1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:02,960 Speaker 1: I want to kick my husband's parents to the streets. 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: What they do to me is unacceptable. Am I the 3 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: a hole man? You're really trying to kick Cranny and 4 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 1: grandpaow here on the streets, just like with their dentures 5 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: falling out like p don't do it to me, goddamn. 6 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: Give granny some peace or maybe not. Let's see why 7 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: I female twenty six, and my husband male twenty seven 8 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: live with his parents. Didn't mean to emphasize that, but uh, 9 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,559 Speaker 1: good for you, guys, I tell a kid all now, 10 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: his father has had some health issues and needed some care, 11 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:39,239 Speaker 1: and we agreed to move in to help out. Well, 12 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: that makes a lot of sense. Father in law is 13 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: generally doing better now. That's great, but there's still a 14 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 1: few things he can't do anymore that my husband does now. Instead, 15 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: we've discussed moving out. I want to, but my in 16 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: laws are very resistant to the idea, stating that there's 17 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: plenty of room here and they don't know what they 18 00:00:57,280 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: do without us, et cetera. While well, we don't pay 19 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: as parents to live here. Their decision. We pay for 20 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: groceries for everyone and several household bills, including electricity, internet, 21 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: TV packages, et cetera. The house mortgage is free, which 22 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: I'm guessing means it's paid off. I also do all 23 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: the household cleaning and cooking. I arrange and take all 24 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: the pets to their veterinary appointments too. I do work 25 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: from home, so this is a bit easier for me 26 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: as I'm able to be flexible. We also pay half 27 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:34,559 Speaker 1: of any house modifications slash upgrades, as it'll be our 28 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: house one day. Recently, I've begun to feel resentful of 29 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 1: the fact that once they are all done with work, 30 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: they can come home and relax, whereas I finish work 31 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: and have to cook, clean and have no help. Y'all, 32 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: we've seen this. We've seen this more and more recently. Actually, 33 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's a trend or these stories 34 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: are just finding us, but more and more where the 35 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: woman has to do all the work. Why I hate it? 36 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 1: John the feminist over here, whoo. On weekends I spend 37 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: half the day cleaning the house while they do what 38 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 1: they want. I'm such a big proponent of like get 39 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: someone into help clean. Why should we waste our valuable 40 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: time and life cleaning? Albeit coming from someone who ends 41 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: up cleaning a lot on the weekends and just generally 42 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 1: throughout the week. I just don't think it's the best 43 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: use of our time and energy. I'm trying to get 44 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: back on that, trying to get back on getting that 45 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: out of the way and just kind of like paying 46 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 1: someone to help do that and just enjoying life a 47 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: little bit more, you know what I mean. This all 48 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: came to a head last week. I was really unwell. 49 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: I felt the worst I've ever felt, and wanted nothing 50 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: more than to sleep. However, once it got around to 51 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: dinner time, I was awoken by my mother in law 52 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: to ask what I was getting up to make dinner? 53 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 2: Have you heard a door dash? 54 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 3: Granny? Google it. 55 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 1: I didn't want to cause an argument, so I just 56 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:11,640 Speaker 1: got up and made dinner for them. But as I 57 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: was in the kitchen struggling not to pass out, the 58 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: three of them sat watching a movie waiting for me 59 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: to bring in their food. Okay, like the dad and 60 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: the mom, I understand more because they have it seems 61 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 1: like some health issues that they need Opie and Opie's 62 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 1: husband to like be there with them. But Hubby, Hobby, habbi, Ti, 63 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: what are we doing? Come on, buddy, do better? I 64 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: didn't say anything At first, I waited until my husband 65 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:45,720 Speaker 1: and I were alone to bring in my concerns with 66 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: the lack of help. My husband apologized and offered to 67 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: help more, which I accepted, but the next day ho 68 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 1: an exact repeat. I had to drag myself out of 69 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: bed to cook, and once I've brung them their food, 70 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 1: my mother in law says, oh, look. 71 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 2: How truly awful poor you. 72 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: Oh, by the way, later, would you mind giving everyone 73 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: an extra clean I don't want to get whatever you. 74 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 3: Have, godly geez, at. 75 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:19,040 Speaker 1: Which point I accused them of treating me like a 76 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,280 Speaker 1: living maid and not caring about me outside of the 77 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: services I provide for them. I pointed out that I 78 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: wouldn't be in the communal areas if I hadn't been 79 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: dragged out to cook, and that they could have handled 80 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: one meal themselves. My husband sat there in silence. He 81 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:38,040 Speaker 1: thinks I should have brought it up more carefully at 82 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: a time when I wasn't so emotional. I agreed that 83 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 1: I probably should have, but I was sick and stressed. 84 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 1: I want to move out, but husband and in laws 85 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: are still against it. Nothing has changed with what they 86 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 1: expect from me. I got no apology, just silent treatment 87 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 1: from mother in law for a couple of days. So 88 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 1: am I the ahole and we're going to get get 89 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 1: into it. There's a few quick comments. Thank you for 90 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 1: all the comments. This is my first post, so I'm 91 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: not sure if this is the best way, but I'm 92 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 1: going to address some of the questions. 93 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 3: Here we go. 94 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 1: It didn't start off with me doing everything before we 95 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:13,159 Speaker 1: moved in with my in laws. My husband and I 96 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 1: split everything equally and that worked great. Once we moved here, 97 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: I picked up a bunch of the household chores because 98 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,559 Speaker 1: I work from home and I'm here, it just made sense. 99 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:26,359 Speaker 1: Slowly over time, There's just been things added here and there, 100 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: and that snowballed into the current situation. I have stood 101 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:32,920 Speaker 1: up for myself a few times, but it's an incredibly 102 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 1: difficult situation. I'm very aware this is not my house. 103 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 1: They are not my parents, and the things I would 104 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: say to my own parents are not the same I 105 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 1: feel I could say to his. I moved across the 106 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 1: country before we got married. None of my friends are here. 107 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: Most of my closest friends are my husband's friends, wives, 108 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: et cetera. I don't have any family nearby. I've always 109 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:58,279 Speaker 1: felt as though if I pushed too hard, it would 110 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 1: be everyone against me. And I didn't realize before now 111 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: how toxic of an environment that is. The inheritance of 112 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:08,039 Speaker 1: the house isn't something I want or need. This was 113 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: never supposed to be a long term thing, and I 114 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: guess I've just felt pressure to contribute to certain things 115 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 1: involving the house because we do live here, and my 116 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 1: husband will get the house one day. He's only a child. 117 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: Damn call him to He'll be a child. All right, Ope, okay, Ope, okay, 118 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: So let's take a little break real quick. So all right, 119 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: let's break this down. So OPI has basically been snowballed 120 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 1: into the position that she is in now where just 121 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 1: because she was staying at home, just because she was there, 122 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:42,160 Speaker 1: more and more and more was added onto her plate. 123 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: It seemed like she had an equal split before all 124 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:48,039 Speaker 1: this happened, so that was okay, but now it is 125 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: not to me. I feel like the husband is not 126 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: really hearing her out. I think he should have tried 127 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:58,720 Speaker 1: to tackle this earlier, Like I think it's fair and 128 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 1: reasonable to expect someone to notice. But also I could 129 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 1: see where maybe he wouldn't. Maybe it slips under his radar. 130 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 1: Maybe he's woefully blissfully ignorant and just like kicking his 131 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: feet up and just eating eating popcorn and watching movies 132 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: all day long while his wife is doing all the chores. 133 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:18,280 Speaker 1: But I think the big thing is once she brings 134 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 1: it up, and maybe he's like, okay, like, yeah, maybe 135 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 1: that was maybe that wasn't the best place to bring 136 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 1: it up, but you know what, you know what, the 137 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: most important thing here, the point of it is that 138 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 1: you are doing more than you should be doing and 139 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: trying to like figure out a plan. It seems like 140 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 1: nothing changed from there, So I'm kind of like, yo, 141 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 1: why aren't we like figuring out a plan to kind 142 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:41,440 Speaker 1: of even things out a little bit more. I'm curious 143 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: on what y'all think in the comments. What should OPI 144 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: do right now? Should Op just like stop doing all 145 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: the chores? We had a recent story where someone did that. 146 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: Should Op just kind of like force her hand try 147 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 1: to move out? 148 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 3: I don't know. 149 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 1: Let me know what you think in the comments, but 150 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: let's get into the next part. Overall, it's just been 151 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: very eye opening to realize maybe I'm not being silly 152 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: as I often am made to think all the little 153 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:07,239 Speaker 1: things spiral into one big mess, and my husband should 154 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: be sticking up for me, not contributing to the problem. 155 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:14,559 Speaker 1: Like your bye said, I've tried talking to him about 156 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: things several times, and he'll be helpful for a couple 157 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: of days before resorting back to mummies. Littil prince, I 158 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: know I've been needing to get it out for a while. 159 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: I think it's the push I needed to make such 160 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 1: a massive life decision. Thank you, Reddit and final response 161 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 1: to a comment, what exactly is it that your husband 162 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: does that your father in law can't do? Opie says 163 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:40,320 Speaker 1: At this point, I say he's recovered enough that he 164 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 1: should be able to do most things, but it's mostly 165 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:46,200 Speaker 1: walking his dog. Anything that involves any sort of lifting, 166 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: nothing that couldn't be done by outside sources if we 167 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: were to leave. Okay, So yeah, it seems like, you know, 168 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 1: okay walking the dogs. Get a dog walker, and you know, 169 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:00,439 Speaker 1: I could see op wanting to be there with the parents. 170 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 1: I don't know that that's necessarily the issue, like being 171 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:06,200 Speaker 1: close to the parents. It's the fact that the parents 172 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:10,520 Speaker 1: are treating them this way. So how can you keep 173 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:13,920 Speaker 1: your wife in this environment? And I think the biggest thing. 174 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 1: It's not even keeping her there. It's not even trying, 175 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 1: not even being like, yo, yeah, let's try to figure 176 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: something out. Where can I help to pitch in. Maybe 177 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 1: there are some things that they can do. They aren't 178 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: paying rent, which I am guessing some people will kind 179 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:33,559 Speaker 1: of point out, but also the mortgage is paid for, 180 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: so it's like, yeah, usually someone would pay rent, but 181 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: if the house is paid for, you're probably just paying 182 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:42,240 Speaker 1: for property taxes other things like that. It's very very 183 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 1: little as far as the actual costs with the house, 184 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: So if there aren't that many costs to incur, I 185 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: don't know how much of a favorite is that the 186 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: in laws are doing for Op versus what Op and 187 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: her husband are doing for the in laws. 188 00:09:58,360 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 3: And I think she. 189 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 2: Deserves a little bit of a little bit of a break. 190 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,840 Speaker 1: I feel like there's one hundred different things that they 191 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: could do to try to remedy this, but the fact 192 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: that they're just kind of ignoring it. The mother in 193 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: law is given the cold shoulder. I'm not liking the vibes. 194 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 1: But let's get into the updates. I'm not really sure 195 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 1: how to best go about updating, but I guess here 196 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 1: is as good as any. Firstly, thank you to everyone 197 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:21,839 Speaker 1: that reached out. I haven't been able to get back 198 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: to everyone, but I did read every message. 199 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 3: Now for the part you are wanting, crave. 200 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 1: After making this post, I started putting my wages into 201 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: my own bank account. I removed all of my savings 202 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 1: from our joint savings account and transferred everything into my 203 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: own safety account just in case. All right, things are 204 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 1: things are getting serious here. This turned out to be 205 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 1: the best decision because I found out I was pregnant 206 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 1: what roughly two weeks after this post. Man, I mean 207 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,959 Speaker 1: talk about talk about timing, that is career. I'd been 208 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: told at fifteen that due to some medical conditions, I'd 209 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:06,680 Speaker 1: never be able to get pregnant naturally, so it was 210 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 1: a complete shock. Once I had a scan to check 211 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: if everything was okay. Thankfully it was. We told my 212 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 1: in laws and this is what gave me the final 213 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: shove I needed. But I see you in the comments 214 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: if you know where this is going. Immediately, names are 215 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: being thrown around, and my mother started talking about going 216 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:32,680 Speaker 1: and reducing her hours to part time slash early retirement 217 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: so she could be around to raise the baby. This 218 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:39,840 Speaker 1: rubbed me completely. The wrong way. I didn't want anyone 219 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:44,000 Speaker 1: else raising my baby. Colors for the nursery and themes, etc. 220 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: Were all being discussed constantly, but never with me or 221 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: my opinions being taken into consideration, and with a week 222 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:58,200 Speaker 1: I felt I was just an incubator. Bruh, I'm just 223 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 1: a sack of meat keeping this little thing alive. The 224 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:06,960 Speaker 1: final straw happened when myself, my husband's cousin female twenty nine, 225 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 1: and my mother in law went shopping. I had been 226 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 1: looking at the different kind of breast pumps before being 227 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: told that I would be bottle feeding so everyone could 228 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 1: help out. 229 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 3: Guys, have you heard of this thing called a line? 230 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 1: Like? 231 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 2: Have you heard of this thing called asking. 232 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 3: People what they want? Hey? Yo? 233 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:30,079 Speaker 1: I didn't want to cause a scene in the middle 234 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:33,400 Speaker 1: of the shop, so I moved onto outfits, but everything 235 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:36,000 Speaker 1: I picked up or looked at was either the wrong 236 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 1: color or style or something. I'd picked out one outfit 237 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 1: which would be my first baby purchase, and my mother 238 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 1: in law snatched it out of my hands before I 239 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 1: could pay, telling me that it was the wrong sort 240 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: of outfit, it wasn't gender neutral enough, and if the 241 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: baby is a boylike we're hoping then it's far too feminine. 242 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 3: Oh god, no, thank you. 243 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 1: I didn't need to be told what I could and 244 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 1: couldn't dress my own child in. Nor did I appreciate 245 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:08,000 Speaker 1: the suggestion that they would all prefer a boy let 246 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:09,719 Speaker 1: alone being told how I would be. 247 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:12,319 Speaker 3: Feeding my child. So I left. 248 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: I tried talking to my husband on three separate occasions, 249 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 1: and he either made excuses or blew me off entirely. 250 00:13:20,360 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 1: I couldn't handle it anymore. Oh wait a second, I 251 00:13:25,559 --> 00:13:28,319 Speaker 1: thought she meant like she left the store or something, 252 00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:34,400 Speaker 1: but she's like leaving, leaving ding. I packed my bags 253 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 1: and went to stay with my sister for a week. 254 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 1: My husband called once and asked me to go home. 255 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: Once I made it clear I wouldn't be returning to 256 00:13:43,679 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 1: live in that house, that I would raise my baby 257 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 1: on my own if he didn't want to leave, but 258 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:51,440 Speaker 1: I would not allow my child to be raised in 259 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:53,079 Speaker 1: such a toxic environment. 260 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 2: As a big surprise. 261 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 3: To no one, he stayed put. 262 00:13:57,440 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: And after that I got spam with texts in the 263 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 1: family group chat, but I left and deleted them all. 264 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 1: I've started the divorce process, and hopefully, as I've saved 265 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 1: every disgusting message from either my ex or his family 266 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 1: about both myself and my baby. They won't get any 267 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:18,560 Speaker 1: form of custody, although since I announced the gender, they've 268 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 1: all gone quite silent. 269 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:21,120 Speaker 3: What is a gender? 270 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:24,760 Speaker 1: I now have a small three bedroom house that's great. 271 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:27,440 Speaker 1: I'm only renting for now while I wait for the 272 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 1: divorce to finalize, but it's plenty big enough for the 273 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:33,480 Speaker 1: two of us. My daughter will grow up surrounded by 274 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: my family and plenty of cousins to play with. The 275 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 1: house is pretty bare at the minute, as I only 276 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 1: got the keys a couple of days ago, but I 277 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: have time before she gets here to make sure everything 278 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: is ready. Thank you again for all the kind words. 279 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:50,360 Speaker 1: The situation didn't play out how I'd hoped, but I 280 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:54,960 Speaker 1: can't help feeling like it's for the best. There's something 281 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: we always say on the show. 282 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:57,720 Speaker 2: You know what it is? Do you guys? 283 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 1: Remember the thing that Sam and I are always say 284 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 1: are their red flags earlier? And we can be blinded, right, 285 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:08,680 Speaker 1: We can miss these signs. It happens to the best 286 00:15:08,680 --> 00:15:13,320 Speaker 1: of us. But I feel like how Opie's boyfriend didn't 287 00:15:13,360 --> 00:15:14,880 Speaker 1: you know, stand up for her or just try to 288 00:15:14,920 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 1: help her, or really do anything for Op is pretty 289 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:23,200 Speaker 1: telling to me, kind of showing his true colors, and 290 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: that if they were in the marriage, I mean, imagine, 291 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: once the baby's in the picture, it's only gonna get worse, 292 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:34,520 Speaker 1: especially if they have the baby living there with the parents. Like, ah, 293 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:37,320 Speaker 1: that's just a lot. I think that's just a lot. 294 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 1: I think the OPE could have stepped in and maybe 295 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:45,080 Speaker 1: figured out a scenario where I mean, you know, simply 296 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:47,280 Speaker 1: if they are too income household, like, hey, could we 297 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:50,640 Speaker 1: get some sort of help cleaning? Could we get some 298 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: sort of aid that is not the two of us 299 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: having to do it? Also just pitching in something. I mean, 300 00:15:57,120 --> 00:15:59,000 Speaker 1: you were doing half of the chores in the beginning. 301 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 1: What's so different? And with now I guess he was 302 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: helping with the parents, But I don't know. 303 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 3: I just got the. 304 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 1: Feeling that Op was Opie's husband was very much ignoring 305 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:12,080 Speaker 1: Ope and that he wasn't really going to make the efforts. 306 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:16,000 Speaker 1: And if he didn't make the effort, there is he 307 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:18,960 Speaker 1: going to make the effort in other places? I don't know, 308 00:16:19,120 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 1: But y'all tell me what you think in the comments below. 309 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: Did Op make the right decision of leaving going out 310 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 1: on her own should she have tried to stay and 311 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: work it out? Who is the a hole? Let me 312 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 1: know in the comments below. Love you, see you next time. 313 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:36,480 Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives. 314 00:16:36,480 --> 00:16:42,000 Speaker 1: Time for okop Relam today. Fed up by letting a 315 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: friend who likes to bring people into my house, which 316 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:48,320 Speaker 1: resulted in him burning eight thousand dollars of Pokemon cards. 317 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 3: I'd just a lot of Pokemon cards. You know, maybe 318 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 3: it's not if it could be like one card. That's true. 319 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 3: That's true. Pokemon cards are are going these days, Like 320 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:59,360 Speaker 3: you're getting one charge yard for like three point two 321 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,360 Speaker 3: million dollars, and you know it's like the charge art 322 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:04,879 Speaker 3: appreciation rate. So so just threw the roof over here. I 323 00:17:04,920 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 3: regret getting of all my Pokemon cards. Now. I had 324 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 3: like a binder and a binder full of Pokemon card. 325 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:12,399 Speaker 1: I had a binder full of Ugeo cards, which like 326 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:14,480 Speaker 1: one like like there was one card I paid like 327 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 1: forty dollars for and I had like a binder. Not 328 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 1: all of them were that worth that much, but I 329 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:20,920 Speaker 1: had a minder full of them. Forty dollars for one card. 330 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:23,400 Speaker 1: That means that it's probably worth a ship ton. Now 331 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 1: it was really good, and then my mom accidentally sold 332 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 1: all of it for a dollar in a garage sale. 333 00:17:32,200 --> 00:17:35,080 Speaker 3: What yes, do I wonder how much they're worth? Now? 334 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:37,119 Speaker 2: Probably I had did you ever play yu gi? 335 00:17:37,200 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 1: Oh? 336 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:39,120 Speaker 3: No? I was more of a Pokemon man. 337 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 1: So there was Exodia, which is this like five car 338 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 1: It took five cards to build it, like it was 339 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:45,880 Speaker 1: like the head arm, just like five or six or whatever. 340 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:48,120 Speaker 1: I not only had the full Exodia, but I had 341 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:50,120 Speaker 1: that in an extra arm. 342 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:51,960 Speaker 3: Wow. So I was like. 343 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 1: There were some rich kids that one time just gave 344 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,159 Speaker 1: me their decks because they were like, oh, I'm too 345 00:17:56,200 --> 00:17:58,880 Speaker 1: cool for it now, and I'm like, broh, I'm loaded. 346 00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:01,160 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm fucking you get rich over here. 347 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:03,119 Speaker 1: And then then now they're gone, So. 348 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,880 Speaker 3: You know, maybe it would have been like real world 349 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:07,200 Speaker 3: rich I would have been. 350 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: If I if I, if I still had that, I 351 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:10,679 Speaker 1: might have a few locked in the closet somewhere. But 352 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: I should check somewhere to check a little backstory. When 353 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:15,880 Speaker 1: I was in the third grade, my grandpa died. Sorry 354 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 1: about that, all right, that's it's a rough backstory to start. Yeah, 355 00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: this isn't too relevant. But two weeks later in school, 356 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:25,400 Speaker 1: I found the most destroyed Pokemon card on the road. 357 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 3: It was a. 358 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:28,440 Speaker 2: Colorless Frouffrough of course. 359 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:30,199 Speaker 3: Ah, I know what that is. 360 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 2: Yes, everybody knows. 361 00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:32,600 Speaker 3: How much is that worth? 362 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 1: Prooffrough Forbidden Light ninety nine. Oh it's fur frew f 363 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:39,679 Speaker 1: you r f r o U. I'm looking at this 364 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:41,760 Speaker 1: right now. It seems like it's like a dollar. Yeah, 365 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 1: I'm seeing when it's like two cents. 366 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:48,199 Speaker 3: I'm looking at color I'm looking at four fur fro colorless, 367 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 3: I'm seeing a dollar fifty three. 368 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: Ah, okay, I see it's it's actually it's not because 369 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: of the price. There's another reason. My grandpa always had 370 00:18:57,160 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 1: a white beard, and it reminded me of him. So 371 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:03,639 Speaker 1: in that moment, I decided I would collect Pokemon cards. 372 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 3: So I like the origin story. It is a great 373 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:07,080 Speaker 3: origin story. 374 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:10,200 Speaker 1: So for eight years now, I've collected close to fifteen 375 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: thousand Pokemon cards. Fifteen thousand, that's I mean, that's so many, 376 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 1: unfathomable amount. I know, you guys maybe like huge waste 377 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:23,800 Speaker 1: of money. You you idiot, just blowing your money on cardboard. 378 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:27,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's right. But it reminded me of my grandpa, 379 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:32,040 Speaker 1: and I loved collecting things. So for eight years, for Christmas, Birthdays, Easters, 380 00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 1: every chance I got, I would ask for Pokemon cards. 381 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 1: It was a mini obsession. 382 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:41,640 Speaker 3: Sounds like, yeah, dude, fifteen thousand eight, a media obsession. 383 00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 2: Sounds like an obese obsession. 384 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 3: That sception that obsession is fat attack. 385 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,360 Speaker 1: Slight side note, you know how like sometimes people say like, oh, 386 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 1: that's like a fat vibe or something like that. I've 387 00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 1: been petitioning to incorporate the phrase, oh, that's an obese vibe, 388 00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:59,840 Speaker 1: Like that's like a fucking big that's a morbidly obe 389 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,480 Speaker 1: morbid these vibes, That's what I'm going for. 390 00:20:02,600 --> 00:20:05,720 Speaker 3: I'm down. I'm down. That vibe has a heart problem exactly, 391 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:08,600 Speaker 3: vibe needs to it's going to go into cardiac arrest. 392 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 3: He stopped, like, don't, don't oversalt your food because this 393 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,120 Speaker 3: vibe is already too fat. About ball. 394 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:19,879 Speaker 1: I had even collected all of the original cards, very expensive, 395 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 1: and this was my life. It was something that I 396 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 1: loved doing. Now here comes a friend, let's call him 397 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 1: cool col for safety reasons. 398 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 3: You know, we got to keep it safe over here. 399 00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: I mean, if his name was Derek, that's dangerous, said 400 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: dangerous Derek. I've been friends with Cole for a few 401 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:39,119 Speaker 1: years since seventh grade, and he knew that I loved 402 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:43,360 Speaker 1: Pokemon cards. Sometime during freshman year, before lockdown, he started 403 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:44,919 Speaker 1: a prank YouTube channel. 404 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:46,720 Speaker 3: What's the YouTube channel? I want to know? Yeah? 405 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:48,040 Speaker 2: What's what's what's the handle? 406 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 3: Yeah? 407 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:50,880 Speaker 2: Tell us it's a prank, bro, it's a prank. 408 00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:51,400 Speaker 3: Oh god. 409 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:55,200 Speaker 1: He got a lot of views and subscribers, and he 410 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,040 Speaker 1: would always do these mini pranks. 411 00:20:57,200 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 3: I wouldn't get too upset, but he took it too 412 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 3: far this weekend. What's the I want to know the channel? 413 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,840 Speaker 3: Prank channel? I destroyed my friend's Pokemon cards. 414 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,400 Speaker 1: We might be able to I'm not seeing it in this. 415 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:11,360 Speaker 3: There's one that says I destroyed my boyfriend's Pokemon card 416 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 3: worth seven thousand dollars. 417 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 1: Close but uh maybe maybe maybe they took the video 418 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:16,960 Speaker 1: down or something. 419 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:17,920 Speaker 3: All right, keep going. 420 00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:20,439 Speaker 1: So Saturday, he was chilling out my house because I 421 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:23,199 Speaker 1: invited him over. Everything seemed normal, but he asked to 422 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,439 Speaker 1: go to the bathroom when we were watching a movie. 423 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:26,360 Speaker 3: He does that? 424 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 2: Who does that? How dare you? 425 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:30,720 Speaker 3: You're a a jurney? Unless is a three hour movie, 426 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 3: you don't go to the bathroom yet? 427 00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 1: Allowed no, actually, especially like I you respect my house 428 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,520 Speaker 1: by holding your bladder, yeah, or pee right on the exactly, 429 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:41,199 Speaker 1: Just pee on yourself, show some goddamn respect. And I 430 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:44,120 Speaker 1: keep my Pokemon cards in my room, in my closet 431 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,760 Speaker 1: for safety. He's been gone for a while and I 432 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,960 Speaker 1: didn't really suspect anything. Now flash forward to Monday. I 433 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:52,760 Speaker 1: look in my closet and all of my Pokemon cards 434 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: are gone. 435 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 3: This is the worst prank ever. It's not me, it's 436 00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 3: not a frank. You're just you're just being cool. You 437 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:03,200 Speaker 3: just admitted a cry. Yeah, but that's actually like that 438 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:05,159 Speaker 3: would be a felony because it's over like what nine 439 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:07,880 Speaker 3: hundred bucks? It was eight thousand dollars. Yeah. 440 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, my fourteen year old best friend stole my Pokemon cards. 441 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:12,320 Speaker 1: So I charged him with a felony. Now he's in 442 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:17,760 Speaker 1: federal prisage. Yeahs he quite literally stole every single one 443 00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 1: of them. How he snuck all of them out is 444 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:21,879 Speaker 1: beyond me. I wish I would have had a camera. 445 00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,800 Speaker 1: So I text him and here's how it went down. 446 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:25,159 Speaker 3: Me. 447 00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 2: Hey, Cole, do you know what happened to my Pokemon cards? 448 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:33,880 Speaker 3: Cole? Maybe jozard ate them? Me? I hate Cole Cole. 449 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,960 Speaker 3: I hate col so much. Cole. 450 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,600 Speaker 1: I'm not messing around. Can you please give them back? 451 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 1: They mean a lot to me. And you know that 452 00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:42,399 Speaker 1: he didn't reply after that, and so I got a 453 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:46,000 Speaker 1: notification that he had posted on YouTube. It was him 454 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 1: and his other friend taking my Pokemon cards. No, yes, 455 00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:54,400 Speaker 1: they snuck them around the back door and took them 456 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 1: out of the house and they had made fifteen thousand 457 00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:01,919 Speaker 1: fake cards. They've made fifteen thousand fake Pokemon cards. I 458 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,879 Speaker 1: guess why. They made them with only the backs on 459 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 1: them and a blank white front. Then they burned the rest, 460 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:11,840 Speaker 1: burned the original cards. 461 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:13,120 Speaker 3: Why would they do that? 462 00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 2: God, this is so dumb. 463 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 3: How is this a prank? This is just arson. 464 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 1: Now I now understand what he meant by maybe Charizard 465 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 1: got them. Charizard is a dragon for reference. This is 466 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,679 Speaker 1: so mean, This is terrible. I can't believe that he 467 00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:31,399 Speaker 1: has done this to me. He called me and said 468 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,159 Speaker 1: that he meant to burn the fake cards, but he 469 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:36,240 Speaker 1: burned the real ones on accident. 470 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 3: Also, this is a terrible prank because like, if you're 471 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,200 Speaker 3: gonna burn the cards, burn it in front of your 472 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 3: prank victim literally would like burn it away. 473 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, like like walk into the backyard and it's like 474 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,399 Speaker 1: he sees the rows of cards like on fire. 475 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,520 Speaker 2: That's an actual prank. This is just like you suck Now. 476 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,960 Speaker 1: I don't think that's true because the real ones are 477 00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,879 Speaker 1: in special tins. You can only get tins if you 478 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,680 Speaker 1: them from Walmart. Okay, So he's like not sure if 479 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,920 Speaker 1: he actually burned them or not. Okay, I'm completely broken. 480 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,080 Speaker 1: Those Pokemon cards were a second part of me. I 481 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,160 Speaker 1: sent him a huge message and he replied that. 482 00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 2: It was a prank and just relax. 483 00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:20,240 Speaker 3: Okay, like like, all right, it's one thing, right, It's 484 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,680 Speaker 3: one thing if there's emotional damage, right, yeah, but there's 485 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,640 Speaker 3: actually like damage to property. It's no longer a prank 486 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 3: if you actually have negative effects from the prank, like 487 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:34,480 Speaker 3: if you if something is broken, if you are injured, 488 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 3: if like this irreversible damage, irreversible damage, it is not 489 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 3: a prank. 490 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 1: He destroyed eight thousand dollars worth of Pokemon cards. You 491 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,919 Speaker 1: better pay for it, Oh, he better. I am just 492 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:49,280 Speaker 1: so broken everyone. I blasted him on social media and 493 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:51,239 Speaker 1: a bunch of his friends got mad at him. And 494 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,320 Speaker 1: if you got mad at me telling me to just 495 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:56,119 Speaker 1: drop it. People were telling me to go to the authorities. 496 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,560 Speaker 1: But I'm not that type of person. He deleted his video. Okay, okay, 497 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:01,800 Speaker 1: that's why we can't find it. But I'm still so 498 00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,200 Speaker 1: broken inside. All I can think about is my bent 499 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 1: through through the original car. Yeah that was sentimental. God, 500 00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 1: I cried so hard while writing this post. Well, he 501 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,439 Speaker 1: messaged me yesterday, calling me the asshole for turning his 502 00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,879 Speaker 1: friends against him. In a huge paragraph about how. 503 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:21,320 Speaker 3: It was just. 504 00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:26,160 Speaker 1: He explains he has an explanation, Sam, oh yeah, please 505 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:28,440 Speaker 1: all right, hopefully it's actually well thought out. 506 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:29,480 Speaker 2: He explained that. 507 00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:31,920 Speaker 1: It was just a simple prank gone wrong and how 508 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,000 Speaker 1: I needed to grow up because we were about to 509 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 1: graduate high school and Pokemon cars are for little kids. 510 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:41,520 Speaker 1: What a perfect asshole, What an asshole? Perfectly reasonable explanation. Okay, 511 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 1: Cole sucks, he's being a little child, you know. It's 512 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 1: it's all good, and there's an edit. There's a few 513 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: actually for everyone telling me to go to the authorities, 514 00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:51,399 Speaker 1: en sue. The best thing that would happen is him 515 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,880 Speaker 1: getting charged or me getting a k back. This doesn't 516 00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,120 Speaker 1: give me my cards back, and I'm honestly not hell 517 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:56,960 Speaker 1: bent on revenge. 518 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:57,800 Speaker 3: I'm just sad. 519 00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 1: And for those asking, here's the fruit card all he 520 00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:02,159 Speaker 1: took attached a picture. 521 00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:05,119 Speaker 3: Let me see. Oh yeah, it's like a not the 522 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 3: actual at the actual card. Well, because the actual cards burned. 523 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,360 Speaker 3: The general cards I destroyed. The actual card has been destroyed. 524 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 3: So another update. 525 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 1: After everyone's comments, I decided to go to the authorities 526 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 1: with my evidence tomorrow. 527 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:16,000 Speaker 3: Wow. 528 00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,160 Speaker 1: I'm not typically the guy to do this, but thank 529 00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 1: you guys for the strength. I'm never going to get 530 00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,679 Speaker 1: my cards back, but I don't want him doing this 531 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,280 Speaker 1: to others. I will give you guys updates when I have. 532 00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:26,680 Speaker 1: I really hope he gets. 533 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,439 Speaker 3: Some sign of money. But also what a dick like 534 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,680 Speaker 3: on Cole's parts is not at least pay for it 535 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:36,480 Speaker 3: or or something or like try or try like his message, 536 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,360 Speaker 3: say it's a prank and be fit over. 537 00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:42,639 Speaker 1: It at the bare minimum, even like he should try 538 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,720 Speaker 1: to like pay him back in some sort of way, 539 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:46,919 Speaker 1: shape or form, but at a bare minimum, be like 540 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:49,159 Speaker 1: I messed up, like this is on me, like like 541 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:52,040 Speaker 1: actually own up to your mistake and not owning. 542 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 3: Up to anything. But that's also like the prank YouTuber 543 00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:57,080 Speaker 3: kind of vibe, like never own up to anything, just 544 00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,920 Speaker 3: say it's a prank and continue on your merry way. 545 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,119 Speaker 1: Like I saw as there was this one prank YouTube 546 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:05,440 Speaker 1: where this guy was like basically it's a husband and 547 00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,680 Speaker 1: wife keep pranking each other and the husband was pretending 548 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 1: to like do coke in the in their kitchen or whatever, 549 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:16,199 Speaker 1: and they're like very like not that vibe and that 550 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,399 Speaker 1: would like really freak her out, which it did, and 551 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:19,919 Speaker 1: she was like, this isn't prankice in a prank is No, 552 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 1: it's not a parank. Like he kept saying like, no, 553 00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:22,879 Speaker 1: this is real life. This is really me, Like I 554 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 1: need to go to my dealer right now, like just 555 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:28,040 Speaker 1: like way going overboard. And then she's like breaking down 556 00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 1: in tears and like I'm literally about to get the 557 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:32,199 Speaker 1: kid and like leave, like I'm leaving right now. And 558 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:33,919 Speaker 1: then he's like, no, it's just a prank. And I 559 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,760 Speaker 1: was just like, pranks are evil, prank the prank rabbit 560 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,119 Speaker 1: hole as fuck. It's just the problem is it just 561 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,800 Speaker 1: keeps going. Yeah, and it's like I think I was. 562 00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,199 Speaker 3: And then calling and Samir, they were talking about like 563 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,919 Speaker 3: the prank era of or and the like there's like 564 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:50,920 Speaker 3: the mister beastification of YouTube and one of the reasons 565 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 3: that like podcasts are still popular and good is like 566 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,879 Speaker 3: you have this like very laid back way of connecting 567 00:27:57,119 --> 00:28:01,399 Speaker 3: with an audience, Whereas if you're doing traditional YouTube or 568 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:05,879 Speaker 3: like the YouTube that is everywhere now, it's bigger, better, faster, 569 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:10,360 Speaker 3: you know, strong, keep like keep one upping and and 570 00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:13,400 Speaker 3: uh and the like, because the audience can just go 571 00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:15,480 Speaker 3: somewhere else. But if the audience is just kind of 572 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,920 Speaker 3: trying to like hang out with you, which is most 573 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 3: podcast formats, then it's fine. But I think that's what 574 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,280 Speaker 3: during the prank era of YouTube, It's like everyone's trying 575 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,760 Speaker 3: to one up the pranks and it becomes like crazier 576 00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,880 Speaker 3: and crazier and crazier. And actually, even in the most 577 00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:30,680 Speaker 3: recent air Act video I was watching, it was very entertaining, 578 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 3: but it's like this is I don't know how much 579 00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:36,880 Speaker 3: more you can do. Yeah, and at a certain point, 580 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:40,440 Speaker 3: like it kind of becomes like exploitative of the friends 581 00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 3: that you have in your circles because it's like you're 582 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 3: just subjecting to them to like this all this crazy stuff. 583 00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:49,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I'm I'm glad we have a show reading 584 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 1: read as stories now, Yeah, do I'll say that much? 585 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:56,440 Speaker 3: It is doing doing the one upmanship of YouTube. This 586 00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:58,920 Speaker 3: sounds exhausting. Yeah, it's too much. 587 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,280 Speaker 2: I got my friend back by throwing them in. By 588 00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 2: throwing them in a Bulgarian prison. Psych You're not in 589 00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:08,600 Speaker 2: prison for life, bro. 590 00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,320 Speaker 3: It was a prey, not about it.