1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever. And iHeartRadio podcast. 2 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:10,440 Speaker 1: Chris Harrison coming toy from the home office in Austin, 3 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:13,840 Speaker 1: Texas today, and man, do I have a great show. 4 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:18,280 Speaker 1: I have a gang of women joining me today. This 5 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:20,160 Speaker 1: is something I've been looking forward to because these are 6 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: three women that I respect so much. They have they 7 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: really not just broke the mold. They created the mold 8 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 1: in podcasting and creating this genre that many of us 9 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,639 Speaker 1: have gotten into. They are the Lady Gang. That is 10 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:41,279 Speaker 1: Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vannick and Kelty and 11 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: Becca and Jack created a podcast called The Lady Gang 12 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: back in twenty fifteen. But they have become so much 13 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 1: more than that. They have created this community of women, 14 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: and they have written books. They have over one hundred 15 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: and ninety million downloads, they have won People's Choice Award. 16 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 1: They've done it all, and they have been doing it. 17 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 1: They're going on their ninth year of the Lady Gang, 18 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: and they've had their ups and downs. They've been controversial, 19 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: but they've stayed true to themselves and they are always 20 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:18,319 Speaker 1: unbelievably honest. And that's why I thought, let's have this conversation. 21 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 1: And I know most of them. Jactually the only one 22 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: I don't know very well, Becca, who lives here in Austin, 23 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 1: was actually at our wedding. And Kelty Night is somebody 24 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: that I have known for years because while I was 25 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 1: on the Bachelor, she was in the entertainment business, and 26 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: then I was in the entertainment business doing red carpets 27 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: as well, worked alongside her. So I have a healthy 28 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 1: respect for Kelty and really for all of them, and 29 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 1: I'm so excited that they are joining me on the 30 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: show today, the most dramatic podcast ever is joined by 31 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 1: the Lady Gang. I don't know where is everybody. 32 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 2: We've got two in la and one in Austin. 33 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 1: Okay, yes, first of all, all four of us are 34 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 1: married now because I just joined the ranks with Lauren Zima, 35 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: who you all know very well. We'll talk about Jack 36 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:07,240 Speaker 1: got married in France. 37 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 2: In France, Yeah, September twelfth. We've got like two months 38 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 2: on our belt. So feeling really successful. 39 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 1: So you've been doing this a lot longer than I have. 40 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 1: You're an old married woman. Laura and I are just 41 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: getting into this. We're still in that honeymoon phase. Has 42 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: the honeymoon phase already worn off. 43 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, but no. 44 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 2: I mean my husband is a musician, so he travels 45 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 2: for a living, so we are literally all over the place. 46 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 2: So our entire life is sort of like a honeymoon. 47 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,080 Speaker 2: So we've been traveling NonStop since then, so I haven't 48 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 2: gotten a second to breathe. 49 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:39,799 Speaker 1: Someone asked Laura and if we were going to do 50 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 1: a honeymoon. I was like, yeah, our life is kind 51 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 1: of like a honeymoon. We're constantly going. We don't have 52 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: time to just stop and go to Bora Bora for 53 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: a week. Yeah, we'll end up there eventually. So was 54 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: everybody at the wedding. 55 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 2: Yep, these two bitches are at the wedding. They actually 56 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 2: were my I didn't have flower girls. They were my 57 00:02:57,240 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 2: fire fireball girls. So they handed out fireball shots to 58 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 2: everybody before I walked down the aisle to like get 59 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 2: everybody in the mood and like Lucy goosey. 60 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 4: So and we went viral, Chris Harrison, we went really viral. 61 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 4: The internet really likes old lady handing out fireball instead 62 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 4: of a young flower girl. 63 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:19,839 Speaker 1: So did that played that really hit the mark? 64 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 3: Really hit the mark? Did you really? 65 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 4: Then we reached out to fireball for a sponsorship, and 66 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 4: it was cricket, so you know you fireball. 67 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:30,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, so Kelty, thanks. They're no longer sponsoring this show either. 68 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 1: I would think that fireball would have to be imported 69 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: to France. I don't Did they have those little fireball 70 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: things in France? Is that a thing? 71 00:03:39,360 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 2: No? So my parents ended up stuffing Well. I only 72 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 2: had fifty six gusts at my wedding, so it wasn't 73 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 2: like I needed to get over there. 74 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so. 75 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 2: Much fut of that way, but yeah, my parents stuffed 76 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 2: all the little mini fireball shots in their checked suitcases, so. 77 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 1: They brought in illegal fireball shots. 78 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was worth it. 79 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: You're never allowed to go to France Americans. Yes, exactly, 80 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: kind of bougie because you're in France. 81 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 5: I like like a highbrow, lowbrow situation. 82 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 3: It was perfect, a. 83 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: Little bit country, little bit rock and roll. And so 84 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: exactly how was your wedding? You said small. We did 85 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:19,720 Speaker 1: the same thing when we did our Napa wedding, So 86 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:23,160 Speaker 1: you did small? Quaint? Where was it? 87 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:26,839 Speaker 2: So we rented out a chateau in France. It wasn't 88 00:04:26,880 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 2: exactly quaint. The chateau was pretty ship that it was 89 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 2: kind of bougie, but like also not because a chateau 90 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 2: is just like a big house. 91 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: So I know, but it's all cool to say I 92 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:42,919 Speaker 1: rented out a chateau. Yeah, but like it I rented 93 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,239 Speaker 1: at a ranch, It doesn't. 94 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 3: It was also a bougie ranch. 95 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: It was a bougie ranch. 96 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 2: It's probably boogier than the chateau was. 97 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: But yeah, when you say chateau, it's just like I 98 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: live in a house or I live in an enclave. 99 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: That's there's just that subtle difference. Yeah, Becca, You're right, 100 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 1: we did. It was a bougie as shit ranch here 101 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 1: in Austin, Texas, and it was we didn't get to 102 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: spend a lot of time together. There were so many 103 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:10,280 Speaker 1: damn people there, and that's what worried me about having 104 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: a big wedding, And that's why Lauren and I did 105 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: the first one very small, so we could feel all 106 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 1: the feels, see everybody, and actually spend quality time with 107 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: my mom, my dad and her mom and actually connect 108 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: with everybody, and then have the big blowout in Austin, 109 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: because that's hard. It's it's I felt like I was 110 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 1: just floating around all night and then the next day 111 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 1: I'm like did I spend time with anybody? 112 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 3: You made arounds. I feel like you and Lauren both 113 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 3: did a really good job. I mean kind of is 114 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 3: is your job ingrained and you to like walk around 115 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 3: and make everybody feel comfortable what you did and host 116 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 3: I mean literally host wedding literally. I have to say though, 117 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 3: as I'm sure you've to discussed your wedding on the podcast, 118 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 3: but as someone who just got to be there and 119 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 3: witnessed your love, it was one of the most moving 120 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 3: evenings of my life. You too, are so madly in love. 121 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 3: And when you just asked Jack if the you know 122 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:07,359 Speaker 3: has worn off, the newly weed whatever, I sort of 123 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 3: feel like you and Lauren are never going to get there. 124 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:13,919 Speaker 3: I feel like your love is so afresh and alive 125 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:16,919 Speaker 3: and so fun. There's just something about the two of you. 126 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,280 Speaker 3: It really is so magical. It was awesome. 127 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: Thank you felt it felt that way. And one thing 128 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: about l Z that I instantly connected with and we 129 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 1: had the chemistry when we first started dating five and 130 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:30,279 Speaker 1: a half years ago, is we just had this crazy 131 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: chemistry where we love really hard, and we love each 132 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: other constantly, and we're always talking and we're always you know, 133 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:39,480 Speaker 1: leaving notes, and we're always we continue to date and 134 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 1: treat ourselves that way and give each other little gifts 135 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 1: and stuff, and so you're right, it's it's always been 136 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: that kind of honeymoon phase. And look at ebbs and 137 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: flows like every relationship and it's not like we don't fight, 138 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:52,320 Speaker 1: and it's not, you know, all perfect. I don't want 139 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 1: anyone to think that any relationship is perfect, but it 140 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: really is different than any other relationship I've ever had 141 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: in my life, which is really fun when you realize 142 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: it can be like that. And I don't know, you know, 143 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,160 Speaker 1: if you guys feel the same. Is that the stage 144 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 1: in life we're at, you know, I have older kids 145 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 1: and we can spend that quality time together loving each other. 146 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if one begets the other or if 147 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 1: maybe we just got lucky, but I think timing has 148 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 1: something to do with it. 149 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 5: Well. 150 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 3: I also think it helps that you you had been 151 00:07:21,360 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 3: married before. I actually, with all my single girlfriends right 152 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 3: now that were in our late thirties early forties, I'm like, 153 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 3: find a guy who has been married, because I think 154 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 3: that you come into it not totally irrational, with like 155 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 3: hearts and rainbows and flowers. Can you hear my child screaming. 156 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 3: So sorry. Speaking of the honeymoon phase with people walking, 157 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 3: I don't really wipe it out, no, but I think 158 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 3: that that's a little bit like you didn't have you 159 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 3: knew it took work, and you also when you decided 160 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 3: it was right the second time, I think you have 161 00:07:56,840 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 3: to be so sure, and you seem so absolutely sure 162 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 3: and confident in what this is. So I don't know, 163 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 3: I think it's a I think it's a good thing 164 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 3: that you guys found each other in this phase of life. 165 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: I think Lauren put it best. She goes, I know 166 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 1: it's very specific, but I really recommend that everybody the 167 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: second time around get married to a dad who has 168 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 1: older kids. You can just walk in be an empty nester. 169 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 1: I go, it's a very specific niche, but it's working. 170 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 2: You missed all of the hard work and you just 171 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 2: gotta like chill with adults. 172 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 1: Kind of yeah, But Lauren has a lot of a 173 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 1: lot of her girlfriends. They have young kids and they're 174 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: going through it like you are, Becca, and so Lauren's like, 175 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's kind of nice. Kids are in 176 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 1: college already. It's really super. 177 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 5: Are you guys gonna have kid kids together. 178 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:46,679 Speaker 1: No, we're not going to have kid kids of any sort. 179 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: Baby babies are kid kids. We really we have a 180 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: hard time keeping an orchid alive. I haven't figured that out. 181 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 1: And so we you know, we don't even have a 182 00:08:57,360 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: dog because we like to kind of get up and go. 183 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 1: And but in all seriousness, that is a conversation Kelty 184 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 1: that we had early on. And I had dated other people. 185 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 1: I mean, I was single for ten or eleven years 186 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:13,520 Speaker 1: post divorce and really spent some time and figured myself 187 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: out and got the kids to a certain age and 188 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: really came to a time in my life where I 189 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:20,319 Speaker 1: wasn't necessarily looking for it. But it hit me when 190 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: I met Lauren, and I was open to it. And 191 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: we had an early, pretty early discussion when I realized 192 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 1: she was different and somebody very special in my life. 193 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 1: And I just was very blunt and I'm like this, 194 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: you know, I have kids. I hit the lottery. I 195 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 1: have somehow have two beautiful children and they've made it 196 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: this far in life and I'm not looking to start over. 197 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: And I'm already looking at that next stage of my life. 198 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: And she had because of the circumstances in her life 199 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 1: with her dad and raising really her siblings and she 200 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: really didn't want to go down that route either, and 201 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:56,439 Speaker 1: so it was something that we had talked about for sure. 202 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 1: And it's a it's a conversation you got. 203 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 2: To have and so people don't have it early in 204 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 2: their relationships, which is so crazy. You hear about people 205 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 2: that are dating for years and they finally had that 206 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 2: conversation and they've wasted you know, five years of their lives. 207 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:12,959 Speaker 2: So that's such an important thing to get out of 208 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:14,439 Speaker 2: the way, to stop wasting your time. 209 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 4: No, I think happiness sometimes is just being, you know, 210 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 4: wanting the same thing out of your life. 211 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:23,560 Speaker 5: And we see it so much in the Lady Gang. 212 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,559 Speaker 5: In our Lady Gang Facebook group is you know, so. 213 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 4: Many women that are like here, I am been with 214 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 4: him six years, or we have kids or whatever, and 215 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 4: then all of a sudden he's told me his dream 216 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:36,840 Speaker 4: is to live in Hawaii and be a surfer and 217 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 4: he quit his job, and like you know, and listen, 218 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:43,679 Speaker 4: people change over time, absolutely one hundred percent, but those 219 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:46,760 Speaker 4: core things like are you someone that wants to be 220 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 4: a Jack Vanik and wants to be around people all 221 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 4: the time? Are you a keeltie that you're like, I 222 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 4: want to be alone. Please don't take me out of 223 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 4: my house like you. 224 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 5: You know, do you want kids? 225 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,080 Speaker 4: Are you a becca? Do you find yourself moving around 226 00:10:57,120 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 4: like you have to? You have to want the same 227 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 4: sort of lifestyle and the same thing, like core value stuff. 228 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:06,319 Speaker 4: It can't just be like are you hot? Am I 229 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:07,840 Speaker 4: track to you? Do you have fun together? 230 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 3: Like? Do we? You know? 231 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 4: Love only gets you so far, too, love literally gets 232 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 4: you so far, And then it's. 233 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:16,840 Speaker 1: Important to have those conversations. And you're right. People do 234 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 1: change and that happens, especially when you marry young. I 235 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:21,640 Speaker 1: mean that's I did that. I was married at twenty three. 236 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: I think Lauren was married at twenty five. And you 237 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: are not the same. I was a boy and you 238 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: grew up to be a man, and we grew up 239 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:32,439 Speaker 1: and went different directions. But we have friends. And I'm 240 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: sure y'all talk about this too, that they said at 241 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 1: the beginning, I don't want to have kids. I'm not 242 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: looking to be a dad or I'm not looking to 243 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 1: be a mom, And you still take that leap and 244 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: you get married thinking you're going to change them. If 245 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: someone tells you who they are before you get married, 246 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:53,199 Speaker 1: take that as a beautiful sign that they're actually telling 247 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: you who they are. You're not having to figure that 248 00:11:55,920 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: out and thinking that you're going to change somebody man, woman, child, 249 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: anything that is such a bad mistake. It's such a 250 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,959 Speaker 1: red flag of thinking, oh, they'll change over time. 251 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:09,079 Speaker 3: You just can't. 252 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: If someone's honest with you, take them at their room. 253 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:14,720 Speaker 2: I can't start dating somebody looking at their potential. That's 254 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:16,560 Speaker 2: like the biggest thing that I learned when I was dating. 255 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:19,559 Speaker 2: It's like you need or especially when it comes to 256 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 2: wanting to marry somebody, it's like you are marrying. The 257 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 2: person that you're marrying is the person that you're marrying. 258 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 2: And obviously you said that you know, people change or whatever, 259 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 2: but not in those big ways. So it's like you 260 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 2: can't look at somebody being like, oh, I see the 261 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 2: potential of this being this way given a few years, 262 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:39,079 Speaker 2: and you know we'll change together. But it's that's how 263 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of women will look at 264 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:43,440 Speaker 2: a situation where it's like, dude, the guy is the guy, 265 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 2: and that's what. 266 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:48,120 Speaker 5: You're getting the guy. Chris Knight is never going to 267 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:48,640 Speaker 5: be handy. 268 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:51,320 Speaker 4: My dad is back in town again, helping me fix 269 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 4: up my house because Chris Knight. I swear to God, 270 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 4: you guys, this man, I'm like on top of a 271 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:58,280 Speaker 4: fence and I have a thing and I'm trying to 272 00:12:58,280 --> 00:13:01,200 Speaker 4: cut a wire, and I to him, Chris, can you 273 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 4: grab me a knife? 274 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:05,199 Speaker 5: This man brought me a steak knife. Okay, he brought me. 275 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:08,199 Speaker 4: A steak knife to the outdoors to help me cut 276 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:08,560 Speaker 4: a wire. 277 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: Did you bring a steak at least? 278 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 5: I'm on the. 279 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:14,640 Speaker 4: Roof trying to fix the Wi Fi. And this man, 280 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 4: like you just know, I knew. 281 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:18,079 Speaker 2: Man in your relationship. 282 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 4: He told me I don't do handiness. I'm a spreadsheet 283 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:23,360 Speaker 4: kind of guy. And I had to believe him because 284 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 4: he brought me a steak knife to cut a wife. 285 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 1: You need an Excel spreadsheet though you are so set. 286 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:30,559 Speaker 4: If you need a contract, red, Chris n I can 287 00:13:30,559 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 4: help you out. He can negotiate it for you. But 288 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 4: he is not going to help you cook brunch for 289 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 4: his in laws or your family. And he's not going 290 00:13:38,240 --> 00:13:40,839 Speaker 4: to feed the dishwasher, and he's not gonna understand a 291 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 4: power tool. 292 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,680 Speaker 1: Okay. So Becca and Jack tell me what are the 293 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: things that you knew heading into this relationship? And they 294 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:04,840 Speaker 1: have not changed, like while you think about it, like 295 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 1: while you think about it, like like I know for 296 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:09,480 Speaker 1: a fact, I will never have a cooked meal from 297 00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:15,160 Speaker 1: Lauren Zema ever. She cannot cook. She will burn boiled water. 298 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:18,200 Speaker 1: I don't know how, but she does it. And so 299 00:14:18,760 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 1: she's not even allowed she's not even allowed to use 300 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 1: my pants. I have lauren pans, you know, And I 301 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: have my pants because I have beautiful, professional grade pants. 302 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:32,480 Speaker 1: I love to cook. I love to make dinners. That's 303 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 1: something I get a lot of joy out of. And 304 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:36,600 Speaker 1: Lauren sits there and will have her champagne or her 305 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 1: wine and we talk and I love that time when 306 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 1: we're in the kitchen. But I don't ever expect her 307 00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:44,720 Speaker 1: to make me a meal. That's not even a thing 308 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 1: I want, Like, oh babe, look, I surprise you just 309 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: don't do it. And you know, and I know that 310 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:52,760 Speaker 1: she's not big on forms, like she's not big on 311 00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: taxes and doing banking stuff like will I will always 312 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 1: do that for her? And and you know, conversely, she 313 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 1: this in our she'll do laundry, she'll do the organizing, 314 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: she'll do those are things she loves. And so there's 315 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 1: just certain things that I don't need that. And I'm 316 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:12,320 Speaker 1: glad that I'm of age and I'm experienced enough in 317 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:14,600 Speaker 1: my life that like, I'm not going to ever expect 318 00:15:14,600 --> 00:15:16,320 Speaker 1: that from her. I don't need that. 319 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 5: She's your best accessory. 320 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 4: She's a checuteri like plus plus like she looks great 321 00:15:21,080 --> 00:15:23,160 Speaker 4: on the end of the chicuterie board, wine in hand, 322 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:25,680 Speaker 4: big sexy hair, yes, giving you a laugh. 323 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:29,120 Speaker 3: She also bought the charcuterie board as well. 324 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:31,360 Speaker 1: And she's the vibe, right, She's the vibe. Like she's 325 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:34,520 Speaker 1: like when we have parties now or anything, like, she 326 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 1: is the vibe. She is the person that everybody gravitates to. 327 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:39,960 Speaker 1: She's the star of the show. And it is so 328 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: wonderful that I just get this kind of I'm kind 329 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 1: of like Kelsey, I kind of like sinking back in 330 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 1: the background and just getting to hang. And she puts 331 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:52,480 Speaker 1: out such effort to exhaustion and that's what she's brilliant at. 332 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 1: And I love it. 333 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:54,920 Speaker 2: Yeah it, I. 334 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 5: Mean I don't want to hang. 335 00:15:56,440 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 4: I know, I don't want I don't want people. 336 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 1: You really want to be there. 337 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 3: He really dislikes people. I mean, it is it's tough 338 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 3: for us. I think Zach has always been the paperwork guy. 339 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:12,040 Speaker 3: You know, he's he gets us set up with our 340 00:16:12,440 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 3: insurance and our you know, mortgages, and I have never once. 341 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 3: He just sends me stuff and I sign. It could 342 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 3: be dangerous. I'm not sure. We have a business manager 343 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 3: who hopefully is on my side, but I know that 344 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:27,840 Speaker 3: I never have to deal with paperwork, and I'm so 345 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:31,920 Speaker 3: grateful for that. We're both pretty tidy. When I started 346 00:16:31,960 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 3: dating him, I remember the amount of times he would 347 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 3: vacuum a floor was really impressive. He's still very much 348 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:41,000 Speaker 3: into the vacuum. But then again, he has like annoying 349 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 3: habits like men. They'll be like I cleaned up, and 350 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 3: you'll look around and there's ten baseball caps like on 351 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 3: surfaces all over the house, where I'm like, that's not 352 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:52,360 Speaker 3: where those things belong. It's like just little things like 353 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 3: I'm at his desk today and it's just weird things 354 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 3: like a kuzie. Why is there a kuzie on this desk? 355 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 3: It should be empty. So this guy is the same 356 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 3: guy that I married, and yeah. 357 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:03,600 Speaker 1: Jack, what about you? 358 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:06,359 Speaker 2: Though, Jared is a little bit of the same, Like 359 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:09,199 Speaker 2: he is a finances guy, which is great because money 360 00:17:09,600 --> 00:17:12,520 Speaker 2: scares me, Like I hate dealing with money. I'm like, 361 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:14,440 Speaker 2: I'll make the money, but like you got to figure 362 00:17:14,440 --> 00:17:17,399 Speaker 2: out how we're investing it and how we're like moving 363 00:17:17,440 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 2: it around. So that's why I'm very excited about being 364 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 2: married because I can kind of like hand all of 365 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:25,640 Speaker 2: those things over to him. He is also like so domestic. 366 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:31,439 Speaker 2: I am not a domestic gal whatsoever. Like I do 367 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 2: not cook, I clean, but like I am not doing 368 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:37,440 Speaker 2: any kind of like domestic things. He loves to keep 369 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 2: things tidy, he loves being at home. He loves like 370 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:42,879 Speaker 2: doing all of those things. So like it's kind of 371 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 2: been like a good not gender reversal, but like he 372 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:48,680 Speaker 2: likes doing that. He's also very handy. But the one 373 00:17:48,720 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 2: thing that I tried to like push him to when 374 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:54,119 Speaker 2: we first started dating that he is just not going 375 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:58,440 Speaker 2: to do, is he professionally is not going to take 376 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:02,520 Speaker 2: initiative with things, Like I'm such an entrepreneurial spirit, like 377 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:04,640 Speaker 2: I want to start it like five businesses at once. 378 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:07,359 Speaker 2: Like I'm very savvy, I'm very scrappy, like I know 379 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 2: how to like use my potential in different ways. And 380 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:14,320 Speaker 2: I kind of assumed that he would be that way too, 381 00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:17,679 Speaker 2: But he is like part of a cog in his band, 382 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 2: and he will get things done. He works for a podcast, like, 383 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 2: he'll get shit done and never miss a mark. But 384 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 2: he's not gonna like push himself to like start something new, 385 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 2: and that's something that he's not an innovator. And that's okay. 386 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 2: But like I when we first started him, like we're 387 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:34,680 Speaker 2: gonna be this power couple, You're gonna start all your businesses. 388 00:18:34,720 --> 00:18:37,480 Speaker 2: I'm gonna do mine. We're gonna work together. But I'm like, 389 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 2: he's not like that, which is fine. He will follow 390 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:42,199 Speaker 2: a role and he will get things done well, but 391 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 2: he's not gonna be, you know, coming up with all 392 00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:49,960 Speaker 2: of these ideas and starting a million businesses, which is fine. 393 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:02,439 Speaker 1: You hit on a subject, and I bet you have 394 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:05,879 Speaker 1: all talked about this on The Lady Gang. But next 395 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:08,479 Speaker 1: to kids and all that, it's probably the number one 396 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:12,199 Speaker 1: reason people get married, get divorced, break ups, breaks up families, 397 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:16,160 Speaker 1: and that's finances. And Lauren is like you, Jack, where 398 00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:18,960 Speaker 1: she does not want anything to do with it. But 399 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:23,439 Speaker 1: it was important for me to show her our financial picture. 400 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 1: Obviously there was a big disparity between us. I've been 401 00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:29,720 Speaker 1: working for a lot longer than her and so it 402 00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:31,600 Speaker 1: was important for me to show her where we're at, 403 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: bring her into the fold, and let her understand these 404 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 1: are our investments, this is where things are, this is 405 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 1: where if I get hit by a bus, this is 406 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 1: who you call those things. And so she's getting more 407 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:44,200 Speaker 1: and more excited about it, which is good. And I'm 408 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:48,680 Speaker 1: just curious as three very successful women who very much 409 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 1: make I don't know your finances in your family, but 410 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,800 Speaker 1: maybe you'll make even more than your husbands or whatever. 411 00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: I don't know the situation, but how does that work 412 00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: in each of your situations? Jack seems a little similar 413 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: to orn and I, But Kelty and Becca, what's it 414 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,120 Speaker 1: like for the two of you as far as finances, 415 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 1: because I think it's really important that everybody at least 416 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 1: understands what's going on in their house. 417 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:12,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, Kelty, do you want to go first? 418 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:13,639 Speaker 4: You go ahead? 419 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:21,720 Speaker 3: Okay, you know I I love money, I love making it, 420 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:28,719 Speaker 3: I love thinking about it. Yes, all of the above. 421 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 3: So I am pretty in tune with what we have, 422 00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:35,880 Speaker 3: what we invest in, all those types of things. And 423 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,399 Speaker 3: luckily Zach and I are very much on the same page. 424 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:42,119 Speaker 3: But we're both the same kind of spenders, which I 425 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:44,680 Speaker 3: think is also very important because there can be such 426 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:48,919 Speaker 3: resentment in a relationship when one person's the spender and 427 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 3: one person's the really good saver, because that's kind of 428 00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:54,880 Speaker 3: a recipe for disaster, in my opinion, And nobody wants 429 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 3: to be given like allowances or be told what they 430 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 3: can spend money on what they can't. So Zach and 431 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:02,879 Speaker 3: I are so much the same that I know if 432 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,439 Speaker 3: he's spending money, it's money that can be spent and 433 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:09,160 Speaker 3: should be spent. But I'm trying to get a little 434 00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:13,680 Speaker 3: bit more bold with He's really kind of very he's 435 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:16,880 Speaker 3: in real estate, so it's like kind of like gambling 436 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,639 Speaker 3: in a way, and I get very very nervous. I 437 00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:23,479 Speaker 3: am a Jew, and we get scarcity mentality with money, 438 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:27,480 Speaker 3: and I get very nervous about big things going out 439 00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:29,680 Speaker 3: and maybe no guarantee of it coming back. But he's 440 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 3: sort of taught me with little baby steps here and 441 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 3: there that it's actually very fun and if you do 442 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 3: it the right way, it's like free money. So that's exciting. 443 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 3: Sometimes matter sometimes it just burns in the air, but no, 444 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:45,639 Speaker 3: for the most part, like he's teaching me how to 445 00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 3: do that, and so yeah, it's it's actually really great, 446 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 3: and I agree. It's like so many marriages fail because 447 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 3: of this one thing. 448 00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 4: Oh my god, it's brettal Well, Chris Harrison, I'm a psychopath. 449 00:21:56,720 --> 00:22:02,680 Speaker 4: I it's so embarrassing how it comes out on podcasts. 450 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 4: So I started my first like savings account when I 451 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:08,920 Speaker 4: was like twenty one in New York, and I made 452 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:10,560 Speaker 4: this goal that I was going to like put twenty 453 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:12,600 Speaker 4: five dollars a week. I was broke, I was living 454 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 4: in like with six people. I was go go dancing 455 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:18,119 Speaker 4: for money, like but even then, I just really understood 456 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:21,679 Speaker 4: compound interest and I was like, I'm gonna save money 457 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 4: and I'm gonna like be responsible because when I was 458 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 4: a kid, like my dad lost his job and I 459 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,760 Speaker 4: just remember having to quit dance lessons and it was like, 460 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 4: it's stupid, like this happens all the time, but it 461 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:32,680 Speaker 4: was traumatic for me, and I was like, I will 462 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 4: never not have like, I will never not be ready 463 00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:38,680 Speaker 4: and can take care of myself. And when I met Chris, 464 00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:41,680 Speaker 4: I remember he was an assistant to a music guy 465 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,600 Speaker 4: at the time and I was had just quit dancing. 466 00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 4: I think it literally I met him right like right 467 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 4: before I went on The Bachelor so that was that. 468 00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 1: Long ago, which, by the way, Yeah, so. 469 00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 4: I met Chris and I remember, you know, after we 470 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,040 Speaker 4: got together, he was like, you're gonna out earn me 471 00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:00,639 Speaker 4: one day, like you out art me. 472 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 5: And I was like, are you fucking crazy? 473 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:05,160 Speaker 4: Like you got this year like at a company and whatever, 474 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,840 Speaker 4: and he was right, like at some point, like TV, 475 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,000 Speaker 4: when you get on TV, that the amount of money 476 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,400 Speaker 4: you can make being on television and being a television 477 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,080 Speaker 4: personality and stuff like that, like it does, it does grow. 478 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 4: And so I've just always been nuts. I look at 479 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:20,760 Speaker 4: my money like probably two times a week. I have 480 00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:25,200 Speaker 4: flow charts and Boujo charts, and I'm really into investments. 481 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,320 Speaker 4: I'm really into retirement. I had a goal that I 482 00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 4: would have a certain amount of money by the time 483 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:33,680 Speaker 4: I turned forty, and I hit that goal and I've 484 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:38,560 Speaker 4: just been like kind of intense about it and and 485 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:40,480 Speaker 4: I know where all my money is and like I'm 486 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 4: kind of crazy about that. But Chris doesn't tell me 487 00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,920 Speaker 4: what to spend. We don't really get in each other's lives. 488 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:47,240 Speaker 4: We have things that we share, we have things that 489 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 4: we and then Chris is the one that's like there's 490 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:53,479 Speaker 4: this AI technology and space, and I'm going to invest 491 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,280 Speaker 4: in it, and I was like, please leave me alone. 492 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:57,920 Speaker 5: He was like, he was like, oh my god. 493 00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:00,600 Speaker 4: He's like at the company, we're investing in houses that 494 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 4: burn your poop instead of putting it in the sewer lines. 495 00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:05,120 Speaker 5: And I was like, God, damn it, I don't want 496 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:05,639 Speaker 5: to invest it. 497 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 3: But yeah, I think they actually invested in those houses 498 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,560 Speaker 3: because Chris told us about it. 499 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:15,160 Speaker 1: I think, yeah, burning houses there the rage. 500 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 3: It's the future. 501 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:21,159 Speaker 4: That But like I have a very im not the 502 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,640 Speaker 4: exact same background as Lauren, but like we both had 503 00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 4: sort of like traumatic where we have to take care 504 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,120 Speaker 4: of our family situation and and like when that happens 505 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,600 Speaker 4: to you, I'm surprised that she's not more like intense 506 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,280 Speaker 4: because when that happens for me, it made me want 507 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:36,160 Speaker 4: to like be in charge. 508 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,160 Speaker 5: But also I'm very OCD about those kinds of things. 509 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:41,119 Speaker 4: And then but by the way, like we'll completely missus 510 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,160 Speaker 4: zero when I'm paying a bill, so it's like I'm 511 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,040 Speaker 4: super on it, and then I skim and like instead 512 00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:48,240 Speaker 4: of paying fifteen hundred dollars, I pay one hundred and 513 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:49,520 Speaker 4: fifty dollars and then I get another bill. 514 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,320 Speaker 1: So it's the TV side of you that comes through 515 00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:52,359 Speaker 1: every now and then. That's what we do. 516 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 5: I just can't. I just can't make it. 517 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 1: It's amazing to me that people will have a conversation, 518 00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,679 Speaker 1: say about kids or whatever, getting into a relationship, and 519 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,960 Speaker 1: they don't think or see the signs about finances, like 520 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:07,520 Speaker 1: how much debt are you bringing into this relationship? You know, 521 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,040 Speaker 1: and as you get older you don't have to worry 522 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,159 Speaker 1: as much about those things. But it is crazy to 523 00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:15,360 Speaker 1: me you don't have those conversations of who spends more, 524 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 1: how do you spend? Because I agree beca If you don't, 525 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 1: if you're not somewhat aligned in those things and the 526 00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:23,400 Speaker 1: way you live, it will be catastrophic. It is something 527 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 1: that will drive you crazy. And to me, the biggest 528 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 1: deal breaker is the I'm putting you on an allowance, 529 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:34,119 Speaker 1: Like you're not eight years old. You're not a child. 530 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:39,119 Speaker 1: Anybody who's on an allowance just get out now run 531 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 1: And by the way, if you're such a child that 532 00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,760 Speaker 1: you need to be on an allowance, look in the 533 00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: mirror and change yourself for God's sakes. And if you 534 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,520 Speaker 1: can't have that conversation with your significant other of hey, 535 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:52,360 Speaker 1: we got to rain this in or I don't love 536 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:54,480 Speaker 1: how you're doing this. Instead, it's like I'm going to 537 00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,679 Speaker 1: give you two hundred dollars a week. That's crazy to me. 538 00:25:57,840 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 4: Well, I am going to be honest, I do lie 539 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:01,919 Speaker 4: about how much money I spent at home Goods. 540 00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:05,840 Speaker 1: I'm gonna like Lauren Kelsey, I know, I don't know. 541 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 1: It's that's a don't ask, don't want to know policy. 542 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:08,560 Speaker 3: I have. 543 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:12,560 Speaker 1: No. I'm pretty sure if we don't own home Goods, 544 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 1: we have a significant share. 545 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:15,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. 546 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,640 Speaker 5: Maybe sometimes investment you need to make. 547 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,359 Speaker 4: Sometimes a box from the real rail will arrive and 548 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 4: I'll work and He'll be like, oh is that new, 549 00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:23,679 Speaker 4: And I'll be like, oh, no, I've had it forever, 550 00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:24,359 Speaker 4: but I haven't. 551 00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 5: I just got it from the rail road this week. 552 00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:27,560 Speaker 5: Like you know, I'm full. 553 00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:28,359 Speaker 3: You know. 554 00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,960 Speaker 1: That's the thing is laugh coo. Candles boxes show up 555 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 1: and Lauren's like, oh, we're doing an ad. I'm like, 556 00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,679 Speaker 1: are you you know? Did they really send out or 557 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:37,679 Speaker 1: did you just spend five hundred dollars on candles that 558 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:42,000 Speaker 1: you're sponsored by? And so there we were in Chicago 559 00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,560 Speaker 1: last week and that's where we did Thanksgiving and spent 560 00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:47,880 Speaker 1: some time with her mom, Donna, and her sister Christina, 561 00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:51,200 Speaker 1: and they went to Home Goods or teg Max. I 562 00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,800 Speaker 1: think they're all owned by the same person as a fact. Yeah, yeah, 563 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:58,000 Speaker 1: So they came home with they took three trips in 564 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:00,320 Speaker 1: and out of the car, filled up the entire little 565 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:04,480 Speaker 1: foyer of the house. And I looked at Christina, Lauren's sister, 566 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,919 Speaker 1: and I said, you know, y'all don't live here, Like, 567 00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 1: where do you think all this stuff is going that 568 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 1: you bought. We have our own home goods. Come home 569 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:15,679 Speaker 1: and buy this stuff. But they bought hundreds, if not 570 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:17,720 Speaker 1: thousands of dollars worth of stuff at home Goods and 571 00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:19,400 Speaker 1: brought it all home. And I'm sure they're all taking 572 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,439 Speaker 1: it back. That's a thing too. And maybe y'all can 573 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,760 Speaker 1: explain to me this activity in this cycle of they 574 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,280 Speaker 1: buy stuff and then they kind of look at it 575 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:29,200 Speaker 1: and then they take it all back. 576 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's it's called girl math. So if you 577 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:38,119 Speaker 3: do a ton of shopping and you pretty much return 578 00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:41,320 Speaker 3: everything but maybe one or two things, when I make 579 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,919 Speaker 3: that return, it's as if I'm being paid. 580 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm making money. 581 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:46,200 Speaker 1: Okay. 582 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,440 Speaker 3: So then the two things that I ended up staying 583 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:50,880 Speaker 3: in my possession are free. It's free. 584 00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,320 Speaker 1: So we spend one thousand dollars, but you got eight 585 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,520 Speaker 1: hundred back. You made eight hundred dollars. 586 00:27:55,680 --> 00:28:00,280 Speaker 3: I made eight dollars. It's just so gratifying. I just 587 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 3: love it so much. And I love when I'm watching 588 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 3: Lauren stories and she says, I'm blocking Chris Harrison on this, 589 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:07,640 Speaker 3: but look at these plates. 590 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,840 Speaker 1: We guys, we had a party. We had a Halloween party. 591 00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 1: Not because either one of us wanted to have a 592 00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:19,840 Speaker 1: Halloween party. We were in the middle of getting married twice. 593 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,359 Speaker 1: We had no time or effort for this. We had 594 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,200 Speaker 1: a party because she went to Home Goods and bought 595 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,399 Speaker 1: this stuff's so good, hundreds of dollars worth of things, 596 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,280 Speaker 1: and she just wanted to put these out and have 597 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 1: a party. 598 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, one hundred percent. One hundred percent. It's very it's 599 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,800 Speaker 4: very Lauren Zema, but it's all of us. And that's 600 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 4: why she's such a relatable girl, because your life's a mess, 601 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,080 Speaker 4: you don't know what's going you don't have time. 602 00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:44,840 Speaker 5: I don't have time to. 603 00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:46,840 Speaker 4: Have sex with my husband. But you better believe I 604 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 4: will be putting up my Christmas tree. Okay, I will 605 00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,720 Speaker 4: be Individually unwrapping every single one of my trinkets and 606 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:53,360 Speaker 4: putting out. 607 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,920 Speaker 5: My noomes, my home goods nomes. 608 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,160 Speaker 4: On my cabinet. But I'm exhausted, and I'll have time 609 00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:01,760 Speaker 4: to return your text. I'm going to bed at eight, 610 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:03,040 Speaker 4: but I got a Christmas tree. 611 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:07,160 Speaker 3: It's called Chasing Joy be married. 612 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,280 Speaker 5: Now ten years? 613 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:11,200 Speaker 1: Ten years? Yeah, so that that's why you're like, we 614 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:12,320 Speaker 1: may not have time for sex. 615 00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:16,240 Speaker 4: No, I mean we make time, but I schedule, I 616 00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:20,200 Speaker 4: schedule everything. I'm very unfun schedule your sexual Yes, we're 617 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 4: not talking about this Chris literally yes, And you know what, 618 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:28,920 Speaker 4: and you know what, Chris Night is very happy, so 619 00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:35,000 Speaker 4: he knows when he's getting an activity, he's ready. 620 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:39,040 Speaker 1: It's like this is his allowance. Yes, I have put 621 00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,880 Speaker 1: him on a sex allowance. That's what this is. 622 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,840 Speaker 5: You know what. Some people would be thrilled to be 623 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:46,880 Speaker 5: on a sex allowance. 624 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:51,440 Speaker 1: What day of the week is activity day? 625 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:52,240 Speaker 5: Sunday? 626 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:58,680 Speaker 1: Sunday really good, Jashay interesting? I know, it's an interesting choice. 627 00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:01,880 Speaker 1: I can see it because the Sunday scaries and so 628 00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 1: it kind of takes you you have something to look 629 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,840 Speaker 1: forward to on a Sunday. But yeah, maybe. 630 00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:08,000 Speaker 4: Christ Night is also never home he lives like with 631 00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:12,440 Speaker 4: other he lives another places people he lives with their family. 632 00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,000 Speaker 3: Do you think it's better for a man to know 633 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 3: that he has guaranteed every Sunday sex but no other 634 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 3: day of the week. 635 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:22,840 Speaker 5: Or that's it's not no, but yes, okay, not every Sunday. 636 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,720 Speaker 4: I'm just in my defense sometimes I'll be like, like 637 00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 4: a Thursday, but I'm. 638 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:30,640 Speaker 3: Word okay, okay, but not a scheduled sex day and 639 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,760 Speaker 3: they just have to They could get three times in 640 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 3: a week, they could get none, so some some weeks 641 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:38,680 Speaker 3: it could be zero. Would they rather go with the 642 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:40,240 Speaker 3: one guaranteed sex day? 643 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 1: That's like a game show? Do you pick the guarante? 644 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,480 Speaker 5: This is a really good idea, sure thing? 645 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,720 Speaker 1: The bird in the hand in the hand or I 646 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:51,160 Speaker 1: don't know if we bring up a bush here. It's 647 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:56,520 Speaker 1: not the eighties, but I think this brings up something 648 00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:59,680 Speaker 1: very interesting again, another conversation of like, are you aligned 649 00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:03,160 Speaker 1: and sex life? Because you know, if you're not having it, 650 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,120 Speaker 1: if you're not happy, if you're not if you feel 651 00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,160 Speaker 1: like you're not getting it, then babe, can we at 652 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:11,840 Speaker 1: least set aside, especially we don't have young kids. When 653 00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:16,680 Speaker 1: you have young kids that changes everything. I mean, it 654 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:22,960 Speaker 1: just there's nothing romantic about having little kids period. No, 655 00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 1: not a thing. It's just you're not sexy. There's nothing 656 00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,280 Speaker 1: sexual about it. You're trying to sneak it in when 657 00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,720 Speaker 1: you can, but one of you is not feeling great 658 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:33,680 Speaker 1: at the time, I'm sure, and it's sometimes it gets 659 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 1: a little robotic and you're just trying to get through it. 660 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 1: But let's say, all things being equal, I think at 661 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:43,280 Speaker 1: least having that guarantee is better than going weeks without 662 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 1: it because then there's that disconnect. 663 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,600 Speaker 2: But then but then one week you're going five times. 664 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:52,120 Speaker 1: That's fantastic if you are, if you're able to do that, 665 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,200 Speaker 1: if you yeah, if anybody's well, there's the hotel sex, 666 00:31:55,200 --> 00:32:00,680 Speaker 1: which is fantastic. Everybody loves hotel sex. But not having 667 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:04,920 Speaker 1: that connection is also very big. And again, sex isn't everything, 668 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,720 Speaker 1: the physicality isn't everything. But at the same time, you 669 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,040 Speaker 1: need that connection and there should be that connection in 670 00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:11,600 Speaker 1: your life exactly. 671 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 4: And I feel like if you set aside time for me, 672 00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,400 Speaker 4: what works is that if you set a side time 673 00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,040 Speaker 4: and you're like, this is going to be time that 674 00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:21,400 Speaker 4: like for us, and it can be the full fantasy 675 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:23,840 Speaker 4: of whatever you want it to be, live your life, 676 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,960 Speaker 4: but like I don't wanna, but then we like actually 677 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:30,000 Speaker 4: have time together and connect where our lives are so 678 00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:32,840 Speaker 4: crazy instead of like transactional, like let's just get this 679 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,080 Speaker 4: over with on you know, a Wednesday in the shower 680 00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:39,280 Speaker 4: like it's it is about. The connection is about like 681 00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 4: remembering that you like each other. And the girls are 682 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,760 Speaker 4: blushing and Chris is gonna fucking hate that I'm talking about. 683 00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:44,480 Speaker 4: We don't have that. 684 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:46,040 Speaker 3: We talk about this all the time. 685 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:47,680 Speaker 1: You don't have video. But I love the fact that 686 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,920 Speaker 1: behind Kelty right now is a calendar. I mean this 687 00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:54,200 Speaker 1: just like this sums up Keilty to a tee here 688 00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:56,960 Speaker 1: yea that there is a calendar and I can't see 689 00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:58,840 Speaker 1: it clearly, but I don't know if like Sundays are 690 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:01,360 Speaker 1: penciled in like this is. 691 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,040 Speaker 4: This is a this is a work calendar. But I 692 00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:07,640 Speaker 4: do have Yeah, no, sex is not on there. My 693 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 4: dad's in town right now. I will add it in 694 00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:09,960 Speaker 4: when he leaves. 695 00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,000 Speaker 3: Whenever I come to l A, I usually stay with 696 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 3: Kelty to get work done. And I do know that 697 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,080 Speaker 3: if it is a Sunday, I gotta high tail it 698 00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:22,800 Speaker 3: out of there. Because it's just sex day and I 699 00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:23,400 Speaker 3: gotta get out. 700 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:25,440 Speaker 1: Well, there is something exciting to the fact that if 701 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:29,200 Speaker 1: you know what's coming up, and the whole sensual nature 702 00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:32,040 Speaker 1: of texting each other, talking about it, planning it and 703 00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:32,360 Speaker 1: all that. 704 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:33,560 Speaker 5: Okay, well we don't do that. 705 00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:38,760 Speaker 3: Will you do wear more costumes than most women? 706 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:40,200 Speaker 5: What's the next topic. 707 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:42,640 Speaker 1: On The Bachelor? 708 00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:46,720 Speaker 3: Kelty? Were you roxy heart this past Sunday in the bedroom? 709 00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,400 Speaker 5: I was not, but I think that's a great idea. 710 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,800 Speaker 4: I have the costume still, right, I'm gonna know they 711 00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 4: didn't let me keep it, but I will be what 712 00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:53,800 Speaker 4: they did. 713 00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,800 Speaker 5: No, that was that was for TV. Jack, Nothing's real. 714 00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,320 Speaker 1: Oh, nothing's real. 715 00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:03,680 Speaker 5: TV's My mom is like. My mom's like, oh my god, 716 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,240 Speaker 5: I can't believe that that you keep that costume. I 717 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:08,359 Speaker 5: was like, Mom, it's TV. Nothing is real. 718 00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:10,959 Speaker 1: Like you definitely don't want that costume back now, Mom? 719 00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:13,440 Speaker 3: Nope, not after Sunday. 720 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,240 Speaker 1: Not after activity Sunday. 721 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:17,520 Speaker 5: Oh my god, ladies. 722 00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,680 Speaker 1: Look, I hate to do this, but there has been 723 00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:23,839 Speaker 1: so much we've already talked about. But there's so many 724 00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:26,560 Speaker 1: more things I got to get to. We're not done 725 00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:29,799 Speaker 1: with this yet. So if you don't mind we're gonna 726 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,680 Speaker 1: take a break, and we're gonna break this up into 727 00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:36,680 Speaker 1: two parts. More with the Lady Gang next time on 728 00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 1: the Most Dramatic Podcast Ever. Thanks for listening. 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