WEBVTT - Episode 68: Ft Simone Missick 0:00:02.040 --> 0:00:04.880 Alright, what's up. It's angela. Ye, it's lip service. Now, 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:07.160 just so we know ahead of time, Stephanie Santiago is 0:00:07.200 --> 0:00:11.080 not here. She's like in another country somewhere. So but 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:16.200 I'm here. She's here, Maguire and I'm here, Valerie, Laura Hey, 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:18.360 val And we got a special guest, and I mean 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:21.759 very special. We have some o myssic Carey and she's 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:24.599 actually on a new show that's gonna be on Netflix 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:27.320 during September. You know, we binge watch on Netflix all 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:30.800 the time. Luke Cage, and you are playing Missy Night. Yes, 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:34.440 first black female superhero in the history of Marvel TV. 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:38.520 Very awesome. Congratulations, thank you, very awesome. That's a big 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:42.240 title to hold. You know, it all fits on one line. 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:45.479 First black female superhero in the history of all Marvel Television, 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:49.800 kicking those doors down. Okay, all right, well we always 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:51.880 start with the tip of the day. Um, today's tip 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:54.160 is how much do you divulge on a first date? 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:57.360 How much about yourself do you tell when you're first 0:00:57.360 --> 0:00:59.400 going out with somebody you want them to know? Okay, 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:02.400 I'm looking for a serious relationship. I wanted one day 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:05.440 get married or do you just kind of hold all 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:08.840 that back. You know, I think it depends on how 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:11.360 old you are. I think when I was younger, it 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:14.920 was very much just you tell the basics where you from, 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:17.320 what you like, what you don't like, and then you 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:20.880 move through date three, four or five and you say, Okay, 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:22.800 well this is what I'm looking for in a relationship. 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:25.440 But I met my husband when I was twenty eight, 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:28.560 and on our first date we literally talked about kids 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:32.160 and marriage and family and history. We talked about everything 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.520 that still seems young though it is, but he olds 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:40.399 he was older than he brought it up. And on 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:43.480 that date he's like dating people, I know personalities, you're 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:45.520 the one, Let's get right to it. And we got 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:47.680 engaged nine months later, got married on our two year 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:51.400 universities And how did you all meet each other? How 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:55.000 he acts? He's an actor and he was helping a 0:01:55.040 --> 0:01:57.200 friend out. They were producing a project, and he was 0:01:57.240 --> 0:02:00.920 in the room when I was auditioning, and I thought, oh, 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:04.720 he's cute, Okay, let me do my audition, and he thought, 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:06.960 but let me just do my job. And his friend 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:10.280 ended up invited me to a party, which at the time, 0:02:10.320 --> 0:02:14.160 I was like, that's completely professional unless I didn't get 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:15.560 the job, and then I will go because I want 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:18.080 to beat that cute didn't get the job, showed up 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:19.959 at the party, he was there, he was DJ and 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.640 that night and the next day was Valentine's Day, he 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:25.880 invited me over, cook me dinner. Whoa hold on a 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:30.160 first date on Valentine's Day. I've had a first day 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:32.639 a lot of Time's Day and they didn't go to 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:35.360 you what. I flew all the way out to like 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:40.440 day in Ohio, to spending I meet this Applebe's day girl. 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:42.160 You know, that was all they had day. But he 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:44.600 paid your flight but took you to Apple he said 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:45.720 it was his. He's like, I'm gonna take you to 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:54.040 my favorite restaurant. He was, What did he eat? I'm 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:59.519 they got to Chicken Fast? Where did the better question? 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:05.120 I probably a state. But after you finished, remember that 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:08.880 I was not impressed, and I just knew at that 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.840 point that I did not want to see him again. Yeah, 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:14.080 see what the first impression on the first date really 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:17.080 means so much? You know, but I think it's like, 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:19.440 usually guys aren't the ones that would be like, oh, 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:21.440 you know, I want to have kids. I want to 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:25.400 It didn't intimidate you in any way, No, not at all. 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:29.600 The thing about everybody is that they're always the wrong 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:32.079 person until it's the right person. You know, you will 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.920 always run through relationship after relationship, and they could be 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:37.840 good people, just not good people for you. So I 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:41.800 think God and everything aligned for me to hear what 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:43.720 he had to say at that moment, and me to 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:45.080 hear what he had to say. And if we had 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:49.080 met each other a year, a week, a month before, 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:51.520 or after, it might be a different time. Now keeping 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:55.200 with mom, what's he a good DJ? Yes, at the time, 0:03:55.640 --> 0:04:03.520 I think he was whatever he d He's terrible at 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:06.600 the time. When we first started dating. He had always 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:09.640 been DJM, but he had never barely been DJ out. 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:11.480 So when he moved to l A, he was like, 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:13.440 all right, I'm gonna start doing it. I'm gonna start 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:18.640 d jaying out. His music selection was always wonderful, his blend, 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:25.080 his knowledge of the equipment, because you know what, I'm 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:29.320 a DJ widow, so I'm always the wife at the 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:32.920 club sitting there with my own drink by myself. Dancing 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:43.080 with anybody is yeah, So you know, in the beginning 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:46.160 it was rough, but he's such a better DJ now 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:49.920 and he's my favorite DJ. Actually, Okay, now, what about 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:51.520 him being in the club and stuff like that is 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:54.159 a weird like because girls love the DJ they do. 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:57.159 But you know, I think you can have a man 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:05.359 who worked at the gas station, like, good, what can 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:08.240 you listen? Right? So you just gotta you just have 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:12.000 to trust your your guy, you know. And at the 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:14.680 at the end of the day, there's nothing that I 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:18.240 can do that will stop him from doing anything that 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.560 he you know, might want to do, might be interested 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:23.480 in doing. That's between him and God. If he decides 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:26.760 to funk up on that covenant. Well, I'm glad you 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:31.920 said that, because as a detective, how much detective work 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:35.599 do you do when you're with somebody you know? I 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:38.800 know you don't. Did a little bit of masticative yep. 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:42.320 I have done some investigating and it's never good. It's 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:46.760 never never good. Seek out to find and you get 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:48.520 what you look at, you get what you're looking for. 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:52.040 In modern day though, I feel like sometimes you trip 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:54.200 on the information you don't even want, right, like some 0:05:54.320 --> 0:05:57.440 location tracker on the GPS or don't let's have their 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.320 phone and be like, who is why here are you 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:07.160 searching on Instagram this person this picture, and why did 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:10.080 this person like your picture and say hey boo, why 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:16.280 did they put a kissy phase? Yeah, let me ask 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:18.880 you this. If you could put a nanny cam right 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:22.080 in there and your man had no idea that they 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:23.760 was in nanny cam watching what he did, and you 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:26.200 could just log on on your phone and look at 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:27.760 the camera and see what was going on and he 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:33.160 had no idea, would you do it? No? Nope, Sure wouldn't. 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:35.520 You don't even want to think he would do it 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:38.720 to you? Like, No, I don't. I don't think he would. 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:42.560 But I definitely wouldn't want it, because it's not to 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:46.280 say the ignorance is blissed, because it's not. But like 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:48.720 you said, whatever you look for you can find, and 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:52.720 you could find a way to drive yourself crazy crazy 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:56.760 you were still hold to you wasn't even going to happen, 0:06:56.800 --> 0:07:01.120 and your thoughts created it and something. That's so I 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:03.440 would probably want to, but I wouldn't just because I 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.640 know that I would probably end up finding out something. 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:07.360 But you would probably have it set up and then 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:10.240 every now and then me like, let me log on, 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:12.200 and then you would be like he had a chance 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:18.200 to put his boy came on me, he would right there, 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:21.920 held he would, Yeah, he would. I were gonna see 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:25.720 me doing twist. Yeah, like doing things that you don't 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:27.200 want anybody to know that you do when you at 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:38.080 home alone, you underwear and the period panties. Yeah, all right, Now, 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:40.400 what about a background check? How important is it like 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:44.240 for women in general to do a little background check, Like, 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:46.480 let me go ahead and look on his social media, 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:53.679 let me google him back the last time he publicly Yeah, 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:57.239 I think that's for seven weeks ago or six weeks ago. See, 0:07:57.280 --> 0:08:01.280 like it's all these new ways of stock people. Should 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.800 he delete old pictures of his old bad Hell no, 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:07.240 keep him on there. Yeah. That was his life, and 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:11.000 that to me, that's why I married my husband. I 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:13.600 couldn't marry anybody else's you know what I mean, Because 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.960 when we first started dating, I was a person who 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:18.480 was very secretive, like, I don't want you to know 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.480 who I used to date. We don't need to discuss it. 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:22.680 My past is my past, Your past is your past. 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:24.760 We can keep him separate. And he was like, no, 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.520 I need to know everybody that. You need to know 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:29.600 everybody that I used to date, because if we run 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:33.880 into them. I don't want both. I don't want anybody 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:36.440 to come at you and be like, oh hi, and 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:38.800 you not know. And I don't want anybody to come 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:40.720 to me come at me the opposite way. And my 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:48.959 face was like that for six months, for two years. No, no, no, no, no. 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:52.800 It was just uncomfortable. It was uncomfortable because I just 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:56.480 I was never like that. I would date guys and 0:08:56.559 --> 0:08:58.360 see them out when I was with another guy and 0:08:58.360 --> 0:09:05.120 pretend like I didn't even know that I've never seen you, 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:09.160 never known, so they have to like remember people, and 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:11.160 I would go, I don't think we slept again, I'm 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:14.440 pretty sure we didn't for long. When you are with dating, 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:16.120 did you feel did you have to give all that? 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:19.080 Was it before you got married or was it way 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:22.160 before that or it was when we started dating. Because 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:26.040 he's an actor so and I'm an actress, so we 0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:31.080 would potentially be around the same people. And now, in hindsight, 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:33.680 it was the best thing to do because we will 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:36.280 run into people and they'll go, oh my god, I've 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:37.800 heard so much about it. I go, I have to 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:41.640 you know, and there's no like girl, I already know, 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:46.319 there's no weirdness about it, and the same thing would dude. 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:50.200 You know, guys, they do pissing contests. Absolutely if a 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:53.679 guy will try to be like, oh, first of all, 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:55.679 my husband ain't going for none of it. But they 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:59.280 don't even try it because he's already aware, like, oh yeah, 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.040 she said he wasn't good, just so you know, you 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:07.280 need your stroke and those come up to He's like, 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:13.680 that's whack right when people try to, um, come at you, 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:19.720 what you don't mind telling? Well, in the in the beginning, 0:10:20.160 --> 0:10:23.199 I had to tell him about a few people because 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:25.880 I felt like he might have known these people because 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.880 of the endustry that he's in. Um. And I did 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:30.959 have an incident where an ex came up to me 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:35.240 and kissed me and my mouth in front of him, 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:38.080 not knowing that was a bad day for everyone. Yeah, 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:45.080 not knowing that. We not know. I wantship. Yeah, we 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:48.800 read a concert. Um, he's a rapper and not a 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:51.480 black guy. My guy is an executive and in the 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:54.800 music industry at a large label. He was label and 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:57.120 he Um, we were on the side of the stage 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:59.680 watching the show and my ex is on stage rapping, 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:01.600 and I got my little sister with me. Me and 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:03.880 my sister and we're just hanging out. And then there 0:11:03.920 --> 0:11:05.160 was a point where he kind of like threw his 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:06.839 hands up at me, like hey, you know, and I 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:08.439 kind of like ignored it in my sister, so like 0:11:08.480 --> 0:11:10.320 you see that, and I'm like, yes, you know right now. 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:12.360 And then he like ran over. You would think he 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:14.160 was about to go off the stage. He ran straight 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:16.080 up to me and grabbed my face and just kissed me. 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:18.000 And I was just like the same look. I just 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:21.880 stood there like and and he was sad about it, 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:25.080 but I just feel like he didn't know, you know, 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:26.800 and the last time we saw each other, it was 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:28.480 appropriate for him to run up on me. He kissed 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:30.520 me so long, you know, we hadn't seen each other 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:32.679 in two years. Meanwhile, it's because I've been with him 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:34.520 for two years and I never told him that I 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:38.160 was in a relationship. I just you know that that's 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:46.520 part of his show because somebody else. You think he 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:49.199 already knew that there was history between us. Now, even 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:51.760 though he still got upset about it, he wasn't taking 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:55.480 as much off guard because he was aware that now 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:57.719 the gifting, the curses, it always gets thrown up in 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:01.520 my face whenever we're somewhere and said rapper is performing 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:08.400 at that event. It's like, you know, so you know, 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:10.480 but I do feel like you should make an agreement. 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:12.000 If I tell you what I've done, don't throw it 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:15.079 in my face. But that, honestly, that was like the 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:18.200 struggle with us, because it was like, well, you asked 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:20.160 for it, so why are you And he's like, I 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:23.120 don't care. I'm not saying. I'm like, but you still 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:27.079 keep throwing shape the chan and we're not watching this show. 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.520 So what you said it happened to you too. Lord. 0:12:30.080 --> 0:12:32.520 We were at we were at a like a DJ. 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:37.120 Rich Medina is an afrobeat DJ out here and he 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:39.040 was DJ and in l A and we were at 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:42.400 a party that he did and we're getting ready to 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:45.880 leave and my husband's ex girlfriend, who was the woman 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:48.199 that he dated right before he and I started dating, 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:53.200 comes up and he's like hey, and then and it 0:12:53.280 --> 0:12:56.200 was like in slow motion and she kisses him in 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.400 the mouth. And when I tell you, everything in me 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:03.760 was like I'm gonna kill this right now, like I 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:06.720 want I'm still hot about it right now, and we 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:10.520 wanted to kill him. I wanted to kill him. Obviously, 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:14.080 she was okay, no, she knew we were together, but 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:23.120 that was her way of greeting. That was her yes, listening, listen. 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:25.840 So he and I had to discuss that and he 0:13:25.960 --> 0:13:28.640 was like, I got and because I know him, he 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:30.800 was like I didn't know what to do, like I 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:34.960 got caught, and I was like move. So now it's 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:38.120 amazing how many women try to mouth kiss men in 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:44.000 the industry, like casting directors. Random women always tried to 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:46.120 kiss him in the mouth. And he goes, oh, he 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:51.920 always be Damn, I don't know what I would do. 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:54.760 What was that? I never happened to you. No, I 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:57.000 have a crazy story. And this is the beginning of 0:13:57.040 --> 0:14:01.920 the relationship. Some girl must have been really drunk and 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.560 tried to like write in the DJ booth like and 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:07.000 I'm like stepping because I came back to bring him 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:10.360 a drink from the table and she was kneeling in 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:12.880 the DJ booth and he didn't even I think he 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:15.760 didn't even know she was. She was like super drunk 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:19.520 me and I'm like, whoa blow job? I don't know. 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:21.760 It sounds like if I would have came with the 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:26.120 drink ten minutes, like right, like whatever, And that was 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:29.560 that's like the craz and he just didn't notice her name. 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:33.960 She was like not there yet, but she was crawling, 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.320 or maybe she dropped something and it happened to be 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:45.840 right under the front of Yeah, Jersey Girls said Jersey Girls. 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:50.120 All right, now, this won't pertained to your husband. But 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.600 have you ever dated somebody who you hate the music 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:55.440 that they listened to, or that they hate the music 0:14:55.480 --> 0:15:02.360 that you listen to? Turn off that Beyonce? No, I 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:05.640 could imagine dating somebody who likes country country music right, 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:07.680 or somebody who only listens to like I don't know 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.800 what you listen to all the time, but just something 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:13.080 you don't listen to. I think that would that relationship 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:16.760 wouldn't fly. I've never experienced it. I guess I have 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.680 a type of just people who like good music. But 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:23.280 if I did, yeah, I couldn't. You couldn't imagine that. 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:27.520 I couldn't do that. What about you, gig? I'm sorry 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:33.240 you every who does not. Have you ever dated somebody 0:15:33.240 --> 0:15:35.200 who doesn't like the music you listen to and you 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:40.480 all just don't drive on it? Um? No, But I 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:43.880 don't think that I could really take somebody serious if 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.320 we didn't enjoy the same music, Because I love music 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:48.960 that much, but maybe you guys can on yourselves up 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:53.280 to another genre. Well that's true too, but like heavy 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:57.800 metal going on your lab to crazy, Yeah, that's too much. Yes, 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:01.840 I will say this, Like on set, Mike Coulter, the 0:16:01.960 --> 0:16:07.000 lead plays Luke Cage has a very eclectic music. What 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:10.360 does he listen to? Anything and everything that I did 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:12.320 not want to listen to you at the time, So 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:14.680 he'd be putting music on in the makeup trailer and 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:17.080 I'm like turping, Like I hate when I take a 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:20.400 road trip with somebody and they in charge of the radio. Man, 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.760 that is the worst, and they'd be playing you like, 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:26.280 come on, man, we all here, it's not fair when 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.320 we hear this all right now, how much do you 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.400 expect your man to protect you? Like, say you're out 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:34.400 and somebody's rude to you, or somebody bumps into you, 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:40.600 somebody grabs your ass through the Kevin Hart La girl girl, 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:46.360 Well they can have good security. What is he supposed 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:48.760 to do if you have with your man somebody is 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:52.320 rude to you, bumps into you. I think that um, 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:55.600 given the situation, he should definitely, you know, have my 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:57.520 back and stand up for me without making it a 0:16:57.520 --> 0:17:00.640 bigger situation, you know, still be a young something about it, 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:04.320 But show me that you care, you know, because I 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:06.320 might if you don't say something, do something, I might 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:08.800 say something something. Then I'm looking crazy because why should 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.080 I be taking up for myself if my man understandable? 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:12.960 You know, I don't like when girls get their men 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:16.200 into situations like if you're out and something little happens 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:21.240 and they'd be like, oh and that could get dangerous 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:24.840 a real quick in these streets. How protective though is 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:30.840 he of you? Very and I the way I was 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.000 just raised, I was raised up to always speak up 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:35.440 for myself, stand up for myself. So my first mind 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:39.080 is always to say something for myself. And I think 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:42.720 if it's a situation where the person does not apologize 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:45.560 or they become disrespectful, then I expect from my husband 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:48.280 to step in. But he's the type of person who 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:51.359 once he steps in the situation just goes from zero 0:17:51.400 --> 0:17:56.600 to one hundred. So I try to keep him as 0:17:56.840 --> 0:18:01.080 calm as possible. Perfect example, we were in we were somewhere, 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:03.320 we were in like a street festival. We had our 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:07.600 dog with us, and somebody walked back kicked the dog 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:14.760 on purpose. Who are doing. Now we're in we're in 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:19.679 another country, and I mean, but we're His family's from 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:23.199 the Bahamas. So we went. He's like twelve pounds a 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:27.439 little guy, and I was like this mother and the 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:32.400 guy was excuse me. And my husband's with his best 0:18:32.440 --> 0:18:36.040 friend and they are both like fire and fire like. 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:38.919 So he said, wait what happened? And they were both 0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:41.080 like who did it? They wanted to go chase the 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:43.000 person down. I was like, I don't know. I didn't 0:18:43.040 --> 0:18:45.840 see his mom, Like the whole family is together. His 0:18:45.920 --> 0:18:49.760 mom is there, so she's like, simone, don't don't you do? 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:55.399 So I don't want to be the dog. You're another 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:57.200 guy dream to go to jail. So I was like, 0:18:57.200 --> 0:18:58.639 I don't know who kicked the dog. It must have 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:01.240 been I don't know. I missed them with that way, 0:19:01.720 --> 0:19:04.080 he's crazy. Now, if you could have a super power 0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:09.600 in the bedroom, which is super power, be I must 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:12.280 have super powers. I think I would want to be 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:15.880 able to read his mind. Oh that's a dangerous one. 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:20.680 What are you thinking about somebody else? That's not dangerous. 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:26.160 Initially it sounded like a really good idea because people 0:19:26.280 --> 0:19:29.320 bannsize about other people. True, but my reason was because 0:19:29.600 --> 0:19:34.080 you want to know exactly imagine having him like this 0:19:34.119 --> 0:19:39.200 feels good, but Reato was kind of better, Like, yeah, 0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:43.440 I'm imagining her sister right now. You sure that you 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:45.680 sure that's what you want. I'm still going to stick 0:19:45.720 --> 0:19:51.240 with that because don't you sometimes think weird things during sex? That, yes, 0:19:51.400 --> 0:19:53.040 it would be so you would hate for somebody to 0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:57.000 so imagine what he thinks, right, It's weird. Sometimes I 0:19:57.040 --> 0:20:00.440 always go back to a certain neighborhood in Detroit. It's 0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:02.920 the weirdest thing. Like, while I'm having sex, I will 0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:05.240 visualize being back in that neighborhood and be like, wait, 0:20:05.440 --> 0:20:07.880 I never even had sex in that neighborhood. I don't 0:20:07.880 --> 0:20:12.479 even know why. Hip, let's further explain. So you're like 0:20:12.600 --> 0:20:15.760 walking through the park. There's just like a place downtown 0:20:15.880 --> 0:20:18.919 and my mind will take me back to this place. 0:20:19.240 --> 0:20:22.600 Where is this place? Have you heard of Saint Andrew's? Yes? 0:20:22.680 --> 0:20:25.120 I um club, yes, right outside, and then it needs 0:20:25.160 --> 0:20:28.760 to be there all the time you ever had sex Andrew. 0:20:28.880 --> 0:20:32.800 That's what I'm saying that the Athenian right. No, But 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:35.679 for some reason, and I've told Dorian this before, I'm like, 0:20:35.720 --> 0:20:39.239 I don't know why that's very under sex spirits, right, 0:20:39.680 --> 0:20:45.600 the sex spirits outside that let's go there and see 0:20:45.600 --> 0:20:48.720 how sexy leave, go there and have sex in the 0:20:48.760 --> 0:20:50.640 car outside of saying Andrew, so that I can get 0:20:50.640 --> 0:20:55.639 them right. I got to exercise that that spirit, whatever 0:20:55.720 --> 0:20:57.480 that is. And there is a lot of hip hop 0:20:57.640 --> 0:21:00.439 and um in this series that in Luke Cage, Yeah, 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:04.720 there is, we got I mean method Man makes the Parents. Yeah, 0:21:04.880 --> 0:21:06.879 he's in the latest trailer. But it's a lot of 0:21:06.880 --> 0:21:14.880 like woutangang to Yeah man, we got Gangster. Every episode 0:21:14.920 --> 0:21:19.520 is named after a gangster track and amazing. Yeah was 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:21.919 a writer for I remember. I think he's right for 0:21:21.920 --> 0:21:25.720 the source. I remember that, so he you know, made 0:21:25.760 --> 0:21:28.840 sure the hip hop was like a fourth you know, 0:21:28.960 --> 0:21:34.320 element to the show. That's awesome. Yeah. Next, to be 0:21:34.359 --> 0:21:36.320 offended if you're out with somebody and they don't try 0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:38.280 to have sex with you. Because I have a friend 0:21:38.359 --> 0:21:40.720 that's been you know, liking this guy, but he hasn't 0:21:40.760 --> 0:21:42.600 tried to have sex with her, and it seems like 0:21:42.640 --> 0:21:47.560 she's really offended about it. That's a warning. It depends 0:21:47.600 --> 0:21:53.440 on how long. Yeah, it's like one through for more 0:21:53.480 --> 0:21:57.200 than ten months and then we haven't even got the 0:21:57.920 --> 0:22:01.159 mad now. But they haven't had sex how long, I 0:22:01.160 --> 0:22:04.720 don't spend like maybe three months or something. That's she 0:22:04.760 --> 0:22:08.840 talked about it. Did she say maybe he has somebody 0:22:08.840 --> 0:22:10.920 he's having sex with somebody else. I think that he 0:22:11.480 --> 0:22:13.840 has a small penis, because I always my theory is 0:22:13.880 --> 0:22:15.680 always that guys are small penis. She would have gave 0:22:15.680 --> 0:22:19.040 her head by now because small people, so he did. 0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:24.479 But I definitely got a little but a small penis. 0:22:25.240 --> 0:22:28.520 Last year, my friend was dating this guy and they were, 0:22:28.640 --> 0:22:30.159 you know, really good together. They had a lot of 0:22:30.160 --> 0:22:32.040 fun together. They did a lot of you know, spending 0:22:32.040 --> 0:22:34.480 time together, going out and like she really really liked him. 0:22:34.840 --> 0:22:36.280 And then she just kept saying like I don't know 0:22:36.320 --> 0:22:38.040 why he spent the night and everything, and he just 0:22:38.080 --> 0:22:39.840 will not try to have sex with me. And then 0:22:39.840 --> 0:22:41.479