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Speaker 5: I call my fiance and best friend cheating on me,

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Speaker 5: but I've been paying all their bills.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, you're funding the affair I have.

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Speaker 5: Female twenty three just found out that my fiance, male

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Speaker 5: twenty three is cheating on me with my best friend,

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Speaker 5: female twenty three.

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Speaker 3: Who I've known since we were in diapers. Ouch. Ouch.

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from and deleted on our

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Speaker 5: attend a business meeting, and two hours later, my sister

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Speaker 5: sent me a video of.

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Speaker 3: My fiance and my bff making out outside of Starbucks.

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Speaker 5: I'm absolutely heartbroken, and I have no idea how to

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Speaker 5: process this.

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Speaker 3: We were together for three years and our wedding is in.

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Speaker 5: Two months, and this girl has been by my side

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Speaker 5: since birth. I don't have memories without her. I'm trying

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Speaker 5: to explain the pain I feel right now, but I can't.

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Speaker 5: How am I supposed to express this crap. I've gone

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Speaker 5: over my relationship and my friendship a million times this

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Speaker 5: past three hours, and I just can't understand. I also

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Speaker 5: didn't get how you can backstep someone who is paying

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Speaker 5: for your college rent and.

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Speaker 3: Car Ooh, you're doing too much girl.

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Speaker 5: Her parents couldn't afford it, so I've been financially supporting

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Speaker 5: her for the last three years.

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Speaker 3: And him. He lives in.

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Speaker 5: My apartment free of charge because I wanted him to

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Speaker 5: save his paychecks so he can start his own business

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Speaker 5: like he always wanted. I'm doing ninety percent of the

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Speaker 5: chores because I wanted him to relax after work, and

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Speaker 5: I am one hundred percent responsible for our four dogs.

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Speaker 5: Plus I've been paying his mom's mortgage for a year.

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Speaker 3: Who what job do you have? Op What are we

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Speaker 3: doing for a living? Opio you a twenty three? How

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Speaker 3: are you doing all this? I am so stupid? How

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Speaker 3: could I be so stupid?

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Speaker 5: We never had any fights, and until now I was

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Speaker 5: under the impression that we were happy. I mean, he

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Speaker 5: made me breakfast every morning and always made sure to

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Speaker 5: tell me how happy and leggy he feels to have

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Speaker 5: me in his life, and we can't imagine not being

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Speaker 5: with me. This man has been sending me I love

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Speaker 5: you text every day hour. I don't get how he

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Speaker 5: how could she do this. It's not like it's some

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Speaker 3: It's my best friend.

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Speaker 5: She has been helping me plan the wedding, all while

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Speaker 5: having an affair with my future husband. I'm supposed to

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Speaker 5: drive back home right now, but I'm sitting in my

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Speaker 5: car at a gas station, crying and asking myself WTF

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Speaker 3: I'm physically in pain, I'm confused, I'm in shock.

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Speaker 5: I'm writing this hoping it will help get it out

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Speaker 5: so I can think about my next move. And drive

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Speaker 5: my butt home safely. I'm sorry if this is a mess,

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Speaker 5: but I'm a mess right now. Any advice on how

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Speaker 3: Edit to add that I am doing a to do.

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Speaker 5: List because thanks to you, I've realized there's a lot

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Speaker 5: to take care of. Also, I'm going to stay at

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Speaker 4: Little update.

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Speaker 5: I've been talking to lawyers for hours and we're making

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Speaker 5: sure that my ex does have any right to my

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Speaker 5: be able to file acclaim.

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Speaker 3: Also, I've canceled all payments that aren't for me. Good job.

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Speaker 3: That was a bit tricky and took a long time,

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Speaker 5: I've moved all the money from our shared account into

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Speaker 5: my personal account, and the bank reassured me that if

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Speaker 3: It's in my name. That's nice, that's let whoa.

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Speaker 5: I did, however, take precautions and texted them that the

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Speaker 5: bank called me and froze the account by.

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Speaker 3: Mistake, so they know they can't use it.

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Speaker 5: I've done so many things this morning that I can't

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Speaker 5: even remember them all, but I read the majority of

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Speaker 5: your comments. By the way, thank you so much for

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Speaker 5: all the support you guys showed me. I took the

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Speaker 5: advice of all the people they commented, and I've sorted

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Speaker 3: To fifty percent of this mess.

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Speaker 5: I'm now at the point where I have to tell

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Speaker 5: everyone go home, confront them, and kick them out of

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Speaker 5: my life. I'm at my sister's right now typing this out.

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Speaker 5: My sister and a couple of her friends came over

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Speaker 5: and cleaned the apartment of everything that was his except

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Speaker 5: for the things I got him, and they're currently in

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Speaker 5: the trash bags outside. My sister's boyfriend's dad was nice

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Speaker 5: enough to change the locks. I'm not going back there.

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Speaker 5: I'm going to rent an apartment until this settles down,

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Speaker 5: and then I'm going to sell the apartment and buy

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Speaker 5: a house because my dogs deserve a backyard.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Can you even have four dogs in an apartment?

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Speaker 6: I don't know. That's a lot Like OPI can do

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Speaker 6: whatever she wants, Like, yeah, she's getting into a new apartment,

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Speaker 6: selling that apartment, get a house soon, Yeah, OPI dude

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Speaker 6: do Yeah. Guy's crazy take care of it.

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Speaker 5: I also have security cameras, so if he shows up

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Speaker 5: or tries anything, i'll know.

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Speaker 3: Now, after I calms down, I decide.

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Speaker 5: I want to be petty, so I'm going to report

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Speaker 5: the car as stolen, considering it's only in my name.

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Speaker 5: I'm going to go over to his mom's and talk

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Speaker 5: great and I do feel bad about ghosting her, so

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Speaker 5: I'll go talk to her.

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Speaker 3: After I'm done updating you guys.

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Speaker 5: I'm not planning on confronting any of them because I

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Speaker 5: think that will only disturb me more. We have a

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Speaker 5: group chat with everyone at the wedding. I'm planning on

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 6: No, no, no no. And she's not gonna do anymore because

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Speaker 6: it'll cost her more money to do the wedding, so

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Speaker 6: she's gonna pay her chat like, oh hey, So like

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Speaker 6: mom's gonna text hey, so like when are we gonna

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Speaker 6: like pick out her dresses?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and she's gonna boom. Here's my ex making out

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Speaker 5: with my best friend. My lawyer and I are also

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Speaker 5: going over all my convos with them, looking for any

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Speaker 5: messages where they said they would pay me back for something.

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Speaker 3: Thanks to the person that suggested this.

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Speaker 5: In the comments, and I think you'll be very happy

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Speaker 5: to know that I have proof of her saying she

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Speaker 3: That's good.

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, yay. I think that's it for now.

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Speaker 5: I'll be back later. I talked to his mom and

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Speaker 5: she was shocked when I told her. She's told me

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Speaker 5: she's going to cut him off and he can take

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Speaker 5: his cheating butt to his cheating dad. I don't know

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Speaker 5: if she's actually going to cut him, but that's what

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Speaker 3: We cried together and kept apologizing.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, low KEI she may I don't think she's manipulative,

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Speaker 6: but if she was manipultive, she may have said that

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Speaker 6: in order for you to keep paying her mortgage.

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Speaker 5: That's an interesting take. I wouldn't have thought about that.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, you wouldn't have thought about that. I'm traumatized.

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Speaker 5: I sent the video of them making out in the

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Speaker 3: I have no desire to speak to them. Ever.

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Speaker 5: I did report the car as stolen and she got arrested.

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Speaker 5: I'm almost done with the wedding cancelation. I'm not getting

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Speaker 5: too much back since the wedding was so close. I'm

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Speaker 5: going to finally get some sleep now, and there is

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Speaker 3: I'm so glad the wedding was close before.

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Speaker 5: Yes, that happened, so when the wedding like didn't happen,

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Speaker 5: that would be like she could get something.

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Speaker 3: Back at least. Yeah, Yeah, that's good.

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Speaker 5: That's just that's just such a hard situation. But she's

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Speaker 7: She really is, and she's I like that she send

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Speaker 7: that's a good idea too, because I feel like we've

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Speaker 7: heard a lot of stories where they like call off

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Speaker 7: like spreading lies about Ope, you know, and so you

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Speaker 3: OP, and so I feel like in this situation, she's

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Speaker 3: just like boom fo.

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Speaker 5: He can even ask this is some info breaking news

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Speaker 5: cheating boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Fiance, and then there you go. You can take your

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Speaker 3: assumptions from that. Hi, guys.

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Speaker 5: After my last update, I decided since I'm not getting

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Speaker 5: my money back on the venue, I will keep the

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Speaker 5: reservation and have a party. Most of my exes family

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Speaker 5: and friends shunned him after seeing the video, and they've

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Speaker 3: To apologize for what he's done. My ex bff's family

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Speaker 3: is not speaking to her either.

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Speaker 3: So the bff, because she's a homewrecker, her own family

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Speaker 3: is also not talking to her. So what's she gonna do?

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Speaker 3: What she gonna do?

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Speaker 5: She lost her her income, which is basically ope, then

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Speaker 5: her family.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure she's got some sort of job. But I've

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Speaker 3: also found.

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Speaker 5: Out today for my ex's cousin, who by the way,

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Speaker 5: knew about the affair, that my ex quit his job

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Speaker 5: around the same time he moved in. So unfortunately for him,

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Speaker 5: he doesn't have any savings boom. The ex doesn't even

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Speaker 5: have his own money. That's amazing, But also like crappy

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Speaker 5: that he was like that he quit the job and

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Speaker 5: didn't even tell it pee.

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Speaker 3: That's insane because this guy is piece of work. All

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Speaker 3: he knows is how to do is kiss girls and

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Speaker 3: make breakfast. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I don't know what he did in the time I

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Speaker 5: that he was with his mistress. My ex showed up

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Speaker 5: to my apartment, but he left after my neighbor said

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Speaker 5: that she'll call the police. Dude, w neighbor, that's awesome.

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Speaker 5: I don't know or care where he is. I blocked

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Speaker 5: him after I sent the video. I'm going to move

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Speaker 5: That's like, that's one of those things that's like, once

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Speaker 3: My father in law started a war with me, but

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Speaker 3: So I moved in with my fiance when my landlord

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Speaker 3: No introduction was made. It's just like he's just grumpy.

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Speaker 4: Just yeah, I let him, let him be, he'll be grumpy,

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Speaker 3: No, I feel like they, the fiance and the in

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Speaker 4: He's just a bitter is living.

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Speaker 4: He's going this is this is I'm not saying my

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I just don't like that. There's got to be

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Speaker 3: Guys, there's still like one. No one introduced them officially.

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Speaker 3: talk to me about it and made it quite clear

444
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Speaker 3: that she thought he was being ridiculed us. I agreed

445
00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:03,560
Speaker 3: and told her that if the bathroom, which is significantly

446
00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:06,520
Speaker 3: leaner that since I moved in, wasn't good enough, he

447
00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:08,679
Speaker 3: can clean it. Yeah, put your foot down, you've literally

448
00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:10,560
Speaker 3: cleaned it. Every time it seems like, yeah, like you

449
00:18:10,600 --> 00:18:12,480
Speaker 3: gotta switch off. I just make a chort chart.

450
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Speaker 4: I still do not like how everyone is just like

451
00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:19,800
Speaker 4: we're gonna be the middleman for you and like converse

452
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Speaker 4: between from father in law to u Op. Yeah, someone

453
00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:24,680
Speaker 4: here has.

454
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Speaker 3: To be like, let's do a little a little chat.

455
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Speaker 4: I get like there's like adds more drama. They're like,

456
00:18:29,480 --> 00:18:30,920
Speaker 4: there's no drama. There's there's so much.

457
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Speaker 3: There's a lot of stress and stuff stress here.

458
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Speaker 4: Yeah, between everyone, Like you're involving people that shouldn't be involved.

459
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Speaker 4: It should be a direct conversation between you and father.

460
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Speaker 3: I think it could be a direct conversation between them,

461
00:18:42,080 --> 00:18:44,480
Speaker 3: but it seems like op tried dap that it still

462
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Speaker 3: didn't work. So like maybe having it with another party present,

463
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Speaker 3: but just not just not this like the feeling.

464
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Speaker 4: Between op Opie's. Yeah, fiance, he hadn't.

465
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Speaker 3: Cleaned a single thing in the whole year I had

466
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Speaker 3: lived here. He threw a fit for days, and fiance

467
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Speaker 3: and I were on strike for cleaning it. Sister in

468
00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:03,840
Speaker 3: law agreed with us. He even threw a fit about

469
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Speaker 3: it at the family reunion where many of my father

470
00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:08,239
Speaker 3: in law's own siblings were looking at him like he

471
00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:11,199
Speaker 3: was crazy. When we got back, he finally caved and

472
00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:13,600
Speaker 3: cleaned it. A couple of days before this point, I

473
00:19:13,600 --> 00:19:15,720
Speaker 3: wrote a note saying to directly talk to me or

474
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Speaker 3: fiance about the bathroom and not sister in law because

475
00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:21,399
Speaker 3: that's just childish. He never did and still has not

476
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Speaker 3: talked to me.

477
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Speaker 4: He's a grumpy, old, childish man and that sounds like

478
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Speaker 4: my dad.

479
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Speaker 3: Yace warned me about confronting him and to let him

480
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Speaker 3: come to me or else it would just be a fight,

481
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Speaker 3: and he has been apparently known to hit people when

482
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Speaker 3: he's mad in the past. Well, after the reunion, his girlfriend,

483
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Speaker 3: the dad's girlfriend broke up with him officially and for good.

484
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Speaker 3: I'm guessing because he was acting like a child. I'm

485
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Speaker 3: sorry he's known to hit people. Why is he still

486
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Speaker 3: in your house? H yeah, yea. Well we have just

487
00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:51,399
Speaker 3: continued with our normal routine of cleaning the bathroom, slash,

488
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Speaker 3: bathing the dog, including me washing the floor and hand

489
00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,920
Speaker 3: towels every week. Father in law is still mad about

490
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Speaker 3: the bathroom and the parking spot, apparently because he threw

491
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Speaker 3: a huge, huge fit. Sister in law get about it

492
00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:04,440
Speaker 3: and told her that he gave her thirty thousand dollars

493
00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:07,160
Speaker 3: to buy this house, so that parking spot belogs dam.

494
00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:09,280
Speaker 3: She basically just told him to take it if it

495
00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:11,520
Speaker 3: bugged him that bad. She was sick of his crap

496
00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:13,240
Speaker 3: and the rest of us were two, so I told

497
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Speaker 3: her I would stop parking there and park on the

498
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Speaker 3: street because I'm sick of it too. I would like

499
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Speaker 3: to add that the street parking is actually closer to

500
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Speaker 3: the front door than the driveway, so there's absolutely no

501
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Speaker 3: reason for this to be an issue. This parking spot

502
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Speaker 3: thing was in the last few days, so this is

503
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Speaker 3: why I'm being petty now. I have decided to remove

504
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Speaker 3: all my hand toils from the normal rack, hanging them

505
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Speaker 3: behind my bath towels where he can't see them. And

506
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Speaker 3: I told fiance I'm leaving the toilet paper in my

507
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Speaker 3: bottom drawer so father in law can't use it. Our

508
00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:42,359
Speaker 3: bathroom needs a new toilet it's an old house, so

509
00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:44,760
Speaker 3: we started using the upstairs one a couple months ago.

510
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:47,920
Speaker 3: Until that's possible. Father in law has never washed any

511
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Speaker 3: shared towels or bought toilet papers since I moved in,

512
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Speaker 3: so that's going to sack for him. I'm sure I'll

513
00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:55,679
Speaker 3: do other small, petty things, but my main plan is

514
00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 3: continued to flat out ignore him. I had gotten to

515
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Speaker 3: the point where I would say hi back when he'd

516
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Speaker 3: say I know this makes him mad when I do that,

517
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,960
Speaker 3: because he's told all four of his children how terrible

518
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Speaker 3: I am for not saying hi back when I first

519
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:10,080
Speaker 3: did it. Mostly, I'm going to just let whatever he

520
00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:13,160
Speaker 3: tries to do next roll off my back and give

521
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Speaker 3: no response at all, because I believe he thrives off

522
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Speaker 3: the drama and getting reactions out of people. Granted I've

523
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:21,720
Speaker 3: never freaked out or anything, so now he gets zero

524
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,440
Speaker 3: of what he wanted the whole time for me a reaction.

525
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:26,439
Speaker 3: All four of his children have let him know in

526
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Speaker 3: the last two weeks that they're sick of him doing

527
00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:30,640
Speaker 3: this stuff too, so I have that on my side.

528
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Speaker 3: And there is an edit about the note I'm sure

529
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 3: he could have handled it and communicating in general with

530
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Speaker 3: him better, which I was already actively thinking about for

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Speaker 3: quite a while before posting this. I made a comment

532
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Speaker 3: somewhere about it. But the whole point here is he

533
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:46,119
Speaker 3: has been a pain in everyone's butts and petty, and

534
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Speaker 3: I am being pettiback to Jim when no one else

535
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Speaker 3: will be. Two of his own children are on my side,

536
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,560
Speaker 3: and the other kids are mad at him for other reasons.

537
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Speaker 3: He has had a major issue with at least one

538
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:59,199
Speaker 3: of his children or girlfriend, like bi weekly since I

539
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,439
Speaker 3: moved in. If it's not one of them, it's me

540
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:04,480
Speaker 3: to add. We have opposite work schedules, and he was

541
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Speaker 3: basically never here unless him and now ex girlfriend were

542
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Speaker 3: on one of their many breaks, or to do some

543
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Speaker 3: stuff like laundry and sleep for the night. So he's

544
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 3: just making problems even though he's not even there that much.

545
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Speaker 4: Yeah, No, he just likes to make problems.

546
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Speaker 3: I maybe saw him six times a week for like

547
00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 3: one minute each time, and that's just me going out

548
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Speaker 3: in the yard or going to the bathroom. Until this month,

549
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 3: his girlfriend broke up with him officially, and he was

550
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:27,399
Speaker 3: in a big fight with his other daughter at the

551
00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:30,200
Speaker 3: same time. So it's just extra bad right now because

552
00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:32,360
Speaker 3: he doesn't know how to handle his emotions and he's

553
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,320
Speaker 3: taking it out on everyone else. Me a girl in

554
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Speaker 3: her twenties that he won't talk to being one of

555
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:40,919
Speaker 3: his main targets slash annoyances, which is honestly really funny

556
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 3: now that I have officially decided not to care and

557
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 3: my emotions finally agree, and there is another edit. But yeah,

558
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:48,919
Speaker 3: this guy, I'd think.

559
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Speaker 4: This guy's causing war with everyone.

560
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,200
Speaker 3: Maybe you could have gone about the communicating things better,

561
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 3: but honestly, I don't think it would have helped.

562
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Speaker 4: I also don't think it's on you.

563
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,400
Speaker 3: No, I don't think so. I get I think it's on.

564
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Speaker 4: The families alone. Who knows him best. They know him best, like, oh,

565
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 4: just don't bat an eye, don't do this, Like.

566
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Speaker 3: It's like it's that's not the way that, that's not.

567
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 4: The way to handle it, Like that's how they've handled it. Yeah,

568
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 4: But like.

569
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Speaker 3: Also they're his like children.

570
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 4: She's not she she's an outside person and he's gonna

571
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Speaker 4: like he's not gonna. It's not fair for him to

572
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 4: treat her op, yeah, like one of his children exactly

573
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:24,440
Speaker 4: because they're used to it. They're used to it, like

574
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Speaker 4: there was just like shruggings, like, but she is brought

575
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Speaker 4: up in a whole different world and a whole different everything.

576
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Speaker 4: So exactly I want someone to at least like just

577
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 4: be a mediator and like hey, stop it, stop it.

578
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Speaker 4: You can be You can be a hold of us dad,

579
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Speaker 4: but not her.

580
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but there is another edit dog poop Listen, guys

581
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Speaker 3: to each throne. If the people who own the house

582
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Speaker 3: and are the parents the children are fine with every

583
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Speaker 3: three or so days, that's how often I'm gonna do it.

584
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Speaker 3: I should add he's only fifteen pounds when he's full

585
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Speaker 3: of food and he poops in the rocks slash on

586
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Speaker 3: top of a bush. He's a weirdo at the back

587
00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 3: edge of the yard where the kids aren't allowed to

588
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:03,720
Speaker 3: go anyways, because they have tools there and nobody's ever

589
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 3: stepped in it or anything. The reason father in law

590
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,679
Speaker 3: decided to bring it up is because he has issues

591
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Speaker 3: with being told what to do, like keeping the gate closed,

592
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 3: so he picked something to tell us to do to

593
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Speaker 3: get back at us for bossing him around. If you

594
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 3: think it should be done more, then go ahead and

595
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Speaker 3: clean up your dog's poop that often. I don't feel

596
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:23,919
Speaker 3: like throwing a whole plastic bag away every day for

597
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Speaker 3: something that is actually good for the earth. By the way,

598
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Speaker 3: you know what else is good for the earth? Joining

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Speaker 3: us live every week to have through PMPSD on YouTube.

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Speaker 3: Just ever go by. There is an update, a small one.

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Speaker 3: The latest drama. Father in law got mad at sister

602
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Speaker 3: in law for kitchen not being clean enough. He's also

603
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Speaker 3: attempting to divide the house by convincing sister in law

604
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Speaker 3: that we've been lying about things. You tried to convince

605
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Speaker 3: sister in law that I was not in school like

606
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:51,639
Speaker 3: I said I am. Father in law looked like an

607
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Speaker 3: idiot when I reminded sister in law that I have

608
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Speaker 3: been actively doing a school assignment every other week or

609
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 3: so since the semester started that involves her own child,

610
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Speaker 3: and I bring my giant notebook with me every time

611
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Speaker 3: full of notes. She also saw me opening my textbooks

612
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Speaker 3: I had to order as a hard copy, and I

613
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 3: told her about each of them when she was asking

614
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Speaker 3: early education degree. In this class, I'm required to work

615
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Speaker 3: with a child on different tasks and write about the

616
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Speaker 3: development I see. Oh, and I got in trouble for

617
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Speaker 3: leaving a single sock on the bathroom counter. Well, it

618
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 3: turns out the sock sitting there for three days didn't

619
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Speaker 3: belong to me or fiance. Fiance was camping for those

620
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Speaker 3: three days because he's so sick of the drama. I

621
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Speaker 3: couldn't go due to school and work. Also, we'll be

622
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Speaker 3: moving in March, which is as soon as realistically possible

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Speaker 3: for us without stressing myself out until I die. Basically

624
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Speaker 3: just here trying to keep my head down, do school work,

625
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Speaker 3: and get ready to move. I think that's the best solution.

626
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Speaker 3: Just getting out of this house obviously, literally just getting

627
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Speaker 3: out of this house as soon as possible.

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Speaker 4: One hundred percent.

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Speaker 4: effort to incorporate both cultures in our big day. Our friends, however,

652
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Speaker 4: everything's perfect. Luckily, it wasn't your wedding.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Lisa, wasn't your wedding.

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Speaker 4: That's the upside my friend had set Her future mother

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660
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Speaker 4: friend getting out of the car and saying the wedding

661
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 4: was off. But then her future hubby called his mother

662
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 4: out for being a Karen and all was resolved. Mom's

663
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 4: a Karen.

664
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:21,359
Speaker 3: Okay, so we're fine. Everything's fine.

665
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 4: Nope, not everything resolved. Nothing is resolved. Everything is not fine.

666
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 4: She made an epic scene at their menu tasting because

667
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:32,199
Speaker 4: one of the groom's brother's girlfriends was celiac and couldn't

668
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 4: eat any of the food chosen. The poor caterers were

669
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 4: constantly reassuring her that gluten free options will be provided

670
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 4: for the girlfriend. Fyi, the girlfriend in question had no

671
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 4: idea all this fuss was being made and was already

672
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 4: aware that she would be looked after. So the mom

673
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 4: was just like, she'sick.

674
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 3: How would you do this? You're gonna kill her?

675
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:49,919
Speaker 2: No.

676
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 4: When the groom was preparing for his stag weekend, stag weekend.

677
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 3: It's like a British it's like a bachelor party.

678
00:27:55,640 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 4: What's the woman's thing? It's hen and stag interesting terms. Interesting.

679
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 4: When the room was preparing for his stag weekend away,

680
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 4: his mother arranged for his grandfather's memorial service was going

681
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 4: to be the day after, meaning that the poor hungover

682
00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 4: groom had to get up at eight am in the

683
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 4: morning after his stag to be home in time to

684
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 4: attend the service. And yes, God, of course he was

685
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 4: incredibly hung over.

686
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:17,200
Speaker 3: That makes sense.

687
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 4: At this point, we thought the worst was over, but wait,

688
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 4: there's more. Until there was another drama over the mother

689
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 4: in law's dress. She had purchased a green sequence dress,

690
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 4: and the bride's mother, who is the funniest, most petty

691
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 4: person I've ever met, posted a picture on Facebook of

692
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 4: a dress that was being given away. It was a

693
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,639
Speaker 4: really ugly punk sequence dressed and in a comment she said,

694
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 4: oh no, I'd never be seen dead in this.

695
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 3: Damn just called her out.

696
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 4: Whilst a lot of people saw this as a funny

697
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 4: comment about an ugly dress, the groom's mom abandoned her

698
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 4: dress idea and decided to wear something else.

699
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 3: So everyone was like, that dress is hideous, but we

700
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 3: don't know how to tell the groom's mom that she

701
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 3: shouldn't wear the dress. It was just like, we're going

702
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 3: to suddenly think it's.

703
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 4: Her idea to blast that on Facebook.

704
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

705
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 4: The day of the wedding, as a wedding coordinator myself,

706
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 4: I decided to make sure everything was running smoothly so

707
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 4: the bride could focus on being pampered. Because she always

708
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 4: looks out for the other people, I felt it was

709
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 4: her turn to enjoy her day. When the flowers arrived,

710
00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 4: we realized that mother in law's corsage didn't arrive. The

711
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 4: mother of the bride knowing how psycho groom's mom is,

712
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 4: volunteered to go without, but we asked the florist to

713
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 4: head back to their shop and get the missing corsage,

714
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 4: which they were happy to do, and thankfully it arrived

715
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 4: just in time for her arrival at the venue. When

716
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 4: mother in law arrived, I had just finished having my

717
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 4: hair and makeup done and I greeted the mother in law.

718
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:42,440
Speaker 4: She insisted on going into the bridal suite to hide

719
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 4: so people wouldn't see her in her dress. I looked

720
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 4: at her very confused, as the dress she was wearing

721
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 4: was the same dress she wore to another one of

722
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 4: her son's weddings a few years prior. She stood outside

723
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 4: the door and waited while I checked on the bride

724
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 4: and was fine as she was still in her room

725
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 4: and not getting into her dress. Mother in law came

726
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 4: into the room and basically ignored the bride and was

727
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 4: mouthing off to the makeup artist who was doing the

728
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 4: bride's makeup. Once the bride was ready to get into

729
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 4: her dress, most of us decided to leave it to

730
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 4: her and the maid of honors so she had a

731
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 4: bit of privacy. I was in the bathroom being tied

732
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 4: into my dress by another bride'smaid who is transgender. Her

733
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 4: gender wasn't important, but it links to the drama. When

734
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 4: we came out of the bathroom, mother in law was

735
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 4: hysterically banging on the door, begging to be let in.

736
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 4: The makeup artist approached the door and said she's in

737
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 4: a state of undress, please give her some privacy. She

738
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 4: then proceeded to scream, I don't care let me in,

739
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 4: and why does he get to be in there?

740
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 3: Oh freaking transphone, get out of the wedding. She freaking sucks.

741
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 3: She makes everything a problem, and now she sucks even more.

742
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 4: She's like King Midas, but like King Grossness, everything she

743
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 4: touched her turns into gross Like.

744
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I would be like literally get out if

745
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 3: I were the bride of Like, how dare you get out? Yeah?

746
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 4: You're this is this is my day. I'm already anxious

747
00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 4: and stressed out enough and you just times it by

748
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 4: one hundred.

749
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 3: And now you're attacking my friends and disrespecting them out.

750
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 4: Those of us in earshot were horrified she had no

751
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 4: right to comment on this girl's gender, and one of

752
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 4: the other bridesmaids snapped and told her off. Good mother

753
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 4: in law stormed off, backed by a friend, and went

754
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 4: to the office of the venue and claimed she was

755
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 4: going home good bye. I decided to try and get

756
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 4: this situation under control before I got back to the

757
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 4: bride and groom, who at the time were blissfully unaware,

758
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 4: thank god. Unfortunately for me, the conversation had not gone well,

759
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 4: and she stormed out of the office, accusing me and

760
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 4: the other bridesmaids of bullying her. Her friend told me

761
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 4: I was a disgrace for standing up to this other

762
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 4: bridesmaid and when I asked her who she was, all

763
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 4: heck broke loose. The groom and his groom's men, including

764
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 4: my husband and his dad, were all standing outside.

765
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 3: Okay, so that all the groom sides like, yeah.

766
00:31:58,280 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 4: They all heard this drama.

767
00:31:59,720 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: Ah.

768
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 4: I strolled out very casually.

769
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 3: He's like strutting out.

770
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 4: Like no sweat, just like Okay. I strolled out very

771
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 4: casually and explained to the groom his mom was having

772
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 4: a tantrum, and he just shrugged his shoulders as if

773
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 4: to say, no surprise there. Then, when the mother of

774
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 4: the bride came out to try and calm her down,

775
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 4: one of the groom's brothers threatened to punch her in

776
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 4: the face.

777
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 3: Oh my god, groom, I'll love to stop.

778
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 4: It's like going from zero to a thousand, like every

779
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 4: other minute. It's like okay, like ah, yeah, of.

780
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 3: Course she is. And then the brothers like, I what

781
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 3: a budger.

782
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 4: It's just like a roller coaster of emotions. Eventually she

783
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 4: calmed down and an hour later then planned. Everything went ahead.

784
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 4: The ceremony was beautiful, My friends were beautiful. We smiled,

785
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 4: we cried. It was a beautiful day. The groom asked

786
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 4: me to apologize to his mom, just to settle her down,

787
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 4: and out of respect for my friend, I obliged, and

788
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 4: it was caught on film. We got proof, Yeah, proof

789
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 4: geographers who saw everything unfold that I might want to

790
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 4: cherish this memory sarcastically. Uh, but you know what I

791
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 4: want to cherish, Sophia. You got you guys tuning in

792
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 4: every weekday at three pm PSD by just click on

793
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 4: our profile, tap it. Uh. There's a little bit more

794
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 4: to this story. So, but let's discuss.

795
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 3: I don't think you did anything wrong. You were trying

796
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 3: to handle a situation that was getting out of control,

797
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 3: where other bridesmaids were putting the crossfire of this crazy lady.

798
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 4: Good on you trying to like make things as easy

799
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 4: for the bride, like no stress, no tense situations as possible,

800
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 4: even though there is so much going on.

801
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 3: And also good on you for just apologize like you

802
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 3: were not in the wrong at all, but you know

803
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 3: you apologize to the motherlin just just social.

804
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:48,160
Speaker 4: Everything you stop. Good on you trying to like, you

805
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,920
Speaker 4: know what, Yeah, this is their day. Let's make it

806
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 4: the best day possible. Yeah that's really and you're screaming

807
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 4: on the inside. It's so allowed you like this sucks.

808
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 4: Back to the story. After the meal, it was my

809
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 4: turn to speak. Admittedly I am not the best public speaker,

810
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 4: but I had a great speech prepared. In my speech,

811
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 4: I said how my friend and I would watch videos

812
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 4: about Bridezilla's matrons of dishonor and mother in laws from

813
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,879
Speaker 4: HG Double Hockey Sticks to ensure our families and friends

814
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 4: were exhibiting weren't exhibiting any of those traits.

815
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 3: This the plan speech that you had already had.

816
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 4: You are literally glaring at like the mother in law.

817
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, we had looked up all of those traits about

818
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 3: horrible mother in law's.

819
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 4: Like calling out her name. I thought it was a

820
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 4: sweet story about how my friend and I prepared to

821
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 4: be bride's mother in law. However, thought it was a dig.

822
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:38,919
Speaker 3: Good take it as a dig. It was a dig.

823
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 4: Come on the fact that she thought it was a dig.

824
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 4: He's like, you understand that, you know that, that's you. Yeah,

825
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 4: And apparently a lot of wedding guests did too and

826
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 4: found it very funny.

827
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:49,840
Speaker 3: Nice.

828
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 4: I was told by the groom his mother was fuming

829
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:53,959
Speaker 4: and well done.

830
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 3: I like this groom.

831
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 4: Yeah. Other wedding guests approached me and laughed, saying how

832
00:34:58,000 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 4: funny that comment was, and I said it wasn't actually

833
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 4: directed at her. They all said, well, if the cap fits,

834
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,799
Speaker 4: it's true. After the wedding, she blocked me on all

835
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 4: social media platforms and I haven't spoken to her since.

836
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 3: I mean, you're not related to her.

837
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 4: And my friend also no longer speaks to her unless

838
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 4: she has to safe to say. It was a loss

839
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 4: to me.

840
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 3: And that's the freaking end.

841
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 4: That's a freaking end. That's crazy positive.

842
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 3: I think I think you got you know, you got

843
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 3: the upper end. You won that battle, and you helped

844
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 3: your friend out at her wedding.

845
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like both the groom and the bride

846
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 4: have to give you like kudos. I think, so you

847
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 4: made our wedding as best as it could be. Shout

848
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 4: out to everyone who like shout out. Shout out to

849
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:47,399
Speaker 4: everyone who were like, yo, that that story fire high five.

850
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:48,719
Speaker 4: You know, we know what you were doing there.

851
00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:52,720
Speaker 3: It's no, that's the what I meant. They're like, yeah,

852
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 3: that's not what you met. But that's the end of

853
00:35:56,560 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 3: that story. So we'll see you next time. I refuse

854
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 3: to live with my brother in law any longer. He

855
00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 3: hates me.

856
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 4: Man, I got nothing for that one. Yeah, yeah, get

857
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:08,839
Speaker 4: out of there. Get out of there.

858
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,879
Speaker 3: So my husband is twenty nine and I'm twenty five,

859
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 3: and we bought our house four years ago. We bought

860
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 3: it for roughly two hundred K, and because it's a

861
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 3: thirty year loan, we have a long way to go

862
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:21,279
Speaker 3: before it's paid off. We pay a little more than

863
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 3: what our monthly minimum is to stay ahead. By the way,

864
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,360
Speaker 3: this comes from Lumpy Platform seventy eight twenty one on

865
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:29,879
Speaker 3: the Okay Storytime Separate So side note, my husband, let's

866
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 3: call him John, and I have separate accounts because he

867
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:34,720
Speaker 3: feels that I am stupid with money.

868
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,440
Speaker 4: Okay, good start here.

869
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 3: He doesn't agree with how I spend it. I save

870
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 3: as much as I need from each paycheck, and I

871
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 3: like to invest the rest. Each paycheck is broken down

872
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 3: three percent four oh one K, three percent vacation, five percent,

873
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 3: investing account one ten percent emergency, ten percent, groceries fifteen

874
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:57,879
Speaker 3: percent investing account to twenty five percent bills, twenty nine

875
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 3: percent fun and on other needs. Just by that breakdown alone,

876
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 3: it seems like, oh, he's fairly good at taking care

877
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 3: of money.

878
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:04,799
Speaker 4: Apparently not.

879
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 3: But well, I also think that, you know what, maybe

880
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 3: it's just easier at this point just to have the

881
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 3: separate accounts because that way OPE can spend the money.

882
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,319
Speaker 4: Wait, how much percent was used for fun?

883
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:15,240
Speaker 3: Twenty nine percent?

884
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 4: Should be eighty percent? Eighty percent? Bring it up, Bring

885
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 4: up all the fun.

886
00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 3: John feels that my investing accounts are stupid because that

887
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:26,959
Speaker 3: money can be used somewhere else, or could be used

888
00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 3: as a bigger monthly payment on the house. But you

889
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 3: get more money in the long run. I disagree, because

890
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 3: if a bigger emergency pops up, it's nice to have

891
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 3: the money and to know the money is there if

892
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 3: I need it. Also, I'm making even more money with investing,

893
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,920
Speaker 3: not a lot more, but it takes time. With investing,

894
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,800
Speaker 3: John likes to put his whole paycheck towards extra payments

895
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 3: on his car, house, or other payments. He doesn't spend

896
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 3: his money on ridiculous nonsense. But he is very right

897
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:53,280
Speaker 3: now oriented, while I'm very future oriented.

898
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:55,920
Speaker 4: This is just two different people mind two different spending

899
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,320
Speaker 4: habit mindsets which I both both work.

900
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:00,879
Speaker 3: Both are fine, But you know I don't tell another person,

901
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:02,480
Speaker 3: especially if you have separate accounts.

902
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,879
Speaker 4: Don't don't tell you. That's not fun.

903
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 3: So John approached me with an idea that he came

904
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 3: up with the housing market had gone up, so we

905
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 3: actually have roughly one hundred k in equity. He wants

906
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:15,239
Speaker 3: us to sell our house, have his brother, let's call

907
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:18,240
Speaker 3: him Mark, sell his house roughly two hundred k in equity,

908
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 3: and combine our equities to buy a five hundred K,

909
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 3: five bedroom, three bathroom house. WTF, what why? Why? Why?

910
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:28,280
Speaker 4: Why?

911
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:31,360
Speaker 3: That's a weird idea. I asked John why he wants

912
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 3: to do this so much. He said that it's because

913
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 3: he's tired of paying a mortgage payment and doesn't want

914
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 3: to pay one. But you would still have to pay one.

915
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 3: I don't.

916
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: I don't.

917
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 4: Maybe he's the very right.

918
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 3: Now we're in our twenties, we don't have the luxury

919
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 3: of being mortgage free. I don't understand. When I first

920
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 3: met John, he lived with Mark. When I first moved

921
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 3: in with John, he was living with Mark. So I've

922
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:55,400
Speaker 3: lived with Mark and his roommate, let's call him Alex before.

923
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,839
Speaker 3: To say we don't like each other is an understatement.

924
00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 3: They don't like my upbringing. There for us not good enough.

925
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,760
Speaker 3: But let's pretend we're on good terms. Mark and Alex

926
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 3: are both slabs. I mean, if the dog poops in

927
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 3: their room, they'll just leave it. Ew also train your dog,

928
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 3: the dishes grow their own ecosystem. And don't get me

929
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 3: started on the bathroom. Also, between the four of us,

930
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 3: there was only one bathroom, and Alex would hog it

931
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 3: to the point that I had to drive to a

932
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 3: gas station several times just to use the bathroom. Mark

933
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 3: has a past relationship that was an alcoholic, so he

934
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 3: is one hundred percent against alcohol. I can't have a

935
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 3: glass of wine without him having a mantrum, manchantrum.

936
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 4: Thank you for the man's planning.

937
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 3: I mean yell. I I'd be for having alcohol in

938
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 3: the house, but it was his house, so I got

939
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 3: rid of it. I got rid of it. I mean

940
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 3: I drink it and didn't buy more really quick. Don't

941
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 3: live with this man, like no telling if your partner's

942
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 3: bringing up this, you know, possibility of you guys living together,

943
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 3: it'd be.

944
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 4: Like absolutely, yeah, literally no.

945
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 3: If you want to live with them, fine, but I refuse.

946
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,439
Speaker 4: Is he so oblivious to knowing that you don't want

947
00:39:58,440 --> 00:39:58,800
Speaker 4: to like that?

948
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 3: Yeah? I just feel like he's very like everything has

949
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 3: to be his way with the money with.

950
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 4: Mark, Mark at his own place. Yeah, you know what,

951
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 4: we have to live with Mark.

952
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 3: Alex was a college campus officer when I lived with them,

953
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 3: an old boy was he wasted with power. Alex never

954
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 3: had a relationship, so anytime John and I got into

955
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,879
Speaker 3: a normal couple argument, Alex would try to talk him

956
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,320
Speaker 3: into breaking up with me because I wasn't good enough.

957
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 4: This is a very toxic, like living.

958
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 3: Super toxic environment. Even if John started the argument, it

959
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:35,799
Speaker 3: was still my fault to Alex, and John and I

960
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 3: have both started arguments. We are a couple, it's normal.

961
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 3: They weren't toxic arguments either, Alex was also abusive towards

962
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:45,879
Speaker 3: my two cats. Literally, no, don't move in with them.

963
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 3: They didn't know him, so at first they hated him,

964
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 3: so Alex started hitting them.

965
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 4: What do my god, is someone hit my pets? I

966
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 4: would be I'm hitting him, storious, Yeah, I'm I'm hitting you.

967
00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 3: He also hid one of my cats from me while

968
00:40:59,840 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 3: I spend hours searching the neighborhood thinking she got out.

969
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 3: This man is crazy. Right before COVID, I was diagnosed

970
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,879
Speaker 3: with cancer and I had a mental breakdown. Oh six

971
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:11,399
Speaker 3: months later, my father died from a ghastly at home

972
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:14,920
Speaker 3: and I was the person to find him that. Oh no, horrible.

973
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,719
Speaker 3: So I was extremely fragile and I had to seek

974
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 3: out professional help because I wasn't able to function. Mind you,

975
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:22,799
Speaker 3: my family didn't have to force me to get help.

976
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:24,839
Speaker 3: I knew I needed help and got it on my own.

977
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 3: While seeking out help, both Alex and Mark sat down

978
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 3: with John, who was my fiance at this point, and

979
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 3: tried to convince him to call off our engagement. Like obviously,

980
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 3: Mark and Alex are their own problems, but the fact

981
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 3: that John is not putting his foot down seemingly.

982
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 4: The fact that he's willingly wanting to hear them out.

983
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 3: Willing to live with Mark again is ridiculous.

984
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:45,360
Speaker 4: This is bad hearing.

985
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,479
Speaker 3: This was the last straw for me, and I told

986
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:50,040
Speaker 3: John that I am moving out because I'm unwilling to

987
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 3: live with Alex and Mark anymore. So we bought our house.

988
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 3: Alex has been upgraded from a SpongeBob tie and hall

989
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 3: monitor badge and is now a county sheriff and is

990
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,720
Speaker 3: a bigger a whole than ever. Dang you literally though,

991
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 3: freaking yeah, a hall monitor guy becomes the sheriff.

992
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 4: That guy's gonna be the worst.

993
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,440
Speaker 3: She gave him a gun. Why would they do that?

994
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:12,359
Speaker 4: Oh you you went over the limit by one one

995
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 4: mile per hour ticket.

996
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 3: Now John is asking me to be willing to sell

997
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 3: our house and get a bigger one with Mark and Alex.

998
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 3: Mark will be the primary owner because he'll pay two

999
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 3: thirds of the down payment. Mark also owes John fifty k.

1000
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 3: So I tried to explain an alternative idea that if

1001
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:30,320
Speaker 3: Mark pays John five hundred a month for roughly eight years,

1002
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 3: and we use the five hundred plus our current payment

1003
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 3: towards a house, then our house would be paid off

1004
00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 3: roughly September twenty thirty seven. Currently our payoff date is

1005
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 3: roughly twenty forty two. If he owes you fifty k,

1006
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:42,839
Speaker 3: you could still make him pay the fifty k.

1007
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, what what's what does Mark have over open? John?

1008
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 3: Yeah? If we buy a five hundred K house and

1009
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:53,239
Speaker 3: use three hundred K as a down payment, the loan

1010
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:55,520
Speaker 3: will be two hundred k, which is our current loan.

1011
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 3: But interest rates have more than doubled, and taxes and

1012
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 3: homeowners insurance on a bigger house, so it will cost more.

1013
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,160
Speaker 3: If we paid seven hundred and fifty each month three

1014
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:06,359
Speaker 3: K between the four we wouldn't pay off that loan

1015
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 3: until roughly twenty thirty five, a two year difference from

1016
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 3: my alternative plant that's it. Then what if we do this?

1017
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 3: Then Mark would have put more money into this, And

1018
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 3: if we want to leave, Mark would have to buy

1019
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:19,640
Speaker 3: us out. We would have to sell and leave with

1020
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 3: about as much as we will have if we stay put,

1021
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 3: or if we want to buy Mark out, then we

1022
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:25,840
Speaker 3: would have to sell or make payments to Mark. I

1023
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:28,280
Speaker 3: thought the point was not wanting to make payments. John

1024
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:30,600
Speaker 3: is frustrated with me because I have shared this with them,

1025
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 3: and I told him that I am not willing to

1026
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 3: live with Alex and Mark again. I want to be

1027
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 3: comfortable in my own house. I want to be able

1028
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:39,760
Speaker 3: to drink wine and sing Disney music without being judged.

1029
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 4: Oh man, yeah, that's all you deserve this.

1030
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 3: I don't want to have to stress about them trying

1031
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 3: to convince my husband to leave me. And we know

1032
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 3: that you would never leave us and that you would

1033
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 3: join us live every weekday a three pm PSD on YouTube.

1034
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:53,360
Speaker 3: Just tap her profile, tap it and there is a

1035
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 3: little bit left to the story. But yeah, do not.

1036
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 3: You absolutely should put your foot down on this. Don't

1037
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 3: let John kind of bully you into moving in with

1038
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 3: Mark and Alex again, because you already know how that's

1039
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 3: gonna be.

1040
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 4: I understand if, like you guys were financially struggling, you

1041
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,720
Speaker 4: needed help. Yeah, sure, but it looks like you guys

1042
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 4: have a plan. You guys have a literal plan.

1043
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 3: And you've bought a house.

1044
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 4: Why does John need his buddies to be there in

1045
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 4: your house?

1046
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:21,760
Speaker 3: Also, if you guys you know their fiance or husband. Now,

1047
00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:24,080
Speaker 3: if you guys are thinking about children, do you really

1048
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 3: want to be living with two other guys who are

1049
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:28,359
Speaker 3: actively trying to break you guys up.

1050
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 4: Not Yeah, they're gross guys.

1051
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, gross guys.

1052
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,840
Speaker 4: It's like, I don't understand Again. I feel like I

1053
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 4: don't understand John. I don't understand John. I don't why

1054
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 4: John has been controlling Opie's living situation per per se

1055
00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 4: for a while now.

1056
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also trying to control our finances.

1057
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 4: I think he just likes control.

1058
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, obviously John is a red flag.

1059
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 4: John's a red flag. But he should like the fact

1060
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:53,359
Speaker 4: that you have a straight up plan, like laid out

1061
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 4: that that's not it.

1062
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:56,360
Speaker 3: So God, I don't want to pay the mortgage and

1063
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 3: know He's like, you're you're still gonna.

1064
00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 4: Have to Yeah, sooner or later. Yeah.

1065
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 3: I feel like as my husband, he shouldn't be pressuring

1066
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 3: me to live in an environment that isn't good for me.

1067
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 3: But he keeps telling me that I don't understand. I'm

1068
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 3: not good with money. I hate him when it comes

1069
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 3: to money. I don't know what I'm talking about. He

1070
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 3: feels very man's plaining, he feels very misogynous. He's like,

1071
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 3: you don't know it, you know, trust me, you don't

1072
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 3: know what you're talking about. I'm not being supportive. I

1073
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 3: need to learn to forgive and be willing to give

1074
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 3: a second chance. But where do I go if a

1075
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,800
Speaker 3: second chance doesn't work out? Even if this was better

1076
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,839
Speaker 3: for us financially, which I don't believe it is, I'm

1077
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 3: not willing to put myself in that environment again. Sorry

1078
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 3: for how long this ended up being. It wasn't meant

1079
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 3: to be so long, but once I started typing it out,

1080
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 3: it just kept coming. Am I the a hole here? No?

1081
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 2: What?

1082
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 3: Absolutely not? John? Is the age?

1083
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 4: Why is John so adamant about just calling you out

1084
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:49,839
Speaker 4: for no reason? There's nothing, there's nothing to be called

1085
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:50,239
Speaker 4: out for.

1086
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 3: Honestly, Separate side note from the story, like, obviously, do

1087
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,239
Speaker 3: not you know, give in, don't move back in with

1088
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 3: Mark and Alex, don't let your husband convince you to that.

1089
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 3: But separate side note. I'm really worried about the relationship

1090
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:05,240
Speaker 3: with Obie's husband. It's just so controlling, as we said,

1091
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 3: and it doesn't feel healthy.

1092
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 4: It seems like he's not respecting any of her wishes.

1093
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 3: Or actively belittling her.

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Speaker 4: Oh one hundred percent, Like, oh, you don't know money,

1095
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 4: so you don't know what you're doing. You don't know what

1096
00:46:15,239 --> 00:46:17,359
Speaker 4: you're doing even though you know exactly what you're doing.

1097
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 4: You know, exactly what you wonder where you have, like you.

1098
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:21,840
Speaker 3: Know, you're investing in stuff, and that's a very you

1099
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 3: know that takes knowledge.

1100
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 4: The fact that you hit a graph of like your

1101
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:31,799
Speaker 4: spending habits. Yeah, that's that's already. Yeah. Yeah.

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00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 3: My boyfriend and I made plans, but it's been two

1103
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:36,840
Speaker 3: days and he never came home.

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00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:40,839
Speaker 2: Say goodbye to those plans, babe. I don't know if

1105
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 2: they're gonna cut it.

1106
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 4: I'm worried.

1107
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 3: My twenty four female boyfriend twenty seven male left for

1108
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 3: a festival around twelve on Friday. He told me he

1109
00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:52,359
Speaker 3: loved me and that he'd see me that night since

1110
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 3: he had to work on Saturday, and then he'd go

1111
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 3: back to the festival on Sunday morning. I told him

1112
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 3: to have fun, be safe, and then i'd see him

1113
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 3: that night. By the way, the story comes from user

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Speaker 3: ninety forty five thirty five thirty three on the AMI

1115
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:10,840
Speaker 3: overreacting subpured it. So I went to work like normal

1116
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 3: and didn't hear anything from him all day, which didn't

1117
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 3: bother me since he's at a festival, probably had bad

1118
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,879
Speaker 3: service and didn't want to spoil his fun by being

1119
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 3: on his phone. I got home after work around midnight

1120
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:27,360
Speaker 3: and still hadn't heard anything. I was hungry and decided

1121
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:30,120
Speaker 3: to have some food delivered, so I figured i'd call

1122
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 3: him and ask if he wanted something for when he

1123
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:37,360
Speaker 3: got home. It went straight to voicemail twice. I decided

1124
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 3: to check his location to see if maybe he was

1125
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:41,840
Speaker 3: still stuck in the parking lot and therefore would have

1126
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:45,919
Speaker 3: horrible service as well, which was the case. Didn't think

1127
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 3: much of it, ordered my food ate and went to bed.

1128
00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:52,360
Speaker 3: Decided to check his location once more and saw the

1129
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 3: bus was just pulling out of the parking area and

1130
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:58,399
Speaker 3: on the road. When I woke up, he wasn't next

1131
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 3: to me. I immediately checked my phone, but didn't have any

1132
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 3: missed messages or calls. This started to slightly worry me,

1133
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:09,720
Speaker 3: so I looked at his location again and it showed

1134
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 3: him in a hotel somewhere. I figured he must have

1135
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:16,800
Speaker 3: missed the last train home and that i'd see him soon.

1136
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 3: I went on about my day, deep cleaning the house,

1137
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:23,760
Speaker 3: doing some laundry, et cetera, and didn't think about it anymore.

1138
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 3: Then around four I received a call from his boss

1139
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,280
Speaker 3: asking if I knew where he was, since he didn't

1140
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 3: show up for a shift at three and they couldn't

1141
00:48:31,719 --> 00:48:36,759
Speaker 3: reach him. I hadn't even noticed the time. I called FaceTime,

1142
00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:41,360
Speaker 3: texted and messaged him, but got no response. Then around five,

1143
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 3: I got one lousy message that he had heard his

1144
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 3: ankle and lost his wallet. I asked what happened, if

1145
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:49,439
Speaker 3: he was okay, why he didn't come home, Why didn't

1146
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 3: let me know he was going to a hotel, why

1147
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:54,719
Speaker 3: he was ignoring his boss and I when he was

1148
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 3: coming home, and who he was with. None of our

1149
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:01,879
Speaker 3: friends went to the festival. He went alone. It's now

1150
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 3: Sunday and he still hasn't responded nor come home. He

1151
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:08,399
Speaker 3: turned his location settings off yesterday around the same time

1152
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 3: he sent that text to me. This is so weird.

1153
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 3: I have this really bad feeling like something is off.

1154
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 3: This is very out of character for him. We've been

1155
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:20,320
Speaker 3: together for six years and he's never done anything remotely

1156
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 3: like this. I'm worried, I'm angry, and I feel like

1157
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 3: he's hiding something.

1158
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:25,360
Speaker 2: I know.

1159
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 3: He didn't plan on going to hotel. He didn't bring

1160
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:30,360
Speaker 3: a change of clothes or packed a bag. He just

1161
00:49:30,440 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 3: went for a day, planning to come back that night.

1162
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:36,240
Speaker 3: Am I overreacting for having this bad feeling? Like something

1163
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:39,600
Speaker 3: is very wrong? And there is an update? What do

1164
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 3: we think's going on?

1165
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 2: I mean, could this be are they already married? It

1166
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 2: is this like a it's a boyfriend.

1167
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:54,480
Speaker 3: Maybe they're planning on getting married. Maybe he this is

1168
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 3: weird behavior. The thing is that I thought this was

1169
00:49:57,880 --> 00:50:00,360
Speaker 3: She said it's never happened in six years, so yeah, yeah,

1170
00:50:00,440 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 3: I thought it was maybe like something happened to I mean,

1171
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:04,960
Speaker 3: he said he hurt his ankle or something, and I

1172
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:08,239
Speaker 3: thought maybe that. But to turn off his location services

1173
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:11,239
Speaker 3: and to not text hers even though you texted her

1174
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 3: once is really weird to me. Something is something afoot. No,

1175
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 3: I'm really worried about this man. I don't know if

1176
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:21,439
Speaker 3: it's cheating because it's like, so it's something so cold.

1177
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 3: You know what bender is he on? A bender? Could

1178
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 3: be a bender? Secret bender? This could be could be

1179
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:29,240
Speaker 3: a bender, could be I think there's only two options

1180
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 3: right now, and it's either bender or cheating. Update. Let

1181
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 3: me start off with thanking each and every one of

1182
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:37,560
Speaker 3: you for your concern, kind words, and advice. I didn't

1183
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 3: expect this to get as big as it did. YadA

1184
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 3: YadA YadA. When I posted yesterday morning, I was beside

1185
00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:46,279
Speaker 3: myself with worry, and I had already taken quite a

1186
00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:49,280
Speaker 3: few steps to find him, which included calling friends and family.

1187
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 3: Many people told me I was probably overreacting and he

1188
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 3: was just having fun, but it didn't sit right to me,

1189
00:50:57,200 --> 00:50:59,320
Speaker 3: so when coming to Reddit, I was just hoping for

1190
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 3: a few people telling me I hadn't lost my mind.

1191
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 3: When calling the hotel, they initially informed me that they

1192
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 3: couldn't give any information about guests due to the privacy

1193
00:51:08,560 --> 00:51:11,799
Speaker 3: law in my country. The police weren't of any help either,

1194
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 3: telling me that I should contact them again if he

1195
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 3: hadn't come home by Tuesday morning. I spoke to the

1196
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,840
Speaker 3: management of the festival, who could confirm he had scanned

1197
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 3: his ticket at the entrance on Friday. However, they worked

1198
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 3: with wristbands, so there was no way for them to

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Speaker 3: check if my boyfriend also came on Saturday and Sunday.

1200
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 3: With the hotel, the festival, and the police being quite dismissive,

1201
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 3: I turned to Reddit. Ah, yes, classic. Honestly, I can't

1202
00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 3: thank you enough. Your responses really helped me through this

1203
00:51:42,160 --> 00:51:44,640
Speaker 3: and confirmed that the chance of something bad having happened

1204
00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 3: was way bigger than him just having fun. After calling

1205
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 3: the hotel again and pleading with the manager of the

1206
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 3: hotel for quite a while, they were able to inform

1207
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 3: me that there hadn't been a reservation under his name. Whoa,

1208
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 3: he was not there.

1209
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 2: Wait, so the plot thickens. They could be there, but

1210
00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 2: it wasn't his hotel room.

1211
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 3: We just added cornstarch to this thought that that's actually

1212
00:52:10,960 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 3: so good cornstarch to this plot.

1213
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:15,720
Speaker 2: Damn, we just added a big scoop of corn starch,

1214
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 2: and in his plot is thick.

1215
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:21,760
Speaker 3: I sent his picture to the hotel and they looked

1216
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 3: at the security footage around the time his phone showed

1217
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 3: up there. They couldn't inform us of the results. They

1218
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 3: did promise to keep the footage on file in case

1219
00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 3: the police would need it. Later on. I contacted the

1220
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 3: police again with this information, and while they were still

1221
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 3: hesitant to investigate further, they did give the hotel a

1222
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 3: call to request the footage of the Friday night. A

1223
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 3: little while later, they called me back saying that my

1224
00:52:44,640 --> 00:52:47,200
Speaker 3: boyfriend hadn't been on any of the cameras all weekend,

1225
00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:51,399
Speaker 3: therefore they could rule out he had ever he had

1226
00:52:51,480 --> 00:52:55,240
Speaker 3: even been there at all, because his phone clearly showed

1227
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:58,239
Speaker 3: his location being there and I had screenshots to prove it.

1228
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,760
Speaker 3: The police realized that something indeed wasn't right and promised

1229
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 3: me they'd look into it straight away. This makes me

1230
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 3: feel that someone stole his phone. Yeah, this makes me

1231
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 3: feel that. I mean, if the location services said he

1232
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 3: was there, maybe he never texted her, maybe he never

1233
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 3: had his phone.

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00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 2: So it was never him, but his phone was there. Yeah,

1235
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 2: but he was never there, that's what they said. So

1236
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 2: somebody took his phone.

1237
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:29,759
Speaker 3: That's what I think. That's suspicious. Yeah. Me and one

1238
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 3: of our mutual friends decided to start driving towards a

1239
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 3: festival site, which was about a four hour drive. We

1240
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 3: knew we wouldn't be able to get in since we

1241
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 3: didn't have tickets, and even if we did, there'd be

1242
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:40,680
Speaker 3: no way to find him in a crowd of over

1243
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:44,319
Speaker 3: sixty five thousand people. Wow, that's a huge festival. Yeah,

1244
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 3: that's a massive festival. But at least we'd be close

1245
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:49,359
Speaker 3: by if we received any news, and we could ask

1246
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 3: around to see if anyone recognized his picture. Before we

1247
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:55,240
Speaker 3: reached the site, I received another call from the police.

1248
00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:58,080
Speaker 3: My boyfriend had been in the hospital since Saturday morning.

1249
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 3: Oh wow, so that Oh. He had been found in

1250
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,720
Speaker 3: the ditches of the parking lot of the festival around

1251
00:54:05,800 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 3: three am, together with a few other people who had

1252
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:11,520
Speaker 3: also been to the festival, all of them severely beaten

1253
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:15,479
Speaker 3: up and without any of their belongings. The hospital found

1254
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 3: traces of the same substance in each of their system,

1255
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:21,880
Speaker 3: which leads the police to suspect they had been preyed

1256
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:25,279
Speaker 3: upon and given substances by groups of people searching for

1257
00:54:25,320 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 3: easy targets, people who were alone. Oh my god, that's terrifying, horrific,

1258
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 3: that's so scary. And also like, was literally left in

1259
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 3: a ditch. Thank god? Oh he followed up? They got like.

1260
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 3: Everyone was like, oh, it's fine, he probably left you

1261
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:46,400
Speaker 3: or whatever having fun. Obi was like, no, this is

1262
00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 3: not like him. Thank god. Oh be followed up. I

1263
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 3: said it was either cheating or a bender, but neither.

1264
00:54:51,480 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 3: He was like, he got bent. Apparently it usually takes

1265
00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 3: one to two days to identify identify an unconscious person

1266
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 3: without any form of ID on them, which why I

1267
00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 3: didn't hear anything earlier. The police are investigating further and

1268
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,920
Speaker 3: will let us know when they find who's responsible. We

1269
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 3: already confirm that they want to press charges. Damn. I

1270
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:13,359
Speaker 3: don't really want to say, but you can join us

1271
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 3: live every weekday on three pm on YouTube, just taper Pole.

1272
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:20,839
Speaker 3: We'll never press charges if you join us. Charges fine YouTube.

1273
00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 3: My boyfriend is okay now, and he's expected to make

1274
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:27,319
Speaker 3: a smooth recovery. Thank god. He broke his collarbone. His

1275
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 3: collarbone and his wrist is covered in bruises and cuts

1276
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:33,439
Speaker 3: and has a light concussion. He came by very late

1277
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 3: Sunday night. Unfortunately or luckily, he doesn't have any memories

1278
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 3: of the incident or the events that happened right before.

1279
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:42,480
Speaker 3: I'm feeling so relieved and happy that we found him

1280
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 3: and he's safe. Gets so incredibly angry at the people

1281
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 3: who did this to him and the others that have

1282
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 3: been found. Yeah, you always hear horror stories about things

1283
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:52,919
Speaker 3: like this, but you never expect it can happen to you.

1284
00:55:53,520 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 3: I'm sorry I didn't update any earlier, but as you

1285
00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 3: might imagine, it wasn't the first thing on my mind

1286
00:55:58,360 --> 00:56:00,400
Speaker 3: these last twenty four hours. I'll try to answer a

1287
00:56:00,440 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 3: few more questions today, should any of you still have some,

1288
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:07,360
Speaker 3: and then I'll leave this be dear redditors, thank you

1289
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:12,240
Speaker 3: again for everything from the bottom of my heart. Oh man, wow,

1290
00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:18,120
Speaker 3: what happy ending? Yeah found him? Yeah, hey John Ogi

1291
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:18,600
Speaker 3: host here.

1292
00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:20,560
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

1293
00:56:20,600 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 2: three minute break of ads from a sponsor's keeping the

1294
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 2: show alive. I made my wife think our son was missing,

1295
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 2: But now I think I went too far.

1296
00:56:31,239 --> 00:56:33,799
Speaker 3: Possibly possibly.

1297
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:37,319
Speaker 2: My wife has a horrible habit that I discovered two

1298
00:56:37,400 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 2: months ago. We were ordering lunch on the subway on

1299
00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 2: the sandwich app and I told her to pick the

1300
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 2: location that has a drive through. That way, we don't

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00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:46,880
Speaker 2: have to go inside and take the baby out of

1302
00:56:46,880 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 2: the car just to clip them back in.

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00:56:48,239 --> 00:56:49,359
Speaker 3: A few minutes later, she.

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Speaker 2: Told me it's not a big deal to leave the

1305
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 2: baby in the car to run in and pick it

1306
00:56:53,239 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 2: up really fast.

1307
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:56,480
Speaker 3: Oh my god, she left a baby in a car.

1308
00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:59,239
Speaker 3: I had no idea that she ever did this.

1309
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:02,440
Speaker 2: I told I was not comfortable with her leaving him

1310
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:04,440
Speaker 2: in the car alone, even for a minute, and she

1311
00:57:04,560 --> 00:57:07,160
Speaker 2: told me she's been doing it since he was born.

1312
00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:09,680
Speaker 2: She told me that she does it to pick up food,

1313
00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:12,360
Speaker 2: run into the post office or pharmacy, et cetera.

1314
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:13,280
Speaker 3: I was floored.

1315
00:57:13,440 --> 00:57:15,800
Speaker 2: We don't live in a horrible area, but it's also

1316
00:57:15,880 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 2: not super safe either. I told her to not ever

1317
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 2: do this again. And by the way, this story comes

1318
00:57:21,040 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 2: from you Limpa Kinza on the r slash m i

1319
00:57:24,880 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 2: the aholes I Reddit. She told me that she never

1320
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 2: stopped to think about the potential dangers and that she

1321
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 2: would stop doing it.

1322
00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 4: Well.

1323
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 2: Yesterday, as I was driving home from my brother's house,

1324
00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 2: I spotted her car at the gas station near our place.

1325
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 2: It was parked in a spot up front and not

1326
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 2: a pump, so I figured she stopped in to grab

1327
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:42,080
Speaker 2: some snacks, which we like to do.

1328
00:57:42,160 --> 00:57:43,360
Speaker 3: I decided to stop.

1329
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 2: And go in and say hi and get some food,

1330
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 2: and I pulled in and parked next to her. However,

1331
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 2: when I got there, I was furious to find our

1332
00:57:50,440 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 2: son in his car seat.

1333
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:54,880
Speaker 3: The car wasn't even locked.

1334
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 2: I don't know what came over me, but in that moment,

1335
00:57:57,600 --> 00:57:59,800
Speaker 2: I decided to take my son and put him into

1336
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 2: mind car, which he's got a car seat in there too.

1337
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:04,000
Speaker 2: I then drove to the other side of the gas

1338
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 2: station parking lot and waited for my wife to come out.

1339
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 2: It took six minutes for her to appear. When she

1340
00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:13,040
Speaker 2: saw that he was gone. She looked stunned for a

1341
00:58:13,120 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 2: second and then started to frantically look around and cry.

1342
00:58:16,080 --> 00:58:18,240
Speaker 3: I didn't let it go on. Long after this, I

1343
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:19,120
Speaker 3: saw her pull her.

1344
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:21,520
Speaker 2: Phone out, presumably to call nine one one, and that's

1345
00:58:21,560 --> 00:58:24,240
Speaker 2: when I pulled my car around to her. I parked,

1346
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 2: got out, and walked around to my son's door and

1347
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:28,040
Speaker 2: opened it to show her.

1348
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:30,040
Speaker 3: She looked extremely.

1349
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 2: Relieved, but that quickly turned into anger, with her asking

1350
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 2: me why I took him and did that to her.

1351
00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 3: I told her she needed to learn her lesson.

1352
00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:40,120
Speaker 2: Yes, and she promised to stop leaving him in the

1353
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:43,840
Speaker 2: car and that she was extremely irresponsible. It was so

1354
00:58:44,000 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 2: easy for me to pull up and take him. No

1355
00:58:45,960 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 2: one else at that gas station even notice. If he

1356
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 2: was really taken, there would have been no help and

1357
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:52,280
Speaker 2: it would have been one hundred percent her fault. She

1358
00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 2: proceeded to call me cruel and psychotic and tried taking

1359
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:58,680
Speaker 2: our son out of my car and into hers. I

1360
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:01,600
Speaker 2: said no, and that I would be driving him home,

1361
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:04,000
Speaker 2: and I left. She came home not much later, but

1362
00:59:04,080 --> 00:59:07,400
Speaker 2: ignored me the rest of the day. She acknowledged me today,

1363
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:10,560
Speaker 2: saying she wanted an apology, and I said absolutely not,

1364
00:59:10,720 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 2: And she's the one who should be saying sorry. She's

1365
00:59:12,840 --> 00:59:14,960
Speaker 2: been guilt tripping me the rest of the day, saying

1366
00:59:15,080 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 2: no mother should experience the fear that I put her through.

1367
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 3: Did I go too far? Am I? The a hole?

1368
00:59:19,960 --> 00:59:23,040
Speaker 2: You talked to her before you stopped at the exact

1369
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:25,440
Speaker 2: moment where it would have now gone over a line?

1370
00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 3: Also the fact that she said no mother should have

1371
00:59:27,400 --> 00:59:30,440
Speaker 3: to experience that she wouldn't have experienced it if she

1372
00:59:30,520 --> 00:59:32,840
Speaker 3: hadn't left her child alone unlocked in a car.

1373
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:35,240
Speaker 2: You're right, no mother should have to experience this thing.

1374
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:37,720
Speaker 2: You so make sure it doesn't did to yourself, actually

1375
00:59:37,720 --> 00:59:40,680
Speaker 2: that you did to our kid. Crazy user, and ann

1376
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:44,680
Speaker 2: ar Kiah says, normally, I'm fully against game playing, which

1377
00:59:44,800 --> 00:59:46,840
Speaker 2: so am I, But this is your child's life.

1378
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:48,520
Speaker 3: I support your actions, so do I.

1379
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:52,120
Speaker 2: Your wife is being hugely neglectful, not to mention it'll

1380
00:59:52,120 --> 00:59:55,080
Speaker 2: be warm soon and being left in a hot car, even.

1381
00:59:54,840 --> 00:59:56,960
Speaker 3: For a few minutes can be deadly. Not the a hole.

1382
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:59,920
Speaker 2: I wouldn't let her take him anywhere until she apologized,

1383
01:00:00,240 --> 01:00:03,320
Speaker 2: op responds, I guess I should clarify that the car

1384
01:00:03,360 --> 01:00:05,400
Speaker 2: was running with the air on. It's actually not that

1385
01:00:05,480 --> 01:00:07,440
Speaker 2: much better because the car is running, someone could.

1386
01:00:07,360 --> 01:00:10,160
Speaker 3: Just drive it. I drive your whole car away with

1387
01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 3: your kid. I was running. That means the keys were in.

1388
01:00:13,480 --> 01:00:15,560
Speaker 2: I forgot to add that detail and was restricted by

1389
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 2: the character limit.

1390
01:00:16,320 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 3: But the car was on.

1391
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:18,600
Speaker 2: It's a push to start car with a sensor for

1392
01:00:18,640 --> 01:00:20,840
Speaker 2: the keyfob, so to stay on or running as long

1393
01:00:20,880 --> 01:00:22,520
Speaker 2: as you're close enough to the vehicle. Didn't see the

1394
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 2: keys in the car, so she took them inside with her,

1395
01:00:24,360 --> 01:00:25,240
Speaker 2: but that didn't lock it.

1396
01:00:25,400 --> 01:00:25,640
Speaker 3: User.

1397
01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:28,120
Speaker 2: You're smarter than I look says look o pe. Let's

1398
01:00:28,120 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 2: be honest about the reality of this situation. Your wife

1399
01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:33,360
Speaker 2: has knowingly and intentionally left your infant alone in a

1400
01:00:33,440 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 2: vehicle multiple times, at least once the vehicle was unlocked.

1401
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 2: I'm honestly shocked. No one has called the cops for

1402
01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:41,400
Speaker 2: child endangement yet, but eventually somebody probably will. When that happens,

1403
01:00:41,400 --> 01:00:44,400
Speaker 2: CPS will probably get involved. You now have documented on

1404
01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 2: the Internet that you knew this was happening. If CPS

1405
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 2: finds out that you knew and continued letting your wife

1406
01:00:48,400 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 2: leave the baby alone in the car, you will both

1407
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:52,040
Speaker 2: lose custody of the baby, not the A hole for

1408
01:00:52,080 --> 01:00:55,080
Speaker 2: scaring her, But that was appropriate and infant safe way

1409
01:00:55,120 --> 01:00:57,840
Speaker 2: to demonstrate the potential consequences of your wife's actions to

1410
01:00:57,880 --> 01:01:00,480
Speaker 2: her in a hopefully meaningful way. But you will be

1411
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:02,520
Speaker 2: the ahole if you continue to let this happen. If

1412
01:01:02,560 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 2: your wife's attitude about the safety if your child doesn't improve,

1413
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:07,280
Speaker 2: it doesn't really seem like your wife can be trusted

1414
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:09,280
Speaker 2: to transport the baby right now. It might be time

1415
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:11,480
Speaker 2: to involve some professional help for her if you want

1416
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:13,480
Speaker 2: to keep your family intact, or it might be time

1417
01:01:13,560 --> 01:01:15,959
Speaker 2: to document what she's doing, take your child and leave

1418
01:01:16,040 --> 01:01:17,800
Speaker 2: her if you're done with risking it.

1419
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 3: Either if you want to stay with her, then she

1420
01:01:20,600 --> 01:01:23,120
Speaker 3: can't have access to your child right now alone, like

1421
01:01:23,240 --> 01:01:25,560
Speaker 3: you just I wiss like sucks for you because it's

1422
01:01:25,560 --> 01:01:28,360
Speaker 3: putting a lot of pressure and responsibility on you. Ye,

1423
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:30,640
Speaker 3: But right now she can't be trusted. Absolutely.

1424
01:01:31,040 --> 01:01:33,720
Speaker 2: I've seen several comments like this, so I just want

1425
01:01:33,720 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 2: to make it clear that I have absolutely no intention

1426
01:01:35,800 --> 01:01:38,240
Speaker 2: of letting this continue. My son's safety is my top

1427
01:01:38,240 --> 01:01:41,200
Speaker 2: priority and means everything to be And by the way,

1428
01:01:41,200 --> 01:01:43,439
Speaker 2: it would mean everything to us if you could join

1429
01:01:43,520 --> 01:01:47,280
Speaker 2: us live on YouTube every weekday at three PMPST just

1430
01:01:47,320 --> 01:01:50,240
Speaker 2: tap our profile, tap it. Everything I think that OP

1431
01:01:50,400 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 2: has done has been textbook perfect. Yes, although normally like

1432
01:01:54,640 --> 01:01:57,120
Speaker 2: this has been quite the one to eighty from the title.

1433
01:01:57,160 --> 01:01:59,400
Speaker 3: I was like, this guy was definitely going to be

1434
01:02:00,040 --> 01:02:02,720
Speaker 3: oh the way, he can't be wrong or you can't

1435
01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 3: not be wrong. Yeah, you can't be your kid.

1436
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:09,760
Speaker 2: She said she'd stop, she said, he said, Okay, finds

1437
01:02:09,800 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 2: out she has not stopped, takes it into his own hands.

1438
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:14,120
Speaker 3: Yea, and yeah, I think it's fair.

1439
01:02:14,160 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 2: Everything that's been done has been done perfectly. I hope

1440
01:02:16,280 --> 01:02:18,600
Speaker 2: that they stay together damn and work through whatever.

1441
01:02:18,600 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 3: This is help she just gets she needs help. This

1442
01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:21,480
Speaker 3: is there's.

1443
01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:23,479
Speaker 2: Something going on in my head for sure. I sat

1444
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:26,000
Speaker 2: my wife down this morning and did apologize for the

1445
01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 2: way I went about things, but said I was not

1446
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:30,440
Speaker 2: sorry for caring about our son's safety and in the

1447
01:02:30,440 --> 01:02:32,960
Speaker 2: moment felt like she needed a huge wake up call.

1448
01:02:33,040 --> 01:02:37,120
Speaker 2: She apologized for lying and continuing to do this unsafe practice.

1449
01:02:37,160 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 2: I asked her why she seemed so casual about what

1450
01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 2: she's doing. Most parents, I know myself included, are on

1451
01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:45,760
Speaker 2: the paranoid side when it comes to their kids, and

1452
01:02:45,800 --> 01:02:49,280
Speaker 2: she's been doing this for so long without seeing an issue.

1453
01:02:49,320 --> 01:02:52,160
Speaker 2: I asked if she thinks she's dealing with some kind

1454
01:02:52,160 --> 01:02:55,920
Speaker 2: of postpartum mental health issue, as I don't consider this normal.

1455
01:02:56,080 --> 01:02:58,919
Speaker 2: She broke down crying, saying she doesn't know what's wrong

1456
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,960
Speaker 2: with her. She has agreed to seek counseling, and until

1457
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 2: there is a major change or improvement, I will be

1458
01:03:04,160 --> 01:03:06,440
Speaker 2: running all errands with my son, or we will be

1459
01:03:06,480 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 2: doing them together. But I told her I cannot trust

1460
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,480
Speaker 2: her anymore to take him places by herself, and that

1461
01:03:11,680 --> 01:03:12,960
Speaker 2: is the end of that story.

1462
01:03:13,040 --> 01:03:16,280
Speaker 3: Good. Yeah, No, I think that's what it needs to be. Yeah.

1463
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:18,440
Speaker 2: I mean I think she's at least acknowledged now that

1464
01:03:18,480 --> 01:03:19,120
Speaker 2: something's wrong.

1465
01:03:19,200 --> 01:03:20,240
Speaker 3: She's gonna fix that. Face.

1466
01:03:20,320 --> 01:03:24,720
Speaker 2: There's no universe like every person's gut instinct should tell you.

1467
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:28,360
Speaker 2: I shouldn't leave my newborn child alone in the car

1468
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 2: unlocked exactly. That's like I don't even leave my laptop

1469
01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:38,840
Speaker 2: alone in a car unlocked exactly, or my genetics like what?

1470
01:03:39,600 --> 01:03:41,200
Speaker 2: I really hope that she's worked through it.

1471
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:44,360
Speaker 3: Damn, Laurie, thank you for the five bucks. Do not

1472
01:03:44,480 --> 01:03:46,200
Speaker 3: leave kids in the car. I don't even leave my

1473
01:03:46,280 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 3: kids in the car, no matter how fast I'm gonna

1474
01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:54,200
Speaker 3: be agreed fully agreed. My girlfriend ditched me for an

1475
01:03:54,240 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 3: after party. I'm done with our relationship. Celvi Monchy I

1476
01:04:00,840 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 3: twenty four male, and my girlfriend twenty three female, and

1477
01:04:04,840 --> 01:04:07,880
Speaker 3: began dating in college last week and invited me to

1478
01:04:07,920 --> 01:04:10,680
Speaker 3: hear coworker Joe's party. I had heard a lot about

1479
01:04:10,720 --> 01:04:12,960
Speaker 3: him in the past, and he and she really seemed

1480
01:04:12,960 --> 01:04:16,200
Speaker 3: to have a lot in common. Mister Joe cool, especially

1481
01:04:16,200 --> 01:04:19,400
Speaker 3: with their tasting music. Apparently he was an amateur musician

1482
01:04:19,480 --> 01:04:23,120
Speaker 3: with a fairly successful YouTube channel who Joe initially invited

1483
01:04:23,160 --> 01:04:24,919
Speaker 3: only Anne, but when she asked him if I could

1484
01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:26,800
Speaker 3: tag along, he said it was fine. The party was

1485
01:04:26,840 --> 01:04:29,120
Speaker 3: on Saturday evening. It was a fun party with about

1486
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 3: thirty people. How about a restaurant Joe had rented out.

1487
01:04:31,680 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 3: Towards the end, though, I wandered into Anne's little discussion group,

1488
01:04:35,160 --> 01:04:37,920
Speaker 3: and I immediately got the feeling that nobody really wanted

1489
01:04:37,920 --> 01:04:40,440
Speaker 3: me there, most of all he Am. It was her, Joe,

1490
01:04:40,480 --> 01:04:42,600
Speaker 3: and a few other people. Thinking that I was just

1491
01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 3: imagining things, I hung around and listened to Joe basically

1492
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:49,200
Speaker 3: boast about himself the whole time. A little while later,

1493
01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:51,520
Speaker 3: I wandered off to get myself a drink and chat

1494
01:04:51,560 --> 01:04:53,880
Speaker 3: with a few other people. Eventually, the time came to

1495
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:56,080
Speaker 3: leave and I went to find Anne again. Joe approached

1496
01:04:56,080 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 3: me at that point and said that he was having

1497
01:04:57,560 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 3: an after party over at his house. I was going to,

1498
01:05:00,600 --> 01:05:03,840
Speaker 3: but then he said, sorry, man, only Anne is invited.

1499
01:05:04,160 --> 01:05:09,919
Speaker 3: The yell this guy's such a tool, dude, wow, while

1500
01:05:10,000 --> 01:05:12,440
Speaker 3: clapping me on the shoulder. I first told him not

1501
01:05:12,480 --> 01:05:15,160
Speaker 3: to touch me. Yeah, and then said she's not going.

1502
01:05:15,200 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 3: He informed me that she had already accepted the invitation.

1503
01:05:17,880 --> 01:05:21,840
Speaker 3: I texted Anne immediately to ask where she was. She responded, sorry,

1504
01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:24,040
Speaker 3: on the way to Joe's place, I'll see you tomorrow.

1505
01:05:24,280 --> 01:05:26,760
Speaker 3: Love you. I asked if she knew I wasn't invited,

1506
01:05:26,880 --> 01:05:30,680
Speaker 3: and she then left me on red. I drove home furious.

1507
01:05:30,960 --> 01:05:33,640
Speaker 3: I stayed up all night, and finally Anne walked into

1508
01:05:33,640 --> 01:05:37,400
Speaker 3: the door at five forty two am. I know because

1509
01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:39,680
Speaker 3: I was by the window watching. I recognized the car

1510
01:05:39,720 --> 01:05:42,320
Speaker 3: as Joe's and the driver as Joe. Nobody else was

1511
01:05:42,320 --> 01:05:45,040
Speaker 3: in the car. Anne waved him cutely and laughed at

1512
01:05:45,040 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 3: something he said. At five forty two in the morning,

1513
01:05:47,240 --> 01:05:50,200
Speaker 3: Anne came inside and acted surprise to see me still up.

1514
01:05:50,320 --> 01:05:52,160
Speaker 3: At this point, I flatly told her that we were

1515
01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:53,560
Speaker 3: done and she had the rest of the day to

1516
01:05:53,600 --> 01:05:55,600
Speaker 3: move out. Anne was at first confused with me, and

1517
01:05:55,600 --> 01:05:57,040
Speaker 3: then I told her that she could just move him

1518
01:05:57,080 --> 01:05:59,600
Speaker 3: with Joe. She rolled her eyes and said nothing happened.

1519
01:05:59,640 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 3: She came in the spiel about my insecurities and imagination.

1520
01:06:02,680 --> 01:06:05,160
Speaker 3: I said it didn't matter. After this back and forth arguing,

1521
01:06:05,240 --> 01:06:08,680
Speaker 3: Ann finally rented and sarcastically thanked me for wasting the

1522
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:10,840
Speaker 3: best years of her life. If these are the best

1523
01:06:10,880 --> 01:06:12,960
Speaker 3: years of your life, your life is pretty blame and

1524
01:06:13,280 --> 01:06:16,280
Speaker 3: finally moved out yesterday, and it was pretty dramatic. She

1525
01:06:16,320 --> 01:06:18,080
Speaker 3: said that she loved me and that I was throwing

1526
01:06:18,120 --> 01:06:20,840
Speaker 3: away everything over a party. Did I do her wrong here?

1527
01:06:21,120 --> 01:06:23,880
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm getting gaslighted. I'd say I ninety

1528
01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:26,320
Speaker 3: five percent sure something happened with Joe at that after party.

1529
01:06:26,400 --> 01:06:28,480
Speaker 3: I have no evidence, but I know my girlfriend. The

1530
01:06:28,480 --> 01:06:31,000
Speaker 3: way she waved him goodbye, the way she laughed when

1531
01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 3: he talked, the way that she was actively listening to

1532
01:06:33,280 --> 01:06:35,600
Speaker 3: him at the party. Those are mannerisms she used to

1533
01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:37,680
Speaker 3: have with me. Then there was the thing with Joe's

1534
01:06:37,720 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 3: stupid macho power play of putting his hand on my shoulder.

1535
01:06:40,440 --> 01:06:42,520
Speaker 3: It was like he was mocking me because he knew

1536
01:06:42,520 --> 01:06:45,280
Speaker 3: what was going on. And there is an update two

1537
01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:48,640
Speaker 3: weeks later. Jimmy thoughts. I have the same thoughts. I

1538
01:06:48,640 --> 01:06:50,440
Speaker 3: don't think Op is in the wrong at all. No,

1539
01:06:51,000 --> 01:06:54,600
Speaker 3: I think that your girlfriend disrespected you, like it massively,

1540
01:06:54,720 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 3: the blatant It doesn't really matter if she cheated or not,

1541
01:06:57,920 --> 01:06:59,200
Speaker 3: because she just was rude.

1542
01:06:59,640 --> 01:07:01,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like to the point of, like, so

1543
01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:06,200
Speaker 2: You're gonna go to an after party I'm explicitly excluded

1544
01:07:06,240 --> 01:07:07,200
Speaker 2: from with a.

1545
01:07:07,200 --> 01:07:10,080
Speaker 3: Dude that clearly like is trying to you.

1546
01:07:10,360 --> 01:07:13,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, and regardless of if you're going to reciprocate that

1547
01:07:14,080 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 2: at all, Like you going there and then what and

1548
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:19,760
Speaker 2: then he drives you home at five point thirty in.

1549
01:07:19,680 --> 01:07:22,080
Speaker 3: The yaving about two weeks ago. I came here for

1550
01:07:22,160 --> 01:07:24,760
Speaker 3: moral guidance after breaking up with and kicking my girlfriend

1551
01:07:24,760 --> 01:07:26,960
Speaker 3: out for going to an after party with their male coworker,

1552
01:07:27,000 --> 01:07:29,560
Speaker 3: who outwardly stated that I was not invited. Just about

1553
01:07:29,600 --> 01:07:31,880
Speaker 3: everyone in the post was convinced that Anne had cheated

1554
01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:33,760
Speaker 3: on me with Joe. The moment she left, I felt

1555
01:07:33,760 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 3: as if I had lost interest in her. Joe and

1556
01:07:36,120 --> 01:07:38,240
Speaker 3: both of their lives forever. Just get them out. But

1557
01:07:38,280 --> 01:07:41,160
Speaker 3: a couple of days later, morbid curiosity got the best

1558
01:07:41,160 --> 01:07:44,240
Speaker 3: of me and I decided to find his Instagram through Anne's.

1559
01:07:44,320 --> 01:07:46,160
Speaker 3: I don't know if I was looking for closure or

1560
01:07:46,240 --> 01:07:49,240
Speaker 3: validation for refusing to even discuss the issue with Anne,

1561
01:07:49,280 --> 01:07:51,840
Speaker 3: but I found both first. A few hours after Joe

1562
01:07:51,960 --> 01:07:54,360
Speaker 3: drove Anne back to my place, he made an Instagram

1563
01:07:54,440 --> 01:07:57,200
Speaker 3: post about potentially doing a cover for Scott he doesn't

1564
01:07:57,240 --> 01:08:02,520
Speaker 3: know by Lustra. Oh wow, wow, wow, what a real?

1565
01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:04,160
Speaker 3: What a remember how that got?

1566
01:08:05,120 --> 01:08:08,400
Speaker 2: The guy has every piece he needs to be cool,

1567
01:08:08,560 --> 01:08:13,000
Speaker 2: but he's just so not cool man in this one

1568
01:08:13,080 --> 01:08:13,760
Speaker 2: guy's life.

1569
01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:18,360
Speaker 3: Literally the boogeyman after someone who doesn't have a boyfriend.

1570
01:08:18,880 --> 01:08:22,040
Speaker 3: Yeah for real, come on, dude. The comments were full

1571
01:08:22,080 --> 01:08:24,360
Speaker 3: of people saying he was going to hell with laughing

1572
01:08:24,400 --> 01:08:27,120
Speaker 3: crying emojis in the shushing emoji. I recognize some of

1573
01:08:27,120 --> 01:08:29,680
Speaker 3: the commentars as people who had attended the party. Oh

1574
01:08:29,760 --> 01:08:33,280
Speaker 3: so everyone in the comments to that post was like, oh.

1575
01:08:34,400 --> 01:08:36,839
Speaker 2: This might make me sound like the villain, but like guys,

1576
01:08:37,040 --> 01:08:38,839
Speaker 2: it is so clear who has.

1577
01:08:38,680 --> 01:08:41,800
Speaker 3: The cool factor. Yeah, everyone likes this guy's I mean, look,

1578
01:08:42,080 --> 01:08:43,800
Speaker 3: Joe is clearly a cool guy.

1579
01:08:44,240 --> 01:08:47,479
Speaker 2: Cool guy does not equal good guy, right, that's cool

1580
01:08:47,479 --> 01:08:49,479
Speaker 2: and good are not the same thing. But it really

1581
01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:52,160
Speaker 2: feels like OHP does not have a cool factor. Oh

1582
01:08:52,200 --> 01:08:55,080
Speaker 2: P's got I stayed up at the window until five

1583
01:08:55,280 --> 01:08:57,479
Speaker 2: forty five, and it's like, that's what you do, I

1584
01:08:57,479 --> 01:09:00,320
Speaker 2: guess when you're suspecting your girlfriend, but also all the

1585
01:09:00,360 --> 01:09:02,200
Speaker 2: way up until five p forty five is kind of

1586
01:09:02,240 --> 01:09:05,000
Speaker 2: like low key. You should have already made the decision

1587
01:09:05,040 --> 01:09:05,640
Speaker 2: to break up with the.

1588
01:09:05,640 --> 01:09:06,400
Speaker 4: Girl at like three.

1589
01:09:06,680 --> 01:09:08,400
Speaker 3: At first, I didn't know what it was about, but

1590
01:09:08,479 --> 01:09:11,160
Speaker 3: after looking up the lyrics, it became clear. Here's the

1591
01:09:11,160 --> 01:09:14,839
Speaker 3: first line of the song, Scotty doesn't know Fiona Emmy

1592
01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:17,360
Speaker 3: do it in my band every Sunday.

1593
01:09:17,680 --> 01:09:20,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the classic lines for scott He doesn't know

1594
01:09:21,120 --> 01:09:24,639
Speaker 2: so yeah, class act. He is yatchy song though it's

1595
01:09:24,680 --> 01:09:26,760
Speaker 2: true it's a catchy song, but it gets better. I

1596
01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:28,479
Speaker 2: know this wasn't healthy, but I kind of kept up

1597
01:09:28,520 --> 01:09:30,679
Speaker 2: with Anna and Joe's social media. I feel you, man,

1598
01:09:30,920 --> 01:09:31,439
Speaker 2: I feel you.

1599
01:09:32,560 --> 01:09:35,960
Speaker 3: They went full mask off another few days later, Joe

1600
01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:38,400
Speaker 3: posted a picture of Anne sitting on his lap. I

1601
01:09:38,439 --> 01:09:40,360
Speaker 3: could tell that based on the Sophie he was sitting on.

1602
01:09:40,439 --> 01:09:42,519
Speaker 3: This was not even taken at the after party, but

1603
01:09:42,600 --> 01:09:46,800
Speaker 3: at the party that I went too. Oh my god, No,

1604
01:09:46,920 --> 01:09:50,360
Speaker 3: this guy's actually a demon. Yeah he's not. He can't

1605
01:09:50,360 --> 01:09:53,120
Speaker 3: be cool because he's covered in flames. Yeah, because he

1606
01:09:53,240 --> 01:09:55,599
Speaker 3: is a demon. I must have been talking to someone

1607
01:09:55,600 --> 01:09:57,360
Speaker 3: else or in the bathroom when it was taken. I

1608
01:09:57,360 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 3: will say that I was severely depressed and on a

1609
01:09:59,360 --> 01:10:02,880
Speaker 3: certain level probably still am. It wasn't even really about Anne,

1610
01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:04,960
Speaker 3: but that literally nobody from the party was willing to

1611
01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:07,280
Speaker 3: give me a heads up. Anne and I were publicly dating.

1612
01:10:07,320 --> 01:10:09,799
Speaker 3: We showed up together. People knew I was their boyfriend,

1613
01:10:09,840 --> 01:10:11,800
Speaker 3: but I guess when my back was turned they were

1614
01:10:11,840 --> 01:10:14,360
Speaker 3: laughing at me. But we would never laugh at you.

1615
01:10:14,520 --> 01:10:16,720
Speaker 3: If you joined us live every week dead three pmpst

1616
01:10:17,120 --> 01:10:18,920
Speaker 3: just have her profile, you can laugh at us.

1617
01:10:19,080 --> 01:10:21,799
Speaker 2: You can laugh at us every weekday at three pm.

1618
01:10:21,960 --> 01:10:25,880
Speaker 3: In fact, we encourage it. The only thing that doesn't

1619
01:10:25,920 --> 01:10:27,439
Speaker 3: make sense to me at this point is why she

1620
01:10:27,520 --> 01:10:29,760
Speaker 3: ever wanted to keep me around as a partner when

1621
01:10:29,760 --> 01:10:32,040
Speaker 3: I kicked her out, she was legitimately upset. Was this

1622
01:10:32,160 --> 01:10:34,160
Speaker 3: a pride issue where she wanted to be the one

1623
01:10:34,200 --> 01:10:36,479
Speaker 3: to dump me? Was it the thrill of screwing around

1624
01:10:36,520 --> 01:10:38,439
Speaker 3: with her coworker behind my back? Or was this some

1625
01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:41,919
Speaker 3: logic that only the human equivalent of a dumpster could understand?

1626
01:10:42,120 --> 01:10:44,200
Speaker 3: I may never know. That could be the one right,

1627
01:10:44,240 --> 01:10:46,439
Speaker 3: there could be at it doesn't matter anyway. I want

1628
01:10:46,520 --> 01:10:48,760
Speaker 3: to thank everyone who responded to the last post, and

1629
01:10:48,800 --> 01:10:50,360
Speaker 3: I really want to give a special thanks to those

1630
01:10:50,360 --> 01:10:53,600
Speaker 3: who posted or DM me with similar experiences without exaggeration.

1631
01:10:53,760 --> 01:10:55,320
Speaker 3: I don't know what I'd be doing right now if

1632
01:10:55,320 --> 01:10:56,400
Speaker 3: it weren't for your comments.

1633
01:10:56,600 --> 01:10:59,519
Speaker 2: First of all, dude, you're already up from breaking up

1634
01:10:59,520 --> 01:10:59,720
Speaker 2: with her.

1635
01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:02,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're up, and he's he's this cool guy.

1636
01:11:02,840 --> 01:11:05,840
Speaker 2: Joe is actually down because so far with now the

1637
01:11:05,920 --> 01:11:07,240
Speaker 2: scumbag girl.

1638
01:11:07,400 --> 01:11:10,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, and she's gotta cheat on him one day. Yeah,

1639
01:11:10,320 --> 01:11:11,840
Speaker 3: because you get him, how you keep him? I mean,

1640
01:11:11,880 --> 01:11:13,160
Speaker 3: you get him how you win them?

1641
01:11:13,200 --> 01:11:17,000
Speaker 2: And you'll find your reflection, You'll find your other, your

1642
01:11:17,040 --> 01:11:20,760
Speaker 2: other partner. Just wasn't this this lame girl and the

1643
01:11:20,840 --> 01:11:23,400
Speaker 2: reason she wanted to stay? Or like that she said

1644
01:11:23,439 --> 01:11:25,040
Speaker 2: she wanted to say she wanted a place to live,

1645
01:11:25,160 --> 01:11:27,920
Speaker 2: for sure, she she wanted to be a hobo, and

1646
01:11:28,000 --> 01:11:31,280
Speaker 2: she also probably like has her own complex in her

1647
01:11:31,280 --> 01:11:33,880
Speaker 2: head where. It's like she if she doesn't admit it

1648
01:11:33,920 --> 01:11:36,120
Speaker 2: to herself, then it's not real, so she doesn't have

1649
01:11:36,160 --> 01:11:38,639
Speaker 2: to worry about it. Yea, she just sucks, bro, don't

1650
01:11:38,680 --> 01:11:39,400
Speaker 2: even worry about it.

1651
01:11:39,479 --> 01:11:41,759
Speaker 3: The reason why she pretended, Because she sucks.

1652
01:11:42,080 --> 01:11:44,559
Speaker 2: And you're on to the next exactly and it's gonna

1653
01:11:44,560 --> 01:11:45,120
Speaker 2: be better than ever.

1654
01:11:45,560 --> 01:11:48,880
Speaker 3: We love you so much, but if you love us,

1655
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:53,480
Speaker 3: make sure to subscribe. We love you and Samar