1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:09,480 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:16,320 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:19,159 Speaker 1: tip is that if there is something you have to 4 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 1: do that you are not excited about, try to get 5 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 1: excited about it. Sometimes we can opt out of things, 6 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:31,440 Speaker 1: but when that is not possible, generating some enthusiasm might 7 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: make the experience less miserable. So there is a common 8 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: saying which some folks have attributed to outward Bound, that 9 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:41,639 Speaker 1: if you can't get out of it, get into it. 10 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: Once you are out in the wilderness miles away from civilization, 11 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 1: you can't exactly refuse to sleep outside or refuse to 12 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: deal with the rain. So if you can't get out 13 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 1: of it, you're better off trying to enjoy what you can. 14 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: Nursing a sense of misery will just lead to more suffering, 15 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: whereas if you look for at least something good, you 16 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: can probably find it. I think if you can't get 17 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: out of it, get into it is a good motto 18 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: for lots of contexts. Once you are doing something, complaining 19 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: about it or sulking generally will make the next few 20 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: hours a lot less fun than if you at least 21 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:30,400 Speaker 1: try to have fun. Now. I'm not saying you will 22 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: generate any future enthusiasm for the thing, or that somebody 23 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:37,120 Speaker 1: shouldn't have behaved differently and not gotten you into this situation. 24 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: But given the situation, you have a choice about how 25 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: to approach the next stretch of time. So, for instance, 26 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: if your friend desperately wants to go bowling for her 27 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: birthday and this is truly not your thing, you could 28 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: feign having the flu to get out of it. But 29 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: if you are not doing that, once you are at 30 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: the bowlingen, you may as well act like bowling is 31 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: your favorite thing on the planet. Celebrate every time you 32 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 1: manage to knock down a pin, take lots of photos 33 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: of yourself hamming it up with those funny shoes. You 34 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:16,640 Speaker 1: are going bowling because you love your friend, so you 35 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 1: may as well also give her the gift of seeming 36 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: to have a good time. Or maybe you are going 37 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: to Disney World with extended family, even though you dread 38 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:32,080 Speaker 1: it because you don't like lines, humidity, or over stimulation. 39 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 1: Once you have decided to get on the plane to Orlando, 40 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: none of that dread matters. Put on your Mickey Mouse ears, 41 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 1: take a photo of all of you in your matching 42 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: family shirts in front of It's a small world. Go 43 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 1: on Space Mountain with your nephew and buy him a 44 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: commemorative flashlight. It will all be over soon enough. This 45 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,799 Speaker 1: can even be a good motto in a professional context. 46 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: Maybe you are staffed on a project in a city 47 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: you don't particularly wish to spend any time in. Be 48 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: that as it may. I'm sure it has some charms, 49 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: So try the best restaurants in town and see the 50 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:16,720 Speaker 1: tourist attraction during a break from work. I mean, your 51 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: clients live there, so it might be good to at 52 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 1: least try to generate some enthusiasm for the place. Now. 53 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: There is no point in suffering if you don't need to. 54 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 1: If you can opt out of something without causing harm 55 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: or deep disappointment, then you can do so. But once 56 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: you are in, you may as well be in. You 57 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: will probably have a better time if you go all in. 58 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: Then if you devote your energy to nursing your distaste 59 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: for the activity afterwards, maybe you can figure out something 60 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 1: where you never have to do this thing again. But 61 00:03:54,800 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: for now, best to embrace it. In the meantime, this 62 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the 63 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. 64 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach 65 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast 66 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 1: is a production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, 67 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:37,719 Speaker 1: please visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you 68 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 1: listen to your favorite shows.