Speaker 1: Alright, what's up. It's angela. Ye, it's lip service. Now,
Speaker 1: just so we know ahead of time, Stephanie Santiago is
Speaker 1: not here. She's like in another country somewhere. So but
Speaker 1: I'm here. She's here, Maguire and I'm here, Valerie, Laura Hey,
Speaker 1: val And we got a special guest, and I mean
Speaker 1: very special. We have some o myssic Carey and she's
Speaker 1: actually on a new show that's gonna be on Netflix
Speaker 1: during September. You know, we binge watch on Netflix all
Speaker 1: the time. Luke Cage, and you are playing Missy Night. Yes,
Speaker 1: first black female superhero in the history of Marvel TV.
Speaker 1: Very awesome. Congratulations, thank you, very awesome. That's a big
Speaker 1: title to hold. You know, it all fits on one line.
Speaker 1: First black female superhero in the history of all Marvel Television,
Speaker 1: kicking those doors down. Okay, all right, well we always
Speaker 1: start with the tip of the day. Um, today's tip
Speaker 1: is how much do you divulge on a first date?
Speaker 1: How much about yourself do you tell when you're first
Speaker 1: going out with somebody you want them to know? Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm looking for a serious relationship. I wanted one day
Speaker 1: get married or do you just kind of hold all
Speaker 1: that back. You know, I think it depends on how
Speaker 1: old you are. I think when I was younger, it
Speaker 1: was very much just you tell the basics where you from,
Speaker 1: what you like, what you don't like, and then you
Speaker 1: move through date three, four or five and you say, Okay,
Speaker 1: well this is what I'm looking for in a relationship.
Speaker 1: But I met my husband when I was twenty eight,
Speaker 1: and on our first date we literally talked about kids
Speaker 1: and marriage and family and history. We talked about everything
Speaker 1: that still seems young though it is, but he olds
Speaker 1: he was older than he brought it up. And on
Speaker 1: that date he's like dating people, I know personalities, you're
Speaker 1: the one, Let's get right to it. And we got
Speaker 1: engaged nine months later, got married on our two year
Speaker 1: universities And how did you all meet each other? How
Speaker 1: he acts? He's an actor and he was helping a
Speaker 1: friend out. They were producing a project, and he was
Speaker 1: in the room when I was auditioning, and I thought, oh,
Speaker 1: he's cute, Okay, let me do my audition, and he thought,
Speaker 1: but let me just do my job. And his friend
Speaker 1: ended up invited me to a party, which at the time,
Speaker 1: I was like, that's completely professional unless I didn't get
Speaker 1: the job, and then I will go because I want
Speaker 1: to beat that cute didn't get the job, showed up
Speaker 1: at the party, he was there, he was DJ and
Speaker 1: that night and the next day was Valentine's Day, he
Speaker 1: invited me over, cook me dinner. Whoa hold on a
Speaker 1: first date on Valentine's Day. I've had a first day
Speaker 1: a lot of Time's Day and they didn't go to
Speaker 1: you what. I flew all the way out to like
Speaker 1: day in Ohio, to spending I meet this Applebe's day girl.
Speaker 1: You know, that was all they had day. But he
Speaker 1: paid your flight but took you to Apple he said
Speaker 1: it was his. He's like, I'm gonna take you to
Speaker 1: my favorite restaurant. He was, What did he eat? I'm
Speaker 1: they got to Chicken Fast? Where did the better question?
Speaker 1: I probably a state. But after you finished, remember that
Speaker 1: I was not impressed, and I just knew at that
Speaker 1: point that I did not want to see him again. Yeah,
Speaker 1: see what the first impression on the first date really
Speaker 1: means so much? You know, but I think it's like,
Speaker 1: usually guys aren't the ones that would be like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, I want to have kids. I want to
Speaker 1: It didn't intimidate you in any way, No, not at all.
Speaker 1: The thing about everybody is that they're always the wrong
Speaker 1: person until it's the right person. You know, you will
Speaker 1: always run through relationship after relationship, and they could be
Speaker 1: good people, just not good people for you. So I
Speaker 1: think God and everything aligned for me to hear what
Speaker 1: he had to say at that moment, and me to
Speaker 1: hear what he had to say. And if we had
Speaker 1: met each other a year, a week, a month before,
Speaker 1: or after, it might be a different time. Now keeping
Speaker 1: with mom, what's he a good DJ? Yes, at the time,
Speaker 1: I think he was whatever he d He's terrible at
Speaker 1: the time. When we first started dating. He had always
Speaker 1: been DJM, but he had never barely been DJ out.
Speaker 1: So when he moved to l A, he was like,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm gonna start doing it. I'm gonna start
Speaker 1: d jaying out. His music selection was always wonderful, his blend,
Speaker 1: his knowledge of the equipment, because you know what, I'm
Speaker 1: a DJ widow, so I'm always the wife at the
Speaker 1: club sitting there with my own drink by myself. Dancing
Speaker 1: with anybody is yeah, So you know, in the beginning
Speaker 1: it was rough, but he's such a better DJ now
Speaker 1: and he's my favorite DJ. Actually, Okay, now, what about
Speaker 1: him being in the club and stuff like that is
Speaker 1: a weird like because girls love the DJ they do.
Speaker 1: But you know, I think you can have a man
Speaker 1: who worked at the gas station, like, good, what can
Speaker 1: you listen? Right? So you just gotta you just have
Speaker 1: to trust your your guy, you know. And at the
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, there's nothing that I
Speaker 1: can do that will stop him from doing anything that
Speaker 1: he you know, might want to do, might be interested
Speaker 1: in doing. That's between him and God. If he decides
Speaker 1: to funk up on that covenant. Well, I'm glad you
Speaker 1: said that, because as a detective, how much detective work
Speaker 1: do you do when you're with somebody you know? I
Speaker 1: know you don't. Did a little bit of masticative yep.
Speaker 1: I have done some investigating and it's never good. It's
Speaker 1: never never good. Seek out to find and you get
Speaker 1: what you look at, you get what you're looking for.
Speaker 1: In modern day though, I feel like sometimes you trip
Speaker 1: on the information you don't even want, right, like some
Speaker 1: location tracker on the GPS or don't let's have their
Speaker 1: phone and be like, who is why here are you
Speaker 1: searching on Instagram this person this picture, and why did
Speaker 1: this person like your picture and say hey boo, why
Speaker 1: did they put a kissy phase? Yeah, let me ask
Speaker 1: you this. If you could put a nanny cam right
Speaker 1: in there and your man had no idea that they
Speaker 1: was in nanny cam watching what he did, and you
Speaker 1: could just log on on your phone and look at
Speaker 1: the camera and see what was going on and he
Speaker 1: had no idea, would you do it? No? Nope, Sure wouldn't.
Speaker 1: You don't even want to think he would do it
Speaker 1: to you? Like, No, I don't. I don't think he would.
Speaker 1: But I definitely wouldn't want it, because it's not to
Speaker 1: say the ignorance is blissed, because it's not. But like
Speaker 1: you said, whatever you look for you can find, and
Speaker 1: you could find a way to drive yourself crazy crazy
Speaker 1: you were still hold to you wasn't even going to happen,
Speaker 1: and your thoughts created it and something. That's so I
Speaker 1: would probably want to, but I wouldn't just because I
Speaker 1: know that I would probably end up finding out something.
Speaker 1: But you would probably have it set up and then
Speaker 1: every now and then me like, let me log on,
Speaker 1: and then you would be like he had a chance
Speaker 1: to put his boy came on me, he would right there,
Speaker 1: held he would, Yeah, he would. I were gonna see
Speaker 1: me doing twist. Yeah, like doing things that you don't
Speaker 1: want anybody to know that you do when you at
Speaker 1: home alone, you underwear and the period panties. Yeah, all right, Now,
Speaker 1: what about a background check? How important is it like
Speaker 1: for women in general to do a little background check, Like,
Speaker 1: let me go ahead and look on his social media,
Speaker 1: let me google him back the last time he publicly Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that's for seven weeks ago or six weeks ago. See,
Speaker 1: like it's all these new ways of stock people. Should
Speaker 1: he delete old pictures of his old bad Hell no,
Speaker 1: keep him on there. Yeah. That was his life, and
Speaker 1: that to me, that's why I married my husband. I
Speaker 1: couldn't marry anybody else's you know what I mean, Because
Speaker 1: when we first started dating, I was a person who
Speaker 1: was very secretive, like, I don't want you to know
Speaker 1: who I used to date. We don't need to discuss it.
Speaker 1: My past is my past, Your past is your past.
Speaker 1: We can keep him separate. And he was like, no,
Speaker 1: I need to know everybody that. You need to know
Speaker 1: everybody that I used to date, because if we run
Speaker 1: into them. I don't want both. I don't want anybody
Speaker 1: to come at you and be like, oh hi, and
Speaker 1: you not know. And I don't want anybody to come
Speaker 1: to me come at me the opposite way. And my
Speaker 1: face was like that for six months, for two years. No, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: It was just uncomfortable. It was uncomfortable because I just
Speaker 1: I was never like that. I would date guys and
Speaker 1: see them out when I was with another guy and
Speaker 1: pretend like I didn't even know that I've never seen you,
Speaker 1: never known, so they have to like remember people, and
Speaker 1: I would go, I don't think we slept again, I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure we didn't for long. When you are with dating,
Speaker 1: did you feel did you have to give all that?
Speaker 1: Was it before you got married or was it way
Speaker 1: before that or it was when we started dating. Because
Speaker 1: he's an actor so and I'm an actress, so we
Speaker 1: would potentially be around the same people. And now, in hindsight,
Speaker 1: it was the best thing to do because we will
Speaker 1: run into people and they'll go, oh my god, I've
Speaker 1: heard so much about it. I go, I have to
Speaker 1: you know, and there's no like girl, I already know,
Speaker 1: there's no weirdness about it, and the same thing would dude.
Speaker 1: You know, guys, they do pissing contests. Absolutely if a
Speaker 1: guy will try to be like, oh, first of all,
Speaker 1: my husband ain't going for none of it. But they
Speaker 1: don't even try it because he's already aware, like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: she said he wasn't good, just so you know, you
Speaker 1: need your stroke and those come up to He's like,
Speaker 1: that's whack right when people try to, um, come at you,
Speaker 1: what you don't mind telling? Well, in the in the beginning,
Speaker 1: I had to tell him about a few people because
Speaker 1: I felt like he might have known these people because
Speaker 1: of the endustry that he's in. Um. And I did
Speaker 1: have an incident where an ex came up to me
Speaker 1: and kissed me and my mouth in front of him,
Speaker 1: not knowing that was a bad day for everyone. Yeah,
Speaker 1: not knowing that. We not know. I wantship. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: read a concert. Um, he's a rapper and not a
Speaker 1: black guy. My guy is an executive and in the
Speaker 1: music industry at a large label. He was label and
Speaker 1: he Um, we were on the side of the stage
Speaker 1: watching the show and my ex is on stage rapping,
Speaker 1: and I got my little sister with me. Me and
Speaker 1: my sister and we're just hanging out. And then there
Speaker 1: was a point where he kind of like threw his
Speaker 1: hands up at me, like hey, you know, and I
Speaker 1: kind of like ignored it in my sister, so like
Speaker 1: you see that, and I'm like, yes, you know right now.
Speaker 1: And then he like ran over. You would think he
Speaker 1: was about to go off the stage. He ran straight
Speaker 1: up to me and grabbed my face and just kissed me.
Speaker 1: And I was just like the same look. I just
Speaker 1: stood there like and and he was sad about it,
Speaker 1: but I just feel like he didn't know, you know,
Speaker 1: and the last time we saw each other, it was
Speaker 1: appropriate for him to run up on me. He kissed
Speaker 1: me so long, you know, we hadn't seen each other
Speaker 1: in two years. Meanwhile, it's because I've been with him
Speaker 1: for two years and I never told him that I
Speaker 1: was in a relationship. I just you know that that's
Speaker 1: part of his show because somebody else. You think he
Speaker 1: already knew that there was history between us. Now, even
Speaker 1: though he still got upset about it, he wasn't taking
Speaker 1: as much off guard because he was aware that now
Speaker 1: the gifting, the curses, it always gets thrown up in
Speaker 1: my face whenever we're somewhere and said rapper is performing
Speaker 1: at that event. It's like, you know, so you know,
Speaker 1: but I do feel like you should make an agreement.
Speaker 1: If I tell you what I've done, don't throw it
Speaker 1: in my face. But that, honestly, that was like the
Speaker 1: struggle with us, because it was like, well, you asked
Speaker 1: for it, so why are you And he's like, I
Speaker 1: don't care. I'm not saying. I'm like, but you still
Speaker 1: keep throwing shape the chan and we're not watching this show.
Speaker 1: So what you said it happened to you too. Lord.
Speaker 1: We were at we were at a like a DJ.
Speaker 1: Rich Medina is an afrobeat DJ out here and he
Speaker 1: was DJ and in l A and we were at
Speaker 1: a party that he did and we're getting ready to
Speaker 1: leave and my husband's ex girlfriend, who was the woman
Speaker 1: that he dated right before he and I started dating,
Speaker 1: comes up and he's like hey, and then and it
Speaker 1: was like in slow motion and she kisses him in
Speaker 1: the mouth. And when I tell you, everything in me
Speaker 1: was like I'm gonna kill this right now, like I
Speaker 1: want I'm still hot about it right now, and we
Speaker 1: wanted to kill him. I wanted to kill him. Obviously,
Speaker 1: she was okay, no, she knew we were together, but
Speaker 1: that was her way of greeting. That was her yes, listening, listen.
Speaker 1: So he and I had to discuss that and he
Speaker 1: was like, I got and because I know him, he
Speaker 1: was like I didn't know what to do, like I
Speaker 1: got caught, and I was like move. So now it's
Speaker 1: amazing how many women try to mouth kiss men in
Speaker 1: the industry, like casting directors. Random women always tried to
Speaker 1: kiss him in the mouth. And he goes, oh, he
Speaker 1: always be Damn, I don't know what I would do.
Speaker 1: What was that? I never happened to you. No, I
Speaker 1: have a crazy story. And this is the beginning of
Speaker 1: the relationship. Some girl must have been really drunk and
Speaker 1: tried to like write in the DJ booth like and
Speaker 1: I'm like stepping because I came back to bring him
Speaker 1: a drink from the table and she was kneeling in
Speaker 1: the DJ booth and he didn't even I think he
Speaker 1: didn't even know she was. She was like super drunk
Speaker 1: me and I'm like, whoa blow job? I don't know.
Speaker 1: It sounds like if I would have came with the
Speaker 1: drink ten minutes, like right, like whatever, And that was
Speaker 1: that's like the craz and he just didn't notice her name.
Speaker 1: She was like not there yet, but she was crawling,
Speaker 1: or maybe she dropped something and it happened to be
Speaker 1: right under the front of Yeah, Jersey Girls said Jersey Girls.
Speaker 1: All right, now, this won't pertained to your husband. But
Speaker 1: have you ever dated somebody who you hate the music
Speaker 1: that they listened to, or that they hate the music
Speaker 1: that you listen to? Turn off that Beyonce? No, I
Speaker 1: could imagine dating somebody who likes country country music right,
Speaker 1: or somebody who only listens to like I don't know
Speaker 1: what you listen to all the time, but just something
Speaker 1: you don't listen to. I think that would that relationship
Speaker 1: wouldn't fly. I've never experienced it. I guess I have
Speaker 1: a type of just people who like good music. But
Speaker 1: if I did, yeah, I couldn't. You couldn't imagine that.
Speaker 1: I couldn't do that. What about you, gig? I'm sorry
Speaker 1: you every who does not. Have you ever dated somebody
Speaker 1: who doesn't like the music you listen to and you
Speaker 1: all just don't drive on it? Um? No, But I
Speaker 1: don't think that I could really take somebody serious if
Speaker 1: we didn't enjoy the same music, Because I love music
Speaker 1: that much, but maybe you guys can on yourselves up
Speaker 1: to another genre. Well that's true too, but like heavy
Speaker 1: metal going on your lab to crazy, Yeah, that's too much. Yes,
Speaker 1: I will say this, Like on set, Mike Coulter, the
Speaker 1: lead plays Luke Cage has a very eclectic music. What
Speaker 1: does he listen to? Anything and everything that I did
Speaker 1: not want to listen to you at the time, So
Speaker 1: he'd be putting music on in the makeup trailer and
Speaker 1: I'm like turping, Like I hate when I take a
Speaker 1: road trip with somebody and they in charge of the radio. Man,
Speaker 1: that is the worst, and they'd be playing you like,
Speaker 1: come on, man, we all here, it's not fair when
Speaker 1: we hear this all right now, how much do you
Speaker 1: expect your man to protect you? Like, say you're out
Speaker 1: and somebody's rude to you, or somebody bumps into you,
Speaker 1: somebody grabs your ass through the Kevin Hart La girl girl,
Speaker 1: Well they can have good security. What is he supposed
Speaker 1: to do if you have with your man somebody is
Speaker 1: rude to you, bumps into you. I think that um,
Speaker 1: given the situation, he should definitely, you know, have my
Speaker 1: back and stand up for me without making it a
Speaker 1: bigger situation, you know, still be a young something about it,
Speaker 1: But show me that you care, you know, because I
Speaker 1: might if you don't say something, do something, I might
Speaker 1: say something something. Then I'm looking crazy because why should
Speaker 1: I be taking up for myself if my man understandable?
Speaker 1: You know, I don't like when girls get their men
Speaker 1: into situations like if you're out and something little happens
Speaker 1: and they'd be like, oh and that could get dangerous
Speaker 1: a real quick in these streets. How protective though is
Speaker 1: he of you? Very and I the way I was
Speaker 1: just raised, I was raised up to always speak up
Speaker 1: for myself, stand up for myself. So my first mind
Speaker 1: is always to say something for myself. And I think
Speaker 1: if it's a situation where the person does not apologize
Speaker 1: or they become disrespectful, then I expect from my husband
Speaker 1: to step in. But he's the type of person who
Speaker 1: once he steps in the situation just goes from zero
Speaker 1: to one hundred. So I try to keep him as
Speaker 1: calm as possible. Perfect example, we were in we were somewhere,
Speaker 1: we were in like a street festival. We had our
Speaker 1: dog with us, and somebody walked back kicked the dog
Speaker 1: on purpose. Who are doing. Now we're in we're in
Speaker 1: another country, and I mean, but we're His family's from
Speaker 1: the Bahamas. So we went. He's like twelve pounds a
Speaker 1: little guy, and I was like this mother and the
Speaker 1: guy was excuse me. And my husband's with his best
Speaker 1: friend and they are both like fire and fire like.
Speaker 1: So he said, wait what happened? And they were both
Speaker 1: like who did it? They wanted to go chase the
Speaker 1: person down. I was like, I don't know. I didn't
Speaker 1: see his mom, Like the whole family is together. His
Speaker 1: mom is there, so she's like, simone, don't don't you do?
Speaker 1: So I don't want to be the dog. You're another
Speaker 1: guy dream to go to jail. So I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know who kicked the dog. It must have
Speaker 1: been I don't know. I missed them with that way,
Speaker 1: he's crazy. Now, if you could have a super power
Speaker 1: in the bedroom, which is super power, be I must
Speaker 1: have super powers. I think I would want to be
Speaker 1: able to read his mind. Oh that's a dangerous one.
Speaker 1: What are you thinking about somebody else? That's not dangerous.
Speaker 1: Initially it sounded like a really good idea because people
Speaker 1: bannsize about other people. True, but my reason was because
Speaker 1: you want to know exactly imagine having him like this
Speaker 1: feels good, but Reato was kind of better, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm imagining her sister right now. You sure that you
Speaker 1: sure that's what you want. I'm still going to stick
Speaker 1: with that because don't you sometimes think weird things during sex? That, yes,
Speaker 1: it would be so you would hate for somebody to
Speaker 1: so imagine what he thinks, right, It's weird. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: always go back to a certain neighborhood in Detroit. It's
Speaker 1: the weirdest thing. Like, while I'm having sex, I will
Speaker 1: visualize being back in that neighborhood and be like, wait,
Speaker 1: I never even had sex in that neighborhood. I don't
Speaker 1: even know why. Hip, let's further explain. So you're like
Speaker 1: walking through the park. There's just like a place downtown
Speaker 1: and my mind will take me back to this place.
Speaker 1: Where is this place? Have you heard of Saint Andrew's? Yes?
Speaker 1: I um club, yes, right outside, and then it needs
Speaker 1: to be there all the time you ever had sex Andrew.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying that the Athenian right. No, But
Speaker 1: for some reason, and I've told Dorian this before, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know why that's very under sex spirits, right,
Speaker 1: the sex spirits outside that let's go there and see
Speaker 1: how sexy leave, go there and have sex in the
Speaker 1: car outside of saying Andrew, so that I can get
Speaker 1: them right. I got to exercise that that spirit, whatever
Speaker 1: that is. And there is a lot of hip hop
Speaker 1: and um in this series that in Luke Cage, Yeah,
Speaker 1: there is, we got I mean method Man makes the Parents. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's in the latest trailer. But it's a lot of
Speaker 1: like woutangang to Yeah man, we got Gangster. Every episode
Speaker 1: is named after a gangster track and amazing. Yeah was
Speaker 1: a writer for I remember. I think he's right for
Speaker 1: the source. I remember that, so he you know, made
Speaker 1: sure the hip hop was like a fourth you know,
Speaker 1: element to the show. That's awesome. Yeah. Next, to be
Speaker 1: offended if you're out with somebody and they don't try
Speaker 1: to have sex with you. Because I have a friend
Speaker 1: that's been you know, liking this guy, but he hasn't
Speaker 1: tried to have sex with her, and it seems like
Speaker 1: she's really offended about it. That's a warning. It depends
Speaker 1: on how long. Yeah, it's like one through for more
Speaker 1: than ten months and then we haven't even got the
Speaker 1: mad now. But they haven't had sex how long, I
Speaker 1: don't spend like maybe three months or something. That's she
Speaker 1: talked about it. Did she say maybe he has somebody
Speaker 1: he's having sex with somebody else. I think that he
Speaker 1: has a small penis, because I always my theory is
Speaker 1: always that guys are small penis. She would have gave
Speaker 1: her head by now because small people, so he did.
Speaker 1: But I definitely got a little but a small penis.
Speaker 1: Last year, my friend was dating this guy and they were,
Speaker 1: you know, really good together. They had a lot of
Speaker 1: fun together. They did a lot of you know, spending
Speaker 1: time together, going out and like she really really liked him.
Speaker 1: And then she just kept saying like I don't know
Speaker 1: why he spent the night and everything, and he just
Speaker 1: will not try to have sex with me. And then
Speaker 1: I'm like, we have you tried to have sex with him?
Speaker 1: And she's like, no, I'm gonna trying with We got tonight,
Speaker 1: so she called me next. They was like, girl, I
Speaker 1: don't think it's so small. That's why I'm telling you, guys,
Speaker 1: just my penis is build trust and they build like
Speaker 1: affection and friendships. When they pulled that little thing out,
Speaker 1: I remember I met a guy and I was like,
Speaker 1: this guy is amazing, he looks amazing. How is he
Speaker 1: single with this whole amazingness? Because my mom was like
Speaker 1: I remember I did. I was like, are now implants
Speaker 1: a thing? Because we're like best friends? I was like,
Speaker 1: is it? She was like the mound? Now, now, don't
Speaker 1: you call him back? Every like my mother, don't don't
Speaker 1: see him again? She was very she was adamant, and
Speaker 1: I never did because my old mother was like, nothing
Speaker 1: can be done. But you know they mean, you know,
Speaker 1: but that's different a grower in the show he was,
Speaker 1: he was but that but that's sad because you know
Speaker 1: he knew why you never call them again? She said,
Speaker 1: too bad, too sad. I feel bad. I do feel bad,
Speaker 1: too bad because once he takes it out, like, is
Speaker 1: there no going that I'm not a guy man, at
Speaker 1: least with vagina, you can't see no, right. There are
Speaker 1: a lot of particulars that have to go into like
Speaker 1: vegina preference. Do you think you can have good sex
Speaker 1: with a small penis though, Like, yeah, I think so,
Speaker 1: you can. Let me think, dude, who knows? Though? Does
Speaker 1: anybody has anyone ever had good sex with the small
Speaker 1: talk about all the time when it died. Yeah, not him.
Speaker 1: But I had a guy before that that I was
Speaker 1: having sex with, and he does not have the biggest penis.
Speaker 1: It's actually what we could consider small or what I
Speaker 1: called the anal penis. And when it's really good for
Speaker 1: an he just really knew what to do with it.
Speaker 1: And besides just the actual intercourse, he was a great
Speaker 1: lover all around, a great love and he had to
Speaker 1: be so. And I think that that, you know, there
Speaker 1: are people in the industry, in the music industry. I
Speaker 1: know that I've heard are bad lays but have big penis,
Speaker 1: big penis reputation because they're just like, I don't have
Speaker 1: to do anything, Yeah, big old thing. A lot of
Speaker 1: men they're like dealspace those guys don't have it is
Speaker 1: not good sex. Yeah, and that's like the worst is
Speaker 1: to see it and then you have it, and it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, how calories I just burnt? I wasted a
Speaker 1: notch for you. Yeah, don't see what you can number
Speaker 1: for nothing because I'm not he doesn't count. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm good for that. Your draft black guy, I was stronger. Now,
Speaker 1: have you ever went out with somebody just for a meal.
Speaker 1: You know, well you have guy, But I'm hungry, so
Speaker 1: let me see what he's talking about. It do we
Speaker 1: feel bad about that? You know what we were talking about.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to It's a guy that we were
Speaker 1: talking to earlier, and he was saying that even when
Speaker 1: he was in college, he it um sleep with this
Speaker 1: chick just because he ain't hand no money, and she
Speaker 1: would take him to the super bracket, she would buy
Speaker 1: him groceries. And I get frowned upon the way it should.
Speaker 1: It should just like seriously, I have a cousin that's
Speaker 1: notorious for that, like every girl he's ever dealt with
Speaker 1: has taken care of him, and some former I swear
Speaker 1: his daughter's mother. He only had that baby by her
Speaker 1: so that she can continue to please straight. Please cousin,
Speaker 1: don't because many trapping they do. It's true, this is
Speaker 1: very true. I know a lot of a lot too
Speaker 1: many guys, because I feel like people always say for women,
Speaker 1: like you know, you see a good looking woman with
Speaker 1: a guy who's not good looking, like, oh you know
Speaker 1: why she went him. But on the reverse, on the reverse,
Speaker 1: sometimes we see some guys that look good and they
Speaker 1: all and you're like, what is he doing with her
Speaker 1: and she's paying for everything. Now, what happens if you're
Speaker 1: with your husband and I know, like I have a
Speaker 1: friend who's married, and sometimes she's doing way better than
Speaker 1: he is, and then sometimes he's doing way better than her.
Speaker 1: It seems like they're never doing like really well at
Speaker 1: the same time, and it kind of messes up the
Speaker 1: dynamic because I feel like for him in particular, it
Speaker 1: makes him feel terrible, like when she's making more than him,
Speaker 1: and it kind of like messes up the relationship. You know,
Speaker 1: could you be with a guy who you were making
Speaker 1: way more to him? Yes? Not good? I don't want
Speaker 1: too Yeah, I mean, let me rephrase that, as long
Speaker 1: as I'm as long as we're not struggling, because you
Speaker 1: can do bad by yourself. So if I'm in a
Speaker 1: really good place and he just so not happened to
Speaker 1: be at the time, but he has potential or has
Speaker 1: a career or whatever is going on, and he's going
Speaker 1: to be okay, then I think, yeah. But if I'm
Speaker 1: already going, you know, not going too well on my
Speaker 1: own and I'm still making more to him, you can't
Speaker 1: struggle together you're a top position, and then he's just like,
Speaker 1: you know, the ups starting guy like that's fine or no,
Speaker 1: come on, I guess I don't know if I could
Speaker 1: do it. I want I don't want to. She's like,
Speaker 1: come on, I don't want to struggle and then have
Speaker 1: a man two and we're struggling, and then I'm still
Speaker 1: doing better than him. No, like if I'm doing really
Speaker 1: well or we're gonna be on the same level, what's
Speaker 1: in my way? Though? I look at especially being a
Speaker 1: black woman, and you see a lot of women who
Speaker 1: are not black being married to and with a lot
Speaker 1: of black men, and women are always like, why do
Speaker 1: all the good ones get taken? Or why they all
Speaker 1: with non black women? And it's like, well, because maybe
Speaker 1: some of us didn't give those guys a chance. Like
Speaker 1: we are quick to say not always, because it's not always.
Speaker 1: There are a lot of women who will stick with
Speaker 1: a guy and when he gets successful, he leave her
Speaker 1: ask for somebody else while he's locked up and he went.
Speaker 1: You know, so it's not a guarantee, but a lot
Speaker 1: of times we'll be like, girl, he ain't got this, that, that, that,
Speaker 1: and that, and it won't just be one thing, it'll
Speaker 1: be like ten things. Well he's got everything else with
Speaker 1: his shoes is blessed girl if you don't take his
Speaker 1: ass to the story teaching, do you know what I mean? So?
Speaker 1: I think a lot of times if we would, you know,
Speaker 1: be understanding and work with a guy, that we could
Speaker 1: be happier than when we expect for him to come
Speaker 1: completely packaged. I have a lot of friends who are
Speaker 1: my age and older who are single and still looking
Speaker 1: for a good guy. And it might be because they're
Speaker 1: looking for they or it might be because when they
Speaker 1: were younger, they were like, he gotta have it, and
Speaker 1: now that they're in their late thirties, they're like, well,
Speaker 1: he could just have one thing, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: So don't you hate that when you did somebody when
Speaker 1: you were younger? And then they get all successful? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I break up and like you teach them everything like right,
Speaker 1: and then here comes the next one and reaps all
Speaker 1: the benefits they get married. You put in five years
Speaker 1: like cook and clean and his walk gets me. Now,
Speaker 1: have you ever been the aggressive in a relationship, like
Speaker 1: been the person that first initiated everything. Yeah, and that's
Speaker 1: a good thing. Yeah, that's a guys love that I hear.
Speaker 1: But it's to be able to wear those different. I'm
Speaker 1: a different person with depending on the guy that I'm with.
Speaker 1: So I'm a different woman with my husband than I
Speaker 1: was with other guys that I've dated. Some i've been
Speaker 1: the aggressive, So I've been, but it's to be aggressive.
Speaker 1: It's it's great Missy's aggressive on the show. So I see, yeah,
Speaker 1: well what have you been? You've been aggressive? I'm sure, yes,
Speaker 1: I've been aggressive. Do you like that? Sometimes I've been
Speaker 1: told I haven't been aggressive enough. But what's aggressive of enough?
Speaker 1: Initiate's sex? I never initiate sex. It's one of my
Speaker 1: biggest weaknesses. To me, like this is the only thing
Speaker 1: I gotta you know, little but little, That's how that's
Speaker 1: my life. Little when not Yeah, when I like face
Speaker 1: my booty to you, that means come on. But I've
Speaker 1: never been like I'm just started going down on him
Speaker 1: like I mean, I'm I'm like, I'm fashion. I like
Speaker 1: to be like I don't know, maybe I'm scared of
Speaker 1: being rejected, like all right now or no guy is
Speaker 1: going to reject that stuffing. No, I don't know why,
Speaker 1: Like naturally it doesn't come to me to be the
Speaker 1: first like he probably loved that though, yeah, he says
Speaker 1: it all the time, like damn one day, just tonight, tonight.
Speaker 1: But it's like to know you either, So no, he's
Speaker 1: not my opening ready for it. Maybe he wants to
Speaker 1: be one. Yeah about all right. Definitely definitely synchronize. I
Speaker 1: watch you do. I definitely do. And part of it
Speaker 1: is because I know, like I don't want to have
Speaker 1: to do it in the morning, because I'd be tired
Speaker 1: in the morning and I get up the morning. Listen,
Speaker 1: I wake up super early to go to work, so
Speaker 1: I'm never having sex in the middle of the night.
Speaker 1: The middle of the night, so you woke up in
Speaker 1: the night. I try to get every last two minutes
Speaker 1: of sleep and I can passively get. So I will
Speaker 1: make sure that I initiate sex and that in the
Speaker 1: morning I don't have to have sex. And that's that.
Speaker 1: To work on that though, Yeah, I think all you
Speaker 1: gotta do is listen, and I struggle in my head.
Speaker 1: I'll be right there like damn, don't you don't you
Speaker 1: don't keep seeing him or anything. I'm just appointed in
Speaker 1: you now. I know it's really bad. You can do it.
Speaker 1: I can do it, can you? I want you to
Speaker 1: make a promise to us right now. Yeah, we're gonna
Speaker 1: make a pack. We're gonna make a pack together that
Speaker 1: we'll start inituing on Tuesdays, can you guys, because that's good.
Speaker 1: That's like in the bedroom. You can't have a guy
Speaker 1: always initiating. You shouldn't know it's initiated either. But I'm
Speaker 1: saying it has to go back and forth, and it's
Speaker 1: not like it's not like, oh, in this relationship. I
Speaker 1: never throughout my life, like I just never. I just
Speaker 1: except when you have a little drink. Maybe, like if
Speaker 1: that's that's why I'm like, maybe when I'm drunk, I
Speaker 1: do And I don't know. You don't do lap dances
Speaker 1: and nothing like that at home? I mean yeah, but
Speaker 1: not like See it's true, I'm never like you to
Speaker 1: make a list I do. I do. I feel like
Speaker 1: when you're an actress, right, things like that kind of
Speaker 1: come more naturally. I don't know if that's true or not.
Speaker 1: But doing certain things because you could just act, you
Speaker 1: could be creative. He's got Sasha fears, so you got
Speaker 1: a little who's your alter ego? I can't share that, okay,
Speaker 1: but you do role playing and everything of course, see
Speaker 1: I've never done that. It's like you say married. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I've never done that because I feel like kind of
Speaker 1: corny because I can't act anything. I'm here. It's oh
Speaker 1: my god, break play and I'm going to initiate sincere
Speaker 1: and I want to pick your costume. I god, I
Speaker 1: have to do a costume, yes, Angela maybe or the
Speaker 1: pizza girl, my girl, the pizza girl, pizza girl with
Speaker 1: a T shirt like white diamon or something. Yeah, or
Speaker 1: maybe I can't break into the house. I just all
Speaker 1: black and getting knocked out and you might get shot.
Speaker 1: You have to let him know first. I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: the delivery girl like you ps is here and then
Speaker 1: what yes, you need to? Ups has come up a
Speaker 1: lot for you today? What's everybody need say? Somebody ordered
Speaker 1: a package? You say? And then bring your costume in
Speaker 1: that small box, come open up, wrote it all, memorize.
Speaker 1: I got nervous now about initiating. I don't know why.
Speaker 1: I don't know why you're getting nervous. I think it's
Speaker 1: the same thing though, because with that guy, all you
Speaker 1: gotta do is do a little bit of initiation and
Speaker 1: then he kind of takes over. Just let him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't gonna do nothing. Really worried I'm going to
Speaker 1: reject you. I don't know what I'm worried. There's no
Speaker 1: I have no he'll definitely won't reject me. But I
Speaker 1: don't know. I think you feel. I don't know what
Speaker 1: happened when you were that's what I'm like, or something
Speaker 1: that happened. But you got to think about there might
Speaker 1: have been a memory with a boy where you initiated
Speaker 1: me rejected you, and first maybe they're gotta be something
Speaker 1: like that. I got to get HYPNOTI. You gotta do
Speaker 1: this kiss the tip and that's it. That's initiation. Just
Speaker 1: blow nearby. Now, could you date somebody if they if
Speaker 1: you like them way more than they like you. I've
Speaker 1: been there. Well, I don't know if it's sure, but
Speaker 1: I think that I really did like this guy like
Speaker 1: way more. I think he liked me. But I think
Speaker 1: you're so corny. Don I think I liked him like
Speaker 1: so much. You gotta stop yourself from calling my mom.
Speaker 1: My mom's tip one time was Mom says this, right,
Speaker 1: a guy has to love you more than you love
Speaker 1: him because by nature, women were more nurturing and carrying
Speaker 1: and guys that's how it has to be how that
Speaker 1: makes sense? Yeah, you believe that a little bit. From
Speaker 1: my experience, I've tried to make sure like they super
Speaker 1: court me first before whatever you played at a game,
Speaker 1: because meant like a challenge. I do. I'm that girl
Speaker 1: challenge feel like a good pride. So g G what
Speaker 1: ended up happening? Like, how did you know you liked
Speaker 1: him more than he liked you? I could just tell
Speaker 1: because I would call him more and like anyone like
Speaker 1: what are you doing today? I want to see you
Speaker 1: if you want to come over tonight? Maybe like well,
Speaker 1: I sometimes people be like, oh I got this to do,
Speaker 1: or I'll call you. I don't know, you know, And
Speaker 1: then I think he got locked up, right, Yeah, if
Speaker 1: he had called you, if he would have been with you.
Speaker 1: We always say that we want men to be honest,
Speaker 1: but would you want a guy like if he wasn't
Speaker 1: your man to be like I gotta go out with
Speaker 1: another beach tonight. So well, I've been in the open relationship.
Speaker 1: It didn't work, but but it did not work because
Speaker 1: of that, or didn't not work because it didn't work
Speaker 1: because he got somebody else pregnant and lied about it.
Speaker 1: That wasn't I didn't follow the ruleship. They can't get
Speaker 1: it right, and you know I don't want the kids,
Speaker 1: So you should have been like, listen to my baby,
Speaker 1: and that's that you care. And I'd be like, no,
Speaker 1: I just don't ask me change the papers. You just
Speaker 1: gonna call me over here with Also, you would have
Speaker 1: been all right with it if you would have been
Speaker 1: like on that one time, we were in a very
Speaker 1: open relationship, so open that he wanted to know about
Speaker 1: guys that I was like, Okay, now that's weird. It's
Speaker 1: like he wanted to know in the open relationship. Was
Speaker 1: the rule like, oh, you can only not wear a
Speaker 1: condom with me and then protect yourself with everybody else,
Speaker 1: you should still wear a condom with him if y'all
Speaker 1: in an open relationship. He wasn't. I mean, honestly, he wasn't.
Speaker 1: I believe you. But was that was that like a
Speaker 1: rule or it was union? Yeah? It was. I don't
Speaker 1: know what do you define as an open relationship? Like
Speaker 1: when you're my boyfriend, like and we're both seeing other people.
Speaker 1: I was like the relationship that I didn't agree with.
Speaker 1: I just didn't want to not be with him. When
Speaker 1: I was really young, I knew he was just with
Speaker 1: all these other girls. But I was okay with the
Speaker 1: other girls because I'm like, well, at least they know
Speaker 1: I'm the one his mother knows, so y'all just the
Speaker 1: other woman and blah blah blah. And then the girl
Speaker 1: started beating with you. Yeah I would I would have
Speaker 1: been that was like my life, like, oh, in the club,
Speaker 1: like all day over there, or they're not sitting at
Speaker 1: the table. Do you see why you're at the bar
Speaker 1: and I'm at the tate and then they still laughing
Speaker 1: at you, like and yeah, like but I didn't think
Speaker 1: of it like that. I just like, I was just
Speaker 1: so proud and privileged that he picked me. It was
Speaker 1: really the one. Yeah, now I think about it, like, damnit,
Speaker 1: thank god I didn't catch that. Was just so okay
Speaker 1: with knowing, like, all right, he got other girls. And
Speaker 1: the worst part is now you bea from with chickstead
Speaker 1: you don't even really know. That's the worst part is
Speaker 1: that guys will get you into situations. Think about all
Speaker 1: the girls that you don't get along with, right, A
Speaker 1: lot of times it's because of a guy, Yeah, pretty much,
Speaker 1: And you're like, man, we meet and her, I don't
Speaker 1: even really know each other and it's really his fault.
Speaker 1: But now I don't like her, but I still talk
Speaker 1: to him. That should be so crazy to me, Like
Speaker 1: girls will still talk to the guy but hate each other,
Speaker 1: but the guy isn't when it's doing everybody dirty. I
Speaker 1: never understood that of the penis. It's crazy too because
Speaker 1: if as an adult now thinking back on like dumb
Speaker 1: things like tchoices I've made, I'm like, if I had
Speaker 1: just talked to the girl, then if we would have
Speaker 1: got on one page, then all this extra would have
Speaker 1: been removed. Right, But sometimes to get your enemy, But
Speaker 1: sometimes you talk to a female and they put a
Speaker 1: lot of extra shit on it. Because it's always weird
Speaker 1: to me, like you got to be the winner, you
Speaker 1: trying to keep you the right because think about it,
Speaker 1: how much information do you really need to know? Like
Speaker 1: I remember I had a boyfriend that cheated on me, right,
Speaker 1: and I ended up calling the girl. They all worked
Speaker 1: at key you Um meat balls. She did serve meat balls,
Speaker 1: and I remember talking to her and she was just
Speaker 1: telling me so much unnecessary ship and I feel like
Speaker 1: she was just doing it like she was like a
Speaker 1: girl I was in your appointment and I seen the
Speaker 1: picture on the bed. We had sex in the shower.
Speaker 1: He didn't use a kindom. She was telling me all
Speaker 1: kinds of stuff, and I was like, damn, she's just
Speaker 1: great calling her no because I mean I think her
Speaker 1: after No, I would never be friend. I would never
Speaker 1: befriend somebody that my boyfriend cheated on me with. But
Speaker 1: I'll tell you this, I think you should only do
Speaker 1: stuff like that if you're prepared to leave somebody based
Speaker 1: on what you might hear. Because clearly she really was
Speaker 1: in my apartment because she was able to describe certain things.
Speaker 1: She was like, can't let me one of your books?
Speaker 1: You know it's mad about you, but she's a stalker.
Speaker 1: Why do you want somebody? Why would I right? Why
Speaker 1: would I have sex in her? I'd be like, you
Speaker 1: know you're taking all. I was like, you let that
Speaker 1: bitch borrow a book you read about that? You know?
Speaker 1: I love that bucket. It was dedicated. I was so mad,
Speaker 1: but it was kind of like, how dare you then
Speaker 1: somebody a First of all, I don't want it back now,
Speaker 1: but anyway, I just felt like that was like a
Speaker 1: slap in it. It's funny. One of my friends, this
Speaker 1: is like really dumb. But one of my friends was
Speaker 1: like dating this guy. So they weren't like exclusive, but
Speaker 1: they were like, you know, now they're cooking together, inviting
Speaker 1: people over. We know they're not an item, but they're
Speaker 1: having sex whatever. So she lived they lived nearby, right,
Speaker 1: so she sometimes leaves certain items in his house. So
Speaker 1: one time we're out at an event and her specific
Speaker 1: small clutch had like a scuff that we very like,
Speaker 1: you know, you know where your persist, dude, some girls
Speaker 1: that we we knew maybe he would see her too.
Speaker 1: With the school, she borrowed the bag. She borrowed the
Speaker 1: bag and put it back. I would We were like,
Speaker 1: that's the skill was. It was, yeah, imagine that. Imagine
Speaker 1: some other chick wearing your clothes or something like that, anything,
Speaker 1: because it was like we were so embarrassed and I
Speaker 1: caught a girl wearing my clothes. But I used to
Speaker 1: leave stuff when I lived in Atlanta, he lived in Jersey.
Speaker 1: I used to leave stuff at his apartment and then
Speaker 1: I will come back and it will be going, whoa
Speaker 1: sho you think he would hire or you think that
Speaker 1: she was taking it to make a stake, to make
Speaker 1: it right, right, So let I would say, you know, like, no, bitch,
Speaker 1: I was here and she was smart. She should have
Speaker 1: cut it and put it back. You expire, How do
Speaker 1: you explain that away? I mean, he was just like,
Speaker 1: I don't know you're talking about you. Sure you left
Speaker 1: you stuff here? Yeah, I'm sure I left my flat iron,
Speaker 1: my two hundred dollar flat irons here like somebody here
Speaker 1: looking nicety, and she threw it out or used it?
Speaker 1: How grand here? I yeah, I think she kept she
Speaker 1: had to throw my dress away, my shoes or whatever else.
Speaker 1: The clothing items I left here, she might throw that away.
Speaker 1: She didn't. Never leave no underwear or nothing where you
Speaker 1: can find it. That's what you do. I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 1: gonna take your your skirt out the drawer and leave
Speaker 1: my parents and there. Now, as a detective simone, have
Speaker 1: you ever gone to somebody's hose and seen some stains
Speaker 1: on the bed and been like, oh hell no, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: what is wrong with guys? You can't wash the sheets before?
Speaker 1: Boys are dirty? I think it was my makeup, said
Speaker 1: it was your yeah, and he was like you did it,
Speaker 1: And I was just like like that is my complexity. Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, Well, I just want to say someone we
Speaker 1: are very much looking forward to watching you. Thank you
Speaker 1: as a misty nights. Thank you ladies. Listen, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: being watching September thirty on Netflix page. And we had
Speaker 1: a good time with you. I appreciate you being really
Speaker 1: open and telling us some really good stories so we
Speaker 1: know that we can all relate to you. Yes, yes, no,
Speaker 1: thank you all for being honest and open, and so
Speaker 1: we do so we on the thirty is like at
Speaker 1: midnight that they do it or night thirty. Okay, hold on,
Speaker 1: we get thirty. That's a Monday, so it is always
Speaker 1: do it before, always ready because that's my brother's birthdays.
Speaker 1: On the twenty nine, that's my dad's birthday, my mom,
Speaker 1: my dad'st my mom's SI, my brothers. Is the twenty
Speaker 1: nine libres we lesson libres is a big day for you? Yes?
Speaker 1: And is there anything else you want to let us
Speaker 1: know before? I know you've got a lot of pressing
Speaker 1: stuff going on. Is there anything else you want to
Speaker 1: tell us about so we know? No, just you know,
Speaker 1: just you'll you'll be excited when you see the whole
Speaker 1: of the whole, and you'll be excited too when you
Speaker 1: see you Is it weird, like the first time when
Speaker 1: you watch it, because I know you're gonna be watching
Speaker 1: it with people at the premier. I think it'll be
Speaker 1: a little strange, right seeing people's reactions. I read some
Speaker 1: really great reviews about it already, though, I have to,
Speaker 1: so I hope that everybody feels okay. What'll be weird
Speaker 1: is that my parents will be there and I'll be
Speaker 1: half naked. Wait, so what is like? You stop? You
Speaker 1: have naked? A Look. She's a detective, so you know
Speaker 1: she's dressed like a cop, like a cop for Halloween.
Speaker 1: Your character, right? You know historically she's got an afro
Speaker 1: and a red leather She dated a lot of other
Speaker 1: superheroes too. Yeah. Man, she won't pay no game. You
Speaker 1: always somebody. So we'll see how it all. Everybody needs love, man,
Speaker 1: need love to all right, We'll be looking forward to
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us, A baby, what
Speaker 1: I'm do