WEBVTT - TMI with Martha Stewart

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, good morning morning. How are you, Chelsea. Well, we're

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<v Speaker 1>in New York City today. It's a beautiful day in

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<v Speaker 1>the neighborhood. Joe and I have been exercising, like to

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<v Speaker 1>fitness fanatics since we've been in New York City. That's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>We have walked the other day, he walked thirty five

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<v Speaker 1>thousand steps. I don't know why I didn't, but I

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<v Speaker 1>guess Disneyland. I know he's so he loves it. You

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<v Speaker 1>know that little app, your heart app on your phone

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<v Speaker 1>and you can track your steps. And we rented city

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<v Speaker 1>bikes yesterday and we drove all the way while we rode,

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<v Speaker 1>not drove. I hate when people say they drove a bike.

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<v Speaker 1>We rode all the way up to Central Park, all

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<v Speaker 1>the way around Central Park. We first we got our

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<v Speaker 1>little bagel because we've been trying at different bagel places

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<v Speaker 1>all over the city so far. Yeah, I do, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what it's called. So that's helpful. And

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<v Speaker 1>we rode our bikes up. We got a bagel, cream

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<v Speaker 1>cheese and locks and the whole thing, and then we go.

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<v Speaker 1>We drove a road through Central Park, stopped at one

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<v Speaker 1>of these little pools ponds. It was more like an

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<v Speaker 1>algae pond, but it was pretty We ate our bagel.

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<v Speaker 1>Then we rode our bikes all the way down the

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<v Speaker 1>West Side Highway to our favorite little restaurant, Grand Banks,

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<v Speaker 1>where we sit on a boat and we had like

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<v Speaker 1>a strawberry mohito, and then we rode our bikes all

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<v Speaker 1>the way back up town and it was just glorious.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, New York City is just so much fun,

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<v Speaker 1>especially when you don't live here, like it's always a vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>And Joe has started a laundrymat in our hotel room,

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<v Speaker 1>so he does laundry pretty much from I wake up

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<v Speaker 1>and the dryers going every morning, so he can must

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<v Speaker 1>wake up in the middle of the night and then

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<v Speaker 1>put another load. And so you guys, actually you have

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<v Speaker 1>a washer in our hotel room and it's more like

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<v Speaker 1>an apartment than a hotel room. That we read and

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<v Speaker 1>he does our laundry and then I hear the washing machine.

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<v Speaker 1>He does laundry constantly, and then he irons it all

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<v Speaker 1>and then he does it again. He starts again, and

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<v Speaker 1>if everything's clean, but it's everything's a mess, like everything's

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<v Speaker 1>shrunk or tight eyed. So the other day I got

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<v Speaker 1>a jumpsuit out of the dryer and it just had

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<v Speaker 1>chocolate stains everywhere, And I was like, what the funk

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<v Speaker 1>is this? Is this like a tight eye situation that

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<v Speaker 1>you're trying out, like what he goes to hunting? That

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<v Speaker 1>would it must have been something in your pocket, like

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<v Speaker 1>a piece of chocolate, which is so me, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>to have like a chocolate nutcluster left over in my pocket,

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<v Speaker 1>Like so my modeled so gross. Yeah, so one of

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<v Speaker 1>my jumpsuits was ruined, and one of my sweatpants, a

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<v Speaker 1>pair of sweatpants was also ruined, and that one had

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<v Speaker 1>a big chocolate stain right on the asshole. So I

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<v Speaker 1>could definitely not wear that one. And so I told

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<v Speaker 1>him to put a pin in his laundromat and learn

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<v Speaker 1>how to fucking do laundry before continuing. And then he

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<v Speaker 1>told me that that's racial profiling because all Chinese people

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<v Speaker 1>run laundromats. And I said, but you're not Chinese, So

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<v Speaker 1>what how is that racial profile? You're Filipino? He said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm talking about. I mean, I was

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<v Speaker 1>going to ask if you said that he irons. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it's a known thing that white people don't

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<v Speaker 1>iron their clothes enough, like I am currently wearing an

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<v Speaker 1>unroned color. That's funny. Well, that would make sense. And

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<v Speaker 1>my privilege, like we don't even think we have to

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<v Speaker 1>iron our clothes. We could just go out looking like schleps.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have to say at least my husband is

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<v Speaker 1>one man who I told him at the beginning of

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<v Speaker 1>our marriage, I will never iron your shirts if you

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<v Speaker 1>would like them iron, he died, Well, this isn't the fifties. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, nobody should be ironing anything for anybody else.

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<v Speaker 1>Unless Joe wants to continue iron name my things, that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>But I would appreciate him taking out the laundry part,

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<v Speaker 1>because he's ruined a couple of my jumpsuits now, either

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<v Speaker 1>by shrinking them like they're too you know, some of

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<v Speaker 1>them you're not supposed to watch, just supposed to dry clean.

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<v Speaker 1>But I did send like three of my jumpsuits down

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<v Speaker 1>to dry clean at the hotel that we stay at,

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<v Speaker 1>and I have to say, I got back and I

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<v Speaker 1>just caught the number out of the corner of my eye,

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, what is It was five hundred and

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<v Speaker 1>eighty six dollars to dry clean three jumpsuits, And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you guys, that's not right. Even I know

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<v Speaker 1>that's not right. One of my girlfriends, she lives in

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<v Speaker 1>West Hollywood. I'm sure she was getting a stun in

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<v Speaker 1>Beverly Hills. She said she took several sweaters and two

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<v Speaker 1>blankets that you need to dry clean to a dry cleaner's.

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<v Speaker 1>She got the bell, went to pick it up. It

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<v Speaker 1>was sixteen hundred dollars. I was like, where are you taking?

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<v Speaker 1>She goes, oh, with such if your dry cleaner has

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<v Speaker 1>a name and it's not just dry cleaner, then you

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<v Speaker 1>should not be taking, especially your blankets. There blanket, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know you could dry clean. I guess that makes

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<v Speaker 1>sense dry clean blanket grant comforters and yeah, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I'm just glad that I don't. I you know,

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<v Speaker 1>laundry feels good when it's done, because we've been on

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<v Speaker 1>the road now for like three weeks, the both of us,

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<v Speaker 1>and we have so much accumulation of dirty stuff. So

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<v Speaker 1>it does feel good to have it clean. But it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't feel good when it's all different colors and different lens.

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<v Speaker 1>When you get it out, you can never wear it again. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so you know, there you go, there you have it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the crux of our That's what our relationship is

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<v Speaker 1>about currently dry cleaning or laundry. Sorry, okay, everybody. Here

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<v Speaker 1>are my up ming stand up dates. I'll be at

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<v Speaker 1>the Just for Last Comedy Festival in Montreal July, hosting

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<v Speaker 1>a gala Gala also pronounced as Gala. I am in

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<v Speaker 1>Vancouver August twelve, two shows in Vancouver. I'm in Calgary Saturday,

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<v Speaker 1>August thirteen and Sunday August fourteen. That's Calgary. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I have tons of dates coming up in the fall,

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<v Speaker 1>starting with Saratoga, California, Niagara Falls, Long Beach, California, Bakersfield, California,

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<v Speaker 1>Pasa Roblais, California, Wheatland, California, and lots of places in Florida, Tampa,

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<v Speaker 1>Fort Myers, Daytona Beach, Hollywood, Florida, and the list goes

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<v Speaker 1>on and on. Oh in San Diego and Riverside, California.

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<v Speaker 1>So lots of dates in California and Tucson, Colorado Springs. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>go to Chelsea Handler dot com for your tickets. I

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<v Speaker 1>will see you guys all there. These will be the

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<v Speaker 1>final dates of my Vaccinated and Horny tour, and I

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<v Speaker 1>can't wait to see all of you in person. Now

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<v Speaker 1>that everybody well most people are vaccinated and officially horny.

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<v Speaker 1>That's with three at the end, Katherine, just in case

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't know how to spell horny. Perfect. Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>today we have somebody on who is very You'll know

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<v Speaker 1>her when you hear her. Her website is called Martha

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. The Bedford by Martha Stewart is her new

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<v Speaker 1>immersive restaurant in Vegas. Have you heard of that yet?

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<v Speaker 1>An immersive restaurant. She's got CBD, she's got a CBD line,

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<v Speaker 1>she has nineteen crimes, Martha's Chardonnay, and her name is

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<v Speaker 1>Martha Stewart. She's the founder of Martha Stewart Living Omnimedia.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the dream to have an omnimedia Martha. Welcome to

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<v Speaker 1>the show. Hi, It's always such a delight to see you. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so happy that you're here in my office and

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<v Speaker 1>that we can talk. You know, we've never really just talked. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we've interacted before. We've had some social media interaction. We

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<v Speaker 1>bumped into each other most recently at Jimmy Fallon show.

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<v Speaker 1>That was so fun, but I think it was seth

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<v Speaker 1>Meyers though, oh you know what it was, Seth Meyers.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so hard to keep all these men straight, Isn't

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<v Speaker 1>it very hard because you do get mixed up. Late

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<v Speaker 1>night is late night, and there's like at least three

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<v Speaker 1>or four of them that you have to keep track of. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and I was just your favorite. Oh god,

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<v Speaker 1>don't ask to ask me that. I would have to

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<v Speaker 1>say Jimmy Fallon just because I do his show the

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<v Speaker 1>most often, so I would say that, you know, he's

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<v Speaker 1>a real sweetheart. I like all of them. Is so hard.

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<v Speaker 1>I missed David Litterman the most. Well, you guys had

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<v Speaker 1>a nice report, and we we worked together a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I think I've appeared on Seth Meyers more

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<v Speaker 1>than any other guests. That was a record for a while.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I don't know. I think I like Stephen Colbert.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do that show? Oh yeah, I've done it,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't regularly. I did Fallon more regularly. He's

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<v Speaker 1>a little more difficult, Yeah, but he's really smart. But

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<v Speaker 1>Letterman was difficult. No, No, I know Letterman had a

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<v Speaker 1>nice relationship. And did you guys have a relationship off screen?

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<v Speaker 1>I wish yeah, Well, because a lot of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I was reading this Joan Rivers book because I was

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<v Speaker 1>I recently inducted her into the Comedy Hall of Fame

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<v Speaker 1>for Netflix, and I was reading a Joan Rivers book

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<v Speaker 1>and she was talking about her dynamic with Johnny Carson.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you ever do Johnny Carson show? Yes, yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>was That was a hard show to do, That's what

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<v Speaker 1>she said, because everyone thought they had this great relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was only for on camera. There was nothing

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<v Speaker 1>going on off camera. Did you Joan Rivers have any

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<v Speaker 1>affairs with anybody? Um, not that she spoke about in

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<v Speaker 1>the book, But I mean, I guess, you know, she

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<v Speaker 1>seemed to be like a person under herself. But I

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<v Speaker 1>don't mean narcissism or anything like that. Just she was

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<v Speaker 1>just so powerful, like her presence was so strong that

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<v Speaker 1>it would be hard to tell anybody else. But I

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<v Speaker 1>think she did. I think I wouldn't. I think I

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<v Speaker 1>eated her house once, and I think there was a

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<v Speaker 1>man around. Well, that's good to know, speaking of men.

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on in your love life these days? Nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>I had two mad crushes in the last month, which

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<v Speaker 1>is really good for me. Yeah, it turns out, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>one of them is married to the mother of some

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<v Speaker 1>friends of mine, and and I just he's so attractive,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't you can't be a home record. No

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not. I've never been a home record, never, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've tried really hard not to be. It's hard to

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<v Speaker 1>have had the opportunity record and I have not taken

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<v Speaker 1>anybody up on it. And that's really where that's where

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<v Speaker 1>I meet men. They're all they're all marriage to friends

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<v Speaker 1>of mine or something like that. Well, it's very difficult

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<v Speaker 1>because I think there are certain ages we go through

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<v Speaker 1>where it's very tempting because you want to believe that, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe this relationship that they're in is temporary, or maybe

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<v Speaker 1>they'll die. I always think, oh, gosh, couldn't that person

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<v Speaker 1>just die the wife you're not not painfully just die

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<v Speaker 1>and then But it hasn't worked out. No, it hasn't

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<v Speaker 1>worked out. But what I would say, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>find it curious because when was your when was your

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<v Speaker 1>last relationship? A while ago, not too long ago. But

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<v Speaker 1>while I go, Okay, so it's not that far in

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<v Speaker 1>the distance, right, so like a hundred years or well,

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<v Speaker 1>we know you're not a hundred years old. To Martha

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<v Speaker 1>nobody thinks that, and it speaking of you have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of years ahead of you. But I would like

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<v Speaker 1>to know what, youth, what what do you think is

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<v Speaker 1>the most important thing in terms of legacy and leaving behind?

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<v Speaker 1>What is the thing that's most important for you to

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<v Speaker 1>be known for? Um, I would like to leave and

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<v Speaker 1>I think I am in the process of leaving a

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<v Speaker 1>vast library of good, authentic information for good living. That's

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<v Speaker 1>really It sounds kind of high minded and blah blah blah,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's actually a serious thing. You know, growing up,

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<v Speaker 1>I had the joy of cooking, and I had maybe

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<v Speaker 1>the better homes and Gardens house of a book of

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<v Speaker 1>household management. But I didn't have the Martha Stewart books

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<v Speaker 1>which are so phenomenally useful, and I didn't have the

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<v Speaker 1>ideas and the videos that we've created and produced over

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<v Speaker 1>the years. So so leaving that kind of legacy of

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<v Speaker 1>really good education, but also with a with a flair

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<v Speaker 1>for forliness and joyfulness and beauty, because I think we

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<v Speaker 1>what we do is pretty beautiful and all that information

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<v Speaker 1>we've created, that's a that's a good legacy. And did

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<v Speaker 1>you know when you were a little girl that this

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<v Speaker 1>is what you were going to be doing when you

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<v Speaker 1>grew up. No, Actually, I always wanted to be a teacher.

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<v Speaker 1>I was brought up loving my teachers. I was encouraged

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<v Speaker 1>to be a teacher to help little kids. I was

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<v Speaker 1>always doing the birthday parties and creating all kinds of

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<v Speaker 1>interesting things for the children to do, even when I

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<v Speaker 1>was a child. That started when I was about ten.

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<v Speaker 1>So teaching was always ingrained in me as a very

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<v Speaker 1>high minded profession, and that I could do it to

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<v Speaker 1>millions of people via television and via the Internet and

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<v Speaker 1>via magazines and books. That really has been fantastic. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's really Could you have ever imagined that

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<v Speaker 1>you would have such an empire like this? I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think like that. I just think that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I just worked day to day and build and build

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<v Speaker 1>and try to try to fix and build and fix

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<v Speaker 1>and repair and build and create. That's how I go.

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<v Speaker 1>And what do you think the most influential relationships have

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<v Speaker 1>been in your life that have contributed to your sense

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<v Speaker 1>of self and your sense of success. Well, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it was my parents, and I had a

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<v Speaker 1>nice relationship with both parents. I was my father's favorite

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<v Speaker 1>which didn't make me happy all the time, because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think parents should have favorites. How many children six

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<v Speaker 1>the same as you? Yeah, what number are you? I

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<v Speaker 1>am number two? You were the baby, I'm number six. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>you're spoiled brat, and you got what you wanted, probably exactly,

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<v Speaker 1>but I got nothing that I wanted. I had to

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<v Speaker 1>work for every single Number two is a pretty hard

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<v Speaker 1>position to be, except that I got my father's attention

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<v Speaker 1>and none of the other kids did. He somehow fixated

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<v Speaker 1>on me, so and he and I were really good friends,

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<v Speaker 1>and I felt uncomfortable sometimes because I was he liked

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<v Speaker 1>me better than the other kids, and everybody knew it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they pretty much knew it, and I'm sure they held

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<v Speaker 1>it against me, and they probably still do. But my

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<v Speaker 1>mother was the egalitarian and she was great. She had

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<v Speaker 1>no favorites at all, and that kind of irked some

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<v Speaker 1>of the kids, but she was everyone was equal, everyone

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<v Speaker 1>got the share. You know. When my mother died, it

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<v Speaker 1>was so amazing. Her will was down to the penny

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<v Speaker 1>divided amongst the six children, you know, kind of nice. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what a mother is meant to do,

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<v Speaker 1>is to love all of her children equally, because if

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<v Speaker 1>you ask any woman who their favorite child is, they

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<v Speaker 1>all say, oh, that's impossible. And if you ask any man,

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<v Speaker 1>their questions start to vary and they'll say things like

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<v Speaker 1>whoever needs me the most. You know, men love to

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<v Speaker 1>be needed. So how how does your relationship with your siblings?

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<v Speaker 1>Do they still feel that way? Do they still make

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<v Speaker 1>fun of the fact that you were the favorite? Well, no,

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<v Speaker 1>because we're I mean, my two closest siblings died unexpectedly.

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<v Speaker 1>The two youngest children died and um not not after

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<v Speaker 1>they were married and after they both had children, and

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<v Speaker 1>they just died from stupidity. I think I think they

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<v Speaker 1>were very careless about their health, so they did not

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<v Speaker 1>have to die. That's my theory, and I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>their children's theory also. So they've missed out on the grandchildren,

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<v Speaker 1>and they've missed out on the success of the of

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<v Speaker 1>their own children. It's it's sad, but they were they

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<v Speaker 1>were my favorites, my brother George and my sister Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>And Laura worked for me for a very long time

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<v Speaker 1>and George was a builder and he did a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of projects with me and two fabulous kids, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>friends with all their children, you know, nice, nice friends

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<v Speaker 1>with their children, which is which is important to me.

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<v Speaker 1>But the other is my sister Kathy married a man

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<v Speaker 1>that hated me. So you know, we don't even go there.

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<v Speaker 1>We try to have a relationship, but not not a

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<v Speaker 1>very close one. Is this too much information? It's great?

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<v Speaker 1>And then brother Eric, Brother Eric, he's my older brother

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<v Speaker 1>and we've always been friends. And he's a fine craftsman

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<v Speaker 1>and I really admire his artistry and he knows it.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's older than I am, and he's, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>complaining a little bit about getting old, and I don't

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like that. I don't want him to complain

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<v Speaker 1>because he's a strong guy. And then we have the

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<v Speaker 1>brother that that brother, I guess every family has, I

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<v Speaker 1>know which one you're talking about. I have one of

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<v Speaker 1>those two have one. Yes. But he had a good

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<v Speaker 1>reason he went to Vietnam. Oh okay, So he is

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<v Speaker 1>a very good reason for being the way he was. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my brother does not have a good reason. He did

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<v Speaker 1>not go to Vietnam. So I'll have to follow up

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<v Speaker 1>on that later. Yeah, but I wish my brother would

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<v Speaker 1>write a book about his experience in Vietnam. Those guys

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to write books about their experiences, Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 1>they don't want to talk or remember it. It's too Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know what, it would be so interesting now

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<v Speaker 1>in retrospect to know what they went through. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>Vietnam was a hard war. Yeah, yeah, Vietnam. For our generation,

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<v Speaker 1>it was Iraq and Afghanistan. And we still haven't even

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<v Speaker 1>seen the after effects of what those soldiers went through. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>And kids don't know anything about war, that's the thing. Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's happening all over the world. Generation right now

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't know about war and the effect it has on people. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so crazy to me that that they don't know it.

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<v Speaker 1>And yet Ukraine is happening right now, and and they

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, they don't understand how devastating it is to

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<v Speaker 1>a population. Yeah. Seeing those pictures coming out of Mariopole

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<v Speaker 1>or any of those cities, you're just like, it's the

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<v Speaker 1>most senseless act of destruction. The women with their babies

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<v Speaker 1>crossing borders for food and shelter, and the children carrying

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<v Speaker 1>their little white kitty cats on their shoulders. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so horrible. So to pivot, I want to ask

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<v Speaker 1>you something about your experience. What do you think is

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<v Speaker 1>one of your favorite things about growing older? Favorite thing? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have one, Yes, you do, come on, not

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<v Speaker 1>one because first of all, I don't think about age

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<v Speaker 1>or aging. I do not think about it. Uh, some

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<v Speaker 1>thing's happened to you. You know, you're your foot, you

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<v Speaker 1>stepping a hole in your rupture your achilles tendant. I

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<v Speaker 1>did that last year, and that was a stupid thing

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<v Speaker 1>because it's hurt me for a year. And that that's

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<v Speaker 1>the least favorite thing is is getting into any kind

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<v Speaker 1>of pain. Yeah, my favorite thing about getting older is

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely not one thing. And there you have it, everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>there's not one favorite thing about getting older. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>we would impart some positive wisdom from Martha's store. Not

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<v Speaker 1>a thing people. Okay, Well, on that note, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>take some callers. I give advice. It's just off the cough.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a medical doctor. You're not a medical doctor

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<v Speaker 1>unless you are a medical doctor. And I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>about that. But I know a lot about medicine. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>so do I. Actually I love medicine. So Katherine, tell

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<v Speaker 1>us what we have in store for this episode. While

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<v Speaker 1>we have all kinds of questions that are right up Martha's.

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<v Speaker 1>Ali will take a quick break and we'll be right

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<v Speaker 1>back with Martha Stewart and Chelsea. Okay, and we're back.

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<v Speaker 1>And Martha brought some Easter eggs, even though they were

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<v Speaker 1>just they're not Easter eggs, They're just eggs from her

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<v Speaker 1>chickens who lay different colored eggs. Yeah, I thought they

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<v Speaker 1>were Easter eggs, and then upon closer inspection and Martha

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<v Speaker 1>telling me, I realized they are not Easter eggs. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>our first question comes from Heather. She says, Dear Chelsea,

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<v Speaker 1>knowing how much you and your family love Martha's vineyard

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<v Speaker 1>and that you go every year, I was hoping you

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<v Speaker 1>could share some suggestions on where to go and what

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<v Speaker 1>to do. My husband and are two year old, are

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<v Speaker 1>joining another couple and they're one year old at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of July. Staying in Edgartown one of the places

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<v Speaker 1>we should absolutely visit. And where are the best places

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<v Speaker 1>to eat? The more outdoors the better. We can also

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<v Speaker 1>find some adults only time without the kids stay well,

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<v Speaker 1>Heather m and I just have to say, Martha, you

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<v Speaker 1>may already know this, but in researching this question, I

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<v Speaker 1>learned that a very vast portion of the Internet thinks

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<v Speaker 1>that you own Martha's vineyard as as By the way,

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<v Speaker 1>all my nieces and nephews growing up thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>Aunt Martha's vineyard, and they would say when I'd say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to the vineyard, Aunt Martha's vineyard, they all thought,

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<v Speaker 1>not only was it my island, but it was also

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<v Speaker 1>I had a vineyard on the island, and that's why

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<v Speaker 1>I stay far away from Martha's vineyard. I don't ever

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<v Speaker 1>go to Martha's vineyard, so I couldn't offer any advice.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so that's a brand disruption, and she's got her

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<v Speaker 1>own thing going on. She doesn't need to be tied

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<v Speaker 1>to some island exactly. If you're staying in Edgartown, you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna find plenty of things to do. Most places to

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<v Speaker 1>eat are the quarter Deck, which has like outdoor total

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<v Speaker 1>vineyard food like fried clams, shride shrimp, cheeseburgers, hot dogs,

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<v Speaker 1>all that stuff that you can get that's fun for kids.

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<v Speaker 1>If you go down to the wharf, there's tons of

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<v Speaker 1>places for kids, little candy stores, lots of shopping all

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<v Speaker 1>down on edgar Town, up and down Main Street and

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<v Speaker 1>around the Harbor View. In hotel is a great place

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<v Speaker 1>to have a drink and look at the sunset harbor

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<v Speaker 1>side in and then there's the wharf and everywhere you

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<v Speaker 1>go around there you'll find places you can't go wrong

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<v Speaker 1>on Martha's Vineyard. And then you're gonna want to go

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<v Speaker 1>up island too, to like see the more quiet parts

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<v Speaker 1>of the vineyard, which is West Tisbury and Tisbury and

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<v Speaker 1>uh the three main towns are Oak Bluffs, Vineyard Haven

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<v Speaker 1>and edgar Town. And then up island there's some really pristine,

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful beaches like in chill Mark and Menemsha. Those are

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<v Speaker 1>places you want to go and get a great lobster

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<v Speaker 1>roll and watch the sunset. Especially it's specifically the beach

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<v Speaker 1>in Menemsha, so you're gonna have a beautiful time in

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<v Speaker 1>the summertime. That's my special spot, Martha's Vineyard. It is. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my family, we had a house. They're growing up. You go, now, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we go every summer. You're really knowledgeable about Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean I couldn't even I've been going to Maine for

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<v Speaker 1>like thirty years, and I couldn't tell you all those

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<v Speaker 1>things about my island. I told you about my experience

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<v Speaker 1>in Biddeford Pool, right where I ran into the bushes,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I went over to Kenny Bunkport to the

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<v Speaker 1>compound and George Bush gave me a tour of all

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<v Speaker 1>of his artwork and then wouldn't let us leave the house.

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<v Speaker 1>We were captured because Barbara Bush wanted us to come

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<v Speaker 1>over to play pickle ball, and so I brought my

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<v Speaker 1>whole crew. I had my brothers, my sisters, like ten friends.

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<v Speaker 1>We went over played pickleball and then I hear the

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<v Speaker 1>former president go, miss Handler, is that you? And I thought, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't be seen with this guy after all my

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<v Speaker 1>political you know, musing said publicly, I'm like, I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>get out of here. And then he dragged me into

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<v Speaker 1>his house. He goes, you're not leaving. He goes, come

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<v Speaker 1>look at all my artwork. And I had sunglasses on,

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<v Speaker 1>and he said I need you to take your sunglasses off,

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, I'm pretty stoned, so I think I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to leave them on. And he looked at me

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<v Speaker 1>and thought I was kidding again, which I wasn't. And

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<v Speaker 1>then shortly after there we were able to skid attle.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was actually he's very charming in person. I'm sure,

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<v Speaker 1>you've you've Yes, I've met him. And when I was

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<v Speaker 1>in Kenny for two years ago, I actually had dinner

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<v Speaker 1>with Barbara's daughter and her husband. We had a very

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<v Speaker 1>nice dinner. The Bushes were away at that that weekend,

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<v Speaker 1>so I didn't get to see them, but I just

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<v Speaker 1>saw George W's wife in Texas, so I went down

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<v Speaker 1>to give a talk and she was the honoree. So

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<v Speaker 1>we had a very nice little chat. Yeah, I love

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<v Speaker 1>Barbara his daughter. Yeah, she's great. So, yes, have a

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<v Speaker 1>great time in Martha's vineyard and those are the places

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<v Speaker 1>to hit up wonderful. Well, we have one caller today.

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<v Speaker 1>Her name's Sabrina and she says, dear Chelsea, my name

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<v Speaker 1>is Sabrina and I'm twenty four years old from New Jersey.

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<v Speaker 1>I came out to myself as queer in twenty nineteen,

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<v Speaker 1>to my friends and sister in early and then to

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<v Speaker 1>my parents in the middle of My parents were initially supportive,

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<v Speaker 1>telling me they would love me quote no matter what,

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<v Speaker 1>but quickly became dismissive, pointing out men they wish I

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<v Speaker 1>would date, which was really hard on me. It took

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<v Speaker 1>so much courage to come out in the first place.

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<v Speaker 1>I started dating my first girlfriend in September and decided

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<v Speaker 1>to try and reach out to my parents to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about my sexuality and see if I felt safe enough

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<v Speaker 1>to come forward about my relationship. Long story short, they

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<v Speaker 1>told me that this was my problem to deal with,

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<v Speaker 1>not theirs, and that they did not want to know

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<v Speaker 1>anything pertaining to that aspect of my life. It's been

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<v Speaker 1>hard for me to deal with both the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>my parents will not provide me with the support, acceptance,

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<v Speaker 1>and safe space that I had before I came out,

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<v Speaker 1>as well as not being able to give my girlfriend

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<v Speaker 1>everything her family has given me, which is nothing but

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<v Speaker 1>open arms and love. Last I talked to them, they

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<v Speaker 1>asked me to write down everything I needed from them

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<v Speaker 1>and they would tell me if it's something they could

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<v Speaker 1>give me. I tried to make them understand why the

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<v Speaker 1>way they are going about this is simply sucked up

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<v Speaker 1>and doesn't need to be this hard, But I'm still

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<v Speaker 1>struggling to find the right words as well as a

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<v Speaker 1>reason for why they've reacted in such a negative way.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone I have come out to thus far has been

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<v Speaker 1>nothing but loving, supportive, and proud of me. Please help

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<v Speaker 1>Sabrina and she's here with us on the phone. Okay, Hi, Sabrita, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so nice to meet you, by the way. And

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<v Speaker 1>Martha Thrett like, what I know, surprise, surprise, surprise. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sort of surprised about your parents. Yeah, it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>been pretty hard, I think, just especially since all of

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<v Speaker 1>my friends and like literally everyone else I've come out

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<v Speaker 1>to has been so supportive. I was taken aback for sure. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>other than going to Chelsea, have you gone to a

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<v Speaker 1>psychiatrist to work this out with your parents? Oh? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I joined a support group with other queer folks. I

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<v Speaker 1>have gone to a few therapists. They all just teld

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<v Speaker 1>me to like keep pushing forward, keep reaching out, kind

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<v Speaker 1>of rip off the band aid, do everything I can.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's kind of what I've been doing. But I

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<v Speaker 1>understand she has a different perspective and ACROSSSS, so kind

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<v Speaker 1>of giving her time I think has been the best

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<v Speaker 1>that she needs. But I still feel like I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>getting anything back from her. From your mom, yeah, my mom,

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<v Speaker 1>I mostly have like the most emotional connection with my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>My dad is like the sit back, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>support you silently kind of person. So it doesn't feel

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<v Speaker 1>natural for me to like want to go to him first,

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<v Speaker 1>which is also an issue that that I have. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think what you're describing is just going to take

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<v Speaker 1>some time, you know, And I think you should go

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<v Speaker 1>where the love is and when you have a support

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<v Speaker 1>of welcoming family on your girlfriend's side, dive into that

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<v Speaker 1>and lean into that during this time, because that's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the support you need. And you're taking care of

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and that's never wrong. Looking out for yourself and

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<v Speaker 1>standing up for yourself and being honest and forthright to

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<v Speaker 1>the people you love about what you care about and

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<v Speaker 1>what you want in this life and your sexual identity

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<v Speaker 1>and all of that is important. So as long as

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<v Speaker 1>you're being honest with yourself, then nobody can hold anything

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<v Speaker 1>against you. Those are their issues that they're going to

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<v Speaker 1>have to overcome. You can keep in contact with them

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<v Speaker 1>and reach out and stuff, but it's it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be their own kind of journey. And in the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you should focus and go where the love

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<v Speaker 1>is and just enjoy your time with your girlfriend, enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>her family. You can get things from them that you're

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<v Speaker 1>not getting from your own family. And I guarantee you

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<v Speaker 1>your mother will come around. You're her daughter, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>unless she's some evil, demonic wizard, like she's gonna come around.

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<v Speaker 1>She's gonna miss you, and she's gonna want to be

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<v Speaker 1>a part of your life. Yeah, it's just for me specifically.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been hard because I am such an EmPATH and

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<v Speaker 1>I do. I have a hard time moving forward with

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<v Speaker 1>things if I know that I don't have acceptance from

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<v Speaker 1>my parents. So just like me, that's naturally who I am.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've kind of talked to my mom about this

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<v Speaker 1>because she has been the type of person who's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care what anyone thinks, Like, I'm gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>what I want that makes me happy. But that's just

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<v Speaker 1>not who I am. Like, if I know that you

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<v Speaker 1>love me and I care about your opinion, it's hard

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<v Speaker 1>for me to like accept that it hasn't really progressed.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's not an EmPATH. That's interdependency. An EmPATH is

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<v Speaker 1>just feeling what other people are going through. Relying on

0:27:13.800 --> 0:27:18.520
<v Speaker 1>other people's opinions of you is codependency or interdependency, So

0:27:18.920 --> 0:27:21.359
<v Speaker 1>those two things have to be delineated in your mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Those aren't the same thing. You know, and you're relying

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<v Speaker 1>on your mother's acceptance of you. Like, if every single

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<v Speaker 1>one of us had to rely on someone else's acceptance,

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<v Speaker 1>none of us would be accepted. That's the most important

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<v Speaker 1>in your life. That's your attachment figure. It's your mom.

0:27:34.600 --> 0:27:36.960
<v Speaker 1>You said you have the most emotional connection to her,

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why you're affected by this. I know it's difficult,

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<v Speaker 1>but you have to learn a way to move through

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<v Speaker 1>this period of time without relying on her approval because

0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:49.199
<v Speaker 1>you don't have it, and you're not going to do

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<v Speaker 1>anything to convince her to give it to you, except

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<v Speaker 1>by living your life and demonstrating your happiness and your

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<v Speaker 1>self love. You know, for yourself, you respecting yourself is

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<v Speaker 1>the only way to get a people to respect you. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's also told me that she doesn't want me

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<v Speaker 1>to like come out. So I have a younger brother.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't know anything about this, and she's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>making me wait. She doesn't want me to tell my family,

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<v Speaker 1>which I feel like I'm ready to do, but I

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<v Speaker 1>also don't want to betray her in that aspect. But

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<v Speaker 1>now it's kind of like I'm getting to the point

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<v Speaker 1>where I don't care how old is your brother. My

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<v Speaker 1>brother is seventeen, he's he's in high school, right, What

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<v Speaker 1>are your thoughts on that, Martha? Do you I think

0:28:37.200 --> 0:28:39.280
<v Speaker 1>your brother is old enough to hear your truth. It's

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<v Speaker 1>your story, like she doesn't get to write it for you. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I am so bad at things like this. If you

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<v Speaker 1>inter relationships interpersonal, I'm horrible. This. Don't ask me to

0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:55.880
<v Speaker 1>call it like maybe the alone. She's like, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be in my garden. Okay, that's where I don't

0:28:58.480 --> 0:29:01.600
<v Speaker 1>have to get involved with anybody's personal affairs. I mean

0:29:02.240 --> 0:29:06.640
<v Speaker 1>in our family there every kind of person, so we're

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<v Speaker 1>used to it. Yeah, and I guess in your mother's

0:29:09.480 --> 0:29:14.840
<v Speaker 1>family there, she's not used to differences. Yeah, they're They're Jewish,

0:29:14.880 --> 0:29:19.080
<v Speaker 1>they have tradition. It's weird though Jews are pretty inclusive,

0:29:19.240 --> 0:29:23.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, of everybody, especially gay people. Well yeah, because

0:29:23.120 --> 0:29:25.360
<v Speaker 1>Jews are a marginalized group in their own rights. So

0:29:25.400 --> 0:29:27.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean usually I grew up in a very Jewish

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<v Speaker 1>community and they were welcoming to everybody. But you know,

0:29:31.040 --> 0:29:34.360
<v Speaker 1>you telling your brother's your decision. Obviously, he's seventeen years old,

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<v Speaker 1>he's old enough to hear it, and you lying to

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<v Speaker 1>your brother is really just paving the way for him

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<v Speaker 1>to be upset with you down the road for not

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<v Speaker 1>being forthright. And I think it would be in your

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<v Speaker 1>best interest to also maybe instead of talking to your

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<v Speaker 1>mother directly, maybe composing an email where you could really

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<v Speaker 1>write down everything you want to say. And that she's

0:29:51.920 --> 0:29:55.040
<v Speaker 1>basically asking you to lie about your truth. She's not

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<v Speaker 1>accepting who you're saying you are, and that's so disrespectful

0:29:58.520 --> 0:30:01.400
<v Speaker 1>to you, and it's really kind of like slowing down

0:30:01.440 --> 0:30:04.800
<v Speaker 1>your process of growing. And her opinion is never going

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<v Speaker 1>to change the truth of the matter, and that's that

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<v Speaker 1>you're gay and that you love women and that you

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<v Speaker 1>have a girlfriend that you love. You know, like that's

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<v Speaker 1>never going to change. So I think it would behoove

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<v Speaker 1>you to think about writing that down in a letter

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<v Speaker 1>to her and saying, you know, I need you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about all the things I say and then come

0:30:21.640 --> 0:30:23.600
<v Speaker 1>back to me when you're in a state of acceptance

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<v Speaker 1>and reception instead of reactivity. Yeah, for sure, I will

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<v Speaker 1>definitely do that. Take your mom to a therapist with

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<v Speaker 1>you if you'd go. I've been trying for so many years,

0:30:35.120 --> 0:30:38.280
<v Speaker 1>you don't even know. Yeah, she hears Martha say it,

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully she will. Yeah, just yea, record this part of

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<v Speaker 1>the episode and just play it back to your mother. Yea. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much, Sabrina. Let us know how it goes. Okay, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much. Love. Likewise, thanks Sabrina, Bye bye.

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<v Speaker 1>You get some heavy stuff here. It gets pretty heavy. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I just have to answer questions like how to scramble

0:31:02.360 --> 0:31:09.120
<v Speaker 1>an egg. Yeah, well I could use that information as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Luckily no one's calling me asking me how to scramble

0:31:11.760 --> 0:31:13.560
<v Speaker 1>that egg, because it would be one hot mess. I

0:31:13.560 --> 0:31:15.640
<v Speaker 1>don't think I've ever scrambled eggs without having to throw

0:31:15.640 --> 0:31:19.920
<v Speaker 1>the pan away after the whole man. Yeah, basically. Well,

0:31:19.960 --> 0:31:26.040
<v Speaker 1>our next question comes from single white female. She's fifty seven.

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<v Speaker 1>She says, Dear Chelsea, I'm fifty seven and still single.

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<v Speaker 1>I've embraced being single more than ever, and truly have

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<v Speaker 1>never been one to have to have a man in

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<v Speaker 1>my life. My parents divorced when I was three, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm an only child. I swore I would never get

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<v Speaker 1>married unless I was sure it was right, and would

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<v Speaker 1>not have children unless I was in a happy marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's my fate as it stands now. I've had

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<v Speaker 1>several long term relationships and lived with two of my boyfriends.

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<v Speaker 1>My last relationship ended in I feel anxious about dating

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<v Speaker 1>and have a really hard time being open to any

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<v Speaker 1>one or feeling attracted to most men I meet. Trying

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<v Speaker 1>the dating sites, but I hate them. I'm pretty fit, petite,

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<v Speaker 1>and was blessed with decent jeans. Not to sound vain

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<v Speaker 1>or anything, because I'm pretty modest, but I just have

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<v Speaker 1>a younger look and attitude. I'm feeling embarrassed about being

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<v Speaker 1>fifty seven and being still single. The past few years

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<v Speaker 1>of the pandemic and living in a relatively new area

0:32:21.240 --> 0:32:24.520
<v Speaker 1>have left me experiencing more solitude than I could ever imagine.

0:32:24.960 --> 0:32:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I get in my loner, only child state and find

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<v Speaker 1>the idea of having someone in my life constantly to

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<v Speaker 1>be frightening and overwhelming, leaving a little space for hope,

0:32:33.840 --> 0:32:36.520
<v Speaker 1>though of course I know you don't have a crystal ball.

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<v Speaker 1>But will I ever find a partner in this world

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<v Speaker 1>who I can deal with and who treats me with

0:32:40.960 --> 0:32:43.920
<v Speaker 1>the respect and love that I want? Will this anxiety

0:32:43.960 --> 0:32:47.800
<v Speaker 1>go away? I'm sincerely feeling a bit odd and alone

0:32:47.840 --> 0:32:51.200
<v Speaker 1>in the world. My mom never remarried and stopped dating

0:32:51.200 --> 0:32:52.920
<v Speaker 1>in her forties, and I don't want to end up

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<v Speaker 1>like her. My dad found love at seveny I got married,

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<v Speaker 1>so obviously it can always happen, right, ps how is

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<v Speaker 1>too young to consider? I'm embarrassed to like guys know

0:33:03.400 --> 0:33:06.160
<v Speaker 1>my age. Even on some levels, I should be proud

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<v Speaker 1>yours truly single white female, single white female. Wow, they

0:33:11.680 --> 0:33:15.760
<v Speaker 1>really open their hearts to you. I know, I know

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<v Speaker 1>you are a trusted soul. What do you think about

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<v Speaker 1>single dom in your fifties, Martha, Well, she's lucky. She's

0:33:22.280 --> 0:33:25.000
<v Speaker 1>had a lot of relationships, it sounds like, so she

0:33:25.040 --> 0:33:28.200
<v Speaker 1>doesn't sound like she's in terrible trouble. I have no

0:33:28.560 --> 0:33:31.000
<v Speaker 1>idea about dating sites. I tried that for a while.

0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:35.360
<v Speaker 1>I mean, what's actually when did you try plenty of fish? No,

0:33:35.880 --> 0:33:38.600
<v Speaker 1>I went out with three different people, and the algorithm

0:33:38.600 --> 0:33:41.520
<v Speaker 1>doesn't fit me, doesn't fit you. Well, I mean you're

0:33:41.560 --> 0:33:45.320
<v Speaker 1>a special situation, Martha. I'm an odd situation, so so

0:33:45.360 --> 0:33:48.640
<v Speaker 1>are you. Yeah, that's true dating. But I found my

0:33:48.680 --> 0:33:51.200
<v Speaker 1>guy at forty six, So not on a dating site. No,

0:33:51.400 --> 0:33:53.160
<v Speaker 1>not on a dating site, but I was on dating

0:33:53.160 --> 0:33:56.000
<v Speaker 1>sites and I was definitely having sex through dating sites

0:33:56.080 --> 0:34:00.760
<v Speaker 1>because well, I thought that's what they were for. And yeah,

0:34:00.800 --> 0:34:02.440
<v Speaker 1>like there are so many. First of all, if you

0:34:02.480 --> 0:34:04.680
<v Speaker 1>really don't want to be single, first stop saying that

0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:07.360
<v Speaker 1>you're embarrassed of your age. You're not. You can't be

0:34:07.400 --> 0:34:09.320
<v Speaker 1>embarrassed of your age. That's who you are. You're fifty

0:34:09.320 --> 0:34:12.160
<v Speaker 1>seven years old. Own it. So start with that, some

0:34:12.200 --> 0:34:15.080
<v Speaker 1>positive affirmations every morning, being happy about that, the fact

0:34:15.120 --> 0:34:17.880
<v Speaker 1>that you're still alive at fifty seven, and that you're healthy,

0:34:18.040 --> 0:34:20.279
<v Speaker 1>and that you look good and you you're you seem

0:34:20.360 --> 0:34:23.719
<v Speaker 1>to feel good about yourself. I mean, well, she said,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't know how good she feels about herself,

0:34:25.560 --> 0:34:27.800
<v Speaker 1>because she kept saying she was embarrassed with things about herself.

0:34:27.840 --> 0:34:30.480
<v Speaker 1>She's embarrassed he's single. She's embarrassed he's fifty seven. But

0:34:30.520 --> 0:34:32.719
<v Speaker 1>then she says, she looks good, she's petite, and she's

0:34:32.719 --> 0:34:36.839
<v Speaker 1>in good shape. You know, she's okay. She's okay, So

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:39.719
<v Speaker 1>go out, you know, just go out a few more

0:34:39.760 --> 0:34:42.279
<v Speaker 1>times with different people. Yeah, you've got to exercise the

0:34:42.360 --> 0:34:44.839
<v Speaker 1>muscle of going out. So get down those whether it's

0:34:44.880 --> 0:34:47.359
<v Speaker 1>match dot Com or plenty of Fish or I don't

0:34:47.360 --> 0:34:49.360
<v Speaker 1>know what the hell all the websites are now to

0:34:49.480 --> 0:34:52.520
<v Speaker 1>know about plenty of Fish have you heard about popol

0:34:52.680 --> 0:34:55.680
<v Speaker 1>singles dot com. If you're looking for black guys, that's

0:34:55.680 --> 0:34:59.160
<v Speaker 1>a good site. There's plenty there's something for everybody. For

0:34:59.320 --> 0:35:02.120
<v Speaker 1>Jewish people, ball, I don't want to fish, Sure, well,

0:35:02.160 --> 0:35:05.759
<v Speaker 1>I think Plenty of Fish isn't actually about fish, but there.

0:35:05.800 --> 0:35:08.240
<v Speaker 1>I once put my makeup artists on a dating site

0:35:08.560 --> 0:35:11.760
<v Speaker 1>called shoot what was it? And it was for fishermen?

0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:14.480
<v Speaker 1>And it was it was misleading, and I was like,

0:35:14.640 --> 0:35:16.920
<v Speaker 1>I was like, why is every person holding a like

0:35:16.960 --> 0:35:19.520
<v Speaker 1>a bass in every picture? I'm like, who are they

0:35:19.560 --> 0:35:22.480
<v Speaker 1>looking for? Other fisherman? Like? Who are they looking for

0:35:22.560 --> 0:35:24.960
<v Speaker 1>female fisherman? And then I was like, oh, this is

0:35:24.960 --> 0:35:27.560
<v Speaker 1>a fishing website, Like this is for people who fish

0:35:27.600 --> 0:35:29.839
<v Speaker 1>and that want to meet each other. But get out

0:35:29.840 --> 0:35:33.480
<v Speaker 1>there and practice the exercise of dating, practice the exercise

0:35:33.600 --> 0:35:36.759
<v Speaker 1>of being very owning who you are, that you are

0:35:36.840 --> 0:35:39.879
<v Speaker 1>fifty seven. Yes, everyone's going through a weird time coming

0:35:39.880 --> 0:35:42.680
<v Speaker 1>out of COVID. I mean even people who have big

0:35:42.719 --> 0:35:45.280
<v Speaker 1>social lives. I'm assuming you do too, because you entertain

0:35:45.320 --> 0:35:48.239
<v Speaker 1>a lot. It's weird. Everyone feels a little bit off

0:35:48.280 --> 0:35:50.560
<v Speaker 1>and it's hard to get back in. But the longer

0:35:50.600 --> 0:35:52.600
<v Speaker 1>you wait, the harder it's going to be. So it's

0:35:52.640 --> 0:35:55.160
<v Speaker 1>better just to take the first step and then you

0:35:55.160 --> 0:35:57.720
<v Speaker 1>know it'll flow more easily once you get back into

0:35:57.760 --> 0:36:01.000
<v Speaker 1>practice and go on dates as an exercise. Don't even

0:36:01.040 --> 0:36:03.320
<v Speaker 1>go on them thinking, oh, this is gonna be this

0:36:03.520 --> 0:36:05.960
<v Speaker 1>great love. Like if he's not the perfect thing that

0:36:06.000 --> 0:36:08.640
<v Speaker 1>you're looking for, or he's not handsome enough, or he's

0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:10.839
<v Speaker 1>not thin enough or whatever you're into. If he's not

0:36:10.920 --> 0:36:14.000
<v Speaker 1>meeting your requirements, who gives a ship? Just start going

0:36:14.040 --> 0:36:16.080
<v Speaker 1>on dates to practice going on dates so that you

0:36:16.120 --> 0:36:20.279
<v Speaker 1>get more comfortable with introducing yourself, telling your story and

0:36:20.360 --> 0:36:22.640
<v Speaker 1>being proud of you who you are, because you know,

0:36:22.920 --> 0:36:25.040
<v Speaker 1>you just said a bunch of great things about yourself

0:36:25.080 --> 0:36:27.520
<v Speaker 1>and then a couple negatives. So just get into the

0:36:27.520 --> 0:36:30.880
<v Speaker 1>practice of saying more positive and less negative and no

0:36:31.000 --> 0:36:33.920
<v Speaker 1>negative if you can. I don't think it's hard. I

0:36:33.920 --> 0:36:36.040
<v Speaker 1>think there are so many people out there that are

0:36:36.080 --> 0:36:39.799
<v Speaker 1>looking for a partner, men and women and everything in

0:36:39.840 --> 0:36:43.080
<v Speaker 1>between on the spectrum. People are looking, and so you'll

0:36:43.239 --> 0:36:45.799
<v Speaker 1>be surprised that you know, you think you're alone, but

0:36:45.880 --> 0:36:52.279
<v Speaker 1>you're never alone. Martha and I are alone. That's loneliness. Yeah,

0:36:52.320 --> 0:36:54.839
<v Speaker 1>just be happy you're not famous and everybody knows your

0:36:54.880 --> 0:36:57.759
<v Speaker 1>personality before you go on a date. Okay, think of that,

0:36:58.520 --> 0:37:01.920
<v Speaker 1>think of that before you go on date. Yes, I'm

0:37:01.960 --> 0:37:04.520
<v Speaker 1>sure the everyone just assumes exactly what you're going to be,

0:37:04.600 --> 0:37:07.319
<v Speaker 1>like if you're on a first date for both of you, well,

0:37:07.360 --> 0:37:09.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean it's imagine if you go on a date,

0:37:09.760 --> 0:37:12.920
<v Speaker 1>like you're always presenting, even if you're not a celebrity,

0:37:12.960 --> 0:37:16.600
<v Speaker 1>you're presenting what you think that you should be, right,

0:37:16.600 --> 0:37:19.520
<v Speaker 1>you're not being completely honest about yourself. And then when

0:37:19.560 --> 0:37:22.839
<v Speaker 1>you're a celebrity, it's like you're almost presenting what you

0:37:22.880 --> 0:37:26.640
<v Speaker 1>think people think about you in a sense, like it's

0:37:26.680 --> 0:37:29.080
<v Speaker 1>a it's even more of a trick, and you're like, wait,

0:37:29.120 --> 0:37:32.960
<v Speaker 1>this doesn't feel authentic or real, even though as a

0:37:33.000 --> 0:37:36.279
<v Speaker 1>famous personality or as a like celebrity, I know what

0:37:36.320 --> 0:37:38.560
<v Speaker 1>people think about me mostly is true. Like I'm not

0:37:38.600 --> 0:37:40.480
<v Speaker 1>putting on an act. This is pretty much who I

0:37:40.520 --> 0:37:42.480
<v Speaker 1>am all the time. And I don't think you're really

0:37:42.520 --> 0:37:47.000
<v Speaker 1>putting on an act either, Absolutely, am not. No, she's

0:37:47.040 --> 0:37:49.000
<v Speaker 1>not putting on an act, and she's not trying to

0:37:49.080 --> 0:37:52.080
<v Speaker 1>pret she's not trying to impress anybody, that's for sure.

0:37:52.760 --> 0:37:55.800
<v Speaker 1>So I would just say get out there Okay, a

0:37:55.840 --> 0:37:58.120
<v Speaker 1>single white female. Let us know how it goes. Let

0:37:58.239 --> 0:38:00.879
<v Speaker 1>us know if and when you find love. We'll take

0:38:00.880 --> 0:38:03.200
<v Speaker 1>a quick break right now and we'll come right back

0:38:03.239 --> 0:38:12.600
<v Speaker 1>with Martha and Chelsea. And we're back with Martha and Chelsea.

0:38:12.880 --> 0:38:15.440
<v Speaker 1>Martha just taught me how to make an omelet, and

0:38:15.480 --> 0:38:18.000
<v Speaker 1>you didn't burn the pan. No, it's still stuck on

0:38:18.040 --> 0:38:21.480
<v Speaker 1>the side of the wall. We things got a little

0:38:21.480 --> 0:38:25.319
<v Speaker 1>carried away in the break. Sorry, well, Martha. This is

0:38:25.320 --> 0:38:28.040
<v Speaker 1>the part of the show where we usually ask if

0:38:28.200 --> 0:38:31.319
<v Speaker 1>our guests have any piece of advice they'd like to

0:38:31.360 --> 0:38:35.160
<v Speaker 1>ask Chelsea, or you can give me a piece of advice.

0:38:36.200 --> 0:38:39.640
<v Speaker 1>It's Martha. We can make an I can ask for advice,

0:38:39.800 --> 0:38:44.680
<v Speaker 1>or I can give you a piece of advice. Well,

0:38:44.719 --> 0:38:47.520
<v Speaker 1>I was I was lying on the massage table two

0:38:47.560 --> 0:38:52.680
<v Speaker 1>days ago, and I asked my messur about you, and

0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:55.839
<v Speaker 1>he said, oh, I really like her. I watched aller

0:38:55.920 --> 0:38:58.120
<v Speaker 1>shows and I know, I know we're pretty well because

0:38:58.400 --> 0:39:00.279
<v Speaker 1>he knew he knew you a lot better than I

0:39:00.320 --> 0:39:04.480
<v Speaker 1>knew you. And he said, how does a comedian change

0:39:04.680 --> 0:39:11.239
<v Speaker 1>there their acts so often? You've changed your act, and

0:39:11.320 --> 0:39:14.239
<v Speaker 1>so he wanted to know why, why you've felt the

0:39:14.320 --> 0:39:16.920
<v Speaker 1>need to change your act. Yeah, I just think it's

0:39:16.960 --> 0:39:19.880
<v Speaker 1>an evolution. Like you know, you go through different phases

0:39:19.880 --> 0:39:22.600
<v Speaker 1>in your life. You want to tackle different subjects, and

0:39:22.680 --> 0:39:26.040
<v Speaker 1>you also you have to you shoot a special and

0:39:26.080 --> 0:39:28.439
<v Speaker 1>then that materials out there, so you have to begin

0:39:28.520 --> 0:39:30.920
<v Speaker 1>again and then you like, you know, the hour. I

0:39:30.960 --> 0:39:33.759
<v Speaker 1>just shot my next special in Nashville, like three nights ago,

0:39:34.239 --> 0:39:36.800
<v Speaker 1>and it's a completely different set. But it's all about

0:39:37.480 --> 0:39:41.959
<v Speaker 1>It's about being single, starting in COVID kind of giving

0:39:42.040 --> 0:39:44.560
<v Speaker 1>up on men and thinking, oh, I'll either become a

0:39:44.680 --> 0:39:48.879
<v Speaker 1>late stage lesbian or I will just be single, and

0:39:48.920 --> 0:39:52.480
<v Speaker 1>I'll do that because why why a late stage lesbian?

0:39:52.520 --> 0:39:55.080
<v Speaker 1>Why are you attracted to women enough to know? But

0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:58.399
<v Speaker 1>then you were just becoming so disappointing that I just thought,

0:39:58.480 --> 0:40:01.279
<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh, they're all it is becoming unfuckable. So

0:40:01.360 --> 0:40:03.600
<v Speaker 1>I thought, I'm going to have to transition. There's a

0:40:03.640 --> 0:40:06.960
<v Speaker 1>mass exodus of adults onset lesbian as I'm happening. So

0:40:07.000 --> 0:40:08.719
<v Speaker 1>I called my sister and I asked her if she

0:40:08.760 --> 0:40:11.399
<v Speaker 1>wanted to get a farm in Maine together, and she said,

0:40:11.560 --> 0:40:14.279
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be in a relationship with you romantically,

0:40:14.440 --> 0:40:17.160
<v Speaker 1>So I canceled that plan, and so it's kind of

0:40:17.160 --> 0:40:19.760
<v Speaker 1>my journey of coming out of COVID and then meeting

0:40:19.840 --> 0:40:22.640
<v Speaker 1>Joe Koy, who's my boyfriend now, who I've known for years,

0:40:22.640 --> 0:40:24.760
<v Speaker 1>but I didn't meet him online. He's been an old friend,

0:40:25.000 --> 0:40:26.480
<v Speaker 1>which is the best way to go. If you could

0:40:26.480 --> 0:40:29.279
<v Speaker 1>ever hook up with one of your friends, that's the way,

0:40:29.320 --> 0:40:31.799
<v Speaker 1>because this has been the most healthy relationship I've been

0:40:31.840 --> 0:40:35.719
<v Speaker 1>in and just the sweetest straight hetero sexual MEA. Yeah,

0:40:35.719 --> 0:40:39.040
<v Speaker 1>but he's Filipino, so he's marginalized, and that's why, like

0:40:39.080 --> 0:40:41.000
<v Speaker 1>those kinds of men I think are a little bit

0:40:41.280 --> 0:40:44.839
<v Speaker 1>more apt to understand women and the kind of dynamics

0:40:45.040 --> 0:40:48.279
<v Speaker 1>marginalized because he's Filipino. Well, he's a minority, so there's

0:40:48.280 --> 0:40:50.799
<v Speaker 1>a whole different mentality than being with a straight white guy,

0:40:50.880 --> 0:40:53.359
<v Speaker 1>is what I'm saying. Straight white guys are a little

0:40:53.400 --> 0:40:55.400
<v Speaker 1>bit out of style. No offense to the one sitting

0:40:55.480 --> 0:40:58.120
<v Speaker 1>right across from me, But you know, with the last

0:40:58.120 --> 0:41:00.600
<v Speaker 1>five years everything we've learned, it just seems white men

0:41:00.680 --> 0:41:03.120
<v Speaker 1>have a have a slow learning curve. They don't seem

0:41:03.160 --> 0:41:06.160
<v Speaker 1>to understand or grasp the situation that they have been

0:41:06.280 --> 0:41:10.040
<v Speaker 1>you're a generalist, Yeah, yeah, I am I mean it's pretty,

0:41:10.080 --> 0:41:14.280
<v Speaker 1>but you know that's enough. It's the generalization is true.

0:41:14.640 --> 0:41:16.720
<v Speaker 1>You know, there's enough men out there that have abused

0:41:16.719 --> 0:41:19.600
<v Speaker 1>their positions of power, that have taken advantage of women,

0:41:20.000 --> 0:41:22.560
<v Speaker 1>whether it's in the workplace, whether it's out of the workplace.

0:41:22.800 --> 0:41:25.000
<v Speaker 1>You know, women are capable of doing the same thing too,

0:41:25.040 --> 0:41:27.719
<v Speaker 1>but not to the degree in which men have. And

0:41:27.800 --> 0:41:32.040
<v Speaker 1>so I you know, I resent the resistance of that conversation.

0:41:32.120 --> 0:41:35.160
<v Speaker 1>I resent when men go whoa, you know, and it's

0:41:35.160 --> 0:41:38.040
<v Speaker 1>like there's no argument. Really, it's it's happens over and

0:41:38.080 --> 0:41:41.279
<v Speaker 1>over again. You're in a position of power, so you

0:41:41.320 --> 0:41:44.000
<v Speaker 1>are of a different experience, you know, but because you're

0:41:44.000 --> 0:41:47.120
<v Speaker 1>a woman running your own empire. But you know, many

0:41:47.120 --> 0:41:49.520
<v Speaker 1>women aren't running their own empires and have to put

0:41:49.600 --> 0:41:51.719
<v Speaker 1>up with men and and you know, telling them what

0:41:51.800 --> 0:41:53.719
<v Speaker 1>to do and what's best, da da da, and that

0:41:53.920 --> 0:41:58.040
<v Speaker 1>it becomes old fast. So anyway, changing material all the

0:41:58.120 --> 0:42:00.879
<v Speaker 1>time is kind of part and are so of being

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:04.040
<v Speaker 1>a comedian. You have an hour, you work on it

0:42:04.120 --> 0:42:07.040
<v Speaker 1>for about a year. You do about a hundred shows. Tonight,

0:42:07.080 --> 0:42:10.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to port Chester, New York. You were, yeah,

0:42:11.400 --> 0:42:13.600
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, I have a show there. Tonight and tomorrow night.

0:42:13.680 --> 0:42:15.799
<v Speaker 1>I have two shows there. So what part of New

0:42:15.880 --> 0:42:19.240
<v Speaker 1>York is that west Chester? It's oh, it is west Chester,

0:42:19.520 --> 0:42:23.640
<v Speaker 1>port Chester. Somebody said I have to pronounce it point Chester. No.

0:42:24.320 --> 0:42:25.920
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I don't think I'm going to do that,

0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:28.640
<v Speaker 1>but anyway, I guess that answer. Does that answer my

0:42:28.920 --> 0:42:33.279
<v Speaker 1>stand up question? I think from your monsieur, well, yeah,

0:42:33.280 --> 0:42:35.120
<v Speaker 1>tell him I'd like a massage after my show to

0:42:35.400 --> 0:42:39.040
<v Speaker 1>swing by. Okay, he's good. Okay, Well, thank you so

0:42:39.120 --> 0:42:41.960
<v Speaker 1>much Martha for being here today and helping doll out advice.

0:42:42.320 --> 0:42:45.720
<v Speaker 1>Thank you. And I'm just in awe about the questions

0:42:45.719 --> 0:42:49.040
<v Speaker 1>that you get. Yeah, I know, I know. Really people

0:42:49.120 --> 0:42:53.040
<v Speaker 1>are needy. They are, well, yeah needy. Don't realize that

0:42:53.040 --> 0:42:56.000
<v Speaker 1>when you're doing the kinds of questions and you ask Martha,

0:42:56.160 --> 0:43:02.560
<v Speaker 1>don't get questions like that and so long. Yes, these

0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:06.400
<v Speaker 1>are the cut down versions, Martha. Wow, these are the

0:43:06.440 --> 0:43:14.000
<v Speaker 1>abridged versions. Yes, yeah, thank you Martha. Thanks Martha, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you'd like to ask Chelsea a question, email

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<v Speaker 1>us at Dear Chelsea Project at gmail dot com