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Speaker 1: My fiance's unstable friend refuses to wear a wig to

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Speaker 1: our wedding. She got hysterical. Ven will you veta Viggs?

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Speaker 1: Billy ve Viggs? My boyfriend now my fiance, asked me

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Speaker 1: to marry him two months ago. To give a little background,

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Speaker 1: I met him at a farmer's market when I was

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Speaker 1: eighteen and he was twenty six. We are now twenty

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Speaker 1: a little bit over five years, and I'm very happy

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Speaker 1: with him. By the way, this comes from user throwaway

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Speaker 1: nine account on the r slash okay storytime subreddit. So

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Speaker 1: now onto the story. My fiance's friend Britney has been

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Speaker 1: friends with him since they were in elementary school. Throughout

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Speaker 1: our early dating days, I expressed I was not a

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Speaker 1: fan of this woman. There are many reasons as to why,

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Speaker 1: such as us now having common interests and absolutely polar

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Speaker 1: opposite moral codes, but the main one was her interest

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Speaker 1: in embarrassing me and my fiance, possibly because she likes him.

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Speaker 1: When we first started to go on dates, she had

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Speaker 1: because he had told their mutual friend group chat where

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Speaker 1: he was taking me. She then decided that she would

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Speaker 1: go to the same restaurant and had tried to make

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Speaker 1: a scene about him cheating on her and that she

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Speaker 1: was heartbroken. Gross It escalated very quickly, and it ended

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Speaker 1: as she was delusional and I nor my date wanted

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Speaker 1: her around. This sort of situation happened three more times.

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Speaker 1: That's literally a strikeout dude, even going as far as

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Speaker 1: showing up to his grandparents' house to stop me from

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Speaker 1: to him that if anything like that were to happen again,

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Speaker 1: and agreed with me wholeheartedly. He convinced his friend group

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Speaker 1: her actions. He had extremely low contact after that point,

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Speaker 1: and I learned years later that she had gotten major therapy,

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Speaker 1: medication to stop these absolutely unhinged personality traits. Around four

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Speaker 1: years later, they reconnected through a mutual friend's birthday party.

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Speaker 1: We were all at and she genuinely seemed like she

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Speaker 1: but encourage my fiance to make friends with her again.

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Speaker 1: I am not friends with her, but I am friendly

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Speaker 1: towards her. Skipping to now, I have been planning this

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Speaker 1: wedding basically since I was born. Over exaggerating, but it

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Speaker 1: has been in my thoughts since I was a young child.

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Speaker 1: The wedding will not happen for another two years. The

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Speaker 1: theme is supposed to be similar to a D and

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Speaker 1: with blue, orange, and red as the basic color scheme.

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Speaker 1: So most of the wedding would be held outside at

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Speaker 1: a local state park, but part of it would be

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Speaker 1: and served inside, as well as some of the guest photos.

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Speaker 1: This is the important part. I have a personal friend, Bree,

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Speaker 1: twenty eight, female, who does professional pictures at renaissance festivals

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Speaker 1: It's a very cool job and I love seeing the pictures. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what a cool niche job to have. What do you

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Speaker 1: do for work? Renaissance fair photographer? That's it.

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Speaker 1: However, she does editing for some of the venues with

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Speaker 1: For example, she showed me mock ups for me in

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Speaker 1: The guests would choose whatever background they'd like from a

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Speaker 1: Where's my invite? Ope with that?

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Speaker 3: Where just some silly little guys, couple.

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Speaker 1: Silly gooses over here looking for their invites to your

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Speaker 3: To have it? I want to have go albums chasing me.

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Speaker 1: The album's chasing around all all the time.

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Speaker 1: I do want to make it clear that these would

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Speaker 1: A few days after he had proposed, my fiance asked

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Speaker 1: me if I'd feel comfortable with him inviting Britney to

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Speaker 1: it suits her facial structure extremely well. However, I was

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Speaker 1: saying that I just don't want to include her in

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Speaker 3: Asking her to change your hair is one thing, but

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Speaker 3: like telling her like, hey there's a green screen, it's

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Speaker 3: for fun, silly photos. I was like, this is the

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Speaker 3: point in green screen and your hair don't match. You

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Speaker 3: can't be in any of those photos. That sucks. There's

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Speaker 3: two I would have gone two routes. Route one, wear

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Speaker 3: worst option. I don't want to change anyone's hair or style.

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Speaker 3: That's your style. Route three is if we do this,

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Speaker 3: you won't be any of those fun photos. But I

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Speaker 1: Well, now, the problem is that it's going from like

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Speaker 1: Brittany's turning it into a thing where oh, this is

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Speaker 3: No, that's exactly open, and it's like, no, well I

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Speaker 3: think it's because I think op, just like you have

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Speaker 3: to wear a wig. Not giving her the options.

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Speaker 1: Now what they compromise here, there's a compromise right here.

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Speaker 1: Let's keep reading as a compromise against the wig, I

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Speaker 1: She didn't like this idea because she claims it isn't

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Speaker 1: I mean, one hundred dollars for one photo is pretty outrageous,

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Speaker 1: pretty crazy. But I feel like there's a more elegant

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Speaker 1: the wig is an acceptable compromise because she's not telling

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Speaker 1: you to get the wig because your hair is too

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Speaker 3: She's trying to help you. She wants part of that.

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Speaker 3: That's the thing that OPI is trying to say. I

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Speaker 3: want you. I know it's unfair, I know, but this

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Speaker 3: is the reality of things. There is a green screen.

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Speaker 3: Nobody wants to pay extra money, but that's the reality

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Speaker 3: of things. You have cool hair, it just doesn't match

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Speaker 3: with the green screen. Those are the only solutions. Either A,

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Speaker 3: you don't get in the fun. B you change your

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Speaker 3: hair see you wear a wig. Yeah, that's final. Or

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Speaker 3: you glitch out the photo and then it looks bad.

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Speaker 3: You can't get upset. This is not your wedding.

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Speaker 1: Throughout this entire ordeal, my fiance has been on my side,

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Speaker 1: but he has been upset over her possibly not being there.

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Speaker 1: While he does agree with me about not wanting to

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Speaker 1: that she's being over dramatic, he has sympathy for her

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Speaker 1: being the only person left out of this choice activity.

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Speaker 1: While I also have sympathy, I just don't see an

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Speaker 1: alternative here. We can't use a blue screen over a

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Speaker 1: green screen, because the colors of the wedding are blue, red,

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Speaker 1: and the alternatives I have come up with she has

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Speaker 1: Would you look at that?

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Speaker 1: That's a horrible idea. Let's keep going. After long talks

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Speaker 3: And that's what I don't understand what Brittany's like getting

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Speaker 3: Well, because guess what, they only heard her side of

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Speaker 1: She won't let me be take the green screen photos.

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Speaker 1: Out, then look, if you just don't take the green

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Speaker 3: That's a hard ask. You're coming to my wedding. You

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Speaker 1: It's not even just to be the wedding. It was

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? I think with that detail

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Speaker 3: You've given them two years to do anything about us.

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Speaker 3: The roots come in, the hair changes.

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Speaker 1: But wait a minute, you are the a hole for

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Speaker 3: I don't think that. Yeah, the reason that was very unnecessary.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone's being extra in this story. This is very extra,

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Speaker 1: you just want to bully me like you're being extra.

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Speaker 3: It's gross, it's really gross, and this is I don't

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Speaker 3: Like the uninviting was dumb.

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Speaker 1: That'ts to you. People can like change a lot in

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Speaker 3: It's like the fact that you thought, oh, if I

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Speaker 1: Well, let's get into the update and figure out where.

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Speaker 3: I want to see what the drama is now.

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Speaker 1: I honestly didn't think i'd post an update at all

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Speaker 3: If it's your wedding, your rules, you can do whatever

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Speaker 1: That is all that matters. This, honestly just made me

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Speaker 1: Brother. After my fiance had left for work, she showed

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Speaker 3: Something. We dodged a bullet here by not inviting Brittany.

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Speaker 1: I think maybe you weren't the a hole after all,

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Speaker 3: I mean, I still think it's an a hole move.

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Speaker 3: In law and incorrectly the friend here still, I mean friend,

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Speaker 1: Bottom line is this is someone who has made it

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Speaker 3: The therapy that Brittany did is gone the way.

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Speaker 1: I did agree to a temporary no contact order, and

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Speaker 1: acted normally until one of her triggers came back. My fiance, No,

436
00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:24,120
Speaker 1: he didn't do anything wrong. She just had a major

437
00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:26,560
Speaker 1: trigger when it came to him because of a deeply

438
00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:30,200
Speaker 1: obsessive personality disorder. By the way, you can watch us

439
00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:33,840
Speaker 1: live on YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch every weekday at three

440
00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:35,560
Speaker 1: pm PST. Just tap our profile.

441
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Speaker 3: We won't disinvite you.

442
00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:40,400
Speaker 1: We've made it clear. I think you have saved your

443
00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:43,520
Speaker 1: wedding by not inviting this person. If this person is

444
00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:47,240
Speaker 1: obsessed with your fiance, don't invite them to your wedding. Yeah,

445
00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:50,800
Speaker 1: even if they are back on medication. If your fiance

446
00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,840
Speaker 1: is quite literally a trigger for this person's say, the

447
00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:54,119
Speaker 1: point of.

448
00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:55,840
Speaker 3: Stands, I'm not inviting you. Like I felt bad in

449
00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:57,360
Speaker 3: the beginning, but now, Mike.

450
00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,280
Speaker 1: Whoa, I think that's all it needs to be saying.

451
00:19:59,200 --> 00:20:01,760
Speaker 3: All the threats and every anything you did. Yeah, restraining order.

452
00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:04,800
Speaker 1: No, thank you. So I wasn't trying to air her

453
00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,679
Speaker 1: dirty laundry about her medical history the last post, but

454
00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:11,040
Speaker 1: she was diagnosed with BBD in a large handful of

455
00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:13,640
Speaker 1: disorders caused by trauma she had endured in her childhood

456
00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,840
Speaker 1: from her great grandfather. She's an unhealthy person and I

457
00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:19,520
Speaker 1: regret even allowing her to have the notion that we

458
00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,400
Speaker 1: had forgiven her for her past. I'm pretty shaken from

459
00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:24,680
Speaker 1: this ordeal and I can't believe this was all because

460
00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 1: of a god dang green screen and some pictures that

461
00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:29,760
Speaker 1: were supposed to be just treated as a silly holiday

462
00:20:29,760 --> 00:20:32,480
Speaker 1: card for my foreseeable future. This is making me rethink

463
00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:35,679
Speaker 1: the idea altogether. To be completely honest, maybe I'll just

464
00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:38,640
Speaker 1: rent an adult bouncy house because that seems more fun

465
00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:42,680
Speaker 1: than green screen professional photography. Anyway, that's the update. Thanks

466
00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:45,480
Speaker 1: for reaching out and the advice I was given in

467
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Speaker 1: the last post.

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Speaker 3: That's just because now you have that notion of doing

469
00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:53,480
Speaker 3: the green screen, you're going to connect it to Brittany again.

470
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 3: At the end of the day, it is your wedding.

471
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,560
Speaker 3: You can do whatever you want. Don't let Britney win.

472
00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,960
Speaker 3: If you don't feel comfortable doing it, don't do it.

473
00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:01,880
Speaker 1: Don't listen to this guy. Keep the green screen keep

474
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:02,360
Speaker 1: the photos.

475
00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:03,200
Speaker 3: Let us know the comments.

476
00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:05,720
Speaker 1: Would you go through with the green screen photos after

477
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:09,520
Speaker 1: all of this nonsense, or would you cave and change

478
00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:11,359
Speaker 1: to the adult bouncy house. Let us talk at the

479
00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:15,600
Speaker 1: end of this story. My best friend stole money from me.

480
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:17,960
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about sooner.

481
00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:18,920
Speaker 3: More money back to you.

482
00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:22,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's right. So a little backstory. My best friend

483
00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 1: and I had lived together in college. She twenty female

484
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:28,560
Speaker 1: and I eighteen female, had become friends prior to living

485
00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:30,880
Speaker 1: with each other in the dorms, and then moved into

486
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Speaker 1: the same dorm over the summer semester. By the way,

487
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Speaker 1: this comes from User Necessary Task thirty four to twelve

488
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Speaker 1: on the r slash Okay storytime, So how a reread it? So,

489
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:41,920
Speaker 1: while we were living at the dorm, everything was great.

490
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:44,800
Speaker 1: She bought her own groceries or gave me fifty dollars

491
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:47,280
Speaker 1: a week. When she and I decided to share groceries,

492
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 1: my personal grocery bill was one hundred and fifty ish

493
00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,160
Speaker 1: every two weeks and went up maybe fifty bucks when

494
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:54,680
Speaker 1: we started sharing food. She did her dishes, she cleaned

495
00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,600
Speaker 1: up after herself in common spaces, and was nice, and

496
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 1: everything was great. Then we moved into an apartment together.

497
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 1: My boyfriend moved in with me about three weeks after

498
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 1: we moved in. I'd asked her prior to renting an

499
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 1: apartment if that was okay, and she said yes, okay,

500
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,240
Speaker 1: good communication. We decided to split the rent fifty to fifty,

501
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 1: which would be eight hundred apiece because we both took

502
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,120
Speaker 1: up the same amount of space. We also said we'd

503
00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 1: share grocery bills and house furnishing bills. I'd asked to

504
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,359
Speaker 1: be in charge of decorating the apartment because she is

505
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:26,280
Speaker 1: really bad an interior design, and she said sure because

506
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:28,840
Speaker 1: she knew she was, And we'd agreed that if she

507
00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 1: didn't like the look of something, we could change it

508
00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,160
Speaker 1: out so that she liked her house too. But when

509
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,199
Speaker 1: it came time to buy things for the house, like

510
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 1: dishes and curtains and couches and tables and chairs and shelves,

511
00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:41,440
Speaker 1: she didn't buy anything. Oh my, I fully furnished literally

512
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 1: every room in the house except for her room, which

513
00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,400
Speaker 1: she furnished with things she already had and a mattress

514
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 1: that I gave her One time. Targets tapped to pay

515
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,920
Speaker 1: didn't work, and she offered to cover it four hundred

516
00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:54,440
Speaker 1: and eighty bucks total. But then once we left the store,

517
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:57,119
Speaker 1: she demanded I pay her back everything bought was for

518
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,879
Speaker 1: the house. I said, okay, but like I mentioned, she

519
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,719
Speaker 1: hadn't bought anything for the house at all, and I

520
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:05,639
Speaker 1: was a little confused and hurt that she was asking

521
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 1: for the money back, especially because she used everything in

522
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,479
Speaker 1: the cart. On top of that, she never did chores.

523
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:13,840
Speaker 1: Not only was her own room a mess, but she

524
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 1: would use tons of dishes and never wash them, even

525
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 1: when I would really nicely ask her to wait, didn't.

526
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 3: You say that she would do the dishes all the time.

527
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,000
Speaker 1: This was only in the dorm. To make it worse,

528
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 1: if I asked her to do a chore, even super respectfully,

529
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,400
Speaker 1: like hey, could you do your dishes when you get

530
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 1: a chance, she would throw a giant fit and cuss

531
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:34,320
Speaker 1: it me and storm out of the house.

532
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 3: Oh it's a little baby, how dare you ask me

533
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 3: to do a thing?

534
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,800
Speaker 1: She also never bought groceries and stopped paying me for groceries,

535
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 1: even though she ate most of them. My boyfriend and

536
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 1: I would go out to eat on dinner dates and

537
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 1: worn't home for most meals, as well as we worked

538
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:49,639
Speaker 1: in the food and industry, and we got a lot

539
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:53,159
Speaker 1: of free food to choose and eat because it's free. Lol.

540
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:55,800
Speaker 1: In addition, a boyfriend of hers gave her thirty two

541
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Speaker 1: hundred dollars for the first month of rent and the deposit,

542
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,400
Speaker 1: which were both sixteen hundred, and she said she'd paid it. Wow.

543
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 1: I still gave her my eight hundred dollars for rent

544
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,200
Speaker 1: because I wasn't comfortable with her boyfriend paying my rent

545
00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 1: and just figured she could use the gift he gave

546
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 1: her for her rent next month. Then my boyfriend came

547
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 1: to town and my roommate told him that I'd never

548
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,919
Speaker 1: paid my rent and that it was one thousand dollars.

549
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: My boyfriend was saving for a car, but wanted to

550
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,639
Speaker 1: be nice to me and gave her nine hundred dollars

551
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 1: for my rent.

552
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 3: Why would you do that?

553
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 1: Because lying? Why would who do what? Why would the

554
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 1: boyfriend pay it? I don't know. I guess he's nice.

555
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 1: My question is why is this roommate becoming a nightmare

556
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:35,960
Speaker 1: out of nowhere?

557
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 3: She got in that room and got possessed by the demons. Actually,

558
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 3: the daemons in my room made me do it.

559
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 1: Anyway, he moved in with me later, and I found

560
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 1: out and asked my roommate what it was for, because

561
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: I'd paid my rent. She said it was for the deposit, but,

562
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,119
Speaker 1: like I said, a boyfriend of hers had given her

563
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 1: the deposit money. I told her that I wasn't sure

564
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 1: what she thought it was for, but that she could

565
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 1: just use it for next month rent. She agreed this

566
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: was fair, which the only person this is fair to

567
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,400
Speaker 1: is your roommate. You're letting her steal. It's not fair

568
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,360
Speaker 1: to your boyfriend. It's not fair to her boyfriend. It's

569
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 1: honestly really not even fair to her because she's not

570
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 1: living in reality. Come back to reality anyway. Later that week,

571
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 1: my landlord texted both of us and asked where the

572
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 1: first month's worth of rent was, and she said that

573
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,919
Speaker 1: she was working on paying it. Mind you, at this

574
00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: point I'd paid eight hundred and my boyfriend had paid

575
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,439
Speaker 1: nine hundred rent is only sixteen hundred a month. Not

576
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 1: to mention her boyfriend gave for her thirty two hundred dollars.

577
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 1: I didn't say nothing to her about it because I

578
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 1: didn't have to pay next month's rent, so I really

579
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 1: didn't care. Over the next month, she got really mean.

580
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,199
Speaker 1: She cheated on her boyfriend that gave her thirty two

581
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 1: hundred dollars for rent, not surprise, not enough money, got

582
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: mad when I refused to lie to her boyfriend for her,

583
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 1: didn't go out of my way to share that she

584
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 1: was lying, just said I wasn't willing to lie if

585
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 1: he asked, and at one point pushed me and slapped me.

586
00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 1: Everyone in the situation agreed I been basically perfect friends

587
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: and was shocked. She's just right. This apple's rotten right

588
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 1: to the core.

589
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 3: I just wonder what happened. She was so perfect from

590
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 3: the beginning.

591
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:10,160
Speaker 1: Eventually she threw a fit because I had added her

592
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: on Snapchat. She still lived with me and had my TikTok, Instagram,

593
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,919
Speaker 1: Facebook number, and location. I deleted her because I was

594
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 1: deleting the app. She said I was disrespectful and didn't

595
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: care about her and was a complete bee who said

596
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 1: she didn't want in her life anymore because of Snapchat. Hey,

597
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,640
Speaker 1: you're better off without her at this point, come on, Jesus,

598
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,680
Speaker 1: I lost my cool and told her that she could

599
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 1: shove our friendship up her butt, and then I was

600
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 1: moving out, Move out, I'm out of here. You're in

601
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:43,640
Speaker 1: the butt zone. You are officially butt zoned butt head. Okay, yeah,

602
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 1: that's what we're calling it right anyway, She immediately backtracked

603
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 1: and said that she didn't mean it, but at this

604
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 1: point she'd been a completely horrible friend for the two

605
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 1: months we'd lived in the apartment.

606
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 3: Horrible friend one, but also one of the worst roommates ever.

607
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,399
Speaker 3: So yeah, get out of there, Yeah, please leave, And

608
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 3: I was really hurt and done. She went to work,

609
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 3: and when she came home, I offered to buy her

610
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 3: out of the apartment.

611
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I can afford it, and she can't. Also,

612
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,359
Speaker 1: she destroyed all of her friendships and doesn't have anyone

613
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: to live with. I offered to leave, but said if

614
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: she decided she couldn't afford the apartment, that I'm more

615
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,360
Speaker 1: than happy to stay and she could leave so her

616
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 1: credit wasn't ft and left that night. I did not

617
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 1: ask her to. Later, she came into the apartment to

618
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,360
Speaker 1: get her stuff, threatened to take a bunch of stuff

619
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: and through hands. So I told her she wasn't welcome

620
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,199
Speaker 1: in the apartment and that I would pack up her

621
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:34,880
Speaker 1: stuff for her.

622
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 3: Who is she throwing hands with? I don't know.

623
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: I assume with Opie.

624
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 3: She wasn't forced to leave. I mean, she wasn't told, like,

625
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 3: you leave now, you don't have a choice.

626
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: No, she did herself.

627
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 3: She did it herself. Dude.

628
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 1: This girl is a little cuckoo. Yeah, this girl's not serene.

629
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: This girl is not giving serenity. Let me just say

630
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: that while I was packing for her, I found multiple

631
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 1: clothing items from my room, including underwear and bras, three

632
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 1: pairs of leggings with giant in the crotch area. What what?

633
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 1: Why are those the items that are being taken? What

634
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 1: the heck did.

635
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 3: She put the holes in there?

636
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 1: Dude? That's weird. I have more questions. I found multiple

637
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 1: plates and glasses that I had bought shattered and a

638
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 1: fork bent in half. They were all bundled together in

639
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,120
Speaker 1: a drawer, which tells me that she knew she shouldn't

640
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,880
Speaker 1: have taken them. I confronted her, and she said, oh,

641
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 1: I don't know why they were there, but didn't sound

642
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 1: surprised at all. She also agreed to pay me back

643
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 1: for them immediately, without any argument.

644
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:29,640
Speaker 3: I don't believe that one bit.

645
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 1: She's weird, dude. This girl's weird. Girl girls weird. Her

646
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 1: dog had also torn up probably a ten square foot

647
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: area of the carpet, eight half of the door. What

648
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 1: did you see that? How do you eat all half

649
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 1: of the door? What was the dog involved?

650
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 3: Left field?

651
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: That's convenient? Tore up three door frames as well. She

652
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 1: also ruined multiple towels and bath mats. I'd bought really

653
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 1: expensive ones too, and she agreed to pay for all

654
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 1: of that too. Don't believe it. Total, they were about

655
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: five thousand worth of damages and ruined items, along with

656
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 1: money that she just straight up stole, like the nine

657
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 1: hundred dollars from my boyfriend, but she only agreed to

658
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,239
Speaker 1: pay twenty two hundred, still not getting any of that.

659
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 1: You're not gonna see a cent of that, dude, No,

660
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: I don't believe it. We all receive a dividend from

661
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 1: the state, totaling seventeen hundred dollars. I offered that she

662
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 1: could just give me her PFD Permanent Fund dividend and

663
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 1: that we would call her debt square. She agreed. We

664
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: didn't talk, and she blocked me on everything but Instagram.

665
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 1: Then my boyfriend and I got our PFDs and I

666
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:32,959
Speaker 1: texted her to ask how she wanted to give us

667
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: hers she blocked me and told me a bunch of lies,

668
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 1: like my boyfriend hit her and that I kicked her

669
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:40,239
Speaker 1: out for no reason when it was her apartment and

670
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: she'd let me move in. We moved in together. I

671
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: got a hold of her through some friends. She asked

672
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 1: for a couple of days and she said she hadn't

673
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 1: received it, And I said, okay. By the way, I'll

674
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,239
Speaker 1: always say it's okay for you to join us when

675
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:56,479
Speaker 1: we go live on YouTube, Facebook and Twitch every weekday

676
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 1: at three PMPST. All I gotta do is tap our profile.

677
00:29:58,720 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 3: Tapped it.

678
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 1: We're probably at this very second. Nice. So there's a

679
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: little bit more left of the story.

680
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 3: But the fact that you kept you're like, oh, I

681
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 3: found my things in your room and you're to pay

682
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 3: for them, And she said sure. The fact that you

683
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 3: believed her, Yeah, come on, come on, what do you do.

684
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 3: The fact that you even gave her like a little door,

685
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 3: like a little like a small door of like of hope,

686
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 3: Like she's done all these bad things, she's fought somebody

687
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 3: she definitely fought, probably the boyfriend or maybe you. She

688
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 3: slapped you. There's way too much going on here that

689
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 3: you're giving her way too much leeway, even the small

690
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 3: leeway was dumb to even believe it. I don't know

691
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 3: why you did that.

692
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: What's the sayings fool me once, shame on you twice,

693
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 1: shame on me times for me multiple times?

694
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 3: Oh we're thinking to three different.

695
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 1: Foomy three times?

696
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 3: Or were you gonna go the love the choppers?

697
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: No? I wasn't load the chopper three times.

698
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna say oh no, no, no, no, talking about

699
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 3: your mail, Oh you're talking about j good luck getting

700
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 3: your money. I don't know why you thought like.

701
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 1: I highly doubt you're gonna get your money back even

702
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 1: if you do sewer, and the money that you get

703
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 1: back is just gonna go to court fees anyway.

704
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 3: And you're just wasting more money.

705
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 1: I think this is a friendly reminder that a lot

706
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 1: of times money will get in between people, money will

707
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: get in between friends. However, in this situation, it doesn't

708
00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 1: sound like this person was really even your friend anyway.

709
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 3: This person did a crazy switch up, and I kind

710
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 3: of had a roommate like this, not like it's bad.

711
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: Well about paying rent and ended up stealing all your money.

712
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,719
Speaker 3: It wasn't money, but it was like food and like

713
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 3: other things, and like, bro, I'm tired of it.

714
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 1: Get out very cool.

715
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 3: I highly don't recommend that.

716
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: Let's finish the story. October fifth rolled around, which was

717
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: several days after she said she'd pay me. I told

718
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: her that she had until five pm or I was

719
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 1: going to file a lawsuit. I'd contacted the police and

720
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 1: they said I had enough evidence to win. Immediately I

721
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 1: texted her this. She asked if I could meet her

722
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 1: at work at ten thirty PM and she'd bring the money.

723
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 1: I stayed until midnight waiting for her. She never showed.

724
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 3: Why do you keep giving her the benefit of the doubt?

725
00:31:58,040 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: Stop trusting this liar?

726
00:31:59,360 --> 00:31:59,479
Speaker 3: Oh.

727
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: Then I texted her saying I was going home. After

728
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 1: multiple warnings, I was leaving soon and told her i'd

729
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 1: just be taking her to court. Then I blocked her.

730
00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 1: I really need this money in order to keep my

731
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 1: apartment because she didn't pay September's rent or the deposit,

732
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 1: so I need to pay both of those in addition

733
00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: to October's rent. I feel like I'm in the right,

734
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 1: but also this feels extreme. Am I the a whole? Dude? No?

735
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 3: You're not the a hole?

736
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: No, but you should have seen this coming. I hope

737
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: the police force her to hand to deliver you the money.

738
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 3: That'd be great, but that's not gonna happen.

739
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 1: But that's the end of that story. Hey, it's Sam'

740
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 1: your og host. Here. We're gonna get back to the stories.

741
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 1: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. I

742
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: stopped prioritizing a friendship with a toxic friend. She always

743
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 1: causes drama.

744
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 3: Cut out that drama, cut out that venom. Cut out

745
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 3: the toxicity.

746
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 1: She said, I, twenty six female, have a friend's twenty

747
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 1: eight female who we will call Sylvia. I also have

748
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: a main friend group consisting of my best friend, who

749
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 1: will call Talia, twenty four female, my male cousin, my boyfriend,

750
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: and some others, which Sylvia has never been part of.

751
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user sufficient item fifty

752
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: two to forty six on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit.

753
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 1: So my life is heavily intertwined with the friend group.

754
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 1: We all work at the same job, same schedule, off

755
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 1: in carpool and help each other out, take trips, et cetera,

756
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: et cetera. Me, Talia, and my cousin all grew up together.

757
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 1: I met Talia when she was about six. We lived

758
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 1: in the same neighborhood growing up. We've had our ups

759
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 1: and downs, as all friends do, but we ultimately love

760
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: each other and are literally family. I met Sylvia in

761
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 1: school when I was about twelve and she was thirteen

762
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 1: going on fourteen. We were very close, had a lot

763
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 1: of sleepovers, and did a lot of stupid crap together.

764
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 1: We had a falling out when I was about seventeen

765
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 1: where we physically fought, which she initiated, and I didn't

766
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 1: talk to her for about a year, all the while

767
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: she kept reaching out asking for forgiveness. There was a

768
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 1: previous incident that I let go, but the physical altercation

769
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:57,600
Speaker 1: was my final straw. A little over a year later,

770
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 1: we had a conversation and all was forgiven, but I

771
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 1: always kept her at arm's length. I got the feeling

772
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: she didn't want this and wanted us to be as

773
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,399
Speaker 1: close as we once were, and I still do get

774
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: that feeling now, but I limited how much I spoke

775
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 1: to her. As time went on. It would go something

776
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 1: like this. We would periodically talk for whatever reason. One

777
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 1: time it was because her other friend passed who also

778
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 1: had bullied me at one point, and she was grieving,

779
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: so I comforted her. Another was because she ended up

780
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 1: working at the job I had at the time through

781
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: a temp agency for a short period of time. She

782
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:32,439
Speaker 1: would want to continue to talk often, and I would

783
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 1: space it out until I slowly brushed her off. I admit,

784
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 1: I know it isn't the best way to handle it,

785
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 1: but I didn't really know what I wanted, and I

786
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:43,240
Speaker 1: didn't want to hurt her feelings. But I also didn't

787
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:46,240
Speaker 1: want her to get too close again either and expect

788
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 1: more out of a friendship than I was able to

789
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 1: give her. And that is why clear communication is a

790
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 1: good thing. You should have just told her. Fast forward

791
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 1: to now. I really don't even remember how we started

792
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 1: talking again, but lo and behold, we are friends and

793
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:03,279
Speaker 1: talk now somewhat frequently. I'd say for a little over

794
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 1: a year. Now. Exactly what I knew was going to

795
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:09,760
Speaker 1: happen if I let her back in is now what's happening.

796
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 1: We've been arguing a lot lately because she's had a

797
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 1: problem with everything. I don't hang out with her whenever

798
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: I get the chance. I give everyone else the time

799
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 1: of day, but her et cetera, et cetera. I've explained

800
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 1: to her on how I work almost every day and

801
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 1: I'm tired. We also work opposite shifts, so whenever we

802
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 1: try to meet up, one of us is always super tired.

803
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:32,319
Speaker 1: And the way my dynamic is with everyone else as

804
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 1: to why I am always with them sleeping over, carpooling,

805
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: et cetera. All these answers still don't satisfy her. Honestly,

806
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,840
Speaker 1: all these answers don't satisfy me either, because at the

807
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 1: end of the day, Ope, you're still not just saying

808
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:46,359
Speaker 1: the truth, which is you don't want to be friends

809
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 1: with her.

810
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 3: You're just like, grow and grow and grow, and.

811
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: It's gonna grow into a very big bomb telling her

812
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: that there's all these other things like oh, our schedules

813
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 1: don't line up or this or that. It's like, well, really,

814
00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 1: the root of it is you don't really care to

815
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 1: be friends with her. Beyond honest, guys, honesty, be honest

816
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 1: with each other. Please. The majority of the time, my

817
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:07,400
Speaker 1: friend group and family and I are not doing anything exciting.

818
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 1: We literally just go home after work, eat and maybe

819
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: watch a show and go to sleep. Ain't that the truth?

820
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 1: We have the occasional bar runner night out that's often

821
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:17,560
Speaker 1: last minute and she's recently picked a fight with me

822
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: over text and sounded absolutely ridiculous. I told her that

823
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 1: we don't have to be friends anymore if this is

824
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: going to be a never ending issue, and she retracted

825
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 1: and we've been okay since. But I felt like it

826
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:31,879
Speaker 1: was a temporary relief. No, you haven't been okay.

827
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:33,839
Speaker 3: Oh it was a temporal relief because you said what

828
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 3: you wanted to say.

829
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 1: Oh, you don't like this person. Stop telling her that

830
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:41,480
Speaker 1: you're friends really really quick. Okay, storytime, very relevant thing.

831
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 1: I had an ex girlfriend right a guy she was

832
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 1: seeing at the time started trying to talk to me

833
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: like we were gonna be friends, and I had to

834
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: let him know straight up, we are not going to

835
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 1: be friends. Stop talking to me and texting me like

836
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna be friends. I don't want to be friends

837
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 1: with you. It was awkward when I did that. It

838
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 1: was weird. It's weird for maybe like a moment in time,

839
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 1: it felt uncomfortable, and then you know what, who passed it.

840
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,840
Speaker 1: I never again had to pretend like I was buddy buddy,

841
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 1: and then he stopped talking to me, and everything was

842
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 1: fine with my life and I've moved on, so just

843
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: do that be upfront. I feel like this conflict is

844
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: just going to keep happening. Onto the part in question,

845
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,840
Speaker 1: Talia's and Sylvia's birthdays are one day apart. Sylvia is

846
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 1: being right after Talia's. For all the years that Sylvia

847
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: and I were not on good terms or were but

848
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:36,400
Speaker 1: weren't super close, I'm either on a trip with Talia

849
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:38,800
Speaker 1: and the rest of the friend group for her birthday,

850
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 1: or doing something casual. It's only somewhat recently that I

851
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 1: realized I realistically probably wouldn't ever spend any birthdays with

852
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 1: Sylvia if she is going on a trip, because it's

853
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 1: likely going to overlap with the days that I'd be

854
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 1: going on a trip with Talia or just celebrating with her.

855
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:56,880
Speaker 1: There's also way more to it as to why I

856
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't go anyway, No, there's not. For example, last year,

857
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: for Sylvia's birthday, she invited me on a trip to

858
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 1: Puerto Rico with her and a couple of her other girlfriends.

859
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: I didn't trust any of her other friends because I

860
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 1: didn't really know them, and I didn't really like one

861
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 1: in particular. Surprise, surprise, she isn't friends with anymore. I

862
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: don't like her. I don't understand this story. Ope, I

863
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,839
Speaker 1: think is just seeking for validation right now, but let's

864
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,760
Speaker 1: keep digging. And I told her there was no chance

865
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:24,720
Speaker 1: I was going on a trip with a bunch of people.

866
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: I don't know. She didn't like this, but I honestly

867
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,240
Speaker 1: felt like she knows it's a reasonable thing to feel.

868
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 1: She just doesn't like that that's what the circumstances are

869
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: and doesn't like that the dynamic I have with my

870
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 1: other friends is not the same dynamic I have with her.

871
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:41,399
Speaker 1: I don't think she ended up going last year. This year,

872
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 1: she went on a trip as her birthday just passed,

873
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:45,880
Speaker 1: and she didn't invite me because she probably knew I

874
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,839
Speaker 1: wasn't going to come, which I'm honestly fine with. I

875
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 1: told her to have fun and be safe, and she

876
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 1: made comments that it would have been nice if I'd

877
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 1: spend her birthday with her. Sometimes, though I think this

878
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:59,320
Speaker 1: is a reasonable thing for her to feel, I also

879
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: feel like if we didn't go through the things that

880
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,800
Speaker 1: we went through, I would have been making more of

881
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 1: an effort to rotate between the meat here, But I

882
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 1: honestly don't feel the need to do that for her.

883
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you're exhausting me, Op, You're exhausting me,

884
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 3: and the Dakode is exhausted.

885
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:17,399
Speaker 1: We're exhausted guys, both honestly, like but also the other

886
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:18,839
Speaker 1: friend like smacked her.

887
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:20,840
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, no, there shouldn't be any friendship.

888
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 1: But that was also like they were right at the

889
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: age with exiting high school, which is like when you're

890
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:29,359
Speaker 1: seventeen and you slap somebody, that is like the tail

891
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 1: end of acceptable times where it's like, all right, I

892
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,280
Speaker 1: can maybe move on and forgive you for that because

893
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:36,800
Speaker 1: we were literally hormonal teenagers. Yeah, I mean, it's just

894
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: a toxic relationship. Nonetheless, and OP is just feeding into

895
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 1: this toxic relationship by like not seeing the truth and

896
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,719
Speaker 1: not seeing her honest opinion and like, oh yeah, I

897
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 1: wish I were there kind of not really but kind

898
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 1: of everyone watching. Let this be a lesson to you.

899
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 1: See how annoying it is when people aren't just straight up.

900
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 1: It's annoying for OP, and it's annoying for the friend.

901
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 1: Endless annoyance.

902
00:39:58,120 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 3: I'm plain, dude, Just tell them that you don't like them.

903
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 1: Let me just make it one hundred percent clear that

904
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: I do not hold any resentment or grudge against Sylvia

905
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,560
Speaker 1: for anything that happened in the past. Are we believing

906
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 1: that I have forgiven her and no longer feel any

907
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: type of way about it? However, I think it's common

908
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: sense that it's still going to have an effect on

909
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 1: how close we are now that it will never be

910
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 1: the same as it once was. So you just do

911
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 1: you see what you just did, Opie. You're like, I

912
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 1: forgive her and it doesn't affect me, but it's inevitably

913
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: going to affect our relationship.

914
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 3: Want that happened is going to affect our friendship for

915
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:31,840
Speaker 3: the rest of our lives.

916
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,320
Speaker 1: So nor will I ever put her on a pedestal

917
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 1: over any of my other day one friends. I have

918
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: never actually said this to her, not only because it

919
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 1: was a recent realization after some deep thought, but I

920
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: don't think that she'd believe me that I don't have

921
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 1: a grudge against her, and she probably tried to turn

922
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,439
Speaker 1: it around on me and make it seem like I'm

923
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 1: fake for hiding my true feelings.

924
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh.

925
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 1: I feel as though my feelings are valid, but there

926
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,319
Speaker 1: is no kind way to put it in words. I

927
00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: also feel like I can absolutely see how I could

928
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 1: sound like the A hole and a bad friend if

929
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 1: we're just speaking about the dynamic and the way I

930
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:10,280
Speaker 1: move right now with no prior context. But I honestly

931
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 1: feel like the history does matter and has an effect

932
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 1: on who turned out to be a priority in my

933
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,919
Speaker 1: adult life. If we're being honest, I feel like she's

934
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 1: lucky that I talk to her at all. I do

935
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 1: love her and wish her well, but I'm sort of

936
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 1: indifferent on the friendship and don't really care whether we

937
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,760
Speaker 1: talk or not. If she wants to be friends, that's fine,

938
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 1: but she needs to play her position and not try

939
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 1: to shove our teenage best friendship back down my throat.

940
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 1: But how do you tell someone that without sounding insane?

941
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: So am I the A hole? And there is an

942
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:41,839
Speaker 1: edit for more context. There are two main reasons why

943
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 1: we fell out. One she hooked up with my on

944
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 1: and off X that I lost my virginity to. There

945
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: was a conversation on Facebook Messenger with voice messages from

946
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: my ex confirming it. She made it seem like she

947
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 1: didn't even remember what happened, gave me her phone to

948
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 1: show me and listen to the convo to I guess,

949
00:41:57,280 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: make it seem like she was being an open book

950
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 1: and walked away. I ended up getting back with that

951
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 1: guy and being with him for another five years consecutively.

952
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 1: Awful choice, I know. Anyway, I forgave her and didn't

953
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,760
Speaker 1: end the friendship over it, as I was young and naive,

954
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 1: but I never really trusted her and always got a

955
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:17,800
Speaker 1: little vibe of jealousy and spite for my relationship with him,

956
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: as if it was anything to be jealous of. But

957
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 1: you get it, By the way, I want you to

958
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:26,399
Speaker 1: get in our live streams every weekday at three pm

959
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 1: PST on YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch. All you gotta do

960
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:32,880
Speaker 1: is tap our profile. We're probably live right now.

961
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 3: Probably go check OPI you are an a whole. You

962
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 3: are such an ahole. You are so wishy washy on

963
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 3: your own mindset with this person that you're like, I

964
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 3: don't want to be friends with her, but like, what

965
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:48,279
Speaker 3: are you doing? What are you doing? I don't understand you.

966
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 3: I'm genuinely upset. This is really stupid. Oh she cheated,

967
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 3: che cheated with my ex who I want to guard back.

968
00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 1: I can't even speak. Sorry, let me I'll take it,

969
00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: let me take it away from here. I'm really upset.

970
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: I can't form words. Is how upset I am. I'm

971
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:05,440
Speaker 1: so upset. I don't know if you really aren't aware

972
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 1: of your own stuff. Hey, here comes the cold water.

973
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:12,439
Speaker 1: You are being an a hole in this situation by

974
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 1: stringing your friend along and not just being like, look,

975
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,680
Speaker 1: I'm not really interested in a friendship because of X,

976
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:20,319
Speaker 1: Y and Z. I don't like that you dated that

977
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: guy that I dated. I don't like that we had

978
00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 1: that fight. And I don't want to pretend or you know,

979
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 1: force myself to be your friend. I'm not going to pretend.

980
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 1: I'm not going to force myself to have said all

981
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: of those things and you would have not been the

982
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 1: a hole.

983
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:35,839
Speaker 3: And the thing is OP is getting annoyed that this

984
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 3: friend is still trying to reach out.

985
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 1: I also came to the realization as I got older

986
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: that her not remembering or knowing what she was doing

987
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:46,240
Speaker 1: was complete BS and another person that was there confirmed

988
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 1: that for me as well. The second was the aforementioned

989
00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 1: physical altercation. What argument led up to it? I couldn't

990
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 1: tell you specifically. I'm not trying to sound like an

991
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: unreliable narrator or anything, but this was nine years ago.

992
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: All I know is that it was something really stupid,

993
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:03,319
Speaker 1: and I ended up leaving her house and walking down

994
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 1: the road. She was following me and trying to talk

995
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: to me, but getting increasingly aggravated that I continued to

996
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: walk away. That's when she grabbed me and hit me.

997
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 1: There was still lingering tension about the situation with my

998
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 1: ex at this time, and I feel like it had

999
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,560
Speaker 1: something to do with what fueled her to initiate that.

1000
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:22,919
Speaker 1: Now I feel like you're being an unreliable narrator because

1001
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 1: you were like, honestly, it was something so dumb, I

1002
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 1: can't even remember what it is. Three sentences later you're like,

1003
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,400
Speaker 1: you know, it was probably something about my ex boyfriend.

1004
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,240
Speaker 1: Don't be but that is the end of that story.

1005
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 4: My girlfriend hates my little sister. I ended things with her,

1006
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 4: whoa quick and easy I twenty seven male, and my

1007
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 4: girlfriend twenty five female, have lived together for about six months.

1008
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 4: My younger sister, eleven female, was an OOPS baby. My

1009
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 4: parents had been told the chances of them having more

1010
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:54,520
Speaker 4: biological kids was very low due to some health complications

1011
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:56,880
Speaker 4: for my mother's pregnancy with me. By the way, this

1012
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,839
Speaker 4: comes from ILL Decision four two ninety seven on the OK,

1013
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 4: storytime separate it. So of course my parents were very

1014
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 4: thrilled to have her, even if I was a bit

1015
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 4: of a crap during the pregnancy because I was afraid

1016
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 4: people would think she was my kid and I was

1017
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:12,840
Speaker 4: some deadbeat teen dad who left his kid to his parents.

1018
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 5: My little brother's like twelve years younger than me. They

1019
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 5: would like walk around on the streets and be like

1020
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 5: hey dad, Hey dad. I'm like stop, I'm not no your.

1021
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 4: Dad, and they're like wow. After she was born, and

1022
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:26,359
Speaker 4: with my parents being very quick to shut down any

1023
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 4: speculations and to assert they were the bio parents, I

1024
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 4: did build up a relationship with her. I was kind,

1025
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,799
Speaker 4: she was silly. I stayed home through college because we

1026
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 4: lived in a college town and it was a very

1027
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 4: easy commute. After I landed a decent entry level job,

1028
00:45:40,239 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 4: I saved for a year before moving out. I've been

1029
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 4: out in my apartment since, but have my sister over

1030
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:49,120
Speaker 4: regularly for weekends out or summer days of adventure. Some

1031
00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:52,280
Speaker 4: of my friends comment how much she is a mini me. Honestly,

1032
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:54,839
Speaker 4: I've been enjoying the big brother scene. Before we moved

1033
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 4: in together, my girlfriend tended to avoid my sister whenever possible.

1034
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:01,360
Speaker 4: At first, I understand because she was young, full of

1035
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 4: wild energy, and a bit of a clinger. My girlfriend

1036
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 4: doesn't like being clung to or touched for long periods.

1037
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:09,799
Speaker 4: Something called being touched out is her phrasing of it.

1038
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 4: Because she grew up in a house full of younger,

1039
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 4: needy siblings, she never joined us on her weekends or

1040
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 4: our days of adventure. Even if it were things she

1041
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 4: wanted to do or see. She would ask me for

1042
00:46:20,120 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 4: separate times doing the same thing. Really annoying, but I

1043
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:25,879
Speaker 4: understood she didn't want to be around my sister all

1044
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 4: the time, even if I don't spend every weekend or

1045
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 4: every week with her. But when she moved in and

1046
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 4: I got my promotion at the same time, I explained

1047
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 4: that with work the way it is now, I wouldn't

1048
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 4: have the extra time to take her to the same

1049
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:40,319
Speaker 4: place I was already going to with my sister at

1050
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 4: a different time. If she wanted to go do or

1051
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 4: see something my sister and I were already doing, she

1052
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:48,800
Speaker 4: would have to tag along. My sister is well behaved,

1053
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 4: still a little silly, but overall kinder than me. My

1054
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 4: girlfriend did not seem keen on this, but agreed to try.

1055
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 4: I had to sit down with my sister to reiterate

1056
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 4: that she can't be a cling on to my girl friend,

1057
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:02,759
Speaker 4: as she has some things she is sorting out and

1058
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 4: just needs physical space. She agreed immediately and promised to

1059
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 4: ask for a hug if she really wanted to. My

1060
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:12,359
Speaker 4: sisters kept that promise, waving hello instead of barreling in

1061
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 4: for a hug, asking if it's okay to sit next

1062
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 4: to her on the sofa, and offering my girlfriend her

1063
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:20,320
Speaker 4: comfort items. Over the months, we have gone to different things,

1064
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 4: but Halloween time was especially busy. Pumpkin patches, corn mazes,

1065
00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 4: apple picking, haunted attractions and more. Ah so cute. Every

1066
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 4: time I would ask my girlfriend if she wanted to join,

1067
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 4: and she would decline once finding out my sister would

1068
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 4: be there, even though she really wanted to do cutesy

1069
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:41,240
Speaker 4: pumpkin patch pictures or go to haunted things. I reminded

1070
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:43,839
Speaker 4: her I couldn't keep doing the same thing twice due

1071
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:46,800
Speaker 4: to time constraints. I would take her out for dates, dinners,

1072
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 4: and other straight up couple things. I made sure she

1073
00:47:49,160 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 4: would have little gifts, like her favorite flowers or a

1074
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:54,200
Speaker 4: new plushy that she liked. I got her a spa

1075
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 4: day with friends once. When she turned down going to

1076
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 4: the corn maze, I brought her home things from the

1077
00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:02,360
Speaker 4: places we were going to, her favorite apples, the biggest pumpkins,

1078
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,400
Speaker 4: so she could have her fun carving it. I just

1079
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:06,840
Speaker 4: don't get the appeal. But she had fun. Also seems like, Oh,

1080
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 4: it's not just like, oh, I'm hanging out with my

1081
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:10,719
Speaker 4: sister and if you don't come, then we're not hanging

1082
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:12,359
Speaker 4: out at all. There's still still making time.

1083
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1084
00:48:13,040 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 1: I don't like it.

1085
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 4: I don't like it one bit. I told her the

1086
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 4: next few weekends we can find things to do, but

1087
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 4: I need to start looking at different Christmas things. My

1088
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 4: girlfriend got really excited and suggested a place. I agreed,

1089
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:26,120
Speaker 4: saying my sister already said she wanted to do that

1090
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 4: village too. I would find a time to work for that.

1091
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,360
Speaker 4: Her face crumpled and she snapped at me, demanding to

1092
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 4: know why I always dragged that brat around like a

1093
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 4: dad or something.

1094
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's she says, So does she not have siblings?

1095
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,839
Speaker 4: She must be a freaking bad older sibling. I told

1096
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 4: her she knew my parents were unable to do these

1097
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 4: sorts of things with her mobility issues, health issues, and

1098
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 4: not having the money. I grew up never doing anything

1099
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:51,879
Speaker 4: like it. Always felt left out and I wanted her

1100
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:54,759
Speaker 4: to have these experiences. I had told her about going

1101
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 4: to keep doing these weekends and outings with her before

1102
00:48:57,120 --> 00:48:59,239
Speaker 4: we started dating, and she was okay with it.

1103
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 1: Why is it.

1104
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,000
Speaker 4: Suddenly an issue. She can come along, She doesn't have

1105
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 4: to watch her, she doesn't have to pay for any

1106
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 4: of it. She can enjoy the time with us. We

1107
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 4: have our own time, our own space, and our own things.

1108
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 4: We do things alone as a couple two to three

1109
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:16,280
Speaker 4: times a week. There are weekends I don't have my sister.

1110
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 4: Am I wrong? I just want them to get along.

1111
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:21,560
Speaker 4: I want them to be comfortable around each other. She

1112
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 4: doesn't have to be a babysitter. I'm the brother.

1113
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 1: Am I the ahole?

1114
00:49:25,800 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 4: She makes it seem like she doesn't even want her

1115
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:31,320
Speaker 4: in the apartment, sometimes just outright ignoring her or walking

1116
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 4: away and quick atit. To be very very clear, I

1117
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 4: do not have my sister every weekend or throughout the weeks.

1118
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:39,439
Speaker 4: I make the weekends in advance so my girlfriend knows

1119
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 4: they're coming and she can set up things to do.

1120
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 4: But I am tired of doing the same thing twice

1121
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 4: because she refuses to tag along, and I don't have

1122
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 4: as much free time because of the promotion. To be

1123
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:52,160
Speaker 4: very very clear, there is plenty of time during the

1124
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 4: week for couples activities. Like I had previously said, two

1125
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 4: to three times a week we go out and do

1126
00:49:56,880 --> 00:50:00,799
Speaker 4: things dinners, movies, bars, walks, other things she says she

1127
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:03,720
Speaker 4: wants to do. There have been weekend getaways and amusement

1128
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:06,440
Speaker 4: park days just the two of us. She isn't asked

1129
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:09,399
Speaker 4: to keep an eye out on my sister. I wasn't parentified.

1130
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:12,680
Speaker 4: I didn't change diapers, I didn't do feedings. I don't

1131
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 4: make sure my sister is fed, dressed, schoolwork done. I

1132
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 4: don't drive to doctor's appointments unless it's an emergency. Er

1133
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:22,319
Speaker 4: visit flat tire for a dental appointment. Are the only

1134
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,320
Speaker 4: two I can think of. And there is an update,

1135
00:50:24,760 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 4: But pausing, what do you think OP does here?

1136
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 5: I have kind of been in a similar situation here.

1137
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 5: I've had girlfriends where they meet my little brothers. Yeah,

1138
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:35,799
Speaker 5: and they just don't want anything to do with them.

1139
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 4: That's messed up.

1140
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 5: I know.

1141
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:41,400
Speaker 4: I personally think like one of the most attractive things

1142
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:44,760
Speaker 4: for a man is to be a good older brother.

1143
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:46,920
Speaker 4: I think it's like yeah, because also I mean, like

1144
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 4: one shows that you have a good relationship with your family.

1145
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:49,480
Speaker 1: That's nice.

1146
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 4: And also just like you have a good relationship with kids.

1147
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:54,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's huge. That's what I like a lot about

1148
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 5: Angie's Like she's good with kids, she works with kids too.

1149
00:50:57,600 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 5: That's huge to me because I want a big family

1150
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 5: one day.

1151
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 4: It's obviously different for different people, but I want a

1152
00:51:01,960 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 4: family and that is something that is attractive.

1153
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, if you want to keep an eye out, if

1154
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 5: you can like red flags from it, it's a good thing.

1155
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:11,360
Speaker 4: Also, even if she is not a huge kid person,

1156
00:51:11,760 --> 00:51:14,800
Speaker 4: you don't have to be a huge kid person or

1157
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 4: like into kids or wanting to you know, be around

1158
00:51:17,239 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 4: kids to be nice to them. Yeah, you don't have

1159
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 4: to call them a brat. Yeah, that's pretty messed up.

1160
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 1: What the heck?

1161
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 4: That's pretty mean. Josephina dolber quizis, So if he refuses

1162
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:28,000
Speaker 4: to date only child's ill, Well, I don't know if

1163
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:28,840
Speaker 4: it's a refusal.

1164
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 5: No, you would date an only child if they had

1165
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:33,400
Speaker 5: a lot of younger close first siblings or first cousins.

1166
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just feel like I vibe with well. Dakota

1167
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 4: is an only child, so we as friends, we get along,

1168
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:42,720
Speaker 4: but he's on thin ice. There is an update. Update

1169
00:51:43,000 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 4: Kimberly Holly says, I'm not a kid person and I

1170
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 4: have three. I'm nice to them sometimes.

1171
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 5: Dude, you don't about Mom's old me what she said.

1172
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 5: Some families are not four kid families, and we're not

1173
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 5: a four kid family. And I'm like, you have four kids?

1174
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 1: What is that supposed to read?

1175
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 4: That means?

1176
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:57,239
Speaker 1: I was so confused.

1177
00:51:57,400 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 4: I don't know what that means. But there is an update. Oh,

1178
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:02,560
Speaker 4: Josefina dol becuisas into kids. That sounded weird. You know

1179
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 4: what you made that you did that, And thank you

1180
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 4: for the twenty seventh side though, but let's get into

1181
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 4: the update. This really blew up way bigger than I

1182
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 4: had expected. I read all the comments I could and

1183
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 4: thought hard about everything that was said, even the mean things.

1184
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 4: I appreciate all of the perspectives, advice, and even the

1185
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 4: name calling. In my DMS, I guess I need to

1186
00:52:23,920 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 4: straighten out a few things. First. My sister is my sister.

1187
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:29,719
Speaker 4: I am not her father, and this was what I

1188
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 4: was worried about being accused of as a teen. So

1189
00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 4: that's awesome at most, which is also not often. I

1190
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:37,640
Speaker 4: have her two weekends a month, but that's always height

1191
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 4: of holiday season or my parents are at need because

1192
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 4: of medical going ons. My dad has been in and

1193
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 4: out of the hospital last two years. In the summer,

1194
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:47,880
Speaker 4: I will take her on day trips to things like

1195
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 4: the beach, an amusement park or something, maybe twice a

1196
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 4: month with a weekend visit. I promise I wasn't being

1197
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:56,399
Speaker 4: intentionally vague. My thought process was I don't have her

1198
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:58,719
Speaker 4: every weekend. I think some people read a little too

1199
00:52:58,719 --> 00:53:02,400
Speaker 4: deeply into my simple minded comment. My parents my parents

1200
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 4: had me late twenties, had my sister early forties, and

1201
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 4: our mid fifties. Now my mother had been in a

1202
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 4: car accident and has a very bad back and knee

1203
00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:15,400
Speaker 4: walking is often difficult, and disability accessibility for holiday things

1204
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 4: aren't great or are non existent. Yeah, they do tend

1205
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:22,040
Speaker 4: to be on like farms or you know, pop ups.

1206
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 4: So my father has been finding a chronic illness for

1207
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 4: as long as I can remember. It's gotten worse in

1208
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 4: the past ten years, forcing him to quit his job

1209
00:53:29,680 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 4: and basically live part time in the hospital for treatments.

1210
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 4: Money was tight as a kid. Money is scarce now

1211
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:37,880
Speaker 4: for my sister. I pay a portion of rent and

1212
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:39,680
Speaker 4: groceries for my parents and sister.

1213
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:41,520
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Speaker 2: Facebook for more. Okay, back to the story.

1216
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:48,359
Speaker 4: Giving them the money to do the activities with her

1217
00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:51,400
Speaker 4: would cut down everything she could actually do. She won't

1218
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 4: go on rides unless she has someone. They can't go

1219
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 4: to certain things because of mobility, access issues, and other

1220
00:53:57,360 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 4: factors future plans. If something happened to my parents, I

1221
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:04,319
Speaker 4: have been appointed legal guardian. This only happened after I

1222
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:07,360
Speaker 4: got my study job, but well before I met my

1223
00:54:07,480 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 4: ex girlfriend.

1224
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:11,719
Speaker 1: Oh oh wha ex.

1225
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 4: I have always been super clear and upfront about this.

1226
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 4: On to the update, which we already got a little

1227
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 4: stink peakuf. After the blow up, my girlfriend went to

1228
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,279
Speaker 4: stay at her friends for the day. I read your

1229
00:54:23,360 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 4: comments and thought hard. I had new questions I never

1230
00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 4: thought of before. Did I want kids? Never really put

1231
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:30,960
Speaker 4: thought into that. I was too busy trying to do

1232
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:34,240
Speaker 4: best for my scholarships, then doing my best for a promotion.

1233
00:54:34,760 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 4: Was she parentified, as in the girlfriend. She never elaborated

1234
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:40,360
Speaker 4: on her younger needy siblings or much of her childhood.

1235
00:54:40,600 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 4: I know she was the oldest of four, and two

1236
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 4: have special needs, so I think given her behavior, she

1237
00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:49,239
Speaker 4: probably was parentified, or at least you know she had.

1238
00:54:49,480 --> 00:54:52,040
Speaker 4: Sometimes in cases where like your up siblings who have

1239
00:54:52,080 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 4: special needs, sometimes you don't get as much attention, So

1240
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:56,480
Speaker 4: maybe there was something in that.

1241
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:58,879
Speaker 5: Yeah, I would like to see a therapist go to work.

1242
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 4: So last night I wanting to meet. She said I

1243
00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 4: could go to her friends, as she was too upset

1244
00:55:04,120 --> 00:55:06,920
Speaker 4: to go anywhere. I agreed. I brought along a friend

1245
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 4: since I told him what was up and he said

1246
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:10,840
Speaker 4: he was coming. I thought it was weird, but didn't

1247
00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:13,839
Speaker 4: really argue it. We arrived, she's annoyed. I brought him

1248
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:16,440
Speaker 4: to gang up on her, and he asked where her

1249
00:55:16,440 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 4: friend was, which made her admit she was waiting in

1250
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 4: the living room. We got her to agree to send

1251
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 4: her friend out with him to wait. I felt rude,

1252
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 4: but my friend said if we can't get her outside,

1253
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:28,000
Speaker 4: the friend would have to because this was an attempt

1254
00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:30,920
Speaker 4: at a guilt trip from hell. So we sat and

1255
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 4: she stared at me. I asked if she was parentified

1256
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 4: as a kid, and she said yes. I asked her

1257
00:55:35,640 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 4: to give me a few examples. She started ranting, but

1258
00:55:38,520 --> 00:55:41,040
Speaker 4: I pushed until she told me she had to babysit

1259
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:44,880
Speaker 4: during emergencies. She specifically mentioned her when sibling fell and

1260
00:55:44,960 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 4: there was so much blood, but she wanted to go

1261
00:55:46,960 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 4: to her friends and they didn't let her. M Her

1262
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 4: first example of being parentified is when her sibling was

1263
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:56,920
Speaker 4: bleeding and had to go to the emergency room and

1264
00:55:56,960 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 4: she was like, oh, what a am I but I

1265
00:55:58,719 --> 00:56:02,239
Speaker 4: can't go to jessicastant what she would be asked to

1266
00:56:02,280 --> 00:56:04,440
Speaker 4: set the table. She would be asked to help them

1267
00:56:04,480 --> 00:56:07,279
Speaker 4: pour milk into their cereal when her parents were running late.

1268
00:56:07,520 --> 00:56:10,239
Speaker 4: She complained that even after we got the nanny, they

1269
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:14,960
Speaker 4: asked for the things. The gosh, so she had parents.

1270
00:56:15,280 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 4: It sounds like I sound spoiled, not gonna sounds very spoiled.

1271
00:56:18,800 --> 00:56:20,240
Speaker 1: What the heck? Yike?

1272
00:56:20,760 --> 00:56:25,080
Speaker 4: Personally, from my understanding, that's not parentification. No, it's not,

1273
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:28,320
Speaker 4: that's normal asking for help. I asked if they loaded

1274
00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 4: her up with chores.

1275
00:56:29,400 --> 00:56:29,560
Speaker 3: No.

1276
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 4: I asked if she was responsible for medications, No, responsible

1277
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 4: for getting them ready for school? Or dinners. No, she

1278
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:39,399
Speaker 4: even looked confused when I asked. I asked her why

1279
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:41,880
Speaker 4: she was so upset and rude to my sister. She

1280
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 4: said she looked too much like me. We look nothing alike.

1281
00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:47,160
Speaker 4: I mean, even if you did, why does that matter

1282
00:56:47,200 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 4: your siblings? I have darker hair, she has lighter eyes.

1283
00:56:51,840 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 4: We look like weird mixes of her parents. But it's

1284
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:56,600
Speaker 4: not like we have the same eyes or faces. She said,

1285
00:56:56,640 --> 00:56:58,880
Speaker 4: she could be my kid, and she hates the idea

1286
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:02,319
Speaker 4: of it, the idea what kids. She snapped, she didn't

1287
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 4: want any kids. You guys don't even have kids. I

1288
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:06,920
Speaker 4: calmly told her I never asked her for kids, and

1289
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:09,160
Speaker 4: she doesn't have to look after my sister when she's around.

1290
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:11,359
Speaker 4: She started ranting that I just don't get it, and

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Speaker 4: how you should have just stopped bringing her around so

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Speaker 4: I could go and do those things with you because

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00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 4: you work too much. Now, I admit I lost the

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Speaker 4: plot somewhere in the raging rant. Was there a plot

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00:57:20,720 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 4: to begin with? She bounced around a lot, got very loud,

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Speaker 4: and started stomping around. When she turned to see what

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Speaker 4: I had to say, I told her she knew what

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Speaker 4: was coming because we talked about the double days, and

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Speaker 4: she knew my sister was always going to be a

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Speaker 4: part of my life. I can't force her to see

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Speaker 4: her siblings, but she can't force me to cut mine out.

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Speaker 4: She has plenty of time with me as it is

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Speaker 4: with living with me, our dates and our child free weekends.

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Speaker 4: Next thing I knew, I was wearing her drink and

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00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 4: she was screaming ridiculous. So I mean, okay, you know

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Speaker 4: it's not ridiculous. You guys joining us live every week

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00:57:53,840 --> 00:57:56,440
Speaker 4: dead three PMPSD on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok. I'm just

1308
00:57:56,440 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 4: hop by profile. But what is ridiculous before we get

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Speaker 4: into the last part of the story, is this girl.

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00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 4: I mean, not only is she being a nightmare to

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00:58:07,160 --> 00:58:09,800
Speaker 4: your sister, but she's just throwing a drink at you

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00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 4: when she doesn't get her way.

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Speaker 1: She's spoiled, very spoiled.

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Speaker 5: You only do that whenever you find out your partner

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00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 5: cheated on you or like betrayed you.

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Speaker 4: This come on, come on, this is ridiculous. This is

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Speaker 4: not oldest sibling behavior.

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Speaker 5: I would like to know the age gaps between her

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00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:28,560
Speaker 5: siblings and her. If it was like she's ten years

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00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 5: older than her other siblings. She's basically an only child.

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00:58:31,520 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 4: Yeah maybe, Kimberly Holly says she doesn't want op to

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00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:36,680
Speaker 4: divide his attention between the girlfriend and the sister. She

1323
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:39,920
Speaker 4: wants to be the center of his world. Yeah, she

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00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:41,760
Speaker 4: wants all attention, but there is a little bit left.

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Speaker 4: I'm glad that you're breaking up with her. All I

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00:58:44,000 --> 00:58:46,520
Speaker 4: heard was a loud pitch buzz in my ears. I

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00:58:46,600 --> 00:58:49,400
Speaker 4: slowly got up and she went quiet. I told her

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00:58:49,600 --> 00:58:52,479
Speaker 4: she's done. We're done, and I left. Her name isn't

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00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:54,280
Speaker 4: on my lease, so she doesn't have a leg to

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Speaker 4: stand on. I'm getting the walks changed when my buddy

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00:58:57,000 --> 00:58:59,240
Speaker 4: arrives with what I need. I packed up all their

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00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:03,160
Speaker 4: stuff last night after I showered. I'm done, but she isn't.

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00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:06,520
Speaker 4: She's been texting and calling all night. They go from

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00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:10,280
Speaker 4: full sobs and begging to rage and screaming. I blocked

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00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:13,200
Speaker 4: her on all social media, turn my profiles to private,

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00:59:13,600 --> 00:59:16,480
Speaker 4: and have a mutual friend watching what she posts. The

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00:59:16,640 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 4: only reason I haven't blocked her cell is because she

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00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 4: made some weird comments on the first two messages that

1339
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 4: have me a little worried. I guess that's it for now.

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00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:29,240
Speaker 4: She doesn't seem parentified, she seems crazy. Now advice, and

1341
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:31,280
Speaker 4: that is the end of that story. I think you

1342
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 4: made the right decision.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, hey, it's johniog host here. We're gonna get

1344
00:59:34,920 --> 00:59:36,479
Speaker 1: back to the stories. But he's a quick three minute

1345
00:59:36,480 --> 00:59:39,560
Speaker 1: break of ass from our sponsors. I refuse to follow

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00:59:39,600 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 1: my boyfriend's family tradition, but he keeps on insisting. I

1347
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:44,680
Speaker 1: wonder what it is.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what's the tradition? Why is it so bad?

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Speaker 1: Me twenty one female and my boyfriend, let's call him Alex,

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Speaker 1: twenty three male, have been dating for about three years now.

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Speaker 1: We've recently began talking about marriage and kids, something we

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00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:00,919
Speaker 1: both eventually want to have. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 1: from user okay risk forty four fifteen on the r

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Speaker 1: slash Okay storytime subburt it. So. The other day a

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Speaker 1: reel popped up on my for you page of cute

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01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:14,760
Speaker 1: boy names, and I saw the name Everett. I thought

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01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:18,280
Speaker 1: it was an adorable name and jokingly told him how

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01:00:18,320 --> 01:00:22,040
Speaker 1: it has to be our firstborn's name. He laughed and

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01:00:22,080 --> 01:00:24,600
Speaker 1: said he liked it, but it'll have to wait for

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Speaker 1: the second kid.

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Speaker 4: Ah, there it is family tradition.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 3: We got a junior, You're naming him after my dad.

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Speaker 1: I was confused and asked him why. He told me

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01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 1: that his family has a tradition that every firstborn boy

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Speaker 1: in the family has the same name. His oldest brother

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01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 1: has it, his uncle has it, his grandfather has it,

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01:00:44,600 --> 01:00:47,479
Speaker 1: and so on, for the sake of privacy, and how

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01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:51,440
Speaker 1: oddly unique the name is. I'm not judging in the slightest,

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01:00:51,600 --> 01:00:55,520
Speaker 1: but this is a weird name and it's honestly not

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Speaker 1: my favorite. I would never say that to any of

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Speaker 1: his family members, but I did tell Alex that I'm

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01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:04,160
Speaker 1: not a huge fan of it. He got upset and

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Speaker 1: told me he can't be the one to break the

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Speaker 1: flumpel Butt tradition. He told me I was being an

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Speaker 1: a hole for suggesting anything else. I told him I

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01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:13,920
Speaker 1: won't change my mind, and we should make it a

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01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:18,520
Speaker 1: middle name or find another compromise. Alex has five siblings,

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01:01:18,520 --> 01:01:21,840
Speaker 1: the tradition will continue if he doesn't do it, and frankly,

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01:01:21,960 --> 01:01:24,360
Speaker 1: I think I should get a say in what I

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01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:26,840
Speaker 1: name my kid. I told him, since I'm the one

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01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:29,880
Speaker 1: carrying the hypothetical child for nine months and it would

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01:01:29,920 --> 01:01:32,920
Speaker 1: already be getting Alex's last name, I should have some

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01:01:33,040 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 1: say in the first name. For context, I have two

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01:01:35,640 --> 01:01:38,200
Speaker 1: siblings who are both girls. I'm the youngest, and my

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01:01:38,280 --> 01:01:41,600
Speaker 1: eldest sisters are both married and took their husband's last names.

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Speaker 1: It makes me a little sad that when I marry Alex,

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01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:46,960
Speaker 1: my last name will go out of existence. I've talked

1389
01:01:46,960 --> 01:01:50,320
Speaker 1: to him about hyphenating hours, something he doesn't want to do.

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Speaker 1: I really don't want to name our firstborn son flumpelebt.

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01:01:53,920 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: If we ever even have a boy, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to name him that. He thinks I'm whining for no

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01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 1: reason since we don't even have a kid yet and

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01:02:00,680 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 1: I'm not pregnant. I think my concerns are valid. I've

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01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:06,919
Speaker 1: told some friends about it, and most of them think

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01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:10,520
Speaker 1: I'm overreacting to something that doesn't even exist yet. So

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Speaker 1: am I the a hole for telling my boyfriend I

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01:02:12,560 --> 01:02:14,920
Speaker 1: don't want to follow his family's tradition. And here are

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Speaker 1: some comments and responses. Commenter, great conversation to have before

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01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:21,360
Speaker 1: marriage and kids. You get to decide if this is

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01:02:21,400 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 1: a deal breaker for you. What other subjects does he believe?

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01:02:24,880 --> 01:02:28,640
Speaker 1: You have no say in? OPI The thing is we

1403
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:32,120
Speaker 1: get along great. We've had minor disagreements, but never argued

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01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 1: over anything this big until now. For all the people

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01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:37,480
Speaker 1: saying to break up, he's really a great guy. He

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01:02:37,560 --> 01:02:40,120
Speaker 1: thinks my last name is weird, which, to be quite honest,

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01:02:40,240 --> 01:02:43,360
Speaker 1: it is. Lol. It doesn't make me any less sad

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01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:46,440
Speaker 1: about eventually losing it. This is our first big argument,

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01:02:46,520 --> 01:02:48,560
Speaker 1: and I think it's why I'm at such a loss.

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01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 1: She's just like, guys, I don't hate my boyfriend downhoad,

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01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:56,400
Speaker 1: He's fine, I guys. Commenter, that's not even his own name,

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01:02:56,480 --> 01:02:58,680
Speaker 1: it's his big brother's name. Is every kid meant to

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01:02:58,760 --> 01:03:01,160
Speaker 1: name their first son that name? All the cousins are

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01:03:01,200 --> 01:03:05,560
Speaker 1: Gustavo or whatever? Op says, all oldest sons are supposed

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01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:08,200
Speaker 1: to have it. His dad wasn't the oldest son, so yes,

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01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:10,160
Speaker 1: a bunch of his nephews will all hold the same

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01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:12,480
Speaker 1: name at some point, comment to, replying, That's what I

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01:03:12,520 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 1: wondered too. I feel like he doesn't even understand his

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01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:18,120
Speaker 1: own tradition. I think it's just one per generation, not

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01:03:18,320 --> 01:03:21,400
Speaker 1: every firstborn to every sibling. That's what I thought, too,

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01:03:21,400 --> 01:03:25,840
Speaker 1: says Ope, until I met him. It's not a cultural thing.

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01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:28,520
Speaker 1: I've politely asked if it was I'd be a lot

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01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:32,760
Speaker 1: more understanding. It's just an odd tradition. Stop they Hey,

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01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:36,680
Speaker 1: this isn't our culture. We're flumpele butts by nature, not

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01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:37,720
Speaker 1: by culture.

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Speaker 4: Not cultural thing.

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01:03:38,560 --> 01:03:42,000
Speaker 1: Is this thing We're born flumpele butts. We will continue it,

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01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:42,560
Speaker 1: not dying.

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01:03:42,840 --> 01:03:44,320
Speaker 4: The flumple butt de seed.

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01:03:44,600 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 1: We're spread out to cross the universe, and then one

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01:03:47,840 --> 01:03:49,840
Speaker 1: day it will be just as common as any name

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01:03:49,920 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 1: like Steve A Bill. It'll be flumpelbt on top, just

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01:03:54,080 --> 01:03:58,120
Speaker 1: like Grandpappy imagined it. Okay, commenter says, my question is

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01:03:58,240 --> 01:04:00,240
Speaker 1: if all of his siblings follow this tradition, want there

1435
01:04:00,240 --> 01:04:01,720
Speaker 1: to be like four or five kids with the same

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01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:04,200
Speaker 1: name and the same family within the same age range.

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01:04:04,240 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 1: That would already have me saying, you know, can you

1438
01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:09,120
Speaker 1: imagine going to a family get together and trying to

1439
01:04:09,160 --> 01:04:11,600
Speaker 1: call for your son and his four other cousins also

1440
01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:14,200
Speaker 1: come running because they all have the same name. No,

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01:04:14,280 --> 01:04:15,439
Speaker 1: thank you, not the a hole.

1442
01:04:15,520 --> 01:04:18,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, I already get my little cousin's cost and they

1443
01:04:18,240 --> 01:04:19,840
Speaker 4: all have different paws.

1444
01:04:19,960 --> 01:04:22,040
Speaker 1: Because are we gonna sit here and act like it's

1445
01:04:22,080 --> 01:04:24,480
Speaker 1: not an I have so many like I had cousins.

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01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:27,640
Speaker 1: There's like John John John John. There's a lot of John's.

1447
01:04:27,920 --> 01:04:30,680
Speaker 1: Sometimes one goes by Johnny, one goes by Jake, one

1448
01:04:30,760 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 1: goes by Big j Yeah, did we forget that nicknames exist?

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01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 4: That's true.

1450
01:04:35,240 --> 01:04:37,280
Speaker 1: What do we want to be? One could be? It

1451
01:04:37,320 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 1: could be but yeah, hey flum, hey, get pump all

1452
01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:42,760
Speaker 1: over here? Hey don't tell, but.

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01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 4: For the fud, that could be one.

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01:04:45,280 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 1: What you don't want to be the one that goes

1455
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:47,840
Speaker 1: by butt but nobody?

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01:04:47,920 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 4: Maybe you're like cool, maybe you're the coolest flumble.

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01:04:49,880 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 1: But that's why you get to be, That's why it

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01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 1: comes at the end.

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01:04:53,480 --> 01:04:54,000
Speaker 4: That's true.

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01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:58,440
Speaker 1: That's true. Yeah, okay, so ope, he responds, yes, there would.

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01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:00,720
Speaker 1: I pointed out that, and and he's admitted to me

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01:05:00,760 --> 01:05:03,680
Speaker 1: that sometimes it was annoying on family camping trips. We

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01:05:03,760 --> 01:05:06,000
Speaker 1: need Yellow's cousin's name, and three others would turn around,

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01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:08,120
Speaker 1: which confuses me because why would he want to continue that.

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01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:09,280
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's all kind of funny.

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01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:11,000
Speaker 4: Well, it's kind of like a joke that they're all

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01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:11,840
Speaker 4: playing each other.

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01:05:12,040 --> 01:05:15,080
Speaker 1: I'm down for it now because we've talked about at

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01:05:15,200 --> 01:05:18,440
Speaker 1: least two kids in close in age later in life.

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01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:20,680
Speaker 1: Right now, we live pretty close to his family. My

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01:05:20,720 --> 01:05:22,640
Speaker 1: family lives on the other side of the country.

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Speaker 2: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

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Speaker 2: not on this page, search Okay story time clips on

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Speaker 1: Okay, back to the story. I've expressed moving closer to

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01:05:30,880 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 1: my family when I finished nursing school, something he hasn't

1477
01:05:33,840 --> 01:05:38,080
Speaker 1: expressed disinterest in. His family is very religious, while I'm not.

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01:05:38,680 --> 01:05:42,560
Speaker 1: Alex isn't really either, and he's moved away as he's

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01:05:42,560 --> 01:05:45,720
Speaker 1: gotten older. Commenter says, it's a tradition in your and

1480
01:05:45,840 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 1: most families that the kids have a unique name chosen

1481
01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:51,000
Speaker 1: by their parents. Why would his tradition be more important?

1482
01:05:51,080 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 1: Why would he unilaterally choose a name. Also, if you want,

1483
01:05:54,200 --> 01:05:56,600
Speaker 1: you can keep your last name, just so you know. Oh,

1484
01:05:56,720 --> 01:06:00,040
Speaker 1: he also downloaded. I know that. But he finds the

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01:06:00,080 --> 01:06:03,680
Speaker 1: idea of me eventually taking his name romantic, and I

1486
01:06:03,760 --> 01:06:07,200
Speaker 1: do too. It's complicated, and maybe I do sound like

1487
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:09,720
Speaker 1: I'm whining for no reason. Lol. I like his last

1488
01:06:09,800 --> 01:06:13,760
Speaker 1: name plenty. It's just the idea of mine twinkling out

1489
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:15,960
Speaker 1: of existence that makes me a little sad. And if

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01:06:16,080 --> 01:06:18,400
Speaker 1: none of my kids could take it, it wouldn't matter that

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01:06:18,440 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 1: I kept it, it would still be gone one day.

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01:06:20,400 --> 01:06:22,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, write a book, Write a book with

1493
01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:25,720
Speaker 1: characters that have your last name, or do the hyphen

1494
01:06:26,160 --> 01:06:29,200
Speaker 1: or do the hyphen you can do. You guys aren't

1495
01:06:29,200 --> 01:06:31,920
Speaker 1: even married yet though not engaged, not having children.

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01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:34,880
Speaker 4: Honestly breakup? Yeah, time to break up.

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01:06:35,920 --> 01:06:39,760
Speaker 1: The commenter says. The issue isn't the name. The issue

1498
01:06:39,800 --> 01:06:42,440
Speaker 1: is your boyfriend's attitude towards you having ideas that differ

1499
01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:45,000
Speaker 1: from his. He dismisses your wants and puts his family's

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01:06:45,040 --> 01:06:47,920
Speaker 1: tradition ahead of you. To him, it's not even a discussion.

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Speaker 1: That's actually a little scary. You give two examples of

1502
01:06:50,800 --> 01:06:53,240
Speaker 1: him being inflexible, your last name and a baby name.

1503
01:06:53,560 --> 01:06:55,560
Speaker 1: I'll bet you can think of other incidents that fit

1504
01:06:55,600 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 1: this pattern too. This is a glimpse into your future.

1505
01:06:58,040 --> 01:06:59,600
Speaker 1: Are you sure you want the rest of your life

1506
01:06:59,640 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 1: to look like this? Which I don't even know if

1507
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:02,800
Speaker 1: that's right? Is that right?

1508
01:07:03,160 --> 01:07:04,560
Speaker 4: What what was just said?

1509
01:07:05,600 --> 01:07:08,280
Speaker 1: Whether it's like him not him being like, oh, we

1510
01:07:08,360 --> 01:07:09,800
Speaker 1: have to do the first kid has to be this

1511
01:07:09,880 --> 01:07:12,000
Speaker 1: name because it's a family tradition, and it also doesn't

1512
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:12,960
Speaker 1: you don't have to do.

1513
01:07:13,760 --> 01:07:15,760
Speaker 4: You don't have to follow though. If your partner's like

1514
01:07:15,800 --> 01:07:17,160
Speaker 4: I don't want to do that. Don't do it.

1515
01:07:17,200 --> 01:07:19,720
Speaker 1: This commenter is saying, like, that's also a portrait of

1516
01:07:19,800 --> 01:07:21,760
Speaker 1: everything else that your marriage is gonna look like, or your

1517
01:07:21,720 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 1: relationship is going to look like. I think, yes, I

1518
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:27,600
Speaker 1: think this is just such a one random raism thing.

1519
01:07:28,160 --> 01:07:30,520
Speaker 4: The only reason that I think it's not one random

1520
01:07:30,560 --> 01:07:33,200
Speaker 4: thing is because there's like Op, he's like, yeah, we

1521
01:07:33,280 --> 01:07:35,440
Speaker 4: talked about the moving and he was like no. And

1522
01:07:35,520 --> 01:07:37,920
Speaker 4: we talked about this and he was like no about

1523
01:07:38,720 --> 01:07:41,400
Speaker 4: There's like multiple little things where he's like no, like

1524
01:07:41,520 --> 01:07:43,880
Speaker 4: not even willing to compromise at all. Yeah, So I

1525
01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:46,400
Speaker 4: think that the name thing is one of many.

1526
01:07:46,560 --> 01:07:48,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, you might be right about that. Yeah, you might

1527
01:07:48,320 --> 01:07:50,800
Speaker 1: be right about that. Op says, we don't argue really

1528
01:07:51,000 --> 01:07:53,120
Speaker 1: at all. But we've had one big argument in our

1529
01:07:53,160 --> 01:07:56,440
Speaker 1: relationship and he's already ignoring me too. He's been sleeping

1530
01:07:56,480 --> 01:07:58,160
Speaker 1: in the guest room. Oh my god, I don't talk

1531
01:07:58,200 --> 01:08:00,640
Speaker 1: to me when I try to sit down. An hour

1532
01:08:00,720 --> 01:08:03,600
Speaker 1: before I posted this, he texted me saying he needed space.

1533
01:08:03,640 --> 01:08:06,160
Speaker 4: And that was it. The freaking sucks, the flumple.

1534
01:08:05,800 --> 01:08:08,000
Speaker 1: He's like the flumbleb. Once I found out you were

1535
01:08:08,040 --> 01:08:10,160
Speaker 1: not down with the flumple butt. I had to go

1536
01:08:10,320 --> 01:08:13,080
Speaker 1: back to my route, going back to my parents. I'm

1537
01:08:13,120 --> 01:08:16,360
Speaker 1: done with this oy. Yeah, I'm done with you with Italians,

1538
01:08:16,479 --> 01:08:19,720
Speaker 1: you're weird last names. I don't want to lose him,

1539
01:08:19,800 --> 01:08:22,320
Speaker 1: and I didn't nowhere else to go, so I came here.

1540
01:08:22,720 --> 01:08:24,679
Speaker 1: I just want to thank you all for your comments

1541
01:08:24,680 --> 01:08:27,160
Speaker 1: and support. I didn't know I could get this much advice,

1542
01:08:27,240 --> 01:08:29,640
Speaker 1: and I'm beyond grateful for it. It's given me a

1543
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:35,000
Speaker 1: lot to think about. Fourteen hour later. Update. I have

1544
01:08:35,080 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 1: no idea how to make an update, but I feel

1545
01:08:37,200 --> 01:08:39,000
Speaker 1: like I owe it to you all to make one

1546
01:08:39,200 --> 01:08:42,839
Speaker 1: when the time comes, so please let me know how lol.

1547
01:08:43,280 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 1: As of right now, I just texted him and told

1548
01:08:45,600 --> 01:08:47,639
Speaker 1: him that when he gets home from work, we need

1549
01:08:47,680 --> 01:08:50,439
Speaker 1: to have a serious conversation and I have some important

1550
01:08:50,479 --> 01:08:53,320
Speaker 1: things to tell him. Not totally sure what those are yet,

1551
01:08:53,760 --> 01:08:56,519
Speaker 1: but I'm going to find a way to start the convo.

1552
01:08:57,160 --> 01:08:58,040
Speaker 4: Let's start that convo.

1553
01:08:58,360 --> 01:09:00,519
Speaker 1: Two days later, Update to break up.

1554
01:09:00,560 --> 01:09:02,439
Speaker 4: I hope they started the convo and it ended with

1555
01:09:02,680 --> 01:09:03,400
Speaker 4: let's break up.

1556
01:09:03,560 --> 01:09:05,840
Speaker 1: And he's like, I want your name to be flumble, but.

1557
01:09:06,120 --> 01:09:08,480
Speaker 4: I hope he's like, She's like gross.

1558
01:09:08,760 --> 01:09:12,839
Speaker 1: So we talked I pulled him aside after he finished

1559
01:09:12,840 --> 01:09:15,360
Speaker 1: work and we sat down and had a long conversation.

1560
01:09:15,760 --> 01:09:17,639
Speaker 1: I told him that I felt hurt that he doesn't

1561
01:09:17,680 --> 01:09:20,280
Speaker 1: seem to be caring about my feelings, and I never

1562
01:09:20,360 --> 01:09:23,479
Speaker 1: intended for a joke about TikTok names to turn into

1563
01:09:23,520 --> 01:09:27,240
Speaker 1: all of this. This started from a TikTok about baby name.

1564
01:09:27,360 --> 01:09:30,600
Speaker 1: For God's sake, I took your guys' advice and was

1565
01:09:30,680 --> 01:09:34,040
Speaker 1: really honest with him, telling him how I was really

1566
01:09:34,120 --> 01:09:36,040
Speaker 1: sad by the fact that I would lose my last

1567
01:09:36,160 --> 01:09:39,600
Speaker 1: name when we did eventually get married. At first, he

1568
01:09:39,680 --> 01:09:42,559
Speaker 1: seemed confused and said that if it really mattered that much,

1569
01:09:43,080 --> 01:09:45,120
Speaker 1: I could just keep my last name and our kids

1570
01:09:45,120 --> 01:09:48,240
Speaker 1: could have his. I told him it seemed counterproductive to

1571
01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:51,840
Speaker 1: keep my last name because one day I'd still die

1572
01:09:52,280 --> 01:09:54,600
Speaker 1: and so would the name. He asked me what I

1573
01:09:54,640 --> 01:09:56,920
Speaker 1: wanted to do about it, and we ended up compromising

1574
01:09:57,280 --> 01:09:59,840
Speaker 1: that our first son would have a shortened version of

1575
01:09:59,840 --> 01:10:02,599
Speaker 1: the traditional name that runs in his family, not a nickname.

1576
01:10:02,760 --> 01:10:04,639
Speaker 1: We would literally just shorten the name and that would

1577
01:10:04,640 --> 01:10:07,160
Speaker 1: be his name. Along with that, when we eventually do

1578
01:10:07,240 --> 01:10:11,439
Speaker 1: get married, we'll hyphenate our last name like that.

1579
01:10:11,479 --> 01:10:15,760
Speaker 4: Wasn't really a compromise, but but that is, there's the compromise.

1580
01:10:16,000 --> 01:10:17,040
Speaker 1: I will admit Redd.

1581
01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:18,240
Speaker 4: It got me a little in.

1582
01:10:18,240 --> 01:10:20,400
Speaker 1: My head and had me thinking we would break up

1583
01:10:20,439 --> 01:10:24,879
Speaker 1: over this. You don't say so. I was pretty emotional

1584
01:10:24,920 --> 01:10:28,000
Speaker 1: during this conversation. I know this isn't the super exciting

1585
01:10:28,040 --> 01:10:30,599
Speaker 1: update you guys wanted. I also showed him the post

1586
01:10:30,680 --> 01:10:32,840
Speaker 1: and he read some of the comments. This is a

1587
01:10:32,880 --> 01:10:37,360
Speaker 1: direct quote from him, something he wanted me to tell you, guys, quote,

1588
01:10:38,000 --> 01:10:41,040
Speaker 1: thank you for helping op. While I was being a

1589
01:10:41,080 --> 01:10:44,439
Speaker 1: wiener wiener, at least he could acknowledge, at least he

1590
01:10:44,560 --> 01:10:48,080
Speaker 1: know he's being a level seven wiener. Well, not level seven,

1591
01:10:48,120 --> 01:10:48,400
Speaker 1: let's not.

1592
01:10:48,520 --> 01:10:49,719
Speaker 4: Let's level five.

1593
01:10:49,760 --> 01:10:52,680
Speaker 1: I was gonna say like four, four or five. Yeah, yeah, Oh,

1594
01:10:52,720 --> 01:10:55,959
Speaker 1: we're call it level four weenie four, level four weenie.

1595
01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:57,080
Speaker 4: Oh four weenie.

1596
01:10:57,280 --> 01:11:00,160
Speaker 1: And by the way, we don't care what level you are.

1597
01:11:00,360 --> 01:11:02,519
Speaker 1: You can always join us when we go live on

1598
01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:07,240
Speaker 1: YouTube and Facebook and Twitch and TikTok every weekday at

1599
01:11:07,280 --> 01:11:09,519
Speaker 1: three pm PSC. I gotta do is tap our profile.

1600
01:11:09,920 --> 01:11:10,760
Speaker 4: I've been watching this.

1601
01:11:10,800 --> 01:11:14,400
Speaker 1: In the future, we may even be live right now. Well,

1602
01:11:14,439 --> 01:11:16,280
Speaker 1: that was spooky. We need more conversation.

1603
01:11:16,439 --> 01:11:18,680
Speaker 4: No, but I'm glad that they compromised because at first

1604
01:11:18,760 --> 01:11:20,160
Speaker 4: I was like, well, that's not a compromised but it

1605
01:11:20,160 --> 01:11:22,439
Speaker 4: doesn't seem like they compromise. And also it's not really

1606
01:11:22,479 --> 01:11:24,360
Speaker 4: an issue right now because they don't have kids. But

1607
01:11:24,400 --> 01:11:25,840
Speaker 4: I think ope, he just needs to keep an eye

1608
01:11:25,880 --> 01:11:27,960
Speaker 4: out on these other issues and see if he's actually

1609
01:11:28,000 --> 01:11:29,400
Speaker 4: willing to compromise on other things.

1610
01:11:29,520 --> 01:11:32,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, it's okay right now, let's finish this story.

1611
01:11:32,439 --> 01:11:34,960
Speaker 1: I don't really think he was being a weenie now

1612
01:11:34,960 --> 01:11:38,400
Speaker 1: that I've seen his side. But he's also worried he

1613
01:11:38,520 --> 01:11:40,120
Speaker 1: has people after him now.

1614
01:11:40,320 --> 01:11:40,679
Speaker 3: Lol.

1615
01:11:40,960 --> 01:11:43,320
Speaker 1: He really is a sweet guy and this wasn't anything

1616
01:11:43,320 --> 01:11:45,640
Speaker 1: to break up over. When we talked, he expressed that

1617
01:11:45,720 --> 01:11:48,599
Speaker 1: he was hurt because, as much as the tradition seemed silly,

1618
01:11:48,640 --> 01:11:50,760
Speaker 1: it was something he had always been looking forward to

1619
01:11:50,840 --> 01:11:53,479
Speaker 1: eventually doing. We're not engaged yet, but I have a

1620
01:11:53,520 --> 01:11:57,519
Speaker 1: feeling something might happen those CHARSMA. But yeah, I cannot

1621
01:11:57,520 --> 01:12:00,240
Speaker 1: believe how much that post blew up. And you guys

1622
01:12:00,280 --> 01:12:03,000
Speaker 1: really help me and Alex out. Thank you, Thank you

1623
01:12:03,080 --> 01:12:04,439
Speaker 1: all for the support.

1624
01:12:04,520 --> 01:12:07,559
Speaker 4: Honestly, you kind of figured it out in spite of

1625
01:12:07,600 --> 01:12:08,000
Speaker 4: our help.

1626
01:12:08,040 --> 01:12:11,400
Speaker 1: I think yeah, and we do. Some Top comments here

1627
01:12:11,400 --> 01:12:14,439
Speaker 1: from miss Fear. I'm personally happy when I see an

1628
01:12:14,479 --> 01:12:16,760
Speaker 1: update with no drama. I'm glad you were able to

1629
01:12:16,760 --> 01:12:19,520
Speaker 1: discuss it and compromise. It's a good sign for your relationship.

1630
01:12:19,600 --> 01:12:23,560
Speaker 1: External Expert twenty sixty nine. If he was uncompromising, I

1631
01:12:23,600 --> 01:12:27,000
Speaker 1: think it would be totally break up worthy. Fortunately it

1632
01:12:27,120 --> 01:12:31,000
Speaker 1: ended up completely different, and that's awesome. You both listened

1633
01:12:31,000 --> 01:12:32,800
Speaker 1: to each other and came up with a plan. As

1634
01:12:32,800 --> 01:12:35,240
Speaker 1: long as he doesn't call you an ale and a

1635
01:12:35,360 --> 01:12:37,840
Speaker 1: winer moving forward, this is solid. I don't know. Sometimes

1636
01:12:37,840 --> 01:12:39,320
Speaker 1: when I'm dating people, you got to you gotta tell

1637
01:12:39,320 --> 01:12:43,040
Speaker 1: people when they're being whiney babies. Sometimes well not saying that,

1638
01:12:43,439 --> 01:12:45,960
Speaker 1: not saying that Opie was being a whiney baby in

1639
01:12:46,000 --> 01:12:46,639
Speaker 1: this story.

1640
01:12:46,920 --> 01:12:49,320
Speaker 4: I think as long as he doesn't call you whiney

1641
01:12:49,400 --> 01:12:51,400
Speaker 4: moving forward, I think God, I think it depends on

1642
01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:53,400
Speaker 4: how you phrase it. Like if you're having a conversation

1643
01:12:53,439 --> 01:12:54,960
Speaker 4: and maybe you're being a little bit of a whiney

1644
01:12:55,000 --> 01:12:56,960
Speaker 4: baby and your partner goes, you're being a whiney baby,

1645
01:12:57,160 --> 01:12:58,720
Speaker 4: maybe not the best way to phrase that.

1646
01:12:59,080 --> 01:13:02,639
Speaker 1: So then and basically everyone on Reddit was like this guy,

1647
01:13:03,240 --> 01:13:05,240
Speaker 1: he's the worst break up with him. He called you

1648
01:13:05,280 --> 01:13:08,439
Speaker 1: a whiner and he won't give up plumpe butt, and

1649
01:13:08,520 --> 01:13:11,559
Speaker 1: Op's kind of like, guys, relax, Okay, that's funny, but

1650
01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:13,400
Speaker 1: like he's actually really cool and this is like not

1651
01:13:13,680 --> 01:13:15,320
Speaker 1: this is like the first time we've ever had like

1652
01:13:15,400 --> 01:13:16,080
Speaker 1: a disagreement.

1653
01:13:16,240 --> 01:13:19,639
Speaker 4: My girlfriend feels threatened by my female friend. She gave

1654
01:13:19,680 --> 01:13:22,760
Speaker 4: me an ultimatum. I, twenty six male, really need an

1655
01:13:22,760 --> 01:13:26,640
Speaker 4: outside perspective on a situation with my girlfriend twenty six female.

1656
01:13:26,680 --> 01:13:29,040
Speaker 4: For starters, my girlfriend and I have been together for

1657
01:13:29,080 --> 01:13:33,080
Speaker 4: three years. Throughout our relationship, things have been mostly good.

1658
01:13:33,240 --> 01:13:36,160
Speaker 4: Our schedules conflict a bit, and we've had our issues,

1659
01:13:36,200 --> 01:13:38,519
Speaker 4: but we make it work. By the way, this comes

1660
01:13:38,520 --> 01:13:41,400
Speaker 4: from Wallow's echo on the Okay storytime subpured it. So

1661
01:13:41,479 --> 01:13:43,640
Speaker 4: a big issue between us right now is over a

1662
01:13:43,640 --> 01:13:46,920
Speaker 4: good friend twenty female of mine. For clarity, I'll refer

1663
01:13:46,960 --> 01:13:50,640
Speaker 4: to this friend as Violet. For some context, me and

1664
01:13:50,880 --> 01:13:54,360
Speaker 4: Violet are part of a small friend group. There's two

1665
01:13:54,439 --> 01:13:56,720
Speaker 4: other people in the group. We met while attending a

1666
01:13:56,760 --> 01:13:58,440
Speaker 4: film festival around.

1667
01:13:58,080 --> 01:13:59,519
Speaker 1: Two years ago.

1668
01:13:59,760 --> 01:14:02,360
Speaker 4: We're all waiting in line to enter the theater. This

1669
01:14:02,439 --> 01:14:04,880
Speaker 4: line was long, and we all kind of naturally struck

1670
01:14:04,880 --> 01:14:08,360
Speaker 4: conversation and hit it off. We kept in contact afterwards.

1671
01:14:08,600 --> 01:14:12,320
Speaker 4: Everyone in the group is mostly long distance, so we

1672
01:14:12,360 --> 01:14:14,640
Speaker 4: can't hang out in person al together too much, but

1673
01:14:14,680 --> 01:14:17,720
Speaker 4: we talk daily and have weekly group gaming sessions and

1674
01:14:17,840 --> 01:14:21,640
Speaker 4: anime movie watch alongs. Violet lives the closest near me,

1675
01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:24,000
Speaker 4: pretty much in the next town over, so we see

1676
01:14:24,000 --> 01:14:26,240
Speaker 4: each other in person the most outside of the group's

1677
01:14:26,320 --> 01:14:29,479
Speaker 4: virtual meetups. I do want to mention that I invited

1678
01:14:29,520 --> 01:14:33,000
Speaker 4: my girlfriend to each virtual and in person meetups and

1679
01:14:33,040 --> 01:14:36,920
Speaker 4: she turned me down every time I try including her,

1680
01:14:37,000 --> 01:14:38,920
Speaker 4: but she doesn't want anything to do with it, in

1681
01:14:39,040 --> 01:14:42,280
Speaker 4: large part because she doesn't particularly care for our interests.

1682
01:14:42,600 --> 01:14:46,160
Speaker 4: Stuff like anime, manga or gaming is childish to her.

1683
01:14:46,240 --> 01:14:49,080
Speaker 4: She sounds freakingly. The movies we watch are mostly older

1684
01:14:49,120 --> 01:14:51,840
Speaker 4: era films and films that were restored, but she's not

1685
01:14:51,960 --> 01:14:54,439
Speaker 4: into those either. You don't have any interest together that

1686
01:14:54,479 --> 01:14:56,720
Speaker 4: are like aligned. She's like, I like to sit down

1687
01:14:56,720 --> 01:15:00,519
Speaker 4: and be silent. This disconnect between us was an issue

1688
01:15:00,560 --> 01:15:02,640
Speaker 4: before I even made this group of friends. More than

1689
01:15:02,680 --> 01:15:05,120
Speaker 4: three years and you don't have anything in common. It's

1690
01:15:05,120 --> 01:15:07,639
Speaker 4: not like she'll engage in these things to spend time together,

1691
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:10,120
Speaker 4: like I grew up on game nights. I'm not even

1692
01:15:10,160 --> 01:15:13,639
Speaker 4: talking about video games necessarily. I'm talking board games, card games,

1693
01:15:13,640 --> 01:15:16,280
Speaker 4: et cetera. But she doesn't care for that. She either

1694
01:15:16,360 --> 01:15:18,439
Speaker 4: shuts it down and goes off to do her own thing,

1695
01:15:18,640 --> 01:15:20,800
Speaker 4: or if she does actually watch something with me or

1696
01:15:20,800 --> 01:15:22,880
Speaker 4: play a game, then she makes it known that it's

1697
01:15:22,920 --> 01:15:25,680
Speaker 4: a chore for her, and she belittles whatever it is.

1698
01:15:25,800 --> 01:15:28,760
Speaker 4: Increasingly throughout she calls it joking, but it feels more

1699
01:15:28,800 --> 01:15:30,920
Speaker 4: like belittling. It gets to a point where I don't

1700
01:15:30,920 --> 01:15:34,000
Speaker 4: even enjoy it. Whatever we're watching or playing. That's so annoying.

1701
01:15:34,120 --> 01:15:35,880
Speaker 1: It just chriggered me so hard. Dude.

1702
01:15:36,000 --> 01:15:39,479
Speaker 4: I'm not particularly a huge fan of reality TV, but

1703
01:15:39,560 --> 01:15:42,639
Speaker 4: I still watch with her and try genuinely engaging because

1704
01:15:42,640 --> 01:15:44,760
Speaker 4: for me, it's not about the show so much as

1705
01:15:44,800 --> 01:15:48,240
Speaker 4: it's about spending some quality time together. Literally. So my

1706
01:15:48,280 --> 01:15:50,000
Speaker 4: friendship with the group has been a nice change of

1707
01:15:50,040 --> 01:15:52,479
Speaker 4: pace and has brought some balance, but it's becoming an

1708
01:15:52,479 --> 01:15:56,040
Speaker 4: ongoing issue in my relationship. Recently, the group has been

1709
01:15:56,040 --> 01:15:59,439
Speaker 4: putting together a trip to this upcoming anime con. This

1710
01:15:59,479 --> 01:16:01,840
Speaker 4: event for a weekend, so the plan was to stay

1711
01:16:01,840 --> 01:16:05,400
Speaker 4: together at an airbnb and split the cost. My girlfriend

1712
01:16:05,439 --> 01:16:07,879
Speaker 4: is outright against the trip because of Violet.

1713
01:16:08,080 --> 01:16:08,800
Speaker 1: She doesn't like my.

1714
01:16:08,720 --> 01:16:11,240
Speaker 4: Friendship with her and doesn't really seem to like Violet

1715
01:16:11,320 --> 01:16:14,840
Speaker 4: at all. She has general annoyance whenever violence involved and

1716
01:16:14,920 --> 01:16:17,360
Speaker 4: gets upset whenever I talk or hang out with her.

1717
01:16:17,479 --> 01:16:20,560
Speaker 4: We could be having a disagreement about something entirely unrelated,

1718
01:16:21,000 --> 01:16:24,320
Speaker 4: and somehow it'll always circle around to Violet. She also

1719
01:16:24,479 --> 01:16:27,960
Speaker 4: calls Violet a pick me girl. Obey's girlfriend is saying like, oh,

1720
01:16:28,240 --> 01:16:31,479
Speaker 4: Violent is a pick me girl and Nona, but it

1721
01:16:31,479 --> 01:16:35,759
Speaker 4: seems like OPI hasn't really mentioned hanging out with Violet

1722
01:16:35,880 --> 01:16:38,280
Speaker 4: or like, you know, any one on one stuff that much.

1723
01:16:39,280 --> 01:16:41,960
Speaker 4: It seems like she's just a girl and his friend

1724
01:16:42,160 --> 01:16:44,479
Speaker 4: and that's the only issue. Yeah, I don't know. The

1725
01:16:44,520 --> 01:16:48,600
Speaker 4: girlfriend is so viscerally bad viscerally. When the trip was

1726
01:16:48,640 --> 01:16:51,280
Speaker 4: first put together, I invited my girlfriend. She had no

1727
01:16:51,320 --> 01:16:54,160
Speaker 4: interest in coming and later expressed an issue with me going.

1728
01:16:54,360 --> 01:16:56,080
Speaker 4: She doesn't like that I'd be staying in the same

1729
01:16:56,120 --> 01:16:59,040
Speaker 4: house as Violet during the trip. I offered a compromise

1730
01:16:59,120 --> 01:17:01,679
Speaker 4: of me just booking a hotel and meeting up with everyone,

1731
01:17:02,080 --> 01:17:05,759
Speaker 4: but that wasn't an acceptable option for her either nothing.

1732
01:17:05,840 --> 01:17:08,160
Speaker 4: I propose She's willing to hear me out on it's

1733
01:17:08,240 --> 01:17:11,439
Speaker 4: all on deaf years because she knows Violet's going. The

1734
01:17:11,439 --> 01:17:14,000
Speaker 4: trip has become a major point of contention between us.

1735
01:17:14,120 --> 01:17:16,799
Speaker 4: She now says that it's proof that I have feelings

1736
01:17:16,800 --> 01:17:19,639
Speaker 4: for Violet because I keep defending her during arguments because

1737
01:17:20,000 --> 01:17:22,479
Speaker 4: she's his friend, and because I won't let the trip

1738
01:17:22,560 --> 01:17:24,880
Speaker 4: go because he wants to go on the trip. I

1739
01:17:24,920 --> 01:17:26,880
Speaker 4: haven't let the trip go because I would really like

1740
01:17:26,920 --> 01:17:29,479
Speaker 4: to attend the con. And it's rare that everyone in

1741
01:17:29,520 --> 01:17:32,400
Speaker 4: the group's schedules link up like this. Yeah, no one

1742
01:17:32,479 --> 01:17:35,320
Speaker 4: schedules link It's so hard to get people together.

1743
01:17:35,600 --> 01:17:37,840
Speaker 1: As soon as you get over like four people, it's

1744
01:17:37,840 --> 01:17:39,040
Speaker 1: like borderline impossible.

1745
01:17:39,200 --> 01:17:41,200
Speaker 4: I have to wrangle. I'm trying to host a Christmas party.

1746
01:17:41,160 --> 01:17:42,000
Speaker 4: I have to wrangle people.

1747
01:17:42,160 --> 01:17:42,360
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1748
01:17:43,560 --> 01:17:46,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've been texting everyone. I'm like, hey, you guys

1749
01:17:46,320 --> 01:17:48,920
Speaker 4: coming and my Christmas party and they're like, I don't know,

1750
01:17:48,960 --> 01:17:49,400
Speaker 4: And I'm like.

1751
01:17:49,439 --> 01:17:52,760
Speaker 1: Figure it out and you better bring I swear to

1752
01:17:52,800 --> 01:17:55,120
Speaker 1: God if you don't bring a homematee and when I'm

1753
01:17:55,200 --> 01:17:57,519
Speaker 1: kicking you out, you don't show up with the ornaments

1754
01:17:57,560 --> 01:18:00,679
Speaker 1: are so easy to make you don't even want ornaments? Yes, okay,

1755
01:18:00,760 --> 01:18:04,880
Speaker 1: she said it. She said it so wi. Yeah, you're

1756
01:18:04,920 --> 01:18:07,839
Speaker 1: like doing down And what if I do just want ornaments?

1757
01:18:08,360 --> 01:18:09,439
Speaker 1: What are you gonna do about it?

1758
01:18:09,640 --> 01:18:10,960
Speaker 4: You want me to buy them from Amazon?

1759
01:18:11,240 --> 01:18:14,559
Speaker 1: No, contribute to commercialism. We didn't want you to, as

1760
01:18:14,600 --> 01:18:17,439
Speaker 1: you said that. It just came out of it. No,

1761
01:18:17,560 --> 01:18:18,679
Speaker 1: don't buy them from Amazon.

1762
01:18:19,000 --> 01:18:20,600
Speaker 4: Consumerism contribute to that?

1763
01:18:20,760 --> 01:18:21,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, no, no.

1764
01:18:22,040 --> 01:18:25,439
Speaker 4: My girlfriend views it as me taking a getaway with Violet.

1765
01:18:25,840 --> 01:18:27,640
Speaker 4: She's firm on a position on the trip and has

1766
01:18:27,640 --> 01:18:28,680
Speaker 4: given me an ultimatum.

1767
01:18:28,880 --> 01:18:29,320
Speaker 1: Take it.

1768
01:18:29,360 --> 01:18:32,240
Speaker 4: Take the ultimatum, dumper. She said, I could do whatever

1769
01:18:32,240 --> 01:18:34,040
Speaker 4: I wanted, but know that if I went on the trip,

1770
01:18:34,120 --> 01:18:36,679
Speaker 4: then I'd be choosing Violet over her, and that she'd

1771
01:18:36,720 --> 01:18:39,599
Speaker 4: act accordingly. I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

1772
01:18:39,720 --> 01:18:41,640
Speaker 4: I'm not saying her feelings are invalid.

1773
01:18:41,880 --> 01:18:42,200
Speaker 1: They are.

1774
01:18:42,439 --> 01:18:44,639
Speaker 4: Her feelings are her feelings. But I feel that she's

1775
01:18:44,680 --> 01:18:47,760
Speaker 4: being unreasonable and that her insecurity about my friendship with

1776
01:18:47,840 --> 01:18:51,440
Speaker 4: Violet is baseless. I feel pulled in two different directions,

1777
01:18:51,520 --> 01:18:55,200
Speaker 4: and now this ultimatum, all I do is compromise in

1778
01:18:55,200 --> 01:18:57,760
Speaker 4: our relationship, and it just feels one sided. I don't

1779
01:18:57,840 --> 01:19:00,000
Speaker 4: understand why this one thing would be a deal breaker?

1780
01:19:00,280 --> 01:19:02,519
Speaker 4: How do I go about addressing this with her?

1781
01:19:02,560 --> 01:19:04,840
Speaker 1: Now, don't even waste your time doing break up with her.

1782
01:19:04,920 --> 01:19:07,040
Speaker 4: It's not that hard to go to things that you

1783
01:19:07,160 --> 01:19:09,960
Speaker 4: don't necessarily like. I've done it. You just don't have

1784
01:19:10,040 --> 01:19:11,519
Speaker 4: to complain about it. Like you don't have to go

1785
01:19:11,560 --> 01:19:14,400
Speaker 4: on it by to yourself. But like if a person says, hey, like.

1786
01:19:14,400 --> 01:19:16,439
Speaker 1: Come with me. But I feel like, if you don't

1787
01:19:16,479 --> 01:19:18,320
Speaker 1: like anime and you go to an anime con you're

1788
01:19:18,320 --> 01:19:21,240
Speaker 1: gonna hate it. If you already don't like anime and

1789
01:19:21,560 --> 01:19:24,600
Speaker 1: gain the anime convention, you actually are probably gonna have

1790
01:19:24,600 --> 01:19:26,320
Speaker 1: a terrible time but I've been to, or you're gonna

1791
01:19:26,360 --> 01:19:28,519
Speaker 1: learn to enjoy it. Yeah, those are the only two

1792
01:19:28,520 --> 01:19:30,400
Speaker 1: options you have. You're either gonna do a one eighty

1793
01:19:30,400 --> 01:19:30,680
Speaker 1: and be like.

1794
01:19:30,680 --> 01:19:32,800
Speaker 4: I actually like this, actually got a fine, or you're.

1795
01:19:32,680 --> 01:19:35,120
Speaker 1: Gonna be like that was like pulling teeth all day

1796
01:19:35,120 --> 01:19:37,799
Speaker 1: because I don't like it. Yeah, but you know whatever,

1797
01:19:37,840 --> 01:19:39,040
Speaker 1: then you're just a big whiny baby.

1798
01:19:39,080 --> 01:19:40,679
Speaker 2: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

1799
01:19:40,720 --> 01:19:43,720
Speaker 2: not on this page, search Okay story Time Clips on

1800
01:19:43,760 --> 01:19:45,599
Speaker 2: Facebook for more Okay back to the story.

1801
01:19:45,680 --> 01:19:48,360
Speaker 4: Cathartic argument says, so your girlfriend dislikes your friend group,

1802
01:19:48,439 --> 01:19:51,280
Speaker 4: your friend Violet, and thanks. Your interests are childish. My

1803
01:19:51,400 --> 01:19:53,760
Speaker 4: advice would be to date someone who actually seems to

1804
01:19:53,960 --> 01:19:56,120
Speaker 4: like you. And there is an update. I hope it's

1805
01:19:56,200 --> 01:19:57,080
Speaker 4: I broke up with her.

1806
01:19:57,040 --> 01:20:00,080
Speaker 1: Crossing my ear. I do too, honestly, Yeah, this is

1807
01:20:00,120 --> 01:20:02,840
Speaker 1: this girl sinks compared to Violet. I think it's time

1808
01:20:02,880 --> 01:20:04,000
Speaker 1: to spend time with Violet.

1809
01:20:04,240 --> 01:20:08,479
Speaker 4: Update I, twenty six male, wanted to give an update

1810
01:20:08,520 --> 01:20:11,040
Speaker 4: on the situation with my girlfriend twenty six female and

1811
01:20:11,120 --> 01:20:14,200
Speaker 4: her ultimatum. First off, thank you to everyone who commented

1812
01:20:14,240 --> 01:20:17,000
Speaker 4: and reached out. I really appreciated the feedback. It gave

1813
01:20:17,040 --> 01:20:19,000
Speaker 4: me a lot to consider. I didn't get a chance

1814
01:20:19,040 --> 01:20:21,640
Speaker 4: to reply to comments, so I'll dress those questions in

1815
01:20:21,680 --> 01:20:23,920
Speaker 4: this update as well. A lot of people asked how

1816
01:20:23,920 --> 01:20:27,400
Speaker 4: my girlfriend and I even got together. She's hot, that's it.

1817
01:20:27,400 --> 01:20:28,880
Speaker 1: It's hot. She's got a hot house.

1818
01:20:29,160 --> 01:20:31,000
Speaker 4: We knew each other back in high school, but we

1819
01:20:31,000 --> 01:20:33,280
Speaker 4: didn't move in the same oracles. We actually ended up

1820
01:20:33,320 --> 01:20:35,439
Speaker 4: going to the same college and bumped into each other

1821
01:20:35,520 --> 01:20:37,679
Speaker 4: at a party, so I think that's where our initial

1822
01:20:37,680 --> 01:20:40,519
Speaker 4: connection began. We were in the big college pond, and

1823
01:20:40,560 --> 01:20:43,639
Speaker 4: having a familiar face from back home made adjusting easier.

1824
01:20:43,880 --> 01:20:46,679
Speaker 4: We didn't start dating until later, though things felt more

1825
01:20:46,720 --> 01:20:49,240
Speaker 4: like mutual respect back then. It was after we got

1826
01:20:49,280 --> 01:20:52,880
Speaker 4: together that it was almost like this overnight complete intolerance.

1827
01:20:53,240 --> 01:20:55,719
Speaker 4: I was also asked why she considered my friend Violet

1828
01:20:55,800 --> 01:20:58,599
Speaker 4: twenty eight female a pick me girl. I honestly don't

1829
01:20:58,680 --> 01:21:00,760
Speaker 4: know the definition as I know, Oh, it doesn't fit

1830
01:21:00,880 --> 01:21:03,439
Speaker 4: Violet in my opinion. When I asked my girlfriend, she

1831
01:21:03,560 --> 01:21:05,960
Speaker 4: only said that a woman knows another woman.

1832
01:21:06,280 --> 01:21:10,520
Speaker 1: A woman knows one of those things you wouldn't understand.

1833
01:21:10,600 --> 01:21:10,920
Speaker 4: Stand.

1834
01:21:11,439 --> 01:21:15,320
Speaker 1: Woman knows another woman as a man knows this man

1835
01:21:15,840 --> 01:21:17,479
Speaker 1: Frumpelbot knows his own.

1836
01:21:17,680 --> 01:21:21,599
Speaker 4: She won't elaborate, she never pinpoints specifics. My girlfriend was

1837
01:21:21,640 --> 01:21:23,240
Speaker 4: known to have a bit of a mean girl's side

1838
01:21:23,240 --> 01:21:25,519
Speaker 4: back in high school. TVH, why did you date her?

1839
01:21:25,600 --> 01:21:28,000
Speaker 4: We discussed this before we started dating, and she seemed

1840
01:21:28,000 --> 01:21:30,160
Speaker 4: to work through that in college. But now it feels

1841
01:21:30,200 --> 01:21:32,559
Speaker 4: like that side very much shows whenever it comes to

1842
01:21:32,600 --> 01:21:36,960
Speaker 4: my interests or with anything involving Violet. In regard to

1843
01:21:37,160 --> 01:21:40,320
Speaker 4: the ultimatum, I went back and forth on what I

1844
01:21:40,320 --> 01:21:42,920
Speaker 4: should do and what I wanted for me individually in

1845
01:21:43,000 --> 01:21:45,960
Speaker 4: for my relationship. I decided to still go on the

1846
01:21:46,000 --> 01:21:49,479
Speaker 4: group trip. Stand you're a ground standing. I do believe

1847
01:21:49,520 --> 01:21:52,920
Speaker 4: compromise is a part of relationship, but this ultimatum isn't that.

1848
01:21:53,240 --> 01:21:55,680
Speaker 4: It's an attempt to bulldoze in order to have control

1849
01:21:55,840 --> 01:21:58,879
Speaker 4: instead of working together exactly. I had to ask myself,

1850
01:21:58,920 --> 01:22:01,720
Speaker 4: if I did go along with this ultimatum, then what

1851
01:22:01,760 --> 01:22:04,800
Speaker 4: will it lead to? What stops other ultimatums against my

1852
01:22:04,880 --> 01:22:07,519
Speaker 4: interests or whenever she sees fits. I still wanted to

1853
01:22:07,560 --> 01:22:09,880
Speaker 4: give another shot at working things out, so I had

1854
01:22:09,880 --> 01:22:12,120
Speaker 4: that talk with my girlfriend and let her know of

1855
01:22:12,200 --> 01:22:14,599
Speaker 4: my intentions of going on the trip. I told her

1856
01:22:14,640 --> 01:22:17,360
Speaker 4: that I understand her feelings and that she does matter

1857
01:22:17,400 --> 01:22:19,960
Speaker 4: to me, but I felt that this ultimatum wasn't healthy

1858
01:22:20,000 --> 01:22:23,200
Speaker 4: going forward for anyone involved. I again invited her to

1859
01:22:23,240 --> 01:22:25,680
Speaker 4: come on the trip with her either staying with us

1860
01:22:25,720 --> 01:22:28,599
Speaker 4: at the airbinb or her and I staying at a hotel,

1861
01:22:28,760 --> 01:22:30,760
Speaker 4: and I thought the trip could be good for us.

1862
01:22:31,040 --> 01:22:33,240
Speaker 1: That was a no go. You tried, so you tried,

1863
01:22:33,240 --> 01:22:34,920
Speaker 1: say you did. You tried your best.

1864
01:22:35,240 --> 01:22:37,960
Speaker 4: There wasn't any compromise she was willing to accept. She

1865
01:22:38,040 --> 01:22:40,280
Speaker 4: was still firm on the ultimatum and said she made

1866
01:22:40,280 --> 01:22:42,920
Speaker 4: her position clear and if I was still going on

1867
01:22:42,960 --> 01:22:46,160
Speaker 4: the trip, then there was nothing more to discuss. She

1868
01:22:46,240 --> 01:22:49,000
Speaker 4: kept repeating on and off that she hopes choosing Violet

1869
01:22:49,120 --> 01:22:51,320
Speaker 4: was with it. I told her I had nothing to

1870
01:22:51,360 --> 01:22:53,479
Speaker 4: do with Violet and that she was the one making

1871
01:22:53,520 --> 01:22:57,599
Speaker 4: an entire group trip about Violet. The discourse wasn't anything productive.

1872
01:22:57,960 --> 01:23:00,280
Speaker 4: I asked her if she would please reconsider the situation.

1873
01:23:00,560 --> 01:23:02,920
Speaker 4: She said there was nothing to reconsider and that the

1874
01:23:03,040 --> 01:23:05,479
Speaker 4: choice is in my hands. I asked if we could

1875
01:23:05,479 --> 01:23:08,439
Speaker 4: talk again after the con to see how we were feeling,

1876
01:23:08,920 --> 01:23:12,559
Speaker 4: and her exact words were the only conversation I'll be

1877
01:23:12,600 --> 01:23:15,360
Speaker 4: having is with the walls because she won't be in

1878
01:23:15,360 --> 01:23:16,839
Speaker 4: our place anymore when I get.

1879
01:23:16,640 --> 01:23:20,200
Speaker 1: Back, just like every conversation I have when I'm alone,

1880
01:23:20,240 --> 01:23:26,760
Speaker 1: because I only speak wall. I enjoy silence and walls.

1881
01:23:27,200 --> 01:23:31,280
Speaker 1: I will not tolerate your games, but i'm your activities.

1882
01:23:31,479 --> 01:23:33,320
Speaker 4: But you know what I want to tolerate you guys not

1883
01:23:33,400 --> 01:23:35,280
Speaker 4: joining us live every weekday, that it'd be a ps

1884
01:23:35,320 --> 01:23:37,160
Speaker 4: D on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok.

1885
01:23:37,240 --> 01:23:37,719
Speaker 1: It's crazy.

1886
01:23:37,880 --> 01:23:38,799
Speaker 3: Just have a robile.

1887
01:23:39,479 --> 01:23:40,120
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1888
01:23:40,240 --> 01:23:40,760
Speaker 4: You don't do that.

1889
01:23:41,120 --> 01:23:42,759
Speaker 1: And you know what, if you're watching this in the future,

1890
01:23:42,840 --> 01:23:44,519
Speaker 1: we could be live right now. Just go check. So

1891
01:23:44,560 --> 01:23:47,400
Speaker 1: go check. Do it, please do it? Maybe, but there's

1892
01:23:47,439 --> 01:23:48,120
Speaker 1: a little bit left.

1893
01:23:48,200 --> 01:23:50,640
Speaker 4: Honestly, I have nothing more to say than break up,

1894
01:23:50,800 --> 01:23:52,160
Speaker 4: which seems like you're kind of doing.

1895
01:23:52,439 --> 01:23:54,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, it seems like she kind of almost did

1896
01:23:54,000 --> 01:23:56,000
Speaker 1: it for you, almost did it for you, Like we're

1897
01:23:56,400 --> 01:24:00,360
Speaker 1: splitting up. Just you go to that Violet convention. And

1898
01:24:00,400 --> 01:24:02,719
Speaker 1: he's like, I mean, I'm not going to a Violet convention.

1899
01:24:03,000 --> 01:24:05,840
Speaker 1: I'm going to the Anime con with like eight other

1900
01:24:05,880 --> 01:24:08,040
Speaker 1: people and Violet. Are we breaking up?

1901
01:24:08,160 --> 01:24:11,000
Speaker 4: She's like, I mean, yeah, well, okay, see you never

1902
01:24:11,240 --> 01:24:13,679
Speaker 4: but there's a little bit left. Ever since then, she's

1903
01:24:13,720 --> 01:24:15,559
Speaker 4: barely said a word to me, and my texts are

1904
01:24:15,640 --> 01:24:18,400
Speaker 4: left on red. So I guess I'm unofficially being given

1905
01:24:18,439 --> 01:24:21,080
Speaker 4: the silent treatment. I don't understand why it has to

1906
01:24:21,120 --> 01:24:23,479
Speaker 4: be this way. We should be able to communicate. I

1907
01:24:23,520 --> 01:24:27,479
Speaker 4: don't feel equally supported, seen, or appreciated in this relationship anymore.

1908
01:24:27,800 --> 01:24:30,680
Speaker 4: It's a mess. But a lot of the feedback I

1909
01:24:30,760 --> 01:24:33,080
Speaker 4: received on here and the recent argument has been a

1910
01:24:33,080 --> 01:24:35,200
Speaker 4: wake up call, and there has to be some kind

1911
01:24:35,200 --> 01:24:36,920
Speaker 4: of change. I do think the trip would be a

1912
01:24:37,000 --> 01:24:40,200
Speaker 4: nice refresher, and it's my intent to still go. I

1913
01:24:40,240 --> 01:24:43,360
Speaker 4: don't believe I'll be any better off not going. TVH

1914
01:24:43,400 --> 01:24:46,880
Speaker 4: thank you to everyone again and relevant comments I so

1915
01:24:47,040 --> 01:24:49,400
Speaker 4: read it, says, so I guess I'm unofficially being given

1916
01:24:49,400 --> 01:24:53,200
Speaker 4: the silent treatment. No, you're being dumped, but that's okay.

1917
01:24:53,360 --> 01:24:57,000
Speaker 4: Efficiency Forsake in ninety six says, before you go, make

1918
01:24:57,000 --> 01:24:59,799
Speaker 4: sure anything valuable that you don't want to lose, births

1919
01:24:59,880 --> 01:25:03,680
Speaker 4: or certificates, oh my god, passports, important photos, anything that

1920
01:25:03,720 --> 01:25:06,320
Speaker 4: can't be replaced, is not in the house. She sounds

1921
01:25:06,360 --> 01:25:08,000
Speaker 4: like the kind of person who might do some damage

1922
01:25:08,000 --> 01:25:10,200
Speaker 4: while you're away. Take pictures of the whole house to

1923
01:25:10,280 --> 01:25:12,839
Speaker 4: prove it's in a state of good repair. You shouldn't

1924
01:25:12,840 --> 01:25:14,960
Speaker 4: have to make these kinds of preparations, but it's better

1925
01:25:15,000 --> 01:25:17,880
Speaker 4: to be prepared than surprised. Have fun at the corn.

1926
01:25:18,240 --> 01:25:20,720
Speaker 4: Bippity boppity Nope says, put all your valuables in a

1927
01:25:20,760 --> 01:25:23,519
Speaker 4: safe place, not in the house, because she's gonna trash

1928
01:25:23,560 --> 01:25:25,840
Speaker 4: the crap out of your house when you leave. I

1929
01:25:25,880 --> 01:25:28,360
Speaker 4: did not get that line, but I don't know either.

1930
01:25:28,760 --> 01:25:31,160
Speaker 1: I don't think she might like, try to put a

1931
01:25:31,200 --> 01:25:34,240
Speaker 1: spell on you. Mabe smell. She might try to cast

1932
01:25:34,240 --> 01:25:34,639
Speaker 1: a spell.

1933
01:25:34,880 --> 01:25:36,759
Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story. And it seems

1934
01:25:36,760 --> 01:25:39,040
Speaker 4: like they're broken up or almost half broken up.