. That's not been where I've done it. But 186 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 1: I think that I did. 187 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 4: When you just said that out loud, I think I 188 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 4: did enjoy by five. 189 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 3: No, they're there like yeah, but I think it. 190 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: I mean for sure. I mean I would say absolutely 191 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 1: it was for her, mostly because the entire thing was 192 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 1: all her favorite things. 193 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 4: But I done it. 194 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 2: But then I started because it is it all down? 195 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 2: Like once you set the bar like is six, if 196 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 2: you're not going to do it, is it then? Like well, 197 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 2: where's all the shit? 198 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 6: You mean? 199 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 4: Like what what does Eve want now? For like her fourteen? 200 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 2: It doesn't go Yes, That's the problem with kid's birthday 201 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 2: parties is like once you're once you're like going all out. 202 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 5: You kind of have to sustain it otherwise like where's 203 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:18,440 Speaker 5: where's the balloon? 204 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 6: Or is it good to like prepare a kid for life? 205 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 6: Like I'm like, yeah, last year I made a lot 206 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 6: more money. We got to do that. This year we're 207 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 6: doing the. 208 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 4: Chuck e chee. 209 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 6: How life is? I feel like I'm so different than 210 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:32,960 Speaker 6: every parent I talk to, or every parent maybe at 211 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 6: least in like California or something, because I come from 212 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 6: like the South, like white trash, hill billy shit, where 213 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 6: it's like you're not friends with your kid. You love 214 00:08:40,559 --> 00:08:42,839 Speaker 6: your kid more than anything, and like my job is 215 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:45,599 Speaker 6: to protect you. It's not to like necessarily, you know, 216 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 6: be your homie. Like I'm fully you know, that's a 217 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 6: kind of small thing. I don't. I see people whose 218 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:55,599 Speaker 6: kid calls them by their first name. I'm like, what 219 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 6: is happening? What I don't know? 220 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:00,679 Speaker 3: It's wild. Oh they're like hey Kim. I'm like what 221 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 3: Like stuff like that. 222 00:09:02,080 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 6: I think for me, like if I've learned anything, maybe 223 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:07,079 Speaker 6: this's just because I came from like thank you so much, sir. 224 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:11,959 Speaker 6: I think because I came from such a raging alcoholics 225 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 6: like like and the energy, Like I didn't care about 226 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 6: the gifts or that anything, but like watching my mom 227 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 6: like stress out about like the day before Christmas wrapping 228 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:20,839 Speaker 6: a bunch of stuff, and like we have to do 229 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 6: this because it's your birthday and just being like, oh god, 230 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 6: like I think that if you had fun planning that 231 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 6: amazing party, that's the best part. It's like I think that, like, yeah, 232 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:33,679 Speaker 6: we're for our kid, Yes, you know I did. 233 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 4: I loved that birthday party. 234 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 6: I figured out a way if you go to a 235 00:09:37,720 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 6: kid's party and the mom's like the lady bugs aren't 236 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:43,200 Speaker 6: here yet, and like that kind of like now now 237 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 6: you're just modeling for your kid that like a day 238 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:48,719 Speaker 6: that's insanity should be stressful, you know. So to me, 239 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 6: like for the first birthday, I was really torn about 240 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:53,959 Speaker 6: what exactly to do, and because I was like I 241 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 6: don't want to stress myself out and then not be present. 242 00:09:57,360 --> 00:09:59,400 Speaker 1: You know, well, here's what I can tell you, because 243 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: you're already this is going to be very simple. From 244 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:05,559 Speaker 1: you know, the ghosts of future of future with my 245 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 1: older children. 246 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,359 Speaker 4: Now you're just gonna maybe. 247 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:11,920 Speaker 1: For your son this year for Christmas, like you know, 248 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:14,599 Speaker 1: wrap like a par of sunglasses. 249 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 6: But also they're at the point where they like like 250 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 6: wrapping in the box. 251 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 3: Better than the thing that Yes, it's so true. 252 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:24,680 Speaker 6: I can just wrap up a bunch of empty Amazon 253 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 6: boxes and he'll be happy, like to throw away and 254 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 6: just try to get the boxes, give. 255 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:29,720 Speaker 3: Them a remote control. 256 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 5: And he's like, if you're give him the TV remote, 257 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 5: that's it. 258 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:34,679 Speaker 6: That's exactly it, you know. So I kind of that's 259 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 6: the things that I'm kind of struggling with. Y'all can 260 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 6: probably you will have like perfect advice and clarity on 261 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:46,839 Speaker 6: like the Santa Claus thing, like I have a and 262 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 6: maybe this is a comedian thing, but like I were, 263 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 6: I just and maybe this is just a perfectionism thing 264 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 6: of like I was lied to so much as a kid. 265 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 6: I'm like, do I say the tradition because I love Sanda, 266 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:01,520 Speaker 6: I love I love all this stuff, but like Easter 267 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 6: Bunny Santa? 268 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 3: Well, did you like Santa as a kid? 269 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:08,920 Speaker 6: No? I I had a very I was like, wait, 270 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:10,680 Speaker 6: we're not supposed to tart to strangers, but one. 271 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 4: Is just sitting on the wrong Santa's lap many times. 272 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:16,079 Speaker 6: I don't even get started off feeling. Do you know 273 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:18,719 Speaker 6: that I found out you can google you can get 274 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:20,839 Speaker 6: the criminal records of the Santas in your area. 275 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 5: My god, oh my god. 276 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 3: What website is this. 277 00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 6: I'll send it to you. Someone just got it to 278 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:29,080 Speaker 6: me today. I will get it to you today. 279 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:31,079 Speaker 3: Don't they do some sort of wait, don't they do 280 00:11:31,200 --> 00:11:33,439 Speaker 3: some sort of like checking of that. 281 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:35,679 Speaker 1: I think the mall you do. 282 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:36,800 Speaker 4: I think they just go for it. 283 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 3: They're like, are you you've a beard? You're in Like, 284 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 3: it's fine. 285 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:43,079 Speaker 4: I don't even think they need a beard. 286 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 6: No, they're like, oh, you just got fired from NAMBLA, 287 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 6: come work here. 288 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 3: Whatever it is. 289 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:50,439 Speaker 6: I just I get I struggle a little bit with 290 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 6: that because I also want to be the parent. It's like, 291 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 6: I'm not going to do this tradition that everyone else does. 292 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 6: And then the kid is like not able to you know, 293 00:11:56,720 --> 00:11:59,559 Speaker 6: fit in or feel a part of something. But I 294 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,559 Speaker 6: I thought it was fishy. I didn't like it as 295 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 6: a kid. 296 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:07,160 Speaker 2: I love Santa's big in our house, we're like full 297 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 2: sand I've like still believe. 298 00:12:10,240 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 3: I was gonna say, you're I'm. 299 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: Not sure you're talking to the right person because I've 300 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 1: questioned our lying to children before and she's like, what lie? 301 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:18,319 Speaker 5: But do you just does it? 302 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:19,920 Speaker 6: Just go? Because I think I'm also doing the thing 303 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 6: where like my kid's not going to see a screen 304 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:23,719 Speaker 6: until they're fifteen. A couple of weeks and you're like 305 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 6: it might be. 306 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 4: A little of that. I'm just still in the like yeah, yeah, yeah, 307 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:28,839 Speaker 4: there you go. 308 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:33,160 Speaker 2: I think that it's so magical for them and I 309 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 2: have really good memories and it's so magical for them, 310 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:36,720 Speaker 2: and they're so excited. 311 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:39,439 Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, I'm I'm really worried. There's a lot of things. 312 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 6: I'm just like, I guess I'm gonna trust my instincts 313 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:43,599 Speaker 6: and get there when I get there, you know. And 314 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,600 Speaker 6: I think that's been the biggest Like God, as soon 315 00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:48,679 Speaker 6: as you become a mom, you start saying journey, like 316 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 6: the biggest part of this whole, Like, journey is like 317 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:54,559 Speaker 6: feedback you get online or whatever it is, you know, 318 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:57,199 Speaker 6: people like, oh mom, Instagram is like brutal and like, 319 00:12:57,520 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 6: you know me, I was like, you know, I went 320 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 6: and so I posted a photo of me going into labor. 321 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 6: I induced a week early. I really wanted to do 322 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:08,319 Speaker 6: it vaginally sea sectioned. I was so close to having 323 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 6: a sea section. If I do it again, I'll probably 324 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:12,719 Speaker 6: just schedule it like nothing. I just really want to 325 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:14,280 Speaker 6: try it that way. And I wanted to be able 326 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 6: to get pregnant faster if I wanted to have another whatever, 327 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 6: And so I like posted that and I got your 328 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 6: sea section shaming you induced patas, and at first I 329 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:29,079 Speaker 6: was like, oh god, I should, but then I was like, 330 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 6: you know what, this is awesome, Like these people they care, 331 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 6: Like these people care about this baby they've never met. 332 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 6: Like this is when women like you know. I mean, 333 00:13:38,800 --> 00:13:41,760 Speaker 6: I was obviously super sensitive because you're, you know, eating 334 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:44,599 Speaker 6: postpartum depression and you're so emotional, and I'm like, just 335 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:47,520 Speaker 6: got cut two inches, I'm the healing from a surgery whatever. 336 00:13:47,960 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 6: But I think that like for me, it's been really 337 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 6: important to just be able to like take wisdom and 338 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:56,000 Speaker 6: not take it personally, like there's a lot I don't 339 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 6: know and like, and also how to like take what 340 00:13:58,120 --> 00:13:59,559 Speaker 6: you like and leave the rest. I've also gotten the 341 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:02,120 Speaker 6: most amazing advice from Instagram that I never would have 342 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 6: thought of. Like people were like, make sure to put 343 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 6: coconut oil or aqua four on your baby's butthole as 344 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:08,959 Speaker 6: soon as they come out because the first poop is 345 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:11,680 Speaker 6: really sticky. I'm like, yeah, like thank you. I really 346 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 6: need to hear that, you know. So, I've sometimes gotten 347 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 6: better advice from like women on TikTok or like an 348 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:19,000 Speaker 6: Instagram comments than doctor. You know. So I think that 349 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:20,840 Speaker 6: For me, it's just all about going like okay, okay, 350 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 6: like nobody's wrong. 351 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 3: You know, it's knowing when to shut it off too. 352 00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 6: Yeah, knowing like that might work. If you want a 353 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:31,200 Speaker 6: breastfeeda well he's twelve, that's your progative, that's your journey. 354 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:31,960 Speaker 3: Three months. 355 00:14:32,120 --> 00:14:34,160 Speaker 4: I did as much as I could, you know, like, 356 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:36,520 Speaker 4: yeah I was a three month or two. 357 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:38,040 Speaker 5: I was a three months as much as I. 358 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:40,560 Speaker 6: Could, Like you know, when you tell yourself, like there's 359 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 6: also a lot of literature that like microplastics are in 360 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:45,520 Speaker 6: breast milk now, so like oh, like it's just kind 361 00:14:45,560 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 6: of figure out what works for you and what helps 362 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 6: you be able to sleep in night, because I think 363 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:53,120 Speaker 6: being calm around your child and you know, is thing 364 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 6: for them. At this point, I was formula fed Similac 365 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 6: like forty years ago. There's pictures of me and drawers. 366 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 4: I slept in a drawer. Yeah, I'm from Missouri. 367 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 6: They're fine, the kids. 368 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 2: I was given tea because I'm from England, Whitney, even 369 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:08,240 Speaker 2: though I've lost my accent, and I have pictures of 370 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 2: me drinking a bottle tea with milk caffeinated at like one. 371 00:15:13,840 --> 00:15:15,680 Speaker 1: Well, and also what was the what did grandma give 372 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:17,800 Speaker 1: you whiskey? Just give me a little whiskey now and 373 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 1: then ski. Well, so you're ahead of it, you already 374 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:34,680 Speaker 1: know all the things. 375 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 6: No, no, I'm his latest. You know, I have no 376 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 6: idea what I'm doing, you know. But I think also 377 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 6: like you know, but. 378 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: You're curious, and I think that that's the thing. I 379 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 1: think that been parenting. I think whether it's when they're 380 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 1: pre verbal or when they're giving you a real run 381 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 1: for your money, because wow, that whole like little kids, 382 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 1: little problems, big kids, big problems. That's true, and I 383 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:56,200 Speaker 1: think I actually, speaking of comedians. 384 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 3: I was wait, little kids, little problems. 385 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:02,120 Speaker 4: Big kids? Just say that? Why because I'm. 386 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 3: Seriously because the problems feel so big because. 387 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 2: She wants to think this is the hard part. I'm 388 00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 2: a four and a six year seven year old. Those 389 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 2: are small. 390 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:12,920 Speaker 3: I'm gonna lose my goddamn mind. 391 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 6: I think though they say like ten years is when 392 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 6: you have the most impact. 393 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:20,200 Speaker 7: After that, thank God, because I'm gonna be mad because 394 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 7: you know, it's pre adolescence because neurobiologically is when they're 395 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 7: then needing to be okay on their own, because if 396 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:28,440 Speaker 7: they're not okay, on their own. 397 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 4: What's gonna happen then? Right, So you've got until then and. 398 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:34,200 Speaker 6: They love and they have to start. I is called 399 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 6: identity differentiation, individuation, individuation. And I don't mean to name drop, 400 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 6: but I was on a going somewhere for like a 401 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 6: work thing, and Mark Wahlberg's wife was there and she 402 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:49,520 Speaker 6: was all, my friends with girls are just in dogfights. 403 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 6: I don't know. I don't know how you do it. 404 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:53,640 Speaker 6: I would never want to be in a fright now. 405 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 1: It's going well for me, but I mean, who knows 406 00:16:55,400 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: what I'll have? What's in store for me? 407 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 6: Totally? And I and she, you know, they just want 408 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 6: the opposite of whatever you have. So she like has 409 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 6: the Chanel purse, and so her daughter wants thrift store stuff. 410 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 6: It's like, oh, brands are like they just want to get. 411 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 6: If she didn't have something fancy, that's a. 412 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:13,720 Speaker 3: Good problem to have, she'd want the Chanel. 413 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:14,639 Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly. 414 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:16,320 Speaker 6: But if you don't have, you want the Chanelle. I 415 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 6: don't want the thrift store about you know, they just 416 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:20,480 Speaker 6: want the opposite. There's something that about like the biological 417 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 6: basis for it being so that predators can differentiate you 418 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 6: like there's like a deep biological basis for it. It's 419 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:28,119 Speaker 6: really kind of fat. I believe. There's a book that 420 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:30,119 Speaker 6: has a very creepy title, it's called The Wonder of 421 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 6: Girls that uh has all of this literature in it. 422 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:35,520 Speaker 6: But the books that I read Hunt gathered parent was 423 00:17:35,560 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 6: really helpful about just like letting him explore and figure 424 00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 6: it out themselves and only interfere when like real danger, 425 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 6: you know, is around. It's really helpful for me. 426 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:46,200 Speaker 3: You know, that was hot. That's hard for me. 427 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:49,200 Speaker 5: I'm not a good I'm a I'm a helicopter. 428 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:52,359 Speaker 6: Why do you think in England you have such good 429 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 6: healthcare you don't even have to. 430 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:57,200 Speaker 3: Well, I have, like I mean, I have trauma. 431 00:17:57,280 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 2: My mom passed when I was younger, and so I 432 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 2: and she very suddenly and so a lot of my 433 00:18:03,040 --> 00:18:05,879 Speaker 2: my own shit comes from like anything can happen at 434 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:08,120 Speaker 2: any moment, and I'm getting over that. So in order 435 00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 2: for me to control the situation, you know, I got 436 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,359 Speaker 2: to be there. So it's like, yeah, they can go 437 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:15,639 Speaker 2: crawl over there, but there's gonna be glass and you 438 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 2: won't see it, but I'll see it because you know, 439 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:20,680 Speaker 2: so I'm I have had to I'm way better, God 440 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:21,359 Speaker 2: bless soul of. 441 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 3: Way way way better with that. 442 00:18:24,720 --> 00:18:27,879 Speaker 4: But in the early days, it was so hard for me. 443 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, for me, it's like a baby with a cold 444 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 2: would have like sent me like, I you know, house doctor, er, 445 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:36,480 Speaker 2: what do I need to do? 446 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:40,120 Speaker 6: Sure? Sure? Sure? I mean you know for me, I'm 447 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 6: you know. I read a while back in Tina Fe 448 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:44,520 Speaker 6: had that book called I think it was in her 449 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:46,760 Speaker 6: book bossy Pants. It might have been an article. You know, 450 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:50,159 Speaker 6: she has that scar, and she talked about it right 451 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:51,800 Speaker 6: like saying a secret. 452 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:53,399 Speaker 1: But what happened? 453 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 6: I mean, you know the story is there's some meth head. 454 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 6: Just don't When she was five playing outside, a meth 455 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:00,960 Speaker 6: had just ran up to her and her in the face. 456 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:02,400 Speaker 4: Did you know that story? 457 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 1: Just wow? 458 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:06,440 Speaker 6: A child? Oh my god, I'll cry. I think about it. 459 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:09,359 Speaker 6: A child just playing and then ran off like just 460 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:11,040 Speaker 6: some crazy drug addict. She says she thought it was 461 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:13,159 Speaker 6: like a pen and she didn't know what was happening, 462 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:15,360 Speaker 6: And her therapist said to her, like, when your daughter 463 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 6: turns five, the age that that happened, you might just 464 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:20,560 Speaker 6: lose your mind, you know, like kind of like our 465 00:19:20,600 --> 00:19:23,639 Speaker 6: bodies are so smart, they just know yeah, I've never 466 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 6: talked about it because like, who cares. Everyone's had shit, 467 00:19:25,720 --> 00:19:27,920 Speaker 6: you know. But when I was a year old, i 468 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 6: ate a quaylude from my dad was like a you know, 469 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:36,159 Speaker 6: cheating on my mom. And it was at some you know, 470 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 6: and I went to the hospital and almost died and 471 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:42,160 Speaker 6: came in all and so just as he's turned one, 472 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:45,600 Speaker 6: I'm like, I'm just gravel in this and that I'm 473 00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:48,359 Speaker 6: actually like, I'm not beating myself up over it. There 474 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,159 Speaker 6: have been many times I'll look over and he's just 475 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:52,520 Speaker 6: like about to put a piece of gravel in his mouth, 476 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:55,080 Speaker 6: and I'm like and I'm like, yes, I try to 477 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:57,920 Speaker 6: look at neurosi's more as superpowers. I think our body 478 00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:01,040 Speaker 6: is smart. They know what to do all these things 479 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:04,560 Speaker 6: that men call us crazy, hypervigil and erotic obsessedment, Like 480 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:06,240 Speaker 6: it all comes in handy. As soon as you have 481 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:09,120 Speaker 6: a kid, and like you saved their life a few 482 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,960 Speaker 6: times a day, You're like, why don't you call me 483 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:12,280 Speaker 6: a hero? 484 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:14,320 Speaker 2: I think that's what's hard too, is like the kids 485 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 2: prove that they need saving all the time. They would 486 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:17,600 Speaker 2: eat the gravel. 487 00:20:17,920 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 6: Only the anxious survive, you know. And I think it's 488 00:20:19,880 --> 00:20:22,879 Speaker 6: just a matter of you know, and I and I 489 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:24,720 Speaker 6: think that, yeah, it's our job to be anxious so 490 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:26,040 Speaker 6: that they don't have to be, you know. So I 491 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 6: think that like forgiving ourselves is like a real big one. 492 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,680 Speaker 6: But it's been so like healing and cool to like 493 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 6: not only be able to have awesome connections with women, like, 494 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 6: you know, I think that being in a job that's 495 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:38,320 Speaker 6: really male dominated, there was always this scarcity complex and 496 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:40,879 Speaker 6: I was always like, yeah, can we can we be friends? 497 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:43,119 Speaker 6: Even though like I feel like it's always like me 498 00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:45,399 Speaker 6: or you you know, Yeah, I was back in the 499 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:47,399 Speaker 6: day with women there's like one woman on a lineup, 500 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:49,200 Speaker 6: so it's like if you came around, you were taking 501 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,639 Speaker 6: someone else's job, like you actually were, you know. And 502 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 6: so now it's been so cool to be able to 503 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 6: just like connect with women that will just DM me 504 00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:57,320 Speaker 6: on Instagram or come up to me in a grocery 505 00:20:57,320 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 6: store and I'm like, can I have your number? Like 506 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 6: do you want to? You know, it's just so cool. 507 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, no, it's it's definitely that the movement. The movement worked. 508 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:05,760 Speaker 4: I don't know who started, but the cool to be 509 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 4: kind thing has worked. It's funny. 510 00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 1: I I always ended up working with a lot of women. 511 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,160 Speaker 1: But now that you were talking and I was thinking 512 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,360 Speaker 1: about and I was, I would have modified or from 513 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,639 Speaker 1: my experience, it was like the modification of like there's 514 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 1: there's only room for like one hot girl characters. There's 515 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,280 Speaker 1: only a room for one funny girl character. 516 00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 4: Like they wanted everybody to. 517 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 1: Be one thing on some kind of angular in some 518 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:33,440 Speaker 1: kind of angular way, so that whatever you were, most 519 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 1: likely because the grass is green, aro on their'side the fence, 520 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:36,879 Speaker 1: if you were the funny one, You're like, I want 521 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:40,199 Speaker 1: to be the hot one, always, always one. 522 00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:41,760 Speaker 4: You're like, I wish I was a funny one. 523 00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:43,720 Speaker 3: Never forget the first time I ever. 524 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 4: Got like my dream. 525 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,199 Speaker 1: This will segue nicely into what I would really love 526 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 1: to hear about from you. All I ever wanted when 527 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:52,000 Speaker 1: I was starting out and I moved out to Los 528 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,359 Speaker 1: Angeles and started acting was to be on a half 529 00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:58,480 Speaker 1: hour comedy. That's all I wanted. And I wanted like 530 00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:01,959 Speaker 1: the real like situation, like not like that you hear 531 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:03,240 Speaker 1: the laugh track, but you actually hear. 532 00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:03,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 533 00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,760 Speaker 4: I wanted that, Like I just wanted to be Jennifer Aniston. 534 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:08,040 Speaker 1: That's what I wanted. I wanted to be the next 535 00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 1: Jennifer Instant. And so I tried and tried and tried, 536 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:12,119 Speaker 1: and I did pilot after pilot that didn't get picked up, 537 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 1: and then I ended up landing myself on a drama, 538 00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:17,400 Speaker 1: and then it was like that drama then maybe one 539 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,960 Speaker 1: little comedy in between, had been back to another. 540 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 6: Drama drama, I mean the only one. 541 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 1: I mean, right exactly, but I remember again, all I 542 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,680 Speaker 1: wanted was to be like at the epicenter of some 543 00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: incredibly funny, witty, awesome half hour. And so finally I 544 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,680 Speaker 1: find myself. I'd been doing that play in New York, 545 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 1: and I had gone up to thirty Rock to audition 546 00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 1: for a new NBC half hour, and and I get 547 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:46,199 Speaker 1: picked to network test. I finish my play, I fly 548 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,160 Speaker 1: out to la The next day, I go to network test. 549 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 1: The next day, I get the part. It's for Lauren Michaels. 550 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:56,439 Speaker 1: It's written by Paula Pell. Hold On, you guys probably 551 00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 1: auditioned for the same stuff. Yeah, maybe, Well, the funny 552 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:02,560 Speaker 1: part of that one actually was that was that Kate 553 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:05,119 Speaker 1: Walsh was in the waiting room when I auditioned for that. 554 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 4: Who That's funny it was on graz not me. 555 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,560 Speaker 1: So anyways, I get the part, and there I am, 556 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:11,239 Speaker 1: and I'm number one on the call sheet and all 557 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:12,200 Speaker 1: my dreams. 558 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:16,720 Speaker 4: Are coming true. I didn't get any of the funny lines. 559 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:19,720 Speaker 6: Not one. Well, that's the thing is, if you're the star, 560 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,159 Speaker 6: everyone's funny round you. If you want to be the 561 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,200 Speaker 6: funny friend, you want to be second, third, or fourth 562 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 6: on the call sheet. 563 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:27,280 Speaker 4: Everyone else was funny. 564 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:29,040 Speaker 6: You're the straight that sucks. 565 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:31,480 Speaker 4: I was there to deliver the chicken platter. 566 00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:33,399 Speaker 6: Yeah, no, you're the exposition person. 567 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:33,840 Speaker 3: Yeah. 568 00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 6: I told the story, and then everyone divorced a couple 569 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,520 Speaker 6: of years ago, like, you're that person. 570 00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:39,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Lee, I t up the joke. But Martin 571 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,200 Speaker 1: Bull played my dad, and Sharon Glass played my mom. 572 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,679 Speaker 1: Chris Parnell was in it, and then my sister had 573 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 1: all the laughs. And then we had this tiny little 574 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:52,920 Speaker 1: like Chris Parnell said, a friend of mine, you know, 575 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 1: she's from I can't remember if it was Groundlings or 576 00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,400 Speaker 1: Second City, but a friend of mine. She's just out 577 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:00,359 Speaker 1: here in LA and she's really trying really hard, and like, 578 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:01,760 Speaker 1: do you think we could give her a little part? 579 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,040 Speaker 1: And everybody was like, yeah, of course, of course, of course. 580 00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,480 Speaker 1: So she played like a model booker, and she literally 581 00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:09,359 Speaker 1: her line was like next or something like that, and 582 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:13,639 Speaker 1: it was Kristen Wig who wow yeah, And then she 583 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 1: went that that it must have been like the season 584 00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:17,680 Speaker 1: for her to then go to New York where she 585 00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 1: then started and she got a regular. 586 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:22,040 Speaker 4: She became a series regular and she started and I. 587 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:24,639 Speaker 1: Remember watching that season and being like I think. 588 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:28,199 Speaker 3: That girls, yeah, yeah, yeah wild. 589 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 1: Meanwhile, we got canceled after six of the twelve episodes. 590 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 4: We were supposed to make Good times. 591 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,359 Speaker 1: Well, you'd have no secrets to keep on fast friends, 592 00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 1: but but tell us what you'd tell us what it is, 593 00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,040 Speaker 1: tell us what you're doing, what's happening. 594 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,760 Speaker 6: Well, look, I mean, you know, once you I don't 595 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 6: have to tell you have kids, You're kind of like, 596 00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 6: I guess I need to make something my son can 597 00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:02,159 Speaker 6: watch a bit. Yes, I feel that strongly, like I 598 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,480 Speaker 6: gotta get all this stuff offline, Like I've worked so 599 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 6: hard to do like six stand up specials and about 600 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:08,480 Speaker 6: to do my seventh, and you're like, oh god, I 601 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:10,960 Speaker 6: really want people to watch this until my son's able 602 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,480 Speaker 6: to watch it. And uh, And you know, I was 603 00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,280 Speaker 6: just really in a place where like I had you know, 604 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:19,600 Speaker 6: got sober. Both my parents had passed away kind of 605 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,800 Speaker 6: just like awfully and uh. And then I was pregnant 606 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:26,320 Speaker 6: and just finally got some time to think, honestly, like 607 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:29,920 Speaker 6: I've really struggled with workoholism and you know, the busy 608 00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:33,439 Speaker 6: addiction of just like you know, keeping busy at all 609 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:35,400 Speaker 6: costs and not have to be alone with my own 610 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:39,120 Speaker 6: thoughts or in a while unrecovered codependence of like okay, 611 00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,280 Speaker 6: let me just like fix everyone around me and like 612 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:45,680 Speaker 6: be everyone, you know, mother, micromanage martyr, myself everywhere. And 613 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 6: and then I had some time alone with myself and 614 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,280 Speaker 6: I was like, you know, I really and I was, 615 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,200 Speaker 6: you know, working on shows and which I'm still there's 616 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:54,719 Speaker 6: a couple of TV things I'm gonna do next year. 617 00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 6: But at the time TV, I was like, I feel 618 00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:01,160 Speaker 6: like comedy stop being funny. That doesn't mean they're not good, 619 00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,400 Speaker 6: like the Barren Baby Reindeer are amazing, but like I'm 620 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,760 Speaker 6: not like laughing out laugh, you know. And then entertainment 621 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 6: kind of stopped being entertaining. It started being freachy and 622 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:15,720 Speaker 6: lectury and not all of it obviously, but there was 623 00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 6: like agendas behind everything, and you know, which is again fine, 624 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:22,600 Speaker 6: you know, but I was like, can we just like 625 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,280 Speaker 6: make people laugh? Like, why are we lecturing people how 626 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,639 Speaker 6: to vote? Like, I don't, why are we? Why did 627 00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:30,000 Speaker 6: I leave this movie? And now I feel bad about 628 00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:33,320 Speaker 6: climate change? Like I feel like just like there's not 629 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,239 Speaker 6: that much entertainment where there's just like we're gonna make 630 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 6: you laugh, that's all we're gonna do. We're not going 631 00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:39,280 Speaker 6: to tell you how to vote. We're not going to 632 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,399 Speaker 6: lecture you on anything. And you know, I really want 633 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:43,000 Speaker 6: to be a part of something that brought people together 634 00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:44,880 Speaker 6: instead of divided them. Where you know, I think most 635 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,680 Speaker 6: things like they want you know, you to you watch 636 00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,359 Speaker 6: a show and then you end it with like that's 637 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 6: not what I thought. Oh that's what you sa Oh 638 00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:52,960 Speaker 6: you think? You know? There was just so much everything 639 00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,399 Speaker 6: vis of of course, it's like simplify it. The election happened, 640 00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,119 Speaker 6: of course. I just wanted to make something that like 641 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,800 Speaker 6: three generations of people could sit down and all watch 642 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:04,480 Speaker 6: together and not be a like drama. And so to me, 643 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:05,960 Speaker 6: I was like, Okay, I feel like nobody agrees on 644 00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 6: anything anymore. I think the one thing we can all 645 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,240 Speaker 6: agree on is that like Friends was a good show. 646 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,200 Speaker 6: So they just came to me kind of randomly and 647 00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,720 Speaker 6: you know, and asked me, and instead of overthinking it, 648 00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:18,320 Speaker 6: I don't have to tell you, Jessica, Like there is 649 00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,040 Speaker 6: a time where like if you wanted to act, you 650 00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:25,520 Speaker 6: could not host. If you hosted, it was over, you know, 651 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,560 Speaker 6: and you couldn't do anything fun. Like they came to 652 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 6: me for like Dancing with the Stars. I was like, 653 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:31,879 Speaker 6: that sounds so fun and they're like no, no, no, 654 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 6: you can't do that, or like it's over and you're 655 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:37,840 Speaker 6: like okay. So there were all these rules before and 656 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,720 Speaker 6: then now it's like we're all just Nick Cannon. We 657 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,120 Speaker 6: can all just do anything. You know, was something banks hosting, 658 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,360 Speaker 6: like match game or something else. 659 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 2: Let's go, Like I agree, and I'm glad by the way, 660 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:51,960 Speaker 2: because I feel like we are multi hyphen it and 661 00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:53,520 Speaker 2: we can do all the things, So let us fucking 662 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 2: do it. 663 00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:56,639 Speaker 5: Yeah, let us do it without it being a block 664 00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:57,400 Speaker 5: to something else. 665 00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 6: It didn't occur to me also that things could be 666 00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:06,240 Speaker 6: fun and good. I always thought these hard and ping 667 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:09,320 Speaker 6: and painful in order for them to be good. And 668 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,879 Speaker 6: I had this sort of like come to you know, 669 00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:14,840 Speaker 6: Jesus moment where I was like wait a second, Like, 670 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:20,359 Speaker 6: especially with getting some mental health help, I always felt like, oh, 671 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 6: I won't be as funny, you know, interesting, I'm not broken. 672 00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:27,040 Speaker 6: I won't be as funny if I'm happy and in 673 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 6: love and in a good relationship, you know. And so 674 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:30,399 Speaker 6: I also was like, oh, this won't be. 675 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:31,400 Speaker 4: Because it's the material. 676 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:35,119 Speaker 1: I mean, it's the fuel, right on some level, because 677 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,760 Speaker 1: it's this, it's it's what you have, which is this 678 00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 1: incredible mind and this incredible acuity and feel for humor 679 00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,160 Speaker 1: and what is funny. And then you're going out into 680 00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:46,360 Speaker 1: the world and you're bumping up against all these things 681 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:48,680 Speaker 1: where you're seeing like that, oh, that piece and that 682 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:50,360 Speaker 1: piece and that piece, and then you're putting them all together. 683 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:53,720 Speaker 1: Because I mean, listen, I'm not just saying this because 684 00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:54,640 Speaker 1: I don't just say stuff. 685 00:28:55,160 --> 00:29:00,200 Speaker 4: Stand up is looking hard. Oh like it's the craziest ever. 686 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:02,520 Speaker 4: And as far as I'm concerned. 687 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:05,640 Speaker 1: If you can do that, yeah, you can do everything anything. 688 00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:08,160 Speaker 1: You should get a cape and you could fly around 689 00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:08,600 Speaker 1: as wherever. 690 00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:13,880 Speaker 6: I really appreciate that, but I'm also I just I 691 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 6: can't totally receive that because if you come from a 692 00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:21,480 Speaker 6: certain thing, it's harder to not stand up's not that hard. 693 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 6: It's like when you like grew up needing to like 694 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,480 Speaker 6: make alcoholics laugh. It's just second nature. I'm not saying 695 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 6: it's like it's hard for people that don't have that 696 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:34,000 Speaker 6: kind of trauma. If you do, you're like, it's it's 697 00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:37,800 Speaker 6: so much harder to not be on stage. Right in 698 00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:40,920 Speaker 6: I Love Do I Matter? You're literally like, do I 699 00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,320 Speaker 6: I matter? Am I complete piece of garbage? 700 00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:44,600 Speaker 7: You know? 701 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 6: And then you go on stage You're like, okay, and 702 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:48,880 Speaker 6: like until tremen just counting the hours to the next 703 00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 6: time you do it. But the help get, the harder 704 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:51,600 Speaker 6: it becomes. 705 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 4: I'll say that, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've heard. I've heard. 706 00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 4: I've heard quite a few people say that, you know, and. 707 00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:59,320 Speaker 6: I think that it's it's I think there's also a 708 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,520 Speaker 6: I also thought, oh, it'll get easier the more I 709 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,680 Speaker 6: do it. It definitely does in some ways in terms 710 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 6: of like I'm better writing jokes clearer, but it doesn't, 711 00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:10,800 Speaker 6: you know, I don't have to sell both of you. Like, 712 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:12,480 Speaker 6: the more successful you get sort of the higher the 713 00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 6: bar gets in. 714 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,640 Speaker 1: A weird way, and it's more scrutiny and all of it. 715 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:19,480 Speaker 6: Yes, and the kind of pressure to be like clever 716 00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:23,480 Speaker 6: and original and different kind of changes and and look, 717 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:26,520 Speaker 6: I'm not I've never played like the girl card of 718 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:28,800 Speaker 6: like you know, stand ups harder because you're a girl. 719 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:31,520 Speaker 6: And dah da da, Like it's you know, it's weird 720 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:33,600 Speaker 6: that it's a male dominated business. I've always found this 721 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,880 Speaker 6: weird because like it is a female skill, Like you're 722 00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:40,640 Speaker 6: you're like going on stage like talking about your feelings 723 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:44,120 Speaker 6: and you're like complaining about your our thing. That's that's 724 00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,440 Speaker 6: an our thing. You want moms on set. They know 725 00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,200 Speaker 6: how to diffuse conflict, They move fast, they know how 726 00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:53,320 Speaker 6: to manage their time, Like when there's a drama, moms 727 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 6: are just like do you need a water? 728 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,080 Speaker 4: That's the thing is that I think that like I 729 00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:57,440 Speaker 4: don't know. 730 00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:00,200 Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like entertainment is a is the 731 00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:03,840 Speaker 1: most interesting to talk about being like that, yea. And 732 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:07,400 Speaker 1: yet I have aunts that are lawyers and judges. I 733 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:11,120 Speaker 1: have friends that are in business and I mean, yeah, 734 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:12,400 Speaker 1: same different shovel. 735 00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,760 Speaker 6: Yeah, but I don't I don't know another I mean 736 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,680 Speaker 6: doctors for sure. But sometimes I'm like, wait, so we 737 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,400 Speaker 6: this is a thing. If you're an actress, I don't 738 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:22,640 Speaker 6: have to tell you this or you're the crew, like 739 00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:24,680 Speaker 6: you do have to get there at six am. You're 740 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:26,880 Speaker 6: in makeup for two women have to be there longer 741 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:30,560 Speaker 6: because to be on camera calk and grout and special effects, 742 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,440 Speaker 6: it's attractive. And then you're there six in the morning 743 00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 6: sometimes till like eleven at night. I mean it is 744 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:38,960 Speaker 6: a wild amount of time. So my thing is always 745 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,800 Speaker 6: just like, let's like does anyone need this much a 746 00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:43,960 Speaker 6: craft service? Like can we just add a couple of 747 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 6: days to the schedule? Can we add a week to 748 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:49,640 Speaker 6: the schedule? Like what is this like time crunch? Let's 749 00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:51,960 Speaker 6: just like spend the money a little differently so that 750 00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,600 Speaker 6: we can have childcare at work and people can go home. 751 00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:55,880 Speaker 3: That would be a dream. 752 00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,120 Speaker 6: People die driving home to Santa Clarita, like, because that's 753 00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:02,720 Speaker 6: the other thing is actor when we wrap, everyone else 754 00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:04,600 Speaker 6: is still has to drive home, and they don't live 755 00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:06,200 Speaker 6: in Beverly. They have to drive an hour, they have 756 00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:07,960 Speaker 6: to drive two hours, you know. So that's what a 757 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:10,000 Speaker 6: lot of these strikes are have been about, which is 758 00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:12,760 Speaker 6: like you can't you don't count my out time as 759 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:15,040 Speaker 6: when I left. It should be when I get home, 760 00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:16,680 Speaker 6: so I can actually get that eight hours of sleep 761 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,040 Speaker 6: turn around, you know, so I just think that, like 762 00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:20,920 Speaker 6: it's like when people like, how come women don't play 763 00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:23,080 Speaker 6: football because it's dumb? And we know it's dumb. 764 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:25,600 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm a little bit more straight about this 765 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:29,000 Speaker 1: stuff because I'm a little bit like I preach, like 766 00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:30,440 Speaker 1: there is no balance. 767 00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:32,680 Speaker 6: Yeah, in any of them. Totally. 768 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,480 Speaker 1: On any given day, I'm gonna have been a better 769 00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:38,600 Speaker 1: mom than I was a worker in whatever I'm working on. 770 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,960 Speaker 1: And another days I work and I come home to 771 00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:45,280 Speaker 1: kids who forgot the eight consecutive days in which I 772 00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:47,720 Speaker 1: was there for every single second and we're. 773 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 3: Like you were, God, all, yeah, of course this is it. 774 00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:52,040 Speaker 4: I'm like, right, I was. 775 00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:52,640 Speaker 6: And you know what. 776 00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,600 Speaker 4: I also never say I never apologize for going to work. 777 00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,160 Speaker 4: I hate it, but I very strong. 778 00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:00,960 Speaker 5: Actually you taught me that, and I ever do don't 779 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:01,880 Speaker 5: ever apologize. 780 00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,400 Speaker 1: I do not say I'm so sorry that I have 781 00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:05,960 Speaker 1: to go to work and I'm so sorry I have 782 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,560 Speaker 1: to leave you to go to work. I well, I'm 783 00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:11,960 Speaker 1: lucky because I love my job. Not every single day, 784 00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:14,760 Speaker 1: but I for the most part love my job, and 785 00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:18,200 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful that I do. And then I'm able 786 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:21,400 Speaker 1: to find my place in it that looking at my 787 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:25,720 Speaker 1: kid and being like, I'm so sorry would send exactly 788 00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:27,880 Speaker 1: the wrong message, because of course I'm always sorry to 789 00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 1: leave them. 790 00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:29,160 Speaker 4: I love being with them. 791 00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 1: I want to smash the litle faces all day long. 792 00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,200 Speaker 1: But I gotta go to work, and I go to 793 00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,280 Speaker 1: work for lots of reasons. It's not a volunteer job. 794 00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:38,960 Speaker 1: I'm compensated for my job. I create value at my job. 795 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:40,160 Speaker 1: I bring home the value. 796 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,800 Speaker 6: We can't apologize girls if we haven't done anything wrong, 797 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:48,320 Speaker 6: because the epidemic of women apologizing sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, 798 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 6: I'm like, what is like, it's I workshop. I had 799 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:53,520 Speaker 6: to do a thirty days no apologizing unless you did 800 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:57,040 Speaker 6: something wrong, because I was like pathological sorry sorry. I 801 00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:58,719 Speaker 6: would run into someone and be like or they'd run 802 00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:00,200 Speaker 6: into me and I'm so sorry I was in your way, 803 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,680 Speaker 6: Like I just you know, it's something that I think 804 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:04,880 Speaker 6: that we like do to make ourselves feel small or 805 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:09,160 Speaker 6: whatever it is. But that's cool, that's real, that's that's gnarly. 806 00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:12,399 Speaker 6: But four and six, that's kind of that's young. Young. 807 00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:13,840 Speaker 4: She's four and seven. 808 00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,600 Speaker 3: In the trenches, baby, I'm in the trees in the trench. 809 00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:18,000 Speaker 3: It's okay, though I can't. 810 00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:20,040 Speaker 4: Wait to watch your show. I know because I'm a 811 00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:20,879 Speaker 4: big Friends fan. 812 00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:22,360 Speaker 3: So let's tell the listen. 813 00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:23,680 Speaker 4: I want you to tell a listener. 814 00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,480 Speaker 6: The Friends, it's like it's like amazing race. But on 815 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,719 Speaker 6: the set of Friends, like Friends Trivia, like everyone that 816 00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:33,120 Speaker 6: I've shown it to because I've watched like cuts, because 817 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,960 Speaker 6: of doing like voiceover whatever, they're like involved and engaged, 818 00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:40,240 Speaker 6: and you know, it's like it's just pure fun, pure bliss, 819 00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:43,480 Speaker 6: no politics, no nothing triggering, nothing, you. 820 00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:45,520 Speaker 3: Know, just where can they watch it? 821 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 6: On? Max? 822 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:47,800 Speaker 4: Max? 823 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:49,600 Speaker 3: And when does it air? What's the first air date? 824 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,160 Speaker 6: It of December? 825 00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,440 Speaker 2: All right, Winnie, thank you so much, Thanks o, my 826 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:58,120 Speaker 2: god so much for coming on and talking about all 827 00:34:58,239 --> 00:34:59,200 Speaker 2: the things with us. 828 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:00,879 Speaker 4: Come on again the time. 829 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,160 Speaker 3: I would love to of course, of course, thank you 830 00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:03,719 Speaker 3: so much. 831 00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:05,840 Speaker 6: Nice to meet you, Samela, get to see you again. 832 00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:09,600 Speaker 2: I was like, oh good, I really am a huge 833 00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:11,879 Speaker 2: Friends man, and I will be trying to win. 834 00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:12,680 Speaker 5: This from my couch. 835 00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:14,239 Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, I didn't. 836 00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,200 Speaker 1: Well, there's a winning there's a winning component. 837 00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:17,360 Speaker 3: It's so interesting. 838 00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:21,440 Speaker 2: I love I do love it when new mamas, you know, 839 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:23,800 Speaker 2: you hear them talk because she's a year into this 840 00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:27,200 Speaker 2: whole parenting situation and they come out and they're already 841 00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 2: pretty confident, I know, do you know what I mean? Like, 842 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:31,920 Speaker 2: I love it when I'm like because I remember just 843 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:36,800 Speaker 2: being so clueless. Still I want to say, like I 844 00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:40,560 Speaker 2: was not feeling it great until almost three, and then 845 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:42,200 Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, I think I'm in some sort 846 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:42,600 Speaker 2: of rhythm. 847 00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:43,919 Speaker 5: I don't even know if it's a right rhythm. 848 00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:47,600 Speaker 1: But she's so fun Yeah, she's so funny and such 849 00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:49,640 Speaker 1: a quick mind. And I love this just all the 850 00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:50,400 Speaker 1: self awareness. 851 00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:50,880 Speaker 7: I know. 852 00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:53,919 Speaker 1: I feel like I came out parenting like with really 853 00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 1: strong and very sort of like binary ideas about how 854 00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:00,879 Speaker 1: things had to be, kind of like when I came 855 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:02,799 Speaker 1: out with the voice that you do for me. When 856 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:06,560 Speaker 1: I found out about the picture, it sound like the 857 00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:07,200 Speaker 1: cookie monster. 858 00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,680 Speaker 3: You can't do ye can do this. 859 00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:12,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like I when I first started this whole, 860 00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:16,200 Speaker 1: this whole, this whole Shenanigan called parenting, I was a 861 00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:18,080 Speaker 1: little more like this is the right way, this is 862 00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:20,760 Speaker 1: the wrong way. And I definitely feel like I've learned 863 00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:25,200 Speaker 1: that there is a spectrum, and I I love I 864 00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:26,799 Speaker 1: don't know, maybe a couple of years ago I heard 865 00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:30,279 Speaker 1: this be said by a dear friend, but it's the 866 00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,319 Speaker 1: idea that you have strong convictions. 867 00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:37,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, held, I like all loose real list, just like 868 00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:41,759 Speaker 4: all three fingers. That's how loose you're holding fall right through. 869 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,319 Speaker 4: If they're not serving you, they're going to fall right up. 870 00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,920 Speaker 4: So you can catch her show on Thursdays on Max. 871 00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,160 Speaker 5: Best Friends and so let's call it the end of 872 00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:53,160 Speaker 5: the episode.