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Speaker 1: First Date is follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com. Erica is on the

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Speaker 1: phone today for a first date follow up and she's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by a guy named Nathan. So in a

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Speaker 1: few minutes we'll call him and see if it tells

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Speaker 1: why he's ghosting her and maybe get her a second date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Erica, how long has it been since your date?

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Speaker 2: Two weeks?

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Speaker 3: Two weeks? Okay?

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Speaker 4: Was the last time you talked to him on the

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Speaker 4: date or did you guys have any ear interaction after that?

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Speaker 2: Nothing? I tried texting him, he didn't answering back.

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Speaker 5: So I didn't want to seem desperate, And then the

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Speaker 5: next day I DMed him on Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Nothing, So I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Okay, it is said, I know being ghosted is the

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Speaker 4: worst that was your yea?

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Speaker 3: Was the date good though?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? He had like this quiet confidence and like easy

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Speaker 5: half smile.

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Speaker 2: And like I forgot my name for a second, and.

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Speaker 5: Uh he like packed a picnic like a Michelin star chefs,

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Speaker 5: like with the cloth, napkins, sparkling lemonade, homemade.

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Speaker 2: Peach hand pies.

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Speaker 5: I was like, what you made this? I love a

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Speaker 5: guy who can cook. And I was excited and he

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Speaker 5: was excited. He offered to skip rocks and we ended

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Speaker 5: up skipping rocks and he was like, listen, when you

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Speaker 5: get it to finally glide, you're going to feel like

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Speaker 5: a superhero. And it was like Lakeside Park at Golden Hour.

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Speaker 5: You know, we had the blanket, it got a little chili,

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Speaker 5: and then he had this playlist, a little speaker and

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Speaker 5: snacks and he just had everything planned out. It was

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Speaker 5: just so nice to just experience the state with him

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Speaker 5: and talk and you know, he.

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Speaker 2: When he was skipping, he was giving me the technique.

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Speaker 5: Of the you know, rock throwing. And uh, the only

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Speaker 5: thing that I think maybe is the reason he's ghosting

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Speaker 5: is like I shared this story about about.

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Speaker 2: My dad and like I was copying his stamp to

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Speaker 2: skip these.

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Speaker 5: Rocks, and I kept on splashing, and every time I

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Speaker 5: would splash, I would say strike, you know, and uh,

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Speaker 5: okay has a problem. I don't know, like, and I

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Speaker 5: was like, my dad, you know, forced me to play

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Speaker 5: softball growing up, and I sucked and every time I missed,

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Speaker 5: he would have the whole team and he would he

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Speaker 5: would yell strike and so off to choose to saying that,

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Speaker 5: and uh, I don't know if I shared too much

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Speaker 5: and I sounded like a loser and it was like

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Speaker 2: Soon, But we laughed a lot.

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Speaker 4: You know, were you overly emotional or something and telling

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Speaker 4: that story like.

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Speaker 2: No, no, I just said as a matter of fact,

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Speaker 2: but he was just listening. And we moved on.

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Speaker 5: But like if I like going back and trying to

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Speaker 5: like find why he would be ghosting me, I'm like, well,

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Speaker 5: I did share that. Maybe that seemed like, uh, like

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Speaker 3: Much. Yeah, it happens.

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Speaker 2: But after that we started talking about his sister and

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Speaker 2: all that stuff.

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Speaker 5: It was really fun and he offered me a hoodie

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Speaker 5: when it was cold, and the conversation after that was easy,

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Speaker 5: and you know, there were sparks everywhere. And so I'm

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Speaker 5: just like confused and heartbroken because I thought giving the

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Speaker 4: It's like this always thrown me though, because he puts

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, like we were perfectly instinct. Yeah, I don't know, Okay,

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Speaker 5: it felt like the vibes were nice, so I'm not sure.

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Speaker 1: We'll see if we can figure it out for you.

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Speaker 1: We'll play a song and then come back and then

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Speaker 1: call him and see if I tell us why he's

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Speaker 1: ghosting you and maybe get you a second date. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 1: Right in the middle of your first day follow up,

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Speaker 1: and Erica is on the phone today and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a guy named Nathan. So we're about to

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Speaker 1: But first, Erica, why don't you break down your date

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Speaker 1: again for us real quick?

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Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, we went on a picnic and he made

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Speaker 5: me a homemade peachant pies and everything was amazing, and

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Speaker 5: he taught me how to skip rocks, and I shared

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Speaker 5: a personal story about my dad.

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Speaker 2: That we have ruined it.

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Speaker 5: And then it got cozy and we were back in

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Speaker 5: the vibe and I'm not sure if I shared too much,

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Speaker 5: but I definitely had fun that it was really sweet

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, are you ready for us to call him

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Speaker 1: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you?

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Speaker 2: Yes? Please?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Hello, Hi, I speak to Nathan please. Yeah, Hey, Nathan,

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Speaker 1: how are you. This is a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 1: The Jewel Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi Nathan, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name

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Speaker 3: is Jeubel. What's up? Have you ever heard the show before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I just don't know why he might.

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Speaker 5: Be calling me.

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Speaker 1: Well, have you gone on any dates recently? I?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, cool.

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Speaker 1: We're calling because this is a first day follow up.

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Speaker 1: You know, the segment where you go out on day

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Speaker 1: with someone and you and up ghosting them. That person

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Speaker 1: can email us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 1: ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 3: And we got an email about you.

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Speaker 6: Okay, wow, all right. I was not expecting this at all.

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Speaker 3: Are you Who are you ghosting? Nathan?

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Speaker 6: I mean, who am I not ghosting?

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Speaker 5: Wo?

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Speaker 6: I assume it Eric?

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Speaker 3: Yes, it is Erica. She emailed us. We talked to

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Speaker 3: her about your date.

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Speaker 1: Sounded nice, sounded great actually, and she told us that

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Speaker 1: you haven't talked to her in two weeks. So would

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Speaker 1: you mind telling us why are you Ghostinger?

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Speaker 6: M m? She can't kiss my bottom lip is still

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Speaker 6: blue from all of the sucking and the slobber Wow. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: just a mood killer. The day was pretty romantic before

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Speaker 3: She bruised your bottom lip?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, it was really something else.

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Speaker 4: She sucked that hard because that would be the only way,

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Speaker 4: right that you can does your lip change color if

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Speaker 4: that happens?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, yeah it was.

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Speaker 6: It looked like, you know, like somebody who had been

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Speaker 6: in the pool for too long.

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Speaker 4: Oh really, clearly, I haven't had my lips sucked that

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I hadn't either until I went to the doctor to

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Speaker 6: figure out what was going on. Well, and yeah, they

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Speaker 6: were like, you know, there's bruising, but you don't.

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Speaker 4: Think that you could have just like talked to her

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Speaker 6: No, it seemed like that was like her style, like

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Speaker 6: she was. She was really into it, and so I

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Speaker 6: just did. It just totally turned me off. I've kissed

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Speaker 6: It sucked, but I guess that's what I would say.

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Speaker 3: Or is that awesome?

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Speaker 4: You know she lef to do that much, she couldn't

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Speaker 4: get enough.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 6: I don't want to be I don't want to be

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Speaker 6: hurt by a person getting two into me. I think

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Speaker 6: there's a there's a happy medium for that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, well, thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 1: I'll also let you know that Erica is actually on

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Speaker 1: the phone and has been listening and wants to talk

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Speaker 6: Oh wait, she's here. Yep, yeah, hey Erica.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. The kiss, you were making noises like you're

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Speaker 3: A cat.

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Speaker 6: No, I was not purring.

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Speaker 2: I was wincing. You were sucking my lip.

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Speaker 6: Off my face and just like drowning it in saliva.

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Speaker 2: It was passionate. It was like getting caught.

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Speaker 6: In a sprinkler. It was just it was so much moisture.

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Speaker 5: My ex taught me how to kiss like that, which

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Speaker 5: makes it worse.

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Speaker 6: Why would anyone pass that on. It's not a family recipe.

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Speaker 6: Just like let that.

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Speaker 2: You want wincing in pain.

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Speaker 5: You were like, oh, like purring, I was drowning.

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Speaker 6: Does that sound like somebody purring or sound like somebody drowning?

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Speaker 2: No, you are drowning. I guess I'm memorable. What is

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 2: What is it really? That's it? That's what it is.

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Speaker 6: I mean, It's not just my lip. I mean like

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Speaker 6: my shirt was soap, like you have to wear a

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Speaker 6: bib if you want to make out with her?

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Speaker 2: What's come on?

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Speaker 5: Like you we were skipping rocks on the water. You

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Speaker 5: got splashed by the rocks and the water, and it

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Speaker 5: can't be the kick? Is there anything else?

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Speaker 6: Anything else? Do you think that the rocks skipping on

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Speaker 6: the water splashed up and only covered my mouth, my

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Let me do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 6: Water and saliva? It was like sticky.

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Speaker 5: It was like.

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Speaker 6: Glimer had just gone like right through me.

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Speaker 2: People like spitty kisses. Fish fish like spitty kisses.

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Speaker 6: People don't wind them.

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Speaker 2: Well, I just thought that everybody liked that.

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Speaker 6: I'm telling you that's not true. So you can't say

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Speaker 6: that anymore. You can't say I mean, I'm taking off

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Speaker 6: they can let you know that that's not true.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, maybe you can teach me how to do

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Speaker 2: a dryk is.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Nathan, would you like to go out with Erica again?

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Speaker 6: That sounds worse than the way I kiss.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm good, No, thank you.

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Speaker 3: You could teach her how to kiss exactly where you

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Speaker 3: liked it. Yeah, she's willing to learn how to kiss

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Speaker 3: Nathan style.

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Speaker 5: I can't.

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Speaker 6: My doctor told me I can't kiss anyone for like

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Speaker 6: three more weeks.

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Speaker 3: Really that sounds doctor have a crush on you.

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Speaker 6: Okay, well maybe he didn't say that exactly, but I

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Speaker 6: don't want to kiss anybody for like three weeks. It's

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Speaker 6: like even sipping home and it was straw, now is painful?

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Speaker 3: Wow, you sucked on his lips that hard?

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Speaker 2: Erica, Well, I mean I was. I thought it was passionate.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I get where you're coming from, Erica. Maybe

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Speaker 4: next time you just got to like gauge, like do

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Speaker 4: you want to kiss? From like a scale one to ten?

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Speaker 4: How Bruce, do you want.

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Speaker 3: To be you?

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Speaker 5: I can't believe that. I kind of want to see it.

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Speaker 5: Please give me another chance.

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Speaker 3: Please.

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Speaker 6: I gave you another chance when I was like pulling

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Speaker 6: away and you just kept coming.

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Speaker 2: I tried.

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Speaker 3: I can't, Nathan, think about it.

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Speaker 1: Really, you said yourself, she's a vacuum cleaner and now

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Speaker 1: she's begging.

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Speaker 4: Okay, those are good reasons to enday with somebody here.

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Speaker 2: Ju Wile's first day follow up