1 00:00:02,040 --> 00:00:04,880 Speaker 1: Alright, what's up. It's angela. Ye, it's lip service. Now, 2 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: just so we know ahead of time, Stephanie Santiago is 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: not here. She's like in another country somewhere. So but 4 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: I'm here. She's here, Maguire and I'm here, Valerie, Laura Hey, 5 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: val And we got a special guest, and I mean 6 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,759 Speaker 1: very special. We have some o myssic Carey and she's 7 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:24,599 Speaker 1: actually on a new show that's gonna be on Netflix 8 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: during September. You know, we binge watch on Netflix all 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: the time. Luke Cage, and you are playing Missy Night. Yes, 10 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 1: first black female superhero in the history of Marvel TV. 11 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:38,520 Speaker 1: Very awesome. Congratulations, thank you, very awesome. That's a big 12 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: title to hold. You know, it all fits on one line. 13 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: First black female superhero in the history of all Marvel Television, 14 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: kicking those doors down. Okay, all right, well we always 15 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: start with the tip of the day. Um, today's tip 16 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: is how much do you divulge on a first date? 17 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: How much about yourself do you tell when you're first 18 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: going out with somebody you want them to know? Okay, 19 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 1: I'm looking for a serious relationship. I wanted one day 20 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 1: get married or do you just kind of hold all 21 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 1: that back. You know, I think it depends on how 22 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: old you are. I think when I was younger, it 23 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: was very much just you tell the basics where you from, 24 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:17,320 Speaker 1: what you like, what you don't like, and then you 25 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: move through date three, four or five and you say, Okay, 26 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: well this is what I'm looking for in a relationship. 27 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: But I met my husband when I was twenty eight, 28 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 1: and on our first date we literally talked about kids 29 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: and marriage and family and history. We talked about everything 30 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 1: that still seems young though it is, but he olds 31 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:40,399 Speaker 1: he was older than he brought it up. And on 32 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,480 Speaker 1: that date he's like dating people, I know personalities, you're 33 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 1: the one, Let's get right to it. And we got 34 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: engaged nine months later, got married on our two year 35 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: universities And how did you all meet each other? How 36 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: he acts? He's an actor and he was helping a 37 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: friend out. They were producing a project, and he was 38 00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: in the room when I was auditioning, and I thought, oh, 39 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: he's cute, Okay, let me do my audition, and he thought, 40 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: but let me just do my job. And his friend 41 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: ended up invited me to a party, which at the time, 42 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: I was like, that's completely professional unless I didn't get 43 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 1: the job, and then I will go because I want 44 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: to beat that cute didn't get the job, showed up 45 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:19,959 Speaker 1: at the party, he was there, he was DJ and 46 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,640 Speaker 1: that night and the next day was Valentine's Day, he 47 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: invited me over, cook me dinner. Whoa hold on a 48 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: first date on Valentine's Day. I've had a first day 49 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,639 Speaker 1: a lot of Time's Day and they didn't go to 50 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: you what. I flew all the way out to like 51 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: day in Ohio, to spending I meet this Applebe's day girl. 52 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: You know, that was all they had day. But he 53 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: paid your flight but took you to Apple he said 54 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: it was his. He's like, I'm gonna take you to 55 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: my favorite restaurant. He was, What did he eat? I'm 56 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:59,519 Speaker 1: they got to Chicken Fast? Where did the better question? 57 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: I probably a state. But after you finished, remember that 58 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: I was not impressed, and I just knew at that 59 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: point that I did not want to see him again. Yeah, 60 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: see what the first impression on the first date really 61 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:17,080 Speaker 1: means so much? You know, but I think it's like, 62 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 1: usually guys aren't the ones that would be like, oh, 63 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: you know, I want to have kids. I want to 64 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 1: It didn't intimidate you in any way, No, not at all. 65 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: The thing about everybody is that they're always the wrong 66 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 1: person until it's the right person. You know, you will 67 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: always run through relationship after relationship, and they could be 68 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 1: good people, just not good people for you. So I 69 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: think God and everything aligned for me to hear what 70 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: he had to say at that moment, and me to 71 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 1: hear what he had to say. And if we had 72 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: met each other a year, a week, a month before, 73 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: or after, it might be a different time. Now keeping 74 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 1: with mom, what's he a good DJ? Yes, at the time, 75 00:03:55,640 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: I think he was whatever he d He's terrible at 76 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: the time. When we first started dating. He had always 77 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: been DJM, but he had never barely been DJ out. 78 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: So when he moved to l A, he was like, 79 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: all right, I'm gonna start doing it. I'm gonna start 80 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: d jaying out. His music selection was always wonderful, his blend, 81 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 1: his knowledge of the equipment, because you know what, I'm 82 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: a DJ widow, so I'm always the wife at the 83 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 1: club sitting there with my own drink by myself. Dancing 84 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: with anybody is yeah, So you know, in the beginning 85 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,160 Speaker 1: it was rough, but he's such a better DJ now 86 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:49,920 Speaker 1: and he's my favorite DJ. Actually, Okay, now, what about 87 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: him being in the club and stuff like that is 88 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:54,159 Speaker 1: a weird like because girls love the DJ they do. 89 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,159 Speaker 1: But you know, I think you can have a man 90 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:05,359 Speaker 1: who worked at the gas station, like, good, what can 91 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: you listen? Right? So you just gotta you just have 92 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: to trust your your guy, you know. And at the 93 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, there's nothing that I 94 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: can do that will stop him from doing anything that 95 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: he you know, might want to do, might be interested 96 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: in doing. That's between him and God. If he decides 97 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 1: to funk up on that covenant. Well, I'm glad you 98 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:31,920 Speaker 1: said that, because as a detective, how much detective work 99 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: do you do when you're with somebody you know? I 100 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 1: know you don't. Did a little bit of masticative yep. 101 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: I have done some investigating and it's never good. It's 102 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: never never good. Seek out to find and you get 103 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: what you look at, you get what you're looking for. 104 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 1: In modern day though, I feel like sometimes you trip 105 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: on the information you don't even want, right, like some 106 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 1: location tracker on the GPS or don't let's have their 107 00:05:57,440 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: phone and be like, who is why here are you 108 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:07,160 Speaker 1: searching on Instagram this person this picture, and why did 109 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: this person like your picture and say hey boo, why 110 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:16,280 Speaker 1: did they put a kissy phase? Yeah, let me ask 111 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 1: you this. If you could put a nanny cam right 112 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: in there and your man had no idea that they 113 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 1: was in nanny cam watching what he did, and you 114 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: could just log on on your phone and look at 115 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: the camera and see what was going on and he 116 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 1: had no idea, would you do it? No? Nope, Sure wouldn't. 117 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: You don't even want to think he would do it 118 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,720 Speaker 1: to you? Like, No, I don't. I don't think he would. 119 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 1: But I definitely wouldn't want it, because it's not to 120 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 1: say the ignorance is blissed, because it's not. But like 121 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,720 Speaker 1: you said, whatever you look for you can find, and 122 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:52,720 Speaker 1: you could find a way to drive yourself crazy crazy 123 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 1: you were still hold to you wasn't even going to happen, 124 00:06:56,800 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: and your thoughts created it and something. That's so I 125 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: would probably want to, but I wouldn't just because I 126 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: know that I would probably end up finding out something. 127 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:07,360 Speaker 1: But you would probably have it set up and then 128 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 1: every now and then me like, let me log on, 129 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 1: and then you would be like he had a chance 130 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 1: to put his boy came on me, he would right there, 131 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:21,920 Speaker 1: held he would, Yeah, he would. I were gonna see 132 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: me doing twist. Yeah, like doing things that you don't 133 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: want anybody to know that you do when you at 134 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: home alone, you underwear and the period panties. Yeah, all right, Now, 135 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: what about a background check? How important is it like 136 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 1: for women in general to do a little background check, Like, 137 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: let me go ahead and look on his social media, 138 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:53,679 Speaker 1: let me google him back the last time he publicly Yeah, 139 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:57,239 Speaker 1: I think that's for seven weeks ago or six weeks ago. See, 140 00:07:57,280 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 1: like it's all these new ways of stock people. Should 141 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 1: he delete old pictures of his old bad Hell no, 142 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 1: keep him on there. Yeah. That was his life, and 143 00:08:07,320 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: that to me, that's why I married my husband. I 144 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: couldn't marry anybody else's you know what I mean, Because 145 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: when we first started dating, I was a person who 146 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: was very secretive, like, I don't want you to know 147 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 1: who I used to date. We don't need to discuss it. 148 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 1: My past is my past, Your past is your past. 149 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 1: We can keep him separate. And he was like, no, 150 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 1: I need to know everybody that. You need to know 151 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 1: everybody that I used to date, because if we run 152 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 1: into them. I don't want both. I don't want anybody 153 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: to come at you and be like, oh hi, and 154 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 1: you not know. And I don't want anybody to come 155 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:40,720 Speaker 1: to me come at me the opposite way. And my 156 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:48,959 Speaker 1: face was like that for six months, for two years. No, no, no, no, no. 157 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: It was just uncomfortable. It was uncomfortable because I just 158 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: I was never like that. I would date guys and 159 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 1: see them out when I was with another guy and 160 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: pretend like I didn't even know that I've never seen you, 161 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: never known, so they have to like remember people, and 162 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: I would go, I don't think we slept again, I'm 163 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 1: pretty sure we didn't for long. When you are with dating, 164 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:16,120 Speaker 1: did you feel did you have to give all that? 165 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:19,080 Speaker 1: Was it before you got married or was it way 166 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: before that or it was when we started dating. Because 167 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: he's an actor so and I'm an actress, so we 168 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 1: would potentially be around the same people. And now, in hindsight, 169 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,680 Speaker 1: it was the best thing to do because we will 170 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: run into people and they'll go, oh my god, I've 171 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 1: heard so much about it. I go, I have to 172 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: you know, and there's no like girl, I already know, 173 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: there's no weirdness about it, and the same thing would dude. 174 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: You know, guys, they do pissing contests. Absolutely if a 175 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,679 Speaker 1: guy will try to be like, oh, first of all, 176 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:55,679 Speaker 1: my husband ain't going for none of it. But they 177 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 1: don't even try it because he's already aware, like, oh yeah, 178 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: she said he wasn't good, just so you know, you 179 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: need your stroke and those come up to He's like, 180 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:13,680 Speaker 1: that's whack right when people try to, um, come at you, 181 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 1: what you don't mind telling? Well, in the in the beginning, 182 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:23,199 Speaker 1: I had to tell him about a few people because 183 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: I felt like he might have known these people because 184 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: of the endustry that he's in. Um. And I did 185 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:30,959 Speaker 1: have an incident where an ex came up to me 186 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: and kissed me and my mouth in front of him, 187 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:38,080 Speaker 1: not knowing that was a bad day for everyone. Yeah, 188 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:45,080 Speaker 1: not knowing that. We not know. I wantship. Yeah, we 189 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 1: read a concert. Um, he's a rapper and not a 190 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 1: black guy. My guy is an executive and in the 191 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 1: music industry at a large label. He was label and 192 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 1: he Um, we were on the side of the stage 193 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: watching the show and my ex is on stage rapping, 194 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: and I got my little sister with me. Me and 195 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 1: my sister and we're just hanging out. And then there 196 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 1: was a point where he kind of like threw his 197 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:06,839 Speaker 1: hands up at me, like hey, you know, and I 198 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:08,439 Speaker 1: kind of like ignored it in my sister, so like 199 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:10,320 Speaker 1: you see that, and I'm like, yes, you know right now. 200 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: And then he like ran over. You would think he 201 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 1: was about to go off the stage. He ran straight 202 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: up to me and grabbed my face and just kissed me. 203 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 1: And I was just like the same look. I just 204 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: stood there like and and he was sad about it, 205 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:25,080 Speaker 1: but I just feel like he didn't know, you know, 206 00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: and the last time we saw each other, it was 207 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: appropriate for him to run up on me. He kissed 208 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 1: me so long, you know, we hadn't seen each other 209 00:11:30,559 --> 00:11:32,679 Speaker 1: in two years. Meanwhile, it's because I've been with him 210 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 1: for two years and I never told him that I 211 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 1: was in a relationship. I just you know that that's 212 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: part of his show because somebody else. You think he 213 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:49,199 Speaker 1: already knew that there was history between us. Now, even 214 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 1: though he still got upset about it, he wasn't taking 215 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 1: as much off guard because he was aware that now 216 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:57,719 Speaker 1: the gifting, the curses, it always gets thrown up in 217 00:11:57,760 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: my face whenever we're somewhere and said rapper is performing 218 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 1: at that event. It's like, you know, so you know, 219 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: but I do feel like you should make an agreement. 220 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 1: If I tell you what I've done, don't throw it 221 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:15,079 Speaker 1: in my face. But that, honestly, that was like the 222 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:18,200 Speaker 1: struggle with us, because it was like, well, you asked 223 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 1: for it, so why are you And he's like, I 224 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: don't care. I'm not saying. I'm like, but you still 225 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:27,079 Speaker 1: keep throwing shape the chan and we're not watching this show. 226 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 1: So what you said it happened to you too. Lord. 227 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: We were at we were at a like a DJ. 228 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:37,120 Speaker 1: Rich Medina is an afrobeat DJ out here and he 229 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: was DJ and in l A and we were at 230 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 1: a party that he did and we're getting ready to 231 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 1: leave and my husband's ex girlfriend, who was the woman 232 00:12:45,920 --> 00:12:48,199 Speaker 1: that he dated right before he and I started dating, 233 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 1: comes up and he's like hey, and then and it 234 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: was like in slow motion and she kisses him in 235 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:59,400 Speaker 1: the mouth. And when I tell you, everything in me 236 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 1: was like I'm gonna kill this right now, like I 237 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:06,720 Speaker 1: want I'm still hot about it right now, and we 238 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:10,520 Speaker 1: wanted to kill him. I wanted to kill him. Obviously, 239 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:14,080 Speaker 1: she was okay, no, she knew we were together, but 240 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 1: that was her way of greeting. That was her yes, listening, listen. 241 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 1: So he and I had to discuss that and he 242 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: was like, I got and because I know him, he 243 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: was like I didn't know what to do, like I 244 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:34,960 Speaker 1: got caught, and I was like move. So now it's 245 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 1: amazing how many women try to mouth kiss men in 246 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 1: the industry, like casting directors. Random women always tried to 247 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: kiss him in the mouth. And he goes, oh, he 248 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: always be Damn, I don't know what I would do. 249 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:54,760 Speaker 1: What was that? I never happened to you. No, I 250 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 1: have a crazy story. And this is the beginning of 251 00:13:57,040 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: the relationship. Some girl must have been really drunk and 252 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,560 Speaker 1: tried to like write in the DJ booth like and 253 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:07,000 Speaker 1: I'm like stepping because I came back to bring him 254 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 1: a drink from the table and she was kneeling in 255 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 1: the DJ booth and he didn't even I think he 256 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:15,760 Speaker 1: didn't even know she was. She was like super drunk 257 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 1: me and I'm like, whoa blow job? I don't know. 258 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 1: It sounds like if I would have came with the 259 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:26,120 Speaker 1: drink ten minutes, like right, like whatever, And that was 260 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 1: that's like the craz and he just didn't notice her name. 261 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:33,960 Speaker 1: She was like not there yet, but she was crawling, 262 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 1: or maybe she dropped something and it happened to be 263 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: right under the front of Yeah, Jersey Girls said Jersey Girls. 264 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:50,120 Speaker 1: All right, now, this won't pertained to your husband. But 265 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: have you ever dated somebody who you hate the music 266 00:14:52,680 --> 00:14:55,440 Speaker 1: that they listened to, or that they hate the music 267 00:14:55,480 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: that you listen to? Turn off that Beyonce? No, I 268 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,640 Speaker 1: could imagine dating somebody who likes country country music right, 269 00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:07,680 Speaker 1: or somebody who only listens to like I don't know 270 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 1: what you listen to all the time, but just something 271 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:13,080 Speaker 1: you don't listen to. I think that would that relationship 272 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: wouldn't fly. I've never experienced it. I guess I have 273 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:19,680 Speaker 1: a type of just people who like good music. But 274 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 1: if I did, yeah, I couldn't. You couldn't imagine that. 275 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:27,520 Speaker 1: I couldn't do that. What about you, gig? I'm sorry 276 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 1: you every who does not. Have you ever dated somebody 277 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 1: who doesn't like the music you listen to and you 278 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:40,480 Speaker 1: all just don't drive on it? Um? No, But I 279 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:43,880 Speaker 1: don't think that I could really take somebody serious if 280 00:15:43,920 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: we didn't enjoy the same music, Because I love music 281 00:15:46,360 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: that much, but maybe you guys can on yourselves up 282 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: to another genre. Well that's true too, but like heavy 283 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:57,800 Speaker 1: metal going on your lab to crazy, Yeah, that's too much. Yes, 284 00:15:58,040 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: I will say this, Like on set, Mike Coulter, the 285 00:16:01,960 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: lead plays Luke Cage has a very eclectic music. What 286 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: does he listen to? Anything and everything that I did 287 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: not want to listen to you at the time, So 288 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:14,680 Speaker 1: he'd be putting music on in the makeup trailer and 289 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: I'm like turping, Like I hate when I take a 290 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 1: road trip with somebody and they in charge of the radio. Man, 291 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:23,760 Speaker 1: that is the worst, and they'd be playing you like, 292 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 1: come on, man, we all here, it's not fair when 293 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 1: we hear this all right now, how much do you 294 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: expect your man to protect you? Like, say you're out 295 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:34,400 Speaker 1: and somebody's rude to you, or somebody bumps into you, 296 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: somebody grabs your ass through the Kevin Hart La girl girl, 297 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 1: Well they can have good security. What is he supposed 298 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: to do if you have with your man somebody is 299 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 1: rude to you, bumps into you. I think that um, 300 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:55,600 Speaker 1: given the situation, he should definitely, you know, have my 301 00:16:55,640 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 1: back and stand up for me without making it a 302 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: bigger situation, you know, still be a young something about it, 303 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 1: But show me that you care, you know, because I 304 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: might if you don't say something, do something, I might 305 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:08,800 Speaker 1: say something something. Then I'm looking crazy because why should 306 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: I be taking up for myself if my man understandable? 307 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 1: You know, I don't like when girls get their men 308 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:16,200 Speaker 1: into situations like if you're out and something little happens 309 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: and they'd be like, oh and that could get dangerous 310 00:17:21,240 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 1: a real quick in these streets. How protective though is 311 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:30,840 Speaker 1: he of you? Very and I the way I was 312 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:33,000 Speaker 1: just raised, I was raised up to always speak up 313 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,440 Speaker 1: for myself, stand up for myself. So my first mind 314 00:17:35,560 --> 00:17:39,080 Speaker 1: is always to say something for myself. And I think 315 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:42,720 Speaker 1: if it's a situation where the person does not apologize 316 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 1: or they become disrespectful, then I expect from my husband 317 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:48,280 Speaker 1: to step in. But he's the type of person who 318 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:51,359 Speaker 1: once he steps in the situation just goes from zero 319 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 1: to one hundred. So I try to keep him as 320 00:17:56,840 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 1: calm as possible. Perfect example, we were in we were somewhere, 321 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 1: we were in like a street festival. We had our 322 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:07,600 Speaker 1: dog with us, and somebody walked back kicked the dog 323 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 1: on purpose. Who are doing. Now we're in we're in 324 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 1: another country, and I mean, but we're His family's from 325 00:18:19,680 --> 00:18:23,199 Speaker 1: the Bahamas. So we went. He's like twelve pounds a 326 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:27,439 Speaker 1: little guy, and I was like this mother and the 327 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:32,400 Speaker 1: guy was excuse me. And my husband's with his best 328 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:36,040 Speaker 1: friend and they are both like fire and fire like. 329 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:38,919 Speaker 1: So he said, wait what happened? And they were both 330 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 1: like who did it? They wanted to go chase the 331 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 1: person down. I was like, I don't know. I didn't 332 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 1: see his mom, Like the whole family is together. His 333 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 1: mom is there, so she's like, simone, don't don't you do? 334 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:55,399 Speaker 1: So I don't want to be the dog. You're another 335 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:57,200 Speaker 1: guy dream to go to jail. So I was like, 336 00:18:57,200 --> 00:18:58,639 Speaker 1: I don't know who kicked the dog. It must have 337 00:18:58,680 --> 00:19:01,240 Speaker 1: been I don't know. I missed them with that way, 338 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 1: he's crazy. Now, if you could have a super power 339 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 1: in the bedroom, which is super power, be I must 340 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 1: have super powers. I think I would want to be 341 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:15,880 Speaker 1: able to read his mind. Oh that's a dangerous one. 342 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:20,680 Speaker 1: What are you thinking about somebody else? That's not dangerous. 343 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:26,160 Speaker 1: Initially it sounded like a really good idea because people 344 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:29,320 Speaker 1: bannsize about other people. True, but my reason was because 345 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 1: you want to know exactly imagine having him like this 346 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:39,200 Speaker 1: feels good, but Reato was kind of better, Like, yeah, 347 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:43,440 Speaker 1: I'm imagining her sister right now. You sure that you 348 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:45,680 Speaker 1: sure that's what you want. I'm still going to stick 349 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 1: with that because don't you sometimes think weird things during sex? That, yes, 350 00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:53,040 Speaker 1: it would be so you would hate for somebody to 351 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: so imagine what he thinks, right, It's weird. Sometimes I 352 00:19:57,040 --> 00:20:00,440 Speaker 1: always go back to a certain neighborhood in Detroit. It's 353 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:02,920 Speaker 1: the weirdest thing. Like, while I'm having sex, I will 354 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:05,240 Speaker 1: visualize being back in that neighborhood and be like, wait, 355 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:07,880 Speaker 1: I never even had sex in that neighborhood. I don't 356 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:12,479 Speaker 1: even know why. Hip, let's further explain. So you're like 357 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 1: walking through the park. There's just like a place downtown 358 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:18,919 Speaker 1: and my mind will take me back to this place. 359 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 1: Where is this place? Have you heard of Saint Andrew's? Yes? 360 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:25,120 Speaker 1: I um club, yes, right outside, and then it needs 361 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 1: to be there all the time you ever had sex Andrew. 362 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying that the Athenian right. No, But 363 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,679 Speaker 1: for some reason, and I've told Dorian this before, I'm like, 364 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:39,239 Speaker 1: I don't know why that's very under sex spirits, right, 365 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:45,600 Speaker 1: the sex spirits outside that let's go there and see 366 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:48,720 Speaker 1: how sexy leave, go there and have sex in the 367 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,640 Speaker 1: car outside of saying Andrew, so that I can get 368 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:55,639 Speaker 1: them right. I got to exercise that that spirit, whatever 369 00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: that is. And there is a lot of hip hop 370 00:20:57,640 --> 00:21:00,439 Speaker 1: and um in this series that in Luke Cage, Yeah, 371 00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:04,720 Speaker 1: there is, we got I mean method Man makes the Parents. Yeah, 372 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:06,879 Speaker 1: he's in the latest trailer. But it's a lot of 373 00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:14,880 Speaker 1: like woutangang to Yeah man, we got Gangster. Every episode 374 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 1: is named after a gangster track and amazing. Yeah was 375 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:21,919 Speaker 1: a writer for I remember. I think he's right for 376 00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:25,720 Speaker 1: the source. I remember that, so he you know, made 377 00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: sure the hip hop was like a fourth you know, 378 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:34,320 Speaker 1: element to the show. That's awesome. Yeah. Next, to be 379 00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:36,320 Speaker 1: offended if you're out with somebody and they don't try 380 00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:38,280 Speaker 1: to have sex with you. Because I have a friend 381 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: that's been you know, liking this guy, but he hasn't 382 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:42,600 Speaker 1: tried to have sex with her, and it seems like 383 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 1: she's really offended about it. That's a warning. It depends 384 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:53,440 Speaker 1: on how long. Yeah, it's like one through for more 385 00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:57,200 Speaker 1: than ten months and then we haven't even got the 386 00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:01,159 Speaker 1: mad now. But they haven't had sex how long, I 387 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 1: don't spend like maybe three months or something. That's she 388 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 1: talked about it. Did she say maybe he has somebody 389 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,920 Speaker 1: he's having sex with somebody else. I think that he 390 00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: has a small penis, because I always my theory is 391 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:15,680 Speaker 1: always that guys are small penis. She would have gave 392 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 1: her head by now because small people, so he did. 393 00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:24,479 Speaker 1: But I definitely got a little but a small penis. 394 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,520 Speaker 1: Last year, my friend was dating this guy and they were, 395 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:30,159 Speaker 1: you know, really good together. They had a lot of 396 00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:32,040 Speaker 1: fun together. They did a lot of you know, spending 397 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:34,480 Speaker 1: time together, going out and like she really really liked him. 398 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 1: And then she just kept saying like I don't know 399 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:38,040 Speaker 1: why he spent the night and everything, and he just 400 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 1: will not try to have sex with me. And then 401 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,479 Speaker 1: I'm like, we have you tried to have sex with him? 402 00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:43,080 Speaker 1: And she's like, no, I'm gonna trying with We got tonight, 403 00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,200 Speaker 1: so she called me next. They was like, girl, I 404 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 1: don't think it's so small. That's why I'm telling you, guys, 405 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,760 Speaker 1: just my penis is build trust and they build like 406 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: affection and friendships. When they pulled that little thing out, 407 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:58,320 Speaker 1: I remember I met a guy and I was like, 408 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:03,399 Speaker 1: this guy is amazing, he looks amazing. How is he 409 00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 1: single with this whole amazingness? Because my mom was like 410 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:14,960 Speaker 1: I remember I did. I was like, are now implants 411 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,080 Speaker 1: a thing? Because we're like best friends? I was like, 412 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:22,160 Speaker 1: is it? She was like the mound? Now, now, don't 413 00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 1: you call him back? Every like my mother, don't don't 414 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:29,399 Speaker 1: see him again? She was very she was adamant, and 415 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,800 Speaker 1: I never did because my old mother was like, nothing 416 00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,639 Speaker 1: can be done. But you know they mean, you know, 417 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:39,639 Speaker 1: but that's different a grower in the show he was, 418 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: he was but that but that's sad because you know 419 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:49,480 Speaker 1: he knew why you never call them again? She said, 420 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,640 Speaker 1: too bad, too sad. I feel bad. I do feel bad, 421 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,240 Speaker 1: too bad because once he takes it out, like, is 422 00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:58,520 Speaker 1: there no going that I'm not a guy man, at 423 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:03,479 Speaker 1: least with vagina, you can't see no, right. There are 424 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,600 Speaker 1: a lot of particulars that have to go into like 425 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,720 Speaker 1: vegina preference. Do you think you can have good sex 426 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,920 Speaker 1: with a small penis though, Like, yeah, I think so, 427 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:15,959 Speaker 1: you can. Let me think, dude, who knows? Though? Does 428 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: anybody has anyone ever had good sex with the small 429 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,200 Speaker 1: talk about all the time when it died. Yeah, not him. 430 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:27,240 Speaker 1: But I had a guy before that that I was 431 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 1: having sex with, and he does not have the biggest penis. 432 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 1: It's actually what we could consider small or what I 433 00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:34,760 Speaker 1: called the anal penis. And when it's really good for 434 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:38,119 Speaker 1: an he just really knew what to do with it. 435 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,920 Speaker 1: And besides just the actual intercourse, he was a great 436 00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:43,159 Speaker 1: lover all around, a great love and he had to 437 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,719 Speaker 1: be so. And I think that that, you know, there 438 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: are people in the industry, in the music industry. I 439 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:53,040 Speaker 1: know that I've heard are bad lays but have big penis, 440 00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,879 Speaker 1: big penis reputation because they're just like, I don't have 441 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 1: to do anything, Yeah, big old thing. A lot of 442 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,879 Speaker 1: men they're like dealspace those guys don't have it is 443 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:08,840 Speaker 1: not good sex. Yeah, and that's like the worst is 444 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:13,920 Speaker 1: to see it and then you have it, and it's like, 445 00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:19,439 Speaker 1: you know, how calories I just burnt? I wasted a 446 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:27,200 Speaker 1: notch for you. Yeah, don't see what you can number 447 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 1: for nothing because I'm not he doesn't count. You know, 448 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 1: I'm good for that. Your draft black guy, I was stronger. Now, 449 00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:39,000 Speaker 1: have you ever went out with somebody just for a meal. 450 00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 1: You know, well you have guy, But I'm hungry, so 451 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,960 Speaker 1: let me see what he's talking about. It do we 452 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,320 Speaker 1: feel bad about that? You know what we were talking about. 453 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,439 Speaker 1: I'm not going to It's a guy that we were 454 00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,320 Speaker 1: talking to earlier, and he was saying that even when 455 00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,439 Speaker 1: he was in college, he it um sleep with this 456 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 1: chick just because he ain't hand no money, and she 457 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,000 Speaker 1: would take him to the super bracket, she would buy 458 00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:12,440 Speaker 1: him groceries. And I get frowned upon the way it should. 459 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 1: It should just like seriously, I have a cousin that's 460 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,439 Speaker 1: notorious for that, like every girl he's ever dealt with 461 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:21,680 Speaker 1: has taken care of him, and some former I swear 462 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:23,679 Speaker 1: his daughter's mother. He only had that baby by her 463 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 1: so that she can continue to please straight. Please cousin, 464 00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:35,000 Speaker 1: don't because many trapping they do. It's true, this is 465 00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:36,920 Speaker 1: very true. I know a lot of a lot too 466 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,280 Speaker 1: many guys, because I feel like people always say for women, 467 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,199 Speaker 1: like you know, you see a good looking woman with 468 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 1: a guy who's not good looking, like, oh you know 469 00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 1: why she went him. But on the reverse, on the reverse, 470 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 1: sometimes we see some guys that look good and they 471 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,160 Speaker 1: all and you're like, what is he doing with her 472 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,920 Speaker 1: and she's paying for everything. Now, what happens if you're 473 00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:57,639 Speaker 1: with your husband and I know, like I have a 474 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,400 Speaker 1: friend who's married, and sometimes she's doing way better than 475 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:03,399 Speaker 1: he is, and then sometimes he's doing way better than her. 476 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:05,560 Speaker 1: It seems like they're never doing like really well at 477 00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 1: the same time, and it kind of messes up the 478 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,639 Speaker 1: dynamic because I feel like for him in particular, it 479 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,639 Speaker 1: makes him feel terrible, like when she's making more than him, 480 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 1: and it kind of like messes up the relationship. You know, 481 00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 1: could you be with a guy who you were making 482 00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:24,760 Speaker 1: way more to him? Yes? Not good? I don't want 483 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:29,120 Speaker 1: too Yeah, I mean, let me rephrase that, as long 484 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,440 Speaker 1: as I'm as long as we're not struggling, because you 485 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:33,679 Speaker 1: can do bad by yourself. So if I'm in a 486 00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:35,919 Speaker 1: really good place and he just so not happened to 487 00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:38,080 Speaker 1: be at the time, but he has potential or has 488 00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:39,959 Speaker 1: a career or whatever is going on, and he's going 489 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,280 Speaker 1: to be okay, then I think, yeah. But if I'm 490 00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:44,320 Speaker 1: already going, you know, not going too well on my 491 00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,680 Speaker 1: own and I'm still making more to him, you can't 492 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 1: struggle together you're a top position, and then he's just like, 493 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:59,000 Speaker 1: you know, the ups starting guy like that's fine or no, 494 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:10,480 Speaker 1: come on, I guess I don't know if I could 495 00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,479 Speaker 1: do it. I want I don't want to. She's like, 496 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:18,560 Speaker 1: come on, I don't want to struggle and then have 497 00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 1: a man two and we're struggling, and then I'm still 498 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,880 Speaker 1: doing better than him. No, like if I'm doing really 499 00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:30,320 Speaker 1: well or we're gonna be on the same level, what's 500 00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:33,840 Speaker 1: in my way? Though? I look at especially being a 501 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,080 Speaker 1: black woman, and you see a lot of women who 502 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:40,520 Speaker 1: are not black being married to and with a lot 503 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:43,560 Speaker 1: of black men, and women are always like, why do 504 00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:45,920 Speaker 1: all the good ones get taken? Or why they all 505 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,600 Speaker 1: with non black women? And it's like, well, because maybe 506 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 1: some of us didn't give those guys a chance. Like 507 00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 1: we are quick to say not always, because it's not always. 508 00:28:58,080 --> 00:28:59,520 Speaker 1: There are a lot of women who will stick with 509 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 1: a guy and when he gets successful, he leave her 510 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,719 Speaker 1: ask for somebody else while he's locked up and he went. 511 00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:10,360 Speaker 1: You know, so it's not a guarantee, but a lot 512 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: of times we'll be like, girl, he ain't got this, that, that, that, 513 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:15,760 Speaker 1: and that, and it won't just be one thing, it'll 514 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,760 Speaker 1: be like ten things. Well he's got everything else with 515 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 1: his shoes is blessed girl if you don't take his 516 00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,680 Speaker 1: ass to the story teaching, do you know what I mean? So? 517 00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 1: I think a lot of times if we would, you know, 518 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 1: be understanding and work with a guy, that we could 519 00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:32,240 Speaker 1: be happier than when we expect for him to come 520 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,520 Speaker 1: completely packaged. I have a lot of friends who are 521 00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:38,200 Speaker 1: my age and older who are single and still looking 522 00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:41,280 Speaker 1: for a good guy. And it might be because they're 523 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,560 Speaker 1: looking for they or it might be because when they 524 00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,840 Speaker 1: were younger, they were like, he gotta have it, and 525 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,000 Speaker 1: now that they're in their late thirties, they're like, well, 526 00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:51,920 Speaker 1: he could just have one thing, you know what I mean? 527 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: So don't you hate that when you did somebody when 528 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 1: you were younger? And then they get all successful? Yeah, 529 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,880 Speaker 1: I break up and like you teach them everything like right, 530 00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 1: and then here comes the next one and reaps all 531 00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:09,600 Speaker 1: the benefits they get married. You put in five years 532 00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:13,760 Speaker 1: like cook and clean and his walk gets me. Now, 533 00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:18,520 Speaker 1: have you ever been the aggressive in a relationship, like 534 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:24,280 Speaker 1: been the person that first initiated everything. Yeah, and that's 535 00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:27,080 Speaker 1: a good thing. Yeah, that's a guys love that I hear. 536 00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:29,760 Speaker 1: But it's to be able to wear those different. I'm 537 00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,240 Speaker 1: a different person with depending on the guy that I'm with. 538 00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,560 Speaker 1: So I'm a different woman with my husband than I 539 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 1: was with other guys that I've dated. Some i've been 540 00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:43,760 Speaker 1: the aggressive, So I've been, but it's to be aggressive. 541 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:48,800 Speaker 1: It's it's great Missy's aggressive on the show. So I see, yeah, 542 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,000 Speaker 1: well what have you been? You've been aggressive? I'm sure, yes, 543 00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,760 Speaker 1: I've been aggressive. Do you like that? Sometimes I've been 544 00:30:55,800 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 1: told I haven't been aggressive enough. But what's aggressive of enough? 545 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:05,160 Speaker 1: Initiate's sex? I never initiate sex. It's one of my 546 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:09,360 Speaker 1: biggest weaknesses. To me, like this is the only thing 547 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:12,960 Speaker 1: I gotta you know, little but little, That's how that's 548 00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,760 Speaker 1: my life. Little when not Yeah, when I like face 549 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,560 Speaker 1: my booty to you, that means come on. But I've 550 00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:22,240 Speaker 1: never been like I'm just started going down on him 551 00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 1: like I mean, I'm I'm like, I'm fashion. I like 552 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,240 Speaker 1: to be like I don't know, maybe I'm scared of 553 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 1: being rejected, like all right now or no guy is 554 00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:36,720 Speaker 1: going to reject that stuffing. No, I don't know why, 555 00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,200 Speaker 1: Like naturally it doesn't come to me to be the 556 00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:42,400 Speaker 1: first like he probably loved that though, yeah, he says 557 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:47,280 Speaker 1: it all the time, like damn one day, just tonight, tonight. 558 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,240 Speaker 1: But it's like to know you either, So no, he's 559 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:57,040 Speaker 1: not my opening ready for it. Maybe he wants to 560 00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:03,600 Speaker 1: be one. Yeah about all right. Definitely definitely synchronize. I 561 00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:06,040 Speaker 1: watch you do. I definitely do. And part of it 562 00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,160 Speaker 1: is because I know, like I don't want to have 563 00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:09,680 Speaker 1: to do it in the morning, because I'd be tired 564 00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:13,080 Speaker 1: in the morning and I get up the morning. Listen, 565 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,280 Speaker 1: I wake up super early to go to work, so 566 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,400 Speaker 1: I'm never having sex in the middle of the night. 567 00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:18,840 Speaker 1: The middle of the night, so you woke up in 568 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: the night. I try to get every last two minutes 569 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,840 Speaker 1: of sleep and I can passively get. So I will 570 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:25,560 Speaker 1: make sure that I initiate sex and that in the 571 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,840 Speaker 1: morning I don't have to have sex. And that's that. 572 00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,240 Speaker 1: To work on that though, Yeah, I think all you 573 00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:33,440 Speaker 1: gotta do is listen, and I struggle in my head. 574 00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:36,800 Speaker 1: I'll be right there like damn, don't you don't you 575 00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:39,880 Speaker 1: don't keep seeing him or anything. I'm just appointed in 576 00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,719 Speaker 1: you now. I know it's really bad. You can do it. 577 00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:45,040 Speaker 1: I can do it, can you? I want you to 578 00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,880 Speaker 1: make a promise to us right now. Yeah, we're gonna 579 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 1: make a pack. We're gonna make a pack together that 580 00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:55,960 Speaker 1: we'll start inituing on Tuesdays, can you guys, because that's good. 581 00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,400 Speaker 1: That's like in the bedroom. You can't have a guy 582 00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:02,080 Speaker 1: always initiating. You shouldn't know it's initiated either. But I'm 583 00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,880 Speaker 1: saying it has to go back and forth, and it's 584 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,360 Speaker 1: not like it's not like, oh, in this relationship. I 585 00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:11,160 Speaker 1: never throughout my life, like I just never. I just 586 00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,480 Speaker 1: except when you have a little drink. Maybe, like if 587 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:16,560 Speaker 1: that's that's why I'm like, maybe when I'm drunk, I 588 00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:18,520 Speaker 1: do And I don't know. You don't do lap dances 589 00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:22,120 Speaker 1: and nothing like that at home? I mean yeah, but 590 00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:26,680 Speaker 1: not like See it's true, I'm never like you to 591 00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:30,280 Speaker 1: make a list I do. I do. I feel like 592 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:32,960 Speaker 1: when you're an actress, right, things like that kind of 593 00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:35,040 Speaker 1: come more naturally. I don't know if that's true or not. 594 00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 1: But doing certain things because you could just act, you 595 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:42,920 Speaker 1: could be creative. He's got Sasha fears, so you got 596 00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:50,760 Speaker 1: a little who's your alter ego? I can't share that, okay, 597 00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 1: but you do role playing and everything of course, see 598 00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:57,800 Speaker 1: I've never done that. It's like you say married. Yeah, man, 599 00:33:58,160 --> 00:33:59,920 Speaker 1: I've never done that because I feel like kind of 600 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:18,919 Speaker 1: corny because I can't act anything. I'm here. It's oh 601 00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:24,240 Speaker 1: my god, break play and I'm going to initiate sincere 602 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:30,279 Speaker 1: and I want to pick your costume. I god, I 603 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:34,600 Speaker 1: have to do a costume, yes, Angela maybe or the 604 00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:38,640 Speaker 1: pizza girl, my girl, the pizza girl, pizza girl with 605 00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:43,200 Speaker 1: a T shirt like white diamon or something. Yeah, or 606 00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:45,200 Speaker 1: maybe I can't break into the house. I just all 607 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:52,160 Speaker 1: black and getting knocked out and you might get shot. 608 00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,520 Speaker 1: You have to let him know first. I'm gonna be 609 00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:59,080 Speaker 1: the delivery girl like you ps is here and then 610 00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:01,759 Speaker 1: what yes, you need to? Ups has come up a 611 00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:06,440 Speaker 1: lot for you today? What's everybody need say? Somebody ordered 612 00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:12,600 Speaker 1: a package? You say? And then bring your costume in 613 00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:25,239 Speaker 1: that small box, come open up, wrote it all, memorize. 614 00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:29,520 Speaker 1: I got nervous now about initiating. I don't know why. 615 00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:31,839 Speaker 1: I don't know why you're getting nervous. I think it's 616 00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:33,880 Speaker 1: the same thing though, because with that guy, all you 617 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:35,680 Speaker 1: gotta do is do a little bit of initiation and 618 00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:38,759 Speaker 1: then he kind of takes over. Just let him. Yeah, 619 00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:41,920 Speaker 1: you don't gonna do nothing. Really worried I'm going to 620 00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,120 Speaker 1: reject you. I don't know what I'm worried. There's no 621 00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:48,040 Speaker 1: I have no he'll definitely won't reject me. But I 622 00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:51,520 Speaker 1: don't know. I think you feel. I don't know what 623 00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:54,880 Speaker 1: happened when you were that's what I'm like, or something 624 00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:56,799 Speaker 1: that happened. But you got to think about there might 625 00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,600 Speaker 1: have been a memory with a boy where you initiated 626 00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:05,160 Speaker 1: me rejected you, and first maybe they're gotta be something 627 00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:07,080 Speaker 1: like that. I got to get HYPNOTI. You gotta do 628 00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,839 Speaker 1: this kiss the tip and that's it. That's initiation. Just 629 00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:18,279 Speaker 1: blow nearby. Now, could you date somebody if they if 630 00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:22,040 Speaker 1: you like them way more than they like you. I've 631 00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,680 Speaker 1: been there. Well, I don't know if it's sure, but 632 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:27,040 Speaker 1: I think that I really did like this guy like 633 00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:28,759 Speaker 1: way more. I think he liked me. But I think 634 00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:30,920 Speaker 1: you're so corny. Don I think I liked him like 635 00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:36,279 Speaker 1: so much. You gotta stop yourself from calling my mom. 636 00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:40,640 Speaker 1: My mom's tip one time was Mom says this, right, 637 00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,600 Speaker 1: a guy has to love you more than you love 638 00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:46,040 Speaker 1: him because by nature, women were more nurturing and carrying 639 00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:50,400 Speaker 1: and guys that's how it has to be how that 640 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,719 Speaker 1: makes sense? Yeah, you believe that a little bit. From 641 00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:56,920 Speaker 1: my experience, I've tried to make sure like they super 642 00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:00,279 Speaker 1: court me first before whatever you played at a game, 643 00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 1: because meant like a challenge. I do. I'm that girl 644 00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:07,600 Speaker 1: challenge feel like a good pride. So g G what 645 00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:11,719 Speaker 1: ended up happening? Like, how did you know you liked 646 00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:15,479 Speaker 1: him more than he liked you? I could just tell 647 00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:18,440 Speaker 1: because I would call him more and like anyone like 648 00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:20,080 Speaker 1: what are you doing today? I want to see you 649 00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:23,560 Speaker 1: if you want to come over tonight? Maybe like well, 650 00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:25,560 Speaker 1: I sometimes people be like, oh I got this to do, 651 00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:29,080 Speaker 1: or I'll call you. I don't know, you know, And 652 00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:34,719 Speaker 1: then I think he got locked up, right, Yeah, if 653 00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:41,560 Speaker 1: he had called you, if he would have been with you. 654 00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,000 Speaker 1: We always say that we want men to be honest, 655 00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:46,600 Speaker 1: but would you want a guy like if he wasn't 656 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:48,880 Speaker 1: your man to be like I gotta go out with 657 00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:54,319 Speaker 1: another beach tonight. So well, I've been in the open relationship. 658 00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:58,240 Speaker 1: It didn't work, but but it did not work because 659 00:37:58,280 --> 00:37:59,960 Speaker 1: of that, or didn't not work because it didn't work 660 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:03,360 Speaker 1: because he got somebody else pregnant and lied about it. 661 00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:10,680 Speaker 1: That wasn't I didn't follow the ruleship. They can't get 662 00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,680 Speaker 1: it right, and you know I don't want the kids, 663 00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:16,160 Speaker 1: So you should have been like, listen to my baby, 664 00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,759 Speaker 1: and that's that you care. And I'd be like, no, 665 00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:22,520 Speaker 1: I just don't ask me change the papers. You just 666 00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:24,239 Speaker 1: gonna call me over here with Also, you would have 667 00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:25,480 Speaker 1: been all right with it if you would have been 668 00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:28,879 Speaker 1: like on that one time, we were in a very 669 00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:32,680 Speaker 1: open relationship, so open that he wanted to know about 670 00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:35,560 Speaker 1: guys that I was like, Okay, now that's weird. It's 671 00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:40,239 Speaker 1: like he wanted to know in the open relationship. Was 672 00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,719 Speaker 1: the rule like, oh, you can only not wear a 673 00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:45,439 Speaker 1: condom with me and then protect yourself with everybody else, 674 00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:47,160 Speaker 1: you should still wear a condom with him if y'all 675 00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:51,520 Speaker 1: in an open relationship. He wasn't. I mean, honestly, he wasn't. 676 00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:58,880 Speaker 1: I believe you. But was that was that like a 677 00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,879 Speaker 1: rule or it was union? Yeah? It was. I don't 678 00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,359 Speaker 1: know what do you define as an open relationship? Like 679 00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,560 Speaker 1: when you're my boyfriend, like and we're both seeing other people. 680 00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:10,440 Speaker 1: I was like the relationship that I didn't agree with. 681 00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:12,560 Speaker 1: I just didn't want to not be with him. When 682 00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:14,719 Speaker 1: I was really young, I knew he was just with 683 00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:17,200 Speaker 1: all these other girls. But I was okay with the 684 00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:18,800 Speaker 1: other girls because I'm like, well, at least they know 685 00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:21,719 Speaker 1: I'm the one his mother knows, so y'all just the 686 00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,560 Speaker 1: other woman and blah blah blah. And then the girl 687 00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,600 Speaker 1: started beating with you. Yeah I would I would have 688 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,640 Speaker 1: been that was like my life, like, oh, in the club, 689 00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:31,600 Speaker 1: like all day over there, or they're not sitting at 690 00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:33,520 Speaker 1: the table. Do you see why you're at the bar 691 00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,479 Speaker 1: and I'm at the tate and then they still laughing 692 00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,279 Speaker 1: at you, like and yeah, like but I didn't think 693 00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:41,400 Speaker 1: of it like that. I just like, I was just 694 00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,279 Speaker 1: so proud and privileged that he picked me. It was 695 00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,800 Speaker 1: really the one. Yeah, now I think about it, like, damnit, 696 00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:51,520 Speaker 1: thank god I didn't catch that. Was just so okay 697 00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:54,400 Speaker 1: with knowing, like, all right, he got other girls. And 698 00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:56,080 Speaker 1: the worst part is now you bea from with chickstead 699 00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:59,239 Speaker 1: you don't even really know. That's the worst part is 700 00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,880 Speaker 1: that guys will get you into situations. Think about all 701 00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,759 Speaker 1: the girls that you don't get along with, right, A 702 00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:09,760 Speaker 1: lot of times it's because of a guy, Yeah, pretty much, 703 00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:12,200 Speaker 1: And you're like, man, we meet and her, I don't 704 00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,200 Speaker 1: even really know each other and it's really his fault. 705 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:16,839 Speaker 1: But now I don't like her, but I still talk 706 00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:19,719 Speaker 1: to him. That should be so crazy to me, Like 707 00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,319 Speaker 1: girls will still talk to the guy but hate each other, 708 00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:24,920 Speaker 1: but the guy isn't when it's doing everybody dirty. I 709 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:29,439 Speaker 1: never understood that of the penis. It's crazy too because 710 00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:32,120 Speaker 1: if as an adult now thinking back on like dumb 711 00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,319 Speaker 1: things like tchoices I've made, I'm like, if I had 712 00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:36,840 Speaker 1: just talked to the girl, then if we would have 713 00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,120 Speaker 1: got on one page, then all this extra would have 714 00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,480 Speaker 1: been removed. Right, But sometimes to get your enemy, But 715 00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:43,480 Speaker 1: sometimes you talk to a female and they put a 716 00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,279 Speaker 1: lot of extra shit on it. Because it's always weird 717 00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:47,759 Speaker 1: to me, like you got to be the winner, you 718 00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:52,000 Speaker 1: trying to keep you the right because think about it, 719 00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:53,960 Speaker 1: how much information do you really need to know? Like 720 00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:56,319 Speaker 1: I remember I had a boyfriend that cheated on me, right, 721 00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:59,640 Speaker 1: and I ended up calling the girl. They all worked 722 00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:05,320 Speaker 1: at key you Um meat balls. She did serve meat balls, 723 00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:08,719 Speaker 1: and I remember talking to her and she was just 724 00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:11,880 Speaker 1: telling me so much unnecessary ship and I feel like 725 00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:13,600 Speaker 1: she was just doing it like she was like a 726 00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:16,360 Speaker 1: girl I was in your appointment and I seen the 727 00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,440 Speaker 1: picture on the bed. We had sex in the shower. 728 00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,200 Speaker 1: He didn't use a kindom. She was telling me all 729 00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:23,239 Speaker 1: kinds of stuff, and I was like, damn, she's just 730 00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:27,600 Speaker 1: great calling her no because I mean I think her 731 00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:29,879 Speaker 1: after No, I would never be friend. I would never 732 00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:33,239 Speaker 1: befriend somebody that my boyfriend cheated on me with. But 733 00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:34,840 Speaker 1: I'll tell you this, I think you should only do 734 00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:37,240 Speaker 1: stuff like that if you're prepared to leave somebody based 735 00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:41,040 Speaker 1: on what you might hear. Because clearly she really was 736 00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:44,000 Speaker 1: in my apartment because she was able to describe certain things. 737 00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:45,480 Speaker 1: She was like, can't let me one of your books? 738 00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:51,719 Speaker 1: You know it's mad about you, but she's a stalker. 739 00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:56,200 Speaker 1: Why do you want somebody? Why would I right? Why 740 00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:59,120 Speaker 1: would I have sex in her? I'd be like, you 741 00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:01,400 Speaker 1: know you're taking all. I was like, you let that 742 00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:10,600 Speaker 1: bitch borrow a book you read about that? You know? 743 00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:16,680 Speaker 1: I love that bucket. It was dedicated. I was so mad, 744 00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:19,040 Speaker 1: but it was kind of like, how dare you then 745 00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:21,319 Speaker 1: somebody a First of all, I don't want it back now, 746 00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:23,239 Speaker 1: but anyway, I just felt like that was like a 747 00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:27,440 Speaker 1: slap in it. It's funny. One of my friends, this 748 00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:29,640 Speaker 1: is like really dumb. But one of my friends was 749 00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,480 Speaker 1: like dating this guy. So they weren't like exclusive, but 750 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:35,760 Speaker 1: they were like, you know, now they're cooking together, inviting 751 00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,279 Speaker 1: people over. We know they're not an item, but they're 752 00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:42,479 Speaker 1: having sex whatever. So she lived they lived nearby, right, 753 00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:47,319 Speaker 1: so she sometimes leaves certain items in his house. So 754 00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:51,160 Speaker 1: one time we're out at an event and her specific 755 00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:54,440 Speaker 1: small clutch had like a scuff that we very like, 756 00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:57,600 Speaker 1: you know, you know where your persist, dude, some girls 757 00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,759 Speaker 1: that we we knew maybe he would see her too. 758 00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:07,400 Speaker 1: With the school, she borrowed the bag. She borrowed the 759 00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:10,600 Speaker 1: bag and put it back. I would We were like, 760 00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:15,840 Speaker 1: that's the skill was. It was, yeah, imagine that. Imagine 761 00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:19,840 Speaker 1: some other chick wearing your clothes or something like that, anything, 762 00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:23,040 Speaker 1: because it was like we were so embarrassed and I 763 00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:24,920 Speaker 1: caught a girl wearing my clothes. But I used to 764 00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:27,360 Speaker 1: leave stuff when I lived in Atlanta, he lived in Jersey. 765 00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,600 Speaker 1: I used to leave stuff at his apartment and then 766 00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:32,280 Speaker 1: I will come back and it will be going, whoa 767 00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:37,200 Speaker 1: sho you think he would hire or you think that 768 00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:39,560 Speaker 1: she was taking it to make a stake, to make 769 00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:42,239 Speaker 1: it right, right, So let I would say, you know, like, no, bitch, 770 00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:44,520 Speaker 1: I was here and she was smart. She should have 771 00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:50,080 Speaker 1: cut it and put it back. You expire, How do 772 00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:52,640 Speaker 1: you explain that away? I mean, he was just like, 773 00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:53,920 Speaker 1: I don't know you're talking about you. Sure you left 774 00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,000 Speaker 1: you stuff here? Yeah, I'm sure I left my flat iron, 775 00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,680 Speaker 1: my two hundred dollar flat irons here like somebody here 776 00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,319 Speaker 1: looking nicety, and she threw it out or used it? 777 00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:06,799 Speaker 1: How grand here? I yeah, I think she kept she 778 00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,000 Speaker 1: had to throw my dress away, my shoes or whatever else. 779 00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:11,120 Speaker 1: The clothing items I left here, she might throw that away. 780 00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:13,360 Speaker 1: She didn't. Never leave no underwear or nothing where you 781 00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:17,680 Speaker 1: can find it. That's what you do. I'm gonna I'm 782 00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,000 Speaker 1: gonna take your your skirt out the drawer and leave 783 00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:25,040 Speaker 1: my parents and there. Now, as a detective simone, have 784 00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,000 Speaker 1: you ever gone to somebody's hose and seen some stains 785 00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:30,680 Speaker 1: on the bed and been like, oh hell no, yeah, yeah, 786 00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:33,640 Speaker 1: what is wrong with guys? You can't wash the sheets before? 787 00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:43,600 Speaker 1: Boys are dirty? I think it was my makeup, said 788 00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:47,759 Speaker 1: it was your yeah, and he was like you did it, 789 00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:50,640 Speaker 1: And I was just like like that is my complexity. Yeah, 790 00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:53,920 Speaker 1: all right, Well, I just want to say someone we 791 00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:56,399 Speaker 1: are very much looking forward to watching you. Thank you 792 00:44:57,200 --> 00:45:00,719 Speaker 1: as a misty nights. Thank you ladies. Listen, I'm gonna 793 00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:04,759 Speaker 1: being watching September thirty on Netflix page. And we had 794 00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:06,839 Speaker 1: a good time with you. I appreciate you being really 795 00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:09,560 Speaker 1: open and telling us some really good stories so we 796 00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:12,360 Speaker 1: know that we can all relate to you. Yes, yes, no, 797 00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:15,239 Speaker 1: thank you all for being honest and open, and so 798 00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:17,759 Speaker 1: we do so we on the thirty is like at 799 00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:21,880 Speaker 1: midnight that they do it or night thirty. Okay, hold on, 800 00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,880 Speaker 1: we get thirty. That's a Monday, so it is always 801 00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:28,000 Speaker 1: do it before, always ready because that's my brother's birthdays. 802 00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:30,600 Speaker 1: On the twenty nine, that's my dad's birthday, my mom, 803 00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:35,200 Speaker 1: my dad'st my mom's SI, my brothers. Is the twenty 804 00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:41,319 Speaker 1: nine libres we lesson libres is a big day for you? Yes? 805 00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:42,960 Speaker 1: And is there anything else you want to let us 806 00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,080 Speaker 1: know before? I know you've got a lot of pressing 807 00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:46,840 Speaker 1: stuff going on. Is there anything else you want to 808 00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:50,200 Speaker 1: tell us about so we know? No, just you know, 809 00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:53,120 Speaker 1: just you'll you'll be excited when you see the whole 810 00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,239 Speaker 1: of the whole, and you'll be excited too when you 811 00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:58,319 Speaker 1: see you Is it weird, like the first time when 812 00:45:58,320 --> 00:45:59,759 Speaker 1: you watch it, because I know you're gonna be watching 813 00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:02,320 Speaker 1: it with people at the premier. I think it'll be 814 00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,560 Speaker 1: a little strange, right seeing people's reactions. I read some 815 00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:07,680 Speaker 1: really great reviews about it already, though, I have to, 816 00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:10,399 Speaker 1: so I hope that everybody feels okay. What'll be weird 817 00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,400 Speaker 1: is that my parents will be there and I'll be 818 00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:15,640 Speaker 1: half naked. Wait, so what is like? You stop? You 819 00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:18,880 Speaker 1: have naked? A Look. She's a detective, so you know 820 00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:23,560 Speaker 1: she's dressed like a cop, like a cop for Halloween. 821 00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:27,280 Speaker 1: Your character, right? You know historically she's got an afro 822 00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,359 Speaker 1: and a red leather She dated a lot of other 823 00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:34,600 Speaker 1: superheroes too. Yeah. Man, she won't pay no game. You 824 00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:40,399 Speaker 1: always somebody. So we'll see how it all. Everybody needs love, man, 825 00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:44,600 Speaker 1: need love to all right, We'll be looking forward to 826 00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:47,160 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us, A baby, what 827 00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:47,480 Speaker 1: I'm do