Speaker 1: We think of a distraction as something that has to
Speaker 1: be negative, but a distraction can be positive. Hey, everyone,
Speaker 1: welcome back to Our Purpose, the number one health podcast
Speaker 1: in the world, where we're talking about your personal, emotional, psychological, physical,
Speaker 1: and financial health. And I love diving into different topics
Speaker 1: with research, science, practical takeaways, and real insights that you
Speaker 1: can start to create an impact in your daily life.
Speaker 1: I take you on a journey through stories, through science,
Speaker 1: through strategies, and through steps that you can start applying
Speaker 1: right away. Thank you so much for being here. I
Speaker 1: love expressing my gratitude to you because I remember when
Speaker 1: I used to do events and maybe five people would
Speaker 1: show up. And the fact that we have millions of
Speaker 1: downloads per episodes now if makes my heart feel so
Speaker 1: much joy. And I appreciate each and every one of
Speaker 1: you because you are helping me live my purpose and
Speaker 1: I hope I'm helping you live yours as well. Now,
Speaker 1: one of the things that gets in the way of
Speaker 1: our purpose, of our passion, of our potential. One of
Speaker 1: the things that disturbs our relationships, our productivity, our effectiveness,
Speaker 1: and the biggest thing that takes away joy in our
Speaker 1: life is distractions. We talk a lot today about the
Speaker 1: importance of presence, the importance of actually being where we are,
Speaker 1: of actually being in the moment. We talk about things
Speaker 1: like mindfulness. How can we be mindful of where we are,
Speaker 1: who we're with, and what we're talking about. But the
Speaker 1: truth is all of us in some way. Another face
Speaker 1: distractions study show that seventy to ninety nine percent of
Speaker 1: office employees feel distracted. And I want you to take
Speaker 1: a moment to just reflect on how many times a
Speaker 1: day you think you get distracted? Is it zero to
Speaker 1: ten raise your hands unless you're driving. Is it ten
Speaker 1: to twenty keep your hands up? Is it twenty to
Speaker 1: thirty keep your hands up? Is it thirty to forty
Speaker 1: keep your hands up? Is it fifty? So we could
Speaker 1: go on and on, but I want to share with you.
Speaker 1: Study show that we have around fifty six disruptions per day,
Speaker 1: and we spend a couple of hours every day trying
Speaker 1: to get back into focus, trying to get back on task.
Speaker 1: How many of you can say you have felt that
Speaker 1: and what are some of our biggest distractions? Fifty five
Speaker 1: say their phone right, thirty nine percent say gossip, which
Speaker 1: I find fascinating. Another one is emails. Of course, meetings
Speaker 1: are even considered a distraction. So we have all of
Speaker 1: these distractions, and psychology shows that there are a few
Speaker 1: types of distraction. The first is a distraction that is
Speaker 1: caused by your own mind. This is a Vedic idea
Speaker 1: that some of our challenges in pain are self inflicted.
Speaker 1: You've been working too hard, you're burnt out, you're burning
Speaker 1: the candle at both ends. The second is challenges in
Speaker 1: pain caused by others. Someone brings you a challenge or
Speaker 1: an issue. And the third and finalist, something's going around
Speaker 1: in the world, something's happening outside of that space, but
Speaker 1: that's affecting you. These are called adi artmaka, adi botica,
Speaker 1: and adidavika. These are three things that we all experience.
Speaker 1: Pain and challenges inflicted within our own mind, pain and
Speaker 1: challenges inflicted by others, and pain and challenges inflicted by
Speaker 1: what's happening in the world around us. Now. Of course,
Speaker 1: we know something here that ultimately the pain that is
Speaker 1: received from layer two and layer three can be responded
Speaker 1: too differently and can change how we feel. We can
Speaker 1: change how we feel by the perspective and story we
Speaker 1: tell ourselves when we receive information For example, let's say
Speaker 1: you receive the information that you didn't get a job.
Speaker 1: You can either look at that and say, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: I guess that job wasn't for me. I'll go find
Speaker 1: the right one. Or you can look at that and
Speaker 1: say it's over. I've failed. I don't have any skills. Now,
Speaker 1: notice that neither of those reactions of the truth. Neither
Speaker 1: of those responses are reality. You could not say that
Speaker 1: either of them are fact. They are simply subjective responses
Speaker 1: to a piece of information that you've received. So the
Speaker 1: first principle for removing distractions is to recognize that you
Speaker 1: have the power to redefine the story to ask better questions.
Speaker 1: If I receive someone telling me this needs to be
Speaker 1: done today, that can be quite alarming. It can feel
Speaker 1: quite stressful and create pressure and anxiety within me. But
Speaker 1: then I know that I have the ability to ask
Speaker 1: the question, when is it due? What does it truly entail?
Speaker 1: Here's what I'm working on. Do you still want me
Speaker 1: to prioritize this? Notice how I can either respond in
Speaker 1: a panic and try and get it all done, or
Speaker 1: I can process it effectively and discover more information. So
Speaker 1: when I used to receive that from some of my
Speaker 1: bosses and managers. I would respond by saying, well, here's
Speaker 1: what I have on today. Would you like me to
Speaker 1: prioritize this task over all of these things because I
Speaker 1: believe that some of these things will not get completed.
Speaker 1: And at the same time, how long do you think
Speaker 1: this should take? Is there anything I should know about
Speaker 1: the task? You're now saving yourself time and energy, So
Speaker 1: panic versus process? The energy we waste in panicking based
Speaker 1: on the distraction. If that was engaged in the process,
Speaker 1: it would make a huge difference. The second thing I
Speaker 1: want to share with you today is I want you
Speaker 1: to think about how you can actually structure how you
Speaker 1: work so our attention span is better when it's twenty
Speaker 1: five minutes or fifty five minutes. We've got in the
Speaker 1: habit of setting thirty minutes sixty minute meetings. We don't
Speaker 1: realize that we can actually set a fifteen minute meeting.
Speaker 1: We can set a twenty minute meeting. We could send
Speaker 1: a twenty two minute meeting. But we know that our
Speaker 1: attention spans works better in pieces of twenty five minutes
Speaker 1: or fifty five minutes. Our max's capacity for our attention
Speaker 1: is ninety minutes roughly, and so you'll see even on
Speaker 1: purpose episodes, our podcast episodes Friday episodes are generally between
Speaker 1: that twenty five to thirty five minute mark, and you'll
Speaker 1: notice that our guest episodes a fifty five minutes to
Speaker 1: ninety minutes mark. We are trying to make it easier
Speaker 1: for you to digest, to absorb, to immerse. I want
Speaker 1: you to be able to take out so much from
Speaker 1: these episodes, so I design them specifically so that you
Speaker 1: can get more value out of them. Are you doing
Speaker 1: that with your tasks? You may be putting two hours
Speaker 1: aside for something, but you can't work for two hours straight.
Speaker 1: You might be putting four hours out for something or
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes, and you can't get that right. So I
Speaker 1: want you to divide up your work into twenty five minutes,
Speaker 1: fifty five minutes, or ninety minutes. I also want you
Speaker 1: to think about meetings as being more flexible than these
Speaker 1: hardwired thirty minute sixty minute meetings as well. Now, the
Speaker 1: third thing here is what you do in that five
Speaker 1: minute break. It is unbelievable what is achievable in five minutes,
Speaker 1: and what a difference five minutes makes between tasks usually
Speaker 1: what we do is we don't have any time between tasks.
Speaker 1: We're rushing from one meeting to another, and we're multitasking
Speaker 1: at the same time by scrolling on our phone, on
Speaker 1: social media, on you know, looking through our emails, our messages,
Speaker 1: whatever it may be. Take that five minutes instead of
Speaker 1: having a meeting that ends at ten thirty and another
Speaker 1: one that starts at ten thirty, make the next one
Speaker 1: start at ten thirty five. And in those five minutes,
Speaker 1: you stand up, you walk, you stretch, you hydrate, and
Speaker 1: you look into the distance. You stand up, you stretch
Speaker 1: and breathe, you walk, you maybe even go outdoors, and
Speaker 1: then very importantly, you hydrate and you look into the distance.
Speaker 1: We're so prone at the moment to just be absorbed
Speaker 1: things that are close to us. We're looking at our screens,
Speaker 1: we're looking at our phones, and I feel quite trapped
Speaker 1: in I want you to take an opportunity to expand
Speaker 1: your vision. Now. This third one is really really interesting.
Speaker 1: And whether you live at a partner, whether you live
Speaker 1: with family and you're working from home, or whether you're
Speaker 1: in an organization and you're working around a team, I
Speaker 1: want you to think about something. I want you to
Speaker 1: start creating a teach me how to treat you routine.
Speaker 1: Some people have called this a user manual or a
Speaker 1: user guide. So what I mean by this is, if
Speaker 1: I'm working with RADI my wife in my house, I
Speaker 1: will say to her, please do not interrupt me between
Speaker 1: this time and this time, because I'm on a really
Speaker 1: important call and I won't be available, but I will
Speaker 1: be available at this time. Now. If you do distract
Speaker 1: me at this time, I won't be able to give
Speaker 1: you my full attention because I'll be preoccupied. Right. When
Speaker 1: we educate others on how to connect with us, when
Speaker 1: we educate others on how to behave with us, we
Speaker 1: give them a user guide, a user manual, or teach
Speaker 1: me how to treat me right, teach you how to
Speaker 1: treat me. Where I'm saying, this is how I feel
Speaker 1: when I'm in a low mood, when I'm tired. This
Speaker 1: is what I'd love and appreciate it. And by the way,
Speaker 1: what would you like? So this is a two way
Speaker 1: thing because what the Journal of Experimental Psychology found when
Speaker 1: they covered three hundred participants is that being interrupted, even
Speaker 1: on simple tasks, leads to people making errors more frequently.
Speaker 1: And the length of the interruption also has its effect
Speaker 1: on the error rate. As little as two point eight
Speaker 1: seconds of interruption doubles the error rate. As little as
Speaker 1: four point four seconds of interruption triples the error rate. Right,
Speaker 1: and it says there's so much. The employees usually spent
Speaker 1: about eleven minutes focused on a project in one go
Speaker 1: before being interrupted. Afterward, they need about twenty five minutes
Speaker 1: to restore their full focus on a project task at hand.
Speaker 1: Just think about that for yourself. And we may get
Speaker 1: upset when people distract us and we think they don't
Speaker 1: know how busy we are. Have we educated them? Have
Speaker 1: we informed them of what kind of silence we need,
Speaker 1: what kind of distance we need? Have we actually given
Speaker 1: them an opportunity to gain an understanding of how to
Speaker 1: operate with us, right of how to actually deal with us.
Speaker 1: This can make a huge, huge difference. So create a
Speaker 1: user guide for how to work with you. Create a
Speaker 1: user manual of how to work with you. You may
Speaker 1: be someone who says, I don't like getting lots of notifications.
Speaker 1: I prefer setting up a time to meet, or I
Speaker 1: prefer a phone call. Or you may say, you know what,
Speaker 1: Actually I don't have times for phone calls and meetings.
Speaker 1: I prefer a really well thought out email or actually,
Speaker 1: you know what, just paying me. I love sorting stuff
Speaker 1: out straight away and that makes it very very easy
Speaker 1: for me. This also helps with the idea of helping
Speaker 1: make your schedule be shared, having a shared schedule with
Speaker 1: your partner. Having a public schedule in your workplace allows
Speaker 1: other people to be aware. Now you've got to be
Speaker 1: careful with that because sometimes if you don't time block out,
Speaker 1: people just start putting time in your calendar, so they
Speaker 1: shouldn't be able to edit it. But sometimes the visibility
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Speaker 1: I've really been talking a lot about how to manage
Speaker 1: your time, but also how other people affect you. One
Speaker 1: of the things I find is that when you look
Speaker 1: at the distraction of social media, phone, TV, streaming, whatever
Speaker 1: it may be. Often that happens because we're trying to
Speaker 1: read a book or you're trying to listen to an audiobook.
Speaker 1: You're trying to do something that you think makes you
Speaker 1: more productive, it makes you happy, it makes you focused.
Speaker 1: But then naturally you get a bit bored and you think, oh, well,
Speaker 1: I might as well switch on that show. I might
Speaker 1: as well scroll on TikTok or Instagram and see what's
Speaker 1: going on. Here's something that I want you to consider.
Speaker 1: Cheat on your book with another book. Right, you could
Speaker 1: be reading multiple books at the same time, or listening
Speaker 1: to multiple books at the same time. You can listen
Speaker 1: to multiple episodes of On Purpose at the same time.
Speaker 1: This really changes the game because what happens is we
Speaker 1: think that the substitute for our reading is TV. So
Speaker 1: we go, so I need I'm tired of education, let
Speaker 1: me go to entertainment. Well, what if you cheat it
Speaker 1: on education with more education? Right? What if you were
Speaker 1: able to recognize that you can read multiple books at
Speaker 1: the same time, why and how? Because you may be
Speaker 1: bored of this topic, you may not need to learn
Speaker 1: more about it, but there may be another book that
Speaker 1: you really want to read around sport or entertainment as well.
Speaker 1: So cheat on education with more education. You don't need
Speaker 1: to cheat on education with entertainment. So sometimes people say
Speaker 1: I'm so distracted by my phone, I'm so distracted by this,
Speaker 1: But really what they're saying is I got bored of
Speaker 1: doing this thing and instead of finding another thing as
Speaker 1: a backup. This is why I'm constantly probably around. You know,
Speaker 1: I'd say probably about two to three books per that
Speaker 1: I'm dabbling in at the same time. And when I'm
Speaker 1: dabbling in two to three books at the same time,
Speaker 1: I may read one chapter of each per night because
Speaker 1: I want to rotate and move around, and that allows
Speaker 1: me to not really keep my brain moving, it allows
Speaker 1: me to stop feeling distracted because I'm distracting myself with
Speaker 1: something that's beneficial for me. We think of a distraction
Speaker 1: as something that has to be negative, but a distraction
Speaker 1: can be positive. And that's where the fifth one comes in,
Speaker 1: which is this idea of planning your own distractions. Plan
Speaker 1: your own distractions. Allow yourself to watch a YouTube video,
Speaker 1: allow yourself to listen to a song. And music is
Speaker 1: really interesting actually because you can listen to music in
Speaker 1: the background and it almost acts as a distraction. Or
Speaker 1: you can listen to a podcast in the background of
Speaker 1: your work and it acts as a distraction because your
Speaker 1: mind hooks onto it. It feels like it's distracted while
Speaker 1: you're doing something, and it allows you to even get
Speaker 1: into a state of flow. I'm sure many of you experience.
Speaker 1: That's why people love working out to music. The music
Speaker 1: kind of becomes the soundtrack of your life and you're
Speaker 1: kind of lost in it as you're doing this activity
Speaker 1: as well. So it's really fascinating when you can play
Speaker 1: music in the background to keep the mind preoccupied, or
Speaker 1: play a podcast in the background to keep your mind
Speaker 1: preoccupied as well. Now, principle number six, I read from
Speaker 1: the American Society for Training and Development that the probability
Speaker 1: of achieving a goal listen to this ten percent. If
Speaker 1: you have an idea. How many people do you meet
Speaker 1: that have the most brilliant ideas and they think that
Speaker 1: that idea is worth something, that that idea is going
Speaker 1: to get them there because their idea is fantastic. The
Speaker 1: probability of achieving a goal if you have an idea
Speaker 1: is ten percent. Now that improves to forty percent if
Speaker 1: you decide you will do it. So it shows that
Speaker 1: that thirty percent gap is the decision. So often we
Speaker 1: have a good idea. I've had so many good ideas
Speaker 1: for a new app, a new delivery service, a new website,
Speaker 1: a new web three platform, but you have to make
Speaker 1: a decision to do it. So for those of you
Speaker 1: that feel like you're procrastinating or you're distracted, it's because
Speaker 1: maybe what you're trying to work on it's just an
Speaker 1: idea and you haven't even decided on it. And even
Speaker 1: if you decide on it, the probability of achieving a
Speaker 1: goal is still only forty percent. That's less than half
Speaker 1: even when you've decided. Now that increases to fifty percent
Speaker 1: if you make a plan to do it. We've heard
Speaker 1: this before. You need to make a plan, right. An
Speaker 1: idea needs to have implementation behind it. But that's only
Speaker 1: a halfway there. That's only halfway there. So if you
Speaker 1: want of those people that are saying, Jay, I keep
Speaker 1: getting distracted, but I have a plan, then there's still
Speaker 1: fifty percent of growth left. So I don't want you
Speaker 1: to get discouraged by that. I want you to be
Speaker 1: in corriged that you're not doing anything wrong. You're just
Speaker 1: halfway there. And so if you're saying I have a plan,
Speaker 1: I'm ready to go, I've made a decision, I have
Speaker 1: a great idea. That's still only fifty percent. Probability of
Speaker 1: achieving a goal. That goes up to sixty five percent
Speaker 1: if you promise someone else you will do it. You
Speaker 1: may promise a family member, you may promise your partner,
Speaker 1: you may promise your child. Promises make us more focused.
Speaker 1: Right when we promise someone I would definitely do that.
Speaker 1: We feel the pressure. We have the fear that we
Speaker 1: don't want to let them down, we don't want them
Speaker 1: to think we're flaky, and that pressure is positive. We
Speaker 1: use it to focus, we use it to overcome distractions.
Speaker 1: But here's the part that blows my mind. This number,
Speaker 1: the probability of achieving a goal, skyrockets to ninety five
Speaker 1: percent if you have a specific accountability appointment with the
Speaker 1: US into whom you commit. This is why personal trainers, coaches,
Speaker 1: therapists make such a big difference in our life, because
Speaker 1: that is an accountability appointment. A class at the gym
Speaker 1: is an accountability appointment, and art class is an accountability appointment.
Speaker 1: A mastermind with entrepreneurs and CEOs and networking is an
Speaker 1: accountability appointment. If you are not doing something as an
Speaker 1: accountability appointment in your calendar, it won't reach ninety five percent.
Speaker 1: A lot of the distractions we have is we don't
Speaker 1: become accountable to someone else. You may say, well, Jay,
Speaker 1: how can I be accountable to someone else when I'm
Speaker 1: working from home and working digitally? Maybe I work on
Speaker 1: my own. Well why don't you work online with a zoom?
Speaker 1: You can have a zoom open with a friend who's
Speaker 1: also working in their home. You're not talking, You're just
Speaker 1: working together, even if you're virtual. And every time you
Speaker 1: get distracted, you just say hey, I'm getting distracted. Did
Speaker 1: and you have the ability for both of you to
Speaker 1: remind each other, well, let's get back to it, or
Speaker 1: let's get distracted for five minutes, let's read a book,
Speaker 1: let's pick up a page. The idea is that you
Speaker 1: have an accountability appointment to help you grow. I recently
Speaker 1: spoke at this amazing company called at Lassian, and they
Speaker 1: had a survey that shows that employees lose about thirty
Speaker 1: one hours per month in meetings. I think it's even
Speaker 1: a lot more but that seems like a fair number
Speaker 1: because that's numbers lost. And it goes on to say
Speaker 1: that as much as seventy one percent of people define
Speaker 1: meetings as unproductive, they're still compelled to spend from fifteen
Speaker 1: to fifty percent of their work time on meetings. Right,
Speaker 1: And what distracts meetings is fifty four percent of people
Speaker 1: say small talk and office gossip, side discussions about other
Speaker 1: projects forty five percent, late arrivals and early departures that's
Speaker 1: thirty seven percent say that. And problems with technology or
Speaker 1: connectivity that's thirty say that. So what does that mean?
Speaker 1: It goes back to the point I made earlier that
Speaker 1: we have to be really careful about how much time
Speaker 1: we place in appointments and meetings versus how much we
Speaker 1: place on accountability appointments. Now, the next principle is to
Speaker 1: take a social media fast for a week seven days. Now.
Speaker 1: I don't often recommend this, and the reason I'm recommending
Speaker 1: here is maybe you're just burnt out. Maybe the distractions
Speaker 1: are just overwhelming. You feel stuck, you feel like you
Speaker 1: can't move, You just feel like you're grappling with the
Speaker 1: stress and pressure of having to respond, having to reply
Speaker 1: and in that scenario, in that situation, I want you
Speaker 1: to consider that you don't need to put that pressure
Speaker 1: on yourself, that it is okay to let go. And actually,
Speaker 1: if you let go for seven days, you notice how
Speaker 1: life improves and you notice how little you needed it.
Speaker 1: I think that's more what it is for me when
Speaker 1: I lived as a monk. It's not that I don't
Speaker 1: do all the things that I stopped doing during those
Speaker 1: three years. Now I do. Like we didn't watch TV
Speaker 1: for three years, we didn't listen to other music for
Speaker 1: three years. Of course I listen to those things now.
Speaker 1: But when you've gone to one extreme, you can actually
Speaker 1: find the middle better. And I find that's what happens.
Speaker 1: We're so extremely obsessed when you look at your screen
Speaker 1: time and you see twenty hours, hopefully not maybe you
Speaker 1: see eighteen hours, Maybe you see sixteen hours on your
Speaker 1: screen time, ten hours on your screen time, and you go, well,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, I'm at one extreme. Maybe if I
Speaker 1: go to the other extreme of zero, I'll end up
Speaker 1: at five. Whereas when you try to get to five,
Speaker 1: you're still at seven and a half or eight, which
Speaker 1: feels high. Right if you're at ten hours of screen
Speaker 1: time a day and you go to zero. When you
Speaker 1: come back, you can find that healthy middle ground at five.
Speaker 1: And I think that's what happens when you go from
Speaker 1: one extreme to another extreme in any habit is you
Speaker 1: gain the ability to come back to the middle ground.
Speaker 1: And that's a question for yourself. Are you an extremist
Speaker 1: or are you a middle person already? If you're a
Speaker 1: middle person ready, you can take more gentle nudges and
Speaker 1: gentle steps. But if you're someone who's an extremist, sometimes
Speaker 1: it helps to go to the other extreme in order
Speaker 1: to balance it out. The last way to overcome distractions
Speaker 1: is stopping so hard on yourself when you do give
Speaker 1: into them. There are some days where I'm so distracted
Speaker 1: and I just don't beat myself up, and the next
Speaker 1: day I'm really productive. And I think what happens to
Speaker 1: a lot of us is that that day that we're
Speaker 1: not productive, we beat ourselves up, and that actually reduces
Speaker 1: our energy and so the next day we have even
Speaker 1: less energy to bring to our tasks. For me, if
Speaker 1: I have an off day, I allow myself that off day,
Speaker 1: and the next day I just get back on with it.
Speaker 1: Now you've been said, yo, how do you do that?
Speaker 1: How do you stop being critical or judgmental of yourself.
Speaker 1: It's simply by recognizing that it breaks you, that actually
Speaker 1: it slows you down when you beat yourself up, that
Speaker 1: you don't become better. Because you beat yourself up, you
Speaker 1: don't actually improve, You actually reduce your energy when you
Speaker 1: go down that road. Right, So I want you to
Speaker 1: be a bit more compassionate with yourself, be a bit
Speaker 1: more grateful with yourself. If you had a day of distraction,
Speaker 1: let it go. It's okay tomorrow, you get back to it. Tomorrow,
Speaker 1: you stand up to it and you go for it immediately.
Speaker 1: And distractions are something we're always going to face. So
Speaker 1: trying to remove distractions completely is a bad idea. We're
Speaker 1: trying to reduce the amount of time we get distracted
Speaker 1: so that we can be more focused. My biggest realization
Speaker 1: I said this years ago. My biggest realization around this
Speaker 1: is that the real cure to distraction is not focused
Speaker 1: or productivity or efficiency. It's attraction. When you're attracted to something,
Speaker 1: you can't be distracted from it. If you've ever seen
Speaker 1: someone that you're attracted to, no matter how many people
Speaker 1: walk in the way, no matter how far they are.
Speaker 1: You're just glued to that person, right. You know what
Speaker 1: that feels like. When you're attracted to something, you can't
Speaker 1: take your eyes off that person. It's a beautiful experience
Speaker 1: that we all have. You can't be distracted when you're attracted. Right,
Speaker 1: When you're attracted to someone, you're not distracted by what
Speaker 1: else is going on around you. Just glue to them.
Speaker 1: Even if there's a conversation, you can't hear it. If
Speaker 1: someone is saying something really mean to you won't be
Speaker 1: able to hear it because you're so fixated. We're looking
Speaker 1: for fixation in our work. When you feel you're too distracted,
Speaker 1: ask yourself, how can I become more attracted to this
Speaker 1: What do I need to do? How do I need
Speaker 1: to think about this task to become more attracted to it.
Speaker 1: I'll give an example. You can convince yourself either through
Speaker 1: the opportunity you're getting. You can convince you convince yourself
Speaker 1: through the financial gain. You can convince yourself through the
Speaker 1: purpose and the meaning behind the task you're doing. Don't
Speaker 1: give up. Keep looking for attraction, and slowly but surely,
Speaker 1: you will overcome distraction. I wish you all the best
Speaker 1: on this journey. I'm sending you so much love makes
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Speaker 1: this episode, the biggest headlines, the biggest statements that connect
Speaker 1: with you, the practices that you're going to employ this week,
Speaker 1: And I'll see you again next week. Thanks for joining me, Lee,