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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour.

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Speaker 2: Here we are again.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us, and we are

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Speaker 1: so excited to be here, right Kathy, Oh, we.

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Speaker 3: Are so excited.

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Speaker 4: And if you have not done it yet, I don't

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Speaker 4: know where you've been or what you're doing, but now's

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Speaker 4: the time to follow our podcast because you don't want

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Speaker 4: very special guest our og bachelorette Trista sutter Hi. Trista,

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Speaker 4: welcome to the podcast. Thanks so much for being here,

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Speaker 4: Thanks for having me so we are so excited to

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Speaker 4: have you, not only you are the most senior and

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Speaker 4: lovely of all the bachelorettes.

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Speaker 5: Well, first of all, I have to address the fact

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Speaker 5: that you called me the most senior. I don't know

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Speaker 5: if that's true.

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Speaker 1: The most seen or it was not age just like

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Speaker 1: she was one of the first chat No, no.

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Speaker 6: No, can we redo that?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 7: I love it. I think it's hysterical.

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Speaker 5: I would say yes, I would say I am definitely

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Speaker 5: when you when you talk about successful relationships, at least,

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Speaker 5: maybe that's where I come in as the most senior,

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Speaker 5: and I have been called the fairy godmother.

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Speaker 2: So you kind of are.

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Speaker 5: I don't know if that's because I'm always older than

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Speaker 5: everybody who's in the room related to Bachelor Nation.

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Speaker 6: But anymore, we got that the same when I first

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Speaker 6: started watching The Bachelor, you stand out like I loved

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Speaker 6: watching your season.

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Speaker 4: I loved watching your love story. And of course back

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Speaker 4: then I didn't know you. So you know, to have

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Speaker 4: gotten to know you a little bit and and meet

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Speaker 4: your husband and talk about your family and your kids,

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Speaker 4: and then seeing you at the wedding, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Know, it's just like a close circle for me. I

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Speaker 3: just yeah, I love that.

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Speaker 7: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I remember you coming into the mansion while we were

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Speaker 1: doing the Golden and it was like, so.

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Speaker 3: Leslie was all over you.

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Speaker 6: We knew everything about she had your stats down.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that was super fun. I was the man that

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Speaker 5: was That was so much fun. I mean, the mansion

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Speaker 5: wasn't where I filmed the show, but I've been there

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Speaker 5: a couple of times. It's always fun to see it,

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Speaker 5: and then of course to meet all of you.

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Speaker 3: And did we look like deer in the headlights? Trista

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Speaker 3: do we look like the headlights.

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Speaker 5: Do you guys look super comfortable and you know, like

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Speaker 5: you were having the time of your lives. So it

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Speaker 5: was great to see in person. I loved that time.

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Speaker 5: I wish they had showed more of our conversation just

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Speaker 5: because it was a really good conversation, wasn't you know?

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Speaker 5: But pickleball was super fun afterwards.

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Speaker 2: And then I do have a question.

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Speaker 1: I have a question going back to the wedding. I

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Speaker 1: know on the TV when they show this, your husband

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Speaker 1: is whispering something in your ear during the ceremony.

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Speaker 2: Could you tell us what he was saying?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's a good story. So after the wedding,

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Speaker 5: I'll kind of preface all of this. So after the wedding,

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Speaker 5: I am on Instagram and someone I think sent me

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Speaker 5: a link or something like that to maybe a reddit.

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Speaker 2: A reddit or addit.

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Speaker 5: Someone had commented on something and they said something about

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Speaker 5: Ryan and it was definitely derogatory, like they were talking

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Speaker 5: negatively about my husband and I am I am a

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Speaker 5: mama bear, a wife, So I kind of pounced into

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Speaker 5: was he turned over or he whispered in my ear?

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Speaker 5: After gosh, I'm having to remember what this was. After

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Speaker 5: Gary said I am the luckiest man on earth or

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Speaker 5: on the planet or something like that, Ryan turned to

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Speaker 5: me and he said the second luckiest.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I knew it was special. Yes, all

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Speaker 2: your parts out there taping to your life.

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Speaker 3: Take that expression.

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Speaker 4: That is so sweet. But I want to ask you, Trista,

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Speaker 4: you because you are one of the first, and you

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Speaker 4: know you were dating and now you have, how many

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Speaker 4: children do you have?

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Speaker 3: What are their rageous?

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Speaker 5: We met them Max, Max and Blakesley. Max is sixteen

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Speaker 5: and Blakesley is turning fifteen tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: How over they Okay, so sixteen and fifteen.

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Speaker 4: I so obviously life and we'll get into that a

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Speaker 4: little bit later on the raging hormones.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So my question is what now that you're you're happily married,

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Speaker 4: you're raised, you're raising a family. What what dating advice?

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Speaker 4: Because there's so many younger ladies, you know, going through

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Speaker 4: this process, what is one piece of dating advice you

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Speaker 4: would have given or would give to your younger self?

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Speaker 2: What would you tell yourself?

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Speaker 5: That's a good question and it actually it's a question

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Speaker 5: I'd love to like share with my daughter after this,

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Speaker 5: because I really truly wished I could go Now. You know,

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Speaker 5: it's funny because I don't wish I could go back,

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Speaker 5: because I am where I am, because it's all the

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Speaker 5: things that happened to me, right exactly. So I wouldn't

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Speaker 5: change anything in that respect. But I wish I would

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Speaker 5: have known to believe more in me and invest more

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Speaker 5: in me and not just give in to a guy

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Speaker 5: because he was a guy that I wanted to date,

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Speaker 5: you know, like.

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Speaker 2: Actually yourself, be true to yourself, yeah.

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Speaker 5: Be true, well, be true to myself, and and never

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Speaker 5: don't really don't settle, you know. I feel like I

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Speaker 5: just wanted to date the boys that I was dating

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Speaker 5: because it was fun, they were cute, you know whatever.

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Speaker 7: I could go to dances with them or whatever.

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Speaker 5: And and I feel like I was just kind of

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Speaker 5: settling into a relationship because that's what I thought I needed.

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Speaker 7: But it's okay to be alone.

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Speaker 5: It's okay to like cultivate your personality and your self

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Speaker 5: worth before you are in a relationship.

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Speaker 4: You know this, Actually that question was our topic of

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Speaker 4: the day, Susan. I like to pick a topic to

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Speaker 4: talk about every day, but this particular question we talked about.

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Speaker 3: It should be like the topic of the lifetime.

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Speaker 4: Because all people face this, whether you're a woman or

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Speaker 4: a man, we all face this issue, and it's it's

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Speaker 4: just a resounding unanimous thing that we wish that we

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Speaker 4: didn't settle.

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Speaker 1: We wish about having confidence in yourself too, and I

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Speaker 1: think a lot of that comes with maturity as you

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Speaker 1: grow older. But you were quite young when you met him.

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Speaker 3: How old were you?

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Speaker 2: Been married for? How many years?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 7: So what happened?

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Speaker 5: I was actually one of the older people of the cast.

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Speaker 7: I was.

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Speaker 5: I turned thirty on The Bachelorette. I was I think

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Speaker 5: twenty eight when I did The Bachelor and turned thirty.

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Speaker 7: Like I celebrated my birthday.

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Speaker 5: People brought me like some of the guys brought me gifts,

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Speaker 5: which was kind of fun.

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Speaker 2: Did you your birthday suit?

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Speaker 3: Did you have a cupcake where you got to lick

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Speaker 3: the icing off? I know our minds the same place.

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Speaker 5: Well, you probably don't remember this or and you probably

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Speaker 5: wouldn't have been paying attention. But when my show came out,

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Speaker 5: it was actually really controversial and I got called every

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Speaker 5: name in the book, like, Oh, she's gonna slut and

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Speaker 5: she's going to be a hoe and you know, because

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Speaker 5: she's one girl and twenty five guys, they were.

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Speaker 3: Just jealous, Trista. They were just jealousy, right.

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Speaker 5: So I think because of that, I really held back

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Speaker 5: in terms of like physicality. Like there was one guy

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Speaker 5: named Jamie Blythe who asked me if he could have

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Speaker 5: a kiss one night, and I was like, maybe just

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Speaker 5: on the cheek. Like I literally told him maybe on

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Speaker 5: the cheek. I was not like that, everyone kisses the first.

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Speaker 2: Night, but.

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Speaker 7: It's crazy.

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Speaker 5: So anyway, I feel like I was just definitely very

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Speaker 5: reserved in terms of that because I was very aware

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Speaker 5: of the public perception, you know, and also my family

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Speaker 5: was watching and all of that. But so I was

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Speaker 5: I was thirty, I turned thirty on the show. We

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Speaker 5: got married when I was thirty one, and we've been

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Speaker 5: married for twenty years. I know.

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Speaker 2: So what's the secret of staying so happy and in love?

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Speaker 2: Share it?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 7: Oh gosh, I wish I knew.

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Speaker 2: No, it just works.

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Speaker 3: It could be a little bit.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I think there's definitely luck.

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Speaker 5: You know, I'm a religious person, and I feel like

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Speaker 5: there's a plan for me and him, and I mean

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Speaker 5: that's the only way I can really describe it is.

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Speaker 5: He was never meant to be on that show. He

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Speaker 5: is not the kind of person that you would think

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Speaker 5: would be on the show. Is very introverted and you know,

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Speaker 5: not social, doesn't like cameras, like none of the media stuff,

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Speaker 5: hates it, and so the fact that he was on

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Speaker 5: the show, I just feel like it was.

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Speaker 7: God, it was meant to be.

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Speaker 2: Yeah it is, yeah right, yeah.

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Speaker 4: So so you you know, you've been happily married, you're

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Speaker 4: raising these kids. But Susan and I love that you've

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Speaker 4: been so open about going through menopausea or joining our club. Why, honestly,

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Speaker 4: in a society where you know, we're have been taught

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Speaker 4: not to talk about those things, why has it been

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Speaker 4: so important for you to share this journey?

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Speaker 5: Because I feel like I have a voice, and it's

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Speaker 5: something that I know all of us are. You know,

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Speaker 5: all women are going to go through if you get

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Speaker 5: to be our ages luckily, you know. So I don't

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Speaker 5: want people to feel alone because it is not something

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Speaker 7: And if I can talk.

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Speaker 5: About it more and lessen the stigma of all that

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Speaker 5: we go through, why not. You know, I'm not embarrassed

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Speaker 5: by it. It's something that all of us go through

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Speaker 5: and I would love to be able to vent to

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Speaker 5: people and be like, oh, can you believe we have

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Speaker 5: to deal with this, that and the other thing, you know, like.

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Speaker 6: The hot glasses for ten years.

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Speaker 1: My biggest gripe about menopause is this inner tube around

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Speaker 1: my center, Like, I don't know where that comes from.

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Speaker 3: I can tell you spaghetti, No.

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Speaker 1: Not even in my starved six days a week, it

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Speaker 1: would still be the menopause changes your body.

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Speaker 5: You're so right and yours like you can't. You can't

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Speaker 5: create the muscle that you used to be able to

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Speaker 5: no matter how hard you work out.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I know.

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Speaker 5: People who do, like are really muscular, but I feel

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Speaker 5: like a big part of that is jeans. You know,

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Speaker 5: you've got the genetics for it. The worst part about

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Speaker 5: it for me is I cannot sleep.

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Speaker 4: That's amazing, Listen. I will tell you that doesn't get

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Speaker 4: better for me. Susan I talk about a lot because

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Speaker 4: she's always hot.

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Speaker 3: I'm always cold.

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Speaker 4: I did not go I went through menopause, but I

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Speaker 3: Hey, Craig, it's better than the alternative.

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Speaker 3: It's real.

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Speaker 2: Trust me.

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Speaker 4: My youngest child is thirty, she's turning thirty seven, and

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Speaker 2: Right, And they watch your show and you guys now.

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Speaker 5: And honestly, I don't know that they will. There's no

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Speaker 3: But but they'll come back. They will come back. They will,

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Speaker 7: Thank you, and it's really sweet.

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Speaker 1: Where do you think that communication skill came from? That

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Speaker 4: That how you kept It's got to be how you've

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Speaker 7: It is funny.

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Speaker 5: That's funny because my son just gave his girlfriend a

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Speaker 7: Her, and he's homantic, he is.

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Speaker 5: I was talking to a friend and told her about

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Speaker 5: And actually they were like no, Oryan's said no, I

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Speaker 3: So yes, you are proving you are proving the point.

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Speaker 4: You are proving the point that kids do what they see,

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Speaker 1: Than you, just not many, not many at all.

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Speaker 4: But do you have any questions for us? You have

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Speaker 5: But now, how long were both of you married?

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Speaker 4: I was married just short of forty six years, so

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and learned a lot about my question, that's that's amazing.

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Speaker 7: Especially when the kids move away?

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Speaker 2: For me, it's not to hold things in.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that I'm not liking, Like that was my mistake

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think for me, Trista, I when my kids left,

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Speaker 5: No.

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Speaker 4: Never, No marriage is a walk in the park. It

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Speaker 1: Matter that Ryan left his socks on the ground. It's

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, well with all that being said, can

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I love this is about a relationship.

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Speaker 1: Would you rather Okay, okay, Kathy, you want to read

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Speaker 4: Okay, Trista, would you rather be surprised with flowers or

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Speaker 5: Well, I don't know if I can answer this, because

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Speaker 4: Ah.

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Speaker 2: No, wonder you're keeping him.

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Speaker 4: He's my husband, did all the cooking to Trista, we

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Speaker 5: I would much rather Actually he did this the other day.

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Speaker 2: lot of money. Yeah right, Valentine.

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Speaker 4: Let me let me just tell you, flowers go crazy.

448
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Speaker 4: They upped the price. Valentine's Day weddings and funerals stay

449
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Speaker 4: away from those three.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let your partner choose every movie you watched together,

451
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Speaker 1: or pick every restaurant.

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Speaker 2: Would you rather him do all those things?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: Would you rather the restaurants?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he's he's either going to pick all the movies

456
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Speaker 4: or he's going to pick every restaurant.

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Speaker 7: Which would you me the restaurants?

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Speaker 5: Because I'm very particular about my movies. He gets so

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Speaker 5: frustrated because We'll be sitting on the couch and I'm

460
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Speaker 5: like going through all the movies, like click, do the trailer.

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Speaker 7: Okay, next one, let's watch another.

462
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Speaker 6: Forty five minutes later, we still don't have a movie.

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Speaker 4: Ryan, say, Tristan, we just watched a movie. We watched

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Speaker 4: eighteen of them.

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Speaker 1: But with that all being said, I like a man

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Speaker 1: that doesn't say, well, whatever you want to do, whatever

467
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Speaker 1: you want to, where do you want to go once

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Speaker 1: in a while, pick something surprise us. Hey, babe, By

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Speaker 1: the way, we have reservations for eight fifteen on Saturday

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Speaker 1: night at We'll be like, wow.

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Speaker 4: So I thought you were going to be I thought

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Speaker 4: she was going to be. Logically here like exactly what

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Speaker 4: you just said, trist To. When you're picking out a movie,

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Speaker 4: you know it's and you're stuck with it, like three hours.

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Speaker 3: I hate this movie.

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Speaker 4: You're stuck, right, But at a restaurant, you can have sushi,

477
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Speaker 4: you can have hamburger.

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Speaker 3: I mean there's always something you can eat.

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Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, exactly, watant. The restaurant usually falls asleep during movies,

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Speaker 5: so yeah, that happens.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I'd rather pick the movies so that I can actually

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Speaker 5: be interested in whatever we're watching and I can find

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Speaker 5: something on the menu.

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Speaker 4: All right, Tristan, I'm going to give you one now

486
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Speaker 4: that's gonna slay you. Would you rather walk in on

487
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Speaker 4: your kids having sex or have them walk in on you?

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, come on, you gotta you gotta be

489
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Speaker 4: in conversation.

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Speaker 2: Do you have to choose one?

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Speaker 4: I don't think I can.

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Speaker 7: Oh, yeah, yeah, I mean I was definitely Chris. I can't.

493
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Speaker 7: I can't. I can't even think about it.

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Speaker 1: I told you to get I know, if I had to,

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Speaker 1: I would rather walk in on them than me.

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Speaker 7: I don't know, I don't.

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Speaker 4: I can't listen to that, Trista. I'm gonna make you

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Speaker 4: feel better. I'm gonna make you feel better. Your kids

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Speaker 4: are sixteen and almost fifteen. Happy birthday, almost right, that's

500
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Speaker 4: not for a few years yet, hopefully before you.

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Speaker 7: Have to well, so I hope.

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Speaker 4: So, I mean I could have asked her what they're

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Speaker 4: going to name their kids. I mean, it was just,

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Speaker 4: you know, I don't know that.

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Speaker 5: I mean, my daughter probably has a plan for what

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Speaker 5: she wants to name kids in the future. But no,

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Speaker 5: she doesn't have a boyfriend yet, so all good.

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Speaker 3: It's give her time.

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Speaker 2: Give her time.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So how about spend a romantic day at the

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Speaker 1: spa or take an adventurous road trip?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 7: I love both, me too.

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Speaker 5: So if it was like something I was doing with Ryan,

515
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Speaker 5: then definitely an adventurous road trip. If it was like

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Speaker 5: a me day or a girlfriend day, then the day

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Speaker 5: at the spot.

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Speaker 4: It's a romantic day at the spa. So I don't

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Speaker 4: think we're taking your girlfriends.

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Speaker 5: Just adventurous road trip. We love road tripping. We actually

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Speaker 5: used to have an airstream and have fun camping. Yes,

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Speaker 5: for sure, So any kind of road trip. It's like,

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Speaker 5: some of my favorite favorite family memories were us camping,

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Speaker 5: you know, all over but at Tristic.

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Speaker 4: Can I just say, Susan and I we were talking

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Speaker 4: about this earlier too. Your kids are not going to

527
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Speaker 4: remember the things they're going to remember, those epic trips.

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Speaker 4: They're going to say, remember when you know, my kids,

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Speaker 4: we took a road trip actually to Colorado, where you live,

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Speaker 4: and we took the kids on a bike trip and

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Speaker 4: we my kids still remember to this day because we

532
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Speaker 4: bike down this really steep hill and I'm a mama

533
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Speaker 4: bear like you, and I'm screaming, these young.

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Speaker 3: Kids aren't going to be able to get back up

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Speaker 3: the hill.

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Speaker 4: When we got to the bottom the hill, I was

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Speaker 4: fit to be tied outer my husband and said, what.

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Speaker 3: Were you thinking? How are we going to get these

539
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Speaker 3: kids back up the hill?

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Speaker 4: My husband said, what are you talking about, Kathy, It's

541
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Speaker 4: all it's all downhill. He said, it's all downhill. And

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Speaker 4: I looked behind me my kids and we all started laughing.

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Speaker 4: To this day, my kids remember that that adventurous road

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Speaker 4: trips are good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they're good.

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Speaker 1: Would you rather read your partners mine or have them

547
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Speaker 1: be able to read yours?

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Speaker 2: Last question?

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Speaker 1: Mine for sure, because he can't figure him out.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't tell everything.

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Speaker 5: You know he I mean, like I said, he's very

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Speaker 5: introverted and you know, doesn't always verbally express himself.

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Speaker 7: So one hundred percent.

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Speaker 5: I think I would much rather read his mind because

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Speaker 5: I feel like I'm pretty good at expressing myself.

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Speaker 4: So I know, I've met Ryan a few times and

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Speaker 4: he is introverted, and my husband's very introverted. Is that

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Speaker 4: and you're you're much more outgoing? Is that difficult for

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Speaker 4: you in your marriage?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 7: I feel like you know, they always say opposite a tract.

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Speaker 2: And introverts like extroverts.

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Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, I feel like it's No, it's it's not difficult,

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Speaker 5: except for like if we're at a function, you know,

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Speaker 5: and he feels like he's being like pressured in a

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Speaker 5: way to talk when he just doesn't have the energy

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Speaker 5: for it. But on the flip side of that, I

568
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Speaker 5: think we balance each other out. So in those moments

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Speaker 5: when he's not up for that kind of thing, like

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Speaker 5: a social.

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Speaker 7: A social.

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Speaker 5: Event, I can do most of the talking. Same with

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Speaker 5: like media, when you when you hear us or see

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Speaker 5: us doing interviews, mostly I'm talking, and not because I'm

575
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Speaker 5: any better at it. He is way better at speaking

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Speaker 5: and being eloquent and all of that, but he just

577
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Speaker 5: it's not his thing, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I could see that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I was just curious because that was in my marriage.

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Speaker 4: My husband actually relied on me at cocktail parties because

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Speaker 4: it was miserable for him, and I wondered if Ryan

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Speaker 4: felt the same.

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Speaker 1: But off the subject real quick. I don't remember people's names.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll never forget your face. And when my husband

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Speaker 1: and I, we would go back to each other, who

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Speaker 1: is that again?

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Speaker 3: I know?

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Speaker 2: I know? Or what's her name? Do you guys have

590
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Speaker 2: ones better than the other in your family?

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Speaker 7: Oh? He's way better than me.

592
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 3: Oh oh really, who are we? Who are we?

593
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Speaker 2: Trista?

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Speaker 4: She's thinking before when my husband I would go to

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Speaker 4: contail parties, literally on the way over. If it was

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Speaker 4: his office, he would say, Kathy, it's this person, this person,

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Speaker 4: and then and then if it was a group of

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Speaker 4: my friends, he would say, now tell.

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Speaker 3: Me who they all were? Who goes with?

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Speaker 6: Who?

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Speaker 5: You know?

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Speaker 3: He was very I mean, that's just that's just why

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Speaker 3: it's so fun.

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Speaker 1: Real quick, before we go, just in a couple words.

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Speaker 1: The finale at Joey season.

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Speaker 2: All right, so good.

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Speaker 5: I have watched every single season. Okay, actually maybe not one,

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Speaker 5: and I won't mention which one of it?

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Speaker 2: Okay, we will not.

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Speaker 5: I it's not yours, but I watched. I have watched

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Speaker 5: every season, and this is one of my all time favorites.

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Speaker 2: I think it's such.

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Speaker 7: I just adore him.

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Speaker 5: I think that he is so genuine and so kind

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Speaker 5: and so vulnerable and and you could tell that he

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Speaker 5: really truly like Cared. He reminds me a lot of Ryan,

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Speaker 5: and I had the best time with him at the wedding,

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Speaker 5: you know, whenever we talked. But he is just he is,

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Speaker 5: and he and Kelsey are just magic perfect, they are magic.

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Speaker 7: I'm so happy I don't get married they are.

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Speaker 3: What do you think, do you think they'll get married?

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Speaker 5: I do one hundred I do. I think that they

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Speaker 5: will get married. I and then the whole Daisy Kelsey thing,

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Speaker 5: like oh my love with dai Zy and how she

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Speaker 5: handled herself at the end and handled that situation and

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Speaker 5: was like lifting Kelsey up talking about her mom before

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Speaker 5: she went out, and.

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Speaker 1: It was beautiful, absolutely beautiful.

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Speaker 3: And the women.

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Speaker 4: You know, the criticism occasionally about Bachelor is there's just

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Speaker 4: too much feuding among the women.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 4: I loved seeing women support women. I loved it. It's

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Speaker 4: such a great lesson. It's something I would want my

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Speaker 4: young daughter to watch, just even that final episode, this

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Speaker 4: is how you do it.

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Speaker 5: We actually my daughter and I watched it together, so

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Speaker 5: she as you know, my daughter was there at the

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Speaker 5: wedding with me and Max, and we talked to Joey

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Speaker 5: for quite a bit, quite quite a while.

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Speaker 7: He had some great advice for her.

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Speaker 5: I don't ask me who it is because horrible memory,

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Speaker 5: but she is super invested in and so she was like, Mom,

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Speaker 5: can we finally like watch The Bachelor together? So we

645
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Speaker 5: made it a point we watched every Monday or Tuesday

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Speaker 5: or whenever we had time, and it was total bonding

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Speaker 5: and honestly, you're right. I think it was such a

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Speaker 5: great example.

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Speaker 2: Yea of what that.

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Speaker 4: Is a great place to leave this, Trista, I cannot

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Speaker 4: tell you how much we've enjoyed having you visit with

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Speaker 4: us today. Thank you so much, and this does it

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Speaker 4: for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thank

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Speaker 4: you really, Tristraph for joining us.

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Speaker 1: We really love chatting with you and we'd like to

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Speaker 1: do it more often.

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Speaker 2: Thank all of you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, and thank all of you for joining us again,

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Speaker 1: and be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we

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Speaker 1: have new episodes coming out every single week that you

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Speaker 1: won't want to miss and.

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Speaker 4: Please make sure submit your questions to us. You can

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Speaker 4: go to Bachelornation dot com or hit us up on

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Speaker 4: at Bachelor Happy Hour. We really look forward to hearing

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Speaker 4: from you and answering your questions and just reading your comments.

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Speaker 1: on the iHeartRadio app, or wherever you listen to your podcast.

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Speaker 2: We'll see you next week.

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Speaker 3: Take care,