WEBVTT - Not All Vibrators Are Created Equal Feat. Susan Bratton 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.520 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.440 She couldn't. She cleaned and cared for her children and 0:00:06.480 --> 0:00:08.840 the man of the house, and of course she didn't 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:12.240 talk back. She was both obedient and soft by nature. 0:00:12.360 --> 0:00:15.600 She was a good woman who always made good choices. 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.639 That shit, we're good mom's bad choices. Who's single mom? 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:22.640 Who said fuck the patriarchy shared all their bad choices. 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:23.600 And sound out they were so bad. 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:26.600 After all, we're experts, overshares and your new besties. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:28.040 Sit back and enjoy the ride. 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:34.120 I can do it. Welcome back to good Mom's bad Choices. 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:35.640 I'm Erica and I'm Nila. 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:38.120 Happy motherfucking Wednesday. 0:00:38.040 --> 0:00:40.360 Happy Hemp Day, bitches. How are you feeling? 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:44.840 I feel good. I feel like I have my hair 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:46.880 slicked back, which I haven't done in a very long time. 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:49.519 And I was like, oh, there's my face. Yeah, like 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:52.199 I have a face. My hair is normally like covering 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:52.600 my whole. 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:53.520 Now I have a face. 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:56.319 It's true because I've been like slicking IRI's hair back, 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:58.000 and I was like, let me just let me see 0:00:58.000 --> 0:01:01.600 what's happening. And plus I my grays, so I was like, 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:03.160 oh my god, I have a limited amount of time 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:09.040 to capitalize on this middle part being totally dark. So 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:11.280 I don't know. I feel like, look, I'm giving a 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:14.240 shade moment today. If you're on YouTube, go check us out. 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:15.759 How are you. 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:19.880 I'm good, I'm feeling good. I yeah, I just shouted 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:21.920 and get back in the swing of things. Oh yeah, 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:24.880 we haven't really been. We haven't recorded in a couple 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:27.280 of weeks because we were on the road. We're about 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:29.360 to leave again. So yeah, it feels nice to be 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:31.399 back in the studio and just chilling, trying to get 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:35.520 my life together. I feel like adulthood is a constant, 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:42.960 like pendulum of balance of routine and dinner, and you're 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.880 on it, then you're not, and then I'm always always, 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:48.520 It's always like a forty sixty for me. Sometimes I'm 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:50.240 in the I'm in the thick of it, and I'm like, 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:52.040 oh yeah, And then sometimes I'm like, oh my god, 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:53.760 my house is a mess. I need to make dinner 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:55.920 again for the four hundredth day this week, and. 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:59.840 Fuck yeah, I don't want to eat anymore. I'm so 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:02.560 I wish I could just put one of those things 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:05.760 in my throat, like those tubes, just this feeding tube, 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:09.400 just feed me nutrition. I'm so fucking tired of figuring 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:11.560 out what the fuck I'm eating next. 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:12.720 I'm really over it. 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:14.760 I am too. I don't want to I like food. 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:16.680 I don't want to be fed by a tube. But 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:20.240 I think going on retreats really spoils me because we 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:24.120 get like three meals, delicious meals planned every day, breakfast, lunch, 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:27.160 and dinner. Sometimes they even come back gaining ten extra pounds. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:28.280 I'm like, look at that ass. 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:29.640 You know, did you gain ten pounds? 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:29.919 I don't know. 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:31.680 I don't really weigh myself in my head. I did 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:34.160 because I was eating so much in Jamaica and like 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.320 without even thinking about it, you know, And then here 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:38.680 I'm like food, fucking. 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:41.519 Shout out to our Jamaica tribe and all the ladies 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:44.360 that joined us at our Jamaica four to twenty retreat. 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:48.200 That was our first cannabis like focused retreat. And when 0:02:48.240 --> 0:02:52.120 I tell you, bitches can smoke men under the fucking table. 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:56.200 Like I've never seen women consume so much cannabis in 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:59.560 a five day period ever, so much so that I 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:02.880 got at infection. Afterwards, I came back with a heavy 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:04.920 coffee and I was like, why am I sick, and 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:07.760 then Aaron like sent me an eye cloud and there 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:10.679 were multiple photos of me in different outfits smoking three 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:13.080 blunts at one time, like in my mouth, like like 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.960 cheech and chong, and I was like, oh, that's why we. 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:18.760 Weren't fucking around. I'm pretty sure, like we you smoke 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:20.000 like two ounces of weed? 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:24.200 It was no, we smoked four ounces of weed, not 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:25.760 two ounces bade four. 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:28.000 Yeah, we were really getting it in and it was great. 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:29.760 I literally I was looking at pictures and I have 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:31.240 a picture on like sleep but there's another picture. 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:35.000 I'm like and shout out to Brushes and Buds Melissa 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:37.200 from Brushes and Buds and Buds in Jamaica, because she 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.040 not only hooked us up with a beautiful like what 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.280 is it a paint and smoke or steam and paint 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:45.400 situation where we learned how to smoke like the Rasta's 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:47.640 out there callice out of the chalice and the steam, 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:50.400 but she also blessed the group with a bunch of 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:54.000 different types of edibles. So there was like crownies, cookies, 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:56.320 then there were these teas and these bags of it. 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:58.600 But frozen drinks, frozen drinks. 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:02.000 And these bags and people just we're smoking, drinking the cannabis. 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:04.400 I was like, oh, was everyone standing? The only thing 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:06.080 we were missing was like some cream. We needed some 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:06.800 cannabis cream. 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:08.480 We always need to just bathe our bodies in it 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:09.800 because we were pretty high. 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:14.000 I led my first cannabis breath work workshop, which I 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:15.640 feel like I got to take around the world. Now 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:20.280 I feel like I feel like I've invented something that 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.640 I now need to go on a world tour breath 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:26.200 work cannabis workshop. So I'm pretty sure we are going 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.440 to be doing this, like probably annually. I think the 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:32.159 Cannabis for twenty retreat is a new staple of the 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:32.840 Good Vibe retreat. 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:35.400 I definitely want to go back, so I'm I'm sold. 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:36.720 I had a really good time. I had a really 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:41.479 good group of women with twenty women, and we just 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:43.520 did a lot of adventure, a lot of smoking, and 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:46.080 a lot of eating. And I am grateful because that 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:47.440 food was bomb. 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:50.279 And if this sounds like your vibe, we have another retreat. 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:52.279 It's not a cannabis retreat, but we be smoking there too. 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:56.720 We have two retreats in Costa Rica in July and August, 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:59.640 So if you want to join us, come We're actually 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:02.719 almost so hurry up and book it. Check out the 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:05.640 Good Vibratory. Click the link in this episode description and 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:10.440 put down your deposit, make payments, and join us because 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:13.359 we will feed you, we will get you high, and 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.120 we will heal you. 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:17.880 Don't make any excuses and don't get left behind. 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:18.599 Fomo's a bitch. 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:20.839 You will see us on Instagram having the time of 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:21.919 our lives in paradise. 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:22.560 Amen. 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:25.919 But today we have a very special guest, so I 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:29.280 didn't want to wait any longer. Today we have joining 0:05:29.360 --> 0:05:32.400 us the expert, the expert. 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:36.560 Intimacy expert millions of women around the world, Susan Bratton. 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:41.960 Hello, beauties, Hello, happy to be here, Welcome to the show. 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:45.880 I just adore you both so much. First of all, 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:48.000 you look beautiful, like in your shad. 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:48.680 Oh thank you. 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.640 That is just when you walked in this morning, I 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:56.240 was like, oh, she is so good. 0:05:57.839 --> 0:05:58.680 Yes, tell me more. 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:01.640 Oh I will, I can, I can literally keep on going. 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.640 And I didn't. I have never seen this little what do. 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:06.200 You call it, I don't know, like a lip adornment, 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:09.760 lip adornment. Shout out to what's her name in Costa Rica? 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:10.040 Essence? 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:11.200 I think essence. 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:13.760 Yeah, this woman in Costa Rica. Again, if you join 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:15.680 us in Costa Rica, you can get this lip adornment 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:20.159 only she makes beautiful, beautiful jewelry. 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:22.560 Like so pretty on you, thank you. Yeah, it's stunning, 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:25.200 especially with your hair back like that and the shape 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.080 of your face and then just that lip adornment. The 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:32.640 symmetry is really appealing. It looks really pretty and very 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:36.240 exotic and very like I don't know, like it definitely 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:38.359 wants me to make out with it like that is 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:39.720 the first thing I thought was, like, what would it 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:39.920 be like? 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:42.679 This is like this is this is a mature lip 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:45.359 like a tongue ring. I don't want to get a 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:47.440 tongue ring. This is like the next one and you 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:48.120 can take it off. 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:50.680 Yeah, I don't think you can make out with it. 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:53.279 I think you can, but it was the thing that 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:56.360 out but my hip was, oh, that'd be an interesting 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:57.280 thing to experience. 0:06:57.400 --> 0:06:59.040 Yeah, you know, and you can like swap it back 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:01.000 and forth, you know what I'm saying. 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:03.920 I love it. Yeah, and me let's got her Bindian. 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:06.160 She's got a pink beandion, so she's got her good 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.360 mom's bad choices bindi on. 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:10.440 I think that's what that is I like to wear 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:13.560 the Bendi's open up. My third eye activates some chakras. 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:14.200 I love it. 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:16.480 That sounds great. Yeah, so I'm very happy to be here. 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:20.200 I brought goodies. I brought so many goodies. And I 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:22.080 can't wait to see what you want to talk about, 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:24.880 because I do like to talk about lots of sexy stuff. 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:26.280 Well, I have a question because I was looking on 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:29.880 your website. Can you tell me what an orgasmonaut is? Yeah, 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:33.000 I said you are a self proclaimed orgasmonaut and I 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:34.800 was like, I like that term. Tell me more. 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:36.040 Yeah. 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.400 Well, and it's particularly good when I'm wearing like a 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:40.200 silver Licras spacesuit. 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:41.000 That would be great. 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:47.800 That's my favorite, of course. Room that is all costumes 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:48.400 in lingerie. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:49.200 Yea in my house. 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:53.119 Language comes in lingerie to my house. 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:56.200 Oh I'm so much bigger than you guys, your second 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:03.080 lovely But yeah, so when I was first. So this 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:05.720 is my second career. I've been In'smithy expert to millions. 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:07.600 And I didn't start out with the millions. Oh we 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:11.960 lost our book. I didn't start out with millions, but 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:13.440 I worked my way up to it over the last 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:15.680 two decades that I've been a sexpert, but it was 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:19.000 my second career, and it was my second career because 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.960 I fucked my husband for twelve years and never had 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:25.520 an orgasm, No Jesus, and you know, I could have 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:28.280 an orgasm with my vibrator, but I couldn't have an 0:08:28.360 --> 0:08:31.120 orgasm from intercourse. And I'm like, this is ruin, this 0:08:31.160 --> 0:08:33.679 is ruining my marriage. I mean like I was avoiding 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:35.800 him for sex I was given in mercy sex. I 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:37.800 was like, just do it from behind and get it 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:40.040 over with kind of thing. And it was shitty. We 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.680 were miserable. He was miserable. I was miserable. It wasn't good. 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:45.599 So we were like, well, what are we going to 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:48.160 do about it? Okay, well we'll read some books, we'll 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:51.520 go to some workshops, we'll talk to some therapists. We'll 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:55.360 see if we can figure this out. And that was 0:08:55.400 --> 0:08:57.760 really good for us to do, because, in all honesty, 0:08:57.800 --> 0:09:02.200 most women who don't have orgasm for intercourse think there's 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:05.160 something wrong with them. Oh, I just can't, and then 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:07.920 their husbands think, well, I guess she's broken. But I'm 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:10.280 still going a fucker, right, I mean, And this is 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:13.520 kind of what we where we were with that and 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:17.320 I was just recently watching a very big podcast with 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:20.040 a sexpert on it who was saying, you know, you 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:23.479 don't have to have orgasms, you can just enjoy the closeness. 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:28.400 I'm like, fuck that I'm allowed to say fuck right, Yeah. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.160 This is a space free space. 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:33.760 Space is a filled space. 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:36.040 Getting fucked over here saying fuck, we're getting fucked. 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:40.560 So, you know, I just really hate it when sexperts 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:45.120 who obviously aren't coming well are sexperts I hate about. 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:48.520 Don't worry that you're not having an like forget. So 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:54.679 I devoted my whole career, my second career, to orgasm 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:58.880 experiences techniques. How do you come? How many ways can 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:01.960 you come? What's the pathway? Because in the grand scheme 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:05.199 of things, we have an operating system. Our body is 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:09.040 an operating system. Humans Homo sapiens work the way homo 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:13.079 sapiens work. If you want to elicit an orgasmic response, 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:16.080 you do these things and it makes you come, And 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:19.280 there's over twenty ways that you can come. But I 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:21.640 didn't know all of this until I kind of started 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.920 to try to solve my own problem, and I learned 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:27.360 how to have orgasm from intercourse, and I was like, whoa, 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:29.079 I need to teach the rest of the world how 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:29.560 to do this? 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:30.640 It changed your marriage. 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:33.959 It was just like it was just like your own exploration, 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:36.560 or did you have support of like someone else also 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:37.720 guiding you through this experience. 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:40.319 I had support of people guiding me through the experience. 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:43.240 It may became my mentors, and I ultimately I went 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:46.560 to workshops. But ultimately what happened was I took the 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.240 work that they were teaching in workshops and turned it 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:53.160 into online programs. Twenty years ago, when this was just 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:57.280 so new and it was their work, I wanted to 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:00.320 carry on their legacy. So one of the techniques that 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.240 I've been teaching for two decades is a c literal 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:10.000 stroking practice called expanded orgasm. There are regular orgasms, there 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:14.079 are multiple orgasms. There are extended orgasms, ones where you're 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:17.400 coming for a long time, and then there are expanded orgasms. 0:11:17.400 --> 0:11:20.000 And expanded orgasms are almost like a quantum gasm. They 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:24.120 kind of they stack, they get longer, they get more intense, 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:27.560 and they're the kind of orgasms where you can touch source, 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:31.560 see God, feel you know, feel guy, I feel connection 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:37.040 to all things. They are the ecstatic bliss orgasms. And 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:39.840 so I learned that practice and I wanted to carry 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:42.079 it on. And I remember when I was first learning 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:45.560 the practice, I was coming. So I was like, how 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:47.920 long could I come? You know, like can I come 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:51.080 for an hour straight? You know, this is what you 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:53.679 do when you learn how to come addicted. 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:55.520 Yeah, let's keep got drug. 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:59.480 What's the upper you know, what's the upper possibility? And 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:03.320 I called Patty because I was coming so much at 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:05.520 that time in my life where I was having like 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:08.240 come hangovers and like it was really you know how 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:09.959 you get fuck brain and you're like, it's going to 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:12.640 take me a while to get back into reality. Yeah, 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:15.080 And I called her one day and I was like, 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.960 I am I feel like I am coming to the 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:21.960 point where I'm out in the like I'm out in 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:25.760 space and I'm on the edge of this cliff and 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.840 I'm standing on the edge of this cliff and I 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:31.120 feel I'm getting goosebumps right now thinking about it. I 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:34.880 feel like I should step out, but I'm afraid. Will 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:38.040 I come back? Doctor Patti, she was my mentor will 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:42.480 I come back? She goes, step out, You'll come back. 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:46.000 Might take you a while to recover, but you'll come back. 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.679 And that's how I came into like being the orgasmaaut, 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:54.200 because it was the stepping out into space, the abyss 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:59.280 of pleasure, the abyss of ecstasy that is never ending, 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:03.320 because when you you touch source, God, Gaia, whatever you 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:08.760 want to call it, you suddenly realize how connected we 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:11.800 all are. We are one thing, we are my cellium, 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:15.360 we are connected, we are a web of life. And 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:18.920 that was so cathartic for me. I had had a 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:22.120 lot of sexual abuse, a lot of traumas, like we 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:25.280 all do. You can't live in this shitty, fucked up 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:29.800 culture without having those traumas. Even if no one's ever 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:32.480 literally put their finger on you and abused you, it's 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:37.000 still an abusive culture, especially for women. But it hurts 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:40.280 our men too, it hurts us all. And so I 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.439 that's how I became an orgasmaaut. And then I went 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:46.120 on to be like, well, how many kind of clumbs 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:48.440 are there? And like I took my I'm kind of 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:52.080 like a sciencey nerd girl, and I just took my 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:55.360 sciencey nerdiness and was like, let's see how many ways 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:57.960 I could come, Let's keep, let's go. And That's what 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:00.760 I've been doing. And then what I essentially do I 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:03.480 like cooking, so I liked cook I could give you 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:06.440 three or four my best easy recipes. If you need any, 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.000 let me know, because I like to cook at home. 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:12.480 And I wrote the recipes for coming, and that's what 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:15.160 I've been doing. And I think if I look at 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:19.080 twenty years of work, I've published forty four books in programs, 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:22.480 thirty four of which are my own. My gravestone's going 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:25.600 to say she had a lot to say. I just 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:29.960 really like to teach people how to come really well. 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:34.320 And of all of those, I've written about twenty different 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:36.960 kinds of orgasms and exactly how to have them. I 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:38.880 give it away for free. I don't even sell that stuff. 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:44.040 But my crowning achievement is all my work in orgasmic intercourse, 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.480 because that was my core sex wound. Was almost losing 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:51.320 my marriage over the fact that I didn't want to 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:53.720 have sex anymore because I wasn't coming. And I think 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:57.960 there's so many women who are having very minimal orgasmic pleasure, 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:01.400 if any, from intercourse. And I love intercourse so much 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:06.640 that being able to come really well from it has 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.600 been such a joy. And I've learned so many great 0:15:09.680 --> 0:15:14.040 techniques about orgasmic Intercourse. So for your listeners who are interested, 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:17.360 I put them all for free at orgasmic intercourse dot com. 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:20.360 Let's keep it simple and if you're not currently coming 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:22.040 as well as you'd like to, and you like to 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:23.680 fuck and you want to like to fuck even more, 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:26.440 that's a good place to start. So that's where the 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:27.560 orgasma nat was born. 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:28.280 I love that. 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:28.840 I love that. 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:35.840 Exactly. Always feel like putting a flag on the mid 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:38.080 a flag on a pussy. 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:40.880 I was like, the way you're glanted the flag has 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.040 a pussy exactly. 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:46.920 Exactly. 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:50.360 You mentioned like you mentioned that you have like these 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:52.600 step by steps and obviously we know that every woman 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:56.240 is different, but so I'm just wondering, like, with that, 0:15:56.680 --> 0:15:58.760 is there also a piece that because you said you 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:01.680 experienced so actual trauma and all these are things because 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.440 I think a lot of times and not I think, 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:06.920 I know that many times for women it's a lot 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:11.360 of what's happened to their body, that there's things that 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:14.320 are trapped that they can't move through also mentally, So 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:16.240 like is that a piece that you start with or 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:18.000 do you go straight from the boty? Do you start 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:19.800 with the body or do you start with like the 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:21.760 mind and the like energetic body. 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.400 I think what I like to do is I like 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:26.720 to explain to people. And this is men too. Men 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:28.760 can have twenty kinds of orgasms. Like they're kind of 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:33.480 lagging in the orgasma orgasma sphere. They're like, well, I 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:35.280 know I could have a peace bot orgasm, but I'm 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.040 not sure I want to touch my butt, you know, 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:38.840 Like that's kind of where they are. Most of them. 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:41.520 Older guys are much more interested in prostate orgasms, so 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:45.360 they know they care about their prostate health. And so 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:50.560 all bodies we are bodies can come really well. And 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:55.720 there are three kinds of orgasms. There are locations to touch, 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:58.000 Like I can touch my clit and make myself come. 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:00.240 I can have intercourse and make myself come. I can 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:02.520 have an analgasm. I can have a nipplegasm. I can 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:04.640 have a throat gasm, all of. 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:05.920 Those kinds of throat gasm. 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:09.120 Yeah, that's one of my favorite. We can get into 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:13.679 that later. And then the second thing is techniques, like 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:18.520 an expanded orgasm practice. It's a very specific five clitteral strokes. 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:25.560 It's five clitteral strokes that elicit the exact response of 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:30.159 this expanded long calm that you get and then you 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:32.720 can stack them and they get even better. Or like 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:36.560 female ejaculation, I consider that, yes, you can have, you know, 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:39.960 a feat, you can have release your feminine waters, But 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.040 how do you do that in a way that is 0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:49.200 cathartic healing, opening releasing to release your amrita, your divine nectar. 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.280 There are ways to do that that I think are 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:54.520 really important, not just what we see on porn, which 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:56.200 is just like put the hammer down on our g 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:58.959 spot and like, you know, wear your arm out and 0:17:59.000 --> 0:18:02.679 she'll eventually shoot out some fluid. Like that's not the 0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:07.840 right way from my perspective to approach female ejaculation. And 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:12.920 then there are objects of desire, which I've brought some 0:18:13.040 --> 0:18:17.080 for you today, because when you think about objects of desire, 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:20.399 it could be you get turned on, getting spanked. You 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:23.840 could it could be leather, it could be lingerie, It 0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:27.400 could be sex toys, it could be you know, some 0:18:27.560 --> 0:18:29.919 sexy candle wax dripping on you. It could be you know, 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:34.720 sensation play, whatever. And so that's its whole category on 0:18:34.760 --> 0:18:40.040 its own that creates orgasmic experiences. But that's one thing, 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:44.359 like the techniques themselves and all bodies work the same. 0:18:44.920 --> 0:18:46.800 But here's what gets in the way. And this is 0:18:46.840 --> 0:18:50.479 the answer to your question, and that is that if 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:53.840 you touch any given woman on any place in her 0:18:53.840 --> 0:18:56.399 body and ask her, like, if I touch your mom's 0:18:56.480 --> 0:18:58.760 or your clitteral hood or the tip of your clitterists 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:03.240 or the entrance your vagina, your introudal sphincter, there's my 0:19:03.320 --> 0:19:07.679 sciencey girl nerd shit. You might be like, oh, I 0:19:07.720 --> 0:19:09.560 love it when you touch the entrance to my vagina. 0:19:09.600 --> 0:19:12.159 And you might be like, I don't love that. It 0:19:12.200 --> 0:19:20.040 feels painful or shameful or numb, and so orgasmic activation 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:25.040 is understanding that anything that you currently feel is pain, shame, 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:30.880 or numbness can be transformed through loving touch and heart 0:19:30.920 --> 0:19:35.000 connection into pleasure. And that's how you can activate. You 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:38.920 can bring online all of the neural pathways from your genitals, 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:43.400 your breasts, your lips, your ass, your belly, like porgasms, footgasms. 0:19:43.960 --> 0:19:46.760