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Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garland. Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to I Choose Me. We have been having the

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Speaker 1: best conversation today. We're going to continue that. I have

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Speaker 1: Barbara Eden on the pod, and she has so much

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Speaker 1: wisdom to share with us. So here's part two of

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Speaker 1: our conversation. It's absolutely incredible. But I Dream of Jeanie

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Speaker 1: is having its sixtieth year anniversary. This is insane. It

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Speaker 1: is such an incredible honor to be on a beloved

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Speaker 1: television show like that that stands the test of time.

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Speaker 1: I can kind of relate with my ten year run

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Speaker 1: on Beverly Hills nine o two one zero and people

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Speaker 1: being so invested in that character that you played. I

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Speaker 1: know you loved that role and you loved that show,

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Speaker 1: but did you ever go through periods after the show

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Speaker 1: when you sort of wanted to disconnect or this is

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Speaker 1: so see it from that character or that show just

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Speaker 1: just kind of show. Look, I'm not just that I

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Speaker 1: can do other things.

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Speaker 2: Never, never, No, because I was doing other things. I

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Speaker 2: think even when I worked with you, I was doing

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Speaker 2: something other.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, I I oddly enough because I understand people who

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Speaker 2: or that, but I really didn't. I wasn't thinking about

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Speaker 2: Genie because I was doing film work. I was in Vegas,

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Speaker 2: I was singing. It's only it's been quite recently that

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Speaker 2: I realized, you know, she's right there there she is,

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Speaker 2: you know, yeah, and I'm I think she's great, she's wonderful.

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Speaker 2: She's not me, but she's I love it, and it

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Speaker 2: does make make me feel really really good that people

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Speaker 2: appreciate what I did, that they're still looking at it.

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Speaker 2: And god, I it's it's almost like magic, okay, to

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Speaker 2: to get fan mail from Russia, and you know how

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Speaker 2: they do that. They they because they can't mail letters

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Speaker 2: to the United States, so they send it through Poland,

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Speaker 2: and I mean all over Europe. It's in France, it's

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Speaker 2: in the UK, it's in Italy, it's in China. How

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Speaker 2: do they do that? I mean, I you know, you

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Speaker 2: speak Chinese now a little bit, but yeah, but how

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Speaker 2: do they get that mail out? It's just it's I

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Speaker 2: love it. Germany, lots of Germany, lots of South America.

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Speaker 2: Isn't it amazing how things have changed, how we're so global?

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Speaker 2: And that's that makes me feel good, you know, you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm getting a little teary eyed, because, like I said

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Speaker 2: to you earlier, I've modeled myself after you and your

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Speaker 2: professionalism and your spirit.

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Speaker 1: And I can see, I can see the gratitude. I

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Speaker 1: can see that you lead with gratitude, and that is

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Speaker 1: why you are still here while you are so still

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Speaker 1: so beautiful, and you're just like you're you radiate gratitude,

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Speaker 1: and I think that's a huge key to life.

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Speaker 2: Well, I agree, yes, yeah, gratitude is important to recognize

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Speaker 2: how lucky you are. Yeah, lucky. But I'll get back

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Speaker 2: to that. We're all a connected thing because I really

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Speaker 2: truly believe in it. You can find that spirit and

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Speaker 2: almost everyone around you, and that's wonderful. That's a great

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Speaker 2: thing to live with.

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Speaker 1: I know, I picked a good idol to look up to.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're just blowing my mind. You brought the

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Speaker 1: character of Genie to life. You took her off that

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Speaker 1: paper and you made her come to life. And she

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Speaker 1: had that infamous costume, which also turned you into a

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Speaker 1: sex symbol. I'm telling you you were a sex symbol.

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Speaker 1: I want to know what that was like. Did you

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Speaker 1: ever feel objectified back then?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh, you are amazing.

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Speaker 2: No, I didn't, Well, come on, it's a classic theme,

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Speaker 2: the genie in the bottle, Yeah, and the magic and

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Speaker 2: it's uh and fun to do. I just adored doing her. No,

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Speaker 2: I never did feel that although a lot of people

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Speaker 1: You know, everybody wondered, does she have a belly button?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? We love it. The uh it's the guy at

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Speaker 2: the Mike Connolly at the Hollywood Reporter, who wrote an

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Speaker 2: article and he came down on the set to talk

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Speaker 2: I said it's there. He said, I don't say it.

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Speaker 2: I said, nickel a peek, you know I was.

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Speaker 1: I went, yeah, you gotta charge more. Yeah, now I

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Speaker 2: So he kept coming down on the set and every

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Speaker 2: But he wrote about it, and then the stringers across

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Speaker 2: you know, there are actresses that are known for much

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Speaker 2: I'll take it. Why not? Why not?

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Speaker 1: Did you ever struggle with body image being with your

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Speaker 1: body or how you felt in your body being that

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Speaker 1: you were. You know, you were in such beautiful, cute

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Speaker 1: little outfits all the time, and looking a certain way

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Speaker 1: it came to your body image.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to answer that, because I wasn't.

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Speaker 2: You know, I still still we wonder about what we

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Speaker 2: wear and how it fits and yeah that, But honestly,

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Speaker 2: when most actors start working or acting or were in

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Speaker 2: the lights, you know, you forget about those things. You

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Speaker 2: just be the person you're being and be comfortable in them.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, no, I haven't ever since that when

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Speaker 2: my first interview you know that, Yeah, that showed me

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Speaker 2: his daughter that broke you in. Yeah, yeah, I know

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Speaker 2: that made me think, made me think and centered me.

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Speaker 1: You know, I was thinking. I've had a lot of,

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Speaker 1: you know, insecurities. I think growing up in the nineties

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Speaker 1: being on TV. Yeah, it's a really competitive era. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: to be a female on television, and things seem to

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Speaker 1: sixties and the seventies, Like you didn't have those It

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Speaker 1: doesn't sound like you were ever crippled by your insecurities

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Speaker 1: or they didn't hold you back, and that's so admirable.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you. I don't know. When you're talking, I'm thinking, hmm,

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Speaker 2: was I insecure? Did I do? There were times perhaps

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Speaker 2: I was playing, But I've never I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: don't think about being insecure. I just don't think about it. Now.

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Speaker 2: I may know then then then it wasn't. It wasn't

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Speaker 2: on my agenda. What was there to be insecure about.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you wanted to work, so you did your job.

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Speaker 2: If you're talking about insecure clothing or such, no, you

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Speaker 2: wear what they tell you to wear, and you have

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Speaker 2: no power over that, and it's much better if you

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 2: As you are talking to me, I'm thinking about different

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Speaker 2: I with a very famous actress and everyone said, well,

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Speaker 2: she's difficult. You know, she was the most wonderful thing

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Speaker 2: to me. She actually came down and made my dress

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Speaker 2: you know, most people are are pretty good. They're they're

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Speaker 2: good souls. No, I guess they wasn't.

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Speaker 1: You said it was easier to not make a fuss

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Speaker 1: about things like your wardrobe boards.

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Speaker 2: It's not important.

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Speaker 1: It's not important.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's important that fits you and it fits the character.

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Speaker 2: But you do it. That's why you're there.

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Speaker 1: To act and let the costume designer address.

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Speaker 2: You do their job and that's okay.

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Speaker 1: You're very easy going. You have to kind of just

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Speaker 2: I guess. So I don't know. I mean, I don't

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Speaker 2: mean that you don't have some input for it. For instance,

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Speaker 2: tell me tell you a job on Genie. The first

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Speaker 2: year of Genie, I was pregnant. What yes, I had

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Speaker 2: was going to go on the air. So I called Sydney,

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Speaker 2: So I sat down there with a big grin on

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Speaker 2: if we can work this out. Okay, work this out.

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Speaker 2: Because he had to write a lot of scripts. He

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Speaker 2: now girls flaunt their tummies, but at the time I

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Speaker 2: a diva. He said, what won't you put on a

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Speaker 2: bathing suit, said Jean, I am pregnant. He said, well,

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Speaker 2: I see what you mean.

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Speaker 1: I mean, so you had to give him a visual. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's hilarious.

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Speaker 2: And so what I did was they put me on

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Speaker 2: the set was a pool.

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Speaker 2: And I was supposed to be on a floaty. No,

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Speaker 2: the side of the pool. But they just put the

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Speaker 2: a real tire, I mean, not a floating tire.

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Speaker 1: Why what what why a real tire?

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Speaker 2: Well they covered it up with towels. Why because it's

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Speaker 2: a hole in the middle of my tummy fit.

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Speaker 1: That is so funny mm hmmm. And it's so crazy.

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Speaker 1: The parallels are that I keep finding for us, because

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Speaker 1: I too had got a show that I was really

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Speaker 1: after my nine oh two and oh run doing so

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Speaker 1: And I got a job on a show was called

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Speaker 1: What I Like About You. It was nowhere near I

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Speaker 1: Dream of Genie. We only lasted for four years, but

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Speaker 1: I remember I did the pilot and then I got pregnant,

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Speaker 1: and then I had to say, hey, guys, I'm pregnant.

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Speaker 1: This is going to be a problem because the character

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Speaker 1: Listen to I Do Part two on the iHeartRadio app,

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Speaker 1: Dream of Genie.

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Speaker 1: Pay Quality is something that we women have been battling

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Speaker 2: How would I define love in a relationship?

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Speaker 1: How do you succeed in a relationship?

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Speaker 2: Well, sometimes you do, sometimes you don't.

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Speaker 2: You just have to love them and accept them. And right, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think, yeah, that's great advice.

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Speaker 1: You have to look at your partner as an individual

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Speaker 1: and not as an extension of yourself. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: I think that whole jargon about when you marry you

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Speaker 1: become one. I feel like in a sense, perhaps, but

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Speaker 1: you still are your own person.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never heard that.

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Speaker 1: It's in the vows, like you know, it's like to

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Speaker 1: come together as one.

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Speaker 2: I see you. I remember that you think you would

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Speaker 2: after three Well, I think for you certainly do in

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Speaker 2: many senses, Yes, of course, because you're you work together. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you're you're your partners, you're in business together. You know. Sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but you respect what they are and they respect you.

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Speaker 2: If they don't respect you, which I'm sure you had

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Speaker 2: happened I did too, then you see. Sorry, you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm i gonna do it. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's really hard when I think as women who

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Speaker 1: are successful and strong willed, it's hard to be with

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Speaker 1: a man that doesn't respect you or that feels as

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Speaker 1: if you should take a back seat to him in

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Speaker 1: some way. And it's also hard. I know you've probably

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Speaker 1: experienced this, being the breadwinner in certain situations, certain times

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Speaker 1: of your life. Men customarily have a problem with that.

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Speaker 1: Many do, many do, Many don't. Yeah, you got to

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Speaker 1: find the ones that don't.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 3: No, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't know. That's I think that's when you're one, you know.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is a very deep question, but I'm so

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Speaker 1: curious your take on this. After you've lived this beautiful life,

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Speaker 1: what do you think happens after that? When it all ends?

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Speaker 1: What do you think happens when our lives end? And

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Speaker 1: where do we go? What happens to us? I'm so

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Speaker 1: curious about other people's perspectives on death and dying, and.

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Speaker 2: I just well, I'm just not going to do it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, good, I am here for that.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm so with you. This doesn't sound fun. No,

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Speaker 1: what do you think though happens?

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Speaker 2: Like? Who knows?

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Speaker 1: You don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm ready for the ride.

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Speaker 1: I mean it'll be exciting because we don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 1: Or it'll be really boring.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't think it'll be boring. Okay, good, I

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Speaker 2: don't think so.

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Speaker 1: But okay, I have one last question for you. This

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Speaker 1: is how I close every episodisode. Barbara Eden, what was

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Speaker 1: your last I choose me moment?

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Speaker 2: It's probably every day. That's good. It's a good thing,

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Speaker 2: you know you Ah. I choose to get up in

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Speaker 2: the morning. I choose to have a good breakfast. I

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Speaker 2: choose to love my dog. Well, I don't really choose it.

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Speaker 2: I do love I love my husband. Let me see.

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Speaker 2: I choose my friends. Yeah, just not me? Yeah? Is

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Speaker 2: that good enough?

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Speaker 1: That's great? I love that you say. I choose myself

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Speaker 1: every day, because I think that's important that we acknowledge

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Speaker 1: that we're worth choosing. You know, like a lot of

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Speaker 1: people have a real hard time choosing themselves and I

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Speaker 1: don't want that to be the case for us. No, No,

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Speaker 1: it's vital too. But you choose your husband, to you

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Speaker 1: choose your children.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's not just me.

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Speaker 1: No, but that, in a sense is choosing yourself too,

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Speaker 1: because you are choosing to love abundantly, true and freely,

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Speaker 1: and that is ultimately, Yeah, the best choice you can

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Speaker 1: make for yourself. Yeah, what is your key to longevity?

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Speaker 2: I haven't a clue. I don't know. I just like

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Speaker 2: being here, I guess, and I like my work. I

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Speaker 2: still work, I think, so I have a reason to

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Speaker 2: be here. Mm hmm. What's your key to longevity?

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Speaker 1: I mean continuing to do things that excite me, Yes,

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Speaker 1: that push me, challenge me.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I agree.

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Speaker 1: I think that's important. Yeah, this has been the best

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Speaker 1: conversation ever on it just me. I'm sorry for everybody

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Speaker 1: that has come before you, but this is now officially

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Speaker 1: my favorite episode. Thank you so much too.

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Speaker 2: I've enjoyed it.

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Speaker 1: I've loved every second of it. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you for having me, so good to see

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Speaker 2: you again.

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Speaker 1: You too,