WEBVTT - “MY EX HAS A RESTRAINING ORDER” 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:00.840 Hello, Hello. 0:00:01.160 --> 0:00:03.160 How's it going Pretty fucking chill? 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:07.360 Dude, pretty fucking chill? Why is it going for chill? 0:00:08.119 --> 0:00:08.360 Right? 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:09.680 Yes, sir? Who is this? 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:15.520 Uh? You can call uh? I'm I'm down to go 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:19.520 by my former uh smash bro's name, Stud with the 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:20.160 money sign. 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:23.880 Okay, Stud with the money sign. Um. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:25.320 All right. 0:00:25.320 --> 0:00:26.880 You sent me a lot of texts. I'm gonna read 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:27.360 all of them. 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:28.760 Uh yeah. 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:32.080 First of all, your name, your name is Chris. I 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.120 might just end up calling you that. You said, I'm Chris. 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:37.800 I'm violently hungover at work right now. You sent me 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:42.200 that about uh two months ago. Then you just said 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:45.120 I've been crashing the fuck out for the past two months, 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:49.800 got a haircut today, and I'm ready to be a menace, okay. 0:00:50.560 --> 0:00:54.520 And then you said my name is Gannendorf. And then 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:57.880 you said anyone who manes Little Mac on Super Smash 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.480 Brothers is a bitch. And then you said I got 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:03.920 sent to jail on Valentine's Day and I'm out now. 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:06.040 So it sounds like you were a little bit too 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:12.119 much of a menace. So let's okay, let's get into 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:13.840 this here. So you said I've been crashing the fuck 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:15.360 out for the past two months. I got a haircut today. 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:17.759 I'm ready to be a menace? What does that mean? 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:23.080 So, like, basically, like when that was going on in 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:27.360 my life, I was just being belligerently drunk on a 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:29.440 regular basis, and I was doing like a lot of 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:35.080 fucking cocaine because there was a lot of stuff going 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:37.560 on with my So. I got two baby moms. My 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:41.560 first one she doesn't I can't see my son. She 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:43.560 has a restrain order against me that I don't know 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:45.680 if it's still standing because it got put on a 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:49.919 temporary status. And then my second one is now withholding 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.600 my son away from me, And that was a big 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:56.320 contributing factor to like me constantly crashing out because she 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:58.960 blocked me on everything. She doesn't bring my son over 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.920 or anything anymore, and it just kind of like ultimately 0:02:01.960 --> 0:02:05.680 resulted in like me just crashing the fuck out on 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:07.080 a daily basis. 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:13.240 I see, have two different baby mamas. Yeah, how old 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:13.480 are you? 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:18.600 I'm twenty nine. I'm turning thirty in July July fourty exact. 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:25.040 Okay, I have a birthday, And how old are the kids? 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:30.600 So my first one, his name's Arrows. He turned three 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:33.679 on January twenty second. And then my younger one. He's 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:35.840 one and a half. His name is Dayden. He turns 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:37.520 two on September twenty third. 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:41.880 Okay, okay, so these are recent kids. 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:44.519 Yeah, pretty pretty recent. 0:02:45.400 --> 0:02:50.000 And all right, let's start with the first one. Okay, 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:52.920 I'm sorry you mentioned one as there stranding order, and 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:56.200 then the other one does block to you. What's the 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:57.000 deal with the other one? 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:03.079 So with the second one, we were kind of on 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:06.680 and off a little bit, like maybe a year after 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:10.880 we started dating, a year after my first son was born, 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:13.119 and we were kind of on and off since then. 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.440 So for like the past like two and a half 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:21.200 is years, we were on and off. When and when 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:23.480 we had gone back together at some point I can't 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:26.040 remember the exact timeline of it, but we got back 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:30.640 together and then she ended up getting pregnant. So during 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:35.840 that time we stayed together, we were doing everything together, 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:39.040 like living life, we got our own apartment, and then 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:43.040 after we had the baby, a lot of the like 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:45.400 the postpartum stuff like it got like out of hand 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:47.760 and she wasn't really aware of how to like address things, 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:50.520 and it kind of it went down like the path 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:53.960 of like her pushing me away I was doing everything 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:57.640 for her, like really trying my very best to like 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.720 let her know, like you can come home and talk 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:04.200 to me. And ultimately it just like boiled down to 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:07.600 like her pushing me away, and I'd be up all 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:10.440 hours of the night with the baby alone. And then 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:13.120 it led to the point of like me cheating on 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:18.640 her because I felt alone in the relationship. And when 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.440 I cheated on her, I cheated on her with this 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:29.400 girl and she gave me HSB one and I was 0:04:29.480 --> 0:04:34.200 unaware of it because I was asymptomatic. Yeah, I got 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:39.560 HSB one from her and she told me, but I 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:43.040 don't recall it because I was drunk and on a 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:48.799 lot of drugs. So after I had slept with that girl, 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:53.680 stepping out on my second kid's mom, I then gave 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:55.839 it to her because I didn't know that I even 0:04:55.920 --> 0:05:01.479 had it. And then that from that point forward, like 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:07.120 the relationship completely like dwindled away. We broke up, and 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:11.320 then we tried getting back together sometime later, and that 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:16.480 was around like August of last year. And when we 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:19.840 were together, the way she went about like trying to 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:23.440 deem it as like me rebuilding my trust. It was 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:27.760 like her policing me me having to send her constant 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:31.200 pictures of like where I'm at as I'm like commuting 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.400 like from place to place where I'm seeing even though 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:33.960 she has my way. 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.080 She took you away. I'm sorry, I'm getting all the 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.160 I'm getting all the people mixed up. She took you back. 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:41.440 Yeah, yeah, so. 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:46.040 After you gave her, after you gave her the hs V, 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:46.880 she took you back. 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:53.120 Yeah, okay, And well so she didn't take me back. 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:59.120 Like we weren't officially together, but we were, at least 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:01.960 to my knowledge, we were like exclusively talking to each other. 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:05.560 But she never stopped talking to some of her exes 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:08.840 while this, like from last year was going on. So 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:13.720 from August of last year to about December, she never 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:16.280 stopped talking to like her exes. She will go through 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:18.840 my phone, she will go through all my social media 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:24.240 stuff and basically like police me into like proving like 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:27.800 that I am only talking to her when she wouldn't 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:31.240 reciprocate the same kind of like transparency. And it's like 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:32.920 I get it, you know, because like I cheat on her, 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:38.359 like now we both have this lifelong fucking STD. But 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:44.680 like the way she conveyed her her emotions into that 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:48.120 kind of stuff like it it it made me like 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:52.520 start going like crazy, like cause it drove into a 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:55.880 point of where like I had to prove myself to her, 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:59.039 and I was like doing some like outrageous things that 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:03.400 like I'm not proud of, and it with time it 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:06.320 got worse and worse and just art like snowballing effect. 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:08.760 Like I would text her like I would send her 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:11.080 like an insane amount of text messages and I and 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.760 I'd be calling her an insane amount of times to 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:17.080 let her know in my fucked up way of thinking 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:18.680 that like this is how I'm proving to her that 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:19.720 I'm only talking to her. 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:30.520 Uh Okay, Chris, Yeah, well listen, Chris, did you speak 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:31.960 to do you such a real therapist? 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:36.920 Man? Uh? I? I did a long time ago, but 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:40.280 I was like probably like in high school. Uh and 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:43.680 I And so I've listened to your podcast for a 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:45.880 long time and like at some point how You're like, oh, 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:48.640 like chat GPT is pretty fucking great. I was like, 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:50.240 all right, well, let me just start talking to chat 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:51.880 GPT about these kind of things. 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:54.040 Okay, what did chat GPT say? 0:07:56.000 --> 0:08:00.240 Uh? I will talk to chat GPT like say like 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:03.040 I'm feeling like extremely anxious, like I wanted to like 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:05.800 be continuously texting her blah blah blah, like blowing her up, 0:08:05.800 --> 0:08:09.000 you know. And it was basically like calming me down 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:12.840 and uh like telling me. It's like like it provided 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:17.440 a lot of like uh exercise like breathing exercises, or 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:19.760 like it would suggest for me to like splash my 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:24.360 face with water and uh to like alleviate myself from 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.640 all the anxiety and stuff like that, to prevent myself 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:28.920 from going overboard and like kind of blowing her up. 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:37.200 Okay, So you said you you went to uh jail 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:40.319 on Valentine's Day and did you just get out? 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:41.840 Yeah? 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:43.720 Yeah, I got out on the fifteenth. 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:46.480 All right, so here there for a month. What I mean, 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:48.040 if you want to talk about it? What was up? 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:55.079 Oh? So okay? Also not a not another proudest moment, 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:59.200 So like me being a mess and like constantly crashing 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.400 out like itind of like entails this because like I 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:03.640 was drunk and I've I've had like a really hard 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:06.120 time like with drinking and stuff like that. So I 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.800 got arrested on Valentine's Day for a third duy. My 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.760 first one was when I was twenty one, and then 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:15.360 my second one was last year, and the third one 0:09:15.400 --> 0:09:20.640 was on Valentine's Day. So on Valentine's Day, one of 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:23.160 my buddies we can just call him a Gerbil h 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:26.920 Gerbil was calling me like telling me about like the 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:29.679 whole situation with his girl. He was all sad. So 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:31.719 we meet him and a couple of friends. We went 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:37.800 out and I was drinking. I had a I had 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:40.360 like a twelve pact of like the white cloth surges 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:44.960 to myself and then uh, when we went out, I 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:48.360 had like maybe like seven or eight amfs that that 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:54.600 blue drink. The audio says, you know I I then yeah, okay. 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:57.840 And then afterwards, at some point in the night, I 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:01.960 had just blacked the fuck out, and I came to 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:05.240 in the driveway of my family's home because I moved 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:09.600 back in last year. And then I blacked out again, 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:13.360 and I came to in the driver's seat on my 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:16.719 truck with a flashlight on my face. And as soon 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:18.840 as that flashlight got to my face, I was like, fuck, 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:21.760 I'm going to jail, like I'm it's that, I'm done. 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:26.679 And so when I got into jail, excuse me out, 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:32.520 I thought I was an a burp after the On 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:38.040 the eighteenth of February, I had my court date. I 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:39.920 wasn't exactly teacher of what to do, so I asked 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.800 to speak to a public defender and then they had 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:44.840 my court case said to the third of this month. 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:50.880 And basically they tried giving me sixteen months in prison 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:54.120 with running my second and third d Y concurrent as 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:57.520 a felony. And because I had signed a piece of 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:01.720 paper agreeing to do sixty days in county jail for 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:05.280 not doing my work release, I was able to use 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:09.080 that in my like to to not go to prison. Basically, 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:13.880 so I did sixty days, but because each dayan county's 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:17.920 count is credited as two days, that's why I did 0:11:17.960 --> 0:11:18.240 a month. 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:27.160 So listen, Chris, I'm listen. I'm not a big I'm 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:30.280 not gonna sit here and be like try to you 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:32.600 know whatever, call you out or anything. I want this 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:36.280 podcast to be helpful. I want this phone call to 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:44.959 be helpful. So like, Okay, so you're out of jail 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:50.600 now and you got this restraining order, Like what like 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.800 what's up? Man? Like, what what's the plan? 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:59.480 So my plan, because I thought I was gonna have 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:02.360 my job on it came back out, so that didn't happen. 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:06.840 I got fired. So now I've rebuilt my resume. I 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:11.880 have been applying on Sundays. There's an AA meeting here 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:17.280 in the next city over for me. So I'm gonna 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:20.160 begin going back to AA because I went for like 0:12:20.679 --> 0:12:22.640 a couple of weeks at some point in the past, 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:27.160 like three years, and I thought I don't need this, 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:33.160 but it it seems like it it may be the 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:35.560 best option because it's like, what worse could happen is 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:39.200 like I don't like it, like it. I can't say 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:42.600 that I didn't try it if I commit myself to it. 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:44.840 So I'm gonna try and commit to it. And I'm 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:46.640 just gonna keep going even if I don't like it. 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:52.800 And so, okay, so you your wife is a restraining 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:57.200 order I get his second wife. Wait, okay, so I'm sorry. 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:58.760 I'm still try to get your timeline right. So you 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:04.120 had this kid, and then when did you have the 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:05.480 second kid? 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:10.120 The first one was born in January twenty second, twenty 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:14.520 twenty three, and then my second kid was born a 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:16.200 nine to twenty three, twenty four. 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:20.480 Okay, And you're not able to have contact with either 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:23.360 of them. 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:27.520 The first one, I cannot at all until whenever the 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:29.880 court decides to send the papers. Like I've been waiting, 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:32.920 I've been calling, and I can't really get any information 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:34.880 about if that restraining order is still like on a 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:38.960 temporary status. If it is, then that completely terminates one 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:44.320 visitations or anything with my first son, just per the 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:52.080 like the stipulations and parameters set in the restraining order, okay. 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:55.839 And then the second yeah, the second, the second one. 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.439 She just has me blocked on everything. And I've been 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:01.079 trying to have ask my my mother if she can 0:14:01.840 --> 0:14:04.120 ask her to bring him or like at least let 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:07.480 him spend the night, but she just constantly provides, like 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:11.760 he's sick. I'm not feeling good. And it's been that 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:16.960 way since probably January, like like as soon as the. 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:17.680 New year started. 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:22.560 How's the drinking. 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.880 I haven't drank since I got out, and I don't 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:28.360 plan on it. When I was in jail, all I 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:32.120 did was like work out because I'm so in the 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.480 county jail over here, like the Hispanics, they run a 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:38.280 program basically like it's just because we don't have anything 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:41.320 else to do, so we we get up at six am. 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:44.240 We work out for a couple hours. So being in 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.600 jail for the past month, I just got into fitness. 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:52.240 And now, I mean, I've been maintaining the workout that 0:14:52.280 --> 0:14:54.400 I do, and I'm surprised that I'm awake right. 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:55.120 Now because. 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.880 I have a bed and my bed is pretty comfortable. So 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:02.840 I'm probably still going to get up at six am, 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:06.960 workout and then continue applying, and then I need to 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:11.160 six my truck. So I'm just in to maintain a 0:15:11.160 --> 0:15:15.600 life of fitness. And when I was in jail, I 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.320 had started talking to this girl, like maybe a week before, 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:20.760 and she's been extremely supportive of everything. 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:26.520 Wait wait, you started okay a week before you went 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:29.000 to jail. You what you matched with a lady on 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:32.880 a dating app? Yeah, you matched with the lady on 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:35.080 a dating app a week before you went to jail. 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:38.440 And did you did you go on a date before 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.080 you met before you went to jail. 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:46.160 Well, so, okay, so I live in I'm if any. 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:48.840 I'm just going to say where I'm from. It's It's 0:15:48.920 --> 0:16:00.600 totally cool. I'm from Chapter so in Kern County and California. Okay, yeah, 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:03.480 so she so she lives in San Luisabethspo. By the 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:07.880 Bay area and or like more like just like the coast, 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:14.760 like San Louis Obispo County. But she she made the 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:19.160 effort to like reach out to me in jail after 0:16:20.040 --> 0:16:23.560 I had my my mom, uh, because she asked me 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:25.800 if I wanted her to grab my my property like 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:27.440 my phone and my wallet, and I'll like, yes, please, 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:30.040 I'll they call this girl and let her know I 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:33.240 am not ignoring her. I'm just in jail. 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:37.200 So, Okay, you match with this girl on a dating 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:42.320 app and you have your mom tell try to tell 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:46.280 the girl. I'm sorry, I've tried to you said, your 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:46.920 is your mom? 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:49.480 Yeah, my mom? 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:52.880 You have your mom tell this girl that you match 0:16:52.960 --> 0:16:55.120 with on a dating app. Sorry, my son is not 0:16:55.240 --> 0:16:58.840 ghosting you. He's just going to jail. 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:02.640 Yeah, like like because I was already in there, and 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:05.040 she's like at this point, she had already figured it 0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:10.000 out that I was in jail, and then she went 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:13.040 and made like an account to be able to so 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:15.680 in the jail, we have tablets and we can message 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:19.560 people if they paid for the account or whatever. And 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:22.560 she went ahead and made it like an e messaging 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:26.520 account so she can message me on the tablet dude 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:28.760 wild in jail. This is a girl. 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:30.160 Let's know you for one week. 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:36.040 Yeah, but we met a long time ago because we 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:41.440 used to work in the same city. And oh yeah, 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:42.879 like we met a long time ago. 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:46.760 She didn't meet on the dating apps. You'd met a 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:52.600 long time ago, but you reconnected on the dating app? Yes, Okay, 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:57.359 So how long had it been since you guys? Like 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:01.359 why is she so? Like why? Like that's a lot, 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:03.080 you know what I mean? Like that's like, did you 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:06.920 guys have a strong relationship beforehand, like like all those 0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:07.480 years ago? 0:18:09.000 --> 0:18:13.719 So we had only met like one time because uh 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:17.680 so she also has a kid and the and at 0:18:17.720 --> 0:18:21.680 her boyfriend at the time, I worked with him and 0:18:21.760 --> 0:18:25.320 he invited me over and we just partied and that 0:18:25.480 --> 0:18:27.760 was the only interaction I had with her. But when 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:32.720 we rekindled on the on the dating app, remembered me. 0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:36.520 And her entire life has like one eighty. She doesn't 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:40.480 party anymore, she doesn't do drugs. She's she's an amazing mother, 0:18:40.720 --> 0:18:44.760 and she's like her her mentality and like the way 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:48.120 she goes about things is like extremely wholesome, like just compassionate, 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:52.679 and she's just like a very independent, strong woman. That 0:18:53.119 --> 0:18:56.600 has like just this attraction I don't know, like it 0:18:56.240 --> 0:19:00.240 it's to me, like it seemed like it feels like 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:03.960 she has feelings for me, and and she said it, 0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:07.560 but I didn't expect that because like we had just 0:19:07.640 --> 0:19:11.760 rekindled on a dating app app, like so we met 0:19:11.760 --> 0:19:15.680 back in twenty seventeen, and I was like, I was like, 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:19.119 there's no way like like this girl cares about me 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:21.520 or like even is worried about my well being because 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:25.760 we only met once. We rekindled about almost ten years later, 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:33.359 and I'm in jail now for being an idiot. Dude. 0:19:33.960 --> 0:19:36.480 What that's crazy? 0:19:38.240 --> 0:19:42.280 Yeah, So like the fact that like she went the 0:19:42.359 --> 0:19:45.360 extra mile and like continued to talk to me and 0:19:45.400 --> 0:19:49.159 like just like like not even like stold me in 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:52.720 like a negative way, but like just talked me through 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:57.960 it with like empathy and like genuine care. I was like, 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:01.600 are they I'm not gonna fuck this up again? 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:10.200 Dude, that's crazy? Do you do? You know what? 0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:10.400 What? 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:13.719 So you went, you like did coke with this lady's 0:20:13.760 --> 0:20:17.600 boyfriend ten years ago, and then she messes with you 0:20:18.359 --> 0:20:21.520 on a dating app and then gets it and then 0:20:21.560 --> 0:20:23.120 like a couple of days later, gets a message from 0:20:23.160 --> 0:20:26.000 your mom saying, hey, my sound's like ghosting you. He's 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:28.280 in jail. Did she send you? Did she send that 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:30.320 message on the phone or on the dating app? Is 0:20:30.359 --> 0:20:34.840 your mom like typing on Facebook dating for you? 0:20:34.880 --> 0:20:38.520 No? No? So uh right. So the way my mom 0:20:38.600 --> 0:20:43.960 contacted her because my mom is not tech savvy at all, 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:47.119 but she just I gave her the pass code to 0:20:47.200 --> 0:20:49.760 my phone. I'm gonna completely out my past code on 0:20:49.800 --> 0:20:51.680 from my phone on this and I told her, I 0:20:52.640 --> 0:20:55.840 told my mom what the pass code to my phone is, 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:59.359 sixty nine, sixty nine, and this is how you spell never. 0:20:59.480 --> 0:21:02.000 Never could have guests to that one, really outing yourself 0:21:02.320 --> 0:21:03.159 on the podcast. 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:10.040 Yeah, and if she I send her one of your episodes. 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:12.560 So if she keeps up with the podcast, if at 0:21:12.560 --> 0:21:15.199 any point or if this gets anywhere or whatever, at 0:21:15.200 --> 0:21:16.840 any point, she will she will hear my pass go. 0:21:16.920 --> 0:21:19.040 I'll probably end up telling her. But yeah, So my 0:21:19.119 --> 0:21:23.479 mom just called her from my phone because I wouldn't 0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:26.040 be able to sit there and explain to my to 0:21:26.160 --> 0:21:30.160 my not tech savvy, hispanic mom how to navigate through 0:21:31.000 --> 0:21:33.359 an iPhone that she doesn't know how to use without 0:21:33.400 --> 0:21:37.760 a home button, and then to get to Tinder and 0:21:37.800 --> 0:21:40.840 then find her in my tender DM. So I just 0:21:40.880 --> 0:21:42.720 asked her to call her from my phone because I 0:21:42.920 --> 0:21:43.640 had her phone number. 0:21:45.000 --> 0:21:46.600 Did you have a phone number from tender or from 0:21:46.600 --> 0:21:52.680 ten years ago from tinder? M? And then this girl 0:21:52.720 --> 0:21:56.080 has been dude, this is crazy. So what like, Okay, 0:21:56.119 --> 0:21:57.520 so you've been out for three days? Have you gone 0:21:57.560 --> 0:21:58.040 to see her? 0:21:59.840 --> 0:21:59.959 No? 0:22:00.320 --> 0:22:05.639 Because so when when the impounded my truck? Whoever like 0:22:06.560 --> 0:22:10.000 drove my truck into the onto the flat bed or whatever. 0:22:10.400 --> 0:22:13.320 They punched my clutch through the firewall. So I can't 0:22:13.359 --> 0:22:14.320 even drive my truck. 0:22:17.400 --> 0:22:18.960 How far away does she live? 0:22:20.119 --> 0:22:21.080 I think two hours? 0:22:21.720 --> 0:22:26.920 Okay, man, so what's the okay? Sorry man, I'm trying 0:22:26.920 --> 0:22:29.080 to wrap my head around all this stuff. This is insane. 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:33.000 Are you texting? Are you texting with her all the time? 0:22:34.880 --> 0:22:35.120 Yeah? 0:22:35.560 --> 0:22:38.880 I just texted her as soon as you called me back. 0:22:39.000 --> 0:22:42.200 That in caplocks. I'm on the wait what did I say? 0:22:43.080 --> 0:22:46.080 I'm I'm on the own with the therapy. Get go 0:22:46.520 --> 0:22:48.440 because I misspell phone. 0:22:48.720 --> 0:22:53.720 That's so funny. Okay, what's up with this lady? Is 0:22:53.720 --> 0:22:54.399 interesting to me? 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:54.640 Right? 0:22:54.680 --> 0:22:57.159 Because I have to be honest, I like and no, 0:22:57.400 --> 0:23:01.040 this isn't shade to this lady. But yeah, and it's 0:23:01.040 --> 0:23:02.840 not shaped to this lady, it's not shit to you. 0:23:03.280 --> 0:23:08.199 But for this lady to be getting involved with a 0:23:08.240 --> 0:23:12.760 guy who, for lack of a better word, your life 0:23:12.800 --> 0:23:15.120 is in a bit of a fucked up situation right now, 0:23:16.119 --> 0:23:18.400 you know, Like for you know, I think we both 0:23:18.440 --> 0:23:21.679 know this, her life must also be pretty fucked up 0:23:21.760 --> 0:23:27.400 right now for her to dive into this thing with you, 0:23:27.960 --> 0:23:30.240 do you know what I mean? Like, what what's going 0:23:30.280 --> 0:23:33.840