WEBVTT - What's next for you today?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to ask what's next for you today?

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<v Speaker 1>When you're in a conversation that has stopped going anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>This one little phrase can move things forward, but without

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<v Speaker 1>seeming rude. We have all found ourselves in conversations that

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<v Speaker 1>start out meaningful and then end up retreading the same

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<v Speaker 1>ground over and over again. Maybe your conversation partner starts

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<v Speaker 1>meandering when they're nervous or worked up about an issue,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe they're just avoiding going to do a difficult project.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes the conversation itself is fine, but you need to

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<v Speaker 1>make a call, or you're trying to get out on time.

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<v Speaker 1>There are all sorts of reasons that a conversation needs

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<v Speaker 1>to be moved along, and unfortunately this can feel awkward

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<v Speaker 1>saying okay, I gotta go and feel abrupt. Or we

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<v Speaker 1>make some excuse like I have to go answer an

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<v Speaker 1>email that sounds not entirely authentic because when have we

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<v Speaker 1>ever not needed to answer an email? Or you start

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<v Speaker 1>trying to surreptitiously check the time. Trust me, everyone notices.

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<v Speaker 1>So rather than that Try this little phrase the next

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<v Speaker 1>time you get the chance to talk what's next for

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<v Speaker 1>you today? You can transition to this however you want

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<v Speaker 1>fascinating story, what's next for you today? Or I love

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<v Speaker 1>how passionate you are about this what's next for you today?

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<v Speaker 1>Or yes, I agree, we definitely need Kim involved in

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<v Speaker 1>this project. I'll send her a note what's next for

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<v Speaker 1>you today? This phrase does a few good things. First,

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<v Speaker 1>it is a fairly straightforward question. Unless you are at

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<v Speaker 1>a late night function, there usually is something else going

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<v Speaker 1>on in the day. If you're at work, or at

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<v Speaker 1>the bus stop, or at school pickup or at a

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<v Speaker 1>kids activity, there is no doubt something next in the

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<v Speaker 1>day for everyone. You are asking what that is. Second,

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<v Speaker 1>you keep the conversation focused on your partner. You are

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<v Speaker 1>not ending the conversation because you have something better to do.

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<v Speaker 1>You're just asking them what's next in their day. But

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<v Speaker 1>this little question prompts them to think about what's coming

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<v Speaker 1>up and what else they need to do. You gently

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<v Speaker 1>let them know that the conversation is ending. It's time

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<v Speaker 1>to focus on what's ahead now. It is possible that

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<v Speaker 1>the reason the person is lingering is because they don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do whatever as next, but this trepidation might

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<v Speaker 1>come up, in which case you can offer support before

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<v Speaker 1>heading on your way. The conversation becomes more meaningful again,

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<v Speaker 1>which is at least better than what it was. You

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<v Speaker 1>could even decide to skip the today part of that

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<v Speaker 1>phrase if it doesn't fit well. If this is a

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<v Speaker 1>general getting to know you sort of conversation, asking what's

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<v Speaker 1>next for you without the today allows you to find

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<v Speaker 1>out something interesting about the person, what are their upcoming

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<v Speaker 1>hopes and desires? You figure out more specifically what you

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<v Speaker 1>can help with. That is better then conversational meandering. So

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<v Speaker 1>it is worth adding this phrase to your repertoire. You

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<v Speaker 1>can change the whole conversation quickly. If you have particular

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<v Speaker 1>phrases that you find helpful in conversations, please let me

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<v Speaker 1>know you and write to me at Laura at Laura

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<v Speaker 1>vander caam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening and here's to making the most of

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