WEBVTT - #121 Hold on, you’ll make it through this 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:04.040 Because your heartbroken. This is really difficult right now for you, 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:07.480 and so we can't compare. It's always relative to where 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:09.959 we are in relation to our story in our life 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:13.720 right now. And for you, this is bad, this is hurting. 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:17.880 You're struggling. You don't know what to do. But this 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:22.040 will go, this will pass, You'll make it through. Hang on, 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:36.360 what's up, guys, Welcome back to the podcast. Thanks for listening, 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:40.400 watching wherever you're coming from, whatever platform you're using to 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.239 tune into the Granger Smith Podcast. I'm so grateful. This 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:46.080 is one of my favorite things that I do, is 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:48.919 to do this podcast and then to see the reaction 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:51.599 when I post it, and then to see the emails 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:53.800 come in. What we do on here is I answer 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:57.360 your question. So if you have a question about anything, 0:00:57.480 --> 0:01:02.160 email Granger Smith Podcast asked at gmail dot com. Could 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:04.800 be about any subject you'll find out today. We're all 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:06.840 over the map. If you've listened to a bunch of 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.800 these episodes, thanks for coming back. If you're brand new, 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:13.040 hang tight, because we get into some deep stuff and 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:16.520 you could ask me a question about anything. My life 0:01:16.800 --> 0:01:23.160 has been crazy lately. I have so many balls that 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:27.800 I'm juggling I've been doing a few tour dates, I've 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:31.119 been doing a few speaking engagements. I'm shooting a movie, 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:35.440 I'm doing this podcast, I'm doing the Smiths vlog on YouTube, 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:39.560 and I'm hosting a radio show called After Midnight. So 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:42.760 you might have heard, you might have heard from me 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:46.640 or heard of me through one of those platforms, but regardless, 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:48.920 I'm glad you're here with me because this is a 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:52.000 special one to me on Monday mornings. Let's get right 0:01:52.040 --> 0:01:55.280 into the first question. First question says hello, I am Zach. 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:59.400 Recently moved to Wyoming from Colorado, graduated high school early, 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:02.080 and have some options in front of me. I'm not 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:04.720 sure which one to choose. I work at a small 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:07.120 chain of grocery stores, and I have a good relationship 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:09.959 with the store owner, who has offered a corporate level 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:12.040 job for me, where i'd be making good money and 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:16.280 learning a ton. I also have a passion for music, guitar, harmonica, 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:20.120 and singing. I've considered becoming a worship director at a church. However, 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:22.600 many churches require a college degree, which is something I'm 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:26.560 not interested in. I also build guitars and find peace 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:29.079 in woodworking. Woodworking is where I like to talk to 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:31.359 God the most and meditate on things that are going 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:34.160 on in my life. I'm not sure if I should 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:37.960 shoot big, go to college, or work at a corporate level. 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:41.280 I'm going to fork in the road. Thank you so much, Zach, 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:47.200 what's up brother? Thanks for emailing Zach, and thanks for thanks, 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:51.080 Thanks for trusting me with something so serious in your life. 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:53.400 Just big, fork in the Road. Shout out to Colorado. 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:57.440 Love love my people from Colorado and Wyoming. Also it's 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:01.920 a good state too. You've got a great question here, 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:04.360 and I think a lot of people can relate to this. 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.120 I don't have any notes in front of me. I've 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:10.560 not prepped for any of this stuff. So like we 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:12.840 do on these questions on this podcast, is I'm going 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:15.120 to walk through this as if you and I are 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:18.080 just sitting at a campfire together. You know, it's getting late, 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.160 fire is starting to burn down. I'm sitting there around 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:24.520 the fire and you walk up, Zach, and you go, man, 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:26.680 can I run something by it? And we just take 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:28.760 our time and I'm going to tell you my opinion 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:30.600 on it, and we're gonna talk to them. Not always right, 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:33.840 but I'm going to tell you the best that I 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:36.560 know how of this situation from what I know, from 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:40.840 what you've told me, and all I could really do 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:43.920 with your question, Zach, is related to my life. What 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.160 would I do, Zach? That's what I would say, what 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:51.280 would I do? In your situation? And I've been to 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:55.720 many forks in the road. The best that I can 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:59.960 tell you is what I've learned is if I'm int 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:02.960 some kind of fork, and if I'm I'm doubting something 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:05.920 in my life, and I need to make a decision 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:08.800 based on just the facts laid out in front of me, 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:14.720 and I've I've responsibly done my research about these options, 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:17.800 the different forks in the road. I'm talking pen and paper. 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:21.640 I'm talking the old school man piece of paper. Here's 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:25.200 option A, Here's Option B, Here's Option C. Here's here's 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:27.560 the good from A, Here's the bad from A, here's 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.080 the good from B, the bad from B, and just 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:32.920 write it out, you know, pen and paper, just digging 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:36.080 through it. And what I like to what I like 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:38.000 to know from myself is I like to I like 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:42.680 to get a reading on how I'm reacting to the 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:47.760 different options. And this is this is harder to do 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:53.480 than say, including my life now, But if I get 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:57.800 nervous about something, if I get a little bit uh 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:03.240 butterflies in my stomach right like, ooh, that option makes 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:06.839 me a little nervous. That option is going to require 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:11.240 a lot of effort. That option has a big payoff, 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:14.279 but it's going to be a big time commitment for me. 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:18.360 And then there's another option where I go, ah, man, 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:21.000 that one does not make me nervous. That one makes 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:25.560 me feel at ease. That one feels peaceful when I 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:27.719 just look at it on the page. I'm not going 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:29.479 to have to do much to get into it. And 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:31.600 I know once I get it, I'm just going to 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:38.760 be It's going to be so easy. I have found 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:43.160 Zach through life. If you choose the harder road, the 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:46.520 one that makes you nervous, the one that requires the effort, 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:51.440 and you do this over and over. At every fork 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:54.359 you come to another fork, there's the road, there's the 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:57.120 easy road that's going to lead to some peace, and 0:05:57.200 --> 0:06:00.160 there's another road that's going to lead to some work. 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:04.320 But the payoffice could be crazy, could be crazy good. 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:09.400 Continue to lean into the one that's harder, And the 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:11.680 more times you do that, the more times you're separating 0:06:11.720 --> 0:06:16.920 your life from the ordinary, and thirty years down the road, 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.640 when you look back on your life and you're looking 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:23.839 and you're you're talking with your friends and they're like, Zach, 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:27.720 your life is insane. Look at all this stuff you 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:30.640 got going on. Look at the track record you've built, 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:33.120 look at the look at the friends and family that 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:38.360 you've influenced. How did you do all this? Well? The answer, Zach, 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:40.919 For you and for me and for everybody listening, the 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:44.440 answer is never, I'm just good like that, bro, I'm 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:47.520 just good. I'm really talented, or man, I'm just really smart, 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:50.520 or I'm just man, I just I got a knack 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:55.480 for this. It's never that. The answer is always, I 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:59.279 took a path a long time ago that I was 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:04.320 nervous about. It was difficult, that took effort. I took 0:07:04.360 --> 0:07:07.080 the path. I leaned into it, and I took it. 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:09.200 You know, you could only eat an elephant one bite 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:12.119 at a time. I took it one bite at a time, 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:18.760 And slowly those bites get easier and easier, and that 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:23.080 hard road becomes more clear and more paved for your feet, 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:27.160 and you're able to walk through life like this and 0:07:27.200 --> 0:07:31.720 look back and go, I have so much to be 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:34.320 grateful for it so much, to be thankful for so 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:37.440 many stories to tell because of the path that I 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:40.720 took was harder, and so one of the first key 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:42.640 things you could realize through that is what makes you 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:45.520 what makes you a little nervous. And I'm reading your 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:50.640 question and you're saying, I like woodworking because that's where 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:52.720 I could have peace with God and meditate on things 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:56.320 that are going on in my life. Man, I feel 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:59.600 that everyone listening feels that, like we all feel that. 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:04.160 But that's a hobby, and you need woodworking, And I 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.760 encourage you to keep woodworking in your life because if 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.080 that's the place you talk to God, if that's the 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:11.119 place you could meditate on what's going on in your life, 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:14.000 don't get rid of it. But I'm telling you I 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:15.600 don't think you should make a career out of it. 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:19.000 I think a career is different. You're young, you just 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:22.000 got out of high school. You're ready to blaze a trail, 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:25.280 follow the path of your ancestors that came over here 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:30.800 to this country. You think about your ancestors, the ones 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:33.400 that first came over on the boat, whatever boat it was. 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:39.000 Think about that decision as they packed up in Europe 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:42.960 or Asia, or Africa or South America, wherever they came 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:47.200 from to end up here in North America. Whenever that was. 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:51.720 Imagine that feeling that they had, And imagine if they thought, 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:55.440 you know what, I'm just going to stay here in 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:59.719 this village because this is easier. I don't want to 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:02.280 have to go to a new land and meet new 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:05.280 people and fight for land and fight for a job, 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.439 and fight for an existence and carve out my path 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:11.000 for my family. It's that sounds a lot like a 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:12.959 lot of work, and that makes me nervous just thinking 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:16.880 about it. What if they had said that that's you 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:20.800 and woodworking. So I would make that list and I'll 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:23.880 get your options out. And the one that buzzes you, 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:27.160 the one that you go ooh, that gives me a 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:29.480 little that gooses me a little bit, that gives me 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:32.880 a little goosebump man that that gives that gives me 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:37.000 those butterflies, Like that makes me nervous, then maybe that 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:42.840 one's right. I have done this so many times. I've 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:47.440 done this, and my earthly brain tells me so many 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:51.240 times to take the easy path. I'm shooting this movie 0:09:51.280 --> 0:09:54.400 right now. I'm not an actor, there's my first movie 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:56.679 I've ever been in and it's a major role. It's 0:09:56.679 --> 0:10:01.120 the main role of the film, meaning it's a lot lines, 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.079 it's a lot of script is mine, it's a lot 0:10:04.080 --> 0:10:09.840 of time. And when I first had this opportunity, my 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:13.559 first thought was no, no, no, no, I have too 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.400 much going on, right. I got the podcast, I got touring, 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:21.319 I got songwriting, I got this radio show. Ugh that 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:24.200 a movie thing just doesn't really fit on the plate. 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:30.600 It makes me nervous, Okay, okay, So I leaned into that. 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:33.920 I started the movie a few days in the shooting. 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.280 Guess what I thought. This is a lot of work. 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:41.280 I even told Amber, I said, this is this is 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:44.160 making me nervous, this is this is hard. Like I'm 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:45.880 sitting on the plane. I was just i just flew 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:48.720 to Ohio for a show. I'm sitting on the plane 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:51.280 just studying my lines. And as I'm studying my lines, 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:56.439 I'm getting I'm getting anxious, nervous. I'm not talking about 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.760 anxiety or stress. I'm not stressed about it. I just 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:02.280 get like a butterfly, feeling like right before I walk 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:04.960 out into a really big stage, I get this little tingle, 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:07.959 you know, and I go, WHOA, that's the feeling I 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:09.760 get when I'm reading the script. And I told Amber this. 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:14.000 I said, it's hard. And then I said, but I 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:17.199 say on the podcast all the time, do hard things. 0:11:17.400 --> 0:11:20.959 Lean into the hard things. That's your barometers. Act, that's 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:25.520 your barometer. I would encourage you to try this, and 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:30.640 then once you take the path, the harder path, there's 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:32.959 gonna be another one after that, and you're gonna have 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:35.240 to choose again. And when you do that six or 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:37.400 seven or eight times, you are going to be so 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:40.240 far separated from the normal, ordinary life that you could 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:43.320 have lived. I'm not talking about comparing yourself with others. 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:47.600 I'm talking about comparing yourself to the version of yourself 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:51.560 that takes the easy path. And one day you're gonna 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:53.280 sit there as an old man and you're going to 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:55.319 look back on all this. You're going to look back 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:57.720 on the mountain of life that you climbed. You're going 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:02.079 to look back on your trail and your journey. When 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:04.440 you're looking at that mountain, you're looking down at that trail, 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:07.600 Which one do you want to see that you took 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:14.800 the easy one? I have a hard one. The choice 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:20.760 is yours. Let's scoot around here. Let's grabe another question. 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:25.640 This one's from Ian. It says saying, Heyhidi Grangeer. I'm Ian. 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.280 I'm fourteen years old from Pennsylvania. Just started watching. I 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:30.120 would like to say I'm a big fan of listening 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:34.199 to your podcast. I also enjoy on my bus to school. 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:36.720 I enjoyed the podcast on the bus to school and 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:39.000 it helps me pass the time. Anyway, I just wanted 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:42.079 to say, when is the next Restoring Earl's Truck going 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:45.000 to be out? Because I enjoy watching it. Thank you brother, 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:49.439 Thank you Ian. Shout out to Pennsylvania. I wish I 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.960 could give you a quick answer on this this I'm 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:55.200 restoring this old nineteen seventy four GMC truck that was 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:57.600 my dad's that he gave to me, that I had 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.320 when I was sixteen. It was my first truck. I 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:02.760 drove it sat and it was in a bunch of 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:07.559 Earl Dibbles videos and music videos, and it started sitting 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:11.680 in mom's barn. And after dad passed in twenty fourteen 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:17.600 and I was getting busy with touring, I didn't get 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:19.920 to give that truck some love, and it just sat 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:22.160 in the barn and just died, you know. You know trucks, 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:25.679 old trucks do they just they get mud daubers in there, 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:28.040 and they get mice to chew up lines, and eventually 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:29.680 you go out there one day and it won't start, 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:31.679 and you've got to start digging through to figure out 0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:34.080 what's going on. So when the pandemic hit, I went 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:36.240 out there and tried to start it and couldn't. So 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:38.480 I put it on a flatbed trailer and took it 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.440 to the Yege farm and I got Butcher Bull, my 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:43.480 two bus drivers, and I said, hey, we're off tour 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:46.600 right now. We got some time during this pandemic. Let's 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:52.520 create a YouTube series restoring this seventy four GMC. Well, technically, 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:54.520 first we just wanted to get it started, get it running. 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:56.600 That was the goal. Let's get it running. And then 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:59.080 we got it running, we thought, well, you know, as 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:03.200 we're pulling the engine, pulling different pieces out, pulling the clutch, 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:06.320 getting new parts, we thought, well, now that we're down here, 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:09.080 we're in the engine, we might as well pull that out. Now, 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:12.200 let's get to the transmission. Now let's clean let's clean 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.679 that up. Now, well we're by the frame, we might 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:18.400 as well take the cab off and grind down the 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:20.520 frame and then repaint it. And then once we did that, 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:22.320 we're like, well, we might as well get new exhaust. 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:24.880 And then we thought, okay, let's take the bed and 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:28.160 the cabin and the tailgate in the hood, and let's 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:30.040 get some of this rust off of it, and let's 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:32.680 paint it. And it ended up being a full restoration. 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:36.000 So it's taken a lot longer than I thought. I mean, 0:14:36.040 --> 0:14:38.520 we're over a year into it now, but I think 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:41.400 we're really close. I think we're really close, and I 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:44.160 can't wait to finish this truck and share it with 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:46.880 you on my YouTube page. But thank you for karen 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:50.320 Ian and thanks thanks for giving me the shout out. Brother. 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:55.720 All right, scrolling right along. I have no idea what 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:57.640 these are going to say, Guys, I'm telling you, I 0:14:57.640 --> 0:15:00.080 don't know what I'm getting into. I'm just clicking away 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:05.000 subject line struggles. Hey Grainger, your my name is Alan, 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:08.360 I'm from Alabama. I've listened to your music a lot 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:10.120 over the last few years, but I got into your 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:13.080 podcast because of a TikTok. There was nothing short of 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:16.040 a sign. For the last four years, me and my 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:18.400 wife have been trying to have a baby. It's been 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:21.120 an emotional roller coaster. Last year, we finally got good 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:23.280 news that she was pregnant, but at her appointment to 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:26.240 see the child, there was no child to be seen. 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:30.800 They had to go in and remove our child and 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:34.080 the tube. Since then, we've gotten pregnant again and my 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:35.800 wife is doing well. The only thing is I have 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:39.600 this crippling fear that it's too good to be true. 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:43.000 I'm reaching out for ways to deal with this kind 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:47.280 of fear and how to know how to be there 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:55.080 for my wife. God bless you guys, Alan, Thank you 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:57.360 for the question. Brother shout out to Alabama, thanks for 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.840 the thanks for listening and the kind words, and it's 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:04.240 great question. And I feel your brother that this is 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:09.200 a what you said here is you used crippling, crippling fear. 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:15.760 What this boils down to essentially, and we could we 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:18.680 could tackle this kind of question all different ways, and 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.160 I could hit you with all kinds of worldly peace 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:25.920 and ways to manage it, ways to manage this and 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:29.800 to a manageable level. But what really boils down to 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:33.640 the very core of your question is lack of trust 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:39.120 in God. And you might be thinking, well, my dude, 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:43.160 trust God but not. I mean, but you don't really 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:47.800 And I'm not knocking you because I could relate to you. 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:50.840 So we're all in this boat at some level. But 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:54.040 anytime we have a crippling fear or it's some kind 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:57.320 of crippling stress or anxiety, that that is based on 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:01.720 something that hasn't even happened. Yeah, right, Like when when 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:06.960 you're terrified, say you're you're terrified to drive on the highway, 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:09.240 but you've never even been in a wreck before. Maybe 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:13.000 you're terrified of airplanes, but you've never been in an 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:16.280 airplane crash. So there's this kind of crippling fear of 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:20.240 something that hasn't happened. And that's that's you. You you 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:23.440 have your wife is pregnant, but you have this crippling 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:27.440 fear of a bad result of something that hasn't happened yet. 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:31.359 And it boils down to a lack of trust in 0:17:31.440 --> 0:17:35.399 God that he is sovereign, that he's that he has 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:40.360 a purpose, that your struggle through the lost child is 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:46.320 not meaningless, it's meaningful. It is preparing you for something. 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:49.560 And this is what the Bible says, that you're you're 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:59.600 your struggle, your tribulation is not meaningless. It is preparing 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:05.600 you for something, right, how well, the same way that anything, 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:09.600 any kind of adversity prepares us. I mean take football. 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:14.520 You take a Super Bowl champ and as they hold 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:18.400 up that trophy with tears in their eyes, why why 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:21.080 does the football player hold up a trophy when they 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:24.560 win the Super Bowl and cry like why would you cry? What? 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:27.080 People look at the TV and go, why's this grown 0:18:27.160 --> 0:18:29.880 man crying and he's holding a trophy. Well, I'll tell 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:33.840 you why he's crying. He's crying because in game two 0:18:33.880 --> 0:18:39.240 they lost, They lost terribly. In Game four, their starting 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:43.560 running back broke his ankle and was tough on the team. 0:18:44.720 --> 0:18:46.600 In Game six, they went into overtime with a team 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:49.359 they shouldn't have gone into overtime with, and they struggled. 0:18:49.640 --> 0:18:51.439 In Game eight, that was the game, it rained and 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:54.399 it was muddy, and they barely made it out. And 0:18:54.440 --> 0:18:57.720 they had those practices where it was hot or cold, 0:18:57.760 --> 0:19:00.840 and they came together as a team and they earned unity, 0:19:01.080 --> 0:19:04.159 and they learned through each other through adversity, through the 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:08.159 personal disagreements with each other in the locker room and 0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:11.320 on the practice field, they learned to come together cohesive 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:15.160 as a team, and they came out victorious in the end. 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:19.400 On all those struggles, you take them away. Take away 0:19:19.440 --> 0:19:21.639 the losses, take away the injuries, take away the muddy field, 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:25.320 take away the overtime game, take away that the disagreements 0:19:25.320 --> 0:19:28.040 in the practice. Take all that away, and then hold 0:19:28.119 --> 0:19:30.399 up the trophy. And it's just a trophy. It doesn't 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:32.919 really matter. It was an easy year. We didn't have 0:19:32.960 --> 0:19:36.400 any fight. It was we just blew. We breathed through it. Yay, 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:40.040 we won a super Bowl. Nothing. No emotion. Take any 0:19:40.080 --> 0:19:43.480 movie for example, any movie that you've ever seen where 0:19:43.480 --> 0:19:46.600 you felt like crying at the end. Why did you cry? 0:19:46.720 --> 0:19:49.240 Why did you want Maybe maybe not a crier, but 0:19:49.359 --> 0:19:53.119 maybe you wanted to cry. Maybe your girlfriend cried alan 0:19:54.280 --> 0:19:58.320 But why do you cry at a movie? You cry 0:19:58.400 --> 0:20:01.879 because of the redemption that the story brings, because of 0:20:01.960 --> 0:20:08.320 the struggle or the loss or the brokenness that the 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:12.439 story built in the movie, and through the redemption of 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:16.199 that character when it came together and it came together 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:19.359 for good in the end, and you want to cry 0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:24.800 because you feel that struggle. That's why they're struggled, That's 0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:28.600 why there's redemption, and that's why your story. That's why 0:20:28.760 --> 0:20:32.240 the loss of this first child, that's why it matters. 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:36.840 That's why it's preparing you for something. It's refining you. 0:20:37.359 --> 0:20:42.280 It's like fire. It's burning you like gold and silver. 0:20:42.359 --> 0:20:44.919 So when you come out the other side of the fire, 0:20:45.359 --> 0:20:49.080 that gold is purified, it's better, it's refined. It's in 0:20:49.119 --> 0:20:51.600 a better state than it was before the fire. All 0:20:51.640 --> 0:20:55.000 the tarnish is gone, all the residue is gone. The 0:20:55.080 --> 0:20:58.320 fire made it pure, and that's what struggled us. For us, 0:20:58.960 --> 0:21:01.920 so we don't fear the future something that hasn't happened yet. 0:21:03.240 --> 0:21:05.600 We trust God that he has a plan, he has 0:21:05.640 --> 0:21:09.560 a purpose for us, and that this pregnancy, if this 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:13.320 pregnancy right now, if it doesn't work out the way 0:21:13.320 --> 0:21:18.480 you want it to, and it might not, it's a 0:21:18.480 --> 0:21:21.320 part of your story. It's a part of your refinement 0:21:22.480 --> 0:21:27.240 and you'll be better for it. And in the meantime, 0:21:28.200 --> 0:21:31.440 you'd be grateful that you're pregnant. There's so many people 0:21:31.440 --> 0:21:34.400 that want to be pregnant and they're not. So many 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:38.160 people want children and they can't, and here you have 0:21:38.240 --> 0:21:43.320 this little baby grown inside of her. That's how you 0:21:43.320 --> 0:21:45.920 can be there for your wife. That's how you could 0:21:45.960 --> 0:21:48.600 be there for her, say say, babe, I just I 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:52.679 want to tell you, I'm so proud of you for 0:21:52.760 --> 0:21:55.440 what you're going through. This little baby growing inside you 0:21:55.520 --> 0:21:58.960 and you're taking care of it in this motherly way 0:21:59.000 --> 0:22:02.760 that I can't understand stand as a husband. And I'm 0:22:02.760 --> 0:22:05.159 so grateful that you're my wife. I'm so grateful that 0:22:05.600 --> 0:22:09.080 we're going through this together. 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