WEBVTT - Mother Knows Breast

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, gorgeous. It's Lala Kent. Welcome to untraditionally.

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<v Speaker 2>Lala, Hello, gorgeous, welcome back. I'm so excited to be here.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys think I don't listen, but I do. And

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<v Speaker 2>what my people want, my people, matt people.

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<v Speaker 1>Get, and the people want the ginge. Well they wanted

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<v Speaker 1>the TT. They want the TT and the GG. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they asked and I delivered. You did. Welcome. How you

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<v Speaker 1>feeling My voice is so hoarse, it's because you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>sleep here. I didn't sleep at all last night.

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<v Speaker 2>And as oh wann say, you sound like a man,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like and I think you sound sexy. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so over the break you guys during the holiday.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom is not what one would.

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<v Speaker 2>Call a healthy person, okay, like doesn't lift a finger,

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't like, she doesn't work out because.

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<v Speaker 1>She gets nauseated.

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<v Speaker 2>And I tell her, well, yes, because when your body

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<v Speaker 2>does something that it hasn't done in sixty five years,

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<v Speaker 2>you feel nauseous.

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<v Speaker 1>My movement. No, but I always felt nauseous even in

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<v Speaker 1>my twenties and thirties.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you never do it. You can't just like pick

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<v Speaker 2>up a wait one time and go. I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not anything it is but my breathing. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think I was breathing because when I went to pilates

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<v Speaker 1>with you and we had to do a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>strenuous activity, all of a sudden I got really light headed,

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<v Speaker 1>and you mentioned maybe I wasn't breathing, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>started breathing, and then I felt better.

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<v Speaker 2>I fucking love you. You're a real nut. Keep in mind,

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<v Speaker 2>pilates is on your back. Okay, that's why I feel lightheaded.

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<v Speaker 2>Reformer on your back, laying the fuck down.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway. Oh you're so good. I love you so much

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<v Speaker 1>it kills me. I think that's why I get lightheaded,

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<v Speaker 1>like when I'm walking up incline, because the other day

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<v Speaker 1>we went to Love and I had eaten, I had

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<v Speaker 1>my iced tea, and I started stealing a little lightheaded,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought, oh, maybe I'm not breathing. So I breathed. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>breaths good. That's really good. That's so good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happy about that because that's the difference between dead

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<v Speaker 2>and a lives. I know, you know, but who forgets

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<v Speaker 2>to breathe. There's a lot of things you do that

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<v Speaker 2>I say, wow, I know, you know what else?

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<v Speaker 1>I have to work on what When I'm walking most

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<v Speaker 1>people like swing their arms. I walk like and I

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<v Speaker 1>have to concentrate to swing my arms.

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<v Speaker 2>And then she becomes the woman from on Seinfeld where she's.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, is am I moving my arms good enough now?

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<v Speaker 1>And she like knocks all the shit off of Elaine's dust.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel that way, well, yes, and it is funny

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<v Speaker 2>and tt and I like tease you about it. But

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<v Speaker 2>my mom had like a meltdown in Palm Springs. She

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<v Speaker 2>was still upset about the way she was feeling. And

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<v Speaker 2>my mom and Easton had like the sweetest, most beautiful moment.

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<v Speaker 2>My mom was saying that she didn't like talking to

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<v Speaker 2>us about her health and Easton has PTSD. When it

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<v Speaker 2>comes to my dad not talking to us about his health,

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<v Speaker 2>cut to Easton wakes up, you know on April twenty first, Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>and my dad is you know gone.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So Easton cried to my mom and.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like, you have to tell us how you're feeling

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<v Speaker 2>at all times, you know, we have to be able

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<v Speaker 2>to know what to do. And so I called doctor Rothbard,

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<v Speaker 2>who I love in a door.

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<v Speaker 1>He delivered both of my babies.

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<v Speaker 2>Keep in mind, you guys, my mother has not had

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<v Speaker 2>a mammogram.

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<v Speaker 1>Or been checked out by a guy. No, that's not true. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>defend defend yourself. I did the mammogram here and before

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<v Speaker 1>I got onto you, you had not been checked. You're right,

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<v Speaker 1>you're right, you're right in.

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<v Speaker 2>Probably ten years and I said this is unaccessiable.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to go in and get your boobies checked.

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<v Speaker 1>You did that.

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<v Speaker 2>Next, I'm like, you haven't been to the guynecologist. Get

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<v Speaker 2>in there, like, these are things that are important, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Go.

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<v Speaker 2>So my mom has this idea of like I look

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<v Speaker 2>at all these people and I see them like moving,

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<v Speaker 2>and I feel like my body has failed me. I

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<v Speaker 2>have to remind her. I have to remind her the

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<v Speaker 2>people that are moving around they have doctors.

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<v Speaker 1>People used to.

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<v Speaker 2>Drop dead at like thirty five forty years old. We

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<v Speaker 2>now have modern day medicine.

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<v Speaker 1>I's such a wait to get into the doctor. Who

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<v Speaker 1>pointed that out to you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I said, there's a reason why you call a

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<v Speaker 2>doctor and they're like, I can see you in six months.

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<v Speaker 2>Because people are prioritizing their health. So I think it

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<v Speaker 2>was great that you vented about your health.

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<v Speaker 1>The roomatologists today.

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<v Speaker 2>You did, and we got a great uh, they took

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<v Speaker 2>your blood.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to see what happens.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, I'm so grateful you're prioritizing your health.

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<v Speaker 1>Me too, Okay, me too.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what's happening in twenty twenty six. I also want

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<v Speaker 2>to talk about because Bethany Frankel and this was, like

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<v Speaker 2>I want to say, maybe a week week and a

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<v Speaker 2>half ago, posted a reel about a bacterial infection that

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<v Speaker 2>she got. You guys, OMG, I have to tell you,

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<v Speaker 2>guys a story. So I wake up one morning and

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<v Speaker 2>I look at my body and there's like what looks

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<v Speaker 2>to be little bites and it's It starts on my

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<v Speaker 2>chest and on my back. I text doctor Diamond and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I need a prescription.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like having PTSD. I love PTSD. That's what I've

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<v Speaker 1>said it twice already. We're all just struggling. No, don't

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<v Speaker 1>take me back.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I need a prescription. I am breaking out.

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<v Speaker 2>It's on my chest, it's on my back. Throughout the day,

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<v Speaker 2>it starts spreading all yeah you know mom oh it

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<v Speaker 2>was gnarly, yeah, all over my body. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is freaking weird. I thought that maybe I brought

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<v Speaker 2>like a sand mite home from uh Hawaii and.

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<v Speaker 1>Cut to like the next day. They keep spreading and

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<v Speaker 1>they're becoming bigger and weird. This happened and itchy.

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<v Speaker 2>This happened, I want to say on a Saturdays when

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<v Speaker 2>it started. By Monday, you guys, I was broken out

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<v Speaker 2>neck to ankle in full blown discussing.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to call it what it is. Boils. They

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<v Speaker 1>were fucking boils. Yeah, disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>When I look down at some of them, they were

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<v Speaker 2>getting so massive trigger warning that they were like oozing.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I am patient zero, what is going on?

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<v Speaker 2>I go to the emergency room. The woman comes in

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<v Speaker 2>a hazmat suit. No one will enter the room unless

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<v Speaker 2>they're fully covered.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, they like lance, some of them. Is that what

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<v Speaker 1>it's called? To get this stuff out of them to

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<v Speaker 1>send off to a lab.

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<v Speaker 2>It comes back as there's no bacterial infection. Originally people

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<v Speaker 2>were like, it's either chicken pox, monkey pox, staff infection.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, you talk to your friends and they come

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<v Speaker 2>up with a plethora of all the things that are

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<v Speaker 2>wrong with you.

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<v Speaker 1>It came back as everything was negative.

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<v Speaker 2>They said, we recommend you go to your dermatologists, like

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<v Speaker 2>as quickly as you can, because they specialize in skin, like,

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<v Speaker 2>we're just here to make sure you're not going to die.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not going to die. I thought I was going

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<v Speaker 1>to die. They biopsy one, They take like the juiciest

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<v Speaker 1>guy on the back of my arm. It was disgusting. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was like a plug like they.

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<v Speaker 2>Stamped it and pulled that little motherfucker ride out of

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<v Speaker 2>my arm, stitched it up, send it off. I get

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<v Speaker 2>the results back from the biopsy. They put me on

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<v Speaker 2>a steroid, two steroid creams, an antibiotic, and a steroid oral.

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<v Speaker 2>I was worried about scarring. Durham told me, don't worry

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<v Speaker 2>about scarring, Like, you're fine. Biopviously comes back and it's

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<v Speaker 2>most consistent with what looked like a rare reaction to

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<v Speaker 2>a bug bite. Yeah, so mine was not bacterial like

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<v Speaker 2>Bethany frankles, but apparently this is.

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<v Speaker 1>Like a lot. And then you had a friend that also, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a friend full vacation and got the same thing,

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<v Speaker 1>the same exact thing. I don't know what is going on.

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<v Speaker 2>Bethany's she said, was bacterial. Me and my friend's wife,

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<v Speaker 2>we both got bug bites apparently, But I'm telling you,

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<v Speaker 2>I was scarred. Like I complain all the time about

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<v Speaker 2>the little tiny veins in my legs that I got

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<v Speaker 2>after my second baby.

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<v Speaker 1>It's from carrying excessive weight. Don't love that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, what I would give to just have

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<v Speaker 2>the little baby veins to be worried about.

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<v Speaker 1>Like now I look like I'm carrying something not good,

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<v Speaker 1>But it's going away. It's gone. And like I told you,

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<v Speaker 1>thank god it didn't spread to your face. Say god,

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<v Speaker 1>you know there's always a silver lining bug bite and all.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, And I kept telling people, I'm like, yes, it's

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<v Speaker 2>great that I'm not gonna die, got it, But like

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<v Speaker 2>the vanity portion of it, I was like, oh my.

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<v Speaker 1>God, speaking a vanity portion. Oh yeah, you got some

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<v Speaker 1>big stuff coming up. I've got some boobs stuff coming up, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm getting new boobs.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I got them done in twenty twenty two, and

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<v Speaker 2>I got them done by amazing doctors.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved them.

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<v Speaker 2>My second baby Sosa like wreaked havoc on my body,

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<v Speaker 2>Like between my stomach that's a little lucy goosey depending

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<v Speaker 2>on the way I move. Again, Thankful for the bounce

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<v Speaker 2>back and the baby. She's beautiful and you know, my

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<v Speaker 2>body created life.

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<v Speaker 1>Love that part.

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<v Speaker 2>But my boobs, my right one is like concaved on

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<v Speaker 2>one side and is working its way up to the

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<v Speaker 2>collar bone. Your new boob job is a medical necessity.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah it is.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you guys, what am I talking about? Of

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<v Speaker 2>course you guys listen to the podcast regularly. When I

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<v Speaker 2>had Terry debro on, I had Heather on and Terry

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<v Speaker 2>popped in and we talked about how it's capsular contracture,

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<v Speaker 2>which means your body starts to fight off the implant.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know you guys, most of you are gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be like, then you shouldn't have implants. I'm sorry, I

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<v Speaker 2>refuse to have my nipples down to my belly button. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not about to look like Ezma from Freaking the

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<v Speaker 2>Emperor's New Groove. You're tripping, Okay, it's not happening. But

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<v Speaker 2>in the fucking implants, I don't care if my body rejects.

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<v Speaker 1>I have new implants too, exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm going to a doctor that specializes in this condition.

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<v Speaker 1>And she is a plastic surgeon.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of her patients, though, have had double mass

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<v Speaker 2>ectomies and our breast.

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<v Speaker 1>Cancer survived, she's world redown, she's world renowned. And I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it's more like you said, like restructuring it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the bottom line is, like they said, you have

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<v Speaker 2>to have that scar tissue cleaned down, Like they're they're

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<v Speaker 2>putting a solution in to like clean it out. I

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<v Speaker 2>have a hammock in one of them that needs replacing,

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<v Speaker 2>which is on my left. But they're basically doing reconstructive

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<v Speaker 2>surgery and I'm going to go in and they're going

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<v Speaker 2>to use technology to show like what size would look best.

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<v Speaker 2>But ultimately, like this is something that I have to

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<v Speaker 2>get done right. The longer I keep these implants in

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<v Speaker 2>the right one is going to continue to build scar tissue.

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<v Speaker 1>It's going to continue to push.

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<v Speaker 2>Towards the center of my chest and up towards my collarbone.

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<v Speaker 2>So again for vanity purposes, I'm very excited because my

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<v Speaker 2>boobs are not something. Again, they fed two babies. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>very happy about that, but I just don't feel confident

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<v Speaker 2>with them. And the other side is, you know, the

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<v Speaker 2>health concern.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm excited to have my new boots, as you

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<v Speaker 3>should be at least is getting a new hip, Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>getting hip surgery because it's rotted.

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<v Speaker 1>We're about to be brand new. I'm ready. Oh you

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<v Speaker 1>know what we should talk about how great our massages were.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you. I don't know about you, guys, but I

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<v Speaker 2>have the worst like tech nek. I walk her around

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<v Speaker 2>like this, and my shoulders are pretty much up to

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<v Speaker 2>my ears.

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<v Speaker 1>Mine too, Yeah, mine too. And I couldn't move my

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<v Speaker 1>right arm and my hand didn't work since my massage.

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<v Speaker 1>Game changer. Game changer. She's breathing, she can move her arms.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>The masseuse taught me how to breathe to again she did? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what she did? Have you hold your stomach. She had

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<v Speaker 1>recount to eight and exhale and then push on my

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<v Speaker 1>abdomen to release all of the my breaths. That's great

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<v Speaker 1>while doing exercises. You should do that every night. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I do breath exercise it I do good.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to talk about getting Ocean into preschool and

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<v Speaker 2>what a freaking nightmare you and I were. We weren't

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<v Speaker 2>a nightmare, but we just sobbed you guys at our meeting.

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<v Speaker 2>So getting your child into preschool out here is like

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<v Speaker 2>getting them into Harvard Law School. It's like the craziest

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<v Speaker 2>experience I've ever heard.

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<v Speaker 1>My thing is they're interviewing you to see if they're

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<v Speaker 1>going to pick you. I love where this is going.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get her into school, let's get her into it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't love where this is going at all.

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<v Speaker 1>I will say the rest.

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<v Speaker 2>Once we're in, just say whatever you want, but for now,

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<v Speaker 2>shut the fuck up. Anyway, Lisa and I they're like,

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<v Speaker 2>tell us about ocean, and the two of us will

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<v Speaker 2>at each other and just sob She's masaal drama BT,

0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:09.800
<v Speaker 2>Like these people think we're insane. They're no one's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>have us come. They're gonna be like, don't have them

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<v Speaker 2>in the school. Because they appear and you ask them

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<v Speaker 2>one question about ocean, they just start sobbing.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that's love, it is. I think it's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>a little unhinged. I think it's love, Like we love

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<v Speaker 1>her so much.

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<v Speaker 2>What's that emotional? Yeah, we're very emotional about ocean. But

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<v Speaker 2>it is wild that she's now going to be in school.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I have a five year old and when she

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<v Speaker 2>talks to me, like my mom and I are good cop,

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<v Speaker 2>bad cop. Yes, there are many times I have to

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<v Speaker 2>play both, but like you're a good cop at all, times. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and you get through to her because she and I

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<v Speaker 2>can go toes at times where we're both.

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<v Speaker 1>That I get stern when I need to be stern,

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<v Speaker 1>like to get her to brush her teeth and get

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<v Speaker 1>her jammies on. Like I take on a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of that role. What are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying that you take her to like have

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<v Speaker 2>candy and dinn.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I know, but I'm just saying I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I've taken on a little bit of that too.

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<v Speaker 2>You have, but you go in and you say, if

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<v Speaker 2>you don't brush your teeth, I'm gonna have to tell

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<v Speaker 2>your mom. That's a good cap, bad cop mom. That's

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<v Speaker 2>what that means.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that's called good cop, bad cop. What are you

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<v Speaker 1>talking about? Okay, what are you saying? You've taken on

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<v Speaker 1>that role? Yes, you're you're the co parent, right, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm usually really sweet and I've taken on more of

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<v Speaker 1>us stern approach. Sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, you guys, she says, brush your teeth, it's very stern.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>All I'm saying is I like the fact that, like

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<v Speaker 2>when ocean is not because she and I are like

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<v Speaker 2>this at times, Yes, that I can punt.

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<v Speaker 1>Her to you. Yes, yes, yes, yes.

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<v Speaker 2>And she's getting to that age where I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>she's she has this voice. I mean, last night was

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<v Speaker 2>a fucking nightmare and you know it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I do know. And I had to.

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<v Speaker 2>Pun her to my mom because I was ready to

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<v Speaker 2>go season four vander Pump Rules on her ass.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, no, but she would have. You

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<v Speaker 1>would have met your match last night with her. I

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<v Speaker 1>had met it. I met it, yeah, and I did

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<v Speaker 1>not like it at all.

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<v Speaker 2>No, So I'm trying to figure out this way because

0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:20.360
<v Speaker 2>she hasn't acted that way in so long.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she was overly tired. She gets overly tired.

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<v Speaker 2>She gets that way, I know, and thank god, because

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<v Speaker 2>I felt so guilty after I checked her, and you

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<v Speaker 2>guys know what I mean by checked her, it was like,

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<v Speaker 2>if you freaking talk to me like that one more time,

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<v Speaker 2>take it everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Your playroom is going to be empty. Stroller, she lost

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<v Speaker 1>her roomy costumes and she lost.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, when you throw a stroller down my freshly carpeted stairs.

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<v Speaker 1>She no longer get. She just pushed it. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>defending her? I'm not defending, but she didn't throw it

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<v Speaker 1>down the stairs. She pushed it. To see what it

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<v Speaker 1>would do. Oh, that's curiosity killed the cat.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I was not happy about it. And then

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<v Speaker 2>she was lippy, so she lost all of her roomy costumes.

0:17:05.200 --> 0:17:07.520
<v Speaker 2>And then she continue to tell me that when she

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<v Speaker 2>gots the hot sauce in her mouth, she's gonna burn

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<v Speaker 2>me up. I was just like enough already, that room

0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:15.320
<v Speaker 2>is gonna be cleared out. You're not gonna have one

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<v Speaker 2>toy in there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So then I feel guilty, so I put her in

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<v Speaker 2>my bed because we clarify, we.

0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:24.760
<v Speaker 1>Don't really do the hot sauce. It's a just a

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<v Speaker 1>tactic to try and get her to do things.

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<v Speaker 2>You go obviously, well, I know, but no, everything I

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<v Speaker 2>do is a bluff. That's why she doesn't listen to me,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm a constant threat and no fault.

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<v Speaker 1>But once you mentioned the bars that they were going

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<v Speaker 1>bye bye, if she said one more word.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and she lost the iPad too, That was right.

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<v Speaker 2>That was the other thing that I took. No, I've

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<v Speaker 2>never like putts out people.

0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:49.880
<v Speaker 1>Not everyone knows, but everyone knows I would never actually

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<v Speaker 1>do that.

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<v Speaker 2>But like she knew, I would never do that, which

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<v Speaker 2>is why the rebuttal was put hot saus in my mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>Becase I'm gonna burn your ass up. She didn't say asked,

0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:01.080
<v Speaker 1>but I was like, just going to come out. I

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<v Speaker 1>put her in my bed. You guys that moe? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she did.

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<v Speaker 2>So then I broke her little imagination by telling her

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<v Speaker 2>dragons aren't even real.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, My kids were so easy, you really were.

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<v Speaker 1>I think maybe you blocked it out disassociate. Maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, but I know, but I feel like Ocean's easy.

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<v Speaker 1>She just gets slippy.

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<v Speaker 2>But I I know for a fact I was like

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<v Speaker 2>that as a kid.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I had a teenager. Do you remember with your

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<v Speaker 1>your ewet iPhone in the pool? Yeah, when you threw

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<v Speaker 1>my eye. Well, she had wrapped her. It was new too,

0:18:37.920 --> 0:18:38.320
<v Speaker 1>wasn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, and this is back when the iPhone had

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<v Speaker 2>just come out, and you had to give the like

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<v Speaker 2>or AT and T to get the iPhone, so any

0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:47.480
<v Speaker 2>other network that you were with you had to go and.

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<v Speaker 1>Have it like unlocked. So we'd gone to do and

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<v Speaker 1>then you put on the side of the pool and

0:18:53.200 --> 0:18:55.359
<v Speaker 1>you put your towel over it. Well, I went to

0:18:55.440 --> 0:18:57.680
<v Speaker 1>sit down and I wanted to shake the towel out,

0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:01.680
<v Speaker 1>and it flipped into the pool and then the guy

0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:05.560
<v Speaker 1>that you were dating at that time called it. Oh

0:19:05.560 --> 0:19:06.200
<v Speaker 1>I remember him.

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<v Speaker 2>He goes, oh lah, and I went instead of an iPhone, and.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so furious at my mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I hugged the phone at the dashboard on

0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:15.760
<v Speaker 2>the way home, and she was.

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<v Speaker 1>Like pulled the car over and was going to make

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<v Speaker 1>her get out. I really wasn't on the freeway. I'm fifteen.

0:19:21.840 --> 0:19:25.280
<v Speaker 1>It's no joke, but at fifteen, no joke. Anyway, we

0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:28.439
<v Speaker 1>drove home and I treated her like a child and

0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:30.720
<v Speaker 1>told her boyfriend he had to go home because she

0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:35.560
<v Speaker 1>was grounded. Well, we were children. We were seventeen and

0:19:35.680 --> 0:19:42.840
<v Speaker 1>fucking like jack rabbits. So best time of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyway, anyway, now that's an eye I'll tell you what.

0:19:51.680 --> 0:19:58.960
<v Speaker 1>Anyway movie right along, And anytime Lala would lose her

0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:02.399
<v Speaker 1>like lose her cool or get upset, so daily do

0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:05.359
<v Speaker 1>you go like this? He knew how to handle me.

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<v Speaker 1>That's for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Still the most how sad at thirty five, I'm like,

0:20:08.280 --> 0:20:11.800
<v Speaker 2>when I was seventeen, I had a very productive relationship,

0:20:12.359 --> 0:20:15.720
<v Speaker 2>very healthy and mature. Thirty five I'm like, oh my god,

0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:20.000
<v Speaker 2>I've lost all sense of self and what I deserve truly,

0:20:21.160 --> 0:20:26.040
<v Speaker 2>you guys, I had a moment the other day with you, mom. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was actually disappointed in myself when this happened,

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<v Speaker 2>because for however many years I've sworn off men.

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<v Speaker 1>We all know that, and I've had it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you've also sworn off men, but granted your husband died.

0:20:40.760 --> 0:20:42.760
<v Speaker 1>Well, when you have the best, you kind, it's easy

0:20:42.800 --> 0:20:46.320
<v Speaker 1>to kind of swear off the rest. You're like doctor

0:20:46.359 --> 0:20:47.040
<v Speaker 1>SEUs of love.

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

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<v Speaker 1>You're right in the car.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, And when you've had the worst, you tend

0:20:57.640 --> 0:20:59.800
<v Speaker 2>to run away from men in general.

0:21:00.119 --> 0:21:02.879
<v Speaker 1>So I had the best, you had the worst.

0:21:03.640 --> 0:21:03.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, we need a happy meal medium for the love

0:21:06.560 --> 0:21:07.600
<v Speaker 1>of God, give me the gray.

0:21:09.200 --> 0:21:13.399
<v Speaker 2>But I had this moment of like, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>open myself up to love again. I've talked to you

0:21:16.160 --> 0:21:19.080
<v Speaker 2>guys about it, just like venturing into twenty twenty six,

0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:20.320
<v Speaker 2>Like I don't want to be guarded.

0:21:20.400 --> 0:21:21.360
<v Speaker 1>I want to know that like.

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<v Speaker 2>I can still have the life I want and also

0:21:23.640 --> 0:21:25.120
<v Speaker 2>welcome like a really good guy.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was watching a clip.

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<v Speaker 2>From An Unlikely Affair, the new podcast that I have

0:21:36.200 --> 0:21:39.320
<v Speaker 2>with Amber, and it was I think me talking about

0:21:39.359 --> 0:21:43.320
<v Speaker 2>how I had like, and I told you this in

0:21:43.359 --> 0:21:45.600
<v Speaker 2>your response when I told you about this clip, because

0:21:45.640 --> 0:21:47.840
<v Speaker 2>you and I talked about it, you go, oh my,

0:21:48.400 --> 0:21:50.879
<v Speaker 2>you like read for your coffee. Anyway, I told I

0:21:50.960 --> 0:21:53.040
<v Speaker 2>was I'm telling you guys a conversation I had with

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<v Speaker 2>my mom. So I looked at this this clip and

0:21:56.600 --> 0:21:58.399
<v Speaker 2>then I knew that it was picked up as an

0:21:58.520 --> 0:22:01.120
<v Speaker 2>article where they, you know, think of that I had

0:22:01.160 --> 0:22:04.960
<v Speaker 2>masturbated to Amber when I was pregnant right with Ocean,

0:22:06.280 --> 0:22:09.400
<v Speaker 2>And I had this moment of like, I don't I'm

0:22:09.520 --> 0:22:14.120
<v Speaker 2>finally open to finding somebody, and like, who would ever

0:22:14.480 --> 0:22:17.720
<v Speaker 2>want to like date me? Like if this is like

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<v Speaker 2>what they're seeing and you know who's mom or family

0:22:21.440 --> 0:22:24.119
<v Speaker 2>would ever be like, yeah, dater. She seems like a

0:22:24.119 --> 0:22:27.160
<v Speaker 2>great girl, Like if Easton told me, like.

0:22:27.240 --> 0:22:29.640
<v Speaker 1>I really like this girl, and I googled her.

0:22:30.080 --> 0:22:32.920
<v Speaker 2>And I saw all of the things that were written

0:22:32.920 --> 0:22:34.320
<v Speaker 2>about me, but they were written about her.

0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:39.880
<v Speaker 1>I would say, you're not bringing this woman home. She's insane.

0:22:40.040 --> 0:22:43.760
<v Speaker 2>And I literally had a moment of being like, Okay,

0:22:43.760 --> 0:22:46.160
<v Speaker 2>well I need to like I need to be more filtered,

0:22:46.200 --> 0:22:46.959
<v Speaker 2>I need to do this.

0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:49.440
<v Speaker 1>And I checked myself so quickly.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, you are thinking about making a massive change,

0:22:53.600 --> 0:22:56.159
<v Speaker 2>which let's call it what it is. The way that

0:22:56.480 --> 0:23:02.240
<v Speaker 2>I am and have been is I'm not an actress.

0:23:02.240 --> 0:23:04.280
<v Speaker 2>No one's giving me a script like who I am

0:23:04.440 --> 0:23:07.280
<v Speaker 2>has quite literally built the life that I have that

0:23:07.359 --> 0:23:11.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm very proud of, right, and I am willing to

0:23:11.480 --> 0:23:14.399
<v Speaker 2>toss that and make all of these changes.

0:23:14.480 --> 0:23:17.480
<v Speaker 1>You're trying to make concessions and it's like why well,

0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:18.399
<v Speaker 1>and you said that to me.

0:23:18.480 --> 0:23:21.400
<v Speaker 2>You were like, Lauren, if a guy comes into your

0:23:21.400 --> 0:23:24.040
<v Speaker 2>life and let's just say he reads that you masturbated

0:23:24.200 --> 0:23:29.440
<v Speaker 2>to cure ex's ex wife, I was like, as it's coming.

0:23:29.240 --> 0:23:31.800
<v Speaker 1>Out of your mouth, I'm like, yeah, I'm fucking nuts.

0:23:32.000 --> 0:23:33.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm fucking second.

0:23:33.160 --> 0:23:38.160
<v Speaker 2>Insane, Like if you have to find someone who's gonna

0:23:38.240 --> 0:23:39.880
<v Speaker 2>let you be who you are?

0:23:40.640 --> 0:23:41.920
<v Speaker 1>But totally, but that.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like kind of a tough pill to swallow, to

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<v Speaker 2>be like, I may not find someone because I think

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<v Speaker 2>I'm too off my rocker.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you're not. Really, No, You're gonna find that special

0:23:52.480 --> 0:23:57.639
<v Speaker 1>someone who loves the fact that you masturbate to their exes. Well,

0:23:57.680 --> 0:24:02.760
<v Speaker 1>some guys are into that, so there you go. Really, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I love your mom. No, but I'm like, what is this.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would I ever think that way?

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<v Speaker 2>Why would I ever think about making I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>now we've gone too far. I'm like, we've opened ourselves

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<v Speaker 2>up to love, and now we're thinking about like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to change who I am for a man who

0:24:20.160 --> 0:24:23.439
<v Speaker 2>doesn't exist yet, but for the potential love interest that

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<v Speaker 2>comes into my life.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sweating thinking about it right now. Well, it's absurd

0:24:28.320 --> 0:24:32.440
<v Speaker 1>googling me and seeing that. So they say it lucky them.

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<v Speaker 1>You're right, lucky them. She's a bag of fun. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope your mom likes me. And you've gone through all

0:24:45.440 --> 0:24:48.679
<v Speaker 1>these valleys and hills and you're a changed person on

0:24:48.720 --> 0:24:52.000
<v Speaker 1>your own from not drinking anymore. Like you've made so

0:24:52.040 --> 0:24:54.919
<v Speaker 1>many concessions on your terms, and that's how it should be,

0:24:55.000 --> 0:24:57.840
<v Speaker 1>is on your terms. Do you think that people will

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<v Speaker 1>be able to look.

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<v Speaker 2>Past like because I still have a pretty outrageous mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of times it's for like shock

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<v Speaker 2>value and things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you can be spicy, but I think I

0:25:12.119 --> 0:25:17.199
<v Speaker 1>can be spicy. It's okay, it's okay, yeah you, but

0:25:17.280 --> 0:25:20.600
<v Speaker 1>I have you. And if they're if they leave, then

0:25:20.640 --> 0:25:22.480
<v Speaker 1>it's their loss. Goodbye.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I love that you just said that.

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<v Speaker 2>My mom always says it's your loss. And there was

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<v Speaker 2>a day that Ocean told me some girls were being

0:25:29.880 --> 0:25:31.520
<v Speaker 2>mean to her, and I go, they don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>play with you.

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<v Speaker 1>You tell them it is your loss. She comes home,

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<v Speaker 1>she goes.

0:25:35.840 --> 0:25:38.719
<v Speaker 2>I told so and so to get lost today. I go, Ocean,

0:25:38.720 --> 0:25:41.000
<v Speaker 2>that is so rude, and she goes, you.

0:25:41.080 --> 0:25:43.119
<v Speaker 1>Told me to say it. Mom, you told me to

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<v Speaker 1>say that to them.

0:25:44.560 --> 0:25:47.720
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, she thought I told them to

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<v Speaker 2>get lost, and I told her that it's their loss.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's fine. I'm like you here a savage. Yeah,

0:25:53.320 --> 0:25:53.840
<v Speaker 1>good for you.

0:25:54.359 --> 0:25:56.639
<v Speaker 2>And I think there are times though that I forget

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<v Speaker 2>that where it's like I will be so convicted when

0:26:02.760 --> 0:26:06.000
<v Speaker 2>it comes to if you don't like me exactly like

0:26:06.160 --> 0:26:10.320
<v Speaker 2>this is, then like be gone. But then there are

0:26:10.440 --> 0:26:14.399
<v Speaker 2>moments where all look in the mirror and think about

0:26:14.440 --> 0:26:17.000
<v Speaker 2>all the things that I need to change, whether it's

0:26:17.240 --> 0:26:22.320
<v Speaker 2>internally on the outside, and I have these moments of weakness.

0:26:22.520 --> 0:26:25.080
<v Speaker 2>And I don't know where that comes from, but I'm

0:26:25.119 --> 0:26:28.600
<v Speaker 2>telling you that moment thinking listing all the ways I

0:26:28.640 --> 0:26:31.760
<v Speaker 2>need to change in order for someone to come into

0:26:31.760 --> 0:26:36.119
<v Speaker 2>my life. I understand, but I'm trying to and I

0:26:36.640 --> 0:26:40.280
<v Speaker 2>know how you feel like it's asinine and it's their loss.

0:26:40.320 --> 0:26:43.680
<v Speaker 2>But I think you have a very specific way of

0:26:43.760 --> 0:26:47.080
<v Speaker 2>looking at life and you're very much.

0:26:46.960 --> 0:26:48.720
<v Speaker 1>Cut and dry. I am cutting dry.

0:26:48.840 --> 0:26:50.960
<v Speaker 2>Like when people are like her mom's the best, but

0:26:51.080 --> 0:26:54.480
<v Speaker 2>lawless do this, I'm like, my mom is fucking cutthroat,

0:26:54.960 --> 0:26:57.800
<v Speaker 2>like she will be done with you and not think

0:26:57.840 --> 0:26:58.760
<v Speaker 2>a thing about it.

0:26:58.760 --> 0:27:01.400
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't to talk, not at all.

0:27:01.480 --> 0:27:03.600
<v Speaker 2>So when I have these conversations, she looks at me

0:27:03.640 --> 0:27:05.359
<v Speaker 2>like I'm crazy, and I'm like, okay, I need you

0:27:05.400 --> 0:27:06.040
<v Speaker 2>to go believe.

0:27:06.160 --> 0:27:11.640
<v Speaker 1>But I had friendships that are thirty forty fifty years

0:27:11.840 --> 0:27:15.800
<v Speaker 1>in the making that I still hang on to. What

0:27:15.800 --> 0:27:19.679
<v Speaker 1>are you talking about? Like I'm saying that when I

0:27:19.720 --> 0:27:23.560
<v Speaker 1>clean out my closet of friends, I have a lot

0:27:23.600 --> 0:27:26.240
<v Speaker 1>of friends that I've still had forever. But I've also

0:27:26.760 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 1>cleaned out my closet. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have friends

0:27:31.119 --> 0:27:34.080
<v Speaker 1>that you have had for that long. Yeah, Like Jamie

0:27:34.119 --> 0:27:38.560
<v Speaker 1>is how since the seventh grade? Okay, so what fifty years?

0:27:39.119 --> 0:27:43.840
<v Speaker 1>Sixty five? Sixty five? Baby, Yeah, you better work, bitch.

0:27:44.960 --> 0:27:46.840
<v Speaker 2>But then you have another friend where it was like

0:27:47.240 --> 0:27:49.920
<v Speaker 2>we've known each other since the seventh grade, and I

0:27:50.000 --> 0:27:53.320
<v Speaker 2>think I'm done here. Yeah, don't come for the paper,

0:27:54.720 --> 0:27:58.720
<v Speaker 2>you know, no, no, no, A very hard to get here.

0:27:59.520 --> 0:28:02.600
<v Speaker 2>Don't come for my family, and don't come for how

0:28:02.640 --> 0:28:06.040
<v Speaker 2>I provide for my family. Or we're like fucking done here.

0:28:07.520 --> 0:28:09.159
<v Speaker 2>You do wish that I would stop saying the F

0:28:09.200 --> 0:28:11.760
<v Speaker 2>word a lot. I say the F word so much

0:28:11.800 --> 0:28:24.280
<v Speaker 2>it feels so good. Oh.

0:28:24.440 --> 0:28:27.639
<v Speaker 1>Also big news, This is huge news, you guys.

0:28:28.240 --> 0:28:31.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to admit Hi, I'm La La and I'm

0:28:32.000 --> 0:28:34.480
<v Speaker 2>a vapor and I have to give it up for

0:28:34.520 --> 0:28:35.160
<v Speaker 2>my boob job.

0:28:35.480 --> 0:28:38.080
<v Speaker 1>They called me and they were tell me and I

0:28:38.200 --> 0:28:42.720
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, yeah, I vape. Nasty nasty habit that is.

0:28:42.760 --> 0:28:46.320
<v Speaker 2>And they were like, no, like in all seriousness, you

0:28:46.480 --> 0:28:49.200
<v Speaker 2>have to quit a month before your surgery.

0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:51.480
<v Speaker 1>Or you can't have it. They said, yeah, pretty much.

0:28:51.520 --> 0:28:54.080
<v Speaker 2>They were like, it affects so many different things with

0:28:54.120 --> 0:28:57.560
<v Speaker 2>the nicotine, and also you cannot pick it up after

0:28:57.640 --> 0:28:59.920
<v Speaker 2>because it will really really.

0:29:00.000 --> 0:29:01.280
<v Speaker 1>In fact your healing process.

0:29:01.760 --> 0:29:05.480
<v Speaker 2>So I ordered a bag of Jelly Bellies popcorn flavor

0:29:05.520 --> 0:29:07.680
<v Speaker 2>because that's my favorite and that's what I will be

0:29:07.760 --> 0:29:09.840
<v Speaker 2>popping instead of vaping.

0:29:09.960 --> 0:29:12.480
<v Speaker 1>So they were on the counter last night in ocean song,

0:29:12.680 --> 0:29:14.440
<v Speaker 1>and she goes, what are these? And I go, it's

0:29:14.440 --> 0:29:18.520
<v Speaker 1>your mom's medicine. And she goes, because it's kind of

0:29:18.520 --> 0:29:20.960
<v Speaker 1>your medicine for getting off the babe. Yeah, you're not

0:29:20.960 --> 0:29:24.040
<v Speaker 1>telling her that. She goes, if this is candy, Gigi,

0:29:24.440 --> 0:29:26.920
<v Speaker 1>I know it's candy. Did she want one? Of course

0:29:26.960 --> 0:29:29.200
<v Speaker 1>she wanted one. I told her they're popcorn flavor. It's

0:29:29.240 --> 0:29:35.000
<v Speaker 1>her least favorite flavor. She tried what she loves, popcorn,

0:29:35.160 --> 0:29:36.240
<v Speaker 1>animal popcorn.

0:29:36.280 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 2>She doesn't like this artificial jelly belly popcorn flavor.

0:29:39.440 --> 0:29:41.160
<v Speaker 1>No. I gave it to her and she was repulsed

0:29:41.160 --> 0:29:43.160
<v Speaker 1>by it, and I was like, oh, this is excellent. Great.

0:29:43.520 --> 0:29:45.800
<v Speaker 2>I know when I told her that the jelly bellies

0:29:45.800 --> 0:29:49.680
<v Speaker 2>I got were popcorn flavor, she wanted no part.

0:29:49.800 --> 0:29:52.800
<v Speaker 1>I got popcorn flavored rice cakes because I thought she'd

0:29:52.880 --> 0:29:56.000
<v Speaker 1>like them. Oh delicious? Did she like? I don't know,

0:29:56.080 --> 0:30:01.480
<v Speaker 1>but I ate them. They were delicious. Learn to so.

0:30:02.960 --> 0:30:03.240
<v Speaker 2>Good?

0:30:04.760 --> 0:30:08.320
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, now we're talking. We're in freaking business. I

0:30:08.400 --> 0:30:10.040
<v Speaker 1>loved having you on the pod today. Mom.

0:30:10.280 --> 0:30:12.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm really glad the doctor's appointment has steered you into

0:30:12.920 --> 0:30:18.480
<v Speaker 2>making healthier choices better jam Okay, I love you so

0:30:18.600 --> 0:30:20.840
<v Speaker 2>much it kills me. You guys, if you have questions

0:30:20.840 --> 0:30:23.000
<v Speaker 2>for the gig, I definitely want to have her back on.

0:30:23.160 --> 0:30:25.360
<v Speaker 2>If you have them for the G T T, please

0:30:25.400 --> 0:30:29.240
<v Speaker 2>write them in. I've seen your guys' comments. I loved

0:30:29.280 --> 0:30:31.960
<v Speaker 2>having guests, by the way, but there is nothing like

0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:35.920
<v Speaker 2>uh my family as guests. I think that you're very

0:30:35.920 --> 0:30:38.360
<v Speaker 2>interesting to talk to. Look at her, she keeps staring

0:30:38.360 --> 0:30:39.920
<v Speaker 2>at her cookie, like, wrap it up, grab it up.

0:30:40.160 --> 0:30:41.959
<v Speaker 2>But I want this in my mouth, wrap it up,

0:30:42.120 --> 0:30:43.000
<v Speaker 2>so I'm gonna wrap it up.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, guys. I'll catch you on Monday for

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<v Speaker 1>the bonus and again next week. Bye.