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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: And two times People's Choice Award winning.

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Speaker 3: Podcast Hello Everybody.

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Speaker 2: We are scrubbing in. I like my hair today. I

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Speaker 2: thought it looked so cute. Well, thank you, but I

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Speaker 2: don't like it. Such as life. Such as life that's

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Speaker 2: not much better. But that's okay. Hello everybody, Hello another

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Speaker 2: day another podcast.

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Speaker 3: 'tis right?

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Speaker 2: What a beautiful journey we are on?

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Speaker 3: When are you going to decorate for the holidays?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 2: Has it gone earlier every year?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 3: No, no, Thanksgiving has been extremely late this year and

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Speaker 3: last year.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 5: But there's only six days that Thanksgiving can fall on.

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Speaker 5: Seven it's not going to very much.

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Speaker 3: Eh.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like, well, I've always thought that Thanksgiving

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Speaker 2: was the third week of third Thursday of the month.

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Speaker 1: Is that fourth Thursday with the months?

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Speaker 2: Always okay?

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Speaker 1: But that's one of those things that people online say changed.

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Speaker 2: I have it. I have that with Thanksgiving. I thought

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Speaker 2: it was the third of every November, third Thursday of

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Speaker 2: every November. So then I was always like, okay, people

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Speaker 2: start decorating then. And then I felt like as soon

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Speaker 2: as Halloween's been over, it's immediately like Christmas is up, yeah,

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Speaker 2: and we skip Thanksgiving whichever. I don't know what decor

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Speaker 3: That's the whole point.

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Speaker 2: So I normally get real Christmas trees, so I.

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Speaker 3: Don't Yes, you can't go too early.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I've I've been on the fence about leaning

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Speaker 2: towards a fake Yeah, it's it's something I'm considering.

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Speaker 3: Talk to me, talk me through.

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Speaker 2: But I also the thing about, well, I'm talk me

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Speaker 3: Talk through the decision. Why not a fake tree? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Why not a fake tree? Because I love like the smell.

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Speaker 2: I just like the experience of going to get a tree.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I do like that as well.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like supporting the industry is for it. But

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Speaker 2: they have Christmas tree farms where they like grow them

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that's political. This is where I'm

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Speaker 3: No, same, I'm not trying to be polular, but I'm like,

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Speaker 3: it feels better for the environment to not be chopping

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Speaker 3: four weeks. Sides though, right, because mine's like a synthetic

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Speaker 2: Eye who knows to teach them? But anyways, we always

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Speaker 2: do that, and so I've I've never even considered decorating

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Speaker 3: But I also think that they last longer than you

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Speaker 2: They don't look bad, but things start it's like brittle

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Speaker 2: But the thing with me is that by the time

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Speaker 2: de core that I feel like if I decorate this early,

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Speaker 3: See you, It's so funny because I feel like I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so maybe you should leave it up all year.

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Speaker 3: I try and push it as much as I can.

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Speaker 3: I know, it's always like a big time because I'm like,

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Speaker 3: So I actually like this year. So we never decorate

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Speaker 3: And so yesterday I was like feeling so ambitious. I

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Speaker 3: I'm like, inside's fine. Decorating, it's just fine.

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Speaker 2: Every year I see people with what looks to be

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Speaker 2: Do it myself. One year, I hung the lights outside

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Speaker 3: Around just your house. I haven't think just like one

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it definitely looks like Okay, she didn't.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, but yeah, maybe this year, maybe I can

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Speaker 3: Why would it be based on how long they're up?

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Speaker 2: You're basically borrowing the lights and stuff.

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Speaker 3: You're not putting up your own lights.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm saying, I would hire someone.

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Speaker 3: You have to supply the lights.

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Speaker 3: Think they would. They're not borrowing your their lights.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh okay, well that's different then. Anyways, didn't think

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Speaker 1: If it's that expensive, it seems like that makes sense.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't think so. I don't know the answer,

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Speaker 2: Anyways, moving on, moving on. So last week we played

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Speaker 2: a game on the podcast, and some people took to

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Speaker 5: I think what we missed was saying that, like when

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Speaker 5: to understanding the game that we didn't make very clear.

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Speaker 5: So like it's a four and you guys said Carl's junior.

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Speaker 5: They're saying Carls Junior is about a four on a

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Speaker 5: and that way Marcus getting us four, right, Yeah, that's

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Speaker 2: That wasn't just.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't explained at the beginning.

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Speaker 1: I think.

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Speaker 3: I think as we were playing, we were playing that.

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Speaker 3: I think in the initial breakdown in the rules, Yes,

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Speaker 5: I think so okay, like all's fair would be a

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Speaker 2: Shoot not to Tanya, see if Tanya was doing it.

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Speaker 5: Well, that's the other question. Is it your opinion or

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Speaker 2: That's that's the whole.

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Speaker 3: The rubber meets the road.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's where the rubber meets there.

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Speaker 3: That's the rub Well.

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Speaker 2: We haven't done a Dear Bonnie in a while because

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Speaker 2: we've had birthdays galore, and I think it's time to

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Speaker 2: give the people some advice.

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Speaker 2: We love when she's feeling wise.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Grayson Heidi, you want to hear from Grayson Heidi?

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Speaker 5: Dear Becca, Tony Easton, and Mark. Wow, I'm almost fully

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Speaker 5: caught up un scrubbing, and I started from the very

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Speaker 1: Now, what a fantastic ride it's been. I love you all.

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Speaker 5: You've kept me laughing, cheering up, and talking back to

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Speaker 5: my headphones for months. Becca and Tanya. Listening to you

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Speaker 5: both grow and learn and find your people has been

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Speaker 5: such a joy. The confidence you found is inspiring. I've

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Speaker 5: grown right alongside you. Binging an eight year podcast takes

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Speaker 5: real dedication, but it's been worth every minute we listen

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Speaker 5: to you. Before bed, my wife calls you my girls.

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Speaker 1: Becca.

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Speaker 5: What you've shared is resonated deeply with me. We got

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Speaker 5: married in July of twenty five, this past July been

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Speaker 5: together six. So I must submit a Dear Banya question

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Speaker 5: as my binge comes to an end. You both talk

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Speaker 5: think make the biggest difference in keeping a relationship strong

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Speaker 5: and connected over time. Thank you for all the laughs,

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Speaker 5: the heart, the real talk you share with us. With

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Speaker 5: love to the entire scrubbing and crew, Grace and Heidi.

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Speaker 3: Resent such a nice dam girls.

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Speaker 2: Would you like to start?

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Speaker 3: WHOA? I don't know. You know, I find a lot

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Speaker 3: of things on Instagram that I just constantly forward to Robbi,

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Speaker 3: which is probably very annoying about like how to have

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Speaker 3: a strong marriage, you know, like those little bite sized

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Speaker 3: Yeah I am, I am the main Yeah. I think

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Speaker 2: So we're not at all on Thanksgiving et cetera.

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Speaker 3: Yes, correct, but like that's where we're doing all of

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Speaker 5: This is from anonymous Tanya, it's for you. Do youar

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Speaker 3: But I'm not like drinking for fun anymore. I'm trying

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like it's so weird. And I was talking to

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Speaker 2: But I think that's the mentality of motherhood. Motherhood is

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Speaker 3: Like and even this is like the dumbest example, but

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're wishing you the best. Anonymous and Tanya, Yes,

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Speaker 2: all the good vibes and what the things that I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, get I started doing acupuncture. I've never done accupuncture

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Speaker 2: Right, Well there's that. Is it time for a break?

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Speaker 5: Coming up next, Yeah, we'll talk about a toxic friendship

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Speaker 5: and how to end it.

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Speaker 2: This one's a little intense.

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Speaker 5: Hey, fam does it's not oft intense? Becca, Tanya Easton,

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Speaker 5: and Mark. I'm in the process of ending a toxic friendship.

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Speaker 1: I'll speak you. The drama should have been on a

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Speaker 5: What's made it complicated is my friend's kids are my godkids,

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Speaker 2: Dang, this is so hard, the God kids em and

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Speaker 2: This is what would need to change for us to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't even know how I would handle this,

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Speaker 3: to be honest, I don't think like I've had friendships

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like especially a lot from college is like I

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Speaker 2: I think that the fact that you think about life

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Speaker 2: you're not happy in the friendship. And the thing is,

443
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Speaker 2: people always like a relationship, whether a friendship is a relationship,

444
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Speaker 2: so whether it's romantic or not, if you're still disinvested

445
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,679
Speaker 2: in each other's lives, like, it's just as hard to

446
00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:33,959
Speaker 2: have these conversations as it would be a romantic partner, right,

447
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:38,080
Speaker 2: And I think they're just as necessary. But I also

448
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:40,640
Speaker 2: think if you're envisioning life without this person and its

449
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:45,160
Speaker 2: peacefulness rather than sadness, this is a conversation that needs

450
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Speaker 2: to happen tomorrow. But I've never had to do it,

451
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Speaker 2: so I don't really have great advice on having that conversation.

452
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Speaker 2: Maybe just be like, I feel like we're in different places.

453
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Speaker 2: I feel like it's a text message you make me.

454
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Speaker 2: I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: Am I crazy? Just lobbery little text like, Hey, this

456
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Speaker 3: is not working out for me. I express your feelings,

457
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Speaker 3: but I feel like a text messages to me.

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Speaker 5: This is probably the wrong way to handle this. To me,

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Speaker 5: I just let it die on the vine. I just

460
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Speaker 5: start not being available. I always give them gifts for

461
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Speaker 5: their birthday. I send them gifts every year for their

462
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:19,879
Speaker 5: birthday because that's the right thing to do.

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Speaker 1: Other than that, though I'm not really around.

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Speaker 2: Dang, Yeah, you can handle it that way, Tony says,

465
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Speaker 2: hands off to I say, have a conversation. I think

466
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Speaker 2: it's gonna be hard.

467
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Speaker 3: Maybe an email.

468
00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 2: It's just text can get so misconstrued.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 2: But and I don't know if she cares or he cares. Yeah,

471
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Speaker 2: I don't know if they care, but I would. I

472
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Speaker 2: would just this person was very important to you at

473
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Speaker 2: a certain point in life. So I just say things

474
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Speaker 2: aren't working. I'm not happy in this friendship. And I

475
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Speaker 2: love you, I love your kids, but I need space

476
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Speaker 2: from this friendship. That's what I would say.

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Speaker 5: And a fun one from Haley, Yo, Becka, Tani Arson,

478
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Speaker 5: and Mark. My name is Haley, and I have a

479
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Speaker 5: simple question for you today, mostly for Becka and Tanya,

480
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Speaker 5: but boys chime in if you have answers. My girlfriend

481
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Speaker 5: and I love to play games. We're always looking for

482
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Speaker 5: new games for just the two of us. Tanya, I

483
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,520
Speaker 5: know you and Robbie have a card game you always play,

484
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Speaker 5: and I've been curious what it is. Becky, I know

485
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Speaker 5: you and Haley enjoy game nights together. Two and I

486
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Speaker 5: lost the second page of this, but you got the

487
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Speaker 5: idea they want to know here. Would you mind sharing

488
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Speaker 5: your favorites with us? Some of our favorites are Cribbage,

489
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Speaker 5: Gin Rubby, and Chinese Checkers. Thanks so much, thank you

490
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Speaker 5: for all the consistent, high quality, feel good podcasts for

491
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Speaker 5: all of us to enjoy it.

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Speaker 1: Cheers, Haley.

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Speaker 2: We do love a game night.

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Speaker 3: I think Gin Rummy is kind of a kind of

495
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Speaker 3: what Robbi and I play together. It's Serbian Rummy, so

496
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Speaker 3: it's like a little bit different, but I think essentially

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Speaker 3: the same concept. Thirteen cards, you have to put them

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Speaker 3: in order.

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Speaker 2: Do you have any other thing they play that that's

500
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Speaker 2: what we play, That's literally all we play.

501
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Speaker 3: Now, we're learning Canasta, we play I want to learn Myjong?

502
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 2: Wow, are you gonna be like a game blogger?

503
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Speaker 5: But I feel like all the games she's choosing are

504
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Speaker 5: played mostly in retirement homes.

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00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,880
Speaker 3: Yes, but they're making a big splash right now, like yes,

506
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 3: your mark, you're not wrong. But I feel like they're

507
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,400
Speaker 3: having a moment right now, like Hillary Duff is playing

508
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 3: my Jong with her friends. Mmm, okay, don't go down.

509
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Speaker 3: I can't wait it what.

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Speaker 2: We love code names and sometimes we'll just play with

511
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Speaker 2: the two of us. There is a way to play

512
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Speaker 2: with two people. We love. Oh my gosh, what's the game?

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Speaker 3: Oh uh, genius Square loves game to play with your

514
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 3: part games so much fun.

515
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Speaker 2: There's a game that I'm literally blinking on and it's

516
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 2: one of our favorite games, and it's basically standby.

517
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Speaker 1: Why you look for it.

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Speaker 5: I'll tell you that my daughter and I play games together,

519
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 5: and these are games. This game is for more than

520
00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 5: two people, but we play it as two people and

521
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Speaker 5: it's still very fun. And my daughter's addicted to it.

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Speaker 5: And it's called Rat Attack Cat. You might think, oh,

523
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Speaker 5: that sounds like a game for little kids. Well, they

524
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 5: love their little kids. They love it now and they

525
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:04,879
Speaker 5: will love it forever because it is a very fun

526
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:08,199
Speaker 5: and smart game to play with rats and cats on

527
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:08,679
Speaker 5: the cards.

528
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Speaker 1: It's really good. Ratitat cat. Look at that up.

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Speaker 3: That's really all I have. What more could you want

530
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 3: than jin rummy? So you can play that for hours

531
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Speaker 3: on end.

532
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Speaker 5: It's amazing how many games can be played. Which is

533
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Speaker 5: a deck of fifty two.

534
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:27,959
Speaker 3: Cards literally, like we played that our entire honeymoon every day.

535
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 3: We're just like you bring it to lunch every lunch.

536
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 3: We had we bought the car and our scoreboard, and

537
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 3: we were just constantly playing.

538
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Speaker 1: Who won, like who won the most games on your honeymoon?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I have to look back. We have

540
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Speaker 3: it like all like a little like thanks. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: There is somewhere between one thousand and ten thousand different

542
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Speaker 5: card games.

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Speaker 1: Wow, they can play with fifty two cards.

544
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Speaker 2: We love bananagrams to bananagrams. Hey, And it's easy to

545
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,159
Speaker 2: pack in the bag, you know, you just take it easy.

546
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,959
Speaker 2: I'm blinking on the game. I'll think of it. But

547
00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:00,640
Speaker 2: it's basically you have like a board and you have cards,

548
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,439
Speaker 2: and then you each have coins and you try to

549
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:05,199
Speaker 2: get five in a row. So like you if whatever

550
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:09,439
Speaker 2: card you have it, no, whatever card you have in

551
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 2: your hand, you match it on the board. You put

552
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 2: a coin there. So you only have seven cards at

553
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 2: the time and you're trying to get five in a row.

554
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Speaker 1: Is it a card game or a board game.

555
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:20,439
Speaker 2: It's a board game with cards playing cards. Yeah, but

556
00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 2: it's really fun, and it's like you kind.

557
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,120
Speaker 1: Of have to have sequence.

558
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 2: Yes, it's sequenced. It's so much fun. And you can

559
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 2: play with four people I think four. Yeah, it's really

560
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:36,160
Speaker 2: it's a great game. We can play two. We played

561
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,240
Speaker 2: it all the time. Great game. If you take a

562
00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: little gummy, have a little TV show Disney movie on

563
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 2: in the background. Wow, that's the scene. Yeah, it's the great.

564
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna do that in two hours, actually.

565
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Speaker 2: Two hours tonight, have some respect nighttime thing. But that's

566
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Speaker 2: all for today.

567
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Speaker 3: That's it.

568
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Speaker 2: That's all.

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Speaker 3: We love you so much.

570
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Speaker 2: Wonderful weekend. We'll be back Monday for more of this

571
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 2: than that and all the around buzz things that happen.

572
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 3: Should we do Thanksgiving special?

573
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:10,880
Speaker 2: Oh?

574
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: Interesting?

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00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 3: What's that?

576
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 1: Yeah?

577
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 2: I don't know.

578
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:15,440
Speaker 3: This is just me spitting it out. So I'm gonna

579
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 3: have to have some time to think on it. But

580
00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 3: it feels cute, like a little Thanksgiving special, like a

581
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 3: Thanksgiving Day parade of our own.

582
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 2: No, nobody like what we're just talking about Thanksgiving.

583
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 5: I don't know.

584
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 3: I'm workshopping it right now in my head.

585
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:33,679
Speaker 2: I just spat it out. Well, get back to us

586
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 2: all much.

587
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:35,200
Speaker 3: Thursday is Thanksgiving?

588
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 5: Right?

589
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 3: We can't do a Dear Bonya on Thanksgiving?

590
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 2: Why?

591
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 3: Okay?

592
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 1: I don't know.

593
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 2: Potatoes a dear Bonya with some turkey stuffing? What do

594
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:49,639
Speaker 2: you want? I love it. I love an idea. I

595
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:52,160
Speaker 2: love a new idea I knew. I love a new concept.

596
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 2: I love trying something new.

597
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like we could be like at the Thanksgiving table

598
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 3: and we can all like share what we're thankful for,

599
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 3: or maybe we could like play a game or I

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00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 3: don't know. Again, I'm just throwing it out there. Two

601
00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 3: weeks yeah, yeah, one two more Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Do some trouble shooting on that, and we'll be back

603
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Speaker 2: Monday with the concept potentially. We love you.

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Speaker 4: Bye,