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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to ask what's next for you today?
Speaker 1: When you're in a conversation that has stopped going anywhere.
Speaker 1: This one little phrase can move things forward, but without
Speaker 1: seeming rude. We have all found ourselves in conversations that
Speaker 1: start out meaningful and then end up retreading the same
Speaker 1: ground over and over again. Maybe your conversation partner starts
Speaker 1: meandering when they're nervous or worked up about an issue,
Speaker 1: or maybe they're just avoiding going to do a difficult project.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the conversation itself is fine, but you need to
Speaker 1: make a call, or you're trying to get out on time.
Speaker 1: There are all sorts of reasons that a conversation needs
Speaker 1: to be moved along, and unfortunately this can feel awkward
Speaker 1: saying okay, I gotta go and feel abrupt. Or we
Speaker 1: make some excuse like I have to go answer an
Speaker 1: email that sounds not entirely authentic because when have we
Speaker 1: ever not needed to answer an email? Or you start
Speaker 1: trying to surreptitiously check the time. Trust me, everyone notices.
Speaker 1: So rather than that Try this little phrase the next
Speaker 1: time you get the chance to talk what's next for
Speaker 1: you today? You can transition to this however you want
Speaker 1: fascinating story, what's next for you today? Or I love
Speaker 1: how passionate you are about this what's next for you today?
Speaker 1: Or yes, I agree, we definitely need Kim involved in
Speaker 1: this project. I'll send her a note what's next for
Speaker 1: you today? This phrase does a few good things. First,
Speaker 1: it is a fairly straightforward question. Unless you are at
Speaker 1: a late night function, there usually is something else going
Speaker 1: on in the day. If you're at work, or at
Speaker 1: the bus stop, or at school pickup or at a
Speaker 1: kids activity, there is no doubt something next in the
Speaker 1: day for everyone. You are asking what that is. Second,
Speaker 1: you keep the conversation focused on your partner. You are
Speaker 1: not ending the conversation because you have something better to do.
Speaker 1: You're just asking them what's next in their day. But
Speaker 1: this little question prompts them to think about what's coming
Speaker 1: up and what else they need to do. You gently
Speaker 1: let them know that the conversation is ending. It's time
Speaker 1: to focus on what's ahead now. It is possible that
Speaker 1: the reason the person is lingering is because they don't
Speaker 1: want to do whatever as next, but this trepidation might
Speaker 1: come up, in which case you can offer support before
Speaker 1: heading on your way. The conversation becomes more meaningful again,
Speaker 1: which is at least better than what it was. You
Speaker 1: could even decide to skip the today part of that
Speaker 1: phrase if it doesn't fit well. If this is a
Speaker 1: general getting to know you sort of conversation, asking what's
Speaker 1: next for you without the today allows you to find
Speaker 1: out something interesting about the person, what are their upcoming
Speaker 1: hopes and desires? You figure out more specifically what you
Speaker 1: can help with. That is better then conversational meandering. So
Speaker 1: it is worth adding this phrase to your repertoire. You
Speaker 1: can change the whole conversation quickly. If you have particular
Speaker 1: phrases that you find helpful in conversations, please let me
Speaker 1: know you and write to me at Laura at Laura
Speaker 1: vander caam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening and here's to making the most of
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